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Mastermind details, surrender and allowance, getting ahead of burnout and more
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Be a fly on the wall with Jess and Tiff today as they discuss Love Is Blind, surrender/allowance, the battle between masculine and feminine energy, getting ahead of burnout and so much more! We are chatting as girlfriends today and giving more details about our Mastermind Group.
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Transcript
Rediscovering 'Love is Blind' and Social Media Habits
Character Critique and Show Dynamics
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Okay,
Alcohol's Influence on Reality TV
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Speaker
okay so i you haven't seen the rest of them. and No, I remember watching season one years ago, loving it totally binged the whole thing. And then it really hasn't been until recently that my spa partners have been talking about love is blind. And I'm like, what the heck? I didn't even know that that was still a thing. And then I mean, we're on season seven. And so I decided for my brainless moments that I need instead of like scrolling on Instagram, I'll just like pop out of my office to watch an episode or
00:03:25
Speaker
Yeah, night at the end of my day, I was like, I want to be done with work by at least 930 or 10 so I can watch an episode before bed. And I can't believe I'm this person because I don't like I don't even watch TV, but my spa partners are talking about it and then like you know, on social media, people are making funny memes about it. I'm like, yeah, going on here, but it's been highly entertaining. Did you see my story though? Yeah, Leo. Oh my gosh. He is the biggest douchebag on the planet.
00:04:05
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ah The biggest awful. He's horrible. Horrible, horrible, horrible. I cannot even believe that Brittany agreed, like, sorry to spoil this if anybody hasn't watched it. I was like, Brittany, really? Yeah. Where is your self-esteem here? Come on. Right? Yes. I know. I knew that was going to happen. And I cannot wait.
00:04:31
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for her to watch the whole thing back and be like, Oh my gosh, you're the biggest douchebag on the planet. Cause like, ah I mean, up until that point, she wouldn't have
Trash TV as a Mental Escape
00:04:40
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known how that conference, like he literally said to Hannah, don't tell Brittany.
00:04:45
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I know you make it sound like da da da da, right? Right. What an idiot, what an idiot. And he's like, I don't want to be known for my money. And then that's all that he talks about. That's all he talks about. I know. And I love that Brittany is an aesthetician.
00:05:03
Speaker
She's so I need to know where are you at? What episode are you on? so They just got to, I must be on episode five. so i It was like the first Mexico episode. okay okay bro you know I finally had to turn it off because they're like drunk girls are one of the most annoying things to me. They were you know having their conversations by the fire and they were wasted and drunk and whatever. and i just but at
00:05:35
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couldn't. Do you know what I would love? I would love a love is playing season
Insecurities and Self-Love in 'Love is Blind'
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with no alcohol, or where that wasn't pushed, because it does seem like it, maybe the show itself pushes that and sets those, you know, it's in a bar so setting or, you know, in Mexico, and I'm just like, let's see how everybody is at their truest sober ourselves and see how this goes.
00:06:02
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You're so right. I have nothing against drinking. No, same. I love wine so much. like i yeah you know It's not that. It's just that the whole thing, as it is, is completely awkward and unreal. yeah So awkward. And then you throw alcohol into the mix. And I do feel like it makes things way more awkward because in anybody who knows who drinks knows that it just like heightens your emotions anyways. And then you it like lowers your inhibitions and heightens your emotions at the same time. And I'm just like, if this is like a true experiment where these people really do want a relationship and a marriage out of this, then you know, let's see how they handle not having that liquid courage. Absolutely.
00:06:52
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yeah right Maybe it'll be it would be way boring or I don't know. It would probably be pretty boring, but I can't be more invested and wouldn't be watching it feeling like it was the silliest thing we've ever seen. Right. because it is oh But it is a great escape. Like I i say my kind of blew through this last season is just like a when I was doom scrolling and I, but I needed to turn my brain off and watch them just like trash TV, not to call it trash, but. I think we all know that trash TV means that it is like brainless. yes I also call it trash TV because it's, you're right. I think we all need a way to turn our brains off and you know, whether like last year I went through a Kardashian thing and like, let me just, yeah
00:07:47
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And even it at the beginning of this year, you know, whenever I needed to just not think about anything, I just turned on the car. And it's just one of those weird, I wouldn't even call it a guilty pleasure as much as I, and you like purposefully have something that just puts you in a hold. It just gets you out of your head because you're just, yeah people do really
Opal App: Boosting Productivity by Reducing Social Media
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silly Things. My favorite show of all time is Schitt's Creek. Did you ever watch that? Yeah, I love that show. umset So much. but yeah I will repeat, like, do you repeat your favorite shows ah when you get to the end? yeah Yeah, same. Definitely. Here's the one thing I will say about Love is Blind that I said on my story is that I kept getting really irritated when the girls were so nervous about how the man would feel about the way that they looked. Same.
00:08:41
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And in my mind, I would be terrified that I wouldn't be attracted to him. And that's what would be going through my mind because I like, I think as a confident woman, you know what you bring to the table. And Yeah. And I'd be like, I'm so concerned what's on the other side of the wall for me. Me too. Yes, exactly. But like, how am I really going to feel about this person? I don't know. ah So I felt sad about that. Yeah. Like, dang, girl, really? Because they're all beautiful. well And yeah, all beautiful. There was one guy, I think, Steven, the blonde curly hair. He's very handsome. he's I really like him a lot. He was really the only one that seemed concerned about how she would feel. Yes. And I thought that was cute because he's like, ah you know, but for the most part it was like the girls and even Hannah was talking about it the whole time.
