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Nobody's Perfect
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You gotta work it, again and again til you get it right. Guys, it's time to redefine the word perfect, if not throw it out all together if you are struggling with that. Dani and Kels are gonna break down how and why and give you the confidence boost you need. Cause nobody may be perfect, but you are AMAZING.
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Introduction to 'Awake and Bake' Podcast
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Welcome to Awake and Bake, an educational, high vibrational, mystical, spiritual pot, I'm sorry, podcast, from two girls, one joint, and a journey to awaken what's inside all of us.
Embracing Imperfections
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In the words of the Wise Wiz Khalifa, let's roll something and get the day started. Hey, bitches. What up? Welcome. Okay, my dogs literally just decided to be noisy as fuck. Yeah, lay down, Lupert.
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Oh, right. Sorry about that, everybody. But hey, you know what? This whole episode is about imperfections. So it makes sense. As soon as we start our podcast is about imperfections. We don't even edit this shit. You guys are getting us raw. Okay. Yeah, exactly. Raw dog in Kelsey and Danny. That is our nicknames. That's everyone's dream. Raw dog Kelsey and Danny. Literally, though.
00:00:50
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We could make so much on OnlyFans if we would just commit. So yes, today's topic is that nobody's perfect, okay? We gotta work it again and again until we get it right. Amen.
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I don't know if you guys know who said that, but it was the late, great Hannah Montana. If you don't remember the episode, it's the one where she also does the bone dance, which is to the same exact beat. Oh, the bone dance actually got me through anatomy class. I'm not even gonna hold you. Next comes the tibia. That ain't no fibia. And now I'm up to my knee. It's the patella to me. Yeah, bitch. I use the bone dance. See, we love you, Miley.
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And fuck Liam, even though he's so sexy, it hurts me. He's like one of the few celebrities I would go for. That's not true. There's kind of a long list. I'm getting off track, off topic. Okay. Got pregnancy brain. Got you, bitch. It really do.
Perfection vs Happiness
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Okay. So nobody's perfect. We say it all the time on here. One of the first things you have to do to create more happiness and less stress in your life is to release expectations, especially if you're expecting perfection. What is perfection? First of all, it's not real. It's a lie.
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But second of all, if you try to define where you get your, if you're trying to be perfect in your assignment or something for school, where are you getting that idea of perfection from someone else? It's what you think someone else will appreciate the most. It's what you think that the world will love the most or what you think they'll think is the best. And guys, you don't need acceptance from anyone but yourself. You are perfect just by being. I love that. Right?
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It's almost perfect, what I'm saying. If I could be perfect, then it would be. I learned this really young, I feel like, and I'm very grateful for that. In high school, I had a teacher, Madame Cuell, who she taught my advanced French class, and that was my only advanced course.
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I think I was in honors English too, but I genuinely don't remember high school. But anyways, so I was in class with some of the smartest kids in my school. They were all in a lot of AP classes and stuff. I was not one of them. I'm not saying I'm not smarter than all those bitches. I'm saying that I didn't apply myself. So I wasn't in the smart classes. So basically all these kids that I was in school with, and we were in the same class for the whole four years that I took French. So the 25 of us really got close and stuff.
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They were terrified of making mistakes. These super smart kids were terrified of saying or doing anything wrong. They would never raise their hands. They would never just try. And so I would be like, fuck it, and just throw out some French sounding shit. Genuinely, I would just use a fake French accent. I just tried. I would just say shit. And Madam Quayo really encouraged that from me. She showed me that trying is a million times more important than getting it right, let alone perfect.
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and she would give me, like, I would get good grades in the class for, like, trying, participating, for putting myself up. Participation, baby. Hey, I am a... Oh, I love a participation trophy. She said I wasn't the best, but I was there. Exactly. And I talked the most, I did the most, I played... That's very easy to believe. We played these games that I would get so into. Like, I was the best in the class, and I wasn't the best in the class. And I think it's like...
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It gets scary doing this, releasing perfection and just doing what you want, but everything that you do or create won't be perfect, but it'll be.
