In this raw and relatable episode, we dive deep into the exhausting world of people pleasing—a pattern we both know intimately. From childhood conditioning to workplace dynamics, we unpack how constantly prioritizing others' needs leads to burnout, resentment, and lost identity. Through personal stories about family gatherings, work boundaries, and romantic relationships, we share our journey toward saying "no," setting boundaries, and reclaiming their energy. This conversation is equal parts vulnerable confession and practical roadmap for anyone ready to stop dimming their light for others.

Episode Highlights:

[00:04] Welcome and introduction: firsthand experience with people pleasing

[00:39] The first step: realizing you weren't even aware you were a people pleaser

[01:36] ChatGPT's definition and why it hits so hard

[02:05] Cultural roots: Asian household hierarchies and the expectation to never say no

[03:02] Childhood conditioning: apologizing for mistakes and carrying guilt

[03:42] Shannon's EMDR journey: reprocessing the deep need to please

[04:40] The EA trap: when your job requires people pleasing by design

[06:09] Gender expectations: the "nice one" who sacrifices for everyone

[07:33] Fear-based patterns: managing others' emotions and staying in bad relationships

[08:56] The physical toll: burnout, anxiety, and losing yourself

[09:32] When unmet needs become body issues: acid reflux and stomach problems

[11:05] The validation exchange: getting tiny thank-yous in return for exhaustion

[12:04] Energy scattered everywhere except within yourself

[12:54] The game-changer: learning the word "boundary"

[13:48] The terror of saying no and catastrophic thinking

[15:37] Practicing boundaries during the holidays (perfect timing!)

[16:00] Shannon's autopilot relationships and the coworker carpool situation

[18:57] Real-life boundary example: declining a family dinner without guilt

[21:51] Avoiding conflict vs. having necessary uncomfortable conversations

[22:35] Book recommendation: Boundary Boss by Terri Cole (with scripts!)

[24:08] Family dinner boundary story: "I'll let you know" as a buffer

[26:27] Patriarchal expectations and the male gaze

[27:00] The Vogue article: "It's embarrassing to have a boyfriend"

[28:20] Self-worth and settling for less than you deserve

[29:14] Wrapping up: share your stories and join the conversation

Resources: 

Terri Cole:

 * The Terri Cole Show on Apple Podcasts
 * Boundary Boss by Terri Cole (Instagram)

Vogue Article:

 * Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? - Vogue
 * What the Response to "Are Boyfriends Embarrassing?" Says About the Current State of Heterosexual Dating - Vogue

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Episode 51: People Pleasing and How Not To 

In this grounding and reflective episode, we explore the many forms of clutter that accumulate in our lives, from physical belongings to digital noise to emotional baggage. Fresh off Lili's recent move to a new apartment in Colorado, we discuss how the process of letting go creates space for new energy, clarity, and intentional living. 

We share personal stories about decluttering our homes, setting boundaries with technology and news consumption, and learning to discern what truly serves them. Whether it's Marie Kondo-ing your closet or taking a digital detox, this episode is a gentle reminder that clearing clutter, in all its forms, is an act of self-care and spiritual hygiene.

[01:34] How clutter shows up everywhere: physical space, mental space, and emotional baggage
[03:25] Why we accumulate so much junk, and why it's hard to let go
[06:18] Shannon donates furniture to help furnish an apartment for an unhoused trans woman in San Francisco
[09:05] Digital clutter: social media, news, emails, and information overload
[12:38] Lili's morning routine: dedicating the first hour to herself without checking her phone
[15:15] How TikTok's algorithm can trigger unexpected emotional reactions
[18:19] Setting boundaries around news consumption and reactive behaviors
[21:00] Lili's role as a healer: becoming a positive source of energy in a chaotic world
[23:28] Practical tips: reading, playing music, hobbies, walks, and time with friends instead of doom scrolling
[26:02] Starting small with physical decluttering: closets, kitchens, and the Marie Kondo method
[27:32] Shannon's first date inspiration: seeing an immaculate space sparked her decluttering journey

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Episode 50: Decluttering your Life (Inside and Out)

In this episode, you’ll discover what it’s like to try therapy, EMDR, somatic practices, and the Akashic Records—plus practical ways to begin your own healing journey.

