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Episode 21: Igniting the Fire: From Triggers to Transformation
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This episode didn’t go the way we expected… and somehow, it went exactly the way it needed to.
We sat down with Jillian Kinsman, energy healer and intuitive guide, for a conversation that moved far beyond surface-level healing. What unfolded was a deep dive into the patterns we carry, the triggers that activate them, and the real work of transformation.
Jillian shares her story of growing up in a highly volatile environment and how those early experiences shaped her nervous system, her reactions, and her sense of safety in the world. But more importantly, she walks us through what it actually looks like to change those patterns.
Not conceptually. Practically.
We talk about:
- Why triggers are signals, not problems
- How patterns repeat in different forms until we see them
- The difference between reacting and responding
- What “rewiring” actually looks like in real life
- Why healing isn’t something you finish, but something you live
This episode is part of our Igniting the Fire series, and this one hits at the core of it.
Because sometimes the fire isn’t about motivation or action…
Sometimes it’s the moment you realize: “Oh… this is mine to change.”
Links
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A Human Being With Love (Alex Embry) https://ahumanbeingwithlove.com
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Transcript
Introduction to Burdens as Strengths
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Welcome on to Don't Trip On Your Cape, the podcast where Leslie, the founder Align Living and Leadership, and her amazing co-host Alex from Much Love dive into the very things that weigh us down, only to reveal those burdens are actually our greatest strengths.
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Together, they help listeners recognize that what feels heavy is often just your own unique superpower in disguise. So grab your cape, and let's explore how to wear without stumbling.
Meet Jillian: Energy Healer and Intuitive Guide
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Hello, everybody, and welcome to this episode of Don't Trip On Your Cape. I'm Alex.
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And I'm Leslie. And today we have the pleasure of interviewing Ms. Jillian. Jillian is an energy healer, intuitive guide, and the founder of Spiritual Light Catalyst, where she helps individuals break free from the patterns, fears, and experiences that have been quietly shaping their lives for years. Her work goes far beyond surface level change.
Breaking Familial Patterns After Motherhood
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Jillian guides people into the deeper layers of their conditioning from childhood wounding and fear-based programming to ancestral patterns and unresolved experiences helping them rewire their nervous system and reclaim their sense of safety power and choice but this work is not just something she teaches it's something she has lived after growing up in an environment shaped by control fear and abuse Jillian found herself repeating patterns she knew she didn't want to carry forward especially after becoming a mother
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That moment became a turning point. Instead of continuing the cycle, she chose to face it, unravel it, and rebuild from the inside out. Today, she but blends energy healing modalities like Reiki with practical tools for rewiring neural pathways, helping her clients move out of survival mode and into a life of clarity, purpose, and aligned action.
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At the heart of her message is a powerful truth. You're not stuck and you can change anything you no longer want to carry. So welcome, Miss Jillian. We're so excited to have you.
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Thank you to have me. appreciate Beautiful intro. Thank you so much. Absolutely. Who you are. so we're excited to have you.
Traumatic Childhood and Family Dynamics
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So we'd like to start at the beginning with our guests and your childhood.
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So when you think about your childhood, when you think about your early life, what did it feel like from the inside? And and maybe what would people have described it like from the outside?
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You know, from the inside, um definitely it was very terrifying. My father was, you know, we were always walking on eggshells. I had two siblings. And of course my mother was physically abused as well as ourselves. From the outside, I have no idea what people were thinking because honestly, most of that people, you know you try to cover it up. i didn't you know Some of my friends wanted to, you know that I'm sure they knew what was going on. They've been in my household, but for those that you go to school with and whatnot, they didn't you know. They didn't know, I mean, some of the abusive stuff was,
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If you think about it now, it is it is really ridiculous. if we didn't you know I'll give you this one example. if something went wrong in the house, right?
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And my father was on a rampage trying to figure out who did it. Who did it? It was always who did it. was never you know his responsibility. He would literally line us up and smash our foreheads together.
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And we think about that, that is like massive child abuse, right? I had belt buckles whipped over my ass. I've had paddles. I mean, it was physically, verbally, emotionally abusive. We were constantly walking eggshells. And then he would be like a totally different personality if he was drinking, right?
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And then he would be that outgoing, very charismatic person that would buy ice cream for the entire neighborhood. And that is like, that's why I'm like, I don't really know what the whole rest of the world thought of him.
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I know that my own family members, my cousins on his side, when he passed away, they had no idea what we went through because when my parents divorced,
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We just didn't keep in touch with his side of the family. Right. And they were about 75 miles. I'm from Minnesota. So they were about 75 miles north of the border. And I grew up just north of Minneapolis. So we were about two and a half, three hours, almost in distance. And we just never kept in touch. But as we got older now, they were like, I had no idea you guys experienced that.
Lessons in Hiding and Identity Confusion
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They had no idea. It's crazy, right? yes crazy how much the inside and the outside doesn't always match the what's what people see it's definitely a mirage for sure yeah what do you think that environment taught you about yourself in the world o o um for a big part um i i hid My aunt actually taught me how to hide on my mother's side. um
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Huge family. But one of my aunts came to help my mom over the summer and she was like, i had no idea what my father was like. And she basically told us like, you're going to go hide in the closet. She told us different places to go hide.
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And so for most of my life, I lived in fear. I was constantly hiding, especially from authority figures. Of course, I learned all this later, but unconsciously I was hiding from myself, from other people who I authentically was. I didn't even know how to be, to be honest with you. I did not know how to be as a human being.
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I didn't know how to be authentically myself. I shut it all down. I was so confused because you know you have this parent who's supposed to be your caregiver, right? and then they're abusing you in another way and then they're telling you you're stupid or whatever. I mean, a lot of it I blocked out to be quite honest. I mean, there is so much of my childhood teenage years that I blocked out.
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I didn't even remember them. I had cousins that actually said to me, you don't remember that? I'm like, no.
Motherhood as a Catalyst for Healing
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No, I'm sure parts of me, when I started doing energy healing, parts of me were coming back.
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Parts of me were fractured off and i didn't remember it.
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That's really powerful. I think a lot of people have that same experience when you go through really difficult things. But what point did you start to realize that the way that you were responding to life wasn't yours, but something that you had learned?
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Can you repeat the question? Yeah, sure. At what point did you start to learn that the way you were responding to life wasn't yours, but something you had learned?
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I'm going to say when I started you know healing on my childhood wounds, I really didn't know. Honestly, I went through most of my adult life after having my son. i just said, i you know I really don't want to behave like my father.
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i don't want to give him, I want him to have a better childhood than I had. course, all parents say that, right? And I really didn't understand, I feel like he was more of my catalyst of awakening, right?
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he He kind of made me become that better person. And as you're married, was married 11 years, my husband passed five years ago. I started discovering some of those things that I was, you know, those those little triggers.
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And i I just couldn't figure out why i was having these moments, why I would get so angry and why I was angry at the world. And i just, at one point my siblings and I had said when my father was passing that if we, I was coming up so many roadblocks, you know, going in through levels of certain levels of success, but not really moving past that.
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And are my siblings and I all sat down when my father was in the hospital and we just said, you know what, we're all gonna have to at one point dive deep back into our childhood.
