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Mustard Up The Courage To Unjudge Someone
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Today we discuss how to "unjudge" people, and how to assess your own biases. We also talk about our favorite "poor man's meals!"
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Introduction and Moving Challenges
00:00:00
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with it ah so here we go good morning good afternoon and good evening ladies gentlemen not binary folks of universe is not an unknown this is that's our qrtoq for sure where we take your questions and we answer them as if anybody gives an absolute butthole of what our opinion is but having said that my name is adam and of course with me is my pal from across the state in another state Daniel Guarantee.
00:00:23
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So far across that I'm in another state. Amazing. Hi, everybody. I am Danny Guarantee, the hostess with the mostest. I thought I was.
00:00:35
Speaker
Psst. I think you introduced me as that last time. So feel like that was so last week. Okay. it was and I haven't even edited that episode yet. I'm behind. I could have just gotten it done, but just such a slacker.
00:00:47
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That was so last week. Like, get me with a spoon. man. I'm moving in a few days and it's been quite the, the up and down story. And so like every time I just think about like editing something, even though it's TOQ is so easy to edit.
00:01:02
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Cause I do very little. I'm like, I'm like, ah, I could do that, but I could pack, but then I don't pack, nor do I edit and I do nothing. i Dude, I've been doing that for 36 years, man. I don't know why I get stuck in a stupid loop.
00:01:18
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um Yeah. But before we get into the questions, cause we have a couple today. Just my first question is how, how's Danny in the year of 2020, you know, just how are you doing? Just how, how are you at physically? How's your health? Are you happy at home? You know, just how is Danny?
00:01:36
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Pretty good. i would say Danny's doing pretty good. I have to make a doctor's appointment because i had to cancel my last one. It was right when I got laid off. Yeah. So I had no insurance, but I have insurance again. Don't worry.
00:01:49
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Oh yeah. i just, you know, much like you packing, I keep thinking like, oh man, I should make a doctor's appointment. And then I just don't. I know. Sorry, mom. I'll get on it. I promise you don't need to call me and remind me.
00:02:03
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Um, Hopefully by the time you hear this, I've already done it. Yes. um Other than I mean, health is fine. Like, you know, nothing's going on or anything. I just get something i need to do. Other than that, I mean, things are going um pretty, pretty OK here. You know, still ah grinding away, trying to find a new place to sell my soul.
00:02:25
Speaker
So, you know, if you know, fun, so it's not worked up is if you guys want to contribute to the show. Yeah, if you want to you know, we don't have a GoFundMe per se, but we do have ah a Kofi. We have a Kofi if you want to pay my bills.
00:02:38
Speaker
These trying times. um You know, there was what we were talking about last night. We me and Adam were playing games last night and just chatting about life. I won't get too into it, but, you know, the voice acting stuff is is going in.
00:02:53
Speaker
A few directions. And, you know, it sounds like things are actually starting to move. The ball is starting to roll a little bit with that. um I think I told you last night I got some really positive feedback from an author who I did an audio book for, for some characters in an audio book.
00:03:12
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So that was really nice to hear. She loves it. um But yeah, I mean, things have just been going all right. How about you, Mr. Adam? I mean, I know you got the move.
00:03:23
Speaker
ah You were talking last night about how ups and down that is going. Sure. Yeah. I won't get it too into it in this episode because we have too much to talk about. But yeah, I'd say um general state of things on Earth.
00:03:38
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Not great. But like, I think for like, i was just talking to my new roommate here. There'll be my roommate here in a few days. We've been hanging out a lot and something that. you know I'm realizing that that has been very positive for me.
00:03:52
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And like despite like a lot of hangups with the move and then things falling through and then we're having to pivot and everything. It's a whole story. But something that like they said the other day when we were in the car and we were having to like sort some things out when we were driving back from a visit we were doing and like they were like...
00:04:09
Speaker
Are you okay? Because like the short event for the listeners is that I had a place we're going to move into, a water main burst, ah just a couple days ago, and now we have to pivot and figure out somewhere else to go in a very short amount of time.
00:04:21
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Their lease isn't up for another couple of months, but they're moving out early. My lease is up in a few days. And so when we were in the car, they said, I'm upset for you. You don't seem like you're upset enough. What what is Like what, what's going on? Are you okay?
00:04:36
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And the first thing I said was, i don't think it's time to panic yet. And like, I realized that like, I've kind of held onto this idea of it's not time to panic until it's time to panic. And I don't think I've hit that wall very many times in my life.
00:04:49
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And so this is another one where I there, you know, there's still things to do. We had a couple of options thrown at us after we got this news from the leasing company. And I was like, you know what, it's stressful and we're going to have to make decisions very quickly, but I feel like I work well under pressure and Some of it's a waiting game, which sucks, but I don't think it's time to panic yet. And they were like, well, I'm panicking for you. You don't seem like you've said how do you do that?
00:05:12
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And it was just really nice for me to in those in that moment to be like, I'm still like, I'm still good at this, like good at like maintaining my composure in times where.
00:05:23
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I don't think a lot of people do. And it's not that i'm measuring myself against others exactly, but I've seen how that stacks up with others. And I'm like, I'm doing all right. Maybe even superhuman in a situation where i when I'm Adam, I bury my trouble so that they can fester and grow.
00:05:40
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i like to cultivate them like plants. You know, for me, it's just I do better with. knowing that i I, I'm, I'm, I improvise well, I'm not a good planner, but I'm a good improviser. So like, there, there are a few key things that I think like really help you with this.
00:06:00
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Like, uh, you, you were saying the other night that, you know, what happened is not your fault at all. That's a huge one. Sure. Uh, and like you said, this happened right before you got the place. So it's not your responsibility.
00:06:14
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It sucks. Like, it is really bad what happened, but at least it happened before it became your... Right....problem in more ways than how it affects your life immediately.
00:06:27
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Correct. And only that, but... you know, there are some... Mitigating factors. Sure. which is Right. as That's what I was going to say was like, there are some things going on at it, but it could have happened while we were there. Our stuff could have gotten ruined. We would have had to scramble much faster with everything going on if that happened while we were there, you know, and if the pipe still froze while the water main was open and everything like.
00:06:51
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Hell, that means that that pipe was not good. So maybe this was like, you know, a blessing in disguise. Like it's stressful. It sucks. It checked a lot of boxes, but there we are.
Positive Actions and Personal Growth
00:06:59
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So anyway, like the long and short of it is like, I feel that,
00:07:03
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when the chips are down, I feel like more often than not, I still find a way to come out on top in a situation where otherwise I think people may, you know, spiral and I haven't spiraled and I feel really strong about that. So I feel really good that I feel like I find ways to center myself in situations where everyone else around me is not, um, especially if somebody else has a stake in it, you know, like my roommate, their name is hitch, um, hitches, um,
00:07:28
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a little bit more of a worrier than I am. So i really when I have other people around, I feel like I have to really rise to the occasion so they know it's okay to not panic too.
00:07:39
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So it was, you know, so I just feel very good that I am still able to hold onto that. And like, you know, we've talked about different traumas and tragedies on the show and in our conversations in the past. And I just feel very good that I've still been able to hold onto that.
00:07:52
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after all this time so it was just a nice thing that when someone goes how are you calm right now keep calm and keep moving on right yeah man as long as and as long as that's what you're doing and it's not just like disassociating or being dead inside that's no i know it's it's the opposite of like when i'm like i could pack but i could also not okay that's making sure i want i just gotta look out for you No, no. And I appreciate that. And like, I, you know, i have expressed like things I might be a little worried about, but like nothing. It's the difference of like,
00:08:26
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Worrying isn't going to help. So why would I do it? But I'm not ignoring that there's a challenge, but I'm like, I know what avenues I can take and then more information will come as I explore them. So I'm excited to find out what those are. So like I'm always in like, ah there's still an avenue here. Like if I lose more pathways, then maybe I'll be a little bit more worried.
00:08:45
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But there are still avenues we can take. We got information where were like, you know, if you look at other properties we have, we can try to get you in. on the moving date you were trying to do, which alleviated some anxiety I had. So i was like, there's still options. We just have to look and see what there are. So it's not like all the options were removed. it's just that that particular one was.
00:09:02
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So, yeah you know, what I'm saying like it sucks and we had plans and visions for what we were going to do with the place, but also like, you know, there's other things we can do. And so why would I panic when there's still options available? you know, I'm a lot alike in that way where As long as I feel like there is something I can do, I'm usually pretty good when it comes to panicking.
00:09:26
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I'm fine keeping a cool head so long as I think I can help in some way. It's when something's going wrong in such a way that I can't do anything, that powerless feeling kills me. Sure.
00:09:39
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i hate it. it It is a tough. Yeah. And there is when and we were talking last night about like some current events, I definitely feel that we're like, there's only so many things i can do.
00:09:51
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But I, you know, I had a talk at work recently with some partners and a lot of I always have to like take my own advice sometimes because I forget that like there's still ways to apply it where I was talking about information and sharing valuable information and making sure information is clear and and easy to understand and it's not misinformation.
00:10:11
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because people have different ideas of what they think things are. And, you know, I keep thinking the same thing. Like I can still make sure I'm staying informed. i can make sure I'm giving the right information when things go on. I feel powerless in certain situations because I'm angry, but it doesn't mean that there's not things I can do. It's just that like maybe what I'm doing you know I always say the world is made of 7 billion smaller worlds, and I can try to affect those worlds in the best way that I can in situations like this.
00:10:38
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So that's a big deal. One extra world that you can make better is a big deal. You made my world better last night when we talked. You affected a whole entire world just by being there when I needed it. That's huge. I'm to help my friend. That's what people recognize when rising to an occasion for someone.
00:10:57
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one like like That is a whole entire world. One other time earlier ah in our episodes. But yeah, everybody's world is like their whole world is their experience, just like yours is yours. Right.
00:11:13
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So when you do something nice for somebody like hang out with them at, you know, last night to cheer them up a little bit. it affects that person's whole world. You changed an entire world for that one person.
00:11:26
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You don't have to change the world for everybody, just for one person for a night. Sure. Uh, that's huge in a lot of ways is so helpful. And that's what I use to kind of get through current events. You know, obviously I don't condone a lot of what's happening.
00:11:44
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And, uh, Not to get too in the weeds about it, because that this is not that kind of show, I promise. At least it's not going to be today. At least at least not on purpose, it's not.
00:11:54
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Right. um But there are a lot of things going on right now that I don't condone. And the way I kind of deal with that and help in my own way is I make sure I am not a part of the problem.
00:12:07
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i'm I'm just trying to survive on my own, too. like Unfortunately, I can't. strike, I can't, you know, go out and and do things because I'm barely making men ends meet as it is.
