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Episode 4: We’re Back! Pushing Through & Showing Up
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We missed y’all last week due to some unexpected technical difficulties—but thank God, we’re still here and still showing up! In this episode of From StartUp to TakeOver—Watch Us Work, we talk about pushing through setbacks, staying committed, and what it really means to keep going when things don’t go as planned.
And here’s the exciting part: For the next 30 days, we’re going LIVE for 30 minutes a day at 8 PM EST! Join us daily as we dive into real, honest, and sometimes hilarious conversations about life, business, culture, and everything in between.
Come ride with us—we’re just getting started!
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Podcast Introduction
00:00:08
Tanya Ruttley
Hello, welcome to from startup to take over podcast.
00:00:09
Kim Fletcher
hope
00:00:12
Tanya Ruttley
Watch us work. I'm your co-host Latrice.
00:00:15
Kim Fletcher
And I'm Kim. Hello, hello, hello. What's going on cousin?
00:00:22
Tanya Ruttley
Kim, I can't hear you.
00:00:24
Kim Fletcher
Hello, can you hear me?
00:00:28
Kim Fletcher
Can you hear me? Can you hear me? Hello?
00:00:38
Kim Fletcher
Hello. can you hear me now can you hear me campus yeah yeah can you hear me
00:00:42
Tanya Ruttley
All right, you guys look like Kim is getting ready to unmute her mic. And we are getting started. um We was having technical.
00:00:50
Kim Fletcher
you
00:00:51
Tanya Ruttley
Yep, I can hear you now.
00:00:51
Kim Fletcher
can you hear me yes
00:00:52
Tanya Ruttley
we were having a technical difficulty, but we are good to go tonight. So hi, Kim.
Technical Hiccups & Show Return
00:00:57
Tanya Ruttley
How are you?
00:00:59
Kim Fletcher
hello here we go i think god has been working hard for us now look here don't start hey cousin it's him hi people
00:01:09
Tanya Ruttley
Hi.
00:01:11
Kim Fletcher
what's going on girl i'm like uh-uh i've been working hard for us to get back on here we missed two shows too what what are they doing that and not tonight what that lady said not today
00:01:20
Tanya Ruttley
yeah yeah Yeah, we're ready today.
Ice Cube Event Experience
00:01:25
Tanya Ruttley
i was like, think it's just she's muted.
00:01:28
Kim Fletcher
yes oh i i'm something it's just like one we'll talk about it later but hey girl hey cousin
00:01:28
Tanya Ruttley
So no worries.
00:01:35
Tanya Ruttley
Hi. Hi, cousin. Hi.
00:01:38
Kim Fletcher
What's been going on? I see you over the day.
00:01:41
Tanya Ruttley
a
00:01:42
Kim Fletcher
haven't been on this podcast. I see you have been doing some interesting things, meeting some interesting people.
00:01:53
Tanya Ruttley
Yes.
00:01:53
Kim Fletcher
then Yes.
00:01:54
Tanya Ruttley
a
00:01:55
Kim Fletcher
Who did you, where did you go?
00:01:57
Tanya Ruttley
So for Father's Day, well an extension of a Father's Day weekend, I had purchased some tickets for my husband and myself to go to Ice Cube's Big Three.
00:01:58
Kim Fletcher
but
00:02:06
Tanya Ruttley
You know, he owns a basketball yeah basketball tournament. per se. um So we decided to go there on Sunday and lo and behold, we were like right behind Ice Cube. Now check it. Here's the backstory.
00:02:23
Tanya Ruttley
So Ice Cube and Michael Jackson are my two favorite celebrities.
00:02:27
Tanya Ruttley
I know weird combination, right? um
00:02:27
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:02:30
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:02:30
Tanya Ruttley
I went to Ice Cube concert when I was younger, when he left NWA.
00:02:36
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:02:36
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. And he went on his own. So there was a concert he had, you know, dah, dah, dah, dah. So as a kid, you know, well, young teenager, I saw him in concert, but I never got to see Michael Jackson in concert. I really hate that. I didn't get that opportunity.
00:02:50
Tanya Ruttley
However, um my husband is like, we're walking around to go to our seats.
00:02:50
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:02:55
Tanya Ruttley
And he's like, wait a minute, there go Ice Cube right there. And my husband knows I'm an Ice Cube fan, right? So he's like, there's Ice Cube right there.
00:03:01
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:03:02
Tanya Ruttley
So I'm trying not to look. And we get closer. And then he's like, wait a minute. I think our seats are right behind him. I'm thinking and to myself, no way. But at the same time, I'm trying to keep my composure, right?
00:03:16
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:03:17
Tanya Ruttley
And we come around and point to where we sit and girl, we were right behind him, three seats to the right of him. you It was crazy. But so um my husband was like, you want a picture? And I was like, yeah, but i don't want to bother him because you know, I don't want to be rude. He's here working.
