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Tired of Being Single!
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In this weeks mailbag we hear from one of our RARE male listeners asking for advice on a movie theater proposal. As well as from a young listener who feels she is afraid of intimacy, someone who is sick and tired of being single and more! I give my heartfelt and unfiltered advice!
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Transcript
Podcast Return & Vacation Recap
00:00:05
Speaker
Welcome back, everyone, to the Not Sorry Podcast. We are back, baby. I took two weeks off. I could have only taken one week off. um But we'll get into that later. But the reason, one reason why we went to Turks and Caicos, babes.
00:00:25
Speaker
It was so much fun. Also, happy Friday. Take a sip of wine if you got one.
Beach Photo Shoot Adventure
00:00:32
Speaker
Happy Friday. It really was a dream vacation. It was a dream. It was paradise. It was so good when there was some friends. Got um the ah photo.
00:00:43
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Literally, like when you go to places like this, you're like imagining like the pics, the shots, the reels that you want to get. And one of the goals that we had was to do a cutesy little photo shoot on the beach. And so it was the last night we were there.
00:00:59
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And my girlfriend and I were like, all right, let's do it. We were both so tired. didn't know she was tired. The boys were taking a nap. It was before dinner. And we were really um and dragging at this point, but enjoying like every second of it.
00:01:13
Speaker
And ah we rallied, got onto the beach at sunset, and we just took 8 million photos of each other. All you got to do, guys, like you don't have to be a good photographer. You just hold. You kind of, yeah, maybe get the practice angles.
00:01:28
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and the positioning of the camera, but all you have to do is just swipe down, at least on my phone. ah Yes, I have a Samsung phone. Just swipe down to do the burst shots and just move. Just walk, move, and boom! You get the best fucking shot.
00:01:43
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Oh, I love her so much. She got some really good ones too because I'm actually good at photography. But um anyway, that was really, really amazing. So I am fully refreshed, ready to go, inspired, and... um ready to do this.
Handling Negative Feedback on TikTok
00:01:58
Speaker
I was having, I still am struggling a lot with some, ah you know, fears for this whole podcast and all that stuff and all the feelings of you dumb ass, uh, or just like, uh, you, you shouldn't do this. Like you get, I always get those comments on TikTok, especially uh, oops, I gotta to fix my camera.
00:02:24
Speaker
There we go. All right. Sorry, had to fix my camera. But yeah, you get these dumbass comments like, not everyone should a podcast. People really need to stop making podcasts. all As annoying as it is, and it's just like, i you just don't let I just don't let it get to me.
00:02:38
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But it does kind of scratch that little like fear, of course. But anyway, i came back from vacation feeling like, you know what? Whatever. It is something that I love at the end of the day, something that I want in my life.
00:02:54
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So here we are. Also, if you're watching on YouTube, can you tell them just this bronzes goddess? This is the best tan I've ever had in my life. And it's natural. I look normal white to most people, but this is like tan. I am like so freaking dark right now.
00:03:11
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Oh my gosh. This literally white people problems. That's so bad. I got to take a sip.
00:03:20
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All right, let's
Creative Proposal Ideas
00:03:21
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get into it. I usually don't have longer intros than that, but because it's all about the hook, baby. All right, we are doing a write-in episode. I usually do these on Reddit. So just like if you're curious, I'll send you the Reddit i'm page thing.
00:03:36
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And that's where I post my questions and stuff like that. And you typically get pretty good responses and stuff. But this one is just a mixed bag of stuff, including Hi.
00:03:50
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You know what? Boys really should listen to this podcast because if you genuinely want to understand women better or how to date better or which is an upcoming topic for an upcoming episode, um how to date better, things like that, like understand the women's psyche a little bit, maybe. i don't know. I'm not a professional, but close enough.
00:04:11
Speaker
All right. Should we do that one first? Let's do that one first. Okay. Thinking of proposing at the movie theater to my girlfriend. I remember a video of the guy who um did this to his girlfriend, but made it into like ah cartoon. Do you remember that? It went super viral and it's been around for so long, but she was the main character and it was like a what was it like Snow White or Sleeping Beauty or something like that. And he was the prince and stuff. And she was like kind of catching on, but like not really.
00:04:44
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So cute, such a great idea. um But here's what he wrote. He goes, I've been talking to my girlfriend about getting engaged to her at some point, probably about three or four months away. I am big into photography and making home movies.
