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EPISODE 16:(DAY 12 OF 30-DAY CHALLENGE)
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Introduction and Podcast Overview
00:00:48
Kim Fletcher
Hello, hello.
00:01:05
Kim Fletcher
Hello, hello, hello. Welcome back. Thanks for joining us. Thank you.
00:01:11
Tanya Ruttley
Hello, you guys. Welcome to From Startup to Takeover podcast.
Gardening Adventures and Market Plans
00:01:16
Tanya Ruttley
All right, so how you doing today, Kim?
00:01:19
Kim Fletcher
I'm good. I'm good. How about yourself?
00:01:23
Tanya Ruttley
I'm good. Same here, same here.
00:01:25
Kim Fletcher
Did you see anything growing different? Did you find anything growing today in your garden?
00:01:32
Tanya Ruttley
Well, no, just my zucchini's getting, um, bigger. My watermelons are getting bigger, but the new stuff that I, um, planted out there, they haven't popped through just yet.
00:01:43
Tanya Ruttley
They got about one has, I think maybe another week. And then, um, I think maybe a few more days for the bell peppers that I put down about a week ago.
00:01:55
Tanya Ruttley
So yeah.
00:01:56
Kim Fletcher
So how many things do you have growing?
00:01:59
Tanya Ruttley
How many what now?
00:02:00
Kim Fletcher
How many um vegetables do you have growing? How many plants?
00:02:02
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, chap. How many? Ooh.
00:02:07
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
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Tanya Ruttley
I don't know.
00:02:08
Kim Fletcher
Different.
00:02:08
Tanya Ruttley
I've never even counted them.
00:02:08
Kim Fletcher
I don't know.
00:02:09
Tanya Ruttley
I never counted them. I got, um, so let's say I have sweet potatoes, okra, bell pepper, jalapeno peppers, summer squash, zucchini,
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Tanya Ruttley
um watermelon, raspberry tree, blueberry tree, grape tree, Idaho potatoes.
00:02:33
Tanya Ruttley
I have green beans. I have cucumbers. I have bok choy,
00:02:45
Tanya Ruttley
horn tomatoes, oregano, um, spearmint. What's my favorite?
00:02:56
Tanya Ruttley
Um, basil,
00:03:00
Tanya Ruttley
cilantro, did I say jalapeno peppers? Yep. And, uh, banana, sweet pepper, sweet banana peppers. And that may be it.
00:03:14
Kim Fletcher
yeah That's like 21 items.
00:03:17
Tanya Ruttley
like o I never counted them.
00:03:19
Kim Fletcher
Wow.
00:03:21
Tanya Ruttley
was like, let me count.
00:03:23
Kim Fletcher
You can open your own little farmer's market. Yeah.
00:03:26
Tanya Ruttley
ye You know what? Eventually I'm going to do that right from my
00:03:29
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
Seasonal Planting Insights
00:03:30
Tanya Ruttley
garden.
00:03:30
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. Because definitely with it being seasonal, the things are seasonal that you grow. Um, that makes it perfect because I can use more than one bed or a whole bed to grow a bunch of vegetables.
00:03:42
Tanya Ruttley
Right. So yeah.
00:03:43
Kim Fletcher
They're
00:03:44
Tanya Ruttley
And guess what? All my beds aren't even filled with all that stuff that I just listed. So
00:03:49
Kim Fletcher
they not.
00:03:50
Tanya Ruttley
No, I have three.
00:03:51
Kim Fletcher
So it's pretty big.
00:03:53
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, I have like three beds still open, but I'm go just going to get the soil prepared for those for when I start direct sowing my seeds for the fall vegetables.
00:04:04
Kim Fletcher
So I...
00:04:05
Tanya Ruttley
So. Hmm.
00:04:07
Kim Fletcher
I see a lot of people on the side of the road in the summertime selling um fruit and vegetables.
00:04:13
Tanya Ruttley
Yep.
00:04:14
Kim Fletcher
Do you plant in the winter? Do they sell in the winter? Do you? Is it just in the summer?
00:04:18
Tanya Ruttley
So it depends on where you are. So normally that will be when it starts to warm up up here in Maryland. They wait until summertime.
00:04:28
Kim Fletcher
Mm hmm.
00:04:28
Tanya Ruttley
ah But no, not you can still grow stuff in the winter like cabbages, collard greens. Those are cold weather crops. And because where we are sit um seated, it doesn't get too cold, right?
00:04:42
Tanya Ruttley
To where it will still survive during the winter months. So it just depends on your location, every um state or I shouldn't say state. Well, yeah, go by a zone, right?
00:04:53
Tanya Ruttley
So you have to plant according to that zone.
00:04:53
Kim Fletcher
evening
00:04:56
Tanya Ruttley
Like down south, there are stuff they can just grow year round.
TV Show Discussions and Entertainment Tastes
00:05:00
Tanya Ruttley
We can't, right?
00:05:00
Kim Fletcher
yeah
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Tanya Ruttley
So that's what it's contingent upon.
00:05:01
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:05:03
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:05:04
Kim Fletcher
oh wow okay okay it is i didn't do too much i looked all day for a movie but i couldn't find a movie because everything seems to be the same that i've seen over and over and over and over again
00:05:06
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. So it's exciting. So what did you do today? Mm-hmm.
