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Upcoming Fathers (feat. Daniel)
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In this series, we are digging deeper into current and potential fatherhood. We are peaking through the eyes of several different men, all in different life stages. In this episode, we are interviewing Daniel!
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Introduction to Season 3 and Fatherhood Focus
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Speaker
Welcome, welcome, welcome, beautiful people. Welcome, pioneers. We are in season three through the eyes of men, upcoming fathers. And I don't know if you guys have been blessed, but I've been so blessed to hear all of these future dads talk about what fatherhood, what they think fatherhood would be like for them. And today we have on here, Daniel.
Meet Daniel Bloss: Family and Readiness for Fatherhood
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Hey, I can't match that energy level, but I'm there in spirit. All right, Daniel, give us a little bit about yourself.
00:01:11
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So my name is Daniel Bloss. I am the oldest of three in my own family, but I am the last one to have a kid. But hey, that's like that falls in with statistics, possibly. I don't know. It wasn't planned, but here we are. So excited. We have our first son. He was born in January of this year. Yeah. So we live in Arlington, Virginia, currently. All righty. Do you think you're ready to be a dad?
00:01:41
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Yes. Yes. In the sense that we've talked about this question before and how it's kind of crazy to think like, wow, here we are. So yes, but also understanding that I'm not totally ready, but that's where I'm glad that there are people for sure that, you know, give tips or basically have that open door. So yes. What are you ready and prepared for as it pertains to fatherhood?
00:02:10
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ready just for the fact of, I mean, you know, like you say, you're ready to have that title. So that's where I'm like, yeah, I'm ready for that. And then the prepare for, that's the part where I think as a dad, I think the mindset mentality is,
00:02:27
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I mean, you know, you know what's coming. I mean, I have you had kind of an idea what's coming. I've been an older brother, so I have an idea of what that feels like. But to actually be the one that, hey, this is your kid and you're the one that's responsible, that's just different. So but it's a good different. It's not a it's a different sometimes that makes me pause and say, wow, that's that's you. You don't want to think about it too much. But hey, that's why it says worry about everything. Don't think about everything. What are you unprepared for?
Role Modeling and Reflections on Fatherhood
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I'm unprepared for him to really just kind of mimic everything. I feel like I have a good sense of awareness of how I project myself, but I don't think you fully understand until somebody is following after you, more so a kid. That is your son in this case. And so that is probably what I'm least prepared for, but I think it'll be exciting.
00:03:29
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Is your dad in your life and how do you think that will affect your fatherhood? Yes, my dad is in my life. He actually was my best man at my wedding and he just became a person that we did not grow up super alike. I feel like we both were, you know, people say we were born or we were from the same piece of cloth. I think my dad was on that other piece of cloth.
00:03:52
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like other side but hey that was you know he I understood him a whole lot more the older I got and I think that's how he ended becoming my best man and so yes he's currently in my life still I understand him a whole lot better and I definitely think a lot of
00:04:13
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things that I may go through with Jayden. And so, you know, a lot of times I feel like people grow up opposite of their parents just because they don't want to be that. And so me growing opposite from my dad, but also having a relationship with them and continuing to grow with that as I got older has really helped me just to see how I see the world for myself as an adult and then now as a father. So for sure, it's going to be a shortcut. I would see it as a great benefit. Could you be a father to someone else's child?
Adoption and Family Expansion
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Yes, I would say that in the sense we thought about adopting because we didn't have a kid right away. We weren't sure if that was there something wrong or what. But for us, it was like a two year journey in short. And we talked about the thought of, hey, what about if you were to adopt? And so nothing wrong with adopting on our end. I've anything I was just open to it. And someone actually just threw it at me randomly and never thought about it. But they asked me on the spot.
00:05:15
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you know, like, would you want to, would you adopt? And I was like, yes, I don't see a reason why not to. And, you know, and they're like, good, that now you're ready to be a dad. And I was like, Oh, okay. So I don't know if that was like, well, like the angle of that. But I do see the effect that if you're willing to be a guardian, an example, somebody that is responsible for life, you know, then I think that definitely can play into the fact that you're ready to be a father. So good.
00:05:45
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How many kits do you want?
00:05:48
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However, how many God blesses me with? I don't know. I used to think that, you know, but as a kid, you know, you think about you play that little board game called life. Yeah. Like you get to the end and you're like, I have six kids or I have one or no kids. And, you know, I always thought one boy, one girl, you know, just trying to organize it. I think that's really where my brain was at. But I think as I've gotten older, realized life isn't within a board game. God blesses humans.
