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What We Wish We Knew When We Started Our Health & Fitness Journey

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On this weeks episode, KateLynn sits down with Coach Nicole and go over the various things that we wish we would have known when we began our journey's in bettering our health and fitness. Listen today and learn a few "what not to do's"!

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Introduction to the FitFem Project

00:00:02
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Welcome to the FitFem project alignment podcast. It is here that we cultivate and gather all who have been through it in fitness, relationships, careers, lifestyle changes, and unforgettable crucial life pivots trying to achieve their most sovereign selves.

Stories of Overcoming Struggles

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We're here to provide you with thought-provoking detailed stories and information from truly fascinating men and women from all walks of life, professions, generations, and modern day sagas who speak to the rawest, darkest moments that made them the strong, decisive, humble, helpful, healing people that they are today. We ask them to hold nothing back because life is a multidimensional pursuit to be stronger, healthier, and more aligned mentally, emotionally, and physically. Let's go.

Coach Nicole's Fitness Journey Begins

00:00:54
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Hello, welcome back to the pod with me today is coach Nicole. Today's topic we are going back in time and asking ourselves what we wish we knew when we started our health and fitness journeys. Why you may ask because we don't want you to make the same mistakes we did right Nicole? Yes, please listen. I know you always do you ever get people that ask you Oh, what regrets do you have? What do you wish you could change? And it's like, well,
00:01:23
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not a lot, honestly. But when it comes to like the health and fitness stuff, you know, yeah, there's some things that I wish we could probably get out of the way. What about what's that like for you? I gosh, for me, there are I think one of the first diet things I ever kind of ventured into was when I was in college and I bought some kind of
00:01:46
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cleansing thing on it was like you buy a bottle of this and it automatically puts you on a subscription and I had to call my bank I was like I don't want two of these I don't know what's going on they're like we got you you young girls do this what was it I don't even remember just something stupid I must have seen on some commercials like oh that's gonna help me lose five pounds in a day and I have the it was in the military at the time I was like so I'm the fitness exam fitness test this week so that should help
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Oh my

Balancing Lifestyle and Bodybuilding

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gosh. But it was just some kind of diuretic. Oh, to get you to go. Yeah, a lot. I think so. But I didn't even like use a bottle. I was just like, as soon as like, I got the receipt said you're gonna have one of these every month. I was like, Oh, they got you. They did. Yeah.
00:02:31
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I never did anything quite like that. And not much of a bandwagoner, but I mean, we've all fallen for like the, oh, look at this results. That could be you. I'm like, okay. Like why wouldn't you fall for that? You know what I mean? Yeah. So going back in time for you, what besides that one time of buying something off of CCTV, no, that's not right. The shopping network on... Cute.
00:03:00
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Shark Tank, Lori. Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. I can't remember. But yeah, that was like 3 a.m. Like, this'll work. So besides that, like kind of looking back, where do you feel like I could have avoided that? It would. It would have to be back when I was just out of college and just my first career, my first job was in the military. But when I basically earned my first paycheck and I had enough money to like
00:03:29
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purchase or try or experiment with something that I didn't have to ask my mom for

The Role of Guidance in Fitness

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permission. I was like freedom. The first thing I did was like get proactive solution. I think for like my acne back then I was, I felt so adult and so good. I was like, I bought this myself and I've known for years. I need it. It's working. But anyway, the in health and fitness setting, what I did was I, I did try,
00:03:57
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Well, it's interesting because like I have like before coaching higher coach than after hire a coach, like lessons. Oh, okay. Before hire coach, I think I just did like Cosmo magazine diets and you know, something that you could buy, find it in a magazine. But after I hired a coach, I think, um, cause I've been, I've worked with several coaches and I've learned a lot of good things from them and a lot of not so good things from some of them.
00:04:21
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And it's all helped, but, um, it's gotten you to where you're at now, at least. Yeah. Yeah. But there are some things where I would have been like, I wish I'd known sooner or someone had pointed out to me sooner that like, you don't need to keep going down this path. Like it's not helping you. It's actually going to make you worse. And that was, I think the point for me was when I was, I was with a company, it was a very strict meal plan. Like it was one that didn't change for like four weeks at a time.
00:04:51
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And the first, when I first joined them, like I learned a lot, I was losing weight, but then I wanted to take it further. So I signed up for bodybuilding shows. That was probably one thing.
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you don't need to sign up for bodybuilding shows to lose weight. Actually, that's probably the biggest thing to not sign up for that just to lose weight. Oh, I mean, that'll do it. It's true. But like, it's still a sport. Like I understand now, like, if you're doing something for a sport, then the sport takes up your life. But when you're trying to make that your life, it takes up your life for a short amount of time. It is temporary, but I was trying to make it permanent. But I think when I was still
00:05:31
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when I reached a point where I couldn't, um, I couldn't see that difference where there was a lifestyle and then there was a sport and I was blending them. That's where I wish someone had come up to me and said, like, you need to pull away for a little bit and just get your head clear and, um, finding balance, balance versus like, okay, I am in prep season and there's a big difference between that versus my personal life.

