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Kim Fletcher: Hello, hello.
Kim Fletcher: Hello, hello, hello. Welcome back. Thanks for joining us. Thank you.
Tanya Ruttley: Hello, you guys. Welcome to From Startup to Takeover podcast. All right, so how you doing today, Kim?
Kim Fletcher: I'm good. I'm good. How about yourself?
Tanya Ruttley: I'm good. Same here, same here.
Kim Fletcher: Did you see anything growing different? Did you find anything growing today in your garden?
Tanya Ruttley: Well, no, just my zucchini's getting, um, bigger. My watermelons are getting bigger, but the new stuff that I, um, planted out there, they haven't popped through just yet.
Tanya Ruttley: They got about one has, I think maybe another week. And then, um, I think maybe a few more days for the bell peppers that I put down about a week ago.
Tanya Ruttley: So yeah.
Kim Fletcher: So how many things do you have growing?
Tanya Ruttley: How many what now?
Kim Fletcher: How many um vegetables do you have growing? How many plants?
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, chap. How many? Ooh.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: I don't know.
Kim Fletcher: Different.
Tanya Ruttley: I've never even counted them.
Kim Fletcher: I don't know.
Tanya Ruttley: I never counted them. I got, um, so let's say I have sweet potatoes, okra, bell pepper, jalapeno peppers, summer squash, zucchini,
Tanya Ruttley: um watermelon, raspberry tree, blueberry tree, grape tree, Idaho potatoes.
Tanya Ruttley: I have green beans. I have cucumbers. I have bok choy,
Tanya Ruttley: horn tomatoes, oregano, um, spearmint. What's my favorite?
Tanya Ruttley: Um, basil,
Tanya Ruttley: cilantro, did I say jalapeno peppers? Yep. And, uh, banana, sweet pepper, sweet banana peppers. And that may be it.
Kim Fletcher: yeah That's like 21 items.
Tanya Ruttley: like o I never counted them.
Kim Fletcher: Wow.
Tanya Ruttley: was like, let me count.
Kim Fletcher: You can open your own little farmer's market. Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: ye You know what? Eventually I'm going to do that right from my garden.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. Because definitely with it being seasonal, the things are seasonal that you grow. Um, that makes it perfect because I can use more than one bed or a whole bed to grow a bunch of vegetables.
Tanya Ruttley: Right. So yeah.
Kim Fletcher: They're
Tanya Ruttley: And guess what? All my beds aren't even filled with all that stuff that I just listed. So
Kim Fletcher: they not.
Tanya Ruttley: No, I have three.
Kim Fletcher: So it's pretty big.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, I have like three beds still open, but I'm go just going to get the soil prepared for those for when I start direct sowing my seeds for the fall vegetables.
Kim Fletcher: So I...
Tanya Ruttley: So. Hmm.
Kim Fletcher: I see a lot of people on the side of the road in the summertime selling um fruit and vegetables.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep.
Kim Fletcher: Do you plant in the winter? Do they sell in the winter? Do you? Is it just in the summer?
Tanya Ruttley: So it depends on where you are. So normally that will be when it starts to warm up up here in Maryland. They wait until summertime.
Kim Fletcher: Mm hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: ah But no, not you can still grow stuff in the winter like cabbages, collard greens. Those are cold weather crops. And because where we are sit um seated, it doesn't get too cold, right?
Tanya Ruttley: To where it will still survive during the winter months. So it just depends on your location, every um state or I shouldn't say state. Well, yeah, go by a zone, right?
Tanya Ruttley: So you have to plant according to that zone.
Kim Fletcher: evening
Tanya Ruttley: Like down south, there are stuff they can just grow year round. We can't, right?
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: So that's what it's contingent upon.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: oh wow okay okay it is i didn't do too much i looked all day for a movie but i couldn't find a movie because everything seems to be the same that i've seen over and over and over and over again
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. So it's exciting. So what did you do today? Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: ah hey Do you like any of the Tyler Perry stuff?
Kim Fletcher: I do. I watched it.
Tanya Ruttley: You know, there's a new show out.