Imperfections in Art
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That was deep. I've been deep lately. I think the pregnancy brain's also making me smarter and deeper. It's a piece of you by honoring yourself and by putting your true self out there without fear of judgment. Simply sharing any piece of yourself is art.
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And art itself is perfect. And like, Ali glott says, art is everything. So like, everything is art. Everything that you do is a piece of art. And so when I feel like when I start to use that mentality, instead of like, it has to be perfect, but it's just art, I'm like, okay, yeah, like everything's art and art can be anything you ever go to, like,
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the freaking museums and there's like a dot on a paper that's worth doing. Yes. Okay. No, no, we got to talk about this. I saw the most hilarious thing on Instagram and it was like, here's the thing about artists. Like everybody thinks like, Oh, that's just their style. That's just your style. But that's actually not it. Like they were like, this is the best I can do. Like to me, it's an imperfection to me. Like my art isn't perfect, but I just kept making the exact same type of shit. And then everybody was just like, yeah, that's just her style. And then it's like, Oh yeah, that's what it is.
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is that that's what it is literally you're you're only aiming for it to be perfect because you're comparing it to something else but you can't compare art you know what I mean right like sister Cody is one of my favorite channels to follow or not channels but people to follow on Instagram and their art is not like what you would think of when you're thinking of like art art like a lot of it's like stick figures and just rainbows like but it's exactly who I was thinking of exactly who I was thinking of
Authenticity in Spirituality
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But it's beautiful. And then I think another reminder that a lot of us need with perfection is that your spirituality is never going to be perfect. There's no such thing as like your perfect spirituality. It'll be what you need. And that might not make sense to anybody else. And it might be like, quote unquote, less than what the person next to you is doing.
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It might be really private. You might never share it with anyone. That's all valid. All levels of spirituality, all levels of honoring yourself are valid as long as you're doing them in the purest sense and you're doing them for you and it feels good to you and it makes you feel connected and aligned. I feel like with social media spirituality, which is like, I think kind of its own brand. I'm not saying anything bad about it, but I think there's a lot of people who
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just are very, very open. I mean, I share a lot about my spirituality on my Instagram and stuff, but people do it to a whole nother level. And that's beautiful because they're sharing and they help inspire and stuff. But I think it a lot of times makes us, myself included, be like, oh my God, I don't do that every day.
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My meditation corner is not set up like this. It's not super beautiful. I don't have 15 singing bowls. You don't need all of those things, guys. Right. Spirituality can be so simple. Literally a piece of paper, I feel like, is probably the most important thing.
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But other than that, you just need you. And so I hope that if you're ever out there feeling like, oh my God, I'm not doing enough in my spirituality, so I'm not enough spiritually, just know that there is no perfection in it. There is no yes, no rights, wrongs for it. You doing you, you making your art of spirituality is all that you need to do and be.
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Well, I would also like to kind of ask if everyone could maybe do little challenge a challenge as Kelsey would say, maybe we could redefine what perfection is anyway. I'm reading a book right now.
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That's what they're talking about in this chapter is redefining perfection because everything is perfect. And I relate so much to when you were saying those kids in your class were afraid to talk or afraid because they were the really smart students or that's what you had known them as, so then they didn't want to be wrong.
Perfectionism in Creative Arts
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And I remember specifically when I was in theater, and I'm not saying that all theater people do this, but during the time in my life that I was in theater is when I was thinking this way.
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Um, and I remember I was very much under the impression that there was like a right and the wrong way to do things. And that did include making art, even though everyone would say like, there's no wrong way to make art. I knew I was like, well, I mean, if you're not using the correct breath support, then you're not really singing correctly. Or like, if you don't actually have proper technical training for dance, then I don't know if you can really call yourself a dancer, which is honestly just bullshit. Like, that's just me being like, pitch
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Pitchy, picky and bitchy, and pitch. One thing about me, I am always pitchy, okay? I am not like a fucking fantastic perfect pitch singer. My brother has perfect pitch. I can tell when I'm off, but sometimes I can't do nothing to fix it, you know what I mean?