00:12:24
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But what I can do is make sure I'm not a part of the problem. And when the opportunity comes to make something a little bit easier or make somebody's life a little bit easier or nicer, taking advantage of that to just add a little bit of good to help balance out the bad.
00:12:40
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hmm. Sometimes think if everybody did that, it would add up to a lot of good. It would be really helpful. A thousand percent. I completely agree. Like sometimes it's just a matter of putting a little less shit into the world because there's enough. Everybody wants to do these big grand gestures, like just do little things.
00:12:59
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And if because then they're easy, it's accessible for everybody. And if everybody just did little nice things for each other. the world would be a hugely different place.
00:13:09
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Yeah. Think about think about like, you know, like how we have a lot of garbage that humans create. Right. And there's ways to be more sustainable. Right. There is or like, hey, if I put this recycling here or if I compost here or if this goes to the landfill,
00:13:25
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You know, even if less goes to the landfill and more goes into recycling and or composting or just reduction in general. Right. You can still think about that with like where you put your emotions. You're allowed to have whatever feelings that you have.
00:13:38
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But sometimes you got to know where the right place to put them is, because like sometimes you're just throwing your trash on somebody else's porch. Right. You're just throwing all that bad stuff at somebody with like no with malice or without any regard for how it affects them. But sometimes it's like, hey, if you have all these bad feelings that are cropping up and you're constantly throwing your garbage at other people, maybe you got to find a better place to handle that garbage, right? And like maybe turn it into something more sustainable or turn it into more energy for yourself or recognize there's a problem and just produce less of it, right? Less greenhouse gases, less garbage, less negativity, less rage, less racism, right? Whatever you can do to like reel some of that in.
00:14:16
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Sometimes it's not about... Like you were saying, you might not have a solution, but at least you're not part of you're not putting any more of that out either. Right. You're like reducing or you're not.
00:14:28
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I'm trying to help mitigate. Exactly. but And that's sometimes that's the best you can do. And there's nothing wrong with that. Now, I think nothing wrong with that. You know, just to put it more succinctly, so it's easy to digest for everybody. What we're really trying to say here is.
00:14:42
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Maybe just don't be a piece of shit this year. okay I was literally going to say maybe just, you know, this one year, this, this, just this one year, just just don't be a
Overcoming Racism and Embracing Diversity
00:14:52
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piece of shit. We got to bring this back every episode, yeah every episode for the entirety of 2026. Don't be a piece of shit. this We're going to remind you, just don't be a piece of shit this year.
00:15:02
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Yeah. Now, having said that, I do have a couple of questions pulled up. That was ah a wonderful discussion without like a proper question. ah So I think is a good way to segue into one that I found that led me into down a rabbit hole of something that I found that's very beautiful. So I know this question is going to sound a bit bizarre, but it's going to lead to it is something I'm really excited to share with everybody that I found.
00:15:26
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Um, so this is from the no stupid questions, Reddit, and, uh, the person must have deleted their account because it just says deleted where their name should be. But the question is, how do you stop being, rap being a racist?
00:15:39
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And all it says underneath is says, okay, I'm going to be honest. I am a racist. I won't mention whom I'm racist towards because I don't want to hurt their feelings. I don't want to be racist, but I don't know how to stop being a racist.
00:15:52
Speaker
Is there any way I can change this? And there's some great responses in here, one of which is like hanging out with other groups of people and things like that, like that, you know, don't share the same kind of, you know, different beliefs as you, or they might be from different places as you.
00:16:06
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um But then somebody had mentioned like, you know, That's the optimal answer, but sometimes you don't have access to a very diverse place, especially if you live in more remote or rural areas. And so somebody recommended, well, before I tell them what the recommendation is, like, I would like to hear like your thoughts on the question, because I don't want to just dominate the the yeah the question, but.
00:16:25
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um I do have something that somebody shared in response to that, that I think is really beautiful that I know that you looked at a little bit before I get to it. Like, I'd like to hear like your thoughts also, like, you know, if somebody asked you that genuine question, man, you know what? I'm just going to admit it.
00:16:39
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I do have racial tendencies. I'm trying to be better about it. What does that look like? How do I stop? You know, whether this was, you know, this seems like it's a genuine question. So like, what would you say? First of all, congratulations on the first step, which is,
00:16:55
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realizing you have these feelings and that they're not fair. ah For me, i grew up in a very homogenized area.
00:17:11
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I went to Catholic school almost all my life, all the way till college. In grade school, we had one, ah just for everybody's ah reference, I am white.
00:17:28
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We had one black guy in our in my class in grade school, and that was about it as far as diversity went. High school, we had a few more, you know, we started seeing more diverse student body.
00:17:42
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And everybody was super nice. Of all races, all ethnicities, everybody was super nice. But I never really had like
00:17:54
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ah I never really had a run-in with culture shock until I went to college because I decided in an attempt to broaden my horizons and kind of get out of this little bubble I'm in, as well as the fact that Mbaluga was going to the school as well, I decided to go to a more inner-city school for college.
00:18:22
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And um yeah, it was a culture shock at first, but you get used to it. Right. And at first. I don't want to say it was it wasn't. Because of race, but more because I didn't feel like I belonged, that I would feel unnecessarily like nervous or afraid.
00:18:43
Speaker
You know, i was one of those people that was like at night, I'm not going outside or anything because I don't know. I'm in inner city school. I grew up in the suburbs, like away from all of that. And it was more just, I don't know what this more inner city culture is like after a couple of years of it.
00:19:03
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You know, I grew onto it. It's not my culture. It's not one that I seek out. It's not me, but like I can accept it. It's fine. I learned to get over those irrational fears of it.
00:19:16
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It's just the fear of the unknown is mostly what it comes down to. And the best way to deal with that is to just meet people of diverse backgrounds.
00:19:27
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it And you it helps you see that everybody's just people. We're raised slightly differently, you know, different customs. Maybe you pray to a different God, religion, whatever.
00:19:39
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But at the end of the day, we're all people that respond to certain stimuli the same way, with the same emotion. You know, I don't think that there's any culture,
00:19:53
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That just straight up considers killing a good thing and something that you should feel happy about.
00:20:01
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There are cultures that probably condemn it worse than others, but i there are some things that are just universal about people. And it's hard to see that in a world that let's be honest, has become very us versus them.
00:20:16
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For sure. It's very easy to monetize people when they are, at a sporting event where it's our team versus the other team.
00:20:28
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And unfortunately it is kind of seeped into everything about the world. You know, you have to be on our team. So buy our merch, you have to be on our team. So vote this way. You have to be on our team. So do this, do that. You know, we don't like those people. Let's gather together.
00:20:48
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Forget our I hate this one when people are like, let's forget our differences. Because there's them. like in the same sentence, my dude, you said, forget our differences, but fuck them because they're different.
00:21:05
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but Yeah. And I hate it. And just like. I don't know. It's again, and it's not a problem I really had to deal with. I never had.
00:21:19
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like I said, I didn't deal with race much in my life, but I also didn't deal with racist in my life either. And because of that, I just grew up like, just who cares?
00:21:35
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Like, sure. I had some irrational fears about a culture that I didn't understand at the time, but I went there. I grew to understand it. And like, I stopped worrying about it. And,
00:21:48
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That's kind of how I am with any culture. I'm like, yeah, I don't understand it, but I'll try to.
00:21:55
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it I don't think less of anybody for being any other culture. I think that's the but the big thing is you have to realize that like. Just like you have to learn to accept who you are for yourself, you have to learn to accept other people for who they are.
00:22:10
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They're no more or less important or perfect than you are. They have just as many flaws as you. Some big, some small.
00:22:22
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Nobody's special, and in that way, we're all special.
00:22:27
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who I'm trying really hard to make sense of this, and I hope it's coming across. No, like I think I think like it's yeah, I hear where you're coming from. I think, you know, you've been fortunate that, you know, you didn't encounter like a heavyweight one way or the other.
00:22:44
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um But you also had to recognize when you moved to that different school that there were things that did make you and innately uncomfortable because you weren't used to it. Right. And I want to catch before because I know the Internet and everything before people go, well, yeah, you're what? Of course you didn't experience any.
00:23:00
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I mean, I didn't experience it third hand either. I didn't see it happening to people around me. That's how I took it. I'm I'm absolutely right. Well, you know me.
00:23:11
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You know, I wouldn't just stand by for that shit. Right. But I don't think you grew up like yeah I don't know from what I understand. I don't think like a lot of your friends and family in your life were also saying shit that would be off color.
00:23:23
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You know? No. And I think that's a big part of it. You know, it's yeah. Racism is very much a learned thing. Thousand percent. It's why there's like the stereotype of the old racist guy, because, well, that's the world he grew up in.
00:23:36
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I didn't grow up around racism. The few people of different cultures I did meet in my daily life. I hung out with as a kid and it was fine. You know, my parents were like, oh, they're just another kid.
00:23:48
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They can come over. They could do whatever i their kids. So it it never really bothered me. And it and was never even something that really crossed my mind too much. Yeah. um Yeah. And something you mentioned earlier that I think tends to kind of get twisted sometimes is like if you move somewhere where you're in the minority, right, like or at least like your practices and your customs are in the minority. It is a weird feeling, but that's something that a lot of people who are actual minorities experience all the time. Like when like a black family moves to a predominantly white neighborhood, which is very common in a lot of places. It was common where I grew up, actually. i' like I'm yeah very happy I did this. like
00:24:30
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It wasn't the best school in the world. m In fact, I almost lost my ability to graduate through no fault of my own because our our dean was an idiot.
00:24:43
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Stupid dean. Stupid dean. But I do, for the... For the human growth and the experiences it gave me, i am very happy I did it.
00:24:55
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There were times I hated that school. There were times I hated aspects of that inner city culture. you know like I always went to bed an alright time.
00:25:08
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I'm not a partier. I had roommates that would stay up drinking with their friends till four in the morning in the dorms. There were times I hated all of that. But there were times where I genuinely got to talk to somebody and learn things new about the world and everything. And that was really cool.
00:25:27
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Yeah. And that's kind of it, right? It's like you want to take something away from it that like makes you, you know, it's like people who handle bugs who can just like pick up a bug off the ground and be like, oh, check out this cool critter.
00:25:40
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And because like they know they've done this before, they've got. No, those people are weird. No. Right. But it's the same idea, though, like, you know, like, for the people who like handle a lot of animals. Yeah. like No, I do actually agree. I'm just making it. Yeah. You know, like I like when I go to your house, I don't want to be anywhere near your fucking bird.