Kim Fletcher: I watched that when it came out on Friday. Did it come out Friday?
Tanya Ruttley: The new show didn't come out before.
Kim Fletcher: The destination
Tanya Ruttley: The last episode for divorced sisters.
Kim Fletcher: where? What was it?
Tanya Ruttley: Is that what you're talking about? Okay.
Kim Fletcher: Oh, yeah, yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Okay. ah Yeah, I just i saw the last one that came out.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: I just, I never knew what day the um episodes come out. always catch it on the weekend. So I'm not even sure what, what day.
Kim Fletcher: Oh, what are you talking about? Divorce sisters?
Tanya Ruttley: Yep. Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: I watch, you know, it's this app called Mood Play, M-O-O-D-P-L-A-Y.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: And i when that first came out, I got it off that app and I watched the entire series on that app.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So you like it?
Kim Fletcher: So they have, yeah, it was it was it was okay. It was it was so okay. Like, it wasn't anything
Kim Fletcher: and different from what I see or hear besides at the end, you you have seen the entire thing, right?
Tanya Ruttley: No, I just got up to the last episode that they currently have out right now.
Kim Fletcher: Okay. they will Okay, yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: um I think it was episode six.
Kim Fletcher: I
Tanya Ruttley: don't know how many episodes are in the season. um But it definitely don't.
Kim Fletcher: mean, Tyler Perry, Tyler Perry, he makes some great movies. Like, have you watched Beauty in Black?
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, I'll watch that.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. and and now that it's like suspense too now I almost was like I can't watch this either but
Kim Fletcher: I got through it I watched it's actually good and I'm waiting on the other part even though it was hard for me to watch September yeah September 11th yeah
Tanya Ruttley: I don't think it comes out what I saw I think it said September i was like oh my god why that's the the only thing I hate about shows when they do that it can turn me off I'm wanting watch it the new season when it come out it's just too long of a break in between um because there was one my kids got me into it was on Netflix I can't remember the name of it but oh my gosh I was so caught up in it
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Girl, it took forever for it to come back out. I was like, I don't got time. And he was like, just go back to the last episode and the last episode. No, nope. So I don't like those long, long break.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, because it's the breaks are too long, like three months, six months.
Tanya Ruttley: yeah Yeah. Six months sometimes. Yeah. Extremely long.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm hmm.
Kim Fletcher: And you get you you now you don't even care. Like, wow.
Tanya Ruttley: ah So you're definitely not going to want to watch. Babe, what's that show? Something with Bumpy Johnson. um Godfather of Harlem, baby. Now, look, I've never wanted a gangster in my life, so it ain't that.
Kim Fletcher: No, ma'am.
Tanya Ruttley: The show is just really good.
Kim Fletcher: Can you
Tanya Ruttley: Like, if I was to know a gangster in real life, I went i wouldn't i wouldn't care to even have a conversation with them because I'm just like, no.
Tanya Ruttley: But I don't know when it comes to the TV show. I really enjoy it.
Kim Fletcher: but how so you said if you met a um a gangsta in person you wouldn't talk to them how would you do if they were a gangster
Tanya Ruttley: Like I told you, there's one now called Mom Something. got me watching. I like it, but
Tanya Ruttley: well Well, a lot of them tell you. what are you talking about? Girl, my husband over here cracking up a lot to myself.
Kim Fletcher: oh okay
Tanya Ruttley: She married the one. Boy, stop playing. But like...
Kim Fletcher: no
Tanya Ruttley: I know, right? You know, because...
Kim Fletcher: like nine yeah
Tanya Ruttley: So I've... When I say that, so I... Guys have approached me and, you know, and I'm a little suspicious and, you know, I ask questions and they'll tell you what they do. And if you do what I'm i'm not agreeing to, yeah, I'm not dating you.
Tanya Ruttley: So that's... What do you mean? They would have to lie.
Kim Fletcher: So ah God, yeah, I'm saying so they just come out and say, when if they talking to you, I'm against the booze.
Tanya Ruttley: Then that's not on me. Yeah. But I'm not going to choose to...
Kim Fletcher: That's what they think.
