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Episode 46: From Survival to Thriving After a Year-Long Hiatus
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After nearly a year of silence, Psychic Girls Next Door has made its return with Season 3. In this deeply personal premiere episode, hosts Lili and Shannon reveal why they stepped away from the microphone and the profound transformations they've undergone since their last recording in March/April of last year.
"We both needed a break, a time just to take care of ourselves and do some self-reflection and just focus on our personal lives too," Lili explains as the episode begins. What follows is an authentic exploration of crisis, healing, and renewal that offers valuable insights for anyone navigating major life transitions.
Episode Highlights
• [00:03] - Return after nearly a year-long break since last recording in March/April
• [02:21] - Lili shares about moving three times last year due to unsafe living environments
• [04:49] - Discussion about clinical diagnoses of anxiety, PTSD, and depression during this challenging period
• [05:57] - Lili's major life transition from California to Colorado after decades in one state
• [14:55] - The importance of asking for help and being vulnerable during difficult times
• [20:03] - Shannon opens up about job transitions and financial patterns over the past year
• [21:19] - How celebrating friends' milestones as a single person impacts financial resources
• [29:03] - Looking forward to Season 3 with new energy and reconnecting with their community
The return of Psychic Girls Next Door marks not just a continuation but an evolution —hosts who have weathered significant storms and emerged with deeper wisdom to share. Follow their journey and stay tuned for upcoming episodes as Lili and Shannon bring their transformed perspectives to Season 3.
Note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only.
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Transcript
Return After a Year
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Welcome to Psychic Girls Next Door.
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We're back.
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Hello.
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Yay.
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I know it's been so long.
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It has been long.
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What have you been up to?
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I mean, it's been like... Oh my goodness.
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Like almost a year, right?
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Exactly.
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I think our last episode was maybe April...
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March, April, I think that's when we last published and uploaded.
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And yeah, I think it's been quite a year.
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Yeah.
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for a lot of us.
Break for Self-Care and Reflection
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And I think we both needed, you know, a break, a time just to take care of ourselves and do some self-reflection and just focus on our personal lives too.
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And that's what we're hoping to share in this episode when we're back.
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Like, where have we been?
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Are you guys still alive?
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That's why, you know, a lot of people were asking me, when are you guys returning?
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Are you alive?
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I'm like, yes, we are.
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We, you know, we look forward to coming back and there's, you know, nothing like as the right time as right now.
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So yeah.
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Talk about divine timing.
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I feel like when you have these really wonderful creative projects and like creative partners, like I feel very blessed that Lily is my creative partner with this.
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Yeah.
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You also have to factor in like the stuff happening behind the scenes.
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And sometimes like your creative channels can get clogged or distracted if you have other things happening in your life that may not be like creating space for you to channel in the right way, whatever that means
Housing Struggles and Mental Health
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for you.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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So I think like I at the time I was like, what were we doing this time last year?
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What were you doing this time last year?
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Let's start with you.
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I was in a really tough situation.
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I'm not going to go into a lot of details.
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I'm just going to kind of summarize because I think it would be like a three hour hour.
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podcast episode just going to like every single little thing and I mean and you've been there so you know everything that I've gone through but you know as you were saying you know people I guess sometimes forget that we are humans and we do have you know a life behind what we put out like on a podcast platform or on social media but in my case I had a lot of housing issues
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And it was just pretty awful just dealing with people that made very poor decisions.
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And it affected everyone around them.
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So, and that caused me to, so last year I moved out three times.
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That's, that was one of those things that happened.
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That's crazy.
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Like, I mean, not crazy, but like, that's a lot of change in your, you know, how can you feel grounded if you're constantly in a situation like a living environment where you're
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you one energetically can't feel grounded because of circumstances around you.
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I think your environment, especially your home environment is so important to have like, Oh, it's, I think it's just, it's essential.
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Yeah.
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Solid foundation.
