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Technical Challenges and Health Woes
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Hey Chris. Hi Eames, what's up? I have to tell you something. Oh my god, okay. Should I three-way Peyton in? Yeah, call Pete. Okay. Hello? Hey, Eames needs to tell us something. I'm three-waying you in. Okay, immediately. Okay, so... All right, hello, everyone, and welcome back to another episode of Three Way. We're recording from afar again. I feel like the last episode we did, was it afar? I think the last episode that went live was us all together. You know sometimes we'll have some audio issues. We're going to try our best this episode to keep it right. And I'm going to try to speak louder. I've seen all the comments. I've seen all the DMs. I'm so sorry. I'm going to speak louder.
00:00:38
Speaker
I will say the only audio issues we we might have is my mouth breathing. I think I have a sinus infection and I have been hardcore mouth breathing. So I'm going to try my best to not subject y'all to me over here. like
00:00:52
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hey arnold so parent a girl who i'm going to do my best and maybe andic org back away from the mic like in moran miranda isn a mouth breath there isn't she yeah sure put that I don't even know, but I'm sure she is. Miranda definitely sleeps with a ah little mouth. sorry Yeah. Okay. i was I was telling the girls that I wanted to experience danger recently and I can't breathe through my nose. and I was like, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to sleep with mouth tape on. and Honestly, it helped. One, it was a little bit of like a heightened like nighttime experience to put mouth tape on and not be able to breathe through my nose. It was like, will I die? Will I live this this evening? and I lived and my nose was actually more clear.
00:01:38
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so You're honestly and insane for even trying that. like imagine I can't imagine my nose being clogged and then my first thought is like, I should actually clog my mouth too. like It just sounds like I do wouldn't cross my mind. It's been like this for a couple days. Well, Joe had to go like on a work trip basically, so I don't see him for God knows how long. And my nose is so close to the point where like I couldn't even like kiss him. You know what I mean? like We could not basically like hook up while it's the last day of Florida.
Mouth Breathing Mishaps and Q&A
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is like i
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I could not breathe. I had this whole night planned. I was like, am I going to be so, I'm going to surprise him. All this stuff is going to be so sexy. And then I'm like mouth breathing. I fell asleep early. He took a photo of me, by the way. It is a traumatizing photo. Why do your boyfriends always take fucking ugly photos? It's me, a word like asleep with both of my arms like above my head and my mouth is fully open. I'm like, that was supposed to be like the hot experience for you because you're leaving for a while. And like, yeah anyways, I'll deal with that. Have you guys ever tried to give head when you're sick and your nose is stuff and you like literally can't? Yeah, you can't. You can't do it. it's not yeah yeah i couldn't even I couldn't even attempt. i knew I knew when I woke up that morning, I was like, there is no way. No way. No. I mean, I guess it's kind of adjacent to mouth taping. It's dangerous. It's on's living on the edge. Yeah, truly.
00:03:03
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But anyway, today we're going to do a Q&A, some more questions from the audience. I really like this format because I just like to know what people want to know. Like I'm nosy about what they want to know. Okay. So Wednesday, would you rather, this says, would you rather, would it, will we talk like this forever or have permanent Cheeto dust fingers? Would it would talk like that forever? I would just be giggling. I feel like I'd rather have the Cheeto dust fingers and I would just be known as the girl who wears gloves. a Even at the beach? Or I would just be like, yeah, I was literally just eating Cheetos. I can't talk like that forever. I feel like I just can't. It's like an accent. I can't be having Cheeto dust all over everything. If you say so. Try giving a hand job with Cheeto dust. I mean, masturbation can't do it either. Yeah, true. I don't know. I don't know. That's a good one though. I respect that. Yeah, that is a good one.