00:05:01
Speaker
I was thinking about making a mini movie, any videos or photos I have over our, one of our favorite songs that we, that make me think of her. I would think about showing it to her at a movie theater. Does anyone have any suggestions or what else you would recommend?
00:05:16
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That, I mean, That alone is just so special. i could cry right now thinking about it. Like that is like one of the top tier proposals. Like there's definitely some icky ones that you can do, but this one is definitely the thought out.
00:05:33
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I want to make this special. It's about us. um ah Depending on if she's like a introvert or extrovert or whatever, rent maybe rent out the theater for friends and family.
00:05:47
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um But hide that. That would be a little hard to coordinate. Even if I was the one proposing, be i don't know how I'm going to keep this a secret or like have her not notice. Unless you have plants, you allow a couple of strangers in just to kind of, if she catches eyes with someone, it might be a stranger versus like the family.
00:06:06
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But, um, yeah, that would be hard to pull off, but that would make it extra special or, um, be the only ones in the theater and just be like, oh man, this movie, like, we're the ones here.
00:06:18
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How cool. And then have everyone like wait in the little aisle area where you, cause it's the big wall, right? You can't see it. That would be so cool. Definitely have champagne ready, um or anything else that you want to celebrate with. Uh, and then,
00:06:35
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If you're able to have friends and family ah around, either have them there at the theater somehow or do the after party and surprise her with that. Also, like kind of a surprise on top of a surprise. That would be so cute.
00:06:51
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I like, you know what? Yeah. Okay. Girls, if you have any boys that are like needing some help with anything, have them give a listen. That actually might be some good topic ideas.
00:07:04
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I mean, I need all the listeners I can get. oh boy.
00:07:10
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All right. That was so cute. All right. But that's the only one for a boy anyway. um All right. Let's move on. All
Understanding Relationship 'Icks'
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right. Is it normal that I sometimes am turned off by my boyfriend?
00:07:27
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um Yeah, that's normal. This actually happened to me the other day with Mark. He was doing, i'm not gonna say it, it's our personal business, but he was doing something in a public space, no one else was around.
00:07:40
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But I was like, Mark, are you serious? Like, I'm right here. Like, and we're out, we're not in the privacy of our home. And even if we were in the privacy of our home, it's like, ugh. Bro, that's gross. Like, that, I don't want to, know And he's like, what, babe?
00:07:56
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You're supposed to, like, love me for who I am and everything that I do, blah, blah. blah I was like, yeah, and I'm still here, right? But that doesn't mean I have to, like, put up with it or that I like it right?
00:08:08
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Just because I love you for better for worse doesn't mean I have to like it. okay and that's all right if you are long-term partners there is bound to be those icks that you get from your partner just be like oh that was really like unattractive of them to do that or look like that like don't hate me i 100 know everyone has been there where it's like your partner's doing something kind of giving you the ick it's a thing it's a thing and that's why
00:08:40
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People, okay, side chat, people take ics way too seriously before they even get to know someone. Because one, i mean, typically, yeah, when you're trying to date someone, they're going to put their best foot forward and conceal the Yeah.
00:08:57
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at least the the obvious ones, right? ah Before they really get to know someone or get comfortable with someone. But there's obviously so many icks out there these days that it's impossible to do that. So I think ladies, if, ah yeah, there might be something that the potential partner might be doing that is like, yeah yeah, get over it. Honestly, over and over it you haven't gotten to know them as a person and regardless, because if you find, let's say for example, you find the guy that is just checking all the boxes, blah, blah, blah, there's bound to be the X. But when those X happen, you're so far in love, at least hopefully, and you it doesn't matter.
00:09:44
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And it doesn't matter now and it won't matter then. So can we stop with this Ick culture? i get it, sometimes it's like, One, there are some ics, I will say, maybe this should be another episode topic, but ah there are some ics I'm like, yeah, no, like smoking, like instant turnoff, instant no, that tells me so many more things I need to know about you, about your lifestyle and what you prioritize and your health and all that stuff. And that is just not me. So you're out.
00:10:13
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So I'd be curious what kind of other ics like that there are for you, if what that ick tells you about them. would need to know that, okay? I'm gonna post this on socials, especially TikTok, probably only TikTok.