00:06:16
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cause them blessings. So that's just the way I see it. I know there can be challenging, but anytime I've seen big families, I've always seen the struggles and, but there's been so much more joys and things that follow with it. So I don't really have a number on that. I don't know if that means I'm welcoming a whole van later on in my life, but right now we are happy and content with our one and waiting for whatever snacks. How would you handle the death, miscarriage, stillbirth, sis, et cetera of your child?
Challenges and Traditions in Parenting
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Uh, that is, you know, as a dad, you definitely try to get in front of a lot of things. And so he actually just got through this.
00:06:55
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little virus called croup. I've never heard of it before. Some dads have, some dads haven't. I think it's one of those things that your kid can grow up and pass it, but our actually got it. And as a dad, you really want to be ahead of things. It's kind of natural. It's good. God wants to, you know, I really feel like God gives dads the bigger picture and God gives moms the here and now. And so in combination, you don't miss things. You know, you're still present, but you're also still seeing ahead. And as a dad, you want to plan.
00:07:24
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But as he was sick, my mind went and was thinking about what would happen if he was to pass away. And so the first that comes up with David where he lost his son, he's like, I can't go to him or he can't come to me, but I'll go to him. That was the thought that he had when he lost his child. But I told myself, hold on, pump the brakes.
00:07:48
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Realize that he's here right now. Don't let your thoughts just flap in the wind. But if we ever got to that point, I know that God will take me through. That'll be a definite journey in a way that I wouldn't have seen, but I have thought about it. And thankfully, there's truth that we can fall back on in those moments in my life. So good. What traditions do you want to break with your kid?
00:08:11
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I don't really have any traditions that I want to break that I was brought up with. Just because, I mean, you know, my parents, I feel like they broke a lot of them when just some little background on my parents and is that they were both born Catholics and my mom got saved, my dad got saved shortly after. So we didn't go to a Catholic church anymore. And that was probably when I was in like
00:08:35
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primary school. So it was probably like seven years old when I came to know God and accept him into my life for what he did personally for me. But with that, that just, you know, we went to a different church. And so I think that switching to a different church as a young person, there's just a lot of things that, sure, things could have been done, but I don't think any traditions thereafter that were carried is something that I would change. What traditions do you want to start or continue?
00:09:03
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So as far as continuing, so this year we have a photo that we're taking once a week. He was born on a Wednesday and so we want to just continue to take that one week photo of like every Wednesday and then just kind of like compile it. So that's what it looks like right now and in some sort of way I want to be able to like document it but not like
00:09:32
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live our life through a camera because it's very easy just to record and take pictures and just continue to look through a lens when really you just need to be present. But in some way, I would like to document it properly. And so that is just probably one tradition. I mean, I was born in the age of video, VHS, video tastes. We've seen, you know, VHS, cum, DVDs, Blu-rays, and now people are like, what are any of those things? I know, right? And it's digital.
00:10:00
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I just want to properly get it into one format and just be able to look at it. But yeah, that's probably one thing that I would like to continue to do. When you start talking about blockbuster people, look at you like you're crazy. What's that? I'm like, oh, we're only 20. Calm down. Are you a dinosaur? I'm not a dinosaur. What's one thing you want your child to know you for?
Parental Aspirations and Advice for Fathers
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somebody
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That is not perfect. At some point, I know that he will see, you know what, Dad's not Superman. Dad can do everything. And you know, and I hope that by that point he realizes how I do with things in a way that, you know, how I go back to God's Word and how I try to fix it, or not fix the God's Word, but fix myself in reflection with it. So definitely somebody that just seeks God really at the bottom of it.
00:11:02
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But yeah, so that's one thing that I think every child goes through at some point. And so hopefully he sees an authentic dad that when that does happen, it's not like a rude awakening or what or such a mood shift for him. What is one thing you want to impart most in Jayden?