00:03:58
Speaker
All right. People actually were asking for more like dating advice and stuff. I do want to talk about my marketing plans that I've been doing. So I initially said I would do three. Should we do this as a full other episode though? Cause I feel like that's such a good episode topic. Yeah, we can. I'll just bring it up, but it's
Balancing Work and Personal Life
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like, okay. Oh, well, okay. That brings up something else that I want to say too. I'm going to put a form into the bio of this podcast and you guys can submit like questions and stuff. And I feel like we could all three respond like how we would actually respond to a guy or to the situation or whatever. So maybe it's just like advice, boy advice episode two, but I've been doing marketing plans for people. I initially said I was going to do three, but I did take on some additional clients because
00:04:41
Speaker
I don't know. I just like i hear no know way now they're getting in the way of your personal life. I was asking for advice today and she basically like put me on pause and was like, I've done so many marketing. Like I'm in the middle of so many marketing things and I'm like, like send me this like screenshot of her sending like voice. No, she's doing it. She's doing it for the good of the pod. Okay. i i get not getting an away It's getting in the way of chris advice. Never forget. Never forget like where you came from. and like okay well yeah so real friends are You guys, I've been putting my foot in it is all I have to say. I love everyone who's reached out to me. We've sent five minute voice memos back and forth. We have real relationships. I love everyone. And you know what I did expect? I expected people to reach out to me and have problems where I'm like, Oh my God. like
00:05:31
Speaker
they're being so dumb right now. No one's dumb who listens to this podcast, so I'll also say that. um We're all on the same page and I love everyone. So dating advice, there were actually two things that I wanted to say that I didn't say the last
Dating Advice and Natural Experiences
00:05:43
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episode. And one of them, Kristen, was what we talked about. One thing that I do not do before First Date is I do not show photos to my friends or talk too much about them. For one, because of the I'm almost in a state of defense because, for one, I don't know if this person is going to like me. All of these things are going on in my head where I'm like,
00:06:03
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It kind of, the nerves, the anxious, it kind of makes me a little insecure. So if I'm talking to my friends about them, I'm more likely to like make a joke at their expense or like screenshot a photo from their Instagram and be like, oh my God, should I go on the date? They look so, umy like I'm more likely to start doing those things out of like trying to pick them apart to kind of put us on an even playing field. And that's not really fair to either of us. So like, I won't show my friends a photo because I don't want anyone else's opinion besides mine to be going into this. And I also won't, talk too much about them to my friends cuz if they're great and then you know we go on a date we don't buy my friends are like oh what happened to this person they were so greater if it sucks it's like
00:06:42
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I have all these things I have to answer to and all of these things are in my head before I'm even going on a date. So I tell my friends, well, I'll be, I do find my friends and I just like actually want to experience the the date and its most natural flow. No one knows who the person is. If they're ghosting me after, no one else knows that they were six, five and rich and amazing except for me. So it's just like, I just have to be mad about for myself. But that's been the biggest pivot in my dating life is when I started doing that and I'm very strict about it. Yeah, it kind of takes the annoying like bullshit out of it. It's like the same way I am with my family to where I have really only tell them once I'm seriously, seriously, seriously dating someone just to take all the chitter chatter out. I definitely don't do that with my friends because I'm just like, why not? There's nothing to lose. I don't give a fuck. But that is really good dating advice because I feel like in the past that's deterred me from
00:07:37
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dating, just having to like follow up and be like, well, you're making like you're making your first date about you too. And I think if you're dating for like a future partner, that's the kind of like not too insulated, but like kind of insulated approach you should take. So it's like you guys on this date, it's not like you guys and your friends and his friends and your mom and like whoever. that are like focusing so much energy on this, like you can kind of create your own little world with this person, which is like, if it does end up being your husband, I feel like is the best way to start anything. Well, just like I'll tell them after I'll tell my friends about it after the first date, but at least I have such a well rounded opinion on them going into it to my friends rather than like,
00:08:21
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I've already said that I don't like the way that their feet look in their Instagram photo. And so you also have like, you also haven't fixated when you're doing that, but you kind of are just like, all right, we're setting the date, whatever. Like you're not fixating on this person. You're not like creating an alternate personality for them in your head. It's just helpful.
Life's Inconsistencies and Adjusting Expectations
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why I don't like. people before either. I'm just like, I like to just take what is shown. And well, I also will say like, because that like last time we talked about this, I said I liked to have to either drinks or like have guys when I was younger, like meet me with my friends. So it felt less intense.
00:08:57
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So I don't want to say like, come back and say like, oh, I, it needs to be all about just you two in a sense that like, no one else can be involved at all. But I think that I like that mostly they're not talking about it just so you don't personally fixate and your friends don't fixate and like create this whole narrative that just like is a waste of time or could be a waste of time yeah or just like, isn't them. Like, it's just like, I think it should be kind of like flip it and just like you, do you agree to the date? And then you just, I'm also a big believer in you don't talk like if you're going on a date with someone you know you're going on a date with them soon, not like talking to them all day every day. You know what I mean? Yeah, in a day here I'll meet you here. That's when we'll talk to 1000%. This one's about like realizations of the reality of life and relationships you have as you get older.
