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Cavil About Fly Bullets (Feat. Atom and Danny being bros)
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Today, Atom and Danny return to form by talking about What they like about themselves and each other, Partners and body dysmorphia, and their weird arousal stories. HI GABE, HI TERRI!
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Introduction & Show Concept
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Hello everyone. Do you ever find that there are a lot of Qs and As on the internet, but it's mostly a lot of unanswered Qs and not enough sufficient As? Well that's where we come in. Do you like hearing about how you can manage better relationships and life, love, and work?
00:00:18
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Do you like would you rather questions? Do you like hypothetical situations? Do you like laughing? Maybe crying? And do you like hearing lots of swear words? Then this show is definitely for you. Can we make you smile at least once during this show? You know what? That's our cue.
00:00:40
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All right, yeah, here we go.
Metaphor: Life's Journey as Job-Seeking
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And good morning, good afternoon and good evening to all the ladies, gentlemen, non-binary folks, if universe is known and not known out there, this is that's our cue or T.O. for short, where we take your cues and, you know, we tell them to go out into the world and experience the world and then apply for jobs. Sometimes they go and they drop like, you know, resumes and applications off at the places they want to work. Sometimes they apply online because that's how you do it nowadays.
00:01:07
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And sometimes they get a referral from a friend who can get them into a business they already work in. And they work hard and they work their asses to the bone until they're 65 years old and then they're fully fledged A's and then they die shortly after. But it's not about the destination, it's about
Hosts' Introductions & Banter
00:01:23
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the journey. And what that means really is we take questions from places like Reddit and Quora and we answer them as if anybody gave a shit to hear our opinion. My name's Adam and joining me as always is my good buddy Danny Guarantee. Hello Danny.
00:01:37
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Hi, sorry, I'm having an existential crisis. Uh, thanks for that. I wasn't ready for that today. I just pulled that out of my ass, bro. I was just going, but I didn't panic this time. I knew what I, I mean, I didn't know what I was going to say, but I was feeling confident that something was going to come out when I was in there like 34. Oh God, I'm turning 36 this summer. So I mean, I'm a little closer, a little closer to death probably.
00:02:08
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But how are you? I'm doing all right. I'm doing pretty good. I'm glad this week is over. I'm glad we record these on Friday night. Oh, no, I we do. And I'm just glad that the week is over, man. It's been a long week and. I'm just looking forward to a weekend, just any weekend right now. Fucking for real. Oh, my God.
00:02:30
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Fucking for real. But yeah, you know what?
Reddit Questions & Humorous Responses
00:02:34
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It's just the two of us. We haven't had just like a me and you recording in a little while. And I love our guests that I'm so happy you've been able to find so many people. But you know, I was really missing just kind of getting some Adam and Danny time.
00:02:47
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No, I agree. I was actually, you know, I was starting to feel a little left out of the bromance or not left out, but like is getting crowded in the bromance. I mean, like Adam time just. Yeah, I love sharing love, but like I think it's still good for us to like, you know, make sure that we make time for each other. You know, like just because we opened up the relationship doesn't mean we can't still make verbal love to each other. Just that's exactly right. We should. I mean, you know, I think that's something that everyone should hear is, you know,
00:03:16
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You know, don't forget where your love came from to begin with, you know. That's right. Yeah. What he said. Yeah, brilliant start, as always. I think so. I think that one. Thank you. Thank you. So would you like to answer some questions today? I would. I would love to answer questions today. Excellent. So I just this is a brand new batch, a fresh batch, all relatively recent questions from the past couple of days.
00:03:49
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to answer some fresh questions picked right off the vine. So this first question, yeah, I'm pretty excited. And I actually was inspired because I was on Instagram trying to work on the new fun and sellers network Instagram, which by the way, go follow that if you want to see some of the stuff we're doing. But and funny enough, like there was like some no stupid questions popped up on Reddit because like my two accounts are tied. So I think they kind of fit the algorithm to what my other account searches.
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So, I'm excited.
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And, you know, I was like, Oh, you know what? I should look up more of these. Some of these are pretty good. So here we are. So I knew this first question is posted by somebody called Fit River 6563. The fittest river ever. That is that that fucking river is like jacked, super runnin' all the time. And I just thought this one was a pretty fun, straightforward question, which is what's the perfect response to yuck? You're ugly.
00:04:42
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Wow. I don't know if they hear this a lot. Hold on. I need to go take a shower because that's when I always come up with like the perfect comeback. Yeah. Like, like you have like fights with people that you're not fighting with. You're like, oh, and they say this and I'd say this and yeah, fuck you. Yeah, exactly. I need to go take a shower tomorrow morning and I'll let you know.
00:05:00
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I've had so many I've had so many arguments with people that never happened when I'm sitting alone to my thoughts like and they say they said that I'd say this like, oh, yeah, fuck you. And like, oh, and then they're like, oh, man. And then I give like some sort of cool like end of movie speech and then everybody claps almost every time. It's fucking crazy. Anyway, that's just me. So what's your response to Yuck, you're ugly. Wow, you're a bitch would probably be the first thing that comes to my mind.
00:05:28
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Yeah, I mean, like who goes around saying that? Like Fit River has someone. I mean, you're a fit river. Who told you that you're ugly? I mean, that's I've never had that because I'm a I'm a god among men. A real, you know, car just like Mars and Nova. Whatever that means. Is that some sort of space explosion? Yes, that's the one. I know Casanova. That's like a super handsome one. Casanova is Simon's quest with the whip.
00:05:58
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Yeah. We, you know, he goes after Dracula. Uh, but yeah. So what, what do you say to yuck? You're ugly. The problem is.
00:06:15
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I mean, I'm not the most, I don't do confrontation and I'm not the most outgoing person in the world. So if somebody were to honestly come up to me and just go, yuck, you're ugly. I'd probably just give them a look like, what the hell? And then keep walking. Yeah. Like I also don't really care what other people think. Right. That's true. I've gotten over that, which was a,
00:06:40
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Do that. There's your life advice. Get over that hump of caring what other people think because it doesn't matter unless they have some kind of power over you like a parent, wife, boss. You know, if it's like a random ass person, I don't give a shit what you think. You say sticks and stones can break your bones, but my fist can break your nose in like two seconds.
00:07:04
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right you know and then you know and then just hey you know what you do if they say yuck you're ugly just maintain like a lot of eye contact with them because people get really nervous about that and they'll avert their gaze you know or just record them people don't like they're like they don't like to see the yucky part to themselves so like if you record them being yucky
00:07:25
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Then just post it like, Hey, say that again. Say that line one more time. All right. Take two. Say what you just said to me, but to my camera, you know, like, and then they'll see themselves on the internet and recognize just how awful they were being. Hopefully, you hope, you hope. Actually, uh, an intrusive, funny, intrusive thought just popped into my head. Oh, um, you know, spongebob, right? The cartoon show I've heard of the guy. Yeah. Uh, there's an episode all about catching the ugly.
00:07:55
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Um, is that, is that with the stinky mouth? Yeah. Yeah. Look at it. Um, so if somebody, I would love it. If somebody came up to me and was like, yuck, you're ugly. And I go, Oh no, I caught the ugly. There you go. Yeah. Play into it and just freak the fuck out. Like you just found out.
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Yeah. Or yeah. Oh yeah. Just really lean into it too. Like yuck. You're ugly. I'm like, Oh, well thanks for noticing. Thanks for seeing me. First of all, you know, thanks. Like it feels, yeah, it feels good to be seen. Thank you so much. Like, you know, as I always say, it's easy to be a dickhead and trust me, there's times where I lean in to just like, you know what? I want you to feel what you're trying to make me feel or someone around me feel. Usually if it's about me, I don't care as much, but if it's affecting others, I usually get a little defensive and then offensive, but
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If it's me yeah just like lean into it like thank you for seeing me it's so nice that you notice me like i didn't know if anybody was even looking at nor me. Right most people give me a wide berth that they don't want to talk to me but you see me. You know and so what do you think i'm ugly or not a subjective but thank you for seeing me like that makes me for really good and then walk away with a skip in your step knowing that you just dumped on that full in the nicest way possible.
00:09:08
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Kill them with kindness. I swear to God it works because people, it's not impossible for people to still be mean when you're kind to them, but it is very disarming. It is. Well, because they're trying to get a rise out of you and that's where this thing that they're from, what they're expecting.
Personal Stories & Parental Reactions
00:09:23
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Right. If you frown, they get what they want. If you get angry, they get what they want. But if you smile and you're like, well, hey, that's so great. Like, do you want to hang out sometimes? Or if you want to be kind, but also be mean, you can say, oh, hey, you look like you're eligible to join the ugly club. Do you want to come with me? Oh, no, we can go together. We can be ugly friends. Do you want to be ugly friends?
00:09:47
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Then that way you're being nice, you're approaching them with a smile, but you've also insulted them. If you're a better actor than I am and have a better constitution for it than I am, if somebody says, wow, yuck, you're ugly, just go like, oh, you're kind of sexy though, and then just start hardcore flirting with them, follow them around for a while.
00:10:12
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Be like, oh, our babies would be so average looking. Just think about them now. Just think about how average our kids would look. Do you want to get in on this? Your unibrow is barely visible.
00:10:25
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Yeah, yeah, you know, man, just and again, have your camera out when you do it. Just that way, if they do make any sort of weird moves or if you catch their reaction, you can still post it. Protect yourself, guys. You know, I feel like we should just invent like camera necklaces just so that way you're always catching everything you do all the time is like you never know when something interesting is going to happen. But also, you never know when you need to protect yourself. So just rock your phone, pull your camera out right away, turn it on and say what you get to say. I have thought about getting a dash cam for my car just in case.
00:10:53
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you should I want it's expensive but I want to get one it's like one of those it's not fully 360 but like it watches the back and the front and it activates if your car has been hit or if something goes by you very fast so like that it'll catch like right away and it'll save it to a cloud save for you so that way if your car gets hit or broken into and you're not around it'll go to your phone
00:11:14
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Yeah, it's pretty expensive. I think it's like seven, eight hundred bucks. But I think I might get one because when I got my brand new subscription, like, oh, I hate that things have to subscription. I hate that Microsoft Office is a subscription. Now, fuck you, Microsoft Office, you cunt. Oh, yeah, I don't use that. I think that's the first time I said the C word on the show. And I'm sorry, but I'm angry to God. I was thinking of using that instead of bitch before for my sorry, Danny's parents. I'm sorry. Yeah. So my parents were fans of the show now.
00:11:43
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Uh, I was going to tell you this story. Please tell us that real quick. So guys, we were talking before the show about some other things that happened in life. And then somehow it came up to Danny said, Oh, Hey, my parents are fans. And he said, let's wait for the podcast for me to tell the story. So here we are. We're caught up. Go Danny. Um, by the time you're hearing this, uh, the other two episodes should have been released, uh, with Calico and Milo and they're actually.
00:12:08
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the children of one of my mom's friends who, you know, I told my mom about the show, she told her friend and the friend told the kids and they were like, Oh wow, that sounds like fun. Let's, you know, they, they wanted to sign up. So, uh, my mom has been asking about when their episodes going to get posted. And as of the time of this recording, it hadn't been yet. Well, you know, it's just not at the front of the line yet. And, um,
00:12:35
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So I said, I'll let you know and whatever. And we got to talking about the show and she asked me what the name of it was. And I said, before I tell you that.
