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Episode 41: Chakra Series: First Chakra and Navigating Survival and Anxiety
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In this episode, we delve deep into our personal experiences with the chakra system and how it has influenced our lives. We share how tuning into our bodies through meditation has brought about positive changes and increased self-awareness.
Today’s conversation revolves around the first chakra and its connection to survival, fear, and anxiety. Shannon shares personal experiences with managing scarcity mindset, anxiety, and panic attacks, highlighting the importance of trust and self-awareness in overcoming these challenges. Lili also opens up about feeling anxious and the opportunity it provides for reconnecting and grounding oneself.
We also discuss the significance of being grounded, connecting with nature, and balancing the first chakra for stability and security. If you've ever wondered about the chakra system and how it can impact your life, this episode is a must-listen!
Key Talking Points of the Episode:
[06:00] Chakras and colors can signify different meanings
[09:31] Self-awareness empowers action and influences physical health
[11:12] Achieving balance leads to mental and physical relaxation
[16:05] Recognize limiting beliefs, overcome challenges, embrace self-ownership
[17:34] Generational trauma impacting views on abundance and deserving
[21:47] When helping feels like a chore
[24:44] Childhood trauma leads to learned survival behaviors
[27:30] Realization of self through understanding and acceptance
[31:03] Paths of having a secure workplace
Magical Quotes from the Episode:
"When you pay attention to tuning in with your body, then you kind of go up the layers, and you go up to the other, then you start paying attention to, like, the higher chakras, and then I think that's why my awareness has expanded.”
“The more you know yourself, the more empowered you become.”
“You have the power to get the resources you need to get yourself in a place of feeling secure and stable and in your body and grounded. And I think that trust is a muscle.”
Note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only
Resources:
School for Meditation and Healing
Dr. Nicole LePera: The Holistic Psychologist
Recommended
Transcript
Introduction and Episode Focus
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Welcome to Psychic Girls Next Door.
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We are your hosts, Lily Hipparino and Shannon Miller.
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This podcast is for all spirituality enthusiasts and psychics next door to share tools, experiences and spiritual practices that align with your highest vibrational self.
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So in this episode, we will talk about the first chakra.
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what could that be where it's located what it represents and what it could be associated with in your life from a like a real life practical standpoint and i know that this like chakra has the word has been like thrown out like in so many different ways and how people like
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work with it.
Psychic Perspective on Chakras
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So we just kind of want to give, you know, our perspective on it and how does this influence your life?
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So basically chakra is the Sanskrit word for spinning wheel.
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And the way that I see chakras, so as psychics,
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People will ask, well, do you see the chakras?
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And I'll say, yes.
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Yeah.
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I do see chakras.
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So the first chakra, it's located right at the base of the spine, right?
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And we have more than one chakra.
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We have several of them and some of them like a combination of chakras.
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But for today, we're just going to be talking about the first chakra.
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Yeah.
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So...
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Just starting off with the chakra itself.
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How does it look like for us when we are looking at it?
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So for me, it looks like a kind of like a mini vortex, but just like facing forward.
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Yeah, kind of.
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That's what it looks to me.
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Yeah.
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When I do readings for people and I look them like I look at their chakras, I'm and I'm like, I'm going to open up her first chakra or your fourth chakra, whatever is popping up.
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Like I'll see like a few of them light up in their space.
Root Chakra Basics
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And it's like, you know, sometimes it's physically light up.
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Sometimes it's.
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Some spirit guide calling me to like look at their chakra or like I'll just like see a picture floating above it and be like, oh, I got to look at that and like let's or a word is popping up depending on like what they ask.
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And so what for the first chakra specifically like when.
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Usually it's related to like survival information, wealth, health, like abundance, like a lot of scarcity pictures might pop up.
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And I'm like hearing a very loud ringing in my right ear right now.
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Love that for me.
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But the first chakra, it's known as like the root chakra.
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And when you are going through like a grounding practice of like, you know, connecting to the center of the planet and, you know, really feeling grounded in your body.
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Sometimes you'll connect your grounding cord.
