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Practical Manifesting Going Into 2024: How to manifest a money mindset
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On this episode, Eleanor and LD talk about how to manifest a money mindset by sharing real tips & playbooks with morning routines, vision boards etc. They talk about their personal manifesting journeys (before manifesting was in) and how to be a pragmatist and successfully manifest a money mindset.
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Introduction to Pretty Invested
00:00:00
Speaker
Welcome to Pretty Invested. I'm Eleanor and this is LD. Presented by your favorite ex-finance bros. We talk about the money things you actually care about. Hi guys, welcome to Pretty Invested where we talk everything money from your favorite recovering finance bros. LD, how are you?
00:00:24
Speaker
I'm good. Today's a Saturday, so I was able to spend some time on Pinterest, which in my opinion is such an underrated app. And it's relevant for today's topic because we're going to be talking about manifesting and how we got into it. I know you're a super big morning routine person. I just happened to start my day off with it. I think my mornings are a little bit less structured, but yeah, how are you? How is your morning?
Morning Routines and Healthy Habits
00:00:51
Speaker
My morning was great. Today we're recording on a Saturday and yesterday was a Friday night, but I decided to go to bed at 9 30 and so woke up super refreshed. I think I'm trying to get out of the mindset like Friday nights we need to do something. I had super busy Tuesday, Wednesdays and Thursday and Friday I was exhausted and I just decided to stay in and so I woke up this morning
00:01:18
Speaker
Felt great, did a SoulCycle class. Yeah, I tried. Wait, are you a SoulCycle person? For the right instructors. Not every- It's me, darling. I didn't know that about you. I'll shout out Jonas and Sam, two of my favorite New York SoulCycle instructors, even though I never really say hi to them because I'm too shy, but I love them and I like cult ball them. And like, I'll go around to a pattern to whatever like they're teaching. Oh, wow.
00:01:49
Speaker
Taking a step back and the morning, like you said, I try and be pretty regimented about how I wake up every day, like get into a good routine. And yeah, I don't know. You said you'd take it a little bit more.
00:02:06
Speaker
I'm, like, weird. Like, I'm very rigid about what I eat. I mean, like, I'm gonna ramble for a bit, but I was not a breakfast person, like, basically my entire life. I would just wake up and have coffee on an empty stomach starting in, like, sophomore year of high school, and I just did this for, like, years. Like, it was me. That's me. I wake up and just make coffee.
00:02:31
Speaker
When it's like you're normal, you don't really know anything else, right? Okay. But since I quit my job, like I have more time in the morning to like actually make a breakfast with like a protein and a carb and a fat at fiber. And I eat that before I have my caffeine. And it makes such a big difference. Number one, like coffee is super acidic. So when it's the first thing that you're introducing into your lining,
00:02:58
Speaker
It's so bad for your gut microbiome and it, I mean, it messes up a few different things. And then you also get like that cortisol spike from caffeine first thing in the morning and it like messes with all your hormones even more. So it's like worse for girls than it is for guys, but I don't think for any human being that like you should be waking up and having black coffee.
00:03:17
Speaker
Okay. Have you been watching the Huberman Lab? I've been listening to him for years, yeah. Yeah. Well, he has one on caffeine and it did actually change my behavior and my habits. So I still love starting my day with coffee. I love it. I want nothing more than to wake up, have coffee on like my nightstand and just chug like three glasses of it. Like I love coffee. Really bad. Oh yeah. I'm fully addicted. I have at least two a day, but
00:03:46
Speaker
The one difference that I did make in addressing some of your health things is the Huberman lab says you should wait one to two hours before your first cup of coffee. And so that's the difference that I've made. Like I'll do my like skincare routine.
00:04:01
Speaker
before I go and get my coffee. And that addresses the whole cortisol level spike, allow you to, you know, more naturally regulate before you introduce that into your
Manifestation Practices and Philosophy
00:04:10
Speaker
body. I just don't have the time. Like you said, I still have a regular, you know, sometimes go into the office job. So I am unable to prepare myself a lovely breakfast, or I just don't have time to.
00:04:24
Speaker
But I'll tell you about my morning routine. I try and be pretty regimented about it. Actually, I can show you. So I am pretty sensitive to light. So I usually wake up with light. And my room has a lot of natural light that comes in. But on the times where I want to wake up, or in the winter, wake up earlier, and the sun doesn't come out until 7, 3, 8, I use this thing. Grab it.
00:04:55
Speaker
Alarm lights? I got off Amazon. It basically simulates the sunrise. Yeah, especially in New York.
00:05:02
Speaker
Yeah. And so it's pretty bright. It actually lights up my, my large room and it like does it gradually over time. And it's the sound of birds chirping. It's like, it's like lightly, you know, it's not something like a jarring pop or hip hop song, which is how I used to get up when I was working. Wait, what song?
00:05:26
Speaker
Bodak Yellow, that was it for a while. I love that song, especially 2019, right? But it just was not the way to naturally calmly get up.
