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The Foundation To Rebuilding Motivation Again (So That It ACTUALLY Lasts)
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The motivation you NEED if you've felt like you aren't as inspired to take action towards your goals as you once were, in this episode i share 3 ways to to help shift your energy and motivation behind your goals so that you can actually build momentum that lasts (in a fun, empowering way).
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Transcript
Introduction and Episode Theme
00:00:00
Speaker
Hello everybody and welcome back to another episode of She's Next Level Podcast. It's your girl Darsh. I am super excited to talk about this topic of the day with you guys. It was literally like a download that I had. I had no idea I was even going to record a podcast episode today, but it it came in hard and it was really interesting the way that it came in too, because I noticed that after I like wrote down the outline of the podcast and what I wanted to talk about the lessons that I wanted to teach and share with you guys, I literally, my higher self does this to me often. And I just find it really funny because she's like, Oh yeah, you want to talk about this? Let's make sure that you are embodied in it. Let's make sure that you practice what you preach and what you say.
00:00:48
Speaker
And so I ended up having um what I call a reflection, which is basically like, you know, life is a mirror. So you are learning something that people are reflecting back to you, even though they're not doing it intentionally. So like i ended up like learning the lesson and really implementing my tools that I'm going to be sharing with you guys today. and I was like, yeah, i was
Holiday Slowdown and Motivation Challenges
00:01:11
Speaker
like, this is good. And I was like, okay, I get it So today's topic is all around the foundation to real rebuilding your motivation again. So I've noticed that during the holidays, and I know this happens often with people, where we just slow the fuck down, we're chilling, we're kind of taking a backseat a little bit with our business, we're prioritizing other things. I know that for me, it really...
00:01:38
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Like, for me, I really got into the lazy mode, which I don't mind because I love the idea of slowing down. It's been so helpful and beneficial for me and healing my feminine energy.
00:01:50
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And but then I realized I was like thinking about how I want to, you know, move about my podcast this year. how i want to achieve my goals. And just the thought of that was like, wait, but like, how do I really want to do this? Because I feel like I don't want to make myself do things that I don't want to do anymore. But you know, when you're starting anything new, you are, it's going to take time.
00:02:15
Speaker
for things to catch up, right? Your physical reality to catch up to all the energetic work that you've been doing in the background and the way that you're showing up, the effort that you're putting into your your business.
00:02:28
Speaker
So at times it can feel not so motivating when you know people aren't really reaching out to you to tell you, how amazing you are and what you're doing, right? That validation that we desire.
00:02:40
Speaker
When you're not really receiving that in the way that you expect to or the way that you want to consistently, when you're not seeing that, it can feel demotivating. And that has happened to me. You know, my expectations were really, really high in the beginning when I first started my podcast.
00:02:57
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And then life really taught me that like, I don't need to create expectations that are not so
Reigniting Motivation and Realignment with Mission
00:03:03
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realistic. And not that like, that doesn't exist, because anything's possible. But like,
00:03:08
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just to be real with where I'm at and not to attach my sense of happiness and motivation to any external outcome and results. So I really learned that. And then I got on this like energetic, like, ah whatever it was a high of like feeling this like spark and motivation. And I was receiving downloads ideas, like all the time. And I actually felt like being on camera. And I was just like, you know, creating all this content. And I don't know if you're in human design, but if you are, i am a projector, okay?
00:03:40
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And our energy is not like a generator. It's not always constant. Even though I'm naturally energetic, like your girl got energy for days. i love that. But for like in certain ways, it's just not as consistent.
00:03:55
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And so I needed to be real with myself about that. And I realized that when the holidays started, And I was just starting to feel this like motivation, like deep, I don't even know what to call it. But it was just like a dip. It was a motivational motivation dip where I was just like, yeah, I'm not really feeling like the pull to show up on camera so much. And mind you guys, I am doing the inner work like clockwork. Okay, bitch. Like I am in the motherfucking trenches with you guys. I am doing it.
00:04:26
Speaker
and I'm in it and I love it and I'm probably the one that does the most with the least effort if that makes sense because I'm an efficiency queen here and that's how we do things but I was like feeling that and I'm like why am I feeling this way and when I really dug deeper I was like wow I understood why and that's what I'm going to share with you guys I also realized during my break apart of like from being like consistent with my posting all the time on social media to like kind of slowing down and like figuring out how I want to show up and how I want to market myself is i really got clear with my mission. Now more than ever, i really, really, really want to help women reclaim their feminine energy, their power, their feminine magnetism, because that's going to be a big piece to what I create in my business and being able to be
00:05:18
Speaker
so energetically aligned and my authentic self, which is literally a piece of your magnetism and what creates it, to actually like create and magnetize things to me. Obviously, projector energy. But to really create in that way where like I am really taking advantage of my energy, my time, my resources, everything I create to the max...
