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EPISODE 23: DAY 19 0F 30-DAY CHALLENGE
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Come along with us as we discuss health and family during our 30 day challenge
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Show Introduction: From Startup to Takeover
00:00:59
Kim Fletcher
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Kim Fletcher
Hello, hello. Welcome back. Thanks for joining us.
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Tanya Ruttley
Hi you guys, welcome to From Startup to Takeover, it's Kim and Latrice.
00:01:20
Kim Fletcher
Welcome, welcome.
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Tanya Ruttley
All right, so hi Kim.
00:01:24
Kim Fletcher
Hello. How was your day, ma'am?
Kim's Grape Fast and Fasting Benefits
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Tanya Ruttley
It was pretty good, busy. um
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Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, my dad made home my dad made homemade ice cream.
00:01:35
Kim Fletcher
but
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Kim Fletcher
okay
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Tanya Ruttley
So um he's making strawberry chocolate and vanilla.
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Kim Fletcher
yeah
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Kim Fletcher
Go ahead, have you eaten any yet?
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Tanya Ruttley
um I had a tasted a little bit of the strawberry because, you know, I started my week long grape fast. So I said, okay, well, let me get this, this taste.
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Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
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Tanya Ruttley
And I gave him like a little, um, a measuring thing just to taste. And then that's it. So I'm not going to partake in it this round. Um, but they can.
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Kim Fletcher
OK, so let us know what the great fast? ah but you great fan
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Tanya Ruttley
mean, it's just instead of water, instead of doing a, because I've done like um different fasts for just water, I'm just doing grapes. Instead of fruit, fruit, you could choose any fruit, right? So I'm doing specifically just grapes.
00:02:23
Tanya Ruttley
I like grapes. So that's what I'm doing just until, um so today till next Saturday evening, I guess. So next Sunday.
00:02:33
Kim Fletcher
And it's just grapes only. The meal will be the grapes.
00:02:39
Tanya Ruttley
Grape fast, correct? Yes.
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Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Mm-hmm. OK, OK. Interesting.
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Tanya Ruttley
Oh, I've done this like several times. There's a lot of people that do that. Yeah.
00:02:47
Kim Fletcher
I know.
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Tanya Ruttley
like um like They call it mono, the mono fruit diet.
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Kim Fletcher
I know.
00:02:51
Tanya Ruttley
That means just one fruit.
00:02:53
Kim Fletcher
Right.
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Tanya Ruttley
um You pick whichever one you want. um And then you just have at it. You could do three days. You could do 24 hours. You can do it however you want. I just chose a week. um Yeah. Because I have been having two meals a day.
00:03:03
Kim Fletcher
It's
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Tanya Ruttley
I think I've eaten two meals a day now for the past...
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Tanya Ruttley
I didn't do it each day, but I would say in the last... week I know I've had maybe four of those days and it ain't been just healthy.
00:03:21
Tanya Ruttley
Right. So I want to do my seven day, get me back on track.
00:03:22
Kim Fletcher
had
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Tanya Ruttley
Um, it's just something I like to do, um, often, know,
00:03:28
Kim Fletcher
and Okay, so you like to do it often. There's no benefit of it. It's just you like to do is it. Right,
00:03:35
Tanya Ruttley
Of course, there's a benefit if you do any fast, right?
00:03:39
Kim Fletcher
right.
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Tanya Ruttley
um But yeah, so it's just, break is just my particular, I don't have any ailments, so I just need healthy.
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Kim Fletcher
Okay. Mm-hmm.
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Kim Fletcher
right
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Tanya Ruttley
The benefit is for me to stay healthy. So if I wanted to do watermelon, I do love watermelon.
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Kim Fletcher
and okay
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Tanya Ruttley
The tricky thing with watermelon for me, it has to be sweet. Even though I love watermelon, I don't love watermelon to where I can eat it regardless. So it's normally a hit and miss.
00:04:01
Kim Fletcher
OK.
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Tanya Ruttley
So if I'm going to something like this, I'm going to to the um grapes because I've never had ah whole thing of bad grapes, you know, and and I love grapes. Although my favorite fruit, believe it or not, girl, is grapefruit.
00:04:16
Tanya Ruttley
But I don't know. i I can't do no seven days straight of grapefruit, though.
00:04:21
Kim Fletcher
right from
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Tanya Ruttley
But yeah, so it's not to do anything because it has a lot of health ailments.
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Kim Fletcher
that that
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Kim Fletcher
okay
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Tanya Ruttley
um I just do it because I want to keep my body where it's at. I don't want any.
00:04:32
Kim Fletcher
Right.
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Tanya Ruttley
So I just do it. And sometimes I'll do just water. I've even done like a 48 hours soft dry fast. That's only brushing my teeth. I receive water.
00:04:43
Tanya Ruttley
And when I shower, so that's drinking no water. And I've done that for 48 hours. um And I actually did when I had, remember told you had ended with like a slight shellfish allergy.
