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The feminine formula to feeling ENOUGH (2 missing pieces that make it easier, fun & efficient)
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99.99999% of women have struggled with not feeling ENOUGH or GOOD ENOUGH (which stems from enough) throughout their lives, even as you continue to grow in new levels. I've been working on my relationship with enoughness extensively for the past couple of months implementing various ways of embodying, integrating & healing my relationship with enoughness and im SOOO EXCITEDDD to share 2 of the core foundational pieces that help cultivate this, in a fun feminine way.
There is more to this, but i want you to start with these for now. I will in the near future be creating a self image mastery program as i am in the LAB experimenting and creating the most efficient, fun hacks to uplevel your self esteem, confidence, & self love AKA unleashing your inner AUTHENTIC bad b*tch.
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Introduction and Personal Growth
00:00:00
Speaker
Hello everybody and welcome to the She's Next Level podcast. I am so excited to talk about today's topic and I just want to like kind of catch up with you guys.
00:00:11
Speaker
I know that I haven't been the most consistent with you know posting my podcast episodes and all of that stuff but honestly i am not mad about it. Like I've really been you know sitting around this idea of like how do I want to create success for myself? How do I want to build my business, my podcast, my brand?
00:00:31
Speaker
And the more I think about this, and I think it's so important for everybody to do, the more I realize, like, I sometimes get caught up with what everyone's doing and the way people are doing things, because there's so many ways, like I always say, there's like a shit ton of ways, like a thousand ways to create success and create a business that works for you.
00:00:54
Speaker
And so it can get a little like sidetracking when you're like noticing, oh, like I like the way she does this or that whatever. But I'm like, I've then I forget to check in and that's what I'm doing more now is like, I'm like, okay, but is that what really feels juicy to me? Because I am not that person.
00:01:12
Speaker
Like I am me, bitch. Like i I'm a lot of things. Yeah. So I've been really sitting with that. And I've just been like, as we're getting to the end of the year, just been sitting with myself and reflecting upon this year. And honestly, guys, like I have grown so much with all the inner work that I do, which I absolutely love because I'll tell you one thing that I have not felt until recently from this entire fucking year that I've been doing all the inner work is I finally fucking get the one thing that people talk about.
00:01:44
Speaker
You know, like that one thing that people talk about and you're just like, I don't get it though. Like I want to get it and I don't get it until you finally experience it and yeah it just shifts for you. For me, the topic we're going to talk about is this, but also I've just been feeling this like sense of ease and the sense of like, I care about more about how I feel every single thing that I do and how I live than anything else outside of me. And that's just been so beautiful to feel and witness because you take a sense of your power back when you do that.
Exploring 'Enoughness'
00:02:16
Speaker
You know you no longer your self-worth to everything around you or your achievements or the way people show up for you.
00:02:25
Speaker
You know, whether you have a lot of friends or you don't really have that many friends or, you know, whatever it is, whatever it is. So it's just funny because I feel like every I feel like I'm like a brand new bitch, like every fucking week. Like my energy is just always shifting and I'm changing and I'm getting to learn more about myself and share that with you guys.
00:02:50
Speaker
So that's just a little update. You know, I'm still figuring out how I want to go about the podcast. I want to go about the business, like what it is that I want to offer to you guys, because I'm not just one thing. And I have a lot of experience in so many different aspects of life and like so many things. So I'm like, we're going to get to it, though.
00:03:08
Speaker
We're going to get to it. um But anyways, let's get into the episode today. This topic is so near and dear to me honestly because I have been working on my relationship with enoughness for a long time <unk> this year But subconsciously, probably my entire fucking life, and I just never realized how not enough I haven't felt.
00:03:35
Speaker
And I honestly feel like you guys can relate. Like if you are you're if you're someone that listens to my podcast, you're probably someone who is ambitious, who wants to achieve a lot in life, and who wants to do it in a soft girl way. Like you don't want to be doing the most anymore. Maybe you have like me in the past.
00:03:52
Speaker
and you're done doing that. You want to like just become your best, most badass, worthiest self. like Why the fuck not? We're living this one life. Why the fuck not? And you're driven.