00:25:57
Speaker
Like, I don't want him anywhere near me. But I also want to be over that. Like, I still have this weird little fear that if this bird sits on my shoulder, he's going to shit on me and then peck out my eyes. Well, you really don't like my bird.
00:26:09
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It's not that I don't like him. I just don't want him near me. Right. Really? I didn't know that. Because I'm not going to be like, I hate your fucking bird because I don't hate your bird, but I don't want to give the impression that I don't like him. But like my sister. Oh, yeah. i'm Sorry. That came out wrong when I said you don't like him. I mean, like birds in general. I didn't like like I'm not afraid of birds, but like I like them at a distance, you know, like I don't want them close to me. But like, you know, my my niece has a bunch of birds that my sister got her and she's so comfortable. She snuggles them. She picks up chickens with her bare hands and like gives them big old hugs and stuff.
00:26:39
Speaker
And I'm like, I ain't doing that. But also she's that's her whole life. There's she has always had animals that she just she's a big snuggle bunny and she just loves birds and creatures and just picks them up and just fucking hugs them. And like, I'm like, you're such a brave little kid. I would not want those beaks anywhere near my face. Well, I'll be honest with you.
00:26:59
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I don't think my bird would ever peck your eyes out, but he'll shit on me. He will absolutely shit on you. He will 100% shit on you. He will come over to me, stand on me, shit, and then go back to his cage. Like as if I were the toilet.
00:27:17
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Exactly. So but that's ah but that's the same idea of just like it's it all comes from a place of the unknown of fear of like something I don't understand. Right. And so you're taught to like be, you know, either you're taught to be afraid of it or there's part of your little lizard brain that also is like, that's unknown. I don't know what that is. I need to be afraid or always on guard because I don't understand it You know, like there are there there's studies about like how like our cave person brain developed where like if a tribe is somebody who didn't look like you came into your camp or you're like, you know, wherever your dwellings were, you were like, oh, I should I need to attack that person. They might be here to take my stuff or take my my family or take my food or kill me like you're like your brain goes like, ah, that's not something new. i don't know what that is.
00:28:02
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Right. So like there's like studies behind that. So like getting out of your comfort zone and kind of getting into those new waters is terrifying. But then you learn like, hey, maybe it's not so bad.
00:28:14
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But unfortunately, some people will have a bad experience and that will trigger a trauma response for a long time. And honestly, I had instances like that as a kid. I am embarrassed, but also proud to say that I, there was a I'm not proud to say that I was this, but I'm proud to say I got away from it, which is when I was a kid, I learned racism. And then tried to get past it when I went to like a school in an inner city um that was predominantly a black school.
00:28:43
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And I had kids that picked on me. I got chased home from school was the first time I ever walked to school. And I had these kids, all of whom were black, who chased me home. A lot of the times I would run home from school.
00:28:54
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And i learned fucking they must be they all must be like that. Everybody must be bad here. Like I knew I shouldn't would come to this school. My old school would have. I've never had this problem. And i learned it worse because I had these awful people who just. But then i one day.
00:29:11
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i went back there and like tried to find one of the kids like his name was Josh. and I'm not going to say his last name, but I know his face. I know his name. you josh And I went back there and I tried to find the kid.
00:29:24
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And, um you know, I ended up hema he ended up moving out, but I found somebody who lived where he lived. And I was like, hey, you know, turns out he's a family member of the kid who moved out. And, you know, they were like, you know,
00:29:37
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we talked a little bit and I learned about him and he experienced a lot of racism from the other white kids in the school and from other towns they lived in. So he didn't trust me. He was like, this guy must be a bad guy. He's just white dude, you know, like, and it was just this awful thing where they're like, you know, he just grew up like that. you know I'm sorry he picked on you.
00:29:55
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you know, like he maybe this was what was going on. he also didn't have his dad around. um And I'm just like, I would have never thought to ask those things as a young kid. But like, I look back on that now and like, you know, this was after I had kind of had some growth and had to go through even more growth over 2020 and the riots and everything like had to reckon with the fact that even though I thought I wasn't racist or I thought I didn't have racist and ah tendencies, had to reckon them with like, oh, there's still shit that I'm afraid of that I don't know about that I still thought or didn't understand um with All Lives Matter, Black Lives Matter, all this other stuff.
00:30:27
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And like I just it's been a gradual growth period from like when I was like nine years old to 37. And like anytime I thought that I have nothing else left to learn, society humbles my ass and says, hey, buddy, here's some more shit that you things yeah you you have to realize you are never You're not done learning. Yeah, you're never done growing. You're never done learning.
00:30:48
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And the moment you kind of shut yourself off and say, no, I'm done. That's that's when it's too late. yeah That's when my legs got swept off from underneath me. And I'm like, oh, oh, wow. There's still so much more than I don't know.
00:31:01
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ah And honestly, i i love the the idea of learning it now. Anytime that I'm confronted with something, I used to get really uncomfortable. And sometimes I still do. But like, it's not as bad anymore.
00:31:14
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But I remember. the day that like was a huge reckoning for me was when I didn't understand the difference between, I didn't understand why all lives matter was a bad thing to say around people who were not white.
00:31:28
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I didn't understand it. Um, and I'm embarrassed to say that, but like i but can I got was because on the surface, it sounds Good. Right. All lives should matter. But I think that that is on purpose. But that but that's but that's exactly it was like if I were to go back and put a better if I could change what those labels were, it would be black lives matter to all lives should matter.
00:31:54
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Right. Like there's words missing in each one that would have helped me understand better what they meant. And so like but I was fortunate that when I was doing online volunteer work, trying to do kind of similar work that I do now, frankly, but I was volunteering.
00:32:07
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And I was connecting people who were food insecure or immune compromised to places where they had extra food. And then we had other volunteers who were on the ground who would go and deliver that food to their homes. And that's what I was doing over the pandemic for a while to kind of help out.
00:32:23
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And um one of the women who ran the organization was a black woman who one time during a conversation mentioned something about Black Lives Matter. And I just out of my mouth, I said, well, don't all lives matter? And she goes, I hate that.
00:32:36
Speaker
and i And I was and I just remember kind of freezing. And then after the conference was over, I called her and I said, hey, I'm really sorry about this, but I don't i feel like I upset you and I don't understand why. Why was that bad?
00:32:47
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And she went on to tell me like what that sounds like to other people. because people weaponize that phrase when they don't actually mean it. But there are, but I also learned on the other side that there were people who understood it the way that I did.
00:33:01
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Right. And they didn't understand why that came off the wrong way. And so it was just, it's a reckoning for me and to be able to educate other people in my life. Like that's not actually what that means.
00:33:11
Speaker
Right. they're They're not using it in a way or like the way you understand is not what it means. But like I said, if, Those words were put in there. I would have understood it better. But but the fact that somebody because there are other people who are like, fuck you, I don't need to educate you.
00:33:25
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And I know that have pushed other there are stories on Reddit of people who could have been potential allies being like, well, I tried and you told me to fuck off. So I don't want to help you anymore, which sucks like that. You're just wounded so easily. You don't want to try anymore. But at the same time, that understandably, there are people like, I don't need to educate you.
00:33:42
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But there were people – that woman was like, hey, man, what questions do you have? I'll do my best to answer them. And then she sent me resources and websites to read and books that I can read and other people that I can talk to to ask these questions, and I did. Because I was like, I don't understand. feel like I've made someone upset, and that was not my intention. What did I do wrong?
00:34:01
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And I was fortunate that there was – Sorry, I was just going to say I was fortunate that there were people who were willing to talk to me because I've had others say the same thing other people have said, which was like, fuck you. I don't have to educate you. Go look it up.
00:34:14
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But I was untrusting of the Internet because, you know, the algorithms can sway any way. And like, I know i was worried that if I Googled one thing and I would get the wrong information and go down a rabbit hole of learning the wrong thing further.
00:34:26
Speaker
So I needed that human contact. but Like, I don't know. Where even to read? If you don't want to educate me, that's fine. But can you tell me what to trust? Like, who are there YouTube videos that you trust? Are there websites that you trust? And some people were like, yeah, here, read this.
00:34:41
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And that was it. That was the conversation. But, you know, but I had to be uncomfortable a lot while during pandemic lockdown to be like, I don't and I have nowhere to go.
00:34:52
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So I had to learn how to navigate Internet conversations. Be like, how do I figure this out? What is the right information that I need to understand? So anyway, just like you were saying, like, but you have to be uncomfortable. You have to like, yeah, I was like, I thought for sure I had peaked on being an anti-racist ally and then learned I fucking knew nothing. And I was like, outside your comfort zone, literally.
00:35:14
Speaker
Yeah. um But it's huge that you even recognize like, ooh, I think I messed up or I said something I didn't intend to. The fact that you went and then said like, hey, can you inform me of what I did?
00:35:30
Speaker
Again, the world would be so different if people could just swallow their pride and be like, I fucked I don't know this. Yeah. I always tell people when like because people will ask you like, oh, you know who who you thinking of voting for, even though you're not supposed to talk about that.
00:35:51
Speaker
People will ask. Right. Sure. And I've always told people one of the biggest criteria I have. It's just being like. Not even relatable, but just... i would give I would almost blindly give a vote to somebody if when asked, what would you do about this problem and that problem with the country?
00:36:14
Speaker
I don't know, but I'm going to surround myself with people who can help me figure it out. who Boom, you got my vote. Instead of BSing me and pretending you have got everything figured out and you know how to fix everything...
00:36:28
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I will absolutely vote for the person that shows that they're willing to hear ideas. I don't know how I'm going fix this, but I'm going to surround myself with people who know more about it than I do. So we can come up with a solution together.
00:36:41
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Yeah. Boom. that Got my vote. That is something that comes up a lot in like if you're in it, like when I was a dance teacher and even in food banking. There's a lot of times that people say like, hey, what do I do? Or how does this work? Or what did i do wrong? And a lot of times I had to say, you know what? I don't know right now, but like, give me some time. I'll do a little bit of digging, talk to some people and I'll get you the answer.
00:37:02
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Like, if I don't know, I'm not going to tell you a bullshit answer. Like, I just don't know, but I'll figure it out. Right. Cause it gives me a new task. That's something I'm seeing a lot in my job search right now. Right. Is because I've talked to recruiters and stuff and they're like, okay, so what are your skills? And I said, well, I'm, I'm pretty good with Excel.
00:37:21
Speaker
And the reason I feel that way isn't because I know how to do a lot of things on it. I do, but it's because I know how to find new things. If I need to figure out how to do something on Excel that I've never had to do before, I know how to word the Google search to find what I'm looking for or like to look at a list of formulas and say like, okay, I think I can make it work if I use this formula.
