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Make it Easy, Just Do the Bare Minimum
173 Plays1 year ago
Sometimes in life you need to take the easy road, and that is okay. In fact, sometimes it's better for you. We often overload ourselves with so many things to do in a day, so Kels is here to give you a new idea. Break it down. What do you NEED to do in a day? What if just that was enough? Here's a secret: IT IS!
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Transcript
Introduction to the Podcast & Host's Current Situation
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Welcome to Awake and Bake, an educational, high vibrational, mystical, spiritual, pot, I'm sorry, podcast, from one girl, no joint, and a journey to awaken what's inside all of us. In the words of the wise Wiz Khalifa, let's roll something and get the day started. No joint for me because I am still very, very, very pregnant. In fact, I don't know how many more episodes I'll be doing before my baby gets here. I had a doctor's appointment on Monday of this week.
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And I am already dilating. My baby is very far down in my pelvis. The head is right on my cervix. I'm overwhelmed, to say the least, about all of that, that basically, technically, my baby could be coming at any point. So I am just soaking up all the alone time I can, which sounds bad, but I'm someone who I know that I need some time to myself that is crucial for me to have
Balancing Motherhood and Podcasting
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to function, really. So yeah, I don't know how many more. Hopefully, we have a really cool episode coming up for next week. And I'm hoping I'll be able to be a part of that. And then you might not hear from me for a little bit. Luckily, I do record at my house, so it's not like I have to go anywhere. So I think I'll be able to get back pretty soon after, mostly because I feel like I'm going to need this outlet to get through. I need you guys. And I'm very, very
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very lucky and very grateful that my husband gets three months off of work for paternity leave. So I'm going to take advantage of that. And I think recording Wake and Bake will kind of be my alone time, whatever you want to call it for that period. Like this will be, this will be my time to focus on me because I think obviously throughout all parts of our lives, it's very important that we focus on ourselves and we have time to ourselves to do the things that we love. But especially during times of huge transition, like
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adding a baby to our family, I'm gonna need to do the things that make me feel the most me. And talking to a microphone in the middle of my studio makes me feel so me.
Spiritual Inspiration from a Logical Partner
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So thank you guys for being here and listening. Speaking of my husband, today's episode is another one that's kind of inspired by him. I didn't expect him to be such a spiritual inspiration of mine, but he really truly is. And it's funny because I feel like he wouldn't necessarily
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label it spiritual. Again, this is kind of our difference between me being a feminine being and being a very much more masculine being. We really even each other out, but he seems to view things much more like logically. So to him, this whole concept that I'm going to explain to you that he introduced to me is just like the way it works. And for me, I'm like, oh, this is such a beautiful, like spiritual way to like accept each day and move forward and feel proud of yourself. So let's get to it.
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Basically, Cole has been going through a harder time. I think I've mentioned that. And so he's been finding ways to work things in for himself to feel basically like he's fulfilling himself.
Finding Fulfillment Beyond Work
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His work is like boring as fuck. He's a Navy recruiter, like, and he's like a desk job. And like, it's not it's not fun. It's not creative. It's not anything. So he's been trying to find other outlets.
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going to the gym. He made a polar plunge, like an ice bath thing in our basement with a freezer. I kind of hate it, but it's fine. He's done all of these things, added all of these things to his routine that help him feel more himself, more connected to himself. Now, when he first started doing that, he was adding all these things. He was like, I want to
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do the polar plunge, I want to run, I want to go to the gym, I want to swim, I want to start therapy, I want to journal, I want to read more, and so on and so forth, and just kept adding and adding and adding and adding. And he was getting really overwhelmed because he found that at the end of each day, he was not really successful at doing everything. There's only 24 hours in a day. And I would remind him that he does need to sleep.
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So he would end each day and he'd kind of be like, oh, you know, today was a fine day, but I didn't get my run in and I didn't do this. Or he would not do one thing. And then that would stop him from wanting to do the subsequent other things that he was going to do after it, because it was like he already felt like a failure. Obviously, he was not a failure. But the other day he was I don't think he was I think he was just like sitting on his phone watching memes or whatever, watching reels and stuff.
Daily Essentials for Accomplishment
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And he just came up to me and he was like, I think what I need is just, just to do the bare minimum. And I was like, what do you, what do you mean? And he was like, so if I choose three things every day that I know I can do and that I can do and like feel good about, like if I journal, if I polar plunge and oh shit, what's the third one? Oh, fuck. So journaling polar plunge. Oh my God.
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Oh my god, no, it just ran away from me. I knew I should have written this down. I think it was reading. I think it was journaling, polar plunging, and reading. Anyways, if I do those three things, then no matter what else I get done, if I run, if I don't run, if I go to the gym, if I don't go to the gym, if I
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If I don't do chores, I at least have done my bare minimum. I can go to bed that day and I can know that, oh, it was take his meds. I knew it was something more important. His bare minimum is to do the polar plunge to journal and to take his meds. If he does those three things, then he knows he can go to bed at the end of the day.