00:04:02
Speaker
you know like you're All of these things. And I'm pretty sure that maybe you don't you feel so much of it now, or maybe you're not aware of it, and you probably are now, we're talking about it. or maybe you've but you've just been continuously struggling with it, whatever it is.
00:04:21
Speaker
Like every woman has dealt with this from societal programming and the way the world is set up. Every fucking woman that have existed on earth has dealt with this. So i don't care how much work that you've done. I'm still fucking doing the work. I'm in it daily in and out. And I'm still, you know,
00:04:40
Speaker
finding new things and new ways and new levels.
Foundations of Enoughness
00:04:43
Speaker
There's always going to be new levels of this. But I really wanted to share, you know, the the two foundations, like the two missing ingredients to creating enoughness and and cultivating more of that feeling of enoughness that occurred to me, actually.
00:05:00
Speaker
from I forgot what podcast episode I was listening to actually had nothing to do with, you know, self-image self image, self concept, like mindset work. It actually was a podcast around your relationship with food. And it was something around body healing and physical self image, which has been important for me.
00:05:17
Speaker
But it was something that lady had said in the podcast where it just fucking clicked for me and she didn't connect the dots like I did for enoughness. But I was like, oh my god, this makes so much sense. And I was like, i have to fucking get this down. i have to start implementing these realizations that I've had in my life.
00:05:37
Speaker
And since then, i have been doing it and I feel really fucking good. I've shared it with some of my friends too. And they're like, oh my god, I can't believe it. This is it. So I wanna share this with you guys um because I do feel like it's gonna help you a lot with just like shifting this feeling of enoughness that we feel, whether it's feeling smart enough or pretty enough or doing enough or anything that you want to have in your life and you just feel like you just don't have enough or you aren't enough or you're just not good enough in creating it or having it, period.
00:06:09
Speaker
Because at the end of the day, Everything is a relationship. Like everything is a relationship with what you have in your life. And that's how things show up for you. So everything's a relationship. Like if you don't feel enough, then you're going to get that reflected back to you and all the other eight areas of your life. And I will be going into the eight areas of your life later.
00:06:33
Speaker
um but I just kind of want to kind of solidify this first before we get into the good stuff, because I... I'm so excited to share with you guys. Like this has been a game changer for me.
00:06:44
Speaker
And you know why it's important to shift this feeling of enoughness is because it you won't ever be fully satisfied in your life and you won't ever feel happy in your life if you don't.
00:07:00
Speaker
Okay, I'm gonna take a sip of orange juice.
00:07:05
Speaker
This is my favorite. See, I'm nourishing myself right now. Just like a little hint, hint, hint. But anyways, but yeah, like you won't feel 100% happy, satisfied. Like you'll feel like something's always missing. Like you won't really feel like you're ever gonna get to where you want to be because it's a feeling that you're chasing that's a void and that it's like missing in your life because you haven't filled that void up.
00:07:34
Speaker
And so if you don't shift this in your life, then you're you're never going to be happy no matter what you achieve and what you have. And that's what happens to a lot of women that are ambitious, including me. This has happened to me in the past and has what led me into this entire self-image concept, you know, healing my relationship with myself, like learning how to train my intuition so I can trust myself more, like actually doing the things that i want to do and not, you know,
00:08:03
Speaker
having so much of my worth attached to what I have and like this image that I had portrayed in the world for so long. And it just had led me to like stripping away all the layers that I had put ah like in front of myself and having people perceive me a certain way and just feeling wanting to be in control of life and not trusting in life all of these fucking things, guys.
00:08:26
Speaker
You know, okay, you know, you're struggling with this. If you have spent a lot of time in your masculine energy, like a lot of women, it's kind of unfortunately normal for a lot of women to have dealt with, you know, being in their masculine energy for longer than they ever need to. And it's not about getting rid of your masculine energy, but it's about leading your masculine energy with your feminine. It's not discounting the feminine. The feminine matters more than you know.