00:12:44
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I need you to know that, or like she was interested in listening to it and asked me what it was. I said, before I tell you what it is, I need you to know that it is very like dirty, both in subject matter, like sexually it can get pretty dirty. It can get like actually gross out dirty. It's very stupid. That's mostly it honestly. It's stupid. Your brain cells will die as you listen to this show.
00:13:12
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You'll probably learn a lot about me that you didn't know. But the biggest thing is, there was a question that was asked in an earlier episode, what is something you would never tell your parents? And I answered that. And for the audience, it was just that I had smoked weed in high school. So I called my parents after a doctor's appointment, which is a whole nother story that I might get into at some point.
00:13:41
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and she was asking about the shell again.
00:13:44
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And I'm like, look, if you're sure you want to hear it, it's fine. Like I honestly don't care all that much about the thing I said in the show because it's from high school. Right. I graduated college a lifetime ago. So like that was a long time ago. So my mom's like, well, why don't you just tell me what it is? You know, your dad and I are right here. We're on speakerphone. Just tell us what it is and we'll we'll say it's delightful that they're asking. Yeah, I think that's wonderful.
00:14:12
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And up until then, we had been talking about how I had been praising them on the show about like, you know, how they offered to drive me anywhere if I had been drinking. Very supportive. Without ever being angry. I was telling them about that and I was telling them, you know, about how I was singing their praises and they were like, yeah, kids are great until they become a teenager. And I'm like, oh, yeah, but you guys got lucky. And they're like, yeah, you were a great teenager.
00:14:43
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Um, so for the time I got, hi. Yeah. So, so they're like, so what, what is this thing? I said, all right, fine. I smoked weed in high school and there's just this dead silence for a little, for like, it's just a second, but it felt like a lifetime. It felt like forever. And my mom finally goes, we know that's it. So did your father. What can I ask your parents names, your, their first names, uh, Terry and Gabe.
00:15:13
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Terry and Gabe. Terry, Gabe, Gabriel, Gabriel, Teresa. I don't know what Terry's here for. Yeah. Teresa, Gabriel, listen, you guys sound like you're just delightful people. And I've driven five hours to see this man several times. And listen, next time I'm in the area, you guys should come and I'd love to meet you. I would honestly love that. I would love to have like a party. Let's go to Denny's or something. Do you guys have Denny's in Jersey? I don't think we do. We can go to Applebee's.
00:15:43
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Let's go to Applebee's and get some fucking milkshakes. I had Applebee's for dinner today. That's so good. So, yeah. So they know. Do they know the do they did you get the show name after that? Yeah. Yeah. So now they started listening to it. And my mom, Terry, I gave my mom sent me a text message the next day because I had asked if they had started the show. They said, no, not yet. They were waiting until like my mom's like, I'm going to listen on my walk.
00:16:13
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So she sends me a message after her walk and she's like, I'm pretty sure I'm going to be known as the crazy person because I was laughing out loud while I was walking listening to your show. That's great. I'm so happy that all she had listened to so far was my very first episode where I was a guest. Were you a guest? Laughing Shits was the episode name.
00:16:36
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Oh, my God. Yeah, that's hilarious. I'm so happy. That's great. Well, I'm glad you like it, Terry. Hope Gabe likes it, too. I know I also had a coworker asking about it yesterday, so I gave her the show. Hey, not only knows how if she's listening to it now, too. I love it. I think that's fantastic. You know what it is? You asked me to help find like clips.
00:17:01
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to for the show yep and so i don't listen to my own content ever so this was like the first thing where i really went back and listened to something i had done and for the first time ever i didn't initially hate hearing my own voice awesome you know usually you have that little bit of time where you're like oh god
00:17:23
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But yes, yes, yes, very much. Even from the first second of the first episode, I was like, OK, I actually sound like I fit here. Like me and you have like nice voices that go well together and everything. And we have good good content chemistry, I think. Oh, absolutely. I was I was dying laughing at the whole thing. And I was like, I'm not trying to toot my own horn, but like we're really fucking good at this. Like I was like, this is
00:17:50
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funny. Like if somebody had introduced this to me and I wasn't in it, I would listen to this. And that just kind of gave me a lot more confidence to go to people and be like, yeah, this is something I'm doing if you want to hear it.
00:18:04
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You know, it's called That's Our Queue. So that's awesome. It's given me so much more confidence to just spread the word to people I know. Our show helps another person. It just so happens to be one of the hosts. That's awesome. I love to hear that, man. I'm happy for you. We actually did have our first person telling us that the show helped them. We did, which was very sweet. It really made me feel good that, you know,
00:18:29
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And the impetus was just like, I hired them to also go look back for clips, whatever works. And then they were listening and they're like, wow, you know, actually, you know, I really like it. And they told, they shared with us how much that, you know, it really helped them like have perspective on certain topics. Cause we do talk about like different subjects on here. It's not just silly shit all the time. Like we do try to genuinely deep into some stuff. Actually, I have one right now. If you'd like to answer it. Sure. Yes.
00:18:54
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All right. So firstly, Danny, thank you for sharing that.
Listener's Relationship Query
00:18:59
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I think it's super great. And thank you for telling me, telling your parents. But secondly, this is a post from somebody called Uninspired Human. And they ask, well, the title is My Spouse Hates That I Took Sexy Photos. And just for some context here, because I read this a little bit ahead of time, this is a very straightforward question. This isn't like a silly question. There's some like confusion in their relationship they're asking about and they're asking for advice.
00:19:25
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Okay, so and so they say my partner and I I'm a female my 20s Are in my partner and I I'm a female we are in our 20s when I
00:19:39
Speaker
Uh, my partner and I are in our twenties. That's how it starts. The way they wrote it was very weird. I apologize listeners. That's okay. It's coming from the woman. They're in there. Yeah. When I brought up how well my boudoir photo shoot went, there was a turn in the tone of our conversation. He became all angry and irritated. Um, he became past, he became pestering to me that I shouldn't have enjoyed it because it's weird to have someone take pictures of me almost naked. I enjoyed the session as it helped perk up my confidence and realize how beautiful my body is.
00:20:09
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Big deal for me considering my longing history of body dysmorphia. I explained this to him, and yet he seemed almost repulsed by me. I was worried someone would find my photos somehow. Mind you, this photographer shoots and prints these photos herself. I've assured him even weeks prior to my session, it was an all-woman's facility and no males would have access to my images. I just got my photos today and don't feel good about them anymore.
00:20:35
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Not because I don't like the way they came out, but with how disgusted I feel for doing the photo shoot. Am I being irrational for not seeing this perspective or am I right to feel upset regarding this? And to add a little bit more context, I should have saved the link, but I didn't.
00:20:51
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But I do recall when I was reading through some of the comments because somebody said, like, did you talk about this before? And they do mention in the main post, but they said, yes, I asked him for permission, essentially saying, hey, would this make you feel weird if I went and got this photo shoot done? So they had already agreed ahead of time prior to the photo shoot that it was okay for her to do that because she was worried that it would upset him. So now she's extra confused because they did have that talk.
00:21:15
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And she did do the shoot to feel good about herself. And now he's upset that he did it. And then another comment that I read was,
00:21:25
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that she got more information finding out that he... See, it's nice when we actually have some more context on these things. Yeah, that sounds helpful. I found out, too, that he was talking to some other guy friends of his, and they kind of riled him up on this, where he seemed essentially fine with it until he shared what she was doing with his bros, essentially, and his bros told him that he should be upset about this.
00:21:48
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So she found out that that's why he's mad is because the bros talked to him. She doesn't know what they said to him, but essentially his friends told him that this was fucked up and that he should be pissed. So there's a lot there. I can repeat it if you need me to. But where are you? What are your thoughts? No, I think I got the gist of it. My first thought is some kind of.
00:22:13
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jealousy over some kind of perceived other person who I don't even think exists. And I bet you that it's from the friends saying things like, oh, well, she's probably taking those dirty pictures to go give them to some other guy or, you know,
00:22:37
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She's a slut for wanting to be the center of attention while scantily clad, getting these pictures taken. None of which is true. Like, hey, if you want to do that, be my guest, right? If my wife wanted to go do something like that, I honestly wouldn't care less. I would just want the pictures. Well, obviously, yeah. Yeah.
00:23:01
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Like that would be my own stipulations like am I allowed to see it? Can I have the picture? Can I have a copy said to me to my email? I want to put it as my work screen saver. Oh Anyway, go on yeah, I think they probably told him like the friends probably told me
00:23:23
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the guy like, hey, she's probably doing this, you know, to put it on a dating website or to give to some other person or she's a slut for wanting to be naked or near naked in front of all these other people. You know, it kind of strikes me as like kind of like alpha male bullshit. Kind of where everything she does is wrong.
00:23:48
Speaker
Right. And that could I could be so far off, I could be completely wrong. I'm only going off of a paragraph, but that is kind of the vibe I'm getting is that. And again, I think it's mainly, again, the fire is, again, from what the comments have said anyway, from her responses, because she was responding to the questions people were asking. Again, it sounds like he was initially fine with it. So like these bros like stoke this flame in him.
00:24:16
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You know, so I don't know if he's originally like some alpha dog, whatever, because he was like, yeah, whatever, babe, go take your pictures. And now he's like, this is fucked up because my friends told me it is. So like he got converted essentially to this anger and fear that he probably didn't have before. But, you know, sometimes, you know, the little devil on your shoulder gets to talking and they say shit that like, you know, makes a different perspective, taps into your insecurities a little bit. And now you're uncomfortable.
00:24:42
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You know, and she's exactly what I think happened. And to answer her question, because I believe that the main question was, should she feel bad about them? Am I being irrational for not seeing his perspective or am I right to feel upset about this? I think you're I honestly, I think you're absolutely fine in everything. I think it's your choice. You can you know, it's your body, your choice. You can if you want to go take provocative pictures,
00:25:12
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in like a nice professional way that you did. Like it's very kind of you that you asked your boyfriend or husband, whatever he was. Yeah. Yeah. Boyfriend says my partner. So I get that. I don't know. It's very sweet of you to like check with him first. I do appreciate that. I would appreciate that from my wife. Um,
00:25:36
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But at the end of the day, it is totally up to you. I don't I personally don't see anything wrong with it. You did it in a professional studio by somebody who is a professional who takes the photos and prints them right there. Like you said, it was all females. So it's not like some guy was ogling you.
00:25:55
Speaker
Right. I mean, it's every box that you could possibly check in what seems to be a straight relationship because she's saying he a lot. So all the boxes that you can check in a straight relationship to cover all of the discomforts that one could be feeling you have checked.
00:26:10
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all female, printed locally, no one has access to the pictures, you talked to him ahead of time about it, you got the okay, you got the green light so that way you were communicating effectively, which is important. You checked all the boxes. Ordinarily, I try to see things from the other side. And again, I'm not trying to vilify your partner. I think his friends made him insecure. Again, if I hadn't known
00:26:34
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the comments and I just read this and I'd be asking more questions. But I know that that's what happened because you, well, at least that's what you say happened is his friends told him that he should be angry. And so now he's angry. So I think you're good in everything. And I think you need to talk to your boyfriend and find out what those concerns are that his friends brought up and assuage them. Like it sucks that it's kind of falling on you because you've done nothing wrong here.
