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Hot Metal Sticks (Feat Dyxon)
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Today we discuss the difference between welding and soldering. We also talk about why it's easier to do someone else's chores but not your own! Also, if you inject yourself with chicken blood, do you become chicken?
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Opening & Podcast Concept
00:00:22
Speaker
And we are live. Good morning, good afternoon and good evening to everybody out there. Welcome back to That's Our Queue, where we take when when two queues love each other very much and they hold hands for nine months. You know what, this sounded better in my head when two queues bang out pops a cute little A that you can raise and feed all sorts of knowledge so it can continue making other cute little A's.
00:00:51
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If a Q and a Q get together and they make an A, and then if an A and a Q get together, does that make a Q and A a qua? Anyway, the point is that we take questions from the internet and we answer them. Usually they're from Reddit, Quora, and other similar forum-like websites. My name is Adam. Alongside me is my good buddy Danny Guarantee. Hello, Danny.
00:01:12
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Happy duty, Adam. How are you? Might I say that was the smoothest opening we've had yet. I love it. You know what? It went faster at least. How are you, Danny? I'm doing very well. How are you today?
00:01:24
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I'm spectacular. We've had a very productive day and I'm very excited about it.
Guest Introduction & Initial Advice
00:01:29
Speaker
Um, and of course we have a guest today. You've probably seen it in the episode title, which is some form of words I've yet to figure out, but it'll say with Dixon or featuring Dixon and we have our friend Dixon on the show. Uh, it's his first time. Uh, so hi Dixon, how you doing buddy? Hey, um, very nervous, but doing all right.
00:01:50
Speaker
We can do this. You guys. So we believe we can cue some or no ASIM cues. Yeah. Those cues so hard. Yeah. So Dixon is, you know, what I like to call like the best kind of supporter or the best kind of fan. And really, you know, I think the word that everybody uses for him is a mensch. He's just a mensch. He's a good guy. And he has been a supporter of our network and the shows within it. And does he endeavors that we want to try? He always has great feedback.
00:02:20
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Uh, and we just loved them so much. We're like, get in here. You son of a bitch and come hang out with us some more. Um, so here we are, you know, so, um, and I understand that sometimes imposter syndrome is a real bitch. Uh, but you know, I just want y'all to know that you belong here and that we're happy that you're here and we're going to have some fun answering some questions today. It was the first final fantasy 14 a session. Um, tricked me right into that. So, uh, are you guys ready to answer our first question?
00:02:50
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I'm ready. Let's go for it. All right. So this one is a Reddit question. It is from someone. User Ashes of Carbon, which is kind of a neat name. And they ask.
00:03:03
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How do I properly clean my apartment and not make it smell gross in general? And they go on to say, my partner is coming over for a few days or in a few days and my place has gotten kind of gross. I'll be honest, I've been more anxious and depressed lately because of how packed my schedule has been and I haven't cleaned in a few months. The sink is full of dishes. There's dog hair on everything. It probably smells. I'm working and going to school full time. After everything, I just want to sleep when I get home.
00:03:31
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So to reiterate, they want to know how do they properly clean their apartment so it doesn't smell gross? Dixon, what do you think? Well, first of all, you clean it now, break it down, break down into tiny little bites, like start with your dishes. That's one step. Get those going while those are clean or whatever, whatever. Or if you're using a dishwasher while it's running, then you move on to the next thing, vacuum a little bit.
00:03:58
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And, you know, it's just taken in smaller bites because if you just think of, oh, my gosh, everything is terrible. You're going to get lost. Your brain is just going to short out and be like, this is too big for me. I can't do this. And then nothing will happen. And then your partner is going to come over and they're going to make fun of you. And they're going to be ha ha ha ha ha. The house stinky, stinky apartment boy. I want to call you stinky apartment boy and take care of an apartment. Yeah, Danny, do you want to add to that?
00:04:25
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Yeah, actually, that was a perfect answer, Dixon, I agree 100%. Just to add on to it specifically for this person, or anybody in their scenario, absolutely break it down into smaller bits, and then just focus on the things that, you know, because the smell is the big issue here, you think, focus on things that you, you know, would make us smell, right? Dishes, old food will absolutely do that, take the trash out.
00:04:51
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Dogs, obviously, if you have dog hair, maybe get a quick vacuum in. You don't really have to worry so much about stuff clutter. You know, like I know my living space is just covered in stuff clutter, but it's stuff clutter. It's stuff, right? It's not food. It's not something that will smell right. So it's things. You just need to know what to clean first, right? Maybe get some Febreze in there, spray things down with Febreze, air out your apartment, open some windows. We'll do wonders.
00:05:21
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and just focus on the things that you know will make us smell. Once you get rid of the sources, the smell will dissipate pretty quickly. Also for longer lasting, something that'll last over time, maybe consider getting yourself an air purifying.
Cleaning Strategies & Motivation Techniques
00:05:41
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They usually cover at least an entire room, and you can keep them running even on low constantly, and they'll make the whole place smell better.
00:05:49
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You know what also works surprisingly well is a dehumidifier. We have a bunch of them in our basement. And because of human biology, you need moisture for your nose to smell things. So if you suck all the moisture out of the air, you won't smell as bad. You know, like every smell will be deadened.
00:06:06
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That's true. Well, well, wait. So a couple of episodes ago, I learned that if I'm invisible, I'm blind. And now you're telling me I need moisture in my nose to smell. Have you ever farted in the shower and it smells like death? That's because you're in a very moisture, moisture heavy environment. So your nose is working, is able to work a lot harder. The wettest are the smelliest. Yeah. Huh.
00:06:34
Speaker
Yeah, that is not true. That is interesting. SPDs are. Oh, dude, SPDs are awful. But maybe they're that maybe just your. Maybe it's a combination of your ass being wet and your nose being wet, like, I don't know. SPDs can be, you know, it doesn't mean your moisture is any your nose is any less moist. That's true. But so I had a little bit to add to that. Number one, when I first moved into where I'm at now,
00:07:00
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My roommate, my would-be roommate at the time when I met him, there was a very distinct smell. And when I moved in, my nephew actually puked on the stairs because the smell was so potent. When you live with it for so long, I forget what they call it, like an olfactory reset or something like that. Yeah. Yeah, become nose blind to what it is. But when I kind of pointed it out,
00:07:26
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Um, he was a little embarrassed and kind of in denial at first, cause like he has two dogs or one dog and a couple of cats and the, another dog that visits like every so many weeks from like a former, uh, relationship. And like, he just blamed the old dog that like leaves. I was like, yeah, but it still stinks in here. And we did some research because like he was embarrassed and I couldn't live with the smell and I wanted to bring people over. And every time I did, they complained of the smell. And it turned out that a lot of smells are harbored in like carpet.
00:07:56
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or rugs. And so like between like the flakes from your body falling off, just like the way that it absorbs any smells that drop on it or just you or your pets that lay all over the place. It's not the dog hair that usually gets you. It's just your human smell, your cat smell, your dog smell, like your carpets hold on to so much of it that after probably like a couple of weekends of us just like cycling out scrubbing and then vacuuming the floor, laying down like that.
00:08:25
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What the fuck is that? Like baking soda or whatever on the floor for like 10 minutes and then vacuuming it up, doing the stairs, doing the rugs. Significant difference just on the odor alone, like rapid difference. So I would say if you're worried about the smell at least, that is where I would begin. It's like one simple task. Get out that motherfucking vacuum, turn that bad boy on and just go to town on your floor.
00:08:48
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on your couch, if you have a fabric couch, you know, I promise you that after a couple of vacuums, like do it a couple of times, you will notice a significant difference and bring somebody over or tell your girlfriend or your boy, whatever your partner is. Like the other thing I was going to suggest, make it into a thing, like just tell them, like, you know, if they're going to be your forever partner, that's the goal, right? Like, look, I'm busy, I'm working, I'm depressed. Like I could use some help, clean the place. We're going to be spending the weekend together or whatever. Like,
00:09:18
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You know which of mine help me tackle the dishes would you mind like you know i'm just trying to get out of this funk let's do it together if they care enough about you that like they're excited to see you like absolutely yeah you tackle it like dixon and danny said it could be. Broken down in a smaller little task like a little task analysis like then you guys can pick one which ones you're gonna tackle.
00:09:39
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And then i think you'll grow closer because of it and then once you get that couch clean and that carpet clean and dishes clean you can just get nasty on each other and just fill up the whole place all over again in like a fun way.
00:09:53
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Yeah, actually, I read a life pro tip on Reddit a while back that I always liked. And it was if you ever go away on a trip or whatever for like a week. Right. And you're not home for a week, especially if you didn't clean before you left.