Tanya Ruttley: They don't say gangster. They'll tell you their lifestyle. See, a lot of people are proud of their lifestyle, whether or not you agree with it or not.
Kim Fletcher: you
Tanya Ruttley: So they they are vocal on that.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So, yeah, then I'm ah um'm but like, no, I'm good.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, a lot of people are proud of that.
Tanya Ruttley: So, yeah, absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So, yeah, some guys do.
Kim Fletcher: And then sometimes if you don't accept it, they get angry with you.
Tanya Ruttley: Well, thank God I hadn't ran into that. So, yeah but I hear, i hear that exists, right?
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, yeah. yeah yeah Yes, yes, yes.
Tanya Ruttley: That we have to be careful in our rejection. Um, but I do think some of us can be nasty and we have to be careful or mindful that some people crazy, right?
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Cause you can let someone down easy.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Um, And you still have a chance of them talking crazy to you. Right.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, right.
Tanya Ruttley: um But definitely imagine if you try to be embarrassing or insulting to the person, you know. um hey But yeah. So, no, I'm not really interested in that type of lifestyle in real life.
Tanya Ruttley: Never have been. But those movies, I don't know. It's just I watch them. Yep.
Kim Fletcher: You're attracted to those type movies. Because you're a little gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep. But I like all kind of movies.
Kim Fletcher: That's what your head would say.
Tanya Ruttley: Hmm?
Kim Fletcher: You're a little gangster, Latrice. You're a little gangster. You don't even know it, but you're little gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: Veris, Her Plan. No Man.
Kim Fletcher: That's why your head would say you're a gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: um Mm-mm.
Kim Fletcher: Gangsters attract gangsters.
Tanya Ruttley: Shut up. Yep. No, honey. he He may, if he won, then he need to go on about his business because I don't want one at all.
Kim Fletcher: Nuh-uh.
Tanya Ruttley: don't want that lifestyle. There's nothing appealing to it. Not in real life. I watch it on TV.
Kim Fletcher: I'm a dick.
Tanya Ruttley: Because here's the thing, though. I love entertainment. So I watch all type of movies, right?
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Genres.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: um I'm into that type of thing. But I just noticed that in real life, I wouldn't want to have any type of association, to be honest, even with an individual that's like that.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: Right.
Tanya Ruttley: Like, don't even want to be your friend.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Right.
Kim Fletcher: That's right. Right.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. So, no, but I do enjoy that kind of crazy stuff. Just like how you was just saying earlier, you don't even watch scary movies. Girl, I will watch a scary movie. Right.
Tanya Ruttley: But don't want to know no murderer.
Kim Fletcher: i
Tanya Ruttley: You understand what i'm saying? So, yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, that's all.
Kim Fletcher: Uh-uh. OK, OK.
Tanya Ruttley: I'm fucked. Girl. Now, normally my husband let me be when I'm doing my podcast. You know, he be in the other room doing his thing. Now he over here in the midst a little bit.
Kim Fletcher: It's a family thing.
Tanya Ruttley: Girl. And trying to act like, girl, girl.
Kim Fletcher: He's enjoying you. family thing. See, there's some positive in this podcast.
Tanya Ruttley: No, he don't need to join tonight.
Kim Fletcher: Look.
Tanya Ruttley: he Look, he up with him.
Kim Fletcher: No, I'm saying he got one.
Tanya Ruttley: You got one. You got one. Girl.
Kim Fletcher: A little gangster. You're little gangster. I'm a gangster for Jesus, so I'm going say you're a gangster for Jesus because you're a little gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: I ain't need no gangster for doing it.
Kim Fletcher: Pull it up.
Tanya Ruttley: Let me pull up the word. Let me pull up the term first.
Kim Fletcher: Pull it up.
Tanya Ruttley: Girl, I can't pull up no term for no gangster, but I am not.
Kim Fletcher: Pull a gangster up.
Tanya Ruttley: No. Look, now on I talked about him.
Kim Fletcher: Gangster
Tanya Ruttley: going to down and went outside.
Kim Fletcher: No. Tell him. Tell her. You're gangster. She'll a gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: I didn't mean to run him away.