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like having a like a home that you can come home to and like it's reliable like the environment is reliable yeah you feel you feel safe right isn't it so interesting like how we just like take for granted things like that like just being able to go home
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and just feel at peace with yourself and have like a safe haven to go back to.
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So I didn't have that last year.
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It was just like, you know, going from one place to the next where I felt very unwelcomed and unsafe.
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And it caused me, you know, to feel, you know, really in a
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pretty dark place, I want to say.
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I think from, you know, the beginning of 2024 up to like August of 2024, I think this first like seven months, it was just like a mix of
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going through like the dark night of the soul, being at a rock bottom, like everything that people have like, you know, a word for this place, going through like a dark tunnel and not be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Healing and Thriving in a New State
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So I've gone through all of that.
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Like it was like, it was pretty deep in terms of like going through like very challenging situations.
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I mean, granted, I have to say that I am very, I feel very blessed that I've had like a lot of support in this time frame.
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You know, I had friends like you, they were always there for me, supporting me.
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I had therapy.
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I had a community, I had family that were very supportive, you know, so I really had to rely on a lot of different tools and techniques and people around me to get through those times because I was clinically diagnosed with severe anxiety, anxiety.
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PTSD and depression in that time frame.
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Yeah.
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And it was incredibly difficult.
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But I moved to a different state.
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Yeah.
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Yay!
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So you can notice, Shannon and I were on this online recording and platform.
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We're not kind of like in the same room.
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In spirit, we are in the same room, right?
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Yeah, always.
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Yes.
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But physically, we're in different states.
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So I moved into a totally different state.
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So I'm living in the Midwest.
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And so it was kind of like taking a big leap of faith to, you know, just going from like a place that I mean, I lived in California for like, gosh, like so many years, decades, you know, by now.
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And then deciding it was just time to kind of close that chapter and start a new one.
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And of course, like I'm also lucky that I do have family where I'm at.
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And they're also very supportive with my move.
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So when I moved here, it was actually the time that I felt safe.
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Yeah.
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And I felt like, oh my gosh, I'm okay now.
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I kind of like...
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sit back and just kind of like release like whatever was going through inside of me.
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Yeah.
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And also like physically away from all those awful people that I'm not going to mention.
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I'm not going to go to just because I don't think they deserve, they don't deserve any space and time here talking about it.
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But definitely those people, they taught me a lot of different lessons.
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I mean, do I wish I had never met these people?
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Absolutely.
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Absolutely.
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Absolutely.
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Do I wish I never had gone through all the situations?
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Of course, you know, because no one wants to go through like challenging and all situations.
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But, you know, looking back, because it's hard when you're in it, right?
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Like when you're in the situation, it's just so hard to kind of see your way out and see, you know, kind of like that light at the end of the tunnel.
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Yeah.
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But I think when you go through it and when you're on the other side, you're like, okay, I did it.
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Like I survived.
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I'm in a much healthier environment.
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And so when I moved beginning of September, that's kind of like when I finally made a move to a different space.
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That's when things really start to shift.
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You know, job wise, meeting new people, different opportunities.
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So, yeah.
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So this is kind of where I've been in the last few months, you know, with just like in this totally new space, new energy.
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frequency, vibration, whatever you want to call it.
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But even, but of course, like going through all these transitions and adjusting to all of it, it's also been a process, you know, because it's also like, you know, it just happens, you know.
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Right, immediately.
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And you're like, great, this is wonderful.
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Oh, yeah.
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Exactly.
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It happens overnight, you know.
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There's a lot of tears that are shed.
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There's a lot of moments of kind of
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um that you get triggered uh you know and still i you know i still work with my therapist i've been working with a therapist for all of this uh time you know to get into a healthier mental and emotional state um
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And also using all the healing tools and techniques that you and I have, you know, learned throughout the years too.
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You know, and of course, always going back into my meditation practice.
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And yeah, so all of that has been very helpful.
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But, you know, granted, you know, a lot of people will say, well, you know, you guys work as...
