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Speaker: Hi, welcome to Psychic Girls Next Door.
Speaker: We are your hosts, Shannon Miller and Lily Hipparino.
Speaker: And this podcast is for all spirituality enthusiasts and psychics next door to share tools, experiences, and spiritual practices that align with your highest vibrational self.
Speaker: And today, our episode, we are going to do our wrap-up for 2023.
Speaker: Woohoo!
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: Hold her, you're down.
Speaker: Holy moly.
Speaker: Yeah, it's been quite the year in so many different ways.
Speaker: My God, yeah.
Speaker: So we just want to reflect on the year that it's coming to an end and share with you guys what have we learned, what was the theme around this year, and what we're hoping.
Speaker: Yeah, for next year.
Speaker: For next year, which is right around the corner, because by the time you're listening to this, it will probably be around the holidays for majority of people, I want to say.
Speaker: So hopefully this will also inspire you to self-reflect.
Speaker: And what has, you know, what came through this year?
Speaker: What have you also learned?
Speaker: And then hopefully it will inspire you to also, you know, set the tone for what's to come.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: How was your year?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Um, wild and chaotic.
Speaker: I would say like, yeah, I would say like, I think a lot of my, like year consisted of like working in a toxic work environment and then being around those people and like traveling with those people and then just like not feeling safe around those people.
Speaker: And a lot of them were men.
Speaker: And I actually had a reading from our friend Erica and, um,
Speaker: on Monday.
Speaker: And this kind of ties into that, um, just like kind of residual residue from like that experience.
Speaker: And also just like past life experiences of not feeling like I can be my true authentic self around, um,
Speaker: men in general for like safety reasons.
Speaker: And I feel like I recently cleaned that out and I'm like, what a great way to end the year of cleaning out a belief that no longer serves me.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: Programming.
Speaker: Decluttering.
Speaker: Decluttering.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I would say that this year has been cut.
Speaker: I feel like it's almost been like a waiting room year.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Of like, I've been waiting for like, not for my life to start, because that sounds so like, you know, cheesy and dramatic.
Speaker: But I feel like going into this next year, I feel like I'm going to like,
Speaker: just do a lot more things for myself and have like my creative projects kind of spring up like and get off the ground and like actually become a real tangible thing rather than this like idea that's been living in my head.
Speaker: And it's already started, you know, putting the pen to paper, so to speak.
Speaker: Literally and literally because I'm writing a book.
Speaker: Yeah, true.
Speaker: So I feel like that's finally got like happening, which is really nice.
Speaker: Like and I just want to do it in a way that feels grounded.
Speaker: And but yeah, it feels like I had to go through that weird experience at work.
Speaker: to realize, like, no, no, no, you don't need to put your, like, heart and soul into a job, like, especially if it's definitely not going to serve you, and also, like, be more discerning and look at the energy of the people who you're interviewing with before you even accept the job, and I feel like the last time I was laid off, which was fall of 2022, I
Speaker: I was in a place of like, I just have to get a job.
Speaker: Like it felt very desperate.
Speaker: Where in this year when I was, you know, transitioned out of my job, I don't even think of it as a layoff.
Speaker: I wanted to leave.
Speaker: And it just, you know, they paid me to leave.
Speaker: I'm like, what a great...
Speaker: What a great thing.
Speaker: So when I was transitioning out in the summer, end of summer, I was like, oh my God, I'm unemployed again, two years in a row in the fall.
Speaker: And I was like, no, I'm just going to do the work, the internal work.
Speaker: And I feel like the past three months, I've been unemployed for three months until now.
Speaker: I start my new job on Monday.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yay.
Speaker: Exciting.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And it feels like a really, like, nice group of people, normal, like, seems like they have a work-life balance, if that is even a thing.
Speaker: But also seems like, you know, the CEO who I will be supporting is very family-oriented, which I really like.
Speaker: And I like that he led by talking about his daughter first and then his sons.
Speaker: I'm like, oh, that's a good sign.
Speaker: And the woman who I'll be supporting is really nice, too.
Speaker: And she has, like, fun energy.
Speaker: And I'm just like, finally.
Speaker: Like, people who I vibe with and, like, it felt like in the interview process it wasn't...