Kim Fletcher: That famous thing.
Tanya Ruttley: Girl, wait a minute.
Kim Fletcher: love it.
Tanya Ruttley: He's going to jump on my bike.
Kim Fletcher: do no
Tanya Ruttley: I just saw
Kim Fletcher: tell ne ah you're against this i
Tanya Ruttley: ah him. Whatever. I don't want none of that in real life.
Kim Fletcher: yeah family thing i love
Tanya Ruttley: You know, what I want a peaceful life. I want my kids happy. I don't want my kids, you know, that stuff come with a lot. I don't even, you know what, why are we talk talking about that? I don't understand how people can even get involved with someone who could put your livelihood in danger.
Tanya Ruttley: So yeah, but I like the, I like the TV stuff, you know, but not real life. No, ma'am.
Kim Fletcher: yeah ah you Yeah, but you remember you say that you had women in your family that did what men did.
Tanya Ruttley: I won't look. I don't want any parts of that.
Kim Fletcher: So that's how they attract.
Tanya Ruttley: mean
Kim Fletcher: it's like It's supposed to be opposite attract, but it seemed like the same attract.
Tanya Ruttley: You said I had women in my family that did like men did.
Kim Fletcher: this
Tanya Ruttley: What do you mean?
Kim Fletcher: You know, when we first talked, to you was like, no, no, don't put it all on the men because I had women to do such and such.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, no, i but yeah that was only about a particular subject, right? that That was about leaving their home, walking away from being a mother. And I was just saying that it's not just men.
Kim Fletcher: Okay.
Tanya Ruttley: You know, you and I even talked about that afterwards, and we realized it was more women than we had imagined.
Kim Fletcher: Yep.
Tanya Ruttley: So it was actually more women that walked away than men.
Kim Fletcher: Yep. Yep. yeah
Tanya Ruttley: But with this, no, I don't have any cousins that's gangsta, honey. Not females. Look, wait minute.
Kim Fletcher: Well, you don't know. ah You could be gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: look kid They're are about to say, that I know of.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: That I know of. Because they already a know.
Kim Fletcher: What's the definition? did you look up
Tanya Ruttley: You better not say a little treat, honey. hu
Kim Fletcher: Did you look up the definition of gangster?
Tanya Ruttley: No, I told y'all wasn't about to look that up.
Kim Fletcher: Wow.
Tanya Ruttley: I don't know, I just didn't feel like it.
Kim Fletcher: It could be a good gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: I ain't no gangster girl.
Kim Fletcher: It could be a good gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: You could be a good gangster.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Lord, y'all help her out in the comments. Can somebody be a good gangster?
Kim Fletcher: yeah You can be a good gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: Girl, stop playing. yeah No, you can't.
Kim Fletcher: So you don't think you'll be a good gangster?
Tanya Ruttley: No, ma'am. I think gangsta is tied to negativity. But let me see. It could just be my personal opinion, right? So let me remove my personal and see what does gangsta mean.
Kim Fletcher: What does it mean? Can it be good or...
Tanya Ruttley: Girl, a member of an inner city street gang. So again, i am not ganging for Jesus. No, I am not. I am not.
Kim Fletcher: that is not what it says is that what it says
Tanya Ruttley: Yes. And then it says, so that is what does gangster mean? Then it says, what is being a gangster? A gangster, and formerly gangster, is a criminal who is a member of a gang.
Kim Fletcher: o oh one no yeah yeah we're not going we're not going to for you
Tanya Ruttley: Most gangs are considered to be part of an organized crime. Gangsters are also called mobsters. Mm-hmm. A term derived from mob. So baby, no ma'am, I'm not a gangster for Jesus.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-mm. Look, how many times have I told you words matter?
Kim Fletcher: We're soldiers, but not gangsters, because that's who told me different.
Tanya Ruttley: what I am not claiming that mess. But yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Well, tell your husband stop claiming gangster, because no gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: the
Kim Fletcher: He's no gangster.
