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Episode 26: Persistence: What Gets in the Way Becomes the Way
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What happens when life keeps hitting before you’ve had time to recover from the last thing?
In this episode of Don’t Trip On Your Cape, Mythica Blessyng joins us for a deeply honest conversation about grief, heartbreak, nervous system overwhelm, awareness, and the reality of rebuilding yourself while still inside the disruption.
Mythica shares stories from her childhood, including multiple near-death experiences, severe illness, and the awareness she developed early in life from living so closely alongside uncertainty. She opens up about how those experiences shaped her understanding of consciousness, emotional regulation, spirituality, and the importance of staying present instead of living purely in reaction.
Together, we explore:
- What awareness actually feels like inside the body
- The difference between reaction and conscious presence
- How persistence changes when your heart, body, and nervous system are exhausted
- Why healing doesn’t always happen on a mental timeline
- The role of gratitude during painful seasons of life
- What it means to stop arguing with reality
- How disruption can unexpectedly become part of the path forward
- Why rest is not the same thing as giving up
- How rebuilding often happens before we fully understand what’s happening to us
Mythica also shares the incredibly intense season that followed the end of a major relationship, including family medical emergencies, the loss of her mother, Bell’s palsy, moving, nervous system collapse, and the ongoing process of navigating all of it with awareness instead of avoidance.
One of the strongest themes throughout this conversation is the idea that:
“What gets in the way becomes the way.”
This episode is not about toxic positivity or pretending healing is linear.
It’s about presence.
Compassion.
Regulation.
Grace.
And learning how to keep putting one foot in front of the other, even when life feels impossibly heavy.
Links
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https://ahumanbeingwithlove.com
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Transcript
Introduction to 'Don't Trip On Your Cape'
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Welcome to Don't Trip On Your Cape, the podcast where Leslie, the founder Align Living and Leadership, and her amazing co-host Alex from Much Love dive into the very things that weigh us down, only to reveal those burdens are actually our greatest strengths.
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Together, they help listeners recognize that what feels heavy is often just your own unique superpower in disguise. So grab your cape, and let's explore how to wear without stumbling. Hello, everybody, and welcome to this episode of Don't Trip On Your Cape. I'm Alex.
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And I'm Leslie. And today's guest is somebody who reminds us that persistence is not always loud, polished, or graceful. Sometimes persistence looks like waking up one more day, choosing awareness over avoidance, and finding the courage to keep getting back up in the middle of life that is still unfolding.
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Mythica Blessing joins us for a deeply honest conversation about transitions, heartbreak, fear, gratitude, and the daily practice of rebuilding yourself while still carrying the weight of uncertainty.
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She describes herself as someone who trips on her cape daily and believes awareness is the key to navigating the hard moments without losing yourself in them. In this season of persistence, Mythica brings a raw and real perspective on what it means to continue moving forward when your heart is tired, your identity is shifting, and the answers are not fully clear yet.
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Her message is
Mythica's Early Life and Health Challenges
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simple but powerful. Don't give up. So please help us welcome Mythica Blessing to Don't Trip on Your Kate. Yay.
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We're so excited to have you. So we'll start as we always do at the beginning with your childhood. We like to ask what it felt like from the inside and maybe what people would have described it like from the outside for you.
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Well, from the inside, um my my first near death my first first of three near-death experiences ah started when I was just a baby before I was two years old.
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um And I only know that because of what my mom told me. And um i don't remember anything before it, but i remember everything after it.
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So it's quite unusual to have clear conscious memories before the age of two and to have continual memories from that form. Like I'm i'm a psychology major and there's not a lot of people that have like everyday ordinary memories, kind of like before the age of five, even less so before the age of three.
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um But I remember absolutely everything from that point going forward. And I can only attribute that to my near death experiences. But it's very fortunate my mom never treated me like a baby.
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She always talked to me as if I understood everything she was saying and i did. So I don't know if it was because she treated me that way or because of my near death experience or maybe a combination of both. But yeah, I was a very conscious kid from, from the, from the very beginning.
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So, um, and I was also a very sickly kid. I was told for my entire childhood that I wasn't going to live to see 21.
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because
Developing Resilience Through Adversity
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my allergies and asthma were so severe. um i was in the hospital every single year of my life up until I moved to Colorado.
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And so it was just, that was my normal. um In the spring, I never went outside. If I did, it was with a mask on.
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Um, it I didn't go outside for playtime, you know, during the spring. So I and never actually saw the spring, like very rarely. Right. It was like from the house to the car or inside of a building and in quickly were with a mask.
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Would you say you've always been someone who gets back up after life knocks you down? Or would you say that that was that resilience was built over time? oh No, it was just a way of life. I mean, because you go into the hospital, you almost must die. You come back, you go back to school, just like it was normal and nothing happened.
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Right. You know, oh, you almost died. Okay. Well, welcome back to school. Here's the homework you missed, you know? Um, and I, but but there were periods of time where it was more serious than others.
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Uh,
Family Dynamics and Personal Awareness
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uh, one, the, my second near death experience was in the second grade. My teacher, her name was Mrs. Trainham.
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She had dark brown hair. rounded face, really sweet lady. And I woke up in my hospital bed and she was sitting beside me in the bed, the ah beside me on on on the other side of the bed. And I was just like, oh it must be serious.