00:08:54
Speaker
and I'm speaking from experience as I'm implementing and shifting and healing that aspect of my my feminine energy more and more. And I start to notice how efficiency, first of all, which is my favorite word, and how ah much more fun life is like to be a woman, to have this fucking feminine power that we have and then create with our masculine that we do, like having this synergy and balance.
00:09:21
Speaker
So You also may be struggling with enoughness if you have a hard time relaxing or resting. this is This was a big one for me. I've actually had to, as I was training myself to relax and rest more, I've had to force myself. There are some days where I force myself more than others. but I've had to force myself to like sit the fuck down and not do anything.
00:09:45
Speaker
How many you guys have ever done that and just feel okay and just feel present and just feel good by just like sitting down and doing nothing? No phone, literally. Like a lot of women struggle with that. We're so like fucking tied to our phones.
00:10:00
Speaker
um But that is also a case of you not feeling, ah having a hard time feeling enough. And because like you're you're always constantly like, oh, did I do this? Or I need to do this? Or like that wasn't enough that I did. Like you're not allowing yourself to relax.
00:10:15
Speaker
um Another indicator of you you, know, not feeling enough is you being hard on yourself. So being hard on yourself, if you didn't do everything that you wanted to do on your to do list, bitch, who the fuck Who the fuck cares? I had to tell this to myself like a thousand fucking times.
00:10:35
Speaker
I still do. But it's like, Who the fuck cares if you didn't finish everything on your to-do list? Like the energy and the intention behind what you do is going to deliver the potency of the results that you receive anyways versus just trying to take action, mechanical action to get so much shit done to prove to yourself that, oh my God, I've finally done enough.
00:10:56
Speaker
But then even then it still doesn't feel fucking enough. So we need to cut that shit out. If you're doing that, you need to cut that shit out now. Um, also another, like, obviously this is a big one that I touched upon is, um, if you've attached your sense of, you know, worth your self worth and your sense of purpose and value and importance on success and achievements, um,
00:11:21
Speaker
This is definitely a big one. i feel like a lot of people are unconscious of this, but they do do it because you wouldn't know until you lose the thing that you're dependent on.
00:11:32
Speaker
Like, you know, money, for example, like it was a big fucking step for me. to leave my six-figure beauty business that I had that I've worked on for like two years and building up where I still have clients till this day like even till now I still have clients hitting me up which is like literally it was a high ticket service so thousands of dollars and I'm saying no I'm I'm still choosing to do the things that I want to do finally for myself that feels good to
Practical Steps to Embrace Enoughness
00:12:02
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me.
00:12:02
Speaker
Now, granted, everyone's in a situation to do that because I do have like money in the bank and I'm like very mindful of everything. i still don't feel any different about myself with the success that I've had from that business to where I am right now.
00:12:17
Speaker
you know, still in my, um as building in my personal brand. Like I don't, there's the difference of the feelings is not different. And that's the point is most people would probably feel like, Oh my God, I'm starting over. And like, I don't feel like I'm credible enough or I don't feel like whatever. No, like if anything,
00:12:36
Speaker
You're even more credible and you're even more experienced because you're never starting over from zero. You're always starting from experience. You carry your energy. You carry yourself with you. And you are the thing that makes the things work, not the other way around.
00:12:50
Speaker
had to get that point across because feel like... It's a big theme that I've worked on in my life, and I feel like a lot of people don't realize it, but that feeling enoughness really does, you know, stem from that, too.
00:13:02
Speaker
Also, if you have like a perfectionist type of mindset and really perfectionist type of mindset, people like ah They just fear a feeling of rejection and like failure and like feeling like, you know, they're never going to amount to anything because they truly deep down don't really fully believe in themselves.
00:13:20
Speaker
And so even with that, that can show up in this feeling of not enoughness. Another one I wanted to point out is overcompensation. So if you find yourself, this is a sneaky one, but if you find yourself, you know, overcompensating with like over explaining things where it doesn't need to be extended and and, you know, people get what the fuck you mean um with even just to be like understood.