00:05:41
Speaker
Yeah, yeah. And I would always be like in a bad mood because I had such little sleep from the night before. So now I have this as my first, what do you call it? First line in the battlefield or whatnot to wake me up. And that probably goes off at 7am, 6.30, 6am. I change depending on my schedule for the month.
00:06:07
Speaker
And then maybe like 10 minutes later, I have my regular alarm go off if that doesn't wake me up, but I play the classical music now. It's a much more relaxing way to start off the day. And it just welcomes in the morning and it's not like you're forcing yourself out and just kind of like naturally rise and live in that, you know, that girl mindset. That's so dreamy.
00:06:37
Speaker
This, let me play for you my alarm now. It's like this flute concerto and it's lovely. And where is it? Oh my God, a concerto. I, yes. Let me play it. It's like rise.
00:07:06
Speaker
uh so yeah this one's so right now i'm giving up at like 6 30 this one happens at 7 10 maybe i'll have another one just to make sure i'm but i think it's about
00:07:17
Speaker
I've always considered myself a morning person, but it's also about rewiring your mindset. Because I think anyone can be a morning person, but instead of like dreading the morning every day, you know, beautiful light, this music that just enchants you and make it exciting to get up. So usually like these things wake me up. And then after that, I don't immediately pop out of bed. I just like lie in my bed.
00:07:43
Speaker
And I do a morning manifestation. And I haven't read too much manifestation. I know you have, but this is my version that works. So I just wake up and my manifestation is my name. It's like, you know how you say, I am that girl. I am this, I am whatever. I say my name, right? Like I'm Eleanor.
00:08:08
Speaker
I'm Eleanor Lima, you know, you just say your name. And then following that you say, I'm beautiful. I'm smart. I am deserving of love and respect and understanding. And I am that girl. And then you say that but you at its root, you tie it to your name.
00:08:29
Speaker
And you kind of give power to who you are and your name because you are your name. The name that you identify with, maybe it's your first and last, maybe it's just your first name. But you say, I'm Eleanor. I'm beautiful. I'm smart. I'm capable. I'm going to have an amazing dance. It's all tied to your name. And so that helps you root it in
00:08:51
Speaker
how you identify. So you feel like it's more real than just saying like, I am the luckiest girl in the world, because that still can kind of feel far and away from what's who you are, versus saying, I'm out more. It's not specific. Right, exactly. And so I spent like five minutes doing that, probably less, probably takes like two minutes. If I'm having a hard time doing that, I might mix it up with saying, you know, what I'm grateful for.
00:09:19
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setting my intentions for the day, but like giving myself.
00:09:23
Speaker
at least probably five minutes or so, where you're not like, oh, and you get ready for the day and you do all this stuff. Every morning you have five minutes. And when you wake up, some insert scientific fact has your brain wavelengths moving in a way where you're more receptive and you're starting from the start of your day. And it just sets me up on a good pace. And then I start brushing my teeth, skin care, coffee.
00:09:50
Speaker
getting ready, picking out my outfit and going to work. But those first few minutes where I'm waking up, I try and make it something I look forward to. So I guess be excited. And yeah, that's how I've been doing my morning routine for
00:10:05
Speaker
I've changed things up for a little bit, but it's worth for me. Do you have tips on getting into a morning mantra right after you woke up, but making sure that you don't fall asleep in the middle of it? I would fall back asleep.
00:10:22
Speaker
That's a good point. I think that's why I make sure I am fully awake. And then I do get myself buffer, like waking up at 6.30, 6.45 every day. It's okay if I fall a little back asleep and I also do have every day an alarm at, you know, 7.30, 8 a.m. as well.
00:10:42
Speaker
The goal is to just use the light and wake up. But if not, I know I have backups and I don't have to be stressed out about it. And so maybe injecting in those safety measures to make sure it's not a negative means. But hopefully you'll be more awake. Maybe I like to do it right when I wake up. Maybe it's something that you do after your cup of coffee. Yeah.
00:11:06
Speaker
Well, I was just going to say, like, to your point, it's actually the most powerful time of day to manifest because you have the most access to your subconscious mind. So you're the most, like, spongy and likely to absorb those positive beliefs about yourself. Exactly. So, and also, it's not like, oh, I said five minutes.
00:11:27
Speaker
I like give myself five minutes that I usually maybe it'll take me like 30 seconds actually or even less than that like it's not a target or like you need to hit this map time where you're thinking about it just like like doing it right now like everyone I don't know say your name in your head
00:11:44
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tell yourself, I am beautiful. I'm smart. I'm interesting. I'm serving respect. I am serving of the most amazing love. I am so lucky. I'm so grateful for people in my life. I don't know, it kind of like hypes me up and I'm like, like say your name, I'm Eleanor, I'm LD, you know, just getting hyped up about it. And then eventually you start to believe it. I know some other people when they manifest sex look in a mirror.
00:12:10
Speaker
I like to do it right when I wake up and my eyes can still be closed. They don't need to be open, you know? So that works for me. I like it when I...
