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THAT VOICE IN YOUR HEAD IS FULL OF S**T!!
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This summer was the first time I ever took 16–17 days straight off the gym… and honestly? I thought I’d hate it. The old me would’ve been ripping myself apart, stressing about every meal, and feeling like I’d lost all my progress. But this year was different.
I realized something huge: you don’t need to be “locked in” 365 days a year to be healthy, happy, or successful. One workout. One pump. A few good meals. That’s all it takes to feel like you’re back on track.
In this episode, I share what I’ve learned about letting go of guilt, enjoying life, and why balance matters way more than perfection. If you’ve ever beat yourself up for skipping workouts, eating out, or just living life — this one’s for you.
🎧 Tune in for some real talk, a little Monday motivation, and a reminder that you’re doing better than you think.
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Transcript
Introduction to Motivation and Healthy Habits
00:00:00
Speaker
Welcome back to the podcast, guys. This is a Mental Monday episode, and I'm on here because we need to get a little bit motivated. Summer is soon coming to an end, and the reason why I'm actually on doing an episode is because I made a post yesterday, and I just posted like a simple picture of my breakfast. You know, I was pretty healthy.
00:00:19
Speaker
And basically the caption was this, getting back to the basics. You know, summer for me usually means like tacos, beers, road trips, and just like living in the moment. And normally I would beat myself up about doing that and like eating out a lot and like not working out, right? But like not anymore, you know?
00:00:38
Speaker
I, you know, I actually took time off the gym, like 17 days, which is absolutely outrageous, but it continues to stay. Well, here's the thing that voice in your head that like when you're not in routine and you're like kind of beating yourself up, it's honestly just foolishness, right? So like it it continues to go like the second, you know, I go back into the routine, cooking my meals, hitting the gym,
00:01:01
Speaker
ah I just know that I'm just going to bounce back like just so fast and it's that all those voices is is really just nonsense.
Embracing Unruly Summers Without Guilt
00:01:11
Speaker
So like that, that's what I posted.
00:01:13
Speaker
a lot of you guys were commenting saying, oh my God, this really hit home. Totally agree. We got to be like just not so hard on ourselves. So I wanted to jump on here and do a little episode about this.
00:01:25
Speaker
Um, so like I said, hope you guys been having a good summer. Uh, for me, I feel like this is probably one of my best summers yet. Um, I say that I feel like I say that every summer, but this one has just been really, really busy.
00:01:38
Speaker
And I normally like I've normally operate really good when I'm under like some sort of routine and I just, I just like discipline, you know, like I'm eating my meals, I'm going to the gym, ah i just I like having structure.
From Self-Criticism to Self-Acceptance
00:01:55
Speaker
But this summer has just been like so all over the place. you know like Sleep schedule very poor. um Staying up all night. Traveling a lot. Just eating out to restaurants like a lot. I'd say like the last two weeks, I feel like I've ate out to a restaurant every single day. and like Normally, I would just be like so you know, was like beat myself up over it.
00:02:19
Speaker
And I've even been spending, you know, I definitely been spending a lot of money this summer. And I used to beat myself up about that as well. But I just, this summer just been different. I'm just like, you know what?
00:02:30
Speaker
just worked my ass off the the entire year. So... I could actually enjoy my summer. Right? And I know like, you you know, i know i'm like I'm going to make more money. It's just going to come back.
00:02:43
Speaker
I know when I get back into the routine, I'm going to start feeling good. Like today, for example, I had two good meals, two healthy meals, went to the gym. It was my first time in 17 days.
00:02:55
Speaker
I've never taken that much time off of the gym in, well, ever since I started working out and I got back to the gym today, feel like million bucks.
00:03:06
Speaker
So like the reason why I'm saying this to you guys right now is because that voice in your mind that's just telling you like, oh my God, you can't have that extra cookie. Oh my, you're so fat. Oh my God, you haven't worked out in a month. Like, oh, you're you're disgusting. It's it's just bullshit.
00:03:28
Speaker
It's bullshit. But sometimes, and including myself, I used to believe that voice in my head. And I really used to just like give into it and beat myself up. And, you know, if I didn't go to gym for three days, I'm like, oh my God, I'm so skinny.
