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Try Not To Be A Piece Of Sh*t This Year
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Today we discuss suspicion of infidelity and the manipulation of apps to cover it up. We also talk about not being a piece of crap this year.
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Introduction and Personal Nicknames
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so i'm doing it right yeah and action good morning good afternoon and good evening ladies and gentlemen boys and girls people up down all around inside and outside the gender binary welcome to that's our q or toq for short this time i am danny guarantee here with the man of the hour the man with the plan the datum with the badm if people still call me dad. I do. i thought I wouldn't mind it.
00:00:28
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I still call you dad. Yeah, I try to call myself the dad of the group. The one time I hanging out with a bunch of 29 year olds and they some were like, yay, and others were like, oh, that's gross. And so now I don't know how to feel.
00:00:41
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I think you're a great dad.
Technical Issues and Recording Context
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Also, this is Adam. Hi. Also, I need to change the battery in my mouse. And I just packed the batteries and I don't remember what box I put them in. Gosh, nuggets.
00:00:56
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Dang I mean, I don't need it. Like, it's fine. I really should just use a wire. bullhockey. Anyway, continue talking. I'm going to for batteries. All right. Well, since he's looking for batteries, i will just tell everybody, hello, welcome to the new year.
00:01:11
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bow, bow, bow, bow. So yeah, this should, if everything goes according to plan, this should be the first episode of 2026. Ooh!
00:01:23
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Amazing. It's bitch battery, apparently, but I'll use it. Wow. You need to get yourself some Duracell. Yeah, I mean, I do have some somewhere, but like I packed them. I have i think I like maybe a handful of them left, but I packed them and I just taped up a bunch of boxes. So I thought, oh, God, dan I just dropped the case. um yeah Give me your best. You know, a little behind the scenes of what Adam's like. did Different, different years saying bullshit.
00:01:51
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I mean, can we even make that argument because technically lifting the curtain a little bit here, it's not 2026 at the time of recording. Well, that's true. We are- We are recording this on December 20th, if you all really must know.
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Um, so, because I'm trying to be better about that, but I also haven't edited shit. Get on there, y'all. Bastard. Okay. Um, But yeah, can you guys still hear me?
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I hear you. Yeah, you're coming through loud and clear. OK, I didn't see any like waves on the on the. On the thing,
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some word that like something didn't work because my mouse died. No, you're looking all wavy on my end. You're good. OK, there's like a big hole right in the middle where there's no sound. So no, no, no, you're fine.
00:02:38
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OK, I hope it's like that when it downloads. Otherwise, sorry, gang, because you're probably going to hear like a big old chunk of silence. um Anyway, what were we talking about? Yeah, just it' I'm Danny guarantee you and you're my friend, Adam.
00:02:52
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That's right. I'm Adam. And we are welcome back to That's Our everyone. Happy New Year. We hope that you're feeling hashtag blessed with whatever it is that you need. And if you're not, that's OK, too.
00:03:03
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We have a new question that we're going to answer. Danny has found one. in the deep recesses of Reddit that he has just been jonesing to ask. So heck yeah, this was just like, as at the time of recording, this was asked 15 minutes ago.
00:03:18
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Oh fuck, it's hot off the- There's a hot off the trail. So we're gonna do something a little different, instead of just finding a question and answering it. ah Because, you know, just giving our opinions about things, that's so easy. So mainstream, right?
00:03:34
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So mainstream. I figured we would try something else where we become the arbiters of assholery. Or ah overreactionary content, right?
00:03:47
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So what I was thinking is ah there are subreddits called Am I Overreacting and Am I the Asshole where people ask, hey, here's a story. Was I the asshole in this story? Was I overreacting?
00:04:00
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So we're going to try that. We'll ask that question and me and Adam, we will, Adam and I, sorry, we will discuss and we shall judge the React in react reactionary or over reactionary in this case. And I'm also ah Terry texted me and she let me know so like to in order to help you with your speech to start correcting you more live. So I'm going to try to help you out with that. No, you're going to point out every time I say, oh, aren't you? ah yeah It's listen. So you said I'm just now a shut up and.
00:04:41
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Go ahead, Danny. What's the question? right What's the asshole-ery?
00:04:46
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This is by UnlikelyTension702. And they want to know, Am I overreacting? I saw a notification on my partner's phone that was sketchy.
00:04:58
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So we were both watching a video on our phone and she swiped down to where the notifications are. I saw a notification that said match with, then a person's name and the letters itself was italics.
00:05:12
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I dismissed it at the time because the icon of the notification was the iMessage app and not a dating app. But after thinking, I'm wondering what else it could have been. I've looked up different things, but I can't find a clear answer, and I was just wondering if I am overthinking and overreacting to it."
00:05:32
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So they saw a message... Girlfriend was watching a video on their phone. Uh-huh. They happened to see a message that said, matched with and a name. Uh-huh. But it came through iMessage, not a dating app, and they're wondering, hey, is this... am I overreacting and getting sketched out by this?
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Uh...
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Well, I mean. Because seeing we must remember with is pretty. That's a rough one to to come past to get past.
00:06:05
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Yeah, I think it's. I don't I don't understand how that came in as an I message, though, like that's. I don't know enough about iPhones to know how that works.
00:06:19
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But well, it says it's an iMessage app. I don't know if that means specifically it's iMessage or if it's just a know an iMessage like app. Can you match with someone on an iMessage? Also, and this is going to be dropping down the conspiracy rabbit hole.
00:06:39
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Can is there like a way to change what? symbol apps have yeah i was wondering that they got a message from a dating app they just changed the symbol to look like message icon of an app on your iphone
00:06:59
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um Apparently, ah ah no, I typically don't read the AI, but the AI's first instinct is yes. But I'm going to go down to like. apple Oh, that would be insane if you could customize apps and widgets on. your Let me see. You can customize apps and icons adding a tent. Well, that's if you want to make them bigger or smaller. I want to know if you can change the just the whole thing, the whole kit and caboodle.
00:07:24
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Well, let's assume you can make it. but You can apparently make custom icons that link to an app. So. Oh, so maybe they did something like that.
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So I don't think you can change just the app itself, but you can change like the icon connected to it in some way and still
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utilize it as a shortcut. Yeah, kind of like a shortcut.
00:07:47
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Yeah, there's apparently there's ways you can do that through like there's stuff on the the but Apple Store app that you can get that lets you like change things. So I guess there.
00:08:01
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I'm not putting your phone to something. Wow, that that's insanity to me. So. If that's the case, knowing that that's a thing you can do, you can. Oh, that's what it is. You can. I'm sorry to interrupt you, but what you can do is if it's not an app you download directly, there is a way with some applications you can change the symbol based on a picture you saved in your phone.
