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E07: Date With Dad, Part 1
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This is the first of what we hope to be a series we’ll mix into our episodes: sitting down for “speed dating” questions with our Dad.
Some of the questions pertain to brain cancer, many are broad questions about life, and just as many are silly and meaningless — but still fun to hear his answers on them all. We invite you to listen to our laughter, and we apologize for the *really bad audio* during portions of this episode. We’re not perfect (shocking, we know).
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Transcript
Introduction and Technical Note
00:00:00
Speaker
Hey, everyone. Quick message from the desk of Lucy, aka the editor. Just wanted to say that in this episode, the audio is a little muddled from 1020 to 1304. So if you want to know what they're saying, I'd hop over to YouTube or watch this on Spotify playback. Thanks. Sorry.
New Series Introduction: 'Date with Dad'
00:00:27
Speaker
All right, back in the stew with a special guest. The most special guest. The specialist guest. We're gonna do something a little different and today is the first of what maybe will become a series called Date with Dad where we fire off dinner date style questions and just learn a little bit more about you. Could be the last.
00:00:48
Speaker
It's not gonna be the last date, right? No, not because of where I'm at, but because... Oh, if it's us. Yeah, that's what I was saying. Well, we're trying something new. Okay, let's do it. Let's do it. Because we feel like the people want to hear more about you, so what better way to ask than speed dating? Yeah, this is our speed dating format. It's quick. You may want to ask the people what's wrong with them, but that's fine. Inspired by a book of 3,000 questions that Hailey got for our dad,
00:01:17
Speaker
um Some of them are super weird, but some of them are interesting. so Most of them are odd, but I mean if you're doing something to the caliber of 3,000, I feel like there's got to be some oddballs in there, you know? We're gonna kick it off. Do you have anything you want to say before we kick it off? No. Okay. Perfect. Question number one.
Nostalgic Jingles and Comedic Parodies
00:01:36
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Yes. What slogan or jingle got stuck in your head forever? Oh gosh.
00:01:41
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We were kids. There were so many jingles. That's sort of what commercials were. and I loved all of them because I thought it was hilarious. I don't know. I'm trying to think. A spoonful makes a mugful when it's Maxim. Always stayed in my head because it's just stupid. I don't know what one. Yeah. but It's like for instant instant coffee. is it Can you sing it? A spoonful makes a mugful when it's Maxim.
00:02:03
Speaker
Oh, okay. Yeah. There was a comedian named Kevin Meaney who used to, that was a bit he did. He said, spoonful makes a mug for when it's maxim big shit. You know, it's like, well, it's funny because when I, when you said that, I actually did think it was for a laxative of some sorts. My brain went to like mirror locks. I don't know why. It's like spoonful. I heard like spoonful, max, maxim, mirror, lax, lax. I don't know.
00:02:30
Speaker
I got it. I got you. Anyway. Sorry, that was the first question. Go ahead. No, you always, I feel like the one that reminds me, that gets stuck in my head, that reminds me of you, is gotta go to Mo's. Every time I pass Modell's, that's what I think of. I think they're out of business. Yeah, so I guess I don't pass them that often. But every now and then on the highway, I see a sign, like an old sign.
00:02:49
Speaker
Or, um, what was the, at the ballpark, we always had the little, oop, that one called a windshield better call the glass doctor. Call the glass doctor to fix your pain. And great, now we've sung on. Well, there's something funny about all those things, but then sometimes they're not funny. Is that why you got into advertising to make your own jingles? No.
00:03:11
Speaker
I thought I might have done something there. It's good to clear that up. Good question. Okay, next.
Storytelling in Music: Past vs Present
00:03:19
Speaker
In your opinion, is anything lacking from music today? That's a good question. Yeah, completely. I think storytelling is lacking. And that was all we, you know, when we were kids, that was when we were kids. Oh my God, I'm already sick of that.