00:09:44
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Oh, but okay. okay you Why are you like, is that a lawyer like are yeah up the question? No. Okay. I mean, she kind of summed it up. So it's kind of like, I think she wants to know about just like realizations as we get older about life and friendships and relationships and stuff like that. Oh, it was like a prompt. Yeah. got Realizations about life. I feel like no one tells you about the inconsistency. I feel like
00:10:17
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It's I know that's kind of like a buzzkill, but like no one tells you that it's like you're going to get really close to people and then you're not going to be friends or you're going to get close to really people to people and then they're going to move away or blah, blah, blah. Like I kind of think that the latter years of our life have always been painted like pretty consistent. And I feel like I have been most mind blown by just like how inconsistent everything is. That's real. Oh, I think that it's also informs like, I think life has changed. I mean, that's just like an, I feel like an adage for a reason. Everything is changing, whether it's like the people or the places or something good happening or something bad happening. Like you just going to have to like, it's like a full wave to kind of ride. I will say the life that you live, Kristin in particular, like, like, let's say someone who you moved to LA, you're in a place where like,
00:11:09
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you're single and you feel like there's so many questions of like the things that you want and things you can build for your life. I think that that is more inconsistent, but more exciting versus like, let's say someone who got married kind of young and like is like locked down, they have a nine to five job. Like it's very, every day is kind of similar to the next. You know what I mean? Yeah. like Your every day is like all over the place. That's true. But I feel like even like those people, like, taking them into account even like they even they have so much change as well. Well, it never stops like it's just never it's never gonna be there's just so much around you that you can't control and I just feel like anytime you kind of start to get comfortable or something. Well, I also think that like
00:11:54
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in your younger 20s, you just want to be to the part where like, you are stable. So I feel like we also plan out our lives so much more like, okay, I'm going to be doing this job and I'm going to be having this set of friends. So I also feel like in trying to figure out what our lives are going to look like, it's like every time something changes, you have to like grieve the future that you thought you would have with it. So it's like every single inconsistency or every single change is like, Oh, I thought that this would be in my future. Now it's not. Now I'm grieving that. So I feel like it's like constant For me at least constant grievances of like, okay, well, so you know, I have like a Sorry, what do you say? I was just gonna say how are you supposed to like set goals and like plan for a future but like also not be fucking let down and like but Last time I had stability was when I was like seven because I do to school every day and like I Didn't even know like what what else was going on in the world, you know Yeah very
00:12:51
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but I think we try to try to set up for stability at some point like we're like hey we're gonna set up our retirement so we're gonna do this like we're go we're trying to just like get ahead of stuff when really i think getting older is just realizing like you just gotta like can i just do your best with what you have at the moment cuz it's you can prepare but like it's just never gonna be what you thought it was gonna
Finding Joy in Challenges
00:13:11
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be. Yeah. I mean, I literally have my, um, list of bridesmaids since like the sixth grade, just like in my list. I'm like, Hey, this is my bridesmaids. This is my, the way that there's probably two of them who who have been on there this whole entire way is insane.
00:13:28
Speaker
Yeah, it's real though. I mean, even people like I've been in weddings and I don't talk to them anymore. And I'm like, Oh, and it's not because we had a falling out. It's just because it's like, I moved. I'm in a different place. Totally. Well, that brings us to our next question, which is how to have the will to live. I don't personally like honor on a base level have the will to live. Sometimes I'll get like in a manic mode where I'm like, okay, well, I literally don't have any other fucking option. What's my other option? But you find pockets of a will to live.
00:14:03
Speaker
I've never had the will to live even when things were happy. I was like, this is the happiest I've ever been in my life. And I still am tired of this. like It's not even happy enough. I think once I have kids maybe or something, maybe I will because I'll be like, oh, I have to make myself better to be with them. you know But I honestly, again, even at my happiest, I'm like, eh, I could take it or leave it. Definitely seek therapy. yeah I think that that would be a great place to point to. but like you're watching like just straight up in real time how I deal personally with um not having the most lip because it's just a little bit like everything's kind of funny. Yeah, yeah, my therapist something that I'm working on in therapy right now is like, I always feel so so so guilty for everything and so much shame around bad decisions and like it's constantly making me spiral. And so it's like I'm working on in therapy right now is like finding small ways
00:15:00
Speaker
that are not attached to guilt that do boost my mood so like for example let's say i'm gonna go i mean i could make a coffee at home but if i'm having a really really terrible day it's like what's the seven dollars to get a really nice coffee go on a walk there and have no guilt about it and just like okay a small win there's like really small ways to set your up Set yourself up for like a good moment, even if it's small or short-lived, but like most of the time I'm smiling I'm like, okay, I'm a loser. I haven't called my mom back I have a million things that I could be doing and I just was something on Instagram and I got no likes and I'm fucking hideous and then I lost two followers after I did that because everyone thought I was ugly and then I ah Did something really bad at work. Everyone probably hates me, but Okay, I want my way home from work
00:15:45
Speaker
maybe instead of making myself go to the grocery store, I'm just going to order them today and make my life 1% easier with no guilt. And that might just be my win for the day. That's good advice. That's a good one. That's a good one. That's stable advice. I feel like whenever I need a will to live, it normally goes back to marijuana. or um honestly these days a podcast. Because let me tell you guys, I was not a podcast girlie until this year. But when I was down and bad, I feel like the only thing some days that could get me out of bed and get me to like take a walk to go get my little treat. Because some days I was like,
00:16:29
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Kristen, if you get out of bed, you can get a treat. And some days I would be like, oh, that's not even gonna get it. But if I had Benny Drama and Mary Beth Barone in my ear, I had a little pep in my step and I was giggling and I had a will to live. And that's when I was like, oh, I understand you can never have too many podcasts. This is a mental health thing. This is like, you know equivalent to talking to your bestie on the phone, but if they're not reachable, you know you have your your part online bestie. Well, it's also you're never ah like you're never alone in your own head when you have a podcast. Exactly. and and Especially like when you find a good one because you not only are you not alone in your head, but you're also like hearing very niche things that you're like, whoa, I thought I was alone on that.