00:03:36
Tanya Ruttley
i don't know. that he was like, I'll ask for you. I was like, Ooh, will you? He was like, he was like, um, yeah, I got you.
00:03:42
Kim Fletcher
so
00:03:43
Tanya Ruttley
Huh?
00:03:44
Kim Fletcher
So so well how do how did you act? did Did your husband?
00:03:49
Tanya Ruttley
So I was hours was very respectful.
00:03:51
Kim Fletcher
Right. Mm-hmm.
00:03:51
Tanya Ruttley
For one, I'm married, right? um He's married.
00:03:54
Kim Fletcher
right
00:03:55
Tanya Ruttley
So for one, and I'm not a little 20-year-old, you know, I'm up here in age. So I was sure to be respectful, for one, my husband, um and then for his wife, right?
00:04:07
Tanya Ruttley
So when we had our opportunity, well, me, because my husband didn't care to take a picture, I went up there and I just stood beside him. I didn't touch him or anything like that. um I just wanted to get the photo, right?
00:04:18
Tanya Ruttley
so that I can always have that memory captured
00:04:20
Kim Fletcher
where you where you know people be like groupies oh oh i see ice cube ice cube i want to take a picture i want to take you know how do you act are we supposed to act you know like fan out
00:04:32
Tanya Ruttley
Well, I think you should be respectful because
Celebrity Interaction Etiquette
00:04:35
Tanya Ruttley
he's married. So even if you are single, right? Yes, he he if he's someone or any celebrity that you're interested in, you know, taking a photo with, having a conversation with, shaking their hand if they allow that, I don't even think that should be something because people are nasty.
00:04:39
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:04:51
Tanya Ruttley
But anyway, um
00:04:52
Kim Fletcher
right
00:04:55
Tanya Ruttley
I think if the celebrity is married or you're married, you should always be respectful. So then you wouldn't fan out, right?
00:05:03
Kim Fletcher
right Well, yeah, because you're right, because he's a regular person. He's a celebrity, but a regular person, because if it was us and some other person, female, or if it was a role reverse come up, you're going to be like, side-eyed, who is that?
00:05:20
Kim Fletcher
Who's shaking your hand?
00:05:21
Tanya Ruttley
yeah
00:05:22
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, yeah. yeah
00:05:24
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. So I appreciate that he, he, cause his security did ask him, was he going to be taking photos?
00:05:25
Kim Fletcher
yeah you you
00:05:29
Tanya Ruttley
Because when my husband asked, um, then another guy had came up to ask. And, um, so he, you know, he asked him, Hey, are you taking photos? And cube was, he was just, look at me cube, ice cube. He was like, yeah.
00:05:41
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:05:42
Tanya Ruttley
Um, and then he was, I guess it was just like, you know, not during a game, which makes perfect sense.
00:05:47
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:05:47
Tanya Ruttley
So when they, cause they have like four games at his events, right.
00:05:52
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:05:53
Tanya Ruttley
And that particular day is like four games. So in between, um the next game is when we have the opportunity, opportunity to take the photo. And even the other lady that was there, she was respectful.
00:06:06
Tanya Ruttley
I just didn't, but again, she was older.
00:06:09
Kim Fletcher
were having How many words did Ice Cube give you? You and the other lady or whoever, did he, how you doing or and cool or nice media or no words at all or what?
00:06:21
Tanya Ruttley
ah he You can tell he read the room. He read the person, right? Because when the kid...
00:06:26
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:06:26
Tanya Ruttley
So for me, when I came up, um he smiled. smiled. I was like, ooh, I went to one of your concerts before, so I definitely want to get a photo. And he was like, you know, he smiled. Then he did get he but went straight from smiling to his gangster pose.
00:06:41
Tanya Ruttley
He has this...
00:06:41
Kim Fletcher
So,
00:06:42
Tanya Ruttley
um What do call it? This demeanor of... Yeah, he immediately went into his position, right? um So I took my photo. I said, thank you. He said, you're welcome.
00:06:53
Tanya Ruttley
And boom. and i And I moved out the way. um The other lady, she had went before me. She had got her photo and boom. You know, he smiled before the photo and then he took his photo, you know. But when the kid came up, he smiled the whole time.
00:07:03
Kim Fletcher
so
00:07:07
Tanya Ruttley
He put his arms around him, you know. So... you can tell he knows there's boundaries too. So he respect his fans. Right. Um, but with the woman, me and the other woman, you know, we didn't hug or don't know touching or anything like that.
00:07:16
Kim Fletcher
Right. But I'm not about to get a lot of suit on on these old brawls talking about let me get a hug in a picture.
00:07:21
Tanya Ruttley
It was, it was respectable.