00:12:20
Speaker
can do it right when I wake up. I'm naturally a morning person, so I've always been someone who wakes up early. For the people and my friends, you can always get there. And I don't think you need to start off tomorrow mimicking this morning routine. First, I got the light lamp, and then I started adding the manifesting. Then do what works for you. There was this really interesting thing on TikTok. I can't remember the creator's name, but
00:12:46
Speaker
She gave a tip of how to wake up early in the morning, where she kind of ignored the things that you're like, don't look at your phone. She said- Oh, I remember seeing that one. But she was saying, actually, if you have a hard time waking up,
00:13:01
Speaker
that your only goal is to wake up early, get on your phone, scroll through TikTok, do the things that you're interested in that actually make you want to get up, and you'll get up. Spend 10 minutes on TikTok, 20 minutes, and then you'll be up because that is the goal. So rather than trying to go from zero to 100, testing, having the very calming music wake you up,
00:13:23
Speaker
Do what you need to do to get to that point and then slowly add in these new processes. They don't have to be perfect. I think for me, I always was attracted to the fun playtime parts of manifesting, like Pinterest boarding, like I was talking about earlier. I've always been a very visual manifestor and my phone screen is like a mood board that I made to motivate myself. So it's like, I'll go through that annual process every year where it's like,
00:13:52
Speaker
I pick out like a few quotes or images of what my dream house looks like or what dream vacations do I want to go on this year or what does the highest version of myself look like or what does a nice private jet look like. Being like as extra as possible but I
00:14:16
Speaker
I like to feel my manifesting more than I like to think it. And that's why I think like images work a lot better for me than words necessarily, and being very descriptive about what my highest self looks like. I more so need to like envision her and imagine how she feels and how her light feels and what her day-to-day itinerary is like. And so.
00:14:46
Speaker
I'll iterate it in my mind to the point where I just feel so lit up inside and so excited to get there that it gives me this energy rush. It's one of the best feelings ever. I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm going to do all these things. You have to do it in 15 years down the line.
00:15:02
Speaker
It's, it's more sporadic. As a personality, like I'll have weights where I'm super into something. So I got a bunch of books that were manifesting related and I'll do that for like two, three weeks and I'll be like, okay, like this is getting a little bit too regimented. But yeah, I would say I do it like a few times a month.
00:15:19
Speaker
I think it's like, there's not just one way to manifest right, and you can do a combination of the few right, something you were saying about the the Pinterest reminds me of vision boards, and I used to only division boards like
00:15:36
Speaker
during the new year or around new year's time. And I think sometimes the new year is a great time to actually reflect. And I think manifesting has become this really popular term, I think in 2023, especially maybe it's a feedback loop where I just hear more about it now that I'm more into it.
00:15:56
Speaker
But I think a lot of us have been manifesting for a while or in different ways. It's not like saying these phrases to yourself or you have to sit down at once a quarter to write a division board. Like you said, it goes in waves. I don't know. When did you, when did you first start or like remember first manifesting?
00:16:17
Speaker
Yeah, you and I have talked about this a little bit, but I think I started when I was a kid. I think my mom also just gave me a lot of permission to be super imaginative and like,
00:16:29
Speaker
ridiculous almost with like wanting to be things. She'd be like, oh, like you can be president of the world or you can be a doctor or whatever in her mind she thought was like a cool thing to be. And my mom was always like my hype man in that way. And so
00:16:51
Speaker
I've always been more of like a visual person or like I've had a pretty wild imagination. Sometimes it's a good thing. Sometimes it's a bad thing. But I would say really in middle school and high school before I would go to bed. And I was like a pretty angsty teenager. I would think about like all the things that I was dissatisfied with.
00:17:10
Speaker
It was like a defense mechanism almost where I would imagine my dream world where none of these problems would exist in that dream world, but it was always very career oriented. So I would start to think about, okay, what's my five year plan going to be for high schools? What's my five year plan going to be?
00:17:27
Speaker
for college, how do I get to here to here to here so that I can reach all these financial goals and treat my mom in these ways, treat myself in these ways, make sure that nobody can bother us and to your point of like money is power. Like how do I create a buffer for myself and my loved ones so that none of these problems exist anymore? And so my mind is very active at night. Like I have a really hard time falling asleep, but I would basically
00:17:54
Speaker
Imagine these like dream scenarios and be like, all right, but how the fuck do we get there? And so that was kind of how it started. Yeah, it's crazy you're doing that in like middle school and high school. I was angsty. The four months started and then I was like, yeah, I like it. When I wake up, you like it at night, you know. Yeah, and I'm not a morning person. Like I have a good mood in the morning, but it's hard for me to wake up and it's hard for me to fall asleep.
00:18:19
Speaker
That's so interesting. And you were saying like, you're a very visual person. I think we, not to generalize, but I think women tend to be more visual. We are, yeah. And I think it is important to be able to envision yourself,
Manifestation in Daily Life and Relationships
00:18:32
Speaker
right? You're born to be like, you know, just these are the goals and like, I need to do this. And like, this is where I need to be. You want to be able to imagine yourself. Like, how do you look? How do you feel? What are you wearing? Who's around you, you know? Are you on a private plane, you know?
00:18:48
Speaker
When you have that vision in mind, I think it makes it all the more worthwhile to work towards versus being like, I want this title. How do you look when you're in that bowl? What's the cooler version of you look like?