00:37:48
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But it's... Learn knowing how to learn new things is, in my opinion, more important than knowing a lot of things in general.
00:38:00
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But also wanting to learn. Right. Yeah. like you You see it as an opportunity. Right. Well, I guess that would be it. The enthusiasm to learn and the knowledge of how to learn.
Human Library and Learning from Others
00:38:10
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Right.
00:38:11
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Is what I think is more important. You can learn to do almost anything. You just got to be willing to. Right. And know how to. Yeah, exactly. don't know how well the hell we got to this, by the way. But speaking of that, no, that's a great segue into the the thing that I found that I wanted to share. True. You know what? That's true. I did that on purpose. I know. Let's go to that. I know. I know exactly what you were doing. You were trying to team me up, and now you're feeling like it wasn't good enough, but you did a great job.
00:38:41
Speaker
Thank you for doing it. um so No problem, man. In the Reddit thread that I was reading, Somebody had said like when it's around yourself with other people that have like different kind of beliefs than you looks than you practices than you. But then when somebody said like, this is a great answer, but not everybody has access to that.
00:38:58
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And they said, I recommend this resource called the human library. And I'm actually going to read their description first because I think they do a good job of explaining it. Um, So they say, I highly recommend a Human Library.
00:39:12
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It is an organization that hosts online and IRL events where you can spend half an hour talking to a human book from a marginalized or misunderstood group. You choose your a title such as Black, schizophrenic, Irish traveler, sex worker, and meet a real person from that group to hear their story.
00:39:28
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The idea is to unjudge people by meeting them person to person, and it's a safe space to ask questions. I myself volunteer as a book in the human library. My title is lesbian and people come to read me for all sorts of reasons.
00:39:43
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Some of them just want to ask questions about how lesbian sex works. Some of them are questions about their own sexual orientation. Others are parents whose children just came out as gay and many people just want to hear a different perspective.
00:39:55
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I love being a book as do most volunteers. It's awesome to have people genuinely interested in unjudging you when you've spent a lifetime being judged. Even when they ask ignorant or rude questions, I'm glad to be part of their journey to open their minds.
00:40:08
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And I think that's such a fucking cool concept that like the whole idea is like you can. So I went on this website and did a lot of digging like over the past like hour before we started ah recording.
00:40:21
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And they have this. They started over in um I believe it's Denmark in Copenhagen. And like now they're across 80 plus countries with different activities, six different continents.
00:40:33
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um And I'm still kind of learning more about it. So they have like in real life ah sections where you can sit down with somebody. And how it works is you can either you can sign up to be a volunteer, which I already sent an inquiry in before we recorded.
00:40:45
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And um you can sign up to either be a book or a reader or you can be a librarian and so as you heard like the book portion is you give yourself like a designated kind of title that somebody might be interested in learning more about and then a reader you sign up and you say i want to learn about this and then you choose the subjects you want to learn about and you kind of get a book quote unquote on loan right for 30 minutes that you can sign up to talk to them and then the librarian uh portion is you are the facilitator
00:41:16
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You are the one that if maybe conversations coming to a halt and people really don't know how to respond to something or how to ask a good question, you kind of guide the conversation. You make sure people are comfortable. You make sure that everybody's like, you know, having a good conversation, that they're doing it in a safe way. And then like you kind of just kind of notate if anything happens or if it went well.
00:41:35
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So I just think that's such a neat idea that it's like ah facilitator a curious person and someone who's volunteering their time to educate. Um, and they started, I think in 2020 and, uh, they've like rapidly expanded to all these different ways and you can do it online now and do like virtual volunteering, which is what I sent out. Also, I asked them if they wanted to come on the show. I don't know if I'm going to get anywhere with this, but I did say, Hey, sure why not I did say, Hey, you know, I'm a guy who wants to learn. I work at a food bank and I'm trying, we're trying to find more ways to connect to other people. That's such a great idea. Do you want to do a collaboration? But also I work on this podcast called that's our cue. And we've often had a lot of different types of people come on and share their experiences and a little about them and something they're passionate about.
00:42:20
Speaker
We would love if somebody wants to come on and talk to us further. So who knows? We'll see. But you mean, it doesn't hurt to ask, right? um So anyway, I just think it's really cool. It's humanlibrary.org.
00:42:31
Speaker
highly recommend you check it out. If I remember, I would try to remember to put it in the notes of the, of the edit. If I remember to do that. Um, but if not human library.org, uh, check it out. It's really cool. I love that their whole tagline is just unjudge someone and you can do it all for free, but you can also donate to the cause, which a lot of people do.
00:42:51
Speaker
Um, They're all across different social medias, which I need to find them on Instagram. I got to remember to do that when we're done um and follow them to see what's going on. But I just think that's a really cool idea. And I think, um like you were saying, if more people just admitted they don't know something and they had a safe space to ask questions like I did way back when,
00:43:11
Speaker
Actually, funny enough, it was in 2021. Like i learned, hey, i I fucking know nothing um like and that's when these guys started. So it's a really cool resource, a really cool place. um You can volunteer. You can sign up to you to read and ask someone questions if you don't understand something.
00:43:28
Speaker
ah So either way, whatever it is, it tickles your fancy if you're looking to learn or to educate. go on there and sign up. It's easy to do. I've already looked at their signup page. It just asks you a few questions about like, have you done volunteerism like this before? Why do you want to do this? Are you curious about something or why do you want to educate about something? And then they just kind of ask like, if you're comfortable with virtual visits and like if what days of the week you're available and then you submit it and then, you know, ah eventually you'll get a ah response.
00:43:57
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Um, So yeah, humanlibrary.org. I was feeling a bit cranky about a lot of stuff. And i think sometimes you need a serotonin boost or a serotonin refresh.
00:44:09
Speaker
And I think when I read that question on Reddit, because I was originally going ask a question about smoking. But then i was like, you know, i'm going to click around and see what other ones are here. And I saw that. And I was like, i is this person being serious?
00:44:20
Speaker
So I clicked it out of curiosity. And I read some responses. And I saw that in the responses. And I was like, holy fuck, how do I not know about this? And it is right up your alley. Yeah. Yeah. I was like, this is like checks a lot of boxes that I want to want front installers to be. And so i was like, holy shit, what a wonderful um concept and what a wonderful way to to learn and to be uncomfortable, but in a safe space. Right.
00:44:46
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um And so, yeah, I just think that's such a great idea. And, but you know, there was one thing that that one response you read said that I absolutely loved. And that was that they loved being a part of the conversation, even if the person asked very ignorant or rude questions. i love that because you don't know what you don't know, right? Exactly.
00:45:14
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I don't know if this question is rude. We actually at my ah one of my past jobs, we had a something like that where you could sign up And they had a trans person come in and you were allowed to sit down. It was a group setting, not one-on-one, but you were allowed to sit down in this group and just ask them anything.
00:45:41
Speaker
hu And remember somebody asked something that would be construed as insensitive and the presenter took it that way and was like, no, you should never do that. That's very rude, very wrong to do.
00:45:57
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And I just remember sitting there to myself like. I'm sorry, but they didn't know. They didn't know that they were going to be super rude by asking that. Like, yeah, it was one of those kind of obviously rude questions, but.
00:46:12
Speaker
How else are they going to learn? Somebody has to be willing to say like, hey, I get that you're asking that. It is a rude question, but here's the answer. So you don't have to ask it again. Right. Like it's it's hard to find the line of like you don't want to scold somebody because sometimes that pushes them farther away from wanting to ask more questions.
00:46:32
Speaker
But I understand how that can be triggering. But also as a presenter, you do need to be aware of your own triggers. So that way, if you're going to be someone who is a resource, you have to expect that sometimes you're just going to get questions. And I'm sure that sometimes you're just going to have somebody who's just going to try to do gotcha bullshit to try to, you know, get a rise out of you.
00:46:49
Speaker
But that's also part of it is like you just have to like when you do stand up comedy, you're probably going to get hecklers sometimes and you just have to be able to deal with it. And you could even turn that rude question into a learning moment. Like, hey, I see what you're trying to do.
00:47:03
Speaker
Here's you know where that idea that this bad thing comes from. But really, it's like this and it's not so bad. Mm hmm.
00:47:13
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um Yeah. So that being said, I do have a question for you, Mr. Adam. Sure. I know you said you wanted to be a librarian. hmm.
00:47:25
Speaker
But what is your book title?
00:47:30
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That's tough because like i I don't feel like I am in a marginalized like I technically am neurodivergent, but like I've been able to. Or the like, I don't know, I don't feel like I'm part of that community in the same way that a lot of other people who've struggled worse are.
00:47:45
Speaker
But like, that would probably be Well, don't know. but Like, I feel like social issues, right? Like, you could be anything. Yeah, but I think the book is more so like your own experience of like your own like people. I guess like i don't think it would fit in the human library exactly, but like i would probably like, you know, like my belief in people is like unrivaled by a lot of other extrovert.
00:48:09
Speaker
So like, I think like, well, extroversion is i'm empowered by people, but my, my religion is people like my belief that keeps me getting up every day is that people are good. That is like my belief that is shaken and tested every day.
00:48:24
Speaker
And this is is one of those moments where, you know, you hear people say my faith in humanity is restored, but my faith in humanity, that's a capital F faith in capital H humanity every day.
00:48:36
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And so like, I think, I don't know very many other people who experience humanity the way that I do. And, I don't know how to explain that in a way that would give it a book title.
00:48:48
Speaker
But like my if I had to say I had a belief in a religion, it's in people and their power and their will and how they operate. And when they do awful, terrible things to people, I have to keep in mind that's not everybody. And that person might be experiencing something. They might be coming from a bad place. They did a bad thing and there should be ramifications or education for that.
00:49:11
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But like I need to keep my belief in check and it is wounded all the time. But then I remind myself there's just as many beautiful things that don't get highlighted enough, like the human library, which made my chest feel full in a way it hasn't in a little while.
00:49:26
Speaker
And so like I think I needed that shot of. this is a beautiful thing that exists that I now know exists and gives me such like, I don't know, empowerment to know that this is an opportunity for me and other people who might not know. And I have the opportunity right now for however every many people are listening to tell them about this thing.
00:49:49
Speaker
And, That brings me a lot of joy and lets me think like there are good people and America is struggling right now. But somebody in Denmark said, hey, I see a lot of problem and I'm going to do something about it. And I have the wherewithal to do it. And this spread rapidly across the fucking world.
00:50:04
Speaker
And I think that is beautiful. But I don't think my book title would like, I don't know. i shouldn't say I don't think. I don't know if that would fit in because I think this is more so like, marginalized people and I am not a marginalized person.