00:07:30
Kim Fletcher
But yeah, just playing.
00:07:30
Tanya Ruttley
And, you know, some celebrities offer that. And I think that's okay if both are single.
00:07:35
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:07:38
Tanya Ruttley
That's just how I feel. I just don't think if you're a married person, I don't care if that is a celebrity, that I'm not going to disrespect my husband just because you're a celebrity.
00:07:43
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:07:45
Tanya Ruttley
Like, what? I'm not doing that.
00:07:46
Kim Fletcher
And um ah do you think you think that way because you've grown? And because young people don't think that way. They'll probably fanning that, oh, oh, oh, excuse me.
00:07:57
Kim Fletcher
Now, I don't know about this generation.
00:07:59
Tanya Ruttley
I don't even think that's an age thing.
00:08:00
Kim Fletcher
Now. Period.
00:08:01
Tanya Ruttley
I think that's about if you have respect for your spouse, period.
00:08:02
Kim Fletcher
yeah know
00:08:04
Tanya Ruttley
of' all So, you know, this is not my first marriage.
00:08:05
Kim Fletcher
here
00:08:07
Tanya Ruttley
I've always had respect for my spouse. So I don't think it has anything to do with age. I think that's a personality conflict.
00:08:11
Kim Fletcher
you yeah you You fit in the 1%, baby. Sit down. I can tell you, I've been married three times a night.
00:08:17
Tanya Ruttley
See, I don't.
00:08:18
Kim Fletcher
I've been this year.
00:08:19
Tanya Ruttley
I don't think.
00:08:19
Kim Fletcher
Are you in the 1%? Because it's just hard.
00:08:20
Tanya Ruttley
I just, I think there are more respectable people than everybody knows. I think so. More negative gets pushed out. That's just life, right?
00:08:32
Kim Fletcher
Yes. Yes.
00:08:32
Tanya Ruttley
The positive does not play. No one likes that narrative, which is why, you know, think about That's why you and I wanted to do a podcast because we wanted to bring something different to the table than all this negative stuff.
00:08:46
Tanya Ruttley
There is a lot of positive in the world. It's not shown. Right?
00:08:46
Kim Fletcher
That's right.
00:08:52
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:08:52
Tanya Ruttley
It's not pushed.
00:08:53
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:08:54
Tanya Ruttley
People like drama, negativity, heartbreak, that kind of stuff.
00:08:56
Kim Fletcher
That's right.
00:08:58
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:08:59
Tanya Ruttley
But there's so much more that's going on, but no one's talking about it. And we need to start talking
Promoting Positivity & Generational Fan Behavior
00:09:04
Tanya Ruttley
about it. My friends that I have are respectable to their spouses. And it's not about their age.
00:09:07
Kim Fletcher
That's right.
00:09:10
Tanya Ruttley
It's about their personality.
00:09:10
Kim Fletcher
That's right.
00:09:11
Tanya Ruttley
It's who they are. And I'm very selective in my friends. That's why. just...
00:09:16
Kim Fletcher
And then it's how do your your friends act? do How do they act when they're with their spouses? You know, are they quiet like like you were with your husband meeting ice cube?
00:09:33
Kim Fletcher
You wouldn't all fan it out.
00:09:34
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, you're talking about what this...
00:09:35
Kim Fletcher
That's the truth.
00:09:35
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, but here's the thing.
00:09:37
Kim Fletcher
I don't know.
00:09:37
Tanya Ruttley
going be quiet if it was me and my homegirls. Because that's my personality. That's what i'm saying.
00:09:43
Tanya Ruttley
it's It's who you are. i don't have... Even my girlfriends, they're not people who will fall out and, oh my God, and lose their brain, right? We'll probably giggle and go up and get a photo and going on about our business, right?
00:09:43
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:09:52
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:09:56
Tanya Ruttley
even Even my friend that's not married, I have a... How how many friends do I have that's not married? One? I have one who's not married. Um, yeah. And I don't see her falling out for me, the child. She might be like, don't need no picture.
00:10:11
Tanya Ruttley
I'm just, you know, but I'm very selective of my friends.
00:10:11
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:10:13
Kim Fletcher
um gone that That's because she's grown. That that was my question. Like, little young girls fanning out trying to get to the the back of the room or the, what do you call it, where they go in before they come out, trying to get into their little area where they get dressed or whatever.
00:10:32
Tanya Ruttley
The VIP section.
00:10:34
Kim Fletcher
They trying to get some of them little girls be fanning out. So, i mean, younger girls.
00:10:37
Tanya Ruttley
I still think that's a personality thing. It has to do with them being a little girl.
00:10:42
Kim Fletcher
i mean that little girl yeah i'm just how i'm just saying in general yeah should they fan
00:10:42
Tanya Ruttley
ye Are we talking about married or we talking about single?
