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Cultivating feminine safety for ambitious women who desire to thrive while achieving their goals (6 tools to help regulate yourself there)
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The sneaky ways you're body may be signaling to you how your not feeling safe, even if you logically feel like you do. For me this popped up as "not feeling safe to rest" which i know many ambitious women can relate with. This episode is FOUNDATIONAL to help you dig deeper and find all the ways how you may not feel safe, and how to start shifting it so that you can enjoy and sustain the life you are creating! I also share tools that helped me massively mentally & physically.
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Transcript
Introduction to She's Next Level
00:00:00
Speaker
Hello everybody and welcome back to the She's Next Level podcast. It's your girl Darsh and if you are ready to step more into your feminine energy, become a high value woman to live a high value life all in a fun and feminine way and really up level in all areas of your life, then you are in the
Understanding Safety in Feminine Energy
00:00:17
Speaker
right place. Today we are going to be talking all about safety and this is such a common topic that most people talk about, especially in the feminine energy, feminine healing world. But I'm going to be sharing something with you that a lot of ambitious women struggle with, especially me. Like this is why I'm here talking to you guys about what I went through literally last week and a major lesson that I learned that I wasn't even aware of.
00:00:43
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Super excited to share that with you because you probably are not aware of it either. And if you are, you can actually do something about it because I'm also going to be sharing some of the tools that I used to help me shift literally from unregulated, like crazy unregulated to regulated within 24 hours. And that's huge because everyone lives their life in fly or fight mode or in freeze mode, which is like just nervous system language. But everyone lives their life under stress and every single day.
00:01:13
Speaker
And the purpose of this podcast episode is not to help you not feel ever stressed again or not ever feel safe again because you are going to grow and evolve and there's going to be new levels that you are going to grow into. And so that will cause you right whenever time, anytime you're getting out of your comfort zone, that is going to cause you to feel unsafe. But the point of healing the work that we do here is to help you get back into safety to get back from stress to not stress anymore as quickly as possible because then you can actually continue to move on with your life and do the things that you want to
The Role of Healing in Safety and Growth
00:01:50
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do. So the biggest aspect of healing your feminine energy and really activating more of your feminine energy, the foundation, okay? The motherfucking foundation is feeling safe.
00:02:03
Speaker
And it's not just like, oh, I feel safe here. i feel safe. Like I'm good. you can mentally think you're feeling safe. But until you truly feel safe and across all eight areas of your life, like, of course, we are tackling one area of life each time. But it always like irks me when people say like, Oh, I've already worked on that, or I don't have anxiety anymore. Or like, I don't struggle with that anymore. Bitch, yes, you do. Like you may not think of it, but you kind of do in another way. Like, and it's because again, we're constantly growing and evolving. And especially if you're someone who's ambitious, hello. If you have big dreams, big goals, then you are going to still experience some of that. It just may not be as impactful or like as um big as it did initially because you healed the foundation.
Personal Realizations and Physical Symptoms
00:02:58
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But I just find that a lot of people just feel like, yeah, we're good. We're healed. we're We're not like dealing with that anymore. And what I'm going to share with you guys, like my story behind this is going to explain why. Because I learned, especially like when I find myself like physically resting more than ever, like I definitely lived my life.
00:03:19
Speaker
through burnout like a lot in my masculine energy really like hustling and like doing the most like very extremist energy which is like the opposite of what we're doing this year um and I realized like the more I pushed the more I did the more unsafe I felt and the more burnt out I felt and And now, like I found myself in the past couple of months just like forcing myself to rest. That's how I started.
00:03:45
Speaker
Started forcing myself to sit my ass down, even if my mind was like, let's do something or like I felt weird. I felt unsafe, right? Of like anytime you're training your nervous system, your body, your mind to like start doing something differently, like you're gonna feel that uncomfortableness and that's normal, right? It is, it is. I'm not denying that.
