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73. this *one* thing will change EVERYTHING in your biz, and it's NOT what you think
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In this episode, I’m talking about a moment that changed everything — a decision I made that led to one of the biggest identity shifts of my life.
I recently went on a hot girl shit retreat— and girl, I didn’t even see myself as someone who belonged in that room. I used to think I wasn’t “that girl.” I didn’t feel hot enough, successful enough, enough enough.
But something in me knew it was time to step into a new identity. And not just in theory — in my energy, my presence, my reality.
In this episode, I share:
- Why identity embodiment is the missing piece in your business and magnetism
- What happens when your outer world finally catches up with the inner work you’ve been doing
- How claiming your next level has nothing to do with waiting and everything to do with deciding
- The behind-the-scenes of what this retreat cracked open for me (and my brand)
This isn’t about changing who you are — it’s about becoming who you already are simply through DECIDING.
If you’re ready to step into the version of you who owns her glow, claims her power, and becomes the living brand of her work — this one’s for you.
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Transcript
00:00:02
Speaker
Hello, my babes. Welcome back to the It's Happening For Me podcast. I'm your host, Alyssa. I am so excited that you're here with me today. if this is your first time listening, welcome. And if you are a returning babe, welcome back, girl.
00:00:15
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so today's episode, you guys, is going to be so freaking juicy, no matter where you are in your spiritual entrepreneurial journey. Okay, so if you are someone who is looking to expand into even more just like iconic identity visibility. If you're looking to create a new offer that like you've never done before, if you're looking to call in more aligned dream clients or just bring in more income wherever you are in your journey.
00:00:45
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This episode is going to be so powerful. And not only is this going to help you in business, but I'm going to teach you the one thing that when I was actually had this download this weekend, and when I was distilling, like, what the hell even like makes me successful? Like, why is it that I keep accomplishing these goals that I have for myself? And why is it that like, I don't give up and like,
00:01:08
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i like just time and time again, find myself literally achieving the things that I want and just feeling so good. I'm like, what is that thing? Like if I could distill it down to one thing and that's what I'm going to share with you today. And so not only has this helped me in my business journey, in climbing the corporate ladder and literally getting over like nine promotions in nine years at my job and successfully cutting alcohol out of my life, like all of the things, right?
00:01:38
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It comes down to this one thing. And this one thing is the most important thing before any strategy, any, um like any modality, like literally, it's just this one thing. And then once you lock in with this one thing, you can do anything.
00:01:54
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You can successfully go on your weight loss journey and like lose weight. You can, which I'm going to talk about today. This is how actually like arrive to this like aha realization of like, this is what I do. Anytime that I like lock in and actually get the the results that I want, right? Yeah.
00:02:08
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So you can lose the weight that you want to lose. You can call in the dream clients that you want to call in. You can start making even more money in your business. You can um get the raise at work. You can call in the soulmate, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, whatever.
00:02:22
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This is the thing, okay? So... First, before I tell you the thing, I want to tell you about how I arrived to this like aha moment, which was this weekend. and So this weekend, I found myself just like waking up, going to the gym with absolutely like no question in my mind of like, this is what I'm doing. I just woke up before George.
00:02:44
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I put on my tennis shoes, went to the gym. I created, um i so i walked on the treadmill and I was like creating some content for my Instagram for like ah an offer I'm working on.
00:02:56
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And I was like sitting there thinking like, why am I here right now? Like, why the fuck, like what happened in my mind? What switch went off to help me be here right now with absolutely no resistance?
00:03:11
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I'm not only moving my body and like, like, you know, listening to music that makes me feel so alive. And like, I feel like i'm on top of the world. I'm also sitting here like walking and like multitasking. I'm creating content. Like what was the switch that happened?
00:03:24
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Because you guys, Okay, this is, I also am so excited to talk about my experience. So i went to, a lot of you guys have been seeing, like, sorry, I feel like there's something on my eye.
00:03:35
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A lot of you guys, if you follow if you follow me on Instagram, a lot of you guys might have been seeing um my, like, beautiful experience of going to this such an iconic retreat last month called Hot Girl Shit.
00:03:47
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And this retreat was basically a Basically like a branding bender. It was a place for me to go with these other successful, beautiful, like super, just like iconic business women. don't know why I'm calling them business women, but we all run businesses.
00:04:08
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And it was a place for us to go and literally do like photo shoots, like photo shoots, get branding, um beautiful photos, connect, like confidence workshops, all of the things, right? So the majority of it was like to up-level my branding and my business.
00:04:24
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And when I signed up for this, first of all, when when Maddie Maple, she's my business coach, I am her resident Gene Keys reader for her Icon Portal mastermind. I'm in her Icon Portal mastermind.
00:04:37
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She's one of my favorite humans in this whole world. And she is a literal genius when it comes to marketing and branding and just like confidence and everything business, right? So when she posted that she had this retreat, right, there was like, I did not think that I was ever going to go to it. Like when I saw it, I was like, oh my God, that's so cool. But like, I'm not a hot girl.
00:04:56
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Like I wasn't identifying as this version of myself who considers herself a hot girl, who even considers herself as someone who would go to this. Right. I was like, no way. Like, there's just no way. And then it just kept like nudging, like nudging at me. I was like, am.
00:05:11
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feel like I need to go to this. I feel like I need to go to this. But then of course, like everything like financially comes into play and all of these things, right? Not to mention all of the fears of like, oh my God, like it's with all of these other strangers. Like, am I going to fit in? Like, you know, like social anxiety, all of these things come up, right? I'm just like, all of the things that stop us from stepping into this next level version of ourselves.
00:05:33
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But I remember I was on the plane to to board to go to Denver to help Trevor move to Colorado, from Colorado to to to California. And I saw the post again and she like talked about it one more time to our mastermind and I was like, I'm going, boom, I'm going.
00:05:51
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I literally sent her a message. i was like, hey, I wanna come. Can you please send me the link? um I know it expires, this offer expires today. wanna get in on early bird pricing. Like I'm getting on a flight right now. Like, can you send me the link? I wanna come.
00:06:03
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And in that moment, you guys, this is what I'm talking about. i made the decision. and I made the decision. I was like, I'm going. And then after that, everything else literally just falls into place.
00:06:18
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But it is a making the decision. And that's what this whole episode is about. Okay. Before we... we Before we can dive into strategy or energetics, even anything, if we want to achieve something, if we want to create something, if we want to be this other version of ourselves, the first thing we have to do and the most important thing we have to do, and a lot of people skip this step, is we have to decide.
00:06:44
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And this is a pivotal moment. This is a pivotal moment. I believe it is a spiritual, genetic, um spontaneous thing that happens inside of us with ourselves in the universe.
00:07:00
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And it is a moment where we are never the same again. and like you, you will know this moment that you've had this moment. and all of like the big things you've ever accomplished. It's because you just made this decision.
00:07:13
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I'm deciding. That's it. I'm deciding. So I was like, I'm deciding. I don't know how I'm going to do it financially. i don't know. What am I going to wear? Like, how am I going to fit in with the people? Literally nothing.
00:07:24
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I'm deciding. So I messaged her. I signed up. Boom. So I had about four months, I think, before this actual retreat happened. And I was at like found myself and now in general today at the heaviest weight that I've ever been in my entire life.
00:07:39
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Growing up, I was just always very tall and like thin. And even to the point of like being made fun of like being too skinny. That's something I also had to deal with um like in middle school and high school, which like was not fun to deal with.
00:07:56
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But I've always just been like, literally, I have my dad's jeans where I can literally eat anything, anything, and I would not gain weight. And it wasn't until i turned 30, like literally 30, I remember this like clockwork.
00:08:10
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I turned 30, I left my managerial job, which I was like working in the service centers in the lube tech industry. So I was like on my feet for like 10 hours a day, eight to 10 hours a day, always walking around, always moving around, very physically active to now going to a desk job.
00:08:27
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So I stopped moving. I wasn't exercising and I continued to eat like shit. And so I gained weight. And so over the past like five years from 2020 until now, I kind of have been like up and down, like with my weight.
00:08:39
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And I've had like years in between there where like I was really on my fitness journey. Like i've I've had fitness coaches. I've like counted macros. Like I've done it. I know how to do it. I know how to lose weight, right? The correct way, um and my opinion, which is like the correct way. And like, you know, like counting macros, calorie deficit, working out, steps, water intake, and like building muscle, right?
