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A Mendaciously Dumb Smarty-Pants
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Today, we learn about how to stay healthy by making micro adjustments and uh.. some other stuff. I edited this very quickly because I forgot to edit. Sorry @.@
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Introduction and Show Concept
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All right, ready? Here we go. I'm going to do the thing. I'm going to come up with a cue thing right now. Uh, but, but, but, but, but looking around the room for inspiration and.
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Okay, I'll try that. Um, I just looked at a DVD case, uh, of my suicide squad assault on Arkham DVD and I saw the word ass and I think I
Handling Internet Questions with Humor
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have an idea. Um, so anyway, good morning, good afternoon and good evening, ladies, gentlemen, non-binary folks of universes. No, no, no. And this is TOQ or that's our cue or TOQ for short, where we take your cues and sometimes we take those cues, right? And, and, and we take them to like the, you know, we open up an incognito screen and you know,
00:00:39
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We, uh, we type them into the address box. We feel a little frisky and we turn the lights off and we lock our doors behind us and turn the fan up real loud. So no one hears any dirty things you're doing. And then you type those cues into ah a sexy website and then BAM, you click on a really awesome looking thumbnail and BAM, there's two big A's right there in your face. And if you don't know what that means, it's where we take your questions from the internet, like places like Quora and Reddit. And we answer them as if anybody gives a shit to hear our opinion.
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in the first
Natural Rapport and Unscripted Style
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place. And if I haven't already said so, my name is Adam and I'm joined as always by my good buddy, Danny guarantee or AKA, he comes off with the Danny. Hello, Danny. I am the Danny. Hey, it's yes great to be here today. ah I'm doing great. I'm sorry. ah still You just took me a second. I was like, I was just looking under like, okay, okay, okay, okay. And like, I have a little envelope tucked into like my little video game holder case, like where you put Tucker cases, but I just put DVDs in there instead. And, uh, like the way the envelope was kind of falling, it says like Asa. over Well, now I moved it, but it said like Asa over the word assault. I was like, Asa, I could use that. It was either that or it's something about
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space asses, like NASA asses. Oh, there you go. now yeah maybe i Maybe I'll use that for next time. I don't know. Just in case you're ever wondering if you know we put on an act for the show. We don't. ah This she says is just how it is all the time. Danny asked me, like, right before we started, like, do you have a Q and&A thing? Like, ah, shit. Every time, like, I forget that's what I do on the show. And I said it for myself. It's my own punishment. I did this to myself at any moment I could stop, but I decided not to. I won't let you stop. Heck no. OK, you ready to Q some A or A some Qs? Man, we haven't done this in a minute. Oh, man. I'm so ready. My my ah Q and&A gland is, like, pulsing.
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Oh, good. Yeah, i'm I'm ready for it to be to pulse with A's.
Misconceptions About Adulthood
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All right. This first question is from boys in one music. Maybe they're a band of some sort or an artist. Look them up. Maybe I don't know. Boys in one music. They say they ask what is a misconception that you have had about adulthood that was completely wrong.
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Uh, we have to have several of these, Danny. Uh, so what's the misconception that you had about adulthood that was completely wrong? You're like, boy, man, when I'm an adult, this is going to happen. Or I think this, what do you think? I mean, there's the big two, uh, hopes and dreams. He thought that those would exist. but I really tried hard to hold onto those. Yeah. I think the biggest thing, um,
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The biggest thing is like freedom. you know When you're a kid, you you hear about all these things adults can do you know and you're like, oh, there's nobody to tell you when to go to bed. There's nobody to tell you when you can eat and can't eat and all this other great stuff. But ah no, you still do. It's just your age telling you now like, hey, it's time for bed. Hey, if you eat that, you're gonna feel like crap for the rest of the night.
00:03:52
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You're not free. there is no but Your body is the boss. Yeah, it just goes from your parents to your body. Yeah. um But like just the the amount of responsibilities, too. you know And i told I told my parents, I was like, I have to admit, you know everybody always says, oh, wait till you're you know in your 30s, now 40s, now 50s, 60s. Whenever you're like, oh, man, my back kind of hurts or whatever, they're like, ah, just wait till you're an ex-age, right?
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And I told my parents, I was like, man, I always knew like, you know, you always said like, Oh, wait until you get a little bit older. And it, you guys underplayed it. You guys always told me it sucks, but like you underplayed it. Really? And you think that for real? I do. I do. Interesting. Okay. Okay.
00:04:45
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Cause like ah when I was a kid, I'd always be like, Oh, I can't wait to stay up all night. My parents were like, yeah, good luck. When you're in your 30s dried staying up all night. And, uh, yeah, they underplayed it, man, by like 10 o'clock I'm dying. Man, we have had a radically different trajectory into our thirties. I can still pull it all nighter and like, ah I mean, I still want to sleep, but like, you know,
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Even when I've worked really early in the mornings, like, you know, take a quick power nap after work and boom, I can stay up all night when it's Saturday. No,
Adult Friendships and Isolation
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no. Yeah. I'm out by like my bedtime. and My strict bedtime is midnight.
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um And if I don't have anything going on the next day, I'm actually more likely to go to bed early ah because I stay up as late as I do because I'm like, well, you know, tomorrow Like tomorrow, I have to work in the office. I'm like, well, that's you know two thirds of my day shot right there. So I'm going to do my best to stay up till midnight so that I have the most amount of time tonight to to do whatever I want to do before I have to go in and spend like a whole day doing work.
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um Whereas if I didn't have anything tomorrow, I'm just like, I'm kind of tired. Let me go to bed now, wake up whenever, and just go right back to my video game. Interesting.
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Is there anything else you can think of as far as like what you thought adulthood would be like that was wrong?
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At the top of your dome. I thought it was a lot easier to keep in contact with friends. You just felt like, oh, we're going to be friends forever. And then like, you know, you don't see them for like five years. I guess we kind of got lucky with where we lived when I was a kid, but we had.
00:06:38
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Me and then my next door neighbor was a girl, maybe just a couple of years younger than me. Two doors down was another kid. That was my exact age. Who I'm still friends with. And all of our parents all got along. So they would all hang out all the time. And, uh, you know, that's not how it worked out for us. And I came to realize that that's how it is for most adults. It's like, we have it easier to communicate than ever.
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But we almost never see each other, which fine. You know, apparently that are apparently that's how it is. You know, you you physically grow further apart. um But I had that misconception of like, oh, we're all going to like live with on the same block, just like my parents did, you know, when I was younger. Sure. Yeah, you had that amenity. So like it really seemed like, oh, instead of like recognizing the roses and smelling them at the moment, you're like, oh, well, this is just what life is because that's what you were used to. Right. It's all I knew. Right. Right. Exactly. So yeah, I could see how that would even be a harder landing where you're like, what? Yeah. High school, high school was the first time things got harder because, uh, I went to one school and the other two on the street went to a different school.
00:07:57
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Oh, you guys had that kind of weird cutoff where, you know, if your X amount of houses up the street, you go to a different school. Mine, mine was, I went to Catholic school and they went to public. Oh, yeah I mean, I'm sorry. I mean, I'm sorry too. Um, but, but yeah, i see and then it it just kinda, you know, went from there. We went to college and really split. on door Um, and then people moved.
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You know, my high school friends, I haven't seen some of them since we graduated, but I still talk to them. Yeah, it is. It is quite fascinating. Like the more, you know, and it's not that it's, you know, because aside from like back in like yield and times or, you know, pilgrim days were like the the towns were small and you knew everybody all the time, which that presents its own other issues. But like.
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You know, like the, the bigger the everything got like, you know, we develop more ways to stay in contact with each other and yet it still feels like, you know, contact could happen at any moment, but it's still just so difficult to maintain. Like it's the maintenance that makes it challenging. Um, you know, and sometimes people just don't want to, other times they just might not have the capacity to, um, you know, and it just feels like, you know, you send that text message or you,
00:09:15
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Back in my day, we did phone calls and then emails about your instant messengers on AOL online. And, uh, you know, it just feels so interesting that like, you know, now we have and the ability to contact almost anyone on earth at any time, you know, and it still feels like it's so difficult to do because like the faster things move, the harder it is to keep up with it. You know, I think part of it is to that, like.
00:09:40
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everything's become so homogenized in in the world. Right. Like. And hey, if you're homogenes, that's OK. We respect yeah all kinds of people. Look, no shade at any. You can love whatever ji whatever gens you want. You can be a homogen or a heterogen. We don't we don't care. Yeah, we don't judge. um But you can't deny the world has gotten so homogenized. Like, I'm sorry, people, but. Oh, they're flying that homogenized flag.
00:10:10
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Um, I saw it higher than the American flag. that deal Yeah. Uh, but one of the questions I've come to dread more than anything else as an adult is what's new. What's up. How you been? Nothing. Because nothing, nothing is new. I work 40 hours a week. That is most of my life right now. All right.
00:10:36
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Two years ago, when you asked me, I was living the exact same life I'm living right now. But do you think that's more of a reflection of society or a reflection of you?
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You know, the whole you you cut off, I miss that entire thing. Oh, i I asked, do you think that's more of a reflection on society or a reflection of you? I think it is a bit of both. I will admit I have my own fault in it. Right. I am a big video gamer and not all of my friends are. So when they ask me what's new, I can't start geeking out about the latest game I'm p playing.
Societal Homogenization and Personal Connections
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You're like, I have to just be like, well, i I played a lot of video games. You're like, you're like, I beat, uh,
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I beat Mogue on Elden Ring. Yeah. I got like, I became the Elden War. Yeah. um So I can't always, you know, fall back on that. um So I'm like, between work and video games, you know, there's just nothing to do. But also, I do think it is. Partly society, you know, everything costs money and what don't a lot of people have right now?
00:11:52
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Money. You know, I could spend the night playing video games and not spend a hundred dollars going bowling for a night or something. ah The old park that I used to go to is now like a rundown mess. You know, i there are things I'm sure I could find if I really looked. We know there's a hiking trail we want to check out and we keep pushing it off, but like it's not as easy to go out and do things as it was.
00:12:21
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You know, um, teen years ago, those options just are not a lot of those places closed down because, you know, people stopped going to them. They, people have become more reclusive than ever. And it reflects in the businesses that are open. There's less, uh, recreational things open than there used to be.
00:12:47
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Hmm. So you're saying. You're saying that it feels harder to go do things right now.
00:12:57
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Yeah. And more expensive, like the expense is a bigger thing. You know, back in the day it was grab like $5 worth of quarters and you could go to an arcade for a couple hours, right? And you'd be fine today. I'm trying to think of what's around here. We've got an escape room.
00:13:19
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but we have to use that sparingly. I've only done it once here because once we've done them all, we've done them all. What about a, what about a nice picnic in the, we've done that at a park. We do have a park. We can do picnics at we've done that. Yeah. It is, it is sometimes challenging. Like, well, what should we do aside from go eat? But, um,
00:13:43
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Something I've made a concerted effort to do a little bit more lately. Actually, I just did this, ah even while it was raining the other day, I took ah someone out with me to go disc golf and we played 18 holes of disc golf. And, um, even in the drizzle, even when it was hot, it was very muggy in that forest that we went and we walked through the forest where all the pins were played a full game.
00:14:05
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My chest and my arm is still a little bit sore, but it was so nice to be outside and have like an activity to do that didn't cost me. I mean, it cost me for the discs in the backpack I bought for it like last year, but outside of that, like it's a one-time investment and then like, you know, it gave me something to do for like two hours with someone and it didn't cost me a goddamn thing except for maybe like 50 cents in gas. So like, it was kind of nice to do something like that. Yeah, we don't. Was it like a public forest that you used?