00:10:48
Tanya Ruttley
But it matters. But it matters. Because if the celebrity is single and they're single, they can fan out. i me I mean, i mean who if they're single and the celebrity is single...
00:10:54
Kim Fletcher
out because they sing should they fan out cause they seem no
00:11:03
Tanya Ruttley
Well, let's see. What is fan out? So my fan out that I'm thinking you're talking about is probably like touching, hugging, being so excited, screaming, acting crazy. That's fanning out to me.
00:11:11
Kim Fletcher
We're on the same page.
00:11:12
Tanya Ruttley
What are you saying? Because let's make sure we're on the same path. What are you saying when you say fanning out?
00:11:18
Kim Fletcher
We're on the same page
00:11:19
Tanya Ruttley
Okay. Then, yeah, I think that's okay. Because you're not doing anything too crazy by, know, slapping them, being so excited, giggly, overly hype. I think that's okay as long as it's like The person has already said you can come on and get a photo or a hug. You know, like Chris Brown, you know how he take the photos with his?
00:11:37
Kim Fletcher
Listen though.
00:11:37
Tanya Ruttley
ah Now that's extra for me. But it again.
00:11:39
Kim Fletcher
but but it doesn't mean anything correct it doesn't mean anything they're jumping all over them they're just fanning out right right okay okay that's why i was gonna say so why can't it be a married celebrity that allows it and they fan out
00:11:46
Tanya Ruttley
They're fanning out and the celebrity allows it. Then that's okay.
00:11:57
Tanya Ruttley
Why would a married celebrity allow the fans to... Have you seen the picture that Chris Brown took with his fans? Like legs and all hugged up?
00:12:04
Kim Fletcher
Yes, but now but I'm not playing out like that, but you know, like,
00:12:05
Tanya Ruttley
No, that's disrespectful. Hmm?
00:12:11
Tanya Ruttley
That's what I'm asking. What do you mean by fan out?
00:12:12
Kim Fletcher
in
00:12:13
Tanya Ruttley
and Let's make sure i know exactly what you're talking about.
00:12:13
Kim Fletcher
and excuse yeah
00:12:14
Tanya Ruttley
Oh,
00:12:15
Kim Fletcher
you know, like, like Chris, I think that's the only fan type thing that kind of, yes, yes, yes, like that, like, oh, and baby, I'll even talk to the wife, hey, you, hey,
00:12:21
Tanya Ruttley
you're talking about giddy? and I want to make sure i know what you're talking giddy.
00:12:26
Tanya Ruttley
oh ah
00:12:33
Kim Fletcher
don't let me not say cause oh lord I know I see wife name and I can't hear it right now so but her I'll be like speak it to her too you know probably speak to her first but she's not farming yeah
00:12:43
Tanya Ruttley
Right. Absolutely. Yep. But his wife, I didn't see his wife there, but yeah, definitely. she was standing right there, be like, Hey, how you doing? Let me get my picture. You know, something like that. Yeah.
00:12:52
Kim Fletcher
Like, because I'm sorry, can I help you?
00:12:53
Tanya Ruttley
Um,
00:12:54
Kim Fletcher
You know, i will respect her. So, yeah. And I'm trying to see if it's because we are grown and grown and not younger.
00:12:56
Tanya Ruttley
ah
00:13:05
Kim Fletcher
You know, back in the days, younger, your mind is not fully developed.
00:13:09
Tanya Ruttley
I've always been reserved. um ah No. As far as respectful, ah that's just who I am.
00:13:15
Kim Fletcher
Or fantasy. I know it.
00:13:17
Tanya Ruttley
Even when I was young, i probably would have been a friend I would have got on your nerve like, oh, you know, because I'm a little shy, you know.
00:13:19
Kim Fletcher
I know it. look like already know you drill sergeant you yeah don
00:13:27
Tanya Ruttley
Girl, that's a time. Look, there's a time and place for different roles.
00:13:32
Kim Fletcher
yeah but yeah know what's yours good because you so you know yeah you just latrice to me so you even to me like you never change so i don't know what yeah
00:13:33
Tanya Ruttley
You know?
00:13:43
Tanya Ruttley
yeah I got you. So this is what I tell my friends. And everybody may not agree, but I've always felt like one of my girlfriends, she's the best friend. I have three.
00:13:54
Tanya Ruttley
um One time I remember her saying, oh, I know, you know, because I have a smart mouth with my girlfriends, right? And...
00:14:00
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:14:01
Tanya Ruttley
It's like, oh, I know your husband get it.
00:14:02
Kim Fletcher
where hook yes
00:14:04
Tanya Ruttley
I'm like, hold on, boo-boo.
00:14:05
Tanya Ruttley
my You don't get the same husband um treatment as my husband. So, no.