00:09:02
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And so I know what to do. I know exactly what to do. I've done it before, right? And I found myself again at this place in January of just like being at my heaviest weight. And I was like, how the fuck did I sign up to go to this like branding, photo shoot,
00:09:19
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you know, next level creating these like beautiful images of myself in my business when I'm like the heaviest I've ever been. I'm like, that does not make sense. So I got really insecure for a second and i just...
00:09:33
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spent four months living in an internal hell in my mind of telling myself, okay, today's going to be the day I'm going to start. I'm going to start because I know exactly what to do. So I'm like, okay, I'm going to start. I'm to start tomorrow. I'm to start tomorrow. I'm going to go on my walks. I'm going to get my steps in. I'm going to get back into the gym.
00:09:48
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I'm going to meal prep, right? I'm going to count calories. I know exactly what to do. I'm going to do it. But every single day, you guys, for four months, I did not do it. Not only did I not do it, but I thought about not doing it and like realizing that I wasn't doing it every single day for four months.
00:10:03
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And I was completely shitting on my mental health. So it's like I would wake up and i'd be like, okay, like, I'm gonna do it tomorrow. I'm do it tomorrow. Oh, and I would literally have a countdown calendar. Like I would, I swear to God, like in my office, I would look at it every single day and be like, okay, like, um you know, like whatever, 90 days until hot girl shit. Okay, like three months. Like I could lose like this amount of weight in this amount of months. Like I've done it before, like cool.
00:10:24
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Wouldn't do it. And then I'd be like, okay, 60 left, 30 days left. thirty days left Three weeks, 14 days. And then like when it came time to like buy the outfits, I obviously had to buy clothes. I literally even put off buying my clothes until the very last minute. So I was like, oh, going to lose weight. Like I need to be able to try them on and like who knows what size I'll be. Right.
00:10:41
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And it was this obsession of. First of all, was this obsession of not loving myself where I'm at. Right. It was. turning against my body. It was not being grateful for my body and for this physical vessel that I have. It was coming from a place of needing to be different.
00:10:58
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It was coming from a place of wanting to be perceived as a certain way for like societal's idea of like what hot is, right? And I was completely externalizing my joy and my self-love and my relationship to my body. And I turned against myself.
00:11:15
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And what's so funny, you guys, is like in those, like all of those days of like, I know exactly what I need to do, but I'm just like not doing it. So much resistance, so much shame, guilt, um just like feeling horrible about myself, right?
00:11:28
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It's like, it's like, um... I never actually just made the decision because I was still like getting something out of like not doing those things.
00:11:40
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Right. So I still loved to eat really shit. Like I loved, I still was like, Oh, I want to eat Chick-fil-A. I want to eat Taco Bell. I want to eat canes. Right. I want to eat these bad things.
00:11:52
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I was getting something from these like highly processed foods, which was like some sort of like emotional film fulfillment. Right. And it was like,
00:12:05
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like not walking I would have more time to like do more lazy girl stuff, right? Like, okay, I could do them scroll for longer. i could watch my shows on Netflix. All of the things i was choosing to do besides do the thing that I know I needed to do for the goal that I had in mind, right?
00:12:20
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I was also working on my business since a lot, which like, that's not an excuse either. Cause I'm going to talk about in a second how like everything changes. So anyways, that's just where I was at, right? So I was like, okay, I kind of feel like shit about myself.
00:12:32
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um Everyone is really hot. Like, am I gonna like be like, is literally was talking to myself. i was like, oh my God, I going to be like the ugliest person? And I was literally like comparing myself to others when it's like, we're all so freaking beautiful. Like we're all so hot in our own ways. And it has nothing like confidence and inner radiance has nothing to do with our physical appearance. It literally has everything to do with our internal world and how we carry ourselves and how we, you know, like just learn how to move with our body right the coolest thing that we learned um some of the coolest things we learned in at this retreat was like oh like learning what your poses are right just like little cute stuff like that so anyways
00:13:14
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So like leading up to that, i just didn't do anything. I completely self-sabotaged. I was like, whatever. So I went into it um just being like, well, I am where I am. And I was able to very quickly still get my confidence back in order enough to feel confident in my body and just be like, well, this is what it is. Right. So I ordered the clothes that I liked and like was able to still get really iconic pictures. i feel like I've like really like next level pictures and the reason that I also did this is because I really wanted to like up level my brand like I believe in my work so much it's so transformational it's so iconic and I wanted this like physical representation of just like this elevatedness of like how I feel and how my work impacts others I was like oh it's time to just take it to the next step and like have really great branding photos so anyways that happened right
00:14:01
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um And I'm like, okay, that's so funny. Like, you know, I had this huge thing to look forward to. So I had a why, right? Like I had this why. I had time. i had a plan. I knew exactly what to do, right? But I just didn't do it.
00:14:16
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And when think about yourself now, you know what to do. You have this ah goal or this objective for your business, right? It's like, maybe you want to reach, maybe you want to like reach this many more people. Maybe you want to get amount into your private mentorship. Maybe you want to make this amount of income in your business this month, right?
00:14:37
Speaker
Excuse me. Maybe you want to, um ah like do podcast swaps and like invite other people onto yours and like get into other people's communities maybe you want to launch the book maybe you want to launch the oracle deck right like i have a lot of babes in my world right now working on oracle decks it's like you know what you want to do you have this goal you know exactly what you need to do it like you it's obvious right you know how to make achievable outcomes so you know what to do but you're not doing it.
00:15:08
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You have the why, right? Maybe you have your why is very solid. So like, why are you not doing it? You're not doing it because you're not deciding. You're not making the decision of like, I'm fucking doing this.
00:15:20
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And when you make that decision, you guys, something changes internally. I'm telling you, it's a genetic up level. It's spiritual. It is like never the same. Like you will know because the next day you'll wake up and immediately you're just going to start acting up like as if the other person.
00:15:38
Speaker
So a lot of people in the coaching industry really like to talk about, hold on, let me turn this on.
00:15:47
Speaker
Okay. You probably just saw Peanut. This is, Peanut's right here under this mess on my bed. So a lot of people in the coaching industry talk about like identity work. They're like, oh, like you just like need to do identity work and like mindset work. It's like, okay, well, what the fuck it does that mean? Right? Like what is identity work? What is mindset? What does that even mean? Right?
00:16:11
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Literally, this is what it is. Like identity is when you make this decision that you're like, I'm, I don't care what it takes. I'm done.
00:16:23
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I'm done thinking about doing this thing in my business. i'm done I'm done dreaming about it. I'm done telling myself that I'm going to do it tomorrow. I'm done feeling the guilt and shame every single day and spiraling because I have all of these ideas and I'm not acting on them.
00:16:38
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I'm not sharing my voice. i'm not you know I'm not pivoting or whatever it is that you want to do. there's Even if you are showing up, there's still some part of you that is not showing up to the complete max.
00:16:49
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And that is because you have not made this the decision. When you make the decision and to be that bitch, okay,
00:16:59
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there's no resistance. There's absolutely no resistance. There's no question about what this bitch does. There's no question about how she shows up. There's no question about, should I do this or this? This bitch isn't indecisive.
00:17:14
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A bitch who knows what she wants, who made the decision, she's decisive. She takes initiative. She is courageous. She is innovative. She's resourceful. She's bold.
00:17:26
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She is...
00:17:29
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She's living on the edge. Okay. And I want to give you like, so this is also how I realized like that. This is always what I've done. Anytime that I've like made the next like biggest up level in my life, whether that's business, love and relationships, sobriety journey, whatever. Right.
00:17:44
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So the reason why it's so important to make the decision is because once you just decide and you're like, I'm fucking done. And you you need to be like really over your shit. Like you need to be over your shit. How long have you told yourself tomorrow? I'm going to start tomorrow or when this happens, then I'll do it.
00:18:02
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When X, y and Z, then blah, blah, blah. It's like, no. How about you just say, fuck off to that. I'm deciding in this moment, in this moment, I will never be the same in this moment tomorrow.
00:18:14
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the next moment, I'm going to just be her. And that literally is quantum jumping. Like that's quantum leaping. That's literally jumping into a new timeline. And all you have to do is just start being that person.