00:05:19
Tanya Ruttley
ah hey Do you like any of the Tyler Perry stuff?
00:05:24
Kim Fletcher
I do. I watched it.
00:05:25
Tanya Ruttley
You know, there's a new show out.
00:05:27
Kim Fletcher
I watched that when it came out on Friday. Did it come out Friday?
00:05:33
Tanya Ruttley
The new show didn't come out before.
00:05:33
Kim Fletcher
The destination
00:05:35
Tanya Ruttley
The last episode for divorced sisters.
00:05:37
Kim Fletcher
where? What was it?
00:05:37
Tanya Ruttley
Is that what you're talking about? Okay.
00:05:39
Kim Fletcher
Oh, yeah, yeah.
00:05:41
Tanya Ruttley
Okay. ah Yeah, I just i saw the last one that came out.
00:05:42
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:05:44
Tanya Ruttley
I just, I never knew what day the um episodes come out. always catch it on the weekend. So I'm not even sure what, what day.
00:05:49
Kim Fletcher
Oh, what are you talking about? Divorce sisters?
00:05:51
Tanya Ruttley
Yep. Mm-hmm.
00:05:53
Kim Fletcher
I watch, you know, it's this app called Mood Play, M-O-O-D-P-L-A-Y.
00:05:57
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:06:00
Kim Fletcher
And i when that first came out, I got it off that app and I watched the entire series on that app.
00:06:06
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:06:08
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:06:09
Tanya Ruttley
So you like it?
00:06:09
Kim Fletcher
So they have, yeah, it was it was it was okay. It was it was so okay. Like, it wasn't anything
00:06:18
Kim Fletcher
and different from what I see or hear besides at the end, you you have seen the entire thing, right?
00:06:27
Tanya Ruttley
No, I just got up to the last episode that they currently have out right now.
00:06:28
Kim Fletcher
Okay. they will Okay, yeah.
00:06:31
Tanya Ruttley
um I think it was episode six.
00:06:32
Kim Fletcher
I
00:06:34
Tanya Ruttley
don't know how many episodes are in the season. um But it definitely don't.
00:06:37
Kim Fletcher
mean, Tyler Perry, Tyler Perry, he makes some great movies. Like, have you watched Beauty in Black?
00:06:46
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, I'll watch that.
00:06:47
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. and and now that it's like suspense too now I almost was like I can't watch this either but
00:06:56
Kim Fletcher
I got through it I watched it's actually good and I'm waiting on the other part even though it was hard for me to watch September yeah September 11th yeah
00:07:03
Tanya Ruttley
I don't think it comes out what I saw I think it said September i was like oh my god why that's the the only thing I hate about shows when they do that it can turn me off I'm wanting watch it the new season when it come out it's just too long of a break in between um because there was one my kids got me into it was on Netflix I can't remember the name of it but oh my gosh I was so caught up in it
00:07:09
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:07:19
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:07:27
Tanya Ruttley
Girl, it took forever for it to come back out. I was like, I don't got time. And he was like, just go back to the last episode and the last episode. No, nope. So I don't like those long, long break.
00:07:39
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, because it's the breaks are too long, like three months, six months.
00:07:41
Tanya Ruttley
yeah Yeah. Six months sometimes. Yeah. Extremely long.
00:07:46
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:07:47
Tanya Ruttley
Mm hmm.
00:07:47
Kim Fletcher
And you get you you now you don't even care. Like, wow.
00:07:52
Tanya Ruttley
ah So you're definitely not going to want to watch. Babe, what's that show? Something with Bumpy Johnson. um Godfather of Harlem, baby. Now, look, I've never wanted a gangster in my life, so it ain't that.
00:08:02
Kim Fletcher
No, ma'am.
00:08:05
Tanya Ruttley
The show is just really good.
00:08:05
Kim Fletcher
Can you
00:08:07
Tanya Ruttley
Like, if I was to know a gangster in real life, I went i wouldn't i wouldn't care to even have a conversation with them because I'm just like, no.
00:08:18
Tanya Ruttley
But I don't know when it comes to the TV show. I really enjoy it.
00:08:22
Kim Fletcher
but how so you said if you met a um a gangsta in person you wouldn't talk to them how would you do if they were a gangster
00:08:23
Tanya Ruttley
Like I told you, there's one now called Mom Something. got me watching. I like it, but
00:08:35
Tanya Ruttley
well Well, a lot of them tell you. what are you talking about? Girl, my husband over here cracking up a lot to myself.
00:08:38
Kim Fletcher
oh okay
00:08:40
Tanya Ruttley
She married the one. Boy, stop playing. But like...
00:08:44
Kim Fletcher
no
00:08:44
Tanya Ruttley
I know, right? You know, because...
00:08:45
Kim Fletcher
like nine yeah
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Tanya Ruttley
So I've... When I say that, so I... Guys have approached me and, you know, and I'm a little suspicious and, you know, I ask questions and they'll tell you what they do. And if you do what I'm i'm not agreeing to, yeah, I'm not dating you.
00:08:57
Tanya Ruttley
So that's... What do you mean? They would have to lie.
00:09:00
Kim Fletcher
So ah God, yeah, I'm saying so they just come out and say, when if they talking to you, I'm against the booze.
