Become a Creator today!Start creating today - Share your story with the world!
Start for free
00:00:00
00:00:01
You Hold the Brush: Who Are You Painting Your Life For?
61 Plays3 months ago
In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess, I dive into the concept of "painting the life you want to see." I’ll challenge you to stop creating a life based on others’ expectations and start painting your own unique masterpiece—one that truly reflects your desires and values. I’ll share how I stepped away from a life I thought I should live and embraced a blank canvas, letting go of what no longer served me. With inspiration from my own transformation, I encourage you to reassess what you’re holding onto and confidently create a life that aligns with who you truly are. By the end of this episode, I want you to feel empowered to stop living for approval and start creating the life that feels true to you. Every moment is an opportunity to paint a new picture, and I’m here to remind you that you have the power to create a life that reflects your authentic self.
Alexa play "The Painter" by Cody Johnson
Stay Connected
- Website: www.wanderingthewildmess.com
- YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@utahgirlinnash
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherdyann
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@utahgirlinnash
Recommended
Transcript
Introduction to Painting Your Life
00:00:01
Speaker
If it was as simple as painting the life that you wanted, what would it look like and what would you paint?
00:00:14
Speaker
And maybe it is.
00:00:19
Speaker
Welcome to Wandering the Wild Mess with Heather Morgan. I am so happy you're here. All right, so maybe it is.
00:00:31
Speaker
i hope you really got a visual of painting your life and how you would paint it because I know this is all about letting go of what you thought your life should look like and embracing what it is.
Mindset for Life Creation
00:00:48
Speaker
But I think a piece that I want to share with y'all is that the mindset that it takes to really create the life that you wanna live.
00:01:00
Speaker
And that doesn't necessarily mean changing the past, but embracing what could be and not letting the past dictate what continues to be your future.
00:01:15
Speaker
So I was thinking about something that I want to share that I feel like should hit home. And this is just a concept for me.
Heather's Journey to Authenticity
00:01:23
Speaker
If you know, i if you've been following along for some time, you know I've done so much like research and reading and inner work and really just trying to understand how i create or I can create the life I want to live after really giving up and leaving the one that i manufactured or created and had before.
00:01:44
Speaker
And I really thought at the time it was the right one. And a couple of things I'll start up is really why I'm bringing up the painting, the life the that you want to have.
00:01:56
Speaker
I realized so much in looking back at the life I had that I was painting ah picture on the wall in a lot of ways of my life for people to see.
The Art of Personal Satisfaction
00:02:08
Speaker
And i was truly painting it for what I thought I wanted to be in a lot of ways, at least the things that I could control, like get the good job, get the promotion, do the things.
00:02:20
Speaker
But I also realized i wasn't really, i was painting this picture to put on the wall for everyone else. It really wasn't the picture of the life that I wanted to paint.
00:02:32
Speaker
It was almost as if the painting i wanted everyone else to see and admire and think, oh, look at that, it's great. But if it was left up to me, I'm not sure that that's how I would have painted it at all.
00:02:46
Speaker
And until I finally took that painting down, aka left my previous life and what I had painted and stared at a blank canvas in Tennessee then I realized, wow, now it's my canvas to paint.
00:03:05
Speaker
What do i want to put on there? And I realized I'm not going to paint it with anyone else's thoughts or opinions in mind. I'm going to paint it the way that I want it to look.
00:03:18
Speaker
Because at the end of the day, I'm the only one that's going to have to stare at this painting day after day. It's hanging in my home for me to see and a reminder of what I want my life to look like.
00:03:33
Speaker
And I really don't think you can admire a painting that you painted for everyone else the same way you can admire a painting that you chose, that you feel is yours, that makes you light up when you look at it and you see it and you know that that's your truth.
Authenticity and Happiness
00:03:50
Speaker
And you know some someone might come to your home and they might see that painting and they might not like it at all. But that's okay. As long as you like it, you love it, you enjoy it, it's in your home to view it.