Realizations on Sustainability and Balance

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Yeah. What do you mean? Okay. Yeah. And I didn't see that. I didn't see that for like,
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I think four years. And so what was like, um, sorry to interrupt. What was like really suffering during that time for you? My body for one, uh, my body just felt like it was, um, plus he was in such denial, but I could feel it. I was in denial. I was like, Oh, binging every weekend's okay. Everyone's doing all the beginning competitors are doing it in my mind. That's what I thought I was seeing. Um,
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So I was signing up for show after show to stay ahead of my binges, but my body kept needing longer to recover. It just stayed sore all the time. So I felt, were you grumpy? I was, but then I tried to hide it because I was trying to prove to my husband and my family, like, no, this is normal. This is how I want to live. And I was in such denial. I think there's a part of me is like, no, you don't. But I was too,
00:06:57
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I didn't know what else to do. I thought like if I want, I really believe that if I wanted to be fit and lean, I had to, the only option was to follow, it was to be on prep essentially.
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the whole time in my life. So that was like, what, like 1200 calories or something crazy. It was like 14 or 1500, but it was an hour of cardio, five days a week plus four to five hour long lifts a week. And, um, I mean, some people can do that, but I couldn't back then because I was still, um, when I was in the Navy, you know, you have like, you got real life, you got jobs, you got family, you got family to visit. And so I was,
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I had gotten to a point where I had made it so that I could get those workouts in and that cardio in, but it was getting to the point where it was, it was past a comfort zone for me where my family, like my husband was having to adjust his, his life to accommodate those workouts for me. And I think I reached a point where I was like, this is going too far. Like it's not just.
00:08:02
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That was just me, it'd be easy. But it's, essentially, it's a selfish thing. And not in a horrible, bad way, like you're not evil. But it was, because I've seen that, like with Casey being around her during prep, it's like you really have to accommodate to them a lot. Because there's a show and there's a reason why. But I could see if that's like your everyday life that's a little different and you're not, I mean, were you, yeah, you were in prep, but were you going, you were doing a lot of shows then too, right?
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Uh, I was talking about two to three shows a year, but even when I was in off season, I was still following the workouts and the diet. So I was, because I think I was hearing like.
00:08:46
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I think it was really a joke around the fitness industry on Instagram. That's like its own thing. But, um, like people would say, Oh, I'm off season. And then others would say, but you're never really off in off season. Like you're never really off. It reminded me of the Navy. Well, we would say like, yeah, you have, you're on duty when you're on duty. And then there's like off duty, but you never really off duty. Yeah. So I kind of had the same vibe and kind of.
00:09:14
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belief that it was the same with health and fitness and shows and right. So and it was like that for at least four years. So what was like the breaking point where Oh, this is not great. Seeing your husband like change his life to accommodate your schedule and stuff or? Well, he's very, he's very stoic. Like he will think things through and definitely pause before he emotionally reacts to anything like he's
00:09:43
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Very, he's, I admire him immensely for that. Um, so he actually, he's like, so long as you're happy, like do whatever you want. I'm there to support it. And I would tell him, yeah, I'm happy on the outside. Um, and I was trying to make it work, but I tell my clients is too. Like there was one time in 2018 towards the end, I'd done three shows that year and I was working five jobs that year. Oh my gosh. And I was like,
00:10:09
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I ate like four jars of almond butter in like less than a week. And so at the end of the fourth jar, I was like, I can't keep doing this because I was thinking about shows for the next spring and I was getting terrified. And I was like at the meeting four jars of almond butter. And one week I was like, I think I need I need help. That's where I need to go next. So that was my turning point. Yeah. So basically going back in time, you would change finding that balance a lot sooner.
00:10:38
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Yes. And I think how I would have, um, succeeded at finding that balance would have been honestly to have not spent so much time on social media.

Social Media's Impact on Fitness Perception

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And also to, um, like, I don't know. It's like, cause a part of me is like, would I know now?
00:11:01
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would I know what I know now if I hadn't been through all that? But I was like, even so, like, I would have at least wanted to spend less time there. Um, and that would have been not spending so much time on social media. And really for me personally, just cause this is a character trait of mine, like I have this, uh, it's, I don't know how to explain it, but it's this insatiable,
00:11:28
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desire to just know everything. And stressful. Well, it is like a lot of pressure on yourself to like know it all. Yeah, I don't know why I watch I try to think about like, when is that like a nurture versus nature thing? And I think back on like, when I was a little kid and moving around every three years to like different countries, I'm like, the kids who make it who are accepted as friends and get friends are the ones who just seem to know
00:11:57
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like, actors names from American movies. So when you're 12, and you got a country in Bolivia, you're like, Yeah, I don't know. So anyway, that's a maybe that's where it's done from. But I needed like, I felt like I if I if someone had told me back then, because I don't think I would have been able to tell myself, but if I had someone told me back then, like,
00:12:18
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You don't need to push yourself to the extreme. You don't have to do it all in order to be seen as legitimate or authentic or be accepted in any way. Like you, that is not necessary. Um, if someone had told me that I would have spent less time in that, in those four years of kind of like confusion and
00:12:43
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stress and pain. Yeah. So you said like definitely spending less time on social media. Like what at the time was social media like telling you that was. Yeah. Yeah. This is like 2016, 2017. So I feel like Instagram was kind of growing. Yeah. Cause didn't Instagram launch in 2010? Like that was when it first, that's not that long ago. Oh my gosh. That's right. Yeah. Yeah. I think I, I at least just gotten an Instagram account. And so
00:13:13
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I was like looking through and I've just gotten into bodybuilding and competing and so I was looking at different bikini competitors and I was with a bikini prep company so everything was competition and so
00:13:31
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it just, you know, for, you know, when I was just assuming my young, naive mind, that what was on Instagram was real on some level. And so when you see, so you're seeing a lot of at the time that you probably didn't obviously didn't realize was, yeah, there were some good things coming through your feed, but also a lot of
00:13:52
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unhealthy habits because yeah bodybuilders they know how to lose fat but are they doing it like in a way that's that's supporting them in their longevity yeah and stuff like that they don't care about that they want they want the title they want the show they want to be first place you know yeah oh and there's one thing that