External Highlights

 * [00:04] Updates from the hosts: new healing explorations and life changes
 * [00:32] The value of talk therapy and learning your own processing style
 * 01:13] Prioritizing physical health: bloodwork, working with a dietitian, and strength training
 * 02:31] How simply “showing up” can break through mental blocks
 * [03:24] EMDR: how it helps rewire old patterns and connect trauma to the body
 * [05:41] Letting go of responsibility for others’ emotions and healing from people-pleasing
 * [09:05] The challenge—and importance—of learning to stay present in your body
 * [10:24] Why even healers need healing: ongoing therapy and somatic practices
 * [11:19] The Akashic Records as a deeper layer of spiritual and emotional healing
 * [22:16] How processing and speaking about shame and anxiety leads to real transformation

You’re Not Alone — And You’re Invited

You’re not expected to have all the answers. Trying new healing modalities is about curiosity and self-care, not perfection. Trust that the right tools will appear when you’re ready. Stay open, stay curious, and know support is available.

Share your experience! We invite you to connect and share your own healing journey. Your story could help someone else feel less alone.

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Episode 49: Healing Modalities That Actually Work: Actionable Insights from Our Healing Journeys

In this heartfelt and paranormal-tinged episode, we reflect on a season of endings and beginnings. From road trips through deserts and mountain towns to ghostly encounters at the Stanley Hotel, the hosts weave stories of spiritual growth, healing, and transformation. 

Lili shares the emotional closure of moving her life fully from California to Colorado, while Shannon opens up about starting therapy and EMDR as she enters a new chapter at 35. Together, they explore how ghosts—both literal and metaphorical—can shape our lives, and how moving forward often requires releasing the energy of the past.

 * [00:04] Updates from Lili and Shannon: road trips, moves, and growth
 * [01:28] Lili’s official move from San Francisco to Colorado and the symbolism of closing a cycle
 * [03:24] How the body processes change: stomachaches, purging, and emotional release
 * [05:47] Clearing storage, letting go of old belongings, and embracing a clean break
 * [07:50] The relief of not being “spliced” between two places and creating space for new beginnings
 * [09:34] Road trip adventures: driving through deserts, Utah, and scenic mountain passes
 * [10:08] Vail as a pit stop: ski town vibes, casual culture, and the shock of $45 parking
 * [11:43] Exploring Estes Park: gondola rides, summer festivals, and family-friendly charm
 * [13:26] Visiting the Stanley Hotel—history, hauntings, and ghostly impressions
 * [15:30] The busy energy of vintage spaces and what Shannon felt at the Stanley
 * [17:10] Children’s spirits, chaotic energy, and the experience of sensing without seeking
 * [20:34] Shifting from ghosts to growth: reflections on new spaces and new energy
 * [23:18] Shannon’s healing journey: talk therapy, EMDR, and uncovering core beliefs
 * [26:53] Transformation as a theme for the year: consistency, creativity, and tattoos
 * [29:12] Shedding old narratives and embracing the divine essence of the self
 * [31:01] The importance of present action in shaping the future
 * [32:10] Embracing their “Healing Girl Era” and inviting listener stories

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Episode 48: Ghosts, Growth, and New Chapters

In this deeply personal episode, Lili and Shannon explore the pervasive nature of scarcity mindset and its roots in family history, major life transitions, and societal conditioning. Recording from different geographic locations, the hosts share intimate insights about breaking free from survival mode and learning to receive abundance in all its forms.

Episode Highlights

 * [00:00:04] - Welcome back with renewed energy; hosts now recording from different locations
 * [00:00:49] - Introduction to the topic of scarcity and its prevalence in modern life
 * [00:01:11] - Lili shares her family's immigration story from Japan to Brazil during WWII
 * [00:04:09] - How major life transitions like moves trigger deep-seated scarcity beliefs
 * [00:05:20] - Shannon's costly wedding season: $2,000 for a Vegas bachelorette weekend
 * [00:07:52] - Catching limiting beliefs even when resources are available • [00:09:54] - The survival reality of expensive cities like San Francisco and LA
 * [00:11:57] - Guilt and shame around surpassing family's financial struggles
 * [00:14:24] - Single life challenges vs. dual-income couple dynamics
 * [00:17:13] - Breaking the "give, give, give" pattern and learning to receive
 * [00:20:06] - Examining childhood money stories and parental attitudes
 * [00:22:30] - The comparison trap of social media and curated lives
 * [00:24:01] - Shifting focus from lack to abundance through conscious attention
 * [00:26:05] - Self-reflection tools for examining limiting beliefs
 * [00:28:25] - Moving from shame to acceptance, lack to gratitude

The conversation serves as both a personal sharing and a roadmap for anyone ready to examine their own relationship with scarcity and take steps toward a more abundant life. Through vulnerability and practical wisdom, Lili and Shannon demonstrate that breaking generational patterns is possible, even when it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar.

