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74. The Sacred Journey to Motherhood: Spirit Baby Wisdom, Postpartum Healing & Reclaiming Your Power with Carla Maldonado
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Hi babes! In this beautiful and deeply personal episode, I sit down with Fertility Doula + Spirit Baby Channel Carla Maldonado for an honest conversation about motherhood, healing, and reconnecting with your feminine power.
Carla opens up about her postpartum experience after the birth of her son, navigating physical challenges like mastitis, the emotional toll of feeling unsupported, and the unexpected identity shift that many women face after becoming mothers. She shares how this difficult time became the catalyst for a profound self-love journey that eventually transformed her marriage, her relationship with herself, and her purpose.
We talk about what shifted for her between her first and second pregnancies, including how energy healing, Akashic Records, and subconscious work supported her in conceiving her daughter Cleo. She walks us through how energetic blocks (like fears around breastfeeding or trauma from past birth experiences) can subtly prevent conception—and how clearing them can create space for your spirit baby to come through.
Carla also shares what it’s like parenting as a Projector with a Manifestor son and Reflector daughter, the importance of teaching children to listen to themselves, and how Human Design helps her nurture her kids' individuality and confidence. We even get into how she energetically supports her son Tiago with nightly energy healing—and the sweet way he asks for it!
We wrap up by diving into Carla’s signature 12-week group program The Conception Vortex, which helps women heal, reconnect with their bodies, communicate with their spirit babies, and manifest conscious conception from a place of deep alignment, joy, and trust.
Whether you’re a mom, soon-to-be mom, or healing your own feminine relationship—this episode will make you feel held, inspired, and reconnected to your power.
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Introduction to Carla Maldonado
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Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the It's Happening For Me podcast. I'm so happy that you guys are with us today. And today we have such a special guest, my good friend, Carla Maldonado. And I'm so excited to introduce you guys to her.
00:00:16
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If you haven't um been introduced into her world yet, so this is going to be really fun.
Bridging Medicine and Spirituality
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So I want to just as usual, go ahead and start by reading you guys her bio because I think it just is like better than I could do justice.
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So Carla is a fertility doula and spiritual baby champ, a spirit baby channel who bridges the gap between Western medicine and the spiritual dimensions of conception.
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Through her ability to communicate with babies before they're born, Carla helps women unlock their unique fertility codes, addressing the mindset, energetic blocks and spiritual baby connection that traditional doctors can't see or measure, which we're going to get into you guys is so juicy.
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And after transforming her own relationship with motherhood, Carla now guides women through a powerful process of stopping the endless, trying to conceive cycle, and instead embracing the sacred journey of conception.
Fertility as a Spiritual Journey
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Her revolutionary approach focuses on rebuilding self-love and trust alongside establishing a profound co-creation with spirit babies who are waiting to come earthside. This work creates energetic foundation where conception can unfold naturally and joyfully.
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And Carla's work isn't only about getting pregnant. It's about reclaiming the sacred nature of the fertility journey and transforming it from a medical event into a spiritual initiation.
00:01:38
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So, yay! Welcome, Carla. Thank you so much for being here. oh thank you. Just listening to this bio, just, aww. Like, i was like, yes, that's the work I do.
00:01:52
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Yes, yes.
Personal Design and Spirit Work
00:01:53
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So tell us, what is your human design type and maybe what is your, like, astrology? Okay, I'm a projector to five projector, which Alyssa, you know everything about that.
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And then in astrology, i think, okay, so we have cancer. We have a Libra rising, I believe. And what's my third one?
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What's your moon? I forget. would be your moon sign, forget what you are. Let me look it up real quick. Yeah, I was like, wait, I have your, um you look it up, but I also have your chart. I have your human design chart because I just love having it. Yeah, I literally was trying to look some, oh, oh okay. So Cancer rising, sort so Cancer, Sun, right? Main signs Sun. then Aquarius moon and Libra rising. That's right.
00:02:44
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Oh my God. I love it. And you guys, what's also interesting too, is we both have the same incarnation cross. It's just switched a little bit, but it's the right angle cross of penetration. So it's so cool to see like us both doing our own work in the world, but we have very similar, like four prime gifts are the same, but they're all just a little switched. So I'm so happy you're here.
00:03:05
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Maybe that's why we love each other so much. Just kidding. you know. No, that's probably why. No, there's so much more. Yeah. Yes. So can you tell us, well, I have so many places that I want to
Energetic Alignment for Conception
00:03:17
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dive in. But first, can you just tell us what is it that you do? And what like really lights your soul on fire?
00:03:25
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Such a good question. So The way, what a big question. I'm like, where do I start? But the way think of the work I do is right now, it's very focused on the trying to conceive um journey. So women who are who have this big dream of getting pregnant and having their baby, there's so much that goes into this um I call it, it's a sacred process.
00:03:55
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When in today's world, Many women are just worrying so much, are so stressed out, and it's often not happening for them. And what I've discovered in my work is that it's more than just the physical aspect. Like, you literally could be doing everything right, meaning your hormones are, you know, at perfect levels.
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you track your ovulation, and then you connect with your partner, but yet still nothing is happening. And when you experience that for a couple months, you start doubting yourself, and you start doubting your body's ability, and you lose that trust of, wait, is it going to happen? And so you start the spiraling, the spiraling, oh my God, like when is it going to happen? And you start doubting, and you you don't believe in your ability to actually get pregnant.
00:04:48
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And that's when you get into this vicious cycle of, okay, when is it gonna happen, right? And so you're just so desperate and you want it so badly, which, you know, i assume most of your listeners are aware of.
00:05:04
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okay, if you want to manifest something, you got to know so deep in your heart that it's going to happen, right? So the work that I do is help um the women that I work with to energetically align themselves. So teach them about things like manifestation. But I also take it a level deeper where we work on the energetic body. And you've had the experience, you had a chance to experience my experience energy healing work and it's so special because it just opens up so much for you and it really just is another opportunity to look at your body in a different way and what could be in the way of of your baby coming through and then I would say the biggest piece and the most important piece of my work is the spirit babies
00:05:56
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Mm-hmm. Yeah, the spirit babies are so special. So if you haven't heard, spirit baby is essentially... ah so So before a soul comes into the into the world, they they chose they choose their
Spirit Babies and Parenthood
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mom.
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Like, your baby chooses you choose your baby, and you all sign a contract. So in order for your baby to come through... the requirements on the contract have to be met. So it might be things like, right, when I connect with a spurt baby, it might be things like, mom, like you need more balance, or you need to have a deeper relationship with your husband. Or it could be things like,
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Like you're already feeling so overwhelmed. So how's there space for me, right? The spirit baby to actually come through when you don't even know how to handle a life as is in a way, right? So it's so insightful to connect with.
00:06:53
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the spurred baby because you learn so much of what needs shifting, but also you really get to build that bond. And while my work right now is focused on, you know, women who are on the reconception journey, like I've done readings for um for ah women who maybe don't even know if they want to have a baby.
00:07:17
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if because there could be trauma or the way they grew up you know maybe they they had a mom that well everyone chooses their mom right but maybe they had a mom that just it was really hard and they don't want to be the same mom that they had and so often it It takes away from that from that dream of becoming a mom.
Overcoming Motherhood Fears
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But then when they connect with their spirit baby, suddenly it's like, wait, i actually do you want to be a mom. And just hearing your spirit baby's confirmation of, no, you're going to be the mom.
00:07:57
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like You can literally be your dream mom. like Just because you grew up in a way that it was really hard for you, it doesn't mean that you have to repeat the same patterns, right?
00:08:07
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so yes I love my spare babies they're so special Oh my God. Just even hearing you talk about the work that you do and have complete clarity, like passion, conviction.
00:08:23
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It's like, holy shit. Because I remember when we first met and for anyone who doesn't know, we met in Dharma Coaching Institute where we got our spiritual life coaching certification. And i remember, and I know you remember this too. I was like, Carla, you, I didn't even think I wanted to have children.
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And then Carla When I saw her being a mom and just the way that she is, i'm like, oh, my God, you actually make like being a mom look like something I would want to potentially do in the future.
00:08:53
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So even just your essence of who you are before you even knew that you're going to do spirit babies and like, you know, help women with this on this very specific like life journey.
00:09:04
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like you already embodied like being this like beautiful mother and like inspiring other people to also be like oh my god maybe I kind of want to like question like my beliefs around motherhood which is so crazy because that's just the essence of you isn't that crazy yes it's so crazy and I was actually reflecting like as I was going through my day today right I was just thinking oh I wonder what Alyssa's gonna ask me and I was thinking back to, you know, it's all about finding that the ideal client and picking your niche,
Journey to Spiritual Coaching
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right? And for me, it was really like a whole journey to get to where i am today.
00:09:44
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But on this journey, ever since I became, ever since we were in this life coaching certification, I was always a mom. I started the certification when my son was, i think, two years old.