00:09:47
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I'm like, for I think guys would be turned off by that conversation when she's in the pod talking about I'm nervous about my weight. Yeah. the exactly men Most men really don't care. No, they really but it's like almost like are you unnecessarily planting those seeds in their head when you bring it up? Absolutely. Yeah. And even we all like, ah as women, we all I think, carry in certain insecurities. And Are they necessary to bring up? I don't think so. Like I'm really conscious about that, especially having a daughter and imposing like my own self-consciousness onto, you know, I don't want to put things in her head so that she gets self-conscious about her body as she grows. So like it's interesting. but Yeah, totally agree. I don't think men would even realize the things unless we brought them up. Right. I think so too. I really don't think that they care.
00:10:44
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No, some, some do. And if you do, yeah, exactly. You don't know how we feel about you. know We fluctuate so much. and Oh yeah. So anyways, I'm back to talking about trash TV and not scrolling or those of us who struggle with doom scrolling. So Tiffany knows that I just downloaded the opal app.
00:11:10
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Yeah. And I had heard of this on another podcast by Ali Reeves, all in with Ali. And she had, you know, used the app and was talking about it. So I immediately downloaded it. And it is a game changer. So yesterday was the first full day of having that app on my phone. And du I got so much done that not only did I get so much done, but I actually moved the needle.
00:11:37
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in really big ways and and even took an all online class in the middle of like all of it because I wasn't sitting there grabbing for my phone all the time and scrolling and and doing that whole thing. And it just really forced me to stay on track. So if you guys struggle with the scroll, which I, nobody needs to be ashamed about it. I've been pretty open about my issues with it and, um,
00:12:05
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i I have had the time limit on the app for a long time, but I still ignore it. So even when you have that limit, it gives you the option to opt out immediately.
00:12:17
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Yeah, and it makes it too easy. It's too easy, but the Opal app makes it really hard. it It takes it a whole extra step of you have to get back into the app and request for time on the app on Instagram or whatever it is for you and set a limit for yourself.
00:12:39
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But it even checks back in with you to make sure you really want to do that. And it takes you through like a breathing exercise before you even make that decision. Really? So it helps you like regulate your body. Yes.
00:12:54
Speaker
That's genius. I know they've done a great job. So share with us what the original time limit you allowed for yourself. Is that how it worked or did it give you like a suggested? I haven't actually downloaded it yet, but I'm going to. Um, so I think immediately once you link it to your phone, I remember it telling me where all of my timing really was. that Like it will literally tell you how many days a year and then how many years in your life you're going to be on social media if you don't change something. And it's frightening. Oh, actually, and then at the end of the day, you can look and see um how many hours you are on which apps and they'll mark certain things as distracting and productive. Also, which is interesting. So my original time limit that I had set for myself, I believe back in January was two hours.
00:13:46
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remember having that conversation. Yep. And I rarely stick to that because I always am like, Oh, yeah, just another 15 minutes or Oh, yeah, you know what, let's just keep it open for the rest of the day. It just makes it so easy. And yeah so the limit that I have on this one is actually one hour. Okay, you know, because I still need to get into my business accounts and posts and interact and do all of that.
00:14:10
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Um, and so then I kind of just decided like, let's keep it a one hour limit. I block myself from nine until eight. Okay. for The entire day. So that when I need to go on, I will purposely get back into the app and allow myself a time limit, time limit to get back on it. Or I just plan on doing whatever social media that I need to do either in the morning or in the evening. Okay.
00:14:38
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and then stay on track that way. So that's kind of how yesterday went. And I'm so grateful that I landed on that app. yeah Game changer. i'm I can't wait to download it. That's
Balancing Ambition with Rest and Reflection
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the first thing I'm gonna do when we get off. yeah So basically like straight out the gate, it tells you how many years you're losing by spending time on these unnecessary, unnecessary time on these apps. Years of your life.
00:15:05
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Yeah. Oh, and I will say this. When you, when you still go grab your phone to get into it, do you remember I sent you the screenshot? What did it say though? I'll tell you what it says. It was hilarious. It says something different every time. So right now it's saying Instagram ice cream intermission and your app went up for ice cream. It's enjoying a double scoop of summer fun. Check back after it cools off. Instagram has been blocked three times today by works, by your work time session. Wow.
00:15:35
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That's hilarious though. I actually like that spin that they put on it. that It just kicks me out. Done. Sorry. You can't get back in unless you go on the app and request it. And even though it's going to make you second guess that decision. We should put the app in the show notes. who And I also have a code that gets you 30 days free.
00:15:57
Speaker
Yeah. We'll share that as well. Yeah. So it's a hundred dollars a year or so it will give you your seven days or 30 days free. And then it's 99 per year. But what I usually do when I agree to stuff like that is I go into my settings and into my subscriptions and then I click on it and it actually gives you different subscription options. They've already done that.
00:16:22
Speaker
No. So then instead of, you know, a few days from now, a hundred dollars coming out of my bank account, I was able to just switch it to an eight dollar a month plan. Okay. Yeah. You guys need to play around with your subscriptions. There's actually more options than they tell you upfront. So just go into your settings, go into your subscriptions, click on the subscription. Sometimes you even have to pretend like you're going to cancel and then it will pull up all of these different options for you. It's okay.
00:16:51
Speaker
Okay. That's so good to know. But then it's a little bit more doable than just having, you know, a hundred bucks come out of your account. But I will say, I mean, in my opinion, it would be the best hundred dollars you'll ever spend to get yourself off of social media. Cause it's such a, it's such um an energy suck. It's a time suck. It's so distracting. And I just don't believe that our brains were ever made to be taking in that much energy and information all the time. And it's no wonder that we're always exhausted.
