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the makeout and straddle
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s2ep1: welcome to season 2! the gals are reunited in new york and fill you in on what they've been up to. they discuss some new bits they've been working on, how each of them deal with managing friendships as they grow older, & they get some new updates on emon’s mysterious “crush”. they also go into detail on kristen’s ideal dancefloor make-out and payton’s favorite niche compliment. get ready 2 giggle !!!
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Welcome to Season Two
00:00:00
Speaker
Hey Chris. Hi Eames, what's up? I have to tell you something. Oh my god, okay. Should I three-way Peyton in? Yeah, call Pete. Okay. Hello? Hey, Eames needs to tell us something. I'm three-waying you in. Okay, immediately. Okay, so...
00:00:15
Speaker
Hey, fuckers. Welcome to season two of Three Way, the podcast. We're reporting live from New York City. We don't really come with like, we wanted this to be more of an update episode, more of a... Yeah, like where we left off, what we've been doing. Okay, we have literally no plan, we have no clue what we're gonna say, so we're just getting it. Yeah, expect nothing. Yeah. Appreciate everything. It's gonna be great. So here are my updates.
Eames' Romantic Adventures
00:00:40
Speaker
Okay, we'll just go slightly past that. I have a crush, let's just bomb crush. Oh, a crush.
00:00:44
Speaker
This is the same crush as last season. Yeah. Okay. Let's just call him crush like forever. Even if we like get married, it'll just be crush. Okay. Um, that you're talking about marriage. Okay. So talk about this bit that I've been doing with him, that I think all you girls should be doing with people that you're dating. And it's that one day randomly brought up that he farts really bad in his sleep. He can't either confirm or deny because he doesn't know.
00:01:11
Speaker
And every couple weeks, so it's not, I don't bring it up every day because it'd be obvious, but it's every couple weeks I'll be like, it was really bad last night, I'm sorry. I'll be like, I don't actually write though. And it's like every week when we're going to bed or like when we wake up I'll be like, I don't actually fart in my sleep right. And I'll be like, who's just not talking about this? Like in a couple days it's been like fine for a couple days. So he will never know whether or not he farts into sleep unless he watches this of course, but I don't think he will. So I think that'll be like a fun bit that we can all be in on that he doesn't know about.
00:01:38
Speaker
So I think that just shows how close you guys are in terms of where you're at in your relationship. There's a lot of sleepovers going on. Yeah, and you're joking about farming. Probably not a lot of time for other men. Yeah. We have sleepovers and we have sex. Okay, we'll believe that. That was too far. Oh my god, do you have a f***ing game on? No.
00:02:01
Speaker
I can't believe this. This is crazy. You wouldn't say you're dating him, but you'll say all of this. Exactly. She's going to make me cut all of it. She's nervous right now. She's over sharing. I'm overstimulated now that
Shifting to Video Content
00:02:16
Speaker
we're on video. We should also acknowledge we're doing video now. Oh yeah, we're doing video now. Yeah, can you guys see us?
00:02:22
Speaker
I also want to talk about just the concept of making out, which we've kind of touched on, on Note to Self a little bit. Also, hey y'all, I'm wearing my Note to Self hat. Oh, gorgeous. The merch dropped last week, so you should go get it. Thanks for that. It's actually very cute. I didn't see it before we printed a bunch of them and I was just crossing my fingers. Yeah. So I want to talk about making out.
00:02:45
Speaker
What am I making out? I famously hate making out. There's something about it that just grosses me out, and when you incorporate the tongue, it just feels diabolical. I just don't get how we're at all. I think that's insane. We could never make out because I love an aggressive tongue. I don't want to. Like eating of the face.
00:03:03
Speaker
Okay, but here's the thing. So Imane reposted, I saw her repost on TikTok. It was like, I wish my frontal lobe would undevelop so I could have one more fun dance floor make out, like with that kind of reckless abandon. That was so fun. That was an amazing era. Oh, yeah. It's time stand still. Yes. You feel like you're in a rom-com and that like... Well, I didn't really feel like I felt like I was in like a frat basement or something. Cameras are circling around you.
00:03:29
Speaker
Yeah, not really like that. I'm more just like time stops that I'm six keystones deep. My favorite is the make out and straddle. I prefer to be like straddling you on top of you and like eating your face. Okay, that's too much. I was talking more just like you're dancing, you're making out and then you.
00:03:46
Speaker
I'm saying that's fun too. Okay, so I'm gonna go back to what I was saying and Making out feel so disgusting and the thing is I just wish no one was doing it so that I wouldn't feel left out like I don't want Everyone else to be doing that's like then I have but I like a peck
00:04:04
Speaker
I think that those are, I do that multiple times a day. But you said you do enjoy making out with girls. Yeah, so now I'm never gonna meet the lesbian allegations because, okay, so here's the thing, making out with guys grosses me out. And I just feel like they don't understand the K, like I feel like they are not as intentional about like, okay, this is where it's gonna, like, I'm just excited to be making out. That's why you have to straddle them and make out on them.
