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Frame The Balls (Feat. Kimmie)
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Hello friends, have you ever wondered how you'd prove you're from the future if you got knocked back in time? Should you name your daughter "Yunique?" What should you do if your partner comes out as polyamourous without sharing that with you first? Do you struggle to know what to do with your hands when you walk? Can you sue Walmart for allowing you to hurt yourself in a Tornado? Should you talk to your 10 year old son about keeping his hands in his pants? Find out this and the origin of Philly Cheese Steak on today's episode of #TOQ
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Transcript
Show Introduction: Unanswered Questions & Humor
00:00:03
Speaker
Hello everyone. Do you ever find that there are a lot of Qs and As on the internet, but it's mostly a lot of unanswered Qs and not enough sufficient As? Well that's where we come in. Do you like hearing about how you can manage better relationships and life, love, and work?
00:00:18
Speaker
Do you like would you rather questions? Do you like hypothetical situations? Do you like laughing? Maybe crying? And do you like hearing lots of swear words? Then this show is definitely for you. Can we make you smile at least once during this show? You know what? That's our cue.
00:00:40
Speaker
Here we go, and we are live with another episode of That's Our Cue, where we take your cute little baby cues and, like, their little clay cues, and we sculpt them and mold them and squish them and bop them and twist them and pull them until they turn into beautiful A's for your enjoyment. And my name is Adam, and alongside me is my year of 20 plus... No, you're not my year, you're my friend. My friend of 20 plus years. His name is Josh. Say hi, Josh.
00:01:06
Speaker
How's it going? Thanks. I'm good. Thanks for asking.
Guest Kimmy's Diverse Background
00:01:10
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And then we have our first guest on the show. We just talked before this recording and we still don't know what she's going to say about herself. But her name is Kimmy and we met through the Twitters. Hello, Kimmy. Hey, guys. Tell us one thing about you that you think is pertinent for you to dispense wisdom upon our show.
00:01:31
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for my deep wisdom. I have traveled all over the country. I have lived in five, six different states and I've worked in restaurants. So I have seen people talk to people, dealt with people in all types of ways. I'm ready for the questions. That sounds like you're qualified.
00:01:54
Speaker
There we go. Honestly, we would just take, you know, anybody who, you know, asked. So you have way more qualifications than what we usually ask for.
Hypothetical Future Proof Without Technology
00:02:03
Speaker
So that's good. I set the bar high. You set the bar high. No, there's no failure on that. That's our cue. OK, so let's go with our very first question then, shall we? So question number one, this is a Quora question. I think it's pronounced Quora.
00:02:23
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Um, and it's from a man named Joel Smith and he is a bio engineer, apparently. So says his profile. Um, and he asks, if you traveled through time where technology didn't exist with nothing but the clothes you have on, how would you prove that you're from the future? Kimmy, you're our guest. You go first. How would you prove that you are from the future with only the clothes on your, on your body?
00:02:50
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I mean, there's no technology. So it's not like you can even show like if you have your smartwash or anything on, it's like, cause that's not going to work. But it's like, do you want that? Do you want them to be afraid of you? Because then, you know, rule with an iron fist. Then it's like, you could also go easy and like, you know, I'm going to make fire right now because who am I around? I don't even know. Can you make fire?
00:03:12
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Yeah, you know, I was just thinking about that how like you should always carry a lighter because you never know when to get going to get sent back in time and you could be like the inventor of fire if you get sent back far enough, you know. Yeah, handheld fire right there. Right there. Josh, what would you use to prove that you are from the future? I mean, really, what what period are we going back to? Because that would set different bars.
00:03:42
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See, it says where technology didn't exist, but I'm assuming they mean electronics, because technology is kind of a wide umbrella. So I'm assuming they mean probably pre-electricity times, because I feel like it's going to be hard to impress. I don't think cavemen are going to want you to prove to them that you're the future. They're going to kill you and take your clothes. So yeah, let's just say Renaissance era.
00:04:11
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Josh, how would you prove that you're from another time? Well, I mean, you could even just show them your clothes and be like, here, this is machine stitched. Look at that. They're like, what means machine? Like, see how this how this pattern is repeating? Yeah, a machine did that. You know, you know, you know, fucking
00:04:38
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Donatello and all the shit he's drawing. Yeah, we got that shit. Except our helicopters are a lot less floppy. Right. I would, I would show them my zippers.
00:04:50
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Chances are my pants is going to have a zipper. I'm like, guys, this is going to blow you away when you realize another way that you can fasten pants and like make bags and shit. Look at this thing. Even you have like if you have like blue jeans on, you've got that denim because that didn't come around like for clothing until what? Eighteen hundreds for the gold rush. That's true.
00:05:12
Speaker
I like how we're all focusing on the physical things where we could probably just say something around that time if we had any. Yeah. Exactly. Hey, you know what? They name a ninja turtle after you. What? Give me Leonardo. Give me all the rest of the ninja turtles. Where's Michelangelo? Did Leonardo draw the man with the long yet? Who did that?