00:09:55
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So I was in the midst of you know being postpartum and really finding myself, hence why I did the certification to really figure out what is my purpose. And to now, like, I remember it was such a step for me to focus on moms. Like, it seemed very scary. Because in the beginning, I focused on the postpartum mom and, like, what she needs, the emotional support, and really, like, finding herself, finding her purpose, and finding this new confidence in who she is as a mom now. Like, being able to advocate for herself and her children. and
00:10:32
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I remember it felt so scary to take that step because before, at the very beginning, right, right, you know, when we got the life coaching certification, i was just working with, um you know, I would say my ideal client was probably somebody that was in corporate and was just not happy with life.
00:10:53
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And so to see that evolution, right, of my ideal client and the work that I do. And now to just be fully out of the spiritual closet and to be communicating with babies that aren't even born yet, like, what?
00:11:09
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Like, how did this all happen? But to your point, it's very aligned. And I just love, love, love being a mom. And so it's part of what I show on social media.
00:11:20
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hmm. I, I totally agree. And I just want to say for anyone listening who is still struggling to find like, what is their ideal client? Like, how is it going to unlock?
00:11:31
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It really does just like unlock over time. And I'm sure you can attest to of like that feeling like, Oh my god, like, I just feel like it's I'm never gonna really know who she is. Like it, it feels like such a struggle. And then once you do Can you like, isn't it just like such a soul remembrance, like every cell in your body knows this is who you're supposed to help.
00:11:50
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And like, like, this is it. Yeah, I mean, feel like our journeys, like the our ideal client niche journeys were a little bit different.
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Whereas I feel like I just always thought I was meant to help the like, the corporate that isn't happy ideal client, which there's nothing wrong with it, right? Like that was me. That was me at some point.
00:12:15
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But somehow after tests and lessons and refinding, you know, facing new challenges, i was just opened up to the more to the spiritual aspect of um of life of coaching and
00:12:34
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something just shifted where now when I, you know, when I launch a free class or when I do my free spurt baby readings or my readings in general, there's just more people that are into the work, which, you know, maybe that doesn't mean anything. But to me, it means that wow, like the work I do actually makes a difference.
00:12:55
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And I can just see it. Like people will just randomly message me. Oh my gosh, like I cannot, I cannot believe like that came through oh gosh, thank you so much for the class. Like that was amazing.
00:13:09
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And while of course I got some of that before too, it's just at a different magnitude now. And it just feels effortless in the sense that like,
00:13:23
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Yeah, it's hard to describe, but it seems it feels effortless and it just feels like so aligned.
Life Before Spiritual Path
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Like not to say that there isn't struggle is a really extreme word, right? But like, of course, there are some doubts. And of course, there is like, you know, some overthinking here and there and resistances and, you know, all the things that come up when you're building your own business. But yet it just feels really aligned. And because it's it's a lot of fun for me, a lot of fun.
00:13:53
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Yeah. Yeah. I think that's, it's, that's what they teach in the, in the gene keys too, is like when you really unlock the way that you're here to be of service to others. And it is like that soul line thing for you.
00:14:05
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That is what unlocks the most abundance, prosperity opportunities. So it makes sense that you have a lot more people saying like, Oh my God, like, wait, like I want that because literally this is probably what your soul came here to do. So it's just like, you're going to be more rewarded as you like step into it more and more, which is so cool.
00:14:23
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Yeah. Yeah. Can you take us back to what was your life like before all of this, like before personal growth and development, before having your spiritual awakening?
00:14:34
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Like who was Carla? Like who is Carla? Maybe take us back to college and like um maybe take us to like meeting minor. I think that could be really fun to like share your story with us. Yeah.
00:14:47
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Yeah, so I grew up in Germany and I was really good in tennis. So as I was, you know, in high school and getting ready for college, I always had the option and I know I'm very blessed and privileged to play college tennis in and the United States.
00:15:03
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And that's what I did. I thought be a really fun adventure to at least do a year of studying abroad and having that college experience. And that's what I did. So my freshman year, I ended up at Baylor University in Texas.
00:15:18
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Spoiler alert, we're really good at tennis, ranked number one in the country, but it just wasn't for me. And so I actually went back to a little bit of college in Germany. And then I felt that itch again. You know, when you just feel it, you're just and my, my, you know, i was like, questioning everything.
00:15:35
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But that voice within me was no girl, you gotta to go to the US again and try one more time to study abroad and do college. And I was like, okay. So redid my search. And this time I focused on a college that was in ah in ah in a place that would be fun for me.
00:15:56
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So I ended up at St. Mary's College of California in the northern you know in the San Francisco Bay Area. And while the tennis was a struggle...
00:16:09
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I did meet Miner there after three months of being at the college. I did meet my back then boyfriend, now husband. We're celebrating 13 years of being together. i know. And yeah, we're really meant to be together. Like we're just best friends.
00:16:29
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um And he's really been part, a huge, huge part of my growth, to be honest. When I met him, my you know My whole entire life was around tennis. like Everything was about tennis. I was sponsored. i you know My dream was to be ah professional tennis player and travel the world and play these big tournaments. But it just wasn't a right anymore. you know When you just have that feeling that, dang, it just feels too hard.
00:16:58
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like It just feels too hard. And there was just too much struggle and my body wasn't holding up. And now... I feel like we we both have the same belief around this, but sometimes physical symptoms are just a reflection of you know, life in general, like what's going on emotionally could come through as a physical symptom.
Inner Journey and Self-Discovery
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So I was having a lot of injuries and then it just didn't work out anymore with the tennis. And so I focused on academics for the first time, like, you know, not the first time, of course, in my life, but like there was nothing else to focus on because I didn't have the tennis anymore. And so that's when I dove into
00:17:40
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academics, like I said, but also I discovered yoga and I had my first um really close best friend back then. who exposed me to all of that, who was into some, you know, like, voo-voo stuff.
00:17:55
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And she just opened that door for me. And that's when I started the journey. And I i did a yoga teacher training. And, you know, over the next few years, I just did a little bit more and a little bit more. i did the workshop and...
00:18:11
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But coming back to the mat was always my safe haven. Like when I was in my first corporate job and I worked tons and tons of hours at KPMG, I still made the time on the mat.
00:18:23
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And that's, I feel like, when I started this like inner journey to just heal some of the the difficulty saying goodbye to, you know, Carla, the tennis player, and really finding
Family Health Challenges
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myself as this new version and this new person who shoot, who is she without tennis? It took me a long time to discover just cover that new version of me. And minor was a big part of that because we were so young. Like we were both, I think, 21 when we started dating. And, you know, I feel like being in another country, like my family was far away, which of course sometimes makes it easier to rediscover yourself, right?
00:19:02
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But it also, it was challenging too. And yeah, it was ah it was a long journey that there was some health issues eventually of my husband that he discovered and he was dealing with chronic illness. And it was really bad.
00:19:20
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was really bad. I'm not going to lie. It was really hard on us. And I realized when he was going through, you know, all his health stuff that There's more to life.
00:19:34
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There's more to life than being in my, you know, like, I i don't know, some weeks I was working like 60, 70 hours. And I'm like, that's not what life's about.
Pregnancy and Its Challenges
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Like, I would just be so excited for my 25 PTO days, which I know were a lot, but I'm like, that's not what life is about. Like, come on. And so...
00:19:53
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I would listen to all these podcasts, like trying to heal my husband, but also just learning, like, how can I eat better? Like, how can I help him like nourish himself better? Like what could be something?
00:20:06
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And that's when I also started a um integrative health practitioner certification. Spoiler alert, i never finished it because I realized that I'm really not that good at anything like biology or remembering. Like, it's really hard for my brain to, like, remember those kind of concepts, to be honest. Same.
00:20:27
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But that's when I like opened myself up to what is out there. And I was, I became very focused on finding my purpose. And like, I just knew i wanted to have my own business. Like I didn't know what it could be. I thought maybe the health coaching, but then it wasn't. And so it took me a few more years to actually figure it out and to just continue this journey.
00:20:52
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And then Do you want me to keep talking? I feel like I've been talking for you. Yeah. Okay, cool. I love it. Yeah. Okay, cool. Keep going. Okay, cool. And then, you know, after a few years, my husband and I, we got married. Um,
00:21:08
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And then eventually i got pregnant and it wasn't planned. And i usually try not to share that because I work with a lot of women who, you know, their sole goal at this very moment is getting pregnant and conceiving their baby. But for us, it just happened.
00:21:29
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And it happened because at that time, yes, my help my husband was physically doing better. But he was about to hit another huge test, awakening, you know, rebirth, where when I was pregnant, he actually got really sick again.
00:21:49
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and We needed our son, who then, you know, eventually was born, to get us through the hard time. Like, literally, I feel like just talking through all this makes me emotional because, it like, that's why he came through.
