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Harnessing the courage to release old stories of past experiences and taking action from the new
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Finally!!!! The recent shift & breakthroughs I've been experiencing as I've been stepping more into the uncertainty of my life and with new experiences. If you find yourself holding yourself back from the same "trauma" from past experiences, AND you are so ready to step into a new experience and release it, i share the perception, mindset and experiences I've had recently to help me shift from those past limiting stories and create safety in the new (this is always the first step).
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00:00:00
Speaker
Hey buddy welcome to the She's Next Level podcast. um It's so funny, I'm like literally driving right now and recording a podcast episode because I really like was sitting down with this idea and like these thoughts that were in my head around this like recent theme in my life of...
00:00:21
Speaker
ah Oh, excuse me. Okay. Okay. So I have really literally been like recently redefining a lot of, you know, experiences in my life that, you know, the more that I move into my feminine energy and just cultivate more and more of that and heal that part of me, the more I'm realizing like a support is a big one for me.
00:00:46
Speaker
Right. And the more that I'm realizing that, holy shit, like, The experiences that we have, like how many times have we had particular experience in our life where we just let it literally define the rest of our fucking lives in the way that that's just how it is. Like, for example, but like i have two examples.
00:01:09
Speaker
So. The first one is like friendships for me. Relationships for me have been a big theme in my life where I haven't really thrived in relationships, to be honest.
00:01:20
Speaker
And I'm so grateful from all the work that I've done that I have way better relationships now, like friendships and stuff like that, than I ever did before. But there was a moment recently in my life today, today, let me say recently, where where you know, I was going through, like, like, ah I mean, I go through a lot of emotional healing, and, like, healing in general, and it's, like, literally, I feel like I'm having a dark night of the soul every fucking week, there's always something new that I'm working on, and we love it, you know what mean, like, that's just part of growth, and it's just the, you realize how fucking capable and strong you are, like, after you go through everything, and how much, like, lighter you feel, and more, uh, empowered that you feel, but,
00:02:06
Speaker
was like, basically, like, we're going through the emotional, like, wholeness. we're going through wholeness era, but, like, emotional wholeness is, like, a big piece for me in, you know, allowing myself to feel my emotions and feel good about them and not feel shitty about them and not label them as good or bad. Like, literally honor, literally the epitome of a feminine embodied woman is how in tune she is with her emotions and honoring them.
00:02:31
Speaker
So I was basically going through this, like, moment where... I was like really going through it like literally for almost the entire day um this past weekend I was like literally fucking bawling my eyes out crying like my body was hurting know what you just cry so hard like your whole body keeps hurting and then like you thought that you like literally let it all out but then like you're like you still feel so fucking sad and you're just like you're like And then it comes, it like works in waves and then it starts again. and then you're just like, like a baby, like literally crying like a baby.
00:03:07
Speaker
That was me. And I remember to that moment where I felt like, holy shit, like, you know, I would really love to have some emotional support. And I think that's something that I've always really loved to have that I did really receive from my parents,
00:03:21
Speaker
And that was like a big part of my healing with all of this. And like, I was just really loved that. And like, how fucking sad is it that I don't feel like I have that, you know, like, I just feel like so alone and it's just sucks.
00:03:36
Speaker
And so, ah it's just wild how the universe universe works and everything because, one of my friends ends up texting me and maybe she felt the pull. probably did.
00:03:48
Speaker
But I was like, yeah, and I just wish I could have someone to talk to, like, just, you know, to, like, just just hear me out, like, be there for me and just, like, let me just be, like, support me what I'm going through. And one of my friends, like, ends up, um you know, like, texting me. And, like, I remember her her saying something that triggered me for some reason. So, it like, amplified the thing even more. but in that moment, like, I instantly told her how I felt,
00:04:15
Speaker
And i was just like, oh, my God, I'm so triggered right now. Like, this is why, whatever. And it's just like just so beautiful to have friendships like that and also to become the person who expresses herself so openly like that to feel safe and to feel comfortable in doing so. And it wasn't always like that before, but I actually felt that like I just needed to like just, you know, express how I feel because I just that just triggered me.
00:04:41
Speaker
And it was just really cool to, like, see how she responded. And she was just like, oh, my God, like, I didn't know that that triggered you. And, like, something else triggered me. And it's just, like, crazy. And i'm and then, like, I was not expecting it. But then she ended up, like, FaceTiming me.
