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s2ep10: the girls talk about their thanksgivings, how love is a choice, kristens dog scam, p's toad hitman, and eems bullies.
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Introduction and Catch-up
00:00:00
Speaker
Hey Chris. Hi Eames, what's up? I have to tell you something. Oh my god, okay. Should I three-way Peyton in? Yeah, call P. Okay. Hello? Hey, Eames needs to tell us something. I'm three-waying you in. Okay, immediately. Okay, so... Three, two, one. Action.
00:00:17
Speaker
All right, hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of Three Way. Today we're just going to do a chatty little catch up because we didn't have an episode last week.
Thanksgiving Updates and Personal Stories
00:00:26
Speaker
um So everyone's just going to give a little update on I guess their Thanksgiving week. We haven't really all talked. So it's just let's just do that. I have Iman and Kristin with me.
00:00:38
Speaker
right now. I feel like I'm getting more and more scared to share things. I've had people creating boundaries with me sharing lately. What else? now And now I'm scared. But yeah, I went to Tulsa, hung with the fam. And yeah, was scared of running into someone in particular that I mentioned on this podcast. but Did you go out? Yeah.
00:01:08
Speaker
And you didn't run into her. No, but like I was scared and I thought. Cause like we don't slut shame around here cause we're all sluts. You know what I mean? Well, and I didn't make it, I didn't make it clear. I guess that like, I wasn't using that
IV Therapy Skepticism
00:01:24
Speaker
necessarily. Yeah. It's just a misnomer. It's just like honestly a great name anyway. And anyway, how was your zines?
00:01:35
Speaker
Um, I'm like sick today a little bit. You guys don't feel like bad for me. It's okay. I'm okay. But like, I'm just like feeling so sick and I had to call out of work today. I was going to go get an IV, but do I have these work? I feel like IVs don't work. Oh, really? No, like the only time it's ever worked for me is like when I was in the hospital and it was like administering like pain medication to me.
Thanksgiving Dinner Drama
00:02:04
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Then I felt it.
00:02:05
Speaker
Yeah, whenever I like um almost died the morning of my little sister's wedding, that probably should have been my most embarrassing story. but um i would not made it would have made I would not have made it down the aisle if it wasn't for the Ivy. When you're really down the route, I can revive you. But otherwise, I don't see like a big difference, just like if I get like a day-to-day one. you know But yeah, my Thanksgiving was fun. My family almost got
00:02:38
Speaker
In a fistfight, as usual, um my boyfriend actually didn't stay for the whole time. It was my aunt and my cousin.
00:02:49
Speaker
So like literally as my boyfriend was walking in, like the dinner was kind of wrapping up. And so he comes in, he sits down, and then in my kitchen, you can hear like, I'll fucking fight you, bitch, like get the fuck out of my face, bitch. And then she was like, all right, don't fight me then. And then I look at him and I was like, oh no.
Complexities of Relationships
00:03:07
Speaker
He's Louise. So then, she's Louise. And he's like so not used to that. He like started playing the music. Like he pressed play on my TV, so that music started playing, so that it wasn't just silent. And then I went into my kitchen to break the fight up a little bit, then um
00:03:24
Speaker
I came back and then he said, so how'd your night go? And then I didn't talk to him for the rest of the night, because I was like, how the fuck do you think my night went? Why would that be the first thing that you just said to me? So then I didn't talk to him. And then I cried in my bed. And then that was it. Oh, OK. OK. Why would you ask me that? You just saw how my night. Why would that? Oh, my God. I can't even talk about it. I'm going to start crying. It's so annoying. Yeah. oh Wow.
00:03:52
Speaker
And it's honestly so sad because he's so sweet. Like he literally was just trying to be like, he was probably trying to change the subject. Yeah, like he wasn't doing it to be like rude. He really was.
00:04:07
Speaker
Or was he trying to be funny? He was probably struggling. No, he wasn't trying to be, oh God, no, that would have been even worse. Well, he's just like a boy, you know, it's one of those things he talks about. Like, love is a choice. Even if they're nice, they're still just men. So like, sometimes they just say or do things and you're like, what the fuck are you talking? Why the fuck would you say that to me right now? He just asked me that. You were texting about this the other day, that love is a choice.