00:22:06
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Like, my husband needed him to just get through life, to just have something to live for. because it got really bad like he he um he essentially got eventually got diagnosed with Lyme disease and think six or eight co-infections which it has been a journey that you know modern ah western medicine isn't quite equipped to help with once you're in the chronic stage and um so yeah we've been through it and and yeah
00:22:44
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Wow. Oh my gosh. Can you tell us more about what it was like? This kind of leads into what I wanted to ask about what it was like when you um had Tiago, because this was your first child. You weren't expecting it Like,
00:22:59
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ah what Were you scared? Were you nervous? Were you excited? Like, can you kind of walk us through like the different emotions that you had? And then also maybe talk to us about like, postpartum, like what it was like, actually, once he came here, like, was there any struggles that you like, and went through?
00:23:16
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Yes, yes to all. So when, so pregnancy actually was pretty smooth. Like, I'm not gonna lie, it was actually pretty smooth, except that we're like hours away from where we actually live because my husband was getting this, this, um you know, special therapy treatment.
00:23:37
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So we're in a different state. I was like way pregnant. and And yet I was driving occasionally back and forth because we're actually living in Nevada at that time, like for my husband's treatment. Yeah, I don't think I ever shared that with you. Yeah, no. Yeah, we literally had the baby shower for my son.
00:23:55
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And then a couple days after we left to go to Reno, Nevada. And it was hard to be pregnant, that I didn't have any physical issues. Yes, I was, you know, I gained tons of weight and I was, um um you know, swollen, my fingers are really swollen. And then I was in the altitude.
00:24:23
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And I'm just going to tell this the story because it's pretty funny. And so if anyone's pregnant, just remember to take off your rings. Because I literally, like, one morning, was, like, trying so hard to take my rings off. And it was, like, essentially already too late. So I looked up on YouTube, like, how do you take your rings off?
00:24:41
Speaker
So I was sitting there with, like, floss trying to take them off. Like, floss for the teeth. Like, some weird technique. But anyway, so pregnancy was pretty smooth. but emotionally it was a toll because I was my husband's caretaker and he just needed a lot from me, like a lot. And at the same time, was also working full time. Like it was a lot, but yet I know I'm very strong person and I handle it all. Right.
Postpartum Struggles and Support
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So then fast forward, i think I returned a week early from when my husband's treatment was ending because I wanted to be in back home before Thanksgiving. My husband my son's due date was, I believe, December 8th.
00:25:30
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So there wasn't a lot of time. Like, I was literally, like, eight months pregnant, and I was ah away from home, away from my doctor, like,
00:25:43
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I guess I didn't allow myself to even go there. Like what would happen if the baby came early? You know, like that thought, I just knew that, okay, he would come around his due date period.
00:25:54
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And then once my husband returned to like, you know, a week later, ah was like, okay, cool. Now he can come. And I feel like it allowed me to just relax a little bit.
00:26:07
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So then, yeah, I had my son. Birth was also relatively smooth. We knew that we wanted a doula at birth just because we didn't know how present my husband could actually be.
00:26:20
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And so we had a doula. My husband did amazing. like he literally did amazing. He did everything that, you know, you would wish a husband partner to do for you. So no complaints whatsoever.
00:26:32
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And then the birth was interesting. went very quickly, which I'm so grateful for, like very quickly. And the key to birth is always just surrendering, like surrendering and allowing for your baby to come through. Kind of like you surrender to like, you know, everything that's kind of hard, right? You need to just let it happen. Mm-hmm.
00:26:53
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And that's how birth was. it was an unmedicated birth for me, um which is something that I desired, but I also allowed myself to just be okay with whatever, you know, was going to happen.
00:27:06
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and I just actually talked to a um labor and delivery nurse about the midwife that was present at my birth because she wasn't meant to be doing the work anymore.
00:27:18
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And what that looked like is, you know, When things became a little bit complicated and they couldn't find his heartbeat, which, you know, is actually pretty common.
00:27:30
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They really opted, like, she wanted a C-section, like, real quick when I was, like, fully dilated and essentially ready to pop out the baby. so I'm so grateful my doula was there because she's like, no, no, no, like, we'll try pushing.
00:27:45
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And then boom. I feel like I pushed once or twice or three times, however many times, like, it wasn't many. And boom, he came out. He had the umbilical cord around his neck three times. So that was scary. But he was like perfect. Like he was good.
00:27:58
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Like he was good. So then i was on this high because my birth plan, you know, people don't like calling it birth plan because you literally don't know what's going to happen. But whatever, we'll just go with birth plan. You know, it it happened exactly the way that I wanted to happen.
00:28:17
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And so you're kind of like, you're like, at least that's what I thought. I was like, okay, the worst is over. From now on, it's going to be even easier, right? But what I didn't realize is now, now is when the hard time, like now is when the challenge actually starts. Like you have this little baby that you need to take care of and You know, my goal my my dream, my goal was to nurse him. And again, i wasn't even aware that maybe that couldn't happen. Like, of course, I read about it, but I was very naive, I would say.
00:28:52
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i was in my own little bubble. And breastfeeding was hard for me. was hard. And i thought I figured it all out.
00:29:03
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But then it when my son was three three weeks old, which is around the time that, you know, it was Christmas and Christmas, And New Year's happened too. I felt this knot in my boob.
00:29:16
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And I was like, holy these smokes, what is that? And essentially, what can happen is that you can, you can, there can, milk can accumulate in your breast.
00:29:28
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And it can get as infected if you don't take care of it. Now, for me, it wasn't infected yet. But I also had no idea what I was doing. And because it was around the holidays, it was a little bit challenging. And so...
00:29:39
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I probably didn't react as fast as I shouldn't have. And so i got it got worse and it got infected. And then the antibiotics didn't help or it took them too late, like whatever. It just wasn't great. And so it got really bad, really bad.
00:29:58
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And I think this is where maybe I was like, I was hoping that my husband would maybe like help up more or i feel like this is where I think we just did too much. It's not even about my husband. I think we just did too much because we're too excited to have our son and for my husband to be feeling better that like, we're just so happy.
00:30:22
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Like we weren't struggling, you know? And so we just did too much. We celebrated too much. And it wasn't even that we did anything crazy. No, it's literally going to the in-laws, going to a friend's house.
00:30:34
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But you're out of your routine. And part of, you know, the the new mom is like being in touch with your body. Like actually like, you know, touching and feeling your boobs, making sure that everything is good.
00:30:46
Speaker
And I didn't do all that. And I didn't know that I was actually producing too much milk. And so what had happened, there was just like too much milk that he wasn't drinking. And so it just became an issue.
00:30:57
Speaker
And I ended up needing see somebody to just get that handled with. And it just ended up being really hard for me. Like this is when I just felt it all. Like I don't think I was depressed.
00:31:15
Speaker
But I was struggling, like struggling hard. Like I was like, mom, like, can you come over from Germany? She's like, no, your sister's going to come. And then they were going to come eventually. But like, I wanted somebody there, like in that moment, you know, it was like hard.
00:31:32
Speaker
And I feel like this is probably where I missed a little bit that like support from my husband, but just he wasn't recovered enough yet to like be fully there, you know? So it was just struggle.
Importance of Support Networks
00:31:43
Speaker
Now, looking back, I know that it was all supposed to happen this way. Like, literally. Because if it wouldn't have been that hard for me... I probably would have recovered easier. And like being a mom wouldn't have been that hard in the very beginning. And I wouldn't have had that awakening to like, holy smokes.
00:32:01
Speaker
Because what I realized in these like first months, you know, this is also when COVID hit and we moved. Well, we didn't move, but we went to Germany and we're actually stuck there for like two or three months. So a good amount of time while I was on maternity leave.
00:32:17
Speaker
And... I just realized that, oh, shoot, like, I don't have the energy. Like, something I think physically also wasn't working the way it's supposed to mentally as well as virtually, because I didn't have that zest for a life that I have right now.
00:32:37
Speaker
I just didn't have it in me. Like I didn't even know like really what lit me up, you know? Like i had my son, and I loved him hard. Like I want to spend all my moments with him, but yet something was just missing. And I think this is when I started like this journey again of figuring myself out, finding myself, finding myself as a mom, because it's a big transition of becoming a mom.
00:33:04
Speaker
And all of a sudden, like being in charge and taking care of this little munchkin. and then also the relationship with your partner just changes naturally because you're both taking on new roles, right? Mm-hmm.
00:33:20
Speaker
What happens is that your personal time it just like so little all of a sudden. Once you become a mom, because you essentially just have like once baby goes to bed.
00:33:33
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I mean, of course, you can get help and you can do all these things. But you more have those two hours at night where your baby goes to bed and then it's your alone time. And at the same time, you're tired.
00:33:46
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hmm.
00:33:48
Speaker
So yeah, what's coming up as you're all this? What questions do you have? Yeah, no. So i I was wondering, it makes so much sense if you could touch on that too, of like the relationship with like the husband changes, because like you said, it's like, okay, now you have this like two hour window like when the baby goes to bed, I'm sure the last thing you want to do is' like also just be with your husband. It's like...