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I am horrible pitch so I look back though and I feel like because I was under that like perfectionism type of mindset, it actually prevented me from experiencing a lot of what I wanted to do because I was like okay well I'm not perfect at
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like this or this or this, which is something I was really interested in, but I was considered like, oh, I always say like, oh, I was a subret, but like at AMDA, they would not shut the fuck up about me being a subret. Like they were just like, you are the hooker with the heart of gold. Like you are a slut.
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And so I just became very like, yeah, like that is my persona. Don't get me wrong. I love being like sexy. Like that's really not the issue. But I also was like, guys, I'm like, cool as fuck to like, I have bars, like, but nobody knew because I was like afraid to use my voice.
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And I realized that like, my fear of not being perfect and being so hard on myself made me enjoy things less. Therefore, I was sharing less of what I really wanted because I was experiencing less of what I really wanted. Because like you said earlier, I had never really considered this. But you're right, everything about perfection is based on like, what other people will think. And I was just comparing myself to everyone around me. And what I was being told was like, this is how you do it. This is how you don't do it kind of thing.
Self-Perception and Societal Standards
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Right. Whereas now like I see the little huskiness to my voice as like, my thing, it's my sound. And like, I can't keep comparing myself to other models. Like I used to work for a photographer and I remember she would always compare me. And like, I should be like, well, you're better than them because of this and you you're better than that because you have an athletic build. And I was like, okay, like, and then I realized
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I started to question my modeling abilities once I gained a tiny bit of weight, guys. I'm not even heavy. This is the heaviest I've ever been, but this is an extremely healthy weight for me right now. I am not overweight at all. And I remember I started to panic, and I thought I wasn't a good model anymore because I wasn't skinny. So my go-to poses that I used to do, they just don't hit the same. And so then I was really in my head, and I was like, well, then maybe I'm not a model. And so then for a long time, I stopped taking
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pictures of myself like selfies the way that I used to like to do it where I was like, No, I'm bad, bitch. I'm gonna get cute. I'm gonna feel like a baddie. Take my own pics. Like, I remember when I was doing a lot of freelance modeling in New York.
00:11:10
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half of the shoots that like got me other shoots were my own. Like I would post my own shoots and then photographers would be like, I would love to work with you. Like you seem like a great model. So it's like, that's still like in me, but I have to stop comparing myself. Like I look different. I am different. I feel different. Like that's all okay. Like I make my own art. I don't have to compare myself to like other people and how pretty they look or how they pose or what kind of art they make. Also like, okay, I have a really cool,
00:11:37
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Kind of story about how everything works out and everything is perfect So I recently was trying to edit my Instagram I like to you know, since I'm on social media as like my main form of income and my main like job I'm trying to always kind of keep it fresh like up to date I really don't let it fall behind So because I am kind of branching out and I don't want to just be known for a waking bake I wanted to change my personal name on Instagram from
00:12:01
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Danny Watson podcaster to just Danny Watson. And then I was going to change the part where it says public figure, I was going to change that to artists. So it could be like a more broad kind of thing. And I also I hadn't decided yet what I wanted. So here's a quick little tip for you guys, some little social media hacks. If you want to be found for like something specific, say you want your personal trainer, right, you should put in your not in your like bio, but in your actual name.
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if it was me, I would put Danny Watson, personal trainer, or Danny. I used to say Danny Watson, fitness enthusiast, because if you type in fitness or training or whatever, then your account will come up. But if you just type in trainer, just because someone has that in their bio, that's not going to show up in your search feed. It has to be in your actual name. So I try to keep that up to date. That's why I change it. And I was
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Yeah, there you go. So now, since I wanted to, I didn't want to just be known for my podcast, right? I was kind of thinking more like influencer, YouTuber content creator. But I hadn't figured out what I wanted to put yet. But mind you, I was on the porch getting high as fuck. It was late at night.
00:13:13
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And I was just in a silly mood. I wasn't paying hella attention. It's not that deep. You know what I mean? So I was trying to change it from Danny Watson podcaster. And then my title, where you can, this is like an option you can select from Instagram itself. It used to say public figure. I wanted it to say Danny Watson. And then where it said public figure, I would put artist as like a more broad kind of thing.