00:05:47
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Yeah, I mean dongatello changed his name when he realized that everybody was doing it Well, you know, I guess I guess I gotta lose lose my dong Have you seen the Sistine Chapel? Well, I'd say that that answered your question Joel listen, there's a lot of ways zippers dongs
00:06:09
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I mean, they all drew dongs.
00:06:13
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fabric, stitching, fire. Yeah. If anybody knows that people didn't have fire back then. They didn't have TV. How are they going to have fire? Idiots. Okay. Next
Sensitive Parenting Advice
00:06:27
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question. Shall we do another question? You guys want to do some more questions?
00:06:32
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Okay, so this one I have to answer this is from our friend Cass who sent a question into our form and She'll also probably be on the show sooner than later. You also have heard her on the role players podcast, but she sends a question and She says what do I do when I accidentally catch my 10 year old son jerking it and
00:06:55
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I've been a single mom for 10 years and recently I accidentally caught my son jerking on his ding dong. Actually, she put ding doing, which is really just the word doing. If you think about the word doing, it's just doing. But do I say something to him and tell him that's an older boy thing or just leave it alone? Thanks. So we need to ask, we need to answer Cass's question. Um, uh, Kimmy, you said you're, you're, you have mom experience, right?
00:07:23
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Yeah, this is, oh, this is, this is my worst nightmare. Um, and I know it's going to happen. This is a good way to help you prepare for it. Yeah. It's gonna be one of those things. It's like, look, I'm going to knock when I enter your room, but you know, that is for your room only, please. Like we're, we're going to have the talk and this is going to be awkward for both of us, you know?
00:07:51
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But you're going to do that in your room and that's it. So the first thing I was like, look, listen, don't do this at the kitchen table. Don't do this in the car. Make sure your door is locked. Just close the door. If your door is closed, I'm going to knock on it. I'm going to give you that privacy. OK.
00:08:11
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Now, but how does she, should she have the talk with him to say like, say like, maybe not the sex talk, but like, Hey, you know what? But then again, she says she, does she tell him that it's an older boy thing or does she just let it go and just let them play with his new toy? Um, you know, mine's six and you know, every once in a while he does that too. And I'm like, stop, this is not something that you do sitting in the living room. Just.
00:08:41
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You know, you're, you're just, you're just playing with something to play with something. Like you play with your toes right now. Oh, I know. Like, Oh, I don't get whatever makes you guys happy, I guess. But it's going to be, have to be one of those things where it's like, this is going to be a private thing. Right. And just go into your room.
00:09:11
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Right. So if you have questions, I can help. But I'm going to knock on the door if the door is closed. OK. All right, Josh, same question. Should she talk to him about it? Tell him it's an older boy thing, or should she just let him go and do his thing? I'm not a parent, so I'm going to pass on this question. Did you ever have the talk, Josh? The talk about either that or the other talk, the big one?
00:09:41
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With my parents? No, no, they just left that to sex ed and what was it, middle school? Right, which is which is just middle school, right? Like, did you wait? Did you have sex ed middle school? I didn't have sex ed. Unless you're talking about health class where, you know, they say this is a wheelie and this is a JJ.
00:10:02
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uh yeah that yeah i know we're all excited when we got to look in those books and see uh outlines of you know of genitalia and like whoa well why this isn't censored what the fuck that's crazy um yeah you know i'm not a mom either but you know my opinion is this um
00:10:23
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just because I know kids get embarrassed. If you're going to talk to him about it, make sure that you make him think, understand that it's not, you don't want him to become scared of it. Not necessarily scared of his own wiener, but scared of talking to you about it or understanding it. I would say if you're going to talk to him about it or if you feel like you should, just keep it quick, just like Kimi did. She's like, hey, you know what? Maybe don't do that.
00:10:53
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You know, it's kind of like, you know, scratching, scratching your butthole in public. It's like, hey, you know, it's just we don't do that. There's a time and a place. Right. There's a time and a place. Just like, you know, just just just, you know, maybe maybe refrain from doing that because the devil will get you. No, don't do that. That's not what I just said to do. It's like you want to be able to have that open relationship where they can come to you with stuff as well. Teenage years are rough.
00:11:20
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Yeah. You know, maybe make it a challenge, but like, Hey, you know what? You know, I saw you doing this, but Hey, maybe like, I challenge you not to do it until you're 13. If you do, I'll get you a PlayStation seven when it comes out, you know, and then, you know, maybe he'll, maybe he'll stop, make it fun. Um, you know, okay. Um, how about one more question and then we'll do a little, little history sesh.
Naming Your Child 'Unique': Challenges & Advice
00:11:44
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So I hope you're ready, Kimmy. Cause I'm hoping that you're going to carry us for that after that.
00:11:48
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All right, um, Joshua, let's start with you this time. This person is Lily Santiago and she asks.
00:11:57
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Apparently, she's a common sense guru at self-employment. It sounds great. It sounds lucrative. She asks, how can I convince my husband to name our daughter unique, spelled with the word unique, but with a Y in front of it? He said people would pick on her, but if somebody picks on her, they're not the kind of people that she would want to be friends with anyway.