00:27:02
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Um, but he's obviously kind of in a loop, like a little downward spiral about this. And it's unfortunately going to fall on your shoulders now to kind of break him out of that. Uh, cause it's, it's so hard to break yourself out of, right? I highly doubt anybody would really be able to.
00:27:22
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And it's sad because like, like she was saying, it really boosted her confidence. And now she feels worse about herself because this thing that was boosting her confidence now has shattered her confidence because she feels like she's hurt her partner. So that is, you know, so that really, that really sucks to hear that, you know, and so, I mean, not to get too jokey about it, but like, if you approach this and
00:27:49
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Just the communication is there and like all that has done, like if this is a lingering feeling for you for like God knows how long now, you know, because this was a post only from a couple of days ago. So you're still living this. This isn't old. So you're still living it right now. So like if this hasn't improved and it's only made you feel worse about yourself and now you're nervous to do anything to boost your confidence without checking in with him. Hey, you know what? You've got some sexy voudoir shoots now that can go right on your dating profile if they don't fucking work.
00:28:19
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make his worst feel honest to christ like you know what you know again like this is that is problematic and i'm not saying that again i don't want to vilify your partner i don't know what his own insecurities are but i would be checking in with those friends like you guys fucked up like don't go behind his back because it's just going to make things worse but like
00:28:39
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If they're coming over or if they're saying something, be like, you know what, haven't come over and haven't talked to me. Cause like, you know, or have your friends come over for backup. If you can get ahold of the photo company and have them come and talk like, Hey, look, this is what we do. You can come to the facility and see if you really want to, we can give you a tour when all the girls are out. That way you can see what we do.
00:28:57
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Um, that way there's no shame. You have the pictures and there's nowhere else. They're not on the cloud somewhere. Like, you know what I mean? Whatever you can do to assuage those fears. But it sounds like his friends are incredibly insecure and they tapped into his insecurities because he clearly has some baggage that he didn't know to tell you about or didn't know how bad it was until his friends brought it out of him.
00:29:19
Speaker
Because if you talked to him weeks prior and he gave you the green light and was actually excited for you and now he's shaming you, that's a fucking problem. And that's a yellow flag in the very least that you need to keep an eye on because if his insecurities are going to keep coming back like that to bring misery so that his misery has company, then it might not be a healthy relationship for you. But I'm not saying you should break up, but just keep an eye on that shit.
00:29:44
Speaker
at the same time, though, I do want to also kind of acknowledge that I do feel bad for the boyfriend, too. Oh, yeah, I do. Absolutely. It sounds like he doesn't know himself enough to be confident in his own choices. Like, originally, he chose to be fine with this. His friend said something to him, and it kind of awakened this anxiety in him, I guess. So
00:30:12
Speaker
It's I'm not condoning what he did at all. I am just acknowledging the fact that I do also feel sympathy for him. And I do too. My real ire is at the friends. Definitely. Here's what you do. You talk to the boyfriend, you find out what these fears are that he's having, you address them, assuage them however you can, then go get a couple's photo shoot.
00:30:40
Speaker
Do it together. That's an idea thing out of it. That's a really cool idea, Danny. That's there's just thinking out the thinking out the box. Like, that's a very cool like making a whole experience. Do it together. Do it together. Yeah. Go on like a whole couple's little retreat if you want to just to boost that confidence back up in your relationship. Like, babe, I'm not going anywhere. You know, I just. Yeah. Like, let's let's do it together since like you had a big fear that it's just me. I'll bring you into it.
00:31:09
Speaker
Yeah, definitely. I think, yeah, that's a very, very, very good idea, Danny. Very cromulant, more than cromulant, actually. My man, more than cromulant. Promulant problems require cromulant solutions.
00:31:27
Speaker
Danny, I feel like we've adequately talked that question through, I believe. I think we did good, yeah. Yeah, let's not harp on it too much. But yeah, I think there's some good solutions. I did a good job pretending I know what I'm talking about. I think you did a solid job and your parents should be proud. Do you have a word of the day for us, my friend? I do have a word of the day for us. Oh, tell me, tell me, tell me. What is it?
Vocabulary and Word Recap
00:31:52
Speaker
I don't know. Is it another like, is it like onomatopoeia? No, it's, it's a word that's also a name. Oh, that's interesting. It's Cavill. Cavill, like Henry Cavill. Right? Like C-A-V-E-L. Well, it's C-A-V-I-L. I-L, right. Yes. Cavill. So it's a verb.
00:32:17
Speaker
So you cavil something. You cavil. It's you cavil. We all cavil. You cavil, I cavil. To raise irritating and trivial objections, finding fault with with something unnecessarily. Oh, like the boyfriend's friends. And yes, actually, it fits perfectly. Say that. Can you say the definition one more time? And can you read an example sentence? I sure can.
00:32:45
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It's to raise irritating and trivial objections, find fault with unnecessarily. Yes. Some examples. Instead of appreciating the effort put into the event, he chose to caval about the choice of music, claiming it ruined the entire experience. So it's kind of like complaining in a very trivial way. Yeah, replace the word bitch with caval. Instead of bitching about something, you caval about it.
00:33:17
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first-world problems require first-world cavalry. That's right. Another example, she tends to cavalry about grammar mistakes in online forums, often derailing discussions with her pedantic comments. I like that word. I have to find a way to put it. It doesn't feel organic yet because it's new, but I love that word. That's such a cool
00:33:40
Speaker
I do like the idea of replace Cavill with like, bitch. Yeah, just replace the word bitch with Cavill. Is the continuing verb of that. What do they call that when you put the ING? What tense of the word is that? Yeah. Is it Cavilling? Are you Cavilling if you're complaining a lot? Because I could probably put Cavilling in my sentence. Like, dude, you've been Cavilling all day. It does not say. I'm curious if there is another tense to that word. But I love that word, Cavill. That's very good. Cavill.
00:34:10
Speaker
Yeah, so the partner and his friends were essentially trying to caval about something that was already agreed about. They're just finding tiny things to be wrong with. Yeah, the boyfriend was caval-ing her photo shoot, basically. That's crazy.
00:34:32
Speaker
Well, what a what a what a very astute and cromulant word to choose today. It was the only one I know how to use. I've been trying to use Sussarists more. I've forgotten all the other ones you said. Well, let's see. I can't. I know this one. Yeah, let's go through the list. Let's fucking hit it, man. All right. This is your first time listening to the podcast.
00:34:52
Speaker
You're about to hear every word of the day we've done since we started the segment. So here we go. Get ready. It's not necessarily in the order we covered them. That's okay. That's fine. Mount Weasel. Mount Weasel. Promulant. I'm going to type them as you say them. Mount Weasel. Mount Weasel.
00:35:11
Speaker
Uh-huh. Nigh. N-I-G-H. N-I-G-H. Oh, yeah, I know nigh. I keep forgetting we learned that. Yep, we did do nigh. S-S-R-S. S-S-R-S. I never know if I'm spelling it right, but I think that's how I do it. S-U-S-U-R-R-U-S. There's two R's, not two S's. God damn it. Two R's, not two S's. Fuck.
00:35:35
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Oh, here's a going, we forgot about, uh, somnolent somnolent recognize. I really hope we covered all of these because I'm just looking at the list of ones I've picked out.
00:35:49
Speaker
I don't know how to spell it. I'm pretty sure we did. There we go. It's S-O-M-N-O-L-E-N-T. Yeah, you got it. Yeah. I typed it until it stopped correcting me. I've been there. I've Googled words so many times just to make sure it's spelled right. Yep. Buttonhole.
00:36:08
Speaker
Oh, yeah, this is one that I thought that I knew, but I didn't know. Yeah, I still don't remember what it actually means. It was like to be. Oh, it's like when you keep somebody like from like with your conversation or something. Yeah, it's when you detain somebody through conversation. Right. Like I do all the time. Insusient. I do remember that. Is it? I don't remember how to spell. Is that it? I think I did it. I-N-S-O-U-C-I-A-N-T. That's it. Yeah. Yeah. All right. Well, how about this one?
00:36:37
Speaker
Imponderabilia. Is it in or in in under? I didn't speak clearly enough. In in in in. Ponder. I thought that was I spell it, but I think I'm off by a letter. Imponderability. Is there more than one L in there? No.
00:37:00
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No, I think you're right. It's hard to tell. So imponderability, if I recall, is like when you you're talking about something that is immeasurable, like feeling or something like the imponderability of human emotion, I think, was the example that you gave, if I recall correctly. Yeah, it's it's a plural noun for anything that cannot be precisely determined, measured or evaluated. Gotcha. So just, yeah, any like ethereal kind of. Yeah.
00:37:28
Speaker
thing that you cannot. Is that all the words? Did we get them all? No, no, no. We still got more. Oh, shit. Buckle in, boys. Yannick. Oh, yeah. We learned that one with Kimmy, I think. We did. Yannick, fuck.
00:37:42
Speaker
I do not remember Yannick. I remember saying it, but I don't know what it means. Yannick was honest and fair. Straightforward. Oh, like you are. Right. It's an adjective. So, you know, very Yannick kind of person. Yeah. Yes. Honest and fair. Right. OK. Commodious. Oh, that was the toilet demon with Nexu, I think.
00:38:07
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Right. I don't remember that spacious and convenient through me. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Very come out of this apartment. Yeah. Got to go visit the commode. Yeah. And then Rizable. Rizable. That's like when something's funny, like laughable. It's when something is capable of causing laughter. Biggest dickess. And then Cavill.
00:38:32
Speaker
Cavill, which means to gripe about trivial things. Oh, and then there's the one my mom gave me. Oh, right. Oh, God, how the hell do I say it again? Opa caro. Opa gangnam style. Opa gangnam style. Opa caro file. Opa caro file. That's someone who likes sunsets, right? Yes, that's someone that loves sunsets.
00:38:57
Speaker
I don't know how to spell it properly, but I'm just going to write what I think Kara.
00:39:03
Speaker
Yeah, that's it. I know, but Cara file somebody like sunsets. What was somnolent again? You have the definitions written down with the words or words? I just have the link to the Web. Oh, yeah. Oh, shit. I just have older with all the Web pages. So I'm going to sleepier drowsy. It's an adjective. Gotcha. Gotcha. Gotcha. And then it was.
00:39:28
Speaker
It's just, you know, I think I come up with a mnemonic device, something about Dr. Seuss. So something that is like, is it like irreverent or something that's silly? I'm trying to think of. It's free of concern, worry or anxiety. It's somebody who's carefree and nonchalant. OK, so that's what it was. So you feel insouciant to something. Gotcha. You're very suciant if if you are very anxious and worried.
