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Kim Fletcher: can a
Kim Fletcher: Hello, hello. Welcome back. Thanks for joining us.
Tanya Ruttley: Hi you guys, welcome to From Startup to Takeover, it's Kim and Latrice.
Kim Fletcher: Welcome, welcome.
Tanya Ruttley: All right, so hi Kim.
Kim Fletcher: Hello. How was your day, ma'am?
Tanya Ruttley: It was pretty good, busy. um
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, my dad made home my dad made homemade ice cream.
Kim Fletcher: but
Kim Fletcher: okay
Tanya Ruttley: So um he's making strawberry chocolate and vanilla.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Kim Fletcher: Go ahead, have you eaten any yet?
Tanya Ruttley: um I had a tasted a little bit of the strawberry because, you know, I started my week long grape fast. So I said, okay, well, let me get this, this taste.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: And I gave him like a little, um, a measuring thing just to taste. And then that's it. So I'm not going to partake in it this round. Um, but they can.
Kim Fletcher: OK, so let us know what the great fast? ah but you great fan
Tanya Ruttley: mean, it's just instead of water, instead of doing a, because I've done like um different fasts for just water, I'm just doing grapes. Instead of fruit, fruit, you could choose any fruit, right? So I'm doing specifically just grapes.
Tanya Ruttley: I like grapes. So that's what I'm doing just until, um so today till next Saturday evening, I guess. So next Sunday.
Kim Fletcher: And it's just grapes only. The meal will be the grapes.
Tanya Ruttley: Grape fast, correct? Yes.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Mm-hmm. OK, OK. Interesting.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, I've done this like several times. There's a lot of people that do that. Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: I know.
Tanya Ruttley: like um like They call it mono, the mono fruit diet.
Kim Fletcher: I know.
Tanya Ruttley: That means just one fruit.
Kim Fletcher: Right.
Tanya Ruttley: um You pick whichever one you want. um And then you just have at it. You could do three days. You could do 24 hours. You can do it however you want. I just chose a week. um Yeah. Because I have been having two meals a day.
Kim Fletcher: It's
Tanya Ruttley: I think I've eaten two meals a day now for the past...
Tanya Ruttley: I didn't do it each day, but I would say in the last... week I know I've had maybe four of those days and it ain't been just healthy.
Tanya Ruttley: Right. So I want to do my seven day, get me back on track.
Kim Fletcher: had
Tanya Ruttley: Um, it's just something I like to do, um, often, know,
Kim Fletcher: and Okay, so you like to do it often. There's no benefit of it. It's just you like to do is it. Right,
Tanya Ruttley: Of course, there's a benefit if you do any fast, right?
Kim Fletcher: right.
Tanya Ruttley: um But yeah, so it's just, break is just my particular, I don't have any ailments, so I just need healthy.
Kim Fletcher: Okay. Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: right
Tanya Ruttley: The benefit is for me to stay healthy. So if I wanted to do watermelon, I do love watermelon.
Kim Fletcher: and okay
Tanya Ruttley: The tricky thing with watermelon for me, it has to be sweet. Even though I love watermelon, I don't love watermelon to where I can eat it regardless. So it's normally a hit and miss.
Kim Fletcher: OK.
Tanya Ruttley: So if I'm going to something like this, I'm going to to the um grapes because I've never had ah whole thing of bad grapes, you know, and and I love grapes. Although my favorite fruit, believe it or not, girl, is grapefruit.
Tanya Ruttley: But I don't know. i I can't do no seven days straight of grapefruit, though.
Kim Fletcher: right from
Tanya Ruttley: But yeah, so it's not to do anything because it has a lot of health ailments.
Kim Fletcher: that that
Kim Fletcher: okay
Tanya Ruttley: um I just do it because I want to keep my body where it's at. I don't want any.
Kim Fletcher: Right.
Tanya Ruttley: So I just do it. And sometimes I'll do just water. I've even done like a 48 hours soft dry fast. That's only brushing my teeth. I receive water.
Tanya Ruttley: And when I shower, so that's drinking no water. And I've done that for 48 hours. um And I actually did when I had, remember told you had ended with like a slight shellfish allergy.