00:13:35
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Well, I was high and I instead I just wrote my name as Danny Watson artist. And then it wouldn't let me change it again, because you can't change it more than like once in a two week period. And so it was like, hold on now, is there some like hacking fraud activity going on? Like you can't change it for another two weeks.
00:13:54
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and fair, but I was a little embarrassed because I was like, well, now my name is Danny Watson artist. And that's like a little, it was a little uncomfortable for me at first, because I was like, who the fuck do I think I am? You know what I mean? But I was like, you know what, Queen Herbie calls herself just an artist. She doesn't say like, I'm a singer, I'm a rapper, I'm a makeup, she has her own makeup line as well. So, you know, she just calls herself an artist. So I was like, and you know what, it's a Queen Herbie moment, whatever. Yeah.
00:14:19
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I'm just gonna keep it. And then I was like really, really inspired recently just to like start kind of taking my own pics again and just having fun and like making my own art. And then I had some people DM me and it was really, really sweet. Cause they were like, Oh my gosh, like you have been popping off. Like you just make such cool art. And I was, and they were like, I'm going to start taking pictures like that too. And I was like, well, would you look at that? Like Danny Watson artists, like it is perfect. Like, so when I talk about like redefining perfection, right? Um,
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So kind of circle back, I like introduced it and then I never came back to it. Instead of thinking like, oh, everything has to be perfect and perfect means this. No, no, no, everything is perfect because it just is. It will work out how it's meant to work out and that's perfect. So it kind of ended up being perfect that my name was Danny Watson artist because it was so cute. Not cute, but like I was touched to get some DMS and people were like, oh my God, like you're just making such cool art. I want to do it too. Like I was like, oh my God, wait, am I an artist? I'm an artist.
00:15:15
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artist and influencer. Look at us. And then also you mentioned earlier too, about how in your French class, like, again, people wouldn't even talk, you know what I mean? And I have so many personal experiences and friends of mine who like, so for example, say that you're like someone who makes music, some of my friends and I, we make music together. And I have this one incredible friend, he makes the
00:15:38
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He has the most beautiful voice. He's actually going to be singing at my wedding whenever we have our actual reception. But he tells me all the time, oh, I just need to put out music. I just need to finally put out songs or even like TikToks or something, but he's a perfectionist, so he just never puts anything out because he has a vision of how he wants it to be and how perfect he wants it to be and all of that. I'm not saying don't have standards, right? Because I think that there's a difference between posting something that you're proud of and then posting something that is
00:16:08
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quote, perfect, because nobody is really going to notice the imperfections, you guys like, okay, the truth is, the fact that you're doing it is impressive. The fact that you're putting yourself out there is really impressive. But most people aren't actually even
Sharing and Monetizing Creativity
00:16:22
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doing that much. You know what I mean? Like people can sit behind your screen and judge you if they want, but they're not actually doing it. They don't know the energy, the courage, the time, the effort, the amount of like actual learning that it takes to do all of these things. And so like,
00:16:36
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People also don't want to tell you this. I think society wants us to all feel like, well, everyone's doing it. There's no space for me. And that's just actually not true. There's enough space for all of us, but we don't actually do it because we're under the impression and we're always being told, oh, well, everyone wants to be a singer. Everybody wants to do that. Everybody can want to do a lot of things, but are they even trying? Are they even putting themselves out there? And I kind of just got used to it because I was like,
00:16:59
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So I haven't officially put out any songs yet. I've been saying since 2020, I was like, 2020, I'm going to put out music. And I didn't put out songs, but I have been putting out just like music on TikTok. Like I've been like doing my own raps, like either I'll use a beat and write my own, or I like to do like the challenges or the rap back and forth, that kind of thing. And I realized with that, like,
00:17:19
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Those don't have to be perfect either because I want to put stuff out there so that people at least know what I'm doing and that I should be on their radar. No one's going to know that I can even rap if I've never done it in public. You know what I mean?