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Episode 47: From Scarcity to Abundance - Breaking Generational Patterns

After nearly a year of silence, Psychic Girls Next Door has made its return with Season 3. In this deeply personal premiere episode, hosts Lili and Shannon reveal why they stepped away from the microphone and the profound transformations they've undergone since their last recording in March/April of last year.

"We both needed a break, a time just to take care of ourselves and do some self-reflection and just focus on our personal lives too," Lili explains as the episode begins. What follows is an authentic exploration of crisis, healing, and renewal that offers valuable insights for anyone navigating major life transitions.

Episode Highlights

• [00:03] - Return after nearly a year-long break since last recording in March/April

• [02:21] - Lili shares about moving three times last year due to unsafe living environments

• [04:49] - Discussion about clinical diagnoses of anxiety, PTSD, and depression during this challenging period

• [05:57] - Lili's major life transition from California to Colorado after decades in one state

• [14:55] - The importance of asking for help and being vulnerable during difficult times

• [20:03] - Shannon opens up about job transitions and financial patterns over the past year

• [21:19] - How celebrating friends' milestones as a single person impacts financial resources

• [29:03] - Looking forward to Season 3 with new energy and reconnecting with their community

The return of Psychic Girls Next Door marks not just a continuation but an evolution —hosts who have weathered significant storms and emerged with deeper wisdom to share. Follow their journey and stay tuned for upcoming episodes as Lili and Shannon bring their transformed perspectives to Season 3.

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Episode 46: From Survival to Thriving After a Year-Long Hiatus

In this episode, we delve into the Third Chakra. We share our journeys with the Manipura Chakra, how to deal with third Chakra imbalance, and how we can balance the third Chakra. The third Chakra plays a vital role in our sense of self. It's related to personal power and willpower. It is also closely associated with the color yellow and the element of fire, akin to that inner fire that we all have to tap into.

Lili grew up in a Latino country, and being of Asian descent, people always reminded her of it, and she struggled with finding her identity. Back home, Lili was not allowed to express herself, and whenever she did, she’d get punished for it. The third Chakra has been a journey for Lili, and thankfully, she has made commendable progress.

Shannon grew up in a culturally diverse background, and at some point, she felt like she had to take up the role of a parent in certain family dynamics. She had to be an overachiever for her to get noticed since she wasn’t as vocal as her sister. As an adult, Shannon has received readings that challenge her to work towards connecting her third and fourth Chakras.

Listen to learn more about Shannon and Lili’s journeys with the third Chakra.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[00:17] What’s the third Chakra?

[02:51] Lili’s journey with the third Chakra

[04:59] Shannon’s journey with the third Chakra

[11:38] Third Chakra and self-control

[13:34] Imbalance of the third Chakra

[18:01] The power of being assertive

[23:04] Balancing the third Chakra

Magical Quotes:

“Whenever you invalidate yourself or your body, then it creates this, like, spiral.”

“The body memorizes everything that has happened to you. And the way that it shows up later in life is not a memory but a reaction.”

“The more you know yourself, the better quality of life you're going to have.”

We would love to know, was there any situation in your life where you feel like you gave your power away or lacked identity? How does the 3rd Chakra play in your life? We would love to know and hear them. Share with us any comments, stories on any of our social media platforms.

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Resources:
First Chakra [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991333/14541181-episode-41-chakra-series-first-chakra-and-navigating-survival-and-anxiety.mp3?download=true]
Second Chakra [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991333/14883492-episode-44-chakra-series-second-chakra-understanding-emotions-and-embracing-vulnerability.mp3?download=true]
Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van Der Kolk [https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score]
School for Meditation and Healing  [https://psychichorizons.com]

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Episode 45: Chakra Series: Third Chakra: Claiming Your Personal Power 

The second chakra is located in your abdomen, just below your belly button. In this episode, Lili and Shannon delve into the profound and transformative realm of the second chakra, also known as the sacral chakra. They share personal experiences, insightful discussions, and practical techniques for navigating triggers, understanding emotions, and embracing vulnerability.

Lili and Shannon open up about their own journeys in overcoming shame, societal programming, and finding balance in the realms of sensuality, creativity, and emotional well-being. They touch upon the impact of societal norms, childhood conditioning, and individual experiences that shape our relationship with nudity and vulnerability. Shannon shares her personal story of nudity and the insights it provided her about herself.