00:50:19
Speaker
Uh, now if I were like, again, I, my neurodivergence could, I guess, but like, I don't know. I don't think anybody's going sign up they're like, hey, tell me about your ADHD. But if I had like some other kind of combinations that like really put me in like a spot, like you know but I'm a white man, I'm a cisgendered guy, like I don't think my book would fit in that library in the way that I think they intend for their books too. But I also think they seem kind enough that they'd be like, yeah, sure, man. If you want to have that experience, if some people are curious, sign up. right But that would probably be it. It's like something around the lines of like,
00:50:51
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my neurodivergent, extroversion, faith in people combination. i don't know what that would be called. um But that would probably be it. But I don't think that's what they're what they're aiming for with their um with their mission. you know Yeah, that's fair enough.
00:51:10
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like What about you? Like, do you think you have a book title or or conversely? Actually, let me ask you, is there something you would sign up to, quote unquote, read? Is there a type of person or or experience that you're like, I don't know, Jack, about that or I only know a little and like, I don't know where I can trust that. So to hear somebody's experience might help illumine that in some way.
00:51:33
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Like, honestly, you know, the one that I would want to read the most. And again, I guess this. So I guess I misunderstood this a little bit. I thought that this was literally.
00:51:49
Speaker
You could title yourself anything and anybody could just come on and be like, well, that looks interesting. That looks interesting. I mean, you can. So I guess ah in that vein, I would love to like read a book from somebody who is in the position I'm in now where the nine to five grind is kind of
00:52:14
Speaker
almost seeming less the way to go i don't want to completely discount it going to keep looking for work obviously but like i said things with my side gig have started to roll and talks of money are coming into it and i would love to talk to somebody else who's been there and successfully navigated this section of life yeah So I can find out more about it, whether some pitfalls I should avoid. How do I know when it's time to say like, I should make a real go of this.
00:52:47
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Yeah, I i i actually, i don't think that's what the human library is shooting for. But Danny, like I said, this checks a lot of boxes for what I wanted fun installers to be.
00:52:58
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And I do think that there is a space for that where like to get people's experiences in like a little bit less of a marginalized way, but in like maybe a unique like Like you were saying, like, I, what do I do in this situation? I don't, you know, for me, I have lofty goals of like launching an energy drink. And a lot of times I'm like, but how do people just launch businesses? People just do that all the time.
00:53:19
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Self starters, like, oh, I run my own business. Like, how do you do that? I want to sit down with somebody like, what the fuck did, what was that process? Like, I don't know what the trust of any on the internet. I wish there was like, I almost wish apprenticeships never like for everything never went
Unique Life Skills and Food Adventures
00:53:34
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away.
00:53:34
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You know, like way back in like the Middle Ages and stuff is like, oh, you want to be a blacksmith? You train with a blacksmith for forever and then you become one. Villages are a lot smaller back then. Now it's mostly just trades.
00:53:46
Speaker
Right. I have apprenticeships and stuff. But like, I kind of wish that the idea of an apprenticeship never went away. Just you want to try this thing? Cool. Here's a trial run where you follow and but you know somebody who knows what they're doing to see if you like it and can do it.
00:54:02
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And then you go from there. As opposed to just reading a thing and being like, yeah, I guess I could do that. Here, take my resume and we'll see what happens.
00:54:14
Speaker
Yeah, I agree with you. And I think that there is definitely some missing facets to like, you know, so I like this idea that the human library has and like maybe they have more extensive network than I think. I haven't like read the full Monty on it, but like it sounds like it's specific to like judgmental human experiences or like marginalized communities and marginalized people or misunderstood things like you know like, like they mentioned somebody who's schizophrenic or somebody who works as a sex worker. Like those are very specific things that someone might quickly judge, right. Or not understand.
00:54:46
Speaker
But I do think that there is room for something like that. Like a, like an, an alternate library of like very unique experience of like, Hey, this is what I did to do that thing. Or how do you do that thing? Does anybody have that knowledge?
00:54:59
Speaker
Um, you know, so I do, I do think that there's room for something like that, but, um, But I see where you're coming from, and I think that's a good thing to be curious about. and Maybe we can just dive in together. And maybe if you guys know you know anybody who knows somebody, you know sometimes that's really how it works, right? as You network, and you you find a guy yeah the guy who knows a guy who knows a person, and boom, there it is. And mom, again, please don't have a heart attack at the fact that I said that.
00:55:22
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I'm still looking for a real nine to five job. Don't worry. Yeah. You don't want to hear the kind of stuff. I'm not, I'm not just like diving into the voice acting and saying, forget it. I'm not looking for work anymore. No, I'm not literally what he said last night. That's not what I said last night. He said last night, he's like, I'm going to disappoint the shit out of my mom. Yeah, that's exactly what I said. Yeah. You know what, mom?
00:55:42
Speaker
Fuck you. Not really. I love you, mom. um But yeah, please. No, I did a no connection. Don't worry. don just I have questions that I would like to figure out.
00:55:55
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Yes. ah So, Danny, before we wrap up, I had another quick question I wanted to throw out ah just because I just to kind of lighten the mood at the end. You know, I know we're talking about a serious subject for a little while and it's an important conversation to have. And we I'm not.
00:56:10
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you know I'm glad that we had it. um But this is also one that I think is um i think still in the lines of like relatable, and I was curious if you've had anything like this. So this question is ah from AskReddit.
00:56:23
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It's from PKEO10, who says, what is the most delicious poor man's meal in your part of the world? Now, I would like to extrapolate this just a little bit to like, what was your gen do you have any go to's that you still think is a poor person's meal? Or like, did you grow up like in a way where you still like identify certain snacks or foods or combinations or meals that you thought like, oh, this is like a normal thing. And then you grow up and you're like, oh this is just what poor people like, you know, it's just an inexpensive thing that I enjoyed because it was inexpensive, you know.
00:56:55
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Yeah, no I do. And I do. And I love it. Everybody I've ever talked to about it hates it. um But
00:57:07
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a cheese, mustard and relish sandwich is so good. Interesting. It's so good. So you're talking about like actual like sliced cheese, a slice of yellow American, throw some mustard on that and some relish on it between two pieces of bread. Interesting.
00:57:24
Speaker
It's so good. And everyone I've ever told that to has looked at me the same way with disgust and disdain.
00:57:34
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Ah, interesting. So I'm sorry, i said again, cheese my cheese, mustard and relish. Cheese, mustard, relish in between two pieces of bread.
00:57:45
Speaker
It's good. It's easy and it's cheap as hell. Interesting. Do you have any other ones? Um, I mean, when I was in college, I did the the instant ramen a lot because that was like 40 cents for one.
00:58:06
Speaker
oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. so I used to do those. ah do you have any other interesting combinations of things that you've done or maybe that you still do? Like, are there any of that you still like? I know you mentioned the sandwich.
00:58:18
Speaker
Are there other ones that you still find that another another one I like that's not as cheap is ah The Tyson breaded chicken strips. Take that with some shredded cheese and some olives in a wrap.
00:58:33
Speaker
In a wrap? That's another one. Why olives? I wouldn't have thought put olives a The just add like good...
00:58:41
Speaker
Like salt it just like a good salty flavor to it. Yeah. Huh. I've never met an olive that I liked. So I find that very interesting. I love olives. They're like little circles. I don't know how that fits in a wrap. Like, how does that work?
00:58:54
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You cut them in half so that they're like making like little like jalapenos. Yeah. Interesting. Hell, sometimes I'll just crack open a jar of olives and eat them.
00:59:07
Speaker
Yeah, that's that's that's a that's a food crime to me. That's insane. I've done that and I've done it with ah pickles to just open the jar and just eat a pickle.
00:59:19
Speaker
Wow. ah That's wild. I'm a 36 year old man that still eats SpaghettiOs. All right, dude. Me too. Out of the can. Get the. Oh, yeah. And even if they say it's a health code violation, don't care.
00:59:32
Speaker
Oh, I don't eat it out of the can. I do make it in a bowl. Straight up. Fucking straight up. If I do make it in a bowl, it's so I can dip stuff in it and like make it like a giant hot soup dip.
00:59:42
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like I'm just going to eat it. It's usually out of the can because I'm in impatient. and Oh, another one I've done was i called it chicken and bloody rice.
00:59:55
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i would make like a 90 second rice. I'd get some of like the Purdue grilled chicken, h cut that up, ah throw it in the microwave right after the rice, you know just to warm it up a bit.
01:00:10
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Yeah. Throw it in, grab some Frank's Red Hot, just douse the crap out of it, really stir it in until all the rice is really red. Oh, it's so good.
01:00:21
Speaker
I mean... I or man's curry. That's what I also really like. Like rice was something that came into my life a lot late, well, early and then not for much longer. Did I so to ah talk about that already? I think I did. I can't remember. I don't remember.
01:00:36
Speaker
Go ahead. How like I thought rice made me pee on my dad when I was a kid. Nope. Didn't know that. i not Tell that story. I don't think so. I feel like I'd remember that. I thought for sure I told that story. Rice made you think you peed on your dad? When I was a kid, we grew up eating a lot of the same things, like a lot of fried stuff, like in this pressure cooker.
01:00:54
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lot of like when I grew up like ah what was it? Scalloped potatoes and gravy and stuff like that. Like that was my shit. But like, I remember when I went back home years later, my mom's like, oh, i made your favorite. i know you really like this. And I ate it. My stomach hurts. I hadn't eaten fried food and like oil in such a long time. I discovered, oh, you can bake meats in the oven. And i was like, oh, it's way better. But anyway, like but when I was a kid, we ate a lot of same stuff, a lot of potatoes, a lot of meat and potato style stuff, a lot of noodles, you a lot of tons of spaghetti.
01:01:24
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When we'd color eggs for Easter, we had to eat all of the eggs after Easter that we colored for weeks at a time to stretch out meals. um But one time I remember zucchini was a new one that nobody liked and that never made it back into the house.
01:01:37
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And then my mom made rice. It was brown rice. And we had never had rice. I'd never seen rice in my fucking life. I think I was, we were in our first home that I can remember. So I was probably,
01:01:48
Speaker
like five. um And with it, and I was like, Oh, rice. And man, I ate like two or three helpings. I loved it. It was so good. was like, how have I not had this before?
01:01:58
Speaker
But then like, I was stricken. All of a sudden like I had to pee so bad. And my dad was in the bathroom shaving. And I told my mom and my mom was like, well, just go in your dad's just shaving. Just go in real quick. Like if it's an emergency, just let them know you have to go pee. So I ran and I said, dad, I have to pee. And he's like, okay, just go. And he just like, he was wrapping up shaving in the mirror.