00:17:35
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So that was for me where I was like, well, fuck it. Like I'm I also no offense, but like I was on TikTok and I was like, damn, some of these people are blowing the fuck up and their lighting isn't good. The sound isn't good. The mic isn't good. Their flow isn't even that good, but they're at least doing it and putting themselves out there. That's more than most of us are doing. Yeah. That really inspired me to just like start fucking doing it.
00:17:56
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And then once you do it, you realize, wait, there is so much space in the game. The games are huge. There's enough space for everybody. And when we think about, oh, well, it has to be perfect, it already is, guys. Making something you're proud of is good enough. Not everything has to be perfect, I guess, is what I'm saying.
00:18:13
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I feel like you'll never be ready or like you'll never feel ready. You know what I mean? Like you just do your best and know every single time you do it, it's probably gonna get better as well. Like you're never gonna be like fully ready, but you have to put yourself out there or else you will never be on people's radar. Like I would be so pissed if somebody was like, if I told someone like, oh yeah, I'm a really good rapper. And they were like, well, you don't have any music on YouTube. Like they always ask me for links and stuff, but at least now I can be like, check me out on TikTok. I pretty much just rap on TikTok.
00:18:40
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But at least like to me, I feel more confident in myself, too, because like, no, my raps aren't perfect. Half the time I'm choking in the beginning, like literally coughing. My voice cracks. But that's kind of my thing, too. I'm like, well, I am high as fuck while I'm writing these. Like, I'm not going to act like I wasn't. I did take a hit moments before hitting record, not going to act like I wasn't. But like, because I'm putting myself out there, like people are like acknowledging like, oh, she raps. Like, that's all I wanted was like, you know, it would never happen if I didn't at least like start.
00:19:10
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And I feel like especially in like the way of the world now and how social media is kind of becoming more than just like a way of sharing like pictures and stuff, like there's just more room for things and more room for more people and more ideas. And I think people are buying like with Etsy and stuff, people are buying a lot more of like each other stuff instead of Walmart stuff necessarily, or like, you know, like the market for original unique things in perfect things too is growing. And so like, get in on that guys, like,
00:19:38
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I feel like we're entering the age of monetizing yourself and monetizing what you do and what you're capable of. That's so cool. We all have things that we can do, or at least try. Just fucking try. It's so cool that we can monetize ourselves. Honestly, when I was young, I remember I had
00:19:58
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Obviously, we all know at this point, I had a hard time with my parents, but I remember being young and my dad was like, well, what are you going to do when you grow up?
Childhood Dreams and Being Oneself
00:20:06
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And I was like, well, I'm going to be famous. And he was like, what? And he was like, for what? And I was like, I don't know yet. I think just being me and my dad got really mad because that was when reality TV was just starting is when I was little.
00:20:19
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And my dad was like, no, you don't want to be like the fucking Kardashians who are famous for being famous. You don't want to be like he hated John and Kate plus eight. Fair, terrible show. But he was like, you don't want to be like Kate Gossel and she just wants to be famous and she ruins her family's life. Also true. Like that is a fact. But.
00:20:36
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That's not what I want to do. Like, yeah, I don't want to be like Kate Gosselin and I don't want to exploit my family or children and hurt other people for money. But as a kid, I heard this quote one time that was like, when we're children, we actually know what our purpose is. But the older we get, we kind of forget. And then if we're lucky enough, we like end up going back to it. Yeah. And I genuinely believe that. Like I was a kid telling everybody, like, guys, like I'm going to be famous. Guys, I'm not famous yet. But like, I know it's going to happen.
00:21:02
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I'm not stressed about it. It's like, yeah, it's coming. Yeah, I'm really not stressed. And even if it doesn't happen, like, I feel like people think if you're not like, you know, Cardi B level famous, then you're not famous. And it's like, baby, I just want to make an impact on people. And I'm already doing that, honey, we have 7000 listeners on this podcast. Okay, right? Making an impact. Um,
00:21:20
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and yeah but i think about that all the time my dad being like what do you want to be famous for and i was like dude chill like i am going to be known for being me like that is enough like we've got so many things you're a model you're a rapper you're a podcaster it's like everything
The Glow Up Secrets on Perfectionism
00:21:37
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Um, so yeah, I just, I, I really, oh, and I really like, um, Alicia's video. So if you guys follow up secrets on YouTube, she actually just posted a video like within the last like two weeks about perfectionism as well. She takes a whole different stance on this. So we're kind of taking the stance.
