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Sleezy Or Not?
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In this weeks mailbag we hear from a girl going on TWO different dates with TWO different guys! Is that sleezy of her or nah? Plus, a bestie who is struggling with the comparison game and more!
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Transcript
Introduction to the Show
00:00:07
Speaker
I'm not sorry, babe, my gang, my lady folk. Happy Friday. If you haven't poured yourself a glass of wine, please do so now. will give you a minute. um No, happy Friday. i am so glad it's Friday. And you know what? It's a long weekend. It's Memorial Day weekend. I cannot tell you how much of a break I need from frigging work. I was about to have another meltdown today, but I
Passion and Procrastination
00:00:30
Speaker
refuse. 100% to let it get to me it's been tough y'all um and okay real talk for like a second like it's just been so stressful and like that's why i'm really passionate about this podcast but yet i i struggle with a lot of insecurities with the podcast which makes me procrastinate and then it turns into this like weird cycle of like well if this is what i'm really passionate about you wouldn't like procrastinate you'd be grinding more you'd hustling more all this stuff it's like
00:01:03
Speaker
ah so much like noise so i'm just gonna like um ignore all that and just keep keep doing what i'm doing and um just pray for love and luck and all the things if you hear that construction i that starts at like 7 30 every freaking morning so we're just gonna ignore that for now but today we have um some listener write-ins for the little mailbag um segment um but if you haven't already um please subscribe rate and review you would be supporting the dream of quitting the nine to five and i'm about to get a cat on my lap that usually doesn't sit on laps we have to like
00:01:50
Speaker
ignore him but also like encourage him at the same time um but yeah it's support the dream i'd so greatly appreciate it um but we have a couple of things to read off today it's a little bit of a mixed bag so let's just pick one and go let me zoom in here okay these are all anonymous by the way so i'm not going to read any names um so if you want to write in you can do so at the email or dm me on tiktok if you're watching on tiktok all right this first one is just had my first breakup you sweet little girl okay my now first ex-boyfriend oh she's like 29 years old
00:02:33
Speaker
um He's 33, broke up with me over text at like 1 a.m.
Dealing with Heartbreak
00:02:38
Speaker
and I woke up to the message. I am at a loss of what to do and he won't talk to me and I'm very, very devastated.
00:02:45
Speaker
I just need advice. I wanna feel confident in myself and feel like i and I didn't deserve it. I know I'm not perfect. I can be anxious and clingy. All things I'm working on with my therapist. Okay, great.
00:02:58
Speaker
I have a PhD in engineering and I have a solid job and a group of friends. I still can't help but feel alone. Any advice or war or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated. i just feel lost.
00:03:11
Speaker
Also, we've been to get we were together for almost three years. Wow. You're really 29? This be disrespectful or rude, but... disrespectful or like rude but um your first Your first breakup.
00:03:26
Speaker
I mean, so you might be a little older than most who have had um breakups prior to 29, but it's always devastating. The first step is always to always to just like let it suck, honestly.
00:03:41
Speaker
i know I've had some friends who whose breakups like came out of absolutely nowhere. And um you just kind of have to make peace with the unknown. And it sucks. And sometimes like the way that they went about things and the way that they broke up with you gives you your own answers. Like there's there's answers hidden in their actions because behavior is a language. We're all saying that.
00:04:09
Speaker
I got a half cat on my lap. um That sucks though. um But you know what? It kind of, It's going to sound really like rude, but is this is practice, man.
00:04:21
Speaker
I don't want to say it's one of many, but like take it easy. Take it easy. Keep going to to therapy for sure. and just use it as a learning experience. You're going to have to heal. the
00:04:37
Speaker
like TV just started. Okay. I'm going to have to pause and like repause my TV that just started out of nowhere. That was super creepy. Hold on. Okay, we're back. And I also fixed the angles of the camera and lighting so it looks a little bit better. That was super creepy. And this is like a dumpster fire of an episode so far. Please forgive me.