Tanya Ruttley: Child, he'll look at you like, yeah, okay. He think he a little gangster. He ain't no gangster. He ain't no gangster. But yeah, because we wouldn't have been together.
Kim Fletcher: You guys spend a lot of time together. you You guys spend a lot of time together, like during the day.
Tanya Ruttley: ah Uh, no, because he works from home.
Kim Fletcher: No. Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: So most of the time he's working. So the the thing is we are at home together all day.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: So,
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm. But that's different.
Tanya Ruttley: right. So that's when you said spend time. No. Are we in the house together all the time? Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Um,
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, that's what saying. Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: But because you're in the house all the time, I think you still need some time to yourself, right?
Kim Fletcher: so
Tanya Ruttley: Because he's working, so it's not like he's really just relaxing.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: He's working.
Kim Fletcher: Right.
Tanya Ruttley: So, no, we still have some time where he do his thing, you know, um in his, there's a back room upstairs, and then he also has a man cave downstairs, but my oldest is in a man cave right now.
Kim Fletcher: Right. So he would
Tanya Ruttley: So he has where he can watch TV, you know, in the one of the guest rooms that's upstairs.
Kim Fletcher: have. Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: And I'm mainly in the bedroom. Now, my daughter, her room is downstairs now. um But we just had a flooding incident. So we actually getting that looked at. So she's upstairs, but I'm getting ready to turn her old room into my extra room.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: It's what I'm going to do. But so we still have some time that we're doing our own thing and then come together.
Kim Fletcher: no
Tanya Ruttley: That's how we do it.
Kim Fletcher: So on a weekend, you guys at work as well?
Tanya Ruttley: Oh no, no, none of us work on it. Well, for the business we do. Right. So one of our businesses, is we have to work because it's 24 hours, one of the businesses. So there's one business that we do work on the weekend. So we have to do a lot of running around.
Tanya Ruttley: Um, but other than that, Hmm.
Kim Fletcher: do you make it a priority? Do you make it a priority? together on the weekend do you make it a priority to be have date night or something on the weekend no
Tanya Ruttley: Nope. and So he, he brought that up. Um, because here's my thing, you know, I think marriages go through ups and downs. And I think right now we are in a,
Tanya Ruttley: a spot where we're like, well, he brought it up. Well, we probably need to start going out like once a week or maybe, um, when he said once a week or something, every other week or something like that.
Kim Fletcher: mm-hmm
Tanya Ruttley: And nice I said, yeah, but girl, we ain't did nothing for towards it. So, um, so
Kim Fletcher: He's saying put in a relationship.
Tanya Ruttley: We do need to find some time, but you know, we have, we really have a lot going on because you know, we have multiple businesses. So it's a lot that goes on in our day-to-day life.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: And here's the weird part.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: You're going like, girl, that don't even make any sense. I don't like that. We have to make the time. I want it to be natural. But I get that when people say, well, look, you've got to set a certain date, right?
Tanya Ruttley: Like, I'm sorry, day. Like, I've heard married couples say, pick one day out of the week and make that yours. And I'm like...
Tanya Ruttley: the spontaneity will be gone. I would prefer if, you know, one of us just wake up and say, hey, let's go do this. I like stuff like that. But if it's like every week, the same day, it's going to drive me insane because I'm a person who likes change, right?
Tanya Ruttley: I love to switch stuff up.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, but if we
Tanya Ruttley: So I can tell you, yeah, he said it. And I haven't made any moves towards it because it would drive me crazy. If i I just have a set date and I know, almost feel like there's no thought into it.
Tanya Ruttley: and And it could be i'm I'm receiving it wrong, but I would prefer, you know, I say one day, ooh, bae, hey, wake up in the morning at eight. Let's get started. We just going go out and blah, blah, blah.
Tanya Ruttley: I like stuff like that, you know, and if he if he said it as well.
Kim Fletcher: yeah but if
Tanya Ruttley: But that still would take some initiation even on my part, honey.
Kim Fletcher: ah right i would I would say because if you have multiple businesses, you can't just get up and say, let's go be spontaneous and just go and do whatever because you have, you can't?
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, we can.
