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5. The One With Courtney from Seeking Wilder
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In this soulful and thought-provoking episode of The Mindful Educator Podcast, Victoria R is joined by the ever-warm and inspiring Courtney from Seeking Wilder. Together, they dive deep into the power of self-trust, intuitive living, mum life, business boundaries, and how to embrace all the multifaceted parts of ourselves—without shame.
Courtney shares her journey from deep personal grief and a background in a restrictive religious environment, to stepping into her full self as an intuitive coach, astrologer, and founder of the Soul Seeker Society. Her story is one of transformation, healing, and following the breadcrumbs of joy.
We explore:
- How to begin reconnecting with your intuition (hint: it’s more basic than you think)
- Why rejecting parts of ourselves can leave us fragmented, and how to lovingly call them home
- What it's like to set fierce boundaries as a mum and business owner
- The origin of Courtney’s deeply popular Year of Abundance readings
- Why your intuition can't thrive when your nervous system is fried
- Creating legacy and impact for future generations
- The magic of embracing all of you—even the bits you hide
Plus, Courtney offers a special free month inside the Soul Seeker Society for listeners—a powerful step for anyone ready to deepen their connection to self.
Links & Resources:
- Connect with Courtney: @seekingwilder
- Join the Soul Seeker Society (use code MindfulEducator): https://www.seekingwilder.com/SoulSeekersSociety
- Victoria’s Coaching: @the.victoria.r
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Transcript
Introduction to Courtney and Positive Experiences
00:00:37
Victoria R
Hello everyone, welcome back to the Mindful Educator podcast. I have got a very special guest that's going to be joining me very shortly. um And Courtney is one of those people that exudes that sort of warmth and love whether you're online with her or whether you see her in person. And I've had the pleasure of being able to work with Courtney in a few different ways.
00:01:02
Victoria R
I've done the Year of Abundance readings with her, which are so accurate. And she was also, when I did the mind school, she was the school counsellor and she, it was a surprise that she was there. It was a last minute decision between her and Brie and it just worked out so beautifully.
00:01:21
Victoria R
And the support that she showed us during that week was second to none. And not to mention, she gives the best hugs. Yeah. So I'm really excited to welcome Courtney on here. I've got lots of things to ask her and i can't wait for you guys to listen.
Courtney's Work and Philosophy
00:01:38
Victoria R
Okay, welcome Courtney. Thank you so much for jumping onto the podcast with me today. It's lovely to have you here.
00:01:44
Courtney
Thank you so much for having me. So we excited to have a chat.
00:01:45
Victoria R
ah Yes, yes. So thought we might just start off. I did a little intro before you jumped on and just explain that I've done the Year of Abundance with you, which have been so accurate, and that I've also obviously um had you there in mind school for student coun... Oh, what were you the school counsellor role, weren't you?
00:02:06
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:02:06
Courtney
Yes.
00:02:07
Victoria R
I'm like, you're not student counsellor, that's my daughter. Yeah.
00:02:11
Victoria R
So I just thought, do you want to just start off by telling us what it is that you're doing and yeah, how you're helping people? It's your impact is very well known.
00:02:22
Victoria R
So I'd love to hear a little bit about it.
00:02:22
Courtney
oh Thank you, my love. Yes, I am Courtney of Seeking Wilder. And gosh, I think the how I help people changes every day yeah in the sense of how I support people. But I always say that I help people come back, come back home to themselves and really experience the fullness of their life in so many different ways, ah really amplifying and connecting back into that intuition, i think.
00:02:48
Courtney
If I had to put it in like one sentence, I think I help people trust themselves again.
00:02:53
Victoria R
Oh, that's a good one. Yeah. And that's such a biggie, isn't it? Because we kind of sometimes lose that trust over the way and we take on so much crap from other people that we don't actually listen to ourselves the majority of the time. So what you're doing, yeah, I know it's definitely helped me in so many ways. And just, yeah, as you said, even at the start, like trying to define what you do in one situation,
00:03:15
Victoria R
neat little package probably doesn't work for you because you do have such a brave experience that you bring into your coaching, into your business, which helps us in so many ways. So, oh, I really like that. And yeah, that intuitive side as well, that's really important too.
00:03:28
Victoria R
So...
00:03:29
Courtney
Yes, I think that all of us, i mean, especially me, but all of us are very multifaceted. and And I think that we're in a little bit of a a season in life, and especially in the small business community where it's like niche down, niche down, niche down, which I completely understand and resonate with.
00:03:46
Victoria R
Yep.
00:03:47
Courtney
But I think that we can be so caught up in niching down in our businesses that we start to niche down in our lives and almost like abandon our multifaceted nature.
00:03:53
Victoria R
who
00:03:57
Courtney
And I think that I'm like, let me have all of me, let me have all parts of me and show up in all of it because- I think that i love like I love and understand the idea of niching down, but I never want to abandon those different parts of myself. And I think that's why I've been such a successful coach and able to support others is because I'm like, hey, let's bring all of you together.
00:04:20
Victoria R
Yep. Yep.
00:04:20
Courtney
Let's trust all these different parts and all these different versions of you and tap into your unique magic and your unique essence and bring all of you like front and center stage again. and I think it's just, again, that permissioning of being like, oh,
00:04:34
Courtney
not None of me is wrong. I don't need to shame parts of me. Like to highlight, you know, my expertise and my zone of genius in this niche doesn't mean that we have to abandon the other parts and other versions of ourselves.
00:04:46
Victoria R
Yeah. And I think that's one of the things i love so much about working with you as well is that acceptance. You accept people exactly where they are. And I know that you do it in such a nonjudgmental way and you encourage us to do that as well. Like you, I know, yeah, like I said, working with you, it's been like, you know, it is okay to have those parts of yourself and it is okay that, you know, sometimes other people may not necessarily love those parts of you. And sometimes you don't love those parts of you, but it all is part of the bigger picture. And Yeah, I think that's just so important that as a coach, you're able to do that for people and to hold that space because, yeah, I think there's already enough pressure on ourselves. We don't need to.
00:05:21
Victoria R
and at any more sometimes. So to have someone that's able to do that in such a beautiful way is really nice. So yeah, I
00:05:31
Courtney
oh thank you mother oh it feels good in my body
00:05:34
Victoria R
know. I don't know. Like even just, you know, accepting compliments, like that's something I've never been able to do very well. And I've always got your voice in my head now kind of going, just accept it, say thank you, fill it in your body.
00:05:47
Courtney
yes yes how exactly how you receive anything is how you receive
00:05:47
Victoria R
ah those little things.
Acceptance and Embracing Abundance
00:05:52
Courtney
everything and it's
00:05:52
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:05:53
Courtney
that piece. And, you know, yeah I, I believe it's my belief. You don't, you can, you guys can chuck this in the bin if you don't like it, but it's my belief that there is such a connection and a correlation I've seen to people who are open and willing and eager to receive that love, to receive compliments to people who are open and willing to receive abundance in their life and not put those restrictions and limitations on it because it's,
00:06:19
Courtney
a part of what we're saying, you know, the energy that we're putting out into the world, the energy that we're putting out to the universe. If you're constantly putting your hands up and saying, no, no, no, and deflecting joy, defect deflecting pleasure and deflecting connection, because that's what a compliment is.
00:06:32
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:06:34
Courtney
It's a bid for connection. um There's going to be a ripple effect of that impact. It's either going to be a ripple effect of of connection of someone being like, yes, they really felt me.
00:06:45
Victoria R
ye
00:06:45
Courtney
Or it's going to be a ripple effect of the impact of, oh, okay, um i was a little bit blown off by that person. So it's just, what are you choosing?
00:06:53
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:06:54
Courtney
I always choose connection, but you get to choose either way.