00:04:58
Speaker
um But back to your question. um lean your group of girlfriends at this time and um seek their comfort seek their advice and you know what like don't it's okay if you want to have like the the rebounds but don't don't fall love with that rebound don't get into a relationship with that rebound learn from almost every single girl ever who's been in one relationship right after another take your time you're still Young, you are. There's always time. And I'll repeat this story a billion times over.
00:05:31
Speaker
My mom found love in her okay? There's time to find the man of your dreams. There's time, trust me. but and life may not turn out how you have expected it to or planned to. And the more you expect these plans to turn out, these dreams to be exactly what you imagine, the more locked on you are to that, the more disappointed you will be with life and everything around you. So just expect, literally expect the unexpected. It's so cheesy, but yeah, it's okay to have these dreams and aspirations and goals for how you want your life to turn out.
00:06:14
Speaker
But when that doesn't happen, just be like, oh, wow, I was wrong about what God wanted for me. And let's see, there's gotta be something better than this. It's just like when those people, and when people like apply for those jobs and they they get the interview for like their dream job or like this amazing opportunity and,
00:06:32
Speaker
um It goes really well, but then they randomly end up not getting this job. And that's devastating. But then the next one that they actually get the offer for is exactly what they need and exactly what they want. It's kind of the same thing.
00:06:46
Speaker
So just take it easy. Continue to go therapy and work on yourself. Become a better person. Become a better woman. And you'll find the right guy. And just be thankful that the wrong guy ended it for you.
00:06:58
Speaker
You know, because us women... we tend to hold on a little longer than we should. we all know that. And love really is blind. And we put on those blinders and ignore the things that we shouldn't in all the name, in the name of love had hopes that it will not happen again or like he'll become a better person or improve or whatever things that we hold on to in these relationships that we shouldn't even be in.
00:07:27
Speaker
so Love you. Next one Let's see. Okay.
Dating Ethics: Consecutive Relationships
00:07:37
Speaker
Oh, this one's good.
00:07:38
Speaker
Is it bad to have consecutive first dates with two people? Drama. I started talking to two guys on Tinder. ah Been there, done that.
00:07:52
Speaker
They both asked for a date. One of them is tomorrow and the other is the day after. Is it sleazy of me to do that? They're just first dates and I've never met them before. I'm also 100% not the type of girl who does anything physical on the first date.
00:08:06
Speaker
Well, you're already one step better than I was.
00:08:12
Speaker
um It's not sleazy at all. Girl, go have fun. i can't. you I've had multiple. How much should I disclose?
00:08:23
Speaker
I've had, okay I'll say this. I've had multiple first dates in the same day, girlfriend. It's not sleazy. You're just, it's a numbers game, right? Okay, like, let's pretend we're in sales.
00:08:40
Speaker
Don't take that the wrong way, everyone. But it really is a numbers game. So if you want to go on multiple dates with different guys and you're staying true to your your moral standards and stuff like that, do your thing. You're not doing anything wrong. You were probably, i wouldn't be surprised if you were raised very similar to me. It took me some time to get out of my shell.
00:09:02
Speaker
It sounds like I've been a sleazebag for quite some time. Well, yeah, but it took me some time, but um especially after. Well, nope.
00:09:12
Speaker
Okay, Caitlin, pull it together. It um took me some time to kind of get out of my shell of my conservative upbringing, you know, um'm and it escalated from there. But you know what? We all have a past.
00:09:29
Speaker
Don't judge me. I love you. You love me. um But no, that's not sleazy at all. Like have some fun and um just know that if these two dates go really well, just think ahead. And as every girl does, we all think ahead, right? That what if both of these are something that you want to continue to see out? That might be the only problem that you run into. It's not sleazy.