Struggles with Perfectionism and Acceptance
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and start discovering what it is. And every one of us were like, yeah, we're gonna do it. My sister did not experience as much abuse.
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because she kind of gave in, she was that pacifier. But for me, I knew that I had to do it just to be a better human being. I was just sick and tired of being, um you know, having knee-jerk responses and not being myself and and feeling, not feeling like I could step out of my shell.
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was terrified in many ways step out of my shell. And even though I forced myself and, and you know, some of my careers to do it, that doesn't mean I didn't have that anxiety and that terror and that fear to even be in the limelight.
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It sounds like the anxiety and the terror and the fear had become your reference point for normal. Right. that Accurate assessment. Yes, absolutely. I mean, I was kind of stuck in it. Everything that I started judging life and right was okay. I,
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And instead of being in fear, kind of overcoming it, right? I kind of liken everybody to like Swiss cheese, how we're kind of filling in the holes in the gaps that we didn't get. I was always trying to be that perfectionist, always excelling at everything, excelling at school, doing my best that I possibly could so I wouldn't get in trouble.
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But of course, I would get in trouble outside of school, right? It's always going to happen, right? That's when the crazy came out. but i would always try to be a perfectionist in excel and a part of me was always kind of not showing that vulnerable side ever ever and it at some point that was just the shell that i lived in i was living in this bubble of fear i didn't know it was fear i just thought it was kind of operating going through right life and just trying to excel and you know have friends and have a good career and you know feel supported and get married like
Journey to Becoming an Energy Healer
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everybody does. right I never had any goals of having children because i had I just had no desire. I thought I would be a good aunt and that would be perfect perfect for me. right
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But I didn't really realize until I started digging deep into my childhood wounding at wow how many, i have one energy healer say to me, you are a hot mess.
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And I just said to myself, I'm like, at least he first started with the word hot. That's hot' all I care about. But yeah, I was a mess. I don't i don't even know who i I don't even resonate with the person that I was growing up. Although I know that made me stronger, right? All those rocks, those boulders, all the experience that I had.
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And it's fulfilling part of my soul's purpose and destiny now. But I never thought I was going to be an energy healer. I never thought I was going to do any of this stuff. And boy, have I learned self-discovery just by going through your childhood wounding and really figuring out what is making you tick, what's making you react and behave the way you are. It's humbling for sure.
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I can definitely relate to that humbling experience of transformation, but the world needs us in our healed states, right? Right. You mentioned that becoming a mother was a turning point for you. Was there a specific moment where you saw yourself clearly and thought, I have to change this?
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So I was pregnant when i um was taking action. on my my Both my parents fell ill at the same time. And I became pregnant while I was taking care of them up in Minnesota. And I live in Florida.
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And so there was so many different memories that were coming back. I was in the childhood house. I was growing. My mom still had that house. And i just started remembering and going through all these crazy things. By the way, we were selling her house, moving her down here, and I'm getting rid of all of her junk. And she was kind of a bit of a hoarder. And all these memories started coming back in. I was seeing my childhood friends back again, back in the neighborhood, and going through all these different things. And I just said, oh my gosh, I just don't want...
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my child to have any of the limiting experiences and the horrible experiences that I had, I have to start changing and shifting for him.
Self-Reflection Through Child's Actions
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And that was when he was in the womb. I would sing to him, you know, and and I was at that point, I had kind of started spiritual awakening. I was doing mantras and chanting every day, just removing obstacles.
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And it just started coming in that I just needed to start healing myself. so that I would be a better parent.
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Was there like a specific moment within that besides, obviously you talked about looking at your your childhood memories and stuff like that, but was there a specific moment that you started to think I have to change this within the patterns?
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So in the patterns and whatnot, yeah this is really interesting what i noticed was my patterns and my husband's patterns but it wasn't until my son was older so you know you can always say like oh here's you look like your parents here and there but what i started noticing was oh you're behaving just like that or you had that same thought because my husband always had that if i think negative positive things will come to me and i'm like please don't do that because my son was starting to do that
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And he had to be around, I'm going to say about 10. He's 14 now. And he would always say, mom, you do your energy stuff. My husband used to always say that to me. um you know You do all your woo-woo, I'm fine.
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And i noticed, though, there was one moment when he was, believe, seven years old. He had a very similar accident. This is the weird stuff, right?
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In NRG. He had a very similar accident that my husband had, but completely different, but it split open his lip in the exact same spot as my husband, right?
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How weird is that? And I started thinking, oh my, there is something here behind the forces that we need to look at what did we already,
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limiting beliefs. What has he already picked up in wounding that we're not aware of? What are all those weird imprints that we're just not aware of? I do believe that he was about seven, but that was so significant because the way that my my husband got injured was completely different than my son. had accidentally pushed into a bookcase, but the exact same scar.
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And something in there tells you there is unseen forces at work here that weren't, I wasn't even thinking about the weird accidents. I was thinking limiting beliefs.
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How am I to give them perfect life? And that one just kind of changed the whole trajectory of like, well, I need to look at this from all things that are imprinted inside that are magnetizers to us or our reality. It's not just all those negative experiences, but these weird accidents that come in through our genetic lineage that, that can throw you entire curve ball. Right.
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And I would definitely say when he was on seven, that happened.
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Powerful. It is definitely powerful.
Triggers and Healing Childhood Wounds
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I know you do you work with um nervous system regulation with folks a lot. And obviously that fight, flight, freeze, or fawn experience of self-protection is one that many people struggle with. What did that actually look like for you in real life?
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I went into fight mode most of the time. ah That was the natural response, right? Or freeze. Yeah. fight or freeze and run away. i'm gonna throw it all out there. I've done them all to be honest with you. But the the biggest one is always like fighting and arguing my stance.
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Like where did I have to argue my point and feel like I was right? So of course I learned that from my dad and my mom as well. We are our parents, but I learned that from my mom. She was always trying to argue her point. My mom is half deaf. So growing up in a household, by the way, with half deaf mom and you're screaming, you know, crazy anyway, and there's arguments, it's kind of,
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It's kind of a different situation. But she would never hear correctly what we were seeing. She would try to act like, and I love my mom dearly, so I'm not saying anything negative to this, but she normally, when you're half deaf, you kind of read lips, right?
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She would act like someone that could hear 100% and it would just frustrate everybody because she would walk away. Not really, she'd just walk away and you're like, where are you going?
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We're in the middle of a conversation. Come back here. You can't hear what i'm saying. And so she would hear completely different things. And at one point I just had to start fighting like my stance. No, that's not what I'm saying. And then I would look at her as her wounded aspect, right?
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Then there would be times that I would just run away. I'm like, I don't know what this is, whatever you're bringing at me. It's some kind of scary energy. And I was taught to hide, right? I'd run. Then there were times like freezing, like stage fright. Like sometimes I would freeze when I started doing, I later got into the career acting, modeling and whatnot. And I had, I was terrified to get on stage, you know, or terrified to be the limelight. sometimes you would freeze and have to pull yourself out of it.
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And then of course the finding I've done it all. Like I said, just, you know, trying to pacify somebody in a situation to kind of calm them down so that they're not going to come and attack you and, or you, where you're feeling attacked. Right.