00:10:31
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And let me know. Or you can DM me. Like, I really am curious what certain ics tell you about a certain person. Or not a certain person, but a person. That's fun. Okay. going to remember that.
00:10:42
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We're going to talk about that in the future. um But yes, babe, totally normal. Uh-oh, Jasmine's jumping now. Don't. She almost knocked over the camera.
00:10:52
Speaker
Okay. Now I can sit normal. Okay. Let's see. Next. I really want to reach out to an old friends with benefits.
00:11:03
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And I want to know if this message sounds okay. But first, some backstory. Okay, we love a good FWB. ah he was an old friends with benefits from two years ago. we were definitely friends um first, before the benefits part.
00:11:19
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And I still respect him as a person. um Two years ago, things were cut off after three or four months because we had some issues, different personalities in quotations.
00:11:30
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But we hung out a lot. Then anyways, a year ago, we reconnected after I saw him on a dating app. We did not hook up, but we did grab ah food a couple of times. Then he kind of got weird. And after I asked him what's up, he said he tried getting back to the old dynamic, but couldn't.
00:11:45
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And I respected that I said I understood and we hadn't talked again. Anyways, okay. He keeps showing up on my TikTok suggested, think because I used to send him old videos back in the day. So I wanted to reach out on TikTok chat and say something like,
00:12:03
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Hey, saw you a couple times on my TikTok suggested and was curious how you've been. Smiley face. Just want to say hi. That's all. I hope you have been doing well. End quote.
00:12:14
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Thoughts? I'm not fishing to meet up. I don't have, not fishing
Reconnecting with Past Relationships
00:12:20
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to meet up. I don't have a beef with him. Like, Okay, I don't know why that last sentence matters, but that's a fine message. Like, do you want to hook up again?
00:12:30
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Or like, are there some is there something there that you haven't quite like figured out yet? Because if it's you just are a little lonely in the nighttime, then go for it. Or um if you're genuinely attracted to him, then sure.
00:12:45
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But if it's like on a friend's basis, i don't know. I mean, I don't know that you guys know my stance on like being guys and girls, like being friends, like even if you're both single. Sure, but even for me, the only reason why I would reach out to a previous friends with benefits is because like, can we start doing that again?
00:13:07
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ah Because haven't had luck lately maybe, and you just are reaching out to any hot leads. That's so bad. um But that would be my thing. Like, what is your motive? Honestly, you didn't mention that in the thing. So I'd be curious, like what your motive is. And if it if it's to, you know, rekindle the old flame, then go for it.
00:13:33
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Otherwise, youre I feel like if you're just genuinely curious about how they are, i don't know. To me, that's a waste of time. If they reach out to me wanting that, like, sure.
00:13:44
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I'll be like, hey, man, what's up? Yeah, this is how life's going. But I'm thinking, how do I get this started again? Like, I have the ulterior motive now because, one, I probably think that they do too.
00:13:57
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Even if they don't, I'd be like, let's see if I can do this. This is so bad. It's another life, let me tell you. But yeah, like, honestly, if I'm reaching out to someone just being like, how you doing?
00:14:09
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And we have a history that, and I was single, I'm not doing that. Like, I don't care. We were just friends with benefits and that's the way it is. Like, it's gonna sound really harsh to me and um sound really in, in ah what do you call it?
00:14:25
Speaker
Inconsiderate, lack of caring, but honestly, you're only friends with benefits with me. Like, that's all you are, sorry. Oh my God, i'm about to get canceled. But that's just me, honestly. Like I just, that that's what you were. And i might think like, oh man, wonder how they're doing.
00:14:45
Speaker
But I'm not just gonna like send a message to send a message unless I'm tipsy. i would do that. And then again, there comes my ulterior motive. I'd be like, yo, you still in town? you up? What are you doing right now? Like, okay, I need to stop talking. i need to take a sip.
00:15:06
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This is a very telling episode, is it not? I've been watching Downton Abbey again. I'm about to have an accent and a couple sips.
00:15:17
Speaker
All right, next.
Overcoming First Kiss Anxiety
00:15:19
Speaker
I feel like I have a fear of intimacy and I'm wondering how to possibly get over it. You definitely want to get over that. um Then she goes on to say, I've been talking to this guy for a while, and every time he says goodbye, he kind gives me that look that he wants to kiss me.
00:15:37
Speaker
Yes, I know the look. I really want to kiss him when I'm away and when I think about it, but um when I'm near him, I am almost scared, question mark.