Impact of Behavior on Children and Motherhood
00:06:57
Victoria R
Yeah. yeah And that's, Yeah, it's so interesting, especially because obviously ah know that you're a mum as well and our kids are saying this and they're saying how we take on these things and or whether we reject them. and I guess they're they're going to mirror that because they are, especially at such a young age, they do like to do as we do and say as we do and all the rest of it. so I think...
00:07:18
Victoria R
yeah for us women out there it's very important that we kind of demonstrate that yes we can accept those compliments and we can give them out freely and vice versa so I think that's a really nice message to have out there as well so yeah our children can pick up on that too
00:07:32
Courtney
Yeah. And we're not born with hating our body or seeing the worst parts of our body or seeing the worst parts of ourselves. We're not born with deflecting compliments.
00:07:43
Courtney
I mean, just spend time around a toddler and you experience how much full of love for themselves that they are and full of love for others that they are.
00:07:47
Victoria R
yeah
00:07:54
Courtney
And I think it's taught, right? it's It's taught to put those walls up. It's taught to deflect. It's taught to hate on our bodies and be like, oh no, that can't be true. Whereas like, you you know, you spend time with a toddler and they just say it how it is and they just hype you up so much.
00:08:07
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:08:09
Courtney
But also sometimes I say something wow, okay.
00:08:11
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:08:12
Courtney
But they don't see it as a bad thing.
00:08:14
Victoria R
No, no, they're just ah being honest.
00:08:14
Courtney
They just,
00:08:16
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:08:16
Courtney
They're just being honest. They're just talking into the truth of whatever it is.
00:08:17
Victoria R
Yep.
00:08:19
Courtney
And I think it's that, I think it's that reminder.
00:08:19
Victoria R
Yep.
00:08:22
Courtney
I think, you know, we're always teaching our kids things, but I think as a parent, I'm also always learning from my son as cliche as that sounds, but he's reminding me who I was at my purest essence before I allowed the beliefs and the noise of the world to change my view life.
00:08:36
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:08:39
Courtney
you know, how I thought about my body or how I was, you know, connecting with others or not connecting with others. So it's just that beautiful reminder to be like, oh okay, this way that I was seeing myself or this way that I'm showing up is not how I was in my purest form.
00:08:55
Victoria R
yeah
00:08:56
Courtney
does this still work for me or does it actually not? And sometimes, of course, like we grow, we mature and it's like, oh, that's that's actually not the way to move with through the world. And other times it's like, oh, I was actually, I'm limiting myself more here based off what something that my parents' parents' beliefs were or society's beliefs were that don't actually align with my truth that I don't even care about.
00:09:08
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:09:17
Courtney
So why am I living it and living for it as if it's fact when it's actually not?
00:09:19
Victoria R
yeah
00:09:22
Victoria R
Yeah. And how many of us are doing that without even realizing that we've taken on all this preconditioning that we're not even aware of. And I think, I know for me personally, once I had the kids, it was really, was kind of like, oh, it actually made me stop and think about it because, you know, you just kind of go through the motions sometimes without realizing. And as soon as you get these little humans that you're responsible for, it's like, oh, okay. Like, I don't know if I really want to do what has happened previously. And Yeah, to to make those changes, it can be such a big thing. And I agree with you, though. Like, I mean, my three are definitely my biggest teachers and they all the time.
00:09:58
Victoria R
i am learning something new from them all the time.
00:10:01
Courtney
Oh yeah.
00:10:02
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:10:02
Courtney
oh yes.
00:10:03
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:10:04
Courtney
And that's it. It's really interesting. I was talking to someone recently about how I think that I only truly learned to be firm in my boundaries when I had my son.
00:10:13
Victoria R
Interesting.
00:10:13
Courtney
And it was like this fierceness that I've, that I've never had before sort of came out, and especially my boundaries in as a business owner around time and my timing, because I was like, Ooh, you are actually now taking away time from my son.
00:10:20
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:10:27
Courtney
You're taking away time from my son by by being lax in these boundaries and these people like expecting far more and all of these sort of things.
00:10:33
Victoria R
no
00:10:34
Courtney
And I was like, oh, that sort of ferociousness of like, how how dare you try and push on my boundaries when that would be taking me away from my son. And I was like, oh well, people will, you know, humans are humans and people will not, intend you know, people don't intentionally try and stampede your boundaries.
00:10:51
Courtney
Well, some people do, but majority of the time people don't try and intentionally stampede your boundaries, but people will always go as far as you let them.
00:10:58
Victoria R
Yes.
00:10:58
Courtney
and nearly let them and it was like oh you yeah I had disrespected my own boundaries around timing time and time and time again and it was like this fierce ferociousness as I was like no you have to be the defender of your own boundaries when it comes to time because you're the one who's taking away from time with your child letting that slide again and again and again and I was like
00:10:59
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:11:17
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:11:21
Courtney
wow, so grateful that that was the lesson that I got because I needed that, you know, I needed that lesson.
00:11:24
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:11:25
Courtney
I think that's the difference between, you know, that maidenhood and motherhood sort of energy.
00:11:30
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:11:30
Courtney
You know, when you're in that maiden energy, yeah, I'm like, time and time just wasn't even a thing. Most of the time, especially when I had my own business, I was like, oh, whatever, I could work till 10 o'clock at night, I can do this, I can do um sessions with clients super late.
00:11:36
Victoria R
like
00:11:42
Courtney
And I loved it. I loved being able to serve in that way. Nowadays, there is no way that I would have a session at nine o'clock at night with somebody because
00:11:48
Victoria R
yeah
00:11:52
Courtney
I'm sleeping.
00:11:52
Victoria R
I'll be going to bed at that time.
00:11:53
Courtney
Yeah, I'm sleeping, but I'm like, you know, grateful for that season.
00:11:56
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:11:57
Courtney
And then also grateful for the season of motherhood and being like, okay, now priorities have shifted. Things have shifted. That time is now sacred family time or sacred connection time or sacred sleep time.
00:12:09
Victoria R
Yes, slave, what is that?
00:12:12
Courtney
Yes.
00:12:13
Victoria R
Yeah, no, that's so true.
00:12:13
Courtney
Yes.
00:12:14
Victoria R
And i know I know for me personally, I'm much the same. And um i like one of my biggest values is family and connection. So to have those two together and yeah learning to put boundaries in place has been a hard one for me to learn, but it's been necessary.
00:12:27
Victoria R
And you're probably much the same. like it It's not something that always comes naturally, but I think it's something that we all need to be doing to some degree. And it's quite interesting when you kind of you can see people trying to push those boundaries and you're like, no, no.
00:12:41
Victoria R
No, let's not.
00:12:44
Courtney
Yeah, let's not do that anymore.
00:12:45
Victoria R
No, that's it. So I know you were speaking about your business. So how did you even get started? Like how did Seeking Wilder come into existence? What made you decide to do this?
Courtney's Business Journey and Intuition
00:12:55
Victoria R
Like it's, you know, i'm just asking you a huge question here.
00:12:59
Victoria R
I'm wondering if, yeah, you can just give us a bit of history about but your business and where it began.
00:13:02
Courtney
Of course. I fell into it.
00:13:06
Victoria R
Love it.
00:13:06
Courtney
I fell into it. ah My business. started from purely selfish means on in the sense of I was doing all of these things for my own personal development and to be honest for my own healing journey which is where it started my sister passed away and i was feeling the most immense grief the most immense grief my sister was 10 years older than me but we always say like we were twins to meet my sister was to meet me to meet me was to meet my sister we were just very very similar vibes in the way that we saw the world and
00:13:31
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:13:39
Courtney
you know, always felt that like, why do people would not see the world the way that we see the world? So losing her, it but it was such a loss and there was such deep grief and I wallowed rightfully so in that grief for an extended period of time.
00:13:52
Victoria R
yeah
00:13:54
Courtney
And then it got to the point where I was like, okay, okay, I need to, I need to work. I need to work through this. I need to work through this grief. I'd already lost my dad when but I was 17. So I was very familiar with grief um at that stage.