00:04:29
Speaker
I just feel like I'm so aware when I make out with a guy that I'm kissing. I'm like, okay, and then there's the tongue, okay? When is it gonna be okay for me to pull away from that? But when I make out with a girl, the thing is, it's not that I'm enjoying that either, but it doesn't gross me out. Where I'm just like, okay, this is fine, because I feel like girls just get it. And they just understand. I'm like, okay, I know that we're both understanding how to go back and forth on this. It's softer with girls, though, and sometimes I want like...
00:05:00
Speaker
Okay, I honestly need to get fucked. Yeah, whatever that was. I'm so sorry. That was so scary. No, I'm literally so sorry. That was disgusting. That was terrifying. Anyway, continue. Kristin, what do you think about making it with girls? I
Airport Shenanigans
00:05:18
Speaker
think it's like... You like both.
00:05:19
Speaker
Yeah, I feel like I haven't made out with a ton of girls, but I think it's just softer. It's just better. More sensual. Yeah. It's not grossing me out. I don't like making out in any way, but I just... Anyways, so...
00:05:40
Speaker
I have had a conversation with my crush about like it's kind of like he likes to kiss and I don't And so I brought it up and he was like, yeah, I did notice that like you don't really go in for the kiss He's like when I walk into your house like I like maybe do what I do and I like he'll go in for a kiss I'll be like I'll go in for the hug or like stop. Wait, you don't even like the camera I
00:06:03
Speaker
No, I like to peck, but it doesn't come naturally to me to go in for a kiss. I don't think to do it. Once I kiss a person, I'm like, that's all I want to do. That's all we're doing. And I have never been able to relate to that. I feel like in high school or whatever, people would be like, oh my god, I just want to have a really good make out. And I was like, oh, when I get older, I'll probably enjoy doing that more. Maybe you should. It will come with time.
00:06:27
Speaker
Have you experimented with the tongue? I know you're against it, but I think if you really got in there. But here's the thing, so I've been trying to kiss more because he's been you. I noticed that. They're sleeping in the same bed, Yvonne, to practice it. Okay, well now that I heard this from Kristen, I want nothing to do. She's sleeping on the couch today. I already didn't want to make out, but now it's a hard boundary. Angie, do that brush.
00:06:57
Speaker
I forgot to brush my teeth this morning before he left, because we looked really abruptly. We only have one bathroom, and Peyton was hogging at me. So I forgot. And Kristen's on the other side of the table. And not to take it on the other side, Peyton wanted to sit by me.
00:07:14
Speaker
Okay, so I've had two that I can think of in most recent like months that two makeouts that I've semi-enjoyed where like I was like crash Yeah, where I was like, okay, I could start getting into this So I feel like I just started my life of making out It's still really like I'm still counting down the seconds to when I can pull away
00:07:35
Speaker
Once it goes in, I'm like, okay, we just did the tongue thing. Three, two, one. It's very robotic for me. But I'm trying to just let loose a little bit more. You gotta get out of your head, girl. It just grows. I don't know what, literally, it's cool making out. I just can't do it.
00:07:56
Speaker
That's where she draws the line. I have a heart boundary. To essential. No, that's so fair, girl. We are so opposite. So should we talk about me and Kristen's flight getting delayed? Oh, yeah. My God, y'all. So we found out that our flight was delayed when I got to Eames House. I was already at Eames House. This was a couple of days ago. Yeah, this was a few days ago.
00:08:20
Speaker
We were like, we should just go in case they move it up, blah, blah, blah. We also thought at least one of us would have lounge access. This is, by the way, at 10.30 a.m., we're pulling up to the airport. 10.30 a.m., LAX pulls up to the airport. And mind you, I was ready for a drink at 8 a.m. that morning, and I had text to do that. She sent me an invisible ink.
00:08:41
Speaker
She's ready for a drink. Yeah. So I was like, I think I feel like we were just both ready to get to the airport and you know, party. We thought we would have lounge access because she has Delta and I have like a chase Sapphire, but there's fucking nothing at LAX. Yeah. They just changed the lounge access for the Delta card holders PSA. Um, I have the platinum, but you need one nicer than that, the reserve to get into lounge access. It's more you can have an MX platinum. Yeah.
00:09:09
Speaker
Yeah. So anyway, we got 24 whole dollars from Delta. They send us a five hour delay. So we're like, okay, where can we eat for 20? I don't know why we were pretending like we didn't have other money on top of that, but it was kind of funny to get like crafty. Well, because you read the thing and it was like, you can't spend more or it won't work or something. And so we were like, okay, we have to
00:09:32
Speaker
Okay, should we get a sandwich and we didn't have enough to get the french fries and we were like as if we couldn't pay the $7 but it was kind of fun to like Yeah, we only had the $24. Wait. Oh, wait, we didn't say yet So we got to the airport at 1030, but our flight got delayed till 5 p.m. So
00:09:48
Speaker
So we were there the whole time. So we show up and this is like 11.30. We show up to Fat Sal's. Let's like, I guess we could share a Philly cheesesteak again, pretending like we have no additional money on top of the $1,000. $11,000. But we're like, wait, what can we add on? Like the Philly cheesesteaks are like $18. Like it's something we can add on for $6. He's like, oh, the fries are $7. He's like, you know, you could just,
00:10:16
Speaker
Use the $24 and pay the difference. And we were like, no, we didn't know that. So we got the fries. Don't worry. So we split the Philly cheesesteak. We have the fries. We go to the fat cells bar right next to it. And I, yeah, I decide, you know what? I haven't had a coffee today, so I think I'm going to have a espresso martini. And also Kristen really wanted to fuck the bartender. Like,
00:10:39
Speaker
She loved his energy and also she tried to make a joke that didn't land because the music playing was really bad She goes this year playlist and he was like, yeah, why is it bad? Men are so literal they don't ever get the fucking way listen then we're secretly cry So we turn our heads for five full minutes
00:11:02
Speaker
Because he's playing the cringiest music. And it was like Christian Rock. And I was like, oh, is this your playlist? And then he was like, yeah. And I thought he was joking still. And then another song came on, and he got his phone out and played the next. And I was like, oh my. You thought he got the bet, and he did it. Yeah. Which is, it seems like that's a thing.