00:14:33
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Well, it was a park like it was at a park. Um, but this particular park, like there's one park near Pittsburgh. That's like a bigger open field where it's like, it's still amongst trees and stuff, but like it was constructed to look like that. Like the trees were planted. It's still pretty. It's a lovely park. Massive. But we went to this other park that's a little bit closer. Um, and they, instead of like constructing like a flat area and then making disc golf, you know, they constructed it for disc golf.
00:15:03
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What these people did was they're like, you know what? There's like a big chunk of land that we own as part of the park. It's just in a forest that we haven't like done anything with. And they're like, you know what? We're just going to put. disc golf holes out there and nets and stuff. And like, so like there's steep climbs, it gets muddy. yeah Like one of the things, if you throw it a little too hard, your disc goes down the hill and it just keeps rolling. And if you're unlucky, it rolls all the way down to the highway. That's at the bottom of the hill. You know, it's just like, Hey, we put this thing here. And if you want to go play disc golf is great, but it's in a big ass forest. It's all Hills and hikes and shit. So it was a full workout, man. We were climbing Hills. we We're going down Hills. We were, uh, you know,
00:15:43
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Uh, in, in nature, we got to see animals, um, you know, like at one point we're right, right at the border of someone's backyard where like the properties meet. It was awesome. And I was like, you know what? This is, you know, this is a much more challenging one because like, it's not flat, but like, man, it just felt so good to feel like I was on a hike while I was playing disc golf. It was super cool. Um,
00:16:05
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So um I've been trying to find more freestyle, but it is hard. You are right. It is hard to like find shit to just do. Everything's been commoditized, you know? Yeah, homogenizing, commoditized. I'm looking at the things to do in my area and i'm like, OK, I see two things that I know for a factor free and I've already done many times. Mm hmm. Everything else. I mean, none of these even have pictures.
00:16:36
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but like everything else looks like it costs money. You know, we should make a list for future episodes of like, Hey, here's our tip for the free thing to do. And then maybe we'll put a picture of us on social media or something doing that free thing. Um, you know, we should do something like that. Um, bad idea. But before we belabor the adult thing too much, can I tell you real quick what my, the first thing I thought of was about, um,
00:17:05
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Danny, did I lose you? Yeah. Yeah. Hello. Hello. Did I lose you again? Well, on my on my wave, my waves are working perfectly. So maybe your ears are starting to break. I'm going to be surprised. But that's OK, guys. Hey, listen, I'm not cutting this out. This is just something that happens sometimes. Technical difficulties. But what I was asking was, could I really quickly, before we belabor 20 minutes of adulthood, what my misconception was? Oh, my God. Yeah, I'm so sorry.
00:17:34
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No, it's okay. I was continuing to ask questions and the conversation deviated. That's what happens on the show. Guys, if you're, if this is your first time listening, this is it. So, yeah you know, this is, I hope that you like it, but this is it. I completely forgot you never answered. No, please go ahead. it's Okay. Partially because I knew I didn't answer, but I wanted to continue what we were talking about as well. Um, so anyway, the first thing I thought of, well, I i thought of two things. One was when you were talking about,
00:18:01
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hopes and dreams and everything. I remember I saw a post on Twitter, um, that was like somebody says something about Tommy Pickles was right. I don't want adult responsibilities or something like that. Um, ah responsibilities. I can't remember, but the first, the thing that I thought of that I'm still continuing to learn every day as an adult as well is I thought that when you get to a certain age, you automatically know what is going on.
00:18:28
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like you Like at some point either you learn it or your brain just goes, this is how society works. This is how life works. and i And you think, and the other misconception I had in lieu of that was everyone else knows what they're doing.
Societal Pressures and Self-Discovery
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And then the more I get older, the older I get, the more I find that people are still trying to figure it out. yeah you know And I used to feel really guilty for not having a career path in my twenties. And i so it still gets to me sometimes. Cause I still feel like I'm trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.
00:18:57
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But even 20 years ago, some of the people that names that we know the best, some of those people, whether they're an actor, a scientist, an engineer of some sort, a fucking bridge builder, like people whose name generals, whatever. Some of these people didn't really get to their career path until like, you know, much later in life than we think. We just like think, oh, they already knew or they always had this. Some of the world's most famous actors didn't even get discovered until they were like 45, you know, like,
00:19:26
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So I keep thinking like, as much as I would love to have a tray ah trajectory in my career and and know exactly what life is supposed to be like and own a home, maybe someday. Now I don't even know if I want to own a house. I might just be a vagabond my whole life. I don't know yet. There you go. you know But the more I keep questioning it, the more I'm like, some of those things I do want, but the other things I used to think I should have by now, I don't fucking care anymore. You know, I'm like,
00:19:48
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You know, I'll float. I'll find a new place to live. I'll live in my car. I'll travel then. If something forces me in a situation where like I'm screwed, then I just adapt. It's easy to adapt when you have less, you have to leave behind. And so like, I'm like, you know, I feel like I'm getting to a point where like some of the things that used to weigh my heart heavily don't anymore because I realized that it's not as big of a deal as I used to think, you know,
00:20:11
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or figuring life out. Like I think I've mentioned before, one of my uncles went back to college in his forties, you know, he hated what he was doing and he went to college just to learn and became a professor there eventually, you know, cause he just wanted to spice up his life after his wife died, you know, and, you know, yeah, you know, and like, huh?
00:20:31
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I said, not the wife dying, of course. But yeah, you know, like he was just going back to everything. That's cool. You know, to do it himself and his life wasn't fulfilling. And he just, I just, you know, when I was a little, I'll never forget when I was a little kid, I was like, uncle, Tim, buddy, you know, why are you back in school? You go to college, isn't that for 18 year olds after high school? And he says, I just like to learn.
00:20:49
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You know, and that was way before he would ever would years before he became a professor, he didn't go to school because he wanted to be a professor. Just somebody saw something in him. They're like, Hey, it's really cool that you came back to school and you're here every day and and your grades are high. Like, do you think that you would want to teach? I don't even remember what he's teaching, but he ended up becoming a professor. And, you know, I think that's fucking dope as hell. Yeah, absolutely.
00:21:11
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You know, so my whole thing is like, I always thought everybody knew and every day I think that person looks like they have it together because that's probably what they post on social media. But their life is, you know, still hectic and crazy and and they have all these responsibilities and choices they have to make, you know.
00:21:28
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I just keep thinking like I don't have to have it all figured out because I don't think anybody else does either. you know Even when I see the world's richest man post something stupid on Twitter, I'm like, you'd think that guy had it figured out, but he fucking doesn't either. He's an idiot. you know so like I don't feel so bad when the world's richest guy is still just as fucking stupid as I am, if not dumber. you know so like Actually, I take it back. He is dumber. so like you know I'm just like, you know what? if That dumb guy can make it. I can make it eventually. So you could do it. I definitely can. if You can do it. I can definitely do it. I just need to figure out what it is. Apartheid, Emerald Mine. You know, right. Exactly. um You know, but anyway, that's just me is like, you know, and I wanted to bring that up because I think it's so important for people to recognize that because I truly believe that I am not alone in that. I think that a lot of people think that they because of social media, you typically see people's life being kind of aggrandized in a way.
00:22:23
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because that's where they want to put their best selves forward. Every time I look at a woman on a dating app, I think, wow, they're traveling and their life is so put together and and they must have a lot of money saved up and and all their pictures are good and have all these high quality photos. And they just seem like they're living their best lives. And I'm like, I put my good pictures up, too. But like, I'm not living that life every day. You know, that's actually one of the reasons I dropped out of Facebook is I could feel like the onset of that envy.
00:22:52
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Sure. yeah I would look at everybody's photos and stuff or or their walls or whatever they were called. Yeah. And um yeah, like you said, everybody only puts their best stuff. Right. So when you're in your darkest moments and you're scrolling like Facebook or whatever and you're seeing everybody else having a great time, it gets very easy to feel like you're the only one in the hole. You're the only one that's having any rough time of it and everybody else is just living their best life.
00:23:20
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Uh, and I could feel that in me, I could feel that envy, that hatred, that like, Oh yeah, negativity to it. And then no matter how privy you are to it, no matter how privy you are to it, it still gets to you. It's like, because you it's so present, you can't help but have that sinking, you know, that terrible self esteem start to creep in. We're like, I'm doing nothing with my life, you know, yeah where people only put their best foot forward most of the time.
00:23:47
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That's what made me finally pull the plug on Facebook and say, you know what? I'm done with this. Um, I can't mentally, it's just not, I could tell it's not good for me. That's why I haven't gotten on any other social media stuff. I'm just, I can't, I just can't. I think the world would be a much better place if a lot of other people also realized they just can't do it, you know? Right. So, you know, and that's something that I always try to remind myself, like, Some people probably do they're living the life they want to live. They have the relationships that they want their content. And I think that's fantastic. But I think the majority of us are like, Oh my God. and Do you remember, um, this is related, I promise, but do you remember when that story about Elmo on Twitter? Do you remember when he posted, how's everyone doing?
00:24:33
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Yeah, I think so. And that post on Twitter, just a random Elmo post on Twitter all the time. Whoever runs that account, Cookie Monster does. A lot of the Muppets post on Twitter every day. And, but just a random streak of just responses one day. Elmo just a knock, innocuously just put, Elmo wants to know how everyone's doing. No contest, just like a sweet little, how you doing?
00:24:58
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thousands upon thousands of responses of just people just confessing they're miserable or they I'm not good Elmo or so-and-so died Elmo or I just feel useless Elmo like just scores of people just pouring out to this puppet on a Twitter post that their life is just in the shitter and they just hate where they are and it was just like It got national news. They had Elmo on like different news stations talking and they had the guy like his puppet dad there too and talking about, you know, because I liked the whole acting of like Elmo's not going on the show alone. His dad's with them talking about it. So I just thought it was a ah very cute way to approach like, Hey, you know, I'm his dad. I know he posted Twitter. So I thought that it was fun to kind of keep that kayfabe about it. But like.
00:25:44
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But it was very enlightening, just like that was the story for like two weeks of just like, oh, my God, people are crying to Elmo. And you know what that tells me and and what I think the takeaway from that is. What's that? Everybody is trying so hard with like social media and everything to make themselves look as good as possible. Right. To put out this um image or lifestyle that they don't actually have.
00:26:14
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But doing it yourself is not the same as somebody asking you, how are you doing? Nobody ever asks anybody how they're doing anymore. They just go on social media and be like, Oh yeah, they're doing great. They're like pay posting all this stuff. Well, how do you know?
00:26:31
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That's only showing what they want you to see. Like can I tell can I tell you something social that you can try if you want to get to the truth of that? Because I noticed you said like when you hate someone when someone says what's new and you say nothing. Right. I noticed that the cloak was like, how are you doing? Good. You good. Right. And that's it. It's just like a pleasant exchange. Right. But sometimes I'm like, how are you doing? And like, good. I'm like, what's good that's going on.
00:26:57
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And they like, uh, I'm like, is it actually good? You know, like, are you okay? What's going on? And then usually it's not to say sometimes like, Oh, you know, just the usual, but some people like, okay, maybe nothing good recently. I'm like, Oh, but has it been bad? Anything bad recently? And then boom, just put different conversations at that point, you know, because like people just say words that don't mean anything. Sometimes they just say it because that's the response that you learned. I don't know how much you've traveled. Um,
00:27:27
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But in the northeast where we live, you know, saying you don't live in the northeast. We live in the east, but that's a northeast one. Are we not in the northern bit? I would consider northeast like New England. OK, fair enough. You know, we're close to dr on the east coast. Yeah, in the east coast. and Slightly north of the middle. Right. Yeah, you go. um Just above the belly button. Just above it.