00:10:11
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take note of how your place smells when you get back because you will, as you are away from your place, that nose blind goes away. So what you smell when you first come home again, that's what your place smells like to everyone else.
00:10:25
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Yeah, if you're like, does something die in here or is there rotten food in my trash? If you probably. But you just haven't been aware of it until you came back. If you've ever left for a trip and you come home and you're like, smells kind of weird in here and I wonder why. That's why it actually always smells like that. And you are used to it. Yeah. It's there anything you want to add to that? Yeah, to Adam's point about the carpet and everything.
00:10:50
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It you really one of the first things I bought when I got my very first apartment because of previous owners was a carpet cleaner and it makes a huge difference after just one use. It's you can get a lot of those really cheap now and they work just beautifully.
00:11:13
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Most of them aren't complete. I mean, unless you get like an absolute complete junk one, but you know, you can spend like maybe 60, $70, which for some people can be a lot, but that's an investment that's going to keep your house clean and keep you healthier because your carpets are going to be clean. And it's, I was able to breathe so much better. Let's put it this way. The people that had owned that apartment before me were smokers and I don't smoke.
00:11:39
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So it helped get between that and washing the walls that helped clean out so much of the smell. It makes a huge difference. Yeah. Even me and my wife in our last apartment, like we like I said, we have a lot of clutter, but it's not like food or anything. But you'd be surprised even then how much happens. Like when we moved out of our last apartment, we rented a carpet cleaner and did that.
00:12:05
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And I have allergy issues and my allergy issues went away from that apartment I used to always have issues and it was us As much as it sucks to say like Once we cleaned out that place they were gone and I was like fuck that means all the dust and shit that's been bothering me It's like that's all us man. Yeah, you're just breathing in dead Danny flakes I'll be so lucky could sell that dead Danny likes
00:12:30
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Danny Dead Flakes coming this summer to theaters everywhere. But yeah, I mean, so that's, yeah, so.
00:12:40
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Make it into little, little tinier tasks. Like you don't have to do it all at once or you don't have to, you know, break it down by a couple hours at a time. Give yourself breaks. You got to reinforce yourself when you do a good job. You did the dishes, plan your computer for an hour, you know, or get on tech talk, whatever the fuck it is. It makes you feel good. You know, work yourself for doing some trick. I always was taught one room each weekend. That's it.
00:13:03
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Right. But in this case, because one room, once you have it cleaned, right? Of course. Yeah. Yeah. Keep it clean, but keep it manageable. So yeah. And that's when you just kind of touch up one room.
00:13:15
Speaker
That's so important. Yeah, because my roommate and I still like every weekend, every Saturday or Sunday, depending on our work schedules, the same thing. We clean the same rooms. We have the same tasks that we allocated to each other. Like I'll hit all the vacuuming and on the stairs and I'll do the furniture. And usually I have my own dishes clean. So like the sink is almost never full because I wash my dishes when I'm done with them. But he'll do the bathrooms. He does the basement.
00:13:42
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Uh, and then we clean off the dog mats that they sleep on every fucking weekend. And it's like, man, it's like everybody who comes over, not nobody ever comments on the smell. Like everybody's always so delighted to come and hang. Um, but yeah, since you only have a couple of days though, either just tackling every, every couple hours, you got to build reinforcement for yourself. You have to make yourself feel like what you're doing is worth it. Uh, you will, you will train your brain to re to feel rewarded when you do work. Um,
00:14:09
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And, uh, yeah. And if nothing else, just tell your partner, you know, like I said, like if they trust you, if they love you, if you're looking to build a long-term thing with them, just be honest with them and say, Hey, look, I'm just having a really hard time. Do you mind helping me out? Like, and then I'll take you out to your favorite restaurant or something, you know, like whatever it is to make you both feel like you grew together, you did that thing together. And now you're like, Hey, I got a clean ass apartment. And you know, now I'm going to, you know,
00:14:34
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You know, get laid all throughout it because it's so clean. Clean your apartment, get laid, guys. That's just how you do it. Smelling sex. I'd rather. Make sure that you don't just have them
Body Doubling for Productivity
00:14:48
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do it. That that's the big no. If you're going. Yeah, that's true. And say, please help me. They're there to help not do it all. Do it for you. Right. Yep.
00:14:57
Speaker
Yep. Get off your phone. If they're doing dishes, you better be vacuuming that motherfucking floor. They should be doing the quote unquote easier jobs, you know? Yeah. Do not give them a mountain of dishes that go to the ceiling so you don't have to do it. Like if it's that high, you both should be doing it. Or like behind the toilet, any of the really gross shit that's on you. Yeah, definitely, definitely. Give them like the vacuuming, you know, something that's fairly easy to do, but is very helpful.
00:15:24
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or pull the trash bags out, you know, something like. Yeah. Yeah. And then get laid and make sure that you don't use any like high industrial cleaners on the counter, like, you know, soap and water so that way no one gets any burns if like bare cheeks touch the countertops or anything. Don't do it on. Don't do it over the carpet because it will just trap all of that. And it'll just trap this. Yeah.
00:15:47
Speaker
Your ass juice will go right into the carpet and you'll have to you'll be right back here in like two weeks. You have white carpet. Now you got a skid mark, maybe. This is really why you need that carpet cleaner. I'm telling you why you need the carpet cleaner. Deep like steam activated ones. I'm telling you. All right, boys, I think we've adequately answered that question. Oh, absolutely. We destroyed that question. OK.
00:16:13
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So this one is actually kind of related, which is why I put them together. Um, so this one is from someone called appropriate note 776. Uh, and they ask, why can I do someone else's chores, but I can't do my own. Um, and they go on to say, I literally can't do my own dishes without forcing it, but I can help someone else with their dishes. I can't focus on my classes, but I can help tutor someone else. Is there any explanation for why that would be on the same way?
00:16:44
Speaker
What do you, what do you, what do you think about that? Why is that for you, Danny? Because I get a lot of satisfaction from helping people. It's something I love doing and I had some, I've definitely noticed about myself. If somebody asks me to help them do something, I have no problem helping you because I feel good knowing that I'm helping someone else. But when it comes to me.
00:17:07
Speaker
I don't like, I don't get that gratification to myself. Right. And I know I should, so I should look at it as I'm helping me. Uh, but I just don't, you know, and it makes it so much harder to do because I know that I'm not quote unquote helping anyone, even though I am. Um, but that's it for me. Yeah.
00:17:29
Speaker
Mm. Dixon, do you feel similarly or? I do. It just it feels like it's it's just more rewarding to I want to help other people. And it's a lot like Danny, it's like, yeah, oh, you need help. I am absolutely going to be there. I'm going to help you. We'll get this all taken care of. We'll get it cleaned up and we're all going to have that, you know, endorphin rush. We're all going to feel good about it afterwards.
00:17:54
Speaker
But doing it for myself is much more difficult. It just, it's a trick of the mind or something. And it's like, I'm not doing it for anyone else. It doesn't really need to be done right now. Do I really care? Exactly.
00:18:11
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Hmm, interesting. Yeah, I mean, I have I have felt something similar, but like not with doing chores, but like I used to say that if I had a 100 percent identical problem to somebody else, like just personally, situationally, whatever, I feel like I could give them advice. I feel like I could walk them through the steps on how to take care of it, but then sit in my own situation. Like, what the fuck do I do? Yeah, I'm exactly as you. I'm as well.
00:18:40
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Yeah, it's very weird. So like, how do you think we can get past that? Whenever I have that moment, I do try. I literally just pretend I'm talking to somebody else and be like, OK, you know, somebody else is in this situation. What would I say? I would say, you know, do this, that and the other thing. And then I will try and do that.
00:19:02
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Yeah, I definitely think that it is a, you know, like you guys said, it is like, oh, I like to just help other people. So like Dixon, how can we like reverse engineer that to make it so that we're helping ourselves, which is thus helping other people? Like, do you have any ideas on how you can this person and we can like work past that? Shock callers.
00:19:25
Speaker
You see, you put the shock collar on yourself and every time you don't know, you shock yourself and then you're just good to go because you're going to do it because you don't want to have to shock yourself. So you're doing it through a fear of punishment. I like it. You know, or like maybe like maybe you put the shock collar like, you know, in your pants. Right. Then, you know, then you're really motivated. Don't do that to yourself.