00:14:09
Courtney
And I'd lost my, um I'd lost one of my best friends as well about a year prior. So I was very familiar with grief already.
00:14:16
Victoria R
Thank you.
00:14:16
Courtney
And then i was, i was doing the things, I was seeing my psychologist, I was working on myself, but nothing was really hitting, you know I was just existing, essentially just surviving. And then I started doing the, you know, going to the woo side,
00:14:31
Courtney
as as As a skeptic, I was going to the Wu side and I was doing like healing journeys and Reiki and things like that. And it just felt like the fog started to clear for the first time in a really long time.
00:14:44
Courtney
And then I was like, okay, well, if this is really like, I want to learn how to do this for myself. It's the way that my brain works. I'm like, oh, that was really great.
00:14:49
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:14:51
Courtney
How do I do it on myself? I'm such a Virgo. I'm like, okay, that's great. um Love that you held that space for me. I need to be a hermit and do it for myself.
00:15:00
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:15:00
Courtney
ah So I studied to do Reiki and then I started doing Tarot and then I just like fell into all of these things and then started doing astrology because again, I was a massive skeptic, but then I found out about moon signs and I was like, oh, this makes so much more sense.
00:15:15
Victoria R
yeah
00:15:15
Courtney
And then what happens I found is when you start learning these for things for yourself, your friends are like, oh, can you pull the cards for me? Oh, can you do a Reiki session on me? Can you do this? Can you do this? And then all of, I guess, my natural gifts and my natural abilities and, you know, the many different careers I had and all this sort of thing, it just, I naturally just fell into coaching because people would come for a session with me and I'd just be coaching them through all of these things. And then um was so busy,
00:15:44
Courtney
busy with supporting my friends and moving my friends through things that they were telling people. So then they were like, hey my friend of a friend wants to come and see you. So you got to charge them.
00:15:54
Courtney
And I was like, oh, and then very quickly, it went from this is just a fun side thing that I do for myself and do for my friends to, oh, my gosh, I'm so busy with this. I need to I need to quit my job and do this full time.
00:16:07
Victoria R
Oh, wow. Yep.
00:16:09
Courtney
was very quick. I think it was within like eight months that ah that it happened.
00:16:12
Victoria R
Amazing.
00:16:14
Courtney
And I sort of went out into ah part-time job and then had to leave the part-time job and went into my business full time. And then From there, it's just developed more and more. I'm very open to collaboration all the time.
00:16:27
Courtney
And I think that when you're open to receiving and open to collaboration, and open to connection, so many opportunities have just fallen my lap and fallen in my lap.
00:16:28
Victoria R
yeah
00:16:36
Courtney
And I say that I feel like I'm here to follow the breadcrumbs of joy and plan. leisure. And I'm like, oh, this is fun now. This is fun now. Let me do this. I'm not afraid of changing. I'm not afraid of transformation.
00:16:47
Courtney
I'm not afraid of trying different things on and seeing if it fits for a little while. If it doesn't, I'm like, okay, cool. I don't have a big tie up with no, I've made this commitment. So I have to stay into it.
00:16:57
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:16:57
Courtney
People, people know that this is what I'm offering. So I have to keep it, leave claw marks on this offer and bite my teeth down, even though it's not really serving me. I'm like, okay, grateful that that was there for a season.
00:17:07
Courtney
Now let me go with this. um which is sort of how I've ended up now, doing what I do and, you know, still having my own thriving coaching business and all the balls in the air, you know, keynote speaking, astrology, still do the tarot, have the Soul Seeker subscription, supporting at the Mind School, doing all of the different things that I do because, um again, they're all parts of me that I like to step into at different times.
00:17:16
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:17:32
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:17:35
Victoria R
Oh, I love that. And I didn't realise how organic it was for you to get into this. Like I know because I'm pretty sure – pretty we have been in a level up group together years ago.
00:17:46
Courtney
Mm-hmm.
00:17:47
Victoria R
Probably one of the first ones I did. And because I remember seeing your name in there and then next thing I know, like you everywhere. And I was like, what? And it's so nice that it's just, yeah, like I said, it's just happened so organically for you. But how funny that that wasn't really kind of where you started. Like, and you've ended up on this path that, yeah,
00:18:08
Victoria R
I never would have guessed that, to be honest. I always thought that that intuition and that um like all the stuff that you do, the spiritual stuff is has always been a part of you. But it's, yeah, how interesting.
00:18:18
Courtney
Oh, gosh, no. No, i i grew up I grew up in a really extreme Christian religion, to be honest. It was a cult. um What a time.
00:18:28
Victoria R
i Say what it is.
00:18:29
Courtney
So straight up, it was not a great and not a great way to grow up
00:18:29
Victoria R
Yep.
00:18:33
Victoria R
Yep.
00:18:34
Courtney
Um, but everything that I do, it's like, yeah i am in in their minds. I am demonistic in doing the things that I do. I mean, but you weren't even allowed to do yoga because you're not allowed to meditate.
00:18:41
Victoria R
have not Oh, wow.
00:18:45
Courtney
You're not allowed to even give opportunity of clearing your mind because you can let the devil in. Um, so it's,
00:18:50
Victoria R
Oh, my goodness. Yeah.
00:18:52
Courtney
You're taught, you're programmed to not trust yourself, actually. you should You are the last person that you should trust.
00:18:56
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:18:59
Courtney
you know there's You should trust God. You should trust Jesus. You should trust you know the religious leaders. You shouldn't trust the religious leaders no more than you.
00:19:05
Victoria R
m
00:19:07
Courtney
So leaving that and deprogramming that was such a big thing to be like, oh, my intuition was always there. I always had these intuitive gifts. I knew at six, yeah,
00:19:19
Courtney
that my grandfather was going to die the day that he was going to die. i just had this innate knowing. And again, um the day that my uncle passed, I knew that he was going to die that day.
00:19:23
Victoria R
Oh, wow.
00:19:27
Courtney
And the same with my dad. it had been a while since I'd been connected to my intuition, but I had that same feeling like something bad was going to happen and this day, like this innate feeling.
00:19:33
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:19:34
Courtney
And then I got the call that afternoon that my dad had passed. So it had been this sort of like deep knowing I'd had those innate intuitive gifts, but I just suppressed them and swallowed them down and blocked and blocked.
00:19:45
Courtney
was like, no, you can't trust yourself. You can't trust yourself. Everyone else knows better than you.
00:19:49
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:19:49
Courtney
You know that. Just let the leaders, let somebody more, let somebody who is in a state of leadership tell you what to do. I think that's, you know, so often it's like the trauma we heal is the gift that we're here to share with others.
00:20:05
Courtney
I think that's why I'm like, hey, listen to yourself. Yes, get advice. 100%. Seek support. bounce ideas off people, get coaching, but run it through yourself first.
00:20:16
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:20:16
Courtney
Check with yourself first. Check in with your own intuition. Don't just always deflect to they must know better because you are the expert in yourself.
00:20:23
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:20:26
Courtney
Always. You are the only person that is the full expert in yourself that has all of your life experiences and move through your entire life with you. Those other people may have like a little glimpse into the window, but the decisions that they've made in their life won't necessarily work the same for you.
00:20:41
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:20:43
Courtney
So it's that piece of once you know how to trust yourself and how to feel your yes and no inside and how to turn to that innate wisdom within having that foundation and then being able to get coaching and mentoring and guidance.
00:20:57
Courtney
Sometimes there will be things and my mentors will say this and I'm like, okay, yeah, logically that makes sense. But it is just like a full body. No, it's not a fear based.
00:21:05
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:21:06
Courtney
No, it's not a shame based. No, it's not a I'm resisting because I want to stay small. No, it's just a clear cut intuitive.