00:18:30
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So I'll give you the the example that I'm getting at. So remember how I told you that like for four months, like every single would be like okay, going to start tomorrow. i have 90 days to get on my fitness stuff. I have blah, blah, blah, blah. bla It was coming from a place of It wasn't coming from a place of like deciding, right? I just, I never decided. I didn't want to do it. Like I wanted to keep fucking off. I wanted to keep eating these processed foods because i liked it. like Taco Bell.
00:18:53
Speaker
I want like, like it was like what ah that, whatever that was giving me was more important than this thing. Right. But there comes a time where nothing becomes more important than the the task and the goal at hand.
00:19:06
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So then you make the decision and then you become that bitch. So me and George, um this last week, we're like sitting down. And for those of you that know, or for if you don't know, my partner, George, we've been together for nine years.
00:19:17
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He is his whole life. He's been highly active, highly active person. He played basketball um like his whole life. He Loves working out. He went to school for kinesiology. he He's been like a physical, worked in a physical therapist office.
00:19:31
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He's been a gym trainer. Like he's very active. And he ended up getting really, really sick after taking the COVID vaccine. He got myocarditis, which is inflammation of the heart muscle. And it affects young men that are very active. So a lot of military men, a lot of um ah young males in like sports um have had their lives completely destroyed. And he he has gone from someone that was playing basketball at the gym every single day of his life, working out for like two to three hours on top of that, to not even being able to go on a walk without being out of breath. He hasn't been able to work out in two years.
00:20:11
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um So he's gained a lot of weight. his It's highly impacted his mental health um and just his overall physical health. So it's it's a it's a problem, right? And so um We both just decided this weekend that so he's also kind of been like on a weight loss journey as well his like whole life of kind of like up and down.
00:20:31
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And we like he knows how to do it. Like if anyone knows how to lose weight or how to like get in shape, he knows right. So we finally this had this little talk together and we we're like, you know what, let's just decide like.
00:20:43
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let's just do it. Like, let's just do it together. But like in our own ways, let's just make the decision. Let's like, ah make it fun.
00:20:53
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Let's make it like actionable. Let's make it um what's the word like, like data, like collect data. I love collecting data for like any of my goals. And we were just like, let we're just doing it. Like, let's do it. Like, and so literally from that night forward, the next day I woke up and immediately,
00:21:13
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I went to the gym and I just like walked on the treadmill for an hour and I was like, okay, who is she? ah i immediately afterwards went to Trader Joe's, bought groceries, started cooking, right? This is coming from someone you guys who I'm not joking when I say I would eat out like literally every meal. Like I'm not joking. I'm not joking. I have the receipts to prove it. like Like did not like cooking. I, I wasn't, I identified myself as someone who hates cooking, doesn't know how to cook and would rather just like eat out because fuck it. Why not? Right.
00:21:40
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So started cooking. um We, this is like the funniest, biggest test. We like went to the mall and we were like walking around. He can't really walk outside in heat because of like his, the condition that he has right now. So we ah like to go in the the mall. He likes to go in the mall and just do laps because it's like air conditioned.
00:21:59
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And so we went to the mall and like walked by the pretzels and like, I love like pretzels, right? Like what's a pretzel, like right? I'm going to get a what's a pretzel.
00:22:09
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But I literally walked by it and I was just like, like I, you guys, I literally walked by it and I was just like, it didn't even register in my mind that I would want that. And then we started laughing. He's like, babe, oh my God, like if it was the old you, you would have been like really sad right now that you can't eat that pretzel. And I was like, dude, you're fucking right. Like when I go into some sort of like goal or so some sort of like aspiration with the wrong intentions and i ah I'm miserable and I hate it.
00:22:40
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i hate it. It's so like terrible. It's so resistant. Like, and that's why I'm telling you, like, there's a way to like do the weight loss journey to do the business goals, income goals. There's a way to do it to where like,
00:22:52
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You literally just become the person and then the old self dies and it's not hard. Like the old me bitch, I'm getting a pretzel. And if you tell me no, I'm going to like be upset. Like I'm going to be a bitch. I'm going to be like, no, like I literally want it. Like, or I'll do whatever it takes to get it. Right.
00:23:09
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I have that in me of like, if I want something, I'm going to get it. Like, why would I tell myself no? But this new version of myself, she just simply doesn't eat those things. And so, and again, it's not about restriction. It's not about saying like, I can't eat certain things. It's just like, literally, she has a goal and she just doesn't eat that. Like, it just doesn't.
00:23:27
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um And so, yeah, I was able to just walk by it so easily. And so I was just laughing because I'm i'm finding myself in this past week, just doing all of these things, walking all of my lunch break, walking,
00:23:39
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um here with Trevor going to the gym cooking all of my food like I haven't eaten out um you know making these like yummy things that I love and like not being restricted and not being like oh I need to like make um another thing I used to do in the past when like this it it would fail is i would be like oh I need to lose weight and like I would be really restrictive on myself and I would be like Like, okay, i have to go to the gym and like, I would hate it Or, and then like, I would try to eat like super clean, but like I would eat foods that don't like in general. Like I would force myself to be like, I need to eat like,
00:24:12
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I kind of like broccoli. It's whatever. But, like, I would force myself to eat things that I just don't like in general because I thought they're clean. And it's, like, then I'm just not going to eat it. I'm self-sabotage. So, like, now I'm, like, I'll make whatever the fuck I want. I'm making steak, you guys. I'm making steak. I'm making yummy potatoes.
00:24:30
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um I've been eating, like, salmon with, like, yummy rice. But, like, yummy rice. Like, you know what I mean? Just, like, and this the the details don't matter. But, yeah.
00:24:43
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I love details. So actually, so maybe you do love details too, but do you know what I mean? and Like, it's like, it doesn't, we don't have to make it horrible. And then we just become this other person and then the things get easier. So in my business journey that day, when I just decided like, I'm going to hot girl shit. And I, and i messaged Maddie and I asked her for the link and I immediately signed up, boom.
00:25:03
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And then I made it happen. So many things came up, you guys, to like throw me off course right before the retreat happened that week. We found mold in our apartment. So we got displaced from our apartment. I had 20 minutes to come in and pack everything that I needed for the retreat because they were going to, they were replacing our like AC unit, our heater, all of these things. And so literally the maintenance man was standing there and he's like, you guys have 20 minutes. Like I need you to get the shit that you need for the next like five days or whatever and get out.
00:25:31
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And so I had to get everything for my retreat. So like, I want I wanted time to pack for my retreat, but I literally had to grab everything and get out. um And then George had to stay in a hotel for that time.
00:25:44
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And then um he got really sick, I got really sick. And like, my family was like, Are you sure you can go to this retreat? You're literally like, sick as fuck. And like, driving there and the first day I had a fever, but I took mucinex like twice a day and I made it work. And luckily my bestie um that also came, she was also sick. So we were able to actually like room together and kind of like quarantine to hopefully not gross out people as much.
00:26:07
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um But I just was like stressing out because I'm like, I don't want people to feel uncomfortable because like I'm sick. um But everything ended up working out. I was able to be like highly medicated and like everything worked out fine. um My car had broken down the week before it overheated and I was driving to Vegas.
00:26:22
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So i was like, what the fuck? But instead drove George's car. It's like all of these things kept popping off that you would think would like throw me off course, you know, being at my heaviest, not feeling my hottest.
00:26:34
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But I was like, no, like social anxiety of like, wait, am I going to fit in? Like, are these people going to like me? you know, like that's always scary. ended up loving every single person like a soul sister it's like that like this the shit before you up level is going to feel scary it's going to be uncomfortable but are you going to be someone who just is that identity of like I'm going like when I made that decision of I'm going to this retreat there was not one goddamn thing in this world that could stop me from going literally I sent an email out to my email list like that week before I was leaving and I was like you guys I'm
00:27:06
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Um, everything in my world on the outside is completely going to shit, but I'm still going to this retreat. I'm sick as fuck. They found mold in our apartment. We're displaced. I had 20 minutes to pack my car overheated.
00:27:20
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What else happened? I feel like other stuff happened. But I was just like, but there's not a question in my mind, am I going? And I'm so convicted. And even my mom was like, are you sure? Like, you know, it's okay. Like, when you take care of yourself. I'm like, I'm going. There's there is not one thing in this planet that can stop me from going because I had made that decision that I'm going and I'm the person that is going.