Kim Fletcher: Okay.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: but They are travelable businesses.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep.
Tanya Ruttley: Uh-huh. Yep. So no, we can still do that.
Kim Fletcher: And I think that's something, I think that's a good dynamic for a relationship where you could travel, your business can travel, and it's not
Tanya Ruttley: Hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: in one set place
Tanya Ruttley: Yep. And that's what we had in mind um in the selection process, right? Of choosing what business you want to have because you don't want it to tie you down, especially he has a job.
Kim Fletcher: mm-hmm
Tanya Ruttley: But the great part is he could just say he's going on leave. he He don't really have to ask permission, right? He could just say, hey, I'm going to take leave these days, blah, and that's it.
Kim Fletcher: a
Tanya Ruttley: And I was blessed like that too. I have to say, um I think the only time I ever had to ask permission per se was in the military. Outside of the military, I never had, I never worked anywhere where I really had to ask. I just told them when I was taking leave, Hey, I'm going to take leave on this is what I got going on.
Tanya Ruttley: That was that. Right.
Kim Fletcher: Yep, right.
Tanya Ruttley: So I was blessed in that sense. Cause I understand everyone doesn't have that opportunity. They really got to tie in with other people in the workplace to make sure that somebody can cover down, you know, that kind of stuff.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So I thank God I never did had to experience that outside of the military. Um, and he doesn't either. So really we say we want to go somewhere. We just do it, you know? So, yeah.
Kim Fletcher: And that that help they've helped the relationship as well. It helped.
Tanya Ruttley: I think freedom does.
Kim Fletcher: Right.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Right. freedom yes you no Freedom to you know work and strive to be successful and also able to go when you please.
Tanya Ruttley: Right. Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: And if we could have more of that, I think things would be better as well.
Tanya Ruttley: Well, I think there are stages to life, right?
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So... He's getting it earlier than me because could his brain has always been like this. so um
Tanya Ruttley: But, you know, me, I worked for years and just now coming into this role of you know, entrepreneur having all this type of freedom.
Tanya Ruttley: But...
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: I also think it goes into play. My children are older and I have only one small one now because we even was looking at one point of having it where, wherever we go, he was going to go.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Now you got to deal with homeschooling. Right. So we looked into all that stuff to, just to make sure that we can live how we want to live. Um, And i'm I'm okay with that because he introduced that thought, you know, to me.
Tanya Ruttley: That wasn't how I saw a family unit. It wasn't anything I was chasing. It was his dream. And I was okay with like, okay, well, let's go. You know, that's ah that's how um I came into agreeing upon this path that we're on right now.
Tanya Ruttley: And it's challenging. It's challenging.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: And I think that's because we we jumped into multiple at one time. I would not recommend that to anyone.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: I would not because being an entrepreneur, it may sound good, but it's a beast.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: And so out' so I'll say this, don't let anybody fool you um into thinking it's a light path.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: you have You have to understand that there are stages in life. And so becoming an entrepreneur is like having children. You got to birth that thing and you got to raise it up.
Tanya Ruttley: So, yeah, so I definitely think um it's easier if you don't have children yet.
Kim Fletcher: And a and it would
Tanya Ruttley: But if you do have children, it's not that it's not attainable. However, just understand there are going to be some challenges and you will get to the other side. So all you have to do is keep going, keep moving through it.
Tanya Ruttley: That's what I would say to anybody. Mm hmm.
Kim Fletcher: and it would in it be much easier. and Not really much easier, but it would be easier if your significant other or your mate were, you know, you guys were on the same page and you could do businesses to where you could be have freedom to live.
Tanya Ruttley: Right. Absolutely. Absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: You know, and that's another thing when when you're selecting a significant other. I think you guys have to talk about dreams and goals and aspirations. So that way you can as ensure y'all will be on the same path.
Tanya Ruttley: Because if you're married to someone and, oh my God, and they're not for that.
Kim Fletcher: Yep.
Tanya Ruttley: It's not that you can't be married. It's going very challenging when you have a go-getter, someone is trying to do better for the family and you the other one is kind of like, nah, we're good on this end. I don't want to do that. That's not what I want us to do. And you hold another person back.