00:17:21
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And that's why I was like, Oh, okay. I totally get this. Um, cause I definitely was one of those people that was like, okay, you know, that we have, we've got enough podcasts or blah, blah, blah. But yeah, once I, once I was down bad and needed a podcast and I saw how powerful they were. So I would say that and hanging out with friends and leaning on them and like finding silver linings and the whole thing. Yeah. Yeah, I'd agree with that too. Called life. It's called life.
Pet Peeves and Home Decor Frustrations
00:17:54
Speaker
We're really showing our duality of this episode, girls. I mean, I feel like we're all kind of having a bad day. I know. So, um, okay. Um, the next question with tears in my eyes, next question, um, stuff that pisses you guys off. Um, I'll go first. I am, but I have a note. Oh, oh, I love that. I'm like, never. Okay. Wait, a note of things that piss you off. Mm-hmm. Oh, I've never had a bigger crush on you in my entire life than right now. You have a note.
00:18:26
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<unk> like wait um That's incredible. So mine is actually okay when I decide that I'm a hater of someone. It takes a lot to get me there. It's over time. I give people chances. And once I get to ah the point where I'm a hater, there's nothing you can do for the rest of your life to undo it. Unfortunately, someone that falls into that category, again, I um hate spreading hate, but it just has to be Kendall Jenner. i I am such a hater of hers that even when people were like mad at her for not knowing how to cut a cucumber I hated that she was even getting the attention of not being able to cut a cucumber and everyone hating her for that pissed me off because we were talking about it too much and it like wasn't funny or entertaining to me it was just
00:19:12
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I don't know like something about her. I just I don't like it. Like, maybe because I am insecure about being a pick me and I see a little bit of myself and her maybe I'm just like a hater. I refuse to try her smoothie at Erewhon. Everyone was like, I'm gonna try the Kendall Jenner. I would never try it. Hey, you're jealous of her. This movie will never touch my lips. And I'm open to it being jealousy. I'm completely open to that reality. But The truth is that I'm a hater. what For whatever reason, I don't know, but that's just how I feel. See, I feel bad for her because she has to be, they all have to be perceived by so many fucking people and they're still plant prancing around with all this confidence. So I am like- Billions of dollars will do that. Get it, Garley.
00:19:58
Speaker
No, yeah and i i mean I know that it will. No, it will. Billions of dollars is really helpful when it comes to being able to learn to prance around in front of people that are perceiving you. It's just like, I'll give a great example is like the, the episode where she like drives a stick, the Porsche, and she used to tell everyone that she drives a stick. I can see why I hate her in that moment because if I drove a stick, I would need everyone to know too. So I can see like her pick me and me being like, I despise this because I'm i'm very similar sometimes or her being like, yeah, I'm just like really athletic. It's just like, stop talking about it. So I just think. Yeah.
00:20:35
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It's a little bit of me and a little bit of her, but well you're also like, you're so hyper aware of it. So you're almost like, why isn't she hyper aware of it? Like we're doing the same things that she aware. Oh, she's getting away with this. We're all going to just like be like, Oh my God, you're so cool for driving a stick. It's like, okay, come on. like You're like, she didn't edit all this stuff out. She's letting, yeah, she's not embarrassed by this. Yeah. Yeah. So that's just how I feel. Interesting. How about you girls? Well, on my things I hate list, there's quite a few things on here, so I'll just name like one of them to start. They're kind of random. They're all over the place. um When we people walk anywhere on a sidewalk, an airport, anything like that,
00:21:22
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side by fucking side when you're like going somewhere and there's two people walking side by side. hu You need to walk in a line unless there is a massive amount of space around you. This happened to me recently at the airport yesterday. I was trying to get to my flight which was leaving in 0.2 seconds. Like I had like really a short amount of time thanks to Delta as always. I fucking love Delta but I'm telling y'all they they have the shortest layover times. ever yes I'm sprinting, I'm trying to and at every, at the end the Detroit airport, which I actually like the airport itself, that is the slowest people. Those are the slowest human of beings I've ever met or seen in my entire life and I'm from Texas and Florida.
00:22:06
Speaker
Detroit, they're so fucking slow on every surface, whether it we're walking from the gate or on one of those standing like walkway or like the moving walkways or on the escalator. Everyone is side by side, fucking strolling around talking to each other like no one's in a rush. And then you'll know how I hate to like say stuff. like I hate to like be like, excuse me, excuse me. but Yeah, it's kind of embarrassing too. Well, just like be just be like be cognizant of who is around you. That's why I like cities, I think like New York and l LA a lot of the time because people are so, they can be dickheads, but at least people like are used to being around a bunch of people in an area so they know, like walk on a certain side of the sidewalk, walk in a single fucking file line, don't stroll around or like stand in the middle of a fucking moving walkway. Yeah, it's annoying.