00:13:45
Speaker
Also avoidance. So if you find yourself like avoiding difficult conversations or situations because you're scared of rejection, the underlying thing, you know, you always want to look at the underlying things. It's like you're scared of rejection. Then that is also a feeling of you not feeling enough and dealing with that enoughness. Because if you did feel good enough, if you felt enough, then you wouldn't feel the need to explain. You wouldn't feel the need to avoid anything because you're good either way like you know that you have you and you know that you are enough and you've done enough there's a quote that I heard about in a podcast that I listened to a while back and I want to bring it back because I felt like it was so good and I it was manifestation babe oh my god
00:14:34
Speaker
I remember now it was manifestation, babe. Fucking love her. um And she did an episode around something around enoughness that had popped up or someone asked a question. And this quote that was shared really hit me and really resonated with me and helped me so much at that time that I want to share with you guys. And this is the quote.
00:14:53
Speaker
It is enough is not a quantity or a number or an amount. It's a relationship to what you already have. okay like me motherfucking repeat that over again because oh it was so good when I heard it.
00:15:08
Speaker
I was like, I need to hear this shit like a thousand times. Enough is not a quantity. number amount it's a relationship to what you already have and and i'm gonna add that it's also a relationship to who you already are my god Because when you know your innate value and you see it, you recognize it, you know who you are and you already feel like you have enough, you're grateful. Gratitude is a big one here.
00:15:40
Speaker
You're grateful for what you have. And there's a big difference, by the way. I want to make a distinction here with gratitude because everyone talks about gratitude like we've heard it, we get it.
00:15:52
Speaker
But There's a big difference and there's a nuance in feeling grateful for what you have, but then still allowing yourself to to want more and to have more.
00:16:04
Speaker
And that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that. But how you actually start to do that, and this is what I've been doing that's been really helpful for me, is actually starting to... celebrate like everything that I do celebrating myself being proud of myself like celebrating all of my achievements because by you doing that you are already appreciating and that's another one appreciating the things that you do the things that you have celebrating what you already have appreciating it and then in that energy actually motivates
00:16:38
Speaker
see you indirectly it motivates you to continue growing and creating more but it's from a balanced place so you can feel grateful for what you have and feel like you have enough like ah like you have enough to support yourself you have enough to do whatever you want like you have enough skills and talents and ability you have enough trust within yourself to do the damn thing and create more from that place so i just wanted to give you the guys that. I mentioned that because that is gonna be an aspect of our foundation, but how do we actually start shifting this void and feeling to feel good enough as you already are in everything that you do?
00:17:23
Speaker
Here's what we're going to break down. Get ready for this. But before before I give you the good stuff, I do have a little homework for you guys and exercise because it's going to be super helpful. I feel like awareness is so important and often underlooked.
00:17:42
Speaker
And i just want you to, before we start shifting this, I want you to just have an awareness of like, ho Make a list. Okay, I want you to make a list be honest with yourself and make a list of all the eight areas of your life where you have this feeling come up for you where you feel like You know, you're not doing enough. It's always a big one like you're not doing enough. You don't have enough You don't feel enough to receive You know more success or more love or whatever it is that you want
00:18:13
Speaker
And the eight areas of your life, by the way, are your, um the first one is your mental area of life. So that's like all your thoughts, what you believe about yourself, like, you know, are you hyping yourself up or not? Are you beating yourself up? Whatever.
00:18:28
Speaker
The second area is physical. So physical area is like all the physical things that you do. Also your body. Your third area of life is spiritual. So the spiritual area of life is like, you know, your intuition, your trust with yourself and with source.
00:18:45
Speaker
I call God source, same shit. Doesn't matter what religion you are. Then you have your ah social area of life.
00:18:56
Speaker
So social area of life is basically all your friends, your family, like i not family separate, actually, but you're all your friends, your relationships, usually friends and like boyfriend, girlfriend kind of counts for that too.
00:19:07
Speaker
Then you have your career area of life. So your career area, obviously, duh, that's that. You have your finances. finances are separate. So that this is like your relationship with money. This is really important, actually.
00:19:21
Speaker
I know it's a big thing for people. So a relationship with money, then you have your family. So your family is your family and then also your husband and or if you do live with your boyfriend or girlfriend that actually ends up counting as family.