Speaker: like I was having to prove myself too much.
Speaker: I actually did most of the asking and, you know, find out about them.
Speaker: And I think I learned how to do that from not doing that, where I like felt like I had to showboat myself and like show off like, oh, I can do this.
Speaker: I'm capable of this.
Speaker: And like, and then I realized like, oh, I'm really overextending myself.
Speaker: And then they keep asking for more and more and more and more.
Speaker: And I realized like, oh, I sold myself that way.
Speaker: Like they set the tone.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Well, there's no boundaries.
Speaker: There's no boundaries.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So we're going to 2024 with boundaries.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Because once you don't set your own boundaries, you know, you can't expect people to respect that.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Because it has to come from within.
Speaker: Oh, totally.
Speaker: So that's a great lesson.
Speaker: Yeah, it's been a great lesson.
Speaker: And I feel very grateful that I've been able to have three months off and like, you know, my parents were able to help me with rent the past two months.
Speaker: And I'm like, that's like, I'm very grateful for that because like not a lot of people are in that position.
Speaker: So you weren't like desperate.
Speaker: I wasn't desperate.
Speaker: Did you have to find it or you'll be homeless and stuff like that.
Speaker: So it wasn't so much out of survival.
Speaker: Totally.
Speaker: And like I ordained, you know, two weddings.
Speaker: My third one will be on Sunday.
Speaker: So I finally, after years of wanting to ordain weddings, I am able to do that.
Speaker: And I feel like that feels really good because it's like, I think I'm now focusing on the
Speaker: Things I've always wanted to do, but I didn't because I'm like, I don't know how to do it.
Speaker: Or I, you know, I didn't have a framework or I didn't know what I was doing or didn't believe I could do it.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And now.
Speaker: So it's like the resistance.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: The limiting beliefs.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: Create around.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: But it probably happened when you were.
Speaker: ready and open to it absolutely yeah and you have the time to actually dedicate to that yeah and I'm like I want to do this for myself I want to be able to facilitate weddings and it is just like the funnest side gig I don't even call it a job like it's just a fun thing that I get paid to do and it's like
Speaker: it's really easy and it's a beautiful experience for everyone involved.
Speaker: And I think like, that's the type of like energy that I want when I am like working with people, if that makes sense.
Speaker: Cause it doesn't feel like work.
Speaker: It doesn't feel like work.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Because when you are doing things that you love, it's, it's fun to do it.
Speaker: You don't feel like, you don't feel like it's a chore.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I'm excited to do it.
Speaker: And I'm like, yeah, like, hell yeah, I'll marry you.
Speaker: You know, like,
Speaker: I love the fact that, you know, life for the universe, it always brings us what we need.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: You know, and I know that, I mean, especially this year, there's a lot of...
Speaker: setbacks for a lot of us you know you see in the news there's all this layoffs yeah companies going bankrupt and all this stuff terrible things happening everywhere everywhere you know like all this tension going on and it's really heavy heavy stuff it's easy to feel overwhelmed and
Speaker: So I think it is important to find things outside, even what you do on a daily basis, like say your job or your work, you know, just something that will kind of bring you some happiness.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Or some joy, whether it be a hobby or something that you're interested in.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: You know, that you're like, oh my God, this is so fun.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Like, there's only so many episodes of Love Island that I can watch.
Speaker: And then the season ends.
Speaker: And then I'm like, what am I going to do with myself?
Speaker: And then, you know.
Speaker: Yeah, you got to find something, whether it be some movement, you know, just going outside.
Speaker: You kind of have to create that space.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: And creating good habits for yourself.
Speaker: I think that can be really challenging.
Speaker: That's for the past month or so, maybe a little bit more.
Speaker: I've been walking almost every day in Golden Gate Park and then doing the Ava Fitness dance videos.
Speaker: And I realized like, oh, there's like a lesson that I'm learning here of like creating consistency.
Speaker: Like that has been the most challenging thing.
Speaker: But I think I as someone like people can be really impacted by the environment they're in and whatever they associate that with, whether it's their work environment, whether that's home or whatever community that you're part of.
Speaker: And I think like my work environment was my dominant environment that was influencing my personal habits and like my views of myself and taking a step back.