00:04:06
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However, I thought that I was good with resting because there were days where I was resting and I physically like was chilling. Like my mind was chilling because I was technically that day that I really felt it was when I was watching a YouTube video. So I, my mental, my mind was entertained with something else. So I, guess I thought I was chilling, right? Usually anytime we find ourselves sitting down and like doing nothing, we're either on our phone still watching something and thinking that that's rest, right? Or we're talking to somebody thinking that that's rest.
00:04:43
Speaker
I feel like true rest really comes from stillness and really comes from just even being able to go out for a walk and walk around without your phone, without music, and just be in nature and actually be with it. Like not just like your mind constantly racing with thoughts and you're not actually with it because That's also happened to me too. But I also noticed the difference when it doesn't. And I'm just there and I'm just present. Like that is true safety. That is true rest. And i also just want to mention...
00:05:13
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really quickly too is that ah feeling safe to rest, which is what came up for me and what I'm gonna be talking about because I do feel like a lot of ambitious women struggle with that, is an act of self-love.
00:05:27
Speaker
And it's a lot of people don't talk about it in the way that it's like an actual self-love thing, but you'll realize it's just another level of self-love. The first level of self-love is the ability to prioritize yourself because when you prioritize your needs, you prioritize yourself, the world prioritizes you. And the more higher levels of self love that you have, it is like the best thing you can ever do to yourself. It's like a whole nother area of life that you're going to find yourself like new levels of like, how much are you really pouring into you? Like how much are you really prioritizing you?
00:06:03
Speaker
So in a sneaky way, I didn't realize that not feeling safe to rest was affecting my self-love and like affecting me physically because I didn't notice until I started feeling physical symptoms. So just a little backstory, I've been going through a herbal Chinese herbal cleanse detox type of thing And I'm doing it to help with the symptoms that I was experiencing, which is like slow digestion slow digestion, also feeling bloating symptoms. I was farting like a mother. And I feel like I've pretty much been a farter my whole life. And I'm done claiming that story because I, especially when you're out with people or
Intuition and Emotional Root Causes
00:06:45
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like even if you're on a date or something, like it's just, it's just not, it's not a fun time, but farting a lot.
00:06:53
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And the farts actually smell like crazy. I'm just like, bruh. can't believe that came out of my ass. And then burping too. And when I burp, I can actually like taste a little bit of what I ate. So I just knew something was off. Like intuitively I knew, but I just was like, okay, I'm taking, I'm doing all this physical work here and I'm taking my supplements to help me shift that.
00:07:17
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And during midway of the cleanse, I was like, why isn't anything changing? Because I actually did another cleanse. Like Took a two week break, did another cleanse, and like for another 21 days for um clearing out candida and ah like a parasite i also had like it was literally so major and so helpful for helping me like clear up all the inflammation.
00:07:38
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But yeah, this time around, it felt a little different. So I hit up one of my intuitive friends. I was like, girl, I need to do a read. Like, let's just do something here. By the way, side note with that, I can read myself.
00:07:50
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But with intuition, if you haven't trained it, or if you haven't been so connected with it, you can emotionally manipulate it sometimes. So with serious things like this, it is helpful to like have somebody else that's not emotionally attached to your stuff. to read you because then it's just more accurate it's more helpful and so I had her read me and what came up not a surprise but what came up that was causing all of these symptoms to happen was low-key like somewhere when I was a kid so there's always like an emotional root cause to any of your fucking issues and we're gonna get into that in a bit but the emotional root cause was me just not feeling safe to rest and so I was like that's interesting because I prioritize myself a lot if anything I choose myself first for like if my friends ever want to make any plans I'm like what does Darsh want to do? Like, let's suggest that. Like, I literally lead with that. i obviously have been physically resting and like giving myself that space and time to do that. Like I choose myself and I put myself first in a lot of ways, but this way, not really. And what I figured out from that whole read was that even though I was, and this is something I want you guys to pay attention to because you may not be aware of this too, is that even though you may be physically resting, your nervous system isn't safe to rest. Like your nervous system is still not feeling safe, even though if you're like literally laying the fuck down, you're feeling good.