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you have you all like spiritual you all this and that people think that you kind of got it all figured out but like no one's got it figure it out yeah and it would have been wonderful just because we can pick up on information that's like not necessarily being said out loud it doesn't mean like we know to do with that all the time and i think that's yeah completely normal like
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you know, we have these like gifts and abilities and like, you know, it's like a, sometimes I call it a party trick, you know, I, I, I like being able to tap into my spirituality.
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I'm, it's very part of my personality and my value system.
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Um, and just like looking at things energetically and like, it helps me
Intuition, Spirituality, and Spending Patterns
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in my day job as well.
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Um, and it's just every aspect of life, right?
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Like if you are an actually intuitive person, if you pick up on the vibe, like if you're, if a vibe is not right,
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And you're like, you know, you're like, am I crazy?
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Or is it just me?
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Like, you're not crazy.
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Like, if you're picking up on some weird energy being projected from somebody else, trust that.
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And also, like, sometimes it takes a while to go through the experience to kind of have that like, all right, now I got to get out of this situation.
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Like, like, when you were going through that, just from my, you know, being your friend and being your podcast partner,
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Like I saw how it was just impacting you so much on a negative level.
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And like, it was just, it was like clogging the queue, right?
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Like you're just constantly had this like film of like muck of, you know,
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you know, kind of like dread, not maybe I was picking up on something else, but dread might have been a good description for some of the living dynamics that you were experiencing, depending on the day, because I'm sure some days were better than others.
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It's only like when it reaches kind of a boiling point, and like a consistent boiling point, because it can go up and down, right?
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Like the energy, the vibration of your living space, like it can be fine, fine, fine, normal, normal,
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And then all of a sudden something crazy or like something triggering will happen.
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And then you're like, oh, I got to keep that in mind.
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I got to like and then it becomes like so impacted and clogged.
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And you're like, OK, I got to make this change.
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And as your friend, I'm so proud of you for making that change.
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Thank you.
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your vibration and like how you radiate is just so lovely.
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And like it just all the time, but like you in that situation, I was like, this is not healthy for you.
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And like, I think I'm glad you recognize that.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Well, I think in life, it's also one of those things that because the universe will give you send your messages and nudges and things like that.
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And sometimes we don't listen or you override it.
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You're like, ah, things are fine.
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Whatever.
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And you're comfortable.
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But sometimes it might kick you in the butt, you know, and you might get into situations that are incredibly challenging and difficult so you can actually make the change in your life.
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So it's going to literally take you out of your comfort zone and kind of push you, you know, into...
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where you're meant to go.
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Because I do believe too, if I haven't gone through all these things, I mean, I wouldn't be, of course, where I am today.
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Right.
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So it all served a purpose that as much as it sucked going through all of that, you know, like, but it did serve a purpose.
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Yeah.
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But I also believe too, when, especially when people that, when you work with, you know,
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as a healer and you work when you have, you know, work in the space of spirituality, a lot of these experiences too, they really like ask you to go at a deeper level, you know, within yourself because going through all of this also made me become more aware of myself and know myself when I'm much, much like deeper level that I haven't even known that I could have like gone through or that I was able to even, you know,
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have abilities to even like go through all of that, you know?
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And it doesn't mean that you don't have like negative thoughts that, I mean, I just going to be very honest.
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I had very dark thoughts.
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Yeah.
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Like, honestly, like there were a lot of moments that I, I didn't want to be in the physical play.
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Right.
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You know?
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Right.
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Now that's real.
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You know, I think a lot of that's to that.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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You know, that you just so like so down into it that it's just like it's really hard to like find the strength to kind of really pull yourself.
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out of it yeah um but i think in my case it was just kind of like you just kind of have to show up for yourself yeah show up for yourself whatever ways that you can even if you like it's like you're feeling you know so down and whatever it is you just keep showing up however it looks like to you however it feels you know but one of the biggest thing also that um
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The push me, I don't know if push me was the right word, but it's also the... Encouraged you?
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Encouraged, yes, exactly.