00:21:11
Victoria R
yeah
00:21:13
Courtney
No, that that is not the decision for me. And then so many times um the flow on effect of me being like, yeah, I'm sorry, I'm not going to listen to you. Saying no has left that space that a super aligned collaboration or an insane idea that has then know been really financially successful has landed in because I didn't follow and what ah what my body was telling me, what my intuition was telling me was a no.
00:21:34
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:21:40
Victoria R
So, okay. I love this and I love how you're talking about intuition because I know we mentioned it briefly at the start, but that's definitely something that a lot of us don't listen to. So what would you say to someone who is wanting to understand and listen to their intuition more, but has no idea what, how to begin, like what would you be your starting point for them?
00:21:59
Courtney
Really simple, really simple.
00:22:00
Victoria R
Yep.
00:22:01
Courtney
so you know You know, I talked about this so much as at mind school.
00:22:03
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:22:05
Courtney
People want to start connecting and with their intuition. People come to me and they're like, yes, I want i want to be intuitive. And they're like give me all the deep woo-woo practices. And i'm like, all right, you ready? Here we go. You need to go to the toilet when your body tells you you need to go to the toilet.
00:22:17
Courtney
You need rest when your body tells you to rest and eat when your body tells you to eat.
00:22:20
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:22:23
Victoria R
Simple as that. Hi.
00:22:26
Courtney
It's as simple as that. It's like, if you cannot even just listen to your body's physical cues to nurture yourself,
00:22:29
Victoria R
Mm.
00:22:34
Courtney
Just that simply, how can we possibly hold asking these really big, deep, life-changing questions, like asking out asking our intuition those questions when our nervous system is so fried because you've been living outside of your body, right?
00:22:36
Victoria R
yeah
00:22:51
Courtney
You've been living either in your head or even outside of your head. You've been going a million miles an hour that you're not even going to the toilet when you're near to the toilet. I mean, I'm sure that we're all guilty of being like,
00:23:03
Courtney
oh my gosh, I've been sitting at my desk for eight hours and I haven't moved and I haven't eaten. And then all of a sudden it's like, everything comes It's like, oh, I feel a little bit sick.
00:23:10
Victoria R
yeah
00:23:10
Courtney
I need to go to the toilet. And it's like, wow, you were just not in your body. You were just not present at all at that time. I think it really just starts with the basics there.
00:23:19
Victoria R
yeah
00:23:20
Courtney
It starts with the basics there. If you want to strengthen your intuition, your intuition
00:23:23
Victoria R
and
00:23:25
Courtney
Your intuitive body will tell you yes and no. But if you don't give yourself the space to ask it those questions, because it is space, it's taking a breath. It's not rushing into everything. It's sitting back and noticing that inner voice or that those inner physical cues or you know the inner language or whatever it is that pops up when you're responding
00:23:49
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:23:49
Courtney
alive
00:23:49
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:23:51
Courtney
And that's really where it comes to intuition. Whereas I think life is just so fast paced and so loud. it's like next thing and next thing and next thing and next thing.
00:23:59
Victoria R
yeah
00:23:59
Courtney
Nobody is giving themselves breathing room to be like, oh, is that, is actually a yes for me? Do I truly have the capacity to follow that or to hold that or to do that thing? And then it's like, we get to breaking point.
00:24:15
Courtney
We've been so disconnected from our body.
00:24:17
Victoria R
yeah
00:24:17
Courtney
We haven't nurtured ourselves. Our nervous systems are absolutely fried. And then we're like, okay, I'm at breaking point. Let me ask my intuition, should I quit my job? And it's like, You're not going to get a clear-cut intuitive answer when you are so out of your own body and so frazzled.
00:24:30
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:24:34
Courtney
So that's why I'm like, if you want to start being somebody who can listen to their intuition, who's like, yes. Some of those people who, you know, everybody's like, oh my gosh, just Courtney's gut, Courtney's gut instinct, like follow that, all of that sort of thing.
00:24:50
Courtney
If you want to be one of those people, it starts with nurturing yourself.
00:24:55
Victoria R
yeah
00:24:55
Courtney
It starts with those really simple things and giving yourself the spaciousness to be with yourself, which honestly can be really confronting for people.
00:25:02
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:25:03
Courtney
As probably you've experienced with my coaching, as so over many of my clients experienced coaching for the first few months of working one-on-one with me, everyone's like, okay, I'm ready for the like real deep juicy things.
00:25:05
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:25:13
Courtney
We are going back to basics.
00:25:15
Victoria R
yeah
00:25:15
Courtney
You just need to learn how to function as like a regulated human being. and they're like, this is actually really uncomfortable. And really, this is really uncomfortable and I don't want to do it. And feelings are coming up and da, da, da, da.
00:25:26
Victoria R
yeah
00:25:26
Courtney
And then they get angry. They're like, I'm so angry. And I'm like, amazing. You have been functional freeze for however many years. Beautiful. You're starting to clear that functional freeze.
00:25:38
Courtney
You're starting to connect into your intuitive body and your intuitive body is like, hey, you have suppressed this rage for so long. You got to let it out.
00:25:44
Victoria R
um yeah
00:25:46
Courtney
you have abandoned yourself time and time again, of course you're angry. Of course you're angry. at You're angry at yourself for all the times you've abandoned yourself. You're angry at everybody else for all the times that wanted you do to do things that were only for their own benefit.
00:25:59
Courtney
It's like, of course that that anger comes once we start to listen to our intuition, once we start to honor our body, once we start to clear the busyness and the hecticness that we've been suppressing and suppressing and suppressing. And it's only when we start to do that and then to clear, know, not...
00:26:14
Courtney
not rage at people, but to clear that rage intentionally, that people are like, suddenly I'm in a regulated state.
00:26:17
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:26:21
Courtney
Suddenly things are a lot calm. Suddenly I can actually start to hear those little niggles of my intuition.
00:26:28
Victoria R
Interesting. And like most things, it just comes back to the most simple of practices as well. And it's often the simple ones that can be the hardest ones to start, which, you know, is true.
00:26:36
Courtney
Yeah.
00:26:37
Victoria R
And I find it really, as soon as you said that, I'm like, how often though do we, to our own children or, I mean, coming from the classroom perspective as well, you know, children wanted to go the taller and they couldn't because, you know, whatever, whatever.
00:26:51
Victoria R
they couldn't allow. So already we're kind of squashing that out of our kids. And I'm like, Oh no, like no. So even just those simple things, you know, they have to eat at a set time. They have to go to the toilet at a set time. And here as adults, no wonder we struggle sometimes to then reconnect with our intuition because right from the word go, we we've kind of had it stamped out of us in a way, haven't we? So there's a lot of stuff we have to unravel. Yeah.
Societal Structures and Personal Needs
00:27:16
Courtney
Exactly. And I think, you know, like I was in the corporate world.
00:27:16
Victoria R
yeah
00:27:21
Courtney
and Gosh, I've been in so many different worlds, so many different pathways with careers.
00:27:22
Victoria R
I love it. Yeah.
00:27:24
Courtney
But you you know I started in retail and then went into the corporate world and it was still like you had a set lunchtime.
00:27:28
Victoria R
e
00:27:29
Courtney
You have a set lunchtime and you can only eat then. It's like where we're not given that space to actually listen to our body and eat where we want to eat and all of those sort of things and um go to the toilet when we need to go to the toilet.
00:27:37
Victoria R
yeah
00:27:43
Courtney
It's it's so interesting that we... have and this is where we going to, it's It's like the way that the world is set up.
00:27:49
Victoria R
I was like, yeah, we could go off on a whole different tangent, yeah.
00:27:51
Courtney
Oh, my God. It wouldn't be really fun. Like the problem is capitalism always.
