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The Spectrum Of Romance And Pants
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Today, Atom and Danny discuss if a relationship can work if you're romantically compatible but not sexually compatible. Atom also talks about his new white jeans!
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Show Introduction and Fashion Talk
00:00:00
Speaker
that time i did on purpose all right take it away you're the leader today oh did we start yeah oh my god we started hi everybody good morning good afternoon and good evening and welcome back to that's our queue i am your hostess with the mostest your guest for all the rest your monsieur of Hi, I'm Danny. And with me today is ah the get the get now ah is Adam.
00:00:29
Speaker
It's oh, oh, I got it. You're my of demure. Oh, I like you. know Yeah, it's going. It's going. Yeah, yeah, yeah. quick, quick story before we start. I wore for the first, well, not the first time, but for the first time, unironically,
00:00:49
Speaker
I wore a pair of pure white jeans to work today. White jeans? White jeans. I don't think I've ever even seen a pair of white jeans.
00:01:01
Speaker
Yeah. So I only wore a pair of white pants one time before when I did my like I'm so workshopping names either Prism Man, Rainbow Guy, the Rainbow. I don't know. I did like it's kind of like all white outfit for Halloween. And then I wore like a bunch of rainbow gloves, rainbow glasses, like a big rainbow cape.
00:01:18
Speaker
And so I was trying to be kind of like pride looking, but also like, Oh, I'm white light turning into a rainbow kind of thing. Um, but anyway, i was going to call it, go by the white light, but for some reason that sounded really, i wouldn't do that.
00:01:31
Speaker
It sounded really proud Boise and I didn't want to do that. yeah You know, and any other political climate that probably would have worked, but anyway, but like ah finding pants that really fit me without me having like do much modification is really difficult. So,
00:01:45
Speaker
I wore a size 33 that fits perfectly, but it's hard to find a size 33 where I go shop. So I i was I was out and about the other day and I went into the section, the pants section, and there was a couple of 33s and I saw this and I was like, fuck, do I want to wear? Because I borrowed the white pants from my roommate for my Halloween costume. So I didn't actually have a pair of white pants.
00:02:05
Speaker
But. But I was like, they fit me really well, but like I'm accident prone. I usually don't wear bright colors because I know I just spill shit on it. um But then.
00:02:18
Speaker
You know, I just decided, fuck it, I'm just going to wear these things. so I bought them for like today. And yeah, i I mean, I wore a faded white Cartoon Network shirt with it and I just kind of had like a kind of black and white look to it with matching shoes and everything.
00:02:33
Speaker
You know, it felt different. I was a lot more cautious about what I was eating because I didn't want to spill it. There you go. And you had a theme today. That's good. Yes. And this is the cleanest these pants are ever going to be and the nicest they're ever going to look because I don't have enough white clothing to just make a white batch in the washing machine.
00:02:49
Speaker
So this is going to be the nicest they're ever going to look. So I'm really trying to get my mileage out of them today because the moment they go in the wash, they're going to start fading real quick, just like all the rest of my white clothes that I have, which is like three shirts.
00:03:01
Speaker
Well, it was nice while lasted. It was. And it felt really interesting. Do you have t-shirts, like undershirts? Like I have a couple, but most of my t-shirts are like neutral colors or they're cool colors. Like, you know like I just don't like usually wear bright clothes because I just know I'm going to ruin them.
00:03:19
Speaker
Well, I have like clothes are harder to notice. I have a lot of um just plain white undershirts that I wear whenever I'm wearing like a button down. Yeah. So I wear them for work all the time. So I was.
00:03:31
Speaker
Yeah, that makes sense. I usually I also wear undershirts, but usually it's just like the same unless I know it's going to peek out of the shirt somewhere. Usually I'll coordinate like a different color or something like. Oh, I'm far too lazy to do that.
00:03:43
Speaker
Yeah. Like I'm like a maroon or a burgundy goes really well with a nice blue, you know, so like.
Color Coordination and Style Tips
00:03:50
Speaker
Fun fact, and then we'll go on to the questions. If you're ever curious about how to kind of match your clothing a little bit more, interestingly, if you want to take like a new kind of dive into that, which I explored very heavily when I was a dance instructor um and I learned by just practice is you can look up a literal color wheel on the Internet and it kind of gives you like if it's a color that's directly across from it, that's a color that you can do. Or if it's two colors that are adjacent to it, that works really well with that color.
00:04:16
Speaker
So you can kind of like explore. matching different colors to really best get a good pop by just like looking at the color wheel and seeing how the colors, because there are literal opposite colors of every color. yeah So yeah, it was a fun little exploration I did. All right. Actually, I have a, I have a question for you then. This is not the question, just a question. Hit me.
00:04:34
Speaker
I might have asked you this already, but this is very important to me. um Does gray and brown match? Neutral colors always go with neutral colors. So yes.