Speaker: And now that I've healed from that whole experience, I realized like, oh, I wasn't like putting myself first at all.
Speaker: Well, your identity also is kind of like wrapped up.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: at work i mean granted we do like spend more time at work than in our personal lives if you think about it but i see if you work like eight nine hours per day at least here in america you know i don't know like you know we all can't be in the south of france yeah like you know get you know like find yourself with a three-month vacation time off during the summer i would love that oh my
Speaker: on holiday yeah i'm on holiday i'll see you like in three months you know fabulous uh but you do spend a lot of time at work and uh or whatever it is that you do maybe you're a mom right maybe you know whatever it is like those are i feel like i couldn't even working at that last job i'm like i don't know how parents worked there yeah like i mean i oh my gosh i think being a parent is one of the hardest jobs that you
Speaker: can have.
Speaker: I mean, coming from someone, I mean, I have worked with child care for over a decade.
Speaker: I don't know how they do it.
Speaker: This is the most challenging.
Speaker: You need help.
Speaker: I mean, otherwise, it's just like, you know, you go...
Speaker: go insane.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But I think that just finding spaces, you have to create for yourself.
Speaker: You can't like expect like, oh, you know, next month, you know, it's going to happen or when this happens.
Speaker: So it's just kind of having to create.
Speaker: And I think that's the hardest part for people.
Speaker: It's finding the motivation to do it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And then being consistent and disciplined.
Speaker: And believing that you can do it and then you just take action.
Speaker: Because I think there's the ideation phase and I think I was stuck in that place for so long with my creative projects.
Speaker: And I think you really inspired me with this podcast.
Speaker: You're like, I see us doing this.
Speaker: And I'm like, finally, a partner.
Speaker: I like it.
Speaker: I can do this with him.
Speaker: Sometimes we need a little push, right?
Speaker: Or a little nudge.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: Or like just feeling validated and recognized.
Speaker: So very grateful for you for that.
Speaker: And like, it's nice when you do have a partnership that you can collaborate and be creative.
Speaker: And I think that inspires me to just be like, well, what else?
Speaker: It's like, especially this year, like, what else can I be creative with?
Speaker: And like, oh, do I want to do things like, you know, with other people?
Speaker: Like, I'm working on a tarot deck and my friend Brittany has agreed to be the artist for that.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So.
Speaker: But it all starts with the desire, right?
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And it will keep nudging you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Just kind of pay attention to that.
Speaker: What is it that is coming for you?
Speaker: It's been coming throughout the years and it's going to come.
Speaker: Totally.
Speaker: And until you take action.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: You know, it's going to keep poking you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
Speaker: You're going to always think it's going to be living in your head rent free and like you're always going to be thinking about it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I made the decision to take finally like inspired action because I'm like, I don't want to always be thinking about like, what if I did this?
Speaker: Why didn't I do this?
Speaker: And like, you know, don't, I don't want any regrets of like not taking action or trying.
Speaker: And we are here for such a limited amount of time.
Speaker: Totally.
Speaker: You know, if you think about it, I mean, I wish I could tell people you do have more time, but no one.
Speaker: It's not guaranteed.
Speaker: No one is guaranteed of that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And all you have is this moment.
Speaker: What can I do today that is going to contribute to my future self to be like, look back and see like, well, thank you for doing this.
Speaker: Whatever it is, it doesn't have to be something big.
Speaker: It can be something like small steps.
Speaker: I think small steps for a lot of people, they probably work best so people don't feel overwhelmed or feel that it's something that is impossible to achieve.
Speaker: uh but talking about like nudges uh for me what came up this year a lot and it's it kind of like it's trying to trickle in i would say like last year there were things that i had to work on what exactly and for me did you have to work on or did you want to work on i mean it was both yeah uh i don't think i want it
Speaker: Whoever wants to look deeper into their own issues.
Speaker: It's like, oh, resistance.
Speaker: I don't want to look into that.
Speaker: But the beginning of this year, I had pneumonia.
Speaker: And, you know, I've always been quite healthy, I want to say.
Speaker: Besides, like, the occasional cold, you know, that I would catch, like, here and there.
Speaker: I've never had, like, major medical issues to the point that I had to go to the hospital.
Speaker: I mean, thank God.
Speaker: You know, I've always been like in a good space.