00:04:57
Kim Fletcher
right
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Tanya Ruttley
And so, okay, my body going to need a reset. So I stayed off of the shellfish maybe about six months. And I was like, okay, hold on. Let me do a reset with my body and then see if I can eat it again. So I did a 72 hour water fast.
00:05:13
Tanya Ruttley
I then ate. And when I do a water fast, I know a lot of people like to do a gallon. I don't, I drink. two throughout the day, right?
00:05:20
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Help me.
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Tanya Ruttley
Whatever amount that he is, that's the amount. um And then I ate and then the next day I did a 48 hours. I was going to another 72, but i was like, ah I did a 48 hour water of fast and I ended up doing shrimp and something else and I'm fine. I'm back to eating seafood.
00:05:38
Tanya Ruttley
So sometimes you just need to reset your body.
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Kim Fletcher
yeah
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Tanya Ruttley
um so So that's what I did. But yeah, so I do different type of fast just to stay
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Kim Fletcher
yeah
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Tanya Ruttley
ah buying ah yeah Keep my body in a state of always at least being healthy and catching in case something is going on, you know, because sometimes things are going on in the work behind the scene and we don't know because it's internal.
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Tanya Ruttley
So we won't know that. So if there's anything, stuff like this can catch it, take care of it and let your body reverse and heal itself is what I like. That's all.
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Kim Fletcher
Maintaining that body. Yeah.
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Tanya Ruttley
Yep. Cause you know, by the time the doctor, cause by the time the doctor know that something's wrong with you, that means it's been in your body for a while.
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Kim Fletcher
maintain that
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Tanya Ruttley
So I feel if we do periodic fast, I'm not, I'm not saying go over overboard and just, you know, go extreme different things for different people, but I just feel if I can get them throughout the year, whatever's going on should clear up if it started something, you know what i mean?
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Kim Fletcher
yeah
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Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
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Tanya Ruttley
So yeah.
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Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
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Tanya Ruttley
So that's, that's how I do it.
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Kim Fletcher
Okay. Okay.
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Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
Importance of Rest and Family Dynamics
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Tanya Ruttley
So how was your day?
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Kim Fletcher
Oh, it was just a quiet day. You know, I had a do-nothing day. Have you ever had a do-nothing day?
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Tanya Ruttley
um
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Kim Fletcher
ah had a do-nothing.
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Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, I think I've made do nothing days, but yeah, of course, absolutely.
00:06:57
Kim Fletcher
and Yeah, I had a do nothing day. Like, I got the word, and after that, it was a do nothing day. Like, nothing. umm I'm wondering, shoot, we have do nothing days and not a day?
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Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, I think it's good for us. A lot of people, you know, people think you should always be doing something every single day.
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Kim Fletcher
Hmm. Hmm.
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Tanya Ruttley
I just think sometimes if if your body calls for you to rest or even your mind is just like, today I want that day, do it. Just don't make it all the time. But periodically, absolutely.
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Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Yeah. Right.
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Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely.
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Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
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Tanya Ruttley
You know how I look at it I remember being a single parent, right? And this is how I see what you're saying and as far as resting.
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Kim Fletcher
yeah
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Tanya Ruttley
even Because when you're a single parent, you need breaks. So for me, my break would come... Summer, every other holiday, right?
00:07:52
Tanya Ruttley
Then go with their dad, split their time between their dad and then my parents.
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Kim Fletcher
right
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Tanya Ruttley
And that's a reset for me and my children. Because as a single parent, um it's more challenging because everything's on you for most of the time, right? So my reset with my children would be taking that little break.
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Kim Fletcher
Right.
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Tanya Ruttley
And then, and here's what's so crazy, girl. Every summer, be like, okay, I know the summer, you know, he's supposed to have them like this whole time, but what about if I get them early? like
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Tanya Ruttley
I was like, I miss my babies. And me and my mom, it was it was such a funny little thing because it's known the dad's first day. My parents would get them, right? So it's the split. And then I would tell my parents, okay, I'm missing my babies. I think I want to get em back early. I'm going like, do oh, I want to keep my grandbabies.
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Tanya Ruttley
I said, but I love my babies too.
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Kim Fletcher
because they
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Tanya Ruttley
I like being around my babies. So I just want to come up maybe a week early, you know, and get them. Stuff like that. I always miss my kids. But yeah, just a reset.
00:08:48
Kim Fletcher
They were going to take care of grandbabies, baby, every time i saw yeah nieces, your, I mean, well, you know, nieces, yours, don't think, JB, a few JB, yeah, but I'm not sure about this, don't think, what, Deja, I mean, not Deja, Keisha over there,
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Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:08:58
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:09:01
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. Yeah. Mm-mm.
00:09:09
Kim Fletcher
A lot? Going up?
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Tanya Ruttley
No, because, I mean, she had a mom and her dad right there, so it's like, uh-uh. Mm-mm.
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Kim Fletcher
Oh, Antoine.
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Tanya Ruttley
You callin' out there by the name, child.