00:27:56
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just Saying to somebody, what's up? How are you doing? How are you? All that is ah the same as saying hi to somebody. Of course. Yeah. If you're walking and you pass somebody by, you know, they say, oh, hey, what's up? Hey, man, how you doing? And that's it.
00:28:13
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I've traveled down to like Texas and done stuff and, um, you know, had a little vacation there and I made the mistake of asking somebody what's up because down there it's an actual question. And if you ask somebody what's up, they're gonna tell you what's up. I love it. I think that's fantastic. And I don't, I don't mind it, but it was a culture shock I didn't know about.
00:28:39
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Right. So I was just walking on the street, just pass somebody and he kind of did one of those nods. I'm like, Hey man, what's up? And he stops and turns around and he starts telling me about his life. And I'm like, Oh, Oh no. Wow. are Too awkward for this. That's fun. Actually. I think that's super cool. Um,
00:29:01
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But yeah, I mean, yeah, I guess that that makes sense. But if you're ever genuinely curious and so, so I'm good, you know, I try to be a little more on, if it's just a colloquial, like I'm going to a doctor's visit and like, how are you doing? i Like terrible doctors, you know, but like, but you know, like if I'm just showing, I was like, Hey man, how are you doing? I'm not going to be like, good. I'm like, well, actually, you know, or like, Oh, Hey, actually this cool thing happened to me.
00:29:25
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Um, you know, but anyway, just, I, I think it's important. I wanted to bring it up because, um, I think that a lot of people have that misconception of everyone else has it together, but me and they absolutely i think, not and I've always known that that it was false, but seeing things like that, uh, Oh, the, another one, and do you want more? And then we can move on from this question, actually i could see important but it's funny.
00:29:50
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Do you remember when Steve from blues clues, they had the 20th anniversary of blues clues and they were doing all the touring and everything. And when the blues clues guys came together, they had this really cool special and I didn't watch the whole thing because they didn't have access to that channel, but a YouTube clip went viral of Steve, the original host of blues clues.
00:30:10
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who left the show originally for selfless reasons because he was afraid, he was he was starting to lose his hair and he was afraid that he wasn't he was gonna look too old and he didn't wanna make the little kids who watched his show think something was wrong with him. So he left and had a new host come on and he introduced him like, oh, this is my brother Joe and all this other stuff. um But anyway, he returns for the for the anniversary, the 20th anniversary and he did this, if you haven't seen it, you should look it up.
00:30:37
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this beautiful video of him just saying, Hey, you know, I haven't talked to you in a while. And he talked to the camera the way he used to talk to it when he was host, you know, and last time he hosted, I was a kid, you know, not quite tiny enough to like really be the demographic, but I was probably like seven or eight. And, um, I just remember watching that.
00:30:56
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and thousands, ah probably hundreds of thousands of millennials, bald their fucking eyes out watching this video when he just talked to the camera. And you know, he wasn't talking to the kids. He was talking to the adults and he says, Hey, we haven't talked in a little while. I disappeared when we were a little. And I said, this is my, this is my brother Joe. He's going to be your new friend now. And he says, and he kind of goes into like, you know, I hope that you're doing well. And you've probably accomplished all these great things. And he says all these beautiful things to you. And it went viral. And and just, again, the the responses on that post, instead of like, oh, my life is in the shitter. It's just these people pouring their hearts out to this post of like,
00:31:33
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Oh man, I missed you and I'm balling watching you. And I didn't realize how emotionally pent up I was and all these other things. And just this kinda for like, I always consider that like that was the day that for a little while America was healed. Like so many people, regardless of what their political or religious ideologies or social ideologies were, watch this grown ass man talk to grown ass adults as if they were kids when they were little and everybody cried together.
00:31:58
Speaker
Happily watching this guy talk to them and it was beautiful and he still I think so last I checked he's still on tick-tock and sometimes what he'll do is He will turn on the camera He will start going live and he will sit there and I'll say hey, so tell me how everything's going and he will sit there not reading comments and He would just stare into the camera and nod as if he's listening to you and people are finding it extremely therapeutic and they are typing in to his chat or they're talking to the camera to him even though he can't hear them and he's just sitting there listening for like 10 or 15 minutes in silence. Every so often it's like, uh-huh.
00:32:36
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OK, you know, and that's it. And he's like just playing into yeah having someone who will listen to you. And like, I think it's number one, that takes like such courage to do that, doing nothing. But people ah are they love
Changing Perceptions of Masculinity
00:32:49
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it. And I think that's such a cool thing because people are finding therapy in that, you know. Anyway, my point is it just like in that moment, I just felt like just when you think everybody has it together, just remember that there are thousands upon thousands of people When a childhood host turns on a live show.
00:33:09
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on TikTok, they pour their heart out to him every fucking time. So just remember that if you're listening to this and you think that you are the only one struggling, that this is a regular occurrence. And if you want that same patharsis, go find Steve, man. Go look him up. Just look, Steve, you Steve from Blue's Clues, you know, TikTok, you'll find them, you know, and it's incredible. I think you should do it. um Or if you want your heart to heal, go find that video I was talking about. Just, you know,
00:33:39
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This type in Steve 20 year anniversary blues clues. It'll be probably the first thing that pops up. Oh, yeah, absolutely. And it's incredible. It's incredible. I think that that is an absolute beautiful thing. I do. Yeah, I love it. I think it's awesome um for all the people who I know are sitting there right now thinking like, wow, what a bunch of pansies. They have to like watch some guy just stare at it. Shut up.
00:34:03
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look inside a little bit, realize that nobody's probably asked you how you are in God knows how long and maybe go find one of those and just let it out. The reason these people aren't crying is because they're sissies or whatever. It's because nobody in this world shows that they care anymore. And when they finally have that little bit of an outlet, it's like a dam breaking, you know, the years ah because there's just I heard all the time, even um in the workforce, right? Like,
00:34:34
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I've had more than one job where my coworkers were like, Oh man, you just missed out. Like maybe 10 years ago, we used to go to the bar every Friday night, all of us, and just sit around and talk and like actually get to know each other and stuff. Now it's just nine to five. You show up, you do your work, you shut up, sit down and go home. There's no love. There's no personhood to it anymore. And it's not just work. It's, it's the world in general. It kind of goes along with the whole,
00:35:04
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uh finding activities to do everything's commoditized everything has to be you know tailor-made to appeal to the broadest audience there has to be money in every little thing they have to nickel and dime you everything's got to feel soulless and corporate people just don't get that that connection anymore and i think that's where that is coming from and you should honestly try it you'd be surprised and there is nothing not manly or anything about actually having emotions. That is such an outdated thing that I hate. If you are scared to show your emotions, you're a wimp. There you go. A real man faces their emotions.
00:35:46
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Yeah. And I will say I don't think anybody listening to this show, if they got 30 minutes into our podcast, we think so. Thanks. But I do think it's good to recognize it that like there people might not be ready for that. But I do like that at least in a big chunks of our society. I think there is especially in the mental health field for men. I think there is a little bit more recognition that, you know,
00:36:09
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Guys feel like they have to hold it together more. Guys feel like they can't be as expressive. Guys may feel, you know, um, you know, I even see like in like some romance, you know, posts and stuff where some women will say, Hey, you know, to other women, like, Hey, if you want to help take care of your guy, like hug him more, let him rest his head on your chest more, you know, like, you know, stroke his hair the way he strokes yours. Like guys like to be comforted too, you know, and like, I do think that there is a little bit more aware and I do think that there's still like that dichotomy of like,
00:36:39
Speaker
men are gross, men are aggressive, men need this, men need that. But I do also think that there are more people who are recognizing like, oh, this person might be broken, this person might be guarded because of trauma, this person might, you know, have never learned how to say certain things. You know, so I do think that those people are out in the transition of Yeah, and I think I think I think, you know, and not that we'll we'll stop layering it past this point. But I do think just kind of bring it all back around that like,
00:37:06
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When it comes to like not everybody having it figured out, I think everybody could stand to be a little bit more inquisitive and to listen a little bit longer. Like sometimes, and I'm warning the power of silence too. Like I think sometimes it's easy to feel like you have to fill that space, but sometimes if somebody says something to you and maybe they are saying something more passionate or compassionate or maybe vulnerable.
00:37:30
Speaker
You may feel like you need to say something right after they finish talking, but give it like a beat, give it five to 10 seconds. Cause sometimes they need time to process what they just said out loud, maybe, and then they'll have more to say. Or if not, then that's when you pick a question about that. Like instead of saying like, wow, that sucks. You can say like, well, how are you doing with that?
00:37:49
Speaker
Or how long has that been going on? Or, you know, what's that like for you? Or is there anything that I can do or or rather don't even say, is there anything I can do? What can I do? Because that's a little bit more of an open-ended question. um There was one thing I used to tell people um when they were like, oh, you know,
00:38:08
Speaker
I tried to comfort somebody, but I couldn't think of the right thing to say or anything. Right. One of the things that I say is nothing. Well, one of the best things of advice I would give them was. Don't look for only words to comfort somebody, right? Like, oh, yeah, if you can't think of something to say, it might be because words are not what they need right now. Just give them a hug. You know, not like pat on the back, sitting around them, a pat on the back.
00:38:38
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I advocate so strongly for hugs in general. I like when I'm with my wife or whatever, I prefer hugs to kisses, right? Like ah society has hugged a private. Oh, dude, it nothing makes you feel so secure or like together or close with somebody than a hug. And it doesn't have to be in a romantic way. Ask Adam. The very first thing we did when we met was hug each other. We did tightly.
00:39:05
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Yeah, yeah, we did. I I hug all my friends and I see them. And it wasn't like one of those quick bro hugs. We were braced for a good like 10 or 15 seconds. We hugged for a while. I sniffed him and I told him he smelled exactly like I thought he would. That's true. I think I told him told you that you smelled like an athlete or something. I can't remember what I said.
00:39:21
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um ah Okay, can I can I raise like back to Yes, make things a light little bit more light-hearted now bring some levity. Sure. Yeah, so one last misconception I had and I want to preface this by saying Circumstances conspired against me on this one ah I thought for much longer into life than I should have that adult had eyes in the back of their head and because that's what they
Childhood Misconceptions
00:39:49
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always told you. Well, my mom was a master of seeing me in the reflection of the mirror. Spoilers. That's how they do it. Can you see me in the reflection of the window or whatever and saying stop it and then telling me, well, you know, adults have eyes in the back of their head. They even told me when you turned 18 is when they would come in. ah So when I was younger, I went to get a haircut with my mom and this guy came in with a full head of hair, sat down, had his head shaved.
00:40:18
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and left and he had eye tattoos on the back of his head that got revealed from him getting that. So when he left, I went bug eyed and I'm like, mom, oh my God, you're right. Wow. And it made me believe that for longer than I should have to this day. Like when I turned 18, a little, little bit of me was a little sad that my eyes never sprouted. Wow. Yeah. Hey, you know what? those There's still time.