00:19:33
Speaker
um And then you have the biggest area that most people dismiss and ignore, which is your passion hobbies area of life. And it's my favorite area, honestly, because I love doing I love having fun.
00:19:45
Speaker
Like fun is literally my middle name. So. passion hobbies is basically anything that you do that is for you and you do it because not that you get paid for it it's just because you do it for you and it feels fun for you and it lights you up and you also find you also like the passion hobby is also something that challenges you a bit helps you grow but it's not something that's like an expectation that you have of it it's just pure fun and enjoyment
00:20:18
Speaker
All right. So these are the all eight areas of your life. want you
Nourishment and Fulfillment in Life
00:20:21
Speaker
to make a list, go down through all of them and just get aware and notice if there's a theme that's occurring in like you'll usually have like this will probably show up for you in the areas that you value about the most and that you care about the most because there's obviously an emotional attachment to it, some level of attachment. So just pay attention to that.
00:20:41
Speaker
um We're going to hold that off for now. And then there's basically going to be the two missing things that you want to start to recognize. And we're going to get into more about like how to implement everything.
00:20:56
Speaker
But these are going to be the foundations. There's more layers to feeling enoughness because I again, I've been working on this for a while. And as I'm discovering different aspects of what creates enoughness, I'll obviously be sharing more with you guys about that. But I want to start you guys off with these two first because honestly with everything, the foundations are always going to be the foundations and you can't really get to anywhere until you layer the foundations in.
00:21:22
Speaker
So the but two things that I want to share with you guys that create this feeling of enoughness is lies in fulfillment and nourishment.
00:21:34
Speaker
And I'm going to start to break down like each of them and give you guys a little bit more context about like what it means and what it looks like so the first we're going to start with is nourishment okay so just it's just funny because i feel like when we think about nourishment we go straight to food right like food is something that we use daily that we nourish ourselves with right And whatever it could be, like maybe, you know, you think that, you know, you're going to eat better or you're going to eat more of the food you enjoy to nourish yourself. That is not the case. And that maybe some place that we can start with to, like, notice how our relationship with with food, because it does tell us like what our relationship with other things are, because how your relationship with something in one place is how it is in other places as well.
00:22:27
Speaker
But you do want to pay attention to that. But like you don't want to make it like the way the only way that you get your nourishment. So, for example, for me, i started to notice and I want you to start noticing this when you like you can start with food and start noticing how you relate with food.
00:22:46
Speaker
So for me, for example, I would eat really fast with food. And it's something that I still like, I'm consciously finding myself doing. So I'm paying attention to it. But I find myself eating fast.
00:22:58
Speaker
I also like find myself eating way more than I my body really needed. And it would make me feel like like full to the point where I would feel uncomfortable because I was like, oh, my God, I just love this food so much. And I just need more and more and more because it's not enough because I wasn't satisfied.
00:23:18
Speaker
The key word satisfied. So I would do that. And also I found myself like was not present. So I'd find myself like either, you know, watching a movie or listening to a podcast, which there's nothing really wrong with that.
00:23:32
Speaker
But I really noticed a difference when I started to be more present when I eat. So like I'll throw my phone away. I'll sit there. I will just be there and I'll notice if you've done this before yourself, like I'll notice my thoughts and I'll just like notice what's in my head and I'll notice like What am I doing? Am I fully being present? Or am I like in enjoying this?
00:23:55
Speaker
You know, even enjoying the like sensations and the taste of what you're eating fully being with it. Or am I just like trying to rush through because I have some shit to do and I'm like, I'm not like allowing myself to be nourished.
00:24:08
Speaker
Now I will say yes, food is one way but I encourage you guys and this is how I really helped. Like what really helped me to like feel more nourished in my life externally from food because you don't just want to rely on that.
00:24:24
Speaker
That's not also a healthy way to like have a relationship with food either. But i'm this is like what I started doing to have like actually help me nourish myself outside of food.
00:24:38
Speaker
And that is in your passionate hobbies. So, you know, this is something that I prioritize like every week, my passion hobby. So one of mine is dance. And whether I go to a dance class or sometimes I'll just like dance at home if I can't go to a dance class, but I'll literally like allow myself to...