00:03:33
Speaker
It was just like everything told a story. It was interesting. The music was great. The musicianship was great. And now it's not. I mean, the musicianship is fine, but there's no, I'm sure the people coming out of the woodwork to argue this, but it just doesn't seem like there's a lot of storytelling. No, I actually agree with you. I think that's why I like your taste of music and some of the music that you like, because I remember it because it's meaningful, you know, where now it's sort of, and when we listen to a variety of music now, I think that industry is just so oversaturated. But yeah, it's definitely more about like a beat and a vibe than a message and a story, I think. which Which is fine. But I just, in answer to the question, definitely that's what's missing for me. What's music? it musicship Musicianship? Yeah. The ability to play well. Oh, like artistry. Gotcha. Ritomi Quad is also missing from music today. aren
00:04:24
Speaker
This is a good storyteller. Okay. i do say I will say, of all industries, I think that rap probably tells the best stories. Now. Sometimes. Sometimes. Yeah. It depends. It really depends. But like, and it's the most like poetic in my opinion. Well, the only Taylor Swift album that I really liked, I'm sure that will get a lot of hate, but the only one that I really liked was it was um the Cardigan one because I like, like, Betty tells a story. The Cardigan one, Folklore?
00:04:48
Speaker
Just want me to get out of the way. Okay. This is sort of a, I don't like the way this is phrased. However, it is
Last Meal Preferences: Omakase Sushi
00:04:55
Speaker
a good question. Um, if you were on death row, what would your last meal be? Or we could just say, no, that's fine. Okay. Well, we do this one at dinner as we do. It's a good, it's like, we do like appetizer drink on tray dessert, but you can answer it however you want. Price sushi. That's all.
00:05:11
Speaker
Like omakase, nagiri. Omakase where someone else is deciding for me, that's fine. Like chefs omakase. That's mine too. yeah What would you prefer an appetizer? It's up to the chef. You're just going to defer to someone else for your, cause you don't like, or like you don't like making decisions with restaurants. You're like when they just bring it out. I just can't read the menu. Cause it's dark or cause you don't have your glasses. Both. I went to a restaurant once and they had like the light and a magnifying glass and I thought about you and mom.
00:05:40
Speaker
That's pathetic. Was it like a senior citizen restaurant? Probably.
Unendorsed Clothing Line for Non-Sponsored Athletes
00:05:45
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It was at 5 p.m.? I thought it was pretty early. If you were going to start your own clothing line, what would you name it? That's interesting.
00:05:53
Speaker
It is interesting. Well, I did just at the beginning of it right now. It's called Unendorsed, and it's sort of a sportswear line for everyone who's not sponsored by Nike, Adidas, or New Balance. it's for the It's for people who are sort of athletes, but not on the level that they would get sponsored. Like you? Yeah. like It's like an athletic brand for Narfs.
00:06:17
Speaker
What's Narps? Non-athletic, regular person. It's like at Colgate, like, Emma and I were Narps. Yeah, we didn't play sports, so we were Narps. Interesting. the um The impetus for Unendorsed was, it's for people that make noise when they get out of the car at the golf course. Like, oh! like So you? Yeah! It is for him. He's the demo.
00:06:39
Speaker
Um, what merch do you have? Hats and shirts. I should have worn one. I'm sorry. I didn't know that was part of the- We will. We'll be decked out in the next episode. Actually, it's my favorite hat that I own. Really? You do wear it all the time. I wear it all the time. I don't really look good in those types of hats, but I do enjoy. Maybe you could make it blue. Or a bucket hat for you. Yes, I love a bucket hat. Or a raspberry beret. Raspberry beret. Not what I expected, but thanks. Really? What do you expect when you sing that to us? I just expect- I didn't move on.
00:07:12
Speaker
my We're done. Okay, so can you do this one because I can't. Oh, no, you but you have to read that one. Um, I have a problem with certain words where I can't pronounce them. And one of these words is a person's name and also a drink. And it's in this question, which I i think... What can't you pronoun pronounce? I don't know. I guess i get really in my head. I think Emma chose this specifically to mess with me. She did. I'm going to try really hard. Bear with me, everyone. Do... It's going great so far. Do you know what in
00:07:52
Speaker
And do you like it? Wait, translation. Arnold Palmer. Arnold. This is just becoming a different show. Arnold. I did it. I do. I do like Arnold Palmer's and they are lemonade, nice tea. Do you like yours a certain ratio? More tea than lemonade. Like 70, 30, 60. Sure, 70, 30 is fine. Maybe like 65. Well, you used to brew it up and sell it. and then arnoldcha
00:08:23
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What, something like that? Like Nestle did? We had, no, Coke did. We had a mall park board, yeah. That's a good name. That's, well, I grew up thinking that you invented the drink. I told people. Yeah, same. So, like, we would go out and get an Arnold partner, and I'd be like, oh my, like, my dad did that. Why do you mean that? Did people get up and leave for dinner? No, that was when Haley couldn't say Arnold. Well, no, I would say, can I have a half iced tea, half lemonade? And they'd say, did you mean that? And I would say, yes.