00:40:48
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There's some sorry mom, if you're busy cracking up trying not to laugh. Danny, how about you hit us with a word of the day, buddy? Sure. Oh man. This was a big one. Yeah. All right. Let me, let me hit this little. ah Are you listening? You didn't listen to it before. Give me a little listen. I need to do it right away. Otherwise, you know, I got you. Right. Right. Of course. This is this is the process, gang. Yes. OK. And thank you again to dictionary dot com for giving us the words of the day. Dictionary dot com or dictionaries go to dot com. Right. Yeah. No, that was exactly it. Yeah. ah Today's word of the day is mendacious. Mendacious.
00:41:35
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Interesting. Any ideas? Do you know that word? I don't have, what is it? M E N D A C I O U S. That's it. Look at you. I'm just making an educated guess. There's only three ways that shus can be at the end of a word that I know. of Um, dacious, like audacious.
00:41:57
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trying to think dacious like usually that involves like it's an adjective clearly. um You don't see you don't be a mendacious you are mendacious. um You don't mean you don't mendacious things. Huh? I said that was rude to call me or very nice. Yeah, I was gonna say you can't just mendacious something that as far as I know, it doesn't have that context. Because like, if audacious Audacity. Is it mendacity? Is that a word? That would be the noun version of mendacious if it had one. ah No, I don't. There's not enough context for me to know, like, because men could be anything. It doesn't necessarily mean like male could be like. I don't even know. Yeah, what's it mean? So there is a mendacity there is I knew it. there is Yeah. So mendacious is an adjective.
00:42:55
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for somebody who tells lies, especially habitually. They're dishonest, lying and untruthful. So if you're a mendacious person, you're a habitual liar, habitual liar. Interesting, mendacious. Yeah, I don't think I would have thought that. I don't know if there's enough of the root word that um and I should look up, but what's a mendacity is you as suffix. Oh, it the quality of being mendacious.
00:43:27
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Right. tell i and i Telling you tragedy is a lie. I assumed. OK. Yeah. OK, so just I.R.U.S. is just giving it an adjective form of a word. So, OK. All right. OK, cool. I thought I assumed I just want to say that. Yeah. So I wouldn't have known like what. I guess men menda would be the root word like menda. I know it has it in here from the Latin mendici.
00:43:57
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Mendici, so or like M E M E N D A C E or something. C I and the A has the thing over it. Ah, OK. And that she meant Mendici. It's one C. So I guess Mendici. OK. Yeah. See, I always love I should really try to learn more about root words and stuff because I love trying to feel like based off just what I remember from school, if I actually applied some effort, I might be really good at like just determining what words mean just by reading it.
00:44:24
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um Someday, maybe. I don't know. It's still maybe that's what I'll be when I grow up. I don't know yet. Mendacious telling the. So if you are mendacious, so you are not a liar. Well, yes, you are. You are a man. I mean, i mean if if you are a mendacious person, yes. So the so it would be someone mendacious means to tell lies habitually. Right. Just to be a liar, like telling lies. Right. But it's especially for.
00:44:53
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habitual liars. Yeah. Gotcha. You could be. It looks to me like it could be malicious as well. If somebody's maliciously lying all the time, they would also be a mendacious person. You mendacious little minx. Yeah. I see a man. Okay. This of adulthood. Gotcha. There's your title. The mendacious what? The mendaciousness of adulthood. Wouldn't it be the mendacity of adulthood? Yeah, probably. But I don't grammar good.
00:45:27
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Or maybe it would or would it be a mendaciousness? Because it will depends if adulthood is lying to us, it's mendaciousness. If adulthood is the lie, then it's mendacity. I mean, because you can have audacity. You can be like, oh, this person, the audacity of that man, you know, would it so would it be like the mendacity of that man? You could also say the audaciousness of that man. That's true. I mean, that's see, that's where I got to figure out the the suffixes of words more.
00:45:56
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Um, I see. What if I just call it, um, uh, the, a mendacious adulthood lie. A lie. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. A mendacious adult. Nothing is something. Is audaciousness a word? Yeah. What does mess happen? It's behavior that shows a willingness to take risks or offend people.
00:46:26
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So there's audacious. This isn't. Mendacious. Mendacious. All right. Any I'll figure it out. Yeah. All right. This is how we do the title. Yeah. Most of the time. Just during the episode. All right. So another quick question from Pointless Story. Yeah. That first one was super quick, too. Yeah. They ask how do you deal with people who aren't smart, but they think they are. Oh, God. Oh, God. How do you deal with people who.
00:46:56
Speaker
aren't smart. And I think the asterisk for this one would be like maybe it's not to say that they're stupid, but the thing that they're trying to sound smart about, they are not. They're just being loud about it. They're confidently incorrect. They're confidently incorrect. Yes. You know, not to say that they're stupid entirely, but just they're not as smart as I think they are in the subject on which they're speaking, you know. Yeah. So ah for this one, the number one rule is don't tell them they're wrong.
00:47:26
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Um, and I mean that literally don't say you're wrong.
Dealing with Confidently Incorrect People
00:47:29
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Uh, because there's a thing called the backfire effect where if you tell somebody that their beliefs are incorrect, they take it as a personal attack and we'll double down rather than, um, admit or look into it. Right. And this is a huge problem in everything now.
00:47:51
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So a much better way I found to deal with it is to hide your challenge of the facts.
00:48:03
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in inquisitiveness, right? Like if you were to tell me something that you're confidently incorrect about, I'd be like, well, really that's, is that actually how it works? Cause that's not how I understood it. Like I'm not saying you're, you know, i ah when I say that I'm not saying you're wrong. I'm saying like, I had a different understanding. And then that gets us talking about it in, in more open way than just me being like, no, that's not how that works. You know, that makes the other person close up right away.
00:48:34
Speaker
Whereas saying like, well, that's weird. That's not how I pictured it will make them want to prove to you that they're right. So they'll go look it up and hopefully see that they're wrong and be like, Oh, well, nevermind. Um, it's not a hundred percent successful, but it's what I do. Um, and if I'm at a little word of advice for everybody who want to work in a corporate environment, um,
00:49:02
Speaker
You know, the best way to deal with corporate politics is to just avoid it as much as you can. So whenever I talk to coworkers, whatever they are telling me, whatever gossip they're telling me is the, is right at that moment, right? Like if it's work related and actually about our work, obviously I have to correct them if need be. But if they're just talking about people at work, I'm just like, uh-huh. Uh-huh. Whoa, that's crazy. Yeah. Uh-huh.
00:49:30
Speaker
Then I'll go talk to the other person later and they'll, you know, complain about from the other side. Wow. That's crazy. I can't believe that. Wow. Yeah. I just agree with whoever I'm talking to. Um, but yeah, sorry. I went off on that. I don't, I don't give it. I use, it depends on who I'm talking to. Sometimes I'll just argue because I want to, but more often than not, because yeah I think it's, it depends on the friends. Like sometimes it's like, if that's like the dynamic of my friendship,
00:49:59
Speaker
Um, see, but that's different. what you I don't think that's, I don't think that's friendship. I know. I'm just being a jerk. No, I know. But I mean, you can be that that's okay. Um, thank you you know, uh, yeah, but what I often do is try to change the subject or I just don't give it the spotlight. It just depends on the situation. Like sometimes people just want to say something because they want to like start like a hot debate or they want to, you know, uh,
00:50:25
Speaker
just be the loud person in the room or maybe they're uncomfortable with silence. And usually I just like, dude, shut up. No one wants to talk about that right now. Or I would just like say, you know, my lately thing is like, whatever you say, crazy guy, you know, whatever you say, silly lady, you know, and whatever you say, you silly sausage. Like, I'm just like, okay. And then I change the subject. Cause like I can, or I'll just say, Hey, read the room. No one cares.
00:50:47
Speaker
You know, just like move on. Like, you know, but I'm also a powerful enough presence and I'm just like, you really want to do this? You want to do this right now? Like while we're around all these people. Is that what you want to do? Is that what you want to disagree with the extrovert? Yeah. Is that the, um, is that the, uh, you know, the mood that you want to set for this birthday party for this child that we're standing next to? Is that really what you want to do there chief? Huh? Huh?
00:51:10
Speaker
You want you want to talk about you want to talk about Guantanamo Bay? Well, you want to talk about the birthday party, turn it into your your funeral. You want to. Yeah, you want to you want to try to hijack the birthday party to be invited to another birthday party again. So what do you want to do? You want to just sit at home? All right. Do you want to just sit home and do nothing? Do you want to not be invited? Then why do I get invited to things? Because you're so obnoxious when you say stupid things out loud. Yeah. OK, shut the fuck up.
00:51:36
Speaker
You know, so like like yeah so like, yeah, I'm just like, you know what? Like, it just depends. Sometimes I'll let them sit in awkward silence so that way they're forced to change the subject. Do they stop talking or not just do that? I'd be like, all right, whatever you say, crazy guy. And then change the subject to something else that everybody else I think wants to talk about and just be like, all right, so anyway, what's this? Or I'll just talk about something else that, you know, if they're the only one in the room and they're just trying to say something stupid, I'm just very fine with just if it's just me and them.
00:52:05
Speaker
And I don't feel like I have to save everyone around me. Then my, my response is like, I don't feel like talking about that right now. And then I'll try to push it and say something like, Oh, well, I think this, this, this, this. I'm like, well, you already know how I feel. So I don't want to talk about it anymore. I'm not giving you this. that I'm not, you know, you know, go talk to somebody else about it. I don't really want to do this right now. And usually just the shutdown of like, I'm not doing this shuts up most people.
00:52:30
Speaker
Yeah, they're belligerent or they're drunk. Exactly. But now if they're under under the influence or something like that, typically, like more people will either just avoid them. And then I have to point it out and I'm like, Hey, notice how no one standing near you or sitting near you is because you're being obnoxious. And some people might still take offense and they'll just get louder because you can't reason with a drunk person most of the time. um But I'm also if I'm saying like, I'll just throw you out, or I'm just not going to hang out with you anymore. Like, you know, sometimes you just have to draw a hard line to be like, you're making everyone on, especially if it's my own home.
00:53:01
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Like I'm like, you're making people uncomfortable. Leave or settle down or fucking leave. Oh, that shit wouldn't fly in my home. No, exactly. So it just depends on the situation of where it is. But like either you redirect.
00:53:12
Speaker
Um, you don't give it any attention and these are cognitive behavioral tips, either redirect, like send that energy towards something else that you think that might also want to talk about, but don't make it so clear. Like they say, yeah, what about Guatemala or some stupid? I don't know what they would say, but like something like that, or they'll start talking about like, yeah, so, uh, Elon Musk spaceships are going to get us to the moon in 2025. And you know, instead of saying something like to encourage that you can say, yeah, well, maybe, um, but you know, actually I was kind of hoping it, and then you say something else, you know, and then.
00:53:43
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make it be titillating enough or controversial enough that they'll take the bait and talk about that, too. Be like, you know what? Actually, I was just saying, maybe we shouldn't play a Zelda in the new Zelda game. It kind of defeats the purpose. I kind of hate it, you know, and then talk about that instead. You know, like this changed the subject completely to something that doesn't really matter that much. um Or just say, you know, say someone died. That also helps, too. My dog is sick. Do that. People usually shut up and talk about my dog is sick.
00:54:11
Speaker
Like, sorry, or just say, I don't really want to talk about this right now. My dog is sick and I just kind of need to have some fun. Or here's the last one. I'll say, just say I've had a really rough week. I kind of don't want to get into this. Can we just talk about something else right now? A lot of times you're like, Oh man, whatever. or they' say Oh man, I'm sorry. And then, you know, sometimes you just have to show a hint of vulnerability to remind that person that, Hey, maybe what you want to talk about isn't so important.