Additionally, they explore how energy and emotions manifest in the body, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness, meditation, and self-compassion in navigating challenging emotions and triggers.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[00:58] Importance of the sacral chakra in emotional manifestation.

[05:05] Recognizing and managing others' emotions unconsciously.

[07:06] Repressing emotions due to family conditioning and judgment.

[11:23] Recognizing emotions and relating to others.

[20:49] Fear of toxic, unfulfilling relationships, and absent parental influence.

[25:46] Second chakra, emotions, and sensuality.

[28:24] Shannon’s experience at Harbin Hot Springs.

[33:53] Lili’s experience at Harbin.

Quotes:
“If your second chakra is fully open, you're going to feel the emotions and the energy of everyone.”
 “The more you get to know yourself, the better you're able to identify it, and then decide how you want to respond to it.”

Note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only.

Resources:
School for Meditation and Healing [https://psychichorizons.com]
Harbin Hot Springs  [https://harbin.org/]

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Episode 44: Chakra Series: Second Chakra: Understanding Emotions and Embracing Vulnerability 

Have you ever had an auragraph or oracle reading?
What was your experience like?

Today we are thrilled to present our latest episode on Auragraphs and Oracle Readings where we delve into the vibrant world of color, energy, and spiritual guidance. In this episode, we explore the significance and validation of psychic readings, the impact of colors on emotions and energy levels, and the unique experiences of an auragraph reading with healer Linda Mallari.

We discuss the use of tarot and oracle cards in our divination and healing processes, our personal approaches to readings and wardrobe color choices, and the unexpected influence of the color pink in one of our lives. We also share our insights and experiences with mediumship abilities, our desires for change, and the importance of trust and inner work in our journeys.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[01:37] Lili’s oracle reading

[03:09] Shannon’s experience with Linda’s auragraph reading

[04:24] What’s an aura?

[06:18] How is an auragraph done?

[11:40] Shannon’s experience with oracle reading

[20:00] Lili’s oracle reading: The beautiful  butterfly in a cage card

[26:53] The  difference between oracle and tarot cards

[31:50] Noticing color patterns in psychic readings.

[36:27] Connecting with colors for mood and self-awareness.

Remember to share the episode with friends, engage with us on social media, and connect with us if you're in the wellness and spirituality community.

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Resources:
Auragraph/Oracle Reading: Linda Mallari [https://www.instagram.com/soulstarevolution/]
Tarot Reading: Imani Rae  [https://raeoncollective.com]

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Episode 43: Shades of Spirit: Auragraph, Oracle Reading and the Colorful Spectrum of Energy

How many healing modalities have you experienced?

In this episode, we delved into the transformative power of various healing modalities and the importance of self-care and exploration in our ongoing healing process.

Lili shares her experiences with multiple tarot card readings with Ayla, emphasizing the sacredness of their energy space and the importance of selecting trusted practitioners to tap into their energy. She also delves into the benefits of breathwork and palm reading, highlighting how these practices unlocked new avenues for their well-being.

Shannon recounts a profound tarot reading that accurately predicted her work situation and future executive team, showcasing the potential insights gained from psychic healing. She also touches on the importance of brain health and incorporating vitamins and nootropics to support cognitive well-being. During her Ayurvedic healing, Shannon had an opportunity to meet with her inner child and integrated with her. She shares her experience.

Listen and learn from our experiences.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[03:48] Lili’s experience with Ayurvedic healing

[06:35] Shannon’s experience with Ayurvedic healing; her inner child integration

[12:52] Lili’s tarot cards with Ayla

[20:53] Shannon’s experience with tarot cards

[25:37] What does breathwork feel like?

[29:12] Lili’s experience with palm reading

[33:51] The essence of preventive self-care

Magical Quote from the Episode:

 “Breathwork really helps just to stay present in the body. It's a safe vessel.”

Note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only.

Resources:
Mystic Flora Apothecary [https://www.mysticflora.com]
Bree Melanson [https://www.breemelanson.com]
School for Meditation and Healing  [https://psychichorizons.com]

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Episode 42: Exploring Healing: From Tarot to Ayurveda, Breathwork, and Palm Reading: A Journey of Self-Care and Transformation

Psychic Girls Next Door is a podcast for modern mystics, everyday intuitives, and spiritual seekers to connect, share, and grow.