00:08:52
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jesus Why do you think you can't sit in there? I think like I got in my head and now I think it's sort of a bit like I can if I was leaving your chases. The only thing you can't say is Arnold Palmer and mulled wine. Yeah. Mulled. I think this is a whole different bit. Okay.
Broadway Memories: 'Chicago' and More
00:09:07
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What is your favorite Broadway show or one that you want to see? Favorite's probably a better question. What's your favorite Broadway show? From the past or now? Yeah. When I was a kid, we used to go to Broadway shows every year. My parents used to take us.
00:09:19
Speaker
um and I think when I was probably, I don't know how old I was, but I was young for the show was Chicago. And so I was enthralled by that because there were half naked women running around the stage and people singing. And I was like, Oh my God, I guess I like this stuff. I guess I'm not either. Yeah, because I didn't have a big interest in it. Um, but it was amazing. It was cool and it captured my attention. So that's what I would say.
00:09:46
Speaker
Is there anything that you want to see that's out now? Cats? Remember Lucy's production of Cats? Oh, when the mic went down her pants, yeah. Well, that was cute. It was really great. A middle school production of Cats, Lucy's microphone. She's got to cut this. Her microphone fell
00:10:13
Speaker
It was, I don't know what the musical's about because that's all I focused on. I could not. I was losing it. It's going great. Who would call you their biggest cheerleader?
Family Support: Biggest Cheerleaders
00:10:22
Speaker
Who would call me their biggest cheerleader? Probably the three of you guys, right? Yeah, I think definitely. Yeah, I don't know who else I root for. I mean, I'm not against anyone. I hope your mother would, but I'm not sure about that. But I think certainly you girls. Yeah, I mean, I am. You totally are. Yeah, so that would be accurate.
00:10:43
Speaker
Who do you think is your biggest cheer? You guys and your mommy. Yeah, I think we all lift each other up in ways that we need to and with the help of us. Yeah, I think you taught us to just have self-confidence, support ourselves support herself individually, and support ourselves as sisters, as friends, as individuals and whatever we're doing. But I think we definitely know that from you. You always committing us to do great things because you genuinely thought we could do great things. Whether we kind of cut off, we'll see. But I think the only reason that I think I can even do anything like this and be moderately okay at it is because you fuel us to have that wealth off of things. Well, that's why I don't want to agree because I think we can do anything for you. People can do these guys.
00:11:34
Speaker
You've got to believe in yourself and you've got to put the effort in hiding. That's how it works. Yeah, I think you showed us that pathway. You were you can do this, you guys are funny, and I don't know, it and every person. I'm not talking specifically about this, because it's more just for fun. But in work, in life, you've always sort of pushed us to just be as good as we can be because you believed that we could be, not because you were trying to be a drill center.
00:12:01
Speaker
That's great. I mean, that's fulfilling. That's awesome. I think even like, I mean, I don't know if you've talked about this a little bit, but like, mom also said like that too, but you almost, like, at least probably, I'm thinking about the colors, for instance. You were like, use, ah according to you, like, I think about it.
00:12:21
Speaker
Oh, but s same with me, and I definitely couldn't. Yes, I couldn't. That's not true. I know, but. But, but Mom was like, like, that was like a pie here, like, you got it, like, you mouse taking a mom that takes me to the side of the place. It's a rash. I'm like, okay. So we needed the back and forth. But like, you, and it wasn't false. Like, you just genuinely were there with like pom-poms and a tutu on and cheering for us. Not a tutu.
00:12:46
Speaker
Sorry, it's a short skirt and a crop top. Oh, what's that again? I don't know, I never seen you. Well, let's just go on something really, really. No, you were like, oh, I want you to go toward Dartmouth. We should tour Stanford. It's like Stanford. Oh, God, I can't even say it. I was saying Stanford. That would have made more sense. But no, I think, yeah, just your belief in us No, made but you... us do things and made us feel like we could do things. And that was so cute. Well, it's great. It turned out good. It gave us confidence and made more sense.