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Sometimes it's a beautiful tree trunk.
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Sometimes mine is like a straight up like elevator cable, like that'll hook into the center of the planet and
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But I'll have to connect that to my first chakra so that I am physically and, you know, soul level rooted into and connected to my grounding cord from that first chakra.
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And so if you are in a meditation practice or want to start, that is a good first step of like,
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coming into your body, connecting, like recognizing where your first chakra is, like paying attention to it, thinking about where is it in my body?
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And then you can connect your, like imagine a grounding cord going to like connecting to the planet, whatever that means for you.
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But with the first chakra,
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It's like a foundational center, energy center in the human body, according to many Eastern spiritual and esoteric traditions, including Hinduism and yoga philosophies.
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It's also like, as we said, it's located at the base of the spine.
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So like near your tailbone.
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And then it's basically associated with that survival aspect.
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So when I was going through our meditation program that we went through,
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A lot of the pictures of like limiting beliefs around money or like lack of resources, those were the pictures that kept coming up in my first chakra when I would do my own meditations or get readings from like fellow students.
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But when you were going through the program, like what came up for you or what typically comes up for you when you look at your first chakra?
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I think it's the same.
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It's all about survival when looking at the first chakra.
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And again, like the chakras, when you look at it, they can be, they open, right?
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So they can open and they can close.
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So the way that I look at it, the more open it is, it means that you're like...
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Especially with the first chakra, if it's wide open, it means like you're basically on survival mode.
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You're like collecting information.
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You're like pretty desperate, you know, whether it be financially, you maybe have a physical illness because the first chakra, it's related a lot to the physical
Survival Mode and Financial Scarcity
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body.
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Mm-hmm.
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in this planet so it's like how do you survive like finances uh housing all of that environment like like the stability right like your stability here your structure here in this physical world so if that is imbalanced that's how i would say it yeah then you know you look at i also look at it like the openness or
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you know, the closeness of the chakra so that I get information about it, too.
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If it's like really close to you, that means that either the person is
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Probably avoiding or feeling isolated in a way means that they kind of feel like they don't belong somewhere.
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So there's a lot of information that can come when you're looking at chakras and also with colors.
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I see colors also in chakras too.
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So in colors, again, there's no like...
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kind of set in stone like definition for colors when it comes to chakras they all have their own definition depending on who you are reading you're facilitating the reading so i might see maybe red maybe that might mean that the person's like really there's a lot of anger around their situation or maybe not there might be a lot of passion for some people
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So it's a very unique, every person has like a unique, you know, quality, I want to say, when it comes to their energy around the first chakra.
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Vitality in general.
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Yeah.
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Or lack of energy or things like that.
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But for me, when I also was, I started the psychic training, I was basically functioning out of my first chakra.
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Yeah.
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Because I was all about the survival.
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Because I was basically in this scarcity energy.
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Where, you know, I don't have enough money.
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I have, it's challenging to pay my bills.
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I don't make enough money.
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And it seems like all this beliefs and the narrative around that happens.
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Right.
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That energy.
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And then when you think that, then that will be your reality.
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Yes.
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You're, you're creating, you're matching that.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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You're like, oh, I don't have money.
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So therefore you won't have enough money.
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Yeah.
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Well, the universe is like, oh, okay.
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I'm going to then reinforce that.
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Right.
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Right.
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If that's your belief, then you won't have enough money.
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Then, you know, we're going to make sure that everything matches that.
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So I was also in a basic like survival mode and it's just becoming more aware of,
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of that energy in the in the root chakra or the first chakra too that was very imbalanced and i just i think just bringing awareness yeah and i think when you aren't paying attention to or if you if you are new to this like whole concept of the chakra system and just like tuning in with yourself um
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I just I kind of forget what I was like before I started meditating.
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Like, I know what I was like.
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I was like very different.
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I feel very different in a good way now that I like I feel like my eyes are open, like I can see a lot more.
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I know a lot more.
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I feel more confident.
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I feel more confident.