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Kim Fletcher
Oh, I'm sorry.
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Tanya Ruttley
Mm-mm.
00:09:23
Kim Fletcher
Oh, yeah. I was just saying, did the other ones ever stay up? don't want to say it like that, like the other ones, because
00:09:28
Tanya Ruttley
No, uh-uh. No, my other sister who has a different mom. No, I think hers was mainly with her mom. You know how I have this thing where at least personally, I think um most children go to the grandparents of the mother.
00:09:42
Kim Fletcher
Yep, I say it
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Tanya Ruttley
here Here's because, and it's mainly because the fathers, um I don't know what it is. I don't want to say they're not as interested in their family because it's not that.
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Tanya Ruttley
But that getting to know your family, let's go around all the time. It's just really not them. Yeah.
00:10:00
Kim Fletcher
all the time.
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Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:10:01
Kim Fletcher
I tell the ladies all the time, I say, take a statistic.
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Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:10:04
Kim Fletcher
did A girl, a woman, she's close to her mother, her kids are gonna go over her mother's side. They will see the father's side, but they're going to grow up with that mother's side.
00:10:17
Kim Fletcher
don't care what child it is. if that If you have a daughter and they have kids, oh those kids going to grow up with you. Her mother. Her mother.
00:10:28
Tanya Ruttley
Yep.
00:10:29
Kim Fletcher
That's how it is. You may have that 1% that they grow up with.
00:10:32
Tanya Ruttley
Yep. Because my husband is that 1% child. I was shocked. Yeah. When he get his kids, yeah, we go on to his side.
00:10:36
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:10:38
Tanya Ruttley
And um so it's it's...
00:10:39
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:10:42
Tanya Ruttley
Well, you know what? I will say this. My first husband... When we came home, we went to both. It was equal. The problem was when we got divorced.
00:10:50
Kim Fletcher
That's we work. It is.
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Tanya Ruttley
When we got divorced and he got remarried, he only, and and his wife had had no children, but my kids ended up telling me later, they always went to her side.
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Kim Fletcher
that's how would
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Tanya Ruttley
he For some reason, he didn't continue going around, taking the kids around, you know, his parents and saw all this other stuff. So don't I don't know. um I just think it's something about those girls,
00:11:13
Kim Fletcher
yeah the
00:11:13
Tanya Ruttley
when it comes to family, meaning women, when it comes to family. and And again, which is why, you know, I definitely believe men and need to jump in and be active and care about that kind of stuff.
00:11:25
Kim Fletcher
And then another thing, because when you, because we split, you know, I had both grandmothers, so we had to go to both grandmother's side, the husband and the wife's side.
00:11:36
Kim Fletcher
So it was like you, somebody upset because you're going over to this person's house first for the holiday.
00:11:44
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, I never had any problem. I got you.
00:11:46
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, or the holiday first, you know, and then it on sometimes on the woman's side, when you are going to the other the of the spouse parent home, you're not as relaxed. But as soon as you get to your mother home, it's another world.
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Tanya Ruttley
Hmm. What do you mean by that? trying to find out what you mean. You said you're not as relaxed, but then soon as soon you get to your... what do you mean?
00:12:10
Kim Fletcher
Right. Like,
Secrets to Longevity and Learning
00:12:12
Kim Fletcher
just take me in mind. So when we went his mother's house, it was just like, I'm just, you know, being all nice and, you know, daughter-in-law typey, quiet.
00:12:14
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:12:24
Kim Fletcher
But as soon as we leave that home and go to my mom's home, it's a different atmosphere. and So I'm like loose talking. a lot of women are like that.
00:12:34
Kim Fletcher
As soon as they get to their mother's house they act a certain way a different way because that's where they were raised and that's where they're comfortable
00:12:45
Tanya Ruttley
Hmm. Okay. Well, maybe, could it be because if it's new? Because, I mean, eventually... Oh, okay. I hadn't had that experience, but okay, I got you. It
00:12:56
Kim Fletcher
yeah yeah so yeah that's just if yeah you got me but
00:13:01
Tanya Ruttley
but could be, you know, because we you know when you marry into families, there's different you know that dynamics to the families, you know? um So you're going to have differences, but...
00:13:08
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, that's that it's another way.
00:13:11
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
00:13:16
Kim Fletcher
So, and this is one thing I wanted to do today, too. I just want to know, you know, we always learn the word every day. i want to, you know, every time we get on every day for the rest of the 30 days, what we learned, what word did we learn today?
00:13:30
Kim Fletcher
Because, you know, I learned the word and I looked at this 100 i know it's old an older video but i looked at this video with this guy this gentleman he was 109 years old he was still driving and everything driving his girlfriend around girl and everything smoking cigars he said every night he has to every day he eat ice cream has to go to bed eat ice cream and he smoked 10 cigars a day he's 109 years old did not look
00:13:59
Tanya Ruttley
know This is now? He's still living is what you said?
