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How most people have authenticity backwards (The key to your magentism)
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In the healing world, most people often get caught up in this idea that "the old version of me doesn't exist anymore" and YES that is true but also not fully true, because we often disregard aspects of ourselves that were always within us. This episode will shift your perception and the tools at the end will help you start to reconnect to ALL OF YOU, so that you can understand yourself better and live life more FREELY. (even as you continue to grow and expand into new versions of you). This is the key to your magnetism.
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Introduction to Feminine Energy
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Hello, everybody, and welcome back to the She's Next Level podcast. If you are ready to activate your feminine energy and your magnetism, become your best self, and live your most dreamiest life ever in a fun, feminine way, then you are in the right place. In today's podcast episode, we are going to talk all about how to reconnect with your authentic self and and how that plays a big role in becoming magnetic AF. Because if there's one thing that women want and one thing that's actually really important when it comes to harnessing more of your feminine energy, it's all about being magnetic.
Understanding Magnetism and Feminine Energy
00:00:39
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It's all about like not having to do things all yourself all the time, not having to hustle and grind, just being able to just attract everything it is that you desire with ease
00:00:51
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And that's what happens when you become magnetic AF. And so I wanted to do this episode to dive deeper into it because I've been told that I naturally exude magnetic energies actually a part of my soul gifts and high level soul gifts. And so it really like made me just want to dive deeper into it because I personally feel like it's a big piece of harnessing more of your feminine energy. It's one of the
Authenticity and Self-Love
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most important pieces besides other things, but this is like really, really key as well.
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And so I wanted to like create this podcast episode for you guys because when I really sat down with it all, what truly is magnetism? Like what actually magnetism?
00:01:35
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magnetism and i was like it's actually attraction like to me magnetism means attraction and it's not like the kind of attraction where it's like i'm hot girl like how hot are you like comparing yourself to women and comparing you know we do that a lot so we're done doing that by the way if you hear that in the background i'm outside and that's the train running by so hopefully my mic doesn't catch that but if it does That happens time to time. So just wanted to let y'all know.
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But truly, magnetism is truly the ability to attract. It is to draw in. And so that can ultimately only be activated by your feminine energy, by your authentic self.
Identity and External Influences
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And that is what we're going to talk more about today is how to harness more of your authentic self. And I'm going to talk about it in a way that not a lot of people talk about. And the way authenticity is such a big buzzword too,
00:02:35
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And I feel like the way I'm going to talk about it is really going to help you learn more about yourself and embrace more of who you are so that you can finally love yourself more and you can finally start harnessing more of your feminine magnetism and show up as her. Okay, so for those of us who are doing the inner work, right, we're into personal development, spirituality, all the good stuff.
00:02:58
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And i like I found myself asking myself, who the fuck am i And I know a lot of women are obviously also asking themselves, who are you? Because the journey and the intention and the purpose of your life is to know who the hell you are and to be who you are. like Everybody loves someone that is just fully authentically themselves and owns every single part of themselves and just expresses themselves fully and freely. And so...
00:03:26
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sometimes it can get a little tricky and it can get difficult when we have so much noise around us and so much influence around us in social media in society from our family from just our workplace that it can kind of make you i would say i wouldn't say like misaligned but like disconnected from knowing who you really are right like people don't know this but I'm going a little woo-woo into this conversation is that our thoughts, around over 90% of our thoughts are not even our own.
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Okay?
Energy Work and Authenticity
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going to just let you like marinate that in your head if this is the first time that you've ever heard this because over 90% of our thoughts are not our own. And when I learned this, I was like,
00:04:10
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Who's fucking thought am I thinking about? Like, how am I so influenced when I am like authenticity magnetic queen? Like, I... Obviously, there's deeper parts of me that I'm still exploring and that's a big intention for this year. But I'm like, that's wild. Okay? And so...
00:04:28
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unless you don't have the right tools to, you know, energetically shield yourself. And we do a lot of this, like in my work, um which I'll be having offers coming in the future.
00:04:41
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But a lot of the work that I do is a lot of energy work to help shield, not even just my thoughts, but like collectively too. And like, I have all these different shields for different things. And it's definitely been a game changer because I can literally notice the difference because I'm like a scientist and I'll like test Constantly test.
00:05:00
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That's the best way to learn things is through trial and error. But I notice in the industry, a lot of people talk about like, oh, this is the old version of me. Like she no longer exists. Right. Or like, I just don't do that anymore. Like, that's just like not me.
00:05:17
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Bitch, technically you are her. And this is why I'm gonna get into why that's not necessarily entirely true and the way that I see authenticity.