Kim Fletcher: right
Tanya Ruttley: And so, okay, my body going to need a reset. So I stayed off of the shellfish maybe about six months. And I was like, okay, hold on. Let me do a reset with my body and then see if I can eat it again. So I did a 72 hour water fast.
Tanya Ruttley: I then ate. And when I do a water fast, I know a lot of people like to do a gallon. I don't, I drink. two throughout the day, right?
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Help me.
Tanya Ruttley: Whatever amount that he is, that's the amount. um And then I ate and then the next day I did a 48 hours. I was going to another 72, but i was like, ah I did a 48 hour water of fast and I ended up doing shrimp and something else and I'm fine. I'm back to eating seafood.
Tanya Ruttley: So sometimes you just need to reset your body.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: um so So that's what I did. But yeah, so I do different type of fast just to stay
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: ah buying ah yeah Keep my body in a state of always at least being healthy and catching in case something is going on, you know, because sometimes things are going on in the work behind the scene and we don't know because it's internal.
Tanya Ruttley: So we won't know that. So if there's anything, stuff like this can catch it, take care of it and let your body reverse and heal itself is what I like. That's all.
Kim Fletcher: Maintaining that body. Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep. Cause you know, by the time the doctor, cause by the time the doctor know that something's wrong with you, that means it's been in your body for a while.
Kim Fletcher: maintain that
Tanya Ruttley: So I feel if we do periodic fast, I'm not, I'm not saying go over overboard and just, you know, go extreme different things for different people, but I just feel if I can get them throughout the year, whatever's going on should clear up if it started something, you know what i mean?
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So that's, that's how I do it.
Kim Fletcher: Okay. Okay.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. So how was your day?
Kim Fletcher: Oh, it was just a quiet day. You know, I had a do-nothing day. Have you ever had a do-nothing day?
Tanya Ruttley: um
Kim Fletcher: ah had a do-nothing.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, I think I've made do nothing days, but yeah, of course, absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: and Yeah, I had a do nothing day. Like, I got the word, and after that, it was a do nothing day. Like, nothing. umm I'm wondering, shoot, we have do nothing days and not a day?
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, I think it's good for us. A lot of people, you know, people think you should always be doing something every single day.
Kim Fletcher: Hmm. Hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: I just think sometimes if if your body calls for you to rest or even your mind is just like, today I want that day, do it. Just don't make it all the time. But periodically, absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Yeah. Right.
Tanya Ruttley: Absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: You know how I look at it I remember being a single parent, right? And this is how I see what you're saying and as far as resting.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: even Because when you're a single parent, you need breaks. So for me, my break would come... Summer, every other holiday, right?
Tanya Ruttley: Then go with their dad, split their time between their dad and then my parents.
Kim Fletcher: right
Tanya Ruttley: And that's a reset for me and my children. Because as a single parent, um it's more challenging because everything's on you for most of the time, right? So my reset with my children would be taking that little break.
Kim Fletcher: Right.
Tanya Ruttley: And then, and here's what's so crazy, girl. Every summer, be like, okay, I know the summer, you know, he's supposed to have them like this whole time, but what about if I get them early? like
Tanya Ruttley: I was like, I miss my babies. And me and my mom, it was it was such a funny little thing because it's known the dad's first day. My parents would get them, right? So it's the split. And then I would tell my parents, okay, I'm missing my babies. I think I want to get em back early. I'm going like, do oh, I want to keep my grandbabies.
Tanya Ruttley: I said, but I love my babies too.
Kim Fletcher: because they
Tanya Ruttley: I like being around my babies. So I just want to come up maybe a week early, you know, and get them. Stuff like that. I always miss my kids. But yeah, just a reset.
Kim Fletcher: They were going to take care of grandbabies, baby, every time i saw yeah nieces, your, I mean, well, you know, nieces, yours, don't think, JB, a few JB, yeah, but I'm not sure about this, don't think, what, Deja, I mean, not Deja, Keisha over there,
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. Yeah. Mm-mm.
Kim Fletcher: A lot? Going up?