00:08:25
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So you can essentially, you can take like one of your own pre-said pictures. So I assume you could probably like take a picture of like the iMessage app and then like shrink it down and then upload it into the thing. And that's it. So, i you know, if someone's clever, cause like I just looked up, there's nothing, there's no match function on iMessage.
00:08:50
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So like, the only way that that is happening. If they saw the, now this is to say that the person's what the person witnessed is true. If they saw something that said matched with someone that definitely was not the imesage app.
00:09:05
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Right. Absolutely. Which, uh, in which case, Absolutely big no. I don't think you're overreacting by being sketched out by that. I mean, I'm going to take it 100% face value, whatever they wrote as true, just for argument's sake, because, yeah, of course, they could be lying.
00:09:24
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They could have seen something wrong. But just for argument's sake for the show, I'm going to just say everything that they typed out is true. In which case, no, I don't think that they're overreacting at all by being a little weirded out, even without the app issue, the app like icon issue.
00:09:45
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Seeing the words match with, like I said, that's a hard one to get past. Like that's there's not a lot of instances where somebody's phone would say something like matched with other than a dating app.
00:10:00
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Or some kind of hookup app. Yeah, that's that's that's a tough one. How you ah approach that situation depends on your current relationship and everything. But like, yeah, I That's tough to think, oh.
00:10:19
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And like, how do you even ask to say, hey, could I see your phone? Like, I think that's honestly, actually. When. i was living with a girlfriend, this was like 2009. I introduced the girl I was living with.
00:10:37
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to a game called Ragnarok online. And it was her first introduction into massive multiplayer online games. And I did not know people could become addicted to these things. It was a new thing for me. i played it very casually. i said, Hey, let's play this together. And I built a computer so we could play it together. And then all of a sudden her sleep schedule started to change. and she started like talking to other people on there. And I found out there was a guy from Austria. She'd been talking to and kind of fell in love with while we were still dating. She had to find a reason for us to break up. She's acting real shifty.
00:11:09
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I went to log on that computer because we both used it because it was the better computer for like works or or school stuff. And so because we were both in school at the time. And so when I went to get on the computer, she immediately was like, what are you doing?
00:11:21
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ah You know, so like i was like, oh, I just need to. She's like, well, don't open any of my stuff. And it's like, why the fuck would I do that? It was just very strange. All of a sudden, the behavior. And so like things that we typically were like communal or like we both shared a phone. It became like she's like, well, I got my own phone.
00:11:36
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Like, OK, cool. And she's like, I just, you know, kind of have other stuff I'm taking. And she wasn't a busy girl. she didn't have anything going on like her life was in that apartment. So it just started to get weird. Or like if I come up behind her to like give her a kiss on the cheek, she'd like close all of her messages real quick.
00:11:51
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And like you see stuff like if you see those kind of behaviors kind of start to happen, you're like, OK, what's happening here? You know, that is a little weird. That being said, like so I'd be like, hey, like I'm not saying you should say, can I go through your phone? But like you could also say like just body language that she when she has her phone up and she's doing things that she turn away from you.
00:12:13
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Uh, is it a she was she talking about like a girlfriend? This person? I can't remember what their pronouns are. Uh, whoever this person is. This person was, I believe, male with their girlfriend or girl with their girlfriend. They were with the girl. Like if they're there, whoever you are, your girlfriend, body language is important to like the having that conversation is hard. But if you come out like at the gate a with an accusation, you're not going to learn anything.
00:12:37
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It's you know, you just have to say, hey, Are we good? How we've been doing? i You know, find some way to check in. But you can also check body language because that's something I noticed. It was always like, oh, turn away when you're near me. Like she would be facing me, but the phone. the phone's facing a away. Yeah. Right. It was always like a quick shift in body language. It was always a quick shift on the computer.
00:13:00
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She would start to turn the computer like in a different because the computer was facing towards like the community, the communal room. And then she found a way to to angle it away from everybody. So you could see her face, but you couldn't see the computer. And it was just like, you know, you start to notice.
00:13:14
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Oh, yeah. Why? not good Why is it like this? So, again, not to like feed into your anxiety or anything, but you definitely want to. You can't use her body language against her, but like track it to see like, oh, am I being weird? But you can definitely if you can confirm, hey, I thought I saw something that said matched on your.
00:13:33
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But if you say that to like, hey, you know, when I was walking past, I saw you said you matched with something. They were watching a video on her phone together and she swiped down Oh, they were. Oh, I missed that part. ofations They were watching together. I thought she was just watching. so So she brought up the notifications while they were watching something on her phone.
00:13:52
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Oh, the notification came up and she like swiped it away? No, she swiped to see her notifications and it was one of them. Oh, so it was already there. She swiped and he saw it. Oh, well then, yeah. then if I would absolutely ask. i ask but I think this is one of those times where you just have to ask. You have to say, look, I happened to see this when you were looking at your notifications before.
00:14:13
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Right. We were both looking at the phone. Yeah, I saw it said matched with. Can you tell me what that was? What is this going on? Yeah. Yeah. Match with
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what? On iMessage? Like you could match? Like, what is that about? Can you tell me what it is? And we know you know, it's funny, a little tangent, but...
00:14:28
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I was thinking during your story, like, i have I'm hiding nothing ah from Mbeluga. I have nothing to hide. I'm not even trying to hide. Whatever.
00:14:39
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But even with that, if she asks to see my phone because, let's say, you know, we're busy that day or whatever, and we ordered DoorDash, and she wants to keep up with the order while I'm doing whatever,
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I will go into my phone and then pull up DoorDash and then give it to her. Because it just feels invasive, I guess, even for for her. And I guess it's a me thing.
00:15:06
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For her to be going through, like, actually going through my phone. Plus, she doesn't know where the app is on my screen. So, like, I'll always get it set up for her before I give her the phone. And I don't mean that in any kind of I'm hiding anything way. Because I'm not.
00:15:22
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But I understand, like... There's nuances to what you were saying before of like she would always turn things away. Stuff like that is is more noticeable and hard to defend. Yeah, like, it but but it's not like I'm trying to look. It is weird that I get skeezed out.
00:15:42
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Even though it's my wife and I love her and trust her and I have nothing on my phone that's a problem, I still get nervous when I see her on my phone. I'm like, what if she just somehow stumbles on something I didn't even know was there?
00:15:59
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Maybe you should just do it as like an immersion exercise. Just, I don't want to. That sounds awful. just he would take I mean, she knows my passcode and everything. She could just take my phone and go on it. I wouldn't even stop her.
00:16:13
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Yeah. And that's what would be sitting there sweating for no reason. I'm so trusting with my phone. I genuinely, I'm just like, I'll just unlock it and hand it to somebody. and like, yeah, just it's, it's on this page. Go do that. Whatever.