Navigating Differences in Relationships
00:04:34
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You like,
00:04:36
Speaker
but once you get to know someone you just have to like either accept well I don't know you guys like you guys well I think once someone meets like your common like things like we have the same view on money stuff We have the same view on like our role in this relationship We like I trust you I trust that like if I'm gonna be vulnerable You're not gonna take advantage of that It's like we have the same timelines for like all of these things make sense our personalities go together I think from there a lot of like loving someone is a choice like obviously there's a million things you could get the ick from but I have to tell myself that a lot actually just like
00:05:17
Speaker
If I'm being a bitch one day or just like being the worst or I'm like, whatever, it's like you just have to,
Uncertainty in Relationships
00:05:24
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you're not going to like wake up in love every single day. You have to actively decide, okay, yes, I love this person. So we're like figuring this out. Well, there's also some things like, ah for example,
00:05:34
Speaker
in relationships, I feel like there's always something that you're like going to struggle with. Yeah. With your partner. Cause you're not the same person. And I don't think there's ever the thing like, I don't think the one is a thing. So I feel like there's some things like you just have differences of some sort and like you have to communicate so clearly and have to really truly try to understand each other in some ways. And you're always going to like hit something like that. And then you have animals or children or, and then finances and all these things that are at some point.
00:06:05
Speaker
You're going to reach a situation where you're like, honestly, being alone would be so much easier than having this conversation right now. And like having to work through this, but it's just, it's then you just decide, okay, like, do I want to be a alone or do I want to be with this person overall? Which one is better for me? And you have to be like, uh,
00:06:24
Speaker
your reflection of me now. Don't be telling that. Yeah, relationships are such a mirror. And also, I actually do believe in soulmates, but I think you can have multiple. like I think that my boyfriend is definitely my soulmate. I think I probably have other ones out there, but I also think like I think that like there's a lot of relationships that are just it's like act how we talk about like active nudes and passive nudes like an active nude is like you're fucking on all fours getting the photo of your butthole like with an arch in your back. But you can argue it's like the more respectable nude. Right and then the past nude is like the lazy like weird something but I think there's also like
Active vs. Passive Relationships
00:07:04
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passively being in a relationship that's just like
00:07:07
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you're really expecting everything to make so much sense all the time and to just like expect yourself to be obsessed with this person all the time and there's like actively like choosing feel like laugh at the joke and do the things in order to like keep it exciting for yourself. Well, this is also coming from me. I feel like that could be taken out of context in my opinion, like when it comes from me because I feel like I just don't like being around people all the time. And I love Joe and I love being with him. But sometimes I'm like, it is hard for me to be in a relationship at all.
00:07:41
Speaker
It's just not natural to me. You can't disappear. Yeah, I can't disappear. I can't stop texting him back. He's going to ask me a million questions. We put together. He has new questions every day. He's going to be there when I wake up. Honestly, we already looked at venues for this wedding that we are not engaged to have. That's new to our plate.
00:08:04
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um Contrary to what you guys are saying that you like pick ah or that you um choose to be in love with someone, I feel like I'm actively trying not to like this person that I'm talking to and then he keeps like, like i feel like i'm used to what you guys are saying um you know you like click on certain things and then you're like okay cool we like don't click on a lot but yet like. It's like still progressing and i like what the fuck is happening how how are you like talking me into this.
00:08:44
Speaker
Like he's fun in some ways and he's keeping you interested, but you don't share values that
Dog Adoption Attempt
00:08:49
Speaker
align. That sounds like not a good recipe. and Not even like that we don't share values. He's just so much more old school.
00:08:56
Speaker
and i am Do you mean like you want to be able to write them off, but the more that you talk, you're like, why do am I still liking this? Like when is it going to be the time where I'm not liking this anymore? It's not like it's not like full values. Like he we definitely align on like a lot of things. Obviously we talk all the time, but it's also like he's just like old school and that like he just like, you know,
00:09:21
Speaker
So you found a Republican? we need more pain No, here's the issue right now is that not like three words and then Peyton has to try to fill in the space with all the wrong words. And I'm like, just no, no. She's like, but he just, so he's just, no, but he just.
00:09:38
Speaker
it's like Say more sentences, say more words now. yeah Okay, that the thing is I am so uncertain that like I am leaving pause. I'm not saying Peyton's wrong. no one No one knows yet. I'm just saying I feel like I'm actively trying to not like this guy and then it's like he's creeping in somehow.