Speaker: And I ended up with pneumonia and I was like, what the heck?
Speaker: Yeah, you know, you never think it's going to happen to you until it happens.
Speaker: But it happened.
Speaker: But for me, it was an opportunity that was one, my body was sending me a message that I needed to look at that space of the lungs and the heart and
Speaker: And that kind of coincided also with me also, you know, when we had that hypnotherapy session with Laura.
Speaker: And you can listen to that episode.
Speaker: I'll link it in the show notes below where it all came down to me looking at my heart space.
Speaker: And there was still a lot of...
Speaker: memories and issues around like my childhood and things related to how I
Speaker: carried so much resentment and anger in my heart.
Speaker: And it's weird because it was kind of like that next layer, you know, it was kind of like that, you know, inner layer that I really had to address and take responsibility over.
Speaker: realizing that people in my life in the past, they had toxic behaviors, but I also carry toxic behaviors myself.
Speaker: And some things that we all do at some degree, right?
Speaker: And I was not very proud of it.
Speaker: Giving yourself grace.
Speaker: Grace and compassion just to look at it.
Speaker: It's like, gosh, you know, I didn't know any better.
Speaker: So you just kind of have to go into space where you forgive yourself.
Speaker: So for me, it was like really digging into that.
Speaker: And it's really hard.
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
Speaker: It was really fun stuff to like admit to yourself.
Speaker: That you're like, oh, gosh, you were bullied, you know, like that type of thing.
Speaker: And it's not a great thing to recognize.
Speaker: But at the same time, when you acknowledge that it can be very liberating, you know, not to be in that energy anymore.
Speaker: So for me, that was very cathartic, just going through that process of looking more into my heart space.
Speaker: Because people talk a lot about self-love, but I don't know if people really understand what it is to be in the energy of self-love.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And giving that self-love to yourself.
Speaker: And I wish I could say, oh, light a candle and going to the bathtub, have a warm bath.
Speaker: I mean, this is a great thing.
Speaker: This is great self-care tips, right?
Speaker: Like, you know, go for a walk.
Speaker: But really digging into the space of self-love, it's really having to...
Speaker: define what love is for you how do you receive love i think for me that was the most important like being open and how do i receive love but also like how do i process love into my own space right and like every part of you like because we all have shadow and light and i've been i've also been doing some shadow work this year and like
Speaker: When you are in that space of like literally taking a mirror to yourself and wholly looking at it and trying to look at it from like a neutral perspective, you might not like all of the shadows that exist in the room.
Speaker: But it's all part of you.
Speaker: But it's all part of you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: If you think about it.
Speaker: So it was important for me to acknowledge that part of myself.
Speaker: That's powerful.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And start to integrate that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And then now I came to a space where I'm not at that job, kind of like your experience.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And then moving on into something else.
Speaker: And now like being more in the space of.
Speaker: my own business.
Speaker: What do I want that to look like?
Speaker: What's the next step that I want to take?
Speaker: And that takes a lot of digging again.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: You know, really digging to yourself.
Speaker: What do you like?
Speaker: What do you want?
Speaker: What do you need?
Speaker: So it's been, it's been tough.
Speaker: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker: I mean, it's, it's challenging.
Speaker: You know, because you want to have the answers for all of this.
Speaker: And sometimes the answers are not like clear or like they're like right there, ready.
Speaker: It's kind of like you have horse blinders on when sometimes when you're going through that experience or you're like, you might recognize like, oh, this doesn't feel right.
Speaker: Or like, I don't like myself in this situation or this environment.
Speaker: Or like, I feel triggered and then therefore I behave a way that I usually don't want to behave or...
Speaker: you know, that's an old way of me thinking or talking to myself.
Speaker: Like, for me, like, just as an example, like, I'm very critical, like, hypercritical myself.
Speaker: And so when I recognize, like, I'm going into patterns of, like, picking apart my body or picking apart, like, you know, oh, I need to, like, why aren't you doing your creative projects or whatever, like that, like, you know, horse and whip type of punishing energy.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And it's very invalidating.
Speaker: And I recognize, like, oh,
Speaker: Why am I going into those like self
Speaker: like talk tracks, like this isn't, this doesn't feel good.