00:19:01
Speaker
I don't know. It's, I think, I think that's really great. And that's a really good way of motivating yourself. Yeah. Especially if you, if you really want to make yourself move towards a goal, it's kind of hard to just say, you know, I can say like, Oh, I want a six pack, but maybe imagine yourself on a beach in like two when you're drinking a nice.
00:19:23
Speaker
more teeny and you have like a six pack. My, my friends get really fit before they go on like beach vacations because they're like, I can see it. It's not just saying let's get a six pack. Let's get into shape. Let's eat healthy. I think it's, it's a helpful tip to like imagine yourself as a way to motivate, not imagining someone else, imagining yourself. Yeah. Being like extrinsically motivated is helpful when you can't be intrinsically motivated. Yeah.
00:19:51
Speaker
It's so funny, we were talking about, right, how manifesting has become like a buzzword recently. And I think back, going back to SoulCycle, my SoulCycle instructors had me manifesting years ago. I forget, I think it worked.
00:20:08
Speaker
Shout out, shout out to my Soul Striker instructor at my at home bike, James Lewis. He would say, imagine your future self. Imagine what you want to look like. Close your eyes while we're like riding on these stationary bikes. And what do you see? Yeah.
00:20:25
Speaker
like imagine that version like how are you gonna get there like what you do in this moment on this bike right now is gonna help you get there would you give up on that person and then i it's working i can hear it yeah honestly it's so funny i would envision myself in honestly a black turtleneck and like a pencil skirt
00:20:47
Speaker
Sick-ass designer heels, standing in front of skyscrapers, and New York, fast weaving around me, and my arms toned as heck, and me fit, and me feeling powerful, and I'm like, yes, let's get to that level. Then it makes it, would you give up on her?
00:21:07
Speaker
Would that version of you give up on this bike right now? Or would they go harder and turn the knob more? And I'm like, oh shoot, this is gonna be really personal. I can see her. It's not just go harder on the bike. It's what are you working for? Let's envision what you're working for and let's get there. Yeah, what's your level of commitment to yourself?
00:21:28
Speaker
Yes. And then sometimes it's hard. We have to visualize it. But I think that's what you were saying about like putting together a Pinterest board. You can't just say like, Oh, I want to be very successful. Like what does successful look like to you? What makes it worthwhile? What's currently on your Pinterest board, Aldi?
00:21:44
Speaker
Oh, beyond our vision board for the podcast and our outfit for the cover photo, which we haven't actually shot it yet. So I'm super excited. My boyfriend and I were actually doing a vision board for like what we want our life to look like in five years. Wow. You did together.
00:22:04
Speaker
Yeah. It was the first time we had done it together and I literally just like randomly called him over and I was like, do you want to do a mood board on Pinterest? And he was like, yeah, sure. I was like, what are you okay? Like that's something that he would normally say yes to. But yeah, we were, we were pinning like what we want our future house to look like. And it obviously harder with a partner because
00:22:23
Speaker
what my ideal aesthetic is is definitely not what his ideal aesthetic is like I was telling him like you want a house that batman would live in it's like like perfectly parallel lines everywhere like sharp edges monochromatic like white looks like a clinic like looks like no one lives there whereas I want something in the French Riviera with like lots of lush green ivy and like stained glass windows and like
00:22:49
Speaker
mushy couches and like soft drooping bedding but yeah we were pinning that and so this was the five-year plan so it was kind of like situated in Miami so it's like condo vibes and just images of couples and really chic outfits that are like generically attractive with like really cute babies
00:23:14
Speaker
Oh my gosh, that is so adorable. I love that. And do you think like you found what you envisioned, like you guys found like a middle ground and you can kind of see it a little bit? I think it's like coming together. 20% away from where I would like it to be, but I'm sure when the time comes to make the purchasing decisions of the interior design, I will be able to veto most of the time.
00:23:44
Speaker
Yeah. Oh my gosh. That's amazing. Yeah. So when was your first, when did you discover like Pinterest or what was your first vision board? Oh my gosh. Cat memes? This junior year of high school. Like I just, cat memes. Like that's it. You manifested your cat? Oh, no. The first time I was on Pinterest. Oh.
00:24:09
Speaker
When do I first use it to manifest? Yeah, I guess so. I mean, I guess to your point, like manifesting didn't even really become a popular thing until COVID. I feel like when we were all just chronically online. Yeah. And I was listening to this podcast where these three influencers were talking about how they set up their vision boards for the year. I was like, Oh, like that's a pretty good idea. I should do that. Yeah. And it's a therapeutic exercise. It is.
00:24:39
Speaker
Um, it's, it is fun and it's for me, a more enjoyable version of what people have been saying for decades. Like executive coaches will be like, Oh, like the most successful CEOs will get in front of the mirror before a meeting and say, you can do this. These are all the things we're going to accomplish in the future. Not investing has always been around for like a very long time.
00:25:04
Speaker
It's just now taken this, I don't know, quote unquote, girly spin where it's fine and visual and part of your romanticized routine. I think it's really awesome that we found this language to hit each other without making it overly stressful.