00:27:39
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And so it's a decision. It's a decision making mechanism. Again, that happens internally. It only happens once and that will sustain you. And then you use all of these other tools and all of these other things to help you get through it, which I'm going to talk about in a second. But if you do not make the decision, you guys, you're not going to do it. You're going to self-sabotage.
00:27:56
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um Another great example. Yeah. yeah so i just thought that was funny and because I was like, i had this like opportunity to like get hot, but I did it. And now I'm back and I'm like, oh I'm just going to be hot now because I want to.
00:28:09
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And it's also coming from a place of like, not hating myself. Like i I genuinely don't think I'm not hot. Like I think I look hot. I love being a little bit overweight for my, my like personal frame because my ass is bigger. My boobs are bigger.
00:28:26
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um Of course, there's like other places, you know, being a little chunky in other places. That I'm like, I wish I wasn't, but I actually love it. I feel hot. I feel sexy. In my own relationship, I feel really good. Like George loves it. Like, you know, but I just know that just like for my longevity,
00:28:43
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and health, and I want to go into my old age as someone who is at her fittest, I just want to be lively and radiant. And the way that I was eating and just like the lack of movement, I wasn't being my most radiant self. Like I just wasn't. And and I didn't feel bad, like, but imagine how good I could feel. Like, holy shit, girl. Like if my channel was so open and I was like,
00:29:03
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thriving in like every other area of my life, imagine how much more thriving I'm going to be when like my, my physical body is on lock. Like I'm going to be motherfucking unstoppable.
00:29:13
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And so my goal isn't to get skinny. It's just to literally be like fit, strong, radiant, energized. Right. And that's coming from a completely different place of hating myself because I think I'm hot and i really hope I don't lose my ass in this venture.
00:29:29
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Um, but yes. So that was my point. Anytime before you're starting this like new thing, there has to be this decision and it spontaneously happens. You can't like force it and you can't pretend to make it happen.
00:29:46
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It's spontaneous. And it just happens when your higher self and your soul and your physical self is like, I'm fucking done. I've had enough. I'm ready to thrive. Let me just
00:30:00
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Okay, I was like, am I not recording? Sorry, guys, I need to check my um washer.
00:30:08
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Okay, so I'll have five minutes. Okay. um Yes. So now what I want to kind of talk about and pivot the conversation is Oh, give me some more examples. So like, also when I like had my sobriety journey, if you follow me on Instagram, I just did a really juicy post about how like my entire like young um teenage life and young twenties, I was really disconnected from myself and like from my design. Like as a kid, I was very much in my two, four energy of like playing by myself and playing with my Barbies and playing teacher and then also having friends and like, but I can have my alone time.
00:30:42
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But then when I was in high school and young 20s, I had, could not be alone. Like i was, ah so overwhelmed by my just like sensitivity, my empathic, open energy that I had created a lot of um social anxiety because just being around a lot of people, I was taking in their energy and amplifying it in like all of my centers.
00:31:03
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I didn't understand why or what. And so alcohol was one of the only things that completely like numbed that for me. Like i absolutely loved alcohol. i would still drink it today if it wasn't like poison and if it didn't like ruin my life.
00:31:17
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But like, I honestly, Like, I mean, it is poison. Like, literally, it is poison. It's not great for the human body. But what are these, like, so many other things we do for ourselves that are not good. and But I genuinely cannot drink. Like, I'm literally...
00:31:31
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Abuse the fuck out of that substance. But I'm but I loved it. And I'm not going to like deny that I didn't love it. And I loved it because it was like this warm feeling that would come over me, where like the thoughts would completely stop, like the self critical thoughts, the overanalyzing, the perceiving myself of how everyone else is perceiving me.
00:31:49
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And I could actually just be actually in my body. and have fun and be the funny person, and connect, socialize. I loved being so social when I drank. Oh my God, I loved people.
00:31:59
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I was always the person like going to the after party and the after, after, after party, never wanting to go home, never wanting to stop, going on side quests. Like my life is like, it was crazy. I'm i'm so surprised that I didn't get hurt. I mean, I got hurt sometimes actually, and um I got in a lot of trouble, but um I also had a lot of fun, like to like a lot of fun.
00:32:19
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um But it also came with a lot of heartache, a lot of pain, and a lot of physical pain. um Alcohol is horrendous for my body. My body rejects it.
00:32:32
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I would immediately, after just drinking a little bit, I could already start feeling the effects of it. So I would purposely like black out every time and just like keep drinking to just get over this like yucky feeling that I'm feeling. um And then I would get debilitating hangovers.
00:32:44
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So i ah became a huge problem. I wanted to stop and I just wanted to find one person, just one person in the entire world that taught, like could teach me that like life could be fun without alcohol.
00:32:59
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Um, you know, as a Capricorn, I'm very serious. It's hard for me to let loose. It's hard for me to, in the past, it was hard for me to just be fun. And like, you know, it's a very more of like a serious vibe.
00:33:14
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And so I just use alcohol to let loose, like literally, it just, I loved it. So I tried to quit for so many years and I had, I mean, so many people talk about rock bottoms.
00:33:25
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I was arrested with three DUIs by the age of 22. i had an interlock device in my car, like a breathalyzer in my car for a year. and just I had so many problems, so many problems with alcohol and ruined a lot of friendships, ruined relationships, ah embarrassed myself, just so many things. i would got hurt. I would fall sometimes, just so many things, right?
00:33:50
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But nothing like... actually ever stopped me. Like there was never actually a rock bottom moment. um I think it was even hospitalized once. Well, it was kind of like my decision. i was at a party once I got raided and I was outside like arguing with my ex-boyfriend and like throwing up and they were like, okay, miss, you're very intoxicated.
00:34:07
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You have two choices. You can get arrested and go, you know, get drunk in public. and go, you know, get sober in the jail cell, or you can come in the ambulance and we can take you to the hospital because you look like you're having alcohol poisoning, but it's your choice. And I was like, i was like, fuck, I really don't want to get charged for this ambulance ride, but I also don't want to go to jail.
00:34:29
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So let's go to the hospital. And so um I just remember like waking up in the hospital and being like, like help. Can someone come pick me up? So not nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing.
00:34:42
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made me stop drinking alcohol. It wasn't until I made the motherfucking decision. I made the decision and I became someone else. And for me, making the decision came from dating George, who's my now partner. We've been together for nine years.
00:34:55
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When we met, we met when I was drunk. I met him. I was actually locked out of my dorms and he was the RA for my building. ah My friend came to visit me from San Diego. i was living in Bakersfield, going to college.
00:35:08
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We went out for the night, got locked out of the dorms. We were just like outside drunk and George actually opened the door and let us in. and That's how I met him. And so we started talking very slowly, started dating because I was still a party girl.
00:35:21
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And he literally was like, he's sober. he's His dad was an alcoholic and he's just like never been into drugs or alcohol um because he's seen what it's done to people in his life. um And so like he would party. He was again, like part like the basketball players and everything. Like he would party, but he just was sober.
00:35:38
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And so one of his things, his conditions was like, He asked me to be his girlfriend, but his condition was like, I don't want to date someone who parties and I'm not going to date a girl who goes to bars and who drinks.
00:35:50
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And so you can continue doing that, like for sure. But we can part ways. But if you want to be with me, then like you're not going to drink alcohol anymore. And to me, you guys, that was like literally my saving grace. Like that completely changed my life. I for once had someone like hold me accountable.
00:36:06
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And so I stopped drinking alcohol in 2016. And of course there was like, but it was with that decision. It was that decision of like, oh, I'm not drinking anymore.
00:36:17
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And then it became very easy. i just didn't drink. I didn't go to bars. I stopped hanging out with friends where like the only thing we had in common was alcohol. And it just, I became a completely different person. it was easy it wasn't hard that's what i'm saying like i never i didn't have to go to rehab i didn't have to like you know dread it or miss it. I didn't fucking miss it because every time that I was drunk, you guys, and I was going out with my friends and partying, I was always looking for love. Like I was trying to fill this void inside of my heart and my soul and my stomach that just wanted to be chosen and like find love. Like that's genuinely why I would go out. I was like really boy crazy.
