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From Divorce to Nashville: Rebuilding Life One Wild Mess as a Time
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When you leave everything you’ve ever known, it gets messy.
If you've ever left a life you thought you'd always have, and no longer know who you are after it's all said and done. This episode will hit.
After my divorce, I felt defeated. I left Utah, followed a feeling, and started rebuilding my life in Tennessee one wild decision at a time.
In this episode, I’m taking you back to the “wild mess era,” a time filled with impulsive decisions, emotional healing, and moments that helped me rediscover who I was outside of my marriage.
Including the time I booked a one-way flight to Knoxville to spend a week with a man I had known for less than a day. It was messy, but it taught me so much.
We talk about:
- Starting over after divorce
- What life feels like when everything you knew is gone
- Dating again after being with one person for years
- Moving to a new city alone
- Healing, identity shifts, and learning to trust yourself again
If you’re navigating a breakup, divorce, or a major life reset, this episode will remind you—you’re not alone, and you’re going to be okay.
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Transcript
Starting Over: Heather's Journey Begins
00:00:35
Speaker
What was I thinking? What was I doing? Literally, in my case, I was not only a wild mess, but completely unhinged when I started my life over, moved across the country alone, didn't know anyone and was truly wandering the wild mess. And I want to talk to you about some of the stories that made me who I am as this podcast host that loves to sit and yap with y'all about life and how we all are just trying to figure it as out as we go and trust our path no matter how messy it looks. And believe me, y'all, mine looked messy. And I feel like sometimes when I'm up here preaching about mindset and thinking
00:01:24
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telling you my stories to help you grab some perspective and make your life even better. And that's really my goal here. I also want to remind you that I'm human and not perfect. I'm not saying you thought I was, but, and kind of reflect back because sometimes it's, you get in the, you're you're in the messy middle and then you start really growing and you're kind of like, but let, let maybe not humble myself, but almost like remember where you were. And I thought that these would be good to kind of take you back.
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to some of the things that I've maybe talked about or haven't touched on about the wild messes that was me moving again across.
The Spontaneous Move: Utah to Nashville
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Like when I say this story, by the way, about me moving across the country from Utah, born and raised, only place I ever lived, to Nashville, Tennessee, which I'd never even been to Tennessee in my life. I didn't know. Like people ask me now, like, are you moving to Nashville? Everyone's moving to Nashville. Like I didn't know everyone was moving to Nashville three years ago. I thought everyone and from California was moving to Utah. I didn't know everyone was moving to Nashville. Literally, i didn't.
00:02:30
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And um I'm glad I'm here because it's people are moving here. It's exciting. There's a lot going on. But like that wasn't my pull to Nashville. And if you listen to the earlier episodes, you know that literally I made that decision on a whim.
00:02:46
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I was sitting in my front room of my house that i had with my ex-husband and I thought I want to move. And I ended up thinking, what about Tennessee, even though I'd never been there. And I map dotted the lake town that i live in, like Hendersonville, never even heard of it.
00:03:04
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And it was like, well, this looks pretty close to Nashville. And then I just started looking at houses because I had drank too much wine that night. And I ended up clicking on one and the rest is history. I came out and visited Hendersonville.
00:03:17
Speaker
And I want to tell you how that kind of started the wild messes that were my life. And in the early first season, for sure, there's lots of that. But let me tell you the unhinged things I was doing when my whole life started over and things shook up. So let's speaking of me ah before I moved to Nashville, it didn't it wasn't this immediate thing. I knew I was going to need to move. Like I felt like after my divorce and starting over and if you've been there, you're like, I just felt like I couldn't live in Utah anymore.
00:03:48
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And so when I'm making this decision to move to to Tennessee, I'm just saying that I don't even know how it's all going to work out. I literally have no idea.
Escaping Conversations: A Solo Holiday to Nashville
00:03:58
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Wandering the Wild Mess. I'm just saying this to people out loud. So it's kind of holding me accountable. But I i don't really know the how of any of this. So...
00:04:06
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I ended up going to Hendersonville to look and I wasn't even doing the Nashville thing. And I went to Hendersonville to look at this house. It was already sold. The one I had looked at, but I was looking around and I i said, I knew i was going to live here. Like when I landed, I was like, I'll know if I meant to be in Tennessee.