00:13:25
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but you know what we're a good luck everyone needs ango um What do you think was your parents greatest sacrifice? Wow, that's good questions. They were, I mean, they were as supportive as as any parents could be in that era, long ago, far away. ah I think that, you know, they sent me to good schools, they tried to encourage me as best they could. They're, you know,
00:13:52
Speaker
They supported sports events. They showed up from some of them, you know, but it's different when I say some of them, it's different now. When you guys were kids, we showed up for everything. Every single one. Yeah. Yeah. I think that that is universal for people in our generation. I think it was more common, but I think you guys made a stupendous effort.
00:14:11
Speaker
Yeah, that was very specific to, like, not everyone's parents were there. They're from the 30 p.m. field hockey games where some of us were not even getting field down, but you were always there. Well, maybe it was being involved and being there generationally was more common, but I still think it's not like the status quo was not like you guys made an effort and did something because... Oh, that's nice. I'm getting all the good questions. Have you ever been diagnosed with something that's
Coping with GBM Diagnosis and Family Future
00:14:34
Speaker
challenged you? If so, what? Why did you flag that one? We can skip it.
00:14:40
Speaker
No, it's fine. Obviously, where we are now, being diagnosed with GBM has obviously challenged all of us. I think the challenge for me is obviously it's sort of scripted. We've seen the end of the movie. But for me, the biggest issue is thinking of you guys all, you know, going forward with your lives and sadly having a memory instead of a real dad ring. It's tough. that So yes, that would be the challenge. And the reason that we're doing this stuff Yeah, no, sorry. That was a weird question to throw in. But I don't know, it sort of ties all of this together. I'm gonna go again. yeah if I was just gonna say, got short hand who's one female role model
Celebrating Role Models: Wife as Inspiration
00:15:19
Speaker
in your life? They can be younger. And it's hard to make these statements because they're so trite. But obviously, your mother is because ah just I just cannot imagine a better mother raising three girls than her. And
00:15:35
Speaker
you know, it made me look good, which is hard to do. And and she was the same in handling everything. You know, I was working. I wasn't just at 330 Field Hockey Games, not understanding what I was watching, but um she just made everything in all our lives smooth and work well and fun. And silly. Yeah. Well, so so she would be it. I think she's my number one female role model as well. I like Jennifer Lawrence too, but I mean,
00:16:04
Speaker
and see for your budding and acting career I don't really know her. so he I say it's your mom. That's a really good answer.
Naming Children: Challenges and Stories
00:16:12
Speaker
Hailey, read the last question on the page. No! What is your favorite girl's name beginning with the letter E? Say Esmeralda. That's insane. Why is that a question? I don't know whether or not I had to flag it. I wrote the book. No, obviously we love all your names and love you guys. And that was, it's easy, you know. I'm really happy with the names that you picked up. I do think you named us very well. I also think it sounds really good together, which is awesome. Yeah. And then like middle names, significant middle names for the family that went with the first names. Like you guys did a really good job with that. Did you have a lot of say in it or was mom driving most of it? No, no, no. We talked about all of it. It was a, you know, those are big decisions for young people, which is what we were kind of younger than. It was a co naming discussion.
00:17:02
Speaker
I remember you being in the middle of Hailey and Hannah for Hailey. Like, I remember being five or however, five, yeah. And one of you asked my opinion on it, I think. I was like, they were Lola? I don't know. I could be a cute Lola. You would have been a cute Lola, but I liked you as a Hailey. I know, you and me all.
00:17:22
Speaker
but That is interesting to know if you guys, if you would say or not, I've never thought about that because I feel like I always think about there's this thing people say where they're like, you don't realize how many people you dislike until you've heard her name your child. Oh, yeah. And it's like, some of that's Oh, let's name her. Um, give me an Esmeralda. Let's name her Esmeralda and your spouse might be like, Oh my gosh, you know, like the girl that bullied me in high school she has't relevant or oh I had a dog named that and they died like it's like so yeah no it's but that someone always has something to say about it like I'm just like that my future husband will want to name our child Mulenis and like that was the name of my first fish so we can't do that
00:18:01
Speaker
odds of that happening are high. So probably that's a first aid question. Would you name our future daughter? All of a sudden, would you flush her down the toilet like you did with your no lens? No, that was a different. I have a I have a serious we flushed my one roosie. Sunshine. Sunshine. As this is. Is is Mulanis a girl's name or is it gender neutral? Gender neutral. Okay. I always pictured Mulanis as a dude. Oh, I don't I don't think Mulanis really like decided.