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Encouraged me was to also ask for help.
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Yeah.
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Because for me, it's, you know, when you...
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You know, you've been living by yourself for so long, especially me, like, you know, my family's in a different country.
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Yeah.
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I've been living on my own for so long and just kind of being that person.
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Oh, I can do all of this all alone, you know, that type of thing.
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Right, right.
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The independent.
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Yeah, exactly.
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The independent woman type of thing.
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And then you realize like, no, I need to ask for help because I just cannot do this on my own.
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So for me, that was also pretty big to also ask for help, for professional help.
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But also help from my friends.
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Like, listen, I don't know if I can do this.
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I just need a shoulder to cry today.
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That type of thing.
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Totally.
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So that was also...
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a big thing for me to like be more comfortable and more vulnerable in that space yeah just asking for help yeah it's okay to be okay and like absolutely just because you're not feeling your best self like one day it doesn't mean like that's going to be your identity moving forward like i think like if you are so used to like being
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consistent, right, with your with everything, I would say you're a very consistent person.
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Like when I think of you, like your energy show, you show up like very similarly, like most days.
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But then, you know, as you're going through this experience, like, obviously, like, I don't, I personally like for everyone, I am open to people showing up as they are.
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And sometimes that that also can be kind of toxic as well, because like people can show up wild and out and I'll be like, oh, yeah, sure.
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I'll just like make it work.
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And like, you know, I'm kind of dealing with like some work dynamics in my new job that way.
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And like I'm like, OK, like, how can I navigate this?
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But I.
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But with you, like as you're going through the situation, when if you notice like, oh, I'm not showing up as consistently as I would like to, or this is causing me to feel a certain way that I'm not used to feeling and I don't want to feel you can feel.
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kind of like have that inner narrator, like the self-critic, right?
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It can pop up and it can be like, why aren't you showing up this way?
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You're used to showing up in a higher vibration.
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And then you're like, but I'm dealing with all of this.
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So it can kind of create that internal struggle.
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Well, it's very hard because you're in survival mode.
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Yeah.
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All the time.
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And then just getting out of that space, you know, it takes a lot of courage to get out of that and ask for help and whatever needs that you have to.
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But I would say that, you know, now that I've gone through all of this, it's finally like when I moved out now, you know, that I'm in a different environment that I started like very deep healing.
Personal Growth and Community Support
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Yeah.
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It was like getting out of that survival mode and now actually going to this healing mode and just kind of going more to from survival to thriving.
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Right.
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So that's kind of why you want to like shift your energy.
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But it does take work.
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Yeah.
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And it's not easy.
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I think when you're doing new health, that's amazing.
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No, I think it's great that you have a community, you have your family where you're at now, and you also have like friends that you've made through that community.
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And I've seen like such a beautiful, like,
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new chapter unfolding for you just from my long distance wise, right?
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We, we FaceTime at least once a month and like, make sure we stay in touch and like updated.
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But I think like the two things that you didn't have that you absolutely needed in order to even do that deep healing was psych safety.
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and like just feeling physically safe also.
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And then maybe a third thing, trust, like the trust with the environment or the people around you.
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And maybe you can kind of call that the same thing, but like the safety and the trust was just not there.
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So I think you leaving and you going into an environment with
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people that you already knew you trusted.
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I think that was helpful.
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And it set like a good new foundation and the space that you needed to be able to dive deep and focus on new areas of healing that you may not have had a chance to even look at or notice unless you had maybe gone through this situation.
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I know that's like, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Absolutely.
00:19:42
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You know, it's it's kind of like I can see that now, like when I'm like out of that situation, you know, where I am now, it's like, oh, my gosh, like it's 180.
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Yeah, like where where where things are now.
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But but what about you?
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Like, where where have you been?
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I mean, I know it, but yeah, yeah.
00:20:05
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So last year, about this time, I was like, I had just started a new job.
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Like, I don't know, I was like four months into my job.
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It's I loved working where I worked in my last job.