Tanya Ruttley: No, because, I mean, she had a mom and her dad right there, so it's like, uh-uh. Mm-mm.
Kim Fletcher: Oh, Antoine.
Tanya Ruttley: You callin' out there by the name, child.
Kim Fletcher: Oh, I'm sorry.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-mm.
Kim Fletcher: Oh, yeah. I was just saying, did the other ones ever stay up? don't want to say it like that, like the other ones, because
Tanya Ruttley: No, uh-uh. No, my other sister who has a different mom. No, I think hers was mainly with her mom. You know how I have this thing where at least personally, I think um most children go to the grandparents of the mother.
Kim Fletcher: Yep, I say it
Tanya Ruttley: here Here's because, and it's mainly because the fathers, um I don't know what it is. I don't want to say they're not as interested in their family because it's not that.
Tanya Ruttley: But that getting to know your family, let's go around all the time. It's just really not them. Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: all the time.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: I tell the ladies all the time, I say, take a statistic.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: did A girl, a woman, she's close to her mother, her kids are gonna go over her mother's side. They will see the father's side, but they're going to grow up with that mother's side.
Kim Fletcher: don't care what child it is. if that If you have a daughter and they have kids, oh those kids going to grow up with you. Her mother. Her mother.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep.
Kim Fletcher: That's how it is. You may have that 1% that they grow up with.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep. Because my husband is that 1% child. I was shocked. Yeah. When he get his kids, yeah, we go on to his side.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: And um so it's it's...
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Well, you know what? I will say this. My first husband... When we came home, we went to both. It was equal. The problem was when we got divorced.
Kim Fletcher: That's we work. It is.
Tanya Ruttley: When we got divorced and he got remarried, he only, and and his wife had had no children, but my kids ended up telling me later, they always went to her side.
Kim Fletcher: that's how would
Tanya Ruttley: he For some reason, he didn't continue going around, taking the kids around, you know, his parents and saw all this other stuff. So don't I don't know. um I just think it's something about those girls,
Kim Fletcher: yeah the
Tanya Ruttley: when it comes to family, meaning women, when it comes to family. and And again, which is why, you know, I definitely believe men and need to jump in and be active and care about that kind of stuff.
Kim Fletcher: And then another thing, because when you, because we split, you know, I had both grandmothers, so we had to go to both grandmother's side, the husband and the wife's side.
Kim Fletcher: So it was like you, somebody upset because you're going over to this person's house first for the holiday.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, I never had any problem. I got you.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, or the holiday first, you know, and then it on sometimes on the woman's side, when you are going to the other the of the spouse parent home, you're not as relaxed. But as soon as you get to your mother home, it's another world.
Tanya Ruttley: Hmm. What do you mean by that? trying to find out what you mean. You said you're not as relaxed, but then soon as soon you get to your... what do you mean?
Kim Fletcher: Right. Like, just take me in mind. So when we went his mother's house, it was just like, I'm just, you know, being all nice and, you know, daughter-in-law typey, quiet.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: But as soon as we leave that home and go to my mom's home, it's a different atmosphere. and So I'm like loose talking. a lot of women are like that.
Kim Fletcher: As soon as they get to their mother's house they act a certain way a different way because that's where they were raised and that's where they're comfortable
Tanya Ruttley: Hmm. Okay. Well, maybe, could it be because if it's new? Because, I mean, eventually... Oh, okay. I hadn't had that experience, but okay, I got you. It
Kim Fletcher: yeah yeah so yeah that's just if yeah you got me but
Tanya Ruttley: but could be, you know, because we you know when you marry into families, there's different you know that dynamics to the families, you know? um So you're going to have differences, but...
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, that's that it's another way.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: So, and this is one thing I wanted to do today, too. I just want to know, you know, we always learn the word every day. i want to, you know, every time we get on every day for the rest of the 30 days, what we learned, what word did we learn today?