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had to do it all my whole life. I love that you're sharing all these patterns with us from, you know, things that showed up with your kid and things in your own life, because once you start to recognize the patterns, that's when you can take responsibility for them. So when did you start taking responsibility and what made you do that for yourself?
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So a big portion was when I wanted to start healing myself, I had zero intention of trying to be a healer. I just wanted to heal myself, my own childhood wounding. and I said, you know, I started spiritual awakening, seeing spirits,
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going through things and it was kind of like, hey, you're going to do this. You're a medium. You're going be doing this. I'm like, no, I'm not. This is scary. This is creepy. But I had to start facing things. It was like the spirit realm was like, now's the time. You got start doing this.
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And really diving into some classes, right? Working with some other energy healers. um In the beginning, they weren't
Rewiring the Mind from Limiting Beliefs
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really getting to the wounded child. I knew through the journey, it was really strange. They were working on and honing on focusing our spiritual gifts and what was showing up.
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And I remember somebody bringing up like all you ah all you guys in the group have drama. I'm like, course everybody has drama, but like, I really want to work on why these things are showing up.
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And I also wanted to work on the wounded child. And i I didn't do that. And at some point during that journey, I want to say it was around...
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Really, I'm going to say 2018 is where I started deep diving. I started getting into energy healing for myself in 2016 really deeply. But 2018, I started more deep diving. And boy, I got to tell you, I don't think that I did as much rewiring until the last two years.
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I had and was still operating as an energy healer with a lot of wounding. and no one had showed me some very specific techniques, because you're learning along the way, right? Learning about yourself and self discovery. And I started wanting to not blame another person,
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at 2018. I don't want to blame my husband for anything anymore. i wanted to empower my own life and I wanted to show to my son that, you know, he had a very powerful mom that was not going to be the victim anymore. Cause my mom was always the victim and I had played the victim card and my whole life didn't really realize it. And I was done playing the victim and I wanted to start owning and becoming powerful and owning my own experience.
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And like i said in the beginning, it didn't actually come in with some of the energy healing circles, which is so crazy. It took a little while, because I was more focused on, which I see people and my clients do focused on, let me get to my spiritual gifts, right?
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And your spiritual gifts come when you start healing your wounding, and it just keeps developing, and I didn't really get that. And i I see that with my clients too. I'm sure you guys see that with friends and whatnot. Everybody just wants that.
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We want that now experience. And really part of it was just like, I realized deep diving, discovering who I was and watching all the mirrors and looking at that very seriously going, okay, um I kind of started accepting blame for a lot of the situation, right? situations that were coming up prior to that, of course, not I'm fighting my way. I'm like, no way, that wasn't my fault. It's their fault.
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And I just don't wanna blame anybody anymore. i i At this point in my life, I look at every single mirror, every single stranger, and I know there's something that they're gonna give me if I'm triggered.
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And I just will sit down and ask, what is it? When was the first time I felt this way? and get to the root of it and rewire it because i'm I'm done having blocks and obstacles and the same patterns keep showing up, but different faces, different places, different scenarios, right? And you're just like, well, that's totally new.
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Well, not really when you look at it, right? It's all the same, yeah but eh, you've blindly it's our blind spots right that's my blind spot i didn't even know i had blind spots i'm like what i'm perfect what but clearly not right operating from those wounds perfectly imperfect is how i look at it so we've talked you've shared a little bit about your origin you've definitely shared a little bit about the disruption that came in your journey
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Let's focus a little bit on the rebuild. If someone is hearing what you're sharing and thinking this sounds big, what's the simplest way to understand how patterns actually get rewired?
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Simplest way first recognizing that you're in a trigger. Like everybody has to recognize that it's a trigger. If I'm going into an argument mode or a fight mode, right.
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Or if I'm instantly trying to run away from something, not face whatever it is that's being confronted to me. That's, that's the first thing is recognition that you are actually being triggered and there's something that is there hidden that you need to uncover. So whether you're running away, fighting, freezing, clamming up, can't face it.
00:23:09
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um fawning, trying to pacify everybody. That is the first recognition is knowing that you're in a trigger and then going, okay, I'm in a trigger. Now what?
00:23:22
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Absolutely. It's interesting. Whenever you're in those things, it really is a message for you. So whenever you have that disruption, in that moment, that is how you start that rebuild is looking at it. I love that you said that.
00:23:34
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You also describe your brain or the brain like a computer that sometimes has glitchy software. What are some of the most common patterns you see running in people in this glitchy software potentially?
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Um, yeah, glitchy software. I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. Um, they don't really recognize that core wound, but the glitchy software is, Hey, I am trying to go this direction. Everybody can relate to this. I'm trying to, I'm trying to accomplish this, but something keeps stopping me.
00:24:02
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They can either maybe relate to I'm either sabotaging myself, but that glitchy software is like, let's give it an example of like, I have an affirmation. Great. Let's just override, put a bandaid on something. I have this affirmation, but then something inside says,
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That's never gonna happen. It's never gonna happen. You can't accomplish that. That's the glitchy software. That's the wounded child going, no, I can't, it's not safe. I'm not worthy. I'm not good enough. I don't fit in. I don't belong. I was rejected and all those things.
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But if you get rid of that glitchy software, right, either through energy healing or rewiring, then that affirmation sticks. Cause that's how I kind of started too. I was doing affirmations. I was doing all the subliminal healing. Guess what? When that all shuts down, all the glitchy software comes back.
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All what's ever buried inside all comes back.
Dating and Uncovering Past Life Patterns
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And then you're left with like, okay, I just wasted a year. i was I spent all this money on all these things, right?
00:25:00
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But that glitchy software can easily be rewired when we get to the core wound and it's always gonna go to a core wound. Yes, I might be wanting to fight. I might be afraid and i'm in terror, but I always ask people to go deeper and deeper and deeper. And once you discover that we can rewire that the mind is just a computer. We don't reboot as fast.
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But that mind is feeding into your, right? Cause like we would be short, short circuiting, but the mind is just feeding into your central nervous system and telling you, this is not safe. This doesn't feel good. you know, I'm not worthy, whatever it is, whatever that program is.
00:25:34
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And it easily can be rewired. If you can start first start recognizing that you're on the trigger and then you can start taking some deep breaths, calming your central nervous system. Right.
00:25:47
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And then discovering what it is. And I do have a process that I teach my clients on, on how to start getting in touch with yourself, your spirit, your spirit guides and asking like, when did you first feel that what, what was the age that you first felt that, and then keep diving deeper and diving deeper until you get to those poor wounds. And that's always going to go back to unworthiness.
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Every single person I've ever worked with, including myself is unworthiness.
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That is so powerful and I think more universal than maybe some people realize. Oh, look, our little our little mascot has joined the party. oh ah So are you able to walk us through a simple version of what that rewiring technique looks like or sounds like so listeners can kind of begin to understand what that experience might be like for themselves?