00:14:05
Kim Fletcher
up
00:14:08
Kim Fletcher
out
00:14:09
Tanya Ruttley
How I am with you is not how I am with my husband. So, for me, when I say there are different roles, I act ah according to the situation. So... so
00:14:20
Kim Fletcher
And listen here, if you were my best friend talking about some look here, I'd be like, look here, girl. We've been married. I mean, we've been best friend forever. Don't be talking about something.
00:14:31
Kim Fletcher
My relationship talk different.
00:14:33
Tanya Ruttley
said that woman oh Oh, honey, let me tell you something. See, my husband, in my opinion, there was a different level to that. So, yes, no one's getting that treatment. Best friend or not.
00:14:45
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:14:46
Tanya Ruttley
Like, but the Bible but don't say, uh-uh, honey.
00:14:47
Kim Fletcher
You said there was no different. left What you talking about?
00:14:49
Tanya Ruttley
The Bible don't say nothing about them friends being up there on those same level. Mm-mm. No. So I may come at you all, you know, bloop,
Respect in Relationships & Social Media Influence
00:15:00
Tanya Ruttley
bloop, bloop, and have fun. No, I'm not.
00:15:03
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-mm.
00:15:04
Kim Fletcher
it because we all
00:15:05
Tanya Ruttley
I'm not going to be all nasty and mean to my husband, you know. Well, unless he started something. But, you know.
00:15:11
Kim Fletcher
okay um okay okay like stop it because we all
00:15:16
Tanya Ruttley
I said unless he started something. Now, with my friends, I might kick the shit and start something.
00:15:19
Kim Fletcher
you
00:15:21
Tanya Ruttley
A conversation and start something off.
00:15:21
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:15:22
Tanya Ruttley
But, yeah, no, I don't. I just, I treat them different. I think um people, everybody don't get treated the same.
00:15:26
Kim Fletcher
so you never ever so you never ever start anything with your husband never so he knew i was do stuff he do all stars
00:15:32
Tanya Ruttley
No. Mm-mm. no No. So if if there's an altercation, he gonna piss me off because he started something. No, ma'am.
00:15:43
Tanya Ruttley
what like First of all, start, let me ask you this. Start something, why? you
00:15:50
Kim Fletcher
I mean, we so conditioned that if we say a damn word, I mean, um I guess you could guess. If we say a word, we're starting something. We're nagging or...
00:15:59
Tanya Ruttley
That's not true now. Hold on.
00:16:02
Kim Fletcher
I'm just saying, for real. So... so
00:16:03
Tanya Ruttley
ah you ah so Are you sure about that? You're saying, so if you want to bring up a gripe, you have a gripe about something, are you saying that your husband would automatically, it'll be saying that you're nagging or something like that?
00:16:17
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:16:19
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, because they think you're crazy because you're probably saying the same thing and getting the same answer. So you keep asking and they think you're nagging. So that if you answer the question and I won't keep asking you, you won't sound it won't sound like i'm nagging. So it sounds always sounds like the woman is starting it because we are nagging. So you never nag and you never start anything.
00:16:42
Kim Fletcher
You're right.
00:16:42
Tanya Ruttley
But that's not necessarily mean you're starting something. So,
00:16:46
Kim Fletcher
But to them, Latrice, if Carol, what?
00:16:47
Tanya Ruttley
ah
00:16:51
Tanya Ruttley
but you can't speak for everybody.
00:16:52
Kim Fletcher
like
00:16:52
Tanya Ruttley
Hold on on, but you can't speak for everybody.
00:16:54
Kim Fletcher
I'm just saying take a statistic.
00:16:56
Tanya Ruttley
and her
00:16:56
Kim Fletcher
The majority of the women, if they say anything or try or try to voice how they feel or say what the heart is or if somebody acts.
00:17:07
Tanya Ruttley
Who says this? Who are we talking about?
00:17:09
Kim Fletcher
I mean, men do too, but majority of the women.
00:17:10
Tanya Ruttley
Babe, ain't had that experience. No, ma'am. No, ma'am.
00:17:14
Kim Fletcher
Okay. You say what?
00:17:14
Tanya Ruttley
So here's here's what I mean by that. So, okay, let's say my husband hasn't done something chad that I've asked him to do, right? When I bring it up again, no, he don't say, oh, you nagging. on No, that's because that's not nagging.
00:17:31
Tanya Ruttley
Now, I also think delivery is important. So let me take something for instance.
00:17:34
Kim Fletcher
well when you we trash we come out taking out no trash you as your husband he took out no trash yeah okay i'm just saying like
00:17:36
Tanya Ruttley
Hold on. Let's say, ahead.
00:17:42
Tanya Ruttley
Well, girl, that's what get on my nerves. So what, so give me an example of something you were talking about. That's what I said cause i don't care to start anything.