Kim Fletcher: Because, you know, I learned the word and I looked at this 100 i know it's old an older video but i looked at this video with this guy this gentleman he was 109 years old he was still driving and everything driving his girlfriend around girl and everything smoking cigars he said every night he has to every day he eat ice cream has to go to bed eat ice cream and he smoked 10 cigars a day he's 109 years old did not look
Tanya Ruttley: know This is now? He's still living is what you said?
Kim Fletcher: No. Well, he was a while ago, but it's not now. i say it was a older video.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, you did say older. Okay.
Kim Fletcher: yeah And I was like, wow.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, I see him right now. got his little hat on.
Kim Fletcher: You see?
Tanya Ruttley: He's a veteran. He's a veteran. Black guy.
Kim Fletcher: that the That's right. And he's 109 years old. He still was driving his truck, took his girlfriend around. They wanted to know. He said he eats ice cream Every night he drink he smoked 10 cigars. He said people get around here smoking and they don't know how to smoke. He said, because you don't inhale that smoke and be coughing. Because he said, I don't cough.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, see.
Kim Fletcher: I said, yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, he passed 2018. He ended up, oh, he made it to 112. You better go ahead.
Kim Fletcher: That's right. you better go ahead. and that's why I say they lived such a long time in the things that they did versus why these people dropping now versus what what what are they doing now versus what they were doing because he was 112 and he just recently passed. That's 2018. That's not like a long time ago. Long, long, long, long time ago.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, it passed six years ago. itd be December would be seven years. So, yeah. Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: Because I know I was reading it when I moved here.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: So In that time frame, I know he was still alive. Like, OK, Grandpa, that's me.
Kim Fletcher: Riding around still.
Tanya Ruttley: So in 2013, yeah, because 2013, okay, because Barack Obama, President Barack Obama, um acknowledged him.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: So in 2013, he did, and then five years later, he was gone. Okay.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. I wonder when did he start smoking?
Kim Fletcher: He was still certain.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: I'm not sure.
Tanya Ruttley: ah he But he said, but you know what?
Kim Fletcher: i was just
Tanya Ruttley: He said the right thing. He wasn't inhaling. And that's that that is, yeah, yeah.
Kim Fletcher: that's what i said he said you don't inhale people get around here coughing he said you don't do that you just smoke and blow um and he looked yeah
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm. And drinking whiskey stiffened or stifened coffee, whatever that means. Unless he just add whiskey to his coffee.
Kim Fletcher: yeah and he was still healthy skin look good and everything for yes
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, I'm looking at him. He looked good. Yeah, he looked really good.
Kim Fletcher: he was still there the Lord kept him preserved I don't care what he was doing he people get around here judged but look at that man 112 years old and was still smoking and drinking not getting drunk but he was enjoying life mhm and he knew how to do it still had a little girlfriend he better go head on pop
Tanya Ruttley: Absolutely.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Cha.
Tanya Ruttley: Cha.
Kim Fletcher: still driving
Tanya Ruttley: Had the girlfriend. That's the funny part. That's what saying. If we're still here, and that's why you remember when you was talking about the um the young lady in their early 20s and not just giving up.
Kim Fletcher: Yes.
Kim Fletcher: Yes.
Tanya Ruttley: and That's why i was like, man, if we're still here, keep going.
Kim Fletcher: Yes.
Tanya Ruttley: Just change your life around it and get what God has for you. You know, just enjoy life. I think that's cute. Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: right That is no so good to me. I love it. not for don anymore You know, I'm hearing you. I'm getting my word. So I was like, OK, so we're going to see what um what would what did you learn today?
Kim Fletcher: What did I learn?
Tanya Ruttley: I ain't learn no word because I ain't want to know where anybody's looking no word.
Kim Fletcher: You didn't do that, so you was just, you don't?
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, don't do that every day. My husband got it. We have it um where it come into our email. Girl, I'll be like, don't learn no word every day.
Kim Fletcher: Oh, I thought, well, you know, I learned just about a
Tanya Ruttley: What word did you learn?
Kim Fletcher: ah lot. they were he What one main thing that stood out or didn't stand out, it was just, because already know about,
Tanya Ruttley: I thought you said a word. I'm sorry. I'm confused right now.