Navigating Information Overload

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really I can't stand anymore like it actually boils my blood is when I see um
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when I see someone, some company post a before and after, but the before photo is from like when this person was, you know, at their highest weight. And then the after is they're cleaning clearly in a back post for the bikini, like bodybuilding world, but they label it as a lifestyle transformation. And when I see that, like I can't stand it because that's what I had, that's what I had grown up, well, grown up seeing in 2016 and 2017 and
00:14:44
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came to believe, I'm like, well, it just makes sense if you want to be, if you want to keep the fat off, you just have to be basically in prep the whole time. Because just look at these before and afters. Oh, yeah, that's a big tell if it's a bikini pose. Yeah. Okay, so that's one thing y'all can take away from this. Yeah, if you see that if there's lifestyle, and then you see someone in like a bikini bodybuilding stage, suit, that's got crystals on it, they are not one in the same, they are separate, and then stop following that company.
00:15:16
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We got to make sure we don't do that. No, we don't. We definitely don't. Yeah. Okay. So yeah, social media back then. I mean, it still is there's just so much noise to like filter through. So how would you coach yourself then? If you versus you now versus you then what would you tell how would you coach yourself?
00:15:37
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I was thinking about that earlier. I don't know how I would have, except for the way that I did. And it took me a long time, but, um, cause I didn't like, honestly, I feel like if I'd read the anneagram back then that would have helped me get out of my own head and get out of my own way. Just, um, I was more focused on the external, like, do I have the right supplements? Do I have the rights? Um, the right workout gear. Do I have the right coach instead of do I have the right, like,
00:16:07
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emotional state to like, you know, maybe I don't need to be in prep on a deployment. That's a little hard. Yeah, to have that understanding. I need to understand myself better than I did back then. That's what I would
00:16:24
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Did that answer your question? I'm trying to remember exactly what your question was. How you would coach yourself. Or even if it's not yourself, but if you're one of your clients was going through something like that and you kind of, whether or not, because you weren't even honest with yourself back then, but a good coach would kind of see between the lines a little bit, right? That's a good point. I try to get through those lines with my clients.
00:16:47
Speaker
because no one did that for me and I wish they had. You get the finger going. Like if, if a coach had just been brave enough to say, Hey, like you are, um, like you need to take a look at the rest of your life instead of being so focused on this, like, but that's the thing, like, I don't think coaches, at least back then, or the ones that I at least worked with, they didn't keep a timeline of my progress. They just checked in week to week and, um,
00:17:16
Speaker
versus like, you know, what we do. I know exactly where my client who's been with me for eight months. I know exactly where she started eight months ago and where she was three months ago. And whether she, you know, if she's made progress, like even in her job and how stressful that was and how that's impacting her ability to be consistent with her health and fitness goals. Like we keep
00:17:38
Speaker
we keep track of that. And if someone had done that for me, they would have been able to put my whole picture and show you the bigger picture. Yeah. My life in front of me, that would have been I think that would have made the biggest difference actually. Because I had to figure out and I think we all don't so low, but I had to figure that out for myself. But it took
00:17:58
Speaker
years yeah see like looking let's talk about me so i'm just kidding well not kidding but uh my because i'm not a i mean i am a life coach i'm not a coach coach like you but i yeah there's not much i would honestly change looking back because i never did anything that destroyed my gut or i wouldn't get on birth control tell you that though because that
00:18:27
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It was fine for a while. I kind of told you that before, right? The birth control journey? A little bit, I think. Yeah. Because I started on birth control when I got married when I was 19 and was on and off of it for 10, 12 years. So but it wasn't like a consistent I'm on birth whenever I had insurance. Yeah. So but it wasn't it was toward the two years ago, toward the end of that birth control journey that I really started to affect my body.
00:18:55
Speaker
Um, cause I had horrible skin issues and my gut was kind of messed up. I couldn't figure out, I mean, it, I got salmonella poisoning. So that was kind of a big trigger to my insides. So everything was like, I would eat cereal and I would just have to go to the bathroom every like five minutes. It was so bad and just constant for six months. It was like that.
00:19:20
Speaker
acupuncture helped a lot but then I was gaining some weight like I'm not doing the best job at my health and fitness right now but this is a little uncalled for like I was trying to be honest with myself um but then who was it oh Renee my acupuncturist I'm gonna butcher this so don't quote me on it but she basically taught me that um
00:19:44
Speaker
my birth control, obviously, it's hormones, right? So it's affecting my hormones, which is affecting, it was like this chain reaction that happened through my body because of birth control, which was causing me to have these gut issues and that it was affecting my thyroid. I didn't have bad thyroid levels. I got those all checked out. It was just really odd how connected all that was. And she just knew it. Like, I've learned so much from her. Anyway,
00:20:11
Speaker
So I would definitely not get on birth control for anything. I get it though, like I needed to be on birth control if you catch my drift. But yeah, what were you gonna say? But it's like, you don't even know what to look for, like what's off or what you're feeling is normal, if it's supposed to be part of what you're
00:20:34
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you know, doing so. That's a tough, birth control is a tough one to like know if it's really negatively affecting you because I didn't, it wasn't for me forever. I have really good levels. It wasn't causing me massive weight gain or mood swings, things like that. Nothing actually happened because that's the side effects you think about with birth control is like tons of weight gain mood swings. But I was like, it was affecting my skin, it was affecting my digestion. And then I got off of it. And then
00:21:10
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I don't do proactive anymore. Thank you. But that's one thing I definitely would reevaluate, but I had no reason not to because that thing was affecting me. It was fine. But yeah, so looking back, I wouldn't really change much because like I said, I'm not a bandwagoner. I didn't, you know, jump into the competition world just to lose weight. I'm like, that looks too hard. I'm not doing that.
00:21:23
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I mean, you can see me now, look how pretty my skin is.
00:21:36
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So if anything, I probably should have put a little more effort into it, but also at the same time, I don't want to like toot a horn here, but I've always been pretty okay, pretty good with my body image and my confidence. Of course. Yeah. Yeah. It'd be great to have a six pack and be super lean and cut and not have to worry about too much about how something's going to fit me. And it'd be flattering. Like I have to put a lot of effort into that, but.
00:22:03
Speaker
Um, I maybe probably should have thought about this before we started recording. No, I like where it's like, because you actually you're bringing up kind of body image. Oh, yeah. Um, kind of that area. And it's, that's one of the I think the biggest drivers, especially when you're young, I think in your
00:22:21
Speaker
I don't know, I say I'm gonna say in your 20s, as though I'm this ancient wise, personally, 37. But there is a difference. Yeah, there is a difference when you have when you're in your 20s versus later. But it's just what you see outside. And you're I feel like you're still trying to figure yourself out. And you're trying like I tell this is on my clients. It's like,
00:22:46