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It was very chill.
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Like the people were really there.
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They are very lovely.
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Like I, I got a new opportunity.
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I started my new job about a month and a half ago.
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It's like it was way more money than I was making and I needed to make more money.
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And that was the thing that kind of drove me to being open.
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And part of it was my own doing.
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Like I went on a two week.
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trip to Europe with my sister last year and it was amazing um and then I literally was in so many weddings and bachelorette parties and I remember that it was almost like every month it was like a different it was kind of yeah it was like a double-edged shirt because it's like I want to show up for my friends I want to be there for them but then when you like
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come back to it, you're like, I just spent all of my extra money for that should have been for myself on these events for other people.
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And I think I don't know if people talk about that enough.
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And I don't mean any like ill will towards the friends that I spent that money on.
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Like, but when you are
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a single person who like, I'm nowhere in the vicinity of getting married or engaged or having a baby or whatever it is.
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I'm like, I'm not doing the societal standard life track and I'm completely okay with that.
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But when you're not doing the traditional celebration-y things, it can be challenging because then you're like,
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How can I show up for myself?
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How like it made me realize like that was kind of my lesson and journey last year.
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Like be selective with what you say yes to literally like when we took a break from our podcast, I literally did not.
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I went into hermit mode from like fall to
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up until today, like I'm still like kind of hermit mode.
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So it was nice to like, be super, super selective with like, how am I spending my time, my energy and my money.
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And those are like the three main resources that I've noticed that, you know, time you cannot get back as a resource.
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Because time is also kind of made up and time and money are all made up and kind of fake anyway.
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But like,
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if you are spending your money on things and people and places and events that are not going to kind of add more value into your life, if you find yourself doing it and whereas like, oh, I'm motivated by guilt, right?
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Like, you know, if I don't show up for this person, then they might be mad at me.
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Or if I don't,
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you know, do this thing that I might not get invited again.
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That's kind of like looking at it through a scarcity mindset.
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And I found myself not with all of the things I said yes to, but
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with a lot of the things I said yes to, I was like, if I don't say yes, they're going to be mad at me or, and I, I've been diving into my human design chart.
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Uh, and one resource that I found recently is that, uh, as a generator, so I'm motivated.
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There's something in my chart that says like, I'm motivated by guilt.
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And I find that so interesting.
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So it's interesting.
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Yeah.
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So like, yeah,
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people can guilt trip me all the time and I may not notice it.
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And I'm like, okay, well, I don't want to be motivated by guilt.
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But if you're, as like, if you are into human design, like that's just part of my makeup.
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Right.
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So like now, cause if you're showing me up, I,
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as something that is not because you actually want to do it.
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Like not of your own.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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It's not authentic, right?
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Like you're showing up because I have to.
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Yeah.
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Because, because of the feeling, yeah, feeling the blank.
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It's like, it's never going to be a great experience because they're always going to be something.
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Right.
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Right.
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And I found, yeah, no.
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And I found myself getting annoyed.
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like yeah well yeah because yeah because it's one of those things you're like well i'm not doing because i generally want to be there you know show up for my friends blah blah blah you know and i'm sure there were you know opportunities like that too but yeah you know but they're also i'm sure there were opportunities they were like well
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I didn't have to spend or didn't have to spend all the money or.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah.
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There there's, and I'm, you know, I'm not going to lie.
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I'm, I'm paying for it still.
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Like some of the things like paying off credit card debt and like,
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just kind of paying for it energetically too.
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Like, and I honestly, that's what it's, I'm bummed that.
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So when I took the job at my last job, I did take a pay cut of like 15 K and which is like a thousand dollars a month.
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So like at the time I like needed a job, like the job before, yes, I got paid well, but like,
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I was not happy.
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It was really it was a it was not a good environment for me.
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And I was commuting an hour each way.
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There were just all these circumstances that just didn't work out for they were so inconvenient.
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Right.
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On top of like this really unhealthy work environment.
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And then for me, I've had a lot of like jobs that have had that pattern.