00:17:22
Speaker
And exactly not as creative as we want to be. And you know, all of those other things, because we're not even living in, you know, a normal human reality experience, because we're just faced with this constant, and for I mean, so much. I don't even think most people have the space to allow themselves to live authentically like we're meant to. And for me, like it's just a habit. Like I'm, I'm so ingrained now, even if I don't want to be on there, even if I don't have anything to actually do on there, I pick up my phone when I have like a spare second or when I get overwhelmed with a task I'm doing, or I need a break and I just go straight there. yeah And it's a terrible habit. It's an addiction actually. It's a horrible addiction.
00:18:08
Speaker
I mean, I would be interested to see the addiction information compared to drugs and alcohol and sex. yeah I think it's just as bad if not potentially worse for a lot of people, a lot of people, especially the younger generation. Yeah, for sure. It's just a lot. So I'm really grateful that I found that. We'll circle we'll have to circle back to this conversation in like 30 days and see where we're both at with it. and um probably how much more productive we've been. Yes. Yeah. It was such an incredible day yesterday yesterday to finally feel, and well, this is probably a good call. I actually did want to have this impromptu conversation about our conversation a couple of days ago because I was with a girlfriend yesterday in the meeting and she isn't the same.
00:19:02
Speaker
place interesting that you and I had talked about and so um if you don't mind talking about that for just a second I think a lot of us are very tired and have no goals like it sounds so weird to say that but a lot of people that I know are going through this um um kind of survival mode, like checking the boxes, but not necessarily 100% sure of the direction that we're going. And there's really no goals. And I feel like it actually is happening to a lot of people who are typically quite ambitious and driven people. And then all of a sudden, we're like, wait a second, I'm just waking up every day and I'm checking off these boxes.
00:19:54
Speaker
And I don't know why. And, and I'm also really tired. And I think that that exhaustion or being tired probably is because there's no energy behind what you're doing. Yeah. so And so yesterday was really interesting having that conversation with her, but also, you know, not having access to social media until last night.
00:20:20
Speaker
I feel more driven and ambitious like things came onto my plate and opportunities came onto my plate because I had the attention span to actually do certain things like I signed up for this new membership I took um I took a master class webinar and of course they're usually doing that to sell you something which is fine. I already went into it kind of knowing that I was interested in doing that. Right. And it opened up this whole new energy for me. And I felt very driven and motivated and and really woke up this morning feeling more like myself.
00:21:03
Speaker
Interesting. And so if you guys are feeling that way, if you're just feeling a little bit like, you know, it's not that I don't have goals, but your normal drive and ambition is feeling just a little bit off, that's fine. I also think it's important that we don't feel horrible about it and berate ourselves and dig into that too much because then you're just going to create a lot more um tension or a lot more. I don't know, you know, when you feel like you need to rest, then I i wouldn't necessarily be trying to force anything too much either. and And what I said to Tiffany the other day when we were having this conversation is that sometimes that resting part is the most important part. It's very much like um in bodybuilding, you know, when I'm in prep, the most important days are taking my rest days.
00:22:00
Speaker
you know you You work really hard and then you have to allow your nervous system to come back down and your body to heal. And that's when you actually make the most progress because you allow your body to actually you know do the things that it needs to do. And so sometimes that's how I feel
Purpose-Driven Living and Feminine Energy
00:22:18
Speaker
when you're just feeling really tired and you're feeling you know not super ambitious, it's okay to surrender to that.
00:22:29
Speaker
And I think to like maybe give our listeners a little bit more context, I i texted you on Monday afternoon and I shared with Jess that Sunday night I hit a wall, a really big wall that I didn't see coming. And I just went down how really fast my energy did. And I just like sat with it and really realized that like i am so my soul is so tired and exhausted right now. And I'm like,
00:22:59
Speaker
getting a little bit emotional just even saying it out loud and I don't really know why there's there's obviously so much emotion wrapped around that and it's typical for me like this is a pattern that I find myself in because I get as like I think a high achieving ambitious person like you and I both are, I get attached to the performance. And so I, I just like thrive on it. And I love that so much, but then I find myself like getting off of the freeway. I want to call it onto these other avenues that really aren't part of my bigger goals. Or I think it's a goal because I think that's the direction that I should be going with my businesses.
00:23:44
Speaker
And then I just get overworked and overwhelmed and truly like, what is the point of all of this? I kind of get in a doom state because I'm just like, at the end of the day, I.
00:23:56
Speaker
deep, deep down, really just want to like have this beautiful life and spend time with my family and create amazing memories and have money to do the things that I want to do. And yes, change the lives of the women that I serve. And so anyways, that kind of got like off topic, maybe not off topic, but a little tangent. Um, so, and I do have to wonder if Part of that is my attachment to, or my attention span on like social media and spending so much time there. And so it's interesting to hear you say, Jess, that you were able in just like a 24 hour period to kind of find your drive again by removing yourself from that through the Opal app. And I'm curious to know, like if you, cause we shared both of us, like do, where are are our goals really at? I don't know.
00:24:52
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I mean, I have goals. Are they really deep, deep down? If I ask myself really what I want and really part of my purpose, because I do feel very clear on my purpose and my calling and I know you do too. It's different than that. Yeah, exactly. exactly So yeah.
00:25:11
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I don't know. It's those other goals because I have never forgotten my purpose. I know exactly what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. It's more like I remember just four years ago how badly I was like ready to move into a house and I wanted to buy this car and I wanted my finances to be this way and I wanted my business numbers to be this and I just had such clear direction and you know, with competition goals, like there was just all of those things. And now I wake up every day and I know I'm living in my purpose, but there's nine and not have any, like, I don't have any clear goals outside of that at all. And now that you say that I almost wonder though, almost wonder if maybe we've kind of in a sense like there is, there is space for goals and taking daily action.