00:11:22
Speaker
But this, men don't get the bet. The reason I started dating Joe, to be honest, the reason he first started being really attracted to me, he does get the bet. You talked to him on the phone last night. Yeah, he gets the bet. He's like, it's just there. He's there. He's still a goofy move. Yeah. So while we were at the Fat Sal's bar, I think I said, hey, let's make a bucket list for the next six hours. And my man,
00:11:46
Speaker
The bartender told us about a little smoking deck, a little outdoor smoking deck in the international terminal. So we did hang out in the international a few times. We went back and forth. But OK, I do have to add in, and I'm going to say this to you guys, I really.
00:12:04
Speaker
I didn't know if I was gonna say it, I accidentally wore my Sean John sweatpants to the airport. And it said Sean John like on the side of the sweat the day that it said the P-Day got arrested. And I just, it went way over my head. And that's bad for you too, cause you used to go to Diddy parties.
00:12:27
Speaker
Do you know that I actually have been to one? Are you kidding? I actually have been to one. No, I was kidding. There's no way you have, you grew up in LA and you were out and about. Okay, well now we need to go into that. No, no we can't. Is that too sensitive of a subject? Oh yeah, we shouldn't. That's where we draw the line. Anyway, so she was wearing her Sean John, did he get arrested? Yeah, so we were, I mean we had like 12,000 steps that day strutting around LAX and her Sean John.
00:12:57
Speaker
Mine do a full bag of clothes. I had never thought about how I could just go change it. I was like, oh my god, this is so embarrassing. Again, didn't think about it. Yeah, that's so true. You never crossed our minds. Yeah, because Eames doesn't check a bag. Yeah, she would never. I already knew that was going to happen. I walked in to get you guys from the little lobby area. Iman would have a carry-on, and you were going to have a massive bag. Nothing is that serious that I have to check my bag. If something's too big, I just want to take it. Well, all your clothes are teeny. Well, also, like.
00:13:26
Speaker
Fashion is a lifestyle. You're a stylist. You have to be showing up. It's so important to me to be wearing something that makes me feel confident and comfortable. So sometimes I just think I need to check a bag. Also I don't want to worry about throwing away my skincare, my weed. I don't want to carry it. I'm not carrying that.
00:13:49
Speaker
So y'all had your bucket list, you had, you did successfully. Smoked weed. Smoked weed in the international section. Yeah, smoked cigarettes. Pooped in the bathroom next to each other. Yeah, pooped in the bathroom next to each other. We. Oh, chugged a beer with a guy in a street at the bar. Yeah, at the P.F. Chang's bar, mind you. Here's the best thing about this is that the audience submitted on the Thruway Instagram. Oh yeah, which, okay. The suggestions. We've just been talking about how obsessed we are with. You'll get it.
00:14:16
Speaker
are three way listeners and the people we keep meeting and everything because you guys really get it down to the silly little emoji. You'll send something super dry and very serious with a silly emoji and I get it immediately. Or when you guys say seriously. Seriously. Also, I saw a submission on the bucket list was to tell a baby to go fuck himself or something.
00:14:41
Speaker
We had so many good submissions that we couldn't. I was like, I wish, why you guys have me? You guys know someone? No, my man would have. This Christian Rock playlist? Yeah. They kid Ketamine, Kristin. Oh. You never know. You never really know in this crazy world. So that was their experience. I forgot to put lip gloss on. Do you want to do it now? Oh, cool.
00:15:12
Speaker
So yeah, we accidentally had the time of our fucking lives. Thank you guys for your submissions. We were crying laughing the whole time. No, from 10 a.m. till 3 a.m. New York time, we were dying laughing. I thought I was the funniest person. She laughed about all the jokes throughout the day on the Uber too.