00:25:24
Speaker
Yeah, I agree. You don't have to manifest and I think it's nice that it's still relatively vague, like what manifesting is. Is it just saying, I'm Eleanor, I'm that girl? Or is it creating a vision board? Or is it just pinning things on Pinterest, right? Yeah.
00:25:44
Speaker
Or I saw someone say their way of manifesting when they were younger was when they would make wishes on 11-11 or on their birth. And I think that's really meaningful because then you make a wish and you set your mind to that goal for a year or what you're currently focused on. So I think that's really impactful. Something tells me a lot.
00:26:11
Speaker
is what I wish for when I only have one wish. Like if I'm throwing a coin into a fountain or if there's like... Oh my gosh. Shooting star. That's just a good point. It's so telling. I'll tell a quick story. I was with a date and we were
00:26:33
Speaker
at like the edge in New York, where you can like oversee a lot of New York. And there was like this comment. So scary. I'm not afraid of heights. So it's like for me. And there was a star going by that was comment that was very famous. And I was like, let's hold hands. And I was very cheap. I was like, let's hold hands and make a wish. And you're like nothing was like everything. So I wish for like one day. And I was with this person very romantic setting.
00:27:01
Speaker
And like, I thought I would wish for love and for him or something about us. It was work related. And I was like, in this very romantic setting, my wish is still not anywhere related to this romance. That ended very soon afterwards, actually. But I was like- Because of the clarity?
00:27:22
Speaker
I don't think it was because of that specifically, but it was very telling to me that I was like, okay, why didn't you make a wish? This comment only comes every once in a while. What am I going to wish for? I feel like the power of the universe. I have to write jobs, love, you know, success. What am I going to wish for? And he's like, we have to make a wish? Okay, I'm going to make a wish.
00:27:41
Speaker
And it wasn't about him. I thought it would be about love and romance and especially when you're doing it with someone. Yeah. I was like, I'm not wasting this much on this kid. Like, no. Wait, but was it like a project related thing at work or was it like a big overarching goal? It was just a big overarching goal. Okay, that's fine. I would always pick that over a person. I mean, I shouldn't say always. But there have been times where I wish for love.
00:28:11
Speaker
Very few, percentage wise. But I do think I'm the type of person, I'm not very spiritual or compared to some other folks, but I will always ask for coin to toss into a fountain. I love that.
00:28:30
Speaker
I carry coins with me just in case. I think it's really impactful. Yeah. Also, how do you reconcile the woo-woo components of manifesting with your very scientific mathematical brain? I think there's several components. First, it's
00:28:52
Speaker
Getting over the whole, I'm very science-minded, I'm very fact-based, I'm very rational, logical. That is true, but you can be that and still find things that are deemed more spiritual and relate to them and believe in them. Yeah.
00:29:16
Speaker
And there are a lot of reasons why manifesting is very scientifically or psychologically based where, yeah, if you're focused and helps with focus. Like if you want to think about manifesting in a way that's more rational, staying focused on a goal, envisioning it.
00:29:33
Speaker
kind of manifesting it, helping you clarify what that goal is. That is what manifesting it, you know, I, a lot of friends who are into astrology. I'm personally not that much. And that's why I love the Huberman lab. It's so studies based, but I think there are more spiritual things that are based in science and sometimes they're not.
00:29:55
Speaker
And that's okay. Just because there's not scientific studies to back why this certain thing works doesn't mean you can't benefit from it. And so, I don't know. I think for a long time, I was like, I'm not into this, like, like, frou-frou stuff. It's not really my, you know, brand. There's your cat. But I think you can be both very rational. Oh my god.
00:30:23
Speaker
Sorry, we both very rational and like scientific based, but also be into manifesting or astrology or, you know, being more in touch with your spiritual side. And I don't think it's one or the other. And I think I had villainized it for a while. Maybe villainize is too harsh. I thought I was very skeptical. I'm definitely a skeptic, but it's hard.
00:30:51
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. You know, especially when you're younger, you're more willing to be combated and be like, well, how does this make sense? Yeah. But I think it's okay to be both, right? I think you have some thoughts on this. It's just about having some faith. Yeah. And I don't know if you want to touch on like religious components or prayer, but there is a lot sometimes that you can't, that can't always be scientifically validated.
00:31:20
Speaker
But they work for people. Yeah. When I was talking about how I have these phases where I'll get obsessed with like one particular subject, like I have books right here. So this one's called the power of your subconscious mind. This one's a little bit more scientifically based. Uh-huh.
00:31:40
Speaker
This one's super tractor from Gabrielle Bernstein. This one's a little bit more woo woo, but it has good like morning affirmations and it's very like action oriented. This one has like case studies of how manifesting has like changed outcomes. The most compelling fact is that 95% of your mind is controlled by subconscious thoughts. So it's so important to.
