Become a Creator today!Start creating today - Share your story with the world!
Start for free
00:00:00
00:00:01
Power Moves: An Adult Entertainer's Quest For Financial Freedom
62 Plays1 year ago
SUMMARY
Welcome to another episode of Dirty Money with Bevin and Mike! Today, we have an extraordinary guest: Goddess Dallas. She takes us on a journey as she shares her incredible story, offering an intimate glimpse into her world as a professional Financial Dominatrix, adult actress, and literal deity.
In this conversation, Goddess Dallas will share her path into this work and delve into the financial aspects of Financial Domination, sex work, and adult acting. She is a community activist and organizer and tells us her big plans for the future. As a true Goddess, her insights are nothing short of divine.
This discussion addresses misconceptions about sex work, explores the intersection of finance and desire, and showcases the exquisite spirit of Goddess Dallas. This is an episode you absolutely do not want to miss!
TOPICS
[4:55] The journey to becoming Goddess Dallas
[7:55] Making Money as Goddess Dallas
[12:55] Building community through sex work
[20:01] Personal Finance Side of things
[31:20] Giving back to the community
[45:40] Advice you wish you had when you started
RESOURCES & LINKS
Connect with Goddess Dallas
Instagram: @notdallasplayhouse
TikTok: @goddessdallas
Website: www.theedallasplayhouse.com
Other Resources Mentioned:
- FetLife - The Myspace for Kinky People
- Fetch App - The Receipts Rewards App
- Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
CONTACT INFO
Bevin Morgan:
Instagram: @bevinmorgan & @temple_eanna
Website: www.templeeanna.com & BevinMorgan.com
Mike Poulin:
Instagram: @mjpou56
Dirty Money Podcast:
Instagram: @dirtymoney_podcast
Recommended
Transcript
Introduction to Dirty Money Podcast
00:00:10
Speaker
Welcome to Dirty Money with Bevin. And Mike. A space to talk about financial topics for folks who don't fit into traditional financial spaces. We believe money is a tool for everyone. Our mission is to provide a literal microphone and platform for queer, BIPOC, polyamorous, and sex-positive individuals. No topic is off the table here.
00:00:31
Speaker
That being said, one tiny little housekeeping note. For those listening who may have others with sensitive ears, the listener discretion is advised because we do not censor ourselves. That's right. You've been warned, but enough from us. Let's get this episode started.
Guest Introduction: Goddess Dallas
00:00:55
Speaker
Hello, and welcome to Dirty Money. I'm your host, Mike Poulin, a bisexual poly personal financial coach living in Washington, DC. With me today is my co-host, Bevin Morgan, and our guest, Goddess Dallas. Welcome ladies. Hello. Hi. Glad to be here. I am co-host for Dirty Money, Bevin Morgan. I am a poly, queer, POC, letters, alphabets person.
00:01:24
Speaker
and excited to be here. Oh, also, I am in Atlanta, Georgia. Beautiful. I am Goddess Dallas. I am a pansexual. I consider myself to be solo poly superhero, because that's my favorite pronoun. I'm located in DC, and I'm just really excited to be here today. Welcome, welcome,
Goddess Dallas's Career in Financial Domination
00:01:50
Speaker
welcome. Yeah.
00:01:53
Speaker
Goddess Dallas, who are you? What is Goddess Dallas? Please educate us and our listeners today. Well, Goddess Dallas is a deity, a goddess, obviously. I am a adult film artist and producer. I am a professional dominant who specializes in femdom and femdom, financial domination.
00:02:22
Speaker
I consider myself to be a community activist, a friend, a sister, a dreamer, all those good things. Yeah. So what is a financial dominatrix? So a financial dominatrix is a female dominant who engages in a fetish activity. It's where you can sensually
00:02:48
Speaker
agree to give me money, assets, whatever it is monetarily that I may ask you for in lieu of it getting you off. It's a sort of sexual satisfaction, pleasure. I love that. I loved your emphasis on the word consensually.
00:03:10
Speaker
because I feel like when people get angry by the idea of financial domination, they're like, you're just taking these people's money. And I think there's a misconception there. Huge misconception. Consensually, because I can't just take your money, that would be me robbing you. Even though playfully, during some of my sessions, I do that, consent is my number one principle.
00:03:39
Speaker
because I cannot do anything that you are not willing to do or that you do not want to do. Cause that doesn't make me feel good. And I want everybody to be enjoying themselves.
Journey into the Kink Scene
00:03:51
Speaker
Yeah. I think, I think that's really key. How does, how does one get into, into this? Like what, how did, how did you start on this path? What, what kind of, what was your journey like?
00:04:07
Speaker
My journey was a roller coaster, honestly. I kind of found myself in spaces that introduced me to people who were already into it. So I got into the lifestyle kink scene by going to parties. And then from the parties, I connected with people on the internet because everybody's like, hey, do you have a fat life? Do you have this? Do you have that? And I'm like, no.