Kim Fletcher: yeah,
Tanya Ruttley: I thought you were asking what word? Like you actually, there was a word that you heard and you went and got the definition and learned.
Kim Fletcher: think
Tanya Ruttley: What are you talking about?
Kim Fletcher: No, I was talking about the word of God.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, girl.
Kim Fletcher: I can say, because you told me you get your word every day.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, I read, but I just... There ain't nothing that brand new pop up to me every time. No.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, but it's going so.
Tanya Ruttley: Cause a lot of times what I have to do and I realized this early on in my life, I have to read and listen to things over and over again.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: um Instead of like one time you will catch me playing. Let's say if I started Matthew today, right?
Kim Fletcher: uh-huh
Tanya Ruttley: going to start from the beginning. And then I'm a go back probably three or four times. That's just how I do it um to get it in me. um So, yeah, no, that wasn't anything that I learned new today to think about.
Kim Fletcher: well i had i i had already learned about you know you always talk about tithing and it's not really tithing the most giving which i learned at an with reading myself because I, you know, um I'm always hungry to know what the word is saying about everything.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: Like I'm like everything, what is going on of with the tide and stuff back then before we knew better. And um I, um
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, i had an issue with that about 10 years ago and kind of dived into it, yeah.
Kim Fletcher: yes yeah, and and I researched it in the Lord.
Tanya Ruttley: yeah
Kim Fletcher: he He was saying that we should, Scripture was like today, I looked it up because I want to know it. The scripture was like, if tithing, not even really tithing because you're supposed to give from your heart. And he was like, store up, you should not store up money, but you should have like the tithe that you would give to the church. You should already have that at home. Say like if someone come to you.
Kim Fletcher: I send someone to you, you should already have that money there to give to them or whatever it may be to give them in your home.
Tanya Ruttley: Right.
Kim Fletcher: So it wasn't so much you have to give money at church because they'd be over the TV.
Tanya Ruttley: Right. Uh-huh.
Kim Fletcher: If you give a thousand dollars, no, God's not going to give you anything because you are giving a thousand dollars.
Tanya Ruttley: Uh-huh.
Kim Fletcher: he talking today on how I forget he who it was but he gave after God had blessed him he didn't give before God blessed him for God to give him anything he gave after God had blessed him after he had gotten rich and you know wealthy then he was like oh look God gave me all this and he gave him started giving to God nice You know, that's what I learned, that we don't work for ourselves. People think we work for ourselves. We really don't. We work for God, for what work to have to give to other people because going to make sure we are taken care of.
Tanya Ruttley: Absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: Even though we have to pay our bills, we're going to make sure you have more than enough of that and you have more to give and take care of other people because that's what I want you to do.
Kim Fletcher: That's how you take care the kingdom.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, that's why i give away stuff out of my garden. I like to give it away ah because people always think equate everything to the dollar.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: um
Kim Fletcher: Yes. Yes. Yes.
Tanya Ruttley: That's not necessarily it. what What do you have a gift doing? You know, what do you do?
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: And like you have a like, okay, because I remember I was talking to my husband. I was like, okay, so with me now not having to work and just focus on the business, let me let me stop saying not have to work, not have to work for someone else because our business is, baby, I'm working, um but not have to work for someone else.
Kim Fletcher: that's where i
Tanya Ruttley: My truck is just sitting here. And so I was like, you know, I talked to God and I was like, who can I help?
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: There's someone that maybe need a ride somewhere, you know, because, okay, I got this truck out here.
Kim Fletcher: That's
Tanya Ruttley: I can either, just before my dad had came with me, I was like, I can, no, it was after my dad came. I was like, I wonder if I can take like an elderly lady to church or, you know, go to the movies with her or spend some time with her.
Tanya Ruttley: and And I said, I don't want to force it, right? But there's something that I can do with just my vehicle to to take somebody where they need to be.
Tanya Ruttley: Well, at first I thought about tapping into
Kim Fletcher: right
Tanya Ruttley: um pregnant women that may need a ride to doctor's appointments and stuff like that.