00:04:45
Speaker
Take that mom. Yeah. I mean, you typically there are some who would say like. If you should lean into one neutral color over the other, like because you want to have like a pop of color or something like that.
00:05:00
Speaker
But like you can easily wear like a pair of gray slacks with like a brown like a brown sport coat or some shit. No, it's still good. Gray cargo shorts and ah I'm sorry, brown cargo shorts and a gray T-shirt.
00:05:13
Speaker
My mom said they didn't match. My wife said they did. i thought they did. Well, they're neutral colors. So, I mean, like, it just kind of depends on what vibe you're going for. But yeah, like you've been overruled, mom.
00:05:24
Speaker
Take that. I'm sorry, Terry. A beige, a brown, a cream color, a black, a gray. Like those all typically are just neutral and you can wear them whatever the fuck you want.
00:05:37
Speaker
Yeah, that's good because those are the colors I usually go for. Well, there you go.
00:05:43
Speaker
And you know what? When I started being a dance instructor over 15 years ago, I didn't know any of that shit. Yeah. Well, right now, now I'm matching really well with my gray sweatpants and gray t-shirt on.
00:05:55
Speaker
Yeah. Well, love that. We should do like a photo shoot. But the gray t-shirt is a slightly darker shade than the sweatpants. So, you know, it's... Yeah. Has a little bit of of change of variety for the eye.
00:06:08
Speaker
You know, I was a little self-conscious with my outfit because my Cartoon Network white and black shirt is definitely when you hold it up to this brand new, very nice, vibrant white pants, you're like, wow, Adam's had that shirt in a while.
00:06:19
Speaker
So I was a little nervous to wear it. But like, it seems like unless people are really looking for that shit, no one notices. Because I think it's always just like having like the faded, like used faded look looks better on a shirt than it does on pants, too.
00:06:33
Speaker
I agree. Personally, like, a nice worn shirt I don't think looks bad. Yeah. I mean, it's one thing if it's a white shirt and suddenly there's yellow stains in the pits, but, like, yeah, if you wore a white shirt and it has, like, some scuffs and stuff.
00:06:47
Speaker
Yeah. But, yeah, I'm just a little nervous. I don't know what these are going to look like, but this is my $20 pants experiment, so we'll see after I wash them what they look like. I'm sure you're going to look fabulous.
00:06:59
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Well, anyway, you know, that's just part of my venture into like trying to explore non-traditional like pant colors like blue jeans, black pants, you know, maybe neutral colored slacks if I'm going to dress up a little bit because I keep seeing these people who wear...
00:07:16
Speaker
red pants, you know, brightly colored pants, pink pants, green pants. I'm like, man, I feel like I could do that, but I've only ever worn green like camo pants. so I was like, I don't, you know, then I'm like, fuck it. Like, what do I care? I'm just going to try it. And if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. But like, I just keep putting it off because I'm just like nervous that like, it'll put off the wrong vibe to people.
00:07:35
Speaker
But I'm like, I
Exploring Fashion Choices
00:07:36
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can see some people seeing these pants and be like, yo, that dude's gay as hell. um But I can see some other people being like, those are nice white pants. And you know what? They're both compliments. You can think of it. It's fine.
00:07:48
Speaker
that's That's what really but put me over the edge on buying them. I was like, I want to wear different colored. That's the greatest part about being um the whole idea that like sexuality and being gay is a spectrum.
00:07:59
Speaker
Right. ah Is that even if you're 100% straight, you're still on that spectrum. You're just all the way on one side. so I'm gay enough to be a dance instructor and to care about the color coordinations of my outfit. So yeah. And let's be real. There's not much gayer than that.
00:08:12
Speaker
Yeah. And you know, there's a, you know, there's definitely a level of gay there, but not gay enough, you know, that like I go and like, we'll rage build a shed like my gay roommate does. So like, you know, He does yo more. We have a side yard if he's got some some stuff to work out.
00:08:27
Speaker
Did ever tell you that story? He rage built a shed because he was pissed at his boyfriend. No. Yeah. I mean it's not much of a story that like would be interesting if you're not like having context. But like he was talking about building the shed. They wanted to build it together, ah but they had disagreements about it.
00:08:41
Speaker
And then like neither one of them want to do it. They cancel the project. I forget what they were fighting about. But then one day Paul showed up with like. fucking like $800 worth of wood materials. And then like over the course of about seven hours, when Mark was out of town, Paul built a fucking shed outside.
00:08:56
Speaker
We have a side yard with a big empty lot. If he needs to work, let me tell you, let me tell you, Danny, ah he might, if he was there, he might. And let me tell you, ah that man doesn't have any plans. He doesn't write it down. He doesn't draw it. He just like, he knows in his brain what he wants it to look like. And if it doesn't work, he breaks it and we'll fix it.
00:09:15
Speaker
And like, He just does it. And like, that's impressive. I wish I had that kind of brain. So when we talk about there being a spectrum, they are two really gay dudes who like have the most manly fucking straight guy hobbies I've ever fucking seen.