00:09:00
Tanya Ruttley
Then that's not on me. Yeah. But I'm not going to choose to...
00:09:10
Kim Fletcher
That's what they think.
00:09:10
Tanya Ruttley
They don't say gangster. They'll tell you their lifestyle. See, a lot of people are proud of their lifestyle, whether or not you agree with it or not.
00:09:15
Kim Fletcher
you
00:09:17
Tanya Ruttley
So they they are vocal on that.
00:09:17
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:09:18
Tanya Ruttley
So, yeah, then I'm ah um'm but like, no, I'm good.
00:09:21
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, a lot of people are proud of that.
00:09:22
Tanya Ruttley
So, yeah, absolutely.
00:09:24
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:09:25
Tanya Ruttley
So, yeah, some guys do.
00:09:25
Kim Fletcher
And then sometimes if you don't accept it, they get angry with you.
00:09:30
Tanya Ruttley
Well, thank God I hadn't ran into that. So, yeah but I hear, i hear that exists, right?
00:09:32
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, yeah. yeah yeah Yes, yes, yes.
00:09:36
Tanya Ruttley
That we have to be careful in our rejection. Um, but I do think some of us can be nasty and we have to be careful or mindful that some people crazy, right?
00:09:39
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:09:47
Tanya Ruttley
Cause you can let someone down easy.
00:09:48
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:09:50
Tanya Ruttley
Um, And you still have a chance of them talking crazy to you. Right.
00:09:55
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, right.
00:09:56
Tanya Ruttley
um But definitely imagine if you try to be embarrassing or insulting to the person, you know. um hey But yeah. So, no, I'm not really interested in that type of lifestyle in real life.
00:10:11
Tanya Ruttley
Never have been. But those movies, I don't know. It's just I watch them. Yep.
00:10:17
Kim Fletcher
You're attracted to those type movies. Because you're a little gangster.
00:10:20
Tanya Ruttley
Yep. But I like all kind of movies.
00:10:21
Kim Fletcher
That's what your head would say.
00:10:23
Tanya Ruttley
Hmm?
00:10:23
Kim Fletcher
You're a little gangster, Latrice. You're a little gangster. You don't
Spouses and Relationship Dynamics
00:10:26
Kim Fletcher
even know it, but you're little gangster.
00:10:26
Tanya Ruttley
Veris, Her Plan. No Man.
00:10:27
Kim Fletcher
That's why your head would say you're a gangster.
00:10:28
Tanya Ruttley
um Mm-mm.
00:10:30
Kim Fletcher
Gangsters attract gangsters.
00:10:30
Tanya Ruttley
Shut up. Yep. No, honey. he He may, if he won, then he need to go on about his business because I don't want one at all.
00:10:34
Kim Fletcher
Nuh-uh.
00:10:39
Tanya Ruttley
don't want that lifestyle. There's nothing appealing to it. Not in real life. I watch it on TV.
00:10:44
Kim Fletcher
I'm a dick.
00:10:45
Tanya Ruttley
Because here's the thing, though. I love entertainment. So I watch all type of movies, right?
00:10:49
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
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Tanya Ruttley
Genres.
00:10:50
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:10:50
Tanya Ruttley
um I'm into that type of thing. But I just noticed that in real life, I wouldn't want to have any type of association, to be honest, even with an individual that's like that.
00:10:52
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:10:58
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:10:58
Tanya Ruttley
Like, don't even want to be your friend.
00:11:01
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:11:01
Tanya Ruttley
Right.
00:11:02
Kim Fletcher
That's right. Right.
00:11:02
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. So, no, but I do enjoy that kind of crazy stuff. Just like how you was just saying earlier, you don't even watch scary movies. Girl, I will watch a scary movie. Right.
00:11:13
Tanya Ruttley
But don't want to know no murderer.
00:11:13
Kim Fletcher
i
00:11:14
Tanya Ruttley
You understand what i'm saying? So, yeah.
00:11:16
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, yeah.
00:11:16
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, that's all.
00:11:18
Kim Fletcher
Uh-uh. OK, OK.
00:11:19
Tanya Ruttley
I'm fucked. Girl. Now, normally my husband let me be when I'm doing my podcast. You know, he be in the other room doing his thing. Now he over here in the midst a little bit.
00:11:29
Kim Fletcher
It's a family thing.
00:11:31
Tanya Ruttley
Girl. And trying to act like, girl, girl.
00:11:33
Kim Fletcher
He's enjoying you. family thing. See, there's some positive in this podcast.
00:11:36
Tanya Ruttley
No, he don't need to join tonight.
00:11:37
Kim Fletcher
Look.
00:11:40
Tanya Ruttley
he Look, he up with him.
00:11:40
Kim Fletcher
No, I'm saying he got one.
00:11:41
Tanya Ruttley
You got one. You got one. Girl.
00:11:44
Kim Fletcher
A little gangster. You're little gangster. I'm a gangster for Jesus, so I'm going say you're a gangster for Jesus because you're a little gangster.
00:11:50
Tanya Ruttley
I ain't need no gangster for doing it.
00:11:51
Kim Fletcher
Pull it up.
00:11:52
Tanya Ruttley
Let me pull up the word. Let me pull up the term first.