00:24:56
Speaker
feel that like that pleasure and that joy that thing that just fills your cup up when it is that you do your passion and hobbies and that's what really creates that nourishment for you and if you're not doing this like you start to become that bitter because you're not giving yourself what you need you're not prioritizing yourself which we know is self-love if you didn't know now you know so Find out what that is for you.
00:25:23
Speaker
I've also even started to explore the idea of like stress books. They're basically like adult coloring books to help with stress or whatever. so like also make it more of a habit to like not be on my phone like maybe an hour or two hours before bed.
00:25:42
Speaker
I know that I'm not doing that every fucking night but I am like being more intentional with like you know doing that. Also um i also reward myself so i do nourish myself by rewarding myself when i do like a lot of tasks for the day or if i do like a hard task where i don't feel like doing but i end up doing like i'm nourishing myself by rewarding myself sometimes i'll go to the um the park and i'll go on the swings because i love doing that like i love being a fucking kid i'm forever kid
00:26:15
Speaker
um Or I'll go to a cafe. Like I'll go to like a new cafe that I haven't been to and I'll just like go explore. Like I'm like door the explorer over here. Like I just love being outside.
00:26:29
Speaker
So whatever that is for you, like I want you to start noticing all the ways and how you can nourish yourself because when you nourish yourself, you give yourself what you need. You start to feel the sense of enoughness.
00:26:40
Speaker
Because you don't feel like you need, you're not lacking anything. You're not needing anything else outside of you. And you feel good. Like you feel like your cup is full. Okay. So the second thing we're going to dive into is fulfillment.
00:26:54
Speaker
And it's interesting because like nourishment was so like easy for me to understand. But fulfillment was something that like it kind of took me a bit to understand. I don't know why. Like I don't know if it's just me.
00:27:06
Speaker
or if you guys feel the same way, but like, i was like, okay, but like, there's something deeper. We need to dig deeper into that for me to like get my brain behind this. So when I dug deeper, like what comes like everything's in layers, right? There's always like an emotional root cause, like an emotion under an emotion under an emotion. When you get to the fucking root, you know that that's the thing that you need that's causing all the other things.
00:27:30
Speaker
So when I think fulfillment, right? Fulfillment comes from like a feeling of like you feeling in love with your life, right? Like you feel fulfilled when you feel in love and you're romanticizing your life and like You feel like you're contributing in life, which is another one, right? Because we all want to feel like important. Like we all want to feel like we're we're like moving on purpose, right? And so that was basically what I got, what was underneath fulfillment.
00:28:01
Speaker
I mean, I guess they're kind of interchangeable, but like... When I think of purpose, when I'm in purpose, when I'm on purpose, then I do feel fulfilled because everything that I'm doing has an intention and a meaning behind it. And I feel like I'm contributing in some way.
00:28:18
Speaker
So I'm tying this, this ties this into enoughness. because it's not about like the amount of what you do even if you're on purpose even if you love what you do it's the potency of what you do that feels purposeful for you so i started doing this when i started noticing like when i was doing things from like a should energy versus a desire energy and there's a big difference right Um, one is based on like, I feel like the biggest difference for me that I understand this is like where the should energy feels like dreadful.
00:28:56
Speaker
And you'll even like, let's just say, even if there's things that you need to get done that, you know, you need to get done that you don't have energy for it. But you're just like, yeah, it's just kind of like a whatever, like i know I need to get this done. Just like even to bring some of that into you, like that little sense of purpose back to that, like just just ask yourself, like, what is this gift bringing me, though? Like, what is this giving me?
00:29:21
Speaker
What does this bring to me? And why is it worth it? Because when you start to realize your why and your meaning behind what you do, even on the things that you don't really enjoy, but you see like the the value of it and you see why it's so important, you literally like feel so differently about it. And you start to bring some of that sparkly energy that that for fulfillment that purpose behind everything that you do so just pay attention to that even on the things that you may not feel like oh lit up about and then also like desire energy for me has really just been like
00:30:00
Speaker
you know, expansion energy. So even when I take like, you know, aligned action, like they say in the manifestation world, like aligned action, for me, it's also like this energy of like, oh my God, I wonder what else could be of this? Like, this feels so expansive. Like, you know, what could this turn into? Like, it's it's a very curiosity type of energy.