00:05:42
Speaker
And so I really want to help women step into their magnetism, step into their power, reclaim their self worth, because it's always there. But, you know, we lose sight of how we relate with our value, how we see our value, how we understand our value. It's so essential and key to our self image, at least what I've learned in my journey.
00:06:02
Speaker
And just loving themselves like no other, more than anyone else, like no other, prioritizing themselves, really creating their dreamiest life. Because we don't do average here. Like, we do next level, hence the name of the podcast. We do...
00:06:21
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exceptional. We do the best of the best.
Progress Over Outcomes
00:06:23
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So if that is what you're into, keep on watching, keep on listening. So everyone always talks about the term. So in the self-development world, especially for feminine energy, everyone always talks about how to notice that things are always working out for you, right?
00:06:42
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and I totally agree with it, 100%. hundred percent But if you have been wired, and a lot of us are just, it's not that we don't have certain things in our lives or we don't have the potential or anything, it's just that we've been wired to think a certain way because of all of our experiences that we've had experienced.
00:07:00
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So if you have been wired to feel like things you've tried in the past and things have failed, right? That can wire you that way. If you've been wired to feel like no matter what you do, you know, something always comes up, right?
00:07:17
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negative experiences in your life that you weren't expecting that happened, or you have lost a sense of trust and safety in the unknown, your connection with your higher self, higher power source, wherever you want to call it, or in people, in situations, circumstances, if you've lost that connection of trust and safety, then it's really difficult for somebody to feel like things are working out for me and to notice that more. when they are trying something new, when they are working on achieving their goals, right? Especially when the physical reality always takes time to catch up with you anyways.
00:07:58
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So that led me down like a whole like download that I had. and just thinking about this and reflecting on this, even for myself, because right now, like I was, you know, i was talking about my podcast and i was feeling that way with my podcast. I was like really feeling like,
00:08:17
Speaker
I've been consistent with my podcast. I've been putting in the work with my podcast. And why do I feel like nobody's listening? Why do I feel like it's not working? Why do I feel like my followers are not growing? Like the community isn't building? I was just having a lot of these feelings. And... Then I realized I was like, wait a minute, like, no, that's, that's not helping me, first of all, but it's also not entirely true. And then I realized that, oh my god, I am placing my sense of progress and my sense of like things working out for me on outcomes versus me just seeing how and noticing how I'm already making progress. And that is the first thing that I want to talk about and how to rebuild your motivation again, and anything in your goals that you want to achieve is to start noticing how you're already making progress in your life. And that's going to be based on how you respond and how you feel versus the outcomes in your life.
00:09:21
Speaker
So to give you guys an example, I've been on a herbal cleanse back to back. like Like I've only had a two week break in between my cleanses and in December and then like I'm currently going through it right now. And recently, like I was starting to feel not so motivated because I'm like, damn, like I wanna eat these foods. I wanna go out to like, I like going out to restaurants and trying new food.
00:09:47
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And I was really feeling that, you know, but then I had to remember why I started them and and I'm doing them in the first place. And I really felt that when I went to the gym the other day, and I really felt so much stronger than ever before, like back to my original like weights that I was lifting like way back when I was like super fit. And it really hit me then. And I was like, this is why I'm doing it. Like this is worth it. This is worth it for me. The progress that I'm making in the gym, based off of the work that I'm doing, based on even how I feel like my body's healing faster, the inflammation is gone, my hormones are balanced again.
Financial Mindset and Lifestyle Choices
00:10:27
Speaker
Just even the way that I feel I've been working on my posture too. And I'm noticing even though I'm practicing every single day, I'm like, realigning my posture and being aware of it. I'm noticing in the small ways of how I'm making progress, even when I'm not consciously thinking about adjusting my posture in the way that I feel. So that's one example of like noticing even though like I'm going through what I'm going through with my herbal cleanse, and it's not done yet. I'm noticing the progress that I'm making every day. And it's making me more motivated and I'm like wait a minute I only have two more weeks technically so I can do it like I can push through it and it's gonna be so worth it another example that I have for you guys is when i do my money dates so I'm I've been working on my relationship with money for a long time and this year i want to take it to the next level and i would avoid money dates doing money dates is basically like when you sit with your money
00:11:25
Speaker
You manage your money. You're with your money. It's a date. That's the point is that you're intimate with your money. Like you're just there with it. So I would avoid it, especially like since I left my business, my tattoo business that I had in June of 2025, I have not really had like consistent income ever since. Like technically I haven't really had any income like that.