00:34:11
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Like, isn't there some part of you that's like, okay, I just like, I'm so tired or like, oh, I just want to like watch my own thing or do It's like, you're kind of like over overstimulated. Would you say that? It's like the whole time you always have the baby that you're probably like always nursing or just always with.
00:34:24
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I know your husband also wants your attention and you're like, like, when can I ever just like be by myself? Did you ever feel like that? Yeah, I think it's a very common feeling that new moms feel.
00:34:37
Speaker
it's I think they call it like being touched out too. Yeah, being touched out. um
00:34:45
Speaker
I felt that, yes and no, for sure. i think for me, it was more like just generally feeling tired that the last thing I want to do is like, especially like the physical and the connection piece like, okay, like I don't know when baby's going to wake up, you know?
00:35:02
Speaker
So you already aren't sleeping like that great time. And then, yeah, the last thing on my to-do list, oh my gosh, that sounds so terrible, is like connecting with my partner.
00:35:14
Speaker
see um But yeah, I think a lot just happens when both men and women become parents because...
00:35:27
Speaker
Your responsibilities change so much. I feel like for me, there's just so much emotional weight that I carry to make sure that, yeah, like all the doctor's appointments are scheduled, that, you know, like we have food in the fridge for lunch and...
00:35:44
Speaker
It's like literally little decisions or little things that I'm thinking about, but yet they add to my load, if that makes sense. Or, you know, now as the kids get older, right, making sure that you sign them up for whatever summer camp or like swim class, like there's a lot of things that just...
00:36:06
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take from you and it's even more crucial to find these moments for you. i think a perfect example is, um and that's really what I struggled in the beginning. Like I did not know how to fill my own cup with Like having not much time and not much help.
00:36:27
Speaker
So this is where i learned and I finally woke up and I was like, oh my gosh, I cannot do this alone. And that's what my breast infection, the mastitis and abscess that I had taught me. Like I needed the help.
00:36:44
Speaker
Like I needed to ask for help. When I had my doctor's appointment, I needed somebody to come in and and watch my son. Mm-hmm. And that was crazy to me because to me, I always thought that I would be a super mom, like a super woman who just does it all.
00:37:03
Speaker
But it's literally not possible. And I think that was a huge learning that I had that early on in motherhood. Whereas like, no, i need to rely on, you know, my village around, i need to rely on the people around me who like want to make food who want to bring me something over who want to watch the baby or who who just like even the cleaning lady you know like have somebody that takes something off your load so that you don't have to do it all and you can spend
Second Pregnancy Insights
00:37:36
Speaker
those micro moments that maybe you would have cleaned you know no you can spend that to just go in your room and literally be alone for however long 20 minutes 30 minutes
00:37:47
Speaker
and just be. and see I love that. I love that so much. How would you say that that so that was like your experience with the first pregnancy? and How was it different with Cleo? Like after you kind of like learned everything that you learned, and like also with the work that you do now, like, was there any differences? Like, did you still have like the natural birth? Can you talk to us about that?
00:38:13
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Yeah. And I just want to touch on one more thing that was coming through for
00:38:21
Speaker
It took me, i would say, probably like two and a half years to literally feel like good, like to feel like me Which is wild. And there was like other things that happened. But essentially, it's when I started doing the healing work in our DCI um certification, Dharma Coaching Institute certification.
00:38:43
Speaker
they started like just finding myself and I started feeling really confident in me, like who I was and my work. And that trickled into my relationship with my husband.
00:38:53
Speaker
Mm-hmm. So I would say that, you know, in the beginning, of course, I loved him so hard. But I feel like if we reflect back and we look at those first couple of years of becoming parents, I would say that it was hard because he probably didn't get what he was looking for and neither did Because, you know, my love languages are quality time, words it of affirmation. And he's really good. Like, my husband is really good. I love him so much. But...
00:39:26
Speaker
We just didn't have that depth to talk about these things and to have the conversations. So once I was doing the work and once, you know, I also had a a coach energy healer myself, she would ask me the hard questions. And I was like, oh, yeah, right.
00:39:44
Speaker
Actually has nothing to do with my husband. It's all me, you know. Yeah. And so once i started changing, i could see the change in my husband. I could see our relationship transform.
00:39:56
Speaker
I could see us having different conversations and me challenging him and me opening his eyes too, Mm-hmm. And so that set me up really well to become a mom again. But I needed four years in between my son and my daughter to just find myself and to figure out life.
00:40:17
Speaker
Because honestly, before the four-year mark, we wouldn't have been ready. Like, of course, we would have made it work. You know what I mean? But I would have just been too overwhelmed with building my business, with...
00:40:31
Speaker
Being a mom, like still in my corporate job, but like my relationship with my husband, it would have just been like way too much. So Cleo happened when she was meant to happen.
00:40:43
Speaker
There is a four year age gap for a reason in this case when, you know, a lot of women desire. you know, like smaller age gaps. But to me, it it was the biggest blessing.
00:40:56
Speaker
yeah, for Cleo, we actually did try. For my daughter, we did try. um It was interesting because... Part of the work that I do is really digging into subconscious blocks that you may have.
00:41:15
Speaker
And I was sharing the story with my boobs before and boobs being breasts, my whole, you know, history of having the breast infection. And that really... That's probably one of the hardest times I've gone through my life. Like, literally. Like, i I haven't struggled that hard. Probably that and studying abroad in high school when I was studying abroad in Australia.
00:41:42
Speaker
And I was really homesick. And then also when... um Yeah, the breast infection. And then also... the um leaving my tennis career like saying goodbye to my tennis career like I would say like those three situations were really hard for for me as well as you know my husband's health crisis but what I realized in all of this is okay so here's another story I was just getting my checkup done, right? Because I was like, okay, if I want to have a child again, i need to make sure that my blood work, my hormones, like everything is like pristine, you
00:42:23
Speaker
And so I actually sought out a new doctor who had a little bit more of an integrative approach and who just looked a little bit deeper than the doctor had previously. Mm-hmm.
00:42:37
Speaker
And in that, she also was a um a nurse practitioner that was focused on female health. And so I went to see her. And when I saw her, she also did the regular like annual exam.
00:42:52
Speaker
And so she touched my boobs. And my worst fear was always like something being wrong. And so she, because of what I experienced with, you know, in my postpartum.
00:43:05
Speaker
And so, of course, she touches my boob and it's not a great feeling, right? You know? And so she just she's like, oh, I want you... She's like, oh, like I feel something interesting.
00:43:17
Speaker
So the alarm bells go off in my brain and I'm freaking out. Of course, I'm staying calm, but I'm literally freaking out. And she goes, i want you to get a second opinion. and Luckily, I had the relationship with the other breast doctor that I got a second opinion, like literally the day after, two days after. Because, I mean, imagine and sitting in this like uncertainty of I have no idea what's going on with my boob for like, you know, multiple like weeks. Oh my gosh.
00:43:52
Speaker
So scary. But yeah, so I got in and she checks everything. There's ultrasound. She's like, oh no, everything looks great. And here's... The turning point. I asked her, by the way, if I would get pregnant again, could I nurse my daughter like normal?
00:44:09
Speaker
Because what happened with my son is that I had to stop nursing him on one side and I supplemented with formula. And so i i just had this dream of nursing my daughter again.
00:44:21
Speaker
But yet it was this block I had that I didn't even know I had. that as soon as I got that work through and of course the doctor said yeah of course like don't worry like everything kind of heals and you just start over like your boob will leg adjust I was like oh cool and so I had another checkup with her a couple months after and a couple months after that I got pregnant and I cannot that it for sure was a block of resistance that I had in my energetic body of that uncertainty around the breastfeeding that kept me from actually getting pregnant, which is wild.
00:45:02
Speaker
Like that's when I connected all the dots and I was like, holy smokes, there is more to it than just the physical. Like you could literally have something your subconscious that you aren't even aware of blocking you from getting pregnant.
00:45:16
Speaker
Mm hmm. It's so wild. That's So yeah, then I was pregnant, had my daughter eventually. Pregnancy was again, like really smooth. And in the pregnancy, actually, at the very end, this is when I started working and I had my first Akashic reading.
00:45:36
Speaker
Mm-hmm. And this is when she connected me with my spurt baby, who was in my belly already. And she shared about, you know, birth and how postpartum would go.
00:45:49
Speaker
and I remember her telling me, he's like, you don't have to worry. Like, it will be smooth. Your birth will be smoother than the last. And your postpartum will be smoother than the last. Like, you don't have to worry. You don't have to worry about the breastfeeding. Like, it will not be an issue. Mm-hmm.
00:46:03
Speaker
And just hearing all that, going into birth, going into postpartum, like, when you have the belief that it will all go the way you envision it to go it just allows you to surrender.
00:46:17
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it allows you to just know it's going to work out. And that literally changes everything. So, yeah, my birth was super quick. I got to the hospital. So I felt first contractions probably 2 a.m. or something like that.