00:10:04
Speaker
Is there anything else you can say? Is there an example you can say? Is there? I don't know
Accidental Wellness Weekend
00:10:09
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because I now have to like get approval. what i tell This is how you know she likes someone because she's censoring herself for actually the first time ever. And she's also speechless. So and that's cool. That was just my two cents of the whole thing. Yeah.
00:10:29
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only eye
00:10:33
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um Someone commented that she wanted my Jackson Hole trip update, but I didn't go to Jackson Hole, I went to Joshua Tree. Close enough over the weekend, I went hiking.
00:10:48
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um This whole trip honestly is going to sound really boring. It was like really fun. How many steps did you take per day? Was it wellness? Did you drink?
00:10:59
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Oh, I drink like, I drink a lot more casually than. Could you do your mushrooms? No, I forgot to order them. I was gonna order them before I left and then I freaking forgot. How do you get Joshua Tree without mushrooms? It was like accidentally wellness and then I drink more casually than my boyfriends. I would wake up, have a beer for breakfast. One morning I had beer and chocolate for breakfast. He's very like coffee, eggs, bacon. I definitely had a couple beers before we went on the hike. He didn't have any.
00:11:29
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Then I had like seven beers in the jacuzzi but I was drinking them so someone's running them out that I felt nothing. So then I like chugged the beer and then we went to the diner. There's this local diner that was like just like Thunderbird. And so we went there a bunch and I had a couple Jack and Cokes.
00:11:45
Speaker
And um it was honestly a really great, boring, like, to explain trip. You had about 20 drinks a day and you said, hmm, this was a wellness weekend.
Childhood Habits and Family
00:11:57
Speaker
I'm like, I'm just turning into this girl that's just way too adult. Yeah, just Jack and Cokes and it's a wellness weekend. Beer for breakfast. Beer for breakfast. I love breakfast.
00:12:09
Speaker
All my, you know another, how we were talking about like um places that like all rules go out of the window, like airports and cruises. And there is like being back at your parents house.
00:12:26
Speaker
I am just, no matter i like who knows, i could pull I could go for a beer in the morning too. like There's just no rules. i I regress so deeply back. I actually was better this trip, but I used to, like before the babies, like just sleep the fuck in and like i don't know turn back into like a teen. When you say babies, you mean your dogs? No, that um my niece is a
Fond Memories of Family Pets
00:12:51
Speaker
nephew. Oh, okay. okay yeah That's not good enough.
00:12:54
Speaker
and cla yeah Wait, Kristen, why do your arms look jacked? Put your arm back on the table like how it just was. That looks jacked. What have you A lot of yoga. Oh my god. you know megie telling me I think probably partially the lighting, but Megan was telling me the other day that my arms are like jacked. They are. A lot of vinyasas. I wish my stomach could be.
00:13:26
Speaker
But honestly, I've been doing like, um, it's like, I don't even know if I want to go into this, the Lexi Smith girl I'm obsessed with. That's like not heard Addison, Ray's dancer. And, um, Oh yes, I have heard of her creative director girl. Is her name Lexi Smith? Lexi, whatever. She is a bleached eyebrows. Yeah.
00:13:51
Speaker
She's kind of like um making me love my belly even more. Cause she's just all about like, belly out. She's belly out. Iman, you wouldn't know what we were talking about when we say that. I would actually. Are you calling her skinny? Yeah. Yeah. Oh, this is actually where we were going to bring up the announcement Iman.
00:14:19
Speaker
That you're with child.
00:14:23
Speaker
You know, I freaking wish. Uh, I just want a baby so bad. I want a baby or a dog. Like I want something to take care of that. Do you need to get a Chihuahua? You need a teeny dog? Oh no. Iman's a dog that's just obsessed with her. I submitted for a dog when they never called me back. I saw a dog at the farmer's market and I was like, I want it. So I said, I applied for adoption and they never called me back. Go look at wags and walks. That's a good one. They're in l LA. They have a bunch of dogs usually.
00:14:53
Speaker
But look at road dogs. They're all bulldogs. No. She couldn't deal with the bulldog. She wants a teeny. Little teeny tiny. I feel like you usually get a long hair chihuahua. They're so cute. I know. I want something like that. A chihuahua is my starter dog, and then I've just slowly gone larger.