00:17:48
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, like yeah maybe he stayed out too late, and you asked him a question about him being out. It it could have been supposed to have been at home at 2 o'clock, but he got there at 4, and you asking him a question, and and he turned it around like you nagging or not really nagging, but that too, or you want to start something because they've been out. That's a lot, like for real, real, like.
00:18:13
Kim Fletcher
That's just an example. not saying that's happening. I'm just like, take
00:18:16
Tanya Ruttley
Right, because that's I'm saying. trying to give examples. I think we have to be careful of saying that this is like exclusive.
00:18:24
Kim Fletcher
me
00:18:26
Tanya Ruttley
Like this is what we're known for.
00:18:27
Kim Fletcher
a statistic.
00:18:32
Tanya Ruttley
So ah again,
00:18:33
Kim Fletcher
um but I must not be watching half of the people that you watch or who's around you. Like I can't be sorry.
00:18:39
Tanya Ruttley
um want to make sure hearing, make sure you still stand up to the mic. Say that again now. You got to finish your thought.
00:18:43
Kim Fletcher
are
00:18:43
Tanya Ruttley
You fine.
00:18:44
Kim Fletcher
that Did you hear me?
00:18:46
Tanya Ruttley
Say it again for me a little bit louder.
00:18:48
Kim Fletcher
which Which one, what part, what where was
00:18:51
Tanya Ruttley
I couldn't hear a lot of what you were saying.
00:18:54
Kim Fletcher
I was just saying.
00:18:54
Tanya Ruttley
When you said you don't want to give an example, you said not that particular example. You just giving an example, but not that per se. Okay.
00:19:01
Kim Fletcher
No, I was saying I'm using that as an example, but I'm not saying that that example is, what everyone's going through. It's just an example I'm using so you can try to put things with other perspectives on what we are saying because a lot of things you could say, a guy could say you're trying to start something.
00:19:25
Kim Fletcher
and like That's why I'm saying like I may not be, you may be just like the other ever rhythm on social media media. It gives you what you want hear. So you may be around people or you may be listening to things that line up with what you're thinking.
00:19:40
Tanya Ruttley
Exactly. That's exactly what it is. Yeah. Yeah.
00:19:44
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:19:44
Tanya Ruttley
Because told I'm very yeah selective. And here's here's another thing.
00:19:47
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:19:48
Tanya Ruttley
so and And this this started it because you said, like, oh, Latrice, you don't start. And I'm like, no, I don't start nothing with my husband. I don't do that.
00:19:57
Kim Fletcher
never can in and I know
00:19:57
Tanya Ruttley
No. I have conversation. Hold on. When I'm talking... I can't hear you say one more time, please.
00:20:06
Kim Fletcher
i don't know what what why what's going on but yeah i say i can't believe you i can't believe i said i can't believe you haven't started insane but i can
00:20:15
Tanya Ruttley
yeah Yeah. Let me, let me say this.
00:20:19
Tanya Ruttley
So um the only thing, and you said you're not talking about trash. Well, guess what? That's one of the worst things in my house that drives me up the wall.
00:20:27
Kim Fletcher
So it's not.
00:20:28
Tanya Ruttley
Trash being light bulbs being changed, right?
00:20:28
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:20:32
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:20:33
Tanya Ruttley
Those are the, my husband don't go out. My husband, the type of person, oh my God, girl, we've been together eight years. He may have went out. I'm not like in in eight years, I'll give you six times.
00:20:49
Tanya Ruttley
Right? So that's what saying.
00:20:50
Kim Fletcher
right
00:20:51
Tanya Ruttley
So when you say start, I'm like, no, I'm not starting something. Now I may start a, I may have a conversation about if I said I need the light bulb changed. Right. And we have high ceilings.
00:21:02
Tanya Ruttley
And even with the ladder, I can't get to it. Right. Also, I'm afraid of heights. So that does get on my nerves.
00:21:08
Kim Fletcher
um
00:21:08
Tanya Ruttley
And I asked you and it hasn't happened again. Right.
00:21:11
Kim Fletcher
right
00:21:11
Tanya Ruttley
So I'll ask again, but I'm still with, cause you said starting something. I still didn't start an argument.
00:21:19
Kim Fletcher
maybe i'm we just on the same page but we um saying the word differently
00:21:25
Tanya Ruttley
Are you saying, do we argue? Will we end up arguing about it? No. No, that's my point.
00:21:31
Tanya Ruttley
I think.
00:21:31
Kim Fletcher
Don't start anything.
00:21:32
Kim Fletcher
Like, I'm telling you you you you, you're telling the truth because some of the stuff I heard you say, you know, prior when we talked, like, a long time, and you would say questions that you would ask, and the questions that you ask your mate, you know, in the past, you would act so nice and kind, and you would do it so nice and kind, and you would just, was, you just, yeah, I don't i can believe it, yeah.