00:18:30
Speaker
Great. That's really good for Milanes. I remember if I needed to be picked up from practice or school or something, and I needed to be picked up at three, I would tell you that I needed to be picked up at three thirty because then you would
Managing Time: Lateness, Creativity, and Optimism
00:18:44
Speaker
be there at three. Or maybe I only did a variable of fifteen minutes yeah i was fifteen minutes. I would tell you pick up was three fifteen because then you'd be there at three, and I would tell mom that pick up was two forty five because then she would be there at three.
00:18:55
Speaker
Yeah, there's nothing wrong with her showing up. No, it just different approach. Yeah, hi I also run late. Who knows how I'll run a household but like I 30 minutes late. I did read the or maybe it was a TikTok. It was a TikTok. I saw this recently that people who are consistently late are more creative. No, I saw a TikTok that said that people who are late all the time are more optimistic. Like, you think that the subway is going to be running on time. And you think that you can make it two minutes faster than Google Maps tells it. Like, you don't expect things to get in your way and cause chaos, so you're not, which you should. Like, you should account for things that could go wrong wrong. But if you're an optimist and you're not thinking things will go wrong, then why would you add extra time? And that's sort of always my problem, is like, I don't add, I don't allocate for more time, and then like, I'm 20 minutes late because the subway got installed.
00:19:45
Speaker
Do you think you're an optimist? I think I'm more like, I don't think I'm shed in the clouds, but I think I'm more that than I am an optimist. I think I'm like, oh, la, la, la, like nothing will go. It'll all work out. Yeah. And not because I believe in a higher power of when I associate optimism with really thinking like everything's meant to be how it is, like everything.
00:20:06
Speaker
And I don't think that I think that. I just, I don't think that bad stuff's really, I actually, this is a tangent now, but I do, I always did feel like impending doom. Like I felt like bad, really bad things were always going to happen, but I don't think that inconvenient things are going to happen. like I just think I'll go along my day and I won't get trapped somewhere I won't get stuck somewhere and if I do like then I'll have an excuse of why I was late. Yeah it's so interesting because I operate a lot more like you where I but my it's not that I'm always early I just am always freaked out about being late.
00:20:41
Speaker
Like I have so much anxiety for a travel day. I said the other day, I told one of my friends, cause I was freaking out about like getting our train home to Austin. And I was like, my body can't tell the difference between being like held at gunpoint and a travel day. And it can't, like I'm all day, like I've forgotten leaving like anxious, like dripping sweat about my train. That's at two 29 and I'm waking up at five in the morning being like, like I'm obviously not sleeping until three. Like this is insane.
00:21:09
Speaker
That's crazy. it's great I used to be like that. It's fueled by being afraid of being late. I will say moving to New York and being constantly a couple minutes late because of the subway, even when you account, has helped me a little. Like I would never be late for like something important. But if I'm a little late to a dinner or like late to a friend's house, it's fine.
00:21:26
Speaker
Yes. I mean, being late has nothing to do with anyone else's judgment. and It's just a matter of your own comfort, I think. But that's for me. I don't know. Yeah. well Well, I get super stressed. I just don't do anything to remedy it. Which is crazy. Yeah, no I know. I know. Like, I'll get super stressed and I'll be there 30 minutes early and be like, oh, I got stressed. I don't have a reason.
00:21:43
Speaker
I will be so stressed for like hours and hours and hours and I'll get there and off the run to the train. it Like it doesn't, I don't know. I don't know why I do that. Me neither. It stresses me out. You were one time 30 minutes late to our dinner date and it looked like someone stood me out. I'm really sorry. I apologize. It was really, and then I think I stayed, so. No, we split that one. We only have a couple left. Thank God. Oh, bummer. here Here's one. Question, 2094. What is one thing that you wish you knew about your grandparents?