00:36:52
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And now I like had this relationship and I was like, fuck the alcohol. Like I don't need to go to parties. Like I already found the love of my life that I'm obsessed with. And so I was like, easy, boom, I don't drink anymore. Of course, as with everything, there comes tribulations and trials that we have to work through. Like, it's not just like,
00:37:10
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for such big things in our life. Sometimes it's not just like one decision and then whatever. So I did drink again in 2019 once in 2020, which made us break up. And then we ended up getting back together. We're together now.
00:37:21
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But I always like to just say like, because I really have lived a completely like alcohol-free sober lifestyle since 2016. But there's a part of me that's like, I feel weird claiming that as my sobriety date because I did drink once in 2019 and once in 2020.
00:37:34
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But i mean, twice in literally, what is that like?
00:37:42
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almost 10 years, is that nine years? Like nine years, I haven't drank. So coming from someone who used to be a ah hyper party girl, that is pretty crazy. But anyways, my point is it's not hard.
00:37:53
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It's not hard because you know why? i made the decision. I made the fucking decision. I made the decision. I made the decision. i made the decision. i did not want that anymore. And I became the person who did not drink and it wasn't hard and I didn't cry about it and it didn't have to be hard and there was no resistance. It was just simply what it was.
00:38:11
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And that's why I'm saying, and everything I've ever done in my entire life, um I just made the decision and then that's it. And so if you are not where you want to be, and in a part of your business, you haven't made the decision yet to be that bitch.
00:38:26
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You haven't made the decision yet to say, I'm going to do whatever the fuck it takes to do this. When I say it's not hard, it's not hard in terms of like the resistance does go away, but you're still going to have uncomfortable. You're gonna have to do things that you never did before.
00:38:40
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Right. There's still going to, it's still going to be challenging. Like, remember when I told you that I decided to go to this hot girl shit retreat, everything in my life seemed like it was falling apart. that week before I went.
00:38:52
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So like life wasn't just easy now, but i then This is where it comes in with all the tools and the stuff that you have to get through that shit when it's hard. But if you don't make the choice, you're not going to stick to it. And those tools are not going to do shit for you.
00:39:07
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So that is where my next thing comes in. The tools and the things that I help my clients with is what helps get through now these more resistant and challenging things.
00:39:19
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Okay. But you first have to make the decision. Let me pause this really quickly.
00:39:25
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Okay, we are back. I had to move my laundry over. Look at his peanut. Wait, where is he? Right here. Can you see him in the camera? He came out of his little hole and now he's lying here. poo-poo.
00:39:38
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Okay, so like I was saying, if you are not exactly where you want to be yet, you just have not decided yet. And once you, and and I can always tell you guys, okay, so this is where i'm going with this. so Once you decide,
00:39:55
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Again, it's a spiritual, it's a genetic, it's an internal thing that happens where you are like, I will never be the same again. I'm fucking deciding. Boom, that puts you onto another timeline. You literally shift onto another timeline.
00:40:10
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You wake up and you start taking actions and you start just doing the things that this other version of you would do. And then that's what I mean by like, there's not resistance. Now, that's not to say that there's not gonna still be obstacles, fears, limiting beliefs, right? Like all of these things that come up.
00:40:29
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This is where you use the tools that Use your own tools or use my tools. This is what I've done for myself and all of my clients is use these tools to literally one prime the subconscious mind to create new neural pathways so that you easily and effortlessly just take the steps required to be this next version of yourself.
00:40:53
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Two, or I don't know if i said A or one, so either two or B or B, you So it's that two or b you align your life to your energy.
00:41:09
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Like, I don't even know how to put this into terms. Your human design is what I'm trying to get at. So I'll get to that in a second. And three, you literally like, I don't know if the word would be like brainwash, but I want you to literally,
00:41:28
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um Yeah, let's just say brainwash. Okay, I want you because we can brainwash ourselves with negative things and like these intrusive spiraling thoughts of like, I'm not good enough. I'm not an expert yet or like, or like, oh, maybe I'm really successful here, but I really want to pivot here.
00:41:45
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And this is completely new for my brand. And I'm so afraid that people are going to be confused or like, what if this doesn't work out right even at the highest levels, we're going to have these ah negative thoughts that we can either spiral on or we can simply brainwash ourselves with our gifts and our genius to give ourselves our own internal validation and proof before the external.
00:42:08
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ah This is everything, you guys. This is it a lesson in itself. So if you're not if you're driving, burn a hot girl walk. If you're doing the dishes, I want you to stop what you're doing right now. If you're driving, obviously you can't stop.
00:42:19
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I want you to stop for a moment.
00:42:25
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Take a breath and really listen to me when I say this.
00:42:34
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Really take a breath for a second.
00:42:45
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Okay, not me pausing to like think about what you guys I literally forgot what I was about to say from like the thought this is like how my brain is like so everywhere to write it's like I literally had the thought and I was like okay take a breath I needed to tell you this and then I literally was like what am I telling them.
00:42:59
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Okay, this is everything the physical dense like the physical world the dense worlds the 3d world is dense.
00:43:10
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And so it takes longer. for things to happen. It's slower. It takes longer. On your manifestation journey, like it's already on the way, right?
00:43:21
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But what happens is like when we don't see it show up in our life right away because we want instant gratification, we think it's not coming. And then we like lose our vibration. We self-sabotage. We stop showing up and we like don't keep doing what we need to do because we're like, well, it's not here.
00:43:35
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But it's because physical manifestations is dense. It takes longer to arrive. It's just slower. so What I mean by this is like, even before the proof comes, because our our brain is going to try to keep us safe, right? And it's like, well, there's not proof of this. So it's going to scan for the negative and look at what's been proven before. So maybe you launched something in the past and you didn't have anyone signed up, okay?
00:44:00
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Now, when you go to launch again, If no one signs up on the first day, your immediate brain is going to scan back and be like, well, no one signed up last time. Okay, I just launched it No one signed up today.
00:44:12
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i need to ghost this. and This is a bad idea. This is a stupid idea. No one wants this. My price is too high. Oh my God. Like something's wrong with me, whatever. Right. Then the mind is start like spirals on itself into those critical thoughts.
00:44:27
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Girl. You launched it today. needs time to get out. People are busy. people People have lives. People need to see things like they say like seven times before it registers in their brain that they want it.
00:44:41
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So we cannot, we have to hold the energy and the vision before the actual physical dense thing manifests into the real life. And so... What happens though, in that little period though, is like, we start freaking out and we go back to our negative thoughts and we go back to the past and we're going back to like what happened in the past. And so we're like, well, that launch failed.
00:45:00
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No one signed up yet. This launch is going to fail. All that's happening now is that Like the dense physical reality needs take time to to like come into fruition. People might not sign up until the very last day of your launch.
00:45:14
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So how can you still keep showing up and holding the vision and the excitement and like bringing people in even before they're in? And this is how you do it. You brainwash yourself with your gene keys. You brainwash yourself with your genius. You brainwash yourself with your gifts and unlocking and decoding the way that your soul is here to do business, the way that um like what your life's work is, right? What your purpose is, your radiance, what keeps you healthy and and everything. that Those are all frequencies that are codes in your gene keys that is based off of ancient wisdom like ah Western astrology, the Chinese Ching, the Kabbalah tree of life.
00:45:49
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It takes in into account epigenetics and quantum physics. It puts it all together and it creates this chart called a hologenetic profile, which is the exact like It's very similar to a birth chart in um astrology, your natal chart, right?
00:46:03
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Your human design body graph, same thing. It's a chart that is literally a map of your hero's journey. And what I want you to do is I want you to decode that motherfucker. And I want you to be so obsessed with yourself and so in lock with like, okay, this is how my soul came here to this is my core wound, but This is what I'm here to suffer my entire life and continue to heal and heal and heal from as a spiral, new levels, new levels, new levels. And then I'm here to alchemize this, put it in a package and give it to the world as my main core talent, which is your vocation.
00:46:36
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So you're brainwashing yourself. It's not brainwashing yourself. You're just understanding this about yourself. And you're like, oh, this is my vocation. This is my vocation. This is my core talent. This is my core talent. I meant to do this. This is what I'm here to do. And it's a soul remembrance.
00:46:50
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And then you're like, okay, this is my culture sphere. You're like, okay, this is size group that my soul is here to impact. This is a size of group my soul is here to impact. And then you create offers that are aligned to that size of group. And you're not trying to be like everyone else.