00:46:32
Speaker
Did some Legos and in the bed and like, I don't know, 6 with Tiago. told my husband, you got to drop him off at school, come back, and we go to the hospital. Yeah, for some reason, I still do hospital births.
Improved Postpartum Experience
00:46:45
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um I'm not like a home birth girly yet. I'm not sure I'll ever get there. But yeah, so my husband drops him off, tries. He doesn't want to leave the the car. He says his tummy's hurting so much he cannot go to school today.
00:47:01
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i call my husband. I'm like, you need to come back because this is getting serious. And there's usually always a little bit of traffic on the way to the hospital. So I called the doula and she's like, yeah, you guys should get going.
00:47:16
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So then we get to the hospital. By then it was, I think I have a story actually. um i think it was like 925 when we get there Cleo was born at 1002 or 1005 or something like that. Oh um my God. I know.
00:47:35
Speaker
I know. It was wild. And and If you have been pregnant or maybe you know, but they when you go when you get admitted to the hospital, they check how far you're dilated.
00:47:50
Speaker
And essentially, I think they want you to be like fully dilated before you know like it can progress and you can eventually start pushing. So with Cleo, I could not believe it. The woman told me, she's like, you're six centimeters dilated. And I was like, in my head, right? In my head, i'm like, wait, what?
00:48:10
Speaker
Because that felt pretty serious to me, you know what I mean? Like, I had hard time walking. And so then i have a hard time walking over to the room, which was just a couple doors away.
00:48:24
Speaker
I just, like, I struggled. Like, i really struggled. Not that it was so painful, just more like really uncomfortable, like, period cramps. Like, really uncomfortable. Yeah.
00:48:36
Speaker
But yeah, it went it like it went so quickly that they called my doctor. Like, they didn't even have time to check me in. The doctor got there. Like, she put her gloves on because I had switched practices because of the whole boob situation. And i had a new doctor.
00:48:55
Speaker
And one of these doctors will be at the birth. So she literally puts her gloves on. And the but she catches the baby. Or I actually caught her. Like, i caught her, but she was there, like, to support because I birthed my daughter, like, standing. It was really cool. Mm-hmm.
00:49:13
Speaker
Wow. I know. That was really special. So it just happened so quickly. And there was a lot of people in the room. Now, it was kind of my own zone. So I don't remember everything. But it was very quickly. And then the first, they call it the golden hour. But that first nursing session was just really special.
00:49:32
Speaker
um i had a lot of time with her. And she was crying so hard when she came out. so hard because think it just all happened a way too quickly for her that her nervous system was just so overwhelmed so poor little baby cried a lot but then she eventually calmed down she nursed beautifully and yeah we left the hospital a day later and I must say like postpartum was pretty smooth I was I still had some
00:50:04
Speaker
you know, I'll call it PTSD. Obviously, it wasn't PTSD, but you know what I mean? Like, I had this this anxiousness, I call it anxiety, about the breastfeeding.
00:50:16
Speaker
But then I always remembered, no, like, Spur Baby said it would be all smooth. And at that point, I knew exactly what I needed to do. Like, I had the...
00:50:27
Speaker
um like the inflammatory like medicine that I would take when I did feel anything. i took another supplement to just kind of like help the flow.
00:50:38
Speaker
had some other tinctures. Like I was equipped well. And even when I did get like a little of clogged duct that they call it like a milk duct, like I always worked it out. Now, did it like, did I worry about it? For sure.
00:50:56
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But it it worked itself out pretty beautifully. And I would say that, you know, with her, like, because I was so in my power as a mom, and because I was so in my power as a woman in general...
00:51:10
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I felt like myself pretty quickly. and Pretty quickly. I would say, yes, I felt some like hormonal shifts and hormonal anxiety at the beginning, especially like every time would kind of get dark, like I could just feel like a little bit anxious when usually I'm not an anxious person.
00:51:30
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um But I could just feel it. And, you know, I just distracted myself and like, just went through my day like I just you know like watch something or read something or just played with the baby had her sleep on me like something you know but yeah it it it it went really smoothly now the you know I think was January she was born in December and then January I started my Akashic practitioner certification and huh And I think I just did things that filled me up.
00:52:04
Speaker
You know, I did things that brought me joy. Like, I actually knew what brought me joy. i wouldn't just be in front of Netflix all day, which, you know, that is what I did some days of with my son. Oops.
00:52:15
Speaker
And it didn't make me feel that great. So, like, I knew exactly, like, how to fill my cup. I wasn't afraid to ask for help. Like, luckily, my my husband was is a lot more stable. Like, thank God. Yeah.
00:52:28
Speaker
And he was able to just assist more and help more, especially with my son. and But it it was a huge shift, like huge shift.
00:52:39
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And yes, the weight didn't drop as quickly as I wanted to. But then again, I didn't really try. you know what I mean? But everything else, like I just felt like myself, like I felt good, like.
00:52:56
Speaker
and It's hard to put a number on it because it happened pretty quickly, but I would say like, I don't know, around three months, like maybe even a little bit quicker. Like, of course, physically you're still recovering, but...
00:53:09
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I would say like mentally, emotionally, like I felt really good. and
Personal Growth and Relationships
00:53:15
Speaker
Wow. I, yeah, I want to reflect back to you. I like what you said about how, and especially in your work too, with the women that you work with, it started with like the self, like the self-love. And then once you kind of like got that, like on lock again and like felt really good in your power and like knew exactly who you were again and like found those like pockets of time, you know, to be alone for yourself and like add back in the stuff that like you love to learn about, like this time around the Akashic Records, right?
00:53:43
Speaker
It's like you did the first, like it's kind of like the first journey in the Gene Keys where it's the path of enlightenment through the self and then it unlocks the love and relationships. Then you're able to like have a deeper relationship with your husband, you know, because instead of, I think sometimes what people want to do is just like look more to the partner and be like, oh, like, why are things not how I want to be? And kind of like, um kind of try to see what's wrong with the partner, right?
00:54:11
Speaker
But it's like, oh, actually, if you focus on your own self-love journey, and you start to really love yourself again, and like, and and have acceptance and like understanding for yourself, it just makes you more compassionate for the other person. And then instead of like seeing what's wrong with them, you're able to see actually like, wow, like the good in them instead. And then your energy is like different. And then that's opening it up for them to to respond to you differently. Right. So I think it's so beautiful how like, yeah, it starts with yourself and then the relationships get better.
00:54:40
Speaker
Yes. So true. So true. So true. Like I couldn't have said it better. Mm hmm. Um, okay. So can you but talk to us about what what is it like having, so Tiago's a manifester, right?
00:54:57
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yu And Cleo is a reflector. i was so honored. don't know if you were still in the hospital or if you're at home, but I remember you sent me her birth information so I could like look up her chart and I was like, ah, I'm like, she's a reflector.
00:55:11
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So, which is so cool. So, and also, sorry, i I just think now too, about any time that there's like a full moon or something, you know, or something going on with the moon, I feel like you always say that she sometimes like has trouble sleeping or like, you'll just notice changes in her.
00:55:25
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So can you talk to us what it's like having, as a projector mom, having manifestor son and now a reflector daughter?
00:55:36
Speaker
Yes. Oh my gosh. It's like the wildest. And I don't know if you just mentioned it, but my husband is a generator. Did you mention that? No. Okay. So yeah, we we're like a... mean, we're already like, what's the term? In a racial family? You know, my husband's Guatemala and I'm German. But...
00:55:53
Speaker
And we live in California. But yeah, it's really interesting to have my son um being a manifester. And as I was finding myself, I really dove into his human design and I learned more about him and what is a manifester.
00:56:12
Speaker
And I looked at some of his um ah gifts, right? Or channels or is that what it's called? Yeah, right. Mm-hmm. And I was like, oh, like he's meant to be doing things alone. Like he might just sometimes go adventure. And I really would see that. Like when he'd be at the park, like he would just like kind of like wander off. And I'm like, oh, that's just him being in his element, right?
00:56:36
Speaker
So instead of just limiting him in that sense, like I try to just kind of like follow him, like encourage him to like do his own thing. But it's really beautiful to see that development, um,
00:56:50
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In him and him becoming his own little person.
00:56:55
Speaker
And I must say, like, I know my daughter is a reflector, but I haven't looked too closely in reflectors. I did at the very beginning, but then I kind of stopped because she's still so little.
00:57:08
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But I have noticed that certain full moons, she has a hard time sleeping. You're right on that. and But it's not all full moons. It's, like, very interesting.
00:57:20
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But yeah, I think there's more to come on on the, you know, parenting your children and according to the human design, because I think it is very insightful. But yeah, my daughter is still so a little that i've our um I don't exactly know.
00:57:37
Speaker
and the other thing I know with my son, I remember is that He really needs his um recharging time, right? Isn't that a thing for manifestors?
00:57:48
Speaker
And so my my son, he actually loves, like, I wouldn't say he loves going to bed, but like he loves his rest. He also was very like, you know, kids eventually stop napping, but he always kind of like loved his nap.