00:09:54
Speaker
But if there's one that you want to sleep with or whatever, then you're going to have to pull together a conversation with one of them or both of them saying like, hey, I need to keep this um casual. Here are my boundaries. i'm You don't necessarily have to tell them you're seeing other people, but you can say that in more or less words that I don't know how serious I want to be right now.
00:10:19
Speaker
And that might be music to their ears. But if you don't want to sleep with them yet, then that might change some things. And if you want a guy who is on similar values than you, they'll respect those boundaries.
00:10:32
Speaker
Granted, there are douchebags out there who will who are smart enough to respect those boundaries and and be patient and patient enough to get what they want and then bounce.
00:10:46
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That might happen. You know, there's a lot of shitty guys out there, but you know, if he's respecting your boundaries at first, then that's a green flag and take it step by step. But don't be surprised if he's a douchebag later on.
00:10:58
Speaker
I'm not trying to like be a Debbie Downer here, but think of all the possibilities. Okay. Give them the benefit of the doubt. I, that's kind of generally my default is I give people the benefit of the doubt until they prove me wrong.
00:11:12
Speaker
So, Move cautiously and know that if you like both of them but somewhat equally, then you're going to have to kind of play it a little bit in a way where you have a certain conversation that might be difficult or uncomfortable, but that's great. That's really great practice.
00:11:30
Speaker
And... It's really good practice on how to learn to have difficult conversations, okay? And you weren you have owe nothing to either of them. You are not emotionally invested in either of them, so the risks are really low. So difficult conversations technically should be easier. And um considering, right? if Think about if you go down the line with them, both of them, and then it really gets serious with both of them, and then you really have to have an even harder conversation.
00:12:00
Speaker
Like, that would suck. Um, yeah, but no, you are good, but thanks for asking, because you asked the wrong person.
00:12:10
Speaker
um drink wine.
00:12:16
Speaker
Today is, like, such a beautiful day. Like, you can tell it's, like, really sunny. It's the most perfect Friday. Mark and I are going to, um, a baseball game tonight. We have um just a couple blocks away the um minor league stadium. It's really cute stadium.
00:12:31
Speaker
And we just like walk around, get hot dogs, get a beer, and like be so cute. The only thing is that they typically have fireworks every not every Friday night at the end of the game, but this is not one of their fireworks games, and I'm really disappointed because fireworks are my absolute favorite thing in the world. Fourth July is my favorite holiday. ever and it would be a great opportunity for mark to propose to me on fourth of july just saying you guys can tell him that
00:13:04
Speaker
anyway last major there's a couple other questions like some quick fire questions that i want to go for but this is the last like Big one. Okay.
00:13:15
Speaker
How do I stop comparing myself to others?
Comparing Yourself to Others
00:13:19
Speaker
This is such a good question. Because I've been doing a lot of that lately, unfortunately.
00:13:26
Speaker
It's a very human experience. It's a very human thing to do. So in a way, I'll read the whole description, but like... Just right off the bat, like, you just give yourself grace. Like, it's something that your brain is going to do. It's very natural.
00:13:40
Speaker
But how you manage it is um key. Let's keep reading. Okay, I... I'm 21 years old and I've been struggling with this issue for basically my whole life and I know it's a common issue for many.
00:13:54
Speaker
Lately, it's been getting a bit more difficult to ignore and it's embarrassing to admit out loud, which is why i wanted to write in. Hopefully to get some advice or just to find others who are going through the same thing and to know that I'm not alone.
00:14:09
Speaker
I'm graduating college soon, and I'm lucky to be surrounded by so many amazing and supportive friends. I love and adore my friends, but with that being said, I find myself constantly comparing myself to them.
00:14:20
Speaker
In my eyes, they're so beautiful, more and I know I can never live up to that. Okay, you stop that right now. I'm not saying I'm ugly, but I think being surrounded by so many gorgeous women makes me feel a bit a bit self-conscious.