00:19:52
Speaker
Oh, so you can shock your own neck, but you can't shock your own wang. I mean, come on. I mean, look, whatever you're into, you're into. I'm not going to king shame. That's fair. Yeah. Yeah. Um, so like, what if you took it as like, um, I don't know, Danny, do you think that we could like, what if we had somebody come over that said that they needed help doing our own chores and then we help them do our chores?
00:20:19
Speaker
Honestly, that would probably work. Um, and actually that has before. Um, so one of the big things for me is I, I'm complicated, I guess, or I'm divided, I guess, because personally I don't mind clutter. I really don't care. Um,
00:20:46
Speaker
You know, as long as I can get from A to B and it's not a complete pigsty, I really don't mind it, but I'm very self-conscious of it when people come over. So.
00:20:59
Speaker
You know, there's like that dichotomy there. And whenever I'm going to have company, the anxiety always kicks in. And then my poor wife has to deal with me being like, we have to clean everything. And I start getting like the bug eyed and I start running all over the house. Clean all the things. Yeah, just cleaning like completely out of order. You know, like I'll go clean the toilet and then suddenly I'll run into another room and start vacuuming and then I'll run to another room.
00:21:28
Speaker
But I think it would help to have somebody come over. Like my parents have come over before and they were like, you know, it's bothering me that this room is a little messy. Would you mind if we tidied up? And it does help. Like I'm like, yeah, all right, let's do it. You know, but I think the big trick would be I have to see.
00:21:47
Speaker
I have to kind of take my myself and view me as someone else. Right. I need to see myself. I'm doing this for me. I'm doing this to help me. And I need to see that the same way I see helping someone else. Like future me is going to be the person that likes this. Yeah. Dixon, Danny, have you guys ever heard of body doubling? No, not in that sense, that cloning. So so.
00:22:16
Speaker
If I may, this might be quite an explanation, but I wanted, so I always forget what this is called. I just had to Google it again to remember the name because I used to call it something else.
00:22:25
Speaker
But wait, you know what, whatever you're into again, we're knocking. Yeah. So, oh, yeah. Oh, trust me. If I had a clone of myself, there's a chance that I would never try some shit. Yeah. So, um, but no, so body doubling is a phenomenon that there hasn't been a shit ton of study on yet, but like essentially what it is. And I've been, I've experienced this myself. I won't go into it because it's a whole other tangent, but like the idea is that having somebody there.
00:22:55
Speaker
makes you more productive, even if they don't say a word to you, even if they're doing their own thing, having somebody neutral in the space that you need to get work done in has, there's a lot of credence across like, again, there's not like scientific proof yet, but there have been like studies of like having, they call it a body double, even though it's not like another person of you, just another person there that you're more productive when you have somebody there because
00:23:24
Speaker
It provides like a focus for your mind to be like, okay, someone's here. I need to get stuff done now. Or it adds motivation because there's a supportive presence, but like, you got this. So like the guy who wanted to.
00:23:37
Speaker
clean their apartment for their girlfriend or whatever. I think if they just came over and sat in the apartment, you would feel motivated to clean that shit now because they're there. If that's why they're like, I'm going to come here and hold you accountable or I'm going to come here and be a neutral presence. Body doubling is a phenomenon where having a neutral person there makes you more motivated to get shit done.
00:23:58
Speaker
I worry about something like that, though, because to me, it seems like, yes, it may be the supportive part, but in the back of your mind, is it because it's supportive or is it because it's shameful? Like, are you you feel ashamed? So you're like, OK, there's another person I need to get this clean.
00:24:14
Speaker
Right. I mean, there could be a shame element there, but there is actually like there's a whole checklist like for people who really want to dive into this of like what to look for in somebody who could be a body double. That way, like it isn't a punisher for you. So like.
00:24:30
Speaker
Usually you want to find somebody who is quiet and they can just kind of do their own thing. Like they can like, I don't know, like if they're a knitter or if they like to read, like they're just, they're doing something separate from you. They're just in the space. Like they're not there to watch what you're doing. They're there to just be there. Like they don't have input. They don't talk to you. Like they're not there to tell you what to do. And it's like, or to give you advice or literally just there. Um,
00:24:59
Speaker
Like, and that's the thing is you don't want somebody who's giving you outside advice. You don't want somebody who's giving you any input. They're just there to be there. I want to draw attention to you saying it has to be like a neutral person, like a neutral party. That is big. Like if I had a friend over and yeah, even if they were just doing their own thing, I would feel compelled to kind of tidy up a little bit. Uh, but my wife does not count towards that at all.
00:25:26
Speaker
You know, no, it shouldn't be a wife like wallowing in filth with her. So. Yeah. And it's. And it'd be fair. Like when I say neutral party, it doesn't have to be like a stranger, but maybe somebody who, you know, like as a friend who is just like, I'm going to be over here just like fucking, you know, world of Warcraft in while you do your thing. And then when you're done, we can hang out. It has to be somebody you're not 100 percent comfortable living around. Exactly. Exactly. Because if you are, it no longer provides that benefit.
00:25:56
Speaker
Yeah, you are. Sorry. Go ahead. No, go ahead. Go ahead. Dixon. Go ahead. All right. Because if yeah, if you're 100 percent comfortable living with them and you've already been living with them, then they've contributed to the issue too already. So it's true. Like they're used to it. Like, you know, like I, for one, don't do well with clutter. I you know, my mother was a hoarder. I have a hard time being in a room filled with shit that I know doesn't need to be in this fucking room.
00:26:21
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Like, I have a hard time knowing that, like, oh, you just carved a path amongst your junk to walk through from room to room. Like, that's anxiety for me. I'm just like, oh my God, like, I will bitch about it openly and then feel bad about it later. You are no longer allowed in my house. You know? But to be fair, when I was there the first time, I mean, it was pretty well open, aside from just the party stuff we had prepared for the, you know, for the housewarming party.
00:26:46
Speaker
But I probably could not live in your house, Danny. I don't blame you. It's not for everyone. Yeah. But you have a nice open house. You have a lot of space. And that's the thing is open space yearns to be filled with stuff. I have a couple little shelves in my room that have things on it that I need to deal with. But outside of that, the floor is open. There's tons of open space. Just that particular counter needs to be cleaned eventually. But anyway, so my point is that it does work.
00:27:15
Speaker
And I'll share a quick story where many, many years ago when I first started playing Dungeons and Dragons, I'd have six to seven people come over every other weekend and we would play for seven hours. Never again would I do that kind of shit unless it's for charity. But I used to plan these verily elaborate things. And one weekend, two hours before all the people were coming over, I had nothing planned. I just could not. I had nothing. I was just so anxious.
00:27:41
Speaker
And my friend Jess had stopped over just to say hi. She was on her way back home. We lived near each other. Oh, hey, what's up? She said, hey, can I run a few things by you? You know, she didn't play D&D. She's like, yeah, sure. So she sat at the table and I didn't know I was doing body doubling at the time, but.
00:27:58
Speaker
Within like 45 minutes, I had a bunch of stuff on my dry erase board written about like what these guys were going to do, the name of the character. And she said absolutely nothing. And I felt so guilty, but I was like, Jess, you're such a big help. And she's like, I didn't do anything. And I couldn't at the time come up with why that was so motivating. But I was like, if Jess had not stopped over, I would not have gotten anything done that day. I just could not focus. But the moment she sat there quietly and said nothing to me for like a half hour, I had everything planned.
00:28:28
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And she wasn't even looking at me. She was just looking at what I was doing. I'll never forget how rewarding that was to be like having someone there to.
00:28:38
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just know that like, oh, now I got to get shit done because there's someone here like who's excited about what I'm doing. Like it was I couldn't believe how much I got done. It was incredible. So I can at least say for me in that moment and in other moments that like I won't elaborate further into, but they're all similar. We're like just knowing someone is there to be a support system for me made me feel so motivated. That's awesome. That's weird, but awesome like that. Yeah, would highly recommend would highly, highly recommend.
00:29:08
Speaker
Now I do have a question for you guys. Maybe this is my own cue for you. Why is it? Because I honestly have no idea. When I'm home, even at my desk, my workspace, it's fairly clean. But I have stuff everywhere. But when I'm at work in an office setting,
00:29:32
Speaker
It's immaculate. Every morning I show up, I have everything in the exact same spot. I have like spots for everything and I clean it constantly. There's zero clutter. I don't even put like memorabilia up all that much to the point where people get me things specifically to put in my desk. Um, but when I'm home, it's just the opposite. Why do you think that is Dixon? Oh, that's professionalism. That it's just.