00:39:54
Speaker
Uh, okay, cool. Yeah. Yeah. There we go. So once more for the kids in the back, we got Mount weasel, cromulant, nigh, cesaris, somnolent, buttonhole, insusient, imponderabilia, jannic, commodious, visible,
00:40:09
Speaker
Uh, opacaraphile and cavil as the word of the day. Oh, see, you said that so much better than me. Opacaraphile. Yeah, that's how you say it. Literally say it the way. Opacaro literally say it the way that the gang that size things gangnam style. It's literally the same cadence. Opacaraphile. I'm promised to God. That's how I remember how to say it.
00:40:30
Speaker
You know, don't make it harder than it has to be. Don't get all, don't, don't cavil about it. Um, all right. Let me see. There you go. Yeah. Don't even worry about it. Just go, you know, your, your dedication to it is, uh, very cromulence. And I think that your acclimation of the word is nigh. Um, so sorry to bore you with all of that vocabulary. Yeah.
00:40:58
Speaker
I got you. I knew where you were going. All right. Anyway, you want to answer some more questions? I would love to answer some more questions. All right. Cool.
Attractions & Societal Expectations
00:41:06
Speaker
So this one again, now that the parents listen, I apologize, but I did tell Danny ahead of time what this next question was. Um, so that way he could tell me if he was okay to answer it, knowing that his parents listened to the podcast. Uh, so, so Danny, the question is what is something that you are embarrassed to admit
00:41:28
Speaker
arouses you. Okay, so I'm changing this question a little bit. I also have the comments up because I wanted to talk about I wanted to read some of the comments. So once we're done, I'll read some of the words. I'm changing this question just a little bit. Okay. For my parents sake, and my own. Gotcha. I am not going to give you one I am embarrassed about, but just one that is like silly and different. Sure. And that is when
00:41:57
Speaker
My wife gets super, how do I put it? Super, not obsessed with something, but like super into something, right? Like she kind of has a kind of an obsessive personality, right? She'll get really into something for a little bit and then kind of just drop it off after a while.
00:42:25
Speaker
But when she gets really into something, and there's a word for it that is just escaping me right now. Hyper-focused? Not even hyper-focused. Super excited for something. Gotcha. Very insouciant about everything else. Yeah. When she gets souciant about something. Yeah.
00:42:45
Speaker
God, what is the word when she just like finds a new anime, right? That she's right when she like she turns into a fangirl. She starts looking things up about it, who the voice actors were and all this stuff. They're talking about other places. We heard the voice like we like to play a game when we hear somebody's voice. We try and figure out who it was without looking it up.
00:43:10
Speaker
Or like if she if I'm playing a video game that she gets into and we start talking about it and she gets really into it like a while back with Warframe, she got really into Warframe. Yeah. And we used to like just sit around and talk about it all the time. And you could see the spark in her eyes as she's like thinking and coming up with stuff. She makes spreadsheets and stuff. I find it so
00:43:36
Speaker
pure and so adorable. But it comes with a caveat. This thing cannot be Dungeons and Dragons related. She has been so on the Dungeons and Dragons train since it has been introduced to us like
00:43:59
Speaker
Oh, God, it's got to be getting close to like 10 years now. Yeah, I can see that. And, you know, it's just all the time. I'm like that. That one's lost. But, yeah, new video game or a video game that she sees me playing, that she gets interested in or a new show that she gets interested in. We actually were doing it just today with Love is Blind, season six.
00:44:25
Speaker
She really loves that show. I also like the show. I'll admit it. There's the embarrassing part. And we like to just sit there and talk about like, you know, whenever they have
00:44:40
Speaker
Drama between the couples like how would we handle this situation or what do you think went wrong here? Or you know, like we always come out of this show looking at each other like I'm so glad it's easy for us Yeah, we aren't like stupid like these people That's great. Yeah, it sounds like you guys have like a really good a good teta tete with each other with those kind of things yeah, we are very much on the same page as people so it like
00:45:11
Speaker
It helps a lot. It's also good. I'm happy for you. Thank you. Yeah, I think it's great. She's not half bad. She's all right. She's all right. She's all right. He's all right. When she gets like super. To get into early, but super into something. Yeah. Yeah, I know what you're trying to say. I don't like wonder again. Yeah. That always. Yeah. That's great, man. Love to hear it.
00:45:40
Speaker
Um, I have a mostly serious answer and then a real serious answer. Um, if I may give you two examples. Yeah. Just don't forget my parents are listening. Yeah. So one of them I'm embarrassed. It's embarrassment only because like one of these things is just not arousing at all. It's like a different kind of arousal, which to use one of our vocabulary words, commodious spaces, like
00:46:08
Speaker
I love being able to run and jump and just like like.
00:46:14
Speaker
I love that at my current job that like some of the kids are so active that the room is spacious enough or commodious enough that I can like fucking leap. I don't leap over tables anymore because some kid tried it once and because I did it, but you know, but like I could like fucking bound over a table to catch these kids. We're playing tag or something. Or if I'm in like just an open field somewhere and like part of it is the nature of the breeze, the sun, like if it's a beautiful day, like 65, 70 degrees and the wind is blowing, it's not too humid. Like.
00:46:44
Speaker
being outside like an open space is like the weirdest sensation for me because like I always feel so cooped up I don't it's not that I'm claustrophobic but I just hate when I can't like run free and do what I want to do um unless that's a preempt claustrophobia I don't know but it does make me feel a certain way where like I have like I guess what
00:47:06
Speaker
runners would call like a runner's high in a way like I'm not bounding or anything exactly but like I can't help it like remember when I told that story about how I was waltzing on the Capitol grounds it's so open up there that like I couldn't I was like I gotta I don't want to run around because the police up there might think I'm being stupid but if I just go up there and just start dancing everywhere and just this huge fucking space where no one is here right now it's so open I felt like a million bucks at like
00:47:32
Speaker
I did feel like a certain way and i don't know if i call it arousal per se in like the sexual sense like. It really made me feel away that i don't feel that often it made me feel incredible were like. Like look at all this space and i can do all the stupid shit and like that i can just run and like i'm not gonna bump anybody anybody i don't gotta worry.
00:47:52
Speaker
I can like be as insouciate as I need to be in this moment and not worry about hurting anyone or looking silly or feeling silly and I could just have a fucking ball. And like being able to- You get that freedom. Yeah, it's like being a racer on an open track or like, you know, a horse in a field versus like in a fucking pen. Like imagine how good they feel and they can just fucking go, man. And like, that's how I feel. So like, it's kind of embarrassing in a way that like,
00:48:21
Speaker
I'm not embarrassed when I'm doing it, but I feel sometimes, I don't want to call it shame, but like sometimes I feel, I guess awkward because I don't know how to convey to people why I feel compelled to do it.
00:48:35
Speaker
You know, like that was probably the best way that I could explain it just now. But like in the moment when someone's like, what are you doing? Or like, why did you feel like you had to do that? I'm like, I don't know, man. It just like this primal feeling just like clutched my heart and just told me a wanderlust, but for freedom. Like, yeah, yeah. Wonderlust is a great word for that. Yeah.
00:48:56
Speaker
Is that very well could be the word I need is wanderlust. Like sometimes I'm just like, it's there. Yeah. Like, like when I'm playing a video game, it's the same way. I just feel compelled to go places because it's there. And I just want to fuck it. I don't want to be shackled to like a railroad. I just want to go somewhere. And I don't want to be in a car all the time. I don't want to be in my seat all the time. I don't want to be in a fucking office or in a clinic or in a store all the time, unless there's like there's people everywhere in this. And not that I don't like people, but there's no room to fucking move. I'm a horse that wants to gallop, man.
00:49:25
Speaker
You know, like I actually make me feel that way very similar thing, but like in the opposite direction, not this, but like where you like wide open spaces. I like forests. Yeah, same. Lost in a forest and where you want to like.
00:49:44
Speaker
do like the run and be free. I want to just like be able to plot along at my own pace, just kind of wander aimlessly with no care for where I'm going or when I get there and just kind of enjoy myself, like be in the moment.
00:50:02
Speaker
it, check out the nature around me and just kind of like become one with it, right? Like just kind of relax, close your eyes, take that deep breath of fresh air and just like listen to everything going on around you. Um, yeah, it gives me that same kind of like freedom feeling that you're describing. So I, I get what you mean.
00:50:22
Speaker
Yeah, I just I just looked up wanderlust. First of all, I just saw the score for the wanderlust movie. It's like two and a half stars. Great fucking movie. Go watch it. It's hilarious. Never heard of it. It's delightful. It's so funny. But but like, yeah, but it's like a compulsion to explore an open world. So it doesn't like you said, it doesn't always have to be a big wide open space. The forest still feels that way to me because I know I'm not going to run into like a Walmart or a parking lot like
00:50:50
Speaker
You know, I'm still I can just kind of go, you know, away from from human settlement, like. Right. Yeah, I don't mind if I run into other people out there. It's just like it's it's nice to get away from like. You know, and I only just I'm kind of learning this stuff this about myself as I'm speaking right now, but like I do think I kind of miss like I used to live in the woods. I used to live out in the fucking boonies when I was a kid. I do think I miss it sometimes where like
00:51:17
Speaker
I'm not quite in this city and there's still parks and stuff around me that's still beautiful and there's still foliage I drive by, but it's not the same as like, you know, I like that there's, I love that there's civilization out here, but I do miss being closer to the forest and I do miss being closer to where animals can just kind of, you can just see a fucking raccoon walking around in the woods or a Turkey kind of goblin into your yard.
00:51:38
Speaker
or something and it's cool. I do miss that sometimes. Back in the day when I lived with my parents and I was pretty young, our house had woods behind it and we would get wild turkeys and such. Then after a while, they tore down the whole thing, put in a cul-de-sac. We never saw any turkeys again, no wild animals at all.
00:52:04
Speaker
I agree. It's something I missed in the back of my mind, but I never really thought about it until we moved to where we're at now, because everything is pretty wide open. We're in farm area. All the houses are double lots, so there's a lot of room between houses. And we have a small stretch of woods on the side of our house, and we get deer constantly walking through our backyard.
00:52:34
Speaker
I didn't realize how much I missed just having nature around until then, because I'll just sit there and I'll just watch them walk by. I mean, we make fun. We call them hooligans and we tell them to get off our lawn and shit. But like, I could just sit out there forever and just watch them and just be like,
00:52:54
Speaker
I'm jealous. You guys have like no cares in the world. Absolutely. Yeah, I totally get it, man. I didn't realize how much I missed having a little bit of nature in my life.
00:53:06
Speaker
I'm so sick of seeing gray and black. It's boring. I don't want to see what a dog sees, damn it. I don't want to see black and gray all day. Well, it's the same thing with when they make us go into the office at my work. It's like, I could be home where we decided to go a little wild and the walls are green.
00:53:29
Speaker
Not like gross green, but like they're different colors, right? Or I could be shoved in my gray cubicle at my gray job where there's no windows near me. I can't even tell you if it's daylight outside. And all you hear is the buzzing of fluorescent lights for eight hours. It's like, Oh, yep. Yeah. Like I used to miss the stars and like, I still can see them sometimes out here, but even just like having a few street lamps around is enough to kind of blotch out a lot of them.