00:15:14
Speaker
My starter dog was, oh, I saw Drogo this weekend. He's 11 years old. He's 107 pounds. That was my starter dog. He is living his best life. I swear he's lived like much longer than German shepherds normally do, especially with his like elbow problems. He's having a great time. He's walking better than ever. My grandparents take such good care of him and I think he just like genuinely isn't stressed. He like lives in nature.
00:15:39
Speaker
He's never on a leash. I feel like he's just lived like so much longer because of that. But it makes me sad because like every time I see him, I'm a little nervous. But him and Winnie did not meet in East Texas because
Scammed for a Non-existent Dog
00:15:55
Speaker
he would have probably eaten her. ah no he's not very like He doesn't like other dogs. He just likes his usually one person.
00:16:03
Speaker
And when he sees me, he remembers me obviously, but he kind of just like hates everyone else. Like every time my grandma sees him, see me, she's like so mad because she's like, I literally live with this dog and he doesn't give one flying fuck that I'm here.
00:16:17
Speaker
wait can you um christen can you tell that story about how you got scammed out of thousands of dollars i think you already told this story christen told it on note to self oh wait what story that i got about your dog dog and yes the dog needs more surgery oh god that was so sad Um, like that was just such a bad Dallas, like a lot happened in that like two fucking years. Jesus Christ. I think it was your age. It has to have been. Yeah. Um, I daless got a good job, decided I want a dog, found one online and I was, um,
00:17:02
Speaker
Literally, what is it called when you're like, have to go somewhere to give money? um Like, wiring? Wiring. I was wiring money to, like, Cambodia. And I didn't think twice about it. They just, like, they really fucking got me. And they were sending pictures. And then they would be like, oh, the dog needs his shots. We need another 500. And I fully drained my bank account and had to ask my friend Jesse for money. And they kept being like, yeah, we're going to, like, pay you back once you get the dog. And they kept saying the dog was coming on a flight.
00:17:40
Speaker
And I don't know. It just like they really got me. And then Jesse was finally like, girl, there is no dog. And I was like, yes, there is.
Self-Deception and Beliefs
00:17:52
Speaker
It took me so long to like be at peace with the fact that there was no dog. How much money was it in total? Thousands. we go umma no I say in between three and five.
00:18:10
Speaker
and now all your money is but That wouldn't have been draining my bank account probably but like I I definitely like I think it was like my checking account was fully drained and I didn't transfer money. Like dip into savings. Yeah. And like, I was like wanting to, but then I was like, no, I'll borrow from Jesse and I'll just pay her back when they give me the money. Cause I'm going to get the money back when they bring the dog. So you kind of understand how people get like catfish, like, like an all love situation. Absolutely do. Because when you get pictures of a fucking dog and you're like convinced it's real. Yeah. I don't know.
00:18:49
Speaker
No, you guys, if you're listening to this, you need to watch the episode of Catfish, where the guy thinks... What? The guy thinks that he's dating Katy Perry. Oh, my God. Looks like he's not dating Katy Perry, and then afterwards, you know that he secretly deep down still thinks that he's dating Katy Perry. Oh, absolutely. I smell
Enduring Partner's Repetitive Jokes
00:19:12
Speaker
it, like that's my ex.
00:19:14
Speaker
Yeah. No, he like fully texted the person at the end and was like, I know that they're lying. Like, I know that you're real. Like he. He fully thought he'd stay. He still probably thinks he didn't, can you hear me honestly? That was the best episode. I think it's season three. That explains so much leaning into this next year of like what people don't ah people think Donald Trump is going to do. Like he's like coming to save America or whatever. Like some people think he's like literally the second return of Christ and how much you can mind fuck yourself. So that explains a lot. yeahp Like you just like will not change your mind. Like you literally won't.
00:19:51
Speaker
Yeah, it's kind of also what we're talking about with like being happy in your relationship know have to stick with it. You have to yeah you cannot change your mind or certain things. yeah You have to double down and in the face of a ton of other evidence. You don't think about that evidence no and change your mind for better. yeah My mom get at that she impresses the fuck out of me because my dad has like six jokes he tells every single time it happens. He'll burp and be like, quote, elf. And my mom will just be like, he, and I'm over here and I wanna stab him and I only see him six days out of the year. And she's like, and I'm like, oh my God, why am I calling him out? And I see him five days a year.