Speaker: Like I'm not being kind to myself.
Speaker: I'm not practicing self-love when I am doing that.
Speaker: So then I realized like, oh, I'm matching the energy of whatever is externally around me.
Speaker: Or I, you know, got triggered by a movie I saw.
Speaker: It can be like as heavy or light as, as it needs to be.
Speaker: But it's just like, when you do recognize that you're going through that, I think that's the first step.
Speaker: Yeah, that is the first step to healing.
Speaker: Yeah, same for me.
Speaker: I also went through a lot of the should self-talks.
Speaker: I would see people that are very successful in this field that I work in.
Speaker: Oh, they are doing this and that.
Speaker: Oh, I should do this too.
Speaker: Mm-hmm.
Speaker: I should create more videos.
Speaker: I should create videos like this.
Speaker: I should.
Speaker: So always there should.
Speaker: And I noticed that the other night I was laying down and I was like, gosh, there's so much information.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: That I keep like bringing to my space and shooting, must do it myself.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And that didn't sit well with me.
Speaker: It's like too many hats and you only have one head.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: And the hats don't fit my head.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: None of it matches what I kind of my personality and myself.
Speaker: But I felt overwhelmed with all this information from other people.
Speaker: And I've recognized that like right there and then.
Speaker: And I was like, you know what?
Speaker: you're just gonna dump all this in the trash yeah if it's not serving you it's like just move it out because it's like information for other people great for them great for them if it works you know because that's the thing like as humans we compare right it's a natural thing you compare it to others and then you kind of like
Speaker: Then you start going to the shoot.
Speaker: Oh, I should also do that.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: If they're in the space.
Speaker: Oh, it works for them.
Speaker: It might work for me.
Speaker: It might work for me.
Speaker: And then you feel like required to like operate that way.
Speaker: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker: To like be successful.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And I kept also like looking at it like in the space of then having to force myself.
Speaker: to do things because I kind of caught myself think, well, I should record more videos for social media.
Speaker: And honestly, I did not feel like recording any videos.
Speaker: Like I didn't feel inspired.
Speaker: I didn't feel motivated.
Speaker: I didn't feel like I had anything to share.
Speaker: And then again, like I just allow myself to step back and just like, you know, it's okay.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Not to feel like you have to do all these things.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And just trust that whatever comes to me.
Speaker: So another theme, I think that's kind of the sub theme.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: What's what happened is trusting.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Trusting my own information, my own energy, trusting that things they will unfold exactly.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: How they have to.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Not because how I want it, but how I need it.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Because I do, I recognize the universe, whatever you call it, source has much higher intelligence than I do.
Speaker: Oh, totally.
Speaker: And knows what's best for me.
Speaker: But the hardest part for me with the trust is the surrender that is hard.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: You know, I know that's a lot of talk about surrender.
Speaker: And there's part of me that's kind of like 50-50.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: with the surrender part that's kind of like the half feet is in it but the other one is kind of not what's practicing trust it is it is that comes with the trust and then you can be in your relaxed girl era exactly that's the era that i'm in like yeah 2024 we are in our relaxed girl eras like trusting the universe trusting that things are going to work out for us like that's my goal
Speaker: That's my intention for next year.
Speaker: I want to, for me, I also would love to be the smooth girl era.
Speaker: I like that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Transitions, everything flows smoothly.
Speaker: Love it.
Speaker: With ease.
Speaker: Whatever it is in your life, it's just smooth.
Speaker: I like that.
Speaker: Smooth sailing.
Speaker: Smooth sailing from here now.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: From here till like, you know.
Speaker: She's the captain of her smooth sailing ship.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: I'm sure I am.
Speaker: Putting my captain cap.
Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
Speaker: I have one.
Speaker: You can borrow it.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: You can have it.
Speaker: I'm four.
Speaker: Parade in 2024.
Speaker: But this, you know, hopefully will be the energy to bring into 2024.
Speaker: But yeah, 2023, I would say it's been like a whirlwind.
Speaker: Yeah, not in a great way.
Speaker: No, I mean, there's been like a lot of parts of it that's been great.