00:21:52
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of like, you know, taking a risk and putting yourself out there. She takes a stance on like, maybe you're already out there, but like now it's like, in your day to day life, not like not worrying about being perfect and showing up as being perfect. So I highly recommend you check out the glow up secrets on YouTube. Again, her name is Alicia, but like her YouTube account is the glow up secrets. I highly recommend. Yeah, super good.
00:22:14
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And I think guys now do you want me to sing nobody's perfect again or you know, I think I think no.
Nostalgia for Hannah Montana Songs
00:22:24
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I think we're just gonna because because you are everything is perfect. We did a great job. You know, we don't need to. They don't need that.
00:22:34
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My favorite Hannah Montana song, I will say, I think. Really? I liked the seven things one, but I think that was Miley, not Hannah. That was Miley. My favorite Hannah Montana song is the one that wasn't even the real song. It was during an episode, her and this dude were in the studio. And it's like, I can see that. It's really nice to meet you. One, two, three, could you smile for a picture? And then he's like, it's like, somebody just said Hannah, do you already have a man? Because it's crazy.
00:23:03
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It's a it's a bop, but it was never like a real song. And I was like, well, that's what a silly, like short 10 second cut for us to hear in the beginning of an episode. That is like the best song that they ever made on Hannah Montana. Jesus. What the fuck? Yeah, it's so good. Anyway, Miley, we love you. Everyone stream flowers. Fuck Liam Hemsworth. Yes, he could be hot. But you know what? He's
00:23:28
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Well, there are a million blonde white guys in the world. Why are you as a man blonde is my question. And I have blonde brothers. So, um, fuck Liam Hemsworth. Also, he cheated on her with 14 women in the house that she filmed it in. 14? Yeah. Like not all at the same time, but total. Oh, I was like, Jesus Christ. You had a menager toil with 14 women. No, that's just me starting a rumor. But there was, it is confirmed that 14 women he had an affair with in that house.
00:23:58
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Um, you guys can't see it but my jaw is dropping. Um, yeah, so we love you Miley.
Conclusion: Imperfection as Perfection
00:24:06
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Nobody's perfect except the universe is perfect. So we are perfect. Wow. That's kind of like the divine dichotomy. You know what I mean? Oh, big words. What's from my book?
00:24:20
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I've been reading it over and over the past like couple weeks because I've been reading the whole series and they talk about it so much. So like I just learned it really. Like Jesus Christ, Danny, were you in advanced classes? I was actually no, I was in English, like, yes.
00:24:36
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Yeah, I was always in advance. I was like I not to be like I was always advanced because I'm not actually like bright naturally, but I like I'm really competitive and like a type A. So I had to get straight A's and I had to be in like all AP or like they called it before you were allowed to be an AP. They had double A, which was like the advanced classes. Like, but if you weren't old enough, like if you're, you know, like in seventh, eighth, ninth, 10th grade, you can't take AP. Yeah. You can take like double A, which is just like the more advanced classes. Yeah, we always have those honors classes.
00:25:10
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I was in AP English actually. English was my best subject. I love English. My grandma was an English teacher. I just choose not to like have perfect English all the time. You know, it's just not like, it's not relatable these days and it's not, it doesn't always feel like true. You know what I mean? If I'm like writing like an essay or something, you bet that shit will be perfect. But if I'm just like talking, like no, I'm probably gonna slip up. But like when I hear other people talking and I hear them slip up, I'm like, oop, that wasn't correct. Like, ew.
00:25:29
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Yeah, exactly. Yeah, essentially that.
00:25:40
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Terrible. Terrible. You're the worst. We love you. Stay high. Bye.