00:11:55
Kim Fletcher
Pull it up.
00:11:57
Tanya Ruttley
Girl, I can't pull up no term for no gangster, but I am not.
00:11:58
Kim Fletcher
Pull a gangster up.
00:12:01
Tanya Ruttley
No. Look, now on I talked about him.
00:12:04
Kim Fletcher
Gangster
00:12:04
Tanya Ruttley
going to down and went outside.
00:12:05
Kim Fletcher
No. Tell him. Tell her. You're gangster. She'll a gangster.
00:12:07
Tanya Ruttley
I didn't mean to run him away.
00:12:08
Kim Fletcher
That famous thing.
00:12:08
Tanya Ruttley
Girl, wait a minute.
00:12:09
Kim Fletcher
love it.
00:12:10
Tanya Ruttley
He's going to jump on my bike.
00:12:11
Kim Fletcher
do no
00:12:14
Tanya Ruttley
I just saw
00:12:14
Kim Fletcher
tell ne ah you're against this i
00:12:15
Tanya Ruttley
ah him. Whatever. I don't want none of that in real life.
00:12:20
Kim Fletcher
yeah family thing i love
00:12:21
Tanya Ruttley
You know, what I want a peaceful life. I want my kids happy. I don't want my kids, you know, that stuff come with a lot. I don't even, you know what, why are we talk talking about that? I don't understand how people can even get involved with someone who could put your livelihood in danger.
00:12:37
Tanya Ruttley
So yeah, but I like the, I like the TV stuff, you know, but not real life. No, ma'am.
00:12:42
Kim Fletcher
yeah ah you Yeah, but you remember you say that you had women in your family that did what men did.
00:12:42
Tanya Ruttley
I won't look. I don't want any parts of that.
00:12:53
Kim Fletcher
So that's how they attract.
00:12:54
Tanya Ruttley
mean
00:12:56
Kim Fletcher
it's like It's supposed to be opposite attract, but it seemed like the same attract.
00:13:02
Tanya Ruttley
You said I had women in my family that did like men did.
00:13:03
Kim Fletcher
this
00:13:05
Tanya Ruttley
What do you mean?
00:13:06
Kim Fletcher
You know, when we first talked, to you was like, no, no, don't put it all on the men because I had women to do such and such.
00:13:13
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, no, i but yeah that was only about a particular subject, right? that That was about leaving their home, walking away from being a mother. And I was just saying that it's not just men.
00:13:21
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:13:23
Tanya Ruttley
You know, you and I even talked about that afterwards, and we realized it was more women than we had imagined.
00:13:28
Kim Fletcher
Yep.
00:13:29
Tanya Ruttley
So it was actually more women that walked away than men.
00:13:30
Kim Fletcher
Yep. Yep. yeah
00:13:34
Tanya Ruttley
But with this, no, I don't have any cousins that's gangsta, honey. Not
Balancing Marriage and Business
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Tanya Ruttley
females. Look, wait minute.
00:13:40
Kim Fletcher
Well, you don't know. ah You could be gangster.
00:13:41
Tanya Ruttley
look kid They're are about to say, that I know of.
00:13:42
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Yeah.
00:13:46
Tanya Ruttley
That I know of. Because they already a know.
00:13:47
Kim Fletcher
What's the definition? did you look up
00:13:48
Tanya Ruttley
You better not say a little treat, honey. hu
00:13:51
Kim Fletcher
Did you look up the definition of gangster?
00:13:53
Tanya Ruttley
No, I told y'all wasn't about to look that up.
00:13:57
Kim Fletcher
Wow.
00:13:59
Tanya Ruttley
I don't know, I just didn't feel like it.
00:13:59
Kim Fletcher
It could be a good gangster.
00:14:01
Tanya Ruttley
I ain't no gangster girl.
00:14:01
Kim Fletcher
It could be a good gangster.
00:14:03
Tanya Ruttley
You could be a good gangster.
00:14:04
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Yeah.
00:14:06
Tanya Ruttley
Lord, y'all help her out in the comments. Can somebody be a good gangster?
00:14:10
Kim Fletcher
yeah You can be a good gangster.
00:14:12
Tanya Ruttley
Girl, stop playing. yeah No, you can't.
00:14:15
Kim Fletcher
So you don't think you'll be a good gangster?
00:14:17
Tanya Ruttley
No, ma'am. I think gangsta is tied to negativity. But let me see. It could just be my personal opinion, right? So let me remove my personal and see what does gangsta mean.
00:14:28
Kim Fletcher
What does it mean? Can it be good or...
00:14:30
Tanya Ruttley
Girl, a member of an inner city street gang. So again, i am not ganging for Jesus. No, I am not. I am not.
00:14:39
Kim Fletcher
that is not what it says is that what it says
00:14:42
Tanya Ruttley
Yes. And then it says, so that is what does gangster mean? Then it says, what is being a gangster? A gangster, and formerly gangster, is a criminal who is a member of a gang.
00:14:53
Kim Fletcher
o oh one no yeah yeah we're not going we're not going to for you
00:14:55
Tanya Ruttley
Most gangs are considered to be part of an organized crime. Gangsters are also called mobsters. Mm-hmm. A term derived from mob. So baby, no ma'am, I'm not a gangster for Jesus.