00:09:29
Speaker
Big muscle cars. They love going for long drives. They're out camping right now as we speak in the middle of nowhere. That's so fucking baller. Fucking like rage build sheds. But at the same time, one of them is like, I have a garden. I love that. And here I am. I'm like, I taught dance for 10 years and now I work at a food bank and I try to color coordinate my clothes.
00:09:50
Speaker
I love that so much. Just it really is a spectrum, guys. It really is. Like it reminds me of my one friend who is 100 percent straight, loves, you know, loves the ladies kind of dude.
00:10:02
Speaker
ah Very big, big beard. You know, he looks tough. But if you put this guy in front of like pottery or glass blowing. Oh, my God. Look at the little frog. Oh, it's so cute. This huge dude. Oh, my God. I love it and so much.
00:10:17
Speaker
That's just like that. He is my hero. You just let yourself be in it, you know? Yeah. And I've straight up told him, I'm like, man, I love taking you to things because I just I love how like.
00:10:28
Speaker
into it you always get you know like i'm purity yeah i'm not one to like get overly excited about things so like if i see something really cool i'm like oh wow that's pretty cool you know that's neat uh but he you know the full wide-eyed everything and i i love to see it it makes my heart jump every time it really is something that more people should just like it's too easy to make fun of people for being really into something whether it's their dancing their job like a hobby their collection collectibles or whatever but like the excitement they must feel to be like you know i give dice goblins like a really hard time because they have too many but like i can't help but when i'm around a dice goblin that when they see something that's like really sticks out to them and like a big old tray of dice like oh my god i got you know i like fuck am i and say who the hell am i to yuck your yum at that point like
00:11:20
Speaker
You know, you're feeling as full as your heart can feel in that brief moment of bliss. I'm like, who the fuck am I to tell you not to that? If you got the money, you know, the disposable income, have at it. If it makes you happy, that's what it's for.
00:11:31
Speaker
Right. Like, just don't give people a hard time about it. You know, like, let people like things, you know, if they feel that much pure joy from it, then like, why would you want to take that away from them? I may rip them a little bit, you know, yeah but at the end of the day, whether it be, ah you know, my wife or my friend, anyone,
00:11:50
Speaker
If you're happy, I'm happy. That is the bottom line. Yeah. Keep an eye out for those interactions when you see them, because like when you see somebody who truly just like wears their emotion on their face and in their body language in that moment of like, oh, my God, I love this thing.
00:12:04
Speaker
Like, you know what? Again, like you said, as long as you got the disposable income and you got the time and you're not like neglecting yourself or like any sort of responsibilities you're supposed to have. Yeah. Like go nuts, man.
00:12:14
Speaker
Go fucking nuts. Have fun. um Like today, one of my coworkers ah got handed like a free bottle of chocolate milk from one of the vendors that was doing a pickup for us. And he threw this guy like a Turner's like chocolate milk and fucking Jeff ran in immediately. He goes, hey, Adam, you like chocolate milk, right? And he chucked it over the fucking cube at me.
00:12:33
Speaker
I was like, what the fuck? I was like so fucking pumped. I was like, man, chalky milk. I almost didn't come into work today. Hell yeah. And I remember Jeff's just like, you're a weird guy, dude.
00:12:46
Speaker
Yes, I am. But I'm a weird guy with chalky milk. I'm a weird guy with chalky milk, baby.
Workplace Joys and Personal Reflections
00:12:51
Speaker
Like, you know, so like that's like that's like the bliss I felt that moment where I was like,
00:12:57
Speaker
yeah chalky milk like my childhood came out and i was like hell yeah um anyway you want to answer a question danny uh yeah yeah so this is actually a very special question this one was submitted to us by our friend sean uh over the fun installers.biz website yeah fun who fun installers network.biz yeah so sean wants to know Can people be in a romantic relationship without necessarily being sexually compatible?
00:13:29
Speaker
Not in like a fake marriage, but they are purely romantic and love each other in that sense. Right. Yeah. So kenny can you have like an actual lasting, stable relationship?
00:13:41
Speaker
that doesn't have a sexual component. I mean, if we were just talking about spectrums, right? So like, just, just broadly speaking that absolutely, you know, like I like the person I was most recently seeing, I like, you know, we did have a sexual relationship of course, but like what really made me enjoy being around her was that just, we just, it was easy. We just, the romance was easy. It was just ah fun to just,
00:14:10
Speaker
do those fun cutesy things and the one to hold hands and to, you know, like to do that stuff. And like, yeah, I mean like other things got in the way down the road, but like I can totally see like, absolutely. I think like, I think romance is like, there's people who are white. I don't know all the, the, the words, but like there's a romantic, uh, yeah, it's like a romantic doesn't, uh,
00:14:33
Speaker
ah care about romance asexual doesn't care about actual sex yeah there's like uh arrow ace is both yeah but there's also ones where it's like just having a friend right but there's some that are just romantic based but like like paramount or something Yeah, I don't know all the terminology.