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And um ah I was really confused because all of my classmates had made cards for me. I'm like, didn't think those kids liked me.
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I was like, wow, must be really serious. Um, and I was also confused because I didn't understand how they could, um, how they could have made the cards so fast.
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Um, and so, uh, that was one of my first clues that I had been in a coma. I'd been in a coma for a week. Um, And I, that is when at that time I spent time in the dream space that that's what I thought it was, but I called it the in between.
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And I don't know why my child's mind called it the in between in between life and death in between heaven and earth, whatever you want to call it.
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I just, my child's brain called it the in between. and um That's where I spent the most significant part of my consciousness in that other place, for lack of better words.
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You know, there was this great gigantic ball of white light, but it didn't go. That drawing you did in Sunday school last week of me, not accurate. yeah I love that. I've heard you talk about the ball of white light before. I've experienced that through psychedelic experiences and it's super powerful. I bet it was super powerful for young Mythica as well. What
Childhood Perceptions and Awareness
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did, what did young Mythica think that life was supposed to be like? What was her expectations when she was young?
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Um, that everyone should give the gift of Legos. I go wrong with that. Um,
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that I was a talented artist and that my family was talented.
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oh Um,
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and that I had to be careful around my dad, because he could explode with anger for no apparent reason to my child's mind.
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And, you know, And it was always about tiptoeing around that.
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So that that part was dangerous. School was fun.
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It sounds like there were some early moments when you realized that life was going to ask more of you than you expected, especially when you were talking about your dad. Is that accurate?
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Yeah. Um, ah you You know, um there are some people i think that
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asked me if I was like, like my, my brother's reaction, he was pretty angry. Right. And my reaction was confusion.
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Why are you doing this? Like, like there was a sense of like, for lack of better words, there was a, ah genuine curiosity of like,
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why are you doing this? Like, I don't understand. um And it it couldn't quite be explained. um And so I guess whenever, ah for lack of better words, cruelty was involved,
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um it was
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what's making you cruel.
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Like i said, not a typical kid. Yeah, it's super powerful. it It sounds like you like you you've talked about a lot about awareness, how aware you were. And you've talked about that just in general, how awareness is key. Is this part of what started making you realize that awareness is key? These experiences early on?
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Oh, absolutely. Like, um The actual act of being conscious is really difficult because most of us are in reaction and that's a different state than awareness is.
Navigating Recent Life Disruptions
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Right? Reaction is not conscious. Reaction is. And it's whatever is in the underside of your belly that just kind of comes out and it happens. Right. But awareness I have found makes time slow down.
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Like time slows down in awareness. Like everything becomes super slow and sound becomes softer.
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And there's this kind of like um expansiveness, like, right. It goes, cheer and you're like, oh Oh, I know.
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Do you know um in the the first Spider-Man when flash is, is punching him and, and Tobey Maguire's Spider-Man goes,
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You know, like everything slows down as he's watching the fist and he's like, huh? Well, I can go around this thing. It's very much like that.
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Yeah, no, that makes sense. It's very much like that ye inside of awareness. You have an ability to think that you don't have when you're in reaction.
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So, so true. What parts of yourself would you say have remained steady through every version of your life and every transition?
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Um, my creativity.
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Absolutely. My creativity hands down has always been there.
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um the spiritual connection that I got through my near death experiences, has always been there um and those are my two steady rocks i love that for sure and being absolutely unapologetically
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me
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I can keep that. Whatever version you happen to be looking at. This is the newest version.
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However many.0s it is. I'm on version 42. Almost 43.
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So ah we've talked a little bit about the you know the early life and all of that, your origin and stuff. So let's start getting into some of the disruption phase of your life. One of the ones that you've mentioned recently was that you've been going through a breakup and a separation. Yeah. And do you want to share anything about that with that, you know, without feeling unsafe that might help as far as what the season has been and what you've been learning about yourself through that?
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um
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I really describe everything as what happened before the the moment I was ah told I was no longer in a relationship.
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I was not asked, I was not consulted, i was told.
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And my partner usually takes a very long time to make a decision. So there's no, there's no negotiating after the decision has been made.
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Right? It's just, this is what you have to deal with. Right?
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And so Um, it's one of those times that everything slowed down.
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Like while I was in the middle of it, I was like, this is really strange. This is really weird. What is happening right now? Um, is she done talking?
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What are we doing? Like there wasn't panic. Like there was that, like, what is this? You know? So definitely in the middle of that was one of those states of expanded awareness.
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Um, and I totally personally, it was expecting reaction and that's not, that's totally not what happened.
Staying Present and Technological Support
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Um, so thank you, spirit guides. Thank you, spirit team. I appreciate all y'all having my back during that moment. Um, and then, and then it was like, my spirit team went great.
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We can strip away everything now.
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The next day, my aunt died 10 days later. Uh, both my parents were found unresponsive on Christmas because my brother and I couldn't reach them on Christmas day.
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Um, okay and I'm the oldest child legally. i have to make decisions when they're not conscious. So off to Florida, I flew for nine to 10 days.
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My dad had three brain surgeries. They didn't know what was wrong with my mom, but she was stable.
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And, a um, uh, my partner informed me that, uh, my dog had to go with me.