00:15:06
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-mm. Look, how many times have I told you words matter?
00:15:11
Kim Fletcher
We're soldiers, but not gangsters, because that's who told me different.
00:15:13
Tanya Ruttley
what I am not claiming that mess. But yeah.
00:15:18
Kim Fletcher
Well, tell your husband stop claiming gangster, because no gangster.
00:15:20
Tanya Ruttley
the
00:15:21
Kim Fletcher
He's no gangster.
00:15:22
Tanya Ruttley
Child, he'll look at you like, yeah, okay. He think he a little gangster. He ain't no gangster. He ain't no gangster. But yeah, because we wouldn't have been together.
00:15:33
Kim Fletcher
You guys spend a lot of time together. you You guys spend a lot of time together, like during the day.
00:15:42
Tanya Ruttley
ah Uh, no, because he works from home.
00:15:46
Kim Fletcher
No. Mm-hmm.
00:15:48
Tanya Ruttley
So most of the time he's working. So the the thing is we are at home together all day.
00:15:54
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:15:54
Tanya Ruttley
So,
00:15:54
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm. But that's different.
00:15:58
Tanya Ruttley
right. So that's when you said spend time. No. Are we in the house together all the time? Yeah.
00:16:01
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:16:02
Tanya Ruttley
Um,
00:16:02
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, that's what saying. Yeah.
00:16:04
Tanya Ruttley
But because you're in the house all the time, I think you still need some time to yourself, right?
00:16:04
Kim Fletcher
so
00:16:09
Tanya Ruttley
Because he's working, so it's not like he's really just relaxing.
00:16:09
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:16:14
Tanya Ruttley
He's working.
00:16:14
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:16:15
Tanya Ruttley
So, no, we still have some time where he do his thing, you know, um in his, there's a back room upstairs, and then he also has a man cave downstairs, but my oldest is in a man cave right now.
00:16:15
Kim Fletcher
Right. So he would
00:16:26
Tanya Ruttley
So he has where he can watch TV, you know, in the one of the guest rooms that's upstairs.
00:16:26
Kim Fletcher
have. Mm-hmm.
00:16:31
Tanya Ruttley
And I'm mainly in the bedroom. Now, my daughter, her room is downstairs now. um But we just had a flooding incident. So we actually getting that looked at. So she's upstairs, but I'm getting ready to turn her old room into my extra room.
00:16:46
Tanya Ruttley
It's what I'm going to do. But so we still have some time that we're doing our own thing and then come together.
00:16:46
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:16:48
Kim Fletcher
no
00:16:53
Tanya Ruttley
That's how we do it.
00:16:53
Kim Fletcher
So on a weekend, you guys at work as well?
00:16:57
Tanya Ruttley
Oh no, no, none of us work on it. Well, for the business we do. Right. So one of our businesses, is we have to work because it's 24 hours, one of the businesses. So there's one business that we do work on the weekend. So we have to do a lot of running around.
00:17:10
Tanya Ruttley
Um, but other than that, Hmm.
00:17:13
Kim Fletcher
do you make it a priority? Do you make it a priority? together on the weekend do you make it a priority to be have date night or something on the weekend no
00:17:21
Tanya Ruttley
Nope. and So he, he brought that up. Um, because here's my thing, you know, I think marriages go through ups and downs. And I think right now we are in a,
00:17:34
Tanya Ruttley
a spot where we're like, well, he brought it up. Well, we probably need
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Tanya Ruttley
to start going out like once a week or maybe, um, when he said once a week or something, every other week or something like that.
00:17:40
Kim Fletcher
mm-hmm
00:17:45
Tanya Ruttley
And nice I said, yeah, but girl, we ain't did nothing for towards it. So, um, so
00:17:49
Kim Fletcher
He's saying put in a relationship.
00:17:50
Tanya Ruttley
We do need to find some time, but you know, we have, we really have a lot going on because you know, we have multiple businesses. So it's a lot that goes on in our day-to-day life.
00:17:59
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:18:04
Tanya Ruttley
And here's the weird part.
00:18:04
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:18:06
Tanya Ruttley
You're going like, girl, that don't even make any sense. I don't like that. We have to make the time. I want it to be natural. But I get that when people say, well, look, you've got to set a certain date, right?
00:18:20
Tanya Ruttley
Like, I'm sorry, day. Like, I've heard married couples say, pick one day out of the week and make that yours. And I'm like...
00:18:28
Tanya Ruttley
the spontaneity will be gone. I would prefer if, you know, one of us just wake up and say, hey, let's go do this. I like stuff like that. But if it's like every week, the same day, it's going to drive me insane because I'm a person who likes change, right?
00:18:46
Tanya Ruttley
I love to switch stuff up.
00:18:46
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, but if we
00:18:48
Tanya Ruttley
So I can tell you, yeah, he said it. And I haven't made any moves towards it because it would drive me crazy. If i I just have a set date and I know, almost feel like there's no thought into it.
00:18:59
Tanya Ruttley
and And it could be i'm I'm receiving it wrong, but I would prefer, you know, I say one day, ooh, bae, hey, wake up in the morning at eight. Let's get started. We just going go out and blah, blah, blah.
00:19:11
Tanya Ruttley
I like stuff like that, you know, and if he if he said it as well.