00:04:22
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Touchdown and BNA. And I was like, yeah, I got to move here. And I hadn't even seen anything yet. So I just knew in my soul, in my heart. And I know you've probably had moments like that where you're like, yeah, this is it.
00:04:36
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And so I get here. And so I had came one, ah two other times to visit and And just check out the town and decide that I was going to live here.
00:04:50
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So in one of the times I came out the holiday before I moved here. So this is 2022. twenty twenty two And I literally booked a flight because I didn't. It was my first like holiday without my being married with our we weren't officially like the paperwork was all filled out, but not signed um by the judge. And so I didn't want to talk about my divorce with my family. So I was like, like my extended family. So I was like, I'm just going book a flight to Nashville and like do the touristy thing because I had never done it the other time that I was there. And so I booked the flight to Nashville.
00:05:28
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I ended up staying downtown in this hotel, met these random girls from Minnesota. And I have an episode talking about this. And that whole night led me to wanting to go to Jason Aldean's. And if you know, you know, that's like now that I live here, it's like, that's where I wanted to go. But you know, if you've never been here, that's just kind of like the spot. So We end up, I convinced these like girls from Minnesota to go to Jason Aldean's. They wanted to stay on, like they didn't want to go there, but they came with me. We had this whole night. I just randomly get this group of friends. Again, here's me. Don't know anybody.
00:06:01
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have these great girls from Minnesota hanging out with me. And we end up going to Tonk. And I spot this man like sitting somewhere like watching sports. It was during football. And I remember I just felt like go say something to him, which is kind of like random for me. And so I was just like, oh, you guys watching the game?
00:06:21
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And all of that led into like him, like going in the military and like he was in the military and he was going to South Korea like in a few weeks and whatever. He ended up being like, I was like, oh, well, we're leaving. The Minnesota girls were leaving and he came with me.
00:06:38
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He was like, can I come? And I was like, sure. So I end up having a time with this man lotta da and na And if you listen to the earlier episode, it's like episode six, like learning that I'll be okay. But I spent one night with that man having a great time. And then i go, and then he goes back. He was from Knoxville originally born and raised. And And he lied about his age. There was a lot going on in that story. But I go back home and and we're texting. And I remember he texted me and was like, I would be so good to you. And I'm thinking, OK, sure you would. You know, and nothing about it. And so I go home, go
Embracing Spontaneity: A Week in Knoxville
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to Salt Lake. I didn't even want to go back. And like I'm telling you all this story because it's like, here's me.
00:07:25
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About to be divorced, only ever lived in Utah, Really just had my whole dating life was my ex-husband, right? I met him when I was 21. Like there wasn't really anything so significant, you know, other men that were significant minus like, ah you know, like maybe one other boyfriend. um So it was just...
00:07:48
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It's such a weird thing to look back on. But basically, I get back to Utah and I'm catching up but with a friend about this whole ordeal with this with this man from Knoxville.
00:08:00
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And he texts me and he was like, or i we were texting and I said something like, oh, I just wish I was back in Tennessee. He's like, come to Knoxville ah after Christmas and spend the week with me before I go to South Korea.
00:08:14
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And I'm like... Why would I? i can't do you like, I don't even know him. Like I met him one night and then, you know, a little of shots of tequila later with my friend. And she's like, why not?
00:08:25
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And i literally booked a one way ticket to Knoxville. And I'm, again, I'm playing this back because if you're newer here and you haven't listened and you haven't been to the whole season, you're like, but this is the kind of thing that I was doing post divorce. I didn't, I mean, I met this man for one night and now I'm going to do, I'd never even been to Knoxville either. Like at this point, you know, so I'm just booking a one-way flight to Knoxville. Don't even have a return. Don't even know.