00:04:04
Speaker
And if they they don't have to see it. They don't have to look. And they don't have to stay. And that feels hard sometimes to say or harsh for someone that really puts someone's emphasis on pleasing other people or worrying on what other people think.
00:04:23
Speaker
But it doesn't serve me and it doesn't serve you either. But it was so much of a part of me. So I understand how hard it is sometimes for us to take a step back and look at our lives and say, are we doing this for us?
00:04:39
Speaker
It was until I really decided to let that piece go, i realized, gosh this is really freeing. Why was I so worried about painting a painting for everyone else to see when they would only see it for like a sliver of the time, ah few moments in comparison to how long I had to stare at it?
00:04:59
Speaker
I mean, how many people are really over looking at the painting on your wall? You're the one that's looking at it day in and day out. You're the one that has to live with it. But yet, so often we're doing it and painting our lives for everyone else.
00:05:17
Speaker
And why? Think about that. So what I really challenge you to do here is look at your life and think, what parts of the painting on your wall did you paint for other people?
00:05:31
Speaker
What parts of your life did you paint without yourself in mind? And maybe let's paint over those because as much as life is about giving light to others or being there for people that you care about, the best way you can do that is to be your authentic self.
00:05:53
Speaker
When you love and enjoy who you are, that's such a brightness, Because you can be truly happy and confident in the person that you are. And the right people will come along and want to stare at that painting with you. I promise you.
Life Choices vs. Expectations
00:06:10
Speaker
And I say this for everyone. This is men and women. There is really nothing more appealing. And again, I'm not saying this so you should do it for others, but I want to paint this picture for you.
00:06:23
Speaker
There's really nothing more appealing and attractive than someone that just completely authentically owns who they are. And I don't mean like in an arrogant, I know who I am. I'm better than you egotistical way.
00:06:36
Speaker
I mean in like, I'm comfortable with who I am. And I just own it. So think about it. Have you ever met someone and you like challenge them or they someone challenges them and they're like listening to a song and someone's like, oh, I don't really like that song. How do you even like that?
00:06:55
Speaker
And they're like, oh, that's cool. Like, I like it. And they just move on. And it's like not really a thing. ah They're not all defensive. Like, what? Why don't you like it? then an ad They're like just very detached and content with what they like.
00:07:11
Speaker
And they kind just make it like a not a big deal. They're not trying to prove anything. Even like little comments like you order like, oh, you're getting, i don't even know. You like chocolate milk and someone's like, ugh.
00:07:24
Speaker
And you're like, yeah, I like it. And it's not, I mean, obviously who's getting defensive over chocolate milk. But do you know the scenarios where people have strong opinions and someone just confident in who they are just like, yeah, I like it.
00:07:37
Speaker
And I feel like people like that, when you meet them, you're like, whoa, because that's just such a place of owning yourself. And knowing that not everyone has to like it, but you do.
00:07:49
Speaker
And I love that.
00:07:52
Speaker
And that's the same thing about the painting on your wall. Someone comes over and they're like, what kind of painting is that? And you're like, it's my favorite painting. I love it. And they're like, oh, well, I don't even like It's not that great. And you're just like, that's okay.
00:08:05
Speaker
It's not for everyone. And you move on. Your life, your painting, how you want it doesn't have to be for everyone. You're painting it for you. And I don't know what ever got in our minds thinking that there were That there was anything that we were doing that our whole life was just about getting other people's approval of the painting we are supposed to paint. Why why were we always seeking that?
00:08:33
Speaker
Because we're never going to get approval from everyone. I think about that either even as I try to speak very kindly about the things in my life. And I realize that everything I'm going to say, the exact, like not everyone's going to find it relevant or want to hear it because I'm not meant to say it for everyone.
00:08:55
Speaker
I meant to say it for the people that are supposed to hear it and let it resonate with them. Okay, but back to the painting. I digress. But you get the picture. i was thinking about this.
00:09:07
Speaker
And I really think it's a good thought when you're thinking about your life and you're painting the picture and you're realizing what you want to paint. And I think we all have things in our life that we want to see, right?