00:15:35
Speaker
apartment that we're staying with her like from the jokes throughout the day she would replay the jokes that she made in her head that she thought were funny and she was laughing the whole time and then she did put in the wrong address so we were delayed for like six hours we finally get to New York we call the uber it takes my bag an hour to get there it takes her bag that she tracked by the way I didn't
00:15:59
Speaker
Check it back. And that'll work to arrive. We finally get in the Uber. We're on the way to Payne's apartment. It's 2 a.m. I'm seeing this with tears in my head. Kristen, we pull up. The Uber's like, we're here. And I look around. I'm like, wait, this is my friend Molly's apartment. This is in my head, though. I don't say it's in here. It's in Brooklyn? It's in Brooklyn. Oh, we are at JFK. I don't see the number that we're looking for of the address. And I just said,
00:16:24
Speaker
Hey, Kristin, where are we? Me and Kristin, by the way, on the way, the whole ride, we're mostly really thinking to ourselves, we don't see any of these guys. No, we actually, I made that joke. I was like, we kept being like, where the fuck are we? Where are we? Where are we? Where the fuck are we? Like, there was no scene. There was no, like, you know, we hadn't gone over the bridge, so we didn't see anything. So I typed in that address that I know that we should be going
00:16:52
Speaker
into my phone and it says 18 minutes and that might not seem like a long time after. You guys have to realize the day that I've had and now it's 2.30 a.m. I'm at the wrong place. And also you've been with Kristin all day making jokes at some point. Here's the thing, this reminds me, we'll go back to me and Kristin traveling together in our early 20s. This shit would happen but we'd also have Moo. No! No, Kristin's dog. Wait, I have to tell them about one of the jokes I did that I was fucking dying all day. On the way. So on the way to...
00:17:22
Speaker
Let's see if you guys laugh. On the way to the airport. I told Eames I was like fuck I wanted to like text you guys about like something about making you think Mu was coming and like asked Peyton if like she had checked with the blue ground to see if dogs could come. Iman is like find an old picture of Mu at the airport.
00:17:44
Speaker
And I'm like, well, which one? I have 900. So I texted to our group, and I was like, we're on the way. And I had a internal mental breakdown. I was like, fuck.
00:17:56
Speaker
How could I forget? Obviously, Moo is coming. God damn it. I thought we got it now. We talked about this. No, I was tears down my fucking face. My stomach was hurting. I thought it was the funniest thing ever done. It was pretty funny. It was pretty traumatizing. It actually was. It was so on the nose. What else do we want to talk about?
Unique Compliments Discussion
00:18:19
Speaker
Do we want to talk about niche compliments? Because that's what I want to talk about. We just talked about this yesterday. OK.
00:18:24
Speaker
Oh, yeah. I've been thinking about this all day because I'm like, damn, there are some niche compliments that I like that no one would want. No one would know that I would like to be complimented by, I guess, for example.
00:18:37
Speaker
I realized this about myself because people would be like, oh my God, with my dog. Oh my God, she looks so fast. And then someone one day was like, she looks so fast. Oh my God, y'all look alike. And I was like, so I look fast. Peyton really wants to be called like fast, athletic. Like you look like you're really fast and she's like low weight. And I'm like, perfect. You could say you're beautiful. I'd be like, thanks so much. That's very sweet of you, but okay.
00:18:58
Speaker
You look like you're fast. You come up to Peyton at a bar and you're like, hey, you look like the fastest girl in New York. Stay tuned, maybe because we are gonna have a race. Yeah, we do have to race. Kristin says that she's fast. Oh, no, well, I was the fastest girl in pre- and kindergarten. So was I. Okay, well, we'll see. All the way to middle school, actually.
00:19:18
Speaker
I kind of like gave up. I was more into like comedy. In kindergarten. Where to stand up? Yeah, I had a little mic.
00:19:35
Speaker
And instead of reading, I would just get up there and do a full hour sit. I stool and am I gay? Sometimes I don't want to laugh at your jokes because I don't want to give it to you. Because you didn't win that one. It wasn't good. Instead of reading time, you would get up. It's like, I know that it doesn't sound funny, but if you really visualize it, it's so fucking hilarious. And that's what gets me.
00:20:06
Speaker
I've been making the craziest jokes. The other thing that I was dying laughing about on our travel day was that Iman saw this little fluffy dog. I'm so scared. And she was like, the dog's really loving it.
00:20:31
Speaker
That's your niece compliment Kristin wants to be called light on her feet so bad. She's insecure about no one's called her that
00:20:43
Speaker
No, literally, Mom goes, that dog truly lied on his feet. I go, well, you would too if you were three halves. I got weirdly defensive. She got so defensive that I said that the dog was lying on his feet. She cried. That was the joke that she was crying, laughing about. I'm doing it again and I literally can't breathe my stomach.
00:21:04
Speaker
What a weird joke. What a weird thing to say. I do get it. I get the joke. Did you get it? I did. And the next thing I did want to talk about is the Cheesecake Factory. Because I know some people who have never been... Come out of transition. I know some people who have never been to the Cheesecake Factory.
00:21:25
Speaker
Uh-huh. And they actually can't go. So if you don't have your meal that you got from childhood, you're gonna get way too overwhelmed by the menu. You have to have a plan, yeah. You have to have a plan, so if you haven't been by the age of 12, you can't go. Or go with a pro. Or you have to go with a pro. Go with someone. Yeah, let someone else order for you. Go with a season better. That has a similar palette as you. Yeah. Because like, and here's the thing is like, I...
00:21:49
Speaker
I also want to go
Cheesecake Factory Favorites
00:21:50
Speaker
into what our own individual Cheesecake Factory orders are because as a kid I was the chicken tenders with like the steamed broccoli on the side. And then, yeah so then I had a really brief stint with the Jamaican black pepper shrimp but I was influenced by a boyfriend at the time. Oh, pick me up.