00:27:55
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:27:55
Courtney
But it's this piece where it's like we are existing and currently right now or existing in a time in society and history where we are training our kids essentially to be removed from the cells, to be disconnected from their bodies, to be disconnected from their intuition, to just – suppress their their physical needs and I think that there is you know I definitely feel like there is a ah rebellion against that I mean we see now the the gentle parenting movement and the things like that and the and the more conversations and discussions that there is now amount around emotional regulation and all these sort of things only people have their emotions and understanding that releasing those emotions actually makes you a less emotional person so I do think that we're starting to see that shift and starting to see that change but
00:28:19
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:28:42
Courtney
essentially the structure of society is still set up in a way.
00:28:44
Victoria R
yeah
00:28:46
Courtney
It's like, yes, okay, feel your feelings and honour your feelings. um But not right now.
00:28:51
Victoria R
Yeah, yeah.
00:28:51
Courtney
Yeah.
00:28:52
Victoria R
Now's not the time because you're on the clock. Yeah.
00:28:54
Courtney
Yeah.
00:28:55
Victoria R
Now's not the time you're in the classroom. Yeah. Yeah.
00:28:58
Courtney
yeah
00:28:59
Victoria R
Oh, yeah. As soon as you were saying that, I'm like, it's just, oh, there's so much that we kind of, yeah, so much needs to change. I'm glad that, as you said, it is starting to change, but and we've still got a long way to go, don't we?
00:29:11
Victoria R
So, yeah. ah
00:29:13
Courtney
he that Exactly. And I think it's like the start of anything.
00:29:14
Victoria R
like
00:29:16
Courtney
i think that and know we're just going to go on another tangent, but I think that
00:29:19
Victoria R
That is fine.
00:29:21
Courtney
it's It's just who I am, right?
00:29:23
Victoria R
And that's what love.
00:29:23
Courtney
It's my nature. It's how my brain works. But I think that like when I say that we're taught about like women voting, you know we're taught about how they um did the protest and things like that.
00:29:33
Courtney
We're sort of short like there was a protest and then they changed the law and then women can vote. But we don't actually see that that was happening for such an extended amount of time. Like it was happening over decades, like over 50 years that was happening. But we just see this snapshot of like,
00:29:44
Victoria R
Hmm.
00:29:46
Courtney
this happened and then at like we're taught at school this like the protests happened and then the law was changed we forget that like there would have been people that that started that movement that started those protests that started those essentially acts of rebellion that would have never got to see the fruits of their labor and i think that we're in that part in history right now you know rule in the present but in history right now where it's like okay we're starting to see the changes and then it'll be you know in maybe 50 years or a hundred years that
00:29:56
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:30:02
Victoria R
yeah
00:30:16
Courtney
It'll be so like emotional regulation and the understanding of that I think will be so much more different because of the conversations and the little things that we're doing right now.
00:30:25
Victoria R
Yeah.
Generational Impact of Self-Development
00:30:27
Victoria R
Yeah. And that's where I feel like this, all this work that we're doing, it's just so important. And the fact that so many people are wanting to start doing it for themselves as well. And, you know, coming to see people like you to assist them with that. And yeah, it's, it fills me with hope.
00:30:42
Victoria R
but And I think if we can at least change, you know, even just one person's life that can have an impact on
00:30:43
Courtney
Yeah.
00:30:48
Victoria R
you know, they can then impact someone else. And yeah, that flow on effect, like you were saying. And I know for me, a a lot of what ah I've ended up doing is because of the fact that I don't necessarily want my children to go through of the stuff that I've had to go through and the lessons that I've had to learn in a really hard way. Yeah.
00:31:05
Victoria R
So I think that's a really nice way to to put it. Yeah. We're sprinkling the the seeds at the moment and give them time to grow. Yeah.
00:31:14
Courtney
Yeah, well, I mean, there's that famous quote that is, you know, society yeah society thrives when old men plant seeds that they'll never sit under, they'll never experience the shade from.
00:31:22
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:31:24
Courtney
And I think it is that thing that right now it's like we are doing this, this work for ourselves, for our kids, for our kids' kids, and we're doing it just out of a place of love of like, yes, we may never get to experience the full benefit of this, but that doesn't mean that just because i don't get experience to experience the full benefit of it doesn't mean that I'm like, oh, how grateful will I be if I could just have been a little a little part of the impact of change, of that ripple effect of, you know, two, three generations to come getting to receive
00:31:56
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:31:57
Courtney
in some way that impact from those seeds that I have planted.
00:32:02
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:32:03
Courtney
and I think it's that that sort of piece that it's like, I think there's there's the duality. I think there's very much the duality in the world at the moment of those people who are honoring their feelings and doing the work and all that sort of stuff.
00:32:15
Courtney
And then there's also the duality of, I think there is a massive epidemic of lack of empathy as well.
00:32:21
Victoria R
Hmm.
00:32:22
Courtney
and the separation and, you know, left, right, right, wrong, all of those sort of things that that the world is like very much in the in the duality and the polarities these days.
00:32:25
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:32:33
Courtney
And I think that that creates such a deep lack of empathy. And I think it's because we're not coming together and connecting and being able to have different conversations where we have different opinions, but then it being like, cool, we can still have different opinions and still be connected with each other and still respect each other and still love each other.
00:32:50
Courtney
So I think it's like, again, it's that polarity and duality, but I think that um I want to be somebody who is deeply empathetic to not only myself and the people who are in my immediate world and immediate circle, but also for those who are to come as well.
00:32:58
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:33:07
Courtney
And how can I make not only my life and my child's life, my son's life better, but how can I make my grandkids and my great grandkids' lives better as well by the dishes decisions that I'm choosing to make.
Understanding Societal Duality and Empathy
00:33:19
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah. Well, I love how you've explained that Courtney. It's yeah. Spot on, I think. And I know for me, I, I'm, I can easily like, I love hearing other people's opinions. I'm the sort of person in that I will listen to what you have to say. If I choose to accept it or not, that's, you know, so be it. But yeah, I know that you're definitely right. There is definitely that polarity at the moment. And it's, it's going to be interesting to see what happens.
00:33:45
Victoria R
I think we just got to, Strap in and see where this takes us. so yeah, the fact that you have that empathy and you're putting that out in the world is a beautiful thing. so thank you for that.
00:33:57
Courtney
Thanks,
00:33:57
Victoria R
Lovely. um Okay, I'm going to change tack a little
Year of Abundance and Soul Seeker Society
00:34:01
Victoria R
bit here. I wanted to ask you about um your year of abundance ratings because I love these, Courtney.
00:34:08
Victoria R
I love them. I think I was the one that messaged you last year. i was like, so are you releasing the dates yet?
00:34:16
Courtney
love. It's August.
00:34:17
Victoria R
I know, right? You're like, oh shit, it's getting earlier and earlier every year.
00:34:21
Courtney
Every year, every year I get asked for these earlier.
00:34:22
Victoria R
Yeah. ah So what made you decide to do Europe abundance readings? i ah For those that aren't aware of what they are, I know me, I do the personal ones. I did do the business ones.
00:34:34
Victoria R
one year, but basically Courtney comes in, she will look at at your year ahead. So you've got um information for the 12 months of the year, plus you add in all your extra bits and pieces, which I know you've added even more last year.
00:34:48
Courtney
Thank
00:34:49
Victoria R
So what made you decide to start these? Cause honestly they're brilliant. I love them. I love them.
00:34:55
Courtney
Yes, it's so funny. The first year, I think the the document was eight pages that you get for the year.
00:35:00
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:35:01
Courtney
Now it's 90 pages. So I just, you know, it's me. It's just who I am. I'm like, this is more, more is more is more.
00:35:07
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:35:08
Courtney
um I started to do this because it's something that I do for myself.
00:35:12
Victoria R
i
00:35:12
Courtney
It's something that I do for myself every year.
00:35:13
Victoria R
Love it. Yeah.