01:02:16
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And I was like, but my dad's here. And I've never peed in front of my dad before or around my dad, not in the woods. So I tried to stand up to pee. I never tried it before. And so I was trying to do that to think I was going to impress my dad, which like I don't get when I never got praise from my parents like ever.
01:02:31
Speaker
So like i was like, oh, my dad's going to think he's going to so proud of me that I'm five and I'm a big boy and I'm standing out and peeing. And so, but he commented on it. So he goes, oh, you're standing up to pee now, right? Or he says, oh, you're standing up to pee now? And so i I heard it. It's like one of those things where you heard it, but it was too late to recognize you heard it. So I still said, what?
01:02:51
Speaker
But I didn't just say what. I turned and said, what? And while I was still peeing, I didn't like cut off this dream. I just kept going. And I just whipped piss right across the room.
01:03:02
Speaker
All over my dad. He was furious. I remember the scene. Almost like it was yesterday. Like he still had shaving cream, like bits of it on his face. He was trying to like finish that off. Like the mirrors were fogged up because he had just got done showering and he was shaving afterwards. It was all foggy in there.
01:03:18
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And like, I just remember like, oh, God damn it, Adam. Like you just starts squaring and I just run out the room. I'm just, all of a sudden my body doesn't have to pee anymore. Like, just and like, I just ran. I don't even remember what happened. I blacked out the rest of that day. And like, I remember thinking rice made me piss on my dad.
01:03:35
Speaker
Like the rice must have done it because I ate so much of it. I thought the rice made me pee on my dad because I've never peed on my dad in my life that I can remember unless I was a baby.
01:03:47
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And that was the new ah that was that was the new stimulus in my life was rice as I could must have been. And I held on to this irrational belief until I was almost 30 years old, Danny.
01:03:58
Speaker
Oh, dude. Like, God, I got offered meals with rice in it so many times in my life. It's like, ah, ah, that does i doesn't agree with me. No way. I do not want it.
01:04:08
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And I would neglect every to opportunity I had to have rice. But then one day, when I was living in my old apartment, I was trying to find some meals. I thought I was eating healthier. So I'd go get these like TV dinners that were so wasteful now. Like, cause I had like so much plastic in them, but like, they were like these healthy looking meals. They're like, Oh, it's like lifestyle, blah, blah, blah. can't even remember what the brand was.
01:04:26
Speaker
And it was like, there's like chicken and rice and corn or whatever. And i was like, that looks good. But I was like, and it's cheap. Like they had, they they were on sale for really cheap at the time. and I was like, Like, all right, Adam, we're just going to do this. and We're going to try it. And my dad won't be around. So I'll just eat and then go to the bathroom.
01:04:41
Speaker
So, and it was a wonderful like chicken and rice. Like, oh, it was so fucking good. And like, I'm like, man, I've been ah ignoring rice my whole, life this is great. And I didn't pee myself. I didn't pee at all. And then I was like, rice is actually quite absorbent. I felt like it would have made me not pee. So why? Yeah, that's what's so confusing. I think this is just ah like a causation It was a correlation, not causation. Yeah. I think you just happened to have to pee and peed on your dad. I don't think it has anything to do with the rice. You are a thousand percent right. and It was an irrational fear. As a kid, it made sense because I didn't know much and it was a new thing. But as an adult, there wasn't really a real reason for me to think this, but I still couldn't get over the trauma of like peeing on my dad and realizing how furious he was when I got to go do like, you know, and eating this new food that I was excited about and then quickly lost faith in because I pissed on my father. So
01:05:32
Speaker
So like I believed until I was like 29 years old that rice of NDP. So you. So what would this is crazy to me. so what would you do? Like I use rice to this day.
01:05:49
Speaker
right i love Right. If I have a stomach issue, like if I'm sick and i have like. Just I feel like I'm going to barf. ah It can be hard to do.
01:06:00
Speaker
But one of the things that makes me always feel better is sipping a Coke because the Coke syrup is supposed to help calm your stomach. Sure, sure, sure. And eating plain white rice because it absorbs all of that bad crap.
01:06:15
Speaker
Yes. And it's filling. it's It's hard. It can be hard to take the first few bites. But once it starts to kick in and your stomach starts to feel a little better, m it gets it really does help. So there's some free advice for everybody. But what would you do if you had a stomach issue?
01:06:32
Speaker
i I would drink ginger ale and like drink Pepto-Bismol, man. Like that's what and I would eat soup. I mean, ginger ale is really good. Like that was it. good too but no one have ever no one in my life i said No one in my life has ever said eat rice. Oh, the next time you're having like issues with your stomach, even if it's like acid reflux. Oh, I know now. Just eat rice. No, not just you, like everybody. Oh, yeah, yeah.
01:06:55
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If you're having like acid reflux or you're feeling sick or something, just eat plain white rice. It still tastes good, even like that. You're in here. Dr. Dan says it will just soak up all of that crap and and make it so much easier.
01:07:09
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Dr. Guarantee. Oh, I love, I love rice so much. I could have rice with everything. ah yeah We actually have a rice cooker. So to your point. real rice cooker. To your point though, Danny, like I have learned that rice is like so absorbent that I love when like there's any kind of sauce to put on it.
01:07:25
Speaker
Like anything that I can pour like a curry on, on rice. like any kind of sauce to like color it and to like make it absorbent. And it's like a new thing, any kind of sauce, like duck sauce. Like if I go or or like, or sweet and sour sauce, if I go to a Chinese restaurant, I will smother it my rice with it. And it's yeah so great. Absolutely. like yep It's so absorbent and it just feels good for it to be in soup or soup on it. Like it is just a fucking versatile food. And I've been like, I've only had this for about eight years when I could have had it for like 30 years. Yeah. And I'm so mad. I'm sorry. You did not experience a good childhood.
01:08:01
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So like, ah yeah, that has been one of the things that like first you tell me you've never had Cheese mustard relish sandwiches. And now you're telling me that you skipped out on rice. I would try it. I'm sorry that your life sucked this bad, my dude. but I'm happy that you're finally living.
01:08:19
Speaker
I'm not a like a mustard or a relish fan, but I would still try it. I would still try that sandwich. Try it. Any excuse for me to eat cheese. It's better than you'd expect. I'm a huge fan of cheese outside of cheeseburgers. And I love these sandwiches.
01:08:33
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Yeah. Speaking of which, a one that I grew up with, like, you I'm sure you know what spam is, right? I grew up loving spam, like, because that was when I went to my uncles, they were also very like, you know, below the poverty line and they buy all this cheap stuff to eat.
01:08:49
Speaker
And if it wasn't spam was like the special treat because like they had another brand at the store that was called treat T-R-E-E-T. And it was like even poorer man's spam. Oh no. Oh no. So I remember like, Oh, we haven't spammed Like, no, we're having treat. I'm like, Oh cool. I can still, and so we have at home, we would cut it real thin into like these little rectangles and then like put it on the, on, on a skillet and then it would cook like nice and crispy. But then what my uncle would do is he would put like, he would take like a, like one of those like prepackaged little slices of cheese individually wrapped and And he would rip it in half and put it on that rectangle. It would make like this melted gooey, like kind of meat thing. And then we'd put it on a slice of bread. And what we do is he would make two of those, the half a cheese on each side, put ketchup on it and then put it on a bread a on two pieces of bread. And then it was just like a little sandwich is fucking awesome. There you go. Yeah.
01:09:49
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ah Look, I got another one for you because I've always had a very weird palate when it came to food. When I was a kid, I used to get wraps and I would just rip them into quarters. Right. So I had four quarter make tortilla chips like a big floppy tortilla chip.
01:10:07
Speaker
I had a special way of rolling it. So it became a bowl. had to fill that bowl with Frank's Red Hot and just eat it like that. You love your Red Hot. hot Dude, I go through the big bottles of Frank's Red Hot, like the really big ones. I go through two of those.
01:10:26
Speaker
I go through about one a week. That's funny. I have hot sauce every day with breakfast. You really? Holy shit. Yes. Nothing wakes you up better than hot sauce for breakfast. You know what I did?
01:10:39
Speaker
i did buy some ghost pepper hot sauce recently because like I realized when I was sick a few weeks ago, that really helped clear up my sinuses. There you go. ah do. I actually I haven't used Red Hot in a little bit only because i bought a gallon of ah Danny Cash red habanero sauce. And if you know, you know, all that stuff is so good.
01:11:01
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um And that's another thing. I will go through that full gallon in about three weeks. Wow. Yeah. I didn't know you had so much hot sauce. Hello, my name is Danny Guarantee and I'm addicted to hot sauce. Yeah, I would say so. Like, holy shit.
01:11:19
Speaker
You know what, though? Speaking of tortillas or like ah like the wraps, something that I started doing actually a couple like last year, the year before when like I was like really broke was i would buy a pack of tortillas, big ones or little ones, and I would just smear peanut butter on it and then roll it up and eat it.
01:11:35
Speaker
There you go. it's not Like a little mini sandwich. Honestly, peanut butter is great on so many things. It does look like somebody shit all over the tortilla when you do it. Okay. But it's still delicious. Or I'd put jelly on there too and make it just like a little peanut butter and jelly burrito.
01:11:50
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It's awesome. kind of want hot sauce right now. I won't lie. Here's one more that I used to do was I would, because I relied very heavily on like sandwiches. I'd buy like the cheapest bread I could find at like Aldi or something.
01:12:03
Speaker
And it's still cheap now. And, um, compared to everywhere else. And um I would put cheese whiz because cheese whiz was very cheap, like the the stuff in the jar and then apple butter, which I used to be addicted to apple butter. And I would put that on a sandwich and eat it together. And it was weirdly fucking good. um I eat like I've had people tell me that was the grossest thing they ever heard. But I'm telling you, like that kind of like the fattiness from the cheese and the sweetness from, or like the cheese whiz, it's cheese product. It's not cheese. The fattiness from the cheese product and like the sweetness from the apple butter just does something, man. Like, I don't know why, but Holy shit. What a delight.
01:12:40
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Um, but there's one that I do now that I caught a lot of flack for, from my roommates recently. Oh yeah. not I don't know if I'd call it a poor man's meal, but it's just a creative man's meal. But like, I'll go about like blueberry muffins or blueberry, uh, waffles.
01:12:54
Speaker
and then um chicken patties, like spicy chicken patties, and then like some Colby Jack cheese and, and some queso. Oh my God. i like I'll make a sandwich where like the waffle, two waffles or the bread. And then, ah you know, I smear queso on one or both of the waffles. And then I put a slice of Colby Jack cheese on one side and then I,
01:13:17
Speaker
cooked a spicy chicken patty on that. that doesn't And then I eat that shit up. And holy fuck, if they made that at Denny's, that would be my meal every time I won. One of the best mistakes I ever made.
