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My big ah ah for this week is that despite all of these amazing benefits and learnings mentioned, I was starting to do what I think many of us do..using my goals against myself.
I have these ambitious goals and also trying to create a space for me to feel more alive and experience more pleasure AND this week all I could focus on was that I am behind on these goals and not feeling alive and experiencing pleasure
After doing some self-coaching and receiving coaching I realized I was using my goals against myself. I was feeling bad about myself for not being on track with my goals which of course, is the opposite of being in the present and feeling alive.
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