00:11:49
Speaker
Barely. I just like received money here and there, but it's not, you know, it's really just me. living from my opportunity account that I like to call instead of savings and, um, yeah. And just working on, ah launching my digital product ads business and getting that like I'm starting a whole new business with that getting that going while building my personal brand so it's a lot of uncertainty right and so I would find myself avoiding money dates because I'm like well what are we managing here we're just moving money around right and my credit cards like I just have this like
00:12:26
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standard now of just paying in full, like no matter what. And so I have three credit cards and I'm paying them off, like paying full. I have not also, ah like, you know how most people, when stuff like this happens, they kind of, uh,
00:12:41
Speaker
like they readjust their lifestyle. So they downsize their lifestyle. I have and if anything, I've upgraded in a lot of ways, like I've invested in a chiropractor and helping me with my posture. i invest in premium food now, like no seed oil, like no bullshit. And um I don't even look at the prices. Like I'm literally like if this is good, and it feels right, I'm buying it. And so I'm noticing the progress that I'm making, even though my physical situation has not
Intrinsic Motivation and Personal Growth
00:13:12
Speaker
shifted, right? Like, I'm going to be making money soon, like, you're manifesting, like, we're making it happen, right?
00:13:19
Speaker
I'm actually relaunching my ads business soon again, so that's going to be fun. But what I mean to say is that the way that I'm feeling by the way that I'm showing up, even with money, like I am obviously doing some EFT tapping and regulating my nervous system when I do do my money dates.
00:13:36
Speaker
And I actually started like really committing to that, like decided I'm going to commit to that. And then me showing up by, you know, still not adjusting and like downplaying my lifestyle, but still like living the way that I want to, right? And I'm i'm investing in myself. I'm not being cheap with myself. I'm not downplaying myself.
00:13:57
Speaker
That is all progress, no matter how much money I have. And so you want to look at those little tiny ways and those things that show you that you are making progress.
00:14:08
Speaker
Even if your physical reality is not showing it, even if the outcomes are not showing it, and it's going to be like tiny, tiny ways, bitch. Like you got to get granular up in this bitch. Because when you're seeing that you're making progress, you are more motivated. You are seeing how it's worth it.
00:14:25
Speaker
even when it's tough in the beginning for you. Now, the second thing that I wanted to add on to this is to notice what you are getting out of the thing that you're doing. What's in it for you? How are you winning?
00:14:37
Speaker
Because when you start to do this, you stop seeking external validation and you start to notice how it's benefiting you. What's the value in the thing that you're doing? You start to move from that place of desire instead of obligation and and you're just noticing how you're winning overall. And this goes really hand in hand with the whole making the progress thing.
00:15:01
Speaker
One of the examples that I wanna share with you guys is this podcast. It's so interesting because i am pretty comfortable on camera, like making content, it's just really easy, like fast go. But when it comes to long form content, it has been a little weird. It's been out of my comfort zone. Because it's just different. Like I'm literally showing up teaching you guys things. So it's helping me work on my teaching skills. It's helping me work on my communication skills. And it's helping me sharpen and up level my confidence on camera. Because yeah, it does feel weird like just talking on camera to the laptop and just like recording this.
00:15:41
Speaker
without people being around, like I'm so used to just teaching and helping people and communicating with people around me to somebody. And so me showing up each time doing this and noticing how I showed up, noticing how I felt, noticing how I got to practice.
00:15:59
Speaker
my skills and i know that they're adding up and they're getting better and better each time that is what i want to look for that is what i'm getting out of this that is the progress that i'm making like another example is your social media content so like a lot of us including me want to feel like a necessity we all want to feel like we belong and we all want to feel that connection and so what i started doing instead is I'm starting to look at the progress that I'm making, what I'm getting out of the things that I'm creating in my social media content by what it's giving me. And so like the feelings that I'm getting from it, the the skills that I get to refine from creating the content that I get to create. And so that really helps you keep that motivation going because it's in-sourced, it's coming from within versus like relying on an external
Integrating Fun into Life
00:16:46
Speaker
outcome. Another example that I have for you guys
00:16:49
Speaker
is in your business, whether you're offering a free service, or you're offering a paid service, what are you getting out of it? And I had to remind this for myself a lot, because I was like, it is not my task, as much as i want to be the best of the best at what I do. And I do feel like I am in what I'm doing and how I help people. It is still not my task for them to get the results that I want for them. Like it's not my task in what what they receive from it, what they do with the info. My only task is to show up and share the information, offer the help, and notice how I show up when I do that and what I get out of that interaction that I have based on how I showed up, based on the skills that I got to practice, and how I up-leveled my skills, that is what's going to help me stay more motivated in doing what I do, not the outcome. The last thing that I want to add on to this, and if there's anything that you take away from this episode, I want you to take this away and run with it. And it is to invite more fun and play into anything that you do. And I know that we hear this often, okay? But it's time to motherfucking...