Kim Fletcher: got
Tanya Ruttley: I was going to, that's one of the things that I said I'm going to look into to see if there are some, you know, mothers out here who need some help.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Here's my only problem. So when I dive into that, I don't like the Baltimore area. I guess I'm getting a little bit close to where I'm at um because you can make wrong turns.
Kim Fletcher: and okay
Tanya Ruttley: So I'm like, okay, I have to be careful because it will be just me. Right. So, and I know my other issue is, so how do I find someone where I'm still going to be safe?
Tanya Ruttley: So the other piece was like a um the elderly and it's so silly.
Kim Fletcher: That's right.
Tanya Ruttley: I was getting something. I went into a store and an elderly lady, we just got to talking and she worked there. She do part time. She's probably 70 something years old. We did exchange numbers. I reached out to her. A couple of weeks ago, she didn't get back with me. i need to reach back out to her again. um And I was like, well, maybe I can, you know, start a relationship with her because I feel like instead of just keeping my truck in the yard, doing nothing until I got to go run and do something with the business, I can do something for somebody else.
Tanya Ruttley: Because I've always been the type when I was younger and had a car.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, me.
Tanya Ruttley: If my car can leave the driveway and I got gas in it, you're not paying me no gas money to take you nowhere.
Kim Fletcher: you right
Tanya Ruttley: I've always been this way. And I've never understood people saying, well, you got to give me gas money. I'm like, you have a car and you go, you got a job and you know, you got gas in your car. Now it's totally different if you don't have nothing. I got that.
Kim Fletcher: right
Tanya Ruttley: Um, but put like this, I'm 48 years old. I've never charged nobody gas money.
Kim Fletcher: yeah me
Tanya Ruttley: So, I'd like to be able to just do something for you and not say, because to me, if you already need a ride, that means somewhere you're struggling, right?
Kim Fletcher: That's right. Right. Right. Mm-hmm. not sure.
Kim Fletcher: that' why
Tanya Ruttley: So not that I wasn't struggling, but I had a car and I had gas in it. So you ain't asking me to take you three hours away. You asked me take you to the store. You see what I'm saying?
Kim Fletcher: right
Tanya Ruttley: And I had no problem doing that and not charging gas money.
Kim Fletcher: right
Tanya Ruttley: So, yeah, it's just I'm looking for ways that I can help people um just somewhere with my car because my car is just sitting out there until I go somewhere for an hour and come back home, you know.
Kim Fletcher: um
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, I'm always looking to help someone. like I'm always looking to help. And my grandkids, they want to help too. I've told them, and I'm going have to stand up to what I said, that we were going to go and pass out food to the homeless. They wanted to go to McDonald's and buy 50 burgers and go and take them to the homeless. And I told them we could do it. We're going to do it. i just It's been too high. It's been making me weak.
Tanya Ruttley: Oh, that's a good one.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, so that I'm gonna let them do that because that was their idea and they want to do it.
Tanya Ruttley: here That's cute. That's that's that they they have that in them. And because so this my thing with the homeless.
Kim Fletcher: I'm sorry, can you hear me?
Kim Fletcher: and or Go ahead.
Tanya Ruttley: To meet so me, sometimes it's is's it's difficult because when it comes to the home because I know they ah sometimes they choose because mentally they just don't want to be around other people. you know It's so many different reasons why people are there.
Tanya Ruttley: um So it's not that I don't um don't want to do anything. but So let me ask you this. What about safety? When they get out, how do you how do you determine who's safe for them to go and get food to?
Tanya Ruttley: How would you make that decision?
Kim Fletcher: Well, um we' we we were going to go where Granny used to give food out on to the church. And it's a the people.
Tanya Ruttley: Yep.
Kim Fletcher: We frequent that road a lot. And we grew up there. So I kind of know some of the people. And when
Kim Fletcher: so my other half was working at a restaurant in the area, he used to give them food as well at the end of the day. You know, would give the food that they want to throw away. He'd be like, no.
Kim Fletcher: They're getting this food. He would never let people throw the food away because he said it make no sense.
Tanya Ruttley: yep
Kim Fletcher: y'all going to throw that food away? don't even know how people out here. So he's...