00:11:24
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loving his mom, you know, loving his mom in a way that I had a mom who is a lot like Sarah in, you know, like they just, there's similarities. They're very, they're different too. But I think the core things that I really loved about my mom, you know, like just having that relationship with God and just being an approachable person and being a mom that, you know, now seeing Sarah love Jaden and knowing the experience I had with my mom, you know, that's something that
00:11:54
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I know Jaden will, he'll love it when it looks back at it and it's better because he's going to be spending a whole lot of time with her. More time with her than with me, you know, and so, you know, that's, but that's where I hope he gets that. I really do. Yeah. What do you have to say to other upcoming fathers? Don't be afraid of being a dad and understanding that
00:12:24
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You know, there's so much to be prepared for, or sometimes for me, I never really realized how much I would like this stage. Growing up, I would always see babies, didn't know what to do. If they started crying, that was actually the joke. It was always like, sure, you give me your baby, you're going to get yours back in like 30 seconds.
00:12:42
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because they for some reason would cry and part of it though is that I wouldn't know how to deal and babies really read body language or they feel it when you that's how that's really what they interpret as their first like you know understanding emotions and so when you hold the baby for me I would hold a kid and it would be I would be uncertain about it wasn't sure and they read it and so immediately they're just they don't feel secure and so my advice is
00:13:09
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just get involved and you will fall in love with being a dad and it doesn't and I don't know to me I never really wanted to be involved with kids at that age just because I didn't see a purpose in it for me I just wanted to keep doing other things family was not an insight for myself at that point and I love the age of like ones and twos but I did not realize how much I would love this age even though they're not as interactive and so just be involved and you will
00:13:36
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you won't even worry, like don't even worry about that first year. Don't anticipate it. Just be prepared and roll up your sleeves when the time comes. Last two questions. What do you have to say to this generation of men and fathers?
Empowerment and Encouragement for Parents
00:13:54
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Be a father. Be a man. Those are things that, you know, without getting into too many conversations, I think there's a lot of
00:14:04
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I think there's a lot of encouragement out there for other people to seize who they are and be who they are. And I don't think I see a whole lot of media, at least in pop culture, where people are saying, you know, be a man or just being a positive version of that, like, you know, or just really owning that. So don't deny
00:14:29
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what God has given you as a great blessing and as leadership roles. I had our pastor say it like this one time and it was from purely of the fact of trying to encourage us of
00:14:42
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own that, own that in your home. Because if you don't, the structure, that's where your kids learn structure. But he was like, hey, God was the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, not Sarah, Rebecca and Rachel. So just think about that and understand that God has called you for something
00:15:01
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very important that your kids will love you for if you take it and you'll look back and you have a whole lot of less regrets. I think all of us will have regrets at some point in life. We can't live this life perfectly, but we can strive and we can just do our best and be proud of what we can see what God has done. And then last question, what do you have to say to this generation of women and mothers?
00:15:26
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Enjoy it. Don't let anybody try to define that for you. And, you know, twist that either. But, you know, there is definite...
00:15:36
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You know, these moms, I'm in the military and I see a lot of moms do it all. And I think moms can do it all. There's a lot of times where, you know, I really think there's, I mean, no, I feel like girls have proven themselves time and time again, how capable and how ready. But, you know, don't be surprised when you watch in all labor, there's profit. When you watch God's laws come true as you put your hands to things. And so,
00:16:02
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know when to ask for help. You know, I think my mom definitely and my dad, like watching them kind of grow up. In a nutshell, my mom really, my mom is older than my dad by four years. And she just had a lot of things. She was that hardworking individual that my dad met before he really hit the ground running. But watching them grow in the love of God and just having
00:16:25
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Christ be the focus of the cornerstone of their marriage and really just watching that change happen. She really learned the benefit of not controlling at all which is versus when they first met and then watching my dad take the lead in a lot of ways you know looking back she was just like that's just what brought her to Christ honestly was just the fact that I realizing I can't control at all and I need help and when you realize and when she realized that that's when she accepted Christ and then realized how
00:16:55
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My dad needed to step in and she needed to get out of the way in certain ways, but there was just other things that God has a structure for it all. So don't mistake or feel like demeaned just by what people say, but God has it all structured for a reason and there's so many blessings and joys. So enjoy it and own it because you are the only ones that are going to be that example in the home.
00:17:19
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That is so good.
Conclusion and Call to Action
00:17:21
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Well, with that, pioneers and beautiful people, go like, follow, share wherever you're listening to this. Make sure you are following, rate the show, comment on it, go to the Instagram, interact with us, go to the Patreon, go to the website, get the word out. And if this has been blessing you, please tell someone and reach out. We would love to hear your voices. And with that, we say have a wonderful, amazing day. We'll see you on the next episode. Bye. Have a good one.
00:17:51
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So.