00:15:48
Speaker
I've never had my first kiss. my god So maybe that's why? question mark We're going to a drive-in theater. this a post from 1945?
00:16:01
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um We're going to drive-in theater soon. I'm pretty sure we're both on the same page about just making out instead. yes girl. ah But I don't know. i I know it's going to terrify me when I'm in the car. Is this normal? How do I get over this fear?
00:16:20
Speaker
You could call it a fear, but it's just something you've never done before. And that's a little scary and that's okay. With anything that you've never done before, you just got to rip the bandaid off, babe.
00:16:30
Speaker
Like anything. You've never um driven a car. You got to get behind the wheel and practice. Okay. Don't. It's, I know it's like your nerves are like, oh, jittery and stuff like that. And it's really exciting. I remember my first kiss.
00:16:46
Speaker
Do I? I was, i think i was freshly 18 because I wasn't allowed to do anything until I was 18. ah But it was with a boy who I i don't know.
00:17:02
Speaker
We kissed for quite some time after that. And I gotta say, i was a natural. I was not scared. I was like, let's do this. I've been holding out. I felt like I've been holding out for like a literal lifetime at that point.
00:17:14
Speaker
Oh. But. ah No, don't be scared. Like, it's okay. Just let it be awkward. I think that's what you're most scared about is that it's going to be kind of cringy or awkward or you're not going to do it right or you're going to, I don't know, he's not going to like it or something like that. You're crossing a boundary per se.
00:17:37
Speaker
um And you're entering into new relational territory. And, you know, it's always going to be scary. No matter who it's with or how many times you've kissed somebody, you're always going to be entering into uncharted territories, right?
00:17:52
Speaker
And everyone feels that way at some point to varying degrees. So just... put your best foot forward, always have fun and let it be awkward. Stop trying to avoid it being weird.
00:18:06
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Okay. Cause it will be, it's your first kiss. Nothing's supposed to be like in the movies or some romance novel that you may have read. i don't know, but, um, yeah, just let it girl, just go have fun. The drive-in theater.
00:18:21
Speaker
are you from Alabama? I think they have German theaters in Nebraska too, so I should shut up. um Okay, two more and then we are done. Oh, do I have a buzzkill segment?
00:18:34
Speaker
Yes, I have a buzzkill segment, stay to the end. Obviously, you're not allowed to leave.
Dating Focus & Trusting Instincts
00:18:39
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um Okay, I'm curious how to stop putting all my eggs in one basket. I have this problem where every time I start talking to a guy, i tend to focus on them exclusively after a week or so if the vibes stay consistent. Amen.
00:18:54
Speaker
I start off pretty great with talking to multiple guys and keeping my options open. Amen. But once I start liking him more than the others, I fixate. How can I avoid this? It's not for a lack of trying. It's just when I feel that click, I lose my spark with the others.
00:19:09
Speaker
Hey, girl, no, absolutely not. Keep doing what you're doing. You're listening to your instinct. That's okay. Like if you feel like you're becoming that clingy girl or coming on too hard to to them, if you fixate on them, that's something you might be able to adjust or just even just address it. I did that with Mark. I think I've talked about this. Like he was like kind of trying to pump the brakes with us. and like, Hey,
00:19:37
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Dude, I get it. I am an intense personality when I, I i feel like I wrote this post when, um although I was able to juggle more than once at a time, not gonna lie.
00:19:50
Speaker
But when we really started exclusively hanging out, like it was like, I made it obvious like, Hey, what are you doing? Or, i mean, I, I wasn't like a crazy person. i let him like i invite me out versus me always asking.
00:20:04
Speaker
But still, my vibes are really intense and I come on strong just very naturally because I'm just an intense person. And he kind of wanted to pump the brakes and multiple times I'm like, dude, like I get it.
00:20:19
Speaker
um Just know that I really like spending time with you and I know I can come on strong. I just spoke what he was feeling and it helped out a lot. So if you feel like guys are being like, ew, gross, she's crazy or just wants to hang out with me all the time, just address it. Just be like, hey, i like you and i do want to spend more time with you and here's the reason why, blah, blah. blah But i understand the need to keep your options open.