00:14:52
Speaker
Yeah, but anyway, like I think that's like, I just learned a word recently called, like a I think it's abrosexual, abrosexual, something like that, where like your sexual orientation is very fluid.
00:15:03
Speaker
So like just like, you know, yeah all of that stuff is on a spectrum. So yeah, I would say absolutely. Yeah, I could absolutely see that as well. um Actually, not only that, but I've been giving this one some thought.
00:15:17
Speaker
And ah I think it actually would be who of a lot of people to get into a relationship and not have sex right away or as much.
00:15:29
Speaker
um I'm not very promiscuous as a person. Right. So like, right. All of my relationships, um sex has always been a very important part of me. It's not something I would just do.
00:15:46
Speaker
And ah because of that, I always felt a little bit sorry for people that are like saying like, oh yeah, you know, everything was great. But then we stopped having sex and now we don't seem to get along. And I'm like, if the entirety of your relationship is based on pure is purely based on we have sex.
00:16:07
Speaker
I'm sorry. I don't think it's a great relationship. I feel like. Your relationship is a lot ofation better. Yeah. I feel like a a relationship would be a lot better if it's great without sex, but then the sex is a bonus, right? Like we are best friends all day, every day, and we can have sex. It's great. It's the best of both worlds.
00:16:30
Speaker
But if, say, somebody wasn't in the mood, it's not a deal breaker. It's just like, okay, you know, maybe next time. Absolutely. um But yeah, i've I've heard a lot of stories of, of you know, oh, it used to be great. We would have sex every night.
00:16:44
Speaker
And then slowly the sex kind of died out. And now I don't know if I want to be with them. Like, is is that literally the only reason you were with them? Right. Because if so, I'm sorry. But in my personal opinion, i don't think that that's a very stable, healthy relationship if it's fully based on having sex constantly.
00:17:06
Speaker
Well, I think if if I would like to add an asterisk to that in that, least if that is not the. Like if the agreed upon relationship is physical and that's what it is, then that's one thing, because that's why you're getting together in the first place.
00:17:24
Speaker
But if you're but but I think what you're saying, or at least correct me if I'm wrong, if the idea is long term romantic, like right. Long term relationship. Let me specify. I am speaking long term.
00:17:36
Speaker
you know, ah partner for life, marriage. You want to be a partner. Yeah. Yeah. I'm not speaking flings or, you know, casual dating or whatever that is, is so much more casual and, you know, whether you're or not, uh, the sex is is the basis of that is whatever.
00:17:54
Speaker
Uh, I'm talking more of like the long-term marriage or partnership for life right kind of deal. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. That's not to say one can't evolve into the other. Like, if it starts off as only a physical thing and you catch feels, sure, I'm i'm sure that happens all the time. yeah, absolutely.
00:18:11
Speaker
but yeah But yeah, I think you know the other way around, like, yeah, i think I think you have to have that level of maturity. Like, I'll say this, too. Like, I know the question was originally about can you have just a romantic relationship without a sexual one?
00:18:23
Speaker
But I will say that, you know, as I think I've made it known on this show, or at least shares a lot, one of the two, or both, that you know over the past 12 months, I stepped into a different kind of relationship type that I never would have thought that I'd get into with you know like ah ethical non-monogamy and and open relationships and and friends with benefits. But like but it it was very heavy on the friends part because I am a demisexual person and like I genuinely, physically, I just cannot perform.
00:18:51
Speaker
Even if I tried to will it, like nothing's happening downstairs if I don't like you. like If it's just physical, my brain just thinks, This is wrong. You're bad person. This isn't someone that you know will stick around or that you have strong feelings for.
00:19:04
Speaker
Like a wash of guilt waves over me and I just cannot... do it.
Understanding Romantic Compatibility
00:19:09
Speaker
So like the way that I had to explore that was like, tell these different people, like we need to hang out. Like I like, I need to know, i need to get to know you first. Yeah.
00:19:18
Speaker
Yeah. Like I'm cool with having that physical relationship. If I know that there's some semblance of potential longevity here, or at least a friend part can still exist. Cause like, the, the like you know, kind of getting back to the question, the friend part is really, really important to me.
00:19:34
Speaker
Like I cannot have sexual compatibility with you if I do not have romantic compatibility or at least some bond with you. Otherwise it just, it makes me feel gross. It makes me feel like,
00:19:46
Speaker
what am I doing here? Like, you're not a piece of meat. I don't want to look at you that way. Even if you tell me it's fine. I just like, I just can't, I physically cannot do it. And, um, and that's from scientific method, my friends from actually trying to, so you know, it's not like doubting myself.
00:20:03
Speaker
It's from, it's from experience. And like, I, I understand that some of my view of being like, oh, well, you know, I hold sex is very special.
