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Don't Forget YOLO
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Pssst...do it. Do the thing. It is time. DO IT. Kels did and sometimes it's intense to take a leap of faith, but that's why they call it that.
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Introduction to Awakened Bake
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Welcome to Awakened Bake, an educational, high vibrational, mystical, spiritual pot, I'm sorry, podcast, from one girl, one joint, and a journey to awaken what's inside all
Understanding 'YOLO'
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of us. In the words of the wise was Khalifa. Let's roll something and get the day started. YOLO. Do you guys remember that? Was that like what, 2012? That that was like big YOLO. I always think of the Lonely Island song YOLO.
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Um, but I'm positive that's not where it originated and genuinely wasn't that up to date with like pop culture at that time. I just like, I don't know. I heard of it how I heard of it. It was Lonely Island. Shout out Andy Samberg.
Embracing YOLO with Humor
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Um, so YOLO. That is the theme of today because I feel like we all need that reminder that
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You only live once. Do the shit, guys. Do the fucking thing. Whatever it is that just popped up into your mind, please dear God, don't let it be like, kill someone because what I'm about to say might, you know, make me an accomplice. But do whatever it was that popped in your head. Do it. It's time. Let's do it. Let's go. Let's embrace it.
Adopting Frank: A Life Decision
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I don't know if I have talked about it on here, if you follow me on Instagram, then you know that I just got a
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third dog, which means I have a four month old and three dogs and a coal, which is an animal in and of itself. So I, yeah, I made a pretty big decision, I would say. I would say it was a big commitment. He's just a perp. His name's Frank. He is
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absolutely adorable he's wonderful he's so cuddly he definitely has puppy in him still um we have some training to do i don't have a ton of experience training dog a dog i'm kind of like how i'm taking parenting i'm kind of like just like a gentle
Training Philosophy for Dogs
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work with me like I talk to my dogs like I he poops in the house and like I'm like hey buddy you know what we need to have a discussion because if you're going to poop in my house what would stop me from when you move out you know after you graduate college me not coming and pooping in your house nothing right it's an equal it's respect that's really what it's about is respect
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And so that's how I'm going at it. But I gotta be honest, I was so scared to do this. It was one of those things where I had kind of been, I manifested Frank, I will say that.
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Cole's gonna say that it's his dog and he, whatever, no, me, it was me. I started probably, I don't know, two months ago, quite soon after Phoebe was born, thinking, man, it would be fun to get another dog. And so I started talking about it and saying, you know, when we do it, when we do it, when we do it. And then I was thinking about like, we have all this land, I know I've said it on here before that we're probably gonna be staying in Ohio a little bit longer.
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than we had originally anticipated. Um, so I like, I, I was like, I don't want to talk. I kind of said it, released it into the world. And you know, that's what you do. That's the whole key is just say it and release it, want it, let it go. And then now, like three weeks ago,
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I saw an ad on my town's Facebook page, which if you live in a small town, go on to your town's Facebook page because they probably have one. Hilarious. I need to do a TikTok series of the things that
Manifesting Frank's Adoption
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are said on, unreal, unreal, unreal, unreal.
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Anyways, I was not even on it. It was just on my wall or whatever popped up wall. I see this is how old I am guys or at least how out of connected. Is it even a Facebook wall anymore? And it's like meta book, meta verse, meta verse? I don't know guys. It's fucking Facebook.
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I've had mine since when I had to lie about my age and so I don't show my age on my Facebook because it's wrong. So it was on the Facebook, it popped up and there was a guy who was looking to rehome his dog because he worked too much and so he needed someone who could spend more time with him.