00:20:49
Speaker
or want to keep them open, but honestly, you're just following your gut instinct. Stop doubting that. That's exactly what it sounds like. And I would do the same thing. Like I'd have a couple going at the same time and one would just pop off and the others wouldn't, or some would fizzle out after a little bit. And that's just dating. And that's just, cause what is that psychology stuff where it's just like, you kind of, you can size someone up like instantly. Like, but our our monkey brains have been so far removed from what our instincts have been told over the past, like, generations and millennia. It's just we've lost a lot of those skills and trusting those skills.
00:21:33
Speaker
So keep what you're doing. And just because, like, it may not work out with the guy that you fixate on, and as you say in your words, um Doesn't mean your instincts were wrong.
00:21:45
Speaker
It just wasn't the right person. Okay. So your instincts tell you an initial message, right? Vibes are good. Nice person. They, this bug, fuck you, bro.
00:21:58
Speaker
This bug keeps bothering me. um Oh my God. Anyway. Yeah. So if those initial vibes or that initial instinct are checking off those boxes, move forward. Those are green flags. Like, okay, check. Let's see what the next chapter of this book is going to tell me. And if it's like, oh, you have different religious preferences or political preferences, and that means a lot to me, then don't think that's going to work out. Like, but there's still a great, you see where I'm going with this? Like, stop it.
00:22:29
Speaker
Stop it right now. Okay. If you have your wine, take a sip.
00:22:36
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um All right. Hope that helps, babe. you sick of me saying babe all the time? um Okay. Last one. Oops. I don't know. Hold on.
00:22:48
Speaker
Pause. Okay. Last one. I am so tired of being single. gosh. Okay. I'm
Self-Improvement for Attracting Relationships
00:22:58
Speaker
so tired of being single. Does anyone have any advice on how I can be in a healthy relationship? I'm 26 years old um and if you're in a And if you're in a healthy relationship, how did you do it? It seems like everyone I meet just wants sex with no strings attached. I'm so tired of it.
00:23:16
Speaker
I'm so fulfilled with everything else in my life. Well, that's a good start. I have a good job, amazing friends, great family, and I've never been in a real relationship before either, which is why I want it so bad. I just feel like I'm so unlucky with love.
00:23:31
Speaker
Oh, honey. Okay. Well, you have... Okay. Here's where you start. You can control everything in your life. And right now, there's a lot of really good things happening in your life.
00:23:43
Speaker
Check. Because what is life? Life is a mirror. So if um your friendships suck, your families suck. Family is a different category. So maybe I shouldn't even put that in here.
00:23:56
Speaker
but your job is amazing, and your friends are amazing, and you're just really happy with life, then great, okay? Life is a mirror. But what else is it showing you? You're not lucky with love, as you say. And everyone knows where I'm going to go with this, and no one wants to hear it, and sick of hearing this dumb advice, but focus on you. Because if you feel like you're only attracting the kind of guys that just want the one-night stand,
00:24:25
Speaker
then there's a certain kind of, oh man, don't kill me for saying this, but a certain type of like, vibe, i'm not going to say desperation, but it it comes off like that, right? you're You're so desperate for love and intimacy that you, the natural instincts of men, of those types of men are going to be like, yo, I can bag that one real quick.
00:24:53
Speaker
That sounds really mean and really harsh, but you know what I mean? Like if you're giving off the, I'm just, I just want someone, I just need someone, ah, And then the first guy at the bar to bat an eyelash at you, you're like, yes, let's go.
00:25:07
Speaker
How do I get this going? You might be showing your your hand too quickly. Your hand, like as in poker. Might be showing off your cards too quickly. And they're just like, this is easy, man.
00:25:18
Speaker
and um Trust me, I've been called easy before and it not in like the a slutty way, okay? Let's be clear. But just, I, that's how I was. I was, I just wanted it so bad and I just really wanted to connect with someone and be with someone and that was the way that I did it and whether or not I,
00:25:40
Speaker
cared well how should i say that well i wasn't looking for a relationship either but you i still gave off that like vibe and so it was really easy to attract those kinds of guys that wanted that same thing even though i may have been on the same page does make sense this is This can be a little bit of a rabbit hole and I want to be delicate, but you have to change what you're projecting to the world.
00:26:06
Speaker
It is a great start that everything else in your life is going good. Okay? Check. But you are still projecting off this image of, I just need someone.
00:26:19
Speaker
and it's giving off the wrong message to the wrong people. Does that make sense? That's what I'm trying to say. i really talked this out. I should really write a script so I won't get canceled or in trouble or something.
