Many of us believe we’re being kind… when we’re actually abandoning ourselves.

In this episode, we unpack the subtle ways self-abandonment shows up in everyday life, from saying yes when your body says no, to over-explaining yourself, to staying in relationships that quietly drain your energy.

I'll share personal reflections on people-pleasing, boundaries, and learning that you don’t need to prove you’re a good person by staying in situations that don’t feel good.

This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself isn’t about rejecting others; it’s about no longer rejecting yourself.

If you’ve ever struggled with guilt, overthinking, or feeling responsible for other people’s emotions, this conversation will help you start moving through life with more clarity, self-trust, and peace.

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Stop Abandoning Yourself to Keep the Peace

Starting over after divorce can feel lonely, uncertain, and overwhelming, but it can also lead to a life you never imagined.

In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess, Heather sits down with a backhome friend, April, a mother of eight, and a successful entrepreneur who rebuilt her life after divorce in her 20s. From navigating single motherhood and the loneliness that comes after leaving, to finding love again and building a thriving business, April shares what it really takes to start over.

They talk about:

 * What divorce actually feels like (the part no one talks about)
 * Dating after divorce and learning to trust again
 * Blending families and navigating step-parent roles
 * Building confidence through survival and self-leadership
 * How one person believing in you can change your entire path
 * Growing a successful business from the ground up

This episode is for anyone who feels like life didn’t go the way they planned and needs a reminder that it can still turn out better than they imagined.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to rate the podcast five stars 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟. It really helps others find the show.

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Find the book mentioned in the episode linked on my website: www.wanderingthewildmess.com [http://www.wanderingthewildmess.com/]

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 * Host Instagram: @heatherdyann [https://www.instagram.com/heatherdyann]
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Find more on April and her business on Instagram:

 * @bloomstudiosutah
 * @urhairsucks 
 * @gldnhr

Finding Love After Divorce: Blending Families & Building a Successful Business (with April)

We often pick a time in our life and think we’ll be “there” by now.

But what no one talks about is the in-between—the space where you’ve changed your life, done the work, and you’re still waiting for it to come together.

Starting over can feel like 10 steps backwards, and getting another year older can feel like you still haven't made it to where you wanted to be.

In this raw and honest episode, I talk about the feeling of being behind, the pressure we put on ourselves to be further along, and the mental tug-of-war between gratitude and wanting more. I share what it’s been like navigating growth, identity, and learning how to trust the process even when the outcome isn’t clear yet.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, alone, or like life doesn’t look how you thought it would by now, this episode is for you.

You’re not behind. You’re becoming.

Alexa play, "Be Her" by Ella Langley

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When Life Doesn’t Look Like You Thought It Would By Now

When your focus is on everyone else’s perception, it becomes almost impossible to fully be yourself...

“You don’t need to be understood by everyone. You just need to be aligned with yourself.”

In this episode, we unpack a hard truth: how much of our lives are shaped by the fear of what other people might think.

From second-guessing decisions to holding back parts of who we are, many of us are unknowingly living through the lens of perception—filtering our actions based on imagined judgment instead of personal alignment.

We also dive into how your past identity can quietly control your present—keeping you stuck in outdated versions of yourself and preventing real growth.

Through personal stories, including a powerful moment of reflection sparked during breathwork, this episode explores:

 * Why trying to control how you’re perceived will always hold you back
 * How fear of judgment is rooted in the desire to be fully seen and accepted
 * The hidden ways your past is shaping your current decisions
 * What it actually takes to show up as your authentic self
 * How to release the pressure of being understood by everyone

If you’ve ever felt held back by overthinking, self-doubt, or the weight of who you used to be—this episode will shift the way you see yourself and the life you’re creating.

Because the truth is:
The life you want doesn’t come from managing perception,
it comes from being fully seen.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to rate the podcast five stars 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟. It really helps others find the show.

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 * Host Instagram: @heatherdyann [https://www.instagram.com/heatherdyann]
 * Host Facebook: heatherdyanmorgan [https://www.facebook.com/heatherdyanmorgan]
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For more on breathwork, find Keelie at keelierae.com 

Stop Caring What People Think: How to Finally Be Your True Self

When you leave everything you’ve ever known, it gets messy.