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You and I were literally talking about this earlier of like the pattern.
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So I'm an executive assistant and I've literally at this point, I'm in the mid 20s of the executives I've supported at like different tech startups.
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And I'm just like,
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It's an easy job on, you know, looking at it.
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But then the most challenging aspect is the personalities.
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Like, how are they going to react if they're frustrated or angry?
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And so with our energetic gifts, I've been able to kind of like incorporate, like, I can read someone to filth if I need to.
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Like, yeah.
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But that's just like information I'm getting.
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And sometimes it's information I do not want at all.
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Like I don't need to know that.
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I don't wanna know that.
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And so there is some type of like sacrifice factor that I've been experiencing of like, what am I sacrificing?
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I think that's been like the common thread in these jobs.
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Like I've always had to sacrifice something like what if it was the commute that was like an hour each way.
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That's like two that's sacrificing personal time.
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Having to go in an office when most of the tech jobs could be totally remote.
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That's also sacrificing personal time and then money for parking.
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So I'm starting to see.
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What are the patterns that I've had related to work?
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What are the patterns I've had related to spending money, whether it's for things that I need to pay for or things that I want?
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And then realizing like, oh, if I'm feeling like uncomfortable, I'm not.
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If I'm not like satisfied with something in my life, you know, I like to shop because it's like a fun little or like, well, that is the pattern.
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That is the pattern.
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Yeah.
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spending money as a way to distract myself.
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And I feel like that six months of like social sabbatical that I'm just calling it social sabbatical that helped me immensely kind of just reset some of the financial patterns that just were not serving me.
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I think being mindful of my spending, like not being on certain subscriptions, not like that I didn't need, like just kind of recognizing like, what am I actually spending my money on?
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And then is it actually serving me or is this just something that I've always just been paying for, but I don't actually utilize it.
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So it's been like more of a lesson of like pay more attention to the resources that I have and the resources that I'm giving away.
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And that can also be like energetic resources too.
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Yeah.
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both physically and
Excitement for the New Season
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energetically right yeah yeah but as you can probably tell i mean both you and i we've gone through a lot of transitions that's what i would i would say it and uh you know i think just being here today is just such an accomplishment yeah
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And, you know, we do want to bring something, you know, that you can all relate to it.
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And we also like in the space where we want to bring some new energy to this podcast and just see how we want to like navigate moving forward.
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Of course, we're always open to like feedback and suggestions from our listeners and kind of reconnect with everyone too.
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And we'll be posting on social media and going back to all our...
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We're full of everything.
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Oh, we're back.
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All our fun shenanigans, you know.
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So now we're just going to be, you know, the first of many new episodes to come.
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Yes.
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So I'm very excited.
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Me too.
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It's a new chapter.
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It's a new year.
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It's kind of a new phase in both of our lives of, you know, where do we want to show up and how do we want to show up for ourselves?
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And...
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I'm very excited to partner with you for season three.
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Thank you.
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I feel like
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I feel like a few trips are in our future.
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I'm not to be psychic, but you know, you guys have to stay tuned.
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Exactly.
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Thank you so much for tuning in to season three of Psychic Girls Next Door.
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We missed all of you.
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We appreciate you listening.
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And we're so excited to go on this journey and co-create with our listeners and anyone who's interested in chatting with us.
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We each do healings in various modalities, but also just like
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if you want to make new friends, I'm in San Francisco.
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And then Lily, if you want to share where you are, you don't have to.
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I'm in Colorado.
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She's in Colorado.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So yeah, we're, we're open to building community and that's the whole point of this podcast, right?
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Absolutely.
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Share, you know, personal stories, your stories, and hopefully, you know, you can relate to it.
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And, you know, I think this is, this is an open space.
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Yes.
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And the possibilities are endless too.
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But thank you so much for listening to us.
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We're so happy to be back.
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And we can't wait for our next episode.
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All right.
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Thanks, y'all.
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Bye.
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Bye.