00:09:23
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And if your nervous system does feel that way, it will show up in other aspects. So it will show up in the body then. It will show up through other symptoms that are ah like a byproduct of your nervous system not feeling safe. So if you ever have found yourself not feeling safe to slow the fuck down and rest, right?
00:09:42
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Like obviously that's a given, you know that. But physically, if you find yourself, um even from stress, like stress is a big contributor to it. And it could be mental stress, it could be physical stress, like actual body, like inflammation is a big one in the body. um It can be just like emotional stress, right? Like, especially mentally, like, if especially if you're an Aquarius like I am. it's it's ah It's a love and hate, not a hate thing, but it's like, a you know, it's a good and a bad thing. Not a bad, good or bad. I'm actually done with that language. It's just a pro and a con thing.
00:10:20
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of like being an Aquarius, having a fucking deep ass processing brain and very intelligent. But then the other end, it's like the mind just like fucking is just constantly going. And so that's also mental stress, though. And so want to keep out for that. But other like physical symptoms, like I said, low, ah slow digestion. So that's one.
00:10:41
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um Another one is bloating. a lot of women experience bloating too. So it's like bloating is another sign of you not feeling safe or also stress. So it could be like both things. But I do know that um if you are feeling stressed, that's obviously going to cause you to not feel safe. So they both go hand in hand. um Insomnia is another big one. If you find yourself like just not being able to sleep all night or even if you wake up in the middle of the night and you're just feeling like you're you're sleeping and then you wake up and then you just like have a hard time going back to sleep or if you do and then you wake up tired in the morning too then that's another cause of that even if you like got some quality sleep let's just say and then you wake up in the morning feeling tired for one that's like a sign of like
00:11:30
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um You got to check your adrenals and cortisol levels because that is a sign of that. Again, also, i just want to like quickly mention that I am not a nutritionist or anything like there's just a lot that I learn and a lot that I learned from my mentors and everybody. And so and people that I
Components of Healing and Future Programs
00:11:47
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trust. And so I really take that information where it relates with me and resonates with me and then I get to share it with everybody um and I also obviously implement and then I get to experiment and then deliver the the good stuff to you guys but those are just some signs that I want you guys to just like start paying attention to and a lot of women just like
00:12:09
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push those symptoms aside push their feelings aside push those things aside the more you do that the worse it's going to get it's not going anywhere and so do yourself a favor and just start paying attention just start with awareness don't beat yourself up about it don't be like oh my god i'm doing that again like oh i need to fix this right now a lot of women do that i used to do that a lot no just be aware Honestly, you'll be surprised how much awareness can like shift a little bit already because then you get to choose again. Then you get to like what they call like pattern interrupt, make a different choice, and then you get to like shift. A really big misconception that I want to get into that a lot of women have is that they just take physical action. And while that's great, that's a piece of the entire pie You don't just want to do that. Like they just take physical action, like taking supplements, you know, going to a fucking doctor or whatever to get,
00:13:05
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obviously like physical things to do. But the thing is, and a lot of people don't know this, is that there are three main components to 100% healing. And one of them, yes, it is physical action, but without understanding the emotional root cause, the energetic behind the the situation with your body or your mind or anything really,
00:13:28
Speaker
Because everything is ultimately energy. Everything starts with energy. And so you need to figure that out first. And you need to also make sure that you're doing the brain rewiring work around that. And then the third piece is energy work. And i would say even 95% or higher of people, the experts in the world, do not emphasize and teach about energy work and how to actually recover your energy and how to handle that piece and even rewire your memories and stuff, like how to actually handle that part.
00:14:05
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A lot of like subconscious mind coaches, nervous system coaches, they don't know this information. They don't give you this information. But honestly, it's actually a major hack and it's so essential to help accelerate your healing, but also solidify your healing so that you are not finding yourself going back into that same pattern.