00:12:19
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So her question again is how can she convince her husband to name their forthcoming daughter unique? What are your opinions on that, Joshua? I would say worry less about how she's going to get bullied. And by the way, she's going to get bullied. I would I would say worry less about that and more of
00:12:45
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you know, prejudices in the workplace do exist, especially in the hiring process. And, you know, possibly someone at a job, you know, going through candidates would look at that and just kind of go, yeah, no,
00:13:11
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Yeah, that is an unfortunate reality, but that does happen. Yeah, it's bullshit that it does, but it does happen. Yeah, I...
00:13:23
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I can concur that I have heard of that happening in multiple stages. Um, Kimmy, what do you think? How can she convince? The question is really, how can I convince my husband to let us name our daughter unique? But I feel like the question is also like, do we agree that we should, you know, that that's a good idea. Can you make it a middle name and not her first name? Like at least give her a fighting chance.
00:13:48
Speaker
because kids are cruel, they are cold, and they are malicious, and they will eat you alive. And they often lack filters. Yeah. So once they understand, and really, I think like in a smaller school, like if you grow up with a bunch of kids, because the thing is, like, everybody wants to have a unique name, this parent so much that they literally want the name to be unique, you know, like, and I'm sure somebody else and I'm sorry to tell you, Lily, somebody probably already has that somewhere.
00:14:16
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You know, like people are naming their kids North and Apple, you know, like again, unique could be a pretty name, but yeah, I, I don't know if I want to help you convince your husband for that. Unless of course, like what Kimmy said, you want to make it a middle name.
00:14:31
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Can we make it a nickname for something? I don't even know. There you go. Now there's an idea. There's an idea. You know, like maybe you could even make up a cutesy little story that she won't remember. She won't remember. You can say, oh, well, you know, you were always just doing the most unique stuff. So we just thought it'd be a cute nickname to call you unique. Yeah.
00:14:47
Speaker
You know, and maybe it'll stick that way if someone says, Oh, what's your name? Oh, hi, I'm unique. They go. No, but really, it's like, it's like Jill, but like my parents call me unique. And then you can put it in as your rapper name, like Jill, unique Santiago. Yeah. That way you can have your cake and consider eating it. I don't know, but exactly. It's, it's something special that you want to do. So make it nothing that is going to cause her future harm.
00:15:17
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Right.
00:15:18
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Or on the other hand, um, per Josh's suggestion, like when it comes to like jobs and such is like, if you really are adamant to make it the first name, then give her a fighting chance of a middle name. Don't make both names weird. Again, I don't mean to say weird, but like, but compared to what's expected as more normality, that's a weird name for a lot of people. So like, right. So my best friend goes by his middle name because he hates his first name. My grandmother did the same thing.
00:15:49
Speaker
Yeah, another one of our fellow podcast friends, Mr. Ray, real name isn't Ray. He just likes that name better than his first name. You know, so like make make it be like Anna Marie or like, I don't know. Again, like I said, Jill, you know, something that is more normalized that if she is finding there to be a struggle, she can just
00:16:09
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Adjust him like no, no, I prefer to go by Jill just you know boss lady call me Jill You know and that way when she gets to the interview then she can say, you know, my parents name unique, but I go by Jill That's what I that's my professional name. Okay, cool. Mm-hmm, you know save yourself Well save her some grief also yourself because you're gonna be fighting your husband over a name like really is this worth it? This is not the hill you want to die on
00:16:33
Speaker
There's a lot of hills to die on, you know, that you can use, you can wield against your husband later. This is not one. Accept this loss and then wield it later. Like, well, you know, you got to pick the name, so I'm going to pick, I don't know.
00:16:45
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what color her room is, you know, whatever. Yeah. Cool, man. Yeah, that was a toughie. I was cringing trying to think of how I would answer that question. All right, so let's segue into our first guest history lesson.
Philly Cheesesteak Origins
00:17:01
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And just to kind of let you guys know, just like how Josh does it,
00:17:04
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It can be long, it can be short, it can be middle-sized. You know, there's no wrong sizes under the sun here. So it's just we want to learn a little bit about what somebody has a specialty in or a history in. And so, Kimmy, why don't you hit us with what you want to talk about today with your history mini lesson. All right. So I am from Philly originally and I was a tour guide while I was in college.
00:17:29
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So I do know a lot about the city of Philadelphia. And one of the big staples of Philly is the cheesesteak. Oh, so the cheesesteak was actually invented in the 1930s. And there was two guys, Pat and Harry Oliveri. And they're the ones who get the credit for inventing the sandwich, which is just the chop steak on the Italian roll. So that's the invention that that was it. It just seems so simple when you say it out loud.
00:17:58
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They owned a hot dog stand and they decided they went in to make something new and a cab driver called up or drove up, not called, and asked for one for himself. And he was so impressed. He's like, screw the hot dogs. You guys need to make this. And then the cheesesteak stands went up right near the Italian market in South Philly.
00:18:26
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Pat opened up his own restaurant, which is Pat's King of Stakes. And, okay, here's a question for you guys. There's a couple different cheeses that are the, you know, general ones you get on there. What was the first cheese put on there? Swiss. No, that's not it. Josh, what other cheeses exist? Mozzarella. Was it Mazzi?