00:09:18
Speaker
What makes us feel so happy? A promotion, a certain relationship, a certain like an experience, whatever it is. And and We all have different things.
00:09:32
Speaker
So our pictures are all going to look so different. But I feel like when we focus on what we want from the outside, how it will appeal to others,
00:09:45
Speaker
then sometimes that's like material things and we're trying to get acceptance. And we need to think like, is that really important? Do we want that because we want a certain image or because that's really what we want for our life?
00:10:03
Speaker
Does it just increase our status? Is that why we want it? And we're still kind of painting the picture for someone else when we when we do those things.
00:10:13
Speaker
Like we're waiting for people to be like, oh, look at them. They have this. They have that. And again, when when you're painting things for that, those accolades, you just have to ask yourself, am I painting this for me or the approval of the other people? Because you got to think people in your life, if you're painting things for people to be like, oh, look at them.
00:10:34
Speaker
They have this, they have that. When it comes to material things or certain statuses in your life, if those people are just around because you have those things and nothing is Always, right?
Detachment from Materialism
00:10:51
Speaker
Nothing's definitive. Things can come and go. That's why I'm big on the power of detachment.
00:10:55
Speaker
If those things leave you, are those people still around? It's just something to think about. And then you also have to realize because those things not always give you happiness, right? It's not the thing. It's the feeling that you want.
00:11:10
Speaker
And don't worry, this is someone who's coming from lot of doing just that. So i'm this is a no judgment zone, but I'm just sharing through my experience and learning. I was leaning into things that weren't really important to me, but I thought that it would make the appearance of my life better or more ideal, but it it wasn't really me.
00:11:32
Speaker
and It just didn't fit what I wanted. and that's why I'm no longer striving to be or certain ways or go for certain things in my life.
00:11:45
Speaker
And don't get me wrong. Again, everyone's going to have different reasons for different things that they want to paint for their life. But I like to think about it sometimes like, is this for an appearance perspective?
00:11:59
Speaker
Here's an example of something like material things. Like I really do want a bigger SUV that I can take camping all the time and a little more big and outdoorsy for the mountains.
00:12:12
Speaker
Right. And but i'm I'm content with my cute little SUV now. But I just that for me is not like, oh, I want it for the appearance. But I feel like the feeling of it just feels like me.
00:12:27
Speaker
And so that's why I want it It feels like aligned with who I am and what I like to do. But before I moved here, I had a BMW. And okay like it wasn't really me though.
00:12:39
Speaker
But that appearance probably seemed a certain way or maybe fit the life that I was trying to portray. But it wasn't necessarily like super functional for me. It was fine.
00:12:50
Speaker
My ex had a truck, so I had a sedan. Like, it's fine. It was great. And not that it wasn't a great car and not that I didn't love it and i am not grateful and all those things I appreciated. But was it to show status?
00:13:05
Speaker
Was it because it was what I wanted? and I'm not saying like, oh my gosh, a BMW such a status, right? Like, it's just the appearance it gave, the image. And some people want that.
00:13:18
Speaker
Maybe that image aligns with them. But personally, it wasn't actually – it was more driven for my ex-husband than it was for me. So now that I'm here in Tennessee, like one of the first things I do is like I didn't want a BMW because that's not really what I wanted.
00:13:33
Speaker
you know what I'm saying? That was ah life being portrayed for someone else. And I really feel like we can we can stop and say this new job.
00:13:46
Speaker
Is this something that I'm going to like?
00:13:51
Speaker
Like we say yes to his commitment not going it.
00:13:57
Speaker
I don't always know if that's the job that we want. I think about that even in my corporate life. Did I do some things for other people, for appearances, for striving towards goals that I thought would be admirable and looked highly of, but not necessarily what made me happy.
00:14:20
Speaker
And so now I'm in this new phase, and I think you should be too, where I'm doing things for me, not for my friends, not for her appearances, not for my parents, not to keep up, but really i want us to do things for ourself. Like ask the question, is this what I really want?