Self-Awareness and Grounded Living
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Yeah, so in the moment of a trigger, Clearly your mind is going somewhere else, so you're not going be able to figure out what but that is. So you first recognize the trigger. Second, you need to calm yourself, right? Deep breathing. Some people have heard of the yogic pranayama breathing, but you can also just put your fingers here on the side of your throat and just take some deep breaths. Either way, you need to calm and center yourself from that reactive response,
00:27:10
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right? And get back into a calm space because your mind is not going to know what that, why you're behaving this way. It's a blind spot. Okay. So once you've calmed yourself and you've gotten into that calm space and you might do this at a later date, you might not be able to do this in the moment because sometimes people want to, I always say like everybody can relate to you know, that feeling when you just want to kill somebody, you just want to strangle them. Okay. don't You're going have to pause and say, okay, I'm going have to, I have to excuse myself. i really, ah I feel like I just, you don't have to tell him, just want to kill you right now.
00:27:45
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you're just going to say, like, I need to take a moment. I need to pause. And if you have that chance to reward, great. But when you get to that calm state, not wanting kill that person anymore.
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You kind of just got to sit and ask yourself and close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Put your hands up in the air. Hopefully you can see this on the screen and just say, i always teach my clients to say, body, body, body. When was the first time I felt this way?
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And it doesn't really matter if you're going back to the first core one when you were a child or if you're just going to a memory, right? And I'll give you an example of this too, but it doesn't matter what memory, don't second guess it because I teach you how to rewire. You're gonna rewire all the timelines. We're just gonna ask the spirit realm, you know rewire all the timelines that you felt this way too. So go back to the one that you remember.
00:28:31
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And there was a time where, and I'll give you this this story, if you don't mind, while I share this, because it makes sense. I had some kids that were coming onto my property. Fence blew down, was post-hurricanes here.
00:28:44
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And have a basketball hoop, and they just wanted to play basketball, and they kept cutting through the property. But, you know, it's business. there's There's things. The basketball hoop was for my son, and it was disturbing everybody around. And I was like, these kids just kept annoying me, annoying me. And i was like, why are they annoying me, right?
00:29:01
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and then i got to the point that i was so annoyed i'm like i felt helpless and i just stopped because they just kept growing i had to go to the police i had to get you know like uh put a do not trespass all these different things and then i kept showing up and i was like all right this is getting stupid i am getting so annoyed i need to look at this okay so after the whole situation i i said okay Same process, I'm out, I'm in calm, body body when was the first time I felt this way, instantly took me back to when I was a teenager, or I'm sorry, like eight years old and my brother was ripping off my Barbie dolls heads, right? He was horrible. he was like, he became the holy terror of my father when he was gone.
00:29:43
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and And what did I feel? And I was like, okay, Thank you for showing me that. How did that make me feel? And I felt helpless. I felt so vulnerable. i felt like out of control. Of course I was angry, but we got to dive deeper. And I just had to keep asking myself.
00:30:01
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I really felt everything was hopeless. And I felt helpless. And I felt so vulnerable. Because i couldn't I couldn't beat him up. I couldn't take that Barbie doll. I used to knock him out with two by fours, by the way. Any time he came at me, I knocked him out the baseball bat, two by four.
00:30:17
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he would just come at me. And so he was, he would tip me upside down and rocking chairs until I had no blood left in my feet and throw knives at my feet. It was horrible. So there were things there. I just felt very helpless with him until I had this knee jerk reaction of beating him over the head.
00:30:32
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Right. And I can't beat these teenagers over the head. Cause it's like this, I'm going to go to jail. So calling down, i'm all centered. I'm like, all right, I'm going to have to stand up while I show you this so you can see my root chakra. And I was just like, you think yourself, you think your body, I'm like, thank you for showing me that.
00:30:49
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It's safe to let it go. So basically i teach my clients, we're rewiring one side of the brain, right, left side of the brain connects to the right side of the body, right side of the brain, left side of the body. We want to create whole brain coherence. So we're going to take our hands and cross them over like this.
00:31:04
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And then we're going to put them into our root chakra, which you can't really see. Can't really see, but my arms are looking good. So that's good. All right, so put them in the root chakra in between your legs, right?
00:31:16
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And you're going to tell yourself, okay, I am safe. It's safe
Loving Oneself and Finding Purpose
00:31:21
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to release this. And then what we do is we bring those hands up into our hearts and we start to take some deep breaths and telling yourself, okay, we're going to tell all the neural pathways in our brain,
00:31:37
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just to rewire back into safety. Because the first thing is safety, right? We want safety. We want peace and neutrality and it's safe to let this go.
00:31:51
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and in that particular case, because i always tell someone to rewire, give yourself the opposite of what you didn't get. So I felt safe where I didn't feel, where I was feeling vulnerable and hopeless.
00:32:07
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and helpless, but I'm no longer that victim that I'm empowered. i can now speak without having to hit someone, right? You can, you can start reacting, whatever it is you didn't get, but always rewire back to safety, love, peace, joy, and ask your neuro pathways to rewire the entire neuro pathways and ask for all the timelines.
00:32:34
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that you've ever experienced the same thing and didn't know it to rewire at the same time so that you can come back to that safety, peace, joy, and neutrality. Because really you want neutrality so that you can, instead of reacting and wanting to have that knee-jerk killing someone, respond with calmness and then be able to vocalize what it is that you wanted to say.
00:33:00
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That was so great. Thank you. You're welcome. I love too that you brought in one of your own experiences of how it helped you with healing because like you said, you have to heal yourself first.
00:33:11
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What surprised you the most about your own healing process?
00:33:18
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So this is more recent, but so my husband's been passed for many years, but I had remained celibate. And at one point I decided start dating again.
00:33:31
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was like, oh, I've rewired everything. I'm going to rewire everything. And then by the time I get done, I'm going to meet the perfect guy. And then my son was like, are you to on dating websites? I'm like, well, do you know anything about that? I was thinking about it because like I'm not running into anybody that I'm, you know, digging at this point. He goes, yeah, you can take your pick from everything out there. It's like a buffet. I was like, OK, you approve. Great.
00:33:54
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So then when I started, of course, you're looking all these profiles, that's a whole nother story, but we'll keep it simple. of the Of the men that I chose, the funniest thing that came in was past lives that I had to heal, of wounds that i experienced from past lives in certain, like I was attracted to a certain look at one point and i was having to heal something from the Middle East.
00:34:19
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Ooh, that was way out there. Right. And the next one, it was like, oh, what am I healing in this one? And each one was mirroring something until the last one. I only went with three. I was kind of like, oh, this is getting worse as we go on. And I'm like, I'm really going to need to really need to work on all this stuff. But i I did seriously look at all those mirrors, but I thought, oh my gosh, I thought I had rewired all this stuff that I would just find this perfect mate, this perfect person for me.
00:34:46
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Nope. every single one had mirrored something to me lack consciousness in some level loss loss of income loss of this loss of that the ways that i was being treated in didn't like like how they were you know those this to this is recent this was last fall i was in complete shock going um i probably could have started dating earlier and just experienced all these different you know mirrors But I decided to go it alone.
00:35:18
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And I thought that I could get everything worked out alone. And that was a big shock to me to go, no, we need each other. We need the mirrors. And when it came to intimacy in an intimate relationship, because I didn't get to do this stuff with my husband. He just didn't. He was like, I'm perfect.