00:18:53
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No, provolone. That was the first cheese. That's my favorite one. But I didn't want to say because I was afraid it would be wrong. It's weird. I'm the I'm the whiz. Like, give me put that cheese was on there. Give me that fake liquid cheese on there. That is all I need. Yeah. And now it's like cheesesteaks have become such a big staple in Philly. You can go anywhere and get one. Either it's good or it's bad if you get them out of the area. But yeah, that's my cheesesteak history.
00:19:23
Speaker
Wow, I didn't know that. What year did you say that was? 1930s? Yeah, in the early 1930s. Josh, did you know that cheesesteak sandwiches were invented in hot dog stands? I do not. Wow, boy, the more you know. You know, that's one of those things that if I had got chucked back in time, I'd be like, boy, here I would be trying to think like, how am I going to convince somebody to make like,
00:19:53
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You know, the train or an engine. I'm like, cause I don't have any experience with that, but I have experience with putting meat on bread. Like, like I could go back and invent so many foods before the people that invented the foods could invent them, or I could partner with them. Cause I want to, I wouldn't want to steal their idea. I'd feel bad for stealing it, but I'd be like, Hey, you know what? I just came from the future and I need to tell you about something that you need to fucking do like right now. Put chunks of cheap of steak on a Italian roll. You're not going to regret this.
00:20:20
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know maybe maybe you were there and did that maybe you were the cab driver maybe you've already been back in time to do this i like to believe that there's a universe where that stuff happens all the time where people like we're not smart enough to come up with those things like there's a weird time dilation were like we know of them but they haven't yet and then we are the ones that invented the thing
00:20:40
Speaker
before they invented it, even though they invented it. But time travel is tricky. Yeah. So I don't know what I'd fuck up. I would accidentally I would go back and invent a Philly cheesesteak. And then I don't know. Then I don't know. We would be underwater because of global warming. I don't know. Something crazy would happen. OK. Shall we do a couple more questions, lady and gentlemen? Yeah. Let's do it.
Polyamory in Relationships: Navigating Consent
00:21:10
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This is an interesting one. This question is from Sebastian Phillips, who says they are pretty good at smelling bullshit. That's their profile description. And they say, my partner came out as polyamorous and revealed they have another partner. The other partner knows about me, but I'm monogamous and didn't know about them. What do I do? This feels crummy.
00:21:36
Speaker
Um, Kimmy, you're our guest. What do you say to this very, this puzzle, this puzzle of a situation? Two words break up. That is not, that is, that is crossing your boundary and that, that counts as cheating right there. They may be polyamorous, but the fact that they're hiding someone from you for however long this is going on. No.
00:22:04
Speaker
Like it's one thing if you were Polly and into that, then that is completely okay. But there has to be that knowledge there. And because you're monogamous, then it's not going to work. Yeah. That is a no win situation. What do you say? What do you say, Josh? Should they say something? What do they do?
00:22:28
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Yeah, it sounds like who you're with was just cheating and they thought they were about to be caught. So it's like, oh, I wasn't cheating. I'm polyamorous and this is my other partner. Oh, you know, I was thinking that I was wondering if maybe this was just an excuse to fuck around without any repercussions. Yeah.
00:22:55
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That's what I was thinking. Two very radically different perspectives. One is like, oh, hey, I'm Polly, and it's OK. And the other one's like, no, I just need to come up with this. Yeah, that's.
00:23:08
Speaker
Yeah, I agree. Regardless of why they did it, that doesn't mean it's okay. You know, there's like this kind of stigma where like something I've been trying to combat is like just because I understand what or why you're doing doesn't make that what you're doing is okay. You know, like I understand why some people become serial killers because of their trauma, but that doesn't mean it's okay to be a serial killer.
00:23:29
Speaker
You know, so like, you know, and in this case, like maybe, maybe they are polyamorous. Okay. Maybe they think, Oh, that's a great idea. But the fact that they didn't tell you that's fucked up, you know, they need to talk to you before they do anything. That's not how it works.
00:23:43
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Oh, absolutely. A lie of omission is still a lie in this particular case, especially. Yeah. And if they try to make you feel bad, because it's a thing. This is why I think I agree more with Josh. Not that I don't agree with what you're saying, Kimmy, because it's just bad. It's cheating no matter what label you want to put on it. But to me, this seems like a really shitty way to
00:24:03
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have them justify what they did by saying, oh, no, no, I'm Polly now. It's fine. You know, like, yeah, I mean, they hurt you and you have every right to feel how you feel, regardless of why they did it. You don't have to be okay with that. And you have every right to be like, well, okay. Polyamorous, you know, you know, there's ethical non-monogamy, which is probably what they were hoping you would roll with, but it ain't, you know? Yeah. It's like, no, this is still,
00:24:33
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Like, you know, yeah. Oh, I'm Polly now to cover up for this. OK, no, that's not how it works because you're still breaking a boundary from a relationship and relationships have rules. Right. I mean, is it polyamory? Because, again, I don't know the full ins and outs of polyamory, but is is I thought polyamory is usually between multiple people who were all involved.