00:14:44
Speaker
Because the more you do things that you want to do every single day and say no to the things that you don't, you truly don't feel aligned to do, the more simplistic your life gets and the easier things flow and turn out perfectly because you're in such alignment with the life that you want to live and the way that you want to be.
00:15:09
Speaker
Because truly, whether you paint it or not, there's a picture in the back of your subconscious mind that knows what you think your life could be.
00:15:24
Speaker
Should be.
00:15:28
Speaker
Is. And when you do things outside of what you truly desire from your life. Whether you want a minute or not. you can feel that it's just not the right move for you.
00:15:41
Speaker
You may deny the resistance because it's for show, it's for this, it'll make this happen for you. All of the reasons, but you know when something's not right for you. Just like that person in your life that you feel like you have to distance yourself for or that relationship you're trying to force that isn't there.
00:15:59
Speaker
There's a feeling there. It's undeniable, but we deny it all the time. So I guess saying undeniable is probably the wrong term, but you know what I'm saying? You know, it's just so easy for us in this world of distractions to deny that truth.
00:16:14
Speaker
I think we also numb, so we don't have to feel that much. And I definitely understand that. And I agree that we should give ourselves grace
00:16:26
Speaker
For just doing things that really aren't in alignment with our life. But once you take a step back and realize that feeling, it's kind of hard to go back.
00:16:36
Speaker
And I think what it comes down to, the best thing you can do for yourself is to ask, if you were asked to paint your life, is this something you'd want to paint?
00:16:49
Speaker
What would you want it to be? It's almost like if this big picture of your life is at the end of your life, like over your a big picture over your casket, and it's all the things that you achieved, wanted, gained, whatever from your life, what would you want to be up there?
Visualizing Life Goals
00:17:08
Speaker
What would you want to show? What would you give meaning to?
00:17:14
Speaker
Isn't that wild to think about? I know it is if you're going there. And I know it's different from for everyone. So there's no judgment. You don't have to think certain things need to be there. There's no perfect picture.
00:17:28
Speaker
Everyone has their own. And that's what's so great about life and art. Everything is just unique. That's why it's wonderful. It's unique to all of us. And if we all just wanted the same picture hanging above our casket, like because it was just aligned with what everyone told us our picture should look like,
00:17:50
Speaker
What is the fun in that? Like no fun in that. I'll tell you one thing I was thinking about and I feel like it really helped me. And maybe that's why I feel like visualizing and painting and writing down the life you want is so key to move in that direction.
00:18:06
Speaker
Because when you know what you want and you can see it in your life, in any part of your life, it gets reflected back to you. And I truly believe that. I truly believe that you move in the ways that your mind sees. i was listening today to something that said, you have to be to become.
00:18:27
Speaker
And that hit me.
00:18:32
Speaker
But I'll also give you example of how it works. And I know this has been talked about before and a lot of my readings, but this came up the other day. And if you heard it, like you should
Life as an Expanding Algorithm
00:18:41
Speaker
know. So basically one way to think about our world and our life is like an algorithm.
00:18:47
Speaker
The things that you're looking at is the algorithm. It's like, let's say you're on social media. And it shows you more of the things that you look at, right?
00:18:58
Speaker
So when you're looking at trucks all the time, your for you page is a whole bunch of trucks. If you're looking at hairdos and so on and so forth, you get the drip. That's what they're showing you.
00:19:11
Speaker
And even if you're looking at bad news or negative news stories, like you don't love them, but that's what you're looking at. So that's what you're shown. It doesn't know if you like it or not, per se, how it makes you feel.
00:19:25
Speaker
It knows what you're putting your time and energy into looking at, right?
00:19:35
Speaker
So the algorithm just thinks, okay, this person seems to be very interested in this. So we'll continue to show this to them because they apparently really like it. And basically, it's just like having the thought that if you really wanted, okay, actually, I'm thinking about this. So a clear way to understand What people spend their time on social media. If you were to be like, hey, pull up your For You page, that'll tell you.