00:04:59
Speaker
like, i would say, like, half an hour later or something like that, and probably because she didn't hear from me, she just probably wanted to check in on me, and she was just like, I love you so much, like, i just want to make sure you're okay, and, you know, feel free to, like, call me if you ever need, and all of that, and I was just like,
00:05:14
Speaker
You know, I really felt so sought loved and supported at that moment. And it really helped me realize that, you know what, like, even though i have not had that my entire fucking life, for the most part, like with my family, with my friendships, like, you know, a lot of people have just like came in and then left my life, whether it was through abandonment or like, through betrayal, like so much.
00:05:39
Speaker
Here is somebody that like I've known probably like this year but I've met. it hasn't even been such a long like throughout friendship, but we've literally like I feel so safe to be held and emotionally supported. And she's like showing up for me.
00:05:55
Speaker
And that just meant a lot to me. And that really showed me that, like, no, like, that's not the fucking case. Like, even though I've had those experiences my entire life, and technically, my brain can be like, well, that's not true. Because, you know, you've had all of this happen. Like, this is too good to be true, right? How many times have we told that to ourselves, right?
00:06:16
Speaker
but then i was like, no, like, she's literally there for me that she's literally, showing me differently. And that just goes to show how much inner work that I have been doing. So sometimes I want you guys to also know that when you are doing the inner work, like you're literally like a bamboo tree, like you're literally like growing and growing and growing. Like the roots are growing so strong in that motherfucking bamboo tree until like it literally fucking jumps up and shoot straight up. And you're like, well, what even happened is because you are energetically creating that solid foundation.
00:06:50
Speaker
And so that literally shattered everything, like the beliefs that were within me, because I was like, no. And i I chose that, even though that experience happened, it was like, I was still showing up and choosing to be vulnerable and choosing to be brave and bold and like,
00:07:06
Speaker
express myself and go for that, you know, so it's always also a choice. Another example that I want to talk about, which is like super relevant and an inspiration to this episode, actually, has been my career, like my finances, my business. So As you guys know, or if you're new here and you don't know, like i literally left my tattooing business on recently, like this year, a couple months ago, where I was literally making like six figures, you know, like it was so easy to make money.
00:07:36
Speaker
i was barely doing anything. And my higher self told me like, we're done here, like no more. And so I listened, but I had no game plan. Like I literally just have money in the bank, living with my parents,
00:07:48
Speaker
And I've been wanting to move out for the longest, but like it is what it is. But I was like, no, I need to start like my podcast. I need to start building my personal brand that I want to really create um and really start helping women with their self-image and their feminine energy and start healing that within myself as well as I go deeper and deeper into healing that.
00:08:08
Speaker
Apart from all the work that I've already done around it and share everything that I do and like share my journey with everybody and help people along the way and just help people like that's always the goal. And so I was like, well, what am I going to do to like provide for myself? And so like, you know, I have a little bit of a background running ads.
00:08:26
Speaker
that I've done for other things and my other businesses. And so I was like, well, maybe I can like run ads for, you know, my tattooing business that I have. And I can just help people with marketing for that instead of like tattooing on people. And so I've been doing that and it's just been a wild roller coaster, guys. Like it's been a lot of like trial error, trial error. And I,
00:08:48
Speaker
technically haven't really made any money if anything like throughout the whole process but i have noticed that my skills are getting better and like i'm responding differently like even if you know like most people are not going to do what i'm doing like circulating money i call it circulating like so i don't say spending i say circulating so like circulating money and then like without having an income coming in and like not having a game plan like most people aren't going to do that But for me, like my sole purpose and my like personal brand is so important to me that I'm like, I need to create something that can provide for me in a way where I have the time and I can create that time for myself to focus on my personal brand. Like there is no more fucking waiting.
00:09:32
Speaker
Like we're doing it. And this is a big priority for me. So even like recently I was thinking about like, okay, Well, like I literally have done everything myself.
00:09:44
Speaker
And so I remember like I have a ah really good friend in the UK and I basically did drop shipping with her back in the day. And I remember like we were all running ads together and doing the whole thing together. And she like literally is killing it in the e-commerce business like.