00:24:55
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That's what, or is there, or they're like brackets. Like, I don't know if I understand it enough to know, like, could, like say, could this person, this person's partner, Sebastian's partner, could they be Polly and he knows about it, but he's also monogamous and fine with it. Does that still make it Polly or is that just ethical non-monogamy or is ethical non-monogamy still under the Polly blanket? I don't know if I understand it. I don't know. Sadly, that is not one I am a pro on.
00:25:21
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No, me either. Uh, Hey listeners, if you hear this, hit me on Twitter at role players when, and tell me the answer. And I'll have you on as a guest that we can come back and talk about this question. Uh, cause yeah, I don't know, but either way the end result is still the same. Um, fuck that is not okay. Back to Kimmy's response break up. Yeah. It's like you don't get too lie to somebody and think everything's okay or even using as an excuse. Oh yeah. Absolutely. Absolutely. That's fucked up.
00:25:50
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Now, it'd be one thing if they came out as as Polly and then said, hey, I'm thinking about maybe having another partner run that by them first and not not just say, oh, hey, by the way, I have another partner. Right. Especially if you were busted and they're like, who is this? Like, oh, right. Of course. How could I so silly me? I forgot to tell you I'm Polly now. Oh, gosh, how could I? Oh, you know,
00:26:20
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Yeah, I agree. Even if that is the case, there can't be a silent agreement. There can't be a one-sided agreement. It's fucked up.
00:26:30
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Yeah. You can just be like, well, I've decided I'm a landlord now and I don't want you in this house anymore. Um, okay. Um, here's one that I just picked because I thought it's such an interesting question that I, I too have thought about, but only because I'm a dance instructor and some, I'm more aware of what my body does. And like, so, so the question is posted on Reddit from someone called iron and rope and they say, how do I walk?
Walking Naturally: Tips for Balance
00:26:58
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And this was one of the only ones I found in that thread that wasn't answered. Like nobody answered this question. And they said, how do I walk? I'm 32. This is so stupid. It's like it's bad when Reddit's at a loss. You go to them for everything. What do you mean you can't answer this? I know. That's what made it so good. I checked back on this question so many times and nobody answered it.
00:27:22
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So, I'm 32 and I still don't know how to use my arms. Throughout high school, I just kept my hands in my hoodie pocket. Now, as an adult, I'll put one hand in my pocket or be holding something so I don't swing one arm. Even walking at night, I try swing my arms, but probably look like some deranged creatures roaming the street. So, we need to help this person. Iron and Rope needs to learn how to walk, guys. How do we help them? What do we do?
00:27:51
Speaker
That's a silly question. Kimmy, what do you think? How do we help this person? I think walking's like a lot in your shoulders too. Yeah, you're moving your feet, but twist your shoulders as you're walking. I think that really helps. I don't know. It's like you never think about walking. It's just one of those things you just do it. If I think about it, I'm going to fall over. Yeah. Walking is just getting really good at not falling. Yeah. It's really what I think it is.
00:28:19
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Josh, Josh, are you attentive to your like to your arms when you walk or your hands? I just kind of zone out when I'm walking. So what about? Okay, here's one that I think about is what do you do with your hands, Josh, when you're standing still? Like, say if you're talking to somebody, like we're standing like maybe a few feet apart, let's say six feet because COVID, you know, we're just talking, we're both standing. Are you aware of what you do with your hands when you're talking to somebody and just holding still?
00:28:49
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kind of usually if I'm like near a surface I just kind of rest them on that surface. You do that on purpose or do you think you just do it without thinking about it?
00:29:04
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a little call me a little call me have you ever have you ever considered what you're like do you guys ever have this we'll get back to your question iron and rope but I've always want to talk about this and this is a good opportunity to talk about it because it's kind of something that I think about a lot is especially when you're holding still again the only time I ever thought about in movement what my arms were doing is either when I was dancing or when I was running or try to do like it learn an exercise I'm trying like what the fuck are my arms supposed to do when I use my legs
00:29:29
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But standing still, I'm very hyper-aware of what the fuck my hands and my arms are doing. Kimmy, do you ever wonder, should I put my hands in my pockets? Am I crossing my arms too much? My hands are on my hips. Why am I doing that? Are you ever aware of that? I usually fidget with something like my chapstick or a pen just to keep my hands going, to just try and keep some sort of focus so I can be involved in the conversation.
00:29:57
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Is it so if not i'll be like ricky bobbie and be like, I don't know what to do with I know to do my sides And then they come right back up. It's like what? Yeah, so so do you do that because of it's like a like a like a nerves thing? Or do you do it because you literally don't know what to do with your hands? It's like a nerves thing
00:30:15
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It's like just like an attention thing, like a fidget spinner or whatever those things are, fidget toy. It's like, I'll just like hold my chapstick or a pen and I just start like, you know, just doing like just spinning the pen through my fingers, just wrapping it through. Right. Um, Josh, another question for you in regards to this, when you put your hands in your pockets, when you're standing, do you put your, do you put your thumbs in your pockets as well when you're just standing still? This is an important question.