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present and like I feel like a little bit more in control I mean control is all a made-up concept in my mind but like I do feel like I have a lot more self-autonomy that I am connected to myself more right like when you pay attention to
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tuning in with your body and then you kind of go up the layers and you go up to the other then you start paying attention to like the higher chakras and then I think that's where my awareness has expanded yes absolutely I mean it's been a beautiful transformation experience yeah me like looking from outside I also think that uh
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When you become aware of your own energy and you know yourself better, then, I mean, you can create anything.
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Right, well, more can, you know, it only gets better from there.
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Yeah, you become more empowered to take actions, to create different things, to try different things and explore different things.
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So the more, I always tell people, the more you know yourself, the more empowered you become.
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Mm-hmm.
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So if you become more aware of what is happening in your first chakra, and again, also the first chakra, it's not only the energetic that we're talking about, but it also influences your physical
Generational Patterns and Abundance
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body.
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Yeah.
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So the first chakra, it's also related to...
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I want to say the areas of like your digestive, like the lower digestive, your legs, the hips, the legs, like how you also walk your path.
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Yeah.
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And I think it's kind of like it's all related in that area.
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And for a lot of people, it's very connected because it's survival.
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So there's a lot of fear, energy.
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Yeah.
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It's also connected to the adrenal glands too.
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Oh, yeah.
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True.
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Yeah, because you're always like, oh my God, fear that anxiety.
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So yeah, so you fire up all those hormones.
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So your nervous system is all like dysregulated.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And it's hard to function like that.
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Yeah.
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And even if you think about like the Maslow's like pyramid of like hierarchical needs.
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Yeah.
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It's so interesting, like the survival is at the bottom and then same with the first chakra.
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It's like the base, the foundation, that layer that you need to have these things in order to even think about anything else or like, you know, desire anything else.
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And like the root chakra.
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So it's essentially responsible for providing a sense of security, stability, feeling of being grounded in this physical realm.
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And then when it's balanced and open, it like gives you the sense of like being able to free flow and like get almost gives your body permission to relax in this realm that we're all in.
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That's personally how I feel when I feel like.
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when I don't have to think about my resources or the lack of, or, you know, trying to get more, my attention is able to go, it's freed up and it's able to go somewhere else.
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And like I said, like kind of moves up the layers of the chakra system.
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And not that that has to be your personal goal.
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But for me, when I first started out, I was also thinking of the same thing.
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Like, I don't,
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You know, I don't have enough money.
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I don't make enough money.
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I need to make more money.
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And it was constantly like, oh, I'm always striving to make more money.
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And like, almost like it's never enough.
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And even like after the program, I feel like
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Something shifted pretty recently within the past year.
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I was constantly striving for higher compensation roles, jumping from role to role to role so that I could get more and more and more.
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But even with that mindset, I did make a lot of money at that.
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You know, I still I make a very I'm very grateful for the amount of money that I make now.
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But there's been bouts of not having a job for a few months between those jobs or like, you know, I got laid off like two years in a row.
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And like when I'm like, OK, well, I've done all this work on myself.
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Like, why am I still working?
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catching myself in moments of like lack is because I had that scarcity mindset.
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It was like that scarcity undertone that was like playing.
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It's like a tune playing in the other room.
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And it's like setting that frequency and that chakra of like, you know, it's the past time information, fear of scarcity, fear of, of like, not fear of lack.
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Yeah.
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And then you bring that back in.
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Right.
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And then it comes back in, you're like, it validates that concern.
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The body keeps the score.
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So the body's like, oh, oh my gosh, not again.
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Right, right.
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Like, oh, I know this is familiar.
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Like, I know like this, this can happen again.
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But I think once you clean that out and I think something shifted dramatically this past year for me of like, I think I put a lot of trust in the universe when I was in between jobs this past fall.
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And I can think that validated like, you know, it's going to be okay.
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Like you have the power to get the resources you need to get yourself in a place of feeling secure and stable and in your body and grounded.
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And I think that
Self-awareness and Personal Transformation
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trust is important.
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a muscle in itself, right?