00:30:01
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You're like, I'm at work. I need to be professional and a professional will have a clean desk and organized desk so they can do their work. And then at home, you're like, okay, I don't have to be professional. I am home. I mean, I'm much the same way, honestly. I mean, my welding area is much more organized than my compatriots, but, you know, I come here and I sit here in front of my computer at home and I'm looking at my desk. I'm like, I really should organize my desk again.
00:30:30
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. But you don't think that it's a professionalism thing being there. Like I know people are seeing my work desk. Nobody's going to see my desk at home. Maybe that's something to do with that.
00:30:42
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Yeah, I do think that Danny, I do think that there is like, subconsciously, there's probably like this maybe contrived expectation that you think that there is where like, I am at work. If my boss comes by or if like Janet from accounting swings by, I don't want him to think, Oh wow, Danny's like the pig of the group and look at his desk. Like, like there's a different kind of.
00:31:06
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neutrality there. Well, I want to call it neutrality. Exactly. If you have like negative thoughts, it could be associated with it. But like, it's a different realm. This is not the realm that you reside in. So like, if you go to if you go home, there's nobody there that's going to call you on that shit. Like you just said yourself your wife and Dixon had like, oh, they're probably contributing to the clutter to the madness.
00:31:30
Speaker
Right. So it's harder to hold yourself accountable for that because no one else is also going to do it. They live in it with you. You know, like that's your, that's your sloth space. That's where you just become sloth. You know, you do it, you know, it actually kind of goes back to the earlier point of helping clean someone else's place. It's like, this is not mine. This is the companies I should be helping them by keeping it clean. So it could be a little bit of that.
00:31:57
Speaker
I mean, that's a very good point. If it's any of this, like professionalism or, you know, doing it because it's not mine, it's the company's. If there is any of that, it is purely subconscious. Sure. But I mean, like, but think about just culturally, like when you step into like the first time you went to your friend's house, you know, and like if they had a nicer home than you or maybe you were afraid to touch the fridge or knocked out a like I remember I'd go home
00:32:27
Speaker
go to someone's house and they had like paintings on the walls or like nice pictures of the family. And I'm like, fuck, I hope I don't like bump against those or knock them over. I'm afraid to touch their fridge because it looks clean. You know, like, like, like, you know, you go there and like, even if you don't actively think about those things, there is a, you know, like,
00:32:45
Speaker
When you first step into someone's home, you think, are they take your shoes off at the door kind of family? Or do I walk around with my shoes on kind of family? There are just cultural things that are ingrained in your head, depending on where you're from, that you won't think about. But maybe you're not actively thinking, oh, this isn't my space. But you might also be not actively thinking, oh, Janet from accounting might think I'm a fucking slob if she comes over here. Because work Danny is probably different than house Danny to some degree.
00:33:15
Speaker
Oh, yeah, absolutely. You know, so you're playing a different version of yourself when you go to work or when you go to someone else's house for a little while, at least until you get comfortable. But then when they say, yeah, man, take your shoes off and take off your underwear. We're no underwear house here. You're like, oh, hell yeah. Whoop. You know, no. Be like lack of. For me, at least like boredom. Shame. Other things to do, I start straightening up because I have to stay at my desk, you know, when I'm home.
00:33:45
Speaker
Don't tell anybody, but when I'm home and there's a break in the work, I go watch TV. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Just imagine. You know, like and sometimes sometimes you don't think about. Like you, it's much like the smell thing, like you start to kind of develop goggles that like don't let you see or maybe you see it, but you don't like, you know,
00:34:10
Speaker
You don't think of it the same way as someone else who is fresh to the scene might think like, oh, damn, like this room is filled with clutter and there's literally a pathway car. I'm not saying your room specifically, but like if I go into someone's home and there's just a pathway carved between where I walk to the bathroom, like I'm like, oh my God, like.
00:34:29
Speaker
But some people just don't see it. My best friend Justin, when he first moved in with his lady, and I'm sorry if you hear this, Casey, but when he first talked about when she would come home, the way that she would just unwind is she had the same path that she would walk. I don't know exactly how he described it.
00:34:49
Speaker
She would walk into the room, jacket falls to the floor. As she walked towards the living room, pants come off, jogging pants go on. She would just have a routine and you could just follow the path of clutter to where she would walk room to room because that's where she would drop different articles of clothing as she was changing into other clothes.
00:35:09
Speaker
and he and after a while he's like he would just like I can't live like this but like you just get like oh that's just what she does she'd come home and you just see different piles of clothes and he would know what needed to be cleaned in the laundry later um
00:35:21
Speaker
But then like he worked with her over time to be like, Hey, this makes me uncomfortable. Could maybe when you take off your jacket, you hang it up versus drop it on the floor. Like simple little things, but she never even thought anything of it. That's just what she did. You know, it's not necessarily a bad thing, but if you are going to coexist with other people, then, you know, it's good to be aware because like, yeah, we have a lot of clutter, but it's, it's not just like junk, right? It's things we use. And then I go to somebody else's house who has,
00:35:50
Speaker
uh who's much neater than i am or much cleaner and i'm like where's all your shit like yeah where's your shit all of this stuff where are you keeping it all that's in a way that i don't understand like yeah like i sometimes don't even realize like
00:36:07
Speaker
Like things that I know I'm going to use on a very very very regular basis I like to keep like with an eye shot if I walk into the room like the kitchen I'm gonna hit that air fryer probably nine times today so but it's tucked away it's tucked in the it's tucked in the corner of the of the countertop so like it's I know it's out of the way but like I
00:36:28
Speaker
My general rule is for countertop space is there has to be at least like my forearms length like from the edge of the counter inward like that just needs to be open so that way like if I do need it for like preparing a plate or if I need it for like whatever else like I have it versus like oh there's still space to put more shit you know like like yeah but it is hard I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with it but if you
00:36:53
Speaker
it is hard to come to grips with that and to figure out what the fuck do I do with all the stuff I have. Yeah, it's it's awful. Like, yeah, I know where it's supposed to go. Yep, yep, it is hard. But
00:37:08
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But so the original question was, why can't I do it on my own? Because you're just used to it, man. And it's just easier to help other people with it. Try body doubling, it could help. I can speak for at least myself, my own experience. It helped me out a ton. It still does. Like,
00:37:26
Speaker
Sometimes I just have my roommate come and sit on my bed just so I clean off my shelves. He's just in there shooting the shit with me and while we're shooting the shit, I'm cleaning my shelf and I'm not even thinking about it as a chore anymore. I'm just doing it because it gives my hand something to do while we're talking.
00:37:42
Speaker
You know, so sometimes it just helps to have somebody who's going to be supportive and they're not going to call you out on your bullshit. They're just there to be like, hey, I'm just here. If you need me, I'm here. If not, I'll be here until you're done. You know, like it just helps to have that, you know, but don't don't shame yourself for it because it is a very common challenge that we all have. So, yeah, absolutely. There we go. Yes. Are you ready for the Dixon segment?
00:38:07
Speaker
Oh, boy. Yeah. Teach me about we all need more Dixon, your life show.
Insights on Welding
00:38:14
Speaker
So Dixon. So just to kind of recap for the audience, because this is a standalone and people can listen to the show in any order that they want. So typically at this segment, you know, when we have a guest, we like to ask them to share a little something about themselves, something they might be passionate about.
00:38:31
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Something that they just know a quick fact about it. So we did a brief discussion before the episode So Dixon, I believe that do you still want to share something about welding with us? Yes, you're a welder, right? I am a production welder. Yes That basically means I weld really really thin stuff over and over and over again but my company is
00:38:55
Speaker
Um, the company that I work for when I'm welding my specific department, we make gauges. So just little things that, you know, you wouldn't even think about. You see them on a fire extinguisher or whatever to show pressure during 2020, we were open the entire time. We were welding the entire time.
00:39:20
Speaker
But the important part about this is the fact that our company and my department specifically makes a lot of parts for Samsung. So all of you people that managed to get your phones and everything in 2020 and 2021, you're welcome. Cause we stayed open making the parts that they needed to measure the gas so they could make their little circuit board so they can make your phone. You are welcome. That's neat. Well, thank you for your service, Dan.
00:39:48
Speaker
I don't even know if I still understand what welding is because I thought welding was soldering because it's welding. What what is the what is welding? Because soldering is where like you take you take you take metal and then you use a stick of metal and you use that stick of metal and heat it to make others metal stick to metal. Right. Can I try and then Dixon tell me if I'm right. OK. Sure. Go for it. I believe. Yeah, soldering is when you take like 10 or something like
00:40:18
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Aluminum or something that melts easy and you use that to kind of Band-aid metal whereas welding I think is actually melding the two pieces together That's that pretty close It is the best way to describe it is that soldering is you're just kind of melting and and filling up space with with external metal and
00:40:46
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But like you said, with actual welding, you are in fact fusing the two pieces. Or as we like to say it, we are burning metal with electricity until it sticks together.