00:32:07
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Be mindful of what you're giving to your brain to ingest as like your self beliefs. And I'm like, regimented to the fact where I won't even say like, Oh, that was so stupid of me. Or, Oh my God, I'm so dumb. Or I'm going to be really bad at this because I don't want that to be
00:32:30
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a narrative that I'm carrying in my subconscious brain. And it's why it's so good that you do your manifesting right after you wake up when you have the most access to your subconscious mind.
00:32:42
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with this one, the power of your subconscious mind. A lot of what he talks about is this thing called scientific prayer. He has recipes on how to do it, but this wasn't a side that I took away from the book. In today's society where our generation is so agnostic, religion-wise,
00:33:01
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This is kind of what we're turning to. And the fact that astrology is so popular these days just makes me feel like people always want to believe in something. And right now it's like this school of thought and it may seem witchy, but like what is religion if it's not just manifesting, right? You're almost begging to this higher being, which in manifesting is just the universe.
00:33:29
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Wow. And like, that just brings me back to
Historical and Spiritual Perspectives on Manifestation
00:33:32
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what I do. I'm like, oh, this outcome really excites me and it like physically elicits a feeling. So manifesting is what the older generations used to have as prayer. Yeah. Yeah. That, that, that's like, wow. When you say like the universes are like thing we're putting out there. And I don't think it's mutually exclusive, right? You know, it's not like, yeah.
00:33:57
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I know plenty of people who are very religious and then also partake in manifesting. And I think, yeah, it is something we as humans, we want to organize the way we behave and believe and people do that through religion and affinity groups. It's cold. It's cold.
00:34:24
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But yeah, I think there's something to the idea of whether it's, you know, whatever you believe in, putting out that energy or whatever term, like energy might be prayer or some other form. Exactly, exactly. But the point is they're interchangeable, which is freaky. I think they're very similar. Yeah, I think there's ways in which manifesting isn't this new thing. People haven't doing versions of manifesting forever.
00:34:53
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You know? Yeah. And I think it is very much so the belief and the faith. That's why people use the word faith, right? Yeah. Because you can say, I am the luckiest girl in the world. I am going to be rich and successful, but you don't believe it. I don't know. You need to have some level of faith. Yeah. I think I also, you mentioned that manifesting became a bigger thing during the pandemic, right? Yeah.
00:35:23
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And I think because we had so much free time, that was the first year I created a birthday slash vision board for 2020. So I was, I used to do investment banking and we spent a lot of time in PowerPoint. And so when I was born, like literally had no- You did it on PowerPoint? Of course I did it on PowerPoint. I did it on PowerPoint and I just like took images that I really resonated with and I put them on a slide and then I PDF'd it.
00:35:50
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It was very quick, you know, I would just like format it and it looked all normalize the image of his. Yeah. And but I just did it because I was home during the pandemic. There was nothing to do. I was
00:36:09
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You know, in, in quarantine. And so I was like, okay, let me just like put this together for how I would like to envision this next year. I didn't, I wasn't like, I'm going to create a vision board. I like believe in all this stuff. I was skeptic and maybe had, you know, quarantine not happened. I probably would never have made time space for it, but I lead it. And then I, like the next year, it's such my next birthday came up and I was like, holy shit. This all came true.
00:36:40
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That's always the freakiest part of making a vision board. Yeah. Like looking back on it being like most of this I got done. Yeah. And so I did it another year in 2021. That came true. That all came true. I made one for...
00:37:00
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2022 and I've made one for 2023 now. And I think when those things started to come true, it's like when you're putting it out there and when you're in that headspace and like sometimes you revisit, you take a look back and you just see what you want. You aspire for, it helps you set your intentions even when you're not so conscious of it. Like you're saying the unconscious. Yeah. It's like a better version of having
00:37:28
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Like I know some people set quarterly or annual goals and they'll write them out and stare at them every day. Yeah. Like to me, it's, it's an easier way of accomplishing things. So I do both times. I do both. And I think you can do both, right? Like.
00:37:45
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You know, I think that's kind of fun for me where every year I'm like, 24 things to do for 24, 25 to do before 25 or 26. And those are small fun things like that maybe get me closer to where I want to be. But those are like.
00:38:02
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finally learn how to do a split fully, you know, like go to the ballet, like travel outside of the US this year, you know, go to the dentist. Those are fun things that I can like, yeah, but then I think having the PowerPoint slide that I like to do.
00:38:23
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is good for the larger goals, right? Like, I usually put the city that I imagine myself in, strong women who I aspire to be like, sometimes like a stock market chart going up. I honestly put crypto on one of mine. Wait, like before you started working in the industry? Yeah. Wow. I didn't even know it. Why did you choose crypto?
00:38:49
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Well, this was like, what, December 2021, right? When- Okay. Market. I also think it was something interesting and it was just a way to symbolize money in the new form of currency. Yeah. No, that's a great point.
00:39:05
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Yeah, like you can play like your apartment, like I play like Selena Gomez, I play Lori from Sharktay. Really? I love her, she's so amusing to me. And she, I like her vibe. And, you know, just for whatever he resonate with influencers, it's different for each person. And this year, I'm able to successfully predict what city I'll be in. Really?