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Oh, absolutely.
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It's like working out.
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Yeah.
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You have to, you know, work out that muscle.
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And there's also this feeling of safety or feeling unsafe, right?
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when your root chakra it's out of balance i remember that when i also was in the space of lack and scarcity i man i was like anxiety person oh yeah i was always super anxious and my but for me my anxiety was so chronic and i've been anxious pretty much my gosh this my whole life until until now right
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And it's still there.
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I'm not going to lie.
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I do go through like, you know, this phases of anxiety.
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But I think nowadays I'm way better at managing my anxiety levels.
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But mine was so bad that I escalated to panic attack.
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Yeah.
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And that's awful.
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Like, I don't wish that to anyone.
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It was such a horrible place to be.
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And I felt so out of control.
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Right.
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And I felt unsafe.
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Right.
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Fear.
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Fear in your own body.
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Yeah.
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And it was awful.
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But and then people ask, well, how did you get over?
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I don't think you get over.
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Just learn how again, just like to manage.
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Yeah, it's almost like integrate.
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Yeah, process.
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You have to process all of that.
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And for me, it was, you know, through meditation and just going through the meditation psychic training that we've gone through.
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But it was just that first step of acknowledging.
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that this is a habit or pattern.
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Yeah, this is something that I need to really, and we spoke, just talked about this episode on accountability.
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Yeah.
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It was just making myself, holding myself accountable.
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Okay, this is the issue.
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I need to make a change.
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Right.
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Right.
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And it's okay.
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Like if you don't know how or what you need to do next, but I think being able to like take ownership that I have these limiting beliefs and like also recognizing like what even is a limiting belief.
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And like, for me, the limiting belief was like, like feeling like I didn't have enough.
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And like, I, you know, I didn't grow up with a
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with a wealthy family.
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I grew up with parents who made ends meet and that was, you know, paycheck to paycheck living.
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And I think, you know, they did the best they can.
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And even now they're, they're in a better financial space, which is awesome to see.
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And like, you know, maybe it's because we've left the nest and they don't have to pay for us money.
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And, you know, like the,
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you know situations happen that bring in abundance but i also think like since i've done the training um i've i've been able to call out the scarcity familial patterns in my you know specifically in my um masculine like the what what am i like my father's lineage the paternal that's what i'm thinking paternal
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The paternal lineage and realizing like that it doesn't just come from my dad.
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It comes from his dad.
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And like, you know, generational pattern.
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It gets passed on.
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Yeah.
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And then it's up to us to become aware of those traumas or patterns and just release it.
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Right.
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And it's not even like blaming your ancestors for like thinking this way.
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But it's like, if you think about the Great Depression, like, like there weren't enough resources for most folks in the U.S. during like the 1930s.
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And I think a lot of that generational trauma, a lot of people are processing that now who are doing the work to like heal and like rewire your thinking and your patterns and your
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your mental patterns and your narratives about, you know, what is abundance like, you know, or even feeling deserving of having more than just enough.
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I think that is the shift that we are all feeling like, you know, yes, we live in the Bay Area.
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Yes, there's the tech boom.
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Yes, there's Gen Z's mindset.
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But like, you know, now Gen Alpha is like coming up and like all these different ways of like questioning, you know,
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our own beliefs about how things need to be done and how things need to, you know, be thought about.
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I think that's like such a great proactive approach that we're going to see.
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I think that's the trends I'm predicting.
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You know, we are a little psychic here.
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So, yes, I would say so.
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Yeah.
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Not to want to like toot our own horn, but beep beep.
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Beep beep.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, well, I see that it's been, we've shifted a lot of this old mentality and paradigm that's been like running pretty much through our whole history is that there's only this limited amount of resources and it's only limited to this group of people.
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And people like us,
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that we're becoming more and more aware of this is not true.
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Right.
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Like that's all made up too.
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Like they made that up.
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Yeah.
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I don't know who gave them that information, but.
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And it's like, no, yeah, this is not right.
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So we are going to really question all of this.