00:14:35
Speaker
Even when we go out, my friends are always being approached while I'm just standing off to the side. So in my head, its basically confirms my feelings that I've always been less than. Please know that this is not me fishing for compliments at all. I know it's um this is a big mental thing, my own insecurities that I need to work on.
00:14:54
Speaker
But I'm hoping others are out there that have dealt with the same thing and can give some advice. or well I can't see your face so I can't give you compliments what's that mean no that wasn't mean um you know what
00:15:11
Speaker
do you see how beautiful I am okay I'm really beautiful I'm gorgeous and I cannot tell you how often I've been hit on it's like I can count on one hand I probably phrased that the wrong way but like I will get dressed to the nines, perfect makeup, great bod, great outfit, everything.
00:15:34
Speaker
And do I get approached? Absolutely not. And the times that I've gotten approached, whereby like, like you, you're approaching me like what?
00:15:49
Speaker
Like some like nerdy looking guy. And like, I don't want to sound like a mean girl, but it's like of all ah the people in this bar, this guy's the one who's hitting on me.
00:16:02
Speaker
Like, I mean, you got to give it to some of these like, or like, certain types of dudes like hitting on me like that they they look like they belong at home playing video games all night long. Like that's the type that would hit on me.
00:16:18
Speaker
And um it just always dumbfounded me. And I can't think of the girl's name right now, but um she's this body language expert. And it taught me a lot as to like why I'm not approachable in bars regardless of how beautiful I
00:16:38
Speaker
Don't you love the confidence? That's why we're here. And, um, So it has really nothing to do with looks. Oh gosh, what's her name? Ashley something?
00:16:49
Speaker
she was She did an interview on the diary of a CEO. um She's like this brown long hair, white girl. um Gosh, no, look it up. But that that episode was really, really cool. I'm gonna watch it again and again because it just gives a lot of like great tips on how to read people and how to be one more approachable or if you're in a sales role or something, how to like engage people better to what you're saying and what you're doing.
00:17:17
Speaker
Anyway, so it really has that aspect, like has nothing to do with looks, honestly. With everything else, it's that again, what I was saying at the beginning, comparing yourself to others, especially in a beauty standard is extremely normal. Like it's been happening for hundreds of years, hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of years where us women and even, you know, men play their own comparison games.
00:17:46
Speaker
But I am all for a little glow up. OK, do the the eyebrow thing, get your lashes curled and get your nails done, like do things that make you feel beautiful.
00:17:59
Speaker
And the more you level up in that way, the more you will feel confident about yourself. And that will start to um and approach on other people. Other people will see that and feel that vibe from you.
00:18:14
Speaker
So if you are walking around at the bar wanting guys to like hit on you and you're like, my friends are prettier and I'm just ugly. No one ever approaches me. like No, that's not going to happen because you're you're giving off a real like I don't like me vibe.
00:18:30
Speaker
This is some tough love here, okay? Take it with grain salt. But honestly, though, do what makes you feel good about yourself. Go on your walks. like Do your exercise. like at you know You're not done.
00:18:43
Speaker
You know what makes you feel good. You know um the activities that make you feel good and give your brain that serotonin boost and... what's good for your mental health and things like that.
00:18:55
Speaker
So yeah, you can't help but compare yourself to, I do that to my friends who have six packs and who have longer, thicker, fuller hair than me. And I'm just like, oh, that would be so nice. and you know, that you just, you just kind of like, you always want what you don't have. That is also a thing of life. You just do. And i if I had the thick voluminous hair or whatever, I would look at someone with my head of hair.
00:19:24
Speaker
Like you see it. I got nothing, got nothing. I have a pixie cut if you're not watching on YouTube. And I'd look at that and be like, gosh, that looks so good on her. It looks like it's easy maintenance. I don't have to deal with all this hair. And it takes forever to style, takes forever to dry.