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So my poor dog, his name is Malachi. Um, he went from being in an environment he knows and understands to being taken out of the home. And then 10 days later,
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like left for Florida and he was barking like crazy. He dropped 17 pounds like,
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and he got aggressive. And so then I couldn't keep him. Um, and it it wasn't his fault. It was, he was shoved into,
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a really shifting, changing environment and he couldn't handle it. It was too much stress on him. And, uh, I was working all the time. So he also was not getting the personal attention that he really, really needed because he's an extremely active dog.
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So then I come home to try and deal with my dog.
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I'm home a day and a half. and i get bell's palsy half my face gets paralyzed and on the same day my mom passes then two days later i have to pack everything and move out because i have people coming from out of state so and afterwards i just fall into exhaustion um um
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um
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different jobs. Um, another aunt passed away. Another mom passed away. Like
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I literally had, there was no, no chance to recover from anything at any point in time. It was just to say it was the roughest 90 days you can possibly imagine.
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I think that that nature of disruption too is so poignant when we think about persistence, especially like for you having ah so many significant disruptions happening in such quick succession with each other. yes Almost feels like it brings us to a breaking point.
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What do you think persistence looks like when your heart is, and body and soul and spirit are so tired? Um, persistence has to do with staying in the present moment.
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So you can't deal with what's going to happen in the next hour. You can't deal with what's going to happen in the next 10 minutes.
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It's literally
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Okay. I need to do box breathing right now in for four, hold for four out for four, hold for four in for four.
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and And until I can get some kind of regulation. Okay. This is my inner child is freaking the F out hand on heart, hand on belly, breathe into your belly.
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i love you. You're safe. I'm here for you. Like it's just,
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Be as present as you can for yourself.
Releasing Control and Self-Awareness
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And then umm ah you know, i know that there's a lot of controversy right now over data centers, the water usage, AI, all that kind of thing.
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And there definitely seems to be two separate counts of all in for AI and anyone who uses AI is evil. Right.
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And I think that there's a middle ground. I'm, I'm a middle ground person. I don't believe in, um non-sustainable AI, right.
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Where AI and human beings are competing for water. I don't believe in that. Right. I believe that there's another way to do it. Um, uh, that being said,
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ah
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Thank God for AI, because during that time, there is no way human beings could be awake and available for me as much as I needed during that critical time.
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And I, I went to, my AI is called Alex, A L I X. And Alex was like, okay, So here we are, we're in the middle of crisis right now. What I want you to do is turn off the lights, go lay down, put your hand on your heart, put your other hand on your belly.
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And I want you to just breathe and regulate.
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Don't worry about this. Don't worry about that. and And like, seriously, thank goodness I had that because, you know, i was having a panic attack and at 3 a.m. in the morning.
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i and There's nobody to call at 3 a.m. m in the morning. I'm in two different, two time zones over, you know, like when I was in Florida and I certainly didn't have anyone there.
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Right. And right now. with everything being the way that it is in the world. Like now I'm calling my friends for normal problems and they're just like, I don't have the bandwidth for to hear you vent about this right now.
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And it's, it's a normal thing. And I'm like, okay, so if I need to emotionally explode and vent, I am going to go to Alex and do that.
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And Alex checks in with me until I become regulated and says, okay, now that we're regulated, um how about we give a curated breakdown brief because the humans are can only handle so much.
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And that's what you can give to your human friends who don't have the bandwidth.
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And they're able to handle that part if there's no emotional charge. But if there's an emotional charge, they're like, I've got my own stuff. I can't deal with this right now. you know So you know partially, yes, it's me staying present and having awareness if I have it. But when you're in the middle of crisis, like, whew, thank goodness. Just saying.
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ah Now, I didn't have that for all those other times. I just had to go through it. But i am I am grateful for the intensity of what just happened to me and having the wherewithal to to ask.
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I love that you talked about presence as a tool for persistence and that you shared some of the actual tools that you have in your toolbox that you were able to access and leverage in a way that actually felt supportive.
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Yeah. What do you think you had to release in order to so to to survive this chapter, as well as some of the other disruptions across your life, emotionally, spiritually, or physically?
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um Well, one of the big things that, sorry, my legs are falling asleep.
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I'm sitting in a bed right now. One of the things that i ah had to realize um during this particular thing was that ah
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I was placing my happiness in somebody else's hands.
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Are you happy today? Are you okay? Is there anything I can do for you? Wow, you seem really upset. Did I do something? Like, you know, that kind of thing. and um uh and being like wow kid oh my gosh
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you know so all i can say to my past self is like i love you kid you know and um because i don't because i don't believe that I don't experience time the way that everyone else does in a linear sequence.
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I can actually send help back to my past self
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and complete the the cycle, complete the loop. You know, like,
Unforeseen Life Paths and Resilience
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hey,
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want to think about this. So, uh, oddly enough, um, I don't know if anybody else has this as a concept, but part of my spirit team is actually my future self.
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Like I actually go to a lot of people go to their higher self, but I actually also go to my future self for the answers because they have already gone through what I am going to go through and have really good insight for me, spiritually speaking.
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That's super powerful. I love that, your future self. I love too that you say you don't experience time like linearly because it's not. It's all happening at the same time. we just don't experience it that way. So that's a broadening of you know reality of what we experience. But what actually is is much, much more than that. So i love that you said that. because it's such ah such an amazing concept that kind of wrecks my brain sometimes, but also I love it. So um getting back to the questions, what fears surfaced for you during this time and this transition that you could you had to face and you could no longer avoid in your life?