Speaker
You're trying on so many shirts that people are telling you to put on, like your parents and your mentors and your teachers. You're trying to see what fits, to see if that's you, if that feels like you. But after a certain time, you're just under a mountain of shirts. And it's like, you can't find yourself. And you're just drowning sometimes, it feels so it takes time to just pick off one shirt at a time until you can
00:23:11
Speaker
like breathe and you've made your way through and you're like, okay, let's meet, let me gather my bearings and see how I want to proceed and what I want to wear. That's a good way to put it. But when it comes to, so like with body image stuff, like you just, you see something and you try it and you try to make it work really hard.
00:23:32
Speaker
And sometimes it goes too far. Yeah. And that's kind of what I like to tell people with, well, really with anything when you are unsure of what to do or where to go and all this, like it's okay to try things, you know, that you see an advertisement on, you know, the thing I was telling you about. You want to try it, try it. Honestly, don't feel shameful about that. And if it doesn't work, you don't stick to it because I've bought like, oh, buy my workout program and done with my app. Like, okay, like I'll do that.
00:24:04
Speaker
It just never worked for me. And I would feel kind of guilty that, oh, I see all these people with this success and it's working for them. Why, what's wrong with me? And yeah, I'd have to remind myself that it's okay. It didn't work for you. Let's try something else. Kind of put in some new little, you know, plug in some new habits, try that, try this. And honestly, the best thing has been just having a coach.
00:24:31
Speaker
It's just, I needed the accountability. It just needs somebody to kind of be looking over me and telling me, yeah, let's redirect here. Let's do this now. And, you know, it just makes it so much easier. I feel like you had much younger, much more self-awareness than, than I did. That's why I was like, part of the question was like, like earlier on is like,
00:24:53
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what age would you have gone back to? And I was like, I think part of what got me into kind of the extreme level that I'd taken myself to was just my personality. I was not self-aware like you were. If I had had that self-awareness, I don't know where I'd be right now. But having that self-awareness to know when things are like, when you've reached the edge,
00:25:15
Speaker
Um, with whatever you're pursuing, whether it's work, health and fitness or relationships or something to know when you've reached an edge that you are not willing to go past, uh, that's immense self-awareness. But me, I would just, I just ignored it. I was like, no, this is not what this person or what they're saying. This has to work for me. There's no way out. Is that what you're saying? Yep. Wow. That's so much pressure to put on yourself.
00:25:39
Speaker
But that sounds like it must be my personality type three. Yeah, it's definitely your personality because I'm like, whatever is the easiest. And if that accommodates me sitting on the couch more, let's go. But then I'm like, I wish I wasn't the way I was like, like, I mean, I was I wish I was more attuned to when
00:25:59
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that i was at that edge okay yeah you know i am now yeah i hope so yeah oh yeah but it's like you know i wish i'd done that in my 20s i've gotten to that level my 20s yeah and it's difficult when you're younger and i'm so happy to be out of my 20s i'm about you it was just such a constant struggle especially like personally and financially like i wasn't and working out was always somewhat of an outlet for me so i was consistent just not
00:26:29
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I didn't have any like instruct, not instruct, I didn't have like a guidebook, you know, and who does. But yeah, so getting a coach earlier definitely would be something I would have done. But then again, I wouldn't have because I didn't have the money for it. And it's an investment and it is, I don't know, worth it. Well, like, here's what I've learned. That's part of the reason why I became a life coach, because when I had when I had my first coach,
00:26:57
Speaker
She was great. She was actually macros based proteins, carbs and fats. But she didn't have a pulse on how my life was and I was in the military and I feel like you're in kind of a kind of uniform service. I mean, I can't every job has its own unique difficulties and stressors, but
00:27:16
Speaker
Um, it just, you need to have a pulse on where your client is in all areas of your life. It's very, there's biological, there's, um, there's society, there's, um, psychology, like there's, there's a person that's more than just someone who spends time with Jim. There's so much more to them. And if something's off in their relationship, you're going to see it show up probably in a negative way in their health and fitness or in their work. And if you're someone, if you're a coach and you're
00:27:45
Speaker
You can see that like you need to say something like, so that's why I think life coaching, like you need to be more, right? In my personal opinion, I'm not saying this is for everyone, but I've seen that I have the best relationships with clients. They have a very well-rounded approach to their health and fitness. They're very healthy and they can, they kind of become more confident. They speak up for themselves. They make changes at work because it suits them. It serves them better that they're not do it out of guilt or avoidance of anything.
00:28:14
Speaker
When they have someone besides themselves and someone that they trust who's like pointing things out and say, Hey, did you notice this? Like, I noticed you're really stressed at work and you haven't had all your water. What can we do here? Like, do you need like.
00:28:30
Speaker
we kind of start working through and start talking through things like that. I don't advise them or anything with like work or their relationships. But I do make sure to point out like, hey, yeah, you came here wanting balance with everything. Let's see how where things are a little off balance and go from there. Yeah, that's you are a good coach, Nicole. I love this work. Because that's so true. Like if it's if something is affected over here, it's just going to spill over. And yeah, you're not a therapist.
00:28:58
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or anything like that, but you can at least notice, hey, Jasmine here, you seem to be struggling over here, just making people aware that, oh, this just does affect my life. And I think that's a good point to bring up for, especially people who are starting out in this health and fitness world. And then even for people who've been in it for a while, I've been in this world for a long time,
00:29:27
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you wouldn't know that looking at me. But I've been in the gym for a long time and I
00:29:35
Speaker
well-rounded meals, I've done Whole30, I've done, you know, all that, but yet it was, I'm not really getting anywhere, like, because aside from longevity and it just being good for me in my long-term life. I just need to tell people here, like, if you see Caitlin, everyone, and see her phenomenal figure, you would be like, Caitlin, what are you talking about?
00:29:58
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Oh, did I, you read that group message I sent yesterday? Maybe, probably. Where somebody, Mark and I were walking out from the building here. Oh yeah. Yeah. And there's this girl with the dog and I was just like, you know, polite passing by hello. And she goes, hi, I see you a lot in the gym just like crushing it. Are you like a trainer? Like what's your story? And I'm like, oh.
00:30:26
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And, like, that's never happened before. I was like, well, let me tell you about, you know. I was like, you know, yeah. I'm not being self-depreciating. I mean, I guess I am. You see what I mean, though. I do. I do. But, um, yeah, the, um... What were we talking about? I forgot. Like, we were getting onto a point. Yeah, we were. I totally effed it up.
00:30:55
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Yeah, going back in because I've been in the health and fitness world a long time. Yeah, but not necessarily you would know about it, but I'm not getting anywhere. Okay, that's the wrong way to put it. But do you see what I mean? I do. I do. Yeah, like it's not. I wasn't. Okay, let's get to a because I could be at a healthier body weight.
00:31:14