00:20:03
Speaker
That'll tell you a lot about someone. um I don't know. I mean, gosh. and ah Yeah. Anyhow. But that's just a peek into someone's mind um without being in their mind to tell you the truth.
00:20:18
Speaker
But back to what I would say, that's how life works. It's the same idea. It's going to present whatever you're asking for, thinking about, spending your time. So if you Google show me and let me see jump robes, you expect to see jump robes. You're not expecting to see like pink flamingos, right?
00:20:38
Speaker
Like you're asking to see jump robes and that's what's going to be shown to you. And that's the same thing in your life. When you're spending your day, oh my gosh, gas is expensive. It's like Googling gas is expensive.
00:20:55
Speaker
And then it's going to say it is. Like you're going to find stories about gas being expensive, right? And that's like every time you go to get – so then when you're saying that in your head, okay, gas is so expensive. Every time you go to get gas, it just gets more expensive because that's all you see.
00:21:12
Speaker
And I use an example because I literally never even look at the price of gas. Like I couldn't even tell you. I know it's cheaper in Tennessee than Utah, but like I have no idea because I'm going to buy gas either way. And I'm not saying that to be reckless, but I literally don't have any energy to look at that because like I can't control it.
00:21:28
Speaker
So it's a perfect example to me when I hear people complain about it. Like what are you what what are we going to do with that information? I just don't give it the mind. But it's also like – Going back to that though, it's the same concept that I know you guys have heard about before, about like when you think about a red car, then you see a million red cars.
00:21:50
Speaker
I mean, this is very elementary to psychology and mindset, but although – really neuroscience, like you're you're searching for evidence of what you're thinking about.
00:22:01
Speaker
But although we know this theory, we don't really take that application of truth into our day-to-day lives. and give ourselves an opportunity to have more positive experiences in our living. Like, why don't we?
00:22:17
Speaker
We know this, yet we say, oh, there's no good men out there. All men are bad. Oh, all women are crazy. There's no hope for me. Oh, this world's crumbling. Oh, I could never get that job.
00:22:30
Speaker
No, I couldn't do that. I couldn't. Oh my gosh. Every time I see my family, it's a tragedy. And we continue to tell these stories, almost reaffirming to ourselves that that's what we want to see.
00:22:46
Speaker
It's our algorithm. It's what we're typing into Google. It's like, show me what a tragedy it's going to be every time I see my family. And then you're it popping up. It's a dang tragedy and a pain in your butt when you see your family.
00:23:00
Speaker
And then you say, hey, all men are crap. you Google that.
00:23:06
Speaker
Well, you're crazy because crabby men, here you are presenting right into your life. Great, this will be fun. And I know that it sounds like Well, that's not how it works, Heather, but it it is.
00:23:20
Speaker
and i hopefully it makes clear sense to you that what you're looking for, you're going to find. That's how it works. You're getting back what you put out there with your mind.
00:23:31
Speaker
So when you think about this, and I'm going to give an example and like kind of pivot just about energy and this same aligned thing and why your thoughts just allow you to just change your life.
Positive Energy and Life Transformation
00:23:43
Speaker
So when you think about times when you or someone you know, like walks in a room and in your mind, ah time that if you could think back to you going like, I'm walking into this room and you're like, I'm so confident.
00:23:56
Speaker
This is going to be a great night. I'm so happy. Everything's just going to work out perfectly for me. I hope you think like that. If you don't try it next time, you have to go somewhere. And if you truly believe that, I tell you, you're going to have a night.
00:24:09
Speaker
I have had so many of those nights where I literally just walked into a room and thought that, okay, this is what's going happen. I'm going to type into Google. This is what's presenting in my life because I know it's coming for me. Like I, it's going to be great.
00:24:25
Speaker
And I'm literally like, this is going to be the best night ever. And I just own it. And I hope this makes sense to you. Not like this girl is crazy, but actually I don't care if you think I'm crazy because I kind of am. um But crazy in a good way, crazy in a crazily positive about changing your mind, painting the life you want and taking ownership of like, if you say it's going to be great, it is going to be great.