00:14:01
Kim Fletcher
No. Well, he was a while ago, but it's not now. i say it was a older video.
00:14:07
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, you did say older. Okay.
00:14:09
Kim Fletcher
yeah And I was like, wow.
00:14:10
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, I see him right now. got his little hat on.
00:14:12
Kim Fletcher
You see?
00:14:12
Tanya Ruttley
He's a veteran. He's a veteran. Black guy.
00:14:14
Kim Fletcher
that the That's right. And he's 109 years old. He still was driving his truck, took his girlfriend around. They wanted to know. He said he eats ice cream Every night he drink he smoked 10 cigars. He said people get around here smoking and they don't know how to smoke. He said, because you don't inhale that smoke and be coughing. Because he said, I don't cough.
00:14:35
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, see.
00:14:35
Kim Fletcher
I said, yeah.
00:14:35
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, he passed 2018. He ended up, oh, he made it to 112. You better go ahead.
00:14:40
Kim Fletcher
That's right. you better go ahead. and that's why I say they lived such a long time in the things that they did versus why these people dropping now versus what what what are they doing now versus what they were doing because he was 112 and he just recently passed. That's 2018. That's not like a long time ago. Long, long, long, long time ago.
00:15:01
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, it passed six years ago. itd be December would be seven years. So, yeah. Mm-hmm.
00:15:06
Kim Fletcher
Because I know I was reading it when I moved here.
00:15:06
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:15:09
Kim Fletcher
So In that time frame, I know he was still alive. Like, OK, Grandpa, that's me.
00:15:16
Kim Fletcher
Riding around still.
00:15:20
Tanya Ruttley
So in 2013, yeah, because 2013, okay, because Barack Obama, President Barack Obama, um acknowledged him.
00:15:25
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:15:29
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:15:29
Tanya Ruttley
So in 2013, he did, and then five years later, he was gone. Okay.
00:15:32
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:15:33
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. I wonder when did he start smoking?
00:15:34
Kim Fletcher
He was still certain.
00:15:36
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
Acts of Giving and Community Support
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Kim Fletcher
I'm not sure.
00:15:38
Tanya Ruttley
ah he But he said, but you know what?
00:15:38
Kim Fletcher
i was just
00:15:39
Tanya Ruttley
He said the right thing. He wasn't inhaling. And that's that that is, yeah, yeah.
00:15:43
Kim Fletcher
that's what i said he said you don't inhale people get around here coughing he said you don't do that you just smoke and blow um and he looked yeah
00:15:47
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:15:52
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm. And drinking whiskey stiffened or stifened coffee, whatever that means. Unless he just add whiskey to his coffee.
00:16:01
Kim Fletcher
yeah and he was still healthy skin look good and everything for yes
00:16:04
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, I'm looking at him. He looked good. Yeah, he looked really good.
00:16:08
Kim Fletcher
he was still there the Lord kept him preserved I don't care what he was doing he people get around here judged but look at that man 112 years old and was still smoking and drinking not getting drunk but he was enjoying life mhm and he knew how to do it still had a little girlfriend he better go head on pop
00:16:08
Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely.
00:16:23
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:16:32
Tanya Ruttley
Cha.
00:16:35
Tanya Ruttley
Cha.
00:16:37
Kim Fletcher
still driving
00:16:38
Tanya Ruttley
Had the girlfriend. That's the funny part. That's what saying. If we're still here, and that's why you remember when you was talking about the um the young lady in their early 20s and not just giving up.
00:16:42
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:16:47
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:16:48
Tanya Ruttley
and That's why i was like, man, if we're still here, keep going.
00:16:51
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:16:51
Tanya Ruttley
Just change your life around it and get what God has for you. You know, just enjoy life. I think that's cute. Yeah.
00:16:56
Kim Fletcher
right That is no so good to me. I love it. not for don anymore You know, I'm hearing you. I'm getting my word. So I was like, OK, so we're going to see what um what would what did you learn today?
00:17:08
Kim Fletcher
What did I learn?
00:17:09
Tanya Ruttley
I ain't learn no word because I ain't want to know where anybody's looking no word.
00:17:13
Kim Fletcher
You didn't do that, so you was just, you don't?
00:17:14
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, don't do that every day. My husband got it. We have it um where it come into our email. Girl, I'll be like, don't learn no word every day.
00:17:25
Kim Fletcher
Oh, I thought, well, you know, I learned just about a
00:17:25
Tanya Ruttley
What word did you learn?
00:17:32
Kim Fletcher
ah lot. they were he What one main thing that stood out or didn't stand out, it was just, because already know about,
00:17:38
Tanya Ruttley
I thought you said a word. I'm sorry. I'm confused right now.
00:17:42
Kim Fletcher
yeah,
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Tanya Ruttley
I thought you were asking what word? Like you actually, there was a word that you heard and you went and got the definition and learned.
00:17:46
Kim Fletcher
think
00:17:48
Tanya Ruttley
What are you talking about?