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I also, I come from like a family that was being through World War II and literally had to escape from,
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war and immigrate as refugees to another country for me to be here today.
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So my whole history is based on trauma.
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Yeah.
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Oh, yeah.
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Trauma and all these emotional wounds.
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And in my family, we never talked about any of this.
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Interesting.
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And usually, and we don't talk about it.
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Right.
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Because it's not something that it's openly discussed.
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And I don't even think that my, even if I would talk like to my mom, that she has the emotional capacity to express herself regarding this or recognize that this is an issue.
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Right.
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Right.
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So for me, it was like a big shift just to like become aware of all this pattern.
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And what was the limiting narratives and beliefs that I had around it being,
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fulfilling my needs in this physical plane and that I was worthy of fulfilling those needs as well and that my needs were valid.
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Yeah.
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And like you, it's possible to fulfill your own needs.
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Yeah.
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And get the resources you need.
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Absolutely.
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And then my needs mattered.
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And not all the other people's.
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Right.
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That I could still be empathetic to other people's needs, but I also needed to tend to my own basic needs.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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Whether it was housing or was financial and all those different levels, but also...
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It was, it took me, it was a big shift when I really like decided to like just stand up for myself.
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Yeah.
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Like, you know what, I'm going to take responsibility for this.
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I love that.
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And I want to shift this because I am tired.
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Yeah.
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You just like get so tired of being in survival mode.
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And it's interesting if you look at the world right now, the world runs a lot in survival energy.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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If you look at it and it's if you I mean, if you probably feel it or, you know, you look at your daily life, it's my gosh, like it's exhausting.
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Yeah.
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Especially in like a capitalist society that we're in, like in the US, like we're, you know, helping people.
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can feel like a chore.
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I personally am an acts of service person.
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Like that's
From Independence to Interdependence
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one of my love languages.
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I am in a role where my whole point of my role is to serve the executives I support.
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So when I think about like the concept of helping other people and serving other people,
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I do have to check in with myself and be like, am I in a space energetically where I can do that?
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And like some days are better than others.
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Like where I'm like, I literally like today, like my executive had eaten in a conference room and I was like, oh, can I take your plate?
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Easy, put it in the kitchen.
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And I like, she's like, oh,
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yes but I feel weird about you doing that I'm like no no like please don't like you know like it's like you know even people who have tons of resources might not feel comfortable with like having people like help others and like serve them but like bringing it back to like that survival pattern I think when you have become so
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Like for me, I'm very hyper independent and like I'm realizing like, oh, that's impacting my heart space and like my emotional space.
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Well, yeah, it affects everything in your life.
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Yeah.
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Think about it.
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Yeah.
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And like I would pride myself and become, you know, like a badge of honor.
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Like, oh, I'm hyper.
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I'm super independent.
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Like I don't need to rely on other people, but like then that like leaves like a lack in other chakras that I'm starting to recognize.
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Yeah.
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Well, if one chakra is imbalanced, it will affect all other chakras.
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So another thing that it's also connected to the first chakra or the root chakra is the sense of stability and foundation.
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And I know that for a lot of people, this is something that maybe they didn't grow up with or they come from households.
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Like a chaotic home environment.
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It was very unstable.
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And therefore, then when they go out in the world, that's all they know.
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So they're comfortable with it.
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So they keep attracting that type of chaotic environment.
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Attracting them more and more.
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So whatever it's outside of that, it's not unfamiliar.
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Right, right.
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Or like stability isn't fun.
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Or it's boring.
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It's boring.
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Like I'm missing like something.
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I totally, I grew up in like an emotionally...
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stable home environment you know the finances finances as I've said in a few episodes like I wish there were had been more you know with because I'm a bougie you know I'm a bougie gal I like to do the finer things in life and don't we yeah don't we all and you know but recognizing that when you're five years old
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And then not being able to get a job at five.
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Like, I think like wanting, but wanting to so that I can like fulfill those needs, but then not knowing how I think for a long time, I was just waiting to start my life.