Workplace Dynamics and Conflict Management
00:54:35
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Um,
00:54:36
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And then talk to them private later and say, Hey, you're fucking dumb, by the way, or just like Google what they're talking about. And then like, just send it to them so they can read it. and like yeah' see there That will not work. It's worked for me. Has it? Yeah. They'll say like, Oh, this, if it's like something factual, you can look up almost immediately. Like one time I had somebody tell me that.
00:54:57
Speaker
The guy from Batman, Batman Begins. Oh, no, was it? bad No. ah The Dark Knight, excuse me. um Aaron Eckert was Dennis Leary and they kept saying, oh, he's really good and thank you for smoking. And oh, he played the he played Harvey Dent and Batman or The Dark Knight. And I was like, no, he fucking didn't. You know, and it's like, oh, yeah, it was just so good. And he was started. I was like, all right, just give me a second. and I just googled it, showed him and then they got really pissed off and stormed off. I was like, look it up yourself, dude. Because usually if you say look it up and say, I don't have to. I already know it. And um if it's something that I don't like, it's literally Aaron Eckert. Fucking Dennis Leary is nowhere on this cast. I've had the opposite where people were like that and I sent them the thing and they're like, you know, now mine was about a more.
00:55:43
Speaker
hot topic than Dennis Leary playing. Sure. It just depends on what the subject matter is. ah But, you know, I got the typical like, oh, they're just lying to you. I'm like, really? Right. I mean, if it's certain things like that, I'm saying like, if you know that you can't quickly shut it down with like a quick Google, then like don't even like don't lean into it or just draw the hard line and say that's not what if it's a party, you know, or a gathering or a friendly hangout and someone's trying to start shit.
00:56:11
Speaker
to say, that's not why we're here. I don't want to have that talk while we're here. And then that's it. um You just draw that line and or you walk away. Don't give them the platform like, OK, if you guys want to talk about this, I'll go do something else. Let me know when you're done. And you just leave like you don't have to encourage it. You know, and if you're at work and your boss is just saying all sorts of stupid shit like, yeah, everybody has their opinion. You know, just like give them a give them a response if they want one or give them nothing. Say what you think about that. I don't know. Right.
00:56:48
Speaker
Is talking about this going to help me finish this project, sir? Okay, cool. Then I'd rather do that. But I don't even say that anymore. I just don't talk. If someone at work really has to be heard on something stupid they want to talk about that they clearly aren't correct on, I'll just let them talk. You know, because eventually someone who's much ruder than me will say something, it you know, or they'll get the hint that nobody will. And if they ask for input, like, what do you think? I'm like, well, it sounds like you have all the answers already. So it doesn't matter what I think, you know,
00:57:17
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Sounds like you got it all chief. Um, you know, There's a lot of ways to shut it down. so Either ignore it, that's called planned ignoring in behavioral therapy, where you just ignore it on purpose and just watch the reaction um until they give you a different behavior that you want more and then you respond to that. you know That's called planned ignoring. Or you can do redirection where you just pick something else to redirect them to instead of saying, don't talk about that thing. Instead of engaging with that subject at all, you pick a different subject and try to get them to do that thing.
00:57:48
Speaker
Sometimes you just throw something at them, say catch and you throw a ball and you're like, ah, fuck, you know, and then then maybe that will distract them enough and then you can talk about something else or you one up them. Right. And now this is the new one I just learned um using your example before. Right. Somebody comes up to you and is like, well, you know, Elon Musk is going to create a rocket that's going to take us to Mars in 2025. Right. Right. You believe in Mars. Here you go. Yeah.
00:58:18
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Yeah, there's one apple on one of my one of my favorites with with space is like I heard on scrubs. He's like, I don't believe in the moon. It's just the back of the sun. um It's like the third or just pick something that's like.
00:58:35
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So outdated in news, you know, one of my favorites from my favorite show, one of my favorite shows, Psych, is like, y'all hear about Pluto? That's crazy. That's messed up. like yeah so I'm still not over Pluto, guys, you know. What is it now? Because it went back and forth for a while. It's a dwarf planet. That's all. That's what. OK, they finally settled on one. Yeah, that was like one of in psych. That's one of Guess's pickup lines. Like, y'all hear about Pluto? That's messed up, right?
00:59:01
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Um, but yeah, so there's a few options. One up them, ignore them, reward them with behaviors. If they, if word them with attention, if they talk about something else or just draw a line and say, I don't want to talk about that right now. Or can we please change the subject? I'm stressed out. You know, like, I think, you know, one of those four avenues will
Health Awareness and Stroke Prevention
00:59:20
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definitely work. And if they don't just don't hang out with that person or just don't engage. Silence is a powerful tool when dealing with someone who's stupid.
00:59:27
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Yeah, you know, just stare at them flatly until the body language is that you just like just put your hands in your pockets. Don't smile. Don't nod. Just like. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Just give all that like tired, exasperated look until they're like, OK, this person's just going to get pissed or just get on your phone. Check out completely. In that case, you're not having a conversation. They're just being belligerent and loud. Get on your phone, you know.
00:59:53
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And I'll be like, what are you doing? Looking up what I'm talking about? Like, no, no, I just watched this little girl who thinks that these ducks are chickens or whatever, you know, like, you know, it's hilarious. Dude, oh, I'm so sorry that there was a ah misunderstanding here. I'm so sorry. You seem to think I care. I I'm that's my bad. I must have given the wrong impression. I don't.
01:00:13
Speaker
Yeah, you know, it's something like that. Come up with it. um Or if, you again, or if you're really good friends with them, just shut them down. I have friends that like sometimes they don't want to hear anything I'm saying. It's like, Adam, I don't care. I'm like, all right, cool. You know, I not know always keep an open mind, but it's tough. I get it. Yeah. So. So you go. ah You think we got one more? We've only done two questions.
01:00:39
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I know, but we're also going about an hour long. Although I i would like to if I could, Danny, if you are OK with putting a little bit more time into this episode, okay I would like to talk about a bit of a serious subject that we can kind of try to keep light. But something I think is important that, you know, if I'm I'll tell you why I want to talk about it in a minute.
01:00:57
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But I kind of want to typically just say, you know, we talked about like misconceptions of adulthood and like how your mental health can be affected. And then we talked about the smartness thing. But like a subject that came up in my mind just literally moments before we started recording, I thought about like how general like health is concerned and because I'm like trying to work more on being a trainer and everything.
01:01:18
Speaker
I realized there's a lot of people who just don't really know how to take care of themselves. Um, and it's just like the adult thing where like, you know, you think like, Oh, everybody just knows these things. A lot of times people, there's a lot of common knowledge that things you think are common knowledge or should be that aren't. Um, so I actually wanted to bring a little bit of, and if it's okay with you, cause you know, you're my co-host, I want to make sure it's a subject you're comfortable talking about. Um, I wanted to kind of talk about general, like,
01:01:45
Speaker
physical self care. And more importantly, I was inspired to bring up like something that I think hits people much, you know, at earlier and earlier ages, which is like strokes, you know, like how to keep an eye out for that kind of thing. Because, you know, several people in my life over the past couple of years have been affected by that. And they're not very old. Some are like, like early 40s. And I was just watching the psych movies, I just finished the series and I started watching the movies they made a few years ago. And The guy who plays Lasseter, his name is Timothy Amundsen, was set to be in the psych movie in a bigger role, but he's he's only like 42 or something. And he had a terrible, like a massive stroke that almost killed him. he He's been in recovery for years. And so he had a very limited role, like a cameo in the first movie. And they built the second movie around him while he was still in recovery. He was in a hospital bed and a chair for the whole movie. ah They wrote like the whole story around.
01:02:40
Speaker
his character being shot and recovering from a stroke when he was shot. And so that way they could explain his limited mobility, how he couldn't use his arm, how he could barely stand up. And I thought it was really sweet, by the way, because they just wanted him in that movie so badly. And he shared his story about how he was in recovery and signs that he wished that he had noticed sooner and what recovery looked like. Like his brain swelled up so much I had to remove parts of his skull so it could swell. And then they did a very dangerous procedure to re reconstruct his skull when when the swelling went down.
01:03:11
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And he's been in recovery for four years and got out like I think two years ago or something um And and and he was on the show called this is us and his character was written in it also recovering from his stroke So he could still get back to acting because his confidence was shot his body was trashed. He wasn't feeling like himself He was self-conscious And so they wrote these parts around him and for him so he could get back to work while he was in recovery And I just thought that was so fucking cool But like he was very open about the story that made me think like I don't Think about that that much, but strokes and heart attacks are like the number one debilitators or killers in like America right now. Oh, yeah. Aside from gun violence, which is very rapidly creeping up, but like. In adults anyway, like strokes and heart attacks like kill people, like thousands of people every day, yeah you know, or go ahead.
01:04:00
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Yeah, so I kind of wanted to just bring up a few things and you could kind of discuss like what maybe you knew. Like what do you know about a like, you know, not to put you on the spot or anything, but do you know like how a stroke happens or like any are you aware of any signs to keep an eye out for or anything? I know I used to know the acronym for it. I think it was like face. um But I know that the main thing is the slurred speech and the drooping of half of the face.
01:04:27
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Oh, it was fast. Yeah, I think you're right. I think it's that it's face drooping arm weakness, speech difficulty t it's time to call 911. Yeah. Yeah. So I know that. And they did tweak it to like be fast, which B is for balance is for eyesight as well. oh I didn't know that. but Yeah, that's a bit newer.
01:04:48
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ah But yeah, so but but outside of that, like, you know, if were you, you know, can you think of and the reason I'm asking you danny in the brain, isn't it from like heightened blood pressure or I mean, blood pressure certainly isn't like a weakness of the capillaries or blood pressure, whatever would cause the blood to eventually expand and basically pop one of the blood vessels in your brain. So you're thinking probably of an aneurysm.
01:05:17
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of aneurysms in and more like a but a vessel bursts. OK. So but but that's good. The reason I'm asking is because a lot of people don't even though it seems like it should be common knowledge. Some people only know what they kind of recognize from like TV. Right. So like a stroke is a disruption from blood flow to your brain like like a clot of some sort happens um where blood doesn't get to your brain enough in the oxygen that also the blood carries doesn't get to your brain enough. And so you essentially like your brain doesn't get air to it for, you know, even just like, a like 20 to 30 seconds, while air to your brain can cause irreparable brain damage forever. um So like, you know, so that's when like, and and you were right, you're 100% right about um ah blood pressure, like hypertension,
01:06:02
Speaker
is probably one of the earliest things that you can like try to tackle like now. so like So I wanted to bring that up because it also goes in line with like the general health thing. So I don't want to go too deep into everything with stroke. I do recommend you look it up, but you're right. The B fast acronym is there, the face drooping. But another one that a lot of people I'd notice bring up is like they get head like really massive headaches out of nowhere and they can't explain them.
01:06:27
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So that's one that a lot of people are trying to make more people aware of the like you know what i never really reported it before but i started to notice i had these really severe headaches and for no reason and i didn't know why i have to take off work or just out of nowhere i just be debilitating headaches and i couldn't concentrate and i would start crying or or i just couldn't concentrate.
01:06:46
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And um so like that's another one that a lot of people are trying to keep an eye on now is if you have like frequent, out of nowhere, like debilitating headaches. um But that's not the only sign. like you know like ah Another one is, like you know I mentioned the migraines, diabetes works towards that as well. But if like if you're confused a lot, if just out of nowhere, you forget how to say certain words, like the slurred speech, sometimes it's easy to miss because it's not like,
01:07:14
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It's not ah like, you know, you always think of like a drunk person who's slurring their speech, right? But sometimes slurring speech can be just like ah the way a certain word comes out of your mouth that it ordinarily doesn't. You know, a lot of times it's like an O or a vowel sound that like gets kind of distorted every once in a while. Like, and you might not pick up on it at first because, you know, you know, these little things can just kind of slip through.