00:30:21
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and so i've noticed that ah that to be like a big difference between li know you know like something that i know i should i gotta do because it's gonna bring me something versus i just want to do this no matter what the fuck happens with it but it just feels so good to me so that's a big difference something to like pay attention to because that can cause that that whole relationship between should and desire can cause this feeling this disconnect of um enoughness So I guess all I'm trying to say is just be more intentional.
00:30:53
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I'd even say like the days where you have like lazy moments where you're just like, I feel like being a lazy bitch right now and don't feel like doing anything. How can you still get yourself to feel fulfilled and nourished that day? Well, first of all, you're definitely nourishing yourself because you're filling your cup up, you're resting, you know, you you when you realize, bitch, let me just say this.
00:31:13
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Gotta to get this out. When you realize that your energy, your intention behind your energy is what creates every fucking thing. When you realize how important your energy is, no matter of what, like over for everything, you will do what the fuck you gotta do to nourish yourself, to put yourself first, to just like optimize that shit, to like do what you need to do by prioritizing that.
Living Intentionally and Community Engagement
00:31:43
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So Like whenever you have a lazy girl moment and you're like, well, what have I done today? Like, i don't feel like I've done anything. Well, you've done enough. And want you to start thinking about all the ways where you've already done enough by taking a shower, by getting out of bed, by nourishing yourself with food.
00:32:01
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Like how is all of that still fulfilling? By sitting your ass down and resting, how is that still fulfilling? Right. You're allowing yourself to be with yourself. Who knows when when you were going to get that, if you're going get that genius idea that makes millions for you one day.
00:32:17
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and you did that just by sitting your ass down and, and you know, just doing that. Like you never know. So i just want you to remember that. The importance of your energy management is what I call it. Like my energetic management.
00:32:31
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Your energy literally creates everything. So why are we not prioritizing that shit? I feel like I've been on a little ramble here, but it's okay. Because I really just like wanted to give you guys the juice, the gems.
00:32:44
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And I'm going to leave you guys with some action steps. You know, these are things that we do to rewire our brain to start noticing more and more of the things that we talked about.
00:32:55
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And that's actually what's going to move the needle in creating those shifts for you and we do it in small, small ways. So I wanted to give you three different perspective shifts and also like things to like tell your brain to set an intention to tell your brain to like notice throughout the day um so that you can start to cultivate this feeling of enoughness through these things. And these are again, like I said, just foundations.
00:33:21
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um There's gonna be more layers to this and I feel like, cause enoughness is such a broad topic And there's so much that comes to it, just like unconditional love, for example. But I just want you guys to like get started with this and start to notice these shifts within yourself, just like I have, because it feels so good.
00:33:39
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And I'm not saying that every day is rainbows and roses, because there will be days where I'm like triggered and I'm feeling that shit again. But at least I know what to do. And at least I know how to shift my energy, work through it, obviously feel your emotions and all of that. But then I know what to do after that.
00:33:55
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So the first thing is, is I want you to start noticing and start asking yourself in your brain, how am I nourished today? Just ask yourself that. How am I nourished today?
00:34:07
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Obviously, food is really easy. But what else did you do that felt good to you, that filled your cup? Maybe you don't really take breaks with, you know, your work and whatever you do.
00:34:18
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So how can you start to cultivate that into your day to day? Like, Maybe don't sit your ass on the computer for hours and hours straight and instead take breaks in between to nourish yourself.
00:34:31
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Go outside, get some sun in, go for a walk or maybe dance, you know, listen to music, just vibe out, maybe catch up with some friends, whatever it is that you want to do. I actually do this myself. Like I one of my toxic traits is putting my phone on. Do not disturb like literally all day, every day.
00:34:50
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and then the weekends, it's on sleep mode. And it's just because like I like to be more intentional with my time and energy. And I know that I can get distracted.