00:08:53
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I'm going to spend a week with him doing what I have no idea. And so he's saying all these things we're going to do. And long story short, i flew out to Knoxville and spent a week with him and then went to Chattanooga. And then he's like, come to Crossville and stay with me my friends for New Year's before I go. Cause he was leaving like New Year's ah day or the day after New Year's day to go to South Korea. And I will tell you, we took ah the whole trip was amazing. We went to Gatlinburg, like had so much fun. And it was like, if you listen back to the episode, because i'm much more i was much more close to the feeling then, I'm really like, at this point as in my journey, I was like,
00:09:41
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Oh, like I'm going to be okay. Like another, another man's going, like the way that he was with me and how, like, how he was with me, I knew for some reason that I was going to be okay in this. And it wasn't like, oh, I'm marrying this man. Oh, this is my next boyfriend. Oh, you know, he's going to South Korea. He's younger than lied about his age. Like, we I'm not thinking long term here, but I'm like, the way that this is, I feel like I'm going to be okay.
Discovering New Perspectives: A Journey of Growth
00:10:18
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And I realized that he likely entered my life and I made those unhinged wild decisions to fly to Knoxville one way to see a man I knew for like less than a day because I needed opportunity.
00:10:34
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Reminder. And one of the things that happened in that trip and I talked about in the episode, which I know this is wild, but when you've only seen so many things or so, I've only had certain perspectives or experiences, you kind of like don't realize There's different things. So I remember that one of the nights we were going to go back ah to the hotel and I was like, oh, but ah we don't have any beer. And he was like, yeah, it's fine. Like, that's OK.
00:11:02
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And I was like. ah My like ex-husband would have never just been like, yeah, that's fine. And I know that sounds small and silly, but like in my head, I was like.
00:11:14
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yeah. There's men that don't think like that. And I know that. But this is I'm just putting you in the place of like sometimes it's why you have to experience new things because you're it's not that I'm like I didn't feel like I was an unintelligent grown woman. But there was just experiences that I hadn't had in a really long time that made me feel like, wow, this is new.
00:11:39
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And so there was a lot with that. You know, that that man was like very critical piece. I think we both had new experiences happening in our lives at the same time. And so we met each other for a really, you know, specific reason. And i like have nothing for but love for that man. I hope all of the best things for him. And he was just such a...
00:12:03
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key piece of my journey. But when I was telling my friends, besides the one
Nashville's Nightlife: Embracing Vibrance
00:12:08
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that was like, yeah, they're, yeah, you know, cause she's just always my yes girl. My back home friends, I feel like we're kind of like, what the, like, who is this girl? Because I was so buttoned up before. I just wasn't that, I wasn't the one to just be so let loose. And so like, do you, did I guess almost like so If you want to call it irresponsible, I don't know if it was necessarily responsible of me to just fly across the country to spend time with a man that I'd literally known for less than a day.
00:12:44
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um But I was already just shaking out my life so much. It felt so easy to just be like, yeah, yeah, yeah. And what's funny about that, so the next unhinged thing, I mean, there was a lot that happened. You really have to binge all of it if you haven't. But the other thing that was funny about it is that Knoxville then, I had my heart. Like, I had never been to Knoxville, and he was born and raised there, so he showed me everything. He took me hiking where, like, we'd go to Calhoun's, like, all the things. So I'm just loving Knoxville, and it's actually where I –
00:13:17
Speaker
Well, there's just so much connectivity. I won't even get there. But it's actually where I met that one ex-boyfriend that cheated on me if you listen to the Lessons in Betrayal episode. So there's just so much that was connected because of that trip. But I also met people and they're like, you got to go to Cotton Eye Joe's.
00:13:34
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So him and I had never gone to Cotton Eye Joe's. I'm a big country music girl, i love music. So I planned after I moved here. So let's fast forward. Now I moved here across the country alone.
00:13:47
Speaker
I go to Cotton Eye Joe's for a concert. It's Dylan Marlowe. He had this song, Record High. I'm all about it. I'm like, okay, never been to Cotton Eye Joe's. I go to Cotton Eye Joe's by myself. Drive down. And I remember I'm going and i I was super late because I didn't realize that Tennessee had two time zones.