00:22:55
Speaker
So heated about that yesterday. I was so mad and I'm just like looking at people like I fucking hate you. Like I actually fucking hate you. Get out of my goddamn way. I like had some choice words. i loved I loved that one. I loved that one. I felt every single word that you said, I was convicted. I felt your residual anger and I i like that one a lot. I just made myself like mad again. I totally get it. I can't think of what I hate. I'll say another one that I hate. I hate, I got so, y'all so mad at Joe yesterday. Cause this just like pissed me the fuck off. So we are looking for a home. I'm just going to say that we don't, we're like kind of finalizing one that we really like, but we don't have it yet. Okay. But because we're kind of like trying to finalize, we kind of were trying to like foresee what we could do to this home to make it more our own.
00:23:50
Speaker
And it doesn't require major renovations. It requires like aesthetic upgrades in my opinion. So that would be like a new coat of paint on the walls, which I think is like normal when you move into a new home, like to paint it how you want painting the cabinets in the kitchen. And then changing the tile, like the backsplash of the tile in the kitchen, which is not like a ton of space. So it's just going to be removing those tiles and putting new ones on. There is one room where I'd like to put wood flooring in because the whole house is like this beautiful, like white oak wood floors. Specifically, I love those. And one of the bedrooms, there's like four bedrooms. They're all wood except for one is carpet. So I'm like, obviously we put the wood in there like it just makes sense in our guest room.
00:24:37
Speaker
So anyway, since Joe and I have lived together starting back in 2022, was it all 2022 or end of 2021 into 2022, the way that I decorate our apartments is based on the fact that Joe doesn't want everything to be all neutrals or like stark white, like he hates white. And he has made me been over fucking backwards to do to get rid of whatever white stuff there is. So like if there's white walls, we have to do like a green couch and like a greenness and he wants color. He wants things going on. So I'm trying to like always contain it. And I, I ended up not liking it as much, but I just like, I'm going to have to compromise obviously. Yeah. so
00:25:17
Speaker
We're going we're trying to like talk about this house and he suddenly like after three fucking years of being like, I hate white everything. I hate this. But the current the current fucking like cabinets and some of the paint and in the house is bright white, like Florida, like very beachy vibe, white, light blue, like a like a bright beachy blue. And then that's just it. It's like bright white and bright blue. So I'm like, obviously, we're going to change. We're going to get a more neutral tone in there, like an off tone. And he starts treating me like I want to gut this entire house and remove all of the walls and the windows and like literally build in new rooms and like knock down doors because I want to change the color because I was so nervous that like he would hate the white. So I'm doing this for him.
00:26:10
Speaker
And he starts acting crazy, like, well, I don't want to go ahead and renovate the entire house, like, and change the white. We don't need to change a single thing. And I'm like, my eyes twitching. I'm like, you made me decorate so fucking ugly for the past three years because you can't stand the fucking white. And now you're all for it. We love the white. Actually, can we make it, like, bright whiter, please? Like, let's magic erase whatever fucking problems we have in this white. And it's bright blue. I'm like, I was sitting on the plane yesterday already mad. texting him novels being like, well, that's a big switch. about Oh, my God, that is insane. not already exactly are text that you were sending But honestly, you guys, can we normalize when people do what we've actually always wanted them to do, but it's a little too late. Normally, being pissed off by that like, Oh, you want three years later novels on you're not disgusted by white. Yes, that's exactly what I wanted you to do. But
00:27:06
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It's going to piss me off because it's disgusting. No, I'm literally like, I'm showing him couches for years for that house. the dallas All this stuff. I'm like, I'm like, I love this you love this beautiful tan couch. And he's like, No, we can't do the tan freaking whatever. And the second I want to do something and I'm presenting it like this is a better option, he's like, fine, we'll just renovate the whole house. And i he also does this thing where like, if someone else, like the designer for the house in Dallas, for example, we made decisions that I, we had a house in Dallas for those of y'all who don't know, made decisions that I didn't like, but we didn't buy the house yet. So once we bought it, we were able to change stuff.
00:27:44
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And same with this house, like someone else designed this, we can move in and change stuff. It's way under budget. So like, there's plenty, it's not even, it's not going to cost a ton of money either. Anyway, Joe takes like serious offense when I want to change something that someone else did. Like, I'm like, yeah, I don't like this floorings they chose. And he's like, well, yes, I'll just, I don't know. I'm like, I'm like, Joe, it's actually really offensive to the architect. waitton So apology with tears now. I wonder, I wonder if like, Because he knew he was gonna put an offer and he was trying to starting to like take it personal No, he does that but once he owns it. He acts like he made that decision I'm like also yeah, but you can he did not pay for the ugly thing And i like just so i get why can i see myself doing that and so you it it is so you actually
00:28:31
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You're like, Hey, I wonder if we should just paint over these white walls like you've always wanted for the past three years. He's like, no, actually we're not going to run an entire fucking house. he He looked at me. He's like, he's like, Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God. You don't even like it. Like what? Here you go again. raise i feel like i'm crazy I literally was like, I am so mad. Like that my exact text to him was you're about to start really pissing me the fuck off because he just like, you know, when you're trying to be calm, but you're like, Okay. Okay. Uh-huh. Okay. I feel like you're crazy. In rate, it makes your skin crawl kind of bad. Well, everything is so deep. It reflects on something larger. I'm like, oh, so who are you then? Did I not even know you for the past fucking three years? Why'd you make me do all this shit? And like recounting all the meat, finding the green fucking couch, me getting the green couch delivered. and I'm like, I... Any more huge changes I can expect throughout our relationship? Yeah, you kind of just have a fucking 180 on me. Yeah, I was so mad. And then I'm just like, I'm being dramatic, obviously. And I ended up the evening last night I got home. And I had like, because imagine me after my debacle in the Detroit airport, and I'm pissed off anyway. And then um I can't breathe through my fucking clothes. No, that's where I started. There's snot.
