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Episode 8: Magnificent Sex Mini Book Club
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When was the last time you had extraordinary sex?
In this episode I give you a sneak peek into the book Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Loves by Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz.
In my upcoming episodes ( 9& 10) we will explore concepts and questions from this book, including:
What makes sex magnificent? What are the qualities of extraordinary erotic intimacy and what are the elements that help to bring it about? Is great sex the stuff that people remember nostalgically from the "honeymoon" phase of their relationships, or can sex improve over time?
Get a copy and read along and/ or tune in the next two weeks to learn more!
My Kind Of Pleasure Community - launching April 14th- Learn more and get on the waitlist: https://polished-scene-963.myflodesk.com/
Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers https://www.amazon.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-Extraordinary-Lovers/dp/0367181371
Learn More & Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/lisette.ostrander
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Transcript
Introduction to My Kind of Pleasure Podcast
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Hi friends, this is Lisette Ostrander and this is My Kind of Pleasure podcast where we will explore topics of sex, pleasure, desire, mindset, and emotions and use the information learned
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to live the life we want and have the sex we want. My hope is that what you learn will expand and challenge the way that you think about sex, your body, desire, and aging so that you can bring more pleasure and aliveness into your life. I want to quickly say thank you all to all of you that are listening. I really appreciate it. I started this journey a couple of months ago and it's a way for me to
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grow my skills and learn more. And at the moment, I have no expectations of where it will go or what it will be. And I also see that people are listening and downloading. So thank you so much. I really appreciate it.
Focus on 'Magnificent Sex' by Dr. Peggy Klimplatz
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I wanted to also let you know that over the next couple of weeks, the next two episodes are going to be a mini book club. And we will be exploring the book, Magnificent Sex,
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Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Dr. Peggy Klimplatz, and I'll link that below. I'm going to take, again, the next two episodes to explore it. I'm also going to use the content that I learned from the book and use that to help build content in My Kind of Pleasure Community, which is launching April 14th. And you could see the link below for more information and to get on the wait list.
Study Insights on Extraordinary Sex
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Peggy Kleinplatz asked the questions, what makes sex magnificent? What are the qualities of extraordinary erotic intimacy? And what are the elements that help bring that about? And is great sex the stuff that people remember nostalgically from the honeymoon phase of their relationships? Or can sex improve over time? The findings of the book are based on the largest
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in-depth interview study ever conducted from people who are having extraordinary sex. And this includes individuals who identify as straight and LGBTQ plus individuals and couples, those that are quote unquote, vanilla and quote unquote, kinky and monogamous and consensually non-monogamous and also individuals that identify as healthy and also chronically ill, all having extraordinary sex
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and taking lessons learned from that. So the past weekend and past week, I've been listening to different interviews from Dr. Peggy Klimplatz and really diving into the content. And I encourage you all to join me in reading this book and or tune in for the next two weeks to learn more. What I love about what I've been learning is that it counters a lot of the myths and incorrect information that we receive about sex from
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our media, our culture, and society. I want to share with you a couple or a few ideas that have attracted me to this book and Dr.
Ideas on Becoming Good Lovers and Transformative Sex
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Peggy Kleinplatt's work, and we're going to explore these ideas and concepts further in the next two weeks. Some of these ideas include one, good lovers aren't born, they are made. Also, the idea that extraordinary sex is something that can
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transform you. So even with a history of self-doubt, of shame, of feeling unworthy, sex can be healing and transformative. I love this idea of us starting to reimagine and re-envisioning what sex looks like and reimagining ourselves as sexual beings. As I am finding my, or solidifying my why in creating this community and this podcast, this idea of
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sex being transformative deeply resonates with me. Other ideas that have attracted me to the work of Peggy Kleinplatz are, according to her research, they found that the average age where people had experienced optimal and extraordinary sex was in their mid 50s.
Erotic Intimacy and Societal Norms
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And also to answer the question, does sex improve over time?
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especially in long-term relationships. And the answer was yes to that questions. So excited to dive into both those ideas. In the book, they also talk about extraordinary sex involves erotic intimacy. And erotic intimacy is not about knowing the latest moves or being super performative, like how hard, how long.
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Can you go? It's erotic intimacy has elements of when you have a deep like for someone, a trust and being able to be vulnerable and authentic with that person. I also love that Peggy Kleinplatz talks about low desire and not looking at it as something that's wrong, but perhaps it's a signpost or good judgment that
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Perhaps the sex that you're experiencing is not the kind of sex that is worth wanting and what to do about that. The book also talks about how extraordinary couples, one thing that they had to do to have extraordinary sex
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was to unlearn everything that they learned about sex growing up. So forgetting everything that you've been taught and starting to learn and learning from within. And a lot of that is about trusting your body. And we'll talk more about that in the next two weeks. Again, this idea of us
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I just think it's really important for us to start re-imagining and re-envisioning what sex looks like and re-imagining ourselves as sexual beings.
Exploration and Reflection on Extraordinary Sex
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So friends, join me as I explore these ideas that I mentioned above and also really specifically getting into the question, what makes sex extraordinary and magnificent?
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And how can we bring more extraordinary and magnificent sex into our own lives? I'm also going to leave you with one question that Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz asks all of her clients, and that is, think about the last time that you had extraordinary sex. Take a moment, think about it, and tune in next week as we explore these concepts further. Thank you again, and have a great week. Bye.