00:14:05
Speaker
Like, At that time, I didn't really think, oh, oh wait, I'm going to be on Eastern time, which is still kind of wild to me. But now I don't. I mean, of course, I always just know now, but in that early stage. So I'm driving to Knoxville, losing an hour, and I get to Cotton Eye Joe's. I remember I get to the hotel, and this is definitely in my messy, more drinking era. And I'm having a couple drinks before I get the Uber,
00:14:31
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And we go we go to Cotton Eye Joe's. And like it's such a good time. I meet these girls. I swear. Me, and I feel like I'm still this person, just a little less, I'm a little more put together now. But I'm just meeting people. like I'm by myself. like I don't know anybody. I'm just going to Cotton Eye Joe's. Don't know a dang person. Hanging out with these girls. We're all vibing. The next thing you know, i this other guy catches my eye. Super cute guy. Super kind charismatic. So we start yapping.
00:15:02
Speaker
And I kid you not. it's We're probably talking for like 30 minutes in and then we start dancing. He's like a great dancer. And they it's a really fun bar for dancing after the show is over. And this man ends up going up to all of these random people that we're like meeting and telling them that we're engaged so that they will buy us drinks.
00:15:25
Speaker
Like, he's like, this is my Beyonce. Do you want to buy us a shot? like yeah And I'm just rolling with it. I'm just rolling. Like, I'm literally like looking back now at where I'm at. Like, if I was to do that tomorrow, like, I don't know. i don't know if I'm still that girl.
00:15:42
Speaker
um but I was it was such a fun night. Then him and I end up going to Waffle House after that. And we're sitting there and I like I really we hadn't we hadn't talked that much. We were just like drinking. We're sitting there and ah for some reason he's sitting on the same side of the stool with me. And so there's two seats. It's pretty hop and waffle house out there in Knoxville, right by the Con I Joes.
00:16:04
Speaker
These two men like this older gentleman and this younger gentleman just sit in the booth with us. And I'm just like, maybe he knows them. And then they're like yapping with us. And one of them is talking. And I think I talked about this in an episode, but they're just going on. And finally, they're like kind of arguing back and forth. And at some point, like he pays and we're walking back out. And I'm like, did do you know those men? He's like, no.
00:16:34
Speaker
No, they just sat with us. And I'm like, okay. Like my whole life just felt like it was like the most unhinged wild story. And like, maybe to you, if this is your life, it doesn't seem that wild. But for me, i was like, this is not...
00:16:53
Speaker
what my day-to-day was looking like or what I thought it was looking like. It was just so much more unhinged than I ever thought. And I feel like that was sometimes the thing I miss about the the really messy middle of my journey is that it was so randomly fun.
00:17:15
Speaker
Like I felt like I was almost like and And if you're here, I want you to like take this on. like If you're feeling like you're in the mess messy middle about it, like there were don't get me wrong. When I'm telling you these fun and ah unhinged stories, there was times of like despair. But when I look back, it's just I'm so glad I had this opportunity to almost like...
00:17:37
Speaker
relive life a little and just be fun. Because I think sometimes, and especially where I was in my life before this, I just took so many things seriously, like that didn't need to be that serious.
00:17:54
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And I mean, I'm not saying I was never like funny or having fun, but I was just getting uptight about things that really didn't matter.
Finding Joy in Chaos: Life Lessons Learned
00:18:02
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And it really, this messy season allowed me to be like, yeah, like this is just fun. Like kind of when you watch movies you're like, that only happens in the movies. I felt like my life was the stuff that only happens in the movies. Like I remember back to a time.
00:18:19
Speaker
So when I, obviously when I first moved here, I went to Broadway more because, you know, i met a group of friends and a lot of us were new to Nashville at the time. And so, We had just fun people going out all the time. And I remember one night we were out. I think we went to Whiskey Jam and then we ended up and then they moved it to Broadway. And so we ended up going to Robert's Western Bar World. And that's like the best bar on Broadway, in my opinion. But it's totally different vibe than Jason Aldean's, right? Like not the same.
00:18:50
Speaker
But I'd pick it every day. So we went, we were there and we're at the top, ah like there's this an upstairs and we're there. And this is like a movie one. And I haven't told this story. And um this man has been like, when going to be on the podcast? Not recently, but he's asked me months and months and months ago. I haven't spoken to him, but I'm i'm going to tell his story because it was just so fun. So We're up there. All of us are just kind of, you know, doing our thing. And I spot this man and I'm like, he is so cute. Like,
00:19:24
Speaker
So super attractive, dude. So he like looks back at me and I'm like, and so we're doing the eye thing and he comes over and I've told my friends and I, if any men, like I know I got my men, male listeners. I thought this was like, for me, this line, if it was a line, which I'm sure it was a line. um I'm probably not the first girl I said it to, but I i loved it.
