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Why Worry Isn’t a Strategy — How to Lead Yourself Through Anything
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In this episode, I’m diving into something I’ve truly embodied lately: worry doesn’t solve anything, self-leadership does.
We talk about why constantly focusing on what might go wrong not only drains your energy but also distracts you from your own power. I share how I’ve learned to shift out of looping thoughts, why I stopped watching the news, and how choosing joy (even with dark chocolate breaks mid-inner work) is an act of self-trust.
This is for you if:
- You’ve been spiraling in “what ifs”
- You want a more peaceful mind without checking out of reality
- You’re craving permission to protect your energy and focus on what you can actually do
I also walk you through a simple mindset practice I use to rewire my day—and how the belief that “everything always works out for me” isn’t delusion, it’s direction.
We’re not here to fix the world by stressing about it, we’re here to become the kind of person who makes it better by being grounded, clear, and fully present. That starts with self-leadership. That starts with you. You got this and this episode is here to remind you!
Make sure to find my "Beginner's Guide to Inner Work" here: https://stan.store/utahgirlinnash
Remember, life doesn’t have to make perfect sense to be perfectly yours.
Keep wandering, stay wild, and trust that it’s all working out for you.
I’ll see you next time — and make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!
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Transcript
Introduction and Theme
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All right. It's time to worry less and trust your ability to find solutions more.
00:00:12
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Yes, you can. Welcome to Wandering the Wild Mess with Heather Morgan. I am so happy you're here. here All right, y'all.
00:00:24
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This one is all about you're not worrying anymore. We're not doing worry. We're not doing that. It's done. Like, have you guys not heard Let It All Work Out?
Belief in Worthiness and Abundance
00:00:34
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Like, literally, that's the theme song to my life.
00:00:37
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And I'm here to remind you that it should be the theme song to yours as well. Because i have this urge to not worry about anything and truly know it always works out.
00:00:52
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And I will scream from the rooftops that that is the way that you get everything you want from life is to truly believe that not only that you will and that it will all work out, but that you're worthy and deserving of that truth.
00:01:07
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I am literally here to remind you You need to just totally believe that you are worthy of all these things and and they will be. I feel like so much of this work that I've done and you guys have seen it.
Overcoming Scarcity Mindset
00:01:22
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If you've listened from the beginning has really been understanding and learning how I get me to come back to me.
00:01:31
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I talk about inner work and I'm really unpacking all of this old nonsense and programming from previous parts of my life that made me for whatever reason not feel worthy, good enough, that I have to perform, that I have to do this or I have to do that to be worthy of things.
00:01:54
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That you have to try so hard and you have to struggle just to get anything. Like who told us that?
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and And maybe it's someone in your life, maybe you saw it, maybe you know you heard things like money doesn't grow on trees or we have to work hard to have the things that you want from life. And that's great. There's some humble qualities around you know being good and dedicating yourself to things that you're passionate about.
00:02:23
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But when it comes to just like moving through the world, things can work out for you perfectly. Things don't always have to go wrong. Things don't always have to be hard
00:02:37
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I'll tell you a little story because this is so near and dear to my heart. And I swear, i i just got back from
Gratitude in Finances
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traveling. And whenever I travel in the Uber, this is the little thing I do. um So I'll get in and I usually like to listen to headphones.
00:02:51
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So I always have my headphones ready and I i vibe out the driver. i don't know if you do this too, but this is just so you get to know me. This is my my move. So I get it in the Uber and I'm always like, does this person like need a message from me?
00:03:05
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Like, do they need... And I'll just know, i know, I'll just know, I'll feel the energy, I'll hear how they like, you know, and I can tell if they wanna talk and I can tell if like, and sometimes a voice will be like, they need something, they need to hear from you.
00:03:21
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I know that sounds really weird if you, but if you know me, it probably doesn't. But that's how I operate. So I'm not just yapping for y'all. I mean, even though I love to, I'm literally moving through the world like this. Like I'm on, in the Uber, on the plane. I try not to. If I, you know, like I am fully content with sitting there and listening to my head ah AirPods and doing my own thing.