00:47:03
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You're not trying to force your energy into places that it doesn't want to fucking go If you don't want to do one-to-one work, maybe your soul doesn't want to have this one-to-one intimate relationship with someone. and People who are here to do one-to-one are line two people.
00:47:21
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They thrive off of that intimate back and forth with one person. They thrive off of it. Not everyone thrives off of that, girl. Some people are here to impact strangers on a level like Tony Robbins, okay, on a level like Oprah Winfrey, on big global stages.
00:47:37
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Do you think that if your soul came here to impact people on a global level that you would feel fulfilled in one-to-one work with this deep, intimate like relationship with one person, do you think that would feel feel fulfilling? Or do you think something would feel off?
00:47:51
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Do you think something would feel like, ew, I don't know why, but like I don't want to show up to this call. like Something within me, it's because your soul is trying to tell you, girl, you're not meant to do one-to-one work. So stop doing one-to-one offers, right? Or maybe you're trying to force yourself to scale because your business coach told you or everyone on Instagram is like, you need to scale. So you need to do like a big mastermind with like 15 people in it, right?
00:48:17
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And you're like, why am I not, like, why is no one signing up for my like 15 to 20 person mastermind? Or maybe they do sign up and you dread Going in there and like doing the transmissions. You're like, I hate this. It's horrible. It's overwhelming.
00:48:31
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I don't like it. I wish like something feels off and it's because girl, maybe you're meant to do one-to-one, right? Or maybe you're meant to impact people at the individual level, like line ones, like me, I'm meant to impact people.
00:48:43
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doesn't matter the size of group, but I meant to impact them and completely change their lives as an individual so that they can go on and have ripple effects into the world and help others, right? And so the ah it makes sense for me to have like a lot of my shit recorded because I'm in my own energy. I'm in my own energy.
00:49:00
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i'm an individual contributor. And then I'm able to like, boom, give this to someone. and And it feels so good for them to receive because I'm in my genius, right? Where someone else, Like it wouldn't feel good. so that's what I'm saying. When you really look at your offers and you start to feel like, why is no one signing up? Why does my energy feel off? What is going on?
00:49:20
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The universe and your soul is trying to tell you, girl, you're doing business like everyone else. And you're not listening to yourself and you're not doing what your soul came here to do. So I would brainwash the fuck out of myself by decoding my jinkies and understanding what are they, right?
00:49:36
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And all of this is found within your gene keys. And I just happen to be a transmission of this wisdom. I happen to be like ah someone who deeply understands these systems, who has lived it in my own life and completely transformed my business and the businesses of my clients and unlocked wealth and opportunities. And just like my whole life, you guys, and my whole business has completely changed because I'm I am being who I came here to be and I'm not being anything else and I'm unapologetic and I'm saying, fuck off.
00:50:08
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I don't care. I'm not meant to do certain things and I'm not going to force myself to do them, right? And then you start getting this confidence and then your energy starts coming back online and you're creating and you're doing things in a way that feels so good for you and it's so aligned to your own energetic signature and people can't help but be obsessed, right?
00:50:26
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Like if there's any part of you, and I'm like screaming this from the rooftops, if there's any motherfucking part of you, girl, that does not like... a part of your offer, the way you deliver it, who you're talking to, the topic. If it doesn't resonate with you you anymore, this is your sign to change it.
00:50:44
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Business is an experiment. It's a motherfucking experimentation. We get to have fun. Think of it like a craft project. This is what I've really been leaning into and like telling everyone is like, think about your business like a craft project.
00:50:56
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What does the little inner you want to do? what does she What does she like to do? And how can you bring that into your business? Business shouldn't feel hard. It shouldn't feel stagnant. Of course, there's going to be challenges, right? like But there's a difference between like deciding, right, when you make that decision and you're like, I am that bitch, want to create a podcast, boom, I'm making the decision, you're going to become resourceful, you're going to figure out how the fuck to do it, and you're going to realize that technology isn't hard, it's simple, we're overcomplicating everything, it's just you haven't made the decision yet that you want to do it.
00:51:30
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So once you make the decision, you jump timelines, you become that person, of course, then, like i said, Challenges are going to come up, fears, limitations, and then you're going to use these tools, whatever you use. For me, like I said, it's like brainwashing ourselves with our our gene keys, like decoding how to do business according to our soul. So boom, again, everything is just going to feel better.
00:51:55
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Aligning our soul and our life to our energetic strategy and authority and type, like human design. I teach all my clients that. And doing the subconscious work, right? Whether that's like hypnosis.
00:52:07
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In my Healing Bubble membership, I have, um and I'm adding some more hypnosis is actually this month, but right now it's like all about like income. So it's like your first 1K month in business, 10K month, and then 50K month in business.
00:52:22
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I listened to that every single night. I listen i said, fuck the 10K one. I'm going for 50K. And I'm just like expanding my horizon. So I personally hypnotize myself every single night listening to my 50K a month hypnosis. And it's not a surprise when I tell you guys every first it was weekly.
00:52:39
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Recently, it's been like every other day I've been waking up to sales, whether it's my Gene Keys workshop, a mini reading, um a reading from like my I'm a resident Gene Keys reader and ah in a business mastermind. So maybe like it's through one of her girls that signed up and then I get a reading.
00:52:56
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um It's readings. It's the icon or sorry, the portal of you, which is my signature one to one. um program where but where all of this is included, the healing bubble, whatever, right?
00:53:08
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I have offers available. I have ways for people to come into my world. I have service. I'm giving people incredible value. I'm charging what I believe is an even exchange for it. So there's no resentment.
00:53:23
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There's no over, like I over deliver like a motherfucker. So like, you're gonna get way more than what I say. All of my like mini readings, I i i um i think I listed them as like 20 minutes and I had to change it to like 30 minutes plus, cause it's at least 30 minutes. Like it's over delivering on everything.
00:53:40
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like exceeding your expectations of what you're getting from me. and But I charge a good price for what I feel is good, right? I don't feel resentful. I don't feel like I am being taken advantage of, which we only do to ourselves when we don't have the price that we actually want.
00:53:56
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And I extended my turnaround time for all of my readings. So now it's like, it's just going to be longer until you get one, right? Which makes sense because I'm fully booked out. So like all of these things are possible we...
00:54:07
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ah we decide, make the decision, do the subconscious work, whether that's hypnosis, meditation, visualization, taking care of our energetic frequency every single day. Again, my healing bubble membership. If you're not in there, girl, what the fuck are you doing?
00:54:22
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Um, brainwash yourself with your gene keys, understand how to do business the way that your soul came here to do business, highly understand your human design and how to show up like that in business. um And everything will fall into place. And then use your own modalities and tools. Like use everything that you teach your clients on yourself, right? Like we have to be embodied in our work and that just makes our work even more valuable. Cause we're like, girl, like, it's like, you can't help but talk about this shit all the time and sell your stuff if you know that it works and we're our biggest testimonials. Right. And so it's like,
00:54:54
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Scream that shit from the rooftop. Like, I want everyone to know. and i And proudly share it, right? Like, it's like, proudly share it. But you know what? None of that happens and none of that works if you don't first decide.
00:55:07
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Right? You could... Learn the gene keys. You could go by the book. You can go to the website. You can try to start researching itself. You can even get a reading from me. But if you hadn't made a decision yet of like, I'm changing my life.
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I'm taking my business seriously. I'm not going to treat this as a side hobby anymore. I'm going to be the fucking expert. I'm going to be the icon. I'm going to be known for whatever this is modality in my industry.
00:55:33
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I'm going to change lives. And it could be for whatever small impact you want or big. You don't have to have this like huge mission of like changing lives and like changing the world. You could literally just be bitch, I just want to like work for myself so I can like hang out with my dog, serve people, use my highest potential and my gifts and like feel so fulfilled with my clients. And then like go to the beach or go shopping or eat yummy foods. Like I want to buy a lot of supplements and take care of myself. It could be literally for whatever.
00:56:01
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It doesn't have to be this, like, I want to create a non-for-profit. doesn't have to be like, um, it doesn't have to be like a
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charitable. It can just literally be because you want it, but you have to decide. And if I promise you, if you decide right now, if you decide right now, you will wake up tomorrow and make different decisions.