01:07:38
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But you kind of want to pay attention. Like, you know, do I say my words different, especially if you're in a recording medium like us, you can hear your own words and be like, why did I sound like that? That's not necessarily mean that you're on the verge of a stroke. But like, typically if you find that you have several of these signs together, you know, like, or just the numbness is a big one. Like it's not even just face numbness. Like if you just find it like.
01:07:59
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your shoulder like the whole upper half of your arm just starts to feel tingly all the time like just that my arm is asleep my leg is asleep like you just find that your limbs are constantly feeling like they are pins and needles. You should go get that checked it might not be a stroke but it could be something related to your blood pressure. um If you lose your balance really easily.
01:08:19
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Um, you know, if your vision is like, just like blurry a lot more, if you find that you have trouble looking at your screen, if you find that like reading is becoming more difficult, uh, like don't just discount that shit. Like if you can get at least two or three of these in your pocket at once, you're like, Oh fuck, maybe I should go get checked. And it doesn't hurt to go get checked. Even if you only have one of these signs just to be safe, it's better be safe than sorry. Right. You know, go to like an urgent care and just have them do a quick, like,
01:08:45
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You know physical on you sometimes that's more than enough. They can check your blood pressure with that little squeezy thing I don't know what it's called right and if your numbers are like abnormally high like that's probably a sign right there that you could be borderline, you know Stroke or me Danny. Did you you know how easy does that have a mini stroke and not know you have them?
01:09:04
Speaker
Yeah, I have heard about those. You could have like that scares micro strokes or whatever. Yeah, they're called mini strokes or micro strokes and you can have multiple like throughout the week and not even know like in your heart is becoming dam more and more damaged as you go. And then they.
01:09:20
Speaker
can coalesce into like a big one later if they're left unchecked. But sometimes you don't even know you're having them. Like your eye might twitch a little bit and you don't even know. You just think there's something in your eye or like the sun's hitting you and then you just go about your day. You don't even know. Or it might be just a quick chest pain. You might attribute it like, oh, I ate something spicy. And then you're back to your day and you don't even know you had it.
01:09:38
Speaker
It's like it's crazy how easily it is. And heart attacks are also linked to these things. um You know, a very dear student of mine several years ago, not a a child student, one of my adult students from this dance studio days just out of nowhere. He was dancing. And and when you think hindsight, we' we're at a party and he was sweating more than usual. But I just thought it was because it was extra hot outside that day. And we had the AC on a little bit higher. But like the next day he was driving to work and he called his wife and he said, my chest really fucking hurts. And he died in an ambulance on the way to the hospital. Like,
01:10:08
Speaker
out of nowhere, it just hit him. And he was typically a generally healthy dude. um And he just he just went as quickly as that. Right. And not to make this episode too depressing, but like just thinking about Timothy and that actor and and and how they wrote the show around them. I was like, I feel like.
01:10:24
Speaker
We have enough people who listen to this that hopefully even if one person is like, I should really watch my health more. I should keep an eye out for these things. Or maybe I recognize these things in a friend of mine or a family member. Maybe I should keep an eye on that. like These are things that you don't think about until they're already happening to you or to someone that you care about. right And so I do think it's good to kind of bring shit up like this once in a while because as big as we are in the mental health and checking in with how you're doing and maybe you don't hurt yourself or go see a therapist or how your relationships, maybe you're lonely. These other things are also killers that you don't have. Well, you do have some choice in, but sometimes those choices are made before it's too late to react to it. you know um So anyway, I've been talking for a little bit, like, do you have any thoughts on that? Or is there anything that might surprise you or that that you think, or do you have any questions about that?
01:11:16
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ah hey it's a heavy subject I hate how many of those symptoms I'm like going through my head like ah scrutinizing myself a little bit. That one time I turned a corner and just like lost my balance all of a sudden. Did I have a mini stroke? That one time my heart did a Real bad palpitation. Did I have a mini stroke or something? Well, no, I don't mean to like going through it in my head. No, I know you didn't mean to do that. And I'm not trying to make it be like, oh, yeah, book your appointment right now. You know, I'm not benefiting from that. But if you haven't like gotten checked for that kind of thing, like if you haven't gotten a physical in a little while, like, I mean, I recently learned, I don't know if I said this in the podcast, but I learned that one of my eyes are deteriorating and I've had perfect vision my whole life. And we I just had another appointment today that kind of gave me some more information.
01:12:03
Speaker
But I learned it because I went to just a pre-employment physical. like I would have probably not learned this because like my other eye was compensating so heavily that I never noticed it until I had to shut one eye and do a ah vision test. And I was cocky. I was like, yeah, the vision test is the easiest part. Watch this shit. And then I couldn't read. And I was like, what the fuck? But thankfully, everything else checked out. My strength was good. My blood pressure was good. Better than ever since I've been watching my diet.
01:12:29
Speaker
Um, and, uh, you know, I still pass all the other physical stuff with flying colors and that made me feel good, but, you know, but I would have never learned what was going on with my eye had I not gotten to get that physical. And I didn't actually, this was my stupidity. I didn't choose to book the physical. I just had to get it because of pre-employment. But now I'm like, man, I should really like check in with my doctor more like because I, you know, I wasn't, I don't.
01:12:53
Speaker
And typically typically your insurance will cover at least one like check up visit every year. So you can at least do that without any out of pocket. Most insurance companies anyway will at least pay for a check. It's called the wellness check. Yes, that. Yes. um So please utilize it if you haven't. Just to add on to that even more, my diabetes was found at a just general. Oh, I don't think I knew that wellness check. Yeah, they they just found sugar in my urine and went from there. It was just, we happened to be getting a wellness check and they found it. Wow. So it's big. And I am definitely not advocating for diabetes. Don't get me wrong. but Everybody got getting diabetes. I know. Everybody. It's great. You'll love it. Everybody's wonderful. Yeah. Everybody should do it. Everybody should be doing it. But it does have its upsides, right? like
01:13:51
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i t I keep very tight control of my diabetes, which means I naturally keep very tight control on my carb intake, which is healthy. I also, between my regular doctor visits and my diabetes specialist that I go see, I go to the doctor four times a year, each one six months. So I'm constantly getting checkups. i'm I get blood work done every six months.
01:14:20
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You know, for all these different things. And while it sucks that I have to do that because anything, you know, any one of those things they're checking could go wrong. It also means that nothing can creep up on me. You know, I'm constantly being monitored. Oh, not nothing, but a lot of things. Yeah. Don't fly under the radar. Like nothing that would take, you you know, years to get to me. Right. Should go under the radar ah that easily. um Yeah. Just because, you know, like.
01:14:48
Speaker
I do get my checkup every year by just general checkup. It's just part of one of the six month visits I do. I get my blood checked by two different doctors every six months. And so there are like health advantages in a way to it. It's better, obviously, if you don't have diabetes and go do this on your own. But it's like keeping me honest. And that's in a way is good. Right. And and the thing I think about me I have two different perspectives on not going to the checkout. Number one, I just assume that I've always been in good shape aside from like, you know, some dental work I need to get done. But I was like, when general health, I feel good, I'm active, I'm in better shape than most people I know, you know, and I've always believed that. And I still do to some degree when I looked at people around me, but
01:15:34
Speaker
That's why I didn't go. It's like, I'm fine. I'm just, I'm not going to go to a physical and waste my time for them to tell me I'm okay. But I also realized that there's probably a part of me that's like, but maybe they'll tell me something I don't want to hear. And maybe subconsciously I was running away from that. Like I don't want to go there and have them point out something that's wrong. For the same reason I used to avoid chiropractors and now I go frequently, but like, like, Oh, they're just going to say everything's broken.
01:15:55
Speaker
You know, but I've gone to some physicals where like, Hey, everything checks out, bro. It was like a five minute visit and I left, you know, that's what I expected this last one to be. I was so confident that I was going to be in and out so quickly. And then I was like, I went into denial when I realized I couldn't read out of my right eye, which is a huge shock for me. Um, but anyway, but like my point is that like.
01:16:14
Speaker
Some people I think maybe won't go because they're afraid of what they'll find out or they'll say, I already know what's wrong with me. I looked it up and you could be right. But why leave it going? Right. You didn't go to medical school. Exactly. Maybe you did. And you should still go to the doctors. And just a ah couple of points here that I'm thinking of now that we're talking about it. yeah Yeah, I do think that, you know, there's obviously a big push to be healthy. Right. And rightfully so.
01:16:43
Speaker
I do think an unintended consequence of that and ah what you were just saying made me think of it. I believe that there's almost like a. People believe too much that a healthy lifestyle means that nothing can happen to them, you know what I mean? Yeah, i like what you were just saying, like, yeah, I'm happy and i or I'm healthy, I'm fit and I take care of myself. I don't need to go to the doctor because nothing's wrong.
01:17:11
Speaker
Well, no, like you said, there was the one dancer guy that whose heart just gave out or yeah I've heard old people say like I had ah a stroke or an aneurysm or a heart attack at 45 and I exercise every day. I've you know, very low BMI. I watch what I eat. It's like there's I mean, there are marathon runners in their 20s that have collapsed and died. Yeah. You know, there are so many factors outside of just eating.
01:17:38
Speaker
well and take an exercise that contribute to it. Eating poorly and not exercising adds to that. And you should definitely get yourself checked if you don't do those things. Right. For the same reason reason you take your car to the shop to get your yearly inspection. I mean, the body needs it too. Yeah. But just because you're taking good care of yourself and doing everything right as far as you can,
01:18:03
Speaker
That does not mean you're invincible. It doesn't mean that these things can't happen. It just means that there's less of a chance of it happening. So still allegedly, yeah. So, yeah, I just kind of and you're right. I 100 percent, and you know, and and I I'm in that field like I'm in that bracket of people, that demographic where I just avoid it because I'm like, I'm fine. yeah You know, I know that my visit is free. This shitty insurance I have even says I get one free checkup and I'm like,
01:18:32
Speaker
That's a waste of my time. I feel fantastic. You know, so like, why would I do that? Um, you know, and while I did get some bad news, this most recent one, it was at least like, well, I'm glad I know that, you know, like it's, at least now and it's, it's been hard for me to process, but I'd rather it like, you know,
01:18:51
Speaker
it not get to the point where one day my eye shuts down and I'm like, what the fuck? Yeah, it was even
Diet, Sodium Intake, and Health
01:18:55
Speaker
more ways, always, always better to catch something earlier, especially when it comes to your heart health. And the reason and again, I brought it up. I told you the reasons why I brought it up. But again, heart health especially is like one of the number one reasons why people die. Heart disease is chronic obstructive pulmonary disease and heart disease are like I think it's chronic obstructive pulmonary disease. I think it's what it is um is they're both lung and heart issues where either the lungs not pumping out as much oxygen as it needs to because of, you know, your veins are clogged because of your food and bad cholesterol. ah Your heart also will have those heart issues.
01:19:31
Speaker
and it's not able to pump blood as much and then when there is a clog your brain gets less and less oxygen and then boom once that happens like there's not a whole lot you can do about it unless you get to a surgeon like you can't just stop a stroke like you know just like you can't stop a seizure like it the seizure has to happen you can't quit it it just it's gonna happen until it's done.
