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YOU'RE NOT BEHIND - YOU'RE ON YOUR OWN DAMN TIMELINE
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Ever catch yourself scrolling, watching your friends check off all the “life boxes” — the house, the job, the relationship — and think, “Sht… am I behind?”*
This episode is your reminder that you’re not. Not even close.
We’re diving into that quiet pressure so many of us feel — the comparison, the timelines, the fear that we’re not where we’re supposed to be. But here’s the truth: there is no “supposed to.” There’s just you, your pace, and your process.
If you’ve ever questioned your path, doubted your timing, or wondered if you’re doing life “right,” this one’s for you. You’re not late. You’re just building something real — and it takes time.
No fluff. No toxic positivity. Just a real talk to kick off your week with some damn perspective.
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Transcript
Introduction to Mental Monday
00:00:00
Adam Pike
Welcome back. It is Monday and we're doing another episode of Mental Monday. If you are just here for the first time, I'm Adam Pike. Welcome. But if you've been here already, you know that I love you and i appreciate you taking the time in your day to listen to what I got to say. Now, let's just get straight to it.
00:00:15
Adam Pike
Okay, let's just get straight to it.
Embracing Your Unique Timeline
00:00:17
Adam Pike
You've been walking around thinking like, shit, I'm behind in life, okay? This episode is for you because I have definitely thought that sometimes in my life, not right now, but ive there's been times I'm like, man, I feel like I'm behind.
00:00:30
Adam Pike
Listen, guys, just settle back. Tune in. You're not behind in life, okay? that's That's facts. You're not behind. You're not late. You're just on your own damn timeline.
00:00:40
Adam Pike
Yours. Your timeline. No one else's. Okay. And like, maybe it's time that you just really start owning that. And I feel like that's something that I've been doing lately is just like, I'm i'm just, I'm just doing me.
00:00:53
Adam Pike
Okay. I'm on my own timeline. I'm figuring it out as
Challenging Traditional Milestones
00:00:57
Adam Pike
I go. I'm 33 and I feel like I'm now we're getting in a groove in my life where I actually do feel good and I've, I'm having fun doing it and I'm 33 and I feel like I'm only now kind of figuring things out and that's totally fine. So listen, let's, let's, let's be honest.
00:01:16
Adam Pike
It's easy to feel like you're not really doing enough when you look around now, isn't it? You know, your friends are buying houses, popping out kids left, right, and center, climbing the ladder. And you're just sitting there like, like, did I miss something? Or like, did I screw something up? Or, you know, maybe, i don't know, maybe maybe you're 50 or 60 and you just got a divorce.
00:01:38
Adam Pike
Now you're single again. And you're like, oh, what? What did i do wrong in my
Rejecting Societal Pressures
00:01:42
Adam Pike
life? You know, listen, guys, you're on your own timeline. if's There's no like you don't need to have things done at a certain time.
00:01:50
Adam Pike
and and And if things unfold in your life, then listen, you you just pick right back up and you just keep moving forward. OK, that's that's it.
00:02:01
Adam Pike
You know what I'm saying? So. here's what most people won't say loud. Like, there's no single version of success. You know, there's no deadline that you're supposed to hit by 30, 40, 50, 60, you know, like that pressure that that you feel. It's is' not really the truth. it's It's conditioning. So like, let's just, let's just shake that off today.
00:02:24
Adam Pike
Okay. Let's just shake that off. Wherever you are in life, I'm i'm sure that sometimes you you might think about these things. You know what i'm saying? So like maybe, Maybe you're just now figuring out what really lights you up.
00:02:38
Adam Pike
And again, like no matter where you are in your life, you you could you could turn 55 tomorrow and and just find something that you're really good at. and and And that kind of takes off.
00:02:49
Adam Pike
You know what I mean?
Exploring Passions at Any Age
00:02:50
Adam Pike
Like there's no there's no time in your life to to figure these things out, you know? um And like that's not really like... If that happens, that that you find something that lights you up, like, cool. Like, that's that's not late. that that's That's aligned, you know?
00:03:05
Adam Pike
and And we don't all find our lane at 18 or 25. Jeez, when I was 18, 25, I didn't have a clue what was going on.
Adam's Career Journey
00:03:13
Adam Pike
Let's be honest. But, like, some people spend half their life doing what they thought they should be doing before they even stop and ask, like, what what do I actually really want my life, you know?
00:03:24
Adam Pike
I didn't know what I wanted for a long time. i was just doing shit. yeah I was just kind of chasing money and just doing these jobs. But like it it only started to happen these like, um i would say like the last...
00:03:36
Adam Pike
five years maybe six I started really questioning like what am I doing where am I going like do I really want to be doing this for rest of my life and like I just kept asking myself all of these questions right and then I just start trying shit I just start trying stuff like I was a full-time fitness uh online career uh online fitness coach wasn't really good at it You know, like, I'm sure if I kept doing that, I probably would be good at it. But, like, I definitely knew a lot about fitness. But I wouldn't say I was the best coach out there.