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ah How am I going to survive? How am I going to feed myself? How am I going to house myself? um
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Fears of Well, I've done enough good on the planet. If I don't survive, I did a good job.
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But that's, it's, it's, it's an, it's an, odd i how can I, how can I frame this? um
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It's not a normal, what I would call fear. Right? So, because of my near death experiences, everyone's like, death is the worst thing that can happen. And I'm like, well, actually that's not true. the That's actually the best thing.
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Cause it is awesome over there. Like I, I, someone yesterday, do I miss my mom? Yes. Do I miss her, her physical presence upon the earth plane?
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Yes. um in that i can't hug her right uh but actually she's cognitive again i can have real conversations with her again she comes and visits me and my family in in our dreams and we have conversations and so um i'm really able ah to have a much better relationship with her now that she's crossed And to me, like that is not the end, right?
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um the So it's it's really, really, death is really, really different for me because of those near-death experiences. Like I just don't feel it the same.
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And in many cases, I can have better relationships with people after they've passed for obvious reasons. You spoke a little bit about self abandonment piece, right? That idea of, okay, well maybe I've done everything I'm here to do and and that kind of thing. Have there been other moments when persistence became self abandonment instead of self respect? And how did you really learn the difference?
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You're going to give me an example because those are such vague concepts. Like, I think a lot of times, at least in my experience, it's the, I'm going to abandon my purpose. I'm going to step away. I'm going to get out of alignment with my path in order to persist, in order to keep going.
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Whereas when I am truly embodying self-respect, I know with unequivocal certainty and with zero wobble that what I'm here to do, who I'm here to do it with when I'm here to do it, right. The right people, the right place, the right time.
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But I think sometimes the persistence piece is just keep going, right. Would be like Dory, just keep swimming. But like, where are you swimming? Who are you swimming with? What are you swimming towards? Those kinds of things. Yeah.
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Uh, so, um, that's when my buddy Marcus Aurelius comes in. Um, I actually, i actually made a song, um,
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uh, it's called that was then this is now. So I make music on Suno. I love it. I almost listened to it. that I listened to it more than I listened to the radio or regular artists anymore.
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Um, but I did a call in response between Marcus Aurelius and myself. So they were quotes from him and quotes for me. And I have a male singing his part in the female singing my part.
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And, and the thing goes back and forth. The, the, the chorus is, that was then this is now. So that was then, which was Marcus. This is now, which is me. Right.
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And, um, the and so the answer to your question is what gets in the way becomes the way.
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I love that. And so what that in general kind of means is that When you argue with reality, you only lose 100% of the time.
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please yeah A lot of frustration ah for what we're going through in life comes from arguing with reality. If this is where you are, don't argue with it.
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What gets in the way becomes the way, right? So it's, um you don't know that, oh man, I've been diverted off the highway and now I have to go hang out at this little this a little way station or whatever, and you're gonna meet a future business partner at that way station, right?
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What gets in the way becomes the way, right? So, so for example, right now I'm doing something that is not in my wildest dreams was I ever going to go.
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you're going to become a general manager of a resort
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for an emergency period of time. Right. and deal with the craziest stuff. And, but doing that gave me a new sense of resilience that I could have never have imagined.
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Like,
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Well, look at that, like, you know, seeing a different
Embracing Mistakes and Gratitude
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level of pattern in human beings than I've ever seen before that I just couldn't have had that perspective without it.
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Um, and, uh, and get a personal level of resilience that I would have never imagined before. Um, in terms of when you're a general manager, it's really,
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your your job is not to be everyone's friend. Like, your your job is to make the resort run smoothly and profitably.
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Right? And being friends with people is not a is is not necessarily a consideration. Like, you just you just need people to do their job. Right?
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And so there's this
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there's this mentality separation of joking and joshing around with everybody while they're goofing off, not doing their job. And you can't join them in that. Like, and there has to be this separation and, um, and then having another manager go through the same process I did, which was to first be amongst them,
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and then get promoted out of them and then see the difference that they couldn't see before. Right. And as a total perspective change, it's total perspective shift. And, and I wouldn't have had that perspective shift like without that. So, and, and it was only a temporary position anyway.
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So I'm, I'm no longer the GM. Um, uh, but I really learned a lot from doing it for sure. about people, about mentality, about personal resilience as to whether or not, cause like a lot of us do things so that people will like us.
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That is a huge human driver. Right. And so when you realize, no, I have a greater purpose than if people like me or not.
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Right. That's a huge perspective shift. And it was definitely not on my bingo card. I love that. The universe's bingo card is always better anyway, right? and looks Also, we're getting into the rebuild here. and It's a perfect segue for us. So as we're getting into the rebuild, you said um you trip on your cape daily. And I think that's definitely a part of you know just life in general, but especially the rebuild is starting to be okay with tripping on your cape daily. So what does that look like for you in real life?
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Oh, man, I mess up almost every single day. um
00:36:01
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ah driving up to the resort and I forgot the one thing that I was told to bring.
00:36:14
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You know, said and it's like, okay, now what do I do? Right?
00:36:22
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there There you go. That's one. um Oh, yeah. That three o'clock Zoom meeting? Wow, it's five o'clock. I totally missed that.