00:04:36
Speaker
So I got one and then I got one at FetLife and it was a whole different world. And I ended up meeting some doms and they're like, yeah, this is what I do. This is how I do it. Ironically, I end up, you know, sharing with my sister one day, I think after like my first ATM meet that like, hey, I met up with this guy and I kicked him in the balls and he gave me money. And she's like, I've been doing that since you went off to college and you could have just asked, but
00:05:06
Speaker
I'm happy for you, I guess. It was so weird, but here we are. So it runs in the family. It does. It does. So there were a few things in there. What's, what's an ATM or what, what was the, there was a, there was a term that you said in there, your first cash meet.
00:05:30
Speaker
Yes, so first I'd like to say a big misconception is that for some people who do partake in like paying for escorts and luxury campaigns and whatnot, sometimes they'll see cash me and they think that I just meant you meet me and you bring cash instead of paying in advance.
00:05:49
Speaker
That's not what that means. Cash meet means that we will meet at a location. Most times the location will be at a bank or just an ATM machine or whatever, and we'll meet up. You'll take out the amount of money that we agreed. And then I'll probably say mean things to you, maybe do some ball kicking or spit on you, and then we both go about our separate ways. Doesn't take longer than 20 minutes, if that.
00:06:18
Speaker
OK,
Involvement in Adult Film Industry
00:06:19
Speaker
so pretty pretty quick transaction there. Yes. OK, OK. And then so in terms of and then you said there was a was there a website that you got on? Oh, yes, the Facebook of kinky people. OK, OK. That life is both a beautiful and crazy place because me personally,
00:06:44
Speaker
no shade to the developers, but it's just a place where you can get lost in very easily if you don't know exactly what it is you're looking for or who you're looking for. You know, Facebook originally has a lot of navigations, but like FetLife is just, here's some fetishes, here's where you could search people, here's where you can make your profile, you could do a little bit of HTML programming, and there's like forums. So it's almost, it's probably closer to MySpace.
00:07:12
Speaker
Probably closer to Myspace if you think about it. Definitely that. Myspace for kinky people. Myspace for kinky people, except for you don't get songs on your profile. Cursors. There's no glitter cursors. They don't follow you around. I feel like I've tried to take some old things and make them work. And the site will politely tell you,
Ambitions and Business Expansion
00:07:37
Speaker
hey, that didn't
00:07:39
Speaker
No, that code doesn't work here. Okay. That's funny. Cool. Cool. So your financial dominatrix, but, um, there's more to you than just that. So what else, what else do you do? This is a podcast about money. So what other forms of sources of income do you have? And, um, tell us a little bit about those.
00:08:05
Speaker
So in addition to being a dominatrix, I am also an adult film actress. I am a star. I love being on camera. I am an exhibitionist through and through. And I don't think it was until I got into kink that I realized how big of an exhibitionist I am. But yeah, I am a clip artist. I like to call myself a luxury companion.
00:08:36
Speaker
What is a luxury companion? A luxury companion to me means that I am someone who can be paid for my time and my company. The typical, what is that movie that everyone always refers to? Pretty Woman. Pretty Woman, yeah. Pretty Woman. It gives Pretty Woman moment. I love to be wanted on and treated like a lady. I am not somebody you can go find on a quarter.
00:09:04
Speaker
No shade, but you have to go through rigorous amounts of vetting as far as I'm concerned. You can't just be like, hi goddess Dallas, I want to take you out to dinner. And I'm going to be like, sure, I can eat. No, you have to go through background check and let me know the time, the date, the attire, how long we're going to be together. Because some people literally only want to take you to maybe like a play.
00:09:32
Speaker
or like a park and just spend some time with you and get to know you. Not everybody wants to necessarily have sex with you. Some people are generally like, well, I see her online and I love her content and I just like to get to know who she is as a person, but you can't do that for free. So, insert my companionship. Who is that? Know your worth. Period. And charge tax.
00:09:53
Speaker
Well, so of all of those income streams that you just mentioned, is there one that is, and you already said you're a star, but is there one that is like your favorite that you're pursuing, that you're excited about? Like, where do you want the money to be coming from, ideally? I want the money to primarily be coming from my domination business as a whole. So starting out as a dom, you kind of just focus on
00:10:22
Speaker
building a platform where people can know where to find you in your art, and then also being able to be reachable in person. But I'd like to expand beyond that, you know, have merch and have like a brick and mortar dungeon for the people in our area, just because I don't know any dungeons in the DC Maryland area that are owned and ran by black women, especially not black queer women.