00:03:44
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But if if the people need me, like... I mean, you know what I mean? Like, if i feel like my message needs to be heard by someone. It's not like I'm preaching. i always am just open. So let me give you the example. So I get in this Uber ah and the guys there, it was a whole, anyways, I get in So he starts kind yapping, oh, where are you from? you know And I'm telling him, well, I'm from Utah. I live in Tennessee, yada, yada, yada. He says, oh, you know are there a lot of Mexicans in Tennessee? He was Mexican. I was like, yeah, I think that, you know. Anyways, that was kind of a weird like thought. So I was like, I don't know. Are you thinking about moving to Tennessee? Because it's a great place. And so we get down the path. And then he's telling me that he has...
00:04:27
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ah the I think like these kind of he does uber but he had these really good doing well like food truck business But lately you know and goes into the economy and and it hasn't been doing good and you know It's he's telling me how much less he's made and all these things and he goes and and the bills just keep coming and I have all these bills and I still have to pay the mortgage and I have to pay this and I have to pay that and I go Yeah. And I said, yeah, I understand. I go, but do you like doing the food truck? Do you like do you enjoy it? And he's like yeah, that's why I started it. And I was like, well, it'll come back around.
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ah Surely it will. If you love it, just, you know, any day it could change. Any day could be the biggest sales day you ever had. Like you literally never know every day you go.
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And he's like, yeah, yeah, I know. And I said, do you want to know a trick about the bills too?
Shift from Worry to Solutions
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Because I get that. you still get it You still have to pay your mortgage and you still have to do buy the groceries and pay your cell phone bill. I said, I've been doing this thing.
00:05:24
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where when I have to pay the mortgage or ah groceries or some my phone bill, i instead of being like, oh I have to pay, this is due, I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm so grateful I get to pay my phone bill. but That means I like got to talk to people. I'm so grateful I got to use my phone to talk to others.
00:05:44
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to connect with the people I want to, to, to, you know, connect with people in my life. I am so grateful when I pay my mortgage, like I have this home, I have somewhere to go. i have a safe place of my own.
00:05:57
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i have, I can provide for his instance, you know, he had a number of kids like that. Your kids have this home. Like when you're switching your mindset around, know, what your obligations are in life, things that you wanted, right? Like a lot of people have like a thought, like I i want to have a cell phone.
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So you want to have a cell phone because you want to be able to connect with people. But when the bill comes, you're like, oh, it's a bill. But it's like you wanted that. It gave you something. There's abundance in That.
00:06:28
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You're paying for it because you want to. Because you want to connect. You're paying for your home because you want somewhere to call your own. Because you want a place to sit in your backyard. Because you want. Do you see what I'm saying?
00:06:39
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And so, yeah, we think of it like a burden, although it's something that we wanted from our life. And it gives us abundance. It gives us something. And we're just exchanging back that energy, right? Almost like a relationship, right?
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Like it's not a it's a it's not a give, give, give. And you know, it's a give and take.
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And so you're just giving that back for what you were given. The abundance, the memories in your home, the things, that the phone calls late night that you wanted to make, all of that was abundance.
00:07:15
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And now it's just exchanging that energy back. Oh, of course. And you can thank it.
00:07:22
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And sometimes when I say that, I'm a little, because I'm sure some listeners are like, okay, really this girl. But like, ah sometimes I kind of wait to see how it lands. And he was like, you know, wheels in my head are really turning right now. You're really, you know, you're really making me think differently about this.
00:07:43
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And I'm like, well, good, you know, because i hope it's helpful. And he's like, you're right. And I just, I think about there's a lot more homeless people like, you know, i here now. And I realize i i am very grateful for my home, but then I get frustrated when I have to pay for it. But I i want a home.
00:08:04
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And I'm just saying that the perspective of the mind is key key and allowing yourself to have more abundance and see life as abundant instead of as ah burden or from a lack mindset, meaning I don't have enough, so I have to do, i have to pay this, I have to pay that.