00:16:24
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Look this up. I just genuinely don't care. The only time I only started putting a password on my phone, When I was dating a girl at the dance studio, one of the other teachers, and she'd found out that I was friends with somebody that I had a crush on once who lived in Maryland.
00:16:42
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And we still talked because like we game together every once in a while. And it was like in a blue moon, like once every like six months, we'd be like, Hey, just checking in. How's your kid or how's work or whatever. And this is when I found out that this girl had a jealousy problem and she would go so like my phone never had a lock. and She could go get my phone. She knew where I left kept it at work.
00:17:02
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Sometimes she'd go in there and Google something because her phone was charging or she didn't have it or whatever. And I never cared. But then one day she just like walked up to me be like, what's this? You're still talking to Rachel. And I was like, like, no, I didn't give you freedom to my phone for you to like, look at it and find shit to fight me about.
00:17:19
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You know, like I don't have a problem with you looking through my phone, but why are you looking through my messages? There's nothing in there for me to hide. I'm not feeling like I have to like, oh no, I hope you didn't see this message I had because my phone's unlocked and you get in it all the time. Whoa, was me. I'm so, it's such a bad criminal. Like I'm so bad at keeping secrets, but she would just look for anything to be mad at. And like, but then this girl, I told the girl, I was like, Hey, just want you to know, like my girlfriend's getting like a little jealous. Like I don't want to like,
00:17:49
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start anything so like if i take a while to get back to you i just want you to know that i just don't want to have any friction whatever and then this girl being sassy as she was she's like well she should trust you you're a good guy i'm like i know that i'm just learning that she has this insecurity apparently and it's a whole big long story about like she had no reason to be and just her habits show otherwise i don't know where she got this from but like But then this girl one time sent me, oh my God, I could not fucking believe it. She sent my phone a kissy face in a message, like the kissy emoji with a little heart. And I had no idea. Like I was working.
00:18:26
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Alexa comes running out the fucking room, shows me. so she like she Well, actually what happened was she was walking around the studio just livid, just very cold to me. And I was like, what's going on? Like, why are you not talking to me?
00:18:39
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know, I get off a lesson. I get ready to walk into the back. As I walk into the back room, she comes to us out of nowhere like the Flash. Sonic the fucking hedgehog like beats me before I can shut the door and comes in with me. She's like, so do you want to talk about it? like, what?
00:18:53
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Talk about what? And she holds up my phone. She grabs my phone. i'm like, Jesus Christ, you're in my phone again. What did you see now? And she showed me this message and i was like, damn it. What the fuck? Like, what are you trying to do to me?
00:19:09
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And so I was like, you know what? Go ahead and text her back on my phone. go Say whatever you think you should say, not telling her it was you. And then immediately it's like, I'm just kidding. I just thought funny if Alexa saw the message. And I was like, God damn it. And then Alexa's just like freaking the fuck out. i was like, she's trolling you. I told her that you were looking at my phone. So she knows that you're going to see it now. Well-deserved.
00:19:32
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Well-deserved, Cheryl. And I was like i was like but like, but all day I had to live with this shit. And was like, fucks ah! And so then I just started putting a password on my phone, but I didn't tell her I was doing it. I was just like, she needs to see this and recognize she doesn't have this privilege anymore because she's violating it for just to just be nosy. not like It's not a trustworthy exercise anymore. and so But then she came out the third day. Oh, my God. Wow. Working with a girlfriend who has jealousy problems is so hard. And then she came out, I'm in a lesson. She's scowling at me, finished up my lesson. I'm like, what now? And she's like, why do you have a password on your phone? i'm like, you have one on yours.
00:20:12
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you know She's always had one on her phone. i was like, you know, and she's like, well, I'll tell you the password and then you can tell me mine or you can tell me yours. i' was like, no, no, no, no. no no That's not how this works. I don't think so. Yeah. It's like, what are you talking about? i I haven't been able to know your password, but now you'll tell me yours I tell you mine. Like, what the fuck? Because I've never had to go into phone. I was like, but I've never felt like I had to lock it. So, like, I understand these kind of behaviors and shit, but also, like, people have these tells that are just...
00:20:44
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Oh, yeah. OK, absolutely. There's no reason for you to be like this. I haven't given you reason to be like this, but like you have. If anything, you're the one that has these issues, that this record that I should be leery of. But I'm not.
00:20:57
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And I've never given reason to think this. So but best believe that if we because we used to play like this word game on her phone called Wordscapes. It's also a very relaxing and fun game. And we would just like I'd watch over her shoulder and we'd guess letters and stuff.
00:21:10
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But best believe that if she looked at a notification and it said match with Dave or some shit, I'd be asking questions. I would very much be like, hey, match with who?
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What is this match with from iMessage? What does that mean? Match with who? Can I see? And if she means like, no, that's not for you or that's something else. Don't worry about i'm like, yeah, now I really think it's about me.
00:21:35
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Right. If you yada yada it, then I'm suspicious. If you explain it and say, oh, yeah, actually, here, let me show you what that is. It's a new feature. It's this. That'll make me feel better. But if you're immediately trying to yada yada it away and shoe fly me, that's a flag for me.
00:21:50
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Because like, what are you hiding? It's certainly not a Christmas present in there. Although that would be pretty cool. It would be now if you disguise maybe notifications from, i don't know, if you ordered something very interesting and rare off of eBay and you wanted to change it in case your partner saw it and it's a big surprise. OK, sure that I get, you know, there's clever ways that to do good deeds through that means.
00:22:17
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But if you're disguising a dating app on iMessage so your partner doesn't know, sorry, man, even if the relationship is shitty and the relationship, don't start shopping before you end. I just think that's such a shitty thing to do. Like it's a security issue. It's an insecurity issue.
00:22:32
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If your relationship ain't working out, you need to figure out your situation before you try to get into something new. That new person doesn't deserve whatever baggage you're about to take
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into it. And your person with you now deserves, even if they're shitty, even if your partner is shitty, just get the fuck away first. Because if it is a shitty situation or, heaven forbid, a dangerous situation, and they catch you doing that, that's even worse.
00:22:54
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But also just on the trust factor alone, do the right thing and the relationship or get out of it or try to work on it. Don't go shopping to figure out if you can get out of it first before you decide if you're gonna stay in it or not. That's just not, that's, I don't think that's okay. I don't care. Even if you're a listener, if you think it is, you're wrong. Sorry. It's just not okay.
00:23:15
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You're wrong. Your opinion is wrong and you need to change it, change your life, change who you are, be better.
00:23:21
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Happy fucking New Year. Happy New Year. Try not to be a big piece of shit this year, okay? Try not to be a piece of shit this year.
00:23:36
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ah I don't know how long I can make the episode titles, but I kind of want to see if I can fit all that. I hope you can.