00:21:40
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
00:21:45
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:21:52
Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely. would I talk to him nasty?
00:21:58
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, I don't. So ah i'll I'll tell you this.
00:21:59
Kim Fletcher
I'm sorry.
00:22:01
Tanya Ruttley
i'll be um I'll reveal something. So when we were dating, right?
00:22:04
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:22:05
Tanya Ruttley
So let's say I haven't. Okay, let's say I have not had an argument since my first marriage, right? Which I got divorced in 2003. I don't i don't care who I dated. I had not gotten arguments, right?
00:22:19
Tanya Ruttley
So with my now husband, we were dating in Kentucky.
00:22:19
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:22:22
Tanya Ruttley
And girl, he was talking crazy. And he ended up talking crazy baby like two times.
00:22:26
Kim Fletcher
and
00:22:30
Tanya Ruttley
And okay, the last time I let him have it. I did. But after that, I did sit down and I was like, look, this is not how we should be speaking to each other. So this is how I think.
00:22:42
Tanya Ruttley
And this ain't started because I'm older. I've always had this thought process.
00:22:46
Kim Fletcher
right right
00:22:47
Tanya Ruttley
That's why I knew not to date another guy like my ex-husband, right? Right.
00:22:51
Kim Fletcher
and
00:22:52
Tanya Ruttley
because someone can pull something out of you, right? Even if that's not your normal self, you can only take so much.
00:22:59
Kim Fletcher
right
00:23:03
Tanya Ruttley
So I removed myself from that type of situation. So with my husband now, and that was in him, you know, came out, I was like, um look, this is not how we should speak to each other. Girl, do you know? He was like, what?
00:23:15
Tanya Ruttley
What do you mean? You just got your point across. I said, hold on. There's a way to get my point across. But you don't have to talk to your significant others that way. So this is how I'm wired. That's why when you say, are you starting this? I'm like, what do what do you mean you started something? I can get my point across without being nasty or coming at you like I'm ready to.
00:23:33
Tanya Ruttley
No, rah, rah, rah.
00:23:34
Kim Fletcher
yeah but see that's you the way you're saying it women don't just come at you and raw raw raw when we we we're nice we're nice and we talk nice and then you snap off at us and that makes sense
00:23:41
Tanya Ruttley
That's why I see
00:23:48
Tanya Ruttley
Now, some women do come at you raw, raw, raw.
00:23:49
Kim Fletcher
wow but Yeah, and sometimes.
00:23:52
Tanya Ruttley
I do know, so wait a minute now.
00:23:53
Kim Fletcher
ah one Well, what why was the what is the reason they come in brah rah, rah, rah? Is it just they i mean because they just come in?
00:23:59
Tanya Ruttley
Ooh. Let me think.
00:24:06
Kim Fletcher
Okay, I'm waiting. ah
00:24:08
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, you might be on to something.
00:24:09
Kim Fletcher
and um ah ra ra Are they just coming because they woke up and they want to rah, rah, rah?
00:24:12
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:24:16
Kim Fletcher
Or is it a reason why they're coming rah, rah, rah?
00:24:16
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:24:19
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Uh-oh, we got some time. We got, yeah, we got four minutes. but We don't have to push that. Uh-oh,
00:24:19
Kim Fletcher
So let's talk about that next time because we have four minutes.
00:24:29
Kim Fletcher
We're going to push that back because you know we need to tell the people about the chat.
00:24:33
Tanya Ruttley
you went out, Kim.
00:24:35
Kim Fletcher
Can you hear me? Can you hear me?
00:24:37
Tanya Ruttley
I can hear you now. Say that again.
00:24:39
Kim Fletcher
I said, I don't know why I'm going out because putting my ear on.
00:24:40
Tanya Ruttley
Yes. Mm-hmm.
00:24:42
Kim Fletcher
I said, we we have like four minutes left, but we need to tell the people about the challenge. you know Tell our family, tell our friends, tell our new followers, our old followers.
00:24:51
Tanya Ruttley
That's gonna be at the end. We ain't there yet. that's one That's the last, that's the last, last.
00:24:53
Kim Fletcher
We are. we only yeah
00:24:56
Tanya Ruttley
Let's get this conversation in
00:24:56
Kim Fletcher
and We only have a minute. No, cannot go over 30 minutes. And if we do, we're going to go over 30 minutes. No, because what we're doing...
00:25:10
Kim Fletcher
30 30. we're not going over 30 minutes
00:25:13
Tanya Ruttley
don't take three minutes to say that.
00:25:16
Kim Fletcher
yes it does we already finna be on 28. two minutes left latrice uh okay what yes yes one minute one minute
00:25:23
Tanya Ruttley
I'm gonna have to put little stopwatch up here. She's like, we gonna be right on the dot to this 30 minutes.