Community Importance in Kink and Sex Work
00:10:46
Speaker
So, you know, that's something that I hope to do. But
00:10:51
Speaker
I don't think I really want to like stop doing porn. I think I want to make different types of porn. You know, you come out and you do what's kind of available to you, but I want to do like big production sets, ridiculous storylines and things like that. Cause I'm, I'm a storyline porn person. So I primarily want my money to come from the businesses. I could just build it into like a big Disneyland for cake. Okay. Disneyland for cake. That's what's up.
00:11:21
Speaker
In terms of your porn, do you do a mix of only fans in studio or are you only studio? What does that side of your business or your pursuit with that look like? I do a mix of studio and I guess you could call it indie porn. So I work with some smaller production companies.
00:11:46
Speaker
If you can even call them that because they're not really small, but you know, there's mainstream and then there's like indie porn companies. My first couple of projects came out via BBW highway. And then I just recently did something with Black Touch and I'm so excited about that. I've also worked with browsers and I hope to work with them again. But you know, I think it was a great experience for me to see what mainstream porn is like.
00:12:17
Speaker
so that I can take back the stuff that I learned and put it into the stuff that I make myself and the stuff that I produce myself. Because it's not like I hadn't produced porn before. I just don't have fancy cameras.
00:12:31
Speaker
As you grow as an artist, especially my group of friends in the area, we kind of like band together. Like I might have a really giant light. My friend just bought a camera and we're like, okay, cool. On this day we're going to set up and get as much done as possible. And that's kind of just, you know, how we've been bringing it together. That's bad.
00:12:51
Speaker
That kind of segues really nicely into this idea of building community, right? And this is what you are extremely passionate about and why we brought you here today to kind of talk about.
00:13:08
Speaker
Let's dive into that in terms of this idea of using sex work to build community. Just kind of how ever you want to go about that, I'm just here and our listeners are here to just take it all in. So community building is definitely one of my passions. I wouldn't call it ironic, but yesterday I was finishing up
00:13:34
Speaker
tweaking my bio. And it just made me realize how many communities I have been a part of, I've helped build, I've branched out, and you know, some of those people have went other places. So originally, when I told you guys that I got into kink, I joined FetLife. When I joined FetLife, I joined a group of black professionals called a tribe called Kink. The group has since mostly dissolved, but
00:14:02
Speaker
For a while there, for like a whole year, there was, I think it's called GroupMe, there was a GroupMe, and the GroupMe had its own little world. There were multiple chats, there were moderators, we had events, we met up at,
00:14:14
Speaker
events in the area. And it was really dope to like, I met all of these people online and this is pre pandemic. So it's like, I met these people online and we went out and we had a good time. And then we're planning all of this nice stuff to do later, but like, I'm making friends. And I'm not only just making friends that are my age, but like people that are older than me, that are younger than me. And that's just really dope. So when that dissolved, I kind of was just like,
00:14:44
Speaker
this kind of sucks, what should we do? I then became a part of the now also disbanded Black Dom Sorority. And the Black Dom Sorority was filled with
00:15:00
Speaker
be BIPOC and Latinx women or non-binary doms. And we had a nice little community where we learned and we taught each other and we didn't just teach each other about how to be better dominance, but just how to be better sex workers in general about how to do your taxes and how to just move around better in the world of sex work because you don't know everything. And sometimes people know a lot more than you because they've done it through trial and error.
00:15:29
Speaker
Like, I didn't know that there were some countries that you cannot take sex toys to, and you will get in trouble. Well, and so I feel like there are a few things that I heard in there while you were talking, and one is that community is so important in this world, in this work, so that you can learn from each other. Stay safe.
00:15:51
Speaker
and kind of grow in your work and your artistry and just meet other people who understand why you enjoy these things and who you are. But then you mentioned both of these big groups that you're a part of disbanded. What is your take on why our kinky groups aren't staying together? I think a large part is the way the foundation and the groundwork is
00:16:17
Speaker
built for the group. So most of the time when these people are creating these groups, they're just like, I just want an organization of people. I want to know where all of the people are interested in the things that I'm interested in are, but they don't set up
00:16:30
Speaker
contingency plans for when they begin to deal with burnout or they have family emergencies, or it's just not something that they're primarily focused on anymore. And then the groups kind of fall by the wayside because there wasn't a plan that's like, if I decide to step down, if I decide that this isn't something I want anymore, you guys have the tools and the resources to continue with the group without it becoming a large thing. It's kind of like when countries lose their king or their queen.
00:17:00
Speaker
You're just like, well, we don't, we don't have a government anymore.
Financial Considerations in Kink Communities
00:17:06
Speaker
Yeah, that makes a ton of sense. So in terms of that, as you are envisioning building community, is there anything in particular that you want to do differently as you're building your foundations, as you're building the, your community?
00:17:29
Speaker
One of my big takeaways is like pulling ego out of it, right? Not wanting to always have to be the name on the billboard takes a lot of the pressure off. I am currently a part of a group and I had to laugh when I thought about it, because I'm like, I hope they don't kill me. But I am a part of a group of doms in DC called the Chocolate Factory. We have put on quite a couple of events.