Tanya Ruttley: You know what I'm saying? So those type conversations should be had early on.
Kim Fletcher: yes yeah
Kim Fletcher: And that's a lot of things that's happening a lot. That's happening and a lot. Where one person wants to be an entrepreneur and the other one's like ah just one of nine to five. So it's happening a lot, a lot of bumping heads.
Tanya Ruttley: Well, I think it's okay if one wants to be an entrepreneur and the other person wants to have a nine to five. I think that's fine. What I'm saying is don't stop the other person who wants to be an entrepreneur, right?
Kim Fletcher: Okay.
Tanya Ruttley: Because there are instances where I know I've heard where, let's say, the husband wanted to relocate with the entrepreneurship thing. That's, hey, there's something we can do. This is what we need to get to. And the spouse was like, no, we no, we need to stay right here. I don't want to relocate. Something like that. That's what i'm saying.
Kim Fletcher: in yeah and that's what I mean by bump a head because the one person will have to make a sacrifice for the other person to become successful as in being an entrepreneur
Tanya Ruttley: um because I'd be willing to make a sacrifice, honey. i always tell any anyone a temporary sacrifice is great.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. Yeah. But it's okay if the other person keeps their nine to five. Oh, shoot. Just support your spouse. You know, as long as it's not something immoral, at least it's my opinion, um immoral, then it's it's it should be okay um to help them achieve their goals, whatever that he is, right?
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Kim Fletcher: Even if you don't agree with it.
Tanya Ruttley: least that's what I'm about.
Kim Fletcher: Even if you don't agree with their goal.
Tanya Ruttley: Long as it's not immoral and it's, yeah, because, but okay, gotcha.
Kim Fletcher: Yes. I feel the same way.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. So if you don't agree, you know, you better get on that train.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, you you have to. you even It's not your goal, but it's their goal.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. And they're still an individual in that marriage.
Kim Fletcher: any Right.
Tanya Ruttley: They are an individual person that does not go away.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Absolutely. Absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: Never. But sometimes it does because priorities are all mixed up. So sometimes it does go away.
Tanya Ruttley: What, being an individual?
Kim Fletcher: Right. Being your own individual, yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah, sometimes it does go away being your own individual because you're trying to be so much and you forget yourself or you lose yourself.
Tanya Ruttley: um i
Kim Fletcher: so
Tanya Ruttley: But you're still an individual. um i don't think being an individual goes away. I think the, what's the word?
Tanya Ruttley: tapping into it, not you, you'll always be an individual, you're individual. So that never goes away, but yeah, that's, that's what I was saying though.
Kim Fletcher: Right there. We know that. know what I'm saying? Being, yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: I was saying you will always be an individual. So, um,
Kim Fletcher: Right. we We know you'll always be an individual, but being, knowing yourself or seeing where you would end up because you lose yourself being your, being that individual yourself. You lose yourself sometime helping others get where they need to be or being there so much for other people or doing so much, you lose yourself.
Kim Fletcher: So that's, ah I guess I was saying the wrong word as being an individual.
Tanya Ruttley: No, you were saying it right. I was just saying that I think spouses just I was talking more so of like you about your spouse. You need to remember that they are an individual. That's what I was more so.
Kim Fletcher: they are, yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: on right Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Always remember that. So when they had goals and aspirations, you know, like when you were saying, yeah, support them, because that's when I was saying because they are an individual that never goes away.
Tanya Ruttley: So let the person again, um but I say, long as it's not something that's harming your family or the world, right?
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Because this is God's kingdom. So if it's not something that's causing harm, you should be all for it.
Kim Fletcher: And that's right.
Tanya Ruttley: You know, even if it's a temporary sacrifice.
Kim Fletcher: And that goes with being married.
Tanya Ruttley: Hmm.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, that's for being married or being single. If you're with a mate single, you in you you have to be there for that person though if you're in a relationship.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: They have to be there for you. That's how you grow. That's how you know if you want to be there for that person.
Tanya Ruttley: ah
Kim Fletcher: you want You want to accept that life.