00:08:31
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You're continually like thinking down that path. It's it's hard
Self-Leadership and Calmness
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to move in in a place where you can actually attract more abundance because your mind is thinking that,
00:08:42
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It isn't safe to have because it always goes. Instead of thinking that it always flows to you. And that's been something that's really helped me in this whole idea, the urge of not to worry about anything, because I'm like, what does it solve?
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It feels like it solves something in the moment because you feel like you're doing something. You're like, well, I'm i'm worrying, so I at least care about the problem. But it's not about worrying. It's about solutioning.
00:09:15
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And up until this point, you've always figured it out. You've always solutioned, right? So what has the worry ever brought you?
00:09:24
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Has the worry ever suddenly made like a miraculous, wonderful thing happen? And if so... I mean, no, it hasn't. I mean, we all know that. Like, you've never worried about something.
00:09:35
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Maybe it doesn't happen, so you just wasted that time worrying. So you kind of, like, lost time, which is our most precious asset, all of us, regardless of or regardless of where you are but thinking about abundances financially.
00:09:54
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Time is our most valuable asset. So using it and spending it, if you think of as currency, on worrying, there's no ah ROI.
00:10:06
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I'll tell you that. because i have to stop myself so quickly when I go down the path of worry of like, how is this helping solution? How is this good use of my time? How is this? And you almost have to stop yourself and go, oh okay, this thought really isn't useful. Let's let's, let's acknowledge it and move on.
00:10:32
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And it's almost like, cause of my corporate world, it's almost like that in a meeting, like, ah like, and I think I've talked about that before early on, but it's, you're sitting there and we're all like, here's what we need to solve.
00:10:46
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And then there's someone like Jane on the side. That's just like, well, this problem, but this problem, but this problem, but this, and it's like, Jane, we're here to solve things, not talk about the problem.
00:11:03
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And Jane is in our minds all the time. There's a Jane going like, well, what about, what if this, what if that, what if this? And it's like, Jane, you're literally not helping. Like we all came here to just solution and solve and move on with our lives.
00:11:16
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You're like over here making it like front page news.
00:11:22
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It already is what it is. Like, how are we solving it?
00:11:28
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And that is so many things in our life. all the time. And I want to like tell a little bit like when I think I mentioned it before, like self-leadership. And that's the same way of like if you think about any good leaders in your life, whether it was like how you think of your parents or mentors or people that you think lead well or even like in the military think of like, you know, I don't even know, the like the colonel, like somebody that's a big time leader, like they're not freaking out.
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Nobody trusts the person that's freaking out. Like, what are we going to do? What are we going to No one's asking them to solution the problem because that person's like hysterically freaking out. Like they're not a leader. You wouldn't call them a leader.
00:12:14
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But yet you're the leader of your life every day. So if you wouldn't trust the leader that's like, what are we
Avoiding Negative Influences
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going do? I don't know. What are we going to do? ah Freaking out over like something you're like, I'm not going to ask that person to solve this problem because clearly theyre they don't know what they're doing.
00:12:31
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You know, have you ever been somewhere like asking for help and someone's like freaking out and you're like, okay, let's move on. This person's not going to help. That is you when you're letting that background voice be like, what am I going to do? what am i How are you even leading yourself? Right.
00:12:48
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Like you'rere you're literally like drowning, you're freaking out and it's really not helping you find your way. And I feel like as I've moved away from fear-based narratives where they're the just there to create worry,
00:13:07
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I can't tell you how many times in the the moments of the life decisions that I'm making right now that a lot of people do not understand. They're like, well, what are you going to do? What about this? What about that? What are you going to do? How are you going to do that?
00:13:21
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And when I just quietly have to say like, it will just all work out.
00:13:32
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I've really had to like train my mind to know that it will and not listen to all of the projections of worry on me.
00:13:47
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And that has taken like a lot of my own self-discipline. And so I realized why some people don't do it.
00:13:56
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And whenever I talk to people about like these moves that I'm making, which is really to focus on this podcast because I want to help people see all their potential, grow their minds, think a little bit differently from someone with a grounded mind with over a decade in corporate America knows how that that world operates, but doesn't want to be a part of it anymore.
00:14:24
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And for many of reasons, right? But still appreciative of for all it was. It feels like i'm I'm shedding so many things and I'm just moving through my life now with I don't want to live in worry.