00:19:13
Kim Fletcher
yeah but if
00:19:15
Tanya Ruttley
But that still would take some initiation even on my part, honey.
00:19:17
Kim Fletcher
ah right i would I would say because if you have multiple businesses, you can't just get up and say, let's go be spontaneous and just go and do whatever because you have, you can't?
00:19:28
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, we can.
00:19:30
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:19:31
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:19:31
Kim Fletcher
but They are travelable businesses.
00:19:32
Tanya Ruttley
Yep.
00:19:34
Tanya Ruttley
Uh-huh. Yep. So no, we can still do that.
00:19:36
Kim Fletcher
And I think that's something, I think that's a good dynamic for a relationship where you could travel, your business can travel, and it's not
00:19:38
Tanya Ruttley
Hmm.
00:19:47
Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely.
00:19:48
Kim Fletcher
in one set place
00:19:49
Tanya Ruttley
Yep. And that's what we had in mind um in the selection process, right? Of choosing what business you want to have because you don't want it to tie you down, especially he has a job.
00:19:54
Kim Fletcher
mm-hmm
00:19:58
Tanya Ruttley
But the great part is he could just say he's going on leave. he He don't really have to ask permission, right? He could just say, hey, I'm going to take leave these days, blah, and that's it.
00:20:03
Kim Fletcher
a
00:20:06
Tanya Ruttley
And I was blessed like that too. I have to say, um I think the only time I ever had to ask permission per se was in the military. Outside of the military, I never had, I never worked anywhere where I really had to ask. I just told them when I was taking leave, Hey, I'm going to take leave on this is what I got going on.
00:20:25
Tanya Ruttley
That was that. Right.
00:20:26
Tanya Ruttley
So I was blessed in that sense. Cause I understand everyone doesn't have that opportunity. They really got to tie in with other people in the workplace to make sure that somebody can cover down, you know, that kind of stuff.
00:20:26
Kim Fletcher
Yep, right.
00:20:33
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:20:37
Tanya Ruttley
So I thank God I never did had to experience that outside of the military. Um, and he doesn't either. So really we say we want to go somewhere. We just do it, you know? So, yeah.
00:20:48
Kim Fletcher
And that that help they've helped the relationship as well. It helped.
00:20:53
Tanya Ruttley
I think freedom does.
00:20:54
Kim Fletcher
Right.
00:20:54
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:20:55
Kim Fletcher
Right. freedom yes you no Freedom to you know work and strive to be successful and also able to go when you please.
00:21:04
Tanya Ruttley
Right. Yeah.
00:21:06
Kim Fletcher
And if we could have more of that, I think things would be better as well.
00:21:15
Tanya Ruttley
Well, I think there are stages to life, right?
00:21:18
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:21:18
Tanya Ruttley
So... He's getting it earlier than me because could his brain has always been like this. so um
00:21:27
Tanya Ruttley
But, you know, me, I worked for years and just now coming into this role of you know, entrepreneur having all this type of freedom.
00:21:38
Tanya Ruttley
But...
00:21:38
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:21:39
Tanya Ruttley
I also think it goes into play. My children are older and I have only one small one now because we even was looking at one point of having it where, wherever we go, he was going to go.
00:21:43
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:21:53
Tanya Ruttley
Now you got to deal with homeschooling. Right. So we looked into all that stuff to, just to make sure that we can live how we want to live. Um, And i'm I'm okay with that because he introduced that thought, you know, to me.
00:22:07
Tanya Ruttley
That wasn't how I saw a family unit. It wasn't anything I was chasing. It was his dream. And I was okay with like, okay, well, let's go. You know, that's ah that's how um I came into agreeing upon this path that we're on right now.
00:22:24
Tanya Ruttley
And it's challenging. It's challenging.
00:22:26
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:22:27
Tanya Ruttley
And I think that's because we we jumped into multiple at one time. I would not recommend that to anyone.
00:22:34
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:22:35
Tanya Ruttley
I would not because being an entrepreneur, it may sound good, but it's a beast.
00:22:36
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:22:41
Tanya Ruttley
And so out' so I'll say this, don't let anybody fool you um into thinking it's a light path.
00:22:41
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:22:48
Tanya Ruttley
you have You have to understand that there are stages in life. And so becoming an entrepreneur is like having children. You got to birth that thing and you got to raise it up.
00:23:01
Tanya Ruttley
So, yeah, so I definitely think um it's easier if you don't have children yet.
00:23:02
Kim Fletcher
And a and it would
00:23:11
Tanya Ruttley
But if you do have children, it's not that it's not attainable. However, just understand there are going to be some challenges and you will get to the other side. So all you have to do is keep going, keep moving through it.
00:23:23
Tanya Ruttley
That's what I would say to anybody. Mm hmm.
00:23:25
Kim Fletcher
and it would in it be much easier. and Not really much easier, but it would be easier if your significant other or your mate were, you know, you guys were on the same page and you could do businesses to where you could be have freedom to live.
00:23:42
Tanya Ruttley
Right. Absolutely. Absolutely.
00:23:46
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:23:46
Tanya Ruttley
You know, and that's another thing when when you're selecting a significant other. I think you guys have to talk about dreams and goals and aspirations. So that way you can as ensure y'all will be on the same path.