00:35:35
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I'm good. You work on you. You had the you know childhood wounding. I didn't get to do that in intimate relationships. And so when I started doing that, I really had to start looking at, oh my goodness, where am I shutting people out? Where am I shutting out love? Where am I where am i blocking this? And where could I be doing that in my my friendships as well?
00:35:56
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So on a level, it was really shocking to me that the intimacy and the vulnerability was still not uncovered. I may have healed some of the wounds.
00:36:08
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I may have healed some of the traumas, but there was still deeper to go.
00:36:15
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So, so true. I can definitely relate to that. And I think it's it's really empowering to hear you say,
00:36:25
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I know I've done the work, I have validated evidence that I've done the work and it's still okay that there's more work to do, right? where We are infinite beings, which means I think at least our opportunities for healing are infinite in different ways.
00:36:41
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new excellent So what does it feel like in your body now when you encounter something that used to trigger you? What's different?
00:36:52
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You know, it's really funny. It's almost like I'm anticipating, is that going to happen the way it used to? Especially like doing like group sessions or, you know, stuff like that. um How am I going to behave? Am I going to go into that nervous response? am my And I find myself, if I have that moment, I just double check, make sure, rewire it and then go, no, I'm coming to a place now where I'm realizing that I've rewired so much that I just feel more whole. It's not to say that I'm 100% perfect. It's not to say that I'm not gonna have some little anxiety. I like everything smooth and easy and I like everything organized and lined up. So there is no little glitches, right? And we even had that today with all the, you know, getting online together.
00:37:38
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And so I was calm. so But I was like, you know what? The universe, this is how I change everything. The universe is working. he's It's conspiring for me.
00:37:50
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Right? What I don't see that I'm freaking out about, like it's got to go this way or got to go that way. it doesn't have to. What if the universe is making it even better than I could imagine? And that's the biggest slight takeaway that I have to say to myself every day, because like i'm I'm kind one of with those people. i'm very impatient.
00:38:07
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If you say I'm gonna get in two weeks, I want my two week appointment. If you get this, I want that. And I'm like, but wait a minute now. I have to kind of look at that. I was teaching a class on Monday with a circle women. And you know I discovered the two days prior that I was still very impatient.
00:38:24
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And I went, okay, I need to recognize that the universe is actually conspiring for me. And this situation might be better if I have to wait. And the same thing with like today, it's like how I really am noticing that I'm much calmer I'm like, I just take things as it goes. There's always chaos, right? There's always chaos. Every single thing. We had it today. You know, I had it the other day. We had it on Monday. It started raining and somebody's like, can we call in the spirit guides? i'm like, you to call in dragons so that we can stop the rain? i'm like, a little sprinkle is gonna, you know, keep down the heat. It's good. i think i feel i feel like it's gonna a perfect day. It's all right and perfect.
00:39:05
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But where do we always try to control that? And I still do that. to some degree like it's the organization in me i like to have things organized as the capricorn aspect in me the structure but where does that flow come in where i can just go you know what it's just gonna all work out fine it's going to work out fine. And I've noticed that within myself, not a hundred percent perfect again, but I've noticed myself that if I allow in that flow, I'm much happier.
00:39:35
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we have more deep connections with each other, right? I'm less in my head and what I look like and all the, all the dumb things that we just go in our head and my, is my hair perfect? Is this, that, like, is this set up? And,
00:39:48
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I just see myself being more in flow, not caring as much about those little tiny little details. i love that. Leslie always says divine timing. It's something that I've adopted as far as same thing, because it really is moving from reacting to being responsive in the way that you've talked about
Understanding Flow and Alignment
00:40:08
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before. So how do you know when you are really doing that, when you're starting to react, i mean, respond instead of reacting a positive, healthy way?
00:40:16
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Yeah, you just know you're in flow. You're just in flow. Things are just coming. You're just like, eh, that fell over. No big deal. That happened there. No big deal. It just flow. And you're just so much more peaceful and more calm. And you just don't care about all those little details and little things.
00:40:33
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It just doesn't matter. You know, and that's how you know you're just in flow. You're having a good time, your joy, your love, your bonding with people. And you just feel like the light of your soul is somehow coming in and taking over, especially when it comes to work, right?
00:40:53
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i just want the light of my soul to be seen, not worry about all that little, that little tiny, little tiny details minutia. I just want the light of my soul to be singing out, whether that be a conversation with a friend,
00:41:05
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Why does every little detail of every little thing that irritates you have to stop that moment, right? And for me, it's flow and I'm in joy and I'm just in having a great time in the moment, every single moment, whether it be yoga, working or not, right? Or I go to the grocery store, I'm like talking to people, I'm just having a good time. That's flow to me. I like talking to everyone.
00:41:30
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Because it helps to, you know, bring out whatever. You don't know what's happened in someone's day, right? And somehow I know when I'm in that flow, I'm actually pulling somebody out too of their whatever is going on of their mind, their darkness, maybe something bad happened. I don't know. But flow to me is love, light, joy, calm, centered, and being the light that I came here to be.
00:41:53
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And that's a huge difference, a place to be in than in fear, worry, You know, what do I look like? All that panic mode, right? It's huge shift and it feels very empowering.
00:42:10
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feels very empowering. Like I'm not giving away of something of myself. Like if you're in living in fear, feels like you're giving a part of your your' wounding away. And that wounding I asked to bring back into me to to be my strength.
00:42:25
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And it just feels like when you're in that calm flow, you're in that empowerment. Good, bad, all the things. Good, bad, all the things, right?
00:42:35
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love that you spoke to the to the power of the neutrality too. I think so many people get really attached to the joy, which, awesome, definitely brings some joy into our lives.
00:42:48
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But i think I think to your point, Our power really lives in that neutrality, in that in that in-between space, between the disruption and the expansion, between the thing that went upside down and the course correction process. And I love that you're speaking to it from so many different angles.
00:43:10
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How do you stay grounded in responsibility without slipping back into that blame or those old patterns?
00:43:20
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It's just self-awareness really. i mean, you really have to be self-aware because honestly, anybody can pull you out of alignment. You just have to know I'm going out of alignment. Okay.
00:43:32
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already know. Like somebody just cut me off. I'm like, have a great day. If you know that you're getting pulled out of alignment, you know, I used to be the one flicking everybody off. I was like, my husband was like, you gotta be careful. So we're gonna, you know, we're right to bear arms state. Somebody is going to shoot you and they can pull their guns out here. Right?
00:43:50
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um So I've learned to calm him that down, the road rage and all those things. But really, it's every time that you know you're getting pulled out alignment, whether it be somebody just said something or rubbed you wrong, you have to be aware that you're getting pulled out of alignment and and self-awareness is so key. because then you can just pull yourself back in the moment. Am I living from a wound from the past?
00:44:10
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Am I trying to go into the future? What is it that's pulling me out of alignment, right? Am i going in the future because you're in my way, you're blocking me, but whatever that is, or am I living from a wound in the past? And really about everything in life, the more self-awareness we bring to the table, the more presence, the more that we can connect to each other, and really it starts with you.
00:44:31
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And you know I feel like for me, It's huge as a parent, not just an energy healer or whatever, but as a parent, I wanna teach my son that self-awareness so that he can stay grounded because he's ADD all over the place. And I'm like, ooh, you gotta ground.