00:40:57
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What is the benefit of one over the other? How does welding work? You're not using other metal to help glue the metals together. Well, you do actually use extra metal in pretty much every welding process. The main difference is what they're used for. Soldering is typically used for
00:41:17
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Some people use it to stick things together, but it's, at least in our industry, it's much more frequently used for electronic components so that electricity will flow across, like to complete a circuit. For soldering or welding? For soldering. Soldering, okay. Welding is, you need these things to stick together and never come apart. They are going to become one piece forever and that's it. That's
00:41:42
Speaker
Is it usually on a more macro scale, like something bigger or no, you said with phones, so I guess that's not the case. Well, okay. That's the thing. It's not with the phones. We're not actually welding the phones. We've welded pressure gauges that they use to measure the gases that actually run the machines to, uh, which honestly they're doing soldering. So we make the part that allows them to solder all the pieces onto their circuit boards.
00:42:07
Speaker
But in order to do that, we are melding the pieces, all the pieces of that gauge together through welding. So it, they are very similar processes, but they're simply used for different things. That's awesome. My welding teacher would be so mad at me for this. No, I mean, this is good. You have to like dumb it down for us, right? You have to explain like I'm five.
00:42:32
Speaker
So do I still put a stick of metal on a heating gun for soldering or for welding or is that just for soldering? Do you use hot metal sticks for both? Yes, actually. It depends on your process. The process that I do is called TIG welding and sort of similar to TIG welding. Well, actually, it's not TIG anymore. They renamed it to GTAW. That is gas tungsten arc welding.
00:43:02
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Oh, um, yeah, it used to just be called, what is it? Tungsten inert gas. That's where TIG came from. But yeah, they had to get all fancy and rename everything a few years back. But, uh, basically I have a torch in one hand, which is the Tungsten, which is the, basically the harder metal that's got a little bit of thorium in it.
00:43:28
Speaker
Uh, so it's a little bit radioactive that allows the electricity to come through into the metal. And then you feed basically as you're melting that metal, you don't want to burn it all the way. So you have to feed in extra metal. Maybe that's where it really comes to the difference because in soldering, you're literally just adding extra metal. Whereas with welding, you're removing some and you have to add it back in at the same time.
00:43:51
Speaker
Oh, interesting. So you're you're creating a space to put more in your. So when I. Yeah, I mean, when I said that you are literally burning metal and with electricity until it sticks together, that's not an exaggeration. That's actually what's happening. You are burning away the metal and it's you're having to add more in order to fill in that space. Gotcha. OK, that makes a little bit more sense. OK. Very informative. We got there eventually.
00:44:16
Speaker
OK, I mean, you know what? Like, if you're not in the if you're not in the business, I mean, like, I mean, in the in the in the now, like, I mean, that was the only thing you do is like little fact segment. That was perfect. Yeah, that that that that that. Hey, you did it, though. You did it. That was easy. We got through it. We did it. We did it. Dixon informing us how to well decide.
00:44:36
Speaker
I'm going to go and buy myself a set and start welding right now. Yeah. Please go to your local technical college to learn how to do that first. So you don't kill yourself. They make like babies first babies first welding or whatever. Like there's got to be something right. Welding for Donald's book. Welding for Donald's. Yeah.
00:44:52
Speaker
Is that a thing? I wonder. It's got it's got to be, of course. Everything else has one. Everything has it for dummies. Danny, speaking of dummies, let's learn a new word of the day. Adam, I picked this one special for you. Yeah. All right. All right. Let's do it. What is it? The word is buttonhole.
00:45:18
Speaker
Now, I think I might know what this means because of an episode of New Girl, but I'm interested to hear what the actual definition is. Is this felt like a sound? B-U-T-T-O-N-H-O-L? That's it. E. H-O-L-E. H-O-L-E, sorry. My brain said E, but my mouth didn't. Yep, buttonhole. So what do you think it means? So if I recall, I was watching an episode of New Girl where they were like,
00:45:44
Speaker
voting whether someone new could move into their loft. And I remember hearing Jess, the main character played by Zooey Deschanel, saying like, oh, prepare to be buttonholed. And she was trying to swing their votes to what she and Nick wanted. So my brain is thinking that buttonhole means to convince somebody to vote for something that you want. Okay, that is incorrect. What's that mean?
00:46:11
Speaker
It basically just means to be Adam. It means it is a verb.
Handling Social Interactions & Myths
00:46:19
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So yes, buttonhole somebody to abruptly detain somebody with conversation.
00:46:25
Speaker
That's what that is being an Adam. Yes. I don't know how to feel about this. What do you mean? Well, like, uh, let's say, uh, for instance, right. We were me and you, let's just say we're at a mall, right? And we were in the store and, um,
00:46:46
Speaker
I don't know, there was this woman there and you walked up to her and you started asking her about her life and you just said hello. And the two of you are now locked into that conversation and say, maybe you learned that she painted murals nearby or something. You buttonholed her, you held her in place by having that conversation with her.
00:47:10
Speaker
That's just having a conversation. I don't understand. That's that's what it is. But you stopped her from what she was already doing. Yeah, it's it's to be fair.
00:47:21
Speaker
this actually did happen and the woman was fine talking to him. So it technically was not button holding button holding is specifically that time when I want I don't want to be here talking to you. But because you're talking to me, I can't go where I want to go. So it's like it's like those it's like how car salesman work or like when you see those kiosks at the mall and like the definite like the little example sentences are
00:47:50
Speaker
about an enthusiastic salesperson who buttonholed me when I walked into the store because he came up to me and helped me by conversation. Gotcha. So like they are like those those phone or cable providers when like you're at a shopping center and like they just stop you in the middle of buying beef and they're like, can I tell you about cable? Yeah, you know, and I'm like, man, your job must be even though you want to.
00:48:13
Speaker
Right now, I know to be fair. Go ahead, Dixon. So it's like an actual buttonhole. I mean, if you think about it, the button wants to come out of the hole, but the button hole is holding the button in place with conversation.
00:48:26
Speaker
So to be fair, I have probably done that, but not knowing I was doing it. Like, I don't know if button holding is like an intention. Like, you know, that you're about to do that to get something from them. Or if it's a feeling from the other side, we're like, you feel button hold, even if the intention isn't a button. It feels to me based on what I'm looking at here, it is from the
00:48:51
Speaker
the stuck parties perspective, right? So if we were walking and you ran, you know, just walked up to me and started a conversation, but I really wanted to go, you know, continue my shopping, even if you were doing it with the best of intentions. And even if I enjoyed the conversation, you button hold me. You stopped me from doing what I was doing with a conversation and you detained me with pleasantries.
00:49:19
Speaker
Boy, now I'm wondering how Jess was using that sentence because she's like, prepare to be buttonholed unless she's like you might have been saying this person will talk your ear off and you'll never be able to leave. Or maybe she's like, I'm going to trap you in this conversation until you acquiesce to what I want. Yeah. You know, maybe maybe that's what she was using it as, like, I know what I'm going to do and I'm going to get you until you vote the way I want you to vote. It's also entirely possible she was just using the wrong word and she meant filibuster instead.
00:49:45
Speaker
I mean, it's very possible, like a lot of people use words like like ironic incorrectly. So it's possible they just use the word wrong. How ironic. Indubitably. The song ironic is my favorite song ever, just based on what's going on around that song. It's not like rain on your wedding day at all. No, it's like it's like breaking up on your wedding day instead of getting married. That's ironic. But like the the the surrounding of that song and how that song is all about things that are not ironic.
00:50:16
Speaker
They're just ironic. Right. Well, it's a song about irony. That's not about irony. So that's ironic. And then people that got upset at her for doing that is also being ironic. Yeah. Bo Burnham has a much better song about irony. Bo Burnham song about irony is way better. But yes. So yes. So we learned buttonhole buttonhole is to
00:50:42
Speaker
Detain somebody with conversation. Be me, but not knowing that you're doing that. Be Adam without knowing that you're being Adam. It's what an asshole would say you're doing. An asshole would say that I'm doing. Somebody that doesn't like extroverts would be like, oh, yeah, Adam guy, he buttonholes people, you know, he just he'll walk up to you and then you can't get away.