00:23:47
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I don't know why that tickles me. That's fucking hilarious. Try to... I'm going to try to fit it. Try not to be a piece of shit this year. You know what I appreciate about this show? While we're recording it, we can just be like, hey, that's what the title should be. Hey, we should remember that for next episode. We get to kill two birds with one stone here. Oh, man. donny I got to say, like,
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I am finding, i can't think of any examples right now, but I am finding that there is a certain, i think back to when I first started trying to do entertainment videos and stuff. Mm-hmm.
00:24:32
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Like I remember when Justin and I would film these videos for social media in our tiny little dining room area right next to the kitchen. And I didn't know how to end a video. So i always said, Hey, look at this wall. And I'd take the camera and shove it to the wall as like an ending sequence.
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I didn't know how to make the camera go black. I didn't know how to make it look. I just like, look at this wall. And I'd end it. Cause I didn't know what how to do. And I felt like I didn't know how to be like professional or if there was like light reflecting off our dry erase board, I kept like thinking like, Oh, that's so unprofessional. Yeah. For such a long time, I was so obsessed with what looks like it's professional.
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But the more I look at things and the more I try to work on shit and make videos, like I kind of appreciate when I see videos or movies that seem like they're more... open i think it's why i appreciate the show good mythical morning on youtube because while there is a structure it still feels very genuine they mess up a lot they goof up a lot they don't always say things when they're supposed to say it and like i appreciate i think that's why even before that i've always wanted this show to be just we're just dudes talking at the table and you guys can be part of it well you know talking more on the business end of things and you know what
00:25:42
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Buckle in, people, because we're going in the business areas. Oh, shit. Business area. I know. I was doing some research. And by research, I mean I was looking at random YouTube videos.
00:25:55
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And I came across this little thing called influencer fatigue. i don't know if you've heard about it. But basically, it seems that a lot of these stereotypical, like...
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Oh, I'm 20 years old and I got a billion dollars. Check out my Lambo in the background. You know, that kind of yeah Paul brothers and all that stuff kind of influencer.
00:26:22
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People are getting sick of that. That super successful seeming fake influencer perfection thing. Yep. And that screams to me.
00:26:35
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awesome because i think that that's going to leave a vacuum that content like ours will fill in perfectly just the i'm not here to be an influencer i'm just here to fuck a lot fuck around with my friend you know and we keep flubs like that one i did on purpose two seconds ago see yeah completely on purpose that's right i think I think influencer culture and stuff is going to hopefully shrink a lot soon and more realistic because people love this kind of stuff. They love feeling like they're in the room with these people on camera or on the mic. And that's kind of the vibe we're going for. Right.
00:27:22
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I want you to feel like you're part of the conversation. We even leave pauses like that one I just did two seconds ago. Totally ah for real for you to voice your opinion. you know It's like a kid's show.
00:27:37
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There you go. See that? What a great thing you just Thank Thank you. do You see a clue where? um Yeah, I think that I. I want to try to find a way two
00:27:56
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I think, you know what, Danny, that's probably the first you're hearing of this. I'm going to say it right now on the show. Ooh, I get to learn with everybody else. I was speaking with ah my brother from a German mother very recently about just some life things and things that we want to kind of restructure and do and what we think fun installers and all of our other things can be. Okay.
00:28:20
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And this were trying... We were referencing a conversation we had on vacation ah many a few years back when we met and went to. Seattle together and the place that we were staying, there was a guy who owned the place who was staying with a couple of friends and the guy who owned the place was telling us about a design, a game he was making.
00:28:45
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but the game had some sort of complex facet to it. I can't remember, but his goal was to use it to solve a problem. It was, I can't remember what it is, but he was trying to think of how to run it into a business.
00:28:58
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And he said something that really stuck out to me. I can't remember exactly what the business model was, but he kept saying people will pay to get rid of pain.
00:29:08
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They more often than not, a service is, something people want sign up for if it alleviates an inconvenience or a kind of pain. And I kept thinking a lot about that phrase and pain may be a little bit more of a harsher word, but I think there's a lot of credence to, you know,
00:29:28
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People can't let go of Amazon Prime because why would I want to get off my ass and go shopping? You know, that's a pain to them. That is an inconvenience to Yeah, any kind of inconvenience, any negative emotion almost. Right. Anything that feels like I don't want to or I don't like it, they want to get rid of.
00:29:44
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And so I was trying to think, what is the problem that I have found myself constantly solving for others, that if I knew how to turn it into a gentle business model, a gentle one, one that is not aggressive or you know, it isn't like, Oh, we'll keep, we can't keep paying things. You have to keep paying us more for this thing. I don't know what looked like yet, but I keep thinking that fun installers, while I still want it to be some kind of entertainment network, I think that it can also be a place to solve the pain of not knowing how to make friends.
00:30:24
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I think something I'm noticing a lot in these other spaces like where I work right now at the food bank and other areas where a lot of people meet their friends at work if they like the people at work.
00:30:37
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So a lot of people have said, I didn't have friends when I moved here and I met them at work, but they also say, I don't know where to meet more new people to hang out with. And so I find a lot of people like my little network is growing and it grew here on fun installers and in real life, you know, at least here you know locally, I should say,
00:30:53
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um where I pull people in from other little cliques and networks and groups. And I like the person i'm moving in with soon. And in a few weeks, I met through work and they didn't know how to make friends. And I had identified, they sat alone a lot. And I went and said, Hey, I have an extrovert. You look like someone who could use a buddy. Do you want to be friends?
00:31:13
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And i'm watching you it took a few tries for me to constantly just be consistent and say, hey, I'm, you know, just again, how you doing? I see you crocheting over here under the table. What you making?
00:31:24
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You want to hang out sometime? And then eventually it became, yeah, sure. Actually, I'm feeling a bit more energy this week. Sure. What do you want to do? And then we started hanging out for a few months and then we're both like, hey, we both need a place to live. Should should we get a place together?
00:31:36
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And, um, you know So anyway, my point is with this whole thing is I would like to find a way, similar to how That's Our Q tries to pull people into a conversation, I would like to find a way to alleviate the frustration of how do I make more friends?
00:31:52
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How do I socialize? How do I... but How do I bridge that gap of what I want versus knowing how to, or how do I converse? I don't know. There's gotta be ways to. I think, I think a big part of it is fun installers, at least for, you know, me. And I know a lot of people on there.
00:32:12
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You're always hearing about the lack of a third space and fun installers. The digital is a third space. It's a place you can go. That's not work or home and meet people that you don't know.
00:32:26
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And I've become friends with everyone on that server. I don't think there's a single person on that server I don't like.
00:32:35
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Everybody's super nice. Everybody's super chill. But I think that that's what you're thinking of. You're trying to come up with a good third space that people can get into without ah without putting too much of themselves in there.
00:32:48
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I just went, I know. And Give people a place where they can feel confident, comfortable and meet other people. I get you. Yeah.