00:58:03
Speaker
And so that's where I also connected the dots on, wait, like, I think this is him being a manifester and just being in this element and like, recharging so much at night that he has energy again in the mornings. And I also saw that he initiated a lot.
00:58:19
Speaker
And I think that's also what makes him a manifester, right? Mm-hmm. just starting things like at the playground in his classroom and then kids just like following him and like doing what he does so being that natural like leader and you know to be honest as a mom I just try to like let them do their thing in a way that it's you know of course safe and in a way that it just allows them to be like the babies the children that they're meant to be to not limit them
00:58:51
Speaker
um But yeah, you think some one thing I want to add is that when I first learned about human design and I learned that I was a projector and I learned about, you know, just having like limited energy, i really made that limit myself.
00:59:08
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Like big time. At some point, I even believed that maybe I'm not supposed to be a mom because I'm a projector. oh my gosh. Isn't that crazy? i feel like I never fully believed it, but I doubted it.
00:59:21
Speaker
I also heard things like, oh, as a projector, you're not supposed to sleep in the same bed as your husband. And I was like doubting that, you know, just like dumb stuff like that.
00:59:32
Speaker
And then eventually I'm like, no, like, pretty sure that's not true. It's just, like, one interpretation. And i literally really love being a mom. Like, I do see that sometimes I parent differently than my husband, who is a generator.
00:59:48
Speaker
and I do things, you know, even when I might feel a little bit tired, I might just play with the kids being on the ground so I can still, like, like rest, but, like, you know, be playful and and really...
01:00:01
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show them the love um or I've also noticed that when I take myself out of my usual environment it also helps me to just reset and re like re-energize almost meaning like going on a walk or i remember that one specific day where I was solo parenting my daughter and she was really little And I remember not having a car and I was like, no, I just want food, like outside food. You know, and I remember walking downtown where we live. It's like a 15, 20 minute walk. But I felt so tired, like before leaving the house, that that felt like a stretch, like a 20 minute walk.
01:00:44
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but remember I remember got to the restaurant and I was like, no, like, I'm gonna treat myself to a nice dinner, like a solo dinner, which is something I would have never done, like, never done before, because I would just feel awkward, like, being by
Finding Joy and Energy in Motherhood
01:00:59
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myself. I would feel so uncomfortable to be by myself. Like, I feel like whenever it was, like, time for me to be by myself, I would distract myself with, like, you know, emotional eating or watching shows or You know, hanging out with friends so I wouldn't have to be alone. Like, I always stayed busy in that sense.
01:01:21
Speaker
And when you become the mom, you're forced to be alone a lot. When you become pregnant, you're also, you know, more alone because you don't feel as good. So you're naturally not leaving the house as much.
01:01:34
Speaker
So it's it was a really interesting discovery that when I went to the restaurant and literally filled my own cup with just you eating the appetizer, eating the you know eating all the foods. I think I even got dessert.
01:01:47
Speaker
And I walk home and I literally had all the energy. It was so wild. So wild. And I had a great time. Like she was part of the dinner. She was napping.
01:01:59
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And the other part, I was just having her on my my lap, you know? Like, she was a little back then. was just nursing her and hanging out with her. Yeah, was cute. You're the coolest mom. Like, i always say, I'm like, you're just, like, mom goals. I remember even um you sent me a voice note. I think it was, like, recently this, like, in the past couple of weeks, where you're like, oh, like, I'm just, like, talking to Tiago and, like, asking him, like, what does Tiago want? You know, like, you're really getting him to tune into his own voice. And I feel like even...
01:02:28
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I feel like you're, it's it's so cool that you are open to all of this stuff and like you're raising children to teach them how to tune into themselves and be themselves because as manifestor children, a lot of times they're conditioned to be like completely shut off their voice, to stop talking, to stop being loud. They're they're labeled as um interruptive. They're labeled as all of these things where it's like, really, like you said, they are the initiators. They are supposed to like go first to say the things. And so I love how you like bring him back into himself. Yeah.
01:02:57
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Yeah, like, I didn't realize this, because my son's, you know, five now. He's my firstborn, but he had just switched school. So he went from preschool to now being in an elementary school where they have like a transitionary kindergarten program.
01:03:15
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And I didn't realize that at five years old, and mind you, the kids were four when they started, and then they were all turning five, that shit went down.
01:03:25
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like there'd be, like, bullying, there'd be, like, hitting and kicking. I was like, wait, what? Like, why is that happening?
01:03:36
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And so once we learned that, I really made it a focus on myself to... just fill my son up with all the confidence, like so much confidence so that he could advocate for himself. So he could say no. So he could say, you know, like we just had another incident where one of his friends told him like, Hey, pick up your backpack.
01:04:01
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No, sorry. he He was like, pick up my backpack. You know, like, like demanding him to pick up his backpack. And it's like, no, like, you don't listen. Like, the people that you listen to is mommy, daddy, your teachers, adults, you know, certain adults.
01:04:20
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But you don't listen to just friends who tell you to do something. Like, sometimes they tell them, like, hey, hit this person. Or fight. Or like pick up this person's backpack. No, like you just listen to Tiago. That's what we tell him. You listen to you.
01:04:38
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Like what's he saying? What's your body telling you, right? Like that's what the conversations I'm trying to have with him. And he's actually catching on pretty quickly. And this just made my heart like jump. My husband told me, yeah, now every time before I drop him off, my husband tells me,
01:04:57
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I tell him, who are you going to listen today? And my son says, Tiago. And was like, great. And then he goes like, who's your boss? And he goes, Tiago.
01:05:08
Speaker
It's like the cutest thing. that is so cute. But it makes a difference because like you said, like ah so early on we get programmed on being a certain way and not really following your natural instinct so what I'm trying to encourage him is just like hey like no you do what your heart is telling you you do what if you want to play soccer and shoot the goal you do that if your friend tells you to go on the goal you don't have to do that if you don't want to like if you want to go on the goal go on the goal but you don't have to the other thing that I've been doing
01:05:47
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And my son loves it. Like, he literally asks me almost every night. I'm not even exaggerating. Like, he asked me last night. He's like, Mommy, can you do energy work? It's the cutest thing that literally melts my heart.
01:06:01
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and i And I ask him, I'm like, oh, like, why do you want Mommy to do energy work on you? And he goes, oh so I feel, like, calm. And one time I asked him, he's like, so I feel calm, centered, centered, centered,
01:06:13
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And he said something else that I don't remember. But I think they're just learning about maybe meditation or breathing and in school. I don't know. But I've been trying to ask him, like, what does it feel like? And he doesn't really have the words. He just says, like, oh, it feels good. Like, I feel calm.
01:06:30
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And to me, it's so wild because... you know, sometimes like you get, you come across people who don't believe into the work that you do. Like, I don't know, Alyssa, if you have encountered encountered that.
01:06:46
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So with me, my family, they're really 3D, meaning they don't really like aren't into all the spiritual stuff that I am, right? And so when I do the energy work,
01:07:00
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I know the impact that it has. Like, I know you've experienced a session with me too. Like, it's it just shifts so much in just one session.
01:07:11
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And when I was experimenting on my son um and my teacher said, no, like, it's okay to do this on children. was like, okay, perfect. I'm going to my son. You know, like, he immediately, like, told me the next day, because I usually go when he goes to bed and I just do it on him.
01:07:29
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that like he wants more of it like it made him feel good I'm like wait what like you don't even know what this is about you know what I
Client Success Stories
01:07:38
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mean like what does it mean energy work you know like that's what he calls it and it just blows my mind because granted when I do the session on him it's so short like I'm literally done in like 15 minutes maybe he Maybe even shorter than that.
01:07:59
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Like, I don't really talk anything through with him that comes up. But a lot of it is focused around the solar plexus. A lot of is focused around the um confidence.
01:08:10
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Mm-hmm. So it's kind of cool how it's just like all connects. And then usually the next day, I just, you know, encourage him like themes or topics that I see like come up. I usually just encourage him and and call him into his power because I feel like at the end of the day, it's like what you said about the self-love. It's all about like bringing back the power and not not giving it away. i feel like too many times we just give it away. And so I'm really trying to teach him to to keep that power within.
01:08:44
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Yeah, i I think it's so cool, first of all, that you're able to do it on Tiago. Second of all, that he even asks for it. Like, that is just like, it's so cool. And it makes sense because he's your son.
01:08:55
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You know that, like, I just love that he chose you on purpose, because I'm sure he's like, open to this. And I'm sure like, Cleo is going to be too. And i just have to share with everyone listening that My session that you gave me was literally life-changing, like literally life-changing. So I had the intention of wanting to shift some like, just like leftover money blocks that I was really feeling. Right.
01:09:17
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And when you were doing the, um, when you were doing the healing, first of all, I didn't know, like you let us know like, oh, you might expect some, you know, like feelings tingling or something, or you might not feel anything at all. Like, we'll just see what happens.