00:19:40
Speaker
you know, there's always something. And you know that your beautiful friends are all, they're insecure about something too. And you probably have a quality that they look at and be like, gosh, that would be nice to have. Like, I've looked at some of my friends who have the brains, like certain type of like smarts. I'm like, gosh, if only ah had that like talent for math, my like my life really would be easier.
00:20:06
Speaker
ah You know what I mean? So it's like when you start to realize like your friends are dealing with the same thing, they compare themselves to people too. Then you start to feel less alone. and less, I guess, ah unattractive or however you're feeling because we all do it.
00:20:24
Speaker
It's very normal and you should not feel alone whatsoever. But I'm a big advocate for doing the... It's not vain to want to have your nails done or get a better makeup look or get better at doing your makeup and all that stuff. Like, do it.
00:20:41
Speaker
Do what makes you feel good. Do the body scrubs and shave your legs more often, which I'm about to go do that as soon as this recording ends. I need to shave. I have a self-tanner on and like my legs, the last self-tanner I did, like it's the oil drops that you mix in with the with ah like a body oil or a lotion.
00:21:00
Speaker
I did a body oil with these tanning drops and I put it on all all on it and it takes forever to soak in. So I'm like sitting here like a wet seal, but my hey my legs, they got like itchy, so I like itch. I was like, well, it's been long enough. It's probably soaked in just fine. It was still like not all the way.
00:21:17
Speaker
The next morning, all these streaks on my legs. It was really, really funny and laughable. I'm really bad at self tanning, but I'm going to the beach doing um Turks and Caicos in like three weeks. Oh my God.
00:21:35
Speaker
I cannot even begin to tell you how freaking excited I am. I need to literally escape. I'm not joking. I need to escape, forget everything and everyone and lay on the beach, take some sexy ass pictures and like pretend my life is not... Well, okay.
00:21:53
Speaker
Okay, I love my life. I just hate my job right now. So and I'm gonna pretend that my job doesn't exist, okay? I love my life and don't wanna escape.
00:22:05
Speaker
I love every um every other aspect of my life except for my job. So that was going in a really tragic direction, so I had to had to correct. I'm gonna take aip a sip of wine.
00:22:17
Speaker
All right, we got a couple other little bitty questions that I got on the DMs um on TikTok. Week three. um Quick question.
When to End a Relationship
00:22:28
Speaker
How do you know when it's time for your relationship to end?
00:22:32
Speaker
Um, the second you ask yourself that question is probably time. Uh, I think a lot of women wait for that, like, big, like, nail in the coffin thing to be like, you did this!
00:22:45
Speaker
It's over! You know? And that's what I, like, when I was married, that's what I was waiting for. um because he never, like, did the big one thing for me to be like, it's over!
00:22:58
Speaker
Never again! was just, like, Although everything that happened was legitimate enough of a reason, think a lot of women do wait for that big justifi just justifiable moment to happen in order to like have the courage to leave.
00:23:15
Speaker
And if you're already asking yourself that, like, babe, it's time. I hate to say it, it's time. And I broke up with a guy mentally three months before I physically, literally did it.
00:23:27
Speaker
So if you've got to muster up the courage to like actually make it happen, Do it, do whatever it takes for you to have that conversation. And if you're scared, get some help, make a plan, call somebody that you can trust, okay.
00:23:44
Speaker
But yeah, now's the time do it. right. to do it um all right Ooh, I like this one. At what age did you feel, did you first feel true love?
Experiencing True Love
00:24:00
Speaker
Honestly? oh this is a great question. How do you get people in their early 20s to understand that, like, it's just, I should write, like, some thesis paper on it because, like, my true love, I felt love, of course, when I got married, when I was getting married and, like, the relationships I had in my 20s, I had love for all those people.
00:24:27
Speaker
But it wasn't until I met Mark that it was like, oh, oh, oh, this, this is it. Like, this is true love, right?
00:24:40
Speaker
When it's not just how I'm feeling, it's about them too. And about like, how he treats me and the love that he sends to me.