00:26:31
Speaker
But does that make sense? So to do that, I just suggest just... Honestly, go to your friends. You know, that is a great opportunity for you to, and I'm sure you've done it You're a young girl.
00:26:44
Speaker
All girls have done this, young or old. And um ask their friends, like, what is wrong with me? Help me. But honestly, to ask for real advice, not just be like, not just to butter you up.
00:26:55
Speaker
No, babe, you'll find someone. You just wait. The right guy will come along anytime soon. Come to the thing with me. There'll be plenty of great guys there. Like, no, just be like, stop it. I appreciate it. But literally, like, what do you feel like I could improve about myself, my aura or my vibe but to attract the right guy? And, you know, see what they say. if you have people you can trust to give you really heartfelt advice like that, then do it.
00:27:24
Speaker
That's why we got this podcast, girl. um But honestly, what I would say is like just work on yourself and work on becoming the right partner too. like Not that you're awful or something, but we all have something that we can work on for ourselves. You can work on this problem or that issue or this insecurity or bubble blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:27:46
Speaker
And just become your own autonomous woman that is um independent, but not independent of like, i don't need no man. Like, that's not what I'm talking about. Just like a competent, autonomous, beautiful, thriving woman that is really happy with who she is and where she's at in her life.
00:28:06
Speaker
And that attracts the right guy. Trust me, please, please, please trust me. And there's so much more I could go on about all this stuff. um But it honestly, it really is true. If you read, i would highly recommend it. And I've recommended this book before, You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero.
00:28:26
Speaker
That is a great place to start to become on It's a funny book, too. Like, it's not a serious self-help book. it's um It's a fun read, but it really causes you to kind of think inwardly more, self-reflect a little bit more, and um really kind of think about what you're projecting to the world.
00:28:47
Speaker
ah The other thing I would suggest is ah the Enneagram I know it's a tough one, but it's my favorite. I used to coach it and I miss it so much, to be honest. I don't, I've tried to figure out how to get that, like keep that in my life. But honestly, I don't even know.
00:29:05
Speaker
But DM me if you want chit chat on Enneagram stuff, we can type you. And the Enneagram really helped me learn because I'm an intense personality.
00:29:17
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And if anybody listening knows Enneagram, I'm a type eight. um So it's typically the type eights are praised in the male form, but for females, it's a little different.
00:29:28
Speaker
It's very masculine personality. um But yeah, no, it I struggled a lot with who I was because I was constantly like, why this? Why me? Why am I the one who has to tiptoe around other people? Why can't people just deal with it And like, I'm not trying to offend anyone, so can't they just get over it? And that was like the big theme of my life.
00:29:52
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And I decided to be like, you, you're the kind of the common denominator in all these problems that you're having. so What can we do about that?
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And I discovered the Enneagram. Oh my God, a weight was lifted off of my shoulders because one, it was okay to be me, and two, i could still be me and um have so many better experiences with people all around me all the time.
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like it It literally changed my life. I could go on another hour, about an hour or two about that. So if you want some Enneagram talk, let me know.
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um But
Vacation Frustrations & Lessons Learned
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that's the episode. But I do have a buzzkill segment. And yes, it does have to do with my Turks and Caicos trip. So my buzzkill segment is where I have a chance to bitch about something that totally ruined the vibe.
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And because, you know, buzzkill. ah Yeah, so... There was, should I do two or one? We're kind of running out time, but who fucking cares? I'm the boss.
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Okay. Let's do two. One. Ah, shoot. Crap. i should have thought about this. Okay. Let me just do the one and see how I feel. One. but My period. I definitely got it while we were on vacation and I i knew it was going to come, but I was like, no, I'm traveling. you When that happens, it's usually late. So it's probably going to happen like the day we leave or the day we get back. No big deal.
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near smack dab in the middle and the day that I had like all the symptoms uh we were trying to have a cutesy brunch with the girls and it was so hot the service was taking forever where we just wanted one bottle of champagne it's taking forever we wanted one more did we do two bottles of champagne no we did one oh no we did um and espresso martinis first, which came out fine. That was fine.
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And then we ordered a bottle of champagne and our food at the same time. Both took forever. We were about to leave and then the bottle champagne shows up. I'm like, oh my God. And we wanted to go around and shop. It was so hot. It was so hot. And I didn't have a hat. And I was trying to look cute.