01:19:49
Speaker
um And so I don't mean to make this like super somber, but I just think like, you know, we do have a platform and even if it's small, I know the size of the audience that we have. And if if one person hears this part of the podcast and goes, holy fuck, maybe I should book a physical today or holy fuck, maybe I should eat less salty foods today. Then like, I'm happy because I can tell you this and this to bring it all back around to what I originally forgot that I wanted to mention.
01:20:15
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was one thing you can take into account right away is read the labels on the food that you eat, right? Especially if you buy a lot of convenience food at gas stations, um you know, ah a lot of times it's like just the convenient shit like on the shelves near where you're checking out. All that stuff is saturated in salt because that's how they preserve it. Because if they didn't put all that salt on it, it would look like shit like a couple days after they packaged it. So like,
01:20:42
Speaker
The salt has always been used for preservation. And if you look at the back, you can see just how much is put into it and how many of those things you and and your beverages, too. Guys, the things that you eat and drink are the number one reason why people rapidly gain weight and rapidly develop things like COPD, heart disease, diabetes, ah hypertension, which is when your blood pressure is like dangerously, well, borderline dangerously high. Hypertension or rather hypertension is a dangerous one. Borderline hypertension is where you're like, hey, if you don't make a change,
01:21:11
Speaker
bad things happen because it's harder to reverse it in my case I found out that I was borderline hypertensive um when I went to a Med Express to get my ears cleaned, just because I found out I could. So I was like, what's that like? So I went to a get my ears cleaned, and it was very interesting how they do it. But they but give you a little printout, like a three-page printout, right? And I was just like, well, what's all this about? And I just looked at my vitals they took. They didn't bring it to my attention. I just read it. And that one part of the printout says showed me my vitals, or my my blood pressure, which I can't remember exactly what it was, but it was like 190 something over,
01:21:47
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Whoa, I can't remember, but it was 190 something. I think that's what it was. I'm sorry to know. I'm sorry. No, no, no, no, no. A good health is 120 over 80. Mine was like 150 something, I think. I'm sorry. I was thinking something. I'm thinking a different number. I was like 150 something. it says Oh, hey, I remember something like the bottom number was that I don't. But I just know that whatever the number was, they had said you are borderline hypertensive. You need to make some changes. They said sometimes stress can be involved with it. Some, you know,
01:22:17
Speaker
But the thing that I saw that I could take care of right away was um salt. They said high intakes of sodium will jack up your blood pressure very quickly and know keep it that high. And so I so i looked at my food. I went home and I was like, OK, what the fuck am I eating? like I don't think I'm eating that badly. She used to buy like those. um When I was a dance instructor, like because I burned my food so quickly when I was eating, I had to buy like really heavy stuff that like filled me up all day. And they used to buy these soups, these big, at those big Campbell's chunky soups. Cause that made me feel full. But I looked at all these soups I was buying and I'm eating like 90% of my sodium. and And here's the thing, when you look at a lot of those soups guys,
01:22:56
Speaker
is they tell you what the the content is per serving on there. And typically those cans are two servings. And I was eating a whole one to myself. So I was eating way more every day than I was supposed to be eating. And I was like, holy fuck. Then I used to look at my favorite drinks. I was drinking body armors and Gatorades every day and thinking like, oh, these are healthy drinks.
01:23:17
Speaker
high sugar content and fucking incredibly high sodium content in these sweet drinks. I was like, holy shit, I'm drinking the fuck out of sodium every day. And so like, I didn't realize this how much, and I started adding it up and I was like, oh my God, I'm eating like 280% of my sodium intake every day from drinks and soup. What the fuck? You know, I was like, like how am I not dead?
01:23:40
Speaker
So like I made ah a very conscious effort to like start looking at those labels because especially drinking, drinking your hot, your sodium and your sugar are the number one reasons why people rapidly gain weight and their blood pressure increases. So I say this to you. If you take nothing away from this podcast today, listening about the word mendacious, if you forget mendacious, I promise I'm not being mendacious right now about this. If you don't want to talk about you know if you don't remember how to get out of a conversation with a stupid person trying to sound smart and if you don't think about any misconceptions about adulthood please remember this if look at the fucking labels and change just a little bit look for the zero sugar because simply zero sugar drinks also have low sodium or look for the soup cans or the bottles that say low sodium but still look at
01:24:27
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the labels because even low sodium is still pretty high. Like it'll just be from like 80% to like 55% or something. So it's still a lot. Let me, uh, let me tell you guys the journey I had with my blood pressure. Cause there are a number of different things that I've done in my life that have lowered my prep, my blood pressure from at my highest, I was at one, one 39 over 96.
01:24:56
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And while one thirty nine doesn't sound that bad, the lower number is the important one. And anything like above 80 is really. 80 is like the higher end of of God, I should know this. One of them is the top number, I think, is top number is when is your beats when the blood is being pumped and the bottom number is the time between. Yes. Like when your but blood when your blood isn't being pumped, but it's filling back up. Yes. Yeah. That's when your vessels are supposed to relax. But if your blood pressure is too high, they never get that chance.
01:25:26
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And they weaken. Yeah. Borderline is 130. Borderline is. Pre-hypertension is up to between like 130 and 139 over 80 or 85, somewhere in that ballpark. Yeah, like. So normal blood pressure is 120 over 80. I started taking.
01:25:42
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um Lucina Pearl, which is a blood pressure medicine. Not a sponsor. I never not a sponsor, but um and it helped. Right. My doctor was like, well, your blood pressure is kind of high.
01:25:56
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Uh, we want to just make sure you never reach hypertension. So we're going to put you on this just as a preventative. And that kept it at that one mid one thirties to mid nineties. Then I decided, uh, to start drinking more water.
01:26:15
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Right. I got a two liter. I had a two liter bottle of Diet Coke. I had just finished. I started filling that with water and I made sure to drink all of that. At least one of those a day. Oh yeah. And my blood pressure dropped a bit too low one thirties to low nineties.
01:26:32
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And
Anxiety and Physical Health
01:26:33
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then one, I never even considered that made a huge difference. I started taking my anxiety meds and calming down, right? Like I used to have generalized anxiety disorder. I still do. So they started taking these anxiety meds and the anxieties are still there, but they're not all consuming like they used to be. And I noticed my blood pressure dropped like another five, 10 points. And then talking to Adam.
01:27:01
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I was talking to him about how like, Oh yeah, you know, I don't really hold waterway. You know, I've tried taking a water pill before and I just immediately got like super dehydrated. Um, I had, I was telling him about an issue I had the other day that I was dehydrated and Adam looks, he just kind of goes, well, that sounds like an electrolyte imbalance. Try drinking some Gatorades and get some pink Himalayan salt. So I've been doing that. And I actually noticed I gained a little bit of weight.
01:27:30
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For once, I'm actually happy about that um because it's water weight. And i I can tell the difference, like. um And one of the things I noticed that my last time I got my ah blood pressure checked, it was what was it? One sixteen over sixty five. A word. Yeah. My doctor was like, that's incredible. What did you do? I was like, fucking more water.
01:27:55
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Started drinking Gatorades for electrolytes, started Gatorade zeros, I should specify. and Sure. Yeah, definitely, definitely. um You know, ah cut back on the soda a little bit. The anxiety meant like these are all things that compounded and and lowered my blood pressure.
01:28:14
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So if any of these sound like something you could try and do, especially the water and the Gatorades, it's, it's so easy to forget just drinking water and soda. You're not getting your, your full, um,
01:28:29
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liquid nutrition right because you don't have the electrolytes like you were explaining you don't have the salt to hold on to it the right kinds of salt right because you do need sodium obviously i'm not saying you need to cut it out of your dikes that's dangerous you do need to have it i'm just saying watch how much you put into you because most people are having too much well you were you were explaining that there were a whole bunch of stuff like iron and salt and oh yeah yeah because a lot of times like minerals that need Yeah, electrolytes in minerals, like a lot of people hear like vitamins and minerals, and you always think like, well what's the difference? But like vitamins and minerals, minerals do different things. And a lot of those minerals you need to get from your food. You know, um you know, vitamins too is I mean, you should get all of them from your food, but some of them are more naturally occurring, some you have to go seek out. And you know, like a lot of those minerals like those potassiums and, and and you know different and sodium and magnesium. like You need to have those. Those are important for how like your blood flows properly and how certain functions, how certain cells activate when they have them. you know It's like you need to get those things. so Definitely look into those avenues. you know ah The biggest surprise to me was the anxiety one. If you think you might have anxiety, and especially if it's giving you health issues that are then making you anxious,
01:29:40
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Talk to your doctor. There is absolutely nothing wrong with, you know, getting a little bit of help for it. It's just, you know, a malfunction of the body like anything else. My pancreas doesn't work right. I have to take diabetes meds for it. Stupid pancreas. My brain doesn't work quite right. I need to take an anxiety med. It doesn't mean you my brain. Thank you. It doesn't mean I'm crazy. If anything, I'm sane because I'm trying to fix it. Um, but yes, just,
01:30:09
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Try drinking more water, try checking, you know, try going out of your way to make sure you're getting your electrolytes because you might not be just on water and soft drinks and whatever crap you're eating alone. Yeah. I mean, for sure. And the and the way that I'm trying to look at it more is like, I don't want to learn these things while I'm in a hospital bed, not wearing pants, shitting into a metal pan.
01:30:31
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You know, like I don't want to find out like, oh, hey, you need to get your dipstick checked sooner because of these issues like, um, you know, like, yeah and and it's important, you know, and it's in, you know, again, i I think this is a good conversation to have. And like, um, you know, we can joke about it. We can have fun with it because it is important, but you know, and we can, you know, it's good to be like, okay, I did this today or high five this, or, you know, I hear people will say,
01:30:56
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You know, I'm already fucking dying as it is. So what's it matter? And I'm just like, yeah, but there's people in your life who would like to keep you around a little longer, right? If you don't care about yourself, care about them caring about you. You know what I mean? Um, you know, and if you're listening to this podcast, I give a fuck. Some of you guys are people that I know, you know, like, Hey, if you have any questions, you can reach out to me. I'm like, I'm by egg and I should say I'm not a medical expert. I don't have a degree. I'm not, you know, I'm a personal trainer. Just some of my training was medicinal and very based around healthy diets and and things. I'm not a dietician, so I can't say that either, but like just the training I do have and just what I generally know and from friends I have who work in the medical field, you know, just these are generally like, again, I don't want to assume their common knowledge, but there are places to get this knowledge from that are very common, right? Ask a medical
Lifestyle Changes for Better Health
01:31:44
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professional, go on Google, go to the CDC website and check it out. um There's a lot of places like, hey, what
01:31:49
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are vitamins I should eat more of, what supplements are probably going to be healthy for me and what supplements are dog shit. You know, I researched mine before I bought multivitamins. I can't have fish because I have an allergy. So I buy Omega supplements or or multivitamins that have Omega supplements in them as well. So I can get that because you need it for good heart health.
01:32:10
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If you're not getting a lot of omega, do that too, per a conversation about strokes and heart attacks, because guess what? You need them. You need omegas in your body. You need them big time. And if you don't get them, then your heart doesn't do quite as well as it should. Um, you know, so like, just these are things to look up like, Hey, how can I increase my heart rate or how can I, how can I increase my heart health?
01:32:30
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and pick a couple of the things on the items that seem doable. You know, you don't have to run on the treadmill for 20 minutes. A walk around your park is more than enough, right? Or if you don't feel like exercising, okay, fine. Don't do that. Just tell yourself, I'm going to drink one less can of pop today, you know, or I'm going to track how many I drink in a day and maybe try to take one out tomorrow.