00:51:06
Speaker
You know, and you can just say a good way. You know what? I'll give you all a fail safe to use in case I'm doing that. Just put your hand on that person's shoulder and be like, that's great. But I got to go and then turn around and walk away. This happens to me at work a lot. Like if I'm going to the bathroom or something and somebody sees me and they're like, oh, how are you doing? How have you been? You know, oh, yeah, I know. Work here and that and all this stuff. And I'm like, no, I just wanted to go to the bathroom. I said hi to you because it's a nice thing to do.
00:51:35
Speaker
That's when you look straight in the eye and you say, I have to poop and you walk around them. I am about to poop, whether you can be like, you know what? You can just say, you know what? Nature's calling. Let's pick this back up when I get done. And then most people like.
00:51:49
Speaker
Most people are pretty easy to, to dip from a conversation because they, a lot of people that I've experienced when that, when that happens and I've done it, I've been trapped in it. I, you know, it happens. You could literally, if you say, Hey, can we pick this back up? I gotta get to the bathroom. Can you pick this up? I gotta get scooting real quick. Most people are very quick to be like,
00:52:06
Speaker
Because on their end, they're like, oh my God, I've done the thing and now I have to keep this conversation going. Like they're anxious, too. And so the moment you say, hey, here's a rip chord. Do you want to pull it? They're like, oh, thank God. Yes. You know, I work with a bunch of like older women.
00:52:22
Speaker
So when you get button hold, you get button hold hard. Yeah. But if you just say, hey, can we pick this up or to be continued is what I like to use a lot to be continued. I got to get scooted for a second. Like, oh, yeah, let's pick it up later. And then most people are like fine because they don't want to face what feels like confrontation. So they'll just be like, yep, you know what? I'm too awkward. You're right. Let's do this later. I forget. I think I went to go to Texas one time and. My friend down there.
00:52:52
Speaker
who I was visiting was like, all right, just warning you. Do not ask. Like, you know how here you'll say what's up as just like a greeting like as you walk by, it doesn't mean anything. Just go, hey, what's up? They're like, don't do that here because the culture here is you're asking me what's up. I will tell you what's up. So, you know, I know in New Jersey that just kind of means hi. But here it means what's up. So.
00:53:20
Speaker
unless you actually want to hear how somebody's day is doing, don't ask them what's up. Yeah. It's like, OK, good to know. Oh, I'll tell you what's up. Yeah. They're like, oh, they will tell you their life story. They will buttonhole you. Mm hmm. Just say hello. You want to add anything more to that? And just you asked for it. Yeah. Thank you. You got anything more to add on the buttonhole situation? I think I'm good. All right. So.
00:53:49
Speaker
Let's actually follow that up. I have another question. I must have been in a mood when I made this group of questions, because just for the people at home, I made probably 25 episodes worth of groupings of questions. And so I scroll through and pick the ones I think might be fun to do based on who's on the show. And I must have been in a mood when I made this grouping, because I have another one that says someone named Colin Regals.
00:54:18
Speaker
This was a Quora question, I believe. And they said, if someone comes up to you and says, Hey, do you remember me? And you genuinely don't remember them? Is it better to lie to them or play along or lie to them and play along or tell the truth and possibly disappoint them? Have you been in that situation before Dixon? I have. That's always a rough one. It's like,
00:54:43
Speaker
I'm sorry, I don't. I try to be more honest with you. But you know, honestly, I, I wish I could be someone that could actually say like, I don't but I am glad that I get to meet you again. What's your name? That's how you like should respond to it in my mind. But when it comes to actually you freeze up and you're like, um,
00:55:05
Speaker
Bob, you just like you coast to the conversation trying to look for context clues, like, oh, fucking. Oh, yeah. Hey, man, I remember you. Yeah. And I think we did that one time. Yeah. Yeah. So like, do you do you tell them or do you just like awkwardly shift through? Like, what do you have a plan of escape for that, Dixon? Like, what do you do?
00:55:30
Speaker
No, like I said, I generally try to be truthful. I don't. So you just straight up just say no, I don't remember you. Yeah, it's it's uncomfortable, but it's like rip that band-aid off. Although there have been times, let's be honest, when I've been like, oh, yeah. Hey, how you been? Uh-huh. Yeah, that thing we totally did that one time. I absolutely remember everything about that. Thirty years ago, you said no, not quite that bad.
00:56:00
Speaker
Uh, do you remember me? I haven't seen you in like 500 years unrelated, but I just read underneath this person's username and usually like on Quora, it'll say like.
00:56:12
Speaker
I promise we'll get back to the question, but my brain has to say this thing, like underneath their name, usually we'll have like a brief description about them. And it says admitted as a lawyer in five countries. And I don't know what that means admitted as a lawyer. I was admitted as a lawyer. I don't know if I'm actually a lawyer, but that's how I was admitted in five countries. I was made a lawyer against my will.
00:56:35
Speaker
Excuse me, I'm a lawyer from America. I deserve to be here. Thank you very much. Anyway, moving on. So what about like if you like in this case, the person's asking if the stranger that shouldn't be a stranger says, Hey, do you remember me? I think that's a much easier in because they're asking because like I don't because they know
00:56:57
Speaker
You haven't seen them for a while or it was a brief interaction. So they're testing like, hey, do you remember me? I think that's so much easier. But if you're in a situation where someone's like, oh, hey, Dixon, what's up, man? And they don't ask you if you remember them. They just talk to you as if you should. Do you find that that's easier or that's harder? That would absolutely be easier.
00:57:19
Speaker
Cause yeah, if they're just come up and it's like, Hey man, what's up? I'm like, Oh, Hey, yeah. Then you absolutely get the, Oh yes, I have no idea who you are, but we're going to go through this generic conversation until I pick up enough clues to figure out who you are. And then you get the salesman that will do that on purpose.
00:57:36
Speaker
this has been done to me before. He's like, Oh, man, hey, I haven't seen you in forever. I'm like, I, my brain is like, I have no idea who you are. And I had no idea who this person was because I had never met them before. They were trying to sell me like a cleaning product. It was
00:57:54
Speaker
Wow. In person. Nice. Yes. Real nice. Yeah. The X sign, I can tell you, as someone who is not afraid to make things awkward, just like if I recognize that something like snake oily is happening or something that could be conceived as, you know, contrived like.
00:58:10
Speaker
I will put up a big ass X like right in front of me with my arms. I'll make an X symbol. I was like, let's just stop, stop, stop, stop. And I will repeat that word until the person stops talking. Like because like I feel uncomfortable and I am 35 fucking years old and I have lived long enough in discomfort that I am drawing a line here. I will put my arms up like stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop. Hold on a second. Let me get my taser.
00:58:34
Speaker
And then right when the conversation stops, I'm like, let's just back up like about eight sentences. Cause like, I don't know if I know where you're coming from here. Like, and I don't want to be lost in the conversation. So I'll try to come at it from a nice thing, but I'm just like, I can't let you go any further because I am not sure if I even know where I am right now. Like I just said hello. And now you're talking to me about a vacuum. Can we go about two steps back so I can figure out where the fuck you're coming from? Cause I don't know who you are. Um,
00:59:02
Speaker
But that's neither here nor there. But I am totally fine if I feel predatory action is happening. Just like, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. No. Danny, have you experienced anything like that before? Either through the salesman thing or just like someone talking to you as if they know you? Oh, yeah. So I actually I've had it a few times. And generally it's pretty known about me that my memory is awful. It's
00:59:32
Speaker
It just sucks, right? Usually I can remember people names are a problem, but in general, my memory is pretty bad. So I'm generally not I don't have too big a problem saying like, hey, man, I'm sorry, I don't remember. Where did we see each other again? You know. But I did have one person who my wife knew.
00:59:58
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And apparently I had met this guy years ago. I don't remember it at all. But he was always, I don't want to say, he was shy, but he would come off as creepy. And it sucks, because I know he wasn't doing that on purpose. So my wife and I started dating, and she took me to meet all these people.
01:00:27
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And he literally just walked up behind me and he went like right up to my ear and was like, Hey, do you remember me? And I just jumped back and I was like, Oh my God. No, that sounds like you're about to get stabbed. Yeah. I was like, No, I don't remember you. Um,
01:00:48
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That but that was the only time it like really went off the rails. You're like, is that how you greeted me the first time I met you? Because I remember that. I don't remember you at all. And I feel like I would. But 90 percent of the time that do you remember me for me happened at like. You know, a family funeral or something, you know. Oh, here's you like you're you're.
01:01:14
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Grandma's sister's cousin who you haven't met since you were three You know, and then they'll I'll get these family members that are like hey Yeah, I haven't seen you, you know since you were this big. Do you remember me and I'm just like no No, I don't remember you like what?