Tanya Ruttley: Absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: You have to go through those challenges. Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: But yeah. So it was like, what what what are we going to talk about today? Because we talk about but just talking and to just leads certain things. and And I know we've seen a lot of positive things tonight.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Even your family, just looking at you and how your family is moving, that's positive. Because someone may see that or hear that and say, hey, he's sitting there listening to her on the podcast and he want to put his input. You know that?
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, trying to slide in. I'm like, gone, Cleetis.
Kim Fletcher: You know what I'm saying?
Tanya Ruttley: We ain't invited you to the table yet.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Okay. To the computer table yet.
Tanya Ruttley: Wait until you get your invite. And girl, when he come on here, he probably gonna talk that ish. now
Kim Fletcher: You think he will?
Tanya Ruttley: We are so opposite.
Kim Fletcher: You think he will?
Tanya Ruttley: I love it, huh?
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. That's right.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Opposites attract.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, that's what they say, honey.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. And they attract and in in the right opposite does attract.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: They stand.
Tanya Ruttley: yeah
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Yeah. And he's right there.
Tanya Ruttley: I'm just giggling, but i was shocked when he sat here for a minute. was like, oh, because normally, like, okay, I'm going to go over to room and let you do your thing.
Kim Fletcher: Yes.
Tanya Ruttley: But, yeah, he was over here. I think because, you know, I talked about his butt. Was it the day before yesterday?
Kim Fletcher: Yes.
Tanya Ruttley: He was talking about my booty, and he went up them stairs.
Kim Fletcher: Give him a hand clap. you know yeah
Tanya Ruttley: was just like, mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: I'll be throwing a little slide comment in here about you.
Kim Fletcher: give him a class
Kim Fletcher: Give him a hand clap. Yay for the husband. Uh-uh,
Tanya Ruttley: don't get no hand clap. He ain't do that. and
Kim Fletcher: uh-uh. You can't even say that.
Tanya Ruttley: I know one thing. That joker on my bike. He ain't came back yet. And I got to get my second ride in. I rode this morning for 45 minutes.
Kim Fletcher: so so So you enjoyed it last night riding the bike?
Tanya Ruttley: Yes, I did. And I'm about to go out there now and do it again. This evening, I'm going to do an hour.
Kim Fletcher: Okay.
Tanya Ruttley: So I did 45 minutes this morning on our bike trail that we have in the community. And now I'm going to go out and do an hour. Well, yeah if you come back in time my bike, geez. But already, honey, it is 830.
Kim Fletcher: And that, you know what?
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, ahead.
Kim Fletcher: Yes.
Tanya Ruttley: ah go ahead
Kim Fletcher: it It's like, I was just going to say on the, on um getting the word today and the word was saying, you know, God said he, he, he want us to prosper as our souls, proper as our health.
Kim Fletcher: And our health prospers. And you keeping that health prospering, girl.
Tanya Ruttley: Absolutely, you too.
Kim Fletcher: like you on the back and
Tanya Ruttley: Don't just try to play it like it's just me or so. You want your big health kick.
Kim Fletcher: i baby yeah Yes, yes. Keep that health prospering, that soul prospering. old prosperance though yeah. So we just thank everybody for joining us. And I hope to for you to join in with us tomorrow.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep, as we continue our 30-day challenge for 30 minutes. um I'll tell you guys, Kim is making this hard for me, this 30 minutes, because I'm thinking we should up our podcast to an hour because our conversations end up being cut so short.
Kim Fletcher: no Yeah, yeah, yeah. There goes my school, please.
Tanya Ruttley: But is it's, no, this is this is after the 30-day challenge. When we go back into our Tuesdays and Thursdays, we may end up...
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: doing a little bit longer because our conversations do get juicy and it get cut off and we don't pick back up.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, yeah, yeah. what
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. it But anyway, you guys, we're going to go ahead and end it because, you know, my balls like to stick to the 30 minutes and we are.
Kim Fletcher: We're running it over.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep. See that we're over. Anyway, we will see you guys tomorrow. Have a good night.
Kim Fletcher: Have a good night.