01:13:29
Speaker
We have a quick check not too far from us. And quick check actually makes pretty damn good subs. Not gonna lie. And there were two I really liked. One was just like a plain chicken, like grilled chicken with ah lettuce. And I would add buffalo sauce. I'd tell them to add the buffalo sauce. Mm-hmm.
01:13:47
Speaker
Other one is Italian. And I'm sure you could see where this is going. But I ordered the Italian and halfway through my brain went on the fritz and I told them to put buffalo sauce on it. It was it. It's the only way I get it now. I don't even get the grilled chicken.
01:14:05
Speaker
I don't even get the grilled chicken anymore. If I'm going to quick check, I'm getting a Italian sub and I'm telling them to smother that thing with their buffalo spread. It's so.
01:14:16
Speaker
Good. I wish I could like Buffalo dip and Buffalo sauce as much as people do. Cause like I get a lot of people like it, but my palate has it. My palate hasn't adjusted to it yet, but maybe I can try it on a sandwich like that and see if I can kind of, I've been told I have a cast iron stomach because of the fact that I can eat this stuff. And I have no stomach issues whatsoever. Yeah. Yeah. Until your colon explodes when you're 40. Yeah. Well that's 40 chance problems. The other week,
01:14:46
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Mbeluga and I went to visit our friend Kimmy, who was on the show once. Twice. Twice. Actually, this was the first of the two times. And um we met her at Buffalo Wild Wings and we're eating.
01:15:01
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And one of the servers who knows Kimmy came up and we were talking to them, too. And she's like, i had gotten like 15 boneless wings in their hottest sauce.
01:15:15
Speaker
And I had like three left. And the waitress looks at me and she's like, I don't think I've ever seen somebody eat these as easily as you are. And I'm like, you know, I have a Buffalo Wings Wild, a Buffalo Wild Wings shirt that I got when they got, when they built one near us because they used to do that challenge. If you could eat yeah a dozen wings in their hottest sauce, I had eaten there, gotten a burger or whatever, meal.
01:15:43
Speaker
ate my meal I was with my friends and somebody had mentioned it and I was like, wait, that's a thing. Yeah, let's do that. And they're like, well, you just ate. I'm like, no, don't worry about it. It's just 12 wings. So they brought me the 12 wings and they're like, do you want, you know, you can't use, um, was it ranch or blue cheese? And I'm like, oh yeah, no, I don't like either of those. I don't want either of them anywhere near my wings.
01:16:09
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You also can't, get like a glass of milk or anything in for the challenge. I'm like, oh yeah, it's no problem. Boom. Just devoured it. It was so good. then you had to make poop i got myself a shirt.
01:16:22
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and Yeah, i ah I could see that. Like, now that I know that about you, though, I think you got some relatively decent spice when we... I should have given you my soup when we went to that Korean pot place because my soup was way too fucking spicy. should have just had you eat it. I've been to K-Pot since, and I get that now, the spicy Szechuan.
01:16:42
Speaker
Dude, that spicy Szechuan was way too much for me. I actually found it at the place Mbeluga and I get Chinese every week as, like, a little treat. Yeah. I found it there. So now I get a big thing of spicy Cheshwan.
01:16:55
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with man, I got to try that. Maybe they have to make a milder one pepper in it. Oh, it's so good. I want to like it. Like conceptually, the taste is good. But the spices like there's a the spice was attacking a different part of my body where like I like a spice that like stays like in the face hole area. But that spice attacked like the throat area. And i was like, fuck, I'm like dying. I'll let you in on a little secret. And I told this to my co-workers, too.
01:17:21
Speaker
I had a co-worker who grew Carolina Reaper's. I've tried them before. I've had one. So I know what I'm dealing with. So I told them, yeah, like I'll eat one here or at work. I don't care, but i want somebody to eat the other half with me.
01:17:39
Speaker
And I got somebody to try the other half with me. Somebody who does not eat spicy foods. He did not have a good time. Very funny, but I didn't have a good time either. He asked me if I had any advice for him. And I said, yes, when you eat a pepper,
01:17:55
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Your natural instinct is to try and get it down as fast as possible to get, you know, you you get that mindset of like, if I eat this real quick, maybe I won't get too much spice in my mouth.
01:18:06
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who All that does is coat your throat in it, which really sucks. Yes. Eat the pepper super slowly. Chew that bitch for a long ass time, because trust me, you would much rather the front of your mouth burning off than having it in your throat.
01:18:24
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Yeah, i remember because it's the seeds that really pack the spice. It's the seeds, but you there's only so much of that oil. You want to try and get as much of that oil in your mouth as possible because you don't want it in your throat.
01:18:37
Speaker
Yeah, I remember when I it still sucks to have like, well, I like it, but. It still burns in your mouth, but like, trust me, it's better that than like halfway down your throat.
01:18:50
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No, I get it. When I swallowed the seeds from the Carolina Reaper, I like I could honestly describe it like if I had ever swallowed glass, it would feel like that. That's how it felt when it went down. like Holy shit. It just felt like a bunch of daggers were in my throat.
01:19:05
Speaker
Holy fuck. It aren't so bad. I could find when I tried my Carolina Reaper. It was i don't remember if I've told this story or not, but I went to a wine tasting and there was a hot sauce.
01:19:19
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uh jersey barnyard fire hot sauce i think it was called and they had a challenge where if you signed a waiver and you ate a pepper from their little basket and you let them film you and put it on their facebook you were allowed to take a hot sauce from like this little sample area for free so i went up to them and i was like hey I don't even care about the challenge.
01:19:46
Speaker
I just want to know, do you guys have Carolina Reapers? I love hot, spicy, and I've always wanted to try one. The guy said, yeah, we do ah do. you want to? But I'm not giving it to you unless you take this challenge and sign the waiver.
01:20:00
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Smart. So i said, yes, I let him. I tried it. And ah back then I didn't know the pro strats. So I ate it real quick and swallowed it right away.
01:20:13
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And you can see on the video because I found it later. I'm just like, no this is really good. This is good. It's kind of warm. Okay, it's getting really hot. And by the end, I'm like asking Umbaluga to go to the honey station and get a bowl of honey so I could have some honey or try and get some milk or something.
01:20:34
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i'm like dying. I had to go sit down for a bit. And then finally, when it went away, I went back to the stand. And the guy was like, yeah, so you ate the only Carolina Reaper today.
01:20:47
Speaker
You did a great job. um You can have two things from anything in the stand. Nice. It was a good day. It was worth suffering. It was worth it. Yeah. So I'm a big proponent of the hot sauce high.
01:21:01
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And that's when the heat finally breaks and you feel really good. yes that's That's my drug. It's like the runner's high where like you suffer long enough until you get it And you're like, oh, I got it now. Yeah. It was like once that that reaper broke and all those endorphins were still flowing through my body, I was just like, I'm on cloud nine.
01:21:22
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Yeah, I crashed, though. Like for me, I crashed hard. um Really? I went through like a lot of flu like symptoms throughout my day. Really? I didn't have the same experience. Yeah.
01:21:35
Speaker
I like spice, but just I think there was a limit. And that was probably it. I love spicy. Love ghost. pepper Ghost pepper, I think, is like one something that like I've gotten used to ah Carolina Reaper. I feel like I would need to have more exposure to it. But ghost pepper, I can pretty consistently and be OK.
01:21:53
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Yeah. Ghost is the pepper I go to if I want like something spicy, but not I'm not like in the mood to be like, yeah, give me the hottest thing you got. Right. Which is still pretty hot. But if I still like spicy, I will go for a ghost. If I want flavor, habaneros are my favorite.
01:22:11
Speaker
hmm. Oh, man. Mango habanero is just. um To die for. You know what I think is gross is jalapenos. Like, oh, no, no, I'm fine with jalapenos. i actually used to spice. It's the taste.
01:22:26
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That's
Food Preferences and Lifestyle Reflections
01:22:27
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another one I used to just buy in the jar and would just eat straight. up I don't. Yeah, I don't get that. Like, there are some things that I just don't get the taste of. And like the spice levels of a jalapeno is fine. But the taste, I'm just like, how do people just eat these things? oh like These are not good line with the taste.
01:22:43
Speaker
Yeah, I don't get that. I haven't gotten the texture and the taste do not add up for me. And I i wish it did because i the spice is fine. It's like, nope.
01:22:54
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Very weird. I might get another jar of that. I'm glad we're inspiring. Well, you need to get creative with your snacks and you have diabetes, right? And peppers have no carbs.
01:23:07
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Hey, man, I need as much little habanero slices as I want. On the other end, you know what I discovered? ah When I was sick, my you know, my new friend Hitch brought me like the lovely person they are, brought me a little care package when I was really down a few weeks ago.
01:23:22
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And they brought me in that care package because they know that I'm trying to like watch for how much sugar I consume and drink. And they got these sugar free popsicles. There's 18 in a box and I don't remember who makes them. But I didn't realize I went through this box so fast over the course of a few days, but I started to feel guilty that I was eating all this junk food. Then I looked and I was like, there's like no sugar.
01:23:42
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There's barely, there's no carbs. There's like a few like vitamin, like a, like a few percentages of like a couple of vitamins in there. And that was it. There was next to nothing. I don't know what they're made out of, but like, was like, unless it's just the red dye I'm consuming, i felt no guilt anymore for devouring that whole box of popsiles I was like, it's just a cold thing. And I felt better because I like, unlike a box of cookies that I will fuck up because like, it's not cold or it's not hot and I can just plow through it. A popsicle, you have to kind of savor and like take your time with and stuff. So I was like, I was eating it for longer and I could stretch it out longer and it made my throat feel good when it was sore.
01:24:18
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And I was like, hey, I think I found a special treat that'll last a lot longer than if I bought a box of cookies in this house. Yeah. And like, just like you were saying, like no carbs next to no bad things in it at all. It's just whatever dyes they use, I guess.
01:24:30
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was like, you know what? I think I found my new vices. These particular popsicles that have like nothing. And I actually have done some very similar recently with soda. um I've had a long standing.
01:24:42
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No. Ah, sorry. But I've had a long standing battle with soda. You mean pop? No. You mean pop? don't. No.
01:24:52
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now My little soda pop, little soda pop. Jesus. um But it's always, I lost my train of thought, you jerk. yeah I've always had a huge big problem with with drinking too much soda. It's probably, most likely, what led to my diabetes in the first place with normal Coke and then Diet Coke after.
01:25:16
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ah But one of the things i I do try to curb it in ways that won't drive me insane. Yeah. And one of the things I finally just bit the bullet and tried because I always had sensitive teeth was just using ice.