00:44:47
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Where are you? course I can run energy. It's very easy for me to just run energy and reground. You know, we have tools, aromatherapy, we have tools and things that can calm our brain. Breath is key, but self-awareness, all those things, all those tools can help you stay grounded. But honestly, I'm sure you guys see this every day.
00:45:06
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People are scattered and all over the place right now. And the main thing for me is I meditate every day. and work on energy every day before I get out because I wake up scatterbrained too.
00:45:16
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have responsibilities. I got to do that. But I come back into and meditation. What do I want to create for my perfect day? My grounding, the ease and flow. And I purposely make sure that I am communicating with spirit so that you can, this is what I want. This is what I'm communicating to you. Bring this to me.
00:45:36
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not the chaotic brain everything you got going on and i feel like people are too much in their head which is you know your programs not coming from your heart space and my goal is every day anchor in that grounded that centralness the earth sky everything above back into my heart with source and into my mind so that i can become still that tells you when you go out of alignment when you're in your heart space and your divine heart intelligence you know when you get pulled out of alignment you know when somebody pulls you out but if you're already constantly scattered forget it you gotta to come into your heart first i i love that you're talking about this because this is one of my favorite things too talking about self-awareness and because i find the more that you are in alignment and the more self-aware you are the less tolerance you have for being pulled out as well your tolerance becomes lower and lower
Engaging in Personal Healing
00:46:27
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and that was one of the things i think i
00:46:30
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people misunderstand a lot about when you are in alignment. What else do you think people misunderstand about alignment and transformation and healing?
00:46:41
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Well, one big thing is I'm spiritual. That means you're in alignment. That's the first thing I hear all the time. Like, whoa, I'm spiritual. I'm in alignment. That means nothing.
00:46:53
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That just means you're trying to get in touch with a part of you, the spirit realm, something, but it's not outside of you, it's within you, right? And, you know, kinda look at everybody kinda going, where are we always constantly stepping outside of ourselves to come back into that alignment? Being spiritual does not mean you're in alignment.
00:47:18
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It does not mean you're alignment. Going to yoga does not mean you're alignment, okay? I pick up some i beautiful people in yoga. I go there from my deep meditation to get my body to align physically and of course, get the workout and all those things. That doesn't mean you're in alignment.
00:47:35
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None of those things mean alignment. Alignment means where you're not getting again, pulled out of your center, your grounding, your confidence, who you believe you are from a healed space.
00:47:50
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and not getting me jerked out into anger and to fear, fight, flight, freeze and all those things. And you know, another thing, People always talk about, cause you know, people don't usually what I feel from an energy healing. And when I, when I know, when I see somebody, they don't relate to fear.
00:48:09
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Like I'm not fearful of that. Oh, really? Well, let me just see where how you're responding to that because fear, they relate fear has to be, I have to run. They may not, have they may have just totally numbed it out that they don't even know they're on fear mode.
00:48:23
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So I said, okay, well, what one thing don't you like about your life? What one thing would you like to change? and they instantly know then and that would and then I can bring them back into line with that. What one thing would you like to change that's showing up in your life that may not be what you think is fear?
00:48:41
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but you just want different. it could be a relationship. It could be, you know, job relationship. It could be anything romantic. It could be career position. could be your finances. It could be your health. It could be that you don't even take enough time for you to find joy.
00:48:53
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What one thing you want to change? I think most people don't relate to fear. i will say that. They just go, I'm not fearful of that. Perfect. Well, you may not know that you're in fear mode.
00:49:06
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And it may not, you may have desensitized from the fear or numbed yourself out or a part of you is fractured out. You don't even relate to it anymore. You numbed it and you buried it so much.
00:49:17
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What about what you just don't like to see in your life? And then they go, I can see where I'm out of alignment with that. I'll go with that. I'm not fearful, but I want that change. That's the biggest thing I think in energy healing is people don't even relate to fear anymore. They don't really relate that they're on a trigger. I don't know if we're just at a heightened level of fear all the time and constant stress and cortisol levels, which I feel that's kind of where we're at, but they can relate to what I want to change in my life.
00:49:47
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And as soon as I start getting into that and diving deeper, then they realize, oh, okay, I can see the fear now.
00:49:55
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Just another another way to look at it. Powerful reframe for sure. And sounds like a powerful access point for people to actually do the rewiring. ah You said earlier that you can change and rewire anything you want in your life.
00:50:12
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lu What do you want someone who feels stuck to really hear when they hear that?
00:50:22
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So when you're stuck, it's just a part of you that is one it's misaligned. you can um unstick yourself. Part of it is what limiting beliefs do you have? What limiting beliefs are here? Your soul's trying to get your attention.
00:50:36
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Your soul's trying to tell you, let you know, hey, I'm stuck because it's trying to get your attention to heal and change. What limiting belief do you have? Because everybody kind of comes to you with like stuck.
00:50:48
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So generalized, right? I'm stuck. Stuck in whatever aspect of your life. Let's start with one point and then I can give you an example. Right. But when they're stuck, let's just say it's like related to work, my career. i can't get out of this. I don't know how to change this. And I just don't know what direction to go. i hear that a lot. i don't know what direction to go. i need somebody to tell me. I'm like, need someone to tell you.
00:51:08
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We need to get you in touch with yourself so that you know that you're making a soul aligned direction. Usually when someone's stuck is like the wounded aspect is coming in and stopping them.
00:51:19
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Don't know what to go. Don't know what direction. They're confused. But it really generally it's their soul trying to get their attention to make a change. I always liken the wounded aspect is like the you know teenager in the car that's driving the car crazy and off the road and going all these different directions. I'm like, no, the soul needs to be driving the car. We throw the teenager in the back you know the back seat. They still have a ride. We're still going to give them a ride.
00:51:43
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But they don't get to navigate and steer the car anymore. We got to make it feel safe. And with a lot of people that are stuck, it's because they just don't know what path and direction to go anymore. They're just so confused. It's really, I believe is a part of their soul trying to call it to them to awaken.
00:52:00
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And they might just find it's a career. Everybody goes their finances first. Everybody goes their finances. They don't want to dive into the other deeper stuff, but they're going to finances. So what one area you stuck in your career and finances that you can shift and change. Cause you can, every limiting belief can be shifted and change.
00:52:18
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Energy healing helps because if we're going to go and I go into past lives, I'll go into your Akashic records. We'll go in and grab maybe bits and pieces of you that you need to have retrieved that are lost, shattered off, fractured off.
00:52:31
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All those things help you to figure out how to get unstuck. Those are your when you're fractured off. Those are your memories. That's your knowledge. That's your bits and pieces. It's part of you that needs to come back in to be whole, to get unstuck and to figure out what is your sole purpose.
00:52:45
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What is your highest sole mission? And it always guide and direct you, but everybody's looking for something outside of them. Call me. What do I need? need to be fixed. What do I need? Right? I'm sure you guys see that all the time.
00:52:58
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Yeah. I love that you said too, that people start often with their career because career is so often, you know, we are in the survival mode in our lives. We have to make the money to be able to pay the bills, to be able to live. And so that's where people focus so much on. But I've found that your career is often just a magnification of the patterns that you're living in your life.