00:39:35
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It's always the same city. I did Miami, I did New York, and then I moved to New York. This year is still New York. What's the craziest thing you think you've manifested? I don't know if it's ever do like crazy things in terms of my manifestation.
00:39:53
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They are rooted reality, it's not like, wild. I come into the year being like, I wanna move to New York and then I move to New York, I can't wanna move to Miami, I'm gonna move to Miami. But the most specific thing is, I think it manifested my cat. Really? That's so cute. I did, it's not exactly my cat. My cat is like 10 years old, he's tabby, he's long haired. Yeah.
00:40:21
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In my vision board, he was a calico kitten that was long-haired. So it's probably perfect, right? But I remember that year being like, oh, I just want a cat. I just want a cat. And then I went to the pound multiple times. And then eventually I found, I was like, that one. I want that. And he's like an older man. Look at that. He's so cute. He's so cute. A little bow. He wears a bow tie. Yeah. Obviously.
00:40:50
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Obviously. And I think it was just one of the things where I'm like, I want to catch this year. And I think it's a self fulfilling prophecy, right? I think I already know some things I want. And then, you know, it's not like a massive vision board. The PowerPoint side can only really accommodate a certain number of pictures for it to still be aesthetic. So I choose between like seven and 12.
00:41:14
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Yeah. Only so much square footage and it helps to narrow it down. Like what are the seven things and then like how big I make the picture. Like how much space does it take up? And so I think I had an idea of what I wanted. I put it on paper. I thought about what was important to me. Like what do I want on this vision board? I think sometimes being selective and focused is relevant as well. I agree.
00:41:43
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I think that's one of the words for first. Yeah, that's my way of going about it. And then I think I'm like, well, my cat's on my, there's a cat on my vending board. Let's go to the town. Like let's drive there. Let's go to the animal shelter. Yeah. And so it's like totally not within reality, but it's like a more perfect life, what you see for yourself, how you want to view yourself, right? Yeah. Yeah. What's on your vision board for this next year, LD?
Personal Manifestation Stories
00:42:13
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Oh, for this next year? Yeah, for you.
00:42:18
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Honestly, my vision board this year has been a little bit more outrageous. Like before I quit my job, I started manifesting an office with like really tall windows and like a huge desk. It would be images like a woman in her chair with like her feet on the table. Like it was very entrepreneur vibes. Right. And I didn't know what to call it at the time, but it was just like this inner yearning to like,
00:42:47
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move towards building something of my own. And I was also pinning images of women being like a little bit more creative. Typically the most important things that I'm vision boarding are things that I have a strong
00:43:06
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desire for, like deep within my bones. And I don't know why it's there, but it gives me the permission to explore it and to be creative about like the path to completion, if that makes sense. Yeah. So it's crazy because like, I didn't know that I was going to quit my job when I did. I thought that I would still be working there today. I thought that it was maybe going to be like a over the summer thing, like maybe over the fall.
00:43:32
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But I quit in February just because I was like, I can't spend another day like not dedicating all of my time to my own endeavors. Like it became physically uncomfortable to not pay attention to the things on my vision board. So I think one of the scarier things with manifesting is to be careful to not manifest
00:43:57
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so intensely when you may not be ready for that change because it can be like very jarring like borderline painful transition like so many things were ripped out of my life so like at the end of the day were they meant for me no so like they should have been ripped out of my life but it was intense man it's too close to the sun yeah yeah yeah and i think it brings up another point right like
00:44:27
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I think it's also, you don't have six, so close to your vision board and what you originally thought you manifested, right? Yeah, for sure. You're not gonna be in a sky rise with a corner office.
00:44:41
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I think that might lead you astray. If you're feeling in the moment you want to move towards another thing, it doesn't have to be like 100% hit rate on the manifestation board. I had a Calico cat and now I have an orange cat. I'm not going to knock over my cat. It's like, no, I envisioned it as Calico. It's okay to not be so rigid because I think we changed over the course of time.
00:45:04
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in January or December of the previous year you're not that's not going to be when you're most clear on your goals and your goals can change right yeah yeah one time i told you i wish i made a wish for love and then the next time i made a wish i didn't make a wish for love and that's okay yeah i also think it's okay to like
00:45:27
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manifest not at new years. Like you can always choose to start over. Like you can literally choose to start over tomorrow, not even with your year, like with your life.
00:45:38
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So if you feel like things aren't vibing, just pivot, take a sharp turn and you can go wherever it is that you want to go. So I know some of my friends are like, Oh, I didn't do my yearly vision boarding this year. And now it feels like it's too late. Never too late. Like days a week are arbitrary. Like you can have.
00:46:00
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beginning of the year energy in May, like it's okay. And I would say that like, if you feel called to do it in awkward times of the year, then it's probably more meant for you than if you had done it. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's helpful. Like my birthday and the new year,
00:46:23
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I think those are just times of reflection and that, you know, my, my brain starts to reach down, like everyone's doing it a little bit. So it's a good time, but sometimes there are times where you just wake up and.
