Today I want to talk to you about sexual mindset and two concepts I have been exploring this week, sexual growth mindset and sexual destiny mindset, and how having these mindsets impact our sex life and sexual satisfaction.  In this episode, I also share a  tool to be more intentional with your thoughts and beliefs to retrain your brain to have more empowering mindsets.  

❤️ Sexual growth mindset is the attitude that people can learn to be better lovers over time. Also, people who hold sexual growth mindsets believe that sexual satisfaction fluctuates and that sexual satisfaction can be maintained or improved with effort.

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In this episode, I mention a set of scales developed by psychologist  Jessica Maxwell that measure  “ sexual destiny mindset” and “ sexual growth mindset. See below for some examples of the questions, and take a moment to think about how much you agree or disagree with the statements below.


💜Experiencing sexual problems is a sure sign that a couple is not sexually compatible.

💜 Sexual satisfaction often fluctuates over the course of a relationship.

💜Sexual desire is likely to ebb and flow (i.e., change) over the the course of a relationship.

💜 A passionate sex life is a sign that two partners are meant to be.

💜 Communicating about sexual issues can bring partners closer together.

💜 Troubles in a sexual relationship signify a poor match between partners.

💜 If sexual satisfaction declines over the course of a relationship, it suggests that a couple is not a good match.

💜 If sexual partners are meant to be together, sex will be easy and wonderful.

💜 Acknowledging each other’s differing sexual interests is important for a couple to enhance their sex life.

💜 Even satisfied couples will experience sexual challenges at times

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