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44. NO MATTER WHAT I DO NOTHING CHANGES FOR ME...
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I used to be the person that would always say no matter what I do nothing changes. I guess i'm this way and nothing can help. I'm broken theres no fixing me. WHY ME....Do you relate with any of that?
If you relate to that then this episode is for you!
Hit me up in the comments and let me know what you thought of this episode.
Also any rating on this show would be greatly appreciated, any share, any follow would mean so much. Have a killer day, Adam!!
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Purpose of the Podcast
00:00:00
Speaker
Welcome back to Unlocking with Adam Pike. I appreciate you guys showing up again and listening to what I have to say. I started this podcast, I created this podcast in hope that you guys would listen to it, take something from it, apply to your life so you can live a better quality of life, unlock it the potential that you didn't even know was there. That's why I started this podcast. I'm always transparent. I always tell the truth and I always share my own personal experiences because I know that you guys can resonate with it.
Engagement and Application of Self-Improvement
00:00:30
Speaker
Now, I want to ask you guys a couple questions. Do you listen to similar podcasts like this? Do you listen to self-improvement podcasts, well-being podcasts? Do you read self-improvement books? Do you read educational books that's going to help you in your life? Do you do these things?
00:00:48
Speaker
Because I used to do these things, like when I first started on the journey of accepting that something needed to change, I didn't really understand what, but I listened to these podcasts, I read these books, and I would read another book, and I'd listen to another podcast, and I'd read another book, and I just kept reading, reading, reading.
00:01:06
Speaker
but I wasn't applying any of it to my life. I would just read the book, finish it, I was good, go on about my day, and still deal with problems. And I tell myself, I was like, man, I'm listening to the podcast, I'm reading the books, but I'm still dealing with these issues.
00:01:27
Speaker
I'm still dealing with these problems. What is it got to take? So maybe you guys are listening to podcasts, you're listening to this. Yeah, yeah, you might resonate with it, but like, are you really doing anything? Are you really applying anything to what you're listening to to help change your life?
00:01:46
Speaker
Or is this just like, you just put on a podcast for like a comfort thing. You just, you just listen to it. You throw on a YouTube video. I'm going to put on a motivational YouTube video today and woo, everything's good now. Or like, do you actually listen to what people are saying and apply it to your life?
00:02:04
Speaker
because I never used to do that and I never got any results and I was definitely that person that yeah like I'm doing these things but you know I'm still dealing with anxiety and I'm still getting into fights I'm still having shitty relationships and the list goes on you get what I'm saying right now
00:02:26
Speaker
I've come to realize that I actually don't read anymore at all.
Adam's Self-Improvement Journey
00:02:33
Speaker
I guess I listen to podcasts, but not as much as I used to. I do believe that's because I've been doing other things like actually working on myself and trying to improve myself
00:02:47
Speaker
I'm trying to deal with my issues and that is what is going to give you the most benefits that you were looking for. That's what's going to give you the most change. Now, the first step is actually being accepted that you need to change. That's the first step because I always used to run away.
00:03:08
Speaker
I run away from my problems anytime I get anxiety. I don't want to deal with this. I don't even want to think about it. Let's just fill up my whole day with things so I don't have to think about this or feel this way.
Coping with Anxiety
00:03:18
Speaker
If I get anxiety, okay, I'll go to the gym. I'll go to the gym. That'll stop my anxiety. If I get into a fight with my girlfriend, I run away. I don't want to deal with this.
00:03:29
Speaker
You know, maybe I get triggered and, uh, you know, I'd react and I flip out and then I come back, I apologize. Everything's good. But then the next fight react again, flip out, apologize. And I, I just kept going through this continuous cycle because I wasn't actually sitting and dealing with my shit. You know, that's like, yeah, you listen to podcasts and books, but like, what if you do other things?
00:03:58
Speaker
You always hear me talking about microdosing, right? Yeah, you can microdose 100%. And it might make you feel some type of way, but if you just microdose and go on about your day and just da-da-da, I feel good, yay. And then you stop microdosing.
00:04:16
Speaker
You never really dealt with anything. You never really sat with your shit and dealt with your problems. You're just, you're just using microdosing as a crutch to just feel some type of waste. You know, you don't have to deal with your problems. You don't have to feel the things that you're feeling. You know, if you use microdosing like that, you might not get the benefits that you're looking for. And that goes for everything. It goes for everything.
00:04:41
Speaker
You really got to sit with your shit. Now, Adam, what does sitting with your shit mean?
Communication as a Key Tool
00:04:47
Speaker
How am I going to work on myself? Like, I listen to the podcast, you know, I read the books, I micro those, but like, I'm still dealing with the same shit. Listen, guys, the first step is just being accepted that you got a problem.
