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Upcoming Fathers (feat. Auston)
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In this series, we are digging deeper into current and potential fatherhood. We are peaking through the eyes of several different men, all in different life stages. In this episode, we are interviewing Auston!
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Introduction to Season 3: Parenting Perspectives
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Welcome all the beautiful people, welcome pioneers. We are in season three through the eyes of men, upcoming fathers. And I have just been so blessed by my peers because I gotta tell you, I don't want kids, but to hear all these different perspectives on what they think parenting would be like for them is just honestly blessing me so
Meet Austin: Life and Faith in Idaho
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much. And on here today, we have Austin. Hey, hey. So Austin, tell us a little bit about yourself. I'm
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Still Austin, and hi, I'm married to my wonderful wife, Marissa. I work for a storage facility out in Post Falls, Idaho, and we like Jesus. Amen.
Thoughts on Parenthood: Equipping and Challenges
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Alrighty, first question. Are you expecting a child or do you want one in the future? We are not currently expecting, but we are thinking of trying later this year. Ooh, spicy!
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We can flip it by you. Okay. Do you think you're ready to be dead? Not fully. I think that I'm a lot more equipped than my parents were just because I have the Holy Spirit and I can hopefully lead them towards that, them being Marissa and I's future children. But, you know, I didn't have that. My parents didn't have that and I still turned out okay.
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Yeah.
Confidence and Inexperience in Parenting
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What are you ready and prepared for as it pertains to fatherhood? I think I'm ready patience wise and hopefully loving wise, but I can be really patient with people. I'm not patient with things and especially not electronics, but I'm really patient with people, which is good for kids. What are you unprepared for?
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Uh, everything up to being a teenager. I, I'm extremely inexperienced with small children. And, um, I definitely feel like I'm unprepared for the responsibility side of it. Like I don't always successfully brush my teeth twice a day. So how do I like tell my children that they're supposed to do it?
Navigating Family Dynamics and Fatherhood
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It's so funny that, I mean, well, not funny, but it makes sense. Like I paired the two of you together.
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Because for Marissa is the exact opposite. She's unprepared for the teen years. Yeah, that's right. It's so funny. Is your dad in your life and how do you think that will affect your fatherhood? Ooh. Yes, he is. And I think it's going to be really difficult actually. He's kind of somebody that has strong opinions and he'll voice them whether you want to hear it or not.
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and also whether it's ignorant or not. So I know that I'll have to go into it setting very clear boundaries and probably having some hard conversations.
Desires and Dreams for Parenthood
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Could you be a father to someone else's child? It wouldn't be my first choice, but I think that's more out of lack of experience than anything else. I would really like to have biological children first if we can, but
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I just don't have any experience with that. Yeah. How many kids do you want? I want two, preferably one girl and one boy, but I'm not upset with any of the outcomes. I for sure want to have at least one daughter, if not both of them being daughters.
Understanding Loss and Traditions
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And Marissa believes God told her that she would have four children. So I guess we'll see how that goes. Completely.
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random, but what if she had like quads? I don't, I don't know. That's never, I didn't, I thought that three was the max. No, they definitely could go up. Oh my gosh. Yeah, they could go up. There's, um, Kate plus eight, all of her daughters, she had, um, octuplets, like real life. Yeah. It goes up. Geez.
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So, how would you handle the death, miscarriage, stillbirth, sis, etc. of your child? That's a good one. I'm not really sure. I would like to think that I would be strong and supportive, but realistically, I think that I would probably come off unloving, at least for a little while.
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And that's just because I can't really fully grasp the emotions of something like that happening because I also can't fully grasp the joys of being physically able to conceive a child in the first place. So I would want to just be as loving as possible if something like this happens, but I know that I would seem unloving just cause I don't really have the capacity to understand all of it.
Legacy and Faith: Teaching the Next Generation
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That's good. What traditions do you want to break with your kids? I,
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really want to break the ideology that just because they're young means they don't know anything. I never want to downplay a child's perspective. And you know, it's always having childlike faith is a really good thing. And I want to make sure that they feel heard. That's good. What traditions do you want to start? I like the idea of doing like a Sunday dinner every week or every other week and driving to see Christmas lights on Christmas Eve.
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But outside of that, it's really all up to Marissa because I wasn't super close with my family and she has some traditions that she wants to carry over. What is one thing you want your child to know you for? Always being willing to listen to their side. I want our children to be able to voice their opinions and know that it being different from my own does not make it wrong. I feel good. What do you want to impart on your kids the most?
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I want to make sure that I've at least given them access to knowing the Holy Spirit. I don't want to dictate whether they follow God their whole lives or have any breaks from faith or anything like that, but I want to do my part to at least show them godly love. And I want them to know that they are loved anyways, regardless of if they walk away. What do you have to say to other upcoming fathers?
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I was actually stuck on this one a little bit. I think all I have is just try your best. I mean, at the end of the day, there's not really a handbook to parenting and trying your best is all you can do.
Advice for Future Fathers
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So every single brain in the world works differently, both kids and parents, and everybody needs different things that look weird to other people. So I don't know, just be present and try. That's good. And then bonus questions.
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What do you have to say to this generation of men and fathers? Hmm. I would say do better. Like I, I don't know the whole really is revered if a, you know, it's a master key, if it can break many walks and I don't know who decided that that should be passed down generationally, but that's not how it should be in my opinion. So.
Encouragement for Both Genders
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Yeah. And then last question, what do you have to say to this generation of women and mothers? I think stay strong. I think it's easy to see everything else going around you and want to conform or compare. And I think it's really important to just cherish the specific seasons that you're in. Oh, that's so good.
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Well, Piney, there's some beautiful people with that. That concludes this episode. Austin, thank you so much. This was so good. It's like lightning round. Guys, please be sure to check out the next episode and we will see you then. Make sure you go to the Patreon, the website, go to Instagram, follow us, and you guys have a wonderful, amazing day. Bye.
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