00:53:57
Speaker
And, you know, like I didn't realize until like if I go like hang out at my sister's house, she lives out in the fucking boonies because that's you know, she missed it too. And they got a farm out there where like I was like, man, I forgot like just how many goddamn things you can see in the air when like you're not surrounded by a thousand street lamps all the time. You know, it kind of blots it out. So like I do miss it. So that's one thing that really just you need to arouse is like a certain feeling. I need to move. You need to move here. Come here. Joysey, how come I'll come about there sometime in your backyard.
00:54:28
Speaker
You love it over here. I might. I might. You can hang out with us every day. I don't know how I feel about that. Can I tell you the other thing that I'm embarrassed about that arouses me real quick? Oh, yeah. Yeah, please. I'm embarrassed that the things that are meant to arouse me arouse me because of how much I have been trying to like I've been really trying to be what I like to call a progressive guy. I've been really trying to sometimes I don't know where the line is between like
00:54:57
Speaker
when a woman would want me to examine, per se, the things that she's accentuating and when I shouldn't. And I still feel guilty that every once in a while when I'm at the gym and there's a girl who's really fucking killing it, and I'm just like, damn.
00:55:13
Speaker
You know, like, like, like I can't help it, but I almost breaking my neck to not look because I don't want to feel like I'm disrespecting that person or making them feel unsafe. But like, but even on a dating profile or something, if I see somebody and there's like a very good accentuating picture, I'm just like, damn, fuck, that's hot. You know, like, like I'm almost embarrassed sometimes to like let that primal feeling out. But like, but I've learned that lately a lot of guys like, no, that's cool. Like if that's what like,
00:55:39
Speaker
I'm looking for, you know, but still, like, it makes me feel embarrassed because, like, I don't want to, you know, I love butts. I love them so much, Danny. Oh, my goodness. I love them.
00:55:51
Speaker
Ah, and I'm learning to be a bit of a chess guy, too. I didn't know I had that in me, but legs and arms still and cute little hands. I'm like, I'm like, you know, and I just feel I feel guilty and embarrassed sometimes to say that unless I'm in a relationship and my partner's like, yes, please, I love that affection. Touch all the time. I'm like, yes, please tell me I'm hot all the time. You're hot. You're so fucking hot. You know, but like, but like as a single man, I feel embarrassed in the moment.
00:56:17
Speaker
And I never know if it's appropriate, like if somebody is wearing something that I'm like, you know what, maybe they want to be complimented, but I have to be tactful on how I do it because they don't want to seem too objectifying, you know. So that's the thing. That's the other thing is like, that's probably it's a traditional thing to be attracted to that I'm embarrassed to be attracted to for the reasons that I get it. But like.
00:56:37
Speaker
You actually raise a very interesting point that I never really thought of until just now, but there is kind of like that catch 22 of like, and I, I am going to preface this by saying I 100% do not condone, uh, guys that use this in the stupid way I'm about to describe, right? But you get like those creepy dudes that are like,
00:57:05
Speaker
Oh, well, if you don't want me looking, don't, you know, wear something that is super revealing. Um, and I do not agree with them at all. Like don't be creepy, please ever. Right. Gross. And don't objectify. But I get where the argument is coming from because there are times where like, I've seen people wearing
00:57:29
Speaker
showing more skin than clothes, right? Right. Or even on the other side, like guys, you like wear the skin tight shirts that like muscles that makes them look bigger. Like they're accenting their they're proud of their arms or they're accentuating their chest because they're proud of
00:57:42
Speaker
you know, how much work they put into it, like, and, you know, women guys do it, too. Guys absolutely do it, too. You know, they so as a straight male, you know, I'm going to it is a hard line to walk. I shouldn't say it's a hard line, but it is a blurry line to walk because some people you have to talk to the person beforehand because like I don't believe in catcalling. I think that's, you know, even if a girl likes it, I'm not going to do it. But like it is it is hard. And so like I think
00:58:10
Speaker
I have gotten to a weird point where I want to walk the right line, but I don't want someone to think I don't recognize the beauty that the work they put in because a lot of girls spend a lot of time on themselves, you know, and like the girl who takes her boudoir pictures, you know, like,
00:58:26
Speaker
You know, I don't want to I don't want to miss out, not miss out, but I don't want to ignore those things. And when maybe they want to be complimented, usually I'll start with like the clothes. Like I said, nice shirt. I like your shoes. Your hair looks nice. You know, just so that it's not like, hey, your ass looks great in those pants. You know, you literally just beat me to the punch of my own advice for you was.
00:58:48
Speaker
Start with the clothes. Yeah, I always do. The best way to compliment somebody that looks good without being creepy about it. Just don't don't compliment their body, compliment their accessories, their clothes, if they have their hair a certain way. I think that was advice I gave for social interaction in a previous episode was pick something that they're wearing and go three deep. Yeah. But like if you see a girl like for me, I'm a tummy guy, right? You got like a nice sexy tummy.
00:59:19
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Um, so if a girl wore like, uh, was it high top or where they showed, I don't even know what it's called. Yeah. I don't know. I just call him Billy shirts. Yeah. Uh, first of all, I wouldn't just walk up to somebody and say, so I am far too introverted. I was going to say, we wouldn't walk up to anybody unless you had someone like a partner with him, unless I had a partner with him or she came up to me or something. Uh, but like if I really wanted to or had to or whatever.
00:59:46
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Yeah, I would say like, oh, wow, I really like that. Sure. It looks really great on you. It kind of gets the same point across without you being like, it's more tactical. I like your belly. Right. Hey, can I can I touch that? Like, OK. But yeah, I get what you mean, because we live in an age where sex is really played up.
01:00:12
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Um, I personally hate the way sex is viewed in society these days. It's like, uh, there's nothing really special about it anymore. Um, but yeah, and we're brought up to believe like being sexy is like one of the core defining things about you, right? If you're not sexy, you're a loser. Uh, so people do their best to be sexy. They wear sexy clothes, they accentuate different things and like,
01:00:41
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But at the same time, they're trying to feel sexy for themselves, not for other people. So when you start ogling them about it, they get upset. And I agree with them. They, you know, like.
01:00:57
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It I wouldn't want it either. Like I'm not saying they're wrong to do that. It's just something I've noticed is that usually when people dress sexy, it's to make themselves feel sexy. It's not for you. That's for. Yeah. And I think that's a big thing people need to remember. Yep. Can I can I read you some of the comments? Because I think some of them are just delightful. I would love it. What one of them?
01:01:22
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Someone says medical examination. I want to read you the comments following this one because there's a great, a great kind of back and forth. They say medical examinations. My girlfriend is in nursing school and she practices her exams on me. 100% non erotic. She does it exactly. She's supposed to with real patients and I fucking love it. And then somebody said, um,
01:01:45
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You're going to be in trouble when you got to go to the doctor for real. And then somebody else said, I was so shy as a child that when we played doctor, I'd always be the receptionist. And then somebody said, I laugh so hard and then thought, oh shit, I'm also always a receptionist or somebody when they play doctor is the receptionist at the doctor. I love it.
01:02:04
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I want to try that in the bedroom. I love it. You're just booking the appointment like, yes, Dr. Bell, we'll see you now. Honey, you just wait in the bedroom in your sexy nurse outfit. I'm in the living room and pretend to take down orders and make scheduling.
01:02:26
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Mm hmm. Another one that's a little bit more kind of wholesome that got a like 3000 upvotes was being told anything positive about the act that I'm doing. Like I've literally had a partner say that is so good or something just as innocuous as when she stopped, looked down and asked, did you just get bigger? They as a praise king, someone said.
01:02:51
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But then someone said like the first like when when you cut into something and your scissors just glide across the paper or let's see another one that I saw like getting a new haircut and then the barber trims the back of your neck with the small razor. Which I kind of like when they do the sides in the back, too. That's kind of it's a different feeling from the big one. I don't say it arouses me, but I do like how it has a good one for that.
01:03:17
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Uh, I have longer hair now, but I used to have a buzz cut for most of my life. Nothing beats the feeling of having a buzz cut and having somebody rub their hand through your hair. Oh yeah, dude. I used to do that with like my sides used to get buzzed and I would do that to myself just because I felt so it's the one thing about a buzz cut that I'm like, it really wants to draw me back, but I really.
01:03:44
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I like myself better now, but I'm like, yeah, that feeling, though. I have one that I think is good for you because this one has almost six thousand upvotes. And this is from two days ago. And somebody said when guys with glasses push them up onto the top of their nose, like I do that constantly six thousand votes. So that means that a lot of guys and gals think that's hot. That's good because I do a lot.
01:04:11
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So like, you know, maybe trying to work that more in, you know, with Belle, see if she notices a little like, oh, hey, you know, you look extra hot today. I mean, with my glasses, too. I was like, maybe I should get, you know, the eye surgery. So like, oh, but I really like your glass. Another one that has glasses.
01:04:29
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Another one with almost six thousand upvotes. The way a guy looks when he's driving, like from like, I don't know why, but viewing a cute guy with a side profile while he's focusing on the road is intense for me. I just want to pull over and have sex. And then they ended and said, I was wrong. This is because they said, I think it's uncommon, but they said I was wrong. This is very common. There's six thousand comments on this. Well, you know what? You would never catch me doing that.
01:04:59
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because if I'm in the car and I'm driving, I am giving a one man rock concert. I felt it out, man. That is when I get my singing practice in. It's when I do my voice acting warmups. I am belting that shit out. I actually had a friend call me one day on my way home from work. And he was like, my dude, I'm behind you.
01:05:28
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You are rocking the fuck out. And I was like, hell yeah, I am. I love it. The last one that I wanted to read, just because I think it's very it's a very typical male answer, but it's a very clever way that they did it is it just says when a girl and that's the whole thing. And then the comment underneath it is, I really wish a girl would with me. And then another person said, it's good when the woman
01:06:02
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I love the internet sometimes man only want one thing and it's disgusting girl Yeah, it's just when the girl I wish it's so true. It's so funny. Ah You want to answer another question or two before we rock out of here Danny? Yes, please one more Oh my goodness. Sorry that one went a bit long, but I just couldn't help it. Oh, no, I'm having a great time.
01:06:23
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Um, let's see. So this one, I think is a good kind of follow up per
Self-Appreciation & Personal Growth
01:06:29
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like some of the things we talked about. Um, and I also have some answers to this one because I thought it got taken down on Reddit, but the comments are still there. So I kind of like getting some other people's perspectives too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I might, I might start to, I might start to kind of try to track some more comments down.
01:06:29
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Oh
01:06:46
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But this one says, what's something that you like about yourself? And they even edited it because it was something that was very surprising to them. And they said, edit, I woke up early only to check Reddit and see over 300 notifications from this post. It's really nice to read the comments, which is why I felt compelled to bring the comments up because there's a lot of people not only saying nice things about themselves, but commenters encouraging them to keep
01:07:15
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Keep that up. So I just thought it was just a really nice Internet thing to see. That's so nice. That's wholesome. Yeah, yeah. So I thought that was a nice kind of feel good, you know, thing so much so that I'm going to ping it to you on Discord so you can read some of the comments later. So anyway, so Danny, what is something that you really like about yourself? Well, we were actually just talking about it before with my parents being the fans of the show.