00:14:24
Speaker
So what I'm saying is that you need three components and I will be creating a future program around healing and around like your self-image and just feeling whole. I will be creating a program and I will be sharing all of those components, especially the energy work. It's very important. But for now, i want you to just start paying attention to just being aware of you know, you feeling unsafe or you feeling even some of the physical symptoms that you do feel in your body. And um I will be getting into the tools a little bit later on like all the things to help you guys out with this. So don't worry, i will give that to you. um
00:15:05
Speaker
But yeah, just don't ignore it. And If you need, like ask somebody that's experienced in healing that also is aware of energy work because that's so important to help you with this. Or what I will give you guys is start asking yourself why.
00:15:22
Speaker
So it's I'm going to give you another tip here. What I mean by start asking yourself why, i want you guys to know this, is that any... ich situation any problem that you experience, the area of life that it shows up in is never the area of life where the problem is. So if you're experiencing physical symptoms like I was, my issue, most people just tackle that area of life thinking that like, I need to fix something physically to like help me shift this. No, that's not where it started. Your issue started in another area of your life.
00:15:58
Speaker
So for me, for example, it's in my family area of life. And you will start to notice as you heal, just a side note, that a lot of your trauma, a lot of like your things that are holding you back, your limiting beliefs and all of these crazy things that are holding you back from your dream motherfucking life and becoming your dreamiest self is stemming usually from family and your social area of life. And I really just say this because that's what we cared about when we were kids. And when we' we're kids, your subconscious mind up until the age of seven is the most like, like a sponge. It like literally takes everything in because ah the logical mind has not processed yet. It hasn't fully developed yet. And so it's literally taking everything as, as kids, like,
00:16:49
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you'll notice kids are literally taking everything in. They are influenced very easily. And so all of those things that were deeply programmed in you from the be very beginning stem from obviously family. You were with your family the entire majority time of your life as a kid, obviously.
00:17:06
Speaker
For most people. And then the next thing became school, right? Once we started going to school, that was social area of life. That was all the other kids that we were around. That was social. So that's just something that I've noticed um in my healing journey and just like overall.
00:17:22
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So just pay attention to that too. That's like a side little tip. So remember this, it's never the area where you're experiencing the problem, it's always coming from another area
Recognizing and Addressing Unsafe Areas
00:17:32
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of your life. And so just start asking yourself like, why?
00:17:35
Speaker
Why do I feel this way? Why do I feel this way? Why do I feel this way? Like playing the why game is the best fucking advice I'll ever give anybody because you need to get to the root.
00:17:48
Speaker
And you keep asking why until you get to the root. The emotional root is always a feeling. I don't feel enough. For me, for resting was just um I didn't feel...
00:18:01
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safe to rest because my needs weren't met because as a kid for me i was like watching tv or something it was like a memory that she like intuitively channeled but it was just like a memory of me as a kid watching tv or something and then my parents thinking that I'm okay that my needs were met so they wouldn't they didn't give me any attention they just like left but my needs where I still had needs. Like I still had I still needed them around. I still like needed something apparently. And so I equated rest with my needs not being met.
00:18:36
Speaker
So I felt like this feeling of like, I need to be on all the fucking time. So like, that's my, that was like my emotional root cause. And I'm like, obviously shifting that already. And so just get to the bottom of it. And if you find yourself, like I said, unable to get it hire somebody like get yourself into a session. If you want, you can get into a session with me. I can help help you figure that out or somebody, you know.
00:19:02
Speaker
Um, just get into a session with somebody like get that figured out before it gets worse. So so now we're going to get into the good stuff. Okay. So we're going to, i'm going to give you guys like some prompts to, I'm going to give you around like two prompts to start with. I don't want to overwhelm you because then I have some tools to give you later after this, but I want you guys to start asking yourself in what areas of my life do I find myself feeling unsafe.
00:19:33
Speaker
I want you guys to really like narrow this shit down and really just again bring awareness the entire process here like of ah just these two little like questions that I have for you guys is to give you awareness like you don't have to go and take action right away just be aware and so I want you guys to start being aware for me for example it's financially It's socially. it is spiritually. And what I mean spiritually is more about like trusting in the unknown. I know a lot of women struggle with this too, with like, why like they feel unsafe. It's like just me trusting in the unknown and like the newness. And also physically.