00:03:45
Speaker
but What? Seriously, guys, and I didn't go to gym for three days. And now I'm like, oh my God, I'm so skinny. Like i really used to be bad like that. But I'm not anymore, right? But there's definitely a lot of us that that voice in our mind takes over.
00:04:02
Speaker
It's really like we're not even in control. It's just like these voices in our mind are just saying a bunch of bad, negative things about us and about our lives and about other people. And we just believe it.
00:04:13
Speaker
But all bullshit. It's honestly bullshit. So, yeah, I just want to jump on here and just talk about that because...
Transformation Through Wellness Practices
00:04:23
Speaker
I feel like a lot of people needs to hear it.
00:04:25
Speaker
um I lived a lot of my life, man, just not even in control of my own life. Now that I really think about it, like that voice just used to create so many stories in my mind and create chaos and relationships and make me feel like insecure about myself and,
00:04:46
Speaker
If I drank too much or if I ate too much or I had that extra cookie or i or ate all that pizza, I'm like, oh my God, I got to go to the gym now. I got to go for a run. I got to work it off. But like this summer has just been so different because I've just been really doing whatever the fuck I want. And honestly, it's great. And i haven't been beating myself up about it.
00:05:07
Speaker
um You know, ah we got back from Toronto and I was like, thinking I want to go to the gym. i was like, nah, like I'm not even going to go. Just getting up, just... eating whatever, just eating out, having snacks, like, you know, I was was just really enjoying it.
00:05:21
Speaker
And i also posted to you like, we cannot be on 365 days of the year. Some people do. Like if you're a freaking athlete or, you know, you're a bodybuilder, sure.
00:05:37
Speaker
Like that's, that's your job and you need to be on all the time. You need to be, you know, getting better at your craft, but like we're not athletes. Most of us, maybe, maybe someone listened to this is we're not bodybuilders.
00:05:52
Speaker
Maybe someone that's listening to this is, but you you get what I'm saying, right? Like indulging in a little bit, sometimes slacking off the gym. It's totally fine.
00:06:03
Speaker
It's totally fine. Whatever, whatever, whatever that voice in your head is telling you, um Let's just not believe it. Okay. I know that it's easier said than done, but I think that over the years, um, you know, just me just doing all the things that I, that, that I used to do to really like get my mind the way it is right now. Uh, I feel like it just, it's, it's, it's, it's finally really paying off because I, I think I said this on the last episode,
00:06:38
Speaker
I'm just really freaking happy now. I'm happy. and It just really clicked in just over this last little while. like that i'm I don't beat myself up like I used to.
00:06:52
Speaker
And beating yourself up can be can of honestly be very mentally draining and exhausting. and It's like we got to do all these things to like just have this self-validation.
00:07:06
Speaker
You know what I mean? And that's just insane to think about, right? Right. It's insane to think about. Like, i I know I'm probably repeating myself right now, but like... Past Adam would... Two or three days off the gym, literally would think that... I'm i'm losing my gains. And, you know, ah I'm just not... Not... just I don't look as good as as I should.
00:07:34
Speaker
So, like, I would never miss those days. You know? now Miss 17 days in row. I don't give a shit. I know that I'm just going to get back on track, you know, and just do my thing.
00:07:46
Speaker
Past Adam. um You know, if I had that extra cookie, like so I wouldn't even eat that cookie. Like sometimes I was just, I was so like picky about my food. And like, if I ate something like that was not healthiest health, health, that was not healthy, I would beat
Self-Change and Acceptance for Happiness
00:08:04
Speaker
myself up about it. and Like, oh my God, like you're such a slob.
00:08:08
Speaker
Now, I'm eating five cookies. I don't give a fuck. Because it's really not that big of a deal. if i've have If I'm having five cookies every single day, then that's a problem. okay But you know this summer, I've just been enjoying myself.
00:08:24
Speaker
And i just you know I don't beat myself up with it anymore. And i i just, yeah, just I just want to get on here and just stress that to you guys that like, we need to be more aware about that voice in our mind.