00:22:13
Speaker
yeah I mean, I wish I knew more about their childhoods because they were you know they grew up in the beginning of the 19th century. I don't know too too much about what their childhoods were like in the world wars rewards all kinds of stuff going on. I think that's all that pops to mind. Or meeting their parents would have been interesting. Within reason, I'm glad I had a relationship with both sets of my grandparents. That was kind of cool.
00:22:35
Speaker
Yeah, I feel that way about our grandparents. I always, with yours specifically, because we did meet some on mom's side from great grandparents. They have crazy longevity genes. They do. But um with your, I always, always really wanted to meet your parents' parents because they spoke so fondly of them, especially Papa. He would show me pictures of his mom and dad and like tear up at the age of 80. But he really, it's still like, he cared so much about them. And you could tell that he treasured them and respected them. And it really made me want to know more about them.
00:23:05
Speaker
But i feel like you also gave us good stories about them so you do yeah mean much they were a big part of our life which is kind of i mean it's not unusual but was but was's interesting because you can put more pieces together having more of their backstory. Yeah, it makes other people make sense. Like I see a lot of grandma pop up in you, but I also see a lot of them not in you that I think you ah took on certain traits or became a certain way sort of as a response to some of their stuff that maybe you didn't like as much. Do you know what I'm trying to say? No, of course, it's like, you know, a certain amount of recovery and a certain amount of embracing. Yeah, yeah, complete this thought.
Appreciating Life Amid Health Challenges
00:23:46
Speaker
Life is too short. So you need to stop and
00:23:49
Speaker
ah Be grateful for what's going on every day and and for what you have. I think, you know, I've obviously been learning that in the last couple of months because we're in a different situation about life ending or you have to think about it much more clearly. And i I think being appreciative, you know, your mother's always tried that and taught me to appreciate what's in front of us and what we do every day. And I was never, ever good at that. I was always sort of looking ahead to the next thing. So I've definitely learned a lot of that.
00:24:19
Speaker
I so expected you to say something and inappropriate. Same. Like stop and I don't know, I don't know, but it involved something gross. Wow. I mean, I'm not surprised by that, but I would never quite say it, but I'm not surprised that you would assume.
00:24:33
Speaker
No, I think that's why I giggled at the beginning of the question. But no, I think that's such a good answer. So it I think we're all sort of doing the same thing, just taking it day by day and being grateful for what we have. And I said this to you the other day, like, it's it feels silly to try to find silver linions in this situation. But one of them is like, we would we spend so much more time with you now knowing that the time is limited.
00:24:56
Speaker
So yeah, we're going to miss out. I mean, hopefully, you know, but it appears that we will miss out on what we thought we would have in terms of years down the road. But like, Daly and Lucy and I are here a lot more weekends than we would be. We're planning a lot more fun things with you guys. And it's so just nice to just sit and be with you. We don't even need to be doing anything. It's just like, I'm grateful for those little small moments in day to day life of just being in your presence.
00:25:22
Speaker
Yeah, I feel the same way. It's really nice to, you know, be watching a football game, fall asleep on the couch and wake up and see you guys is also asleep. No, no, no, it really is nice. And you guys obviously live a little closer than Lucy, but Lucy's made an effort to be here too. It's just, it's brought all of us a little bit closer together, but we've also had an incredibly close relationship all the way along the way. So.
00:25:48
Speaker
Um, yeah, no, it's just being more grateful for what is here now, as opposed to being disturbed by, uh, what's coming. It's a hard thing to do, but I think you're doing it quite well. Yeah. It's not an everyday concrete thing. You, you, you know, you go up and down like a roller coaster, I think on a daily basis with this stuff. And, um, what it is, what it is, what am I going to do? Yeah. Hopefully live a lot longer. Yeah. We're trying to buy as much time as you can.
00:26:15
Speaker
But then also being focused on that is is' time consuming. So you gotta try and just go forward, which is not always easy. So that's that. What was your favorite question? Okay. We can meet up with questions. Okay. Thanks. but you too guys do Can't wait to do another round of speed dating soon. Okay. That was fun. Lucy, good luck editing this. But thank you.
00:26:43
Speaker
Love you. Love you. Thank you. well