00:30:47
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Yeah. You put your whole hand in there? No, I just kind of hooked the thumb. You hooked the thumb? Like a cowboy, you put only the thumbs in? Yeah. Oh, so you frame the balls, that's what you're doing. Sure. That's what they call in the modeling industry is framing the balls.
00:31:07
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Interesting. I don't know if I ever paid attention to that. I'm going to have to pay attention when I see you next, when we're standing up, see what your hands are doing. I do expect a report about this. Yeah. Kimmy, do you frame, do you frame the balls when you put your hands in your pocket? It's like, I throw like my thumbs out. So your fingers are in, your thumb is out.
00:31:25
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See, that's what I do because I've been hyper-aware that I used to put my hands in my pockets when, like, I don't care what my hands are doing when I'm talking. I care what my hands are doing when I'm not talking. So, like, I'm trying to pay attention to what someone's saying, but also being like, what the fuck am I doing with my hands? So, like, if I find like I'm crossing my arms for a while, I'm like, fuck, why did I cross my arms? Like, can I try to hyper-analyze myself?
00:31:49
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So like, so I'm like, I'm just going to purposely put my hands in here and let my thumbs hang up because it makes me look confident because if my thumbs go in the pocket, it makes me look sheepish. And as one thing, I am not. It's like, how do I hide that? It's just my resting bitch face. Right. Not just like I'm interested in what you're telling me. OK, so let me uncross my arms. Let me let me try and be like, OK, cool. Interesting. Mm hmm. Right. Look like I'm really bitchy.
00:32:18
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Like, you know, I need to just be like, what are my eyebrows doing right now? Is my on my lips curled too much? So back to the matter at hand, walking with your hands. Here's here's genuinely what I know to be true about human anatomy is that if you walk without if you just let your arms hang, like take all the energy out of your arms. And I know this from dance. If you take all the energy out of your arms and you just walk like.
00:32:42
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not briskly, but like if you take normal sized steps and you just walk for a few paces, your arms will do what they're supposed to do. Because as you said, Kimmy, shoulders, your shoulders move with the sway of your legs. So like there's what's called contra body movement. So like as your left leg goes forward, your right arm will typically swing forward as well. It helps you balance when you walk. That is a known thing in anatomy. So you don't have to actually know what your arms are doing when you walk.
00:33:11
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Just let them hang and do their thing. I'm telling you focus on them. Just let them go. They will do what they're supposed to do. I promise. Like it just you know now if there's like I always think about like when I'm breathing and what my hands are doing when I'm working out because I don't want to do it wrong. But like at least with walking, they'll do what they're supposed to do. Contra body movement is contra in general is how your body keeps itself up.
00:33:36
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Like, you know, you ever notice how, like, when someone's like, who's been bent over a lot or slouched over. And I know that at least half our listeners probably just set up straight when they heard me say that, um, you know, when people are slouched over, you know, why they still able to stand up is because they're asked just outward. That's a design in your body to try to keep you up. Your body has, the more one part goes forward, another part goes back to try to keep you upward to best of its ability. That's just how your body works.
00:34:01
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So, you know, diatribe over, you'll be fine. Or just frame the balls. I think that's another valid option. Frame the balls. Frame the balls. Frame the balls. You know what? I'm just going to write it down now. That's what I'm going to call the episode. It might as well be the title. It's perfect. Frame. I'm going to put frame the balls with Kimmy. There we go. Or do you like featuring like if it's on a rap track?
00:34:25
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Oh, featuring makes me sound like I got that street cred. All right. I'll put feet. I'm OK. Yeah.
Workplace Funeral Awkwardness
00:34:31
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This makes it sound more. It makes me feel very important and special. Yes. All right. Our last question of the day. See, I added six questions in because we had a guest. So I want to make it more special. So I hope that you felt that, Kimmy, because usually we do five. Oh, I did. I'm having so much fun. Good. Josh, are you having fun? You doing OK over there?
00:34:55
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Yeah. How are you? How are you? I'm going all right. Can I just ask, this is a sixth question that isn't on the list, but how are you? I'm doing all right. Yeah. How do you feel today? Like, do you feel empowered? Well, this morning I was feeling annoyed. Tell us about that. OK, so the place I work at, the founder and former owner apparently died like last week.
00:35:24
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No shit. So, I never met the guy. I've been working there for like seven months. I've never met the fucking guy. But they had everyone in the company go stand by the road with a candle as the funeral procession drove by. It's like, this is awkward. Why are we doing this?
00:35:47
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It's like he wasn't he was he was he was the Queen he was their Queen of You know were Irish people really happy that he was past or You know or do you know? Was he beloved? I? Again is I've worked there like seven months. I I don't know the guy. I don't know his family. I
00:36:12
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Do you think it was more of a respect thing or that people actually like knew him? Do you think the majority of the people there actually knew who he was? I'm, I'm, I'm sure the older crowd did and I, you know, like the, like the management staff probably knew him, but fuck I, I had no clue who the dude was. I never met him, never met their family. It's like, this is just awkward. Yeah. Yeah. You know, especially if like nobody else, you know, I don't know.