00:10:00
Speaker
literally has been super successful with it. And so I learned a lot from her, you know? And so I definitely like take into account, even though I perceive her as an expert and knowing what she does I've like, I would listen to certain things that she would tell me. And I remember recently she told me that like, you know, this is what's going on in Facebook and this is what's happening. And it's like, it's not going to be so easy as you think it is. And like, you know, the biggest one apart from all of those was that you don't need to hire an agency. Like they're going to just rip you off. And i don't 100% disagree.
00:10:37
Speaker
However, this is the breaking point that I had with even something like that. So when I had my beauty business, I had basically did like at some point reach out to, you know, an agency to get support with my ads because it was just a lot like literally running a business and then managing your fucking ads. And people just think like running ads is so easy, like, bam, put up a fucking ad and you're done. Like, no, there's a lot of moving pieces going to that.
00:11:04
Speaker
So. I had hired an agency and I remember this fucking moment because I know a part of it was me not listening to my intuition. But I'm telling you, like, this is where you have to get so grounded when you make certain decisions in your life. Like, sit with them. Don't, like, try to just your ego can be very, like, oh, my God, I need the answer now. Like, this is a big part of your feminine energy of, like, trust and really sitting with yourself and giving yourself that space and time to, like,
00:11:35
Speaker
Gain clarity about your decisions and just move from trust and safety. Right. Regulated nervous system. So I at that point, like the marketing was so fucking good where I was just like, no, like these these they're telling me literally every single thing that I want to hear. i feel like they understand me, all of that.
00:11:54
Speaker
like literally invested $3,000 and within a week I fired them because I was just like, you guys, I'm literally telling you what to do. And like what they did is like they basically outsource a lot of these agencies, they outsource overseas from like people from Philippines or India or whatever to run the ads for them. And so that's how they profit. But a lot of these people like literally don't even know so much about your brand or like what they're doing. And so That was what's happening. And it's like they'll get you cheap leads, but none of them converted. and so it was just like a whole mind fuck. And so that experience really left me like feeling unsupported. And I was just like, wow, like I thought that I could trust in people to show up for me and to support me in the way that I needed. And I literally like invested three K that I'm not getting back. And like, you know, no, they did not refund me at all.
00:12:46
Speaker
And so that made me just be like, with especially with this ad situation, it just made me be like, you know what? My girl was right. And like, you can't trust any agencies at all, like no matter what. And since then, like I have had moments where I thought about reaching out for different agencies. And I had this like thing within me where I was just like,
00:13:06
Speaker
no, like, I'm scared. I don't want that to happen again. and like, you know, three k is like, literally, like, it's not a lot, a lot of money, but it it is for some people. And like, it is in a sense of when you're investing into something and you don't feel like you're, you were getting, you got what you like needed.
00:13:24
Speaker
At least that was like a great learning lesson for me. But basically what I'm trying to say is that all that to say I never pulled the trigger on it because of that one experience that left me like that. Until recently, i was like sitting with my higher self, communicating with my intuition in her. And I was just like, you know, if I am here to be a leader and I'm here to lead women and I'm here to help people and have support, receive support, then I'm not supposed to be doing everything. And I do understand why right now.
00:13:57
Speaker
I am doing the things because I do feel like there's an importance of like knowing, at least like knowing certain levels of operation in your business and knowing like certain things and how they're like meant to be done so that you can obviously like cross check and see like who's doing a good job or not. why I, for the first time I had this like shift within myself that like, you know what, even though I love my friend from the UK, like she's amazing and I do trust her.
00:14:24
Speaker
everything is a motherfucking belief. And there is a thing as a collective belief. And so like there is a collective idea that I have bought into based on my experience, based on other people's experience that solidified that belief that, oh my God, like I just cannot trust agencies or or like friends situation. Oh, I just cannot trust people to show up for me because this will happen and I got betrayed and like this, whatever, right?
00:14:51
Speaker
And that like holds you back from the version of you that you deeply like so desire and crave to feel and become for the type of person that does does trust in people that does receive support from people because you know you can or the type person that in like career for example that i Yes. No, like not everybody is. Is it 100% true that everybody is a fucking a scam artist or like does not know what they're doing or can't do a better job than me when it comes to ads? No, it's not ultimately true. None of it is actually ultimately true. So then I was like, okay, well, then what if I can become someone who is a match, someone who attracts only the best people that have the best interests,
00:15:38
Speaker
for me, like people that ah like I attract have my best interest at heart. What if I can just become a match and start to believe into that idea that that's the only kind of people that I attract and that those quality people out there are always a match for me because that's what I believe is I always attract those kind of people in my life.