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I'm a stay at home mom. I do my podcast at home. I'm always here. I love my home. I love being home. I love being home with my dog. So I was like, I talked to Cole and I was like, man, what if? And kind of felt him out. And then Cole was like, basically, as soon as he gave any sort of positive in like,
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indication that he might be thinking positively about this. I like said the guy a comment and I was like hey like I'm interested blah blah and then I sent that and then obviously like it was so hard but I just I kept like holding back like no I'm not going to I'm not going to stop I'm not going to I'm not gonna like reach out to him anymore I need to stop like thinking because like I get like obsessive and I'm like oh my god maybe I should tell him this and this and this and then I was like okay I don't even know this guy I can't just
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bomb his comments but I did face I was Facebook stock in his profile and when he was on and he wasn't messaging me back I was like what's up dude what's up man kidding kind of
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if you're listening not i am kidding i i wasn't stalking you at all no this is totally just a bit um but anyway so yeah so i went on this i went on the thing message him whatever let it go and then like he would message me but it was very like sporadic and so after a little while like a couple back and forths i was just like you know what never mind i'm like not never mind like but never mind i'm not thinking about it like hey if he messages me
Integrating Frank into the Family
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Cool. And that's what I kept telling Cole, like we're just going to put it in the universe. Like we reached out and then if it comes, it comes. If not, it doesn't. And so I just like, yep. And then like a week after our initial conversation, he messaged me. Um, and unfortunately Frank's parents, he was going to go back to like the place where the guy had gotten him. Um, and his parents like rejected him and were really mean to him.
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So he was willing to like meet. And so we were like, okay, like, yeah, it's here. Like it came to us. We met the guy, we met Frank.
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It went pretty good. It was pretty good. It was stressful because yeah, I have a four month old and I already have, I have two established adult dogs, a male and a female. Like it's a lot to bring a puppy who actually ended up being bigger than either of our other two dogs. So like, I can't lie. Like I, it came and then I was like immediately like, okay, maybe this was a bad idea. Maybe this is too much.
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And the first two days, it was kind of like when Phoebe came home. It was really hard, but I just kept thinking like, okay, just get through the hard part. This will end. This part will end.
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And we did it like, yes, I want this, so I'm gonna make it work, I commit, this is what I'm doing. And so I just changed to that mindset and I swear guys, immediately, it was just like, oh, it's falling into place. And he started listening better, he stopped pooping in the house, our conversation worked. And it just all, it came together. And now I'm not trying to jinx it or anything, I understand that.
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We're still very early on and I am like, we're three weeks in. I am hoping for the best. But like, I think it's going really well. They're getting along really well. They're getting cuddly. Finn still gets a little snappy at them, but it's much more like...
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big brother. I just feel like he's really been adopted into the family. It's official now and he's here. He's part of
Facing Parental Judgment
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it. I'm not scared anymore. I accept the decision that we made and I understand that it was a big decision.
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And I thought about it. And that's the other thing is I keep telling myself. And I think it's genuinely, I got some judgment. I got a lot of judgment from my parents for getting a third dog. They made it a point to tell us that we had no business getting another dog. And like, oh my God, at first I was like, yeah, this was a big mistake. What was I thinking? What am I doing? Yeah, I don't need another dog. What am I doing? What am I doing?
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I had to again release and step back and be like, wait, who am I? I love dogs. I fucking love dogs. I have driven across across country, moved across country twice in a year. I don't see myself really traveling much in the foreseeable future. I love my home. I have five acres of land that I
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I can do anything I want with. Why would I not open my home up to a dog who needed a good home? A little puppy. And I like I am a dog person. And I just had to remember that like it was one of those moments in adulthood where your parents have this intense
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judgment over you and in a way you feel like they deserve to because they're your parents. Like holy shit, my therapist keeps fucking reminding me that like we have an innate desire, like a natural need. It's like an instinctual desire to please our parents. That is what we want because we want that recognition from them. We want that validation from our parents because they're our fucking parents.