00:29:50
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I'm mouth reading, I'm running, and then I sit down and Joe's like, oh my god, you're going crazy over there with the freaking renovations. I'm like, i'mnna I'm texting him. It is very normal to change paint colors. That is a very standard procedure. like I am so mad. I have tears because I'm imagining you It's like, you're getting pretty nervous. No, and my whole face was red, too, because like I have allergies and my eyes are red. i like kids like Actually, who I will say the TSA lady ah asked me if I was over 18, and I was like, that's the only thing that kept me afloat all day. I was like, yeah, a small wind. Wow. A small wind. Okay, so that's a will to live. Find
Loneliness and Wellness Lifestyle
00:30:30
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someone that's going to live. That's a will to live. No, that's a will to not start crying in the airport because also I don't want to be embarrassed.
00:30:37
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face things i hate One thing about me, I'm going to cry in an airport. You will. Oh, yeah. Especially alone, too. I don't know why it just something seems something feels so dramatic about just like traveling alone and and crying a little in the air. Like lonely. I get what you mean. That happens to me. Like I can be alone, but there's something about I don't know. It's bizarre. Eating in a restaurant alone, it makes me feel like I'm like in high school in a high school cafeteria and I have no friends and I'm like eating by myself. and I feel this like sinking feeling of loneliness and it's really, really dramatic. I'll be eating by myself and be like, And it's like, Iman, what are you? You have plenty of friends. You came here on your own just to have a meal. And I'm like, yeah, but I don't know. It's just like I'm like talking to myself. I'm like about to cry. And then I'm like, I got to get out of here. It's bizarre. We need another phrase for romanticizing life that's like feeling sorry for yourself because I know exactly what you're talking about. Right.
00:31:38
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i they're dramaticizing yeah I can't help but to like dramaticize and feel sorry for myself. I don't know if it's like how I think I'm being perceived or... Yes, and's some of that too. every ...what it is but yeah, I can't help but just be like... See, I just love to be... I love when like no one's talking to me and I'm enjoying a lovely meal. Like that that's how I see it and then I just try to pretend like I'm not being perceived. Yeah, I mean I used to travel for work so much and I did love doing that but I find For some reason, doing it in my own city, like I said, I would rather like save money and eat at home. um The next one is... Sorry guys, it's a CBD. My two drops that I took this morning at 6am and it's that night now. Well, okay. This one says how to balance a wellness lifestyle with a healthy social life going out, drinking freely. I don't do this. Do you guys? I don't do that.
00:32:34
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I mean, I think subliminally, like where I'm not going out every night and drinking, like I have a balance. Oh, I see. as like So I don't think that like drinking is partying and then not drinking as wellness. I think she means like, like offsetting the drinking because like, I don't think the offset to drinking is just like not drinking for like the following evening. It'd be more like, I feel like you work out, you go to yoga. That's kind of like your wellness thing. I've been back on my yoga game, but no matter what, even if I'm not working out, I am going on walks and I am
00:33:12
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uh steaming because I did go to a natural path one time and or actually a few times I continually go to her and she told me I wasn't detoxing things on my own and so I realized that I had to work out not only you know for like working out and you know my mental health but also to detox and then that's why I'm like obsessed with steaming and sauna and all that So yeah, I guess I would say that's how I combat it again or yeah, like balance you balance. I think you're the most balanced when it comes to that kind of stuff. I'm also I'm not I'm not in like a balanced era right now. And that's just like my truth. So that's it's summer. So no one really is. I mean,
00:33:59
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i I did do my seven days of sobriety, so I don't want to like fucking brag. not to brag yeah i well hey I think when i say when I say I'm not my balanced era, I mean like I worked out, I did Pilates on Tuesday, and that's probably the first time I've done intentional activity in over a month. but I don't want to go do that kind of stuff. You're in your routine that you can have, but you're not in your like at-home routine. I feel like you've been all over the place. Well, I also just like to lay down. like If I have the opportunity at this point to go work out, I won't. And even if I have plenty of time, I just am not going to do it. So like I think, for me, wellness, for me, kind of is like it means different things at different times. Right now, I'm just like tired, so I'm not going to go do that. You're listening. And it's stressing me out.