00:25:28
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:25:29
Tanya Ruttley
I think we started a minute late though.
00:25:29
Kim Fletcher
yes our subscribe
00:25:31
Tanya Ruttley
i
00:25:32
Kim Fletcher
one minute
00:25:32
Tanya Ruttley
I think we started a minute late.
00:25:33
Kim Fletcher
one minute okay 31 so you got three minutes to save the 30 minute challenge now go i'm waiting
00:25:34
Tanya Ruttley
Let me see our timer.
00:25:43
Tanya Ruttley
Okay, you guys, so my boss said,
00:25:47
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:25:48
Tanya Ruttley
did you say wait?
00:25:53
Kim Fletcher
i'm waiting your job
00:25:53
Tanya Ruttley
Okay, you guys. So, girl, stop making me laugh. All right, so here we go, you guys. Kim and I have decided to do a 30-day, 30-minute challenge where we are going to have various discussions um
Podcast Challenge Announcement
00:26:11
Tanya Ruttley
about just about anything.
00:26:11
Kim Fletcher
like this
00:26:12
Tanya Ruttley
We may even have a guest on one of the shows. We don't know yet, um but this is something that we want you guys to come along ah you know for the ride with us.
00:26:23
Tanya Ruttley
Kim, you have anything else you want to add to that?
00:26:23
Kim Fletcher
yeah no no that was it i just yeah it was just 30 30 and we want you guys to help us going along we're gonna
00:26:28
Tanya Ruttley
30 seconds. We got three more minutes.
00:26:35
Tanya Ruttley
All
00:26:36
Kim Fletcher
keep going on for the 30 minutes but we want you to keep us going we're going talk random raw random every day and r raw and random so we thank you guys we thank you guys we only have one minute it's 8 21 we thank you guys for listening you know we may be having some time mic trouble but like i said god is working hard in the paint hard in the paint
00:26:39
Tanya Ruttley
right.
00:26:47
Tanya Ruttley
So what are we going to say?
00:27:06
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:27:06
Tanya Ruttley
v We got two minutes left.
00:27:08
Kim Fletcher
Are we good? We got two minutes. Let's say something.
00:27:11
Tanya Ruttley
No.
00:27:11
Kim Fletcher
Latrice say, did you enjoy this?
00:27:11
Tanya Ruttley
Can we finish this other part of this conversation?
00:27:16
Kim Fletcher
Was this great? Was this a good discussion?
00:27:17
Tanya Ruttley
I did. I
00:27:21
Tanya Ruttley
did.
00:27:21
Kim Fletcher
I did.
00:27:22
Tanya Ruttley
I enjoyed it.
00:27:22
Kim Fletcher
I enjoyed it.
00:27:23
Tanya Ruttley
um
00:27:23
Kim Fletcher
Yes. Yes.
00:27:24
Tanya Ruttley
But I surely wish we was able to finish that ah other part of conversation while women they go rah, rah, rah.
00:27:24
Kim Fletcher
Yes. Okay. No, we won't. What was the question? that we wont what what's the question
00:27:34
Tanya Ruttley
I don't know. You ruined my moment.
00:27:36
Kim Fletcher
What was That's right.
00:27:39
Tanya Ruttley
I think it was the why. Do women really go rah, rah, rah only for a reason? That's pretty much what it was. And I think I agree. i just Let me think on that a little bit. Yeah, I'll think on that so that maybe that's something we can talk about tomorrow.
00:27:50
Kim Fletcher
ah That's right. That's right. Uh-huh. Yeah.
00:27:55
Tanya Ruttley
And, oh, and again, guys, the 30-30 starts to tomorrow because this is our regular day, Tuesday, because, you know, our podcast is normally Tuesdays and Thursdays, 8 a.m.
00:27:59
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:28:06
Tanya Ruttley
m Eastern Standard Time. But we decided to do the 30-30, and that's going to be every day. So that actually starts tomorrow, and it'll take us all the way out through um for the whole month of July.
00:28:17
Tanya Ruttley
yeah.
00:28:18
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:28:19
Tanya Ruttley
Be with us, support us, help us grow our page. And we look forward to think we go forward to seeing you guys tomorrow.
00:28:23
Kim Fletcher
Watch us work.
00:28:27
Kim Fletcher
Watch us work. Watch us work.
00:28:30
Tanya Ruttley
From startup to take over, watch us work podcast.
00:28:33
Kim Fletcher
Good night.
00:28:33
Tanya Ruttley
Latrice and Kim, we are out. Good night.
00:28:55
Tanya Ruttley
Martino, I don't believe you turned that TV up. That TV was not supposed to be up.
00:29:02
Tanya Ruttley
It's okay.