01:09:31
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And I felt like my feet just like open up and all of this energy just like moving through my feet. My feet were like so activated. I felt it in my arms and i had this insane, um like really, really cool visualization that was so what freaking clear that gave me this like teaching of what Basically, the way to be prosperous is going to be by using our soul gifts, right? And and business is going into like a new, we're moving forward um as like the world changes to where old businesses that are operating just for like profit or like the bottom line or greed are going out of
01:10:15
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business and we're moving into a place where like soul business is going to start becoming like the most important thing. And so it was a really cool visualization. And I don't know if i told you this, but I shared my experience, like the visual that I had on threads. And that was like the most like viral threads I ever had.
01:10:31
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Like the most people, people commented on it that were like, Oh my God, I had this like same vision. Cause it happened. i basically was like guided to this like mall. And then I saw like the mall dying, whatever this whole like story.
01:10:43
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So many other people had experienced a very similar vision. So many other healers and coaches were like, oh my God, I've been like having the same like download too of like where we're moving to this like soul business thing.
01:10:55
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And so I just thought that was like, yeah, that was my, and I never like have threads that really go viral. So that was like really, really cool that it impacted so many people because that was literally from God. Yeah.
01:11:06
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And then um when I connected with you afterwards and we're like, and was like, oh, like, this is what I felt. You're like, oh, I literally like turned on the faucet of your feet chakras for like everything to like exit that way. And I was like, it was just like, yeah. And then also you guys, I, so that was like to work on like money stuff. And then the next day,
01:11:26
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Oh, so we also we realized that I was kind of like, ah I really need to learn how to like balance my like feminine and masculine in business. So like doing, but also like play and like realizing like it's okay to like not always be on and I can actually make sales without always having to be like super on.
01:11:44
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And then literally the next day i sold a reading and I had been sick and I hadn't been posting anything on socials. So it just proved to me like, first of all, you like cleared a huge block for me. And then it showed me like, yeah, like I can just be um surrendering and like still make sales because I'm just in alignment. So it was really cool.
01:12:02
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Yeah, that was so fun. And I had no idea that i I remember the threat, but I didn't know that it went viral. That's so cool. I know. Well, I mean, like viral. into I don't even know what viral means, but it did really good.
01:12:16
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Or like, you know, was your most popular. Yes. That's pretty cool. Yeah, it was really, really cool.
Synergy in Healing Practices
01:12:22
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um So, yeah, your your work is so powerful. And can you just teach us really quickly, like what?
01:12:30
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makes the maybe if you can tell us what makes the Akashic Records and energy healing so like powerful and maybe kind of like how you discovered to kind of like combine both of them and yeah you can talk to us about that It's interesting. I feel like everything in my journey has just been aligning. Like, it's really wild. But I feel like everything has just been coming together. Like, also me molding, like, the mindset work with the energy healing and then the spirit baby connection. Like, it's just been all happening, like, so, like, simultaneously. Like, so, it's just been, like, simple, like, easy. I cannot explain it. but
01:13:12
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I connect to of the spirit babies through the Akashic Records. So that was kind of like the first modality that I, you know, the first spiritual modality, I would say, that i learned.
01:13:24
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And so I was doing that. But then as I was, I always felt this, like, this need or this, like, pull towards energy healing certification. And then when I like did all this, i like when I went through the certification, i did a lot of healing work on myself, which is always the side effect, right? it's so I never realized that. But whenever you do a certification, you're essentially doing all the work on yourself. And you're just growing so much during the process of getting the certification. I never realized that until, you know, it happened with DCI, it happened with the Kaushik certification, and then it happened with
01:14:04
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the energy healing certification. And I felt this pull. And then I remember signing up and i was worried because there was one day that it was, um I think like a six hour session or eight hour session. It was like a long day and I couldn't have my daughter with me, but yet I was nursing and she wouldn't take the bottle.
01:14:27
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So I had this whole like situation that I was worried about. I kid you not. First of all, Akashic Records told me that no, like she will take the bottle. You don't worry.
01:14:39
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and then the week before, like we had this energy healing call, something just shifted and she took the bottle. No problem. I pumped, like i had a lot of anxiety, um, to pump because of my journey with my son and and all the recommendations that the, um,
01:15:00
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lactation consultants made back then with with pumping. i was just... Yeah, just have some trauma around that. But it worked. Like, I was pumping. My daughter was with my mother-in-law. She took the bottle. i didn't have to worry about it.
01:15:17
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And that's when I realized, shit, like, this work works. Like... this modality like shifts things like quickly and it's so interesting because if you're called to saying this like whenever we also shift something as the parent it usually shifts something in the child so cleo taking the bottle wasn't a surprise because i shifted something within me And so then, you know, something shifted in her. It's kind of like what we said about, you know, when I shift, then also my husband starts shifting almost, right?
01:15:57
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So that was fascinating. And then it just evolved from there. Like, I just kept practicing on myself, kept practicing. Then I did the second certification to become an energy healer. And I don't know, I just had this vision, this idea that I feel like it's going to be pretty mind-blowing work when you...
01:16:18
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combine the spirit baby readings or sessions with the healing aspect because
01:16:29
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the work, it's not just the physical. There's also an emotional body, an energetic body, and the spiritual component of it all. And so you essentially need to make sure that all your bodies are set up to bring a baby through.
01:16:48
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so it's just what I've learned like I can't tell you if it was through spirit or it probably was a combination of just through source through spirit like what I was being guided to teach on as well as seeing the transformation in the sessions that I've had um because yeah it's it's incredible like the results of the energy healing so good so Yes, I think sometimes too as a two because you're a two five I'm a two four for our profiles. We really as a two line you really are just like a natural genius at what you do.
01:17:24
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And so you like you said you just pick things up and it builds on each other and it's really hard to describe it like how it's very hard to describe it and like no one can really replicate it because it's just literally your natural genius that everything's coming together.
01:17:38
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Yeah, I don't know. Exactly. i just had the download. I'm like, okay, it's the mindset, it's the energy healing, and then it's a spirit baby the connection. And I was like, oh, shit, like, that's the fertility codes that I'm going to be teaching on. Like, it just all kind of like, happened so beautifully. And, yeah, I felt for sure that the two line a lot where it's just, like, natural. It is the two line, right? That's natural. Yeah.
01:18:02
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Mm-hmm. Yeah, I felt that a lot. And um of course, my work is still evolving, like with each client that I i see and each reading that I do, because I just keep learning more, right? Keep learning more about pregnancy loss and about, you know, the the like,
01:18:21
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the women who maybe aren't sure about if they want to be moms and and some of the resistances that, you know, the future moms do have in their, in their bodies or energetic body. Like there's so much that I'm like constantly learning and I'm just like blown away because It's just, it's meant to be all sacred.
Conception Vortex Program
01:18:44
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Like, it's meant to be... i remember us having the conversation one time. I'm like, oh my gosh, sometimes healing just scares me, you know? who But yes, of course, sometimes the healing component can be uncomfortable.
01:18:58
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But then what's on the other side is just literally so beautiful, like so sacred. And the conception journey itself, like, it's not meant to be this hard and this...
01:19:12
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such a struggle, you know, it's like meant to be more sacred. And it doesn't mean that, you know, a loss isn't hard. But when you connect with your spirit baby, and you just have this, like, you know, this, this deep connection already, like, it's it's just so weird to describe. But like, when I connect with my spirit baby, it's like,
01:19:35
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no like she knows me like I literally like talk to her like I give her like you know like imaginary hugs and I just ask her like what do you need baby and then she tells me like she tells me what needs shifting she tells me that like she cannot wait to join you know our family and it's just yeah it's really magical a Can you share with us like the what you're actually in the middle of launching right now, the conception vortex and how everything that you just described is what people can experience in this like beautiful thing that you've created? Can you tell us like who it's for?
01:20:16
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What exactly is it? And like all the juiciness. Oh, I love this question. Question so much. Yes, it's for the woman who's like tried it all. Like it's for the woman who has done everything that their doctor has been telling them, like literally been following everything to a T, but yet it's not happening for them. They're not getting pregnant. And it's just this spiral that i described at the beginning where like you lose hole hope and you lose the belief
01:20:47
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And it just all is like way harder than imagine it to be. but it's also for the woman who's new to their her conception journey, who's just getting ready to bring her baby through.
01:21:02
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Because in the conception journey, you get heal, you get to connect to your spirit baby, and then we manifest them through, right? The the manifestation piece.
01:21:14
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So it's a combination of everything that I've been sharing, which is, you know, biggest piece of the work is the self-love and really building yourself up with this self-love, the self-acceptance, becoming your own bestie and the trust in your body.
01:21:35
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Because regardless of what your journey has been, like often there's just this shame and guilt and sometimes hatred of being let down by your body.
01:21:48
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Whether you've been on the journey for a while and nothing's happening or you maybe did experience pregnancy loss and you had a miscarriage.