00:35:14
Courtney
And again, like rooted in how I started, like grounded in how I started my business.
00:35:18
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:35:18
Courtney
I'm like, always for selfish reasons. This is something that I do for myself. and I'm like, wow, this is really helping me a lot.
00:35:23
Victoria R
and
00:35:23
Courtney
um let me share it. Let me share it.
00:35:25
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:35:26
Courtney
let me Let me help others through it and guide other people through it. And I think it's a great, I think sometimes we just need an anchor. I think sometimes we just need an anchor when we're going through life and experiencing life.
00:35:38
Courtney
There's always going to be seasons of expansion and contraction and um working with astrology. I'm like, i can I can tell you when your seasons of expansion and contraction are going to be. And I think what I've seen through
00:35:47
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:35:50
Courtney
But now hundreds upon hundreds of people that I've done these readings for and the messages.
00:35:53
Victoria R
And it's probably going to be more and more.
00:35:55
Courtney
Yeah, the messages that I get every single week from people who have had their readings being like, oh, my gosh, it's it's freaky how accurate you are, how spot on it made no sense at the time for how you said that I would be in that energy. And this is what's happening in my life. And it makes so much sense. I'm like, yeah, because.
00:36:12
Courtney
um your astrological birth chart is a roadmap to the energy that you're going to be moving through every year. And the year of abundance reading, I find that it just helps people to prepare for whatever whatever season that they're going into, whether it be like, okay, you're going to be in a um expansive seasons this month.
00:36:25
Victoria R
yeah yeah
00:36:30
Courtney
It almost gives them the permission to be like, Let's go. Let's get things done. Let me ride this energy. Let me still nourish and nurture myself so that I can keep the stamina up for this being a season of hustle, for this being a season of expansion.
00:36:44
Courtney
um But that's okay. I can do that right now and it's not going to burn me out. Whereas when they know that a season of contraction is coming and where I've been like, okay, this is going to be a time to really nurture yourself, to rest, to go inwards, it gives them that anchor of permissioning to be like, God, I actually said I'd be feeling this right now.
00:36:59
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:37:01
Courtney
And I am.
00:37:02
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:37:02
Courtney
and i am all right let me slow down let me take a breath because i'm not going to be in this forever because i think whenever we're moving through anything we think it's going to be forever we're like this is the way this is my new baseline this is the way that i'm going to experience my life always and like i say to people like your worst day is not your baseline your best day is also not your baseline and and i think it's that sort of permissioning for people with the year of abundance readings to be like oh okay this is the energy that i'm going through and i give so much information i give a full write-up of the energy i give you
00:37:18
Victoria R
yeah
00:37:32
Courtney
I think like between 10 to tips on what to do when you're in that energy and things that you can do and how you can work with it.
00:37:35
Victoria R
yeah
00:37:41
Courtney
But I just love it I just love it so much. And they're one of those things that um every single year, it's just, you know, release them earlier and earlier every single year.
00:37:51
Courtney
I mean, I used to be like...
00:37:51
Victoria R
I'll try not to message you before August. Yeah.
00:37:54
Courtney
Yeah, I'm like, oh, it's fine. But it's so funny. It's like, hey, it's something that I was, i think I did it in December the first time.
00:38:01
Victoria R
yeah
00:38:01
Courtney
And now they're becoming earlier and earlier and later and later because they're just I'm just so busy and so full with them, which is amazing.
00:38:07
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:38:09
Courtney
I mean, I love being able to support support people with those readings. But um yeah, they're they' there's something that I love. And I also love the connection the ongoing connection throughout the year of people messaging me and being like,
00:38:22
Courtney
And it happens so many times. People were like, oh, I was feeling this energy and I didn't check my reading. And then I read it at the end of the month and it was so spot
00:38:30
Victoria R
Yeah. Yes. ah yeah
00:38:32
Courtney
So now I've started emailing people on the first of every month.
00:38:34
Victoria R
yes um
00:38:35
Courtney
I've been like, hey reminder this year, this month, you're in this energy because I was getting so much feedback from people being like, I wish that I remembered to read it at the start of the month because it was so accurate.
00:38:43
Victoria R
Yeah, and I love that you're doing that. Yeah, yeah.
00:38:47
Courtney
Yeah.
00:38:47
Victoria R
Because I know um for me, i cut out. I'm such a pen and paper sort of person. But I cut out and I glue it. I'm not glue. I staple it into my diary. So at the start of the month, I'm like, oh, yeah, okay, this is what we're looking at.
00:38:59
Victoria R
But it is also good to get that um email reminder as well. But I think the first year I did it with you, that was a year where it was a huge contraction for me. Like it was very much within myself that year.
00:39:08
Courtney
Thank you.
00:39:10
Victoria R
And it was just... It was more reassuring, I think, to know that, yeah, there was light at the end of the tunnel. um And i know I must admit, the reading for this year is a bit up and down. I'll be like, oh, gosh, what am I what am i going into?
00:39:25
Victoria R
But, no, and it's been accurate so far, but it's it's a good accurate. And, um yeah, I'm so grateful that you do those. So thank you. And I will totally be signing up when you open it for next year.
00:39:36
Victoria R
Just letting you know now.
00:39:38
Courtney
Yeah, just like, you know, you're like, okay, so it's April.
00:39:40
Victoria R
Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're going be like, oh, God.
00:39:41
Courtney
you opening, are you doing your abundance again?
00:39:42
Victoria R
know,
00:39:44
Courtney
I'm like, guys, give me a minute. Yes. um minute
00:39:48
Victoria R
and I love it. Even my sisters love it now as well. I got them into it as well. I'm like, oh, no, no, it's really good. So I think they're finding it accurate too. So, yeah, no, thank you for that.
00:39:59
Victoria R
um And how's the Soul Seeker Society going? That's another big thing that you do. That's, yeah, tell us a little bit about that one.
00:40:04
Courtney
yeah Yeah. So the Soul Seeker Society is my society, my community, where I essentially teach people how to move through whatever it is that they're going through and to be really present from it. It is really based on the astrological seasons and of course the moon phases as well. I jump in there every new moon and full moon to give readings to all of the members that we have monthly moon circles.
00:40:29
Courtney
I run masterclasses in there all the time. I get guest experts in there to run masterclasses all the time. And essentially there is so much in there. Everybody's like, wow, that's, there is a lot in here, but essentially it's a space that whatever you're moving through or whatever energy that you're in, that you can just go there and,
00:40:45
Courtney
connect with yourself a little bit deeper because if we have been so disconnected from ourself and so disconnected from our intuition sometimes we do need somebody to to light the pathway back to ourself and to give us some clear cut sometimes even even just a journal prompt again just some validation of oh this is what the end um they're like I'm feeling some kind of way and then when they understand what the energy that they're in at that time they're like oh
00:40:46
Victoria R
Mm-hmm.
00:41:11
Courtney
Again, it's that validation. And I think once we start validating and are compassionate with ourselves, we can then take action.
00:41:17
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:41:18
Courtney
Whereas when we're disconnected from ourselves, oftentimes we will then, you know, use shame as a motivator, which honestly um nervous systems can only hold up for so long.
00:41:29
Victoria R
yeah
00:41:29
Courtney
It doesn't last for very long. And then like, why am I just stuck? Why why am I feeling this stuck and stagnant energy all the time? Whereas the soul seeker is just this place to connect you back into yourself.
00:41:40
Courtney
to be able to trust yourself, to be able to nurture yourself, and then also to be able to learn things that exp expand expand your minds, expand your heart, amplify your intuition, all of that sort of goodness.
00:41:52
Courtney
And there's so much in there that I'm like, I don't think anybody could do the amount that is in there in the workbook, in there for every single month.
00:41:58
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:42:00
Courtney
um I would I don't do everything. I would be impressed if anybody could do everything. It's like every day, there's three journal prompts that come out into the group chat.