00:05:05
Speaker
Now, another step that you can take is communicating how you're feeling instead of just bottling everything up and running away from your problems. Actually communicating this with somebody, whether that's a best friend or maybe it's your girlfriend or whoever and communicating that with them.
00:05:25
Speaker
Now, for example, if you communicate how you're feeling, issues that you have with your partner and it turns into a fight, I think that maybe they got some problems too and they need to deal with their stuff as well because you should be able to express how you're feeling and talk about your feelings with somebody else and it not turn into a fight. If it does, you both probably got to deal with your shit. The next thing you could do, maybe you're not open to communicating.
00:05:55
Speaker
And you know, maybe you could start journaling. There's a lot of science proving that journaling is very impactful on your life. So the people that are not, you know, I don't want to, I don't want to communicate. I don't want to talk about this with my partner journal about it. Journal about how you're feeling journal about what's triggering you in life and, and actually write your thoughts out.
00:06:21
Speaker
You know, maybe something's triggering you and you're building up the story in your mind. Write about the story that you think is what's happening and then actually take a step back and think about the actual truth and then write about that. Working through those problems, you know, being an accept of all of your problems. When you write about it,
00:06:45
Speaker
You're going to think about it. And then when this is fresh on your mind, you're going to work through these problems. Then you may, you might listen to a podcast and then something might hit. It's like, Oh yeah, I, I do. Yes. What he's saying. I do with that journal about it. Don't go on about your day.
00:07:04
Speaker
Journal about it, write about what you've just learned and how you're going to apply this to your life moving forward. And then you move through life with the, with intention and you're thinking about these things, right? Maybe the next time that you, that something triggers you, you already journaled about it. And you're like, Oh, wait a minute. Yeah. I journaled about this the other day. I'm not going to react the same way. I've been here before. Okay. I'm going to react differently now.
00:07:34
Speaker
That's to me is what's working through your shit. Now, maybe you don't want to journal. How else? What's another thing you could do?
Confronting Thoughts and Issues
00:07:42
Speaker
Maybe try meditation. You know, a lot of people don't like sitting in their own mind because they, they avoid the problems like I used to do. They don't like to think about their issues and sitting in meditation. What do you do? You're sitting with your own thoughts, something that's very scary, something that I used to run away from something that, you know, I always had to listen to music. I always had to be talking to somebody. I always had to be doing something. I could not sit with my own mind because it was not a very fun place to be.
00:08:14
Speaker
So over time, like, oh, I remember when I first started meditating, man, I hated it, hated it. They didn't want to say it with my shit, right? But like meditation is a practice. You're obviously not going to be good at it, but like when you can actually sit there and meditate and make your mind calm and peaceful,
00:08:33
Speaker
Yeah, you're going to think about some things, but like you need to deal with your shit. You need to think about it at some point in your life, because if you keep avoiding these problems, you're never going to change. You can listen to all the podcasts and all the books that you want in your life. But if you're not applying any of that to your life, nothing's going to change. And if nothing changes, nothing will change. Okay.
Learning from Arguments
00:08:56
Speaker
Another thing I want to add is something that I've learned in my life recently is when I used to get into arguments, the first thing I would do is run away, leave the room. I don't want to talk about it. I don't want to deal with the shit right now.
00:09:18
Speaker
Y'all know that fucking feeling, don't ya? Y'all, I used to do that a lot. Something that I realized as of recent is these arguments can be a very big lesson to us. And if we actually just take a step back and look at why we're arguing,
00:09:38
Speaker
maybe actually listen to what the other person is saying because I used to never listen. I always used to just wait for, so I could respond in an argument. And then that's like, when you both, when you both got the same type of issues, you're just firing something at them and they're firing something back and it just,
00:10:00
Speaker
it just gets to the point where you're so tired of arguing you just stop arguing you know what I mean but like you don't actually deal with anything but if you actually look at these arguments as a lesson and learn something from the argument that you're in
00:10:14
Speaker
That could be a really big way that you could work on your shit, right? Because if you, if you're in a relationship and you just continue to have the same arguments all the time and nothing ever changes and then you apologize, maybe you have makeup, sex, whatever, but then it just goes back to the same old shit because
00:10:37
Speaker
you guys are not actually learning anything from these arguments and you're just trying to avoid it. You know, you apologize, makeup, sex, temporary fix, but like they're not really dealing with anything. So next time you're going to argument, take a step back, maybe journal about it, maybe, you know, come like take a step back from the argument, come back to that, to, to the person, you know, maybe the next day when everything's cools down and then talk about it and then communicate like,
00:11:06
Speaker
Okay. What are we going to do differently here? I think that is, I think that is the best way that you are going to work on your shit in a relationship. No, I don't, I get it. You know, you're probably thinking Adam, like I don't want to deal with my shit. I'm not open to this. That's why I started microdosing because that opened me up to accepting
00:11:33
Speaker
who I was, accepting how I was. Microdosing really opens you up. Mushrooms really helps you communicate with your partner, something that really was a struggle for me. That's why I always ran away. Microdosing just helped me open up and be more willing to talk.