00:35:02
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I can tend to be, I'm getting better with that, but I can. And so I stopped doing that by just having my shit on do not disturb. And then I then i choose to decide when to respond to everybody at once.
00:35:15
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And so I do that on my breaks because that feels good, right? Like connecting with your friends and connecting with people. So that's like something that you can do. Get creative with it. You know you more than anybody else. and You know what you need.
00:35:26
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And then the second thing is another thing to ask yourself and get your brain behind and start noticing is how have I done enough today? How have I done enough today?
00:35:37
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What is what I've done enough today? And I want you to with this one, I want you to actually instead of listing out all of the things that you'd probably list out in what you've done already,
00:35:48
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I want you to list out the one thing, the one thing that felt the most fulfilling to you. And I kid you not, this is gonna be the most like, healing and shifting thing.
00:36:03
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When you start to do this, you'll realize how you start to already start to feel enough and you feel like you've done enough because you've already created this sense of fulfillment by picking the one thing that is like, I always say the needle moving thing for you, whatever it is, but the thing that lights you up, the thing that feels good, the thing that feels like it was worth it for you.
00:36:22
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Like maybe it is a big task that you know you needed to do. Maybe like for me, it's taxes. Like it usually comes like, Maybe the behind the scene computer work, the boring stuff.
00:36:33
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But it's like that thing was worth it for me to do because I did it. I showed up for myself and it feels fulfilling because I did it. Like it's done. i did that. So start obviously celebrate yourself. But then obviously like that's going to create a feeling of fulfillment and how you've done enough because you showed up for yourself like you did the thing.
00:36:55
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It was a big thing for you to do. And that was already enough as it is. So that's something else. And then the third thing I want you guys to notice and start to implement is how is everything you do have a purpose so this is going to help you with feeling more purposeful in your life like i know it's kind of similar to fulfillment but you still want to start to notice like everything you do has a purpose and this is also going to help you like be more intentional with your time and energy as well because you're not going to be just like all over the place you're going to be obviously getting more shit done
00:37:34
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And you're going to be more intentional about it. You're going to actually, it's going to help you tap into that efficiency. and I feel like everyone has this within them. They just haven't activated it yet. When you learn how to make life efficient and like you just get shit done, you get to where you want to be without doing the most, like it's just ah such a good feeling.
00:37:55
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But I want you guys to notice that even purpose can feel like you know you went to the coffee shop and that was purposeful because you you literally circulated your money at the coffee shop and you give them purpose by investing into their business so it can be stuff like that too but i want you guys to like start with these three And want to know, like, I want to know what you took away from this podcast episode.
00:38:24
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I know there's a lot that we cover, a lot that I talked about, but I really do feel like implementing these things is really going to help you in shifting your relationship with enoughness. I know it has for me.
00:38:36
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And so I'm just excited to hear, you know, what it does for you. Please reach out to me on Instagram. The thing is, it's really interesting. I'm more active on TikTok, like posting wise, because it's so fun.
00:38:50
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But I am available on my Instagram DMs. So reach out to me and let me know like what you took away from this podcast episode. If you also like want me to touch upon anything, you know, I love podcast episode requests because like I have a shit ton of things I want to talk about.
00:39:05
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But obviously, like I also want to help you guys out and like see what it is that you need from me. So reach out to me on Instagram. If you don't follow me already, my Instagram is Darsh Vibes. So it's D-A-R-S-H and then V-I-B-E-S-S. It'll also be in the description.
00:39:22
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um My TikTok is just it's Darshna and also be on the the description. Everything will be in the description. And if you found this episode helpful, like share it with a friend. Like we need to get this message out to more women and help more women and create that community where we just feel safe as women and we feel safe to also like, you know, support each other. I think that's so important. It's something that I've also like really desired a lot in my life. And I really want to create that in my community.
00:39:49
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So share with a friend. and make a difference. Share with a friend. And also, leave me a review. it would mean a lot to me if you guys leave me a review because it also helps, you know, get this podcast out to more and more people that it can help.
00:40:05
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And it means a lot to me, and I love that. But until then, will catch you guys in the next episode. Love you. bye