00:33:00
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I don't know what that looks like. I feel like it could start. In a digital space and maybe there can be a local out outfits or or connections that can be created through that.
00:33:15
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But I just think there is a service to be created. To help people learn how to talk to people. And, you know, again, I know I'm saying it on this show, but this show is not big enough for someone to steal our ideas yet. So, but I just would love to create a way where it's like um this comfortable space to learn.
00:33:42
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I think the learning part, like Fun Installer Academy is what I want to call it. I think there's already like quote unquote, adulting classes and socialization classes where you learn how to talk to people.
00:33:56
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i think yeah that's a thing already. Yes, but I think where those fail from what I've seen is that much like with when I was a dance teacher, that the model works for people to learn steps because there's a structure if you can't hear music.
00:34:13
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But then what often happens is you focus on the steps. How many moves do you know? I'm not a good dancer if I don't know more moves versus how do I feel the music? How do I have fun? How do I use these things to facilitate more fun movement? Where I think with these other classes, it's very structured and like, you say this, and then if they say that, here's something you can say. And it becomes very structured, almost like you have a script ready. And I think that's good to a degree, but I think A lot of it is like it's when you get interviewed and a lot of times they're just like reading the questions off the script and it's less of a conversation where the job that I got at the food bank was a conversation.
00:34:56
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They started off with like, well what do you want to ask us? What do you want to talk to us about first? Yeah. As opposed like, do you have any questions for us now that we've asked you all of our questions? It started off as let's just have a conversation and then we'll try to like put in a few of our questions that we want to make sure we do get from you. But it's just, let's just kind of see how the energy is.
00:35:15
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And that's where I think a lot of these classes fail is, I shouldn't say fail, but I think what they lack is they don't, create an organic feeling to it. It's, it's still very structured. It's very scripted, right? It's very much two plus two equals four. And if it doesn't equal four, I have to look back into my manual and see if there's another thing that two plus two can be, or this guy said two plus three. And I don't have the answer for that in this.
00:35:41
Speaker
Hang on. I'll get back to you. You know? But also, how do I exit a conversation if I'm uncomfortable? How do i let somebody know I disagree in a respectfully in a respectful way? How do I... But again, it's not even just about conversing. It's about how do I meet people? How do I see if like they're right for me? How do I learn new things?
00:36:01
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I don't know. I think there's a hole that's not filled yet because we wouldn't have this many people still wondering, where do I meet people that isn't a bar? Yeah. Well, I think just spitballing here, but...
00:36:15
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I feel like one of the biggest, and this is going to be quote unquote advice for anybody listening who wants it. I think one of the biggest roadblocks to socializing today is embarrassment.
00:36:31
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And I don't mean that as in like, I'm embarrassed just to talk to anybody, which is a thing as well and completely valid. But I feel like
00:36:43
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As somebody who is more introverted and tried really hard to kind of break out of that and learn how to socialize better on my own, one of the biggest things for finding new friends and socializing with people in general, you can't be afraid to talk about your interests.
00:37:00
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I like anime. I like video games. i hate sports and don't know anything about almost any of them. you know So instead of going to these conversations with people and just kind of yesing yeah a hiing in the back when they talk about sports, I actually bring up, hey, do you guys play like video games at all?
00:37:22
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And I've met people that are like, oh, yeah, I just played you know this game and that game. Oh, I love that game. And then we start talking about that. Yeah. Or honestly, D&D has been a huge one.
00:37:34
Speaker
Whenever somebody i tell people I play D&D, there's always one person that either plays it or wants to and wants me to explain the basics. um But yeah, it's just it helps so much to find the right people for you if you're not afraid to talk about your interests. Yeah, some people might scoff and be like, anime, that's just cartoons. It's meh.
00:37:58
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you know, fuck off. ah But the people that actually get it and are like, yeah, I also like that. What's your favorite? Oh, what's your favorite scene from this one? That's where you start making the friends.
00:38:11
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So you really got to learn to just kind of say fuck it and jump headfirst into conversations with your with your interests and be honest.
00:38:22
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You know, when they say like you have to be honest with yourself or you have to like Know yourself to make new friends or get in a relationship. This is what they're talking about. You can't pretend to be somebody, quote unquote, cool based on what you think that is. You know, oh, I like sports or whatever.
00:38:41
Speaker
Just be yourself. You are the coolest and most perfect version of you there is in the world. And somebody will see that. Rant over. Unless you're not, then change. don't Try not to be a piece of shit this year. Yeah, don't be a piece of shit this year. That's the main thing. Just don't be a piece of shit this year. Just try not to be a piece of shit. Can be can we somehow make that everybody's yeah thing this year?
00:39:07
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Just don't be a piece of shit. Alright? Just everybody. Should we make a shirt, Danny, that just says that? yeah The front just says New Year's resolution? Just don't be a piece of shit this year.
00:39:18
Speaker
Yeah. This is my request for everyone else. Just try not to be a piece of shit this year. I just I think that's that's that's the message here. Because here's the thing.
00:39:31
Speaker
Danny is lying to you. You're not perfect at all. You're not the best version. Oh, damn. You can always you can always be better. You can always get better. Danny's just he's reading from a cue card. You know, all of his stuff is is pre scripted. I like to call them to cue cards.
00:39:48
Speaker
Oh, you got you got a good job. Good job. Very nicely done. um Oops. I think. I you know what? Let's just say it.
00:40:01
Speaker
There's always room for improvement, but you don't always have to be improving all the time. So there you go. you can To be fair, I didn't say they were perfect. I said they are the most perfect.
00:40:13
Speaker
for Like, they are the most perfect thems. like What? That's not. You are a better Adam than anybody else could pretend to be. You are the most perfect Adam.
00:40:26
Speaker
Yeah, you know i no, I know. You could still improve yourself. But I want the genuine, the best Adam, which is you. i don't want somebody who's pretending to be like you.
00:40:39
Speaker
I want you. Does that make sense? Yeah, but what if I'm a piece of shit? Well, then I don't want you and try not to be a piece of shit this year. Right. So, right. I want the perfect. You're still the perfect you. It's just the perfect you is a piece of shit.
00:40:57
Speaker
Well, then it's not the perfect me. Yes, it still is, because you are you perfectly with all your faults and. Not talking about. Did you like eat some like like unicorn? I did have a cup of coffee just before we started to say, what do you want about?
00:41:14
Speaker
Try not to be a piece of shit this year, Danny. I try not to be a piece of shit every year. Thank you. And you know what? I'm getting angry all of a sudden. Don't be a piece of shit. And that carries across the year. All right. Not just in Christmas. I hate people that are nice around Christmas and they're like, oh, well, it's the giving season. So here's a couple dollars. Give even when it's not the giving season. God damn it.