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And, but it wasn't really going anywhere. And I could be doing things that could better support my health. There we go. We're getting back on track. So I could, I could have been doing things that could have better supported myself, but yet, you know, there's so many people in that world where, yeah, I'm, I'm, I've been doing this for so long, but like, what's, what's, what do I have to show for it? That's where I'm getting with this.
00:31:38
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aside from, you know, having a longer wife, born on my feet and not being in a wheelchair at 80 or something. Yeah. But yeah, so there's plenty of people in that world, whether you're a newbie, or you've been in it for a while, we're still learning these lessons. Yeah, I would. So I'm just gonna like, if I think back on my own personal experience, like, I feel like I'm very typical of a very typical modern woman, like, I, you know, I had a
00:32:08
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corporate job at one point or the military.
00:32:12
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And I was captivated by the health and fitness world and I was new at one point and now I'm well steeped in it. And if I was like, I feel like for anyone new, just getting some guidance, like it's like going to school. Like you can't get a master's degree on something without having teachers there to tell you what to study. And you know what I mean? So if you're, if you have a goal, then get someone to help you. Um,
00:32:41
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But I feel like it's the same with someone who's been in it for a while. I have worked and I do work with women who have been dieting or have been our trainers themselves. And they have a hard time with, you know, getting enough sleep. That's a big one. Oh, yeah. And even though they know exactly how it helps their clients and they tell their clients to get enough sleep, it's
00:33:09
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It's something that we just need to like really remember the basics. Oh, yeah. Get down to the basics. So what would you say? Did I interrupt you? No, no, no. Actually, if you want to talk about the basics, like, yeah, what would you say those those would be that you, no matter where you're at, always have these as a priority. Yeah. It's definitely going to be biological. It's going to be nutrition, sleep,
00:33:35
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hydration, yeah, food, also stress management, kind of the taking your having that self awareness, having your mindset in that's, you know, just in a place where you aren't, you know, taking yourself to an edge are also not doing enough in your life, like make sure you're growing. Yeah, I feel like that's more for us for anyone doesn't matter where they are in life, if they're new to fitness or not. But just knowing how to
00:34:03
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whatever goals you set for yourself, your body's going to be the one that gets you there. It's literally what takes up physical space in this world. So you've got to take care of it on the most elemental level, which is getting enough sleep, getting enough movement, eating enough food, eating up enough nutrients to sustain you. Yeah. You know, I wish looking back that one thing I knew was how easy it can be. Oh, right. And point because I hear, I would hear things,
00:34:32
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here and there about oh eating more helps you lose weight but I'd be like that's
00:34:36
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Not right. Like, no. Instagram told me 2016. Instagram says. So, yeah, it really is. I mean, there's obviously challenges and obstacles and mindsets and personal work you have to get through. But honestly, I wish I understood that it was that easy. And honestly, I did learn that. When was it? Several years ago, kind of when I really first started getting into it because it's going through a really bad divorce. Well, it wasn't bad. It was just stressful.
00:35:06
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And I had all this noise, right? Here you go. This is a little bit about my past. You can interview me later. But that is what I learned was I had all this noise and I just, I don't know what to do. It's just so much. I'm not a cold turkey person. I'm not gonna be like, okay, tomorrow's the day. And then you stick with it. Those kinds of people amaze me. But you're kind of like that.
00:35:34
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And some things maybe. Yeah. But so I was like, I'm just so stressful. I don't know what to do. So I just told myself, let's just screw it all. I don't, I'm just going to do things that are good for me. And what do I know that to be? Let's drink some water. Yeah, that's easy and free. So that's what I started doing.
00:35:58
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At the beginning of all this, I was like, I just want to do good things to my body. I know it will affect me positively in the long term and with my physique and stuff like that, but let's just kind of start at the basics. So I started drinking enough water and then my headaches went away. My skin looks a little bit better. I have a little bit different. Yeah.
00:36:20
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And then I had like a different type of perk energy wise. I was like, I feel a little perkier. And then it just kind of,
00:36:29
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I started noticing those differences. I was like, of course, I'm drinking water. And then I started to feel better. So that snowballed into better habits like, oh, I have this energy, let's go to that boxing class. So I started moving more. And it wasn't this like, massive pressure that I put on myself, you got to go to the gym three times a week, you got to do this, you got to eat this many calories, blah, you know, I just started doing these things. And after a while I had taken a
00:36:57
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photo i need to find that picture it's from ever ago like 2000 like um 2012 probably like before you started drinking all the water yeah okay i don't i can't remember how much i weighed then less than i do now
00:37:14
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Well, I wasn't lifting weights back then either. Anyway, so it started to snowball until these like better habits and this my boss at the time, he's like, you're looking good. And his wife who they work together at a chiropractor's office and I was their massage therapist. She goes, Yeah, you've been looking really good lately. And I was like, Yeah, yeah, you know, I kind of
00:37:37
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I feel like I do too. Like it didn't dawn on me that I had lost 20 pounds. Yeah, it was like 20 pounds because I didn't weigh myself. I took that one photo and I had forgotten about it. And then I was like, I went home that day. I was like, I need to do that again. So I got my little camera, I took a selfie in the mirror and you know how it was back then. And yeah, I especially noticed it in like the before and afters that I like the most and the most accurate is the back.
00:38:07
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because you don't have to worry about making your gut the same. You know what I mean? Like showing your back? Yeah, the back pose. Oh, okay, yeah. Because your posture doesn't make so much of a difference as the side and front. It's just the back. For some reason that's always been the most...
00:38:25
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Anyway, so that's what I looked at. And I'd seen all these changes like, Oh my gosh, that I've got a scale. I was like, Oh my gosh, like, this is what people dream of just losing weight. And you don't even realize it. That's what happened. I was like, Wow.
00:38:40
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So I since then always would think of those times where what worked was the basics. And now that I'm more advanced, I am counting my macros. I am doing this and it's easier for me because I got the basics
00:38:56
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as my everyday life. It's now a part of my life that's non-negotiable, which is drinking water. I've always kept up my water. Thank you. And yeah, there's periods in my life where I was lazier, especially during the pandemic. And we all were, let's be honest.
00:39:14
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forced on us sometimes. Yeah. So yeah, it's been, you know, up and down personally for me, but I always would have to remember the basics. Yeah, it's what works. And that's what I would tell anybody who stops me on the street who thinks I'm a trainer. Like, yeah, just drink and walk, drink, drink water and just walk honestly. And if that's not a massive part of your life now, that's where I mean, I'm not a coach, but
00:39:44