00:08:37
Speaker
And I'm just living proof that like, I really used to be really, really hard on myself, really hard on myself. And i i know like, Because I was hurt on myself, like, that that that gives me that little bit of extra drive to, like, work harder and and and all that stuff. But, like, um where was I going with that? My my strain of thought is totally gone.
00:08:59
Speaker
Anyways, the whole point here is we need to be more just kinder to ourselves. And, you know, if if we miss a few days here, if we... Don't go to that Pilates class. If we don't go to the yoga class, if we say no to like going for a walk, if we have that pizza late at night, just enjoy it.
00:09:23
Speaker
Just do things guilt free and just enjoy it And I know like some people are like, well, i just I don't know how to do that. You know i'm just like just got so much going on in your mind all the time. It's just anxiety. It's just, ugh.
00:09:38
Speaker
It sounds fucking exhausting even thinking about it. So like if you are somebody that that day you listen to that voice in your mind, you beat yourself up all the time about doing all these little things,
00:09:50
Speaker
Then it's time to really sit down and sit with yourself and figure out what you need to do to to to make that mind better. To make your mind stronger. To start getting in full control of your life and stop listening to that mind, that voice in your head just trying to control your your every little thing.
00:10:11
Speaker
Right? I remember when I was, I don't know how old I was, maybe like 24. four Like anytime, man, I, and I spoke about this on what i'm one of my older podcasts.
00:10:23
Speaker
Anytime I was by myself, man, I had to be talking to somebody because my mind would just race, race. Oh my gosh. It was just, it was just terrible to just sit with myself, right?
00:10:35
Speaker
Not like that now. But what changed? ah just What changed is i started getting into this like wellness thing. I started sort of journaling, meditating. And I feel like over the years when like I continued to do this and I worked out and listened to podcasts and read these like self-help books and do all of these things, it slowly started to like slow my brain down.
00:10:59
Speaker
To get me to where I am right now. This is not an overnight thing. But like if there's if if you're struggling with that voice in your mind and you beat yourself up over everything, then you need to change something in your life. you need to apply something to your life. You got to try something. Maybe meditating is not for you. you you tried it a few times. It's just was whatever, right?
00:11:18
Speaker
Try something else. But you can't just sit there and you know maybe listen to this podcast and, oh my God, he's right. And just go out go on about your day and then you still beat yourself up and nothing ever changes and that's it. You actually need to like apply some things to your life so so you can physically change as a person and getting in control of that that voice in your mind that's just causing you nothing but like stress and chaos and bullshit.
00:11:45
Speaker
man, I'm getting heated about this stuff, but like, it's this real stuff, you know, and
00:11:53
Speaker
i always feel like the need to get on here and and talk about this, because I've been through it, I've been through it, and and I just wish everybody could have the same happiness, because I've been...
00:12:07
Speaker
ben I've been like to to those dark times, man. I've i've been to those dark times and i I haven't been there in a long time. And I just, I'm happy all the time. And I know everybody could be happy like that all the time.
00:12:20
Speaker
You know what i mean? So
00:12:24
Speaker
the end of the day, you just, if if if you want something in your life, you you really just got to go out there and get it. It's this simple. It's only you that can change you. It's only you versus you.
00:12:36
Speaker
We're not in competition with anybody. No one's going to really change you. You got to sit down with yourself and accept some things about yourself and change some things about yourself.
00:12:47
Speaker
Now, let's go back to... Let's rewind to my life a little bit. Like I was always... You know, I'd always like point the finger. I'd always blame other people. Like all those voices in my mind that I would listen to would create create like chaos in my life with relationships and friendships. And I would put like, if if it caused chaos there was arguments and was fights, i would I would blame them because I was never the problem. And I couldn't really, I didn't know how to sit with myself because my mind would just race. And like my life was chaos.
00:13:18
Speaker
I'll admit it. My life was fucking chaos. Yeah. And it wasn't until I actually, but like when I started accepting a lot about myself, it wasn't until I started microdosing. um Anyone that who don't know about that, um I went through a phase of my life where I started micro microdosing mushrooms. And I i found that it it just,
00:13:40
Speaker
kind of opened me up a little bit. Like it it made me realize a lot about myself, opened up my heart. I was more like accepting, um started to get more like calm, more relaxed. and I really like, it it really got me into ah like figuring out myself and I guess my traumas and what was going on my mind. And it really, it really cracked me open. It really did.