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feel good like that's all he's made it his mental he's he's fought the mental battle that that is what it takes to have a good day so if he does those three things he can go to bed and he can feel good and he's stuck to it and like he's found those things have come really easy and then he's found that when he adds something in like one day he'll add in a run he feels even better he feels great and he feels really motivated to then do something else because he's doing more than his bare minimum but he doesn't have to do more so if he's having a really hard day if he's feeling really tired
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then that's all he has to do is just his bare minimum. And I feel like bare minimum has kind of a, I don't know, like a weird connotation to it. So like, I call it like, I'm calling it my essentials. So like, these are my essentials that I have. And so like, for me, I did morning pages, which is like my journaling right now, because I'm doing the artist's way, which is basically it's three pages of free flow writing without like,
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First thing in the morning, if I can, I've been doing a lot in the afternoon. I have to be honest. So it's been the morning pages. It's been eating a healthy breakfast and something that like energizes me. So it's been a lot of mostly like oatmeal and fruit, just things that are very light. I'm not a huge breakfast person, but I know that especially as I enter into breastfeeding and everything, I'm going to need that strong, solid start to my day. So I'm building that routine now and then.
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The other one was something creative or something for myself. So then one thing, and I know it's very broad, but I am home all day. There's a lot of things that I do throughout my day and I prioritize a lot of my chores and stuff, but I haven't been prioritizing something fun, something for me, something creative. And again, on this journey of the artist's way, that's a huge part of it is doing something for yourself, doing something creative. So I've been doing those three and we kind of for like a week
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each did our own separate bare minimums. We each did our essentials and it was going really great. It still is
Shared Essentials in a Relationship
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going really great. But then we came together after a week or so and we were like, what if we also had some shared essentials, some shared bare minimums? So we've also added in five minutes of deeply intimate time. Sex doesn't count. Eating dinner together doesn't count. It's got to be no activity other than just
00:08:17
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being with each other, no distractions, no TV. We can't have music playing, but typically it's like instrumental music or like sound bowl, something like that, not like lyrical music, except for sometimes we do have it be like, we'll dance to like our song or we'll dance, we'll listen to our favorite album. But we take five minutes of just being like purely intimate, talking to each other about what we love about each other, things that we're excited about, our fears,
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things we want to do, things we're looking forward to. A lot of that has been focused around becoming parents because again, that's a huge part of us right now is that's like the transition that we're in. That's what we're going through right now. And then the other one has been as much as we can because his work is a little bit crazy eating dinner together. We sit down and we eat dinner together. We do it without the TV. We do it without, you know, again, distractions or something.
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And that's separate from our intimate time because to me, I grew up in a family where that was something that was really important. Every night we had dinner together at the table, we talked, or we just sat in silence if one of us was in a bad mood, but we had this really special time. And growing up, I didn't really think much of it, but now as an adult, and especially, again, entering this journey of motherhood, that's something that I really want to carry forward with my family is that at the end of the day, we sit together and we have a meal and we just are present with each other.
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And I think that's such a beautiful, powerful thing that's often forgotten, especially with like today and phones and everything. So like, there will be no phones allowed at my family dinner table.
Adapting Essentials Over Time
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And I'm just really excited. And yeah, that's only two things. And it doesn't need, your essentials don't need to be much. They're just the essentials. They're the things that again, you can close your eyes at the end of the day and say, hey, I did it. If it's, if you're not like, if you've never,
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If you're in a bad place, your essentials could be to brush your teeth, say one positive thing about yourself when you look in the mirror and eat. Again, it's the bare minimum that you need to do to feel okay. That is what we're talking about, and it's going to change. You can define it and redefine it. You can add a couple more if you get really comfortable. Cole was talking about how he's been really good about taking his meds.
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He might swap that out for another one, not because he doesn't need to continue taking his meds, but because that comes really second nature now. That's really easy for him. So why not add something just a little bit more or a little bit, not even more, but just something different, something that he wants to put more focus and more intention on doing.
The Power of Shared Goals
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So yeah, that's pretty much it. I just wanted to share that little quick idea of just one small thing that you can do
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by adding a bunch of small things or not even adding, just shedding light on the small things that we do that are so, so important. And if you have someone to do it with, I highly recommend it. It has been great to have him to not only hold me accountable, but I've been able to hold him accountable, which has helped inspire me to be more... It's a symbiotic relationship of the two of us becoming the best versions of ourselves.
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and you can do it with a friend, you can do it with a parent, a sibling, like it doesn't matter, but just having someone else to kind of share this with and to just help keep you motivated and going. Yeah, I hope you guys are having a great summer. I can't believe it's already like the end of July. I can't believe that I'm about to push a baby out of my vagina, but you guys have
Closing & Positive Affirmations
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heard enough about that. I know. Soon that won't be the only thing I talk about.
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I hope you're doing good. I hope you're staying positive. I hope you're staying patient with yourself because you deserve all the patience in the world. Just keep breathing and getting through. Life is crazy. You can't predict it and just keep rolling with it. Keep going. Find your essentials and just roll with it. I love you guys. Stay high. Bye.