00:17:56
Speaker
Our recent one was a happy hour last month, but before that we threw a New Year's party with subs. And the biggest part of the reason why I even forgot was that we're so many different places. Most of us lived in DC, but now one of us lives in Atlanta and another one of us is a flight attendant, so she's never in town.
00:18:17
Speaker
So I think that now I've been trying to just help where I can. If there is an event that I can throw or an event that pops up in my head that I feel called to lead, I'll put my foot down and say, hey, I'm planning this. If you guys are free to attend, you know, here's the details. Here's what I need help with. If you can assist, I make you a collaborator and we'll just work on things until we get to that. But I also work on now not agreeing to things that I can't get done.
00:18:47
Speaker
because especially me, I am a Pisces through and through and I will agree to any and everything and then tell you that I forgot. And I made it with the best intention, but it just happens that way sometime. So now as far as group organization goes,
00:19:08
Speaker
Just always be okay with asking someone, hey, is this something that you want to contribute to? Or is this something that you think that you can help me do a lot better? Because everybody's skilled at something. Yeah, I love that. Well, and I mean, this is a money podcast. So with that in mind, as you're thinking about building your communities, building your empire, getting closer and closer to your kinky Disneyland,
00:19:35
Speaker
Like what is your, like how are you thinking about the financial piece of how all this stuff works together? Because I know you and I Dallas have talked about just money in this industry in general and how sometimes it's a little more smoke and mirrors than hard currency. So what has been your experience with that? My experience with
00:19:59
Speaker
just the money aspect of it because right we we all would love to say that we make billions of dollars and all of the money just goes into our pocket and none of it goes back into the business and sometimes especially when it comes to small groups and throwing big events you realize how quickly it's like okay well we're going to make some money but most of this is going to go into the venue into the food and to the libations and it becomes
00:20:28
Speaker
The ask is, do you want to have a good time? Are you looking to just introduce your face to more people or is this specifically a money grab? And this is money that we need for X, Y, and Z. What I've decided as far as my finances go.
00:20:47
Speaker
especially since we talked about it, I've just been focusing on building my own foundation so that I will not be using my personal finances to fund the stuff that I'm trying to do professionally. And also be clear on who I want to like on paper go into business with because business loans exist, obviously, but that doesn't mean that on paper, I want the government knowing that I'm taking money with you.
00:21:17
Speaker
because some people just aren't really good with their money. But we're all learning. I think that specifically with the projects that I have in mind for the rest of the year, I've just been setting aside a little virtual piggy bank. Like Bevan said, paying myself first. And that's been a very good map of what goes into what cookie jar. Like, OK, we have bills.
00:21:47
Speaker
my jar, and then we have we jar. The we jar over there. Yeah. If we don't have an event, ain't no money going in there. If we're not trying to pay no dues, ain't no money in there. We got to be in that jar alone so that you can flourish and you can know that, okay, I can throw this event this month and I'm not going to be bankrupt or I'm not going to be in the mud, but we had a good time, you know?
Income Streams and Challenges in Sex Work
00:22:12
Speaker
That's awesome. Yeah. Well, you know, and I think it is,
00:22:17
Speaker
challenging because I think like a big part of the business, a big part of the industry is just curating and creating these like fun opportunities for folks while at the same time, like we all have bills to pay. We all have groceries that we need to buy. Like we have expenses. So I guess just in this industry specifically, like how does one
00:22:44
Speaker
make sure that the money is coming in as opposed to always going out. So where does money actually come from if you're working in the sex work industry? Who's paying people out here? To be very, very honest with you, this is a question that was on Twitter yesterday. Somebody said, be honest, y'all. How many of us are making money and not sucking dick? Let me tell you that the answer was maybe 19 responses.
00:23:14
Speaker
And about 10 of them was like, we are, sis. We absolutely are. And I was like, I felt like there was a bit of comedy to that, but there was a bit of truth to that. So if you are not a very large online artist and you're not on 17 different platforms, you're not really largely making a lot of money from your art. Even if you're in mainstream, if you're not a contract star,
00:23:43
Speaker
you're not making a large amount of art from these companies. So what does that mean, contractors? So I've done three scenes with browsers, yes? Every single time I was called, they make it clear you are an independent contractor. We're paying you for this one project.