00:19:49
Speaker
So he comes over and he was like, hey, you know, kind of like, hey, da you're I don't know, like probably like, oh, you're so pretty or I don't know something. But then what he says that hooked me is he was like, do you want something to drink? thatdadada And then he goes, I just want to know everything about you.
00:20:10
Speaker
And I was like. I love that. Clearly. i didn't have a i didn't have the podcast at the time. Yeah, I don't think. i I'm pretty sure I did not. No. And i Just clearly, i I love to just not this yap. I love to talk about I mean, I learned a lot about him, too. But just someone wanting i want to know everything about you. Tell me everything about you. And so we sat there at Roberts, had a beer. And I'm just like kind of telling my story. I think at the time I had the idea that I wanted to start the podcast. I'm talking to him about it. We're just like. yapping back and forth then we like start we have the I have this video of him we're like dancing around and he's there with his friends he's from Canada he had like played some minor league hockey and then he was like now doing other things but uh but I didn't I didn't know he yeah he was really cute dang it I'm gonna let him know that he can listen to this but it was just such a fun night so after
00:21:13
Speaker
ah he leaves his friends and comes back with me. He's like, you know, and this is me in my era. And so i'm like, sure. He's like, I want to meet your dog, blah, blah, blah. So he comes back to my house and we hang out or whatever. And i remember like,
00:21:28
Speaker
And this is in my like sleepover era or whatever. I'm a big cuddling gal. So he comes back to my house and we're just like having a time. And I'm like, this is like the coolest dude. We're just having so much fun.
00:21:40
Speaker
So I offered to like the next morning I had to meet my friend and he was staying in Midtown. And again, he's from Canada, so he'd never like been here to Nashville. was his first time. And I was like, okay, so I'll drive like i'll drive you back to your ah spa in the morning because he he got the Uber back to our house. And I remember it took forever. He's like, where do you live? like It was a whole thing. But...
00:22:05
Speaker
We I drop him off at is a hotel in Midtown and I'm like and you know, it's kind of like weird because it's like i mean, he's with his his boys. I'm not going to be like, oh, let's hang out the whole weekend that you're here on a guy's trip. So I was just like, you know, it was so great meeting you. Yada, yada, yada. He's like, it was so like, how do I meet the coolest girl on the first night that I get to Nashville? I was like,
00:22:27
Speaker
Thanks. um But anyway, so then he's like, can I get your number? And I was like, yeah, sure. ah So then I tell him I was like the best bars because this is in my midtown era. So I'm I'm like a losers red door regular. So I tell him I was like, my favorite bar is losers. And you have to go get a root beer float shot at red door because you're right there.
00:22:48
Speaker
And he was like, OK, OK. We have all these plans. He's going to a hockey game. He's going to a Titans game. Like he already had the whole guy, him and the guys had everything booked. So I was just like, well, if you're close, you should go there. So I let that be.
00:23:02
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Kid you not. During that time he's there that weekend, we're texting back and forth or
A Canadian Encounter: Spontaneity at Losers Bar
00:23:07
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whatever. And my friend's like, just invite him out. And I was like, no, I'm not. Like, if he wants to hang out me, he'll hit me up. But I'm not hitting him up. He's on a guy's trip. Like, I don't. It's not that big of a deal. Like, he doesn't even live here.
00:23:19
Speaker
So we're but we're texting back and forth, like just here and there. He's like sending me some pics from what they're doing. And on that was because I met him on the Friday. So on the Sunday, we both are at the Titans game. And so we're talking about like that. Oh, you know, whatever. So I end back up at Roberts after the Titans game. And then my buddy had some friends in town from Florida and they were going to losers.
00:23:43
Speaker
And so I was like, i wasn't going to go, but i was like, OK, fine, I'll go. So we end up going to losers. Me and this Canada man have been like texting back and forth. Well, we go to losers. I beat my buddy there.