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Holy shit. We want it. We don't need it. I want it. I don't need it. I don't need my parents to understand why I felt that I could open my home up to another dog or why I felt like that was the right decision. No one needs to understand that but me because it was for me and for my family and my family is a big messy dog family who loves to just cuddle and snuggle and lick each other's faces
From Fear to Love for Dogs
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and my baby is going to be brought up in that and she has she and frank like get along so well i'm going very slow because he is a puppy and she is a fucking baby um but when we've slowly allowed them to like interact a little bit that he's been so gentle and he even plays like more gentle with stella and like i guess i just him
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I'm giving us a quick reminder of the fact that you are designed to have love in your life. However you need to get that, whatever way you can get that and have it feel good and be genuine, chase that. The world is so heavy now. Do whatever little thing brings you even like the littlest bit of joy. You deserve joy. You deserve joy and you deserve
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all of the things that you ever thought you might want. I used to hate dogs. I was terrified of them. I shouldn't say I hated them. I was so scared of them. My uncle had a dog, Spatter, who was like a pointer, which is funny because that dog was actually a lot like both Finn and Frank.
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fit and frank um and i was like really afraid of this dog he was a big dog and i was like a little kid and for years i was terrified of dogs uh and then i had a neighbor who had a dog who i slowly began to like mingle with and understand and then
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I started to love them and then we got a dog that we rescued and we only had him for a year because he ended up having bone cancer and so we passed away and one of the things that my mom instilled in me that I to this day I'm so fucking grateful for is that it is better to give an animal a great life for a little while if that's all you can do just give them all that love that you can pack in there and
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they deserve even that and especially an animal that you don't know what
Pursuing Joy Amid Judgment
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their history was. So that's why I've always been very dedicated to adopting, rescuing, rehoming animals because I know that they need homes and I have that home. Um, and I find that especially with dogs, I don't know about like all animals, I shouldn't say that like, but with dogs, they just are so quirky. I feel like when they're like rescues or mutts or like these fucking weird little mixes of craziness, I just like, Oh, I love them. Um,
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And so yeah, I went from being some, I don't know where I've started with that, but I went from being this person who was terrified of dogs and I was so scared and I used to get so anxious around them to then being like this person who literally, I have memories, like I would run after, I would see a dog and I'd be like, oh my God, I have to touch it, I need to pet that dog. Like I love, Danny and I talk all the time about cute aggression and like, oh, it is so real. It's so real and it's so fun and like, yeah, I don't know, I needed,
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Needed more love I I've obviously been very open if you listen to the past few episodes that I've done about how the state of the world or I guess just Kind of the glass shattering reality of the world that I am just I think a lot of us are just really coming to terms with is fucking scary and overwhelming and so
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I needed another dog in my life. That's, that's what I knew would help. That's what would get me through. And so yeah, if you've got something like that, if you've got something that you're like, man, this one thing, maybe it's like, I don't know, a coat, maybe it's a trip, maybe it's a time to yourself, whatever like that one thing is, give it to yourself and just don't give a fuck about if people are going to judge you for it. No, not.
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not after the beginning of this fucking decade. I can't even say like this past year because it's been like, it's been years guys that we've been going through it.
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It's been years. I just read this article about from this guy who was talking about how like basically it was can we can we talk about how like we're still working healing through like the coronavirus like he had two young children going through it and he and his wife both worked very stressful jobs like and like they never got a chance to like deal like we
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Be gentle, be gentle. I'm not gonna rant, I'm not gonna rant. Be gentle. Also go check out our YouTube. Dani's been doing some awesome videos and she just did one about glamour magic. And so now every time before I record, I light a bunch of candles and I light incense.
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And I do a quick meditation before and like I get myself not like dolled up because I'm kind of in like a no makeup really phase or like, I don't know, I just, I'm home a lot. And so I'm just like embracing my natural self, which is guys, that's my
Glamour Magic and Creative Partnerships
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glamour magic. So a huge shout out to my beautiful partner, Danny.
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Um, and I'm sure she will, you'll be hearing from her soon. If not here on the pod, then definitely on the YouTube. She's like doing two, three a week. I can't even keep up with it. Phoebe and I, it's how we love to start our day. She literally has a bottle and just stares at,
Closing Thoughts on Love and Positivity
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well.
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usually just stares at me because I don't really let it look at the screen too much but like put it off to the side and I stare at Danny and Phoebe stares at me and it's just like the three of us connecting and so yeah go and spread your glamour magic and spread the love and to reach yourself YOLO and just like stay high bye