00:24:04
Speaker
If you're a contract star, you, like a record deal, you sign an agreement that says that you are going to create a certain amount of projects for them and they're going to pay you a certain amount of money and they're going to promote you as such. So when you go to their website, you click their porn stars, you'll see that it says regular or, or just exclusive. And then they have exclusive because those are the people who make contract art. Now I don't know nothing about no contracts, but
00:24:33
Speaker
I do know that, like I've told people, my experiences with mainstream production companies has always been, I use it as promotion. I use it as marketing. I use it as a way to show people that I have a level of experience that does separate me from people, but it doesn't make me better than them because once the money that they paid me for that project is gone, it's not reoccurring. They make the reoccurring money off of their own website with their own clients. But once you've gotten paid,
00:25:03
Speaker
That's it. You do not get royalties off of that. And also when you shoot with mainstream, unlike when you're doing with other local creators or whatever, you do not get to keep the footage. So you do not get to repost it. Which brings a couple of problems. It's not really a problem, but what is it called? DCMA, the removal tool that you use to take people who pirate your content off the internet.
00:25:32
Speaker
I have so many times once a month where I am on the website that I use to remove mine. And a lot of it is just photos and pirated videos from browsers. I'm still going to take it down, but it doesn't really benefit me because they're like, this is how much money you're leaving on the table. That's not my money. That's Brexit's money. It's almost advertising for you in a way.
00:26:01
Speaker
Yes, very much so. I've gotten so many calls from people who are like, so this is going to be awkward. I was on Pornhub, beat my meat, and your face pops up on the side of the screen. And I thought I was tripping. And I'm like, no, you're not. That was my face. Did it look nice? It is really interesting. I know a few people in
Social Media's Role in Sex Work
00:26:25
Speaker
the
00:26:27
Speaker
OnlyFans industry, I just saw a TikTok today, actually, this guy asking a pretty well-known OnlyFans creator and asked him, he's like, how much money do you make a month just on your content? And he said, on average between 30 and $60,000 a month. And I'm like, what?
00:26:57
Speaker
That is not the margin. No, I know. You know, it's one of those things where it's like, but it goes back to the whole thing. If it's like, if you don't have a presence, right? He has, you know, hundreds of thousands of subscribers, right? He's just created this mass. He's on, you know, he has over 500,000 followers on TikTok, right? Like he has the view ship that, yeah, the, the,
00:27:21
Speaker
monthly subscription is probably really low for every individual person, but it just the amount so when you don't have that, it's that much harder to bring in that consistent income, right? So that's like multi level for me, especially when it comes to platforms like Onlyfans, especially Onlyfans, actually, I was just having this conversation with a guy friend of mine, because I kind of get offended
00:27:45
Speaker
when my vanilla guy friends come and they're like, oh, look at this rapper's OnlyFans or, oh, look how much this actor made on OnlyFans. And I'm like, A, they have a targeted audience. So a lot of their subscriptions could just go to shock value. Then people don't really want to see what they have going on, but they do want to see what's on this profile that they can, for whatever they paid for. So say you paid $20 and there's only four posts.
00:28:14
Speaker
got to see what I came to see. But also there's the aspect of yeah you paid five or seven dollars to follow me but I sell you every single thing through my inbox. So the great thing about OnlyFans is that there is not really a ceiling but the issue now that I feel like everyone's kind of going through is the pandemic craze is is kind of settling. The pandemic's not over but
00:28:41
Speaker
to the general public, it's kind of settling. People are back outside and they're going back to work. So I think everybody's just trying to level out where their hardcore fans are that are going to stay. And we're the people who just came because they were stuck in the house and they didn't have anything else to do. Yeah, that's interesting. Well, and so that actually makes me wonder,
00:29:06
Speaker
like what do you see for yourself and the industry as a whole in terms of like next steps moving forward? So, you know, if OnlyFans is kind of settling out, maybe some folks are potentially exiting the industry because they're realizing that it's not just easy immediate money, but like what are you seeing as like your trends for the next year, two years, three years? Sorry, that truck was being very rude.
00:29:37
Speaker
The next three years, I see big, big things for me, but I know that that is because the current situation I'm in doesn't lend exactly to my persona or what I do every day, you know? But I think that it also leads to just leaving the Only Fans... Bleh, bleh, bleh, bleh. It leads to leaving the Only Fans platform as a whole because
00:30:05
Speaker
No one really talks about the fact that OnlyFans is changing as a platform as well. They restrict a lot of content. For a second, they were trying to step away from adult content, but instead of doing that, they just changed the way you're allowed to upload it.
Philanthropy and Giving Back
00:30:20
Speaker
So I think that they're losing tons of creators off of that, but not to mention the way that they charge people.
00:30:25
Speaker
So for me, I've kind of leveraged that by having my content in other places so that my fans don't feel like it's not available to them. But also working on putting a clip store into my website. I do not know how any of that stuff works, so I'm trying to be patient with it. But I've been talking to the people who house my website in my domain about adding a clip store and adding
00:30:54
Speaker
a product store so that I can branch out as to who can buy my clips and who can download my clips and just access my art in general. Awesome. And I just want to make sure that we do dive a little bit more into the giving back to the community. Absolutely.