00:26:07
Speaker
Also though, have maybe you and and I matured past that a little bit and maybe for me, I need to focus less on like my daily tasks. Like those are important. I don't even know if this is coming out clearly or not. I think I get stuck in these daily tasks thinking that what I do right now or where I get, where my focus is, is attached to my purpose, but they're not. Like ah it's almost like this is,
00:26:37
Speaker
my daily tasks are almost in the way of my higher purpose in the sense, because I think it's what I'm supposed to be doing. And so maybe there is space for having goals at the same time, though. Maybe now that you and I aren't as focused on those very specific goals and we just are more in alignment with our higher purpose, maybe that's where we need to be. Really good point. More in a state of allowance. Yeah, and surrender. Yeah.
00:27:07
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when trust is like a whole other thing I was listening to. So we we talked about this I think in our mastermind a couple weeks ago, but I was listening to this fantastic podcast and this guy was just talking about We're just really in a new energy of how we're manifesting in our lives and and you know in the creator state, which as humans, we always are, by the way. And we used to be so the secret and the law of attraction and affirmations and this and this and this.
00:27:43
Speaker
And it seems like all of a sudden over the last couple of years, and especially this year, we're actually manifesting through trust and surrender. It's a much more feminine energy, which is definitely where collectively we're meant to go. We're in an age of Aquarius. We're in a more feminine energy as it is. And a lot of those masculine tendencies to be very goal oriented in systems and this and the doing and the performance and I'm attached to how productive I am and all these things, they don't exist anymore. So there's probably also a huge,
00:28:20
Speaker
And I mean, now that I'm saying this, like myself included, you, a lot of other entrepreneurs that I know. that is where a lot of the struggle is coming from is we're like, wait, but we used to be this way and we used to perform this way. And now things don't necessarily work that way anymore. So we're feeling almost just a little bit lost because we are just being asked to chill out a little bit more and surrender and just allow things to happen. And that's not easy to do when you have functioned in such a masculine energy for such a long time. Yeah.
00:28:57
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And it used to feel like everything was linear. Like if I did this step, did this next task, and then I would like get there to my goal. And now we're like both, I think the whole planet has shifted in general. And so many of us have realized that it doesn't work that way anyways. It never has. And so we're like having to shift our mindset and allow ourselves and our nervous systems and are the way we show up every day and allow things to come through and flow through that just allow that energy to be more in a flow state. Yeah. Yeah. It's not to say that it's not hard though. It's like so uncomfortable for me. So uncomfortable. Yeah. And I think when you add the aspects of, am I showing up every day?
00:29:50
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as the best version of my as myself. you know Am I getting out of bed at a decent hour? Am I so like making sure I have my personal time? Am I like moving my body with attention? Am I eating well? All of those things definitely add to the feeling on being able to allow the flow to come through at an easier state than not. Oh my gosh.
00:30:14
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It's so true though. And last time we recorded, we we talked about this last week. I mean, I had to wake up, you know, I think I was up at 4.30. I needed to go to the gym. I needed to have my morning routine. I needed to be in that space to allow everything to come through that needed to come through. And I think that's a really important aspect as well as making sure that you are in a state, you know, on many levels that your purpose is able to.
00:30:43
Speaker
come through. And it's such a different way of thinking. but You know, it's not so action oriented. I mean, it is and it isn't. It's just kind of like putting whatever you need to do. You don't have to get up and go to the gym if that's not what puts you in that state. It's about learning yourself and what you need to do to put yourself in that state. And that looks a little bit different for everybody. Yeah.
00:31:09
Speaker
And it's a daily, like for me, it's a daily, it's, I don't even want to call it struggle. It is a struggle, but it's like every damn day it's almost a fight. ah And even when I'm like on this like great trajectory and like a routine, like things can like throw me right off. And then, and I think it's a life lesson, at least for me, um choosing myself, even when it's hard and even when it doesn't feel good.
00:31:37
Speaker
um, and definitely when it's not easy. And so I think there's a lot of factors here. I think there's like, what, when you, for our listeners, like ask yourself, what are you doing every single day that like, you know, pours into you and your highest possible self so that, um, you can live within your purpose. You can find your purpose in your calling. And then what are you not choosing? Like where,
00:32:05
Speaker
How are you not choosing to like maybe spend your all your days on social media or whatever it is, you know? um So there's lots of different factors that add into that. And are you like allowing, are you creating the space to allow what needs to come into your life? And are you like allowing that space for yourself? Yeah. Yeah. It's interesting though that you and I are not alone in this. And I think probably the majority of who listens to this episode are going to feel this on some level as well. Yeah. That's why I wanted to bring it up is because even just yesterday, you know when I was with my girlfriend that I work with, it was the same thing for her. And so this morning before we were recording, I felt like this conversation
Mastermind for Beauty Professionals: Growth and Community
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needed to be had. Yeah.
00:33:03
Speaker
I would imagine a lot of people feel the way that, that we're feeling. And I just learned so much from that conversation. I'm glad you brought it up because I think I also really feel that if we don't have these conversations, then how are we ever going to navigate them? Oh, and it feels lonely when you're in this state, when you do hit those walls and when you are like so deeply, so like your soul is just like, what are we doing here?
00:33:32
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I need some breaking rest and, and like giving permission to those high achievers and high performers that like rest is so necessary it's so and that you're allowed to turn your brain off. You're allowed to step away from your business. You're allowed to watch trash TV and it's actually so necessary. Cause I think our culture and what we see on social media is just like drive, drive, drive.