00:41:40
Speaker
Be good all year round. People will suffer every day. Don't wait until you've suffered. We already talked about the last episode. Yeah. Can I tell you something that my new roommate has, I've been trying to get them used to. Okay. Is they are very sensitive to being, and they don't have a ton of friends. They have like one really good friend they've had for quite a few years and they've moved around a lot and they have like people they like to see at work. But the only person they really hang out with consistently is this one person.
00:42:10
Speaker
And so. yeah Again, i i kind of identified that long before they told me as like they seem like a little bit of a loner, but they're friendly. And so I befriended this person. And so they're very sensitive if they think because the only relationship they have is this one girl. And this girl has a lot of her own challenges. And so they're very sensitive to if they're in a fight or if they if something was wrong.
00:42:32
Speaker
And so I so made a joke because I do this with some other friends in my circle where if we're having a debate that goes on too long, like I still align from community and I kind of change it a bit and i go, we are in a fight.
00:42:44
Speaker
We are feuding right now. This is a feud. We are feuding. And like, I do like this real big hand gesture and like they, they took it. I said it one time cause they disagreed about, i can't even remember. it was, they just made a comment when we were driving somewhere about,
00:43:02
Speaker
Oh, it was about cobblestone roads. And they were like, I'll take no slander of cobblestone roads. Like cobblestone roads are shit and I hate them. And I wish they would just make them pavement. They suck the drive over. They don't get fixed because they're hard to fix. I hate them. And they started disagreeing. like, you know what? We are in an argument right now. We are fighting.
00:43:19
Speaker
This is a feud between you and I. And they took that so hard the first time. Oh no. And I was like, it's like They were like they're like, I think you were joking, but I can't tell for sure. Can you tell me if we're actually in a fight right now? I can't tell if you're joking while you're sitting there going, we are in a fight. And I feel so bad that they're so sensitive to it. And I was like, like no, if i say like I'm never going to say to you in a serious tone, we are in a fight. so I'll probably say, like, fuck you, you piss me off. Do you remember an episode or two ago where I was saying that I have a mean streak where, you know, and you were like, no, you're you're actually one of the nicest people. You never make fun of anybody.
00:44:00
Speaker
Yeah, I was saying, like, you think you're too mean to people and they take it seriously. So this is not one of the times somebody took it seriously. But I was thinking trying to think of a time that would fit.
00:44:11
Speaker
And I always try to stay very professional at work. But sometimes I slip. Sure. And there was one woman I worked with who was probably in her mid to late fifty s early 60s. Nice.
00:44:30
Speaker
nice And me and her got along like bread on butter. Like she just had that right attitude about everything where we could talk to each other.
00:44:40
Speaker
She and I, Danny. Shut up. i So one day we were talking and one of our other coworkers was like, she's like your work wife, isn't she?
00:44:55
Speaker
And I looked at her and I was like, um more like work mom.
00:45:01
Speaker
She didn't appreciate that. Oh no.
00:45:06
Speaker
She was like, how old are you? I'm not that old. And we did the math and she's like, I could be your mom. Is it?
00:45:17
Speaker
So naturally, for the rest of that week, I called her my work mom whenever I needed her. Hey, I've had so many moms and so many work wives that like, man, I can't even count. I think there's something to that. You know, I think.
00:45:32
Speaker
Well, I did there is something that's that is assuring about that. That is it. It almost feels like, you know, it can't go any further, but it's just nice to just to have that, especially a work mom. Because some people take that shit seriously, dude.
00:45:46
Speaker
I've had a lot of work moms and adopted moms. having somebody an eye out for you. Huh? It's nice having somebody at work that like just kind of keeps an eye out for you and has your back. It's true. It does feel it's just nice because I think when somebody takes that title and they and you say it as a joke and then they there's OK, yeah, i I see that, too. OK, cool.
00:46:07
Speaker
They want to make sure that you're eating, you know, they want to sure that you brought lunch. They want to like, I can't tell you many times there were someone just like, well, hey, I wasn't sure if you brought lunch today. So I made an extra whatever. And I made you a bowl. I'm like, holy fuck, like, what a sweet thing to do.
00:46:22
Speaker
But then conversely, if I know they're having a bad day, hey, just know what you're having bad day. Just want to come and let you know, you know, you're on my work mom. Want to make sure my mom's good. you know Or my work wife, I just make sure you're feeling yeah that meeting went well. How you doing? I don't know. You just kind of feel like a certain level of extra connection to somebody.
00:46:39
Speaker
And it feels innocent enough because everybody's in on it. you know I had a work wife who we got along great. She was my age. And looking back, I'm like, thank God that Mbeluga...
00:46:57
Speaker
And I have it like we have the trust that we do. Except for your phone. Except for my phone. But not really. Because this could have been so easily mistaken for like the worst possible thing.
00:47:12
Speaker
ah This work wife was a health nut. And I used to test food for her where she would be like, OK, I want to make brownies.
00:47:23
Speaker
Dan, what should I do with the brownies? I said, hey, can you make sugar free brownies? And she'll come back and she'll say, yeah, I found a way to make them with like wheat, whey protein and all this other stuff. And they tasted better than sugar free brownies, but not as good as regular. But they were like, I think she said they came out to about two grams of carbs per brownie.
00:47:47
Speaker
Like it was all protein m and they were delicious. And then one day she's like, will you go to the gym with me? And she kept asking me.
00:47:58
Speaker
And I'm not I'm not a gym nut. I'm not. No, I don't do exercise. I should, but I don't. You don't got to be a gym not to go to the gym. I do. he But I eventually said yes.
00:48:13
Speaker
I went home and I told him beluga is like, look, tomorrow I'm going into work early so that me and work wife can go to the gym. And Mbeluga's reaction wasn't, oh my God, you want to go to the gym with a girl?
00:48:31
Speaker
Like at the early morning or whatever, she said. you' like, you're going to the gym? Are you sick? Well, that. And well, she she knew she was a health nut. Right. ah She's like, oh, she finally talked you into it. on What time are you going?
00:48:44
Speaker
I said, oh, well, I have to leave here at like 4 a.m. She's like fuck that. All right, bye.
00:48:51
Speaker
And we went and I did squats for the first time in like a decade. and I couldn't walk for a week without just looking like a newborn fawn and stumbling all over myself.
00:49:04
Speaker
Ah, yes. That to this day, that was my favorite work wife. She was very cool. We had a lot of good conversations. Yeah, I think my favorite was one that wasn't a work wife at my work, but I worked at a bank inside of a Walmart and there was ah a hair salon right next to us.
00:49:24
Speaker
And I clicked with the one gal over there um just from she would bring over the deposits or whatever, just come to bullshit with everyone else. And we just really hit it off. and We started hanging out. She had a husband. She had kids. Like, clearly, like, everything was kosher.