00:20:14
Speaker
It's not something I feel is supposed to be just given away and all this stuff. Right. Look, little thing about me. The first time I didn't have to wear a uniform to school was when I went to college.
00:20:26
Speaker
All right. I was Catholic school, born and raised all the way up through high school. So. That might very well but be a huge factor in why I feel the way I do. That's how I was taught.
00:20:39
Speaker
you know you You were told over and over again, like sex is the ultimate bond. It is you know the biggest thing you can do for your significant other. It's not something you should just casually throw out there.
00:20:53
Speaker
It's something that you should do with a loved one. um And yeah, I mean, that might color the way I feel about it. And if so... damn, because I try not to, you know, get my views too colored by by like just purely what I've learned. I try and keep an open mind, but.
00:21:13
Speaker
I'm just rambling at this point. Feel free to stop me at any time. I don't know. There's no destination to this. I'm just rambling. and Well, think the bus pulls back into the station of yes, like, you know, but there are other people, statistically speaking.
00:21:30
Speaker
If there's us. who have if there's we who have these feelings, yes, that means that there are ah large there's there's at least a quantity of people somewhere that also have those same mentalities, whether they get together and feel the same way. We don't know, but probably. But yeah, those relationships exist. Absolutely. You can feel romantically involved with somebody, but without that physical requirement. And frankly, I think especially with like,
00:21:58
Speaker
you know, not to, I always try to pull something good out of something bad and like lockdown pandemic lockdown. I think a lot of people learn that about themselves. Like some people just wanted to have a buddy there and romantic things develop, but like, you know, and they just learn like, Hey, I really like you. And I like cuddling with you. And I like holding your hand and telling you that you're pretty or that you're handsome, but like, that's it. That's just knowing that you're in the room is enough for me. Knowing that you're around is enough for me.
00:22:24
Speaker
And so, yeah, people forged, Those kind of relationships during lockdown, because like, sorry, regardless of how much sex you think you're going have during lockdown, you run out of stuff to talk about and you just get tired after a while.
00:22:36
Speaker
Like, you know, you have to like like the person that you're stuck and inside all day with. And so I think that is something and a lot of people did come out learning about themselves. There's tons of Reddit threads about it.
00:22:47
Speaker
of people just learning like, Hey, I didn't know this about me until I stayed in this place with this person or and until I asked someone to come stay with me. And we decided to be like pandemic, like lockdown buddies, you know, like, and you just learn those things about yourself. So yeah, absolutely. You can totally, you know, have those strong romantic feelings just as everything has been in this conversation today, Danny, would you say like there's a spectrum for everybody to fall on somewhere? so Yeah, absolutely. I, everybody is different. And in that way,
00:23:17
Speaker
You know, we're all unique, but we're all the same. Like everybody's different in every possible way. Everything has to be a spectrum. If you can think of it, somebody is there.
00:23:29
Speaker
Right. Like this question said, can you have a romantic relationship without necessarily being sexually compatible? Yes, because I'm sure that there is at least one relationship out there that somehow made it work.
00:23:44
Speaker
Yeah. and and And compatibility, I forgot that that was the word that they used, that Sean used was ah sexually compatible, meaning like, hey, whatever, however my brain's wired versus your brain's wired doesn't work for sex. Or like we tried it and we have no chemistry, but everything else is fantastic.
00:24:01
Speaker
You know, that's just general compatibility. But there's also just desire. Because this question came up. People don't the desire. This question came up while we were all doing a game night. right And we started talking about asexuality and um you know do the spectrum of sexuality, and asexuality came up. And I'm pretty sure that's where he got this question from, is like, well, can an asexual person have a partner and they get along fine because romance, but not be sexually compatible? What if one partner wants sex, but the other one is asexual?
00:24:35
Speaker
Right. But yeah, I think it can work because I'm sure... out of the billions of people in the world, there is one couple that has somehow made it work. Absolutely. And, you know, I always like to say if one version of something exists, there's a thousand of at least that thing.
00:24:50
Speaker
I always think like if I'm the only one that thinks I like raisins because there's no one else in my friend circle or family circle that likes raisins, just statistically speaking, because I exist liking raisins, there has to be at least a thousand other people who like raisins.
00:25:03
Speaker
I wouldn't push it. So like, but But it's true. I found them everywhere. don't. They're just ashamed. they feel I wouldn't push it. They feel ashamed to speak about it. I think you're pushing it. I think this is a you thing. The moment that I open up that door and I say, hey, I unironically love these things. They go, oh my God, you too. What the fuck?
00:25:23
Speaker
No, that's just pity. like, you want to go drink chocolate milk and talk about how much we like raisins? Yes. Well, they might. Yeah, like I'd say yes, because I want the chocolate milk. But like, I think it's mostly pity. I'm trying to find sugar-free chocolate milk. That was the issue with the chalky milk today is that it was a lot of sugar in that shit. But still do love chocolate I don't know if you'll be able to find sugar-free chocolate milk, but there is low sugar or sugar-free chocolate syrup you can use.