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But then that I'm realizing now after reading Nicola Paris, how to do the work where it talks about like the roles that the child plays in like the dynamics in the home life and like what type of parent trauma you might have experienced.
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I realized like, oh, wow.
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Like I, that's,
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do have some trauma to unpack that I also like was a learned behavior in the moment as like a way to survive.
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Yeah.
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It's your coping mechanism.
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Yes.
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Yes.
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That's the word.
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Yeah.
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Thank you.
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So like realizing like, Oh, so now that I'm an adult, like I don't need to be hyper and dependent.
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You can be interdependent with someone like that concept is very new and very uncomfortable for me.
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but I need to figure out a way of like how to integrate this new concept of interdependence.
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Cause it's not codependence.
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You know, I don't, I honestly repulsed by codependence yet.
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I let people be codependent on me.
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And so being able to like shift that, like, okay, like let's shake out that codependent attachment to those folks who want to rely on me because I am someone who like,
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can be relied on and likes to provide acts of service.
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But then I realized, oh, that might have been a coping mechanism as well.
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But then you're also allowing for people to depend on you for their own survival.
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Right, right.
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And therefore...
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you become depleted.
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Right.
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Think about it.
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Exactly.
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Like your own space and energy, it becomes someone else's.
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And then it takes away from your ability to fill up your own cup and you can't, you know, serve others from an empty cup at all.
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So I think it's been like really enlightening.
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Definitely like read her book.
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You recommended it to me.
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I know you've read it.
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Yeah.
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Oh, I read it and I actually, I gifted your sister.
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Yeah.
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I'm reading that book.
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Oh, you are?
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So you got passed on?
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That's amazing.
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I love it.
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Yeah.
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Well, I'll leave the, you know, information in the show notes.
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I enjoy her work and everything that she posts on mine too.
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I think it really resonates.
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It's all connected.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And then it, it almost like after reading it, I was like, Oh,
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That's why I operate like that.
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That's why I think that way about myself.
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And it kind of makes you, it helped me release a lot of that, like that I'm holding on to that.
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I was like searching for just like a term just to identify with it.
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Just label it or give it a name.
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Exactly.
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And then as soon as I had that.
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realization or that recognition, that soul recognition moment, I released, like, that charge of, like, feeling, like, for years, like, almost like that victim energy of that situation.
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And I feel like that's shifted a lot out of my space.
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Yeah, but it all...
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You know, starts with awareness.
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Exactly.
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Or mindfulness.
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Yeah.
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You know, for people that are new to this, just starts just like recognizing the pattern or the narrative or whatever.
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Or another question I ask people too.
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What do you complain the most about?
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Oh, that's a good question.
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That's where you start pointing out the patterns and behaviors in your life.
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What do you complain the most about?
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Man, every day it changes.
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Like every day there's something that I complain about.
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And then I was like, why am I complaining about this?
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And then I become judgmental.
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Lately, it has been a lot about being anxious.
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So it comes down to this survival.
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So there's a little bit of the survival energy around it.
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I mean, in my case, it has a lot to do with housing.
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Oh, yeah.
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Yeah.
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So your home environment is so critical.
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Yeah.
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It's any environment.
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Yeah.
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Homework.
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Homework.
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Yeah.
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Because it becomes your that grounded space for you.
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And so that's what's been coming.
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I mean, I'm not going to go into a lot of details on it, but you don't need to spill the tea.
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It's OK.
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Yeah.
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Well, we'll do it behind the scenes.
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Yeah.
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Maybe I'll talk about it in future episodes.
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In a few months or something.
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But because that is unstable, therefore I feel anxious.
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I'm not going to say I am anxious because it's not what I am.
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I feel the anxiety.
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I actually feel it like you feel it like right in the lower, you know, abdomen.
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You know, that's exactly where the first chakra is.
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So this is a great example, actually.
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And then I complain about it saying, oh, I feel anxious.
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Why do I feel anxious?
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And I just I go on and on about it.
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Yeah.
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But for me, it's a great opportunity just to sit down and just reconnect with myself and ground myself.
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Yeah.