00:36:42
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You know, I would want people to fire off some sort of fireworks, you know, to make it look like you guys were celebrating that I was dead. You know, I think that would be funny. Some people out with cringe. Yeah, with cringe and joy. Like, haha. Oh, look, mommy fireworks. Oh, that's a funeral.
00:37:03
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Huh, you know, why is that man pooping on that man's coughing on? Okay, last question. This one is from Brian Haas. Oh, I'm sorry, Kimmy. How are you? I'm doing all right. I'm doing better It's been a long nine days of work in a row. So yeah, did your did the the head hon show of your company pass or no, nobody died It's just good. It's just been a long long week of
00:37:30
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And do you have the weekend off to recuperate, Kimmy? No, I'm back to work tomorrow. What time? 11 a.m. OK, so you got a little bit of time. I can sleep in tomorrow. Oh, excellent. Well, I feel OK. I feel that makes me feel good. Yeah, sleeping in is wonderful and everyone should do it. OK, well, that's good. Are you feeling are you having a good time with us, Kimmy? I'm having a great time.
00:37:52
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Excellent, you know, I've been I've realized I hadn't heard your voice before until we started this recording I was like, so I'm glad that everything's flowing smoothly. It's everything's working great Shall we do the final question you guys feeling good to do a question one more let's do it. Let's go for Okay, this is from Brian Haas from Quora and He says
00:38:18
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Can I sue Walmart for allowing me to leave their store during a tornado warning?
Lawsuit Against Walmart for Tornado Incident: Feasibility
00:38:23
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My car was flipped over and I wasn't hurt, but can I sue for mental trauma?
00:38:30
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So Walmart, they want to know if they can sue Walmart for, for letting him go outside in a tornado warning, which I guess it wasn't a warning because the car was flipped over. So it was there. So, you know, um, but he wasn't hurt, but I guess this was traumatic and he wants to know if he can sue. What do you think Kimmy? I mean,
00:38:53
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Obviously, you're an adult, so you're making adult decisions. Don't push those decisions on to other people. Like, unless they flip your car, are you going to sue whichever make and model of your car it was? Yeah. Or whatever deities you choose. I'm going to sue Mother Nature right now. Like, come here, where's Thor at? Get this fucker out of here. Josh, should Brian sue?
00:39:24
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should he sue probably not um because again is he made a decision now if they were
00:39:37
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If they locked him in the store and said, hey, you can't go out, there's a tornado warning, then he probably has grounds to sue based on that. Them detaining him without his permission, but something like that, he made the decision. It'd be hard to sue.
00:40:02
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That really does bring up an interesting dilemma though, right? Like ethical versus legal. Cause like, okay, what if like they see the tornado out there, it's ripping up the parking lot and they like, dude, we can't let you go out there. You're gonna fucking die. You know? And then, you know, if we let you go out there and you die, like.
00:40:18
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That's on your family, your kid, us, but if we don't let you leave, then you're going to be pissed and sue us anyway for not letting you like for detaining you from a tornado. You know, like that's, that's a, that's a slippery slope for, you know, to, to be in, um, not so much for Brian, but for, for everyone else involved, I guess, you know, like, why do you want to go out and that stay somewhere until it passes and then, you know,
00:40:48
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Once it's back to being safe outside, then do it. Being outside in a tornado sucks. Yeah. I've only seen one in my life and it was, it was about a mile away. Like we could see it touching down and I was like, nope, that's a big fat note. I want to be even further away than I am now. Yeah. I think what it was like.
00:41:07
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I don't know. I don't remember what year it was. I was living in Chattanooga, Tennessee and the whole line of tornadoes came up from Alabama and ripped right through. And this was in like April. So they hit overnight and I
00:41:23
Speaker
went to work that day because I have to go to work. I'm an adult. Go to work. I worked at a hotel that was a converted steamboat and it sat on the Tennessee River. No shit. So that night more tornadoes started hitting. So it was mostly employees there. There were a few guests that checked in. We still somehow had power for a little bit. It did cut out.
00:41:47
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But we went out on the deck because the tornadoes started ripping through again and we're watching him and I'm like, God, we're idiots. But I need to watch. Guys, this boat can't move. It's a hotel. We can't we can't. You got to get out of here. Yeah, it was like one of the it was a really old steamboat. It was the Delta Queen. And it was I had had the first female captain. No kidding.
00:42:12
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See, there's so much more history we could learn from you, Kimmy. We're going to need you to listen. I'm going to need a little bit more commitment. You know, you did a good job. You saved it, but I'm going to need more from you next time because like you have way more knowledge in that brain that I just need to hear.
Haunted History of the Delta Queen Steamboat
00:42:26
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You have so much working, you know, I've just been dead. Right. And we're just going to have to, you know, you saved it with a Philly cheesesteak. That was really informative.
00:42:34
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But, you know, now after you talk about the Delta Queen, I need to know more about all this stuff. Yeah, it's haunted. So I mean, hey, you can't just see now. Now we have to have you back. You can't just say that not, you know.