00:53:19
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It's not really about the career. It's about who you are
Healing Personal and Planetary Wounds
00:53:22
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everywhere. And your career just magnifies that often. So what would you say, and people that are starting to recognize these own patterns in their life, what is the first step that they can take to start changing them?
00:53:35
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So um you can look at everything that's right away, career, job, what is what is it about your job you don't like? Start asking yourself questions. Who's triggering at your job? What is your job making you feel like I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy? Something in the job is going to mirror to you all your wounds.
00:53:54
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I have a person that's actually looking for a job, client of mine right now, and most of them can get in and out and learn this really quickly, but your job is going to present to you many mirrors.
00:54:07
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that if you're willing to look at those, look at them honestly. Don't just try to go, it's ah they always go into victim mode. Oh, well, they're doing this and I'm not getting this. I'm like, no, no, no. We need to go right into why is this showing up? Why is this new potential job showing up that was like an old one?
00:54:28
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You were exposed to, you know, something that could have been harming your health. Again, we got to look inside. Where are we going to go deep into that? Another thing could just be like, well, they're just not looking at my age.
00:54:42
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Okay, that's another repeat pattern. It's your age, but there are many people that can be employed. What do you have that's valuable? We gotta start looking at all that, but we gotta start figuring out really where do you just don't feel worthy. And it's all gonna come down to worthiness. I'm gonna tell you so many times when somebody can't get out of a job, I just had another woman that came in the other day and she was like, I know there's a job position here and it's perfect for me, but i don't I'm not going for it.
00:55:06
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And I said, why? And she said, i don't know. And I just said to her, I go, I can guarantee it's because there's something inside that says I'm not worthy enough to get that. um I'm not worthy enough to get that job. Let's work on that.
00:55:19
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It always boils down to some level of worthiness where you were, you know, job represents authority figures too, who's going to hire you. Where do I validate myself, my income, all these things? Well, where did that also come in from the childhood that's got you know, kind of start being worked on that you can step into a higher role or higher capacity or something else that you, I look at like this, you're going for the same job. I have this one woman that's going for the same job that she used to have. She didn't like, why, why are we not willing to step out? I was like, how about this?
00:55:54
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Let's work on. not doing that job and stepping into what you really want and bringing that in now with no excuses, no victim consciousness. How about that? And she was like, okay, how do we do that?
00:56:09
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yeah Let's
Rapid Fire Questions with Jillian
00:56:11
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just start. And I have i have worked with so many of my clients on the rewiring and it is so profound. I'm telling you, when they start rewiring, what it does, even with the energy healing, it just solidifies it quicker.
00:56:21
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You're consciously participating with me. I'm not doing all the work. You're not coming to me and I'm doing all the work. And I'm, you know, my job is to open up the floodgates and get you to start thinking, right? Start coaching you into understanding where is this blind spot I can't see.
00:56:34
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Your job is to come on board with me and do the work. I can't do it all. And I keep telling her everybody I can't do this work. So you have to join in. And once you do that, I'm telling you all these little things they just start really quickly aligning somebody and they can shift and change and see where maybe I could get that job. Oh yeah, maybe I could step out of my career path.
00:56:55
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Maybe I could ask for more money, whatever it is, but they don't even wanna work at you know their their their own personal stuff sometimes. It's the money, it's the finances, where their self-worth It's always about worthiness.
00:57:09
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I love that we're talking about jobs and career. While I'm listening you, I'm reminded of this quote from Panache Desai. He was on an Oprah interview one time and he said, your job is the way through which you get to love people.
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And I thought, as I've thought about that that through the years, I thought your job is also the way that you get to love yourself. And that is like the key to me that changed everything between getting to love yourself through your job and people love people through your job. If we all looked at that a little differently as our jobs, it would change the whole world. But I really find all of this that you're talking about, your job is the way that you find out how you much you love yourself. So I love that. just wanted to share that quote.
00:57:52
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Yeah. And that reminds me, too, of, you know, to your point. um You know, when you look at service work, everybody everybody's doing a service, everyone's forming a service to people, right?
00:58:03
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How do we do that doing at the best capacity of our light? Not doing it half-assed, not coming in just going, I'm just doing my job, I'm giving you your work, I'm doing what you asked me to, but like, what about up-leveling and helping somebody in a much deeper level that they didn't even know that they needed help with? And then you get to shine your light and feel so good, right? It's about feeling so good about yourself, which is,
00:58:28
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giving them self-worth, helping them, providing that service, you feel good and worthy about it. And no matter what job that is, you can do that, whether that be an uplifting story or whatever. But I think everybody just forgets that like we are here connecting with each other, servicing, each just not just a job.
00:58:45
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Like, it's not just a job. I hate that word job, right? It's a job. We are here providing a service to each other. And how do we connect on that level that we can connect deeper and not so superficial? I feel like people are just so superficial in their job.
00:59:02
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I love this because there is a, I had a friend who They worked at McDonald's and they were like, my drive-through lane, people know when i'm I'm in because I always make sure the fries are hot and extra full.
Final Thoughts and Embracing Superpowers
00:59:14
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And like, that was the way that she loved people. It didn't have to be anything grand, but she knew that everything that she did, whether it was people coming through the drive-through lane and it wasn't just about the fries, they remembered her, they remembered her personality. And the fries were just a magnification of that. But whatever you do, you can do it to the fullest extent of who you are, whether that's working in the drive-through or helping people find their purpose or life or any of it. It's all like you said, service. And it's all the way we get to love people and ourselves.
00:59:46
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Yeah. So, so true. So what kind of human do you think people are capable of becoming? Once they step out of that fear-based programming and they really do this work fully.
01:00:01
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I mean, you can really become your unlimited potential, whatever you want to create. That's really it. I mean, the fears are what's stopping you from that dream that you had. and you know how everybody talks about when they get older, like, what are your regrets?
01:00:16
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It's the fears that they stop themselves from doing something. You can do that, but there's a wound or something that's stopping you. And you can become your unlimited attention. You can become whatever you want.
01:00:29
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I love how my mom used to always say this to me, you can do whatever you want. But then there was some limiting aspect of it that was like, okay, I got this mindset. I've always had that mindset and I've always believed in that mindset.
01:00:40
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But there could be this little glitchy thing back here that's kind of stopping you. You get rid of that glitchy stuff, you can become whatever you want. Within reason, let's just let's just say within reason. If we've got physical disabilities in certain things, we're not gonna be you know doing some things, but we know within physical disabilities, we can be downhill skiing and doing all kinds of crazy. So there is no limitation when you start taking that away, because you will find a way.
01:01:07
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to do what it is you want, right? And I think what we're just all sitting here doing is not living to our fullest capacity, because we're afraid, we don't think we can accomplish it, somebody's not supporting us, right? that Or we just never felt like we were supported that we can even go there and believe in unlimited potential. But I do believe that every single one of us, when we shine our light, because that's what light is, it's source, getting rid of all that absent light, right? The darkness,
01:01:34
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you will be able to go into your unlimited potential. And whatever it is that your soul came here to do, only you know that. It's inside. And you have to discover that. Could be what the wounded part might say to you, I want to be a rock star.
01:01:48
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And then at the end, you're like, no, i don't really want to be rock star. That was my wounded part. But I do want to do this. And then I do want to achieve that. I do believe that everybody has the potential to be unlimited and whatever it is they came here to do.