00:11:56
Speaker
more acceptable my problems and be like actually listen and listen to what they were saying and take criticism without actually having my back up against the wall and and no you know what I mean like I was always in this like fight or flight kind of mode and like I'd always run away
00:12:16
Speaker
And just never want to deal with my shit. So for any of you, that's the reason why I just brought up the microcosm. I know that was way off topic, but like the reason why I brought that up is because, you know, maybe you're listening to this and you just, you just don't know how to open up and you just don't, you don't want to talk about your problems and it's very uncomfortable. And that's why you avoided it. Right.
00:12:38
Speaker
Microdosing will open up your mind and your heart a little bit So you're more acceptive of your problems and then you could actually sit and work with your shit That's why I brought up microdosing because I just relate to it and that's what kind of helped me work through all my issues You know what I mean? So anyways at the end of the day I wanted to bring this up because
00:13:02
Speaker
Yes, you could listen to podcasts.
Active Application of Self-Help Strategies
00:13:04
Speaker
Yes, you can listen, read books. But if you're not applying action, you're not doing anything, if nothing changes, nothing's gonna change, right? So at the end of the day, you need to start applying these things to your life. You need to be more aware of what's going on in your life. Therapy, journaling, communicate with your partner, talk to a friend, listen to a podcast, but actually apply the things to your life
00:13:31
Speaker
So I hope that when you listen to this, this clicks in your mind because if you're not getting the results that you're looking for in life, if you think that you're doing a lot of things, but you're still dealing with the same problems, something got to change guys. Something got to change. And that starts with you being accepted of yourself and applying little tools in your life that could change your life forever.
00:13:59
Speaker
So deal with the problems head on, learn about your problems, be acceptive of your problems, write about it, journal about it, meditate about it, whatever that looks like, whatever that looks like for you with dealing with your problems that you have to
00:14:16
Speaker
hit those problems head on because if you're just avoiding it, you're going to be dealing with the same problems your entire life. So I hope you guys took something from this podcast. Um, like I said, I'm just sharing my own personal experience guys.
00:14:31
Speaker
I don't know everything. I'm just learning as I'm going. Just learning as I'm going. I'm constantly learning and I think that is also super important is opening up your mind to learn and listen and take advice from other people.
00:14:50
Speaker
I never used to take advice
Openness to Criticism and Feedback
00:14:52
Speaker
from people. I was always like, I'm my way is the right way. You know, and there's a lot of people like that. They're really stuck in their ways and they, they're not open to growing and learning and evolving. And you know, you need to be accepted of that. And for me, like, like what changed? Cause I was very close. I was very closed off. I was very closed off type of person.
00:15:16
Speaker
mushrooms is just kind of what opened me up a little bit to be accepted of learning from other people, taking advice, taking criticism. I never used to man. Whoa. Let me just talk about that for a minute. Like anytime anybody would criticize me on like anything, whether it was at work or whatever I was doing, like immediately like triggered, like, like upset, like fucking feel my blood boiling. You know, I was just, I couldn't deal with that type of
00:15:46
Speaker
situation. And that's got a while to even think about, but like you need to be able to, to be open to accepting these things. And like people are not always out to get yet. And I thought people were always out to get me right. But now it's like, okay, I get it. You're right. Take what they're saying. Actually listen sometimes.
00:16:09
Speaker
and start dealing with your shit, okay?
Call to Action and Sharing the Podcast
00:16:11
Speaker
So I'm gonna end this podcast off here. I really hope that you like this one. I really hope that you start applying things to your life so you could start dealing with your shit. If you did like this episode or you do know somebody that needs to work on themselves a little more or maybe you think that they can relate to this video, please share this. Share it in your stories or wherever, tag me. I would love to see it.
00:16:37
Speaker
Um, and don't forget, like I said at the start, I would really appreciate if you, um, rated this pot rate, rate this show. You know, uh, if you listened to this on Spotify or Apple podcast, uh, there's, there should be a spot there where you can rate the show greatly appreciate it. Hope you guys have a killer day. Much love, Adam. Peace.