00:20:47
Speaker
See, I don't know that I'm under that understanding. And I don't think that I can choose that much. You know what I mean? No, it's something that I mean, and I'm like, are you fucking kidding me immediately? It's like, I think I'm somewhere in between Christen's mom and Peyton. Like, I could, I could, I can get there. I'll just say, I'll say very funny squink.
00:21:09
Speaker
Are you being silly today? are you being that's good That's as much as I'm playing into that.
Poisonous Toads and Pet Safety
00:21:16
Speaker
What else? Oh, we found poisonous frogs in our backyard and they're genuinely humongous. I actually thought about about this frog that I saw yesterday. I haven't stopped thinking about it.
00:21:30
Speaker
What is a poisonous frog? Like if it touches you or if it like... So it like secretes this. It's not poisonous to me. Like I think if I touch it, I'll be fine. I've got ah like a number of DMs warning me about these frogs. Not frogs, they're toads. They're humongous. I'm telling you, I have seen frogs my entire life. like growing up here like in north florida and texas like probably elsewhere but like there are just frogs around all the time my sister and i used to like pick them up right i used to bring them in the house they all like go like hoard around the like the door especially like in the summertime um or if it rains they like come around where like the light is outside so like in my grandparents house
00:22:12
Speaker
Not the one in DB's Texas we just went to, but the house they live in most of the time. If you step outside at night, you'll see like six frogs by the door, by the back door. um I have not seen i was a frog or a toad this big in my entire life. It was so big that I walked outside to take Winnie out.
00:22:31
Speaker
and i like saw it on the ground, kind of freaked out, which me is not really a reaction. I literally was just like, silent freaked out and then I yelled for Joe because I wanted him to come see it because it's humongous. And of course he was like making, he's making dinner right now. He's literally always making dinner forever. And he was just, de he's deaf. Like Joe literally is deaf. So he can't, he cannot hear anything. He can't.
00:22:56
Speaker
um so I'm yelling and I call him on the phone. He doesn't hear the phone ringing, so he missed it because it went back into the bushes. Anyway, it's humongous. It's very scary. um If a dog licks this frog, I've had a number of people DM me that they've had dogs that have died this way. If the dog licks the frog, it can die in 15 minutes.
00:23:16
Speaker
ah Yeah. So when he can't go out in her backyard, I'm having a mental breakdown. Like I already cried about this already, obviously, but I have to take Winnie out like on a leash. I do so in the daytime too, but I'm too scared. Yeah. driver Well, we don't know how to get rid of them. There's not like a, like a known tactic, definitely at nighttime and after it rains, but like, I cannot handle, like, I don't know that I'll live through the passing of, um, of Winnie can barely even say that out loud. So I'm doing everything I can to like, she's not going out there without me watching her. Cause I'm not having her lick something and then they can start like filming at the mouth and literally just like.
00:23:56
Speaker
They're gone in 15 minutes. So that's been like truly ruining and my last 24 hours. Why is it always something? like Literally, always um I was just going to say that like everyone, I want a house and a yard so my dogs can just go in the yard and fuck off. But now there's fucking poisonous things and then Megan has to deal with coyotes and all this shit in LA. It's like,
00:24:20
Speaker
We don't have to go to just let my dogs be free. Well, when we were in East Texas, when he has to wear like her little collar so she won't won't run away, we don't like have to use it a bunch because she listens. But we had to put one of those like e collars on her yeah because my grandpa saw two bobcats in the woods and a huge like like I don't even know a herd of wild hogs also in the woods. And they're those are fucking mean. um And then there's coyotes out there.
00:24:51
Speaker
like cons You just hear him at night when you're like sleeping. So Winnie had to be on her like little collar for that and now she can't go in her own freaking backyard because he's fucking toads.
Engagement and Proposal Concerns
00:25:00
Speaker
I think though we're going to like, I got a toad catcher, which is hopefully helpful. There's not really like a permanent solution, but Joe is calling our landscaper the toad hit man because we were like can we just like have you remove some of these from our yard you have to like do so humanely and we'd name the whole ordeal. What.
00:25:26
Speaker
Poisonous toad? No. Poisonous toad. No, the toad. What'd you say? The toad hit me. The toad hit me. He's like, his name is Manuel. He'll be over tomorrow. I'm like, OK. You all deal with that. um You have to like do it humanely, though. You literally have to like put them in a thing, and they need to put them in the refrigerator, and then you have to freeze them. No. Yeah.