00:33:59
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you know, push it as far as you can. And there is space for that too, when it's necessary, when you are in that state, but like, why push it when you're not.
00:34:10
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Yeah. And it it comes back to the masculine and the the feminine, you know, because the doing, doing, doing, you know, structure, all those things is such a masculine state, but without the feminine and being able to step back and just allow and receive.
00:34:27
Speaker
then why are you doing doing doing in the first place? Yeah, you know, and if you don't, you're gonna head for some sort of crash and burn. Absolutely. Yeah, easy. good Which really leads us into what we wanted to talk about today, which is our mastermind.
00:34:48
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and
00:34:52
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You know, speaking of like, collective
00:34:58
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group of people sharing, supporting, being in the same place. Our mastermind is a really fantastic way to join something like that. And, you know, it is those conversations like happened yesterday with the girl that I was working with that I was like, you're not alone. Did you know that? You're, you're actually going through the same thing that most of us go through that You know everybody else that I work with or most people are going through really similar things and that's why this was created in the first place is because those conversations were happening with me with my spa partners every day, all day long, that everybody just felt like they were on their own ship in the middle of the ocean and that there was no support for them.
00:35:42
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And that they were the only one when nothing could be further from the truth. So that that's really the basis of why you know I started doing this in the first place was to just connect estheticians, beauty professionals, you know spa owners, salon owners. We've had you know a salon owner before as well. and making sure that they know that there is a community and other people who love and support them and have help with all those little things that happen within a business and that you're on a shared path and upward trajectory together with an insane amount of love and support at the same time. So that's really where this whole thing was born from is conversations like this, but then also business conversations at the same time. So and absolutely.
00:36:34
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And adding like truly, truly at our core, believing that like community over competition. And like I say it so many times, like her success is my success and vice versa. And like, I truly believe that by like having this container for beauty professionals in a safe space, raises the vibration of our industry and the world. Like who are we kidding? It's not just doesn't stop within the skincare industry. It's so much more than that.
00:37:03
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And I believe so deeply in that. And as a women, I think we just need that. ah Right. Absolutely. Definitely. Definitely. And so I'm just like so grateful for those who have joined the mastermind and you know, participated and are in it right now and um, believe the same things that we do. And, um, and it's, we brought this up last week, I think too. It's just so interesting that like you said, most everybody is going through the same types of struggles, usually at the same time, weirdly enough.
00:37:40
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And nobody ever realizes that until you find those people to have these conversations with. And then you can bounce ideas and share resources and knowledge and experiences. And it's just so amazing on so many different levels. And I, it's true. I like to say it all the time. It's the favorite part of my week when we have our mastermind calls. Yep. Yep. I couldn't agree more. So.
00:38:07
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Basically, that is kind of where it evolved from. About three years ago now, I started am hosting these phone calls for just whoever wanted to jump on a call, we would kind of get an idea of the subjects ahead of time, but they were random. so They were very, very valuable, but it was once a month, I believe I was doing it, and it just was whoever had the time or wanted to be on the call. you know and Then we would get together for you know a couple of hours and and just go through a couple of conversations. and
00:38:39
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I fell in love with doing that and then ended up creating a whole kind of system out of it and a whole business and then finally launched to this last September with Tiffany's encouragement. Actually, I finally was like, oh, yeah, no, I am.
00:38:54
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I have a whole business around that actually already. I just haven't um done anything with it. So it was really cool because once I actually put it out there publicly immediately within the next two weeks, I had a whole group put together and like everybody paid and I was like, okay, so this is the thing.
00:39:11
Speaker
and um And so that was really cool. And then from there, it really evolved and I brought Tiffany into it almost immediately. So I did one group by myself, but quickly was like, nope, I need Tiffany in here because there's two different perspectives going on. And so I brought Tiffany into the group.
00:39:30
Speaker
And this is our we're on our second group together now and just getting ready to sign up our our third group, which is why we wanted to talk about it today and just kind of tell you guys a little bit about just what it is. And and yeah, we start another one in January. So that's sort of where it came from. That's how it's evolved. And it is like also equally my favorite thing I've ever done. My work with Eminence will always be number one, because I believe in that so much. but This is a quick second and it's been a calling on my heart for a very, very, very long time. And every time that we get off a call, we text each other immediately. It's almost like a race to see who's going to text first. So true.
00:40:13
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It's because every call is incredible. like Every call is just really magical in its own way. So we're going to go through and just talk about the mastermind a little bit. And then we're going to end by just giving you a couple tidbits from some notes from some past calls that we've had. ah So you know who the mastermind is for? we We've talked about that a little bit. It's really estheticians of all sorts or you know beauty professionals. I don't know why it wouldn't be valuable for you know, i like stylists and stuff like that too, or even an esthetician who is working for somebody else. It's really interesting the way that everything comes together. There is value for everybody. I was thinking about that. I was on a walk this morning, which was crazy because it's breathing, but I was like, well, I don't think that there's any type of beauty professional who wouldn't find and gain a ton of value and have a lot of value to also equally offer to the group. No.
00:41:10
Speaker
Because there's so many working parts of our industry and there's so many avenues that um people choose to specialize in. I mean, business owners, solo estheticians, cosmetologists and stylists, um you know, lash artists. There's just, there's so much that you can do within the aesthetics industry and um yeah.
00:41:33
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There's so much value that everybody brings to the table because even though the majority of the group are estheticians, they still bring different amounts of value, which is really cool. Yeah. So that's who it's for. It's literally for everybody.
00:41:49
Speaker
and How is it set up? So essentially what happens is as you sign up and we have upfront payment and we have monthly payments. And like we're we're also really gentle about how all of that works too. So we like to make that a non-issue, but I will say I have learned recently how much masterminds actually typically cost. That will be in a group of successful professionals that meet on a regular basis as upwards to $10,000 to $30,000.