00:46:36
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you're like, I want to go for a run or I feel the same way. You can't always predict it. It's nice to like have those check-ins and you know, sometimes it's not as easy, especially when you're in the rat race, right? Like you have this very intense job. It's hard to take a step back and like breathe and be able to. So I think that's why it's helpful for people to have these
00:46:57
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arbitrary time slots at the quarter. What are my quarterly goals? This quarter, I'm gonna focus on this. This quarter, I'm gonna do that. But you can do it whenever. I think it's also okay, like you want to. Maybe go to one of your girlfriends and say, hey, let's like set our goals for this quarter or the next six months. Let's look ahead of script. Oh, you know what I love, LD? Clean rhymes.
Balancing Manifestation with Realism
00:47:26
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What? I love the three-hour transit between Miami and York. I never get Wi-Fi. I remember you telling me about that. Yes, I never get Wi-Fi. So I'm literally stuck there.
00:47:43
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I'm not going to be moving around. I have my preloaded songs on there, but then I get bored after like the first hour. Maybe I'll have a podcast for an hour, but then I just truly, I open up my notes app and I start writing down. I just start thinking, I stare at the window. I love the window seat. I know it's really cheap now to get wifi, still get the wifi. It's okay to be offline. And then usually when you're awake and you're forced to sit there, I came up with the idea,
00:48:13
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for like pretty invested originally when on my plane ride from I think Miami to Hawaii. Oh my gosh. It came together like you like obviously even thinking about these things but I think my my point of saying all this is like sometimes it's not gonna be just like a wave like
00:48:32
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If you feel the compulsion, then like go for it. But sometimes you can also kind of manufacture that. Whether that be New Year's, your birthday, the quarter, when you hop on a plane, going on a vacation, taking a Sunday or Saturday to yourself, turning off your phone. You can help create that. It's not always like it has to come from within, you know? Yeah. You just gave me a visual when, you know, that's a Raven.
00:48:58
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Yeah, a vision. Which you like has a vision. It's like you don't always need a vision. You can just nudge yourself on the right path. Right. And it's hard for it to be like
00:49:08
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Sometimes you want it to be obvious, like smack you in the face and say, yeah, it's like not like you're going to wake up the next day and have this perfect morning routine. Or I know what's really tough is people start in the new year and have like all these resolutions and then it doesn't always come together. They maybe only get like a certain percentage. They give themselves a really hard time, but don't get discouraged. It doesn't have to be perfect immediately. But yeah, manifesting is really powerful. I've manifested a lot of jobs. I manifested every job I've had.
00:49:38
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Honestly, same, probably. Yeah. Because you have to envision yourself. You have to believe it, you know? We both went into pretty male-dominated industries, and you have to envision yourself there. And I think in order to thrive, you really do need to be confident of your place there. And part of that is building confidence, manifesting, knowing that you deserve to be there. Yeah, there's lots of internal pep talks that happen.
00:50:05
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Yeah, exactly. It manifesting like a good financial future, right? Because you're going to manifest this beautiful apartment. Like how are you going to get there? How are you going to get to that?
00:50:15
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$3,000 a month apartment. If there's anything I hate about the manifestation movement, it's all the, I am abundant, I attract money, money comes to me. All this magical stuff where it's like, I am a magnet for, no you're not. Envision what you want and then be realistic about how you're gonna get what you want. It's so dangerous to make TikToks telling girls to look in the mirror and be like, funded. Confidence is great, but what are you gonna do with your skills?
00:50:46
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I think we need to find like a middle ground, right? Last, you need to feel very like I'm lucky. You want to believe that you are lucky. I'll speak from personal experience. Sometimes I say things and do things and use them as an excuse to be complacent, right? Like, oh, I'm just lucky. Things just come, the whole, I attract, I don't chase. So I'm like, oh, you gotta still do stuff. How are you gonna attract, right? Like you can't just say, I'm gonna attract.
00:51:14
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I'm very happy to be like, I don't taste, I've never taste, but it's like, how do you attract? You don't want to just attract like, like sitting there. That only works with dating men. That's the only scenario it works in. Maybe. And I think even like, even that, but like, attracting the right job, attracting, you have to put yourself in a position to attract. You have to be able to put yourself to be lucky to be abundant. How are you going to be abundant? Yeah.
00:51:41
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And I think that's where the dangerous is. And sometimes I'm like, yeah, I'm trapped. I don't chase. I'm just not going to do anything. I'm going to sit in my apartment and not work and just have all these things come to me. That's not going to happen. My inbox is just going to be full because I'm so good at manifesting.
Conclusion and Listener Engagement
00:51:58
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. My team's just going to give me a promotion because that's what I have right now. People just love me so much. People want to give me promotions and money.
00:52:11
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So there is some stuff to do, right? And I think manifesting is a good way to focus yourself and you have to work on it. Even if you do want to use the attract and chase mentality with dating men, right? Yeah.
00:52:31
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Like when you are smiling and like, you know, when you're, when you're open and I think that's a lot, that's a lot more allowing for people to be attracted to you or your energy. You don't come from a scarcity mindset. I think that's so important where you, you feel confident. I think that's the whole attraction when you don't chase after like a situation or whatnot, because you know what you're worth. Yeah. So.
00:52:57
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