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I can match a match on the anxiety from past work environments specifically.
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Like I am so used to chaotic, turbulent, like, you know, everything's on fire.
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We got to get it done.
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We got to get it done yesterday.
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Like that kind of like chaotic buzz of a startup where like this new startup I work in polar opposite.
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People roll in at a really normal time.
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They roll out.
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So it's not chaotic.
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It's not chaotic.
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They have families.
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They integrate their life and, you know, they integrate work into their life.
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And it all stems from the top, right?
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Like my CEO is very grounded.
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He's a Virgo.
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We haven't talked about it, but he's like, I don't know him that well.
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He doesn't know me like that.
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But we do have an astrology section on our TV streaming app.
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And I love working there.
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Like I've never felt more safe than,
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in a work environment.
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And like, I've always felt like safe, like representing who I am and my personal interests.
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Like, you know, I'm, I've never felt like I get swept up in the herd.
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I feel like if anything, like I'm, you know, represent my uniqueness in the workplace.
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And I always have even in a chaotic environment, but I've always like,
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dealt with it but the coping mechanism was like oh as long as i'm the eye of the storm and not in the swirl of the hurricane but there was always a hurricane around me now it's just like easy breezy i'm just sitting on the shore of like a beach and enjoying like a cocktail like it's you know things are getting done no one is running around like a chicken with their head caught off and that's a big shift it's a huge shift
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If you look at it, it's kind of going from like 100 to zero.
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Yes.
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It's going the opposite way.
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It's going the opposite way.
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And I'm like, I think this is the secret of work.
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Like, I think he's on to something.
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And I don't even think he realizes how...
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He does set the tone in like a very healthy way.
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Yeah, well, that's great.
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I know.
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I mean, I wish we could all like work with people like that.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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And you will notice when you meet someone and it's just like so grounded in themselves, you feel a sense of safety.
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Yeah, you do.
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Around that person.
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You feel comfortable with them because that's the energy.
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Right.
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That they're in.
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You don't feel like you have to be anyone else but yourself.
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Right.
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When you're next to someone like that.
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Totally.
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It's just so grounded.
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So probably someone that has their first chakra vision.
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Well, balanced.
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Absolutely.
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I mean, yeah, no, that makes sense.
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I mean, he does have a lot of resources because, you know, he was a founder at a very, very, very successful startup.
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So I think like, you know, when you are leading and setting the tone for an organization or a workplace in that environment.
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Like it does help to have your ducks in order survival wise and in your first chakra.
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So that makes sense.
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He's very, and he's an earth, he's an earth sign.
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Earth signs are always structured.
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They're always grounded.
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Well, because it's earth.
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It's earth.
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Earth is grounding.
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Yeah.
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But you can create also for yourself a space where you can feel grounded.
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Totally.
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For a lot of people might be walking barefooted or gardening or kind of even like put your hands like in the dirt.
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Doing something that connects with your body.
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Yeah.
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Creating this connection with the physical body could be some sort of like movement or exercise.
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However, your body feels good about it.
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I think the more connected you feel, the safer you feel in your body.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And therefore you're not firing up like all this like survival, scarcity energy in your body because once that energy starts getting spilled all over your space, then it just goes downhill from that.
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Oh yeah.
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You know, so try to create a space for yourself where you can create this grounding.
00:34:36
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Yeah, like what energetic space, it doesn't have to be, you know, anything fancy.
00:34:43
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No, and you can brainstorm if you're a journaler, if you're like a brainstormer on a whiteboard, like what does stability and security look like for you?
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Yeah, well look at nature, just go out for a walk in nature and just look how nature is so grounded.
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stillness yeah the stillness it's grounding and it's present so that's kind of a way to also bring a little bit more balance into the first chakra too but i would be curious to hear uh do you feel like your first chakra is dictating your life do you feel triggered around like especially around the lower abdominal area
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do you feel any of the symptoms that we've described here uh we would love to hear your stories and if you have any comments how do you balance your first chakra and were you in any survival situations how did you shift that energy i would love to hear
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