00:42:50
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Brian, you know what, buddy? Yeah, I agree with them. Can you sue? Sure. Why not? Go for it. Go talk to a lawyer and ask them what they think and say, hey, they let me walk out and have my car flipped by a tornado. I'm fine, but I'm emotionally distraught that they allowed me to walk out into a tornado. Well, here's the thing, though, is he's saying he wasn't hurt. Not right there. You cannot sue because
00:43:19
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That means you don't have what's known as a cause of action. Hmm. I wasn't hurt. That's you admitting you do not have a cause of action, which is basically... Basically, what are you hoping to get out of the court? How are you harmed by the defendant?
00:43:49
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in which you need whatever reparation for. Right. Like I need $500,000 because I'm distraught that my car got flipped.
00:44:00
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You know, like if anything, you probably have a closer thing to be like, again, they didn't bring the tornado, but you could be like, Hey, you know, legally, you know, your insurance, I guess is going to cover the car. So like, you don't even need to do that really. Like, I mean, not that I like Sam wall or anything that he's ever created or Walmart in general, but I mean, like, but also it's Walmart. So like, if you're going to sue him, they can probably afford a pretty good lawyer to be like, Hey, you know what? We didn't want to detain him.
00:44:30
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And their lawyers are going to know that they're going to be like, well, you know, they can't illegally detain you. So you're going to go out and get sucked up by a tornado, you know, but that's your decision. If you want to go and do that, we all love the wizard of Oz. Okay. But that doesn't mean we want to go there.
00:44:43
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Yeah, if you want to go find the poop flinging winged monkeys, that's on your decision, but you can't sue them because you said, hey, I somewhere over the rainbow, you know? So, yeah, I concur. I think, you know, and I should be clear. I didn't recognize this because the font is kind of like blended in. But Brian Haas does say on his profile, it says have autism and son has autism.
00:45:09
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So coming at this from like maybe you really don't understand or maybe something about this doesn't click for you, right?
00:45:16
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No, don't do that because ultimately you're going to lose and you're going to have to pay for your own court costs and for the lawyer and all other stuff. And so just from a logical standpoint, this is not something that you are going to get anything from. You would be better if you do have mental trauma to go sign on to better help or find a therapist if you have the insurance and talk to them about your troubles because Walmart is not going to want to hear about it.
00:45:41
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or what they might do is throw you 500 bucks and say, here's a $500 gift certificate, but shop somewhere else at a different Walmart, because we don't want you in this one in case another tornado follows you.
00:45:52
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Yeah, from a strictly logical standpoint, if this is truly something that you don't, that is hard for you to grasp, just don't waste your time, man. Don't waste your time. You know, it ain't worth it. You have better things to do with your life and you can take care of your mental trauma without thinking that a big giant fortune 500 corporation is going to give a fuck about you. You know, so especially if none of the, again, I'm not trying to fight against the Walmart employees because they're just employees, but like, you know,
00:46:18
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really, they probably knew like, well, we can't keep you here as much as we want to. We can't. So, you know, what are you going to do? Kimmy, do you have anything that you want to add to that? No, no, I think I think we got it really good. It's like it's not worth it. Yeah, we're really good at answering questions.
00:46:37
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I think. I think you're doing a great job. I think you're doing a great job. Okay. Kimmy, is there anything that you want to talk about or anything that you want to plug or any message that you want to give to our people before we go to Josh's final words? Anything that you want to say or anything that you've got, any projects, anything you're selling, anything at all that you want to say before we wrap up?
00:46:58
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Not I'm not doing anything at the moment like I'm playing games with friends and You know, I just want to say thank you for having me on here. This has been awesome and I've really had a really fun time
00:47:10
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Yeah, I think I agree. I'm really happy that you were able to come and do this with us, especially after your long work stint. Okay, so before we get to Josh's final words, I just want to say thank you again firstly to Kimmy for coming on. I was trying to get this in the works for about a month and a half. I was starting to think I was never going to get it to work. It wasn't her, it was me, but we got it to work.
00:47:33
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And then also thank you to my good friend from work. His name is James aka Frenzy Junkus. He made our theme song and he recently gave me an updated version of which I'm excited to use on this episode. So thanks buddy if you're still listening to these. I appreciate you man. You're awesome. And whenever you drop that new EP, I'll put all the links in all the shows buddy. So thank you for doing that. And he gave it to me for free. He didn't charge me anything for it so it was really sweet of him.
00:47:57
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And also, if you have any questions that you would like to submit to the show, you can go to Twitter and go to at roleplayerswin, that's R-O-L-L, playerswin on Twitter. Or you can just use hashtag TOQ because I look for those. And we would love to have more of your questions on the show. And also, thank you to Cass for submitting a question. And also, thank you to Josh because he's been my friend for a very long time through thick and through thin.
00:48:25
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We haven't always seen eye to eye on things, but I'm really happy that we still can hang out and do stupid shit like this. So, and having said that Josh, um, give us Josh's final words, buddy. Well, I don't know.
00:50:05
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Mega Man Bound Network legacy collection is coming out next year so I'm looking forward to that. Excellent.