00:22:06
Speaker
Cause he ordered that and I was like, oh, like I kind of want to get that too. And like, that was our thing that we would both get it. And I was like really influenced by a boyfriend to get the Jamaican black pepper shrimp. I, I know, I know. And it, and it was like kind of a dark time and it was also like around the time of COVID. So it was like everything. It was recently. It was my first boyfriend. Oh, I didn't know it was recently. 2020. I thought it was like high school. During Black Lives Matter too.
00:22:40
Speaker
That was a hard time though, I understand. Yeah, I understand that you were influenced by my boyfriend. I was influenced by my boyfriend. The whole world was very uncertain. We didn't know what was going on and I switched my order for him. And so now I'm a chicken piccata shrimp scampi ass bitch, like for sure. Oh my god. And I'm one of those two. What the hell of a fucking order.
00:22:59
Speaker
Yeah, so I like the chicken piccata, and then sometimes if I'm like, okay, I'll get the shrimp scampi, and I will get a cheesecake plane sometimes to go, and I do have a coupon right now. Oh. For a free cheesecake? It's $10 off 30. Oh, that's pretty good. That's a deal. You can get a lot there. Well, I actually went on a date recently to Cheesecake Factory. Recently? Yeah, well, the one at the Grove, we were gonna see a movie, and then we were like,
00:23:28
Speaker
There's also one in Beverly, in the center of Beverly Hills. I always was wondering. That's my favorite one. It's such a vibe. It's such a vibe. So what's you guys' orders and what was your childhood order? Chicken parm. And gosh darn, I don't remember my childhood order. My childhood order was definitely the chicken tenders but not with fucking broccoli because I was a child. I still wouldn't do that now. You don't eat vegetables and I do. I hate vegetables so much.
00:23:58
Speaker
Oh, I probably got like garlic butter noodles.
00:24:03
Speaker
I can see that. Yes, that checks out. A chicken tender, that's what I'm gonna order in general. You know when I got so excited last night and I broke my monotone voice over the chicken nuggets? Anything similar to a McDonald's chicken nugget but not the ooey gooey goo that it's made from? I love, if I could, oh my god that's gonna be at my wedding.
00:24:31
Speaker
Caviar, chicken nuggets, creme fraiche. I can see it now. Everyone's gonna have a chicken nugget in their hands. We're all gonna raise them to the air and touch. And touch. And then we're gonna eat them. I'm so excited. Yeah, I love anything chicken tender, so that was my order. But I haven't really had like an adult cheesecake factory.
00:24:48
Speaker
era, to be honest. I do go for the cheesecake. But here's the thing, since you went as a child, you could now go into adulthood and you would feel confident doing that. I don't know how people as adults go into Cheesecake Factory and look through that menu and they're like, oh, I'm still gonna eat here. It's like a more intense version of Chili's. There is a massive menu. You do have to go in with the plan. Otherwise, it's too much reading.
Friendship and Dating Dynamics
00:25:09
Speaker
You have to stand for something. Or you'll fall for everything. And that's really what we want you girls to remember.
00:25:19
Speaker
Okay, so Christian has a, there's a guy in Christian's life that me and Peyton love for her. And we went out with him last night. He got us into the hardest bars to get into. Are we allowed to say this? Will you listen? No. Okay, good.
00:25:33
Speaker
He got us into the hardest bars to get into, paid for everything, got the bits, was interesting to talk to. You could talk about the world, you could talk about dating. He wasn't like one of those weird guys who like me and Peyton were both talking about guys that were dating. He wasn't like, oh, you brought two girls that like...
00:25:51
Speaker
Yeah, no, he's being normal. He also was a, it's not just a big joke, you need someone who's a critical thinker. He was a blatant critical thinker. He understood there's levels to the stuff. And it was, we were talking back and forth, y'all were so checked out and we're just like, and then anyway, just going back and forth, I'm like, yeah, you won me over. You won me over with my politics.
00:26:14
Speaker
Unfortunately, he's just not my type, girls, but he's a great friend. And I love him. I mean, I hit him up when I'm in New York for a reason. Yeah, because he's great.
00:26:26
Speaker
So when you were talking to him and me, and we were on the dance floor, we were like, we really like him for Kristen. We were like, Kristen, but yeah, we're dancing. We're like, yeah, but Kristen doesn't really like him back, and she's like, oh, it's so annoying. And then you showed up behind us, and we were like, hey! What's up? What are you doing here? Yeah, no, I knew that was happening, because also, Iman asked him,
00:26:45
Speaker
his type or sorry you asked me he asked yes all of us our type oh yeah he asked what our types were we said what our types were and then and then Iman said for me she said rich Jewish and I described stuff that he was yeah
00:27:04
Speaker
She didn't mean to. And then I was like, okay. And then Kristen took that as a targeted attack. Yeah, I was like. Kristen's like, why would you say that? I'm like, that is your, I wasn't even paying. She's like, wait, why would you say that? Well, and I just don't wanna give him any fucking ideas, and it did, because he was like touching my back. Hot, you were wet a little bit. No, I wasn't. You were a little wet. I was drier than I did in the entire desert. Ew. I was not stopping wet, Iman, that was disgusting.
00:27:32
Speaker
I have full body chills. I'm so, so grossed out. Oh, you meant to say turned on? Down to my Birkenstocks. Wait, can I tell you guys about this new? Okay, so where I left off last time, I was just going to Canada.