00:31:13
Speaker
because I think that's so important. So in terms of, you know, we've talked about your streams of income, we've talked about kind of what you do. And so how do you monetarily ensure that you're giving back to the community? And in what ways? So like, what does
00:31:34
Speaker
How does giving back to the community look like to you? What are some things that you do or some things that you would like to do that you may not have been able to do just yet? So presently, I try to volunteer as much as I can at events and at food and supplies drives that directly affect sex workers and people who are just in the sex positive industry as a whole.
00:32:04
Speaker
But I also hope in the future to become a, that's actually one of my dreams, becoming a philanthropist. I want to just have tons of money just to give to people to fund their dreams. Cause I feel like most people have dreams. They just don't have money. You know, the saying that's like, you're not ugly, you're just kind of broke. Yeah.
00:32:23
Speaker
I feel like a lot of people in life would be better off if, you know, unlike the banks saying, Oh, well, you want to own this business, but we don't necessarily think that you deserve that money. I don't want the money back here. Do, do what you do, what you like with it. I hope that you make all your dreams come true. Cause once it's gone, it's gone. You know, I feel like that's something that I'm into. I do have written on my vision board. I want to start a scholarship fund for
00:32:51
Speaker
juniors and seniors in college because I feel like all of the scholarships, not all, there are some grants, but you have to like look vigorously for them. I feel like a lot of college students drop out in their last two years because they need money. So it's like, get a job, but miss class.
00:33:10
Speaker
do a gig, but I can't get my homework done. So I just want to be able to really give to people who are in that position and really do genuinely care about their education and wanting to finish it. And they just don't have the money or the emotional fucking bandwidth to figure out where the money's going to come from. Cause you know, your parents don't have. And then in terms of how do you marry your financial dominatrix with giving back to the community?
00:33:41
Speaker
I marry it between having the people who feel like their money belongs to me because it does. Just know that anywhere that you invest in me or that you are investing because of me, you are investing in me.
00:33:58
Speaker
So I often will request that my subs donate to charities that I support or that I believe in. If there's an event going on, I'm not necessarily going to sponsor it, but I do want you to go ahead and throw a monetary donation. As far as when I throw events, I always leave
00:34:19
Speaker
a ticket called a sponsor ticket so that if there is a dominant or a party goer that wants to come who can't afford to come, you've paid for their ticket so they don't have to worry about it. Because I do feel that a lot of people should have access to these types of communities and these type of groups. And a lot of times the barrier is money.
Psychological Aspects of Financial Domination
00:34:37
Speaker
So if the person is going to be there anyway, they might as well pay your way in theirs.
00:34:44
Speaker
That's great. So you will sometimes have your subs instead of giving you money directly. Say, hey, go donate $50 to the Trevor Project, and then send me the receipt. Absolutely. I love that. I love that.
00:35:03
Speaker
Definitely send me the receipt because I have the Fetch app and I use it. The Fetch app? The Fetch app is an app where you use your receipts to gain points and get gift cards. Any receipt, your food receipt, your gas station receipt, you went and you put some air in your tire. If that gives you a receipt, you could take a picture of it.
00:35:25
Speaker
sometimes they have deals with places. I think one of the funniest things, I went to the liquor store and I bought some wine and they gave me triple the points because Barefoot had a promotion going on. So they gave me extra points for that. But I mostly use my points to get Sephora and Amazon gift cards. So it's free money on your money. All right. So basically what you're saying is there's a hustle in everything. Absolutely.
00:35:54
Speaker
Absolutely, I actually tell my subs if you tell me you don't have any money or you know goddess I'm kind of hurting for money this week I don't ever really believe that but sure let's go along with that Most times I'll say cool Download the fetch app that'll give you 10,000 coins for sharing with me using my referral link and then once you hit maybe like 20,000 coins Let me know and then send me the gift card because that's not your money That's money that you claim you didn't have and you spent and you still have to give it back to me
00:36:24
Speaker
I love that. I know we wanted to talk about the community aspect, but I do just want to make sure that we talk about this part really quickly. Your mindset as a financial dominatrix, as a dom, I feel like is so... I love that thought process.
Personal vs Professional Identities
00:36:47
Speaker
Will you please speak a little bit more about like your origin story and like how you kind of figured out that this is who you are and this is like where your kink leads you? Because I realized quickly when I took like a financial dominatrix class that I don't have it, like it's not who I am, but I would love to know more and like let the people know like, how do you tap in? How do you know this is what you're supposed to be doing? I like to call myself a wealth redistributor.
00:37:18
Speaker
because you have money and I need money and we are repurposing it. I am not stealing it from you. Again, like I said in the beginning of the episode, I'm not robbing you. You're going to give it to me. But I also, and I think I took a little bit out of that from sugar dating, truthfully, because when I was in college, I had sugar daddies. It's kind of how I found out I wanted to be a Dom because when you're in college, again, you don't have no money. You're trying to figure out what it is you're going to do.