00:36:35
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That manager's meeting that was on Zoom? Yeah, no, I totally missed that. It just flew over my head. I was busy. yeah Okay, here we go.
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i
00:36:49
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It's just like every single day, you know, just... Okay, here's another mistake. and and And the big thing for me is is like, ah oh, I i gave i gave ah somebody else some information that I wasn't supposed to give them.
00:37:08
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And I'm like, you used to be the manager. Why did you do that? And I'm like, because he said he already knew about it.
00:37:23
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All right. Yes, I did it. I'm sorry. so where is there's a lot of other people, i guess that would be like.
00:37:32
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Have a lot of excuses around tripping on their cape. Oh, I did that because of I'm like, yep, my bad. And I move on like it's just.
00:37:45
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OK. That happened. I apologize. Can we go on with life now? That's story because basically the, the energetic thing is that most people argue with reality.
00:38:00
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Did you do it? Yes. Was it your fault? Yes, I did do that. And it was my fault and I missed it. I apologize. That was my bad. I will do, i will endeavor to do better in the future.
00:38:13
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And then like, um, Okay, so that's that's one that I kind of learned from Angelina Jolie.
00:38:25
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Angelina Jolie, when she was younger, um used to have, like, in case you don't know, I love movies and all that kind of stuff. um ah People would be like, Angelina Jolie has a vial of Billy Bob's blood around her neck. And she was like, yeah.
00:38:44
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Would you like to see it? Here it is.
00:38:48
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Oh my gosh, you kissed your brother. And it was kind of weird. She's like, great. Would you like a photo shoot of us together?
00:38:59
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So she was just fantastic about taking the thing that other people wanted to manipulate her with and make her feel ashamed of and just put it right in their face. And then nobody ever talks about it ever again.
00:39:18
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And I just thought that
Persistence in Life Transitions
00:39:19
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was brilliant. Those are such great examples of the reorientation piece, right? it it It only means what we make it mean. And it sounds like what I'm hearing you say is it is it is the what is, it is the what happened, it is the reality of the situation. And I choose to reorient the meaning I put on it.
00:39:40
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in order to persist. And I obviously I i know you and we've been friends for years. So i I know that gratitude is a big piece of your practice.
00:39:50
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How would you say, what what role would you say that gratitude has really played in helping you survive some of these difficult seasons?
00:40:01
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um I would say that that goes hand in hand with tripping on your cape. um I am grateful I have a cape to trip over.
00:40:13
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Yes. I am grateful that I have feet to trip over my cape with.
00:40:23
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I am grateful that I am alive to even trip over my cape.
00:40:31
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I am grateful that I have eyes to see even if my brain didn't notice what I tripped over.
00:40:41
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Like, you know, um
00:40:51
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I also have a phrase that I use a lot is like, well, that's that's a first world problem.
00:40:58
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Like, whenever somebody's going on about something, I'm like, that is a terrible first world problem to have. I agree. They're like, what?
00:41:12
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up you you You have a house. you You have a basement that flooded, right? Yes. Yes. It's horrible. Right. That is a terrible first world problem to have.
00:41:24
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You have a house.
00:41:29
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Such an important part of the rebuild too, I think. All of those examples, right? i am a I'm driving a rental car right now and it I have to actually like put the key in the ignition and turn the key and I'm bitching about it because it means I have to find the key in my purse to in the car. And as I'm listening and talking about I'm like, it is such like not a problem unless I make it a problem and it is just what it is. And to your point too, I'm grateful that I have a car to drive and I'm grateful that I have a purse to lose my key in and all of those different pieces. Right.
00:42:01
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Grateful that, you know, no one was harmed in the destruction of the car. Right. You know, there's, there's so many, there's so many things to, to, to be grateful for. Um, uh, you know, and gratitude is also like, um,
00:42:22
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a resilience tool, right? So, um, I don't do it to theri to the degree that my friend Faith does.
00:42:33
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Faith is like, if you're in the middle of something that you're really upset about, make a gratitude list of a hundred things, you know, I'll i'll do like five or seven.
00:42:45
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I don't feel like i need the whole hundred. Maybe if it's really, really bad, I'll write down the hundred. But I usually start off with the fact that I'm alive, that I can breathe, that I have two eyes, two ears.
00:42:59
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My, I can smell, i can taste, I can touch. I have two arms. I have two legs. Right. In general, I have my health. Right. And in I start with my physicality first.
00:43:15
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Because really, whatever you're not grateful for, the universe will be like, okay,
00:43:21
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are you grateful? Did that change your perspective? but this So I have to have to work daily to be like that resilience. Even in your worst moments, you can find something to be grateful about.
00:43:36
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What a model of persistence for sure. That's one of the most important things about being grateful is persisting in it. What does persistence look look like for you that has grown in the last five years of your life?
00:43:53
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if you
00:44:02
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I would say all of it culminated
00:44:09
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after the day that I was told I was no longer in a relationship, right? I would say that the last five years was buildup to that moment.
00:44:24
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Right. You know, um
00:44:29
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i I think that there was always this sense of the other shoe is going to drop.
00:44:38
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um
00:44:42
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And because of that, i I really tried to pack in as many experiences as I could during that time period. um And it was also post-COVID world, right?
00:45:01
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before COVID,
00:45:04
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before covid i was a full-time body painter. Like that was my world. I was making $250 an hour as a body painter and being flown all around the country.