00:32:11
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Cutesy, brunchy outfit at the beach. And it's just, i'm walking around these stores. I'm like, whoosh, whoosh. You know, like, that symptom when your legs just, like, feel weak? Oh, my God. And then, like, I get, like, back cramps, too.
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Bruh. Not cool. All right. I'm going to do the second buzzkill because it's all on the same trip. So we wanted to do one night where we go to a fancy restaurant, get dressed up, dolled up, go to this really beautiful restaurant at this hotel right on the water. It looked like it almost the way that it was structured really looked like kind of grease like where it was along a cliff and i'm the part of the island where it wasn't a beach but it was just like the rocky cliffs or whatever so it had that like greece mykonos vibe and so did the look of the hotel it was like whitewash the stone and like the lighting was just so beautiful and we got dressed up in our cutesy little dresses we tried to make a reservation
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What did they say? We had nine people because there were three kids. And i oh, they were like, we need the credit card on file. Like, OK, that's normal.
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um But we also need to know your order right now. what? We're calling at like one o'clock that day. We're sitting in our lounge chairs at the beach trying to do this. and like, but no we don't. hey That one was already off-putting. We should have just gone somewhere else, but it was such a cute place.
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And so she hung up. We didn't make a reservation. So I was like, let's just see what happens when we walk up and we'll use this other restaurant as our backup. So we walk up and was like, hi, we have a table for blah, blah, blah.
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And they're like, we can't accommodate that with the other reservations. I was like, okay, are you able to accommodate a table of three and then accommodate a table for the rest of the adults? Just be nearby.
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ah We can't accommodate nine people. Did you hear what I said? so we want two tables. I didn't say it like that. I wasn't being a Karen. Although I should have been because I was kind of really annoyed at that point. I don't know why, but I was like ready to go.
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and they're like but if you go down like there are these steps along the cliff where they had like inserts of booths and like a sitting like an l-shaped u-shaped sitting area with little tables like cocktail tables not like a table table and and they're like you can go down there and sit and you can still get the full menu um and full service i was like okay Like, that sounds all right. You get the view of the water. We got the view of the sunset. It was really beautiful.
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But everything took so long. And Rosetta, my beautiful friend, who is the reason why we were there, be um ah the like, for the vacation, it was her 40th birthday celebration.
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And I've never seen, like, I don't think I've told her this. And I know she's listening. Like I'd never seen like like that kind of part of her where she's like, I'm gonna go get someone and we order and we're trying. Like Mark only had one drink and are I shared a bottle of wine with another girl and that was last to come out after everyone got their drinks and and she kept being like, oh oh, we'll get your bottle. I'm like, and like okay, finally, thank you.
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She comes back, we're out of that. Do you wanna do this other one? i'm like, yes, that's fine. Just give me my wine.
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And everyone was just so annoyed, but the kids were minding their business and there they were such good kids. And um we finally got it and the food was amazing. Although the funny thing was, was that we ordered the calamari.
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But this calamari was straight out of the ocean with some seasoning on it. And I was like, here i have a literal squid on my plate.
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um And we ordered two of them. We're about to order three. Thank God we didn't. ah so expensive. tasted good. But I do have a problem with fish where it's like, i i just didn't grow up with it.
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So all I can imagine is just like, tossing my hand into the ocean, grabbing a fish and just taking a bite right out of it. Like, bo and so it being battered and fried really helps the case.
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And this wasn't, and ah Mark's like, you're not going to like this. I'm like, I'm going to try it. I'm going to be a good sport. had two bites of it. And I had a moment where I was like, I yeah ah Nope, swallow. And um it tasted good. it the flavor really was good, but I just was like, okay, of course. But the pasta dish that I got wasn't really good.
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Anyway, the service was like super slow. And the girl was just like, oh, oh yeah. I'm like, bro, have you done this before? Anyway, so we looked cute, got cute pictures, and that was that. So hashtag buzzkill.
00:37:24
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But anyway, thanks for listening. We're back for sure next week, probably talking about ics. Let's talk about it. I want to hear what your real ics are. Not the floozy ics, but the ics that actually tell you so much more about who a person is before we even get to know them.
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So cheers to Friday and cheers to the weekend. i will talk to you next week. Peace out. Bye. Bye.