If you've ever left a life you thought you'd always have, and no longer know who you are after it's all said and done. This episode will hit.

After my divorce, I felt defeated. I left Utah, followed a feeling, and started rebuilding my life in Tennessee one wild decision at a time.

In this episode, I’m taking you back to the “wild mess era,” a time filled with impulsive decisions, emotional healing, and moments that helped me rediscover who I was outside of my marriage. 

Including the time I booked a one-way flight to Knoxville to spend a week with a man I had known for less than a day. It was messy, but it taught me so much. 

We talk about:

 * Starting over after divorce
 * What life feels like when everything you knew is gone
 * Dating again after being with one person for years
 * Moving to a new city alone
 * Healing, identity shifts, and learning to trust yourself again

If you’re navigating a breakup, divorce, or a major life reset, this episode will remind you—you’re not alone, and you’re going to be okay.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to rate the podcast five stars 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟. It really helps others find the show.

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 * Host Instagram: @heatherdyann [https://www.instagram.com/heatherdyann]
 * Host Facebook: heatherdyanmorgan [https://www.facebook.com/heatherdyanmorgan]
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From Divorce to Nashville: Rebuilding Life One Wild Mess as a Time

You say you want a different life…
But somehow you keep ending up in the same patterns.

In this episode, I sit down with Josh Terry for a real, unfiltered conversation about why that happens, and what it actually takes to change.

We talk about the fear of being seen differently, how much we let other people’s opinions control us, and the truth that most people don’t realize:

Nobody is thinking about you as much as you think they are.

We get into relationships, too—why we keep choosing what feels familiar, how past hurt gets projected onto new people, and why learning to be alone might be the thing that finally breaks the cycle.

This episode is about letting go..
of old versions of yourself,
of people you’ve outgrown,
and of the idea that you have to have it all figured out before you change your life.

Because maybe you’re not stuck.
Maybe you’re just being asked to let go of who you’ve been.

Letting Go & Trusting Is the Only Way Your Life Changes (ft. Josh Terry)

How do you actually start over after a divorce, and why does no one talk about what it really feels like?

Three years after leaving my marriage and rebuilding my life from scratch, I’m sharing the raw, unfiltered truth about starting over—what happens after the decision is made and you’re left to figure out who you are on your own.

In this episode, I talk about the loneliness of having no one to fall back on, the rock-bottom moments no one sees, and what it takes to become your own safety when everything in your life changes.

If you’re going through a divorce, breakup, or major life transition, this is the part of the journey people don’t prepare you for—the emotional weight, the identity shift, and the unexpected strength you discover when you have no choice but to rely on yourself.

This episode will help you understand:

 * What starting over after divorce actually feels like
 * How to rebuild your life when everything changes
 * Why rock bottom can become your greatest turning point
 * How to develop self-trust and emotional resilience
 * The mindset shift that changes everything when you're on your own

You’re not starting from nothing, you’re starting from experience.

And one day, this version of you will make sense.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to rate the podcast five stars 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 It really helps others find the show, and make sure to subscribe, follow, and share it with a friend who needs it!

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3 Years After Divorce: The Truth About Starting Over (What No One Tells You)

No one prepares you for what it feels like to lose a marriage you never thought would end… when he decides to leave... and it quickly becomes a journey of learning how to let go of the life you built. 

This episode is one of the most raw and honest conversations I’ve had on Wandering the Wild Mess.

Leah Wade shares her story of going through two divorces, navigating emotional manipulation, and facing the reality of custody battles that changed her life forever.

What started as a “normal” marriage turned into a complete unraveling, forcing her to confront identity, self-worth, and what it really means to start over.

We talk about:

 * What divorce actually feels like (beyond what people see)
 * Emotional affairs, manipulation, and losing yourself in a relationship
 * The impact of custody battles and co-parenting struggles
 * Rebuilding your identity after losing everything
 * Why starting over is painful, but necessary

If you’ve ever felt like your life didn’t turn out the way you thought it would… this episode will remind you that you’re not alone—and that there is something on the other side of it.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to rate the podcast five stars 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟. It really helps others find the show and make sure to subscribe, follow, and share it with a friend who needs it!