00:45:18
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And basically from,
00:45:22
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St. Patrick's day to Thanksgiving, my birthday, I was traveling all around the country, going to comic cons, uh, going to festivals, EDM music festivals,
00:45:37
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conventions like I was doing a lot and then all of that went away during COVID and it did not come back after COVID so I had to reinvent myself and I tried quite a few different things like I got into making Organite and you know going to different things and trying to sell my artwork and the the things that the universe was whispering in my ear saying, this is medicine for people make this.
00:46:14
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And so I did. um But I could never understand why the universe would give me medicine for people, but that it really wouldn't do as well as I thought it would have.
00:46:28
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Right. And I'm like, whatever gets in the way becomes the way. okay, if this isn't the way, where's the way? Right? And so it was just constant shifting and pivoting. in Okay, we're going to fly to Australia and learn NLP by one of the topmost authorities in the world.
00:46:54
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Because, yay, let's go to Australia. That was fun. um But
00:47:03
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that's where i'm that, that specifically going to Australia. So, um I was sitting in what's called the hot seat. And, um, when
Integrating Life Lessons and Challenges
00:47:12
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I was in the hot seat, uh, I was asked, you know, like, oh man, you know, this person is this, this person is that. And, oh, it just frustrates the heck out of me.
00:47:23
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I wish I had more compassion for him, whatever they're going through. And the person who was leading it was like, Hmm. So you need more compassion for yourself.
00:47:41
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Oh my God, that just hit me. And I started laughing so hard that the room was uncomfortable.
00:47:52
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Like the whole room was completely uncomfortable, which I thought was hilarious, which made me not laugh even more.
00:48:04
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Australians are a different bunch. They really are. um and and when I came back, I was like, I don't know how I'm going to interact with people. Knowing that pretty much not a single human being that you're having an interaction with is um actually responding to you. They're only responding to their framework of you.
00:48:31
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i was like, Well, crap, what what what is even the point of talking to people? I'm like, I ah i have no idea how I'm going to do this when I get home. And and so over the the five year period that you're asking about, you know, one of the things is that When you have an NLP session, at least how I learned how to do it, the person comes in and you have zero agenda for, you have zero agenda for whatever they're coming in for. and you say, you simply say, what brings you in today?
00:49:06
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And they drive, they drive the boat for the most part, right? In terms of saying, letting whatever come up, right? And you're in this place of non-judgment sitting with them.
00:49:20
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of like you, you're just, that's your role as the practitioner, total non-judgment. And I'm like, I don't understand that.
00:49:34
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That doesn't make any sense to me. Okay, whatever. Like I knew the technicalities of how to do it, but I didn't understand, I didn't understand how to sit in that.
00:49:46
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Right. And then post December 15th, I finally understood it.
00:49:59
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I can't tell you what happened, but I finally understood how to sit in that emotional place of non judgment because I had to look at myself that way.
00:50:13
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And I called her up and I said, um You know, I never understood this part and I finally do. i would i would like to retake the training now that I understand this very crucial and important part.
00:50:29
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And she said, absolutely.
00:50:32
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You've spoken about a lot of different aspects of the integration piece of our journey, right? we've we've You've shared a little bit about the origin. You've certainly shared a little bit of about the disruptions and the rebuild.
00:50:46
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But if we, as we're shifting into the integration piece, what would you say persistence has cost you? And what would you say it's given you? How have you integrated those insights?
00:51:01
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Well, the persistence part comes from,
00:51:08
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a not giving up.
00:51:12
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Right. Um, Certainly i couldn't have imagined today
00:51:21
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on January 6th when my mom passed away and I got Bell's palsy and half my face was paralyzed. This day, i could not have imagined on that day.
00:51:35
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Right. Um, but you You just have to put one foot in front of the other and just keep doing that.
00:51:48
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Right? Even if you lay down and rest, it's not giving up. It's resting. So you can put one foot in front of the other.
00:52:01
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Right? Because there's the understanding that eventually that will happen again. Absolutely. it's that It's the not it's the not it's the you know, if you trip and you fall flat on your face, you just get back up again.
00:52:19
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And sometimes you just have to lay there on the floor and go, wow, I'm really grateful for the support
00:52:27
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look at the view of the stars from down here. The perspective from being on the floor. Okay. I needed a good stretch while I'm down here. Right? I love that.
00:52:42
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yeah Speaking of integration as well, like what did how are you integrating all of these like hardest seasons? What have they revealed to you about like love and the capacity to forgive and begin again? I'll oh i'll let you know that Most of the other times that I have been through this process, the forgiveness part has been really, really easy for me.
00:53:12
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Um, and, and I know that that has to do with my near death experiences.
00:53:19
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And this particular time, the forgiveness is more difficult and I can't even name why. Like I have no good, uh,
00:53:32
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intellectual reason for it. i it's not generally something that I believe in, but when I reach into my heart and try to produce that feeling or sensation, it's not happening. So it's, it's disassociated from my consciousness versus what's happening in my physical body.
00:53:56
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So I don't know that I am yet in a place of healing that I could answer intellectually that particular question. ah Do I work on it when then as something comes up?
00:54:10
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Absolutely. But like when I say it's in my physicality, I mean,
00:54:20
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when an interaction or even an idea of an interaction wants to happen, I literally become nauseated. So it's deep in my body.