00:27:50
Speaker
I had a great time there. I got a, I got a new bit out of it, which you can't ask for anything better. So I, every time I would like bust out randomly singing as I do 17 to 30 times a day, he would pull out of his phone and he would go, Oh my God, you guys, are you listening to this?
00:28:09
Speaker
And act like I was... Like video you? No, like a fake one. But like, it like inherently makes her look like she's attention seeking by doing something like... Exactly. So he's deeply understanding. So he's giving her the attention that she wants, but it makes it's embarrassing for her. Because it makes me think that not only am I doing it for attention, but I'm doing it for attention in front of a person in the music industry. Yes, cause he's an Odessa. No!
00:28:35
Speaker
But then I started to be like, wait, wait, am I? It got in my head and I was like, this is meta and genius. And it's my new favorite. But I need to tell Ami about it, because she needs to be doing that anytime someone sings around her. Because Eames used to sing.
00:28:59
Speaker
Be serious. No, I did not. No, I did not. She was trying to sneak those secret sessions, and then she's going to practice it. No, my embarrassing thing that I do is when I'm around someone who has songs that are famous, I will accidentally sing them out loud and catch myself doing it. So as I'm getting ready to hang out with whoever I know will be there, I'm like, Iman, don't sing the song. And then I'll get it stuck in my head because I'll overthink it. And then it's kind of hard with Ami.
00:29:27
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What if we saw Sabrina Carpenter? How could you not? I remember when I used to pick up Ami and take her to fitting sometimes, I would be like, okay, well, I really need to curate my... Make sure that it doesn't have one of your songs. Yeah, it doesn't have one of your songs. But how would you at that time, especially? They're all hits. No misses.
00:29:52
Speaker
No misses, but I just started not hearting them. I was like, I hear them enough. Yeah. This can't be on my playlist. Yeah. But yeah. What's the other niche conversation topic? I wrote down a couple. Um, okay.
Setting Boundaries and Growth
00:30:06
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I want to talk a little bit about friendships because recently, not including Kristen, we did get in a fight yesterday, but we won't talk about that. It wasn't even a real fight. It was a disagreement.
00:30:18
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So I recently kind of feel like my friends have been kind of dropping like flies a little bit recently. Well, really?
00:30:27
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Yeah. Oh, okay. Keep going. And I feel like it's because I've recently been like getting better with boundaries. And so I had a second and I feel like this all was coming up like right before my 20th birthday where like everyone says you have these like weird revelations like, yeah, no, whatever. Like I love all my friends. I'm never gonna whatever. So
00:30:50
Speaker
I had a moment where I was like, is everyone I know fucking crazy? Like are all my friends just, just fuck. Not in a fun way. No, just like insane. Cause I feel like I've been having these like weird friend fights where I'm just like analyzing all my friendships and I'm like, I don't like a lot of people right now. This is obviously not talking about you guys obviously. And I feel like it might be because
00:31:18
Speaker
you have such deep friendships that you probably see so much of a person. If you care about it, this is about, in my experience, I have a lot of boundaries. So I weed out friends so fucking fast. And not necessarily in a way that I dislike this person, it's just that we're not gonna work, but I also, I personally know there's so many people in the world, it's kinda like dating.
00:31:43
Speaker
There's so many people in the world, I don't need to make it work with someone it's not working with. Just based on the past, how long we've been friends. If it's actively not working, there are other friends to be had. See, I'm bad at that because I love knowing people for a long time. I love the whole lore. Me too.
00:32:02
Speaker
knowing people really deeply and I feel like I, and I do this in relationships too, like I feel like I hang on to like connections and stuff and like really wanna like, I don't know, cause sometimes I'm like, if you really think about how fucking crazy it is that when you cross paths with a person and have similarities, you can't help but be like, okay, well the universe kind of did this on purpose.
00:32:31
Speaker
I don't think about it like that. I just think about whoever, like friendships are supposed to be relatively easy. Like they're supposed to add to your life when they take away. So like when you meet someone, I feel like.
00:32:42
Speaker
It's in the influencer space, I see this a lot, where people become friends because they're both influencers. Remember when we first started becoming friends and there was full influencer groups of girlfriends that were like, oh, but you all are actually friends. And we were like, what are you talking about? Why would we hang out together? It was so weird. I thought everyone was just that level of friendship. They literally weren't. I've been watching this happen for so long. But I think there's like, I think I've decided in my life
00:33:07
Speaker
I haven't made all the friends I'm gonna make in my life, but I feel like my best friendships are people from my past. Like Laurel, my friend Emily, you guys. I've known y'all for, I've known you for almost 10 years now. I've known you for like eight. So like I feel like I...