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When He Decides to Leave: What Divorce Really Feels Like (A Woman’s Story)

You don’t get what you want in life. You get who you believe you are.

In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess, I break down why self-concept and identity shape the life you experience. Your brain filters reality through the Reticular Activating System (RAS), highlighting evidence that confirms what you already believe about yourself. 

If you believe you’re someone who figures things out, you’ll start seeing opportunities. If you believe things never work out for you, your brain will find proof of that too. 

This episode, I'll go into:

• Why identity shapes your behavior and perception
• How the RAS filters what you notice in life
• Why habits stick when they become part of who you are
• The decision-making strategy called inversion used by Charlie Munger and Warren Buffett
• Why trying to solve everything at once keeps people stuck. 

If you're starting over or trying to become the next version of yourself, this episode will remind you: Everything starts with who you believe you are.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to rate the podcast five stars 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟. It really helps others find the show and make sure to subscribe, follow, and share it with a friend who needs it!

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 * Instagram: @heatherdyann [https://www.instagram.com/heatherdyann] 
 * TikTok: @wanderingthewildmess [https://www.tiktok.com/@wanderingthewildmess]
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You Don’t Get What You Want… You Get Who You Are | Self-Concept, Identity & Mindset

Being single isn’t the hard part. Being ready.. and still waiting is.

No one talks about the discipline it takes to desire partnership without settling for less.

Three years post-divorce and a full year without dating, I’m sharing what it feels like to finally be ready for love… and still be in that uncomfortable gap of “put me in, coach.”

This isn’t just about the loneliness. It’s about identity.

If we create our lives from who we are, then partnership is no different.

You don’t get the relationship you want by acting out of fear or force. You don’t become a wife or husband by entertaining situationships. You cannot force alignment just because the weight of being single feels heavy.

This episode is for the ones who feel the longing for partnership — but have the discipline not to settle for what isn’t meant for them.

We’re talking about: • The difference between attention and alignment • Why raising your standards shrinks your dating pool • The ache of being ready — and still waiting

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m ready… so why isn’t it here yet?” This one’s for you.

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe, follow, share it with a friend, and rate the podcast five stars 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 it means so much!

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 * Website: www.wanderingthewildmess.com [http://www.wanderingthewildmess.com/]
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Ready for Love, But Still Single 

For anyone starting over, navigating a new chapter, or rewriting their story. I’m here to help you see your life through a new lens… one that reminds you everything is unfolding exactly as it should, even when it looks like a mess.



After leaving the only home I’d ever known, moving across the country alone after my divorce, and stumbling through more plot twists than I care to admit, I found myself in a place I never expected: completely lost. Which, honestly, is the best time to be found.



This podcast is for the person in the in-between… when the old life doesn’t fit anymore, but the new one hasn’t fully arrived. It’s for anyone who’s had something they thought would last forever fall apart, and is learning to trust their path again. Because the journey is the destination — and the mess is part of the magic.



Here, you’ll find honest reflections, vulnerable moments, and mindset shifts to help you take the lessons in the mess, reframe what feels hard, and remember you’re not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be.

And if you’ve ever felt lost, this pod gets you... because I know first-hand that growth is messy. But it’s yours. And it always works out.

Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. And let’s wander this wild mess together.

Stay connected and check out all the ways you can follow along!

 * Website: www.wanderingthewildmess.com [http://www.wanderingthewildmess.com/] 
 * Instagram: @heatherdyann [https://www.instagram.com/heatherdyann]
 * TikTok: @wanderingthewildmess [https://www.tiktok.com/@wanderingthewildmess]
 * YouTube: @wanderingthewildmess 
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Wandering the Wild Mess 

Join me on a journey of self-discovery, as I embrace life's uncertainties in a way I could have never imagined and remind you, you're enough.

Heather Morgan

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