01:01:30
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And there's nothing wrong with saying that, like there are tons of tricks you could use like, oh, hey, can you spell your name or whatever? Like you could come up with whatever goofy shit you want. But like if you genuinely like, if you want to probe a bit before you have to ask that question, like, oh, when did I see you last or where was that again? Oh, at, you know, at Danny's party on the 15th of like, oh, shit, you know, maybe, maybe it will jog your memory. But like,
01:02:00
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Sometimes I do that as a challenge just to see if I can remember. But it's generally like if at that point I'm like, I really don't know.
01:02:09
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I'm fine with being like, look, if we did meet, I apologize. Like, you know, my memory is not so good. Like, can you please remind me how I met you or what your name was? Sometimes all they need to do is give you a name and your brain goes, Oh shit. Yeah. Jim from Danny's party. Cool. Yeah. What's up, man? Yeah. My memory is bad enough that it would take too much energy for me to like, keep up the charade all the time. So no, if I don't remember who you are, I will say, I'm sorry. I don't. Where did we meet or whatever? Like I have to put where I know people from in my phone.
01:02:38
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Because if I just put your name, I'll forget why. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah. So yeah. So what was the name, Colin? Yeah. If it's hey, do you remember me? Like that's the I think that's I think that's a that's a softball. That's a that's a that's a slow pitch. Like, yeah, either. Yes. Or you know what? Can you tell me where I saw you again? Like you can just say no, because typically if they're asking you that question, they already know you probably don't.
01:03:06
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Or it's a less chance. It sounds insulting to say, no, I'm sorry, I don't. It's not, though. Like if, you know, you hadn't seen somebody in forever and you went up to them and say, hey, do you remember me? And they said, no, I'm sorry. Would you really be all that insulted? I wouldn't.
01:03:24
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Right. You from the other side, it sounds like you are saying something insulting. Yeah. And you probably already have one in the chamber. If somebody says to me or if I say to somebody, oh, hey, do you remember me? And I'll say, oh, shit, man, I don't like I'm already locked and loaded. Like it was from the party or from from from the convention. Remember, I was dressed up as a fox or whatever. Like, like typically people already have one loaded that they're ready to tell you because they're excited to share that memory again. Like, you know, so like I wouldn't worry too much about it. Like,
01:03:54
Speaker
You know, I know you're worried about your own discomfort, but we're typically a sympathetic species. And I know you think you're going to hurt their feelings, but it actually, that band-aid gets ripped off so fast as Dixon says, you just do it. You know what? Remind me again. Where was that? Boom. You're done. The awkwardness is over. You're past it. Not as bad as it feels like it is.
01:04:10
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Yeah i will say though that sometimes i do have that little worry that it's like if i tell this person no i don't remember you they're gonna be like oh great i wasn't worth enough time for you to remember it's no that's not what it is do you have any idea how many people have met through my entire life exactly.
01:04:26
Speaker
And just turn it back around. You can turn it into a positive. You can say, you know what, I really don't. But if you're that excited to talk to me again, maybe we should hang out some more. What do you know? Like, you know, if you're that interested to talk to me, I would love if somebody come up to me like, hey, Adam, I'm like, fuck, yeah, person to talk to you. Let's go. Another friend. Let's do it. People that will go to like a restaurant and be like, I was here last week and you don't remember who I am. I'm like, dude,
01:04:51
Speaker
You have to remember one waiter's name. They have to remember everyone who's come in the last week. That could be hundreds of people. No, they don't remember who you are. Very true. Yeah. Yeah. So at the end of the day, there are worse things in life. Maybe just either say no, if you really don't or ask questions, be inquisitive. It's good to be curious, as Mr. Rogers used to say. Just ask questions, man. That's all. Let me ask you a question with another question.
01:05:21
Speaker
Do you remember me? How do you remember me? What was I wearing that day? Let's test your memory there, guy. Now it's a competition. What color were my shoes? Was I wearing a ring that day? My underwear was sticking out of my pants a little bit. Do you remember what the label was? You're going to get that one guy with the photographic memory who will answer every single one of those questions.
01:05:46
Speaker
I'm like, Hey, you know what? Let me take out the dinner. Cause like, you know what? You, you beat my game and I owe you something now. You deserve it. You defeated me. I guess we really did meet. Yeah. Cheated and unlocked. You did it. Um, all right. Uh, let's see. I have, uh, one more question. Um, what do you all think about having one more in the tank before we wrap up? Yes, please. All right. So.
01:06:15
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This one is, uh, I don't remember where the, like, what the fuck this question is at all, but you know what? I figured maybe it might be something fun for us to discuss. Maybe. Um, this one is from, uh, generic vanilla char. Uh, and they ask if you inject yourself with chicken blood, will you become a chicken man? Yes. No. Oh, you're going to die.
01:06:43
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Oh, you'll die if you inject yourself a chicken. You would probably die. Yeah. You think so? Realistically, you would probably die. You would absolutely probably. But for fun, you know, that was how the the chicken lady, if you remember the old kids in the hall sketch, that was how the chicken lady was born. Mm hmm. You know what? I remember kids in the hall. I used to watch it after school, but I don't remember anything. I don't remember the chicken lady at all. It was while my brain just skipped on their on their names.
01:07:13
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It was a chicken character. It was just a giant chicken lady that would go around and be completely inept at things because she was acting like a chicken. It would peck at things. I mean, there's not much more to it than that. They don't make TV like they used to. They don't. It was great though.
01:07:37
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Uh, so Danny, how do you feel about this chicken man thing? I think you would absolutely kill you. Um, remember we had our talk about blood types, you know, it all takes us one protein in the blood. That's not supposed to be there according to your body. And it will go and attack it, which can do more damage than anything else. Honestly. Um,
01:08:06
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So yeah, chicken blood probably has a whole bunch of different proteins and everything that don't belong in human blood and your body will attack it. It'll clump up. You'll probably get a heart attack of some kind or some other organ will will choke and it probably would not be good. Well, I have found something quite interesting on the interwebs.
01:08:32
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Now, I haven't learned all of it just by skimming it, but I have learned a couple of things. Firstly, the first Google search that comes up, if I ask, what would happen if you inject yourself with animal blood? They say, the body would almost immediately initiate a full-on attack on the foreign material, and it would become quite inflamed. And you could potentially die from the shock of it all, or it'll flush out your system eventually. However, I continue to dig because I'm a nosy little internet Nelly.
01:08:59
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True. And I learned that pig blood is one of the closest relatives to people blood with like the size of the red blood cells and everything. So that has been experimented with for transfusions, not from apes, but from pigs.
01:09:17
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But the most interesting thing I've learned was two things. First of which is the first ever animal to human transfusion of blood was performed closely after 1667 by a Frenchman named John Baptiste who transferred blood from a sheep to a 15 year old boy and a woman in labor. They both survived the process, but they developed severe anemia. So that's interesting.
Scientific Discoveries & Cultural Implications
01:09:46
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But there is also something called a lug worm.
01:09:50
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that apparently has been tested with and used multiple times in human history, usually in more modern medicine, that has extremely identical blood type to human blood or blood formation to human blood. And it is a gross ass looking motherfucking worm. It is a big old gross looking worm. Isn't that one of the ones, the parasites that like get inside of you? And that's why they're so close because they're literally designed to invade your body and your body can't fight them off because it doesn't know they're not you.
01:10:19
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It is very possible. Yeah, that's how the marine lug worm is a champion oxygen hugger. Indeed, the worms breathe through gills like fish, but they spend half their lives out of water where they can survive for six hours without breathing. And they talk about why and they say apparently because of how they. How they oxygenate because of spending so much time on land, apparently that has a big deal about how like our blood oxygenates and how they can use it as a universal donor.
01:10:50
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Um, however, it doesn't carry any antigens on its surface that are responsible for the different blood types. That means it can be used in humans and could change the face of medicine. And they started clinical trials in 2016. Oh shit. So they, yeah, they're literally just a depository of type O blood. That would be awesome. Dude, what a fucking game changer if they can make that work consistently, huh? That would be, that would be sick, man. That would do any blood shortage. Insane.