01:02:05
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Absolutely. So why do you think this conversation matters right now in this season of humanity and our growth? I think that, you know, people are just so stuck right now. I see it all the time where they feel helpless.
01:02:24
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They don't feel like they have the opportunity to change and shift. I feel like that's going back to that victim consciousness, right? um i don't want to use that term victim consciousness directly to some people though, because then they're like, I'm not a victim.
01:02:37
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And they instantly get defensive. So you kind of look at it as like, where do people really need help right now shifting and changing, coming back into their heart? The key is the heart with everything. If we can't connect here, we cannot be one with everything in the universe. We cannot be one with each other. We cannot make effective change and shift in this planet that we need. We've got so much political uprising and things that are shifting, right? We have so much religious aspect. There's all these different things shifting and changing and within our globe. And our globe, our Mother Earth, really needs all of us to kind of awaken and go, where have we polluted her? Where are we polluting ourselves? How are we killing ourselves? All these cancers. Cancer is on the rise, right? My husband passed away from cancer.
01:03:19
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um And it it had to do with um you know something he was taking inside. But we have airborne pollutants that we're all exposed to. We are all exposed to the same things that are leading to our cancers and our illness. And if we don't start to change and shift our mind, our planet, the physicality of things, our spirituality, we are mind, body and spirit, then we're just going to go into a self-destructive space. And we all need to step out of that and go, what is our part? What is our role? how What do we need? How can we fulfill? How can I feel and be my greatest? And what is my role in that?
01:03:52
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And I feel like everybody needs purpose. Without purpose, you're just like in utter chaos running all over in struggle mode. I feel like people are in struggle mode. Yeah. Like I just, I see so many people on constant struggle mode. We need to get out of struggle mode and into calmness for health. But also what did you come here to bring to the planet? What what do you have to offer that we need right now that only you can uniquely do?
01:04:19
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Right? Only your voice, your experiences, all your things. We all have that. And I believe that everybody needs to take part of that. But we got to get out of struggle in the fact that we we all feel separate from each other. i know we're separate physical bodies doing our own separate things.
01:04:33
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But until we can see that likeness, right, we we're just not going to change this planet. And we all need to change this planet together. It's never going to be one. That makes total sense.
01:04:45
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Jillian, at the end of every interview, um we like to ask a the same 10 rapid fire questions that are inspired by the Bernard bernard Pivot Questionnaire. So it's not really meant to be a thinker. It's meant to be more of a speak whatever comes to mind. And sometimes the answers give us even a little deeper understanding of who you are and what you're up to.
01:05:09
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You game?
01:05:11
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All right. hi So the first question is, what is your favorite word?
01:05:20
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Divine intelligence. Oh, I didn't even think that. i was That's two words, though. Does that count, divine? That works. You're you're allowed to have two. but Good answer.
01:05:32
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Accepted. What's your least favorite word or words?
01:05:39
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Friction.
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That's a good one. What turns you on spiritually, emotionally, spiritually or emotionally? Sound, music, light codes so much.
01:05:58
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Sound and music. Definitely light codes though for me, because I can see light codes coming in. So to me, when I see them, I'm just like, I'm inspired.
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What turns you off?
01:06:17
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negative thinking, um, from any, anybody that really comes in, somebody that just wants to start blowing all their negativity at you. And just not being really emotionally available to it and being authentically themselves and wanting to see that just spewing that negativity out. Like what's that dinosaur that spits everywhere.
01:06:39
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I don't know what that sounds like. A terrible dinosaur. or massive park It's the one that goes in and he's getting into the Jeep and he just sort of spits all over the guy. That dinosaur. That's what, that's how I see like people with all that negativity that there's coming out of their mouth. i'm just like, Oh, you just spit all your junk at me.
01:06:57
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I feel that. No bueno. but What sound or noise do you love? Uh, Sound of laughter, but also the sound of my cat and his weird noises, the purring of a cat. I love felines.
01:07:17
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Channel a lot of animal spirits too, but I love the sound of the purr. But laughter, comedy, laughter that is always so joyful.
01:07:29
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What sound or noise do you not love?
01:07:34
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I can think of tons. First one, car brakes, slamming on car brakes, screeching noises.
01:07:44
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What's your favorite curse word? Oh, yes. Motherfucker. I had a friend that she was around construction workers all the time and she would always come in and she'd go, motherfucker.
01:07:59
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This had so much profoundness with the two combined, right? Then just, fuck. yes It extends the word. I like it. More syllables.
01:08:12
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What profession other than your own would you like to attempt to?
01:08:18
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So I'm super fascinated with alien stuff and how our government can, you know, all cover up and conspiracies around that. So anyone in the military that could be, you know, secret service, getting to the deep diving of what's been, like i mean, we all know there's so many lies, but really diving deeper than what even has been exposed that I've even known and learned from these people, it would be cool, right?
01:08:47
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that What profession would you not like to do? Morgue. Don't want to work in a morgue.
01:08:59
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Good answer. Anything in the morgue. I don't even care if it is the ah person that's doing the embalming, nothing in the funeral home business or a morgue. Too many dead people and too much...
01:09:15
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oh
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If heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates?
01:09:26
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You belong.
01:09:29
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You belong here. And you are one with all. You know, that's really funny that you guys have these questions and it's like a knee-jerk response, right? I would have probably guessed I would have said, you're home.
01:09:44
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But it's definitely you belong.
01:09:49
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I love that. And then one final question to wrap up your episode, Jillian. What does don't trip on your cape mean to you? o
01:10:01
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You know, I feel like we all trip on our cape. I've tripped on my cape my whole life. um I feel like don't tripping on your cape means even if you do trip on your cape, just get up and keep going. Just keep keep get up and keep going, kind of like AdLib, because we're going to trip on our cape. It's just going to happen.
01:10:20
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We don't want to. We don't want to make fools of ourselves. But I think if you just pick yourself back up, make fun of it, brush it all off, and just keep going forward, you're going to be heading in the right direction.
01:10:32
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But looking back and worrying about tripping on your cape is just going to bring in more negativity about tripping on your cape. You're gonna make mistakes. Don't worry about it. You're going make mistakes.
01:10:43
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Trip on it. Go. Adlib. It's like improv. Yes, and pick yourself up and go figure it out. It's perfect. he love that Thank you so much for being with us today. We've loved having you and getting all your insight and all of your stories and everything. We really appreciate having you with us.
01:11:05
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Thank you for having me. This was so much fun. Even for me, it's very, um you know, being asked questions I just wouldn't even think of. It's it's it's very enlightening for me, too, where I kind of go on my brain.
01:11:21
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So thank you for having me. I think you you really hit the nail on the head too. When we share our stories, we absolutely are giving other people opportunities to reflect and connect.
01:11:34
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But I think having a platform for us to share our stories also helps us reconnect with different aspects of our own experience that maybe we wouldn't have had the opportunity to do. So yeah, for sure.
01:11:47
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Thanks again for being here. much Thank you. Thank you. and thank you to our Audiences will. Until next time, don't trip on your cake. We'll see you then. Bye.
01:12:00
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01:12:15
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