00:14:05
Speaker
um Now, I'm not suggesting this. I'm just telling you like what what I did um when I was microdosing. I was journaling a lot. i was I was sitting like in meditations just like, man, there was times I'd be meditating and I'd just be sobbing, like bawling my eyes out crying.
00:14:24
Speaker
I know it's, I know all this sounds like woohoo, but like, i just went through this, like, man, it was like, what, three years I was microdosing and i really got into it and I really started working on my mind and, you know, definitely still had a lot of work to do, but I just, like i so like I said at the beginning of this podcast, I just feel like all of the things that I've applied to my life over the years, the microdosing, meditation, journaling,
00:14:51
Speaker
podcasts, uh, you know, talking to, to, to people that, that went through the same things, um, reading, reading books on like mental health and self-help and just like really just working on me to get me to where I want it to be.
00:15:10
Speaker
And I feel like my past self, would never ever believe that i am me right now.
00:15:20
Speaker
Does that make any sense? um But I know that I, I know that i back, back then i wanted something different in my life. I wanted to change. I didn't know what it was and I was, I didn't even know what I was trying to accomplish, but I'm really glad that I did the work on myself so I can be how I am right now.
00:15:43
Speaker
So, I'm not going to go on this rant in any longer. I just want to jump on here and just be like, hey, like, you know, summer's coming to an end. And if you're just enjoying your summer and living it up, don't be so hard on yourself.
00:15:57
Speaker
If you got that, ah if you're eating that extra cookie, don't be so hard on yourself. You know, if you miss that workout, don't be so hard on yourself. If you don't want to do something. You know, if someone asks you to like the good, don't feel guilty.
00:16:11
Speaker
Don't be so hard on yourself. It's like, just do whatever you want to do. Guilt free. That's it. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Trust me. When you just, when you, when you figure this out and you, and you calm those voices in your mind, you you stop listening to, to, to that voice that's just trying to control you. You're going to be so much happier. So,
00:16:33
Speaker
much happier. promise you. I promise you that. But it all starts with you. It's you against you. And you got to start somewhere. You got to change something. And you just got to apply the actions that's going to get you to that person. And
Conclusion and Audience Appreciation
00:16:47
Speaker
like I know, you know, like I said, it took me years to get where I am right now.
00:16:52
Speaker
But if I never change anything, I'd still be like that. And fuck, I can't imagine living my life the way I used to live my life. I can't fucking imagine. I'm swearing because it's like, I just don't want that no more. to Trust me.
00:17:06
Speaker
um So i hope you took I hope you took something from this episode. um I mean, if you want to hit me up, you want to chat a about it, if you like this episode, let me know. um don't And also, like if you guys can rate this podcast, that that would honestly be amazing. There's like a section to do it on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. you you can You can rate the show.
00:17:25
Speaker
Obviously, You know, the more... I don't even know how it works. i don't even know how it works. I just see other podcasts. Like, they just have, like, 20,000 people have rated the show. And I guess it just, like, pushes it on the algorithm. So, um if you guys could do that for me, that'd be ah amazing.
00:17:42
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And if you know somebody that's... You know, if you think you know someone that could relate to this, send it to them. Send it to them. But, yeah. I hope you guys...
00:17:53
Speaker
Took something from this and there will be more podcasts coming your way. summer's cos summers coon Summer is soon coming to an end and i know that...
00:18:06
Speaker
Once it's due and you know Rebecca goes back to school, um I'll be back locked in, ah whipping up a lot of nice recipes and doing more of these episodes. So stay tuned for that.
00:18:20
Speaker
Thank you for listening. I appreciate you guys being here and always tuning in. And giving me the feedback and the support and the love. um I appreciate everybody who's been sharing my stuff on Facebook and Instagram. TikTok. If you guys follow me on there.
00:18:34
Speaker
um ah really do appreciate all the love and support every single day. So, see you guys in the next one. Peace.