00:14:38
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i don't want to live in stress. I don't want to live in anxiety. i don't want to live in, well, what if this happens? What if that happens? I think I've said before, like i I get even comments about this, but I don't watch the news.
00:14:53
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I don't even to watch television. And it's a lot because it's like, what can I solve with that? Like you're it's a whole bunch of problems, but no solutions.
00:15:08
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It's a whole bunch of pick a side or, ah you know, feel bad but about things that you can't change. I just don't see where it makes my life feel better.
00:15:24
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And so I'm choosing for myself, self-leadership, to remove the things that don't make me feel better or make me move in the direction that I want to be in.
00:15:37
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And a lot of people would be like, well, you have well how are you informed?
00:15:43
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Informed for what? And i mean, i don't know, Tennessee gets a lot of tornadoes. My phone does go off when those come, so I kind of know. But like at the end of the day, like whether I know, you know, as long as I know like 10 minutes in advance, like there's, I mean, I don't have a tornado shelter, so I'm just making do. If it lands, it lands. Like I i don't know, i would not want to spend the last minutes five hours of my life watching to see if the tornado was going to come. If it got me, I'd rather just be enjoying it. And then it took me away. And like, that may be ah wild perspective to have, but I mean, I guess that's kind of a good perspective on how I think about worry.
00:16:28
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i don't really want to spend my time doing that. And I'm, I'm telling you this because i think and I know actually because of the people I've talked to in my life and um some of my friends and just how I grew up, like sometimes the loop of worry is ah number for distracting from our own lives. If we can look at what's wrong with everyone else's life or what's wrong with the world or what's wrong with that, then our focus, the lens that we're seeing the world is like, oh, all of these things are happening and we're not –
00:17:05
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We're not really zooming in on like, but what am I doing? What am i How am I moving through the world? How am I impacting? And for me, i really think of it now days is like, I want to protect my light at all costs. And when I say my light, like I want to be like this brightness in the world. When I get into those Ubers and I have those conversations and they leave like, oh my gosh, I really needed to hear this. And I'm not tooting my own horn, but swear to you, if I had ah dollar for every time an Uber driver told me, you said exactly what I needed to hear.
00:17:45
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I'd be doing pretty well because there are people that need your brightness. They need people
Embracing Joy and Trust
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that are seeing through the lens of of like kindness and happiness and they're not they're not reflecting negatively.
00:18:05
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And for me, I feel like it's kind of like my duty to protect my energy from the things that won't allow me to be as positive as I as i am. So it's not to like it's honestly like trying to give back to the world by not letting the world darken me.
00:18:29
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And I'm not judging if that's your thing. I know plenty of people that watch the news religiously, you know, like um I know generationally that's a thing. um But it doesn't even have to just be the news. It could be the drama in your own life that you're just looping and focusing on.
00:18:50
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But if you stopped yourself and you said, why am I like focusing on this so much? you'll probably realize that you're deflecting from something you you really need to focus on.
00:19:07
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And like, don't get me wrong, I do that all the time. Like I feel like sometimes I'm like ADHD and so the other night I was doing some inner work. Plug two, I have and my inner work guide is up on my website.
00:19:19
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it's It goes through the process and it's been, you know, it's it's never ending. You're always doing the work, but it's a good intro if you're kind of curious to like what that looks like. But I'm doing it and mid going through something that is just really rooted in me and that I'm working through from my you know, my previous life.
00:19:41
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I literally stopped and I was like, I need a piece of dark chocolate. And then I like went up and got one and I realized that's me like trying to like regulate my nervous system with like something familiar and distract from moving through this fully right now because it doesn't feel comfortable.
00:20:01
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And when you get into that level of awareness with yourself, you're like, ah, when this feels uncomfortable, I do this. When I want to deflect from this certain thing, I do this.
00:20:15
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And just even knowing that is like a huge first step. So if you get there, I love that for you. I'm so proud because it's not easy. But I realized more that when I'm in this mindset of I don't worry, I have just this feminine urge to like, and it doesn't have to just be feminine, but like to not worry, not have a worry in the world and just move through joy. And even though I have that, like I said, things still come up. But at the end of the day, like my mindset is i don't worry. It always works out.