00:24:51
Speaker
And then I reciprocate that, is true love. we we often, i think, feel think of it in the in a one way sense, like when I felt true love and I'm in i'm in love and this is true love and like it's a one sided thing, perspective, right? Like when did i feel true love for the first time.
00:25:15
Speaker
And it's like, of course I felt true love a lot of times. Okay. Especially when I was first getting married. I mean, that was more infatuation. That was like the blinders because I was never allowed to do anything before that.
00:25:29
Speaker
So that was just false. It was um a facade. It was a smoke screen or something like that. And, um, but when you find that like person where you're like, Oh, excuse me.
00:25:41
Speaker
This is actually... This relationship is actually, like, pretty pretty easy. You work through stuff, sure. But, like, man, I think true, true love takes a lot of time. And it's not what it is at the beginning of relationship, even if it's your forever person and you'll be married to them for 50, 60 years.
00:26:03
Speaker
Like, that's not... I don't know, man, like that is just such a multifaceted question um because relationships look different to the people inside them.
00:26:14
Speaker
Hashtag Pam. And if you're an Office fan, you'll know the quote. But it's true, know, and I can only speak for myself. And a lot of people might comment on this and be like, no, I met my true love when I was in high school and we're still together. Like, okay, great. Like, I'm not talking. There's no umbrella answer.
00:26:36
Speaker
And that is also the beauty of love that it is so dynamic and is like, diverse and has so many definitions in ah healthy way. Okay.
00:26:50
Speaker
And so many, it it's just such a beautiful thing. So I could answer ah general answer, but my specific answer is, um, to be honest, it wasn't until I was, how old was I when I met Mark? I was 30, 30. Yeah. Ooh, yeah.
00:27:07
Speaker
Yeah. was 30. ah yeah oh yeah yeah i was thirty That was when I first felt like true, true, deep soulmate love. Like, okay, this is it.
00:27:20
Speaker
This, I can't, wow. If we break up tomorrow, I don't, I'm not interested in a life without him. I'm not. And if we break up or whatever, something happens, I'm not, the I'm not, I'm done.
00:27:33
Speaker
Like I'm done for it. All right. You're sick of that. Next and the last question. Let's okay your i can't What is your quote?
Essential Life Skills
00:27:47
Speaker
I can't believe no one ever taught me this earlier life skill. Great, great. I love these questions. You guys are so amazing. I love good questions like this.
00:27:59
Speaker
ok I wish, and who knows if I would have listened, but you know what? Whatever. um How to handle conflict?
00:28:10
Speaker
and how to argue and be in conflict with someone in a healthy way. It is a very tough skill to learn and no one ever learns it the right way or right away or during childhood.
00:28:25
Speaker
um You can take probably a lot of good things from your parents. Hopefully, if there are decent parents, decent people listening who have had decent parents, you know, again, that's no umbrella answer on that one. But you see what I mean.
00:28:43
Speaker
Um, yeah, that if I could have learned that a lot quicker would have made my life a lot easier. And then, gosh there's another one. Um, oh, nope. This is my real answer. I take all that back.
00:28:57
Speaker
I don't care. I don't care. I take all that back. ah wish I learned a lot easier. How, how do I say this? Like,
00:29:09
Speaker
That I can't, if someone taught me that you can't control other people's emotions or reactions. We spend so much time and waste so much time operating in a way to control the outcome of someone else's reaction or what they're going to say next.
00:29:28
Speaker
And that is exhausting. And I always spent a lot of time and and like mental energy, like being salty and upset about that because my kind of personality is very intense, if you haven't noticed.
00:29:43
Speaker
And I especially when I was evolving, you know, and I still do, but I rub people the wrong way kind of easily um because a lot of what I say can easily be taken out of context because I'm super sarcastic. and my sense of humor is like, everyone says this, but you know what I mean.