00:25:49
Speaker
That's like the humane way to do it. Wait, I'm sorry. This whole story just sounds fake. There's a poisonous toad, and then if you lick it, you're gonna die in 15 minutes, and then you have to put them in the refrigerator, and then you have to put them in the freezer. Wait, you don't have to, like, hold them a riddle to kill them? Literally make them come first? Like, what the fuck? I wish y'all could see this toad, I swear. It's the craziest thing I've ever seen. Let me look up Poisonous Toad. No, look up Bufo Toad. B-U-F-O. No, that's not the name. Bufo. B-U-F-O. Or they call them Cane Toads. Is that where they got the term Bufo? I don't know what that means. I don't know the term. Bufo, they're disgusting. I'm going to throw up. Iman, imagine it bigger than my hand. It's bigger than my whole hand. It looks like foreskin.
00:26:36
Speaker
Oh God, I hate it. It's huge y'all. Huge. I hate them. I just hate them so much. I don't even know like what else to say. So now when he has to go out, I have to go out with a flashlight and make sure she's not licking anything in the grass.
00:26:49
Speaker
No. Yeah, so that's pretty much that. I'm going to Art Basel this weekend. I have to leave on Thursday. Fun. I didn't want to bring it up, but I have to obviously because you said Art Basel, so I will have to say,
00:27:10
Speaker
This is the first year that I'm not actually in a painting that's being sold at Art Basel. I hope you guys have seen my work. um I've been in a couple of paintings of my face. Obviously, these past couple years that... sweet in your perfect body it's your fit you It's actually body's not even in the photo. so Wow. Wow. This is the first year. Yeah. and I'm not being featured.
00:27:39
Speaker
Do you feel that? I felt I didn't think I felt that way until Peyton said it. And then I kind of started to think like, you got FOMO. I haven't been there in a couple. I'm not gonna be there this year. So yeah, your presence won't be there. no Yeah. Well, I'm overwhelmed by the whole thing. To be honest, why just so much going on. And I feel like Unless it's in a work setting and even in a work setting, I don't really get FOMO. So I'm like, do I just come back on Saturday? Cause I don't really have a lot. Like there's nothing I have to do on Saturday right now. And like my management are like PR is like, well, we're going to find something cool. Cause there's like a lot of cool stuff going on. And I'm like, what if I don't want to do anything cool? Well, if I just want to come home, you know, we have done Miami 700 times.
00:28:32
Speaker
What else can I tell you all? Um, we've been going back and forth the diamond people. Uh, I think they're going to get one in tomorrow that I might like.
Financial Independence in Marriage
00:28:42
Speaker
and Unfortunately, the guy was like, um, the guy we're talking to right now about this diamond. He was, I told him the specs that I want. And he was like, well, that's extremely rare.
00:28:55
Speaker
Cause it's like a specific, it's like a elongated cushion cut that I want, but the ratio I want it to be, it's called 1.3 to one. So it's like a like longer skinnier, almost like it it like resembles an oval because that shape looks good on me, but I didn't want to oval cause everyone has one.
00:29:12
Speaker
and I wanted to be set like in this like kind of almost vintage-y way, but he was like, yeah, getting it cut the way that you want with these like larger facets with this ratio and this size is literally so specific and like for under a certain price. He's like, oh, okay. So Joe's about done with me with this whole thing. So hopefully this one works.
00:29:35
Speaker
Cool. Wait, so you have to find a diamond with the right cup, but you could also cut the diamond. We're going to find the diamond like already cut. Okay. So we're trying to find it right now. I'm using Laurel's like family jeweler from Houston that they've been working with for like 30 years. Nice. So I feel like he's the best to find once he's been sending us some. So that's a fun little update as I am the most involved person that's ever been involved in their own proposal ever. I doubt it. When you guys think about like sharing bank accounts,
00:30:13
Speaker
I'm done to share. I'm one prenuptial agreements are being signed, but you could write anything to a prenup. Yeah. I think everyone, I think my dad says, I think he thinks everyone should get them even if you like have money or don't. Yeah. Cause you want to be specific. I mean, it's not sexy, but like, obviously my engagement's not like, I think everyone could probably tell that I like a prenup with the way that I am facilitating my engagement.