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I feel like you could agree if you're going to give advice to anybody would be just start with two simple things. Yeah, right. Yeah, it's um, I think that's where a lot of my own growth happened because I just had to
00:39:57
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unlearn, all the complicated stuff I'd found online. And it's not to say that online is where the only or, you know, it's the culprit for all the misinformation is for a lot. But, you know, I was the one who pursued it and tried things and really wanted something to work, even though my body was telling me otherwise. So when someone like it really is, you're right, it really is a lot simpler.
00:40:25
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Um, I think sometimes we don't want it to be. I don't know why. Yeah. Like it seems like the law against the laws of nature, like this has to be, this is something that should be complicated. Yeah. Right. Because that's what we're told. And sometimes I feel like we crave pushing ourselves and stressing ourselves out. And I think on some level it's good. I think some stress is good. It really helps us grow, but we're just not really good at finding that edge and
00:40:55
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sometimes I think we just stay out past it. Like we were so stressed and we try to live from that place and then just things, your body will tell you that it can't live there. And so, um, but really when you can remind yourself to stick with the basics and you're consistent with them, you realize that your body one feels really good. That way it really likes that homeostasis and that when you're there consistently, it can handle a little bit of stress and you're going to be okay. Some discomfort is okay. But,
00:41:24
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And then if you go into high discomfort, because I don't know, like if you're in the military, you're deployed, like there's stuff that happens at work, stuff that happens with family, because you've been so consistent with, you know, regulating yourself, you can handle big moments of emotional overwhelm like that, or even shut down, you can bring yourself back. I think that's the whole point. It's not staying in that overwhelm perpetually, that's going to help you get the long term sustainable results that you want.
00:41:53
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Yeah, I think a lot of people need to be reminded of that. And that's why I think a lot of the self awareness comes in and like what we focus on like with the Enneagram calls and yeah, just having a coach look at your entire life.
00:42:04
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I think that really helps put things into perspective a lot sooner for people than if they were doing it on their own or with someone who didn't understand this, I would say. What is the most common thing you see as a coach? I'm forming the question as I talk. Let me just preempt that. But when you're talking about seeing somebody's whole picture their whole life and putting it into perspective, what's a really common thing you see through clients that they're just so unaware of?
00:42:34
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Does that make sense? Yeah. Work is definitely something. If I'm working with someone with a woman who's got, let's say, one or two jobs, like her main job and maybe a side hustle, and then maybe she's got two kids, spouse,
00:42:56
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and maybe a sick parents or elder, some of their parents living with them or it's kind of they have their parents, they're taking care of another. Yeah. Yeah. Um, you got to think of the, like I tied, I get a history of how long they've been doing that and kind of where they're wanting to go with that. Like the whole life, like what their goals are in life. And
00:43:18
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because you really get a sense for what their stress capacity is. And that can change. It can grow. You can become more resilient, but it helps me know what to focus on. So I say, okay, we're going to work on macros and fit in three workouts or four workouts, and then try to hit water and sleep all at the same time. That may just take them over. So then I'll say, okay, let's just focus on like on the nutrients at least right now. We'll work on water. Like I want you to drink more water down the road, but right now let's work our way up to it. So we can ease that into,
00:43:49
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they can feel more at ease about it and feel like they can nibble away at it instead of having to gulp it all down at once. Right. Because even starting a coaching program with the Fit Bound Project, that can still feel really overwhelming because they don't know what to expect. Like, oh no, but they're still taking the plunge, which is brave. And you got to do it eventually at some point in your life. And that's how I started out when I was working with Zoe was I was like, this is easy.
00:44:17
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I'm like, this is it? I'm like, of course I know it's going to change. But I was like, this is this is easy. All right. I'm not going to complain. And then, you know, as you continue, things become more habitual. It's not so much we've talked about this before, where it's not so much a task. Now it's a part now walking is not because I have to walk a lot. It's like 60,000 steps a week. Lindsay has me out right now. And I need what is it eight more? No.
00:44:46
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Six six more thousand steps this week today. I need to do that But anyway, it's not I've worked up to that. Yeah, you know if I started out with that like walking is easy But that takes so much time. I don't want to do that, you know So working up to it is is important and it's important for people to remember that you
00:45:05
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start of the basics and who would you say for people who maybe are at your level of expertise or right? Advanced experience and okay, I'm forming the question again as I talk. What are the people that need to go back to the basics? Like when you see somebody like that, let's say you have a client who is advanced and who has, you've had some
00:45:36
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You have clients now who are competitors, right? Yeah. So what are the red flags? You see that you say, well, we got a backtrack. We got unlearned stuff. What would that be? Oh, I have the, like one woman comes to mind immediately. I love what she's done in the past four or three or four months now. She was, uh, she had just come from competing, I think twice.
00:46:00
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in 2022. And she was with each competition was with a different company, two very well known companies. And she you're so polite. I want to call them out. No, it's fine. But she Well, I did ask her because I am familiar with the companies with some of the companies and
00:46:20
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I'm just curious too, but yeah, the first company, um, she was on 1200 calories. She lost a lot of weight. Uh, she got to a point, she showed me a photo. She was so lean, but she still had a lot of muscle on her. She looked exquisite.
00:46:36
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but then they dropped her calories 500 more for like, so she's at 700 for like, I think 700 calories. Yep. Or at least I can't, I think it was more than a week, which is, um, that's way too long. It is. And she lost, oh, she lost her glutes. Like she didn't lose them. She's still got a phenomenal like shape to her, but from where they were, like she lost, she lost muscle. And she showed me that picture after she lost the muscle. And I was like, damn, like she,
00:47:03
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she, that's, I don't know why that was needed. Um, so she knew that, she knew that though. So she left that company. She's like, well, let me, she's like, I'm eating way too little. Let me try with this other company. Cause she, in her, like I knew exactly cause I've been, had that little same thoughts. Like she's like, well, it seems like this other company, the girls or the women seem to be enjoying the coaches and, uh, the environments and just,
00:47:29
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She's like I'm not yeah, so she moved over to this other company and she realized it was just a little more of the same of what she'd been doing is a strict meal plan like you know eat this every three hours or something and She's like she could see that she was losing her steam She was she specifically said was I have no more fire in my workout. She's like I hate cardio she's like I dread my workouts and I don't want that and so she
00:47:57