Speaker: painful but it's been great and good for growth yeah good for growth and learning and just noticing that you're shedding all this like layers and like things that you have previously tolerated that you're no longer tolerating and i think that's the most beautiful lesson that i personally learned like i'm not going to let anyone treat me the way that i was treated and like hell no like you nope like dust my hands off of it like my boundaries are here
Speaker: Like, and I'm just like in my own energy.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Well, it feels empowering to be in this type of energy.
Speaker: And again, it comes with work.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: You know, comes with inner work and finding things that inspire you to also be in that space because it's easy just to conform.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Like, nah, it's fine.
Speaker: I don't want to rock the boat.
Speaker: I don't want to make others uncomfortable.
Speaker: But again, you always have to think, well, does this serve me?
Speaker: No.
Speaker: If the answer is no, then it's time to take some intentional action around it.
Speaker: Totally.
Speaker: And you might need support around that.
Speaker: Yeah, and it can be hard to, like, admit, one, like, one, recognize that something's not serving you, whether it's something that you are doing for yourself, whether it's, like, you know, a habit that you want to change or improve on or get rid of completely, or if it's, like, a dynamic between people or a work environment or a living environment, whatever that means for you, and one, like, recognition, right?
Speaker: recognizing like something feels uncomfortable in my body that's typically like my first sign like if i'm like you know having throat issues i'm clearly like my fifth chakra might be blocked that message right yeah yeah the body is always the first to recognize yeah when something is off or like and you're always gonna feel it yeah like gut issues stomach issues that like usually correlates with like third chakra identity how you're running your
Speaker: energy personal power how you're taking energy from others yeah yeah so it's the body is very wise the body knows the body knows it it sure does checking in on a physical level to kind of make it tangible and then like really doing some reflection work of like what is upsetting me what doesn't feel right like the vibes are off they're not vibing
Speaker: Like where, what is not vibing and like, how can you make sure that it's in vibration of where you want to be?
Speaker: But you also have to make sure that you're in vibration of where you want to be.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And again, it comes to the trust.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Trusting the information that you get that is what works best for you.
Speaker: But it's interesting because in order to be in that trust space, you kind of have to do it and then be able moving forward to recognize.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: That moment like, oh, yeah, that how it felt when I trusted myself.
Speaker: So it takes practice.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: It's just like exercising.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: You have to practice.
Speaker: Oh, exactly.
Speaker: You need to develop that muscle.
Speaker: But talking about recognition, I also want to reflect because it's been a year since we launched this podcast.
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
Speaker: Over a year.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: We had our one-year anniversary in September.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And I feel very accomplished.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: We're happy.
Speaker: How cool are we?
Speaker: No, we're so cool.
Speaker: No, but it's really validating because I think it's like shows commitment.
Speaker: Like for me, I am, uh, I have a Gemini moon and a Gemini Venus, so I can be a little bit of a flighty person when it comes to like, or just malleable with like changing my, of my interests and like not being consistent with myself all the time.
Speaker: And I think this podcast has been like a very grounded, um,
Speaker: thing of like, I'm committing to doing this because one, I love it, brings me joy.
Speaker: I get to hang out with one of my best friends and talk about things that we love.
Speaker: And hopefully that inspires other people.
Speaker: And I think it's been like a really amazing experience so far.
Speaker: I feel the same way too.
Speaker: And again, I probably I've mentioned in the past for me, it's been a very healing experience just to be able to talk with
Speaker: And express myself and talk about things that I don't know if I would have talked to others, you know, like, and again, just having someone like you that can hold space and I trust, again, trust, you know, someone that I trust.
Speaker: My favorite thing.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Like talking about really deep rooted.
Speaker: Or like random things.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: uh yeah it's bold and courageous and just speaking your truth i think for me the healing aspect of it has been very liberating because i have been working the last the last few years i was gonna say pretty much my whole life let's be honest just like being very nonchalant about it
Speaker: But it's been a lot about self-expression.
Speaker: And I think self-expression also correlates to being authentic to yourself.
Speaker: And again, trusting yourself, trusting your own information.
Speaker: So it's been a gradual process for me because I am someone that, and if things need to again, like happen gradually.
Speaker: Mm-hmm.
Speaker: smoothly.
Speaker: I think my body also needs to adjust to all these changes and all these things.
Speaker: So it's been like a gradual process to be in the space and it takes a lot of courage.