00:20:14
Speaker
And so for me physically was like to feel safe in resting and relaxation without feeling guilty or without feeling like my needs won't be met or without feeling like I need to be productive in order for me to get behind. I mean, in order for me to get ahead. So it's unsafe for me to relax or rest because I'm going to be behind in life. That's a lot of I'm just giving you guys some ideas so like you can kind of get digging in there, digging in the brain.
00:20:42
Speaker
Get in there, girl. You will be surprised what you find. I'd be surprised all the time. Like, damn, I can't believe that was in my brain. I would have never thought of these things. But the thing is, is you never think of these things until you start digging in there until you start asking your brain questions, which technically you're always using your intuition when you are doing this.
00:21:04
Speaker
Ladies, i just got to say like your intuition is always there. Okay, whether you've trained it like a pro like me or you haven't doesn't matter. Keep using it like keep trusting it. It gets stronger and stronger. You trust yourself more. You become the motherfucking authority of your life. Nobody can tell you shit because you already know what to do. You don't have to rely on people. You don't have to rely on anything because you know what the fuck you do. You actually feel more safe to you.
00:21:31
Speaker
Because you trust that the universe has your back, aka your higher self. That's a whole other topic for another day of all the misconceptions in the industry about that. But anyways, um start asking yourself, like, what areas of my life do I feel unsafe?
00:21:48
Speaker
Just jot them down. I want to give you guys an example of all the areas of your life so that you guys are ah familiar with that and what we talk about in my world. So you have your physical area of life, everything physical, physically that you do.
00:22:03
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um You have your mental area of life. I could probably jot this down for myself too, but like mental is how you, like your self-image. It's how you think of yourself, how you think others think of you. It's the thoughts that you have in your mind, your your beliefs, all of those things. And I actually think that a lot of people,
00:22:21
Speaker
undervalue the mental area of life. Like they don't really see the importance of it. But literally everything starts starts with a thought and a belief. So it is important. I think actually the mental area of life is like, probably like every woman has in their like, you know, areas of life that they don't feel safe.
00:22:39
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Just saying. um Spiritual area of life. That's another one. You have your career area of life. And anybody that's on their sole purpose, like that is your career area or if you just have a job that you're like working um that could be like your career area too you have your finances right that's self-explanatory then you have your family area of life and I'll just want to say that if you do live with your boyfriend or your fiance then he no longer becomes the next area which is social he actually just becomes family Then you have your social area of life. That's your friends, ah people, strangers, like just everything social.
00:23:19
Speaker
And then you have your passion hobby area of life, which is my favorite area of life. It is the motherfucking key to your magnetism, ladies. The key to just so many things, your life force energy. i will be making a whole other podcast episode about passion hobby area of life specifically because I just feel like a lot of people ignore this one the most. And this is the one that is the most impactful, especially in activating more of your feminine energy and just fucking feeling alive and lit up in life.
00:23:51
Speaker
And also magnetic AF. So these are the eight areas. Also, I would say self love is also like a separate area of your life.
Tools and Techniques for Safety and Calmness
00:24:00
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um So just look into there like you not prioritizing yourself and then in what ways like Obviously, this was a situation for me.
00:24:09
Speaker
And then the second thing I want you guys to do is once you have those areas set, I want you to then ask yourself, in what ways do I not feel safe?
00:24:20
Speaker
So taking those areas of life and then dissecting them, getting very granular and being like, okay, specifically in what ways do I not feel safe? So thinking about like situations that left you feeling unsafe, right? Or just noticing how you feel unsafe in certain ways. in that area of life.
00:24:41
Speaker
The goal of this is to find a similar pattern. It's to find a similar pattern because it will tell you what is causing you to feel unsafe. And once you have awareness of what's causing you to feel unsafe, you can actually do something about it.