00:56:21
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and everything will start falling into place. um Another example, and then this is how I want to kind of end it, is that deciding, make the decision, and then trust that nothing bad can happen, you guys.
00:56:33
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Nothing bad happens when you just make the decision. Like, the universe will redirect you always. You will always be taken care of, but the the universe favors action. It favors momentum. It favors decisiveness.
00:56:45
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It favors, um like, bold, like claiming energy, right? It does not like wishy-washy. It does not like lukewarm.
00:56:56
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Okay. In my nine to five, I'm a recruiter. I'm responsible for 35 locations in San Diego, 35 quick loops. So I hire and like onboard for all of those locations. And I've done thousands and thousands of interviews in the past two, maybe three years of this role.
00:57:11
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I've hired over 2000 people. That means I've interviewed like times that by however many you want, right? The odds of actually getting hired are so slim. So if I've hired 2000, I've interviewed thousands on thousands on thousands of candidates.
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And I highly draw a correlation between getting the job, interviewing, getting the job, manifestation in the universe. Candidates who come to me that are like, and I ask, why do you want to work here?
00:57:41
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And they're like, oh, a I don't know. I just need a job. Okay. Do you think I give one more fuck about asking them another question?
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Or do you think I'm like, next, I already don't give a fuck about you anymore? Yes, because you know why? in my industry, it is, you have to want to work there. Okay, we work outdoors, we work on vehicles, it is dirty, it is loud, it is, you hot as fuck. It is a lot of education. it is training. It is memorization. it is procedures. It is following a fucking procedure. You are always on.
00:58:24
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This is not the place to come clock in and like fuck off and then get your paycheck. Like you're on It's a highly responsible type of position. If someone just wants a job and they're just like, I'm just applying through my resume out there.
00:58:37
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Do you think that is the type of person that we want or that would ever thrive in our environment? Absolutely not. So I'm going to hire the person who is enthusiastic, who is like, oh, my God, like, and and they don't have to love cars, but they can just be like, oh, my God, like, I just saw this position open up. I thought it'd be so cool to learn something new.
00:58:58
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um I just love like the environment that you guys have. I love like the training program. I love the career opportunities. i really want to build my career. i really want to. like advanced blah, blah, blah, right?
00:59:10
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That's the type of person I want. Someone who is enthusiastic, like has the same values and standards of us, who look, is looking for growth opportunities, who has a great attitude, right?
00:59:21
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Okay. That's very different than a lukewarm person. So when the universe is here and you're like, oh, I don't know, like I kind of, yeah, I have some goals for my business.
00:59:33
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It would be cool to like I don't know, like serve more people or to make some money in my business. Do you think the universe is going to conspire on your behalf to make anything happen with that lukewarm ass energy?
00:59:49
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No, because it's like, girl, you don't even know what the fuck you want. And they're like, you're not specific. You're not excited. There's no energy. It's like, why the fuck would I give you something that you're not like, I want this. And then you have the other person who's like, oh my God, i fucking love my business. I want to serve so many people.
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I have this thing that I have to tell you guys about. I'm so passionate about this. Like you guys are going to die. Like I need you to know this. i have this thing for you. You're going to want it.
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I want to make this amount in my business. I'm claiming $10,000 a month. I'm claiming $50,000 month. want to... i want to Like bua blah, blah, blah, you know, and like, I want to do this and this ah and like, just like this excited energy.
01:00:27
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Of course, the universe is like, okay, girl, here you go. Here you go. And it's going to start bringing you opportunities and it's going to start co-conspiring with you. But if there is lukewarm energy of like, I don't know, like maybe I'll like create this program like in a couple months.
01:00:38
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Do you even think that you're yourself, your energetic body is going to you know, when you have a free time, come and like work on it. No, you're going to be scrolling. You're going to be doom scrolling. You're going to be watching Netflix. You're going to hang out with your friends. You're going be drinking, but maybe you don't drink. If you're in my audience, maybe you do. don I don't know. don't judge.
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But like, you're not going to be working on this shit. But if you're someone who's like, I made the decision. I know what the fuck I want. I'm convicted. i I'm going to launch by this day. I'm going to call in this many people. I'm calling in this much money.
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I'm going to share. i know that this can change lives. I'm so excited to talk about this, this, and this. You're going to show up. you're going to show up to your laptop. and you're going to fucking make it happen. Even if you don't know what you're doing, you're going you're going be resourceful. You're going to YouTube it. You're going to find things out.
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That's just, that's what it takes. That's literally what it takes in business, you guys. And it's making the decision. And that's why a lot of people are sitting around not doing shit and nothing is changing month after month, year after year.
01:01:32
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Maybe you're sometimes posting and then you ghost socials and like, you're like, hey guys, I'm back. And like, you're embarrassed to like, be like, I'm back again. what if you just never left again? What if you decided in this moment right now, listening to this, you guys lock in.
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What if you decided in this very moment, I'm never going to ghost again. I'm just going to fucking show up. I'm going to post something. I'm going to post something. I'm going to repost something, but I'm not going to get let myself down or let my my audience down.
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And I'll leave it, I you know I keep saying this, but I'll leave it with this. If you're not going to decide, please do this one thing for me, okay? If you're not going to decide to lock in and to go all out and to just be that person who just makes it happen, because that's literally like, that that is what she does. That's her life.
01:02:17
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Please, please, please, for the love of God, Stop saying that you want it. Stop trying. Stop saying that you want it. Just for right now. Just for right now. Let it go. And I swear to God, this will work. Just be like, you know what?
01:02:30
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I'm not deciding. I'm not going to lock in right now. I don't want this. I'm going to be very honest with myself. I don't want this enough right now. I have other things I'm prioritizing, which is fine. You're in a different season of life. You're not in a thriving of business season of life. That's fine.
01:02:45
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So be honest with yourself and say, you know what? I'm prioritizing this part of my life right now. I don't care. to be honest, I don't care that much about my business. I'm going to let that go. And what's going to happen, you guys, is you're going to open up so much energy in your life to just be where you're at and to fully accept that like this just isn't your season and you don't want it right now. And that's okay.
01:03:08
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But until you do that, you are going to still wake up every single day, but not doing the things, not doing the things are going to move the business forward and thinking about it though, and feeling bad and staying in a guilt and a shame cycle for a long time. You guys remember what I was talking about at the beginning of the episode of like, when I kept counting down,
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um to go to hot girl shit. I was like, okay, four months, I'll lock in three months. Okay. I have 60 days. Like I wasn't doing shit. And all I needed to actually do to myself was be like, you know what? I don't give a fuck. I'm not, I accept my body right now.
01:03:36
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I'm good. Because when I, when I actually did that, I went to the retreat and came back It's been a month. When I came back, i was like, you know what? I don't give a fuck. I love who I am right now. I like what I'm doing.
01:03:47
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I'm not locking in. I'm i'm not deciding this. I'm not choosing health. I'm not choosing like fitness. I'm not choosing anything right now. I'm just going to live my goddamn life. And I just went in. Well, I didn't went in. I kept doing the same things I was doing of just like,
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not prioritizing movement, eating whatever I wanted, like a lot of processed foods. And I was having the time of my life. And I was like, this is, I love it. Like I'm having fun, right? I was like, this is life because I wasn't lying to myself anymore. I wasn't waking up every day and saying like, this is going to be the day I'm going to lock in, even though I knew I didn't want to make the choice. I didn't want it. I didn't decide. And that's why a month later, which was this last week when I actually decided and I was like, let's do it.
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I'm locking in. Boom. The next day, Everything in my life changed. All of my behaviors lined up with my identity of this new person because I locked in and i i decided.
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So if you're not going to decide right now, just decide to like put it on the back burner and decide like, I'm not doing this right now. I'm not prioritizing this because We don't need to live with the guilt and shame of just like feeling bad every day for like not pursuing something that we think we want when we just don't want it right now. And there's nothing wrong with that.
01:04:56
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And so do that if that's where you're at and then come back when you're ready. And when you're ready, you're going to lock in. And like I said, it's an internal decision that is spiritual, genetic. It just something within you transforms.
01:05:08
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You're like, let's fucking go. And then you'll start aligning yourself and quantum leaping into that person. And then, you know, prioritize all the other things that I said to be that person.