Speaker: It does.
Speaker: To put yourself, like, out there.
Speaker: Because we, you know, we record this podcast for you guys to listen.
Speaker: But understand, we're also on social media, too.
Speaker: So, Shannon and I, we also, we record videos where we're talking.
Speaker: Some of them are silly.
Speaker: Yeah, they're silly.
Speaker: They're funny.
Speaker: And we do skits.
Speaker: And we do all this fun stuff.
Speaker: So, it does take courage to be, put yourself out there.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And, you know.
Speaker: I don't know how, like, influencers do it.
Speaker: Like, to be very honest.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Like posting multiple videos a day.
Speaker: It's a full time job, guys.
Speaker: And then I think they get trapped like in that dynamic.
Speaker: I hope that they're OK.
Speaker: Influencers, I hope you're OK.
Speaker: Like sending you love, sending you love and respect.
Speaker: Because it's crazy.
Speaker: It's a full time job.
Speaker: And it's the weird part about it is that even though you're making this content,
Speaker: to you know whether it be to promote yourself or it might be fun but there is also it comes with external validation regardless you know there is this portion that you need the likes you need engagement you need people to share to kind of for things to also take off right in a way so there is this aspect so it's complex I want to say it's very complex because like you know for us like me
Speaker: doing the work of like, I've been doing a lot of work internally on not, I don't want external validation anymore.
Speaker: Like that's not driving me.
Speaker: It was driving me when I was like dating for years in my mid twenties, early twenties, hell even my late twenties.
Speaker: But like, that was like really an, and for me, I'm like, I'd done a lot of work on like not needing external validation through that whole experience.
Speaker: So then when we're coming up with this, like, the whole game of this is that you need that.
Speaker: So external validation of those likes and, like, people watching and views, like, all of that is all external validation.
Speaker: Yeah, and it comes with it.
Speaker: I mean, there's no way that that doesn't influence, you know, this aspect of the social media marketing because it is still a crucial part in promoting yourself.
Speaker: And then there's also the external invalidation.
Speaker: Yes, absolutely.
Speaker: Because people are not so kind.
Speaker: Even though, I mean, I believe we do have a great community.
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But there's always people, they're not going to be in tune or not resonate with this work that they feel like they need to voice themselves.
Speaker: And that's all right.
Speaker: You know, people can say whatever they want.
Speaker: But not everyone is kind and may construct and will give us constructive feedback.
Speaker: So...
Speaker: I think it's also you have to be in a space where you're so connected to yourself and just so true to yourself and true to your intention and goals.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: That none of this affects you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Or at least not as much.
Speaker: It doesn't impact your personal life.
Speaker: like internal world yeah like you're thinking that you're not worthy yes because of someone's comment or negative comment yeah so you have to be discerning of that i mean and again but you're human at the end of the day too that's a great idea to do an episode on worthiness and yes in that especially in that space of like you being like a
Speaker: not to say we're public figures, but like when you're putting your artwork out there and like when you're an artist or a creator or content creator or, you know, influencer, like you are putting yourself out there.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And it's probably what keeps people from actually putting their work out there.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: There's the fear.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Fear of judgment, fear of criticism.
Speaker: What are people going to say about it?
Speaker: So we want to empower you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: If we can do it.
Speaker: You can do it.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Trust me.
Speaker: It's doable.
Speaker: Like you just have to be like internally motivated and like really want to create this for yourself.
Speaker: And we, our whole goal is like, let's do it for ourselves.
Speaker: And like, then maybe that'll inspire other people to like do other things for themselves and see that it's possible.
Speaker: Like we're, you know, two normal, you know, just psychic girls next door.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And we wanted to continue creating.
Speaker: for next year 2024 and bring more guests and have more fun conversations and if you have ideas and suggestions for us on topics or even guests too we're open yes send us an email you can dm us on social media too but i hope everyone will have a great holiday if you do celebrate uh but a great end of the year and uh
Speaker: even better year right in a fabulous 2024 and we'll come with more episodes next year yes thank you so much for listening and we are excited to move into the new year we hope that you are having a wonderful time this holiday season take care of yourselves prioritize self-care whatever that means for you and we will see you on the next episode and in the new year all right bye