00:24:51
Speaker
Because I want to remind you there's just so much power in your thoughts and your words and how you show up. And it really allows you to paint the life that you however you want when you just own your story.
00:25:05
Speaker
And you don't worry about what everyone else is thinking. You're not like, oh, what are they thinking? You've already decided like this is what it is. You've guided yourself.
00:25:16
Speaker
yourself to where you want to be. And you've kind of just stopped the outside noise and you're not going to worry about the judgments or perspectives of of others. You're just in the moment doing you and being happy for all the things in this now.
Energy's Influence on Perception
00:25:30
Speaker
And it's such an amazing feeling. I want to tell you that even in my messy times, I still remember this because this is when I had no idea what i was doing. I was all over the place.
00:25:39
Speaker
And we're at this bar I'm pretty sure, yes, it was losers in Midtown, story of my life. But I'm there and I'm just so happy. Who even knows what was happening that night? But I'm just in this era of like everything's working out for me. I'm just fun. I'm dancing. I'm having a great time.
00:25:58
Speaker
And then someone comes up and was like talking to my friend and he stops me and he was like, I don't know if they have these companies, but I feel like you should just be hired to go to events and parties and just – put energy in the room and make people happy and smile.
00:26:15
Speaker
Because I feel like you came in and by the don't like little background, it wasn't like that busy at the time. If you know losers, like it was a little bit earlier in the night or maybe there just wasn't a ton of people.
00:26:26
Speaker
And so he's like, because I feel like when you came in, the whole energy shifted in this room. And now it feels like more people are talking and smiling and laughing and dancing. It just seemed like the whole place shifted.
00:26:39
Speaker
And at this time, I'm like, oh, I probably had three or four tequila shots. And i'm like, oh, okay, thanks. Yeah, whatever. What a great job. And I remember being like, that was kind of a wild thought. Are there those companies? I'm probably Googling it on the Uber ride home.
00:26:53
Speaker
But I was like, oh, is this what I should do? Because this is like during my sabbatical. So I'm literally all over the place. Like million dollar dollar ideas are everywhere. Like maybe thinking I could start this company. I mean, it was just rabbit hole central. But I feel like When I thought about it after, i was really like, and as I've gotten into my like deep dives and the inner work and really understanding how energy shifts rooms, and I was like, wow, this stranger felt that.
00:27:26
Speaker
and Because it's very true and that's how it works. And we can all think of a time where there was good or bad energy that came into a room, like when someone came in and there was just a shift.
00:27:39
Speaker
Whether it's either good, it's like a light and fun and you're like, oh yes, thank God this person arrived. Or it's like this because they broke the tension. Or it's like this shift where you're all having a good time and someone's energy shows up and you're like, okay, it's time to leave.
00:27:56
Speaker
Like you know you know those times. Like you're all together somewhere and someone comes in and either it's like, yes, we needed this. Now we're going to have a fun good night or, oh my gosh, I'm calling it an early one because this person's energy is not the vibe.
00:28:12
Speaker
And maybe you don't say this person's energy, but that's what it is. Someone shows up and it can literally transform the whole vibe of the night.
00:28:26
Speaker
So if you don't think that energy is a real thing, you have to think that you know when that's happened. You know that shift. Because so much of life and our communication and our feelings and emotions, there's so much energy
Choosing Positive Energy
00:28:41
Speaker
in it. It's a lot of energy. I know it's crazy to think about.
00:28:44
Speaker
But no one has to say a word in those moments. someone Someone just shows up in the moment and suddenly the room shifts, the energy shifts. And either you're happy that it did or you're like, let me get out of here.
00:28:56
Speaker
And it's unexplainable. Like you could just look at someone, you don't even have to say a word and you're like, let's go. Or you're like, oh goodness. Like, you know, you just, you just know whatever it is. You're like, ah, so yeah, energy really is a thing.