00:33:25
Speaker
I have that part of myself that has my friendships. I've never really been a big girl group kind of friend, because I do find that there's a lot of shallow friendships sometimes in large girl groups. But I have the best and most fulfilling female relationships that have been around for a long time, and I don't feel the need to add more. Yeah. Well, I feel like now I'm more like you, where I feel the same way. If it's not working, cut it off. But I've been the opposite for my entire life. So now I have like,
00:33:54
Speaker
30 really really good friends, but I haven't been using that like filter and I woke up one day and I was like Oh, this is like create so I just started having like really intense boundaries so I feel like it feels as if all my friends are dropping off but really I'm just like Really not interested in friendships
00:34:09
Speaker
Yeah. Exactly. But there's also friends for so many things. Like you can have friends for like, maybe you're not super close to that person, but like, this is my, when I go out on Friday, friend or whatever. Like, I think that that's so important to have different levels. Yeah. I was going to say that too, because like as important as it is to have like really playful friendships, there are those certain friendships that like are important to hold you accountable. Yeah. Because, and that's like when the long-term friend
00:34:33
Speaker
Chips are really valuable because like whenever I there's just nothing like me going to like Jesse or Hillary about something and then being like oh You've always been like this or you've all or you know what I mean like they just like remember things I don't and hold you accountable So it's like it's hard sometimes because I feel like there are friendships that are a little tougher like in terms of like it's just less playful, but it's like serves the purpose of
00:35:02
Speaker
Well, that feels like family a little bit. Well, yeah, I think it's like I feel like a weird, like kindred spirit with some of my friends that I'm just like, I feel... There's like a past life thing. Yes, literally. We all knew each other at some point. I also think like we recently had a friend who, me and Iman, had like a really close friend who went through something really scary with her family. And we're like fun, silly, goofy, but when that happened, we were the people she was like, she called. Right. And was like, this is happening to my family because it felt like she needed to let us know.
00:35:32
Speaker
because we are so close with her and her family. Those are the kind of friendships that I'm like, I foster. I do, I think I'm pretty good at doing like the lighthearted ones too. I feel like you do need to like focus on levels, not everyone needs to be your best friend. Yeah, and not everyone needs to like, yeah. Well I feel like I finally stopped viewing like, oh this friendship isn't working out as like, I would consider it like a failure. Like this is really embarrassing and now everyone knows because I was best friend to this person and now it's not really working out and now everyone's gonna, and it's just like, okay who fucking cares? But I feel like my like,
00:36:01
Speaker
I have a pretty, I had a really intense friendship breakup with like one of my best friends for almost 10 years that I like worked with for like eight years and it felt so public like okay everyone knows we're best friends and our people and we work together so it's like people gonna think I'm hard to work with what do people think so I feel like that was really embarrassing and then like even we work together so then when I'm finding new jobs they're kind of like oh why did you leave this job and then it's like are they gonna think I'm hard to so I feel like it's like the perception of like people thinking like oh well is it hard to be friends with her like is she
00:36:31
Speaker
And honestly, I realized, like, I don't really want a reputation of just, like, being the nicest girl ever. Like, I want more people saying Iman's a fucking bitch. Like, I want the reputation. I want, like, in rooms that I'm not in to be like Iman's a fucking bitch. I can't stand her. That's what I want now. I'm kind of tired of that. You want rooms that you're not in for us to call you Spicy Mama?
00:36:52
Speaker
Oh, should we talk about that too, once we've segway? But anyways, I just want everyone to talk about how I've inspired Iman to be more of a bitchy bitch in her life. But I do think naturally when, like at your age, I had friends moving away, like they're, no matter if it's you cutting them off or not,
00:37:12
Speaker
there was a natural progression of my friend group getting smaller. And it was probably a little bit of boundaries and all of that, but also people get to have different lives. And then that's why I feel like sometimes it's exciting because then they come back in and you're like, oh, we were meant to be friends. It just wasn't working at that moment. Yeah, that's true. Also, a lot of my friends don't live in LA. Yeah. At this point. Yeah, I feel like
00:37:41
Speaker
But yeah, I guess I'm not upset by it at all. And I'm actually so much happier. It's like it brings peace. I'm so... It genuinely brings peace. Also, you put... I've been feeling amazing. You put so much into friendships that you don't need to be doing that for people that aren't.
00:37:55
Speaker
Yeah. Like reciprocating. Yeah. I feel like we're both that way. Like we can't help but be like so fucking in that we have to like be better about boundaries. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Well, can we talk about how Kristin asked us? She was very serious. Took all her spicy mama behind her back. Yeah. Just not to her face. This is the wrong group.
00:38:17
Speaker
This isn't a wrong group to ask of that. But please, just what I'm not wrong. I never said that two combination of words together ever in my life. Spicy mama? Yeah. But don't you feel like, like what else would you call me, you know? Behind your back? Exactly, like I can't think of two other words you would use, like literally.
00:38:43
Speaker
Tell me. I wanna be called, because Peyton wants to be called fast behind her back. I wanna be called, it's like she can sprint. Yeah, I wanna be called Spicy Mama. I guess I kinda have to think about it. Yeah, I'm kinda drunk right now. Hell yeah. Because we intentionally didn't eat before this, so that we could get drunk faster if anyone wants to know. We got soldiers, we got coffee. Exactly. We're running on New York time now, so.
00:39:12
Speaker
It's a New York man.