00:30:40
Speaker
There's nothing sexy about it. Okay, the lifetime commitment is sexy. I think I would always keep um some money or some like, ah investments of my own. Like, I think I would never go fully all in. But like, I mean, my mom, you know, quit her job. So she's fully all in and all of that. So it's like, I'm not I feel like it can work. I just am like a realist. I feel like it's just so personal. Sometimes when I share this stuff, I'll share like what I'm doing, but sometimes I fear that people think it's like instruction. You know what I mean? Like I'm telling you what you should do. What's that noise? Is someone playing with something in their hand that's like making a noise on the table? Me. Cut it out. Sorry. It's okay. Also Joe's in there making dinner.
00:31:32
Speaker
What were you saying? You don't want people to feel like you're instructing you to do this? Yeah, I feel like money is so... It's so personal. It's like when I share what I'm doing, I don't mean everyone needs to do that. It's also we're not in the same situation. And some people are super against that. I could also make an argument of why everyone should have their own bank account too. I feel like I could see it both sides. I think it would be more helpful for me to and not feel so controlled so I could, you know, go buy some designer shit that my husband that's like more level-headed than me tells me not to, you know? Just a way to lash out. Yeah. Against yourself because it's your own money.
Luxury vs. Financial Responsibility
00:32:16
Speaker
That's very Kristin-y coded. You can't control me. You're like, I'm actually going to lash out on you and I'm going to go take my own money from my own bank account and buy something and you can't tell me now.
00:32:28
Speaker
I had that realization recently where I was like, okay, how much do I want my husband to spend on my ring? how much And then I was like, oh, wait. It's not going to be his money like Ray would give me, then it's going to be our money. It's ours. So I'm taking away from my own money. And then I was like, I don't need a crazy ring because I want a nice and how much and then I started getting stressed over money that's literally not mine. But then I prioritize the house, the ring or the wedding.
00:33:00
Speaker
Yeah. And then I'm like, well, how much money am I going to have? I'm probably not going to contribute much. So then I kind of went on a spiral about that. But whenever we've talked about like marriage, we've talked about like a shared bank account and he like doesn't care about a prenup or anything. So I think we're both kind of just like not people who are like, I don't think like how Chris is like, I don't want to feel controlled. I can't go at it like I don't. That's like I don't really care. Yeah, I don't really care either. I feel like I would be I feel like one, I wouldn't be told, I would make smart decisions. Like you can, you can indulge in like a smart way. Like when I bought my watch, right that felt like it indulged, like a real indulgence. And like, even I
Surgery and Seeking Specialists
00:33:42
Speaker
mind fuck myself and being like, Peyton, like you shouldn't be doing this, but I could, Oh yeah, you're a new one. Yeah. Um, but I could do it. It just felt weird. Cause I had never spent that much money on something before. And it felt frivolous. I like made myself feel guilty about it. And I said, you can show your new Rolex to everyone. Oh, no, no.
00:34:01
Speaker
Do you actually like it? Did you? I do. I love it. Yeah. It's just like was a jump scare in the picture that my dad sent me. And so I was scared. I didn't like it. But then I liked it.
00:34:13
Speaker
But you like your new Rolex. Okay, got it. Yeah, your other. I'll probably get one soon. i I've been like, yeah, same thing with like buying a house. It's like skin. Right? not Yeah, exactly. And it's like, you want to space these things out. Like, so it's yeah is right now. They're, you know, not very You know, I saw ReBag, they were doing a sale during Black Friday where you could take an extra 20% off everything. And they had a bunch of like Rolexes that are pre-owned, but are like in really good condition and with an extra 20% off. unfortunate I'll go ahead and send that link to someone who loves me. Go ahead and send it over.
00:34:58
Speaker
Well, that's all my updates that I can even, that I can, that I can share and that I can think of right now. Oh wait, one more update. I am getting under eye surgery again.
00:35:11
Speaker
to do what, like make it. You already removed your eye bags. So what else can you do down there? What do you do? So 10 years ago, for those of y'all who don't know, I got a lower lid blepharoplasty because I had huge genetic eye bags. Um, but when I was 21, of course, one, the guy was at a specialist at his job. He was like just a surgeon in Beverly Hills that does lower lid bluffs, but he wasn't like the guy, you know? So anyways, I went and then he was like, well, I'm going to be really conservative with how I, how much I remove because like, you don't want to remove fat from your face. And typically people get filler there to like refill it. I just have too much fat.