00:24:55
Speaker
Okay, so this is the way of you like doing it yourself. And again, like I said, if you ever find yourself like feeling stuck around it, like You can ah book a one-on-one session with me. I can help you out with that or a friend, whoever you know, that's just like fucking do something about it. That's all I care about.
00:25:13
Speaker
And what I'm sharing with you guys, by the way, is just like little foundational things. I have so much motherfucking information in my head from all the things I've learned. And if I was to literally like but give it all to you in one go, you would not be able to do it. Your brain would be an overload, overdrive, and it would be like, I don't even know where to start. It would self-sabotage. So instead of that, I want you to just start with this foundational stuff, like start step by step um with like just getting things going. And then obviously in a later on course, like I will be helping you guys becoming more whole in your life. That is the theme of this year. So if that is something that you are wanting to do too with me.
00:25:53
Speaker
We will talk more about that in the future. That'll be coming though. So we are going to get to the nitty gritty. We are going to get to the tools that I have to share with you guys. Some of them are physical and then some of them are like mental.
00:26:05
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So feel free to play around with it. Like you don't have to do all of them. But these are some of the things that really helped me shift my unregulated ass state. And when I tell you guys how unregulated I was, like literally mental chaos,
00:26:19
Speaker
I was doing everything I fucking could to like calm the fuck down and this is why these tools really helped me because I was just like my mind was just and then obviously like your body is shaking a little bit like you feel a little anxious like anxiety can also pop up of not feeling safe and yeah and then the symptoms were like symptoming so the first thing i want to share with you guys is very simple is breath work pattern that will really help you um just ground and relax your nervous system this is actually one of the things the very first things that i do because it's the most easiest so what it will be is it'll be a six count inhale so you're going to breathe in and when i say breathe in don't breathe in with your chest like literally breathe in with your from your belly going to breathe in for six we're going go over it together
00:27:11
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You're gonna hold for two, two seconds, and then you're gonna breathe out for eight seconds. i was gonna do it with you guys, but it's kind of tough like trying to talk and do it at the same time.
00:27:23
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But again, breathe in for six through your belly, hold for two seconds, and then exhale for eight seconds. And the best way to allow yourself to slowly exhale out for eight seconds is to literally like put your mouth together like you're sucking on a straw and like breathe out like that. Like if you can see me in video, great. But if you're just listening, it's like literally like um like a kissy face, but with a little bit of like space for like ah the air to come out.
00:27:50
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And you're going to breathe out. That's the best way to let the air breathe out for eight seconds out. And do that, like I would say, four to five times very slowly. That's the key. Don't try to rush yourself through it, but do it very slowly four to five times until you really feel like, OK, we're good.
00:28:08
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The second thing that I want to share with you guys is this exercise that I saw on YouTube. And literally like when I did it, it's so simple and easy. And when I did it, it literally relaxed my body. Like I actually felt my body relax. and that was the first step of me actually like getting towards relaxing my body even more because nothing else was just i was just kind of like in a mental chaos so i'm going to show you guys in video if you're watching me on video amazing i'll do my best to explain it what you're going to do is you're going to take your thumb and you're going to it's like a behind your ear there's like a ah a little bit of a bump
00:28:51
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like there's like an indention like a bump indention in the back of your ear like your ears right here your earlobe and then you're gonna see like a if you just move a little bit to the farther away you'll see like a how do i explain this like um a little bit of a bump right and you'll literally put your thumb here and you'll go in circular motion. so you're just going to put the base of your thumb and you're going to just press lightly and go in circular motion.
00:29:25
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and you're going to do that for both of your ears behind your ears and you're just going to do that for like a minute or two and if you are you know what i'll probably do actually guys i'm gonna link the youtube video that'll probably be better because my explanation is not the best with this one and i'm fully aware of that and i'm fully okay with that so i'm gonna link the uh youtube video on the description box in the podcast and you guys just like go try it out it's so good it literally relaxed me so fucking quickly
00:29:58
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The next thing is ah literally letting yourself fucking cry out loud and like. just fucking go bananas. I literally usually scream at a pillow. So I'm not like, it's not too crazy.