01:32:50
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Or I'm going to drink one more glass, one glass of water before I eat dinner today. You know, like just a small micro changes make a huge difference if you keep doing them. Just like how a micro stroke, a mini stroke can turn into a big stroke later, right? Make these baby changes now.
01:33:06
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Make these baby changes right fucking now. Just pick one. Don't overwhelm yourself. Pick one, maybe two if you're feeling froggy and then just do those for a little bit. And I promise you, just like Danny said, started drinking a Gatorade a day or a couple of Gatorades a day, whatever that was. And that was what he did. Right. And then you had your other medication that you got balanced out. You know, just these little baby changes go a long way and you will notice a difference. I can promise you that. Um, so.
01:33:31
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Don't think it has to be a big change overnight because nobody commits to those things for the same reason they don't commit to their new year's resolutions. They try to tackle too much at once and it becomes overwhelming and they quit. right One little thing at a time. one extra like you know One extra mile when you walk if you're already walking.
01:33:46
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you know cut out cut out soup by low sodium products, um maybe buy less food from the gas station. ah You know, take a multivitamin if you've never taken in your life, you know, like drink, drink sugar free drinks. um yeah ah What else? What else? What else? What else? what ah You know, if you look in if you do stop at the gas station, or if you're trying to buy more drinks, because people say I don't like water, it has no flavor.
01:34:13
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First of all, you can buy things to flavor your water, but if you're not into those things, you can buy these things called Pedialytes. Gatorade makes one now called Gatorlight. There's another one. I can't remember what it's called. You can get sugar-free ones of those, and they're packed with a lot of those ah minerals I was talking about. So those will help hydrate you because of just how your body works and functions with cells activation. So pick something like that and just introduce something new into your to your world that's a little less shitty. It doesn't have to be healthy, just a little less shitty than what you're doing now. That's it. If I were a health consultant, that would be right on the front of my windows. Adam's consulting. Eat a little less shitty. you know That would be it. i have one I only have one piece of advice because I don't have all this training. ah But um you know I have ah some personal advice that I can use. If you decide, like I did, to start really up taking your water intake
01:35:08
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You know, really trying to drink a lot more water. I highly suggest doing it at home because you're going to have to pee every 20 minutes. Oh yeah. That's one of the most annoying things about being hydrated. Yeah. For like at least a month until your body acclimates, you're going to have to pee. Like every time you drink a glass of water, you're going to be pushing the last glass out. Especially if you have any caffeine in you from like throughout the day, that'll push it out even faster. Yeah. Right. Because if you're not aware of that.
01:35:33
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The thing about caffeine to guys is like, if you're not staying active, your body responds to it less. And that's why you need more. And also it becomes more of a detriment to your health over time, because caffeine is more so meant to make your body move, not to just stay awake. And so typically you want to burn off whatever you're drinking.
01:35:52
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And you want to drink almost that same amount in water to make sure that you are flushing it out properly. So otherwise your body is just becoming more dehydrated because caffeine is a diuretic and thus it makes you go to the bathroom more. That's why a lot of people poop after they drink coffee. yeah um So ah just so you know, it might help you stay regular if you have, ah you know, it's okay to have some coffee or whatever, but I'm just saying.
01:36:12
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If you're drinking energy drinks, especially, a lot of people become dehydrated. They lose color in their face. you can Some people look like they do drugs and that they smoke a lot when really they're socially dehydrated. that they're If you care about your health and your beauty, if you care about what your looks, your eyes will start to bag. Your cheekbones will start to show.
01:36:30
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because you're dehydrated and you lose color in your face and your blood doesn't flow as well. And you look like a pale ghost. So like if you care, at least what you look like and you want to break out less on your skin, drink her water and vitamins and minerals in that shit. And kept promise miss you you'll feel different. Caffeine is absolutely addictive. Like I know everybody's like, oh, it's just a cup of coffee in the morning. No, it's not. you You know, you skip that one cup and you're like dying. It's because your body does start to rely on it.
01:36:58
Speaker
after a while, it does get addictive and not sponsored. But there's a drink my wife and I recently found. It's called Celsius. And it's like ah an energy supplement drink that has no caffeine, but has like natural. Oh, it has caffeine in it. Oh, mine says caffeine free. I mean, there are some that are, but the main ones have caffeine. Oh, I get the like sugar free ones. They are sugar free. Yes, that is true. But I actually.
01:37:27
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feel very little when I drink a cup of coffee. I get like almost no energy from it. These things I actually feel like I get energy from. And it's not that jittery energy that coffee would give me. It's like actual. I'm just awake now. Energy but still makes sure to high still make sure to drink water with those because I will. I have one can of that and two liters of water later. No, no, no. I mean, just to whoever's listening. I know you drink like a big old like fucking tub thing every day. I do. um Yeah.
01:37:56
Speaker
But just if you could Celsius, a lot of people think, oh, it's a healthy drink. A healthy year. It's healthy year. You know, it just depends on what you're drinking before that. You know, just remember, nothing is healthy if it's not in moderation. Even the best food for you is bad for you. If you overindulge. Same thing with water, you can definitely over hydrate. So just like, yeah, but most people won't do that. Like because you need a lot of water today or severely dehydrated, but like,
01:38:22
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You know, 28 to 32 ounces a day is a good start. ah Most people don't drink remotely that much. You know, 64 ounces is even better, but it just depends on your body build and what you're eating and and you know how big you are, how heavy you are, what your weight is, how tall you are. Just depends on the needs of the body. Everybody needs a different amount. Um, but anyway, I don't want to belabor this any longer. I just, I was so moved by like reading this guy's story and finally getting to watch the movie and seeing his limitations in the movie.
01:38:50
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that I was just like, I feel like I need to talk about this. Cause like, I can't take my mind off it. And I wanted to ask you about it and like, you know what? Can we just talk about this shit for a bit? And so in lieu of another question, I feel like my question is, Hey, how often do you think about how, when you go to the doctors and get a physical, how often do you think about micro adjustments in your diet or in your exercise? Or, you know, do you recognize the symptoms of a stroke before you have one? Have you experienced this? Do you know anybody who's been affected by it? Because it's the silent killer and strokes and, and, um,
01:39:19
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Heart attacks kill people every day, especially heart attacks. And a lot of it is less likely to happen if you do work on your your ah blood pressure especially. And a lot of that has to do with how active your heart is and what you're eating. So these are things that are are in your control. Even if you say, oh, I'm It's in my blood, it's in my diheredity, and it could be, that's true, which should give you more incentive to work on it now, right? So, you know, just think about one of these little baby adjustments, make those micro adjustments. I promise, give yourself at least a month of trying something different and you will notice something different. And sometimes it's even sooner than that. Sometimes within a couple of weeks, you'll notice something different.
01:40:00
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Um, you know, just keep that in mind because I, I learned that my heart was probably close to exploding just because I happened to read the third page of a packet, you know, so like, and I was like, Oh, and I made that decision for myself. Like, I don't want that. I didn't even think about that. I never once thought that my heart would be bad, you know, but even if I'm active every day, and I was, I danced for eight hours a day, you know, like I was always moving. I was in the best physical shape of my life. I never once thought my heart could be at risk and it was.
01:40:30
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because I was eating way too much of other bad shit. that yeah Who knows? but Just like what happened to my student at Rich, that could have been me a few years later. you know I was eating terribly, but I just thought, I'm dancing so much, the calories won't stick. And they didn't. you know But all the rest of that stuff did. um So just think about that. You can be in the best shape of your life and still not realize like there's changes you could make to make yourself even better. um But that's it. that's That's all I have. Anything else you want to add, Danny? No, I think that's good. I mean. Cool. Yeah.
01:41:00
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No, I'm good. Alrighty, so I know that was a bit of a heavier chat, but it's important. And sometimes the best things to do is to talk about it. um Everybody enjoy your two hour episode. There you go. Yeah, there you go. I have to pay when they go beyond a certain amount of time. Did you know that? Oh, gross. Well, no, I don't. Part one and part two. Yeah, no, I'm just going to. it' like um But anyway, Danny, ah tell everybody, you know, whatever else you need to say before we wrap up. Yeah, no, thank you, everybody, for listening. You know, this is a This is a dream come true. I know. ah Shut up. I heard that. You said it, bro. But it really is. You know, we we started this. um Well, we continued it ah just to to kind of like throw some levity out into the world, you know, to help people a little bit mentally and ah physically now to, you know, ah
01:41:55
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And he's right. If if anybody listening to this does make even the tiniest change, then that's good. And
Gratitude and Encouragement for Listeners
01:42:03
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that is so good that we were able to give out to the world. And that is one of our biggest goals in life is just to to kind of outweigh all the craziness in the world with a little bit of good. um So thank you so much for listening. If you do make any changes and anything comes of it, let us know. Yeah, it'd be wonderful. If you want us to to share it on the show, we will.
01:42:23
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um But mostly, yeah, thank you so much. We may not know you personally, but we do all we do both believe that the world is a better place with you in it. It's a more beautiful place with you in it. And um we want to keep you around for a good long time. And you don't have to pay for the show, so you know we're not saying it for money. Yep. That being said, if you wanted to donate, thanks. um But yeah, that's a tip for me.
01:42:55
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Um, yeah. So also just general news, uh, we're working on the old website is probably not working or functioning as well as it should, uh, because we are looking to transition the fund installers, um, uh, to a new domain and to a new, uh, website where we can kind of pretty it up a little bit. It's still in the works. So if you have tried to go to fund installers, network.com and it's not working, that's why, because we are transitioning it. So in the meantime, if you do want to send us any messages,
01:43:24
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Um, you can either send me a message on Instagram, um, at random underscore atom. That's ATOM. Uh, you could follow me in and send me a message or respond to any of the stupid shit that I say and say, Oh, Hey, I heard you on TOQ. I want to report this, or I had a question I wanted you to do. You can certainly send it over there. Um, or if you want, you can also just send me an email, uh, to the role players. I don't have a TOQ thing. I'm just using the role players one for now.
01:43:50
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That's contact the role players at Gmail. That's contact the R O L L players at Gmail. If you have a question, something you want to say, send me a message on either one of those platforms and I'd be happy to share it on the show. Uh, and, um, you know, just kind of get some discussion going about that. But the moment that the website is up and running, I would love, I would definitely tell you so we can kind of get the questions flowing back through there. Um,
01:44:14
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Outside of that, just like Danny said, we're happy that you're here. Don't, you know, you know, don't, uh, don't make any rash decisions. If you need someone to talk to, you reach out to us. You already know how to contact me. Danny, uh, what's your thing on Twitter or where you guys contact again at roll, roll RPG one. Yeah. Oh boy. Where's my Twitter. Just look up role players guild on Twitter. You'll hear it this. here it is I found it. I found it.
01:44:37
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That's whether we are the RP Guild one, the RP Guild one. Yeah. So if you want to reach out to Danny and company over there to say hello, go do that. um I'm also on Twitter at role players win. I don't really use it that much these days, aside from just reading the news. But if you want to reach out to me there, too, that also works. But either the way, I hope that you're taking care of your mind, your heart and each other. And please look out for those micro adjustments. Look out for those early signs of of the bad things to come.
01:45:05
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Because, you know, just a little change can go a long way. That way we can keep you around for a lot longer. So until next time. ah Yeah, man, just fucking go out there and and make sure you're hydrated, bro. Right, Danny? Yeah, man, stay
01:48:03
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Be nice, okay?