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How to Actually Make Your Manifestations Work in 2024
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On this episode, Eleanor and LD bundled up in Eleanor's NYC apartment on 12.12 to talk about manifesting for the year ahead, the magnetism of good friendships, and tactical tips to make your year go your way.
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Introduction to Pretty Invested
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Welcome to Pretty Invested. I'm Eleanor, and this is LB. Presented by your favorite ex-finance bros. We talk about the money things you actually care about. Hi, guys. Welcome to Pretty. Oh, my gosh. Did you see that? Well, hi, guys. I just got attacked by a feline. But welcome back to Pretty Invested. We are recording here in New York. In bed. All cozy.
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not cuddling with cats. So Lidina, what are we talking about today?
Manifesting Goals: Challenges and Successes
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We're going to talk about end of the year manifesting. Okay. I have been going through it in a good way. Okay. I've just been like, incredibly on my
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with writing out what I want for the next year. I feel like this year was one of the hardest years of my life and also one of the best years of my life. And I think it's because I was so
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specific about what I wanted last year and I kind of like got everything that I wanted in the end despite it being incredibly painful for like six months, but I'm here and I want to recreate it. Okay, let's look back. Just to look forward, let's look backwards. What did you manifest last year and like what did you do to make them kind of come true? I manifested quitting my job
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I manifested, I mean, this little like media empire that we're building, I manifested brand collaborations, my engagement. I mean, really just like the fact that I can design the exact day that I want now. That's huge for me. Like I can wake up when I want to. And the fact that I choose to wake up at like six in the morning because I'm so excited for my days, which
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That never ever happened to me when I was an employee. Yeah, I think my life has done the complete 180. I did not manifest the move to Bermuda. That wasn't part of the plan. But that's okay. That happens. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I think the question that everyone really cares about is like, how did you
Techniques in Scripting and Visualization
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manifest it? How did you do it? I mean, not to get too woo woo, but I think that there is something about
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certain days of the year being more energetically relevant to manifest. I really like scripting as a way to get specific on the things that I want to prioritize. So scripting is like you take your diary basically and you're like my year is going to look like this and you talk about yourself as a character kind of and you're like
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Ladina will have blah, blah, blah, she will live in she is married to okay. This is what her day looks like. She socializes with her friends x days out of the week. This is what her weekends look like. So you talk about yourself as like
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a person that is like you in the future but you do it in like the third person and it helps you be a little bit more objective and like less doubtful of what you can accomplish. Yeah. So I did that last year and I also did it over the summer and it's actually kind of uncanny because like the social life that I described when I scripted over the summer was almost as if like
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I was living on a small island with a small community of people and it's warm all the time. I basically was describing Bermuda. You just didn't realize it. Yeah, Bermuda was never in the picture. But I think our life there will look really similar to what I was writing about because I just wanted something more close knit but also selective with the kinds of people that we're hanging out with.
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No, I think that's so fair, especially as you get older, to want a tribe. And it's hard to have a big number of people who fit into that.
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Yeah, be protective with your energy and your time. Exactly. Like I want personalities that are going to be compatible with us as a couple. And honestly, I'm being strategic about the community that I raise my children in. 100%. So that's kind of important to me. So scripting, and then after I've scripted, I'll do a visual exercise.