00:20:50
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It always works out. So if the maybe inner child in me needs me to like talk something through that she's still holding on to for a minute, fine. But at end of the day, I'm not going to loop that. We're not going to sit in this grief place forever. Not because I'm not giving myself the opportunity to grieve, but just because it doesn't serve me.
00:21:15
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See it, identify it. Kind of like i people say before, sometimes you don't need the solution. You just need to... get it out, speak it, have it be seen, get it out of the darkness, and then it's not so scary, say it aloud, and then move through it.
00:21:30
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And then it's like, all right, back to everything working out for me. All right, I'm glad we unpacked that. And literally, I've been that delusional. And sometimes it's kind of fun when I do that, when I'm like, I'm not going to worry about anything. it's gonna Everything's going to be great. Because I will like...
00:21:47
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do these little games and I'll end this, but I wanted to tell you guys, cause I feel like this would be a great exercise for you to do one day. If you just think I can't think like that, just pretend.
00:21:59
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Um, they always say act as if I'm a big believer act as if it's not fake it till you make it. You're literally acting as if a lot of people have said this and it's so true because it's you embodying that. So if I truly think everything works out for me, you have to hold that vision even when you don't see it. So let's say,
00:22:17
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An instance, go to a restaurant. You're like, I really want to sit in this one table, in this one area. I know I'm going to get that table. It's going to be great. You go in. They're like, oh, yeah, there's none available there.
00:22:27
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Instead of being like, oh, see, everything doesn't work out for me, blah, blah, blah. You're like, oh, something better must be on the way. The next thing you know, where you end up sitting, you meet someone, you talk to them, the right opportunity that you needed rolls in, changes your life.
00:22:47
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That's literally how holding the vision and embodiment works. I've had things like that come into my life so many times where it looked like, and we've said this, but I've said this before, rejection. It's not rejection, it's redirection.
00:23:06
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So you're never not getting what you want. It's, if it doesn't seem, if it's a detour, Something better is on the way. Everything has to orchestrate, but you have to keep the mind that it will and always does work out for you.
00:23:24
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And so when I go through the, and if you just want to test drive it for like an evening, if you truly think that I promise you that that's how it will be.
00:23:36
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That's how I move through the world and I feel like everything always works out for me. I feel like I do not have a care in the world. I'm truly not worried about anything. And when I do let allow myself to get little bits of worry, then I just work through them and we move on.
00:23:54
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And i'm I cannot wait. The last thing I'm gonna say is to show you fully because I want to be an opportunity for you. This is like bigger than me. And I'm wrapping this up, but I have been definitely inspired to continue this because I know that when you can see other people doing it, it seems more possible.
00:24:22
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And I've said this before, I'm no better than anyone else. I'm no different. Nothing. about me is more special than anyone else. We're all special and ah and we all have different gifts.
00:24:35
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And so sometimes you just need to see someone to like truly moving through the world with that trust, not unwavering faith and seeing it all work out for them for you to go, all right, that's the evidence that I needed for me to move on what I want from this life.
00:24:52
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So I guess worry doesn't really serve. I guess worry isn't really helpful. Like If I can help you take a little bit of worry off your mind every day, that feels like a win for me. And I want that for you so much.
00:25:09
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So I'll end this by saying, let's see, what did I have? I kind of had a little note here. You don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to stay open to the next exciting adventure. That's what I think about all the time.
00:25:26
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It doesn't have to, i don't know the path. And I have some big news to tell you all and I can't wait too soon. And no, it's not related to a guest. like okay But, well, maybe, maybe by the time.
00:25:39
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But, um and really it's just me trusting that I don't have to have it all figured out. That worrying is not going to help the path. That trusting fully that it will work out.
00:25:55
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will show me the way.
00:25:58
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And it will you too. So put a little more faith in the actions and the ways that you look through the world and a lot less time worrying about the how.
00:26:10
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This was Wandering the Wild Mess with Heather Morgan. You matter.
00:26:19
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Okay. I did it.