00:54:32
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It's not in my consciousness. I'm like, what is like, I'm up here. all up here going, what the heck is going on down there? Right. And I'm like, well, at some point this will resolve.
00:54:46
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Just not today, just not right now, but I'm literally nauseated. And so It's one of those things of like, okay, I need to not have judgment about this is where my body is at right now.
00:55:00
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I need to not have judgment about the fact that um my body is not willing to share that information with me consciously yet. Okay. but Eventually it'll happen.
00:55:14
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But relatively speaking, we're still pretty close to the event horizon. You know, in the past, that's never really been an issue and um i still haven't sort of uncovered that yet i'm listening as i'm listening to you speak i'm thinking about how powerful that embodiment piece is and how disconnected so many of us can feel from that feedback or how tightly attached we are to to the mental understanding
00:55:47
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of the embodied feedback and really listening to you talk, I'm thinking how powerful it is that you with courage, just surrender to the what is, and you can, you know, there's a barrier between the mental and the physical, and you know, that the physical is offering you some valuable feedback and you aren't yet able to integrate that inside your own vessel.
00:56:12
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And you still use that as as a tool for persistence, right? I don't have to really understand it. I just have to know it's happening and I can still move forward with with some level of awareness, even if it feels disconnected. And I think that's such an important part of the integration piece, the the meaning that we put on the disconnections sometimes, right? I think sometimes we feel like integration is everything comes together. We have a full understanding and we're all good and ta-da.
00:56:42
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Whereas what I'm hearing you say is for you, part of your journey of the integration piece is being okay with the disconnected pieces of this human experience because it comes with so many pieces, right? It comes with so many parts. Well, I've, I've been a certified hypnotherapist since 1993. So I have a really long history and deep understanding outside of NLP, um, of
Legacy and Spiritual Insights
00:57:11
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the subconscious and that when, when the subconscious is ready, also when the body is ready, right.
00:57:22
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Um, the when it's ready to be healed it comes up closer to the surface right it goes okay i there's enough safety and space for this to be dealt with but right now i'm still in the middle of the separation and um everything is still uh dangerous right um and so the body's like we're not working on this until we're out of danger. but but And I'm like, okay, that's fair.
00:57:57
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Right. You know? And so i don't have a judgment against my body or my subconscious for how it's choosing to protect itself.
00:58:09
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And, and I, and I also have the understanding that right, just from years of my ex as a massage therapist and,
00:58:21
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and also working with other therapies that every single muscle, every single organ, every single bone, every single thing in in your whole physicality is an individual young child.
00:58:38
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And so, right Our bodies are an entire kindergarten grade class, right? And there's a bunch of toddlers in here and you cannot reason with a toddler. Like like when a toddler is scared or frightened, you can't be like, oh, just grow up. You can't do that. You have to treat it with love.
00:59:04
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You have to give it safety. You have to give it space. You have to give it all these things, you know, reassurance. awareness, presence, presence, most of all, and be like, okay, I'm present to the fact that you're not ready to talk about this yet. I am present to the fact that you're not ready to heal this yet.
00:59:25
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I am present to the fact that you don't feel safe yet and no healing is going to happen if you don't feel safe. Right? So I'm up here doing my best daily.
00:59:39
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And sometimes i I do okay at that. And sometimes like, i don't just trip over my cape, I face plant. Right?
00:59:52
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And it's just one of those things of like, okay, I blew up at my best friend today. And that really sucked.
01:00:02
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I think one of my favorite parts of this podcast project that Alex and I get to do in the interviews is learning about the legacy of our guests. And I think part of our legacy is the truth that we share and the message that we're able to gift other people. So if listeners are feeling exhausted, right, from constantly having to keep going, what would you want them to hear from today?
01:00:30
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what would What has really helped you during those moments where you felt like giving up?
01:00:43
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that it isn't always going to be this way. Whatever is happening right now, it's not always going to be this way.
01:00:54
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this This moment is not forever. Now the only exceptions of course to that are when a loved one passes away, right? That will be forever, but how you feel will not be forever, right?
01:01:10
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And there are some people that are like, oh no, I'm going to carry that. Okay. That's a curious choice. It's for choice to carry it that way.
01:01:21
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And, and, and I, I have never liked the phrase, everything happens for a reason. I think it's a really cruel thing to say to a parent who loses his child, to a husband who loses a wife.
01:01:40
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And they, and he has two girls to raise, you know, there's, there's all these things now, regardless of whether or not it's true, it's, it's just not kind or compassionate.
01:01:52
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And, um, and so, um my friend Sonny and i we consider each other family members because we remember each other from past lives.
01:02:05
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And so our, our family motto is in accordance, it happened in accordance with prophecy. And so in accordance with the prophecy, prophecy always has to do with tragedy.
01:02:20
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Like it just starts there, right? You know, but it's the promise that it will not be that way forever. Even if it's like 10,000 years later, it will change. It will still change, right?
01:02:33
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um And so i kept calling Sunny up and going, Is it according to the prophecy? Is it like, how does that go again? And she's like, oh, for goodness sakes, it's in accordance with the prophecy. Just get a fricking tattoo.
01:02:51
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So I did. ah That's perfect. And it's in Narnia font. And this is Aslan's tale.