The Power of Community and Social Circles
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Okay. Where I have a mood board, and I'll find one specific
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image or a set of images that align with one of the bullet points that I parsed out for my scripting. So for example one of the things that I'm doing right now is I'm like screenshotting really kind messages that I'm getting and I'm like adding on to my mood board for the year on my TikTok. Oh my gosh. From like you know people who follow you. Yeah because it's like so cute and heartwarming and it makes me really happy. So it's like I'm manifesting like building like expanding my community. Yeah. And also like
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It's just really nice to look at that and be like, oh my god, that was such a cute message. Yeah. So you guys, when you do comment or say anything, we read them. And it really is encouraging. It makes my week. Yeah. It's like, oh no, it's not. I know everyone says it, but if we just impact one person's life. I know it sounds so cheesy, but it actually is such a big thing. It's real. Yeah. I think about the people, the few people who
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without this one person, my life might be on a totally different trajectory. Oh my god. And so yeah, if you do that for one person, I think that that one person did for me. That's insane. How do you go deeper into that? That's so real. Well, you know, maybe there are other ways that I probably would have ended up in a similar path, just knowing your personality type. But yeah, it was like this
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girl in my college who was two years older than me and she was both really values oriented and wanted to have a positive impact, but then at the same time was going into investment banking. And I had such a narrow scope of what finance was and didn't think that was possible. So quite literally by her just being herself and like the vibrant light that she was,
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was a literal example of a girl that I saw myself in, who I shared values with, doing something as like a means to accomplish those values. And she's told me,
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right, like bulldoze your way to getting what you want and you can do that through money. And that's why when I was a freshman, I started going to all these finance events. I really don't think I would have done that if I had only interacted with like those finance bros. I was like, this is not a place for me. So like circling back to your point about, you know, visuals and like manifesting, literally seeing yourself in someone or hearing stories and sharing those.
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like in a ways that you can't even understand, expand what you think is possible. And I might've been like still in investment banking eventually, but I think, I don't know, I don't know where else, I don't know. Like that was the path I was meant to take. Like I felt like it was meant to meet her.
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That's so real. Yeah. I'm trying to think like, I don't think I had anyone that was like that inspirational for me in real life. There's just some people that I really resonate with, but for me, they're more like large public figures, like I loved Audrey Hepburn, like people that went against the grain as women in their time and like sought more for themselves other than just being like,
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mothers and wives. I'm curious like I know Audrey I think came as a European like what was about her story that you thought was inspirational. She was like this beautiful person that ended up going into modeling and like entertainment industry and then later on in life she was so involved in charity work and she always gave back and I feel like
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She had such kind energy and she was deeply intelligent and well-spoken. And I mean, I think it was amazing for all the women in that generation that were able to get as far as they did in show business, but she just took it a level beyond. And so I have so much respect and admiration for women. You can tell that there's just this force inside them that's pushing to do stuff.
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And I think for me, I've always felt like I had that, but I didn't know which direction to go in. And for me, if I see something that resonates with me, I'm like, okay, that clicks. I respond to it and I'm like, oh, that's what I meant to do. And it helps me put things into action.
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Yeah, I think we as women are so visual. And so seeing those people and creating a vision board, I think is super helpful beyond just doing that in addition to the scripting and the affirmations. I think it really gives you something to go for. Yeah.
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I feel so lucky that I met that girl because I feel like
Friendship Choices and Personal Energy
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so rarely do you have real life examples of people that you want to emulate. I mean, I had finance when I was in college and that gave me the opposite reaction. I was like, I can't do that.
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So she once called me her mini me and I like, I don't think she realized this, but I was like, you know, that's like the best compliment I've ever been given. And I'm like, wow, that's such high praise, right? For both for me and for her. Like if, if you said something to like a young girl, like you're like a mini me and she was like, that's the best compliment I've ever received. Like, wow. You know? And so yeah, like I think maybe they're not,
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people you want to emulate, but I think about some of my friends who are just so energetically aligned. They're not my role models, but they're people that I love to be around and I think give me light. I just appreciate those people in your life.
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I just thought of myself smiling more when I'm with certain people. I'm more open because they're open people. I think it's so rare and honestly I think you're one of the best people at finding good individuals to put in your circle. I'm always so impressed.
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But no, like I'm always so impressed with your friends. Yeah. Okay. This is like a separate topic, but I was talking to a girlfriend of mine and she's going through like a friendship breakup right now. And I was saying to her like, this one of those things where like, well, now that you guys are going through a friendship breakup, I was kind of surprised that you were friends with this girl. And she was like, yeah, like I don't know why I was impressed with this person.