00:23:56
Speaker
And I go in and I was like, I got to run to the restroom. And it's not busy at all. It's still like kind of early. And i go to the bathroom. I come out. And there he is with his friends.
00:24:07
Speaker
sit And I was like, And he was like, i was like, what are you doing here? He's like, you told me this is the bar. and so it was so fun. So then I end up kind of like not dogging my buddy. I don't even know whatever happened to him. Like maybe he didn't even come back. So I just ended up hanging out with the Canadian guy and his Canadian friends the whole time at Losers. And then we, of course, had to go to Red Door and had a root beer float shot. And it was like the best time ever. Like what are the odds that I meet like this cool Canadian guy, brother?
00:24:37
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Dancing in country with me. um Asking about my life. Just so cool. And then happened to like see him again the night before he leaves. Just randomly at Losers. And then we like hang out and his friends are cool too. And we just spend the whole time together. Like it was.
00:24:54
Speaker
i just couldn't make it up. You know. it was just so fun. He was literally like such a cool guy to be around. And. I was just like, this is Nashville. Like in my head, you know, like this is this is what you get to do You just get to meet people from all over the world that you just randomly talk to and they end up being really cool and it's just so fun. And those were my favorite times about Nashville and that's kind of probably why I wasn't like dating because I was just meeting so many cool people all the time.
00:25:30
Speaker
Just having the best time ever and I feel like I know sometimes I talk about like being single and how like you can go from your heartbreak whatever right back into a relationship. But I think this time that I had that was messy and fun and just meeting people was so enjoyable. it was just kind of like It's like I picked little pieces from episode.
00:25:52
Speaker
man that I enjoyed spending time with as like something that like I kind of logged in my mind like, okay, I want those the way that that felt. i liked how that felt. I liked meaning like how they spoke to me, how they talked to me, how they held my hand, where they, you know, all those things. But it was just like these little data points because I had only known one man for so long that I don't know if it would have, I could have picked the things I really liked if I didn't have the opportunity to just have other people in my little wild mess, you know? And I, the last wild mess aspect I'll say that is a little, and I talked about it a little bit before is like my, my red door, regular phase of life. Like the security guys knew me like, Hey, what's up? my Like,
00:26:47
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I have a friend now that I post some TikToks and she's not a big red door girl. And it's so funny whenever she talks about it. She's like, what are the people doing there? You're not even dancing. There's no music. And I'm like, girl, I don't know. Getting root beer float shots. I don't know. we were just there. i just it was just the end of the night where you would go. i really can't make it make sense, but you would just go there. And I feel like some of my best times were definitely losers and red door. um I would say more losers, but Red Door was just the end. But the funny thing is, is I want to tell this really quickly because I learned fast that Nashville is small.
Nashville's Social Dynamics: Lessons on Relationships
00:27:27
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by going to Red Door a lot when I first moved here. Because I remember I was there with a friend and we had been talking to a couple of guys and I have an episode that kind of talked about this, but it was so messy and I'll keep it short. But y'all, I'm at Red Door. We're talking to a couple of guys and...
00:27:46
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One of them's like talking to me I'm not interested in him and all, like but I yap with everybody. So sometimes i learn that like men can think that means I'm interested, but i so usually I'm just genuinely curious about people. And i'm I always ask questions. That's just who I am. So I'm talking to this man. Well, he starts getting a little bit closer, but it's not like weird. Um, and then the next thing, you know, I'm standing there and we're probably talking for a good 45 minutes. Like my other friend was there and then she decided to leave and I was still yapping and we were all just talking and it was like him and his friend from out of state, but he was like from Tennessee and like an art, like an artist. I mean, who's not at red door. I mean, who knows, but I don't know anything about this yet. yeah.
00:28:32
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The next thing you know, he like puts his hand like on mine, like literally for it's not even touching mine for like, ah but a millisecond. It feels like before this woman girl, i would, you know, who swoops out of nowhere and is like, what are you doing? Looking directly at me.