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What we worked on was really like the basics. You know, it's like, Hey, like just, just walk right now. We're not going to do any cardio. Cause I knew she, she said she wanted to get back to that. And I completely understood. She wanted to get back to the point where she loved pushing herself, whether it was for a show or not. She just wanted to feel like herself again and feel like she was, um, like the confidence was there regardless of what she was working towards. She didn't need a show to make her feel confident.
00:48:27
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So for her, what we started doing was.
00:48:33
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we just start eating more for one. And my goal for her was to get her to trust herself and her food choices. Cause she didn't. She's like, I just, just tell me what to eat and I'll do it. And I knew she wouldn't because she was at that point. She was just like, on the weekends, she wasn't tracking anything. She just wanted to go out and have some wine with her husband, which she wasn't allowed to not allowed, but she wasn't doing it for like almost a whole year. I was like, just go have some wine. Like you, you need to have that experience and you need to really believe it and feel it where you can
00:49:00
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eat and trust your hunger and fullness and trust your intuition. And a week later, not have gained any weight, but you need to, you know, you need to move, but the movement needs to be pleasurable. So getting to like, kid level basics, like you just love being outside. And you just love eating food or having a bite or two of it and not feeling like you need to finish it because it's on your plate. So having that autonomy with your own food and your own body, like she regained that. And after,
00:49:30
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by, I think by Christmas this year, she's like, for her first check-in last week, she's like, I can't believe I haven't gained, like I'm still the same weight after the holidays and everything. She's like- Was she completely unhinged for the holidays and just did whatever she wanted? And she didn't track anything, but that's because she trusted herself. She's like, I'm not going to eat everything in sight like she'd been doing on the weekends. She's not going to go to the opposite end of the spectrum of what that would be binge eating, right? Yeah. Yeah.
00:49:59
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So she's just, I am so like in love with where she is. Cause she, and she told me too, she's like, I have that fire back with working out. She told me that back in like November or beginning of December. And I was like, yes, like that was one of the biggest things she wanted to achieve. And then also then she told me, she's like, I'm going to be a little bit cardio on my own. I was like, what? And I was like, yeah, there you go. Quite the tournament. Yeah. So she was like finding herself again, or just finding like,
00:50:27
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So just finding herself happy with herself, like completely pleased. And so now we're going to focus on a deficit because she's just on fire. Like she's like, I can do this. Like I know how to eat enough. I know how to set up. I know what I, what my stress capacity is because during the holiday, she was like, just two kids. They each had their own like holiday.
00:50:50
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expectations at school and she was signing up for all of them and volunteering so she she had her own personal training business she was working for her husband's business so she was spread really thin even amongst like amidst all that she was really still
00:51:05
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Like grounding herself enough throughout the day that she could think about what she wanted to eat, how much. And it was enough to the point where she didn't gain or lose any weight. And she's like, this really is possible. Like this is, this is sustainable. I'm sustainable. I can make this work. And so from there, that's when we started.
00:51:24
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that's where we're going to start the deficit. Oh, that's such that's a good point to bring up for people who are in that world who are advanced. And those are some, I guess, personal red flags to watch out for like, how much am I hating everything right now? And getting back to the basics because that she because like, Oh, I used to love this. Why do I hate it so much? I'm miserable. I'm tired. I'm hungry and grumpy. And I think that's a good
00:51:49
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point to bring up for people whether or not they have coaches is to start the basics if you find yourself exactly where she was at. I think that's a really I need to know who that is. So that's actually something I spoke with my
00:52:05
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with all my clients just last week, we all do a monthly group coaching call. And I point out some like, if you're not feeling like good about this most of the time, does not all the time, but most of the time know that like you need to have a good like, otherwise you're not gonna otherwise why do it? Yeah, if this isn't something that you will find
00:52:26
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enjoyable to the point where you can handle discomfort because there will be uncomfortable moments. If you're not there, then you need to get yourself there. Well, and I said, well, we will get there. Like tell me these things because I'm your coach and this is what we are. This is what I'm here to help you with. But it's really, you can find joy in, in this lifestyle. And I think that's the point. But knowing that you can find joy in any circumstance, like,
00:52:55
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with something changes at work. If you're really stressed, knowing how to bring yourself back and remind yourself, just give yourself that pause and say, hang on, let me gather my bearing. Let me put things in perspective. Look at the facts. Like I still need to go get my workout. And even if things are on fire at work or where can I, where can I put my energy and rearrange things instead of feeling like I have to quit.
00:53:15
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Oh, you know, yeah, my hands up in the air. So I swear, I feel like a lot of people are, especially if they've dieted for a long time, and they don't get fast results, or like, really, is it working? It's like, well, let's just one find your joy again, but to like, let's put things in perspective.
00:53:29
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Yeah, when I first started getting into this whole world, I kind of had that mindset of like, this is not going to go anywhere if I hate it. Yeah. And so I told myself, find something that you enjoy doing so that it's not so much of a chore. So I started doing those little boxer size classes. They were so much fun. And it was like, it helped with it being groups.
00:53:53
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You know you start out with the community. I kind of have a reason to go and plus I'm a lot more accountable When it's something that's scheduled. I have to show up to go do something like they're not they don't care if I'm there or not I didn't write my name down or pay. I mean it was a gym. So yeah, I paid for it But you know what I mean? I knew that about myself that
00:54:12
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if it's like something that I have to show up for, because I'm a very punctual person, then I'm much more, I'm much more likely to show up and do it. So I fell in love with these little boxer sized classes. I'm like, let's try more. And I did like the water classes with like the senior citizens. Those are fun. I love swimming. So I know those can be challenging to like anything in the water. Water is 700 times the resistance of air.
00:54:38
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Well, that puts it in perspective. Fun fact. It does. Yeah. Have you ever had those little weights, the foam weights that are under there? That's hard. Oh, no. I need to go. I have a client who's doing, I'm working with someone. She's doing like aerobics classes and she's lost a ton of weight. And I'm like, there's something to these workouts. Oh, she's doing the water aerobics. Well, she's actually, she was, and now she's swimming, but she's been so consistent with it and swimming. Yeah.
00:55:05
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That'll do it. It's a good sport. Yeah. Um, yeah. So anyway, I feel like that was a pretty good. Yeah. Like we talked about a lot, but we really kept it in with like, what do you need to know? And what would you tell yourself? Like, yeah. And also it's like, if you are, um, make sure that you are, if you would tell yourself something when you were younger, like make sure you're doing that now.