00:42:22
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Oh, so way more than I even knew. Dang. Yeah. I've been learning a little bit more about it. I think that those groups are more like year-long groups. Probably. And they'll often get together like in person as well. So our pricing is nothing compared to that. um It basically ends up coming out to not even $50 per call.
00:42:48
Speaker
and and like And the calls are two hours. Yep. And we have different payment plans and stuff like that. You have lifetime access to the calls. It's all just sitting in special folders in my Dropbox. and so those are sent out as well and you can always access those so those basically never go away and then we do notes after every call too so we just capture like the bullet points of value throughout the calls and everything that was shared and and type that out too so that you know however it works but it's pretty cool because you know even this last
00:43:21
Speaker
last week, so not Monday, but the two Mondays before that, we referenced with a girl in our group who had been in the previous group, um she needed information that we had gone over last time. And so Tiffany was able to go back and find those calls and send all that information back over to her, which was really cool. um So how we start this though, is we go through this discovery process. So that is something that I set up Um, a couple of, well, I guess it's been about a year and a half. That was like my main project. I was like, this has to happen before I start these groups. And it's essentially, um, I call it a workbook. It's like a questionnaire. Essentially we give everybody minimum two weeks to go through this process and I like it to be.
00:44:10
Speaker
ah very mindfully done. It's not something that you would want to rush through at all, because it's so introspective. And it's basically gaining a picture of where you are, and where you want to go, you're going to go through your strengths, your weaknesses, discovery, your life values, your professional values, and, you know, all those types of things are so important. It's important for you to get to know yourself on that level. And that's sort of a detailed way. But then those are sent to Tiffany and I and that is how we kind of know the trajectory of how the calls need to go. And we're able to just compile a list from there of what we know for sure we need to touch on. It also allows us to be able to, you know, let's say we have like person B,
00:45:06
Speaker
who needs help with this thing. Well, I know that person A has been successful with that. So we're able to just say, hey, um can you help person be with this because I know you have experience with this. So it's it's cool that way too that we just know where people have been like based on their strengths or weaknesses, their experience, you know, with different things. And so that's the other reason why it's a mastermind is because it's really not Tiffany and I talking at you. It is absolutely everybody is in conversation. There's many calls where I don't really even say a whole lot of anything, you know, and we're just sort of,
00:45:47
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um facilitating the entire experience. And that's really the point it's us bringing together a group of professionals so that we can all share together because we all have such different experiences. And I usually will do the work the workbook discovery process as well before each call. Because I mean, we grow as professionals and anyways, and it's just a great check in to do as well. And um Yeah, it's really fun. Yeah, it is really cool. And then this last time, what I did is I actually created a bunch of other resources that I sent alongside with that, just had everybody flag it in in their email. And
Time Management and Personal Growth for Success
00:46:33
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then also I posted this all in the files in the Facebook group. And there is like a ah whole, you know, if you don't know what your life values are, there is a resource for that. Or, you know, I have like time tracking sheets and just different things like that that can come up through that process or often during the calls. And so not only do you have that discovery process, but there is just a whole bunch of resources that I created and compiled to also support um this whole process as well.
00:47:05
Speaker
And then, of course, it's in your email. So you you would always have lifetime access to those types of resources, too. And and there's money that I would actually really like to add to that as well. So that's been a really fun experience this time, too, to have that whole resource bundle that was created. So we meet every other week. So they are biweekly, which I think is really perfect. It gives you time between calls to really implement different things that we have talked about. So it's two hours. We meet every other Monday morning from 9 to 11 Mountain Standard Time. And then like I said, the the notes are compiled usually within the next couple of days. the The recording is sent out and filed away. We also have a private Facebook group, which is really cool because I think my favorite part of that group is
00:47:58
Speaker
staying connected outside of the calls is really important because one of the benefits of the group too, we talked about this last time, is that the group doesn't change. Yeah. you know And that's really the difference in a mastermind group or just being part of a membership is that you're in a very intimate container. There's usually only about six or seven people in the group. And so you are bonded to each other that way and you grow together that way. So I feel like there is substantially more growth in this sort of a setting than it would be otherwise. What do you think?
00:48:34
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I Oh yeah, absolutely. And as like, we expect things to come up after our calls over the course of a couple weeks. And so that's just a great place for everybody to land or to go to as a resource and to keep those connections up to and I think having that connection outside of the calls through the Facebook group really help strengthen those connections when we are on the call. So we don't even have to have that awkward like um disconnect because it's been a couple of weeks. We're just like still connected energetically and we could just get right into the nitty-gritty of where everyone is at. So we really love that aspect of it and I think it's a and an important part of it. We love when you know they participate in the
00:49:23
Speaker
Facebook group and share their takeaways and it's another valuable resource that they have. And I don't, I haven't even taken down any of those Facebook groups. I have noticed that. Yeah, even the one from last year is still open. So last September through December, January, that group still exists for those girls to get into if or when they want to. And so within that group, you you still have those connections if you need them. And again, with our winter, spring,
00:49:58
Speaker
you know, that is still open. So you can maintain those connections even after the actual group, you know, after the calls have ended, you still have all of that. Which is the goal. It comes back to one of our goals with this mastermind group in general is to help facilitate those connections, whether you're in the same state or the same city, or you're across, you know, the country, that you still have those friendships and those connections to lean on when you need them.
00:50:24
Speaker
And I think that's just, again, that helps raise the vibration of our industry and women in general is having those in place and having the space for them to continue. And I just thought of this, how cool would it be if we had like a retreat someday for all of our mastermind people to come? We may or may not have had those types of discussion. Right.