00:25:48
Speaker
Well, I also just, I usually don't drink milk-based chocolate milk. I drink like chocolate almond milk or chocolate like oat milk or something. And usually that's far less like sugar. Can we talk about how great oat milk is?
00:26:01
Speaker
It is pretty good. And chocolate versions of it is also quite good. um I'm never going back to normal milk. oat milk I frankly, be I mean, if it's around and it's all I have, I'll put it in cereal or something. But like once you're so used to not, especially like the whole milk, which I don't get why people like it so much, because God, once you go without it for a while, ah it's just so delicious.
00:26:22
Speaker
thick oh it's probably so it's so slimy yeah god it yeah like i've been without it for so long that when i said a cup of like good yeah i don't drink milk like straight milk um but now ah yeah i only drink the gay stuff um oat milk is pretty gay it's on the spectrum out come on now it is it's yeah i buy ah three percent straight milk 3% straight. Yeah. 97% gay.
00:26:55
Speaker
Whoa. Yeah. That's crazy. It's how I love it. I love my fabulous milk. Wow. That's great, man. But I don't think I could go back to normal milk in my cereal. all the The oat milk adds like a flavor to the cereal. It does.
00:27:08
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it's It's soft, but it's definitely there and it's good. I agree. And it's not slimy. It doesn't leave that film. It doesn't leave you feeling full and heavy stomached after.
00:27:19
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No. And that's exactly it is. That's why I've learned that milkshakes like that. I love milkshakes, but I always have the same problem when I'm done is that my fucking stomach is killing me after I have it.
00:27:31
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But then I had a vegan milkshake at purgatory a couple of weeks ago and I didn't have that issue. And I was like, fucking whole milk. I'm sorry. At what? At purgatory? Yes. Purgatory has vegan milkshakes. and What the hell is a purgatory?
00:27:45
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You don't have a purgatory over there? No, that is the coolest name for a burger place I've ever heard. And the and the sign is like devil horns and like halos and shit. They have really cool signage on their walls and stuff. It's great. I've never heard of this.
00:28:00
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There was one where you, when you go to the bathroom in the men's room, there's a sign above the urinal that says thou shalt aim straight or something like that. It's great. Yeah.
00:28:11
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Vegan. They have impossible burgers, veggie burgers, vegan milkshakes, standard, like different customizable milkshakes. You customize your burgers on like a little sheet of paper. You check off all the stuff you want.
00:28:21
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It's how I learned that I like peanut butter on burgers. It's how I learned that I like French onion dip on a hamburger. It fucking rules, dude. Jesus. All right. Yeah. If I ever, if I ever make the trip to visit, we're going there.
00:28:34
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You should make the trip. Cause I've made it for you, boo. You should. I know you do, but Hey, we've been over this. I know you don't want to try as hard as I do, but that's right. Cause you try way too hard.
00:28:45
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No, I try the appropriate amount for most. Don't hold me to your impossible standards. my Yeah. Okay. Anyway, do you want to learn some quick, fun words before you i would I would love to learn some quick, fun words. So I stumbled across. I decided to take a page out of your book, which is the
Language Trends and Updates
00:29:02
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dictionary. And I went to dictionary.com. Well, merriamwebster.com, I should say.
00:29:07
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And... They have a great like tons of fun little like games and word finders and slangs and rhymes and grammar and all sorts of fun stuff on here. I don't know if you're on dictionary.com or Miriam Webster dot com when you were doing that before.
00:29:20
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Dictionary dot com. Miriam Webster dot com is pretty fucking great, dude. Definitely recommend it. um But anyway, i was trying of at first I was looking up whatever the newest words would be in the dictionary for 2025.
00:29:31
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But through my search, I found words that they're keeping their eye on. And I thought this was like a fun little splash page they made. of wait So words are they're starting to get popular? Like this is slang and trending words we're watching.
00:29:45
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So they're keeping an eye on certain words they're considering adding to the dictionary. So I want to read a few to you because some of these I have heard some of these I haven't heard, but I just thought it was a very interesting. i'm actually going I'm going to link it to you as well, because I just think it's a really cool, a really cool splash page they made here.
00:30:05
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um So anyway, the first one is Ick. We've all heard Ick. That one's really catching on, right? they've They're giving me the Ick. Soft launch is one that I did not know as far as slang is concerned, which means an act of hinting about a new romance on social media. They call it a soft launch. No, I've never heard that one. neither That's amazing.
00:30:25
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I actually really like that one. Crash Out, I've been hearing that so much lately. Crash Out, that's one that they're giving an eye on. I've definitely heard Crash Out. there's one called House. For those that don't know, Crash Out is losing your mind. It's to become suddenly and uncontrollably angry or distressed. Yeah, like if if everything's falling apart and you have like a panic attack on stream, that's Crash Out.