00:05:27
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And why that's not true is because the key to being your authentic self is fully owning all aspects of you. So even though you are not that version of her anymore, there are still aspects of her, meaning her personality, her traits, her attributes, the essence of who she is,
00:05:45
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even if it was like way long ago at that time, still resides within you. You've always been you. And so even though you don't do those things anymore, you don't show up in that way anymore, you still have those energies, those qualities, those traits within you. It just shows up differently in other aspects and different ways of your life. And so when people say like, oh, that old version of me doesn't exist anymore, like we're done, like...
00:06:13
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I just, it's like you're you're kind of self-neglecting yourself in a way and you're doing it subconsciously, even though like that's not their true intentions and that's not like, like I get it, but subconsciously you're still neglecting yourself because you're telling yourself like, I am not her anymore and that's not me, that was never me. And in the healing journey, if you haven't figured it out, healing never ends, okay? There's always new levels to
Authenticity in Nightlife and Alcohol
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healing.
00:06:39
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And so what's important is to accept yourself in every aspect of your healing journey because you are never then going to ever feel worthy of the things that you desire and you feel like you're gonna then have to like, heal to there or heal to the next level in order for you to receive your desires. And so being able to fully accept all parts of you is going to help you receive everything that you want and become magnetic AF. So one of the examples that I wanted to give you guys is that
00:07:12
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Your girl used to be a party girl, okay? I worked in the nightlife. I was all the things. I was a bartender. I was a bottle girl. I worked in New York City. That's where I lived for a long time. And I was in this industry. i even worked in the strip club, actually. And that was really, really fun. And all the females in the strip club are super freaking nice. And they are smart as fuck, okay?
00:07:33
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You'd be surprised. But it was just fun. Like, I got sucked into the nightlife. And I really enjoyed a lot of aspects of it. And even me being back then, i i mean, that version of me still exists within myself. So the version of me that's wild, right? i have a little chaotic side to me. I'm a little wild. OK, we like to like.
00:07:54
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If you're watching the video, I'm just like cracking up myself, looking at myself. I'm also really energized. I just have a lot of high vibe, high energy, and I love being around those kind of environments. I'm also a social but of butterfly, so I actually love people, okay? I think it's healthy and normal to love people.
00:08:15
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Another part of my soul gift is love. And so, yeah, I just like I'm super curious about people and I love to like meet different people, learn about people. and so all of those qualities and traits and attributes that I just described, that is who I am. And I was just expressing those in a nightlife environment. Right.
00:08:34
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Thriving. Don't regret any bit of it. Now that part of me still is there and it still exists, but she just expresses herself in a different way, like doing this podcast or like doing other things. I'm really into wellness. So like, I just like expressing her in different ways. I'm into dance too. So like that wild, like sexy, seductive feminine side of me really comes out.
00:08:57
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Another example that I have for you guys is alcohol. This is a really popular one because, you know, as you get healthier, as you work on yourself, even if you're into spirituality, you know what that does to your intuition and your energy.
00:09:11
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you just end up not choosing to drink anymore, right? And some people even go further by like literally 100% just removing alcohol from their life, right?
00:09:22
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And I think it's really important to like, yes, everyone has their own free choice, free will, you can do whatever you want, but it's important to understand the intention behind what you do and why.
00:09:34
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And so even though I barely drink alcohol anymore, there's still a part of me that exists that still enjoys alcohol. I love a great margarita with agave, lime juice and super high quality tequila. like That's a margarita to me on the beach.
00:09:53
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somewhere
Expressing Authenticity Fully
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sunny nice tropical and i love that part of me i love and i enjoy the cocktail like i really enjoy alcohol in whenever i have it but the differences is how often i do it and when i do it and the intention of when i do it right and for me like alcohol does help me you know like ease up a little bit get loose just like Let go of all the thoughts in my mind and just like live in the moment like there are some great things that come out of it Those are the parts of myself that I'm not neglecting I'm like owning it and that's a big piece to authenticity is owning the things that you do enjoy that you do like and just really fully embodying them and really fully allowing yourself to experience and express them openly freely because you will when you fall in love with them So essentially what I'm trying to say here is that it's not about deleting the old version of yourself. Okay.
00:10:50
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It's all about understanding how aspects of you that still exists and choosing to express them elsewhere in other areas of your life. So still allowing yourself to be who you are and just making different choices. So in my healing journey, This is how I realized how like i was cutting myself off a lot in my life of like the things that I used to do that the old version of me enjoyed doing, like ah some of the examples that I just shared.
00:11:24
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And then I realized that I was like telling myself, oh, I don't drink anymore or like, oh, I don't go out to clubs anymore or you know I don't listen to this kind of music anymore.
00:11:36
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And then I realized that I am the type of person that cannot under any circumstances restrict myself from experiencing all aspects of my life because I value freedom the most. And if you feel the same, you will also realize this.
00:11:54
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So I realized that the old version of me still enjoyed doing the things that I was doing. It was just that the intention was very different behind why I was doing them. So when I asked myself, like, do I really fully want to cut these things and aspects of me out of my life? I was like, no, I don't.