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And I was saying, you know, honestly, it's like you being calling them your friend is you signing off on them. And I really like I really don't think this person was like a good person to be around and a good energy and headspace.
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And one of my friends once told me this, like, she's very careful about the people she calls her friends. Like, she will literally, I think it's a little harsh, refer to someone as my acquaintance. You don't have to be a celebrity to be name dropped. So just be careful with the people that you allow in your circle because they'll abuse that, they'll tarnish your own reputation. And I just don't like people who I think are a little,
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I don't want to say social climbing because I don't think I have that much clout, but I think people like to be associated with certain other people to give them more validity. I don't think we need to be celebrities or public figures for social climbing to be a thing at this stage of life, especially working in the industry. That's very real.
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gives legitimacy to other people. So like by them saying that like, oh, like they know you or like, oh, they mess with themselves. Like you're my friend, like she's my friend. Yeah. The whole point of this tangent is like, your friends are important. There's that thing that say you are like the average of the five people that you spend the most time with. That accent might not always be exactly right, but you are who you spend your time with.
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If you talk to someone who's always like, life sucks, I hate my job, victim mentality, super negative, super gossipy, how are you not going to absorb it?
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how much you can manifest like something like block your manifesting and like we've talked about the evil eye before. Yeah, like for me, if people are really negative, they're more susceptible to giving you the evil eye even accidentally. Yeah, we'll just get really jealous or like not understand how you got to certain places in life. And also think some people are just like on the wrong frequency issue. And I literally think about frequencies in people as actual frequencies.
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And some are harmonious, and some will distort your own vibe. And I really think that the more you declutter your friend group, the faster you will achieve or get to the right place for you in life. Yeah. No, that's so true. And on a more positive note, I think
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we should really think about like if I say who's someone that when you think of them like just shines a light like who is someone who you're like wow she just is so capable so action-oriented goes after things and is a friend that encourages me like those friends please treasure them and then when you're surrounded by people who are grateful who are action-oriented who are doing the thing then you yourself will be more like that and
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don't take those people for granted. yeah, this is a friend, i want to invest my time into. think of it like a freaking stock. this stock is trending upwards, i want to invest in them, i want exposure to them. not in a social climbing way, obviously, but you want to make those people feel valued, and those are good people to surround yourself with.
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Yeah. Wow. It's got gushy, but appreciate your friends. Like they're the ones who are going to be there with you. They make life good. Yeah. You can't, you can't, you can't like, you can't be just with your partner. Like your partner's a lot, but you need another support system. You, I think your friends are like equally as important as your relationship, um, or at least like 65, 65, 35. They're going to be there for you in a bunch of times and like,
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Sometimes your friendships last longer than your marriage. So, you know? True. And it's like, you know, it's the same concept as diversifying. And this sounds almost calculated, but have a CRM of people. And the touch points I sound like a psychopath, but I have a mental CRM of- Rolodex. Yeah, Rolodex. That's a good way of putting it. Of people that I appreciate. And like, you know, like I don't have, ooh, I want this from them. Or like,
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Oh, I want them to get me into this party or I want them for clout or I want them for this. It's like actually investing in those friendships, being there for them, talking to them, giving them your time and energy is already a lot. And doing touch points, it makes me sad that some friends that I had in college, I would reach out, they wouldn't reach it back out to me. And I'm like, well, this can't be a one-sided relationship. But sometimes I am one of those people. Yeah. Like I just, I'm so bad at long distance friendships. Yeah. It's just so hard. Yeah. You know how today's 1212? Mm-hmm.
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Is there anything that is top of mind for what you are manifesting? Yeah, but I don't know if I want to share it. Okay, so what's that? It's one of those things where I feel like if I say it, you're going to get the evil eye. Yeah, like jinxing it in some way. So I'm not going to share that one.