01:11:20
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Yeah, what a thing to learn about there. I love reading up on like just the different things science is trying to do all the time. Oh, I've read some crazy shit. Yeah. Yeah, this thing I found is that there's a star that they they measured not too long ago that very well might. Go supernova within our lifetime, which
01:11:48
Speaker
Is insane because you know, that's like a billion year thing Millions of years it takes for that to happen. So it's once in like multiple generations. It's it's once in a human society Yeah, yeah, here's a question for you for that Has that is that something that's actually already happened? Has it actually already gone supernova? Because you know all that light that we're seeing that lets us see that stuff is all delayed. We we don't know well we do it's probably already gone and dusted but
01:12:18
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when the light from it going supernova reaches us. I think what they said is it would light up the night sky for a while. Neat. That's cool. If it goes supernova. You know, there's going to be a lot of people plotting their wedding proposals on that day, you know, on that whole week that it happens. Like, you know, oh, he proposed with a supernova blew up and there's champagne everywhere because of course champagne supernova is going to happen.
01:12:46
Speaker
You know, you know, they're gonna you fucking know that was good. Yeah. I mean, that's just what's going to happen. That's just that's not a prediction. That's a spoiler, guys. That's that's what's going to happen. But the fact that you were able to peer into the future like that, you hear champagne, supernova in the sky. Yep. You know, for fucking sure that's going to be everybody's wedding song. Is this going to happen? Yep.
01:13:14
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I can only hope that it happens on like midnight for January 1st. That way we can at least like make a whole thing out of it. And yeah, you know, and then like they can perform on whatever, you know, new year's rock and Eve thing that they do. Um, if they're still alive, I don't know what the condition of the band is like became like a super far away second son that just lit up the night sky every night. That'd be so weird.
01:13:40
Speaker
That would be very weird. Oasis, if you're listening, reach out. Maybe we can plan something for when the supernova goes off. Have a champagne supernova party. Yeah, that'd be fucking dope. You heard it here first. Let's get some celebrities up on here. Fucking Oasis. If you guys know Oasis, tag them on Twitter or Instagram or whoever the bandmates are. I don't know their names, but ask them. Fuck it. What's worse they can do? Not say anything, whatever.
01:14:05
Speaker
Not that they're still going to be alive when it actually happens. We don't know. Right. We don't know when it's going to happen. But that's true. But, you know, if not, at least get a cover band or maybe like surviving, Ken could at least come
Recap & Listener Engagement
01:14:16
Speaker
and talk to us about it and give us rights to play the song when it happens. You know, I don't know how that works, but maybe it'll be in public domain by the time it happens. I don't know. I don't know how that kind of shit works, but positive thinking.
01:14:29
Speaker
We have Winnie the Pooh and Mickey Mouse on a banner singing champagne, supernova, all public domain, but no main royalty free. And then you can do about it, legal. You've missed a lawyer that specifically the steamboat Willie version. Right. Yeah. And specifically to you, Colin Regal's, as a lawyer in five countries, try to sue us in any country doing the whistle at the helm.
01:14:52
Speaker
You cannot be whistling champagne supernova, obviously. So it'll be fine. And then Winnie the Pooh go, oh, bother as we do it. So I think so. Let's let's recap what we've talked about today, gents.
01:15:09
Speaker
We have talked about how to properly clean your apartment so it doesn't smell. We talked about why we can do other people's chores, but we can't fucking do our own. We've talked about welding and soldering and what the fuck the difference about that is and just melting hot metal together and making some sexy new stuff. We talked about
01:15:34
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Uh, if somebody asks if you remember them, like what kind of conversation pieces you can use to approach that. And finally, oh, we didn't answer the question though. If you inject yourself with chicken blood, will you become a chicken man? Uh, only partially until you die or until it flushes out of your system, you'll be one tiny fraction of chicken. But if you want to be other kind of animal, yeah, you'll just go foul and probably, um, you know, I don't know, eat some birds. Yeah.
01:16:05
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Yeah, but outside of that, yeah, I would recommend chicken blood or lugworm blood if you really want to be part something else. And yeah, I think we covered all of those bases and we learned that Adam likes to buttonhole people. Yes. Oh, yeah. I don't like to. I just maybe don't realize I'm doing it. But to be fair, I'm usually asking questions, not just talking the whole time. So like, I think I think I maybe I just hole, but I don't button. You know what I mean?
01:16:35
Speaker
I hear you. Maybe I just hold that could be taken the wrong way. Maybe I just hold you guys. Or maybe it's the right way. We're not going to change. You know what? I just give you my whole heart and my whole heart. You know what I mean? Jellybean heart. Yeah. Good. Yeah. So Dixon. Oh, we also learned. I'm sorry. Before we get to that, we also learned.
01:16:59
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Uh, uh, uh, uh, we talked about buttonhole already. I was going to say a different word, but I was thinking of an early recording that of a word we learned. What was that word again? What was it? What was the word you learned with? It was in, it was Susie and ensues. Insusience. Insusient. Yes. Which means to be carefree. And then we learned buttonhole, which means to trap people in conversation, friendly conversation, loving conversation from you. Insusiently buttonhole people.
01:17:29
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Indubitably. That's not Romulant. Very. Thank you. Dixon. How do you feel after recording the episode with us? How you feel? You're doing. I'm here, but, you know, I'll just say that it's better to be admitted as a lawyer in five countries than to be committed as a lawyer in five countries. That is very true. His words. Did you have a good time? Did you have fun here?
01:17:57
Speaker
It, I did y'all, y'all kept it very, you know, calm, relaxing, and I was very nervous coming into this. Not something I've ever done. So thank you for helping me to step out of my comfort zone. Absolutely. Great job, man. I agree.
01:18:12
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And, uh, yeah, for, you know what, really, uh, if, if you Dixon or any of you listeners out there have a suggestion for other creators or maybe even non-creators, I would like to meet some new people and maybe get to know them a bit. And if they seem like a good fit, bring them on the show. Like you don't gotta be famous. You don't gotta be in a creative space. If you got some fun stories to tell and want to answer some questions, reach out to us at, uh, fun and sellers network.
01:18:35
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dot-com go to the contact page and send us a letter you know if you got questions you want us to answer from the internet if you have questions that you want us to answer from your own brain or if you just want to tell us how we're doing go use that contact page Dixon has used it many times which is again you really should Cass has been missing your your your letters
01:18:57
Speaker
Um, so, uh, yeah, Cass is the one that feels all of our stuff. Oh, and make sure that you put T O Q on it. So she knows where to send it. Um, cause Cass fields, there's not me. Um, so, uh, but yeah, that's, that's how you can do all that fun stuff.
Content Sharing & Closing Inspiration
01:19:12
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And then Danny, of course, um, you're on our website, but you can also drop your other stuff. Uh,
01:19:18
Speaker
You can find me pretty much anywhere with the fun installers. Uh, you can find me on the fun installers network.com, but I'm also a member of the role players guild. If you like Dungeons and Dragons and you want to hear me make silly voices and pretend to be silly people, uh, you could find us streaming on YouTube at role players guild or come say hi to us on Twitter at the RP guild one. Mm hmm.
01:19:42
Speaker
Um, so Dixon, do you have any, I know you kind of said it's better to be admitted than committed, but is there anything else that you would like to say to us, to the audience for yourself? Uh, you know, before we wrap up, uh, the floor is yours, sir. No. Excellent. You know what? You know what? I'll take it. No is a full sentence and you got it, my friend. Um,
01:20:12
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I like it. Danny, you know what? Give us some words from your side of things. You got anything else you want to add before we run the quote of the day? Dixon, I can't believe you just did that, but I admire your gumption. Thank you. But seriously, thank you, everybody, for listening. You know, doing this is kind of like a dream come true for me. I've always wanted to do something like this and just
01:20:42
Speaker
talk to people and just answer silly questions and stuff. So, you know, we do it because people listen and people like it. So thank you so much for listening and liking and. Yeah, we'll see you next time. Mm hmm. OK, so you know where to find us on socials. We got Dixon here. Thank you so much for being here, buddy. I'm super proud of you, Danny. It's always an absolute pleasure to get to spend some more time with you. I'm happy that we met.
01:21:11
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Uh, and to you all out there before we do the quote of the day, uh, you know, just as we kind of the theme of the episode has been like, you know, it's okay to ask for support. It's okay to ask for help. You know, if you need it in any aspect of your life, if there's people that you love, people that you trust, or if you just want to put a beacon out on the internet or ask a question on Reddit, there are people that will answer and heed the call. So, you know, there's nothing wrong with it. So, um, uh, you know,
01:21:39
Speaker
Don't be afraid to reach out. And so I found a quote by somebody named Jack London. I don't know who Jack London is, but I love the quote. So I'm just going to roll with it and search who it is later. Hopefully he's not a piece of shit. And the quote goes as follows. You can't wait for inspiration. Sometimes you have to go after it with a club.
01:23:30
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Bye!