01:07:44
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I've learned to love my voice. I love the way it sounds. I think it's
01:07:53
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easy enough on the ears when I'm not screaming and yelling and being crazy. But at the same time, I love that I've learned how to do so many things with it for voice acting. I can go super high. I can go kind of low. I can pretend to be Patrick Orburton. I can do a robot voice. I could do all these crazy things with it. And even if I never wanted to be a voice actor, I just love that.
01:08:22
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I can do it as a party trick or a joke thing. Sure. Something to get a giggle on people or something. Yeah. I've had friends call me up and say like, hey, oh God, what was it? A friend called me up and he said, hey, I'm playing Cards Against Humanity right now.
01:08:41
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And the card I played was Stephen Hawking talking dirty. Oh God. Oh yes. Oh yes. And, and he's like, I need your help because I told them that I have a friend who can do it. And they said, they'll let me win if you do it. So I was like, all right, put the phone on speaker, have all about my studies. All right, fine. You know, here, put me on speaker.
01:09:07
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Hello. Yes. Yes. Oh, please. Right there. Oh, yes. Terry, come. You know, like, yes. And like even our friend who was on the show, Cass, I did that for her, that voice, and she was like, oh, what voice modulator do you use? And I was like, I don't. You know, that's just I can just do that. Just the just the chords in my throat, baby. I just yeah, I just inhale as I talk. Mm hmm. It's like inward singing.
01:09:36
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Yeah, yeah And the only issue is I can't really do s's all that well, but you know, yeah But I just I really love that I can do all this silly crap with my voice, you know
01:09:48
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Yeah, I used to. And it shows, too, by the way, if I can interrupt you for a second, it shows that it does show like it. Oh, I do stupid voices all the time. Well, it's not even just about the voices. It's just like you have. I would say even from our first episode of TRQ, it took you when you were a guest and even just like from other interactions we've had like over, you know, voice calls or when we were practicing voice acting in the server or
01:10:16
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or even just interacting for the first time at the mall. Your demeanor has changed. I can tell that when you speak, you speak with your chin up. It's really easy to tell when someone's talking if they're looking down when they talk. And it is very clear to me that over time, as you've been doing this kind of thing, that you have better posture when you talk. You speak with more confidence in things that you're saying. You chime in way more than you ever have before.
01:10:43
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And the fact that you've shown so much excitement to even book guests to do this show and that you're like finding clips and you're okay with how you sound. Like, Danny, I'm like super proud and happy of you and for you, man. Like, I think it's really, it is very apparent to me that you have grown that confidence in yourself. Shit, dude. You're gonna make me cry.
01:11:08
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Well, I wasn't trying to, but I mean, as long as it's a good kind of cry. Thank you, because I've actually.
01:11:19
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It hasn't come naturally to me. I've actually been trying very hard to get myself to be more outgoing and more confident in myself. And I've I've seen that, too, just in what we were doing at the mall that first time and like it's very apparent to me that you have been. Yeah, like even even small things like when you challenged me to DDR and at first they said no. Mm hmm. And then I was like, you know what? No, because I got to be more outgoing. I got to just shut up and have fun.
01:11:47
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Mm hmm. Be insouciant. I'm it feels so good to hear somebody say that they actually like they really noticed it. And I appreciate that. So I witness you, Daniel. I see you. You know, I very much do. I think it is, you know,
01:12:07
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honest to goodness it is so it has made me feel incredible not just for you but I mean you are definitely a pillar of what I was hoping I fuck now I sound like I'm taking credit for it but like the things that I wanted to see happen as the network was growing well you should take credit for that I know I don't work no I don't want to that's not fair but like but like
01:12:30
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what I was hoping to see with the whole message of like collaboration and working with people maybe you don't know and like trying to just kind of build off each other's skill sets and stuff like a few of you really dove deep into that and you were one of those people that like from the very beginning was like I need to do stuff that makes me uncomfortable I want to do this thing and I don't get to do this thing that much and you and a few others like it
01:12:55
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If there's something that like, even if the rest of the network fails and it just goes under tomorrow, like.
01:13:02
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What has made me feel incredible about that journey, especially since the first time I tried to network to now. It's just seeing that like there's so many people doing things like starting new podcast or putting on video for the first time or trying out streaming or, you know, inviting guests to do stuff. People that don't even know now they're encouraging. Yeah, go do another podcast. Go ahead. I'll show you how to start one. I saw somebody just recently start their first.
01:13:25
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actual play podcast because one of our members was like, yeah, here, I'll show you how to do it. Like, that makes me feel so good to say that makes me feel so good to see that and to hear how to get to witness it.
01:13:39
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the way that you have been. And then now that you and I are doing this together, like, dude, it makes my heart like of all the heart pains that I've had over recent months, it hurts equally as good for stuff like this. You know, it hurts in the best way like my chest, it hurts because my chest wants to get bigger. So my heart has more room to grow in it. You know, so like, it really makes me feel good that you
01:14:08
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said that like that you are feeling that way. It just it's an incredible thing to witness. Well, you know, I know you keep saying you don't want to take credit, but like this was your baby. This was your idea. And you found and curated the people that are in it. And it is thanks to them and mostly thanks to you that I got to where I am today because. Yeah, I was I've been trying for a long time now to be more outgoing and everything, but
01:14:38
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having somebody, I mean, me and you just clicked immediately. Yeah, I agree. And having somebody as outgoing as you that I could look up to in a social situation and kind of try and emulate in a way has really helped me. Like I really do take all of this, uh, your advice on how to talk to people to heart. And I really do look up to you for how you can just go up to people and
01:15:07
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talk to them. It sounds so simple, but it's really not. A lot of the thanks goes to you for giving me the courage and the drive to just
01:15:28
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say, you know what, I need to just do these things, even though I'm uncomfortable. I've been trying for a while, but you kind of gave me that extra push that really tipped the scales. And I want to thank you for that because you really did. You've changed my life, man, you really have. And now I just have to give a heart to a Ted man and a brain to a scarecrow and my work will be done. And you can clap your heels together and I go the fuck home.
01:15:57
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Thank you for saying that. I appreciate it. You know, I don't mean every word. Yeah. You know, and I just like I recognize it like I have roles that I play in people's lives, but like it feels.
01:16:10
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Uh, what's the word I'm looking for? It doesn't feel correct to think like, Oh, they wouldn't, you know, it feels pretentious to be like, well, they wouldn't be where they were without me because the work is the work that you put in. I'm so I'm happy that I could be some arbiter of some, of some of that push, but like, you know, and that's where I'll take, you know, if you want to give me some.
01:16:30
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some credit there. Sure. You know, I'm glad that I was able to give you a place to facilitate that growth. But I mean, that's it's like 90 10. Like I just made a space. You did what you needed to do with it. You know, and that's a lot more than you realize. But I mean, you know, you never know what people think you until they tell you. So people out there, you got to tell people, you got to tell them, you got to tell them what you think. Real quick, I do want to say that I'm glad in a way that my parents are
01:17:01
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listening to these because this is they've obviously never met you. They've only heard of you through stories I've told them. And they should listen those stories. I mean, no, those are for me. Right. The boomer shots. Those are for my personal. Right. Sorry. But like.
01:17:28
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And all my life, my parents have met all of my friends. You're kind of the first person I really became a friend with that they really hadn't met at all. So I'm just giving them stories. But I'm really happy that they'll actually get to indirectly meet you and see that all of the crazy shit I've been saying about you and how awesome you are is true.
01:17:52
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Cause it's hard to tell your parents like, yeah, man, like this guy just came into my life. And like, everything is so much better now because I met this one person who introduced me to 10 other people. And, uh, he told 10 friends and they told 10 friends, 21 friends. And he said, we should start like a marketing thing. It can have multiple levels in it.
01:18:15
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Yeah, it's like it's shaped like a pyramid, but it's not what you think it is. Well, it's an inverted pyramid. Right. So it's upside down. It's different. Yeah, it's very different. But it's just a triangle. I'm very happy that my parents get to meet you in any kind of way. Right. Like they find. Yeah. Yeah. That means a lot. Thank you. Yeah.
01:18:38
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You know what? And that's what I like about myself is that friends are comfortable to tell me that kind of stuff. You know, I like to think. I hope to think when I don't hope to think I do like to think I think all the time I like to I like to believe I like to believe and I hope that people who really get to know me because I know I can be intimidating at first and that like I do have a lot of energy.
01:19:04
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You know, because I'm just so excited to meet people. But I do. I wish people were looking at it as cute as they do when a dog does it when I do. I'm glad you do because I do get I know that people if I were an actual golden retriever, we'd be like, oh, look at me so excited people are here. But if my tail was wagging, they'd be like, what a fucking freak. I was literally about to say you're basically a puppy. I yeah, I really am. And I'm not ashamed of it. And like I just I am just aware that it can be off putting if people aren't used to it. But
01:19:34
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But I like to believe that when people
01:19:38
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get to know me or they give me a chance long enough to recognize that like I do try to back up what I say I do try the best I can that my potentially ADHD brain will let me to commit to the things I say I'm going to commit to that they recognize that at the end of the day the things that I feel are real like I'm not telling you that I think you're great because I'm trying to make you feel better I'm telling you I think you're great because I think you're fucking great I think you're awesome and I believe in you and I hope that people you know
01:20:09
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you know they don't always hear me or they don't always maybe they appreciate what I say but they don't believe it but I do appreciate that they feel that they can tell me that that maybe they'll deny a compliment but if I ask him well why do you not believe what I say it's never like I don't believe you I don't believe in me and then it feels it makes me feel
01:20:32
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good that they can tell me that. Or in this case, the positive things too, because a lot of people, weirdly to me anyway, struggle to say nice things to people. It's easier to be mean than it is to be nice a lot of the times and it's wild to me, which is why I saved the link and shared it with you because I think it's really sweet to just read through all this beautiful positivity in a comment section on the internet where it's usually so toxic.
01:20:58
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I think we actually covered that in an earlier episode too. Why is it easier? Yeah, we did. And so I think the thing, as you were talking, I was going to say a few other things, but I realized that not everybody feels confident to tell somebody the things that they like about them or the things that they like about themselves to that person.
01:21:21
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And it made, it felt very organic for me to just sit and hear you say that and not think like, Oh, Danny's just, you know, this must be hard for Danny. It felt easy. I mean, you can tell me cause you're Danny and I'm not, but like, it seemed like that wasn't hard for you to do. No, um, I've, but I'm like you in that way where, um, I never found it particularly hard to give people compliments.
01:21:47
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And I find it hard to take them. I recognize that. But you've gotten better at that, too. I've got that. I've tried. You really have. You let me say all that nice stuff earlier and you didn't shoot it down once. I've learned that's growth, brother. Yeah, I've learned to. Not hold myself. To such a high standard that I can't. I always feel like a failure like.
01:22:12
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Part of the reason that I stopped watching Critical Role, besides the fact that I was getting burnt out on D&D, was that was all of my
01:22:25
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That's where all of my life of voice acting was coming from for a while, right? So you're comparing yourself to professionals. Yeah, they are the top of the league professionals, right? Right. I'll never be as good as them. I can't keep up and I shouldn't be able to. I just started. And you don't have to. Right. And I'm finally coming to terms with like.