Goals for the Podcast and Life Balance
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In terms of just manifesting for our podcast, I have so many big aspirations for it. And I really like getting back to the core of why we wanted to do this. I really hope that it is something meaningful to certain people and investing a lot more time into it. You know, we beta tested, I would say, and now coming into 2024, we're ready for like full launch, like
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I was scripting on it last night, actually. Yeah. And I was like, I want to get to 50,000 listens next year, which I actually think is doable. Yeah. I think it's like for me less, I mean, I don't want to like put a number on it. Maybe that's good to put a number on it. But I just really want to be proud of the content that we're putting out and do it on a consistent basis and the type of message that we're putting out there. And hopefully it's helpful. And maybe create a community.
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I know that word's ever used, but... We're like an actual community. Like not on Discord, a real community. We get to know people's names and know some people's stories. I think it's always so cool when you get to that point with people in your audience where you know what they're going through, they ask you for advice on certain topics. I recently found out that
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someone in my community quit her job and got a new job. And it was because like I was talking about putting my job and I was like, this makes me so emotional. Oh my gosh. Yeah, that's so sweet. But yeah, what are you manifesting if you can share? For next year. Yeah. And for my wedding to go smoothly please. Next year I'm manifesting a more balanced life. Something that I'm struggling with right now.
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I just really can't get out of this hustle thing, but I feel a lot better than I did earlier in the year. I'm manifesting getting the kitties back. They're going to be away from me for a really long time next year because of immigration. That's going to be really sad. Honestly, there's so much. Me specifically, I like to add values to things. I won't tell you guys how much money I'm trying to make every month, how many followers I'm trying to have.
00:18:58
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semi unattainable, but we'll see what happens. Yeah, you have to aim for the stars. Like, if you're not dreaming big and you're not working towards that, then how are you gonna get there? Exactly. I think that's a good point. Yeah, so did you already do your scripting? I did it last night. Oh my god. Yeah. Okay. Did you do your vision board already? No. Okay. I'll do that tonight. Yeah. From our last manifesting episode, I was saying like, you should just...
00:19:25
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If you can, do your vision board just like in a PowerPoint, and then you can make it your home screen. It's so easy. I love that. I think I'll do that closer to New Year's. What else do you do?
Utilizing Vision Boards and Ambiance
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Other than vision boarding? Mm-hmm.
00:19:40
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I mean honestly that's it. Yeah. Like I script and then I bullet point and then I do a vision board based off of the bullet points and then I take certain things from the vision board and I make them my home screen. Oh wow, okay. And do you think you refresh that in the summer or whenever it feels right? Whenever it feels right. Okay. I'm not super like strategic about it. Yeah. So. It's usually when I'm having like a crisis.
00:20:05
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Yeah, yeah. So like, the format is saying like your name and like, just like a third person describing yourself. Yes. And how many images do you have on your vision board?
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like as many as I can find that feel right until I get tired. Okay. Normally I spend like four hours on it. Okay. It's fun. Yeah. Yeah. There's no like formula to this. Yeah. It's so funny. I told you I also do vision boarding. Yes. You manifested Dexter. I did. And like it's not exactly, you know, he's not exactly what I manifested. We love him though. Pets never are. But yeah, I manifested him and
00:20:47
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But in addition to vision boarding, I think I told you I do this thing for my birthday, where I list out more tangible things, right? Because me being the type of person that I am, I like to do a checklist, you know? And so the vision board I do in the beginning of the, like before New Years, or like beginning of the year, and that's just kind of like the vibe, that's the vibe.
00:21:14
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But then I like to do for each year that I'm a lie, like 25 by 25 or like 26 for 26. And that's easy things that I can be like, oh, I did this. Oh, I did this. And those are a little bit more realistic and those are actual tangible steps.