00:29:16
Speaker
That's why I preach it so much because I want you to know that people feel you even when you don't say a word. So how you feel about yourself and your life is just so important and how you're able to show up and be received in the world.
00:29:30
Speaker
When you realize it's your sat superpower and the and it really just changes the way you come into the room, why aren't you honing in on it if you're not?
00:29:42
Speaker
And I know I'm a little all over the place, but I'm on a good topic here. So bear with me. um Because I want you to come into a room
00:29:53
Speaker
and feel that shift. And so I'll paint a little picture example for you about how you get to choose. So say you sit down. You had a long day. And it just wasn't a great one. You sit down in a bar stool. We're painting the picture. And you're like, meh.
00:30:08
Speaker
This day, not the thing. And then maybe your buddy comes in. And he sits down. she And they're but you're both like, ah what a day. And at that, you're both just like, meh. Screw this day. And the energy is just low.
00:30:23
Speaker
Like, it's just like, we're just vibing. But then you get your other friend rolls in. And you're just like, oh my gosh, this is amazing.
00:30:36
Speaker
Like this person just happily happily radiates life and is just so happy. And you're like, okay. At that point, you have a choice.
00:30:47
Speaker
You have to decide if you want to own it like that person. And like, maybe we're going to have a good day too. Like they're having a great day. Like i can have a great day. Like maybe we'll just...
00:30:59
Speaker
Get on that same wavelength. you can just stay with your other like this day was awful. This doesn't feel good. I don't like it. And you really have the choice.
00:31:10
Speaker
And I know in the moment it seems hard, but it's literally like that moment and that crossword where you can stay on the lower frequency with your friend that's like meh.
00:31:23
Speaker
Or you can try to like elevate yourself to the energy of that person that's happy.
00:31:31
Speaker
That had a good day. And just be like, why am I even like making this day so hard? Why do I even care so much about the thing? Like I'm just going to have a new day tomorrow and it's going to be great.
00:31:45
Speaker
And I'm going love it. You're literally in that moment in that bar scene while you're sitting there with your friends. You're painting that night.
00:31:57
Speaker
So if every every day, every chapter of your life was a painting on the wall, Would it be you sitting there drowning your sorrows, feeling bad for yourself, being a victim?
00:32:11
Speaker
Or would it be you laughing it out, making memories with people you love to be around?
00:32:17
Speaker
You get to decide. You're the artist. You hold the brush.
Taking Responsibility for Your Life
00:32:27
Speaker
It's never going to be a pretty picture when you're trying to paint
00:32:34
Speaker
a life where you blame everything outside yourself for it.
00:32:45
Speaker
You're painting the picture. If you hold the brush, you're the one accountable for what's on the wall.
00:32:56
Speaker
You hold the brush. You're the one accountable for the painting on the wall. So paint something you're proud to see. All right. I'm going to end
Podcast Anniversary and Gratitude
00:33:12
Speaker
this episode. I just hit a year on the podcast.
00:33:17
Speaker
So I'm really excited about that and so many exciting things to come. I appreciate you listening so much on this journey over this last year. It's been insane. I could not thank you enough, every single last one of you for listening and sharing your 30-ish minutes with me every week over this last year. i truly could cry.
00:33:40
Speaker
You know I'm a crybaby when I think about it. I also would just love so much if you would give the podcast a rating or a review. i love to hear what you think.
Engaging with Listeners
00:33:51
Speaker
I, over this last year, every message, DM, text, comment on the ah website, make sure to go there, wanderingthewildmess.com. My affirmation cards are there and I have a lot of big things coming soon and a lot of things I want to give back to y'all.
00:34:08
Speaker
So I'd love to, if you want to send me a message, what you'd want to hear, topics, anything. please feel free to reach out. I am here to be a light for you. And I'm so very grateful that you've been on this journey with me. so much more to come.
00:34:23
Speaker
So, so very grateful. Go paint the life that you want to see. i can't wait to hear all about when you do or as you do.
00:34:34
Speaker
This was Wandering the Wild Mess with Heather Morgan. You matter.