00:30:46
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Although I don't really like i don't think crash out fits what that is. Like, I get that it's already in vogue, but like I don't really like when I hear the word crash, I think like something's done like you crashed. Well, usually, usually that's what happens is like you you start going like, that's it. I'm done.
00:31:03
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I'm crashing out. I'm this is over. I'm never doing this again. and then you're back next week. Yeah, there's one called house, which means to eat or drink all of something very quickly.
00:31:15
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um oh I thought it doctor. ah Yeah, me too. There's Almond Mom, a mother who pushes her daughter to be skinny through diet. Oh my god.
00:31:26
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um There's one called Agentic, or eight eight Agentic. ah Able to accomplish results with automaty, used especially in reference to artificial intelligence. Ate and Left No Crumbs is on there. Aura is on there. Batty.
00:31:41
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okay I love the definition. What is aura? I know people say like, oh, I'm aura farming or whatever. What is that? I think people... have much like how a lot of gen alpha slang comes about. I think a lot of people have their different definitions for what they think aura means, but also people overuse these words and oversaturate every YouTube section with them. But essentially aura is like your cool factor. Like if you walk into a room and people just kind of notice you, like you have this aura, right? Like, when people say they're aura farming, they're probably just thinking like, Oh, I'm just trying to collect shit or get shit that like makes my cool, my star power go up.
00:32:19
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Right. That's kind of like what aura is It's like either you're stylish or you just have like a like an energy about you that makes people just instantly think you're cool or want to know you or be you.
00:32:31
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It's like your aura. Yeah. I think of aura as something different, different, but like that's how they use it. um Baddie is on here. A confident, stylish and attractive woman.
00:32:42
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A baddie. Mm hmm. Based is one I thought I knew, but I guess I didn't because in here it says based is unconcerned with what others think. That's not what based means.
00:32:53
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That's not what I know based is, but that's what they have written on this website. I thought base was just short for based on a true story. Oh, no, I thought based was like or ba or based in telling telling it how it is kind of like ah the cooler version of being woke, but like actually not.
00:33:11
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but Oh, I thought it was just based like wants it to be. But it's just based in fact, like, oh, that's like based. i I, I always took it to me like true.
00:33:22
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i always took it to mean like, you know, if somebody says like, hey, you know, gay and trans people are people too. And we should love and respect them as much as we do everybody else. I'll hear somebody go, yeah, man, that's based.
00:33:34
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So I always thought it meant like very. um
00:33:39
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Left leaning, very. um oh i think you and i have similar but different understandings of it i just i think because i was too old to really when i hear someone say that in the same context you did i would say like yeah that's based in fact that's based on truth okay that's how i you know what it could be that's how i interpreted it although in my brain every time i read based it always seems like a bad thing because i keep thinking basic but but like that's just me um Let's see.
00:34:06
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um Let's see, there's, uh, uh, blue-pilled. That's for if you're woke. Oh, Jesus. Red-pilled, as if you're in the manosphere bullshit. Yeah. Um, body count, I guess.
00:34:20
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Oh, yeah. That's like they say about how many sexual partners you've had. Yep. Um, brain rot. I don't understand how butthurt is just now on the horizon. That's been around for a long time.
00:34:31
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like All right, dude, you don't have to get so butthurt about it. Yeah. Chugi. There's no way they're still watching Chugi at this point. I know this is a few months old, but what the hell is Chugi? Clout. I feel like clout is already a word, but I guess it's been a thing like since YouTube took off.
00:34:46
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Actually, no, since TikTok took off.
00:34:50
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NB 11's vertical wrinkles between the one's eyebrows. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. What is is going to get dicey, but what?
00:35:01
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What is NB? Because my coworker looked it up and it was something kind of racially charged. According to what he found. OK, no.
00:35:14
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What did what were you? What did you what letters did you say? Oh, no, it wasn't NB. It was Well, you're sure it wasn't YT?
00:35:26
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No, somebody said like, oh, yeah, I'm YN or something. And i neither of us knew what that meant. So he looked it up and it led him down a rabbit hole that apparently was a little dicey.
00:35:39
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ah so Yeah, that is an excellent... I have no I had never heard it ever since that day. but I never heard it before or since then.
00:35:52
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ah The only thing I found so far is it's about people who collect coins. No, it was. it was Oh, some people some people are asking if it stands for like young N word or something like that. Yeah, I think he saw young ninja.
00:36:08
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Yeah, I think there's there's a lot of like, i don't know. i mean, I haven't seen enough traction about that yet because I don't. It's there's a lot of results on Google on it right now. So maybe in some maybe pockets. and I never even really looked into it ah as soon as he said like, oh, it it could mean this, this and this thing. Yeah, it's kind of racy. I was like, you know what? I'm not even going to give that the time of day.
00:36:28
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I'm done. Yeah. um NB is ENBY, which I think is just the spelled out way to put like N the letter and the letter B for non-binary. I think. Oh, OK.