00:49:41
Speaker
But she took the work husband because she was like, oh, it's my work hubby. She just said it kind of one day offhanded. And I was still, like, early 20s at the time. And I thought, oh, that's fun. Yeah. Yeah, I'd be at work.
00:49:51
Speaker
Yeah, that's yeah it's absolutely I'm your work husband. And she was pretty. he says, I'm happy to call you. whatever. Sure. And, but then that was when my wife, my first real taste of it, like she's like, well, Hey, your hair's getting long. You want me to cut it?
00:50:05
Speaker
You know, I won't charge you. she'd say things like, oh, hey, you haven't been over here for, you know, we're we're we're having donuts for whatever. And I say, I know you like jelly donuts. I saved you some and stuff like that. Like, oh my God, like, I feel like I'm not doing enough. And I told her that one time, i was like, i don't know what to do for you as a work husband. I don't think I'm really carrying my weight in this fake relationship that we're in.
00:50:28
Speaker
And she said like one of the sweetest things. I can't remember exactly the words that she said, but it said the the general idea was, I have a lot of bad days and I get a lot of shitty customers and you always make my day better by letting me come over and talk to you. And you make me laugh.
00:50:43
Speaker
Like, I don't, the idea was like, you make me feel good on days where I'm not feeling so good. And that's something that like, I don't think I would get from the girls that were all the nice thing she does is, is kind of like her way of repaying you.
00:50:56
Speaker
Yeah. And like, I've never thought about it. That is like a service. I still don't think it's enough. but like She was just like, ah just like keep making me laugh. Like, just keep being a safe space for me to come over.
00:51:07
Speaker
And like, that's what I want. And she's like, just like, just, I look forward knowing that you're you're in today to make sure I come over and visit more. And that was just like a really sweet thing for her to say. And I didn't realize that that was something she took from it. I just thought it was like a little tee. We're just being silly. teahi You know know, I'm actually in a very similar boat.
00:51:26
Speaker
um with my Chinese place where I get Chinese food. So Mel and I, oh well, she doesn't care.
00:51:37
Speaker
Um, below that I go to get Chinese food every, every week, once a week, we have Chinese night. We go to the same place all the time. We've gone for years.
00:51:48
Speaker
And, When we moved to our current location, we were too far for them to deliver. So now I have to drive there. I would do it on my way from work. Now I actually just make the trip because the food is yummy.
00:52:02
Speaker
And at first when I was picking it up, you know, would just say hi money, you know, whatever, and leave. And then slowly they asked me how I was doing. Oh, good to see you again. i was like, oh, thank you so much. Good to see you too.
00:52:18
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Now?
00:52:21
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They always give us free cookies unless there's something going on Like when it was Lunar New Year, they gave me red bean a cake, homemade red bean cake.
00:52:35
Speaker
They give me lychee constantly. They just gave me, ah I don't remember what it was called, but it was like this broccoli thing to put in my soup. they've given us ah homemade brownies, homemade cookies.
00:52:50
Speaker
And I asked them one time, I was like, you know, what what is it that, why do you keep giving me this stuff? Like, you don't have to do that. And she's like, no, no, no, you've been coming here for years. You're very nice to us. You're like family here. I'm like, oh, I'm like, what could I do for you guys?
00:53:11
Speaker
I want to do something nice back, man. You write them a nice card. Maybe will. Give them a good tip. I do give them a good tip. I tell you, there's something about a handwritten card, man, that just I think is still to this day At work, I'm still writing.
00:53:31
Speaker
I still have like 80 more cards to write to all of the stores, some of whom I haven't even met yet to just say, hey, we appreciate because my two other colleagues who are in my department. They are just signing their name real quick because they have hundreds of them and they sign their name real quick and then they mail them out because there's hundreds to do where.
00:53:50
Speaker
I'm still, again, they're not all super custom unless there's a few that like the the smaller places that I have more interaction with, I'll customize them more, but I still make sure to write something like, thank you for helping us feed the community. if you have more ideas or collaborations, I'd love to hear them. Please call me. And I put a card in there, like one of my one of my business cards, and then I sign it.
00:54:10
Speaker
And I do that with almost every single one because I do think that whether they know it or not, I think someone writing something in a card and sending it to them is different. you know peoples i I still have nearly every card I've collected as an adult from a birthday, a Christmas, I was thinking of you, you were sick, whatever. Because it's just having that tactile thing.
00:54:33
Speaker
Someone wrote it. Someone stamped it. Someone dropped it off you and thought of you. Yeah. Like it's not, that it's didn't just click it. They sat down and took the time and cared.
00:54:43
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And not to take away from like an e-card or something. Cause I still think there's a lot of fun to be had with those two, but I'm just saying for me, like I actually took the time. i took a few of our little, um,
00:54:56
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ah holiday end of year cards. They're really nice cards. They got got them custom made. They have one of our food bank trucks on it, like a little cartoon, like up up on Mount Washington somewhere here in Pittsburgh. It's just a really nice, cute little card.
00:55:10
Speaker
And I took a few extra ones because I wanted to write to coworkers that I connected with. that I was just very grateful being new. And I reached out to a lot of people to try to connect. And a few people really stuck out to me, one of whom is a very gruff looking dude who works in the warehouse and you wouldn't know it by looking at him, but he's just a very personable guy.
00:55:34
Speaker
But also he curses a lot and he seems really angry and he is. But I left him one in his mailbox. I wrote to a few others, the person I'm rooming with that left one for them. I handed a couple out to one that works a few counties over when I had the chance to see them at the theme park.
00:55:50
Speaker
And it was probably like about six or seven that I just thought these people have left an impact on me. And even though I know I've told them, I don't know. You know, sometimes people hear things and they just kind of flush it like, OK, well, he's just being nice. You know, I'm sure you've heard that that person or you thought that the person just being kind.
00:56:07
Speaker
where I wanted them to know like, Hey, I wanted to write to you specifically because I don't think I'd be enjoying as much of my time as I have been here. Had it not been for certain moments that stuck out to me to you and that have been consistent and something that really came of it, which was really sweet was the, all kind of discovered they had their cards at different times. And a couple, I handed off and said, you don't have to read it now.
00:56:31
Speaker
you know I just want to give this to you. They all messaged me later or a couple of them that works in the house and and in in-house approached my desk and waited patiently for me to finish what I was doing or call. and They said, hey, i just want to thank you for that. That was really sweet thing. The one girl who I really left an impact, like day one when I met her, um she's still my buddy to this day. We call each other buddies. She's the first person that like I really click with.
00:56:55
Speaker
She called me on my work phone. because she was working from home that day, and said, um I just wanted you to know that I stopped in real quick to grab something, and I grabbed my mail on the way out, and I didn't realize I had something from you, And I just wanted to let you know that it's been a rough weekend. And this was a nice thing to see on a Monday morning.