00:17:49
Kim Fletcher
No, I was talking about the word of God.
00:17:53
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, girl.
00:17:54
Kim Fletcher
I can say, because you told me you get your word every day.
00:17:57
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, I read, but I just... There ain't nothing that brand new pop up to me every time. No.
00:18:03
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, but it's going so.
00:18:04
Tanya Ruttley
Cause a lot of times what I have to do and I realized this early on in my life, I have to read and listen to things over and over again.
00:18:13
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:18:13
Tanya Ruttley
um Instead of like one time you will catch me playing. Let's say if I started Matthew today, right?
00:18:23
Kim Fletcher
uh-huh
00:18:23
Tanya Ruttley
going to start from the beginning. And then I'm a go back probably three or four times. That's just how I do it um to get it in me. um So, yeah, no, that wasn't anything that I learned new today to think about.
00:18:37
Kim Fletcher
well i had i i had already learned about you know you always talk about tithing and it's not really tithing the most giving which i learned at an with reading myself because I, you know, um I'm always hungry to know what the word is saying about everything.
00:18:52
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm.
00:18:52
Kim Fletcher
Like I'm like everything, what is going on of with the tide and stuff back then before we knew better. And um I, um
00:19:01
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, i had an issue with that about 10 years ago and kind of dived into it, yeah.
00:19:04
Kim Fletcher
yes yeah, and and I researched it in the Lord.
00:19:05
Tanya Ruttley
yeah
00:19:08
Kim Fletcher
he He was saying that we should, Scripture was like today, I looked it up because I want to know it. The scripture was like, if tithing, not even really tithing because you're supposed to give from your heart. And he was like, store up, you should not store up money, but you should have like the tithe that you would give to the church. You should already have that at home. Say like if someone come to you.
00:19:31
Kim Fletcher
I send someone to you, you should already have that money there to give to them or whatever it may be to give them in your home.
00:19:37
Tanya Ruttley
Right.
00:19:38
Kim Fletcher
So it wasn't so much you have to give money at church because they'd be over the TV.
00:19:41
Tanya Ruttley
Right. Uh-huh.
00:19:43
Kim Fletcher
If you give a thousand dollars, no, God's not going to give you anything because you are giving a thousand dollars.
00:19:47
Tanya Ruttley
Uh-huh.
00:19:53
Kim Fletcher
he talking today on how I forget he who it was but he gave after God had blessed him he didn't give before God blessed him for God to give him anything he gave after God had blessed him after he had gotten rich and you know wealthy then he was like oh look God gave me all this and he gave him started giving to God nice You know, that's what I learned, that we don't work for ourselves. People think we work for ourselves. We really don't. We work for God, for what work to have to give to other people because going to make sure we are taken care of.
00:20:30
Tanya Ruttley
Absolutely.
00:20:30
Kim Fletcher
Even though we have to pay our bills, we're going to make sure you have more than enough of that and you have more to give and take care of other people because that's what I want you to do.
00:20:43
Kim Fletcher
That's how you take care the kingdom.
00:20:45
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, that's why i give away stuff out of my garden. I like to give it away ah because people always think equate everything to the dollar.
00:20:48
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:20:53
Tanya Ruttley
um
00:20:53
Kim Fletcher
Yes. Yes. Yes.
00:20:54
Tanya Ruttley
That's not necessarily it. what What do you have a gift doing? You know, what do you do?
00:20:58
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:21:00
Tanya Ruttley
And like you have a like, okay, because I remember I was talking to my husband. I was like, okay, so with me now not having to work and just focus on the business, let me let me stop saying not have to work, not have to work for someone else because our business is, baby, I'm working, um but not have to work for someone else.
00:21:13
Kim Fletcher
that's where i
00:21:16
Tanya Ruttley
My truck is just sitting here. And so I was like, you know, I talked to God and I was like, who can I help?
00:21:18
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:21:23
Tanya Ruttley
There's someone that maybe need a ride somewhere, you know, because, okay, I got this truck out here.
00:21:26
Kim Fletcher
That's
00:21:29
Tanya Ruttley
I can either, just before my dad had came with me, I was like, I can, no, it was after my dad came. I was like, I wonder if I can take like an elderly lady to church or, you know, go to the movies with her or spend some time with her.
00:21:42
Tanya Ruttley
and And I said, I don't want to force it, right? But there's something that I can do with just my vehicle to to take somebody where they need to be.
00:21:53
Tanya Ruttley
Well, at first I thought about tapping into
00:21:54
Kim Fletcher
right
00:21:58
Tanya Ruttley
um pregnant women that may need a ride to doctor's appointments and stuff like that.
00:22:01
Kim Fletcher
got
00:22:02
Tanya Ruttley
I was going to, that's one of the things that I said I'm going to look into to see if there are some, you know, mothers out here who need some help.
00:22:08
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:22:13
Tanya Ruttley
Here's my only problem. So when I dive into that, I don't like the Baltimore area. I guess I'm getting a little bit close to where I'm at um because you can make wrong turns.