01:21:59
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Like the most natural thought that you have is like, what's wrong with me? And so this is really where we heal and where we rebuild the relationship between your body and you and then we wave in the spirit baby because the spirit baby is everything it's magical it's sacred it's so comforting because they've already chosen you right like we established that and they will share exactly what's in the way of them coming through
01:22:37
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Like, they will share, hey mama, like, I want you to love life now in this very moment. Like, I don't want you to be waiting for me to come to love life.
01:22:51
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Like, I want you to know that I'm on my way. i want you to have fun with husband without, like, looking at the clock or without, you know, checking the ovulation strip. No, like, I want you to just...
01:23:07
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get back to just living from your body and to just be like without any pressure without any um like doubt you know that's the biggest piece and another common um Common um theme that I just had come up in a client session where my client was like, wait, are your eavvees were you eavesdropping last night?
01:23:36
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You know, like it becomes really common. and I know that myself is, you know, wanting to connect with your husband and like feeling it in your body. It's like, no, I want my partner. I want them.
01:23:48
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But then you literally go in your mind, you're like, wait, is it too late? It's already too late. I cannot do that. You know, your mind gets in the way. and you literally start overthinking. And then you take from the beautiful, sacred experience that could happen. So really getting them into back into their body and just building this space.
Balancing Energies in Conception
01:24:13
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believe and certainty that their baby's on the way and just removing anything that doesn't belong and we do that through private spirit baby sessions as well as um group spirit baby readings group healings energy healings yeah it's like a whole package and it's a 12-week journey where the women are just supported so deeply because it is a challenging journey it is a challenging journey but when you aren't walking alone anymore and when you have your spirit baby with you and you know what signs to look out for and you know what needs shifting you can actually make that happen and you have somebody holding your hand through that process of making it happen because that's always the hardest part right like making it happen and actually
01:25:10
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changing and becoming this next version of yourself that is so ready to have the baby a wow i'm so happy that you really followed your purpose and allowed yourself to just like arrive to this point because the work that you're doing is so powerful like literally helping women find themselves again tune back into self-love being able to realize that their bodies aren't broken right nothing's wrong with them we don't need to look for outside answers and like Connecting them to their spirit baby is just so beautiful.
01:25:43
Speaker
Yeah, and as you were talking, and it connects to what you were saying about like the feminine and masculine, right? Like really getting them into the feminine. Because if you look at pregnant women, right? They start dressing differently. Of course, they have a bum.
01:26:00
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But a lot of them, they dress more feminine. It's because you're you becoming the mother now, right? Yes, wearing a dress is more comfortable. But also like you're just... more in your feminine when you are pregnant when you're becoming the mom and so it starts already in the conception journey to really rebalance feminine and masculine so that there's actually room for the allowing piece right and the receiving piece
01:26:33
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like, so often, we try so hard, like, I bet you know, like, we've tried so hard in our business, and nothing happened, right? It's the same thing with trying to have a baby, like,
01:26:46
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When you try so hard, try, try, try, you push, push, push, you push so hard, like it's not happening because energetically, it's just, you're trying so hard, you're trying so hard and you're not being that vibrational match to your manifestation, right? You're not allowing for it to come through. you don't believe that it's just gonna happen just like, you know, our birthday or Christmas is gonna happen.
01:27:10
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like you still have the doubt. And you think you can outsmart, you know, like your baby by just like trying so hard like you did in school when you wanted to get those good grades and you probably got the good grades, but it doesn't work like that. It's meant to be sacred. And of course, there's all kinds of different stories out there.
01:27:32
Speaker
Where for a lot of women, it does work. But then for others, it doesn't. And it's just, we're all on our own journey. And some of our journeys are just different.
01:27:43
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And... You'll go through an awakening at some point during your motherhood journey. Like for me, that happened during postpartum. For others, it happens during the conception journey.
01:27:57
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But when you build that foundation of everything that we've talked about, right? The self-love, really having the power within you. I promise you that your postpartum will be so much
Empowered Motherhood
01:28:11
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smoother. Mm-hmm.
01:28:12
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Like the reason why people think there's like, ah what's it called? Postpartum blues, like postpartum depression. had a client that I helped um through that. It's not that, you know, there, of course, there could be depression, etc.
01:28:29
Speaker
But often, it's literally result of them not knowing what the hell is going on, not knowing who the hell they are. hmm. And struggling so hard, not knowing how to fill their cup now that they don't have time anymore. Unhealed trauma coming up because, you know, maybe they were adopted at birth or maybe it wasn't even that severe.
01:28:54
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But yet something happened when they were, you know, growing up. that now is being reflected back to them. And it's hard for them.
01:29:07
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So yeah, I think a lot can be done, even if you haven't been a mom yet, to prepare to become a mom. And I feel like with you, it's it's honestly kind of like the cheat code to manifestation because, like you said, in manifestation, you have to hold the belief. But it's very hard to hold the belief if, like, you're running off of all of those old beliefs. So it's like you're able to eliminate those, clear it out of their energetic body, and then also connect to their spirit baby and give them literal, like,
01:29:41
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hope it's like you're giving them like literally you this you're talking to your spirit baby this is exactly like what's going to happen and it's just much easier to like at that point surrender and let go because you know like with manifestation you have to just know like you can't try or hope I should take away the word hope we can't hope it's just a knowing I'm going to conceive in perfect divine timing and take away any pressure of like timelines and just believe and when you do that things happen much faster Summed it up really
Manifestation Through Spirit Babies
01:30:10
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well. I don't need to say anything else.
01:30:12
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Literally, like that's what manifestation is. And that's why the spur baby big connection is so essential. Because like you said, like you're literally able to chat with your baby and they will tell you, like they will tell you, no, mommy, I'm on my way.
01:30:29
Speaker
Like I'm coming. You don't worry. It's just a matter of time. Don't worry. I'm on my way. And when you hear that over and over again, And we've already done the work on eradicating those like old beliefs, like you said, right?
01:30:43
Speaker
That's when we're starting to implant those new beliefs and we rewire your subconscious so you actually believe now, like she's on her way, like she's coming, like it's powerful for sure.
01:30:56
Speaker
Mm hmm. You're such a gift. What, what else before we wrap up, what is it How else can people work with you? Do you have anything else? Do you have spirit baby readings?
01:31:07
Speaker
Tell us everything. Yes. I have my, um, meet your spirit baby healing sessions, which those so good. If you're curious about your spirit baby and meeting them, I'm going to be launching.
01:31:23
Speaker
i haven't launched yet, but I'll be launching. Um, mini spirit baby messages, which will be so good. Like so good. i used to have a similar offering back in the day, but I'm bringing it back with a spirit baby focus on it. So this is where you can ask three questions and I will send you recording that's channeled from your spirit baby.
01:31:46
Speaker
so I'm really excited to launch that. And eventually I'll also be having my energy healing sessions. I know those will be so good. and I cannot wait.
01:31:57
Speaker
I cannot wait. There's so much happening on in my business and behind the scenes that yeah, it's all coming together and it feels really good. Like we've been on this journey for a while, you know, and to just have it all come together as well as the conception vortex.
01:32:18
Speaker
And um even my, my no brainer offer, i have a free class that's, called manifest your baby 101 that is 90 minutes of pure magic that is so good and yeah all that is available on my instagram
Closing and Future Plans
01:32:41
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Yay. And everyone, I'll be putting all of Carla's um links in the show notes. you can definitely, anyone who's interested should for sure get the Manifesting Your Spirit Baby 101 and yeah, and everything else. If anyone is on the conception journey, oh my gosh, I just know by, you already, if you've listened this far, I'm sure you already know that you're meant to be in Carla's world. And so I'm so happy that I was able to have you
01:33:07
Speaker
on so you can share your story with everyone and everyone can just like get to know you and yeah i literally just I love you so much I'm so happy that we've got to connect and actually meet in person like three times and we're going to go to a retreat together in April so yeah I love you so much um what is ah one last thing that your soul is just like I just need to tell the people or the women is there any like last words that you're like that's just coming through it That's a lot of pressure, Alyssa. um
01:33:40
Speaker
No, I just want to share, though, that I also do a lot of free Spurt Baby um messages and readings on my stories. And I'll also be um having a weekly live world. I will do live readings on Instagram live.
01:33:59
Speaker
I'm really excited for those. So If you're curious about the work I do, that's definitely a starting point as well. Yes. And other than that, yeah, I'm so grateful to be to have met you when we did. Like, I feel like I literally manifested it.
01:34:17
Speaker
I was like, I want to be in the breakout room with this girl. know. And it's just wild to have formed this relationship with you and to just be like, you know, far.
01:34:29
Speaker
What is it? Long long distance besties. Yes. yeah And yeah, i cannot wait to see you again. yeah Yay. Okay. Thank you so much, Carla. And everyone, you know where to find her. Thank you guys so much for listening. And we will see you guys next week.
01:34:47
Speaker
Bye-bye. Bye.