00:04:07
Adam Pike
You know, and I want to tried it. You know, I realized that I didn't really love doing that. You know? um Then I got into, like, the, for those of you who have been following me for a while, I was doing, like, the motivational speaking type videos that I was posting online all the time. And, like,
00:04:23
Adam Pike
Yeah, sure. I was speaking my my story and I'm sure there's a lot of people listening, but I wasn't like, i wasn't amazing at it Just like this podcast, I'm not amazing at it. I'm just trying a lot of things. And now that I'm 33, you know, um I really love...
Dangers of Comparison
00:04:39
Adam Pike
filming content and I love doing the restaurant reviews you know like the more I do the cooking videos like I I really enjoy this and I feel like I'm only now kind of like getting into a really good groove and I'm like shit like I'm ah this kind of lights me up a little bit you know what I mean so listen guys you're not you're not you're not late you're not late you're not behind you're just getting into the right gear you're just you know you're just sliding it into that right gear and and uh yeah You're not late. You're on your own timelines. Like like comparison can honestly be a bitch.
00:05:13
Adam Pike
It can honestly be a bitch. Like we've all felt it. Like you see someone just just crushing it online. Why am I not crushing it online? Or like you've seen someone buy their dream home. and Like they just got the perfect kids, you know, and then your brain goes like, well, what what am I doing wrong?
00:05:30
Adam Pike
Maybe you're married. Maybe you're married. You got kids. You got a dream home. But like, i don't know. Part of you is like, what am I doing in my life? Well, like, why am I working at this job? I don't like, why am I not doing the thing that I love to be doing?
00:05:43
Adam Pike
Right. Like, like no matter where you are in your life, You definitely have these thoughts of like, oh, shit, I should be doing this. Oh, look at that guy. Like, oh, my God, I do have all these things, but that guy's so much more successful. Like, you're always going to compare, right?
00:06:00
Adam Pike
But, like, listen, you're comparing... you're behind the scenes to their highlight reel. And that's not fair.
00:06:11
Adam Pike
It's not fair to you. You don't, you don't, you don't need their timeline. You need your truth, your process, your pace, your path.
Continuous Learning and Growth
00:06:22
Adam Pike
You know, let me tell you something like just, just because it's taken time, like doesn't mean it's not happening.
00:06:28
Adam Pike
You know, you're building something. You're learning, you're stacking skills, you're, you're figuring it out. Okay. And like, I spent a lot of time kind of like learning, navigating my way to get where I am right now. And, and, ah and I keep learning. I'm constantly like watching other creators, like on YouTube, talk about like content creation and things you could be doing. I'm always asked questions and like, I just want to be the best.
00:06:54
Adam Pike
um I just I'm striving to be better of like a better creator than than what I am today. And I feel like that's why I continue to to get better. And there's still a lot for me to learn.
00:07:05
Adam Pike
And I know that when I do learn those things, I'm just going to get better again. Right. So like that thing that you love, just keep doing it. Trust me. Like if you're not seeing any real results right now, if nobody's clapping for you right now,
00:07:20
Adam Pike
your work matters and it's and it's and it's building to something real. and And like, I know i I can only relate to myself, but like, you know I definitely made a lot of content that was not great.
00:07:34
Adam Pike
But like I have found that just continuing and just putting in the reps and putting in the work and continuing to just show up, I now am able to present myself in a very like authentic, real way.
00:07:48
Adam Pike
when like When I was doing videos and stuff before, anytime I'd be like talking online or you know like you know doing like a review or talking about a brand, it was like... um I meant it, but like it was almost like I was really trying to force it. um like on like it shouldn't It just didn't seem overly natural.
00:08:08
Adam Pike
you know You know what I'm saying? so and jeff this just took work It just took work. You know what I mean? so like you don't need You don't need rush these
Celebrating Small Victories
00:08:16
Adam Pike
things. You don't need to apologize like where you are in life right now. like The only timeline that really matters is really the the one that feels right for you right now. so like Sometimes we just got to...
00:08:27
Adam Pike
and Breathe a little bit. Relax your shoulders. You know, like it was that voice in your head, man. Like you got to stop shaming yourself for not being where, you know, you are right now. You're not broken. You're just becoming the person that you're meant to be because you're on your own timeline.
00:08:46
Adam Pike
You know, you're on your own timeline. you know what this You know what doesn't get enough credit? You know, like the quiet wins. You know? Like those small little wins that no one really claps for.
00:09:00
Adam Pike
Like the days that yeah you didn't really give up, even though you wanted to. You were tired, exhausted. Like, this not going work out. You know, like the nights that you you chose peace over over trying to prove something or the times that you you got back up without the without an audience.
00:09:18
Adam Pike
There's definitely been a lot of times in my life where I was really down in the dumps, sad, you know, like a breakup used to crush me. Crushed me for weeks, crying, months down, you know?