NY vs. LA Dating Debate
00:39:14
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Also, in New York, I, okay, so in L.A., when guys are stereotypically hot, they go the, like, Noah Beck route. Let's talk about this. Of, like, the cringe kind of attractive. Too well-dressed to wear your, like, wool. I don't think it's anything to walk down the street, and they know that they're hot, and it comes off like, this is disgusting, I need to be away from this man right now. New York guys, by the way, I've only been to New York one other time, and I've lived in L.A. my entire life, so I got,
00:39:41
Speaker
caught off guard by how many, I saw like 10 hot guys in one day, I don't really look at guys that are like, that guy's hot. That was just a few hours. I was actually spiraling, I'm like that girl's, every girl walking by me is so much cooler than me, and everyone is so cool, and everyone has on a much cooler outfit than me, and I'm like, is this how people feel when they go to LA? Because I felt like a culture shock of like, everyone's so themselves, everyone has on the coolest outfit,
00:40:07
Speaker
I feel like I don't even notice here because you just are like in your own little world. Like New York is my own little world. When I come here, I don't notice anything. I'm having the best time. If I was single,
00:40:19
Speaker
and I was going to live in New York or L.A. I think that my L.A. single life was fun for my friends, because I made so many friends in Los Angeles. If I was actively looking to date, I would move to New York, and the New York girls would always be like, no, no, no. Which I literally. You would try to follow me here. I already said I was gonna move here. No babe, I'm following someone else, and you know it.
00:40:44
Speaker
No. Yeah. So, sorry, I lost my fucking train of thought. Following me across the globe? No. Oh, I actually had a rule when I moved to LA, because I've always wanted to move to New York, but I just figured I was more of an LA girl because I'm terrified of the weather and I have horrible seasonal depression. Yeah, yeah, that's the whole thing. I don't know if I would leave my apartment,
00:41:09
Speaker
Anyway, I made a rule when I first moved to LA that if I was single and 30, I would move to New York. No, it's been three years. It's been three years and I haven't done that, but I could still... I will say, that was my issue about New York. I had a boyfriend when I was 30, so that's why I didn't. My issue was like, it's hard to make an expensive as fuck cross-country move just because you want to. No, I know. You know what I mean? It's so true. I was always trying to find a reason to be here, too.
00:41:34
Speaker
especially because I love my apartment and I have two fucking dogs. I have two dogs here. It's hard. You could, but it'd be hard. It's like, it's a different life, but I will say.
00:41:45
Speaker
I think New York girls, when I talk about LA dating, LA versus New York dating, they're always like, well, New York, there's so many options, all this stuff, it's hard, whatever. I'm like, no. I have never seen dating be more difficult than in Los Angeles, California. Because it's just hard to meet people in general. We're not out and about. We are in our homes. If you want to go on a date, you can't walk, you can't take the subway. You guys aren't as direct as they are here. No, they don't. People do not hit on you in LA. It's the craziest thing in the world. Also, I would say,
00:42:15
Speaker
It's like you explained like a maybe a hot guy's walking down the street in LA and his cool outfit I have never in my life
00:42:23
Speaker
in the eight years I lived there, been able to be like, that's a hot guy on a cool outfit. It's always an ugly guy. I've only seen them driving, and so that's how I know they're five, six. It's an overly done outfit, and he's not cool, and he's not hot, and he's acting like a dickhead. That's Los Angeles men in a nutshell to me. Obviously the west side's a little bit different, you're gonna get more like boyish, all American vibes there, like more frat star vibes. But I just, I hate, I never dated a guy, I lived there for eight years, I never dated a man who lived in LA.
00:42:52
Speaker
the whole time. It's really, it's tough. I always had to go elsewhere. And I tried, but it was like this, the logistics of going on dates is so complicated. The city is so fucking big and there's no way to get around it effectively and for not a hundred fucking dollars. You know what I mean? Like you're spending so much money on Ubers. It's just not worth it at the end of the day. But we're all going to split an apartment here, so.
00:43:14
Speaker
I would love to be here. No, literally we're manifesting that. We should, we should just go like a studio and put all, I want to have like, I just hate living out of a suitcase so if I could come here and just have like a little capsule collection of sorts to where I have my clothes. We could literally have like three beds on the floor with a little rolling rack each. No, literally. That sounds fun. It does. Sorority house. Yeah, and all my good winter clothes. Okay you guys, I don't know if I can say this, but we'll see.
00:43:40
Speaker
I am wanting to work remote. We can manifest that. And I'm wanting to make a lot more money. So I can come down here and look at Hawkeye's. I know. I know. I'm ready, too. That's really vulnerable of you to share. Yeah, that was really vulnerable. Yeah. Well, we need to wrap up because we have to go get ready and go to our happy hour. OK, the last thing I want to say, Kristen and Peyton both have Rolexes.
00:44:06
Speaker
and I don't and this is a big thing in our friendship that it's like they wear them all the time and they like, it's just like kind of bitchy I think. Well mine's a vintage Tudor Rolex. And it was given to her by, that's the second one given to her by her family so. Yeah and Kristen is a little bit of like a. Kristen, what's it called? Nepo baby? Nepo baby. To the Rolex family. I'm just a Nepo watch baby. Well I love watches and I purchase this myself
00:44:34
Speaker
No offense to ever, to you, Kristin. But I did buy this myself. No offense to people just given things. To given stuff. I waited a lot of years. I used to build this watch online since I was 18 and I bought it for my 28th birthday. I got mine for... No, I just had my 28th birthday. Alright guys, we have to get ready. Do you guys want to open rooms? I got some. Perfect. Wait, didn't you want to say one more thing? Yeah, I was also thinking that.