00:30:14
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Let myself scream at a pillow. And then I immediately start tapping. EFT tapping is such an amazing nervous system modality. And what I really like about it is it's so simple, but it's also like a modality where you're not only like um creating safety in your nervous system, but then you're also rewiring at the same time.
00:30:34
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So it literally kills two birds in one stone.
Energy Recovery and Grounding Activities
00:30:37
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But I'll go over the tapping points with you guys if you've never done tapping before. But it's literally... me put my little mic here. Okay, so it's literally... You're going to start here.
00:30:51
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So what I usually do is I talk about how I'm feeling when I do it. So I'll go like this and I'll talk about how I'm feeling. And I'll keep tapping as I'm continuously talking about how I'm feeling. And I'll go up here on my head.
00:31:04
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And then I'll go up above my eyebrows. I'll keep talking about how I'm feeling the entire time. I'll do like two rounds of this. Right here on the side of your eyes.
00:31:17
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Under your eyes. On your cheeks. Then you're going to go right above your lips. Then you're going to go right on your chin. Tap there. Then you're going to go on your collarbone here. So you're going to tap here. Right below your collarbone.
00:31:33
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Then you're gonna go right under your armpit right here, tap there, and then you're gonna come back to where you started on the side of your hand. So you're gonna keep doing this a few times.
00:31:45
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I would say like two rounds of it, of how you're feeling. Just really pay attention to how you're feeling. That's what matters because you're tapping, you're somatically like tapping um all the pressure points in your body. They're basically like acupressure. It's like energetic acupressure for your body. So you're tapping on all the meridian points in your body to help release that energy, those emotions.
00:32:07
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And then you will go in again once you feel like you're more emotionally grounded you're then gonna go into rewiring the opposite of how you wanna feel. And I always include the I am safe, like the safety type of feeling of like, I'm safe to like, you know, um feel restful and I'm safe to rest and I'm safe till I do this. When I rest, you know, it it not only like um enhances my energy, but it enhances everybody else's energy around me. And that makes the world a better place. And like, it's just a good thing. It's such a self-love thing. It's like all these things.
00:32:43
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I would tell myself for for my example, but highly recommend EFT tapping. Okay, so I have three more tools for you guys. So the other thing is ah technically two more because if you're not familiar with energy work, which is something that, you know, if you ever want to get into, you would obviously like work with me. We can like help you with that.
00:33:03
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But the third one is energy work. So it's very, very important because it accelerates your process. It literally makes your life easier, it makes everything easier for you is what I call an energy recovery. And so what it essentially is, is basically recovering all the light body, like your literal whole body, your aura, your energy is a whole light body, right?
00:33:26
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it's made of light. We're fucking made of light, right? when you experience the trauma that you experienced and like the root cause of whenever the thing happened, a piece of your light body breaks off and stays, remains stuck in that time, space, reality, because we, there's multiple dimensions, there's multiple realities, there's multiple timeline, right? Like time does not exist in reality. Like in reality reality obviously not the reality that we experience but it does it still exists just because we can't see it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist so our piece of our light body breaks off and it remains stuck there and so until we recover all the pieces of our light body from all the time timelines all the situations all the circumstances from all the people right because even when we're engaging with people We are exchanging energy with them. So until we do a whole ass energy recovery from it, we are still going to sometimes find ourselves going back into that memory because there's still a connection there. There's still a piece of your energy that's still there that wasn't recovered fully back. And so this is so important. Big piece in your healing besides rewiring your memory too and all the other stuff. So
00:34:39
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You definitely want to do that. But again, if you don't have access to that, you can with me if we work together. And then obviously in my later offers in my programs, I will be sharing a lot of info on that, which is What most people do not share, but it's so important. It's a fucking life hack. It's a healing hack.