00:34:51
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Yeah, i'm I'm stressed out more than, I mean, it would probably be helpful to do it, but if I don't want to go do it and it's stressing me out to go for whatever reason, I'm just not going to do it. But I know that I'll get into a routine like when I really feel I need to. Yeah, when I was really busy with like styling work and all of that, like the last thing I wanted to do was add one more to do on my list that I knew someday I wasn't going to get to. So I was like, I'm just going to take this off of my plate completely and I literally didn't work out for years. I'm just not trying, like I'm not enjoying it either. So like I'm not gonna force myself to go do something. Cause I feel like it just like makes me feel like I'm doing it to look good versus to like, because I'm enjoying myself. So I just would rather like not look as good and just like be able to indulge myself and like lay down and watch a show or something versus forcing myself. um At some point I'm gonna have to like get back in a routine. Cause I think it's now got to the point where it's like,
00:35:47
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affecting my mental health more negatively at this point. yeah But I'll have to, I just have to find something that I want to do and I'm, I think I'm going to start in 20, no, in 10 days, I'll start a workout regimen of two days a week, allegedly. I'm promising to myself. So I think it's a mix of just like giving myself grace and yeah going out eating whatever I want because I will always go eat whatever I want to drink, whatever I want. But I typically have that like workout balance, but right now I think it's more of a rest arresting balance. Yeah, and enjoying yourself balance.
00:36:21
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Yeah, I don't have any kind of balance in that way. I feel like in some ways, I don't know. I just feel like it's kind of a luxury that I just don't have right now. Like I just don't have the time or the mental capacity. I feel like to yeah add another thing, but I will, that time will come and then I will do it then. I feel guilty about that. I think that that's kind of a good point. Yeah, don't at all. You have 7 trillion things on your plate. um Okay, the next one is do your friends and family listen to
Family Reactions and TV Show Preferences
00:36:52
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the podcast? If so, do they confront you about the content? My parents stopped confronting me about content such a long time ago. Yeah.
00:37:01
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My dad stopped confronting me about content and then like a few years ago started bringing it up again, which makes me think that I just have some random um aunts and uncles in his ear or something, because he started to be like, or he like sent me a text, like I said, like a few months ago, just being like, hey, like, don't forget, like, can you, or he's like, Hey, I don't ask a lot of you, but like, Can you stop posting your naked body online? Like your family follows you. And I was like, and I just like thumb stuff it. You would have been pissed, Ian. I don't think my parents like, I don't think you can hold my debt my parents down and make them listen to this podcast. I think that they would be like, please,
00:37:53
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I like don't want to know. like They don't want to know. They don't need to know. They're not interested in knowing because I think my mom mentioned that before to me when I first started like doing stuff on the internet. um But i just i I just, I'm not listening. I've never listened today in my fucking life. i I'm also the kind of like child that would, I wouldn't listen, but like my little sister would agree. Like Kristin just said, like yeah, I'll tell you what you want to hear, but I'm going to do what I want anyway. Of course, y'all know me at this point, I would like look my mom dead in the eyeballs and be like, this is, I'm not doing that. and Whatever punishment you're going to give me, I will take because I would rather take the punishment than listen to what you just told me to do because I'm not going to fucking do it. My mom's like, will you just look at me and say you're going to do it and then not do it? like I honestly prefer that. And I'm like, no, i everything had to like be a stand.
00:38:45
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You know what I mean? Right. As per buck usual. And when she told me that I need to stop doing that on the Internet, I was like, it's just not happening. And you can tell me as many times as you want. You can tell me eight thousand times you're going to continue to tell me. And the answer is going to be the same every single time. So then they just stopped, I think. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, for you I don't know. I the only thing I've ever gone in trouble for was saying that I'm the most single I've ever been well actively. dating, so I actually am not going to talk. And that wasn't even your family. It wasn't even my family, so I'm actually not going to talk about my dating life because...
00:39:21
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It's just like, here's the thing you guys is also that was recorded like a month before it actually came out also. So it's like, if I say something by the time it comes out and then if someone listens or if someone in two months listens is like, I just, I can't be on, I just can't be on, um, this is sounds that thanks so us I can't be on, um, surveillance right now. I know, but like you're not, you are single. I am single. You don't own anything. You have to say you're single. If they've got a problem with that, then they can like have a deeper conversation with you. But this is to anyone listening who thinks that they're dating Iman. You're not dating. She's allowed to say she's single. Yeah. Okay. Next question. Okay. What are you guys's favorite shows of all time?
00:40:06
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Um, Game of Thrones. Really? Why did I not know that about you? in a thrones I named my college dog after Game of throne Thrones character. What? so Yeah. I've never seen Game of Thrones. I love it. Me neither. It's too bloody. Joe and I are watching House of Dragon right now, which is the prequel. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I did not know that that was your favorite show. That is bizarre to learn about this far end. Well, it's one of my favorite shows. But also, when I was growing up and we'd go out to my grandparents' ranch, we didn't have any Wi-Fi and not a lot to do. Well, at that time, there was no even dial-up. The internet was not.