00:50:55
Speaker
Yeah, I think that would be so everybody be in person. Yeah, it would be so fun. Yeah, it would be amazing. So that's what it is, that's kind of the setup of how all of that works. And some of the different perks, we talked about the Facebook group, um discounts are often free classes that we both offer. So really good example of that is when Tiffany created her online store class. Oh, yeah. Did that in the mastermind group first, or, you know, with my retail sales course, a lot of that stuff had just already been talked about before I even put it together in a class. And so that's pretty cool.
00:51:31
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i'm one hour, one-on-one time with us. So basically everybody in the group, and there's just things that individually we can kind of help you with too. And so we always set up a one-on-one call um for an hour just with Tiffany, myself, and a member. And that doesn't cost anything. If you want to keep going with it, then of course we would have that discussion at that point. but you do have one-on-one time scheduled with us as well. And then um repeat group members also get a 15% discount. So if you've been in the group previously, no matter when it was, you'll always have a 15% discount to come back. ah We also end up with quite the list of podcast recommendation, book list, different app recommendations,
00:52:19
Speaker
And then there's a lot of supportive documents that we'll create too. So aside from just having the notes from the calls, um I'm getting ready to post our event um document that we've created. So we'll often just create these other support type documents as they come up, and we love creating those things and making those available too that you would just always have access to.
00:52:42
Speaker
so Some of our favorite and most valuable conversations that we have had, first of all, all of them. So there's really not one that we like, they're all just different. They all have a different vibe. They all kind of have a different energy and they're all really incredibly valuable. um And we basically start off our sessions more with laying a foundation of time management and daily just
00:53:13
Speaker
You have to start there before you can start getting into the other things. Because if that foundation isn't laid, and then there's no point in going through all these other types of conversations. And so we go through that for the first couple of weeks. And to be honest, I think that that actually is um one of the most valuable aspects of the group. Absolutely. And like you said, it comes back to foundation. and like If you want to grow and excel in your business or as a practitioner or in any like career aspect, you really do need to um focus on where your time is spent and where it' those energy leaks are and build that foundation there so that you can then go up. Yeah, absolutely. so
00:54:01
Speaker
So that's really amazing. um Let's see. So we start off with more daily personal development such as creating more presence in harmony, time management discussions, reading, taking time for personal growth, no matter where you're at in life and how to actually integrate that. And we often do get into manifestation, you know, energetics, business, energetics, stuff like that. Work life harmony has probably changed our group members' lives the most. Yeah.
00:54:30
Speaker
I will say that about it. um And then we do get into more of our systems. So we talk a lot about our booking systems, um different pros and cons. We'll make a list of the best systems that people use and why and really break that down talking about booking systems um and then just general systems you know within the business. We also i just this past week we got a lot into spa menus, enhancement menus, best practices with those types of things within the business
00:55:03
Speaker
and We talk a lot about like building your Google reviews, managing social media, and really anything that has to do with that. We can talk about you know retail sales. and i mean there's There's kind of a whole list of what that looks like. And again, we gain all of that information from the actual discovery workbook or discovery process that we do.
00:55:26
Speaker
and So building Google, building social media, and providing the tools, systems, ideas, team building, management, leadership, hiring people, um filling up our books has been a huge topic of discussion this last time, making sure that our books are full, talking about boundaries, how to have difficult conversations with our team or with clients, and different stuff like that, setting up our online stores. so So all of that, those are basically generally the conversations that we would have within the mastermind group.
00:55:58
Speaker
And stuff always comes up that is not on the list, too. And generally, if you and I don't have a resource or a tool for that or some insight, somebody within the group does. Or we can pull from past groups like we did a couple weeks ago for our current group member. Definitely. Because basically, every call just starts with a check-in. So we just kind of go around the group and let everybody tell us how their last couple weeks have gone. And from there, we that's kind of where a lot of those supportive things will come from. So that's how we had gotten on the subject of,
Preventing Burnout through Self-Care
00:56:33
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you know, spot menus and enhancement menus. um The week before that, it was a lot about events and networking. And so that's when things will kind of tend to come up. Those things are usually on the main list that we had compiled to, which is pretty cool and that it also sort of ends up like the cookie just sort of crumbled that way, which is really a nice. I love that.
00:56:56
Speaker
It's organic and it's structured. Exactly. That's really the best way to describe it. We talk, um Tiffany and I usually just the day before about our general plan that we would have for the call based on the list and the information that we have. At the same time, we open that up because whatever needs to come through that day is meant to come through. And so it's we have the balance of both from the compiled list. We do make sure, in fact, we're getting ready to revisit that right now to make sure that we've really checked those boxes. and At the same time, things just come up
00:57:34
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And so it's a really good balance of that structure, like you said, and then letting things to just sort of flow and come through very organically, which is really important. Absolutely. Yeah. Anything else you want to say about that? And then I'll just read through a couple. I think they've covered it. Yeah. When does our next group start? January. I'm getting ready to set the dates this week.
00:58:01
Speaker
yeah and compiling all of that information. And right now we're just creating the waiting list. So even just getting on the waiting list, you're not committed to anything. It just means that you want the information and that you're thinking about it. So and yeah, that's kind of where we're at right now. We're just sort of building that list and getting people signed up so that we can start in January. It it would likely be, I mean, we end up having around eight calls. I want to say it's like eight to nine calls.
00:58:29
Speaker
And I would probably want those to start maybe the second week of January or the third week in January, um kind of get people time to settle into the new year before we start to call. So yeah, we do need to start tackling that list. I already have several people on it. Not surprised. Yeah, it always happens. It fills up really quick. Yeah.