00:28:53
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What are you doing? That's my boyfriend. And I'm like, literally, i have not been confronted like that. Like probably since in my mind, I'm thinking like middle school, like for me personally, like I don't even remember a time when I was doing that. And I'm not saying like saying that for her, like to, you know, but I, I just don't even know this is like never even, I was like, um, she goes, that's my boyfriend. I'm like,
00:29:24
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Oh, You know, and he's not saying a word. She's not going at him. She's like coming at me. And I'm literally like, I don't even know what to do. I don't even remember how I got out of that situation. But I remember as soon as I somehow like scooched away from the scenario of this gorgeous brunette coming, like coming at me over this man that I wasn't even interested in um I like walked out and then I was like I called my friend that had just left and she was in her uber and I was like Kelsey this girl just came up to me and I'm such a baby and I'm like pretty much crying and I'm not like afraid I'm just like I didn't know I was doing anything wrong and I quickly learned that like this is one thing I quickly learned as like a single woman that I didn't know before like
00:30:17
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People are like territorial. Like you don't really know who's together. Like it became this whole other wild mess of trying to understand people because you would, you might be talking to red door like a man at red door one night. And then the next night he's there and like, he forgot to even talk to you or, you know, and I don't care, but like other people do. Like, I realized it's like, All for their own. Like I remember one time we were with this one guy. My friend was hanging out with him like this whole night. I thought everything was great with them.
00:30:50
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And then, oh, it was actually the time with the Canadians. So then I'm at the bar with the Canadians and he, that my friend was just hanging out with, was with some other girl there. And I get it. You're not together. But like this is like a whole new drama nightlife that I didn't even know existed. I'm like Nash. Like it it literally needed its own show.
00:31:09
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Like i i never really wanted to be a part of it, but it was interesting to learn about it, you know, because I remember one artist coming back to my house and he pulled out his guitar out of his truck and started playing
Conclusion: Embracing Life's Messiness for Growth
00:31:25
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the song. And it was actually really good. Mind you, I will give him that.
00:31:28
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And it was really good lyrically and melody. Like it was a good song. But then I remember him playing it and then he's like, yeah. At the end, he was like, i hope you're not offended that it's about another woman. Like, it's not about you. And like, I hope that's okay. Like, that doesn't ruin anything between us. And I'm like...
00:31:49
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Bro, we met like five hours ago. Like I clearly this song was not written about me. And it was just like in my head. I'm like, how many like has some other woman got upset that the song wasn't written about or that you felt inclined to tell me it wasn't about me? It was a world.
00:32:07
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And a wild mess that I hold so near and dear to my heart. And I have so many more stories, but I'm not going to keep on this. I know we'll come back to it again. But like, if you haven't been to the early seasons, go back.
00:32:20
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If you haven't gave the podcast a review or Liked it. What a review. Yeah. Write a review is really nice, but five stars. That's what I would love. But I also want to remind you before I wrap this up that like, and I wanted to say looking back the whole season of my life might not, might have looked like pretty wild when I think about it And I say it out loud as a grown woman who had her corporate career, all her things, but the mess is really what made me who I am.
00:32:49
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Like it allowed me to loosen up. It allowed me to be less serious. It allowed me to understand people and relationships and men and women and Nashville and life totally differently. So I hope it added a little bit of joy to your day and to remind you that sometimes the messiest seasons in our life are really just the most joyful because you're you're learning in the mess every single time and it's showing you things that you need to see. You're collecting like data points. I know it's kind of geeked out, but like about all of the things I do and didn't like about that era of my life. There's things that were really messy that I wouldn't do again.
00:33:37
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that i I don't want to say regret because everything has a purpose, but I wouldn't do a redo. you know um I'd probably act a little differently. But for the majority of the time, even my messiest stages where it's maybe like, you're a grown woman, grow up. It's like, I had fun.
00:33:56
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And I'm not going to shame myself for living a life that looked messy because it was real. So thank you so much for being here. i just want to remind you again, i really mean it.
00:34:11
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If you give the review on the podcast, it helps people find it. So five stars right now takes two seconds means the world. I'm so happy you all are here. You are wandering this wild mess with me. Some of you from for so long and it means so, so much to me. So again,
00:34:29
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Even when it looks messy, know that everything has a purpose and you can trust your path. This was Wandering the Wild Mess with Heather Morgan. You matter.