00:22:18
Kim Fletcher
and okay
00:22:24
Tanya Ruttley
So I'm like, okay, I have to be careful because it will be just me. Right. So, and I know my other issue is, so how do I find someone where I'm still going to be safe?
00:22:36
Tanya Ruttley
So the other piece was like a um the elderly and it's so silly.
00:22:36
Kim Fletcher
That's right.
00:22:41
Tanya Ruttley
I was getting something. I went into a store and an elderly lady, we just got to talking and she worked there. She do part time. She's probably 70 something years old. We did exchange numbers. I reached out to her. A couple of weeks ago, she didn't get back with me. i need to reach back out to her again. um And I was like, well, maybe I can, you know, start a relationship with her because I feel like instead of just keeping my truck in the yard, doing nothing until I got to go run and do something with the business, I can do something for somebody else.
00:23:08
Tanya Ruttley
Because I've always been the type when I was younger and had a car.
00:23:08
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, me.
00:23:12
Tanya Ruttley
If my car can leave the driveway and I got gas in it, you're not paying me no gas money to take you nowhere.
00:23:15
Kim Fletcher
you right
00:23:16
Tanya Ruttley
I've always been this way. And I've never understood people saying, well, you got to give me gas money. I'm like, you have a car and you go, you got a job and you know, you got gas in your car. Now it's totally different if you don't have nothing. I got that.
00:23:29
Kim Fletcher
right
00:23:30
Tanya Ruttley
Um, but put like this, I'm 48 years old. I've never charged nobody gas money.
00:23:36
Kim Fletcher
yeah me
00:23:36
Tanya Ruttley
So, I'd like to be able to just do something for you and not say, because to me, if you already need a ride, that means somewhere you're struggling, right?
00:23:38
Kim Fletcher
That's right. Right. Right. Mm-hmm. not sure.
00:23:45
Kim Fletcher
that' why
00:23:46
Tanya Ruttley
So not that I wasn't struggling, but I had a car and I had gas in it. So you ain't asking me to take you three hours away. You asked me take you to the store. You see what I'm saying?
00:23:54
Kim Fletcher
right
00:23:55
Tanya Ruttley
And I had no problem doing that and not charging gas money.
00:23:55
Kim Fletcher
right
00:23:58
Tanya Ruttley
So, yeah, it's just I'm looking for ways that I can help people um just somewhere with my car because my car is just sitting out there until I go somewhere for an hour and come back home, you know.
00:24:03
Kim Fletcher
um
00:24:11
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, I'm always looking to help someone. like I'm always looking to help. And my grandkids, they want to help too. I've told them, and I'm going have to stand up to what I said, that we were going to go and pass out food to the homeless. They wanted to go to McDonald's and buy 50 burgers and go and take them to the homeless. And I told them we could do it. We're going to do it. i just It's been too high. It's been making me weak.
00:24:37
Tanya Ruttley
Oh, that's a good one.
00:24:40
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, so that I'm gonna let them do that because that was their idea and they want to do it.
00:24:44
Tanya Ruttley
here That's cute. That's that's that they they have that in them. And because so this my thing with the homeless.
00:24:50
Kim Fletcher
I'm sorry, can you hear me?
00:24:57
Kim Fletcher
and or Go ahead.
00:24:58
Tanya Ruttley
To meet so me, sometimes it's is's it's difficult because when it comes to the home because I know they ah sometimes they choose because mentally they just don't want to be around other people. you know It's so many different reasons why people are there.
00:25:11
Tanya Ruttley
um So it's not that I don't um don't want to do anything. but So let me ask you this. What about safety? When they get out, how do you how do you determine who's safe for them to go and get food to?
00:25:24
Tanya Ruttley
How would you make that decision?
00:25:26
Kim Fletcher
Well, um we' we we were going to go where Granny used to give food out on to the church. And it's a the people.
00:25:33
Tanya Ruttley
Yep.
00:25:35
Kim Fletcher
We frequent that road a lot. And we grew up there. So I kind of know some of the people.
Challenges in Food Donations
00:25:40
Kim Fletcher
And when
00:25:43
Kim Fletcher
so my other half was working at a restaurant in the area, he used to give them food as well at the end of the day. You know, would give the food that they want to throw away. He'd be like, no.
00:25:55
Kim Fletcher
They're getting this food. He would never let people throw the food away because he said it make no sense.
00:25:57
Tanya Ruttley
yep
00:26:00
Kim Fletcher
y'all going to throw that food away? don't even know how people out here. So he's...
00:26:03
Tanya Ruttley
So they do it because, because I used to work at a restaurant, if there's anybody gets sick, they could be held loud. So, so there are reasons behind it. um
00:26:11
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:26:12
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, there, there are, yeah, there are reasons behind it.
00:26:15
Kim Fletcher
So they'd rather throw it in the trash and the people go in the trash and get it out.