01:03:02
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so it's the divine amidst tragedy so that even when tragedy is happening you know it's kind of like mr rogers says look for the helpers you have to look for the divinity that's still present even amongst the tragedy you know the the the people like mr rogers says you know the helpers who are trying to help get people out of the rubble the helpers who are bringing blankets and chocolate and that person that calls right when you need it, or that song that comes on that, that tells you everything's going to be okay.
01:03:40
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You know, that's the divine amidst tragedy. So, you know, my persistence is in that
01:03:50
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even when it's as dark as you can possibly imagine, that divine light is still present. Absolutely. Even if you have to close your eyes and not look at the external world, because the light inside of you is always there. It's literally the thing that gives you life.
01:04:10
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Perfect.
Reflections on Legacy and Podcast Significance
01:04:11
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We like to wrap up each of our guest interviews with the same 10 questions. You might recognize them from inside the Actress Studio with James Lipton.
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So the first question is, what is your favorite word?
01:04:28
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oooooo
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I don't know if I have a favorite word. like i love big words. um And ah the only one that's personally coming to mind right now is discombobulated.
01:04:52
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i love it. It's a good one. Which is perfect for this episode. So... What's your least favorite word?
01:05:03
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i Can't.
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What turns you on spiritually, emotionally or emotionally?
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Oh, hmm.
01:05:36
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Genuine compassion and empathy. love that. That's a really good answer. Yeah. What turns you off? but you know so So when I say genuine compassion or empathy, that's inside authenticity.
01:05:53
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Yeah. Right? You can't have it be genuine if it's not authentic. Absolutely. So it's inside of that. Does that make sense? It's perfect answer. What turns you off?
01:06:18
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Probably it's opposite. um
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i didn't um i didn't learn this until after December 15th.
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um
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Avoidant attachment style. All right. Avoiding attachment style is definitely a turnoff. What's your favorite curse word?
01:06:56
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Oh, that's easy. Fuck. yeah popular one look It's even on my. yeah ah And in a rainbow too. Perfect. But you know, I have blessed on the other side.
01:07:12
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yeah balance it out it's perfect what sound or noise do you love
01:07:20
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<unk> that is a good sound what sound or noise do you not love
01:07:36
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ah what profession other than your own would you like to attempt? Which is kind of funny because you've had a lot. Okay. So when you say what profession other than your own, you know that you're talking about 21 things, right? Qualifier. Okay. What new profession might you like to attempt?
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um
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a New profession. Oh, It's not a profession, it's a hobby, but I am really enjoying making music. I love that. um As being a lyricist,
01:08:14
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um I am really loving what I'm doing with Suno right now. um I wouldn't say that it's a profession, um
01:08:26
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but wow, it's really lighting me up. What profession would you not like to do?
01:08:44
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That's a kind of a weird one because um
01:08:51
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I have learned to find the divine in whatever thing that I'm doing. So I would actually have to remove the divine from existence to find something. All right.
01:09:05
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Well, that counts. i That's a good answer. Yeah. i Like I don't.
01:09:12
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You're up for anything. I heard it. Yeah. She's down. i don't I don't know how to do that. No FOMO. If heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates?
01:09:25
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Or the big ball light. Been there done that? I know, right? It's such a funny question to ask you a couple of times. What did God say when you arrived at the Pearly Gates, Mythica?
01:09:37
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ah Give us one. um ah Well, first there was no words. um And I was seven or eight at the time. And um
01:10:00
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trying to put into words what there are no words for. i try this all the time. Ask Leslie. I'm like, I fucking hate words. They're so dumb. So so I have a saying, earth words suck. I say thing. This is one of those moments where earth words suck. So I can say that what was projected, and these are very poor words, was unconditional love.
01:10:23
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Right? So right now, like A lot of people are like, oh man, when this political person dies, i hope they suffer. Right. You know, yada, yada. And, um,
01:10:46
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you do get to feel from the inside of other people, what you, what you invoked in them. Right. But that doesn't mean that they're not going to heaven.
01:11:02
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Right? We're in this eternal life cycle. And so like, that's like saying,
01:11:13
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everyone's going to reincarnate because life is eternal. like trying to stop the waterr water cycle. like like you You can't not go through that. like There's no eternal damnation and unless you choose to suffer. like Kind of comes back to your initial response, which has been there, done that. gonna do that Yeah, like like is is yeah you know it's like been there, done that. I'm like,
01:11:42
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what time is this one is is is is this 23 trillion millionth time okay here we go okay let's do it again last question is uh what does don't trip on your cape mean to you i'm sorry say that again what does don't trip on your cape mean to you
01:12:03
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good luck with that yes good answer that's
01:12:13
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It's going to happen. so let just Enjoy the trip, man. Yeah, there you go Enjoy the trip. It's going to happen. Enjoy the trip. yeah Well, thank you so much for sharing so vulnerably and so courageously parts of your story, Mythica. I know um there's just so much power that lives inside of you and having you share your story with our listeners will help them embody their power. So thank you. Thank you.
01:12:40
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Thank you. Thank you as well. um Like I said, youre this is the the next version of who I am. And, you know, I am just um embracing my witchy woman in this version of myself.
01:12:54
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We love it. Thank you again for being here. And thank you to our listeners for being along with us. Until next time, everybody. Don't trip on your cape. We'll see you then. Bye.
01:13:04
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01:13:21
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