00:55:34
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Oh, yeah. Are you Yeah, are you holding yourself accountable? Like for me, like, even though Yeah, are you following your own advice? Yeah. Because like, if I were to tell my younger self, like, make sure you drink water every single day, you know, at least what you know, you should be drinking like yesterday, I didn't do it. I drank, I drank less, I think for two days straight. And I was like, dang it.
00:55:56
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how can I make that easier on myself? So one example is I used to have a little pad of paper and I always drink out of the same like 32 ounce tumbler during the day. And so if I drink five of those, I've hit my watermark. So I would mark it down a little piece of paper, but then I found myself starting to like not use a piece of paper. So what I do instead is I have a little dry erase marker and I'll just like mark a little dot on my
00:56:21
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tumblr saying okay and each dot represents by five dots at the end of the day then I'm good oh cute it's like little strategies like that to make it super simple on you I've kind of actually started doing that exact same thing um because I was using my Nalgene bottle which I had to fill it up four times to get I hate counting and so I would be like what what am I on so maybe I should start tallying it I didn't do that
00:56:48
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And then I got this new one, which is I only have to fill it up well two times a day Which is so much easier less numbers like really guys. This is basic. Yeah Yeah, and make it how can you make this easier on yourself? And then you can find a way we're we're humans. We're so creative. Yeah, you know So I started but I am marking it now just You know, it's the new year. We got that new year energy and yeah
00:57:17
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I think one thing I'm going to be incorporating this year are more rewards. Oh, like what? If I drink all my water for a month, I'm going to get myself a new water bottle. Though if my husband were to hear this right now, he'd be like, dear God, Nicole, we do not need more water bottles. He's opening the cabinet full of water bottles.
00:57:36
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But I need something to look forward to. In the past, I wouldn't have even given myself that. I'd been like, no, you just need to do this because this is right. And that would have been it. You don't need to reward yourself. You're not a toddler. Yeah, that's exactly how I talked to myself. But now I'm like, screw that. It's fun having something to look forward to. Because if I look at the results I wasn't getting, because I wasn't making it easier on myself, you just have to look at the results. Are you getting the results you want in the way that you want them or not?
00:58:03
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And when I'm honest and I look back and be like, no, I was why and why wasn't it is because either I didn't know enough or I was making it harder on myself. And it was very often I was making things harder on myself because of what I was telling myself. So like, no, you should be doing it this way. And then I feel guilty. And then, of course, I wouldn't stick with it. So now I'm just like, you know what? I'm going to have a tracker, make sure I follow the basics and have something to look forward to. And every month I'll just, I don't know, maybe go watch a movie in the movie theater with my mom. That'll be
00:58:33
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I love that. But I won't do it. And if my mom's on board with it, she'll wait a month to maybe she'll come on board with me and drink water for a month too. But that way we both have something to do at the end of the month. Only if we hit our water. I should do that too. But with workout clothes.
00:58:49
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But this is where, yes, this is where the reward stuff doesn't always work for me because I'll say the same thing to myself. At the end of the month, if you hit your XYZ goal, you buy yourself a new pair of leggings and then I won't, I'll fall off track or I won't, I'll miss a day or something. Like it won't be perfect or even close to perfect, but I'll still buy myself.
00:59:14
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I'll still do it. I'm like, I'm an adult. I can buy these anyway. Good. You go girl. So I know we're like probably in close time, but I think this is a really good point. Like I think people and this is a fitness. I think the fitness industry is really bad about this, but it's very like you have to get it all the way or it doesn't count. Like you have to do it every single day or else you failed. I think that's, I've learned now that that's the,
00:59:41
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The body isn't that perfectionist like the body is very forgiving. That's why we're talking back on it's way simpler than we've been making it out to mean or like, you know, the fitness industry has like, um, if you were to get like, for instance, for me in this water goal for a month,
00:59:58
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If I get 20 out of 30 days, and I hit my water goal, that to me is 100%. Because the other day is I'll have had some water. It may not have been a full 120 ounces or something, but it may have been 100. My body's not going to shrivel up and die. Things aren't going to fall apart to the point that things stop working or my goal is up. Yeah, there's a balance there too, because I
01:00:28
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I'm not perfect or try to be perfect. I'd never try to be like the cold turkey. It's all or nothing black and white. Let's go. But I'm not like that. In fact, I'm probably more on the other spectrum where it's like, I did enough this week. Like, yeah. Oh, like no, Caitlin.
01:00:45
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like you were saying earlier put the stress on a little bit because there's I make plenty we all do but I definitely make plenty like it's good enough and you know Lindsay's looking at me like no honey no like let's uh let's
01:01:02
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we get a little bit more be a little bit better about it. But yeah, our bodies are very forgiving. It's not gonna die. Yeah, I think well, well, yeah, my mom was doing physical therapy not too long ago. And her physical therapist told her
01:01:17
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You know, my mom was like trying to push herself like 10 out of 10 pain. She's like, that's how I know it's working. And the physical therapist was like, No, you say I go to a six or seven, not in parent terms of pain, but an effort. And then my mom was like, Oh, I can do that. And so and because she's been not taking herself to the extreme, but she's been doing enough to feel it, she's been getting results.
01:01:37
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Oh, really? Yeah. And so it's like, we really have to remember, like, you don't have to be, you know, perfect, all or nothing. That's not sustainable. Not long term. No, that's a good point. But maybe another time. Yeah, we could, oh gosh, we could keep going. Like, this topic is like so reusable in so many ways. But
01:01:57
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I think it's important for people to look back and learn from the past, kind of what we've done, and to remember to take their own advice. Well, yeah. As a massage therapist for a long time, I was like, yeah, you know, get massages regularly. It was the last time I had a massage. I am not taking my own advice at all. So it is important to remember. And I think the basics is just that's key. Super golden nugget there.
01:02:25
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really is that easy. So taking that pressure off, reducing the noise. I know we're part of the noise because we're doing this and we have our social medias, but it's just so hard to preach that in a world with so much noise. It's like, whoa, I'm skeptical. People are so skeptical these days because I definitely am.
01:02:47
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Yeah, well, anyway, I think that was really great. That was amazing. I don't know what we're talking about next week, guys, but it's going to be Zoppity. What's that from? I don't know, but I like it. It's from a movie I can't remember. Anyway, yeah, thanks for joining me, Nicole. It was so, I love talking, our little conversations. I even forget that we're recording sometimes. Anyway, well, join us next week, guys, and have a great week. Bye. Bye.
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