00:18:03
Speaker
embody it embody ah is the keyword embody it because when you do life just becomes more lighter it becomes more magical it just becomes worth living and it really adds to your motivation you get to grow with ease because yes your goals are valid and you're worthy of achieving all your goals but not at the cost and expense of your joy Because your joy is the key to your radiance, to your alignment, to your abundance. Okay? So get to know yourself better. If there's something that you're doing currently, whether it's in your business, your relationships, your life, that you just don't feel lit up by doing anymore. it just doesn't feel...
00:18:44
Speaker
so good to you, then change it. You're allowed to change things around all the fucking time. I do this all the time, like a master experimenter here. and i was even mentioning this in my previous episode about how I want to change the way that I show up in my personal brand and in my podcast and the way that I just go about marketing myself, the consistency, the frequency, because it needs to align with my lifestyle. It needs to align with my energetic blueprint, my energy and essence.
00:19:14
Speaker
So here are some journal prompts that I do want to give you guys to just help you jumpstart the process and just get curious, go deeper based on everything that we talked about and to really help you take action on what's the next thing for you. So the first is what is lighting you up that you know that you can do long term? So even if you're not the best at it right now, you know that it is something that you still enjoy and that you know you can enjoy for the long term. The second question is what feels unnecessary that if you remove it, it won't impact your life or your business. This really helps you get clear on
00:19:52
Speaker
What is like the extra things that you're doing that's not really moving the needle for you? The third question is what do you have the energy and the time for that you can implement now and not all of it? You're gonna break it down into baby steps. So if you have a certain goal Break it down into baby steps to help you get there But what do you have the time and energy for right now that you can stick with?
00:20:15
Speaker
To get to that and the last question is What do you want to change and try you things with? I'm always playing around with newness. like I love inviting more newness into my life because that's essentially how you grow. That's essentially how you activate and access your genius. Okay, so we are going to recap everything that we talked about, okay? Because I want you guys to take this and take action, starting with the journal props.
Episode Recap and Listener Engagement
00:20:42
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Okay.
00:20:42
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The first thing is to notice the progress that you're making in the way that you show up, in the way that you feel, in the way that you respond to life versus the outcomes that happen.
00:20:54
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The second thing is to notice what you're getting out of the situations, the circumstance, the events, the people, like the things that you're doing, what you're getting out of it, and how you are winning from those things, how are you are winning because you get to essentially activate your skills, you get to grow and build them, you get to, ah you know, practice your inner work that you've been doing, right? Inner work is just inner work. Without embodiment, it's nothing. So how you get to ah put that into play, into practice in real life, and even just how you got to try something new just for the sake of it, just to learn something about yourself. Those are all wins.
00:21:34
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The third thing, The most important thing that we talked about is to have more fun. That's literally like the foundation for me this year is to just have more fun and invite more newness into my life. So invite more newness into your... The third thing, which is the most important thing that we just talked about is to have more fun.
00:21:56
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And that is like literally the main theme of my year this year is just to have more fun and invite more newness into my life. And also to create structure in your life.
00:22:07
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that works for you, for your specific energetic blueprint design, your lifestyle and personality, really. And number four is to make sure that you journal on the journal prompts that I just gave to you guys to at least jumpstart the process. With that being said, thank you so much for joining me here today and tuning in Literally like every single day I get downloads of like things I want to talk about. And so I'm excited to continue helping you guys with your journey and becoming the most badass bitch that you know. And that is it, my friends.
00:22:45
Speaker
If you found this episode super helpful, please hit me up on Instagram and let me know. My Instagram is darshvibes, so D-A-R-S-H-V-I-B-E-S-S. I'd love to hear from you any shifts that you've had, even just implementing this stuff. Let me know like what breakthroughs that you guys have. And be sure to send this to a friend because I know that if you're probably dealing with something, then your friend is probably too. And it helps get this podcast out there. And also leave me a review on Apple and Spotify. I love to see it. Thank you for tuning in. I will see you guys in the next episode. Bye