00:09:32
Adam Pike
Like, I was just so focused on things that I shouldn't even be focused on. I wasn't even really that confident in myself to, you know... get get but get past those those hard times um i was always like seeking like i don't even know man i was i was definitely i was just not in in a good place in my life in in in the past and know i've built myself up to to where i am right now i've built my confidence up right now it's just you're just putting in the reps you know and like all that stuff that's growth like we're so i feel like some of us
00:10:08
Adam Pike
we're We're obsessed with the milestones, you know, but like we're we're forgetting about those micro moments, you know, all the ones that actually build up the version of you that you are becoming. You know, all the all the time that i've I've spent lost or in jobs that I didn't want to do or, you know, just making these little small decisions to to get me to where I am right now.
Valuing Micro-Moments
00:10:30
Adam Pike
Those are all quiet wins. And they need to be acknowledged and celebrated for sure. And sometimes you need to just sit the fuck back and say, damn, I've gone through a lot in my life.
00:10:44
Adam Pike
But look where I am now. And maybe you're still going through it. that That's fine too. everyone Everyone goes through the motions. everyone Everyone's still learning. And again, if if if you are going through the motions right now, i don't know, maybe maybe you got really bad anxiety.
00:11:00
Adam Pike
And you're, don't know, 60 years old. That's, that it is what it is. that's your That's your timeline. But like, at the end of the day, it's it's it's up to you to really make the decisions and put into work the work to to make yourself a better person and and overcome these challenges that you're having in your life right now.
00:11:23
Adam Pike
You know what I
Redefining Success
00:11:24
Adam Pike
mean? Like, yeah I don't know. I hope you guys are are following along here. Like you you don't really need like a, you know, for me, like you don't really need a ah viral moment to kind of prove that that that you're doing something right.
00:11:37
Adam Pike
You know what I mean? Sometimes like the progress is just invisible, but like it's still real, you know? So like we don't need to rush into the next chapter when you haven't even honestly finished the one that you're on right now.
00:11:52
Adam Pike
You know, like what are we rushing for? What are we rushing for? Who are we rushing for? You know, like maybe this, see I talked about this ah in the in last podcast, that the the the poem or the quote, the season, reasoning or a lifetime. Like maybe this season that you're in right now is the one that ah feels slow and just uncertain and messy. And, you know, maybe that's just, that's just the prep for the next chapter.
00:12:18
Adam Pike
Maybe, maybe it's the next chapter where you finally stop pretending, where you, you where you stop hustling for approval. You know, you you start building something real on your own terms.
00:12:30
Adam Pike
Not every season is meant to look like success. Trust me. I've gone through many chapters and seasons of my life where definitely wasn't successful.
00:12:42
Adam Pike
And when I'm saying success, I'm not, im you know, I'm not talking about money. ah so Like if you have, a you know, success for to me is Enjoying your life, being happy, you know, being content with yourself, enjoying what you're doing every day.
00:13:03
Adam Pike
Just just having some joy in your life. That's success. Like I really enjoy creating content. I like making videos. I really enjoy hanging out. I i really enjoy, I really just, my life right now, I enjoy it.
00:13:17
Adam Pike
And that's success. Sure. that Like the money,
Encouragement to Share Episode
00:13:20
Adam Pike
that's great. When you're making lot a lot of money, that's definitely great. You know what I mean? But like to money is not success.
00:13:30
Adam Pike
there's There's a lot of other areas in your life where you you can have success. You know what I mean? So,
00:13:37
Adam Pike
Not every season is is meant to look like success. You know, some might just look like healing or discovering or failing, you know, and you need to own that season because it's not forever.
00:13:49
Adam Pike
It's not forever. Every season is definitely necessary. So here's my challenge for you. The next time that that little voice just creeps into your head saying, man, I feel like I'm behind.
00:14:01
Adam Pike
ah want you to say, nah, bro. No, i' not behind. just not done yet. I'm just not done yet. Because your timeline isn't broken. You're not late to the party.
00:14:12
Adam Pike
you know You're on your own damn path. And honestly, that's the best kind of path there is. Your own. So stop comparing to other people and looking at other people online or your friends or your your dad or your mom or whatever.
00:14:27
Adam Pike
Just focus on you and getting you to a place where you really are proud of yourself. And when you get there, fuck, oh it's good. It's good.
00:14:40
Adam Pike
you know, I spent a lot of years not not overly proud of of of myself. And, you know, like I just, I feel like now I'm like, ah just like where I am right now.
00:14:54
Adam Pike
And you can you can you can get there too. Maybe you're already there and you're just listening to this. then fuck yeah. Good job. ah But you definitely know somebody. You definitely know somebody that that beats himself up or you know is is is is in their mind a little bit.
00:15:10
Adam Pike
So maybe just share this episode with them, right? So yeah, thanks. Thanks for kicking it with me on this Monday. And if this hit you in any way, shape, or form, listen guys, like I said like i just mentioned, send it to someone who who really needs to hear this.
00:15:26
Adam Pike
Um, but for now, uh, appreciate you guys stopping by and, uh, tuning into this episode. I'll see you guys on the next one. Peace.