00:36:39
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I think that's like where when somebody writes NB people instead of writing the letters NB, they write NB. They just spell out the letters. I can't imagine slang has gotten to the point where we're making it harder.
00:36:51
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Like, isn't slang supposed to be cutting words to make it quicker and easier to use? I guess. You literally are doubling the spelling of this word. Yeah, I guess in written form, I guess, Enby is a more fun way to do it. um Okay. You know what? Who am I to criticize the children of the day? Let's see. There's Fafo, because that's been coming up a lot. Fuck around and find out. Yeah.
00:37:10
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I do love a good Fafo. Glow up is on the horizon. Some of these words I don't think will make it feel like glow ups been around for a long time. Yeah, I just don't know if they're going to be.
00:37:21
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this is just if they're going to be added into the dictionary. These are words they're keeping an eye on um for like the slang like neuro spicy is on there.
00:37:33
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i see That's like how people are like trying to make neurodivergent sound cooler as they call it neuro spicy. my God. Yeah, there is red pill. Then it was on here somewhere.
00:37:46
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um And then, ah yeah, and there there's a few that we've probably already heard. But like, ah let's see this one that I haven't heard. A torpedo bat, a baseball bat with a thicker than usual barrel. i don't know what the fuck that's going to Never heard that before.
00:38:01
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Yeah. Yeah. um slop unwanted and unasked for generated content oh yeah ai slop yep absolutely yeah uh and then sleep maxing the use of practices and devices purported to help increase the quality and quantity of sleep oh for god's sake um and then finally or on a positive note ride or die someone one you would do anything for there my ride or die yeah Um, so yeah, there's just a few of, uh, of many that they're, they've been keeping their eye on for some time to see if they're worthy of making it into the dictionary or not.
Conclusion and Audience Challenge
00:38:40
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Um, so yeah, hopefully, uh, you, you learned a little, a little something, something there. Um, any thoughts on any of those words? like it. like it.
00:38:51
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That's good. Yeah. Yeah. No, i' no, I'm good. I got nothing. Right. Well, hey, then I suppose and we should round it out. We're approaching our 40-minute marker. so ah This was a great 20-minute episode.
00:39:04
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It was. Well, 20 minutes of it was actually episode, and then 20 minutes of it was just fucking around. um True. So I will say, ah before Danny does his final remarks and challenges, is, hey, I know we've been talking about FundanceLarsNetwork.biz for quite some time.
00:39:18
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But I got some big things coming up there. i just started doing some editing on the website. I just started writing some articles. I just released one recently based on a suggestion from Danny and a couple others doing Adam's rants.
00:39:29
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where, ah you know, you heard me bitch about pickles on the show. Now you can go read it on the internet. And because I know there's some people that prefer to hear their stuff versus read their stuff, or some people who hear things better when they read it, I recorded the exact writing that I wrote and put it at the top of the page so you can listen to it while you read it or just listen to it like a little mini episode of a podcast.
00:39:51
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So, um and with have with that being said, I'm ah Some ideas that I have on the pipe is we're looking to do some interviewing on creators. We're looking to revive something we're calling our creator catalog. So keep an eye out for that.
00:40:03
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I'm looking to get some artists on there. I'm looking to actually use some of this money I've been hoarding from Kofi and from my own money I've been putting aside for Fun and Sellers Network to start paying people to do fun stuff for us. So keep an eye out for that.
00:40:15
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So if you haven't already humed hopped into the website, go and explore it. Give us some suggestions. Give us more questions like you do. I'm going to start making a mailer list pretty soon. I'm working with Cass on how to do that right so it works properly.
00:40:26
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So if you want to sign up for that to see any time we release new episodes of something, or if you want to see any new articles that came out, or if you just want to sign up for like, oh, I want to see the creator catalog when it comes out, you can do that. So we're we're working on it. So just keep that website somewhere your pants Bookmark it, you know, because like we're I'm looking to lean really heavily into it, likely to lean more into the creator aspect and the voice acting aspect of it and really make that a hub for people to practice, to learn, to hire and to look at reels.
00:40:55
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So that's what I'm looking to try to do. so but in the meantime, if you have other questions, just like Sean submitted, if you want to have your question answered, find us on the network.biz, just scroll to the bottom of the page and then type your question.
00:41:07
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right in there and then we will get to it uh but outside of that danny take it away thank you very much mr adam uh thank you all so much for listening and for your challenge for today i want you to go find somebody who looks you know pretty well put together very nicely dressed tell them they look dapper tell them that they are very dapper gentleman or lady or whatever ah today.
00:41:32
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um That is my challenge for the day you listen to this. ah Thank you again for listening to us rant about um sexuality being a spectrum,
00:41:45
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um ah and yeah gayness being a spectrum, all that being a spectrum, everybody's a spectrum. ah Love and respect each other. Everybody's a human and deserves all the love and attention that humans deserve.
00:41:58
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um Even if you don't like him, you better respect him. Right?
00:42:04
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Get it? dany Just cut it here. Just cut it.