01:22:46
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I'm in my own lane, right? And it helps that I have this. I have three besties. I'm actually doing it again. And it's not just for random ass people. And it's not for projects that aren't going anywhere, but things that are actually being released and stuff. But I have my role. And I've learned that I'm in
01:23:10
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If I had to say where I'm at in voice acting in terms of technique and stuff, I would put myself slightly higher average. I can do voices that I don't hear other people doing often. I can put fairly good emotion into most of the things I do. I do have trouble doing different emotions in different voices that can get rough.
01:23:35
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Yeah, and I can do some accents. But yeah, I would say I'm like very slightly on the higher end of average. And that's fine. That's good. I'm OK with that. You're in a lane that you're comfortable with that going to speed that you need to go. Yeah. And I'm not making any money on it right now. And that's fine, too. I enjoy doing it. And I know once it starts making money, that enjoyment is going to get at the very least dimmed by that.
01:24:04
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So I'm just gonna enjoy it while I can. How did we get to this part of the conversation? Not that I'm not happy for you, but I don't remember how we got here.
01:24:14
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I was just thinking, I don't know. I'm spewing word vomit. How do we get here for the past like 20 minutes? I think I was talking about how I like that. You like I asked you if it was hard for you to say nice things. Oh, and then you like that. I take compliments now and it's because I realized I don't need to hold myself to the standard of professionals. There we go. That's so when you tell me I'm doing a great job, I'm like, it's easier for me to go like I had it for me. I'm doing a great job for where I'm at.
01:24:44
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Yeah. Can I read you some of the ones on the comments before we go to our last question? I'm so tired of speaking. Yeah. So, you know, one of them just said that I keep waking up in the morning and take care of myself despite all the hard stuff that I'm encountering. And, you know, a lot of people say the same thing. You're doing great. I'm in the same boat as you. But, you know, and they're sharing a lot of self-care tips. One person was just saying, you know, get on you, keep going. And they have like some, you know, saying you can reach out.
01:25:13
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There's another one here that just says they like that they can make people laugh. And they have a surprising number of comments saying that they feel that that's an excellent skill. One person said, I don't know how to do that. I think it is a rare skill. Somebody said that
01:25:30
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It's an incredible asset almost anywhere in jobs, in marketing, with popularity, with helping people feel better when they're grieving. And there's a ton of people that all responded similarly with, I wish I could do that. I wish I had that skill. I don't feel like I'm funny. One person said, what's your secret? And the poster said, if I knew, I would share it. I just do things. It's more an outlook on life than anything else. Sure.
01:25:57
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Yeah. And somebody else said, I just don't give up, which is like, yeah, sometimes I am like, because absolutely. You know, somebody said, I can't stay mad for a very long time. Give me 10 minutes and I'll be over whatever it is. You know, whether it's a breakup, a fight, that's something that hurts me. You know, they said, you know, well, this shit won't matter. They always ask themselves, will this shit matter in a month? Hell no. And then they then they lose. They don't let themselves stay angry about it.
01:26:27
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Um, somebody said that I have an act for making friends in odd places. I feel like I also have that skill. Yeah. Did you make that comment? Yeah, I know I didn't, but I should have. Somebody said they're boobs. She said I can snuggle stuff in them or use those pillows a proper drink between them. That's my favorite. Let my favorite let people put money between them. Um, you know, and then somebody said,
01:26:53
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I joined Reddit yesterday and I've seen a lot of negativity and I find myself constantly spreading positive energy even though I see myself as bleak and negative and I really like that about myself and that I'm unpredictable and hard to understand too. Somebody says they're a really fast learner. Somebody says that they're very heavily animated and they like that about themselves. Then one person said, I've done a really good job of managing my anxiety and I'm very proud of the progress that I've made.
01:27:20
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all should be. Hello, wonderful things and great comments coming from them like I love hearing stuff like this on the Internet, man. Yeah, it's other. Yeah, I love it. You know, and just from asking what do you like about yourself? What a great conversation piece has got thousands and thousands of responses. You know, so, you know, hopefully listeners, this is like, you know,
01:27:43
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making you feel good. And if you would like to, um, you know, we have a new fun installers, uh, network, Instagram page. If you want to go over there, just look up fun and sellers network fun and stars underscore network.
01:27:55
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Uh, you know, and maybe comment on one of the things about what you like about yourself or go to fun and sellers network.com on our contacts page and let us know what do you like about yourself? Like, you know, there's gotta be something that you're about what you like. We would love that. We'll read it on future episodes. Please let us know what you think you're good at or what you don't hate about yourself. You know, some people have to look at it that way. Just whatever it is that you think like, Hey, I'm kind of cool with that part of myself. We'd love to hear about it. Um, and then, um,
01:28:22
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Finally, I got one more question that we can write out if you don't mind, Danny. I never mind. All right. This last one is from someone named... Oh, I didn't say who this question was from. Silver ad is what they were called who asked the question.
01:28:38
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Uh, on Reddit and then this person is from a competitive scar six to six. Yes. Oh no. Competitive scar six to six is the one that asked that question. Wait, the arrest question. Yeah. Silver ad was the arousal question. Competitive scar is such, such a dichotomy of like, thanks. Um, this last question is on ask Reddit called uncle touch you bad. Okay. That's their name. And they go, what superpower would actually be really terrible to have?
01:29:09
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Well, we went over the reasons why invisibility would make you blind. Yeah, that would suck. Absolutely. Superpower. That would be okay. Actually, here's one that I always kind of hated in movies and stuff. The ability to pass through solid objects.
01:29:29
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Hmm. Because they always do like, um, the stipulation is like, well, like I have to do one or the other, right? Like I either have to become intangible to everything or I become normally tangible to everything. Right.
01:29:47
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I always feel like you'd fall through the floor or the earth. Thank you! Why do you not just fall right through to the center of the earth and just stay there because of gravity? Or does gravity not affect you because you're intangible? Or is that how that works? Or you would fall upward like you know you'd go through the earth until you come out the other side which is the top for everyone else then you'd fly into space.
01:30:06
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Right. So I think it would be terrible on the premise that if you could become intangible, you would fall through the floor and just yeah, you would either be jettisoned out the other side of earth or gravity would just like bounce you back and forth in a smaller circle until finally you're stuck in just the center. And you're just crushed whenever you become tangible again.
01:30:30
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Yeah, I think some of for me, I think it would be the ones that like the average superhero just kind of comes stock with. So like super strength. Like I feel like I would break way too much shit. I feel like I would hug people the wrong way and kill them. Like do you like I feel for Superman every time I think about like his world made of cardboard speech because like how difficult must that be to live in a world that you could sneeze apart like and like I'm petting a kitten. Oops.
01:30:59
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You know, I'm betting a rag. I hit a baseball on a baseball game. I go a little too hard because I'm excited. Crack a baseball goes through someone's house and kills their grandma. You know, like like I would be terrified of super strength. I'd be worried that in my sleep, I'm breaking everything around me. Like if I have a nightmare, I would need to have cyclops is high power. Oh, my God. That'd be. Yeah. You can't control it at all.
01:31:23
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It's constantly on and all that you can do is wear tinted sunglasses or goggles to keep. Yeah, that I would hate that. Yeah, that would. You know, that's that's a curse. Yeah, that's hard. That is. And all you see is red like forever. Like the world is just shades of red. Oh, my
Superpowers & Practical Implications
01:31:40
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God. That would be hell. That'll be literal hell. You know, another one that a lot of people pick like teleportation is the most popular one, I think. But a lot of people say that they would want to fly. And I feel like I would hate flying.
01:31:53
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Um, number one, it'd be cold as fuck. Number two, if I fly to lower altitude power lines, I'm going to get hit. I'm going to run the power lines and die, you know, cause nothing says I'm invincible. I just can fly and I'm clumsy on the ground with my two feet touching the earth. And I'm going to be flying around. I'm going to hit branches. I'm going to hit trees. A bird's going to attack me. Bees are going to hate that. I'm in their territory. I'm going to fly into power lines. Like I said,
01:32:16
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It's gonna be cold as fuck if I wanna go any higher to avoid those things. So I have to wear a goddamn parka everywhere I go, so that's gonna suck. The wind resistance is gonna be worse. I'm gonna be miserable all the time, have bugs in my fucking face. Or like, you know, I'm gonna have like icicles growing off my fucking face by the time I land. I'm gonna be miserable the whole time. Like, I just, flying anywhere would be a chore. Levitating, that's one thing. If I just wanna levitate a little bit and do little tricks or get something from a high shelf or
01:32:41
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Something or you maybe levitate so that way children can run underneath me instead of running into me or something. Cool. Maybe I can be a pro wrestler and that can be my gimmick, but like maybe some Chris Angel shit. But flying, I just feels like I'd be so uncomfortable all the time and I just think I would hate it. I think I'd absolutely hate it. So I dropped my wallet or my phone out of my pocket when I'm flying and I can't find it anymore. I've always been on the side of flying. That's my number one power. I would always love to have flying because I would love
01:33:10
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kind of like you with the running in open spaces. I would love the freedom, the vanderlust. But I realized as you were talking about it, and you mentioned levitating, I was like, that's actually like,
01:33:26
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90% of how I'm thinking of using flying would just be like, Oh, there's like not an extra seat for me. That's fine. I'll just like pretend I'm laying on a couch, but like just hovering in the air or like I need to fix something on the roof. Let me just like fly up and do it rather than having to take a ladder or something. Um,
01:33:49
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or even like flying to work, I would actually still follow the highway. I would just be flying over all the traffic so that there's no power lines or anything. And that I'm like, that's really all I would use it for. Like, yeah. Cause people think like, Oh, cross continental flying as fast as a jet, you would freeze to death. Right. You die picturing flying at like, I don't know.
01:34:14
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50 miles an hour, the fastest, like no faster than like if you were on a motorcycle and you had the wind hitting your face. Right. But you're also wearing a helmet. So you probably need to wear some sort of face protection when you're flying. I would absolutely wear goggles. Right. Like, you know, like when you put the window down and maybe you're driving like 50 miles an hour and you even try to put your face out the window, it just takes your breath away. That's not like you can't have the back windows up with like a baby's in the back seats. It takes a breath. Like you would need to like be really careful when you're flying because people think
01:34:44
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A lot of people would conflate flying with, oh, I have Superman powers, but Superman's built to do that. Yeah, you're not. You're a human who can fly. And I mean, it's not this you'd learn like the second it takes my breath, I'd stop, you know. Right. Or imagine if you could fly as fast as Superman, but without his resilience, you would peel the skin off your bones. Yeah. Or you'd hit a fly and it would go through you like a bullet. Yeah, he would die from from from fly bullet. But yeah, it was just funny to me because like
01:35:14
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You're raising all these interesting points that I had thought of. And then I'm like, but 90% of what I'm thinking of doing with flying is what you said for levitating, just kind of.
01:35:25
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floating there or like if we have to walk somewhere, I would just float an inch off the ground because I can and it would be awesome. Right. So you just want to love it. You just want levitation powers. You don't want to. I wouldn't mind if I could go a little faster to get somewhere if I needed to. Or like telekinesis. Maybe you could like use it to push yourself places faster as opposed to like there's a book I'm reading now that's all about like people pushing and pulling kind of like their own gravity.