00:37:47
Speaker
And back then, me and my bestie were on Craigslist, very dangerous place. But in the good days, it was a good time. You found people and the personals and you figured out what you were gonna do. And that's how I ended up as a college student with my best friend every Wednesday, meeting this man to pee on him and then going shopping and eating Cheesecake Factory.
00:38:08
Speaker
I realized really quickly what part of sex work really gave it to me. Also, I just don't think that I was coordinated or dedicated enough to be a stripper, if we're being honest. It's hard work. It is. Honestly, it all is. It just depends on what aspect of the work. It depends on what you consider the work, because if you don't feel like you're working, it'll never be work. So I have my best friend as a life coach, and she references back to Elizabeth Gilbert's book.
00:38:37
Speaker
big magic, I think. And just every job, everything that you do in life has a shit sandwich and you have to decide whether you're willing to eat the shit sandwich that goes with that thing or not.
Adapting Dominance and Personal Style
00:38:49
Speaker
So it's like, you didn't want the stripper shit sandwich, but there's, you know, there's some stuff in Fendom. It's not fun. So it took me a while to figure out who I was as a Dom. And I went through this like fake identity crisis, if you can call it that.
00:39:06
Speaker
which is basically how I figured out the difference between who Dallas Playhouse is and who Goddess Dallas is. So, Dallas Playhouse is my porn persona. Dallas Playhouse is sexy and a seductress and she's gonna pull you in and she's gonna get what she wants, but Dallas Playhouse is also a baby. And Goddess Dallas is the boss. She's in charge. She is quirky, but she's also sadistic.
00:39:35
Speaker
I was very surprised because last year all my friends were like, you're mean. And I'm like, mean? Me? Yes. Yes, you are. And it's weird because you'll smile at people and we think we're going to have a great time. And then you'll pull some sadistic shit out of your back pocket and be like, yes, I'm going to beat your ass with a smile on my face. You're going to enjoy it. And I realized that I like to introduce
00:40:02
Speaker
a lot of humor into my dominance because if I am not having fun, you are failing. So a lot of times I tell my subs, if you came for just a strict, mean, and that's all we're going to do, you have the wrong lady. You are going to laugh and you're going to like it. You're probably going to sing and you're going to like it. You're going to make me a song.
00:40:26
Speaker
around Christmas time, I had a sub and he was singing. He was singing, thank you goddess, I'm having a wonderful time as he poured out shots. And it was so hilarious. Cause I was like, you don't sound like you're having a wonderful time actually. And he was like, well, I am. Okay, we'll sing it more enthusiastically. And he never sang it more enthusiastically. Actually, he literally just sang it louder.
00:40:55
Speaker
but the tone never changed. You're like, you're gonna need some musicality. I'm gonna need you to pick it up. Figure it out. And I just, I figured out the things in domination that I liked the most. I used to freak out about feeling like, oh, well, other doms have tangible, y'all are being so rude. Living in the city is so trash sometimes, especially when it gets to people getting out of work. But I realized that
00:41:25
Speaker
I like to call them tangible skills. I feel like some doms have noticeable tangible skills, whereas they'll be riggers or they'll be like deep into their impact play bag or they play with knives or they do hypnosis or sounding. And it kind of made me feel a little less adequate because sure, I do some impact play. I tie people up like I'm kidnapping them. So I'm not necessarily a rigger, but
00:41:56
Speaker
You know, it took me a minute to realize what my niche necessarily was. And I realized that my niche is smothering, it's trampling, it's humiliation, it's sissification. I love making my subs look like bad bitches like me because we cannot go out and you're dressed like a busted woman. I don't hang out with those. You're going to look good. I love that. I feel like that is so important, though, to
00:42:22
Speaker
this work, just the fact that a lot of it is the psychological component, right? So it's like, yes, there are those, quote unquote, tangible skills as hard skills. There's obviously the soft skills as well. And I love that you just made it clear that there are multiple myriad ways to be in this industry, in this specific type of work.
Advice for Industry Newcomers
00:42:47
Speaker
And
00:42:49
Speaker
I think a lot of it is about understanding who you are, who that persona is, and bringing that into what you're doing with these people. And again, going back to the consent piece, yeah, you're having a great time. You're enjoying your work, and they're loving it too. It's a two-way street, and I think that's something to remind people of as well. And remembering that they're there for you. People don't book sessions with people they don't want to see.
00:43:17
Speaker
I had to remember that sometimes I would be so nervous that people would come visit me. And I just had to remind myself, like, girl, they sought you out. They sent you the message. They sent you the money. They're coming to spend time with you. So give them the best you you have. And also remember that you're in charge. If I say we're going to sit down and you're going to sit in the corner and you're not going to look at me and I'm actually going to ignore you and read a book, that's what we're doing. And you'll get over it. I love that. I love that.