00:42:08
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:42:09
Courtney
There's so much in there, but it's so that people can just go in there when they need it.
00:42:13
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:42:13
Courtney
and have something at that time. So it's that space where sometimes people will be like, oh, I'm really going through it And they will dive in for that month and
00:42:21
Victoria R
yeah
00:42:21
Courtney
be on be on all the live calls and and jump on the, you know, the live masterclasses and do all of the journal prompts and really be in. And some months people just might dip out dip in and dip out and only touch a few things in there.
00:42:33
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:42:34
Courtney
But it is that real place of, you know, I think of it as like a smorgasbord. There's so much selection.
00:42:39
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:42:41
Courtney
What are you finding delicious at the moment? Are you wanting to do a masterclass on learning how to trust your intuition and connecting to your business essence? Great. It's in there. Are you wanting to do and
00:42:49
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:42:50
Courtney
in a child healing meditation, in a child healing journey, great, it's in there. Are you wanting to re rework your core values and even understand what your core values are and be able to like build build your life, build your business on top of your core values? Great, there's something in there for you.
00:43:07
Courtney
So it's that piece of whatever you're going through at any time.
00:43:10
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:43:12
Courtney
Chances are I've got something in there for you for it.
00:43:13
Victoria R
Yeah. I love it. Take what you need and leave the rest and yeah.
00:43:16
Courtney
Exactly.
00:43:17
Victoria R
Yeah. You can choose. Oh, so good. Yeah. And I think it's also a great way for people wanting to know what working with you is like. It's probably a very good starting point for them as well, isn't it? So they can get a little taste of Courtney. Yeah.
00:43:31
Courtney
Yeah, get a little vibe, get a little taster, get a little taster of what it's like, um which is which is it.
00:43:31
Victoria R
Yeah. rome yeah yeah
00:43:38
Courtney
It's that piece of, I know, just with life, with the world, the way that it is, but with life, not everybody has the ability to make the financial commitment to be supported one-on-one by me.
00:43:42
Victoria R
Yeah. Yeah.
00:43:51
Courtney
And I completely understand and
00:43:51
Victoria R
yeah
00:43:54
Courtney
think that's why the Soul Seeker was created, so that people could have that space, have that sort of like stepping stone to be able to receive the goodness that is in there um and then go from there.
00:43:56
Victoria R
yeah
00:44:05
Victoria R
Love it. um I know I'm very aware of time. I'm going to just ask you a couple more questions.
00:44:10
Courtney
Of course.
00:44:10
Victoria R
um um So what is
Current Projects and Living in the Present
00:44:12
Victoria R
coming up for you? Because I know that at the moment ah you are on fire.
00:44:18
Victoria R
I've been watching your stories and your posts and everything. And holy moly, Courtney, you are amazing. Looking fun. What is happening in your world? What has brought about this change? Like you can sense the the change in the energy and the vibe. And I'd love to know what's your plans. What are you thinking for the the foreseeable future for Courtney?
00:44:39
Courtney
Oh, who knows, really? Who knows when it comes to me?
00:44:41
Victoria R
ah love it.
00:44:42
Courtney
um Yeah, I just find it was interesting for those who are listening that Instagram is Seeking Wilder and I did a post a few weeks ago which I was like, you're all boring. Instagram is boring. You're all boring.
00:44:54
Courtney
um And then, you know, very lovingly had to walk that back two weeks later. and It was like, hi, I'm the problem is me. Actually, I'm i'm boring. I'm bored of myself on Instagram.
00:45:04
Victoria R
Mm-hmm.
00:45:04
Courtney
And it was this piece that I was so bored. i was so bored by everything in the social media world and this ah this and that. And then I was like, okay, well, consume your own content. And I'm like, oh, I'm so bored of myself. Like and I talk about all the time, you know, showing up with all these parts of yourself. And yeah, I was still showing up on socials with one part of myself.
00:45:24
Courtney
And I feel like it's, you know, I feel like we're always constantly in this journey of transformation and reclamation. I was like, let me just show up with, with all of me and show up in my fullness and really bring that to my, to my business and all of that, you know, all of the duality and all the polarity of me, which I really love.
00:45:42
Courtney
And yeah, I'm having a great time with it. I'm having so much fun, which is really beautiful. we have We're planning so much in the Mind School at the moment, which is very, very exciting.
00:45:52
Victoria R
yeah
00:45:53
Courtney
We have so many things planned for the rest of the year with the Mind School, which is absolutely amazing. The next, um I don't know when this is going live, but our next in-person round in Perth is in June.
00:46:04
Courtney
And oh my goodness, trust me, you want to be there. um It's like every single time I'm like, it's the best six days of my life. It's just, it's honestly such an honor to get to,
00:46:11
Victoria R
ah
00:46:14
Victoria R
It is the best six days of your life. I'm just... but
00:46:17
Courtney
Right.
00:46:18
Victoria R
Yes. Okay.
00:46:18
Courtney
It's such an honor to get to, you know, witness the transformation that every single person goes through over those six days and then get to hear about the ripple effect that people are already making in their lives and the the ripple effect that's making in their kids' lives and their partners' lives and um their business already when they're just there. And then, of course, the ongoing impact that it has, which is just amazing. So that's really exciting.
00:46:42
Courtney
And then I'm just... Playing. I feel like I'm just playing in my business all the time. I'm reworking things behind the scenes, reworking some offers, ah which is super exciting.
00:46:48
Victoria R
Nice.
00:46:53
Courtney
actually in the back end reworking some things to do for the Soul Seeker Society. So if you want to get in at the current price, I would recommend getting in now because things are being reworked. um But yeah, I'm just like playing with a lot of things behind the scenes. Again, following the threads of my curiosity, following the threads of my joy.
00:47:11
Courtney
um i will be opening up some more spaces for one-on-one coaching soon, which is super exciting. but yeah, just... Thank you more, please. That has been my intention for this year.
00:47:20
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:47:21
Courtney
Last year was just such a delicious life, like, yeah, are in business, in life. um And I was like, oh, I don't, I just want more of this.
00:47:31
Victoria R
yeah
00:47:31
Courtney
And I feel like this year has even been that. It's been like, thank you more, please. The things that I was loving about myself, I was like, amplify that. And I think people feel that sort of magnetism when you're in that state.
00:47:37
Victoria R
yeah
00:47:41
Victoria R
Definitely. And you can definitely sense that vibe as well. And yeah, it is. i like it how you describe you having fun and it comes across, definitely comes across. So yeah.
00:47:49
Courtney
Thanks. I mean, it's pretty radical, but I just want to enjoy my life. What a concept, right?
00:47:54
Victoria R
I know, right? Crazy.
00:47:55
Courtney
What a concept.
00:47:56
Victoria R
Who would have thunk it? Yeah.
00:47:57
Courtney
Turns out that, you know, yeah our time is very, our time is very limited.
00:48:00
Victoria R
yeah
00:48:01
Courtney
We are, I think, you know, and not, not to be one for toxic positivity, but I do think that, you know, there is, and there is, i I can find a silver lining to anything, not to put toxic positivity. I'm definitely like, feel your feelings.
00:48:16
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:48:17
Courtney
grieve your griefs, process your trauma. But I think I always ask people, I always ask my clients, all of my clients that are listening, they're like, oh, I know exactly what she's going to say. i'm always like, okay, beautiful. Do you want to make a home here though?
00:48:28
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:48:29
Courtney
and I'm like, your feelings are valid.
00:48:29
Victoria R
Yep.
00:48:30
Courtney
Your feelings are valid. Everything that you're moving through, absolutely 100% valid. Do you want to make a home here? Do you want to put down roots?
00:48:35
Victoria R
Hmm.
00:48:37
Courtney
And oftentimes when people are moving through um deep sadness or contraction or anything. They're like, no, I don't want to make a home here. i'm like, beautiful. It's valid that we're here. It's valid that we're experiencing this. It's valid that we're feeling this, but we can choose differently as well.