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If you're someone right now that is like, bitch, you're activating something in me. I'm locking in right now. I'm done. I'm done saying tomorrow I'm done coming back and like, you know, being on and then being off or I'm done like thriving at this part of my business. But like, I know I could still thrive over here, but I'm just so nervous to do it. If you're like, bitch, I'm done. Like I'm locking in, then make the decision, make the decision right now.
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Boom. And then literally you guys, do whatever it takes, do whatever it takes. Work with me. If you haven't, I'm gonna tell you like the different ways you can work with me right now. If you have not,
01:06:01
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Ever taken Selling with Soul. This is my five free day challenge to create a soul aligned offer in five days. It's free, you guys. It will connect you to the pearl sequence and the jinkies and it will, it's audio transmissions and also um meditations, Akashic meditations to help you literally create this offer, right?
01:06:18
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Down to the size of group you're here to impact, um what you're here to share, everything. It's so iconic. Start there, okay? If you are like, okay, I need to know my gene keys. Like I need to know like, how am I supposed to do business?
01:06:34
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I want to know the size of group my hair my soul is here to impact. I want to know my vocation. i want to know my biggest core talent. I want to know my branding, right? Like I want to know my... soul truth of like the brand of my business and i I want to know my brand archetype and like make social media so much easier and like connect everything back to my soul, then you need to get a Gene Keys reading, okay?
01:06:54
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I suggest the Money and Business Gene Keys reading. which I'll put all the links below. That is the, that is like the main business reading that covers all of the sequences. Okay. If you want something more specific, you're like, okay, I want the gene keys, but I can't really like right now, isn't the time to go all in. I kind of want to test this and see like, what even are the gene keys? How can this actually help me get a mini reading? You guys, I have the decode your brand archetype mini reading Which is going to decode your brand, Gene Keysphere. So it's like one specific Gene Keys. So you can get the feel of like what what I mean when I tell you a Gene Keys reading, right?
01:07:28
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um Just read the, also read my testimonials. They're literally insane. um But I will tell you your exact like truth that you're here to share with the world and what your brand archetype is.
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how to show up on social media. So you never have to like worry about like, how do I like share some of my personal life, but more professional or how should I be like, you know, talking to people in the camera and interacting. It tells you everything and it's aligned to your soul.
01:07:54
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um If you want to get over your main biggest money block, then get the, um, stop blocking your bag bundle, which is going to go over your culture gene key. And so it's going to tell you the biggest money block that you have, how you're actually just repelling people, not in like, which in turn repels money, but how to stop repelling your people and actually become a magnet and attract them to you, your very own specific frequency of doing this.
01:08:19
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It's going to tell you the size of group that your soul is here to to serve in this lifetime. And then If you are ready to work on your energetic hygiene and you're like, girl, I need to get my f freaking mind, body, and spirit on lock because like, you're just, you're not locked in. Like if you're not locked in and you feel, if you don't feel fully confident, fully confident to claim the expertise that you are fully confident to show up, speak, share in your radiance, be this like iconic expert, ah like spiritual teacher leader,
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If you don't feel like you're fully her yet, you're not doing your energetic hygiene, right? And it's far beyond even just meditating every day because i you can start with meditation every day, but I firmly believe making meditation fun.
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So I have all different types. It's a library of all different types of meditations, Akashic visualizations. There's ones to find like what you're... Again, like kind of like create the offer. It's like meeting your offer and the quantum, you know, and like seeing how that looks. And I have one for all different human design types. So you can wake up and activate your aura according to your human design.
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There's my favorite like go-tos that I do not ever skip on is my morning morning glow meditation, which is activating my bubble, my energetic bubble for the morning. It recalibrates all of your cells to perfect health.
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vitality radiance. And then I never go to sleep without listening to my moonlit ritual meditation, which is like, I take you into this guided, like beautiful, like serene um hot springs where like, you just get to like melt the day away. We melt away your energy, your bubble.
01:09:53
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And we let all of that energy go from everyone. and then we wrap you up in a cocoon and you have like the best sleep of your life. And then it also have, um I also listened to every single night, My hypnosis is like I do 50k months, girl. So if you're ready to like unlock, if you're ready to be like, fuck, I'm going to skip the 1k and the 10k. Let's go to fifty k You can write.
01:10:11
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It's like, whatever you want. um I listened to those hypnosis is every single night. And then every single month in my membership, you guys, in the healing bubble membership, you get A um channeled Akashic reading and a card pull from me every single month.
01:10:28
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And that right there in the value is already literally worth it because any of my Akashic readings are not $44. They're way more. So you literally get that. And those those range anywhere from like 15 to 20 minute readings. So they're like iconic.
01:10:42
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um And then you have the Telegram community, which is like very low key. Like it's it's very much like you just go in and like go to your library, like do your own energetic hygiene every single day. And then like I use the Telegram to like let you guys know when new meditations drop and to do like the monthly readings. And it's just like a place to have like support of like other soul sisters.
01:11:01
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And then if you want everything, girl, if you're like, girl, everything you just said, like I want all of it. You have to sign up. Well, if you want all of it, and if you want to make quantum shifts in your business, sign up for the portal of you, which is my now four month one-to-one signature program where we work together literally for four months and every single Monday you wake up to a new gene keys transmission decoding one of your gifts and geniuses okay so I take you through every single um I take you through the three sequences in the gene keys so it's like basically like a gene keys reading on steroids it's every single sequence it's um
01:11:44
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the genius sequence. So we activate your four prime gifts. It is love and relationships. And so you learn all of your patterns, mental, emotional, and spiritual patterns to open the heart, which makes which makes you a better leader because we cannot not have great interpersonal relationships if we're going to be leaders. Like you need to have that for your clients, right?
01:12:03
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um And then also the pearl sequence, which is all about unlocking how to do business your way and be the most prosperous and unlock the pearl of prosperity by being of service to others through sharing your gifts.
01:12:15
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So every single Monday, you wake up to a transmission, an audio transmission inside Telegram, um decoding your specific gene key. And then the last four weeks, we do Akashic Record readings.
01:12:27
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And then you guys, it also includes two calls a month. These are going to be group calls. And so essentially the first one is an Akashic records, like card pull channeled message meeting.
01:12:40
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So you can ask me anything about business, anything that's going on in your life and I'll tune into your Akashic records and ask your guides and give you direct guidance. And then the second call is going to be a subconscious, um, like activation call. So it's going to be a series of different modalities and tools that I have as a,
01:12:58
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certified NLP practitioner. ah It'll be hypnosis or it'll be single change belief or I'll guide you through parts integration. It'll be some sort of tool to completely rewire subconscious mind for the common things that come up on the spiritual entrepreneurial path, like visibility, like Raising your prices, like um calling in your soul clients, right? All of the things that come up that sometimes there might be some stickiness about, I'm going to help you shift your identity. And we do that together on those calls.
01:13:28
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And then also you get six months free access to the healing bubble. So you're going to be able to work on your energetic frequency for like two months, even after we complete. And then in there, you also get the readings. So it's it's so much, like it's so iconic.
01:13:42
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So those are the ways to work with me. i want to support you. I'm joking, you guys, when I talk about this all the time, that my business has completely taken off for three years, you guys. I was seeing a lot of nothing, but I never gave up.
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And now my business has completely taken off in the last six months. I am fully booked out. I have my membership. Like, who is she? i have my signature coaching program.
01:14:07
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I'm literally booked out for readings every single week. I make sales every single day and my life is completely transformed and it gets to be simple. It gets to be simple. It's not this like, and I only have, this is something else I want to say, you guys, I only have 800 followers on Instagram.
01:14:23
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You don't have to have a big audience. You just have to be ah so fucking good at what you do. And so connected to your innate gifts, which are unlocked through the gene keys, that you show up magnetic and radiant because you're working on your energetic frequency and because you fucking decided.
01:14:38
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That's it. I decided. I decided I'm not treating my business like a hobby anymore. This is like, this is my life's work. And I'm dedicated and everything's paid off. So...
01:14:50
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Just saying. Okay, my friends, I hope you have the absolute best day. I can't wait to support you. If you love this episode, send me a DM on Instagram. Make sure to um keep your eyes open. I have some more fun things that are coming in the works soon.
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And yeah, I can't wait to support you. i hope you have the best week and I will talk to you guys later. by bye