Training the Brain for Self-Trust
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And then the next thing is, is that I take myself outside. So that was the next thing that I did after I did the neck massage thing. Because nature is very grounding, especially getting your feet in grass, getting your body in grass.
00:35:10
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I was literally going outside, but I slowed the fuck down. So I was literally moving intentionally very slowly. like all around.
00:35:21
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And even when I was outside and like I came back home, I was very intentionally moving more slowly through everything that I was doing. When I was cooking dinner too, I played like the self-care music instead of like my hype music that I love to like play.
00:35:37
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i was playing more relaxing, like spa, like self-care type of music. to really help because music really helps to music has its own frequency. And so it really helps like, just ground your body just like feel more calm, feel more relaxed, you know, you get into a whole vibe.
00:35:51
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So we get into a whole vibe while I was cooking and I was just like moving very slowly. So that really helped me. And as I was doing that, I was asking myself, how am I safe right now? Which is the next thing I want to like give you guys for the brain rewiring. But also like to start off with your reticular activating system. Which is the part of your brain that focuses on the things that it's focusing on. That's like literally the part of your brain that will either allow information in or block it. And so it's very crucial for rewiring your brain.
00:36:24
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And so I was just like setting the intent to focus on all the ways how I'm safe. And I would just like be like, how am I safe right now? Like literally right now I'm in the car. how I would be like, how am I safe right now?
00:36:35
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And I'll literally look around my environment. I'll like my senses will be turned on and be like i'm sitting on this. Like I'm feeling fine. My body feels fine. I'm like, I'm safe. I'm in my bubble. I'm safe.
00:36:46
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So I constantly asked myself throughout the day. I was like, how am I literally safe? So that was one way in helping me like root to safety. But the other thing that was helping me to root to safety too was that I was asking myself, how am I safe in my choices right now?
00:37:02
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And that's a really big one because a lot of women struggle with decision fatigue, especially in this world. Like we have ah too many fucking choices out here. And so we get stuck in decision fatigue and that really fucks you. That makes you more stressed. That makes you feel more unsafe. that just brings more mental chaos. And so it's like, how am I safe in my choice, like training yourself and your brain to start recognizing how every single choice that you make is perfect. It's also going to help you love yourself more and not beat yourself up.
00:37:32
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how Every single choice that you make is literally perfect. Like you can start small ways. It doesn't have to be, it doesn't have to be big decisions. It can literally be your food choice how am i safe in my choice right now i'm just i'm deciding to eat pasta over this meal whatever meal that you're eating or how am i safe right now by going deciding to go to the gym versus going to the cafe or like whatever like how am i safe right now going to go take a shower literally how am i so how is that choice safe like it sounds
00:38:07
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stupid and crazy like it sounds like okay that's not a big deal but your brain needs to see how every single thing you do like the small things are safe for you because that's really going to help you feel safer in the bigger things and the bigger decisions in your life but just training yourself to see how you're safe in your choice is also going to help you trust yourself more you're training yourself that every single decision you make is safe and it's safe to rest, right? safe to That's where we're going back to. At least for me, I am. And I know if you're somebody that's an ambitious woman that has also been in your masculine for so long, you're like ready to like thrive in your feminine, and do things in a feminine way and still be able to thrive. Like this is going to be so important for you.
00:38:53
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So these are the tools that I have for you guys.
Conclusion and Listener Engagement
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Thank you so much for tuning in Please let me know. how these tools work out for you, how this episode was for you, What relevations did you have?
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ah what you took away? I love hearing from you guys and i love to hear about all your wins too. So hit me up on Instagram. That's where I'm most active. I'm also on TikTok, but I'm more active on Instagram DMs. so ah my Instagram is darshvibes. So it's D-A-R-S-H and then V-I-B-E-S-S.
00:39:31
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And then if you have like also a topic request or like anything else, you can also let me know. I'm an open book. I'm an open mind. And then also share this episode with your fellow female BFF. Okay.
00:39:46
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00:40:05
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I love you guys. And I will catch you guys in the next episode. Bye!