01:35:51
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off of other objects. And that would be kind of cool. I mean, you could use that to essentially simulate flying without the risk. You have more control. Like, if you look at how Superman actually flies most of the time, Mr. Bourne, his actual flight is he gets down low and it just rockets into the fucking air. Like, everything else he's doing is levitating. He's not flying. He's levitating. What do you want? He's always like.
01:36:17
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that Superman or like The Matrix, if you're flying and you catch somebody, they're dead. Yeah, they're exploding all over. You're probably dead, too, because again, you're not Superman. You're a person who can fly. I would have to know a lot of physics. You'd have to know a lot of math. You'd have to. I mean, in the game, Miles Morales were like, or is it the first Spider-Man game where
01:36:42
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peter's teaching miles like how to use his powers and he says for like the first six weeks they've been training he's just learning physics and he's like why do i need to know all this shit about physics i just want to go to spider-man and he's like when you like when you hit a web onto like a power pole and you swing down at like a 40 degree angle like how low can you swing before you hit the ground or something and he's like you need to know this stuff so you don't fucking break manhattan or brooklyn when you're swinging through it
01:37:09
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You know, or break yourself. He's like, Oh shit. So like, if you have all these flying powers, you got to know what you're doing, dog. And that's why, like, that's why Barry Allen has to flash. It's like really fucking smart and always has to learn shit. He doesn't know how, like, you know, gravity works and how inertia works. So he doesn't kill people. Oh my God. Watch.
01:37:32
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If you don't mind super gore and all that, watch the boys and they cover exactly that, like in the episode. I saw like the I forget what the guy who can run fast is be like blitzes through a person and just explode in the mist all over him.
01:37:46
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I love that show. Oh, it was such a great show. Yeah. But but anyway, that was just for me levitating maybe flying. No, no, that's fair. I think I agree with that. I would like to be able to go on at a respectable speed, but I prefer the levitating. Yeah, would be the best part. Yeah. Telekinesis mixed with some levitation. I can get down with a fuck with that. Telekinesis would be great because then you could like sit in a chair and just lift the chair and fly, but still be sitting in a chair.
01:38:14
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Yeah, I would like to get to a point where it doesn't hurt to do it. I've mastered the art of my own mental manipulation so well that it's just second nature now. You don't have to think about it. It's like scratching my ass without thinking, oh, I should scratch my ass. You just do it. It's autopilot. You're just doing it. You ever think, oh, I should scratch my arm, or I should scratch my ass right now? You just do it, right?
01:38:37
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Like my arm's itchy right now, but the only reason I'm thinking about scratching is because I said it, but like, I don't think, Oh, I should scratch that. You know, you just do it. That's kind of a funny quirk for someone to have arms that you got to scratch that actually reminds me, um, back in the day when I had a different job than what I have now, it was a very brain dead job. Uh-huh. Um, and I would actually try and come up with interesting magic systems.
01:39:07
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for like, you know, if a book were written or a video game, like cool and interesting ways magic would work. And this actually reminded me of one that I had come up with to help with the reasoning that spells have names. Because I was like, why do they need names, right? You don't need a name for it. But I was like, well, what if
01:39:33
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You know, you have to do all these like kind of intricate things to make a fireball happen. And if you practice enough, you can associate all those intricate things with the word fireball.
01:39:47
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so that you get to the point where you just think fireball and your subconscious or like your muscle memory just does the rest for you. Sure. And it just reminded me of that. I was like, that was one of my like favorite ones to just kind of toy with in my head was like, oh, that'd be kind of cool to play with. Like I don't want that way of magic working and why spells have names.
01:40:10
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Yeah, I'll be a healer, but I don't want to throw fire. Don't want to throw lightning. Don't want any of that stuff. Don't want it. I'll kill people. I'll kill myself. Like, I just know I'm accident prone. It'll be stupid. You know, what's first guy learns how to throw a fireball, immolate self. Yeah, that's fine. He's probably my Florida man post. Yeah. That'll be my fucking Pennsylvania man. What's really funny is. My wife and I are both, you know, we're nerds, right? We watch anime. We play video games. We do all that play D&D and stuff.
01:40:40
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So I've asked her before, like, if you could have a power, what would it be? Or, you know, if you could be a bender from Avatar, what would you want? Hers is always fire. I want to be able to shoot fire. I want to be able to light myself on fire in a way that doesn't hurt me or whatever. You know, I want to be able to manipulate fire.
01:40:58
Speaker
I would love the same thing, but with ice. I love the ice powers. Right. I want to be able to freeze things. I want to be able to make like armor on top of myself that is made of ice or whatever. So she's always fire. I'm always ice. She is always cold. I am always hot. But that we could be in the same room and she's got a hoodie on and I'm sweating bullets.
01:41:30
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You know, it's a it's a it's a good match. You guys, you guys are a good pair. I love it. We're actually thinking of getting a like a fire and ice dragon tattoo. The two of us. Yeah. Yeah. Is it is it gay? Is it gay to have a wife? I mean, it's gay to have a gay wife. I think technically you got a gay wife, man.
01:41:57
Speaker
That's news to me. Just ask your children. I'll tell you.
01:42:04
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Anyway, I think that probably wrapped the show up, don't you think? I think we did a great job tonight. I think so, too. So we don't usually have any guests or we usually have guests that fill in here, but we don't have one. So, hey, if you like your listen to, please review the show. You can go to podchaser.com and review it there if you want to leave some comments, if you want to review us on Spotify or Apple or any other places that you do the things that really mean a lot. I have been seeing a couple more on different platforms, which is great.
01:42:33
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So you know please go ahead and do that it would be great if you if you like my voice and danny's voice danny's and other projects that i've worked in as well i have a podcast called role players where we just do a lot of like improv through like.
01:42:46
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Different tabletop role-playing games, if that's not your thing though, that's fine. Keep listening to TOQ. We fucking love that you're here and we have a lot of fun doing it. And also if you do, again, if you want to tell us something that you like about yourself, we'd love to hear that. You can either get at us on the new Instagram page. It's still new, it's still small, but I got some guys working on it. Fun and Cellars Network on Instagram. Go ahead and give us a follow and come say hi.
01:43:09
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or go to fun and sellers, network.com slash contact us and let us know there, how you feeling, how you feel about yourself. And if you have any questions you want to ask us that you want us to answer on the show, please do that. Cause it'd be really nice to hear from you. Um, and of course, Danny, Danny is on our website too on fun and sellers, network.com on the role players Guild. Uh, they played Dungeons and Dragons and, uh, Pathfinder, I think, right? Yep.
01:43:32
Speaker
Um, you know, and they got a couple of different streams that go off, what, Thursdays and Friday. We go every other Friday, Thursday, Wednesday, Thursday. Um, the Friday thing's not happening, right? It's just Wednesday, Thursdays now. Right. Well, Friday is this. Friday is this now. Yeah, baby. So Wednesday, Thursday, is it every week? It's every week, right? It's every week. Every fucking week. Wednesday, Thursday, role players guild on YouTube. Uh, it's, it's, it's, it's youtube.com at role players guild and on Twitter.
01:44:02
Speaker
The RP Guild won. Oh yeah. Fuck you like to hear me make funny voices. You want to meet the wife and see her make funny voices. Or you could watch me and a bunch of my friends bug the shit out of her while she DMs. There you go. Yeah, it's a good time for everybody. So come and say hi. It's pretty fun. It really means a lot that you're here. Danny, is there anything else you'd like to say before I hit our quote of the day and send us out?
01:44:25
Speaker
The only thing I want to say is to everybody listening to this. Thank you again I know I've said it before but I'm gonna say it again and I'm gonna mean it every time this is a dream come true for me I've always wanted to do things like this just kind of talking to a mic and be silly with my friends and It's the fact that people listen to it is what really makes it all worthwhile especially like I said, we had people actually tell us that I
01:44:53
Speaker
our answers help them or, you know, just the the comedy of it all help them through something. And that is a absolute dream come true to me. And I'm so thankful that my life has led me to this. And it's all thanks to you. The show wouldn't exist without people listening to it. Literally, Adam said, let's continue the show because people keep listening to it. Yeah, we're getting downloads and it was inactive for like eight months. And I was like, shit, I should probably put this thing back up. We even just had somebody in what was it? Papua New Guinea.
01:45:23
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Papa New Guinea, we got our first listener. We see you out there, Papa New Guinea. We see you. If you hear this, fucking rad. I love you. If you're our one Papa New Guinea listener, because we got the ping that you're out there, please, if you have access, go to funandsellers.com. I don't know how your networks work over there, but if you can contact us on there or on Instagram, please tell us it's you. Please. Absolutely. I would love to hear from you.
01:45:51
Speaker
all the islands over there and I want to know which one you're on. I want to know where you're from. I want to know all about you. Please let us know. We'll get you on the show even. Just let us know. I'm fine with that. You want to be a guest? You talk to me.
01:46:01
Speaker
It's awesome. Please reach out. It would be so delightful to hear from you. I saw that ping and I was like, oh, fuck, we got somebody. You sent it to me. I was like, holy shit. I was so excited. Oh, my God. How you find it? I don't know. I hope you're still listening. No, if you are, it would be a delight to hear from you. Yes. We gave you a couple of laughs. Yeah. Honestly, goodness, that's so funny to find that. I was like, oh, that's.
01:46:24
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That's so cool. What a great exclamation point to the day. But yeah, this is a dream come true for me. And thank you all. I really appreciate you.
01:46:36
Speaker
Yeah, definitely. And yeah, likewise. I feel the same way, everybody. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for being here. And if you made it this far, please take care of your mind, take care of your heart, take care of each other. And our final note comes from the creator of Charlie Braun himself, Charles M. Schultz. And it goes like this. All you need is love, but a little chocolate now and again doesn't hurt. There are too many songs about romantic love.
01:47:08
Speaker
But the ones that get you through life are off in your butts. So I'm here to spread the joy to all the party people that I get to annoy. This one goes out to every single person I love. How about a little bridge first?
01:47:49
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I got a few I have not seen in a year And when I think of you It brings me to tears But if you ever swing in a town You'll always have a place to sleep when you come around This one goes out to every single person I love
01:48:20
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There are too many friends who live so far away Yet they fill my heart when they send a message my way Oh the tapestries we weave When we're hopping online to play some make believe This one goes out to every single person I love
01:48:51
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Yeah, that means you. But this was neat to have here.
01:49:24
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There are too many friends I've lost to the cold hand of death And when I think of them I pause and take on one extra breath Regardless of the tenets you keep I can't always see you when I fade off to sleep This one goes out to every single person I love
01:49:57
Speaker
Yeah, I got a few that have seen me at my lowest of lows. And without you, what would have happened, nobody knows. And when I say I love you, there's nothing in this universe that's truer than true. This one goes out to every single person I love.
01:50:26
Speaker
That's right, every single one of you. Regardless of my efforts, I don't know if I'll ever be able to tell you all just how much I care. And I don't think that there are enough words and combinations in any language on planet Earth or any planets in this multiverse that I could piece together to tell you exactly how much you mean to me.
01:50:53
Speaker
So thanks for being here. Thanks for being around. Thanks for giving me your time. Yeah, just thank you. And have a good one.