Tanya Ruttley: So they do it because, because I used to work at a restaurant, if there's anybody gets sick, they could be held loud. So, so there are reasons behind it. um
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, there, there are, yeah, there are reasons behind it.
Kim Fletcher: So they'd rather throw it in the trash and the people go in the trash and get it out.
Tanya Ruttley: Because then they're not responsible if they get sick. Because, yeah, so it's ah so it's a lot when it comes to food because people get sick with food, right?
Kim Fletcher: Mm-mm.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: And you don't know it.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: like Let's say it was a bad batch, right? um And you're not going to know until some time after. It's not always immediate. I think food poisoning can take up to two weeks after, probably longer than that.
Tanya Ruttley: So they they do have to be mindful, and I do understand it because I remember I used to get mad as a teenager. I worked at McDonald's. And when they had to get rid of stuff, I'm like, what? All these people, you get emotional.
Kim Fletcher: so
Tanya Ruttley: but what
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: it's It's emotional without without no logic.
Kim Fletcher: want
Tanya Ruttley: You have to put logic to it. But I was very emotional about it.
Kim Fletcher: Yes.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, they still throwing, even in the the bread, even if' ah if it's in the plastic, they still throwing it away. They can't, you know, all this food is just going in trash and people are hungry.
Tanya Ruttley: It's liability.
Kim Fletcher: It doesn't
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. It's liability. They should be, they found, it they should have found another way to do it. Um, but people, people do have to be, when you have a business is different from being an emotional thinker and an emotional reactor.
Tanya Ruttley: Um, you can You can lose everything you work for. um Because I thought about the restaurant stuff.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: It's a lot that comes with it. It really is. And so I get it. When I was younger, I didn't. I got very emotional about it. Like I said, I had no logic to it. I was just emotion speaking. um But there there really is more to it.
Tanya Ruttley: Doesn't mean something can't be done, right, to where they can create something, you know.
Kim Fletcher: right yeah yeah so yeah yeah
Tanya Ruttley: But yeah, but I get why they do it. I get it now. Because I don't want nobody come take everything from me because I had a kind heart. We got to be careful of that.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah, I wouldn't let i wouldn't let my grandkids get out by themselves anyway, because I already have a team. Like, we going, we going with them, we going, this person going, this person going. So we all going you know, hand.
Tanya Ruttley: That's awesome though. Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: know, my sister always, far as I know, pretty much majority of her adult life have always did volunteer stuff like that. Um, me, I'm a little bit different.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah. Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: I don't like to organize. I know it's so crazy. I don't like to organize volunteer stuff. I like the out of the blue volunteer stuff. So we, we both have the same kind of heart.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: She just liked to organize, you know, set up.
Kim Fletcher: Yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: And I like the random, I like to randomly do something.
Kim Fletcher: yeah and yeah yeah I'm a random out. If I see it and it needs to be done, it needs to be done. Like I had one year for Christmas, I've told my mom, we going to take food to the elderly. And what we did, we went to this place.
Kim Fletcher: um I can't think of the name of it, but they had place where they had food fixed for, I think, I don't think it was meals on wheel. It may have been meals on wheel, but they fixed the food and they give us addresses to like 10 homes of the elderly.
Kim Fletcher: And on Christmas, we took them Christmas dinner.
Tanya Ruttley: so Okay. Okay.
Kim Fletcher: no
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, like stuff like that.
Kim Fletcher: but Some of them
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: and them. Some elderly people don't have family. They can't get out and they're lonely.
Tanya Ruttley: How do you find out about those people? How do you even find that out that they don't have family? How do you find it?
Kim Fletcher: um They, they will tell you, let you know, like my daughter, she's in type and that kind of, field and she know all types of things like that.
Kim Fletcher: People don't have family or yeah.
Tanya Ruttley: So the average person, no, I was just talking about like the average person to know in order to assist.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: That's what I was saying. So you only knew your daughter's position.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: Gotcha. Yeah. Yeah, because I like, so the way that I've always tried to do mine is when I think I know if someone in need mail it anonymously.