00:26:19
Tanya Ruttley
Because then they're not responsible if they get sick. Because, yeah, so it's ah so it's a lot when it comes to food because people get sick with food, right?
00:26:22
Kim Fletcher
Mm-mm.
00:26:27
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:26:30
Tanya Ruttley
And you don't know it.
00:26:30
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:26:31
Tanya Ruttley
like Let's say it was a bad batch, right? um And you're not going to know until some time after. It's not always immediate. I think food poisoning can take up to two weeks after, probably longer than that.
00:26:42
Tanya Ruttley
So they they do have to be mindful, and I do understand it because I remember I used to get mad as a teenager. I worked at McDonald's. And when they had to get rid of stuff, I'm like, what? All these people, you get emotional.
00:26:51
Kim Fletcher
so
00:26:53
Tanya Ruttley
but what
00:26:53
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:26:54
Tanya Ruttley
it's It's emotional without without no logic.
00:26:54
Kim Fletcher
want
00:26:57
Tanya Ruttley
You have to put logic to it. But I was very emotional about it.
00:26:59
Kim Fletcher
Yes.
00:27:01
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:27:01
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, they still throwing, even in the the bread, even if' ah if it's in the plastic, they still throwing it away. They can't, you know, all this food is just going in trash and people are hungry.
00:27:11
Tanya Ruttley
It's liability.
00:27:12
Kim Fletcher
It doesn't
00:27:12
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. It's liability. They should be, they found, it they should have found another way to do it. Um, but people, people do have to be, when you have a business is different from being an emotional thinker and an emotional reactor.
00:27:26
Tanya Ruttley
Um, you can You can lose everything you work for. um Because I thought about the restaurant stuff.
00:27:30
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:27:32
Tanya Ruttley
It's a lot that comes with it. It really is. And so I get it. When I was younger, I didn't. I got very emotional about it. Like I said, I had no logic to it. I was just emotion speaking. um But there there really is more to it.
00:27:45
Tanya Ruttley
Doesn't mean something can't be done, right, to where they can create something, you know.
00:27:49
Kim Fletcher
right yeah yeah so yeah yeah
00:27:51
Tanya Ruttley
But yeah, but I get why they do it. I get it now. Because I don't want nobody come take everything from me because I had a kind heart. We got to be careful of that.
00:28:00
Kim Fletcher
Yeah, I wouldn't let i wouldn't let my grandkids get out by themselves anyway, because I already have a team. Like, we going, we going with them, we going, this person going, this person going. So we all going you know, hand.
00:28:11
Tanya Ruttley
That's awesome though. Yeah.
00:28:12
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:28:12
Tanya Ruttley
know, my sister always, far as I know, pretty much majority of her adult life have always did volunteer stuff like that. Um, me, I'm a little bit different.
00:28:20
Kim Fletcher
Yeah. Yeah.
00:28:21
Tanya Ruttley
I don't like to organize. I know it's so crazy. I don't like to organize volunteer stuff. I like the out of the blue volunteer stuff. So we, we both have the same kind of heart.
00:28:28
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:28:30
Tanya Ruttley
She just liked to organize, you know, set up.
00:28:32
Kim Fletcher
Yeah.
00:28:33
Tanya Ruttley
And I like the random, I like to randomly do something.
00:28:33
Kim Fletcher
yeah and yeah yeah I'm a random out. If I see it and it needs to be done, it needs to be done. Like I had one year for Christmas, I've told my mom, we going to take food to the elderly. And what we did, we went to this place.
00:28:49
Kim Fletcher
um I can't think of the name of it, but they had place where they had food fixed for, I think, I don't think it was meals on wheel. It may have been meals on wheel, but they fixed the food and they give us addresses to like 10 homes of the elderly.
00:29:03
Kim Fletcher
And on Christmas, we took them Christmas dinner.
00:29:06
Tanya Ruttley
so Okay. Okay.
00:29:07
Kim Fletcher
no
00:29:08
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, like stuff like that.
00:29:08
Kim Fletcher
but Some of them
00:29:11
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:29:11
Kim Fletcher
and them. Some elderly people don't have family. They can't get out and they're lonely.
00:29:17
Tanya Ruttley
How do you find out about those people? How do you even find that out that they don't have family? How do you find it?
00:29:22
Kim Fletcher
um They, they will tell you, let you know, like my daughter, she's in type and that kind of, field and she know all types of things like that.
00:29:32
Kim Fletcher
People don't have family or yeah.
00:29:35
Tanya Ruttley
So the average person, no, I was just talking about like the average person to know in order to assist.
00:29:37
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:29:39
Tanya Ruttley
That's what I was saying. So you only knew your daughter's position.
00:29:40
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:29:43
Tanya Ruttley
Gotcha. Yeah. Yeah, because I like, so the way that I've always tried to do mine is when I think I know if someone in need mail it anonymously.
00:29:56
Tanya Ruttley
Because, so i'm I'm a little weird. I think that when people know you can do something, sometimes they may end up trying to abuse it.