00:23:57
Tanya Ruttley
Because if you're married to someone and, oh my God, and they're not for that.
00:23:58
Kim Fletcher
Yep.
00:24:05
Tanya Ruttley
It's not that you can't be married. It's going very challenging when you have a go-getter, someone is trying to do better for the family and you the other one is kind of like, nah, we're good on this end. I don't want to do that. That's not what I want us to do. And you hold another person back.
00:24:21
Tanya Ruttley
You know what I'm saying? So those type conversations should be had early on.
00:24:22
Kim Fletcher
yes yeah
00:24:26
Kim Fletcher
And that's a lot of things that's happening a lot. That's happening and a lot. Where one person wants to be an entrepreneur and the other one's like ah just one of nine to five. So it's happening a lot, a lot of bumping heads.
00:24:43
Tanya Ruttley
Well, I think it's okay if one wants to be an entrepreneur and the other person wants to have a nine to five. I think that's fine. What I'm saying is don't stop the other person who wants to be an entrepreneur, right?
00:24:51
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:24:55
Tanya Ruttley
Because there are instances where I know I've heard where, let's say, the husband wanted to relocate with the entrepreneurship thing. That's, hey, there's something we can do. This is what we need to get to. And the spouse was like, no, we no, we need to stay right here. I don't want to relocate. Something like that. That's what i'm saying.
00:25:10
Kim Fletcher
in yeah and that's what I mean by bump a head because the one person will have to make a sacrifice for the other person to become successful as in being an entrepreneur
00:25:10
Tanya Ruttley
um because I'd be willing to make a sacrifice, honey. i always tell any anyone a temporary sacrifice is great.
00:25:27
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. Yeah. But it's okay if the other person keeps their nine to five. Oh, shoot. Just support your spouse. You know, as long as it's not something immoral, at least it's my opinion, um immoral, then it's it's it should be okay um to help them achieve their goals, whatever that he is, right?
00:25:34
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:25:49
Kim Fletcher
Even if you don't agree with it.
00:25:49
Tanya Ruttley
least that's what I'm about.
00:25:51
Kim Fletcher
Even if you don't agree with their goal.
00:25:55
Tanya Ruttley
Long as it's not immoral and it's, yeah, because, but okay, gotcha.
00:25:57
Kim Fletcher
Yes. I feel the same way.
00:26:00
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. So if you don't agree, you know, you better get on that train.
00:26:01
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:26:05
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, you you have to. you even It's not your goal, but it's
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00:26:09
Kim Fletcher
their goal.
00:26:09
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. And they're still an individual in that marriage.
00:26:10
Kim Fletcher
any Right.
00:26:12
Tanya Ruttley
They are an individual person that does not go away.
00:26:13
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:26:16
Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely. Absolutely.
00:26:18
Kim Fletcher
Never. But sometimes it does because priorities are all mixed up. So sometimes it does go away.
00:26:26
Tanya Ruttley
What, being an individual?
00:26:27
Kim Fletcher
Right. Being your own individual, yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah, sometimes it does go away being your own individual because you're trying to be so much and you forget yourself or you lose yourself.
00:26:44
Tanya Ruttley
um i
00:26:45
Tanya Ruttley
But you're still an individual. um i don't think being an individual goes away. I think the, what's the word?
00:26:45
Kim Fletcher
so
00:26:55
Tanya Ruttley
tapping into it, not you, you'll always be an individual, you're individual. So that never goes away, but yeah, that's, that's what I was saying though.
00:27:00
Kim Fletcher
Right there. We know that. know what I'm saying? Being, yeah.
00:27:04
Tanya Ruttley
I was saying you will always be an individual. So, um,
00:27:06
Kim Fletcher
Right. we We know you'll always be an individual, but being, knowing yourself or seeing where you would end up because you lose yourself being your, being that individual yourself. You lose yourself sometime helping others get where they need to be or being there so much for other people or doing so much, you lose yourself.
00:27:25
Kim Fletcher
So that's, ah I guess I was saying the wrong word as being an individual.
00:27:31
Tanya Ruttley
No, you were saying it right. I was just saying that I think spouses just I was talking more so of like you about your spouse. You need to remember that they are an individual. That's what I was more so.
00:27:41
Kim Fletcher
they are, yeah.
00:27:42
Tanya Ruttley
on right Yeah.
00:27:43
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:27:43
Tanya Ruttley
Always remember that. So when they had goals and aspirations, you know, like when you were saying, yeah, support them, because that's when I was saying because they are an individual that never goes away.
00:27:54
Tanya Ruttley
So let the person again, um but I say, long as it's not something that's harming your family or the world, right?
00:28:01
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:28:02
Tanya Ruttley
Because this is God's kingdom. So if it's not something that's causing harm, you should be all for it.
00:28:10
Kim Fletcher
And that's right.
00:28:10
Tanya Ruttley
You know, even if it's a temporary sacrifice.
00:28:11
Kim Fletcher
And that goes with being married.
00:28:13
Tanya Ruttley
Hmm.
00:28:13
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, that's for being married or being single. If you're with a mate single, you in you you have to be there for that person though if you're in a relationship.
00:28:25
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:28:25
Kim Fletcher
They have to be there for you. That's how you grow. That's how you know if you want to be there for that person.