00:40:46
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Available and you're so far out there that like all we would do is watch Shows or movies so we'd watch ah Lord of the Rings and we were like big Lord of the Rings people like I loved Lord of the Rings another thing I haven't seen I loved it so much. Oh my gosh. Okay. This is like a whole other and part of you that I didn't know Kristen Do you have an answer for our favorite show? Mm hmm. And it's not to be your absolute favorite because there's so many that I love. I just thought I came with. throne I know. Okay, so my favorite genre of show I've realized recently is like sitcom. Like I know I love New Girl. I love I love New Girl, too. I guess I really, really love insecure. I love insecure. My favorite show of all time is girls on HBO. So I feel like I would always I feel like the Game of Thrones is HBO. And then I would I would watch insecure on HBO. And then
00:41:36
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Game of Thrones will come on, I turn the TV off, and then I will watch re runn the reruns of Girls. Yeah. I feel like I have rage. I love the Game of Thrones stuff, and I like really drama. like I like a lot of crime, but I also like live and die by The Office. I can recite every word to that show. I love... um I hate The Office. I don't get it. Veep. I love Veep. Veep is so fucking good. I need to get into Veep I've had people tell me how good it is. That's how the the politics works is literally the like that's exactly how the back end of all this politics political stuff. Oh, that makes sense. you It's like it's like a touch of House of Cards into the like it's literally I've been asking my friends who are in this space and they were like, it's it's be 100%. I've been rewatching so many things. like I've been rewatching girls. I've been... Love girls. My favorite like comedy shows, one is Arrested Development, which I feel like is a niche sense of humor that not a lot of people think is funny. And then also, I love Parks and Rec.
00:42:38
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you should listen to Smart List. Will Arnett, Jason Sudeikis, Sean Hayes. Anyway. What were you going to say about Arrested Development, Peyton? Arrested Development is kind of like, it's not like friends to me, but it falls under this category of like, well, one, Arrested Development is so geniously written that like there's never a conclusion. There's always another fucking problem that leads to another problem that I'm like, how do I even get this web of problems happening? So I understand the genius of it. It gives me so much anxiety. I can't explain to you. Like the way that I love The Office, Joe loves friends that way, which is obviously like a classic iconic show. yeah i He loves friends or he likes ah Seinfeld a lot. And I'm like, I can't watch Seinfeld. Oh, that's interesting.
00:43:25
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They love Seinfeld. He I can't get into Seinfeld. And I've tried so hard because Joe loves it so much. But like they literally every scene, they say like four words to each other with a punchline. Like it's like four, full four sentences. And then there's like a punchline of something ridiculous. And then they're like, dude do, do, do, do. And it's like the next scene. I'm like, right this is too much. to because it's so like relaxing and it's all the same like volume there's no like boom like crushes or like anything startling it's all like the same
00:43:59
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volume. It's just too quick. Like Arrested Development stresses me out because of- Oh No, I'm talking about that too, so I'm like comparing them. yeah One explains, can like stresses me out that way and then friends are like, friends is a little, it's like less bad than Seinfeld, but I sort it out with Joe's watching Seinfeld. I'm like, did they just have a conversation or was that just like eight words they just said in like a joke and then they just like move on to a whole new scene? Okay, maybe we should just end up here. I think you should, right? Yeah.
Episode Conclusion and Looking Ahead
00:44:32
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So this is like kind of our hater episode. This is coming out as haters where we've all kind of had weird dates. We're kind of like losing bad vibes a little bit. I hope you guys can feel it, relate to us, get it. But I think we're going to end this episode here and go work on having a more positive mindset. At least I'm going to have it. I don't know about you guys to go lay down with my feet up on the wall and see if that changes my life.
00:44:58
Speaker
Yeah, I think. Yeah. You're going to go what? Drink and hang out. Drink and hang out. Okay. Um, I'm going to do something along probably in the middle of those two and we're just going to see you guys next week. We're going to be refreshed and happy about our lives. So, um, can I give y'all homework? I want y'all this, can y'all go next week because you're together and do what you did when you're talking about like going on a date and pre-gaming together, but can y'all please dear God, Pre-game for a date and then have the date at the same place and don't tell the guy that you know anyone there. Yes and leaves anything for but That would be That would be hilarious. I'll take video footage of it too. So it's just like we'll add that to the tik-tok The bar perfect. Yeah, I'd be like where i'm we're on a date togetherre going on any first date simman No, but I don't know we'll figure it out I can't talk about too much around here you guys know I'm under surveillance I
00:45:56
Speaker
ah I'll text you guys after. If he's, less if he's listened to this, if anyone is of them, if anyone of them that'll get you in trouble has listened to this point, they deserve, they get to be mad. I'll allow them to be annoyed with you if they've listened to all the very end of the podcast. All right. Y'all heard it here. Heard it here first. Okay. Bye guys. Bye.