Concluding Thoughts and Future Invitations
00:30:03
Tanya Ruttley
So i do I do like to do it where they don't know it came from me.
00:30:07
Kim Fletcher
Well, yeah, that's what we to do, it too.
00:30:07
Tanya Ruttley
Just saying.
00:30:08
Kim Fletcher
Like, when I was living out of town, we would frequent a lot of stores and a lot of people knew us, so we would set up on a day, and the people that I would set up with, they were, like, social media savvy, so they had people to come and bring, like, soap and toothpaste so we could take to this day shelter.
00:30:28
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:30:28
Kim Fletcher
Because people, they had a day shelter there so they could come take a bath, relax, maybe watch TV, eat something.
00:30:35
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah.
00:30:35
Kim Fletcher
So we would do that type of, you know, those type of things in a bulk, rather.
00:30:41
Tanya Ruttley
and here
00:30:46
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:30:46
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. Cause I like to, so for me, when I say like, like, I like to know that there are somebody who I know is working. And they look like they're struggling and secretly get them stuff.
00:30:53
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:30:55
Tanya Ruttley
That's what I'm talking about Like that. So I know for, because I have heard that sometimes when you give to these places, it don't go where you think it going.
00:30:57
Kim Fletcher
Okay, yeah.
00:31:02
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:31:06
Tanya Ruttley
So that's, that was the reason why I said, I like to do it um anonymously, but know the person and secretly get it there.
00:31:11
Kim Fletcher
um
00:31:14
Tanya Ruttley
ah And they not know where it come from. Because sometimes when you do, like, especially like grocery store, they like, hey, you want to donate to, I always say no, because I do my own donations and it get to where I want it to get to.
00:31:17
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:31:26
Kim Fletcher
like, um, used to do that.
00:31:26
Tanya Ruttley
that
00:31:28
Kim Fletcher
Um, what it was, uh, the secret Santa that used to pay. If you put a layaway up, they would pay the layaway off and you didn't even know it.
00:31:37
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, a lot of people, they started putting that on the um broadcasting it Yeah, that people just go up and pay for layaways. Yeah. But I don't, I still don't know that person.
00:31:44
Kim Fletcher
Uh, I don't either. Cause they paid for a few. Thank you for a few of my layaways for my grandchildren ah few years in a row.
00:31:52
Tanya Ruttley
Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm.
00:31:53
Kim Fletcher
When I put my layaway up, um,
00:31:54
Tanya Ruttley
yeah
00:31:57
Kim Fletcher
They called me and said it was paid for. But they called right at the almost at the end of the time it was supposed to be paid off.
00:31:59
Tanya Ruttley
yeah
00:32:06
Kim Fletcher
Then they'll call and tell you was paid off and you come get it.
00:32:10
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah. I think while one year my son had a balance at his university.
00:32:12
Kim Fletcher
Mm-hmm.
00:32:16
Tanya Ruttley
And what happened was, you know, the end of the year you need to pay the balance. It's not even that it was a lot. It's just the fact that he received notification that it had been paid. And I found out that it was actually Steve Harvey's. um He has a boys to men type camp stuff.
00:32:32
Tanya Ruttley
I don't, I don't know exactly what it is, but that year, that particular year, they had paid off at all HBCUs and ones that had balances.
00:32:32
Kim Fletcher
Yes. Yep.
00:32:38
Tanya Ruttley
So that's the kind of stuff not, I'm trying to say it right. That's the kind of stuff I want to know where it's going because we need that type of assistance. And a lot of other people get that.
00:32:47
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:32:48
Tanya Ruttley
And when we do it at these other places, they get it first, not necessarily us.
00:32:52
Kim Fletcher
yeah
00:32:53
Tanya Ruttley
That's why I like to know who I'm taking care of And the fact that he did an HBCU, u he knew it was going to his community who need it. um So that's how i cant that's how I like to do it um when I give back.
00:33:06
Kim Fletcher
um I wonder if any programs are still around like paying it forward. Because you don't hear too much now. The economy is so jacked up, you don't hear anything.
00:33:17
Kim Fletcher
So people.
00:33:19
Tanya Ruttley
Yeah, it might be. and I know my husband, that's one of the things we're definitely, when we get all our stuff in play, that's what we're huge on. Absolutely.
00:33:26
Kim Fletcher
Paying it forward, yeah. OK. Yay.
00:33:29
Tanya Ruttley
All right, you guys. So it is 833. Thank you for joining us. We have hit our 30-minute mark of day 19 of the 30-day challenge. We will be back here tomorrow, same time, same platforms.
00:33:45
Tanya Ruttley
um So please come and join us and help us to continue to grow.
00:33:50
Kim Fletcher
W, Debbie?
00:33:51
Tanya Ruttley
Start up the bank over. There you go. Watch us work. Kim and Latrice, we're out.
00:33:56
Kim Fletcher
Good night.
00:33:58
Tanya Ruttley
Good night.