00:21:33
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My birthday is in the spring, so it's enough time from the vision board to give myself a buffer. If I don't accomplish everything but on my vision board, I'm like, oh, I still have a few more months. So these things are like, join a junior board. Travel outside the country. Go to the dentist. Little things that I know I need to do. And then it gets harder when you're 26 and you've already done a bunch of stuff. Other ideas are,
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things that you can buy for yourself or get another piercing. Easy things that you can do and have fun and feel like you're working towards something, but are aligned with making yourself a more elevated person and getting to those things on your vision board, right? I think that's a good, uh, you know, like juxtaposition to think to juxtapose to your vision board so that
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It's not too woo-woo, and you can actually feel like you're progressing towards something, right? And giving you tangible actions with something else in mind. And it's fun. I love that. Yeah. It's going to be hard this year, because I've done this three years in a row. I'm like, what? I'm like mundane, 27, 26 things I can do. You know, you could just make them more specific. Like, go see Blah Blah Blah, the ballet.
00:22:50
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or I don't know, like go see a friend that you haven't seen in years. Yeah, that's a 2024 thing. Yeah. It's not a problem. It's a fun thing. But that's something else you can try. And something that I thought was really fun. You can create an atmosphere. Like I went to Alexa and I was like, play a sound bath. Okay, she didn't pick that up. Play a sound bath. Here's a mix for you on Amazon Music.
00:23:20
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Oh no, play sound bath. Alexa, play sound bath. Sound bath and similar songs on Amazon Music. Hopefully you guys can hear this. Can you hear it?
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So I played the sound bath, and this is the first thing she found on Amazon Music. She heard the gong, oh my gosh. And then you can light a few candles, you can turn off the lights, you can get all witchy, and create an environment. So you're not just like, oh, I'm writing in my journal, or I'm typing this thing out, but create a mood.
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You're like doing actual witchcraft. Am I? Yeah, I love it. I don't, I haven't studied in witchcraft. No, maybe either, but like, I feel like that's what... I feel like these are the vibes and... This is so...
00:24:16
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Maybe we'll do like a guided sound bath. Oh my god, yeah. Should we do like a witchcraft series? I don't know. I'm down to like do research on it in order to make content on it. I love anything witchy. Yeah. I don't know. Just the point is like you can like create an environment where it's fun for you or gather your girls and then you guys all do this together and make it a girls night. Yeah. But yeah.
00:24:45
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Alexa? Yeah. Stop. Okay. I'm sick. Anything else about any of your manifesting you wanted to touch on? Honestly, this is maybe a me thing, but I honestly feel like sense really helped me manifest. So like if you have a perfume or just like a scent that makes you really emotional, I would... I mean, you were basically talking. That whole thing was just like ambiance, but like get yourself in an ambiance that like helps you feel your feelings a little bit more, like tap deeper into like
00:25:15
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your body when you're doing this stuff, especially if you have been super busy and like you've been go-go-go all the time. It's a little bit harder to listen to yourself or just be in tune with what you actually want. It's hard to manifest when you don't know what you want. Yeah, create a peaceful environment for yourself. I love the replica candles, so that's when I like. Which one do you like the most? I have one.
00:25:40
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It was a gift, one of the best things I've ever gotten. Yeah, I really like, I think Jazz Club right now because it's so holiday-esque. Yeah, it's right here in New York. I like on a date. I haven't smelled that one. I'll like share it with you in a bit. Maybe next time we'll record one of these in the dark with candles on. Yeah, I don't care about being witchy. No, me either. I love it. I love it. Not actual witchy, but yeah, kind of.
00:26:11
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like soft witchy like good witch good witch good witch yeah yeah what's her name from that does like the ear thing belinda i don't know um i know what you're talking about yeah but i can't her yeah you guys know who yeah yeah yeah um and so i think that's everything so yeah i guess leaving it off to you guys like
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We are manifesting for
New Year Manifesting and Sign Off
00:26:38
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the new year. It's such a great time to do so where you're reflecting. And we just gave you a couple of examples of how we like to manifest, do whatever feels right for you. Yeah, and I like that we gave actual strategies and like ways you could do it.
00:26:51
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I want to want to sign us off. Hope you guys have an amazing holiday season and a really happy new year. You know where to find us. We're at Pretty Invested Media on all of our socials and if you enjoyed this, please, please rate us. It means a lot to us. It helps a lot and thank you so much for listening. Yeah, okay. Bye bye. Bye.