00:15:59
Speaker
And so that's what I want you guys to start thinking about as well. When we all have had experiences in our life that have left us, you know,
00:16:10
Speaker
you less just feeling like I can't trust that person again. i can't receive support again. Like I'm not worthy for that. Like love and all of these fucking things when it's like, or I can't, you know, lose money again. I can't take that risk again.
00:16:25
Speaker
What if it doesn't have to repeat again because we decided that it doesn't have to, like it's gone. It's done. It's gone. What if we just change the narrative and change the story and realize that that doesn't have to be everyone's experience, including you, but that doesn't have to be the every experience of your life, unless you choose it to be.
00:16:45
Speaker
Your beliefs are always running your behaviors or actions, your thoughts. And so what if you change that into like the possibility of like, well, what if I can though? Like, what if this can happen for me? Like, what if there is a possibility?
00:16:59
Speaker
out there, even though it hasn't happened yet. And that's the key word. It hasn't happened yet. But what if it can be different? And honestly, like this all can happen for you the moment you start like shifting, you know, your self image and doing the inner child work. I truly believe like self image work is very, very correlated to inner child work.
00:17:18
Speaker
But when you start doing that, you so actually start to like heal and shift and start to respond differently to situations. So that's what I have for you guys today.
00:17:30
Speaker
This was honestly like very feminine energy of me right now because I had no fucking plan. This is something that I've been doing at least recently too. And I realized about myself that I cannot put any motherfucking expectations on myself. Any like I want to live my life truly limitless. And that's what I want to inspire other people to.
00:17:49
Speaker
that are in my world. Like, live your life limitlessly. Don't put any expectations on yourself. Life is also so boring when it's so, like, the same every fucking day. And it's not to say that, like, you know, in your day-to-day life, there will be similar things that you're doing every single day, but it's, like, it doesn't have to be in the exact order. It doesn't have to be, like,
00:18:11
Speaker
this is the day I do the thing. So this is the way it has to fucking be. That's not very feminine energy. Feminine energy is more flowy. It's more like it kind of ebbs and flows. Like it's just very in the being it's in the presence. It's in the the feelings and the moments it's very like in tune.
00:18:28
Speaker
And so for me, I, That's like literally what I've been training my brain to start doing. And so it was just funny because I was like, I was not planning a podcast episode, but like it kept for me what it feels like is like, at least right now, as I'm exploring this more is like, it just feels like it's in my head and it just keeps like going in my head, like when it comes to like things like this.
00:18:51
Speaker
And I was like, if it keeps doing that and I'm like, I got to talk about it, like I just want to talk about it. That's when I like act in the moment where I create a piece of content like a TikTok or a reel or I I'm like, no, it's longer like I want to just talk and then I'll pull up my phone and I'll like record my podcast and that'll be my podcast episode like.
00:19:11
Speaker
That is, like, where the essence and the beauty of, like, creativity and feminine energy and all of that lies. It's, like, in the moment. And it's, like, in the flow. Like, I literally had no fucking plan for this. And here we are.
00:19:24
Speaker
And I feel like I really got everything out that I wanted to say. feel like this is going to be so useful for you guys, especially, like, those of you that are on this journey to, like, healing your feminine and, like, really, you know, becoming, like, the the most...
00:19:39
Speaker
beautiful, wonderful, like loving and most like magnetic and magical person that you are like this is the essence of it all. Starts here.
00:19:49
Speaker
So I hope my examples were helpful for you. I'm pretty sure they were because they were hurt they were for me. Let me know in the DMs on Instagram. I'm more active on the DMs. Well, not as active in the DMs, but I am more active like on the stories and in the dms on social media and then like tiktok is like my content stuff but yeah hit me up in instagram let me know like your takeaways from this i'd love to hear from you i'd love to like hear what your takeaways are and also if you have any other like inspiration ideas that you want me to like talk about and dive deeper into um
00:20:23
Speaker
Let me know. I'm always open to suggestions and stuff like that. If you enjoyed this podcast episode, then leave me a five star on Apple or Spotify and share with a friend. And if you haven't subscribed yet, be sure to subscribe and make sure that your notifications are on so that whenever I post a podcast episode, you guys will be notified and you can listen to it right away.
00:20:45
Speaker
But until then, I will see you guys in the next episode. Bye.