00:48:49
Victoria R
yeah yeah
00:48:51
Courtney
And I think that my civil learning too have experienced so much grief, so much grief. I think from 14 years old, I have lost someone close to me every two years. and and close, immediate family, best friend, all of those sort of things, has been really understanding that tomorrow is not guaranteed.
00:49:02
Victoria R
yeah
00:49:09
Courtney
I think it's something that people say all the time. They're tomorrow is not guaranteed. And I'm like, well, you're not you're living as if tomorrow is is definitely guaranteed. And I think that I know that your entire life can change in an instant, in half a day, in a moment, the the that your entire worldview can shift so quickly
00:49:25
Victoria R
Yeah. Mm-hmm.
00:49:29
Courtney
that I'm like, I don't want to spend my days living outside of my body, not being present, not soaking up everything, not soaking up the sweetness, not soaking up the bitterness, every single experience of life because I'm like, oh, I've got time, I've got time, I've got time. ah I'll do that with my kids in two years, in three years, in four years.
00:49:48
Victoria R
yeah
00:49:50
Courtney
I'll do it. I'll choose it then. I'll be happy then. I'll be happy then. i'm like, Well, three years is not guaranteed. Actually, tomorrow is not guaranteed.
00:49:58
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:49:58
Courtney
So how can I experience the fullness of whatever experience I'm going through at the time? How can I feel it? How can I be in it? How can I be present with it? How can I learn the lessons from it right now? I think that a lot of the personal development world, right, we're always looking back on what we can heal, the traumas that we experience. It's like, you know, we go mining for the hardships, which is again, valid, it's part of the healing process, but also it's like, do you go back and collect all of the joy?
00:50:20
Victoria R
yeah
00:50:24
Courtney
And that was something very radical for me when I started looking back and being like, okay, now feel the goodness, feel the goodness from all of those things, go back and collect the joy, collect the pressure, collect all of it.
00:50:35
Courtney
And now I'm like, okay, Courtney, now just be present for all of it.
00:50:38
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:50:39
Courtney
be present for all of it right now, instead of having to go back and collect the joy. I mean, that's what nostalgia is, right?
00:50:44
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:50:45
Courtney
Going back and collecting joy and that ache of being like, oh, if only I knew how good it was.
00:50:45
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:50:51
Courtney
Let me feel how good it was back then. and that's like that melancholy ache. I'm like, oh, one day I'm going to be nostalgic for today.
00:50:58
Victoria R
yeah
00:50:58
Courtney
so let me be in it. Let me fully experience it. So if I ever do go back to look at this moment, I can be like, oh, I'm glad I didn't miss it
00:51:08
Victoria R
Oh, that's so powerful. Almost made me bit teary listening to that because it's so true. It's so true. And how often are we just, we're not in that moment. We're always thinking ahead or as you said, we're looking back back and yeah, we miss so much why just not appreciating what we're in right now and not fully, like as you said, being present and feeling everything.
00:51:29
Victoria R
Oh, amazing. Yeah. I do have one final question. You've probably almost answered it but if you could leave the people listening with just one piece of advice, what would that be?
00:51:43
Victoria R
I know, and it's a hard one because I'm like, oh, so many things. ah But just one piece.
00:51:50
Courtney
My one piece of advice would be I call it your soul home. It's find your soul home, that place where you feel completely yourself.
00:52:01
Courtney
You feel safe to be grounded in your body. You feel safe to be present. You feel safe to just be, to experience, to feel. Mine is the beach. And mine is not only the beach, it's being immersed in water. I'm talking like swim swimming a couple of meters down.
00:52:16
Courtney
floating, letting myself just naturally float up to the top without swimming, being a mermaid.
00:52:17
Victoria R
Being a mermaid.
00:52:21
Courtney
If you look at my socials, you'll get it. I do lots of underwater photo shoots because I'm like, that is just my sole home. That is where I feel for myself. And for all of us, it's going to be different. Yours might be the shower. Again, I'm such a water person. Or yours might be the tree in your backyard or but ah' a specific tree down the park. Or it might be your bed and it might be a specific blanket that you wrap around you.
00:52:42
Courtney
whatever it is. But I want you to be really conscious and really aware of the environment, the place that just gives you the space to be, gives you the space to be.
00:52:53
Victoria R
Mm-hmm.
00:52:54
Courtney
And I think I've given like so many, so many tidbits and so many tips and coming back to yourself and checking with your intuition and all that sort of thing. But if you can just have a space where you just let yourself be for a minute, go there as frequently as you can.
00:53:10
Courtney
top yourself up again and again and again, whether it be once a week, once a month, whatever it is, but just choosing to let yourself just be in a space and to feel and to process and whatever it is can be just so freeing because I think so many of us are full to the brim, right?
00:53:29
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:53:29
Courtney
We've shoved things down. We've shoved things down. We've swallowed it down. We swallowed it down. We swallowed down our truth. We swallowed down our pleasure. We swallowed down all of these sort of things. We're containing ourselves and containing ourselves and we're not letting it out. And then if it does get let out, it gets let out in like,
00:53:41
Courtney
It's exploding at people, exploding at our kids, exploding at our partner, whatever it is. and then we're like, oh, where did that come from? It's like, you've swallowed everything down for so long.
00:53:49
Victoria R
yeah
00:53:51
Courtney
So if you can let yourself just choose to be in a space where you're like, oh, I'm just going to let it all out. I'm just going to be, I'm going to cry if I need or scream into a pillow ah if I need or scream underwater if I need, whatever it is.
00:54:01
Victoria R
Yeah.
00:54:02
Courtney
or just ah float and just be in my body and be like, hey, yeah i actually have a body. I'm not just a mind. I'm not just a brain. Like, let me feel every strand of hair on my head. Let me connect in with every single bone, every fiber of my muscle. Let me just be fully in my body for a moment. You start to just let all of the other noise go and you're reminded of, hey, this is what it feels like to actually just be human. And that's beautiful. Okay. Okay.
00:54:29
Courtney
Let's, I call it, it's like my restart. Sometimes we just need a little soul restart. And that's like, okay, beautiful. Let me come back to baseline and and then let me go from here. And I'm like, if you're finding yourself so disconnected from yourself, feeling overwhelmed about making decisions, go and do that first.
00:54:46
Courtney
And then think about the decisions and the to-do list and all of those things.
00:54:51
Victoria R
All the responsibilities that find their way in.
00:54:54
Courtney
Yeah, which is part of being a human.
00:54:55
Victoria R
Yeah. Oh, I love that. Thank you so much, Courtney. Honestly, I've probably talked to you for hours, but you know, like, no, appreciate you coming on.
00:55:03
Courtney
No, no. i
00:55:04
Victoria R
And yeah, I know that, yeah, people are definitely going to get a lot from this and just from hearing you and yeah, I'll make sure I pop all your details um up there as well.
00:55:15
Victoria R
I'll add all your links and yeah, thank you so much.
00:55:18
Courtney
And I would love above to give your listeners a free month into the Soul Seeker Society. So you'll get your own copy of your birth chart and all of the goodness that is in there for a month. Of course, the fortnightly readings, moon circles, all of those sort of things. So I will get Vic to give me a code and then I'm sure you can pop the link in the show notes.
00:55:36
Victoria R
Oh, love it. Legend. Thank you, Courtney. That is, yeah, well worth it as well.
00:55:40
Courtney
My pleasure.
00:55:41
Victoria R
I'd highly recommend people take advantage of that because it is, um yeah, I know I've been in it a few times and it's great. It's definitely worth it. So, oh, thank you so much.
00:55:53
Courtney
My pleasure. My pleasure. My pleasure. on Enjoy the rest of your day.
00:55:56
Victoria R
Yeah, you too.