00:58:54
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So let me just choose just because we do want to bring you guys some more value even though we just talked about so many amazing things and prompt you. I'm going to choose to talk about burnout because that kind of goes along with what we were talking about. So.
00:59:21
Speaker
When we know we're getting burned out, so this is basically exactly full copy and pasted from notes from a previous group. So when you know you're getting burned out, the first thing we would want to do is clear your plate as much as we possibly can, implement self-care practices. Alone time is so important as a business owner and a mom, if you're a mom.
00:59:42
Speaker
So take time every week from your work or even possibly away from your kiddos bi-weekly or so weekly bi-weekly monthly whatever works best and feels good for you so that you can pour back into your own cup and don't do any work during that time just do something by yourself and for yourself. If possible have some support in place when you need it especially at work or with your mom duties Put your cell phone away. This is what we've been talking about. Take your social media apps off of your phone and take breaks as often as you can. When you're burned out too, don't make small tasks into big tasks or emergencies. We all do that. Yes. Every time. I don't know why. I don't know why. And we learn to knock it off and then we just keep doing it. Yeah.
01:00:31
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Exactly. So don't make small things into big tasks or emergencies when they really aren't. There are things that can be put off while you take care of your mental and emotional health. yeah Most everything actually. i'm like I'm not even kidding. So the relationship that I'm in currently.
01:00:49
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I hope he never listens to this, but he's honestly the worst. ah he Literally everything is a big thing. And I'm like, but it isn't, you know, like I've had to come in and be like, you can actually like walk away from this list for the rest of the night. ah but Nothing's going to happen. ah The world will not stop turning. No, you know, it's it's crazy. So it's been really cool to like watch him go through this process because his new career is at home. So he just works remotely. And that's really hard. That's really challenging because your tasks pile up a lot. You don't have anybody supporting you in that necessarily. And so we all do this though. Like we just make these minimal things. You do it too. We've talked about it. I'm horrible at it as well. And we turn it into this mountain.
01:01:41
Speaker
And it just isn't, it's like, when you start getting burned out, it's almost like the wheel starts spinning faster. You know, when like a wheel is going to spin, it's going to like fly off and it's almost like it starts spinning faster and everything feels like urgent and like an emergency and like, I got to get this done. So then I can relax, but then it keeps piling on. Yeah. And maybe that's the whole point. Maybe it's just like.
01:02:04
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the universe or whatever you want to, you know, consider it is prompting you to choose yourself and choose your life. Because if you slowed it down, that wheel would be fine. Yeah, exactly. The worst that is going to get and then yeah's going to fall apart when really you could have just like slowed down and walked away.
01:02:26
Speaker
I gave it a rest for a second. but so um But then also having your extracurriculars and hobbies that you enjoy and don't walk away from those. you know If you love nature, make sure that you're making time to get out into nature. If you're you know a big reader, make sure that you actually have time to do those types of things that really feed you because again,
01:02:49
Speaker
you know, you everything is going to fall apart when your cup is completely empty. And so your hobbies and your extra curriculars are a huge part of that. And so you can really avoid burnout or when you feel that coming on, take a step back, slow down, take some time to yourself, implement some self care practices, go do something that you really enjoy. But then more than anything, have grace for yourself. That's like number one. Absolutely.
01:03:20
Speaker
so So that was part of a conversation that we had had on our lot in our last group about burnout. And so essentially how that would have gone, just to give you guys an idea, is that we had that conversation within the group and then I made those bullet points and put those in notes and that gets sent out to everybody um along with the whole call recording. So that is exactly where that whole chunk just came from.
01:03:50
Speaker
So valuable. So cool. Yeah, love it. Amazing. So if you want to get on that waiting list for our next mastermind, you can just slide in our DMS. So head right in. I am at the underscore SD underscore coach. We also you can just jump onto the podcast Instagram, which is just at Beyond Aesthetics podcast, Aesthetics is just with an E. And then Tiffany, go ahead and tell us see your handles. You can find me at Sweet Cheeks University on Instagram and or Facebook and or TikTok. I just created a TikTok page for SCU. Yeah. How's that going? It's actually easier than Instagram or Facebook because I don't have any emotional attachment to it.
01:04:44
Speaker
if that sounds weird or not. It's just like, his TikTok for me is like this whole other world that I've only like dipped a toe in. and But like and Instagram especially, it's like I built and like I've curated and I poured so much energy into and I have a lot of attachment and emotions surrounding it with TikTok and it's like, huh, better. So it feels easy. I like it. Okay.
01:05:14
Speaker
yeah um um Other than that, so next week we actually have a guest that we are super excited about. So we started putting that, oh my gosh, thank I'm actually more excited than I anticipat anticipated. When I yeah started you know putting the outline together last night, i just I think it's going to be a really incredible call.
01:05:33
Speaker
And other than that, if you guys have ideas for things that you want us to talk about, please again, send that into a direct message. We do have an email address, but I don't remember the password, so I'm not even going to give it to you, but I'll figure that out so that I can start putting that in the show notes again too. And, and yeah, so thank you for being here as always. Tip, is there anything more that you want to add? No, we're just really grateful to our listeners for tuning in and we're so grateful to just be here and, you know, share what we have. And yeah, it really does. I was listening to another podcast earlier this week, and she had said and what you just said, just like it really does help fuel the fire for continued episodes and creativity when you get feedback from listeners. So really encourage you
01:06:21
Speaker
And there's like no nothing there's no dumb questions, right? like it's Also, if you have questions surrounding a certain topic or you're curious about something, just send them our way and likely we would love to talk about it.
01:06:38
Speaker
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