00:35:48
Speaker
So anyway, I used to get like some filler to like fill in where the shadow is because again, it's like a bag. So it's kind of complicated. Anyway, I walked. I did a ah initial consult with the doctor. He's in Dallas. um He specializes in like my specific type of under eye bags. And at first I told him I got the surgery and he was like looking at me on the computer and he was like, well, I don't really see anything. So like, you might just be like over analyzing yourself, which me, I'm like, I don't really think I do that. I Barely look at myself in the mirror because I don't want to overanalyze myself, so I just don't even look. I don't pay attention. I'm constantly just not paying attention. Anyway, he was like, come by when you're in Fort Worth, like with your family. So I went over to Dallas. I walked into the office and he was like, yep, you're definitely, you can't do that for the surgery because my eye bags are still big. They didn't take enough out and he was like,
00:36:40
Speaker
Well, he was like, you don't wanna, they look good until I look at myself in podcast recordings when I'm moving around and it's genuinely so bad. I'll send you a photo from one of my last recordings. But anyways, he was like, what happened was he didn't wanna take out too much and he didn't know how your face was gonna grow and then like,
00:36:57
Speaker
basically your fat, you lose fat as you age. So like, yeah, you, you want it. You don't want to get um a little young to get the surgery in general, because it's like just too hard to gauge what your face. It was too hard to gauge. And then he basically like it's, it's an updated surgery that's much better now. And he just didn't take out enough. And then it was a whole ordeal. And from the filler that I used to get, it's been like probably a year and a half since I got it. There's a a little amount left over that he was like, we could just dissolve that first. And then we'll like get rid of some of these on the outside. I still have some a lot of fat in these right here. So anyways, the surgery is better now and I'm just gonna get it because i it bothers me on camera so much. So I'm just gonna fix it rather than trying to like attempt to like edit video.
Online Criticisms and Humor
00:37:42
Speaker
Just a disaster. So that'll be fun. I'd like facelift soon so. Iman, did you wanna talk about how um you've been kind of getting bullied online and you were comparing yourself to
00:37:54
Speaker
Yeah. um Well, here's the thing. Maybe it should just be like a PSA, too. Yeah. It's like the things, if someone said, like, Iman, you're ugly, that's not really going to bother me. Iman, you're knowing that's not going to bother me. It's when people say very specific, like, I'm very nichely offended by things. Like, one time this girl told me that my bob was serving. And like, I didn't think I had a bob haircut. So I was like, what the fuck? I don't have a bob. And then I went to all my friends. I was like, do I have a bob? They were like, you kind of have a bob. And I was like, what the fuck? So it's like, you didn't say anything wrong. I was just like, OK, well, this is fucking news to me that I have a bob. I'm not mad at it.
00:38:31
Speaker
So it's like very niche things. Wait, wasn't there like another DM or something that you were like, oh my, like you, like it sent you after that. It was after we saw Wicked. And you quite literally compared yourself to- To the self of the self of us.
00:38:50
Speaker
Because I was getting fucking roast on the internet, one girl sent me a TikTok. I was like, this made me think of you, queen. And it was like a 30-year-old in line. Jeezy. OK, she's 10 or 8. I knew this was going to happen. Please stop the drink from fucking up, OK? Oh, my god, yeah. Oh, god.
00:39:12
Speaker
Meanwhile, I've been getting actually really nice DMs lately. like Everyone's like, your cheekbones, you're glowing. And I almost posted on my close friend. Yeah, why? I'm talking about how I'm under public scrutiny being called having a Bob when I didn't even think I had one. And Kristen's like, yeah, everyone's just being so nice to me. I was like, It was quite Peyton of me. I was like, oh, that's weird. Everyone's been like really nice to me.
00:39:39
Speaker
I'm so pretty. Okay, obviously, I'm not being actually bullied. Like, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I can see where everyone's coming from. Would you say you're feeling like this with our listeners or there's like, some there's just, okay, you guys tell me if I'm overreacting. If someone commented my on your pick would you i already told you i'm on your side imon that's like Yeah,
Closing and Farewell
00:40:07
Speaker
I don't know. I don't know if it was necessarily meant to ruin your life. ah Just don't think about it so much. Close your eyes. Feel around whatever is in front of you. Do what you want with it. Okay, well, my dinner is ready.
00:40:25
Speaker
Oh, same. Thanks so much, babe. Love you. All right. You guys. I gotta go. I gotta go. Rest of my team needs waiting. Okay. bite mes Bye. Bye.