00:28:30
Tanya Ruttley
ah
00:28:30
Kim Fletcher
you want You want to accept that life.
00:28:31
Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely.
00:28:32
Kim Fletcher
You have to go through those challenges. Mm-hmm.
00:28:39
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:28:40
Kim Fletcher
But yeah. So it was like, what what what are we going to talk about today? Because we talk about but just talking and to just leads certain things. and And I know we've seen a lot of positive things tonight.
00:28:50
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:28:55
Kim Fletcher
Even your family, just looking at you and how your family is moving, that's positive. Because someone may see that or hear that and say, hey, he's sitting there listening to her on the podcast and he want to put his input. You know that?
00:29:09
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, trying to slide in. I'm like, gone, Cleetis.
00:29:11
Kim Fletcher
You know what I'm saying?
00:29:12
Tanya Ruttley
We ain't invited you to the table yet.
00:29:15
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Okay. To the computer table yet.
00:29:18
Tanya Ruttley
Wait until you get your invite. And girl, when he come on here, he probably gonna talk that ish. now
00:29:24
Kim Fletcher
You think he will?
00:29:25
Tanya Ruttley
We are so opposite.
00:29:25
Kim Fletcher
You think he will?
00:29:26
Tanya Ruttley
I love it, huh?
00:29:29
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. That's right.
00:29:30
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:29:31
Kim Fletcher
Opposites attract.
00:29:34
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, that's what they say, honey.
00:29:35
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. And they attract and in in the right opposite does attract.
00:29:37
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:29:39
Kim Fletcher
They stand.
00:29:42
Tanya Ruttley
yeah
00:29:44
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Yeah. And he's right there.
00:29:48
Tanya Ruttley
I'm just giggling, but i was shocked when he sat here for a minute. was like, oh, because normally, like, okay, I'm going to go over to room and let you do your thing.
00:29:52
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:29:54
Tanya Ruttley
But, yeah, he was over here. I think because, you know, I talked about his butt. Was it the day before yesterday?
00:29:57
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:29:59
Tanya Ruttley
He was talking about my booty, and he went up them stairs.
00:29:59
Kim Fletcher
Give him a hand clap. you know yeah
00:30:04
Tanya Ruttley
was just like, mm-hmm.
00:30:04
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:30:05
Tanya Ruttley
I'll be throwing a little slide comment in here about you.
00:30:06
Kim Fletcher
give him a class
00:30:09
Kim Fletcher
Give him a hand clap. Yay for the husband. Uh-uh,
00:30:15
Tanya Ruttley
don't get no hand clap. He ain't do that. and
00:30:18
Kim Fletcher
uh-uh. You can't even say that.
00:30:22
Tanya Ruttley
I know one thing. That joker on my bike. He ain't came back yet. And I got to get my second ride in. I rode this morning for 45 minutes.
00:30:30
Kim Fletcher
so so So you enjoyed it last night riding the bike?
00:30:35
Tanya Ruttley
Yes, I did. And I'm about to go out there now and do it again. This evening, I'm going to do an hour.
00:30:39
Kim Fletcher
Okay.
00:30:41
Tanya Ruttley
So I did 45 minutes this morning on our bike trail that we have in the community. And now I'm going to go out and do an hour. Well, yeah if you come back in time my bike, geez. But already, honey, it is 830.
00:30:52
Kim Fletcher
And that, you know what?
00:30:53
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, ahead.
00:30:54
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:30:54
Tanya Ruttley
ah go ahead
00:30:55
Kim Fletcher
it It's like, I was just going to say on the, on um getting the word today and the word was saying, you know, God said he, he, he want us to prosper as our souls, proper as our health.
00:31:07
Kim Fletcher
And our health prospers. And you keeping that health prospering, girl.
00:31:12
Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely, you too.
00:31:14
Kim Fletcher
like you on the back and
00:31:14
Tanya Ruttley
Don't just try to play it like it's just me or so. You want your big health kick.
00:31:16
Kim Fletcher
i baby yeah Yes, yes. Keep that health prospering, that soul prospering. old prosperance though yeah. So we just thank everybody for joining us. And I hope to for you to join in with us tomorrow.
00:31:31
Tanya Ruttley
Yep, as we continue our 30-day challenge for 30 minutes. um I'll tell you guys, Kim is making this hard for me, this 30 minutes, because I'm thinking we should up our podcast to an hour because our conversations end up being cut so short.
00:31:42
Kim Fletcher
no Yeah, yeah, yeah. There goes my school, please.
00:31:48
Tanya Ruttley
But is it's, no, this is this is after the 30-day challenge. When we go back into our Tuesdays and Thursdays, we may end up...
00:31:52
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:31:56
Tanya Ruttley
doing a little bit longer because our conversations do get juicy and it get cut off and we don't pick back up.
00:31:58
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, yeah, yeah. what
00:32:03
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. it But anyway, you guys, we're going to go ahead and end it because, you know, my balls like to stick to the 30 minutes and we are.
00:32:10
Kim Fletcher
We're running it over.
00:32:12
Tanya Ruttley
Yep. See that we're over. Anyway, we will see you guys tomorrow. Have a good night.
00:32:18
Kim Fletcher
Have a good night.