00:57:14
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And it just was just a really sweet, like a return. I wasn't like, i don't expect a return, but like you still get a return and it's just a nice loop of, I did a nice thing I wanted them to know that I care about them. And what a nice thing to call me on the, on a work phone and say, Hey, I just want to tell you with my voice, because I didn't know I had this, what I told you to your face.
00:57:36
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that this was a really nice thing to see today. And what i' what a great feeling to have, man. Yeah, never underestimate the power of appreciation. Sure. Yeah, especially with my handwritten card, dude.
00:57:50
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I tell people all the time, like, hey, you know I want to make sure you understand. like I appreciate what you do. like ah When I'm playing games with my friends and I'm having a bad day,
00:58:03
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I have no problem being like, man, I really needed this today. Thank you guys so much for cheering me up. I really do appreciate like having you guys around. And yeah, it never underestimate the power of appreciating someone else when they do something nice.
00:58:18
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It's what if they're doing it for the right reason, it makes the whole thing worthwhile.
00:58:23
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Oh, for sure. hundred percent. i And I think it's just something that. I that is also something with the friendship hangout thing I'm trying to come up with an idea for is I would love to make something that we just mass produce, maybe not mass produce, you know, the way you make a business card, but it's say a nice thing. You just we make a bunch of business cards somewhere, at least in that format.
00:58:50
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But it's just. Something that just says, hey, pocket compliment, it's a little pocket compliment, or maybe there's enough space to just write a, you know, you can fit a few in your wallet instead of like being like, where am I going to keep all these? hands You know, not everybody has a bunch of ah what are they? called What are those cards called? Those thank you cards or those greeting cards on hand?
00:59:11
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um to just write a random thing, but they're nice to keep. I'm telling you, that's a good secret. Keep a handful of greeting cards in your house because even if it's not a holiday, if you just want to send something nice to somebody, if you if you don't have the money to buy a gift or if they're not that kind of person or if you just want to send something random, I tell you, man, they'll remember it, they'll keep it, and they might even display it. I have a few cards I've sent out that I have cards I display at my desk that I still treasure.
00:59:35
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I have desk or cards that I keep in my... top drawer of my dresser that I love to pull out and look at every now and then. And like, you just don't know how that will change somebody's day, especially if you mail it out or if you go drop it off, hand deliver it and say, Hey, just want to give us to you. See ya.
00:59:51
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Whatever that looks like big deal. But what I was thinking about was like, if maybe like business card size things, you can keep a few in your wallet and then just scribble something nice on real quick. and leave it for somebody, it's still a nice thing to do.
01:00:03
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um We can talk about more of that off off recording, but just that's something else I've been thinking that I would just like to do to infuse nice things more regularly and give somebody something tactile that they can just have.
01:00:15
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even Even if they're having a bad day, they can just slip it out of their wallet and look at be like, hey, that was a nice thing that I received. I have this on my person, you know?
01:00:24
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It's just a nice tactile thing to appreciate. Let us know, funinstaller.network.biz, let us know what ideas you have. We're trying to make the world a little bit of a nicer place ah through random acts of kindness.
01:00:35
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Whether that be making cards that you that have just like nice little compliments on them that you can just slip to people, or having them blank so you can write it down. What what do you what ideas do you guys have? Do you think there's anything we we could do to help make not being a piece of shit next year. a little easy. Yeah.
01:00:55
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ah Yeah. Like on the front, it says, you know, I'm trying not to be a piece of shit this year. Flip this over. And on the back, it's whatever you write on it. And it's something nice. You know, you just don't succeed. There's always next year.
01:01:11
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Yeah. It says it can be like a poem that you can finish. Like this year, I'm trying to quit being a piece of shit. turn it around and then it says something. I don't know. We'll come up with it, but let us know.
01:01:24
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but I do. i it is something I do want to do. i just don't know what it should look like yet and I need to design it, but Anyway, that's kind of where we're at. But we've been recording for an hour. We should probably wrap this thing Hour and a half? Oh, no. Hour and one minute. It's the new year. We just want to come out with ah with a flourish and a bang and a long discussion and to wax poetic a little bit and and let's show you how we formulate ideas. Let us know what you think about the ah the new format that we tried today.
01:01:51
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you know, doing something a little different, not just a yes or no question or a what would you do question, but a judgment question, you know, were they overreacting? Am I the asshole?
01:02:03
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Let me know what you think. I see people, you know, I know there's YouTubers that do these things on YouTube all the time. So I figured we'll give it a shot to see where we go. Right. And it doesn't have to be that all the time. But if it's something that you like to hear about, sure. Or if there's ones that you've seen or heard, send them to us. And if you have your own questions, whether they're assholish or not, please let us know. And hey, just try not to be a piece of shit this year. Don't be a piece of shit this Don't be a piece of shit this year.
01:02:31
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All right. Don't do it. Just don't. Just better things to be than shit. Yeah. Why would you want to be shit? Yeah. So, um Danny, do you want to say anything else before, you know, before we sign off?
01:02:46
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Shit. It's 2026. You have to say something new. Oh, yeah. Happy 2026.
01:02:53
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Appreciating all the listeners is so 2025. Yeah. And 2026. That's right. I still appreciate you, even in modern year argument, even though it's future year argument. I still don't know how this works, because again, recording day. Did you say future year argument? Well, because it's still 2025 recording this. I'm not used to this.
01:03:14
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It's not No, we've been recording for like weeks. It's January now. Where have I been? You've been. What did I miss? The danger zone.
01:03:25
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What year is it? 2026. I just told you. What year is it? January. Oh, my God. It's Christmas Day.
01:03:37
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um Yeah. Yeah. No, thank you all. It's so stupid. Thank you all for listening. God bless you. If, or whoever you worship ah or any at all, thank you for listening.
01:03:53
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Bless you for making it that far through that, whatever that just was. uh yeah like i said with my friends i want you to know i really do actually appreciate each and every person that listens it's why we do this we could just hang out you know on a discord call together just the two of us and bullshit around but we do it in this format because we like to spread smiles and spread good vibes and knowing people listen is how we know that we're doing that and it feels really good It does feel really good. So having said that, I'm going to do a sign off that I used to do on.
01:04:33
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Shares a lot back in the day, and, you know, i think in the interest of continuing the nice vibes, I'm not going to end with a joke. I'm just going to say what I used to say at the end of every episode and just let it be that. Would that be OK with you, Danny, if I stole from my other show?
01:04:48
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Please go right ahead. All right, everybody. Listen, we appreciate that you're here. um hope that you learned something today. hope that you felt something good today. And as always, please take care of your minds, take care of your hearts, and most importantly, for the love of all things holy, take care of each other.
01:05:08
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And we'll see you in the next episode. Goodbye. Bye-bye.