00:43:47
Speaker
Oh, one thing too. So. Goddess Dallas is definitely, you know, dominate choice. You were saying that. Dallas Playhouse is more of like a, I wouldn't necessarily call them a sub, right? But they're definitely not as in charge, right? Do you consider yourself? Cause I know there's also a term in the King community of being a switch. Do you consider yourself?
00:44:13
Speaker
Are you strictly just, this is my persona for videos and I'm a Dom, or do you find yourself kind of, depending on the situation, do you consider yourself more a switch, or this is who I am? I consider myself to be a Dom leaning switch. It took me a long time to evolve through that because when I came into Kink, I was heavy submissive.
00:44:35
Speaker
I used to go to parties and just let everybody beat my ass because I enjoy that. And I tell people now at parties that it just depends, but definitely ask me in the beginning of the party, who showed up? Is Goddess Dallas here? Are you topping or is Dallas Playhouse here and you are bottoming? I realize now that I don't show people my submissive side as much though because I don't feel like they necessarily deserve my submission.
00:45:05
Speaker
I don't mind bottoming, but I think that being a submissive is a lot different than just bottoming in a scene. Some people don't deserve your submission, so I do not give it to them. But that's why I said, she's baby. She's baby. Baby me, treat me nice, say nice things, and then let me take your soul through my throat. Okay. All right, so I do wanna know with that being said,
00:45:36
Speaker
What advice would you wish you had had when you started this journey? Sorry, my phone came off work mode. The biggest piece of advice I wish that I had when I got started was be cautious about the things that you post.
00:45:57
Speaker
Do not use your platforms as sound boards for your emotions, because feelings are not facts. They're visitors. They come and they go. So you might have a really, really bad day at work, or you might be having a really bad week at work where you just don't feel like anything's working. You don't feel like anybody's paying attention to you, and you don't feel like your content is reaching the people you
Consistency in Content Creation
00:46:17
Speaker
wanted to. But you have to remember that some of that is fact, and some of that is just how you feel, because the internet has too many algorithms that keep us away from people.
00:46:27
Speaker
So you just have to pick another route, pick it up and keep moving. But another thing I would have told myself in the beginning was don't stop posting your content. Don't get so in your head about a certain look or a certain feel that you just stop posting because the world is not going to wait for you. It is going to pick up and continue with whoever is giving those people the content that they're looking for because
00:46:56
Speaker
We're in a culture where people are dying for instant gratification. They want it and they want it now and they do not have time for you to figure it out. But the last thing is stock up. When you're in a good mood, when you're in a good vibe, when you like the way you look, make as many clips as you can.
00:47:15
Speaker
and keep them for later so that when you feel like shit and you don't want to go out into the world and you feel like an ugly troll, you're like, OK, well, I have this mirage of videos and we can figure that out until I'm feeling good again.
Conclusion and Contact Information
00:47:29
Speaker
I love that. That was great advice. That was great advice. Yeah. OK, and then how can so far listeners have been enthralled by this conversation if they want to know more
00:47:44
Speaker
about you, who you are, where can they find you? You can find me everywhere you can find smut, just kidding. On Instagram, I am under not Dallas Playhouse because I am tired of being de-platformed. So I feel like by not having my face and saying that it's not me, they won't believe me.
00:48:05
Speaker
on Twitter. I'm under Dallas Playhouse. On TikTok, I believe I'm under ItsGoddessDallas. My website is TheDallasPlayhouse.com. That's T-H-E-E, Dallas Playhouse.com. You can also find me on OnlyFans, Minivids, X-Videos, browsers under Dallas Playhouse. And you can find me on Scatbook under Serve GoddessesAss if you're into that. And lastly, you can find me on LoyalFans under Cruel and Beautiful.
00:48:37
Speaker
Great. We will put all of those in the show notes as well. Yeah. Also just want to preface again, uh, reminder to our listeners. If you find her on browsers, that money isn't going to her. So just if you want to be supporting her, nothing against browsers, but you know, there's other, other venues too. And if you want to,
00:49:03
Speaker
find any of my other podcasts in addition to this one, when it does come out, they are listed on my website. Great. Awesome. Well, thank you so much. This was a lovely conversation. It was really great to get to know you a little bit more about what you do, how you're helping the sex worker community here in DC and
00:49:32
Speaker
abroad as well. So thank thank you so much for coming and chatting with us. And then listeners, drop us a comment and let us know if you want to want us to have her back and what you'd want her to discuss. If there was something that we touched on today that you were like, oh, I want to know more about that. Put in the comments and let us know. So thank you. Thank you so much for coming. This was great. Yeah.
00:50:11
Speaker
If you've enjoyed today's episode, please don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe. That's the easiest way to support our show. We hope you took away a new nugget of information or perspective today, and we're grateful you took the time to listen to us. Until next time, bye. Bye.