00:12:14
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Like, I want to be able to... express myself in the way that i do but i just get to make different choices my intentions are different my choices are different the way that i express myself is the same but it's just in other ways so essentially the key to reconnecting with your authentic self your 100 authentic self full authentic self is to see that the old parts of you, even when you weren't healed back then, right?
00:12:48
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Technically, we're never fully healed, like I had said before. So even the old parts of you that weren't fully healed are still a part of you. your personality, your traits, your qualities, your attributes.
00:13:01
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It's all about falling in love with them because you do need them in different aspects of your life. It's just that you're more intentional about how you express them.
00:13:13
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And so I'm going
Reframing Negative Traits and Encouragement
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to give you guys two different ways for you to start just reconnecting with yourself, getting to know yourself a little bit more. i don't know about you guys, but for me, sometimes I'm like...
00:13:26
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I've healed like I'm literally in this work like all day every day and I love it I love it so much that I don't tend to even remember like who I am a week ago because I'm just like shifting at rapid speed and I'm like even like who was I last year right so sometimes we forget who we were and so I want you guys to start reconnecting with the version of you that you may have dismissed or that you may not even remember and just start connecting with her again to help you understand like who you are.
00:14:00
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So the first thing that you're going to do is you're going to write down everything that your old version of yourself enjoy doing. Okay, so for me, it was like going out to party. um Margarita, like at the beach, travel.
00:14:17
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um Also, what else? ah like Listening to music. I love rap, love hip-hop. I find myself going back to like Eminem, 50 Cent, G-Unit stuff, like you know or even like um I guess you'd call it crunk music, like Southern like music, like Lil Jon and like Young Jeezy, all of those things. like All of that. so Like go back and like do a whole self-assessment and extract the qualities and traits from those things that you enjoy doing. So the party girl example that I gave you guys, for me it's like being a social butterfly. it was being energized, being outgoing, being seductive, being a fun time.
00:15:03
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you ever meet me in person, Bitch, we're in for a fun time. We're having fun. End of story. So the second thing that I want to give you guys, if you're ready to take it a step further, okay, we are ambitious here, is I want you to write a list of all the qualities and traits and attributes that you notice within yourself that you feel like hold you back, that you do not like.
00:15:34
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And I really like when I did this one, by the way, guys, like it really opened me up into actually embracing the other parts of myself that I would feel like, damn, like, why am I like this? Or like, this keeps happening. Some examples are overthinker, perfectionist,
00:15:55
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impatient. I've had, i will say I've had people pleasing tendencies before too, but it was like more from an approval basis. Like I've always just seeked approval. And even for like authenticity, a big part of me, like always knew who I am and always wanted to be myself. And i did the best to express a lot of who I am and just be free.
00:16:17
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But it was more from like, is it good versus like comparing, like, is it good or bad? So that's like my little trauma that I've experienced with authenticity. But write down a list of like all the things that you think that you feel like hold you back. And I would even advise using ChachiBT if you really can't like come up but with it in your head.
00:16:36
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Use ChachiBT and just write down like how many. Let me come up with a prompt for you guys. Just be like a woman, like give me 50 traits of a woman that feels like she holds herself back or that that most women have that they feel like hold themselves back or that they may not like about themselves. And just start like going down the rabbit hole because it'll help your brain just start like brainstorming.
00:17:05
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Sometimes we need that to like get some ideas flowing. And then I want you to basically, once you have the whole list, I want you to come up with three qualities that are positive, that come from having that quality, like come from being that way.
00:17:23
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So one example is the over thinker example. So three ways that I can extract the positives from that trait is that one, i have a high IQ and it gives me the ability to process info deeply.
00:17:38
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Another one is that I weigh out all my options and then I go for the best choice. Another one is that I'm very efficient in what I do and that's how I move. So I always end up finding like the best, smartest, most efficient way to do things because I'm able to like see everything in front of me.
Call to Action and Community Engagement
00:17:56
Speaker
So that is everything that I have for you guys today. If you enjoyed this podcast episode, bitch, hit me up on Instagram, okay? My Instagram is darshvibes, it's D-A-R-S-H-B-I-B-E-S. I wanna hear from you, I wanna hear all your takeaways, all your wins, any feedback, and also any topic requests that you have, because I'm here for you to help you step more into that feminine, magnetic, authentic, badass bitch energy.
00:18:26
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Start with these steps, okay? And when you're ready to receive the more advanced steps, then feel free to contact me and we can book a one-on-one coaching call and I can help you dig deeper into the things that you desire to shift to help you harness more of your feminine energy and your magnetism. My Instagram, again, darshvibes, D-A-R-S-H-V-I-B-E-S-S. And...
00:18:52
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and I'll catch you guys in the next episode. Also, leave me a five-star review, okay, on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, wherever you listen. it really helps my podcast get more out there and it also helps everybody else that find it.
00:19:07
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