00:30:02
Speaker
But um I thought for a long time that I had to like, operate in a way that never offended anyone, and made everyone comfortable all the time and didn't step on any toes. And I had to be quieter because I'm a really loud person. And and Like I was so upset about that for so long. And I thought I had to change everything about myself in order to have successful friendships and relationships. And I learned, thank God, I learned eventually that, oh no, no.
00:30:38
Speaker
You can still be yourself. You just can't manage other people. And there are people where it does matter what they what they say and what they do. And you can't be a monster and just like bulldoze your way into a conversation and just not give two fucks about reading the room and, you know, that stuff. Because that was kind of like what I did.
00:31:00
Speaker
I get it from my dad. and there There's a spectrum, right? You could overcorrect and just be like, I give zero fucks about what other people think or feel about me. I'm just going to be myself and fuck you all.
00:31:13
Speaker
Or you could just be like, you know, the Mother Teresa on the other end of the spectrum. Right? There's a spectrum. Don't overcorrect in either direction, but find the balance. I hate that word, but it's such a proper word.
00:31:28
Speaker
Find the balance of, okay, I'm walking into this room. Normally when I walk into a room, I'm at a 10. My ener energy's there. I'm like, let's go. Attention on me. I'm here, everyone.
00:31:40
Speaker
And, you know, know people don't like that. But I know I can, my inner circle, my girlfriends, my inner circle of them, I can walk into the room and 100% be a Ted.
00:31:52
Speaker
Because they know me and i have a good ah relationship with them and ah we trust each other and they know me. and But if I'm walking into like and networking event or a big event,
00:32:06
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room full of people I don't know. And I walk in just to be like, who the fuck is this girl? Like, oh, bad impression or wow, she's really annoying or something, you know? And if I'm walking into a networking event, yeah, let's alternate how I operate. But you can still definitely be yourself. You don't have to change. I didn't have to change myself.
00:32:26
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I can still maintain my autonomy and um still have successful interactions in my environment. So that like learning, it but it's a type of vulnerability of um you you you can't control other people.
00:32:43
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And it really helps in those moments when you're in a heated argument or an emotionally charged situation with your spouse or somebody. And as long as you stay true to yourself and, um,
00:33:01
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say what you feel and and and what's going on with you and like speak, I guess, your truth. I have a problem with that phrase, but it kind of fits here. So if you speak your truth without worrying about how they're going to react, then you can have so much more successful outcomes with those arguments or those discussions or debates or disagreements or whatever you want to say, right?
00:33:28
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I learned that and luckily the guy i was dating at the time um when I was learning that lesson gave me the space to be myself in that way and and had the patience for me to figure that out.
00:33:41
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There were times when we were arguing. i have like this hair on my nose, like cat hair. We were arguing and I would have like a minute, minute and a half between my responses because I'm like,
00:33:53
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what do I want to say here that helps us have a successful outcome to this argument? But also, like, I know what I want to say, and it's really scary. I don't know how he's going to react in XYZ, and this is a really scary thing for me to say, but I muster up the courage, and I say it, and oh, guess what? It works out just fine, and...
00:34:18
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Yeah, that's my answer. That's a really good question. My gosh, y'all. Okay, I feel good about that. Anyway, well, I have to get going and shave my legs and take Jasmine to the vet.
Pet Check-ups and Farewell
00:34:33
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Say your prayers. where She's got to get her teeth looked at, get her ears looked at. I know she has a little ear infection probably. I've had the kitty carrier out all day. She has, I've not seen her.
00:34:45
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She didn't even see me put it out. She hasn't seen me put it out at all. Like she was like lounging somewhere this morning when I set it out on the the living room floor. haven't seen her since.
00:34:57
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She's a good girl and I can take her anywhere. Like she's used to getting out of the house. um Anyway, say your prayers for her. She's got to get her teeth out probably this summer. So say your prayers for my um bank account. Okay.
00:35:09
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00:35:38
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Bye.