Tanya Ruttley: Because, so i'm I'm a little weird. I think that when people know you can do something, sometimes they may end up trying to abuse it. So i do I do like to do it where they don't know it came from me.
Kim Fletcher: Well, yeah, that's what we to do, it too.
Tanya Ruttley: Just saying.
Kim Fletcher: Like, when I was living out of town, we would frequent a lot of stores and a lot of people knew us, so we would set up on a day, and the people that I would set up with, they were, like, social media savvy, so they had people to come and bring, like, soap and toothpaste so we could take to this day shelter.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: Because people, they had a day shelter there so they could come take a bath, relax, maybe watch TV, eat something.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah.
Kim Fletcher: So we would do that type of, you know, those type of things in a bulk, rather.
Tanya Ruttley: and here
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. Cause I like to, so for me, when I say like, like, I like to know that there are somebody who I know is working. And they look like they're struggling and secretly get them stuff.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: That's what I'm talking about Like that. So I know for, because I have heard that sometimes when you give to these places, it don't go where you think it going.
Kim Fletcher: Okay, yeah.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: So that's, that was the reason why I said, I like to do it um anonymously, but know the person and secretly get it there.
Kim Fletcher: um
Tanya Ruttley: ah And they not know where it come from. Because sometimes when you do, like, especially like grocery store, they like, hey, you want to donate to, I always say no, because I do my own donations and it get to where I want it to get to.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Kim Fletcher: like, um, used to do that.
Tanya Ruttley: that
Kim Fletcher: Um, what it was, uh, the secret Santa that used to pay. If you put a layaway up, they would pay the layaway off and you didn't even know it.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, a lot of people, they started putting that on the um broadcasting it Yeah, that people just go up and pay for layaways. Yeah. But I don't, I still don't know that person.
Kim Fletcher: Uh, I don't either. Cause they paid for a few. Thank you for a few of my layaways for my grandchildren ah few years in a row.
Tanya Ruttley: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm.
Kim Fletcher: When I put my layaway up, um,
Tanya Ruttley: yeah
Kim Fletcher: They called me and said it was paid for. But they called right at the almost at the end of the time it was supposed to be paid off.
Tanya Ruttley: yeah
Kim Fletcher: Then they'll call and tell you was paid off and you come get it.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah. I think while one year my son had a balance at his university.
Kim Fletcher: Mm-hmm.
Tanya Ruttley: And what happened was, you know, the end of the year you need to pay the balance. It's not even that it was a lot. It's just the fact that he received notification that it had been paid. And I found out that it was actually Steve Harvey's. um He has a boys to men type camp stuff.
Tanya Ruttley: I don't, I don't know exactly what it is, but that year, that particular year, they had paid off at all HBCUs and ones that had balances.
Kim Fletcher: Yes. Yep.
Tanya Ruttley: So that's the kind of stuff not, I'm trying to say it right. That's the kind of stuff I want to know where it's going because we need that type of assistance. And a lot of other people get that.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: And when we do it at these other places, they get it first, not necessarily us.
Kim Fletcher: yeah
Tanya Ruttley: That's why I like to know who I'm taking care of And the fact that he did an HBCU, u he knew it was going to his community who need it. um So that's how i cant that's how I like to do it um when I give back.
Kim Fletcher: um I wonder if any programs are still around like paying it forward. Because you don't hear too much now. The economy is so jacked up, you don't hear anything.
Kim Fletcher: So people.
Tanya Ruttley: Yeah, it might be. and I know my husband, that's one of the things we're definitely, when we get all our stuff in play, that's what we're huge on. Absolutely.
Kim Fletcher: Paying it forward, yeah. OK. Yay.
Tanya Ruttley: All right, you guys. So it is 833. Thank you for joining us. We have hit our 30-minute mark of day 19 of the 30-day challenge. We will be back here tomorrow, same time, same platforms.
Tanya Ruttley: um So please come and join us and help us to continue to grow.
Kim Fletcher: W, Debbie?
Tanya Ruttley: Start up the bank over. There you go. Watch us work. Kim and Latrice, we're out.
Kim Fletcher: Good night.
Tanya Ruttley: Good night.