01:25:30
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Using ice for what? For when I have a cup of soda, like a glass of soda. So I always had very sensitive teeth. I never eat ice cream, never ate ice cream. I would get a milkshake instead so I could.
01:25:43
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suck it up through a straw and bypass my teeth completely. Right. So I never drink drinks with ice. still don't. I hate it. Well, now I've been using Sensodyne for so long, I can actually have ice.
01:25:59
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I probably wouldn't have ice cream, but like I can have ice now without it bothering me. So I started when we have soda, I will get a cup and I will fill it with ice.
01:26:11
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Like almost to the top of ice because it slows me down. You do the fast. There's only so much room for soda now. Right. And that's how they get what I'm drinking is just water from the melted ice.
01:26:25
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Yep. So it it helps. That's how they get you in fast food, man. They just fill it with more rice, especially if you're a dickhead. So, well, that's why I always I always ordered it without ice. Also hashtag fuck ice. Same thing. Same thing with the movies. I would always order my drink without ice. I still do. And like, I always praise wait staff who like remember that because a lot of times I'm like, ah, dang, they put ice in my drink. Like I'll just get a straw and be okay, I guess. But I prefer my water sans ice.
01:26:54
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Um, so if I can get it, yeah, that's my shit. Cause I'm the same way I do, but lollipops are fine, which which is weird. But like, I think the ice just sits for too long. And all of a sudden my mouth is like, I can't enjoy this drink.
01:27:05
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Yeah, no, i don't I don't have that problem anymore. I used to real bad. Another one that really helped with is ah I'm a very sweaty person. So if you're also very sweaty, a cold glass of water, either right from the fridge or with ice in it.
01:27:22
Speaker
How did I never know this? It just makes me, it cools me down completely immediately. I don't feel hot anymore and I'm not sweating any anymore. Do you know what else would help? Mbeluga and i don't fight over the thermostat anymore.
01:27:35
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We used to fight over that shit constantly. Do you know what else helps with that? Hmm. Drinking something hot. No, that. Nope.
01:27:46
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No, it does, though. The same way that you said, like once the once the pepper breaks and like you feel that high, like once you get used to drinking something hot when you're hot, like it actually will cool you down. So I know for a fact that that doesn't work for me because I love soup.
01:28:04
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I love soup stock, I should say. So whenever we make like the Lipton soup, just the like the very basic chicken noodle soup stuff. Right. You drink the broth and I drink the broth and Mbeluga gets the nudes.
01:28:19
Speaker
I drink the nude juice. I know I've been on calls with you when you guys are distributing it. So I i will be playing a game with like you or whatever. And i I just have a giant cup of broth and I'll just drink it. So I know for a fact that that crap makes me sweat like a motherfucker.
01:28:36
Speaker
That might be a metabolic thing then. i have i don't know if just like my stomach is attached to... the rest of my internal body heat, uh, body parts or whatever. But if I cool down my stomach, I feel great. If I heat up my stomach, I start sweating bullets.
01:28:55
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I mean, yeah, i I mean, I guess everybody's body's built different. Yours is janky. And oh there's one thing I know about me. I'm built different, not in a great way, but I'm built different. Hey man, I'm built like somebody glued like six different Barbie parts together. Yeah.
01:29:10
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I get it. There's six different action figures in Barbie dolls. Like, ah, you know, at least you got some action figures. Legs are long. My arms are short and skinny. torso, my head's pretty big. My torso is long. My ass is weird. My favorite is that my waist is big for a guy, my height.
01:29:26
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So all of my pants that fit around my midsection, the legs are way too long and all the pants that fit lengthwise are too thin. Oh yeah. That's a real fun one. I love that.
01:29:38
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Yeah, I have to find like an odd number for pants to fit perfectly. And I right now I am wearing a pair of jeans that instead of like trying to get them hemmed, I just cut the fucking legs at the bottom. And like I can see the frayed like strands coming out the bottom. But they've been like that for like a year since I got them. I'm like, these are great. They fit perfectly, but it's too long. I'm go just cut them. And I didn't get them fixed.
01:29:58
Speaker
I used to do that too with my pants because they would ride under my shoe. Yep. And get all ripped up in the back. Right. So then I would just rip the finish. I just finished ripping it off.
01:30:08
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Yep. Now I just wear sweats all the time. Yeah. I don't believe more comfortable for me. No, I live in this stuff unless I'm sleeping in them. I don't. If I'm wearing jeans, I dressed up for whatever I'm at. ah Yeah.
01:30:23
Speaker
When when Mbeluga and I go out on a date. You'd never know it because I'm sitting there in sweats. thats so And she knows to accept me as I am.
01:30:34
Speaker
Right. Doesn't have a choice. You guys have a contract. don't have a choice. She has signed the contract. she I took a lot of drugs together to say I do, but they finally worked. Yeah.
01:30:47
Speaker
You had to trick her into saying I do. Like, do you hate drugs? I do. Aha. What I meant was this. do you yeah do you hate drugs? Will you marry me? Yeah. you um Yeah. Well, there you go, folks. You know, some great ideas for how to eat peppers, how to get your water, how to eat some cheap food such as. Yeah, I'll be honest. I've been in a fugue state for the last hour and a half. I don't remember what we even talked about. so We talked about how not to be racist. We talked about a wonderful resource called the human library.org.
01:31:18
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Go check that out. I'm really excited to learn more about it. I hope you are too. i hope you can tell other people about it. Or if you know that, you know, if you know that you don't know something and you want to learn more from an actual human, maybe check it out and maybe see if you can book and ask somebody some genuine questions.
01:31:33
Speaker
And then of course we talked about our foods. We talked about our life. We talked about pissing on my dad. We talked about all those wonderful things and about how Danny is, you know, trying not to get a regular job anymore so he can purposely disappoint. That is not what I said. We talked about all of these things that are happening.
01:31:48
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So thank you everybody for listening. Danny, please tell people things that you want to tell them before we wrap up.
01:31:57
Speaker
I think maybe I'll make some chicken with hot sauce after this. Well, you got to say that louder. You gotta got to use your big kid voice if you're going to wonder. Sorry, I was talking to myself. I think I might make some chicken hot sauce after this. Anyway, thank you all so very much for listening. We really do appreciate you. I appreciate you.
01:32:13
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And you guys are why we do this. Just just be being here and listening. So if you know anybody you think would like the show. please just tell them about it. It's the best way to help us grow. It's the best way to make sure we keep doing this.
01:32:25
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If you happen to have the money to want to support, we would greatly appreciate it. But even if you don't, don't feel bad. We do not expect it at all from anybody. We just hope that you enjoy the show and listen.
01:32:38
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And we hope
Sign Off and Final Thoughts
01:32:39
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that it brings a little light to your life. You know, maybe cheers you up a little bit, brightens your day a little bit. And most of all, Don't be i'll be a piece of shit this year. Just don't be a piece of shit this year.
01:32:51
Speaker
Just don't. Just don't do it. Just don't. It's not that hard it's Honestly, it's the easiest thing. When you have a piece of shit thought, just don't do it. Right. Think about the analogy of recycling or reducing waste. a piece of shit do this? Yes. Then don't do it.
01:33:08
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yeah If you ask yourself, would a piece of shit do this? And then don't do that thing. Right. Don't do that. Just don't.
01:33:20
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And it goes very well in hand and in hand with like, if you wouldn't want it done to you, don't do it to other people. And I think a lot of people forget that. Like if you don't want it done to you or said to you, don't say or do it to other people. Yeah. And that's the golden rule for a reason.
01:33:36
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Right. Like if you don't want it to happen to you, if you don't want to, if you don't want people to cut you off in traffic and not use your turn signal, then don't do it to other people. If you don't want people to curse at you, don't curse at other people. If you don't want to drop C bombs and words, you don't want to hear, don't do it to them. Don't be racist. And then if if somebody says something about your lineage, if you're like Polish, check whatever your you know but racial background is, if you're white,
01:34:00
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then don't say the thing, right? If you don't want people to say things that hurt you, you know, if you have someone you love and you don't want someone to say something bad about someone you love, like your mom or your dad or your dog, right? Then don't do that to other people. Just don't be a piece of shit, right? Just don't do piece of shit stuff. If you don't want other people to be a piece of shit to you,
01:34:19
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And don't be a piece of shit. Yeah. That's why it's our motto this year. That's that is my new year's resolution is I'm going to remind everybody constantly, constantly. Don't be a piece of shit this year.
01:34:33
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Right. If you're like, hey, man, I'm about to say a real mean thing. And if you do end up being a piece of shit this year, I want you to know I'm not angry. I'm just disappointed. But you need to repent and you need to send us money, more money at ko-fi.com slash one installers. We're starting a universal swear jar.
01:34:51
Speaker
Yes. if If you swear, you have to donate a dollar to our Ko-fi. No, every time you it works on the honor system. don't be a piece of shit. Yeah. If you're if you did piece of shit stuff, you need to send us money. and And don't lie. We'll know we're watching each of you through your phone. it Yeah, we we we we're doxing y'all and we know. Right. I know who you are, George.
01:35:14
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and listen Hey, listen, hey hey, hey, you know what? I see you. I hear you. I see that you're about to click on a video that's a bit sus. Don't do it. Don't do it. I see you're about to say a mean thing in the comment section.
01:35:26
Speaker
Don't do it. Don't don't don't just don't be. And I swear to God, if one person comments and says that my cheese, mustard and relish sandwich sounds gross, I am never doing one of these again and it'll be your fault.
01:35:37
Speaker
Yeah. And then I'm going to have to get another co-host and that's a whole other thing. And there's so much paperwork involved. You don't even there's a lot of paperwork. And, you know, i have a German guy who's waiting for Danny to quit. that way he can come and co-host the show.
01:35:51
Speaker
so you know, and like, I love the guy, but, you know, you you would have to get used to their being, getting used to his dialect. I love the man dearly, but it took me a while to get used to it. And like, you know, we, you know, he's like a culture. It's so creepy. It's scary.
01:36:07
Speaker
Now you, and then you just pass a threshold and you're like, I speak German now. Yeah, we were just talking about German the other day. it' Yeah. And Adrian, I love you dearly. You're my brother. You are the best, Adrian. I love you so much.
01:36:22
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um Okay, and having said that, um don't be piece of shit this year. If you want to learn about people, go thehumanlibrary.org. And on that note, please, from the bottom of our hearts, take care of your mind, take care of your hearts, and please, for the love of all things good